Speaker 1: We need someone in our life that we know represents integrity, honesty,
Speaker 1: and all the values we appreciate because they remind us
Speaker 1: of our north star. It's so easy to forget the
Speaker 1: meaning of life, the essence of life, the truth with
Speaker 1: which to live by in this world where we see
Speaker 1: people with all sorts of intentions, all sorts of aspirations,
Speaker 1: all sorts of ambitions, and we completely forget who we are,
Speaker 1: why we're here, and what the goal of life is. Hey, everyone,
Speaker 1: welcome back to Our Purpose, the number one health podcast
Speaker 1: in the world. I am so proud of our incredible listeners,
Speaker 1: each and every one of you, because every single week
Speaker 1: I see you turning up for our Purpose, and I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful because whenever I sit down to record these episodes,
Speaker 1: I look through the reviews, I look through all the downloads,
Speaker 1: the listens, and I look through all your Instagram posts
Speaker 1: on Twitter posts, and I just think, Wow, I am
Speaker 1: so fortunate to have such an incredible community. And I
Speaker 1: appreciate you all. I really do, because you know, it
Speaker 1: was not so long ago that I would struggle to
Speaker 1: have five people come and listen to me on a
Speaker 1: Friday night in London, and I remember just wanting to
Speaker 1: deliver the best speech and presentation I possibly could for
Speaker 1: those five people, and I would stay there for hours afterwards,
Speaker 1: answering people's questions and dealing with their challenges and their issues.
Speaker 1: And now that I get to do this with you,
Speaker 1: I cannot thank you enough. I really really cannot thank
Speaker 1: you enough. So today's episode is all about the eight
Speaker 1: types of people you need to surround yourself with in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two. Now, we've all heard the saying you
Speaker 1: are the average of the five people you spend the
Speaker 1: most time with. You've probably heard that again and again
Speaker 1: and again, and it's a really powerful statement. That's why
Speaker 1: it's lasted so long. But often it's interesting to think, well,
Speaker 1: who should those five people be? How do I pick them?
Speaker 1: And often when this topic is brought up, it's saying, well,
Speaker 1: you should surround yourself with people that you want to
Speaker 1: become like. But then it's saying, should every one of
Speaker 1: the five people around me be spiritual? If I want
Speaker 1: to become spiritual? Should all the five people around me
Speaker 1: be wealthy? If I want to be wealthy? Should all
Speaker 1: the five people around me have honesty and integrity? If
Speaker 1: that's what I want to be, or should all of
Speaker 1: the five people around me be famous if that's what
Speaker 1: I want to be. Now, I'm not saying you should
Speaker 1: want to be any of those things. I'm just saying
Speaker 1: that when you think about it that simplistically, it can
Speaker 1: actually become challenging because you may actually think, well, I
Speaker 1: don't want to be surrounded with those types of people.
Speaker 1: I want to have more deep, meaningful relationships. Maybe I
Speaker 1: don't know enough of those people, and while I wants
Speaker 1: to connect with them, I also want to connect with
Speaker 1: the people around me. Now, people also say you are
Speaker 1: the company you keep, but as time has gone on,
Speaker 1: I've found that we need to be more intentional. So
Speaker 1: today I'm going to share with you the eight types
Speaker 1: of people you need in your life in twenty twenty two,
Speaker 1: and I want you to notice which ones are missing.
Speaker 1: Chances are as I go through the list of these
Speaker 1: different types, you're going to start thinking of people and saying, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's where he goes, so that's where they go, or
Speaker 1: that's where she goes, And you're going to start realizing
Speaker 1: who in your life is supporting you in a certain way,
Speaker 1: who in your life is helping you in a certain way.
Speaker 1: But you're also going to start to notice areas where
Speaker 1: there are gaps, where they are missing, where when you
Speaker 1: pause and when you try to think about it, you
Speaker 1: actually can't think of anyone. And those are the relationships
Speaker 1: you want to try and build, and the others are
Speaker 1: the relationships, of course, that you want to keep. Now,
Speaker 1: one of the things I've thought on as time has
Speaker 1: gone on is that it's harder to make deeper friends
Speaker 1: as we get older. Right, how many of you have
Speaker 1: felt that? How many of you have experienced that as
Speaker 1: you get older, it's harder to make deeper friends. At school,
Speaker 1: we spent like eight hours a day with our friends, right,
Speaker 1: or at least six hours a day, And today we
Speaker 1: don't even get close to six hours a week or
Speaker 1: eight hours a week, let alone. You know, chances are
Speaker 1: we may not even get six or eight hours a
Speaker 1: month with our closest friends. So that quality time, that
Speaker 1: depth of time has changed. Another thing that's changed is
Speaker 1: not only the amount of time, but it's also the
Speaker 1: formation of ideologies and formation of our behavior, and formation
Speaker 1: of our values and character when you are growing at school,
Speaker 1: not only growing older, but growing in areas of interest, passions,
Speaker 1: things that fascinate you. All of that growth allows you
Speaker 1: to grow with others, and it's the growth with others
Speaker 1: that build your relationship with them. And so now, because
Speaker 1: we don't grow as much, and remember I'm not just
Speaker 1: saying aids, this is still possible later on as well.
Speaker 1: But one of the biggest things that fascinates me when
Speaker 1: I think about this idea of the eight types of
Speaker 1: people you need to surround yourself with, is that I
Speaker 1: read a great article by Ben Renner and he quoted
Speaker 1: a study that states American families spend just thirty seven
Speaker 1: minutes of quality time together per day, and on the
Speaker 1: weekend it goes up to around two hours and forty
Speaker 1: seven minutes. Can you just imagine that for a second,
Speaker 1: that on a daily basis, you spend thirty seven minutes
Speaker 1: with someone that's important to you and on the weekend
Speaker 1: around two hours and forty seven minutes. The reason for
Speaker 1: this long work hours business fatigue, exhaustion, just wanting to
Speaker 1: sit down and be quiet and have your own space,
Speaker 1: which means that the time we spend with people has
Speaker 1: become even more precious. So why not get really focused
Speaker 1: and intentional about our relationships? I think another reason why
Speaker 1: I'm recording this episode right now is to make sure
Speaker 1: that you're spending this pressures some quality time with people
Speaker 1: you actually want to and people that want to spend
Speaker 1: time with you. I think we've all experienced it where
Speaker 1: you disconnect with friends, you lose touch, you lose connection,
Speaker 1: or sometimes you kind of keeps people in your life
Speaker 1: just for nostalgia, just for history. And while that can
Speaker 1: feel nice for a while, you don't really see them
Speaker 1: in your future. You're not really building something in your presence.
Speaker 1: And so relationships that are only relationships because of nostalgia
Speaker 1: and history don't always make it to the future and
Speaker 1: don't always help you get the future that you want.
Speaker 1: And that's something really important to think about, is that
Speaker 1: is this relationship helping me create that? So before I
Speaker 1: dive into these eight things, there's one thing I want
Speaker 1: you to remember, A deep, deep reason why I thought
Speaker 1: this was an important topic to record, is that we
Speaker 1: want everyone to be everything, or we want one person
Speaker 1: to be everything. Usually the person we marry, the person
Speaker 1: we date, the person we live with. We want them
Speaker 1: to be everything. We want them to be good at
Speaker 1: doing everything, answer every question. But often what happens is
Speaker 1: we want everyone in our life to have every quality,
Speaker 1: and what you're going to see here is that people
Speaker 1: are likely going to have one or two of these
Speaker 1: and that's enough. That's beautiful. So this episode is not
Speaker 1: about saying, well, this person gives me this, this person
Speaker 1: gives me that, and this person doesn't. It's actually about
Speaker 1: noticing and appreciating and increasing our gratitude. So let's start
Speaker 1: with the eight types of people you need in your
Speaker 1: life in twenty twenty two. One of the first types
Speaker 1: of people that you need in your life are called cheerleaders.
Speaker 1: These are your peers. They spur you on. They cheer
Speaker 1: your every achievement, your every accolade. They cheered the small wins.
Speaker 1: This is that person who sees you post something on
Speaker 1: Instagram and they can't wait to share it with their friends.
Speaker 1: These are the people that call you up and congratulate you.
Speaker 1: Maybe they message you in your DMS or text you
Speaker 1: when some happens in your life. And they're cheerleaders. They're genuine,
Speaker 1: sincere cheerleaders. How do you know if someone's a genuine,
Speaker 1: sincere cheerleader. One thing is they've done it from the start.
Speaker 1: They've always done it. They've always been there. The second
Speaker 1: thing is they do it even when the winds are small,
Speaker 1: And the third thing is they do it even when
Speaker 1: there's nothing to cheer about. They really believe in you.
Speaker 1: They see the good in you at all times. They
Speaker 1: try to fan that spark. It's not that they're naive
Speaker 1: or they don't understand that you're a human with flaws.
Speaker 1: It's just that they're always trying to see the good
Speaker 1: in you, and they're always trying to remind you of
Speaker 1: the good in you. We all need cheerleaders in our life. Now,
Speaker 1: what's the difference between yes people and cheerleaders. Cheerleaders are
Speaker 1: those people that are always helping us seek the good
Speaker 1: in ourselves and see the good in life. Yes people
Speaker 1: just agree with what we're saying, So cheerleaders not agreeing
Speaker 1: with you. They're actually pushing you and noticing the brilliance
Speaker 1: in you, the excellence in you. A yes person just
Speaker 1: agrees with you. So if you're complaining about something, a
Speaker 1: yes person would just say, yeah, you're so right. They're
Speaker 1: just useless, they're not helpful, whereas a cheerleader will actually
Speaker 1: say to you, oh, actually, well let's look at this.
Speaker 1: This is what I think you've learned from this. This
Speaker 1: is what I think is so brilliant about the way
Speaker 1: you see this. They're seeing the good in news so
Speaker 1: that you can seek the good in the situation. Notice
Speaker 1: how different that is from a yes person. Notice how
Speaker 1: completely different that is from a yes person. A yes
Speaker 1: person just agrees with you whether you're being negative or positive.
Speaker 1: Cheerleaders are not trying to be negative or positive. They're
Speaker 1: trying to seek the essence and seek the good in
Speaker 1: you and in others and in this situation. Think about
Speaker 1: it for a moment. Who the cheerleaders in your life?
Speaker 1: Make a list of names that come to your mind. Now,
Speaker 1: if you've written down one or two names, you're an
Speaker 1: extremely blessed, unfortunate person. If you're sitting there going, well,
Speaker 1: why can't I think of more people? Remove that thought,
Speaker 1: Be really profoundly grateful and appreciative of the one or
Speaker 1: two people you've written down. Now, if you're someone who
Speaker 1: hasn't written down anyone, I want you to take a
Speaker 1: moment to push yourself. I promise you there's someone in
Speaker 1: your life who's being a cheerleader and you don't even
Speaker 1: recognize it. So often we overlook these people because they're
Speaker 1: always in our corner. They're so close that we look
Speaker 1: past them. Right, they're so close to us that we
Speaker 1: look past them. And even after that, if you think
Speaker 1: about it and you still can't think of anyone, then
Speaker 1: I want you to find a cheerleader this year. Now,
Speaker 1: how do you find cheerleaders? You don't go looking out saying, hey,
Speaker 1: I want to hire a cheerleader to be in my life. Hey,
Speaker 1: I need more people who support me in my life.
Speaker 1: Who are they going to be? Obviously, you don't go
Speaker 1: on a recruitment drive for cheerleaders. The way you find
Speaker 1: cheerleaders is cheering other people on. Who are you cheering on?
Speaker 1: Are you being a cheerleader for others? Are you being
Speaker 1: a genuine, sincere cheerleader for us? When you cheer other
Speaker 1: people on genuinely and sincerely, even if they don't become
Speaker 1: your cheerleaders, people will start to notice that in you
Speaker 1: and there will be such an attractive quality. Think about
Speaker 1: that for a moment. Okay, So the second type of
Speaker 1: person you need in your life this year is someone
Speaker 1: that checks you. Now, these are the uncomfortable people in
Speaker 1: our life. What does it mean when someone checks you?
Speaker 1: It's when someone reminds you of your truth, who you
Speaker 1: really are, what you've been through, what you're going through.
Speaker 1: And they check you on stuff if they see you
Speaker 1: buying into your own hype, if they see you maybe
Speaker 1: creeping into arrogance or ego. And sometimes this person they
Speaker 1: may not even have sincere intentions. They may be envious,
Speaker 1: they may be jealous, they may want to hold you down,
Speaker 1: they may try to check you even when you don't
Speaker 1: need to be checked. But guess what, they're actually one
Speaker 1: of your strongest allies because they're reminding you, even if
Speaker 1: they're doing it negatively, of something that is going to
Speaker 1: benefit your life. When we lived as monks, or the
Speaker 1: number one quality that we were trained to admires humility.
Speaker 1: And I have people in my life that consistently humble me.
Speaker 1: Some of them are chosen, some of them are not chosen.
Speaker 1: Some of them, I know, may humble me even from
Speaker 1: a place where it's coming from their arrogance or their
Speaker 1: pain or their own challenges. But I receive it because
Speaker 1: I realized that they're giving me an opportunity to always
Speaker 1: remain a student. They're giving me an opportunity to remind
Speaker 1: me to never get ahead of myself. So the people
Speaker 1: that check you are not always chosen, but the people
Speaker 1: that check you, whether they do it for the right
Speaker 1: or wrong reasons, they could be really powerful and beneficial
Speaker 1: in your life. I've realized the times I've made the
Speaker 1: biggest mistakes in my life for the times when I've
Speaker 1: felt beyond when you feel untouchable, when you feel like
Speaker 1: you're doing better than others. And I wouldn't say that
Speaker 1: that's a natural feeling for me. I've always enjoyed being
Speaker 1: equal to others. I've always enjoyed being together with others
Speaker 1: and building with others. But I've really noticed that those
Speaker 1: who have checked me in really interesting times have allowed
Speaker 1: beautiful things to come into my life. My spiritual teachers
Speaker 1: are some of these people. Whenever I've had something big
Speaker 1: happened and I would share it with them, hoping that
Speaker 1: they would celebrate with me, they would actually check me,
Speaker 1: and they would often respond by just saying, stay humble
Speaker 1: and the blessings will keep coming. And I would always think,
Speaker 1: what do you mean, let's celebrate this is amazing, come on,
Speaker 1: tell me how great I am. And again they would
Speaker 1: check me, and I'd realize and I'd accept that actually
Speaker 1: in that moment. If you stay humble, the blessings will
Speaker 1: keep coming. If you become arrogant, the blessings will leave.
Speaker 1: The blessings are coming because when we're humble, it's like
Speaker 1: having the shades of our house open or our shades
Speaker 1: of our apartment open, and the sun just floods in.
Speaker 1: And when we become arrogant, the shades go down and
Speaker 1: the sun can't get in. Who in your life checks
Speaker 1: you knowingly or unknowingly, positively or negatively, but that you
Speaker 1: can realize why they're in your life. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: they're perfect and what they're doing is coming from a
Speaker 1: good place, but if you can receive it in a
Speaker 1: good way, it can be one of the most powerful
Speaker 1: relationships in your life. I want to share with you
Speaker 1: the biggest news of the year. How many of you
Speaker 1: want to meditate? I can see your heads nodding, I
Speaker 1: can see you raising your hands. I can see you saying, yes, Jay,
Speaker 1: I really want to learn to meditate. How many of
Speaker 1: you would like to learn to meditate with me? Every
Speaker 1: single day? Now, I already know what the answer is
Speaker 1: because I know how many messages DMS reviews notes that
Speaker 1: I get saying Jay, I'd love to meditate with you.
Speaker 1: Last year, we took med aitation to Instagram and I
Speaker 1: meditated for around forty days live and twenty million of
Speaker 1: you tuned in. Now I am taking that same focus,
Speaker 1: that same presence to Calm. I've partnered up with Calm
Speaker 1: to release a new series called The Daily J where
Speaker 1: you can meditate with me every single day for seven minutes.
Speaker 1: To make it a real habit. I would love for
Speaker 1: you to come and join me and take part in
Speaker 1: building a really powerful meditation practice. And guess what we're
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Speaker 1: The next person we all need in our life is
Speaker 1: someone that cares for us. And these are people that
Speaker 1: we obviously spend a lot of time with, the people
Speaker 1: that have a big role in our lives. They're people
Speaker 1: that are integral to our lives. So really thinking about
Speaker 1: who those people are that care for you, and the
Speaker 1: biggest thing here about people who care for you is
Speaker 1: also to remember who are you caring for? Those people
Speaker 1: that care for you make sure you're caring from them, true,
Speaker 1: make sure this is reciprocal, because it's so easy to
Speaker 1: be like, well, these are the people I need in
Speaker 1: my life. But who are we being in someone's life?
Speaker 1: And I promise you one of the most critical and
Speaker 1: important things is figuring out and thinking about who do
Speaker 1: we share care with? Now, how do you know someone
Speaker 1: cares for you? They do what they say they're going
Speaker 1: to do. That's the definition of care as simple as that.
Speaker 1: Does that person do what they say they're going to do.
Speaker 1: That's care. Because someone may not say anything, and that's fine.
Speaker 1: They're allowed to not say anything. Now someone may say
Speaker 1: something and they may not do it. And someone may
Speaker 1: just say stuff and they actually follow up with it.
Speaker 1: And I would ask you the same question, who do
Speaker 1: you do that for? Do you actually do what you
Speaker 1: say you're going to do for others? Or do you
Speaker 1: say it and then kind of retract, kind of backtrack? Right?
Speaker 1: You like the people please? So in the moment you say, yeah, yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: I'll do that, I'll make everything happen, and then you
Speaker 1: backtrack and go, hey, I don't think this is going
Speaker 1: to work. I'm not sure this is going to happen.
Speaker 1: Really think about that. The fourth type of person that
Speaker 1: we all need in our life is someone with high character.
Speaker 1: We need someone in our life that we know represents integrity, honesty,
Speaker 1: and all the values we appreciate because they remind us
Speaker 1: of our north star. It's so easy to forget the
Speaker 1: meaning of life, the essence of life, the truth with
Speaker 1: which to live by in this world where we see
Speaker 1: people with all sorts of intentions, all sorts of aspirations,
Speaker 1: all sorts of ambitions, and we completely forget who we are,
Speaker 1: why we're here, and what the goal of life is.
Speaker 1: And it's actually one of the simplest things that we
Speaker 1: can shift in our life by simply having someone of
Speaker 1: high character in our life. For me, I find that
Speaker 1: when I'm around someone with high character, I just truly
Speaker 1: get reminded of how I really truly want to live.
Speaker 1: And by the way, a character isn't an aide thing.
Speaker 1: I have a really dear friend who's around ten years
Speaker 1: younger than me, and he has such high integrity and
Speaker 1: such good character, and that reminds me of it. And
Speaker 1: then I of course have my monk teachers and my
Speaker 1: wisdom teachers who have really great character. And when you're
Speaker 1: around someone where you experience really good character, you start
Speaker 1: to see how character is more powerful than caliber. It's
Speaker 1: more powerful than someone's network, it's more powerful than wealth,
Speaker 1: It's more powerful than anything it's It's so character is
Speaker 1: the most charismatic thing, right, We're drawn to people with
Speaker 1: high charisma. Let's be drawn to people with high character.
Speaker 1: Character is where true charisma comes from. Character is what
Speaker 1: really shines through in the form of your charisma that last,
Speaker 1: that's sustainable. We will be attracted to many different things
Speaker 1: if we don't have someone in our life who has
Speaker 1: high character. But if someone has high character, I promise
Speaker 1: you there'll be the most attractive person in the world.
Speaker 1: Don't lose that person. Now, we need someone in our
Speaker 1: life who is coming to us for support, for help.
Speaker 1: They come to you and you're there for them. A
Speaker 1: lot of these people are people that are giving to you.
Speaker 1: Who are you giving to? Who are you showing up for?
Speaker 1: Who are you making time for? Who are you helping
Speaker 1: and supporting beyond the people that you have a blood
Speaker 1: connection to. Who are you going out of your way for.
Speaker 1: One of the reasons is because when we get selfish
Speaker 1: and lost within ourselves, we actually make life harder, life
Speaker 1: becomes less meaningful. And when you have someone that comes
Speaker 1: to you for shelter, for support, you get to rise
Speaker 1: to your best self. You're given the impetus and the
Speaker 1: incentive to be come more, to be more, to connect more,
Speaker 1: to grow more. I know that for years I've been
Speaker 1: a mentor. Obviously for now years I've been a coach,
Speaker 1: and I would honestly say that needing to be there
Speaker 1: for others has made me better for myself. And instead
Speaker 1: of just trying to extend myself to others constantly, it's
Speaker 1: made me make more time to invest in myself because
Speaker 1: I want to be better for others when they call
Speaker 1: upon me. This list isn't just about a list of saying, well,
Speaker 1: this is why I want in my life. This is
Speaker 1: my menu. This is who I'm picking, who cares about
Speaker 1: everyone else? No, no, no, This list is about someone
Speaker 1: you can be compassionate towards, you can be supportive towards,
Speaker 1: you can help, you can love. The fifth person or
Speaker 1: the fifth type of person we all need in our
Speaker 1: life is someone who is competent in the areas we
Speaker 1: want to grow. This is an important thing. If there's
Speaker 1: an area of your life that you want to improve,
Speaker 1: make sure you have a coach. Make sure you have
Speaker 1: someone who's competent. Make sure you have someone who understands
Speaker 1: that area. I cannot stress this enough. If you've been
Speaker 1: trying to solve an area of your life for a
Speaker 1: long time without a coach, chances are it's going to
Speaker 1: take much longer. I know that I have solved situations
Speaker 1: in my life in under a year, maximum two years
Speaker 1: because of the right coach. And by the way, sometimes
Speaker 1: I have to move through a few coaches. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: have to date coach. Date right, you have to go
Speaker 1: on a date with your therapist. And that's not don't
Speaker 1: date your therapists. That's not what I'm saying. You have
Speaker 1: to go out and meet lots of therapists to find
Speaker 1: the right one, meet lots of trainers, meet lots of
Speaker 1: health coaches. Whatever it may be for you. But we
Speaker 1: need someone who's competent in our life in the areas
Speaker 1: we want to grow. Don't just try and figure it
Speaker 1: out yourselves. And by the way, that competence can come
Speaker 1: from a podcast, which you're all listening to you right now.
Speaker 1: The competence can come from books. The competence can come
Speaker 1: from apps. Right, these are all places that the competence
Speaker 1: can come from. Now, six, seven and eight. We all
Speaker 1: need people in our life that are consistently there. There
Speaker 1: are some people in your life. I think they're just
Speaker 1: always around. They don't add any value, they don't give
Speaker 1: me any of the other things. But guess what we
Speaker 1: need those people, those people that you can always call
Speaker 1: up and hang out with. You can be in the
Speaker 1: same room and be silent together, you can be alone together,
Speaker 1: you can hang out, you can connect. And those people
Speaker 1: are so underrated, so underrated. But I promise me with you,
Speaker 1: someone that's been in your life consistently. They're special. Respect them,
Speaker 1: appreciate them, don't undervalue them. Don't see them as your
Speaker 1: tag along, don't see them as your person who's just
Speaker 1: around you. That person's around you and they've stayed around
Speaker 1: you because they love you. They value you. They may
Speaker 1: not know how to say it, they may not express it,
Speaker 1: but I promise you that person is special and don't
Speaker 1: forget about them. Now the last two types of people.
Speaker 1: You need someone in your life that champions you. Now,
Speaker 1: a champion isn't someone who's always there, who's always accessible,
Speaker 1: but when you reach out to them they can champion you.
Speaker 1: And this comes by trying to offer support. I'll give
Speaker 1: an example. Someone reached out to me recently and he
Speaker 1: said to me, Jay, can you do this for me?
Speaker 1: And he's not someone that I know that well, and
Speaker 1: I said to him, I said, if you had approached
Speaker 1: me and offered to actually do that service with me,
Speaker 1: then it would have been so easy to write something genuine.
Speaker 1: When you're looking for someone to champion, you make sure
Speaker 1: you have something to offer them. One of the biggest
Speaker 1: challenges with this episode that I was thinking about when
Speaker 1: I was thinking about creating is I don't want you
Speaker 1: to walk away from this going Okay, well, this person's
Speaker 1: useful to me, this person's not. I want you to
Speaker 1: walk away from and say, well, who am I doing
Speaker 1: this for? Two. If you want any of these people
Speaker 1: in your life, I promise you you're going to be
Speaker 1: having to do that for others as well. And chances are,
Speaker 1: when you think about it, you're like, Wow, I'm not
Speaker 1: really championing anyone else. I'm not really doing that for
Speaker 1: anyone else. We may check our we may be consistently there,
Speaker 1: but are we really truly championing others? And the eighth
Speaker 1: and final one is you need someone who challenges you. Now.
Speaker 1: The difference in check and challenges. The check person just
Speaker 1: checks you, like goes, are you okay? Are you doing
Speaker 1: all right? Is that who you want to be? The
Speaker 1: challenging person actually asks you to challenge your ideas, challenge
Speaker 1: your thoughts, challenge the way you believe and think. Now,
Speaker 1: this person, again, may not be someone who agrees with you.
Speaker 1: This person may not be someone you agree with. This
Speaker 1: person may not be someone that you actually even vibe with,
Speaker 1: but they challenge you. I hope you're recognizing that there
Speaker 1: are plenty of people in the world who may not
Speaker 1: care about you, who may not be believers in you,
Speaker 1: but you can use that as support if you see
Speaker 1: it that way, if you respond to in that way.
Speaker 1: So these are the eight types of people you need
Speaker 1: in your life in twenty twenty two. I hope that
Speaker 1: you have realized the gaps and also spotted those people.
Speaker 1: And here's what I want you to do. I want
Speaker 1: you to text, call, or message the people that do
Speaker 1: these things for you and say, hey, thank you for
Speaker 1: being a champion in my life. Put it on Instagram
Speaker 1: and tag them and say hey, thanks for being a
Speaker 1: cheerleader in my life. Take a screenshot right now and
Speaker 1: tag them in this and say, Hey, thanks for being
Speaker 1: someone who cares for me. Thanks for being someone who's
Speaker 1: high character for me. Express that gratitude towards them, Appreciate
Speaker 1: them deeply, because I promise you people are doing this
Speaker 1: without that from you. And then think about the people
Speaker 1: that you want to do that for. Reach out to
Speaker 1: them and say, hey, I'm going to champion you. I'm
Speaker 1: here for you. Hey, I'm cheering you on, I'm here
Speaker 1: for you. Hey, if you ever need anything, come to
Speaker 1: me for advice. I just want you to know I'm
Speaker 1: always going to be there for you. Go and send
Speaker 1: them that message as well. And wherever those gaps are,
Speaker 1: start searching for those people, searching, seeking, looking, and then
Speaker 1: see what you can do to serve them and offer
Speaker 1: to them and grow in your life. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for listening to today. Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: being here. Thank you for being my champion, my cheerleader,
Speaker 1: my check, my challenge, my care, my consistency, coming to
Speaker 1: me here for insight, for helping me work on my character,
Speaker 1: and for being such competent people who are investing in
Speaker 1: your growth. I appreciate you. See you next week.