1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: We need someone in our life that we know represents integrity, honesty, 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: and all the values we appreciate because they remind us 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:12,959 Speaker 1: of our north star. It's so easy to forget the 4 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: meaning of life, the essence of life, the truth with 5 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: which to live by in this world where we see 6 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: people with all sorts of intentions, all sorts of aspirations, 7 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,440 Speaker 1: all sorts of ambitions, and we completely forget who we are, 8 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: why we're here, and what the goal of life is. Hey, everyone, 9 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:36,559 Speaker 1: welcome back to Our Purpose, the number one health podcast 10 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: in the world. I am so proud of our incredible listeners, 11 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: each and every one of you, because every single week 12 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:50,239 Speaker 1: I see you turning up for our Purpose, and I'm 13 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 1: so grateful because whenever I sit down to record these episodes, 14 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: I look through the reviews, I look through all the downloads, 15 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: the listens, and I look through all your Instagram posts 16 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: on Twitter posts, and I just think, Wow, I am 17 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:05,959 Speaker 1: so fortunate to have such an incredible community. And I 18 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 1: appreciate you all. I really do, because you know, it 19 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:13,399 Speaker 1: was not so long ago that I would struggle to 20 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: have five people come and listen to me on a 21 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 1: Friday night in London, and I remember just wanting to 22 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: deliver the best speech and presentation I possibly could for 23 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: those five people, and I would stay there for hours afterwards, 24 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: answering people's questions and dealing with their challenges and their issues. 25 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:33,839 Speaker 1: And now that I get to do this with you, 26 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:37,320 Speaker 1: I cannot thank you enough. I really really cannot thank 27 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: you enough. So today's episode is all about the eight 28 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: types of people you need to surround yourself with in 29 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: twenty twenty two. Now, we've all heard the saying you 30 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: are the average of the five people you spend the 31 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:59,639 Speaker 1: most time with. You've probably heard that again and again 32 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: and again, and it's a really powerful statement. That's why 33 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: it's lasted so long. But often it's interesting to think, well, 34 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: who should those five people be? How do I pick them? 35 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: And often when this topic is brought up, it's saying, well, 36 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: you should surround yourself with people that you want to 37 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: become like. But then it's saying, should every one of 38 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: the five people around me be spiritual? If I want 39 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 1: to become spiritual? Should all the five people around me 40 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,639 Speaker 1: be wealthy? If I want to be wealthy? Should all 41 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 1: the five people around me have honesty and integrity? If 42 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:33,679 Speaker 1: that's what I want to be, or should all of 43 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: the five people around me be famous if that's what 44 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: I want to be. Now, I'm not saying you should 45 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,959 Speaker 1: want to be any of those things. I'm just saying 46 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: that when you think about it that simplistically, it can 47 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: actually become challenging because you may actually think, well, I 48 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 1: don't want to be surrounded with those types of people. 49 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 1: I want to have more deep, meaningful relationships. Maybe I 50 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: don't know enough of those people, and while I wants 51 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: to connect with them, I also want to connect with 52 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:59,359 Speaker 1: the people around me. Now, people also say you are 53 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: the company you keep, but as time has gone on, 54 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: I've found that we need to be more intentional. So 55 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: today I'm going to share with you the eight types 56 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: of people you need in your life in twenty twenty two, 57 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: and I want you to notice which ones are missing. 58 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 1: Chances are as I go through the list of these 59 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: different types, you're going to start thinking of people and saying, oh, yeah, 60 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 1: that's where he goes, so that's where they go, or 61 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: that's where she goes, And you're going to start realizing 62 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: who in your life is supporting you in a certain way, 63 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: who in your life is helping you in a certain way. 64 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: But you're also going to start to notice areas where 65 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 1: there are gaps, where they are missing, where when you 66 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: pause and when you try to think about it, you 67 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: actually can't think of anyone. And those are the relationships 68 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: you want to try and build, and the others are 69 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: the relationships, of course, that you want to keep. Now, 70 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: one of the things I've thought on as time has 71 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: gone on is that it's harder to make deeper friends 72 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: as we get older. Right, how many of you have 73 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: felt that? How many of you have experienced that as 74 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: you get older, it's harder to make deeper friends. At school, 75 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 1: we spent like eight hours a day with our friends, right, 76 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 1: or at least six hours a day, And today we 77 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: don't even get close to six hours a week or 78 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: eight hours a week, let alone. You know, chances are 79 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: we may not even get six or eight hours a 80 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: month with our closest friends. So that quality time, that 81 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: depth of time has changed. Another thing that's changed is 82 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: not only the amount of time, but it's also the 83 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 1: formation of ideologies and formation of our behavior, and formation 84 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: of our values and character when you are growing at school, 85 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: not only growing older, but growing in areas of interest, passions, 86 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:49,159 Speaker 1: things that fascinate you. All of that growth allows you 87 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 1: to grow with others, and it's the growth with others 88 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 1: that build your relationship with them. And so now, because 89 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 1: we don't grow as much, and remember I'm not just 90 00:04:57,360 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: saying aids, this is still possible later on as well. 91 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: But one of the biggest things that fascinates me when 92 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: I think about this idea of the eight types of 93 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 1: people you need to surround yourself with, is that I 94 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: read a great article by Ben Renner and he quoted 95 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:18,760 Speaker 1: a study that states American families spend just thirty seven 96 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: minutes of quality time together per day, and on the 97 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: weekend it goes up to around two hours and forty 98 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 1: seven minutes. Can you just imagine that for a second, 99 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 1: that on a daily basis, you spend thirty seven minutes 100 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: with someone that's important to you and on the weekend 101 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: around two hours and forty seven minutes. The reason for 102 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 1: this long work hours business fatigue, exhaustion, just wanting to 103 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: sit down and be quiet and have your own space, 104 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: which means that the time we spend with people has 105 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:54,359 Speaker 1: become even more precious. So why not get really focused 106 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: and intentional about our relationships? I think another reason why 107 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 1: I'm recording this episode right now is to make sure 108 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 1: that you're spending this pressures some quality time with people 109 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: you actually want to and people that want to spend 110 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 1: time with you. I think we've all experienced it where 111 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:14,039 Speaker 1: you disconnect with friends, you lose touch, you lose connection, 112 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: or sometimes you kind of keeps people in your life 113 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 1: just for nostalgia, just for history. And while that can 114 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 1: feel nice for a while, you don't really see them 115 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: in your future. You're not really building something in your presence. 116 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: And so relationships that are only relationships because of nostalgia 117 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: and history don't always make it to the future and 118 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 1: don't always help you get the future that you want. 119 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: And that's something really important to think about, is that 120 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: is this relationship helping me create that? So before I 121 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: dive into these eight things, there's one thing I want 122 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: you to remember, A deep, deep reason why I thought 123 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: this was an important topic to record, is that we 124 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 1: want everyone to be everything, or we want one person 125 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 1: to be everything. Usually the person we marry, the person 126 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: we date, the person we live with. We want them 127 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 1: to be everything. We want them to be good at 128 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:07,839 Speaker 1: doing everything, answer every question. But often what happens is 129 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: we want everyone in our life to have every quality, 130 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: and what you're going to see here is that people 131 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:15,120 Speaker 1: are likely going to have one or two of these 132 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: and that's enough. That's beautiful. So this episode is not 133 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:21,679 Speaker 1: about saying, well, this person gives me this, this person 134 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: gives me that, and this person doesn't. It's actually about 135 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: noticing and appreciating and increasing our gratitude. So let's start 136 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: with the eight types of people you need in your 137 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 1: life in twenty twenty two. One of the first types 138 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: of people that you need in your life are called cheerleaders. 139 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: These are your peers. They spur you on. They cheer 140 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: your every achievement, your every accolade. They cheered the small wins. 141 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 1: This is that person who sees you post something on 142 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: Instagram and they can't wait to share it with their friends. 143 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 1: These are the people that call you up and congratulate you. 144 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: Maybe they message you in your DMS or text you 145 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: when some happens in your life. And they're cheerleaders. They're genuine, 146 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 1: sincere cheerleaders. How do you know if someone's a genuine, 147 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: sincere cheerleader. One thing is they've done it from the start. 148 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: They've always done it. They've always been there. The second 149 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: thing is they do it even when the winds are small, 150 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: And the third thing is they do it even when 151 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: there's nothing to cheer about. They really believe in you. 152 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: They see the good in you at all times. They 153 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: try to fan that spark. It's not that they're naive 154 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: or they don't understand that you're a human with flaws. 155 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 1: It's just that they're always trying to see the good 156 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 1: in you, and they're always trying to remind you of 157 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 1: the good in you. We all need cheerleaders in our life. Now, 158 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: what's the difference between yes people and cheerleaders. Cheerleaders are 159 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: those people that are always helping us seek the good 160 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: in ourselves and see the good in life. Yes people 161 00:08:56,200 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: just agree with what we're saying, So cheerleaders not agreeing 162 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 1: with you. They're actually pushing you and noticing the brilliance 163 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 1: in you, the excellence in you. A yes person just 164 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: agrees with you. So if you're complaining about something, a 165 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 1: yes person would just say, yeah, you're so right. They're 166 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 1: just useless, they're not helpful, whereas a cheerleader will actually 167 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: say to you, oh, actually, well let's look at this. 168 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:19,720 Speaker 1: This is what I think you've learned from this. This 169 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: is what I think is so brilliant about the way 170 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 1: you see this. They're seeing the good in news so 171 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,559 Speaker 1: that you can seek the good in the situation. Notice 172 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: how different that is from a yes person. Notice how 173 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:32,319 Speaker 1: completely different that is from a yes person. A yes 174 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: person just agrees with you whether you're being negative or positive. 175 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 1: Cheerleaders are not trying to be negative or positive. They're 176 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 1: trying to seek the essence and seek the good in 177 00:09:41,200 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: you and in others and in this situation. Think about 178 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:47,559 Speaker 1: it for a moment. Who the cheerleaders in your life? 179 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:51,200 Speaker 1: Make a list of names that come to your mind. Now, 180 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 1: if you've written down one or two names, you're an 181 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:58,679 Speaker 1: extremely blessed, unfortunate person. If you're sitting there going, well, 182 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: why can't I think of more people? Remove that thought, 183 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 1: Be really profoundly grateful and appreciative of the one or 184 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 1: two people you've written down. Now, if you're someone who 185 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: hasn't written down anyone, I want you to take a 186 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 1: moment to push yourself. I promise you there's someone in 187 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 1: your life who's being a cheerleader and you don't even 188 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:25,200 Speaker 1: recognize it. So often we overlook these people because they're 189 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:28,200 Speaker 1: always in our corner. They're so close that we look 190 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: past them. Right, they're so close to us that we 191 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 1: look past them. And even after that, if you think 192 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:36,719 Speaker 1: about it and you still can't think of anyone, then 193 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: I want you to find a cheerleader this year. Now, 194 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:41,200 Speaker 1: how do you find cheerleaders? You don't go looking out saying, hey, 195 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: I want to hire a cheerleader to be in my life. Hey, 196 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:44,839 Speaker 1: I need more people who support me in my life. 197 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 1: Who are they going to be? Obviously, you don't go 198 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: on a recruitment drive for cheerleaders. The way you find 199 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: cheerleaders is cheering other people on. Who are you cheering on? 200 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: Are you being a cheerleader for others? Are you being 201 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:01,839 Speaker 1: a genuine, sincere cheerleader for us? When you cheer other 202 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: people on genuinely and sincerely, even if they don't become 203 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 1: your cheerleaders, people will start to notice that in you 204 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 1: and there will be such an attractive quality. Think about 205 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 1: that for a moment. Okay, So the second type of 206 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: person you need in your life this year is someone 207 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: that checks you. Now, these are the uncomfortable people in 208 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: our life. What does it mean when someone checks you? 209 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: It's when someone reminds you of your truth, who you 210 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: really are, what you've been through, what you're going through. 211 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:40,959 Speaker 1: And they check you on stuff if they see you 212 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 1: buying into your own hype, if they see you maybe 213 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:49,400 Speaker 1: creeping into arrogance or ego. And sometimes this person they 214 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 1: may not even have sincere intentions. They may be envious, 215 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 1: they may be jealous, they may want to hold you down, 216 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:58,200 Speaker 1: they may try to check you even when you don't 217 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 1: need to be checked. But guess what, they're actually one 218 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: of your strongest allies because they're reminding you, even if 219 00:12:05,760 --> 00:12:08,720 Speaker 1: they're doing it negatively, of something that is going to 220 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: benefit your life. When we lived as monks, or the 221 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: number one quality that we were trained to admires humility. 222 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 1: And I have people in my life that consistently humble me. 223 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 1: Some of them are chosen, some of them are not chosen. 224 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: Some of them, I know, may humble me even from 225 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 1: a place where it's coming from their arrogance or their 226 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:33,679 Speaker 1: pain or their own challenges. But I receive it because 227 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: I realized that they're giving me an opportunity to always 228 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: remain a student. They're giving me an opportunity to remind 229 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 1: me to never get ahead of myself. So the people 230 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 1: that check you are not always chosen, but the people 231 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 1: that check you, whether they do it for the right 232 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: or wrong reasons, they could be really powerful and beneficial 233 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 1: in your life. I've realized the times I've made the 234 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 1: biggest mistakes in my life for the times when I've 235 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: felt beyond when you feel untouchable, when you feel like 236 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:01,559 Speaker 1: you're doing better than others. And I wouldn't say that 237 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: that's a natural feeling for me. I've always enjoyed being 238 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 1: equal to others. I've always enjoyed being together with others 239 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: and building with others. But I've really noticed that those 240 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: who have checked me in really interesting times have allowed 241 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: beautiful things to come into my life. My spiritual teachers 242 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:21,439 Speaker 1: are some of these people. Whenever I've had something big 243 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 1: happened and I would share it with them, hoping that 244 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:26,040 Speaker 1: they would celebrate with me, they would actually check me, 245 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:31,080 Speaker 1: and they would often respond by just saying, stay humble 246 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:34,480 Speaker 1: and the blessings will keep coming. And I would always think, 247 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:37,120 Speaker 1: what do you mean, let's celebrate this is amazing, come on, 248 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: tell me how great I am. And again they would 249 00:13:41,040 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 1: check me, and I'd realize and I'd accept that actually 250 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: in that moment. If you stay humble, the blessings will 251 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 1: keep coming. If you become arrogant, the blessings will leave. 252 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: The blessings are coming because when we're humble, it's like 253 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:00,680 Speaker 1: having the shades of our house open or our shades 254 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 1: of our apartment open, and the sun just floods in. 255 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 1: And when we become arrogant, the shades go down and 256 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 1: the sun can't get in. Who in your life checks 257 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 1: you knowingly or unknowingly, positively or negatively, but that you 258 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: can realize why they're in your life. I'm not saying 259 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:20,480 Speaker 1: they're perfect and what they're doing is coming from a 260 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 1: good place, but if you can receive it in a 261 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 1: good way, it can be one of the most powerful 262 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 1: relationships in your life. I want to share with you 263 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: the biggest news of the year. How many of you 264 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 1: want to meditate? I can see your heads nodding, I 265 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: can see you raising your hands. I can see you saying, yes, Jay, 266 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: I really want to learn to meditate. How many of 267 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 1: you would like to learn to meditate with me? Every 268 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 1: single day? Now, I already know what the answer is 269 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 1: because I know how many messages DMS reviews notes that 270 00:14:55,880 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 1: I get saying Jay, I'd love to meditate with you. 271 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 1: Last year, we took med aitation to Instagram and I 272 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:05,520 Speaker 1: meditated for around forty days live and twenty million of 273 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:09,720 Speaker 1: you tuned in. Now I am taking that same focus, 274 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:14,240 Speaker 1: that same presence to Calm. I've partnered up with Calm 275 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:18,320 Speaker 1: to release a new series called The Daily J where 276 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 1: you can meditate with me every single day for seven minutes. 277 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:25,280 Speaker 1: To make it a real habit. I would love for 278 00:15:25,280 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 1: you to come and join me and take part in 279 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 1: building a really powerful meditation practice. And guess what we're 280 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 1: going to do it together? Head over right now to 281 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: Calm dot com forward slash J to get forty percent 282 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: off a premium membership. That's Calm dot com Forward slash J. Now. 283 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 1: The next person we all need in our life is 284 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:51,480 Speaker 1: someone that cares for us. And these are people that 285 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 1: we obviously spend a lot of time with, the people 286 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 1: that have a big role in our lives. They're people 287 00:15:57,280 --> 00:16:02,000 Speaker 1: that are integral to our lives. So really thinking about 288 00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 1: who those people are that care for you, and the 289 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:07,760 Speaker 1: biggest thing here about people who care for you is 290 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 1: also to remember who are you caring for? Those people 291 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: that care for you make sure you're caring from them, true, 292 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 1: make sure this is reciprocal, because it's so easy to 293 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 1: be like, well, these are the people I need in 294 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: my life. But who are we being in someone's life? 295 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 1: And I promise you one of the most critical and 296 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:30,680 Speaker 1: important things is figuring out and thinking about who do 297 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 1: we share care with? Now, how do you know someone 298 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: cares for you? They do what they say they're going 299 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 1: to do. That's the definition of care as simple as that. 300 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: Does that person do what they say they're going to do. 301 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 1: That's care. Because someone may not say anything, and that's fine. 302 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 1: They're allowed to not say anything. Now someone may say 303 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 1: something and they may not do it. And someone may 304 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 1: just say stuff and they actually follow up with it. 305 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,000 Speaker 1: And I would ask you the same question, who do 306 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: you do that for? Do you actually do what you 307 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 1: say you're going to do for others? Or do you 308 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: say it and then kind of retract, kind of backtrack? Right? 309 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: You like the people please? So in the moment you say, yeah, yeah, sure, 310 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:09,679 Speaker 1: I'll do that, I'll make everything happen, and then you 311 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 1: backtrack and go, hey, I don't think this is going 312 00:17:11,640 --> 00:17:13,520 Speaker 1: to work. I'm not sure this is going to happen. 313 00:17:14,520 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 1: Really think about that. The fourth type of person that 314 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 1: we all need in our life is someone with high character. 315 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:30,480 Speaker 1: We need someone in our life that we know represents integrity, honesty, 316 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 1: and all the values we appreciate because they remind us 317 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:40,320 Speaker 1: of our north star. It's so easy to forget the 318 00:17:40,359 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 1: meaning of life, the essence of life, the truth with 319 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:44,720 Speaker 1: which to live by in this world where we see 320 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:48,960 Speaker 1: people with all sorts of intentions, all sorts of aspirations, 321 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:53,360 Speaker 1: all sorts of ambitions, and we completely forget who we are, 322 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: why we're here, and what the goal of life is. 323 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:58,840 Speaker 1: And it's actually one of the simplest things that we 324 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 1: can shift in our life by simply having someone of 325 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,159 Speaker 1: high character in our life. For me, I find that 326 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: when I'm around someone with high character, I just truly 327 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: get reminded of how I really truly want to live. 328 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: And by the way, a character isn't an aide thing. 329 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,800 Speaker 1: I have a really dear friend who's around ten years 330 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 1: younger than me, and he has such high integrity and 331 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 1: such good character, and that reminds me of it. And 332 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:26,159 Speaker 1: then I of course have my monk teachers and my 333 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:30,240 Speaker 1: wisdom teachers who have really great character. And when you're 334 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 1: around someone where you experience really good character, you start 335 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 1: to see how character is more powerful than caliber. It's 336 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 1: more powerful than someone's network, it's more powerful than wealth, 337 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:44,119 Speaker 1: It's more powerful than anything it's It's so character is 338 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: the most charismatic thing, right, We're drawn to people with 339 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: high charisma. Let's be drawn to people with high character. 340 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 1: Character is where true charisma comes from. Character is what 341 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:01,320 Speaker 1: really shines through in the form of your charisma that last, 342 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:04,920 Speaker 1: that's sustainable. We will be attracted to many different things 343 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 1: if we don't have someone in our life who has 344 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:08,840 Speaker 1: high character. But if someone has high character, I promise 345 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 1: you there'll be the most attractive person in the world. 346 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 1: Don't lose that person. Now, we need someone in our 347 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:21,160 Speaker 1: life who is coming to us for support, for help. 348 00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: They come to you and you're there for them. A 349 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:26,920 Speaker 1: lot of these people are people that are giving to you. 350 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:30,159 Speaker 1: Who are you giving to? Who are you showing up for? 351 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 1: Who are you making time for? Who are you helping 352 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:37,560 Speaker 1: and supporting beyond the people that you have a blood 353 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:40,399 Speaker 1: connection to. Who are you going out of your way for. 354 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,080 Speaker 1: One of the reasons is because when we get selfish 355 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:48,400 Speaker 1: and lost within ourselves, we actually make life harder, life 356 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:52,640 Speaker 1: becomes less meaningful. And when you have someone that comes 357 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:55,680 Speaker 1: to you for shelter, for support, you get to rise 358 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: to your best self. You're given the impetus and the 359 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: incentive to be come more, to be more, to connect more, 360 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,679 Speaker 1: to grow more. I know that for years I've been 361 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:09,160 Speaker 1: a mentor. Obviously for now years I've been a coach, 362 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: and I would honestly say that needing to be there 363 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:17,119 Speaker 1: for others has made me better for myself. And instead 364 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:19,520 Speaker 1: of just trying to extend myself to others constantly, it's 365 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 1: made me make more time to invest in myself because 366 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:23,800 Speaker 1: I want to be better for others when they call 367 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:27,119 Speaker 1: upon me. This list isn't just about a list of saying, well, 368 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:28,199 Speaker 1: this is why I want in my life. This is 369 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,120 Speaker 1: my menu. This is who I'm picking, who cares about 370 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:33,640 Speaker 1: everyone else? No, no, no, This list is about someone 371 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,360 Speaker 1: you can be compassionate towards, you can be supportive towards, 372 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: you can help, you can love. The fifth person or 373 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 1: the fifth type of person we all need in our 374 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:47,720 Speaker 1: life is someone who is competent in the areas we 375 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: want to grow. This is an important thing. If there's 376 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:52,720 Speaker 1: an area of your life that you want to improve, 377 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,600 Speaker 1: make sure you have a coach. Make sure you have 378 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: someone who's competent. Make sure you have someone who understands 379 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:01,719 Speaker 1: that area. I cannot stress this enough. If you've been 380 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:02,919 Speaker 1: trying to solve an area of your life for a 381 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:05,440 Speaker 1: long time without a coach, chances are it's going to 382 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:09,359 Speaker 1: take much longer. I know that I have solved situations 383 00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 1: in my life in under a year, maximum two years 384 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 1: because of the right coach. And by the way, sometimes 385 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,040 Speaker 1: I have to move through a few coaches. Sometimes I 386 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:19,199 Speaker 1: have to date coach. Date right, you have to go 387 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: on a date with your therapist. And that's not don't 388 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: date your therapists. That's not what I'm saying. You have 389 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: to go out and meet lots of therapists to find 390 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,119 Speaker 1: the right one, meet lots of trainers, meet lots of 391 00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:31,639 Speaker 1: health coaches. Whatever it may be for you. But we 392 00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 1: need someone who's competent in our life in the areas 393 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 1: we want to grow. Don't just try and figure it 394 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 1: out yourselves. And by the way, that competence can come 395 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:40,200 Speaker 1: from a podcast, which you're all listening to you right now. 396 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 1: The competence can come from books. The competence can come 397 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:48,080 Speaker 1: from apps. Right, these are all places that the competence 398 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: can come from. Now, six, seven and eight. We all 399 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:58,080 Speaker 1: need people in our life that are consistently there. There 400 00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:01,199 Speaker 1: are some people in your life. I think they're just 401 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:04,400 Speaker 1: always around. They don't add any value, they don't give 402 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 1: me any of the other things. But guess what we 403 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 1: need those people, those people that you can always call 404 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 1: up and hang out with. You can be in the 405 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 1: same room and be silent together, you can be alone together, 406 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:18,160 Speaker 1: you can hang out, you can connect. And those people 407 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:22,920 Speaker 1: are so underrated, so underrated. But I promise me with you, 408 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 1: someone that's been in your life consistently. They're special. Respect them, 409 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:31,640 Speaker 1: appreciate them, don't undervalue them. Don't see them as your 410 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: tag along, don't see them as your person who's just 411 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: around you. That person's around you and they've stayed around 412 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 1: you because they love you. They value you. They may 413 00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:45,960 Speaker 1: not know how to say it, they may not express it, 414 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 1: but I promise you that person is special and don't 415 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:53,440 Speaker 1: forget about them. Now the last two types of people. 416 00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:56,160 Speaker 1: You need someone in your life that champions you. Now, 417 00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:59,160 Speaker 1: a champion isn't someone who's always there, who's always accessible, 418 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,679 Speaker 1: but when you reach out to them they can champion you. 419 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:05,919 Speaker 1: And this comes by trying to offer support. I'll give 420 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:09,800 Speaker 1: an example. Someone reached out to me recently and he 421 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,800 Speaker 1: said to me, Jay, can you do this for me? 422 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 1: And he's not someone that I know that well, and 423 00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 1: I said to him, I said, if you had approached 424 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:25,720 Speaker 1: me and offered to actually do that service with me, 425 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 1: then it would have been so easy to write something genuine. 426 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 1: When you're looking for someone to champion, you make sure 427 00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 1: you have something to offer them. One of the biggest 428 00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: challenges with this episode that I was thinking about when 429 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,399 Speaker 1: I was thinking about creating is I don't want you 430 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: to walk away from this going Okay, well, this person's 431 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:43,280 Speaker 1: useful to me, this person's not. I want you to 432 00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:44,760 Speaker 1: walk away from and say, well, who am I doing 433 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 1: this for? Two. If you want any of these people 434 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:49,399 Speaker 1: in your life, I promise you you're going to be 435 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:51,920 Speaker 1: having to do that for others as well. And chances are, 436 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:54,480 Speaker 1: when you think about it, you're like, Wow, I'm not 437 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:58,719 Speaker 1: really championing anyone else. I'm not really doing that for 438 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 1: anyone else. We may check our we may be consistently there, 439 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:06,080 Speaker 1: but are we really truly championing others? And the eighth 440 00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:08,560 Speaker 1: and final one is you need someone who challenges you. Now. 441 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:10,719 Speaker 1: The difference in check and challenges. The check person just 442 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,439 Speaker 1: checks you, like goes, are you okay? Are you doing 443 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: all right? Is that who you want to be? The 444 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:18,120 Speaker 1: challenging person actually asks you to challenge your ideas, challenge 445 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: your thoughts, challenge the way you believe and think. Now, 446 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 1: this person, again, may not be someone who agrees with you. 447 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,400 Speaker 1: This person may not be someone you agree with. This 448 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 1: person may not be someone that you actually even vibe with, 449 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:36,000 Speaker 1: but they challenge you. I hope you're recognizing that there 450 00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:37,440 Speaker 1: are plenty of people in the world who may not 451 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,680 Speaker 1: care about you, who may not be believers in you, 452 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:46,160 Speaker 1: but you can use that as support if you see 453 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,440 Speaker 1: it that way, if you respond to in that way. 454 00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 1: So these are the eight types of people you need 455 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:55,400 Speaker 1: in your life in twenty twenty two. I hope that 456 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:59,119 Speaker 1: you have realized the gaps and also spotted those people. 457 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,240 Speaker 1: And here's what I want you to do. I want 458 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,639 Speaker 1: you to text, call, or message the people that do 459 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: these things for you and say, hey, thank you for 460 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: being a champion in my life. Put it on Instagram 461 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:08,720 Speaker 1: and tag them and say hey, thanks for being a 462 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,239 Speaker 1: cheerleader in my life. Take a screenshot right now and 463 00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,080 Speaker 1: tag them in this and say, Hey, thanks for being 464 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 1: someone who cares for me. Thanks for being someone who's 465 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,160 Speaker 1: high character for me. Express that gratitude towards them, Appreciate 466 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,199 Speaker 1: them deeply, because I promise you people are doing this 467 00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:23,000 Speaker 1: without that from you. And then think about the people 468 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:25,000 Speaker 1: that you want to do that for. Reach out to 469 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:26,760 Speaker 1: them and say, hey, I'm going to champion you. I'm 470 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,400 Speaker 1: here for you. Hey, I'm cheering you on, I'm here 471 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,879 Speaker 1: for you. Hey, if you ever need anything, come to 472 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,000 Speaker 1: me for advice. I just want you to know I'm 473 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 1: always going to be there for you. Go and send 474 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:38,920 Speaker 1: them that message as well. And wherever those gaps are, 475 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:44,320 Speaker 1: start searching for those people, searching, seeking, looking, and then 476 00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 1: see what you can do to serve them and offer 477 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,160 Speaker 1: to them and grow in your life. Thank you so 478 00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:52,000 Speaker 1: much for listening to today. Thank you so much for 479 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:59,280 Speaker 1: being here. Thank you for being my champion, my cheerleader, 480 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:07,560 Speaker 1: my check, my challenge, my care, my consistency, coming to 481 00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 1: me here for insight, for helping me work on my character, 482 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:14,879 Speaker 1: and for being such competent people who are investing in 483 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,920 Speaker 1: your growth. I appreciate you. See you next week.