WEBVTT - Jim Hensel 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:02.240 The bulls. 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:03.280 Yo, what's your boy? 0:00:03.400 --> 0:00:07.520 Comp nasty alongside his co host Taylor Lewan. Obviously you're 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:09.840 listening to an intro right now, so you know the boy's. 0:00:09.600 --> 0:00:11.960 Not here next to me. I'm out here and be beautiful. 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:16.560 Aulume to California after another big win against the Cincinnati 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:20.480 Bengals Raiders. The boys man six and four right now, 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:23.599 sitting pretty h Gotta keep it going, Gotta keep the 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:26.360 momentum rolling, Gotta keep that big dick energy out here 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:29.640 in the black hole, dude, speaking of the black hole, 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:33.200 You guys, it's a fuck. It's a fucking blast playing 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:34.800 in front of the black hole. It's like all it's 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:37.080 like a Halloween party every weekend, and I love it. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:41.600 But yeah, man, shoot, the boy's been three and oh 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:43.720 since being out of here, so I'm having a great time. 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:47.280 It's always fun when you're winning, obviously, Uh, but it's 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:47.920 been a blast. 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:48.080 Man. 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.639 These boys are rolling, and I had no clue how 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:55.160 young our team was. We have like, uh shit, who knows, 0:00:55.200 --> 0:01:00.000 like ten starters that are like rookies, and uh had. 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:00.520 Some to them. 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:03.080 Man, this is the time that this is the time 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:06.000 of the year where they talk about the whole rookie 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:08.840 Wall and these dudes, man just have their middle finger 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:10.240 up to this fucking rookie. 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:11.000 Wall and I love it. Man. 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:13.959 We're uh, they're leading the charge out here, and you know, 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:19.360 obviously hats off to them. But yeah, I had no clue. Man, 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:21.400 I'm like, I'm like tired. For second oldest on the team, 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:24.200 he got Richie and Cognito, who's thirty six. Benjamin Button 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:27.200 still doing it out there, clanging and banging for the Boys, 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:30.000 playing at a high level. Uh, he's thirty six. And 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:31.800 then after that there's a few of us at thirty 0:01:31.880 --> 0:01:34.920 years old. Man, we got a we got a young 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:36.759 squad man, and it's awesome to see. There's a lot 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:38.840 of good energy right now. So you know, we have 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:41.080 to keep that going. You know, it's heading to this 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:44.000 back half of November, going into December back you know, 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:46.240 now in football matters most. 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:48.760 But yeah, shout out. 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:51.920 The Boys, man, and shout out Joseph Martinez. No, he's 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:54.360 not a player. He's our first winner of the ticket 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:57.920 giveaway for busting with the Boys. Joseph Martinez brought his 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.440 awesome father. They had a great Father's Day yesterday. They 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:04.520 flew in from San Antonio, Texas. His dad had to 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:06.480 take a red eye because he drove five hours to 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.560 get to the San Antonio Airport. Very last minute, drop 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:12.679 of the hat, freaking we shot them out as the 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:16.359 Winter as Joseph Martinez as the winner. He couldn't believe 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:19.120 it by plane tickets last minute, had no idea they 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.320 weren't in California. I figured they were already around here. 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.520 But they're so committed in for the fucking boys and 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:28.320 Raider Nation and obviously busting with the boys that they 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:31.519 bought last minute plane tickets. Drove His dad drove five 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:33.920 hours to get the San Antonio Airport. They fly all 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:36.920 day yesterday Earth, they fly all day the day before 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:39.200 the game on Saturday to make it to watch the 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:40.519 game together on Sunday. 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:41.440 Awesome. 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:43.160 People got to meet him in the parking lot after 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:45.919 the game. Hope you guys had a hell of a time. 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:48.600 It's awesome taking pictures of meeting you guys and talking 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:50.840 with you and Alic fucking. 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.280 That's awesome, man, that's cool to see. It's awesome that 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:54.120 you took your dad. 0:02:54.560 --> 0:02:56.120 He wanted to take his dad because his dad taught 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:58.280 him how to be a Raider fan growing up back 0:02:58.320 --> 0:02:59.639 in the day, so he wanted to treat his dad 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:01.560 to one of the last home games in the black Hole. 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:06.480 So shout out to him. Man, Yeah, before we get 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:09.480 into much more huge special, shout out Hunter Briley and 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:12.440 the Regal Realty Group. They're out based out of Nashville. 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:16.600 The MVP of the podcast, MVP The Little He's a 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:20.120 secret wheelingd dealer out there in Nashville. Man, anything residential 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:24.080 commercial investment opportunity. Hit up Hunter Briley. He will have 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:26.160 you taken care of. Tell him the boys sent you 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:29.520 his personal six one five six three zero ninety seven 0:03:29.600 --> 0:03:33.040 three five. Their website is Regal rg dot com. But 0:03:33.080 --> 0:03:35.880 shout out Hunter Brierley and the Regal Realty Group for 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:39.920 you know, providing the boys with He hooked it up. 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.120 The bus is getting fixed right now, finding a home 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:45.600 for the bus. The tailgates. If you see a Hunter, 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:47.040 give him a big thank you in a big up 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:50.680 for us. Speaking of tailgates, I assume there's gonna be 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:53.600 another one this weekend. Keep up to date with us 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:59.880 at Busting WTB and again free free drank, free food. 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:04.800 With that drank, shout out Anheuser, Busch and Ajax Turner, 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:09.200 the local distributor for Anheuser Busch, providing the boys with 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:12.880 everything under that beautiful Anheuser Bush Umbrella, Budweiser, bud Light, 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:16.440 natural Light, but most importantly those natural light Seltzers, those 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:20.160 Catalina line mixers and the low Hot Beaches six percent alcohol. 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:23.960 Get where you're going faster, drink responsibly, be smart, and 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:24.920 always do with that. 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.920 Don't give attitude? What I mean by that, don't give attitude? 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:30.080 Dude? People are gonna judge you because you drink Seltzer's, 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:31.479 But who gives this shit? 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.279 Dude? We absolutely don't give a. 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:37.560 Take pictures with your don't give a mentality, hashtag don't 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.920 give a and tag us so we can share on 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:43.120 our stories on Twitter on our YouTube channel like we've 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:45.880 been doing every week for our fans, so we can 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:50.080 have a great time engaging with you guys. Also, this 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:53.760 weekend is the Jaguars play at Tennessee. The reason that 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:57.720 is of importance is because the Neely family is going 0:04:57.760 --> 0:04:59.960 to get honored as the twelfth Man. And if you're 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:02.839 new with us, Matt Neely was somebody who's a very 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:04.200 important part of this podcast. 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:05.200 He was one of the boys. 0:05:06.360 --> 0:05:08.280 He was one of the few that was that's been 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:11.359 with us the entire time, and Matt was our first hire. 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.480 Matt passed away a little over a month ago, and 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.039 you know, very it was a very tough time for 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:21.440 Bustle of the Boys. Obviously his family and friends. He 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:24.839 was known as the Titans, the greatest Titans fan around. 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:29.120 And obviously you can see that because the Titans are 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.839 now honoring him and his family by allowing them to 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.479 be the twelfth Man of the Game. 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.000 So if you're around Nashville, I encourage you to get 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:38.520 to the game. 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:42.640 Wear you're Matt Neely for the Boys shirts, show your support. 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:45.359 Man. I wish I could be there, I really do. 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:48.479 But Matt would love it. 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:51.280 You know, he's looking down and he's for the Boys 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.440 always in forever man, And we miss you, Maddie. But please, 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:56.400 you know, if you're around Nashville, get to that game, 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:00.159 all right. Onto this week's episode, we sat down with 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:03.880 Jim Henzel. He's a mental performance coach. He is the 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:09.479 mental coach for Michael Chandler, the Unreal MMA Fighter. He's 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:12.839 the mental coach for Rich froning Uh, the greatest crossfitter 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:15.360 of all time, and plenty of guys out there on 0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:18.000 that CrossFit ranch that frowning has out there. 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:20.479 But uh, it was very insightful podcast. 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:21.920 I think you guys are really gonna get a lot 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:24.720 out of it. It was just me that sat down 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:26.920 with him, myself and Michael Chandler. There was no Taylor 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:30.240 on this episode. Really good stuff though, similar to that 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.760 Ben Newman podcast, you know, we could we like to 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:34.480 switch it up. We like to have some fun, We 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:36.359 like to talk sports on some we like to do 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:39.880 just me and Taylor, and this one we get a 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.719 little deeper. We peel some layers back and have a 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:44.800 great podcast with Jim Hensel. I think you're really gonna 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:47.360 love it. But again, guys, if you're near the podcast, 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:50.800 you can find us on all podcast platforms Busting with 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:51.200 the Boys. 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:54.520 You can find us on YouTube Busting with the Boys. 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:58.720 Subscribe, rate five stars, leave reviews, lead fun reviews. 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.520 Man, we were, we appreciate it. 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:04.800 We're We're not shit without you guys, and uh, you 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.280 guys have allowed us to kind of make this thing 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:13.240 a little more successful. But hey, we love it. Were 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:16.320 for the boys or for the boys. Keep doing God's 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:19.800 work and being for the fucking boys again. Shot us 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.480 out and have a hell of a week man, enjoy 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:25.480 this episode and as always, go be a fucking wolf. 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:30.640 We solid. So you asked me if I was a 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:33.920 whiskey guy. Yeah, you a whiskey guy, I am. What 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:34.400 do you like? 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:39.520 Are you a bourbon American whiskey Scotch rye? 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:42.600 So, so here's the here's the trouble. So my father 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:44.360 in law. I love my father in law. One of 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:47.640 the smartest guys I've ever met. He's been was athletic 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:49.480 director at Tennessee Tech for a ten of years. And 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:52.000 he's been working there for like forty six years, okay, 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:58.760 And and he he drinks KG Kentucky gentlemen, just bottom 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.600 shelf stuff. And I'm like, you know, and Papa Dave's 0:08:02.120 --> 0:08:04.160 he's like got some money now, he's worked hard. He 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:06.400 can do what he wants to do. And and he said, so, 0:08:06.480 --> 0:08:09.000 I'm gonna give you two pieces of advice. The first 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:12.400 one is, don't get used to the expensive stuff. You 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:15.120 know that's the top shelves. Be careful, yeah, because they're 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:17.120 gonna spend a bunch of money there every time. And 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.600 I said, what's the second thing, Papa Dave? And he said, 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:24.480 never drink more whiskey than you can wake up from. 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:25.120 That's good. 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:29.400 That's those are the two things. So my problem is, 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.520 I like expensive whiskey. I don't like cheap whiskey. 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:36.920 What expensive whiskey do you go with? I like I'm learning, 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:37.600 I'm still learning. 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:40.439 Go ahead. I like Woodfords, you know. 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:45.960 Basil Hayden's Basil had it greatest, not had it? 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:50.040 Yeah? So yeah, I like, you know, some some good 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:52.920 whiskey on the rocks, nice and mellow. 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:56.400 I'm a rye guy, right, I like the rye dude. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:58.439 Have you guys been a whiskey kitchen? 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.760 No? Yes, down and it's by saying. 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.280 In Najo's and m Street restat Yeah. 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:04.880 Yeah. 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:09.559 But they have like a plethora, solid word comp pilethora 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:13.000 of whiskey, right, and there's you can get flights and 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:14.920 everything like that. And I sat down and I was like, Okay, 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:17.319 this is the day where I'm gonna figure out which 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:20.080 kind of whiskey I like, because everybody like seems to 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.440 know what their whiskey is. So I'm like, I'm gonna 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.240 figure it out right here, right now. And it was 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:26.160 rye dude, it was a right whiskey. I felt like 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:29.280 it went down the smoothest Woodford Reserve. Rye has been 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:32.320 my go to because people have gotten it for me 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:34.040 for like my birthday events or something like that. 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:36.679 Yeah, and it was solid. So that's how I figured 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:40.560 out that like Rye the most. So so let's started 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:44.040 talking about wisdom here. Let's whiskey to wisdom. Let's go 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:46.880 like that. No, but let's let's let's talk whiskey wisdom. 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:49.640 Have you broken the two rules? Oh? God, you know, 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:50.560 because I for sure have. 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:52.120 Well, you know, I mean I like that we all 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:52.600 woke up. 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:55.200 I like the high brow stuff, and I barely woke up. 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:59.800 Broke we broke all the sorry sorry Papa day dang it. 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:04.520 Yeah, dude, sometimes I like, I like to consume a 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.720 little too much, so that way it's that much more. 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.480 Challenging the next day. Dude, are you hearing this? You 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:11.520 guys hearing this train out here? 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:13.040 All? 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:13.400 Yeah? 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:16.120 Actually I thought somebody actually just derailed itself and got 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:17.160 back on the track somehow. 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.240 If you're not accustomed to Bust with the boys, Literally, 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:21.360 every time we have an episode, there's always a train 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.160 going by, always a train, So you gotta shout out 0:10:24.160 --> 0:10:25.040 the trains that go by. 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.040 Shout out the trains that go by a busting with 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:31.560 the boys. But but dude, Jim, I don't know. 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:34.120 You said you've watched a couple of our episodes. Are 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:35.480 been aware of a couple of our things? 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:37.720 You like to mix it up. We like to have fun, yeah, 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.440 to raise a little hell, we like to get serious. 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:43.199 And we did one with Mike. A couple with Mike 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:44.560 over here, he was on the Brenton Show. 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:46.199 One he's on this, one, the boys on this one 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:48.760 shot at the boy, and one on his own that's 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.319 gonna be that's probably out. 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:50.800 Who knows. 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:54.360 We we we backlogger episodes and kind of drop them. 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:58.800 So we have a good mixture of enter you know, fun, entertaining, YadA, YadA, YadA, 0:10:58.840 --> 0:10:59.520 and then serious. 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.600 Sure. And then Mike over here is like, Hey, I 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:03.439 really want to get. 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:07.080 My mental performance coach on sure, and I'm all about 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:07.760 that kind of stuff. 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.760 Sure, So I was. I was looking at your stuff. 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:14.920 You work with Rich Frohning, you work with Mike Chandler 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.640 over here, who else? Who else is in your client 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:20.440 tele talk to me about who you work with, kind of. 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:23.079 What you do as a little bit of background. Sure, 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:28.640 everything that we'll talk about today was something that I 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.760 created out of necessity. In my life goes all the 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:34.640 way back to you know, I got how old are you? 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:38.640 Thirty thirty? So I've got I've got a twenty seven 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:40.440 year old daughter and a twenty five year old daughter, 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:42.920 and it goes all the way back to the hardest 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:45.720 time in my life, which is years ago, and my 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:50.960 wife leaves and I'm face down depressed and I don't 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:54.360 know what direction to go next in my life, and 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.840 I'm klawn and I'm reaching for whatever is truth in 0:11:57.880 --> 0:12:00.240 my life. And what I realized in that tough time 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:03.640 was that I didn't own any of that that was 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:05.560 more my dad's or somebody else's stuff. 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:08.760 So you're saying you were kind of finger pointing or 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:11.000 not fingerpoint but you're finding a reason why you are 0:12:11.040 --> 0:12:12.240 where you are, And how. 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:15.520 Do I get up and move forward? Yeah? What's what 0:12:15.640 --> 0:12:18.920 is worth living for? You know? And I had these 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:20.640 two little girls at that point three and five, and 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:22.000 I knew I needed to be a good dad and 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:23.920 I wanted to be a good father for them, and 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:26.720 so I'm I'm struggling like crazy just to kind of 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:30.080 know what to do next. And for sure, at that point, 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.560 clinically depressed, like struggling to get up off the floor. 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.240 There were two big things. My wife left me and 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:38.720 I didn't become a professional football player, all things that 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:40.719 I thought were going to happen in my life. And 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:46.520 so I'm just reaching for identity and I'm reaching for 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:50.040 purpose and value in my life. And and as I 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.160 reached for that, and I tried to figure out that really, 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:56.160 really I just had emotion and momentum and that's not sustainable. 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:00.320 So literally, this is back in the vh VHS days. 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:03.240 I'm fifty one years old, so I'm older, but you're 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:08.760 fifty one fifty one, so boy looks solid. We're still 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:12.200 hang out with which running and it'll work out. You'll 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:15.240 be fine. So I literally put the girls to sleep 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:17.839 one night, came up and popped in the movie Gladiator. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.839 And most guys have seen Gladiator. I just want to 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:25.400 take my mind off my problems. And it happens to 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:27.920 be at the scene in the movie where Maximus is 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:31.199 squared off with comedists and he's fighting as this anonymous 0:13:31.200 --> 0:13:35.680 gladiator and he turns around to walk away from comtists 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.840 and commonist says, hey, you know, gladiator, turn around, how 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:40.800 do you turn your back on me, and he wants 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.000 to know his name. Maximus turns around. You know what 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:45.600 I'm talking about. The scene flips off his helmet. My 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.240 name is Maximus Arelius, decimiss General the Felish Legions. And 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:51.680 he goes to this process of defining himself. I'm sitting 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:54.120 on a couch in my house, love on Colorado, depressed 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:55.760 out of my brain, and I don't know where to 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:58.079 go next. And I say to myself, I'm a writer, 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:02.720 I'm a journalism guy. Well, this is a movie. I 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:06.400 get it. But in his darkest hour, he just he 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:09.440 just said this is who I am, this is what's 0:14:09.480 --> 0:14:11.240 purpose in my life, and this is what I'm going 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.160 to do. And I thought, well, I'm going to do that. 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:15.960 I don't know what else to do, but I'm going 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:18.880 to do that. In that moment, in that moment when 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.280 something started to click for you, that's the revelation to me. 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:23.680 I don't own any of these beliefs. I don't really 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:26.360 know who the hell I am. I'm stuck in a 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:31.960 ton of emotion. What I'm twenty three, I'm twenty four, 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:36.120 twenty four, twenty five? So when when? When did when 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:39.200 did football end? For you football in my senior year 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:40.960 in college? Where'd you go to college? I went to 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:44.720 the University of Northern Colorado. The later half of my career. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:48.440 I started at Colorado, got suspended, kicked out of school, 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:51.440 went to jail the end of more on, and then 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:53.800 I transferred to the University of Northern Colorado, and then 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:54.360 I played there. 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:56.400 And you still thought you were going to continue to 0:14:56.400 --> 0:14:57.520 play ball after college. 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:01.040 That was realistic. Either that or played baseball. That was 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:03.720 an opportunity that I would have. And are you Are 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:05.760 you married in college? Yeah? I'm married all the way 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:06.560 through college, all the. 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:08.720 Way through college. And then when you're done, you're when 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:12.160 you're done at college. Are you're twenty two? Are you 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:12.600 twenty now? 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:14.440 I'm a little older. I'm twenty thirty. So you were 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:15.560 twenty three when college ended. 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:18.120 Yeah, and then your wife left you as you were 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:19.080 still in college or right. 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:21.200 A year later, a year and a half later. So 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.040 I'm twenty four, probably twenty five if I tracked it back. 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.120 I'd been working for a couple of years, been out 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:29.360 in the real world. I tore my knee right before 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.680 halftime of my senior year, so I'm just backside I'm 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:36.520 a cornerback. I'm just backside, you know, and that guy 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:39.720 cuts me, and so all of that Hope's dreams, all 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:41.440 of that just goes out the window, and. 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:43.200 You're struggling in that year to kind of what you 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:45.720 were saying, finding your identity. So you were struggling with 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:47.560 that transition that first year out of college. 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:49.960 What am I gonna do? Get a sales job? What 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:51.720 am I gonna do? I've been thinking about being a 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:55.080 professional football player since all I can remember. Yeah, and 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:57.680 if I don't play football, I'm gonna play baseball. Right now, 0:15:57.680 --> 0:16:00.800 We're gonna go do something. And then just the real 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.240 realization of knowing what and there were I wasn't mentally 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.680 tough enough to be that guy looking back now through 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.320 a lot of things that I wasn't good enough. I 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.080 was athletically capable enough, but not in my mind. I 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:16.040 wasn't and didn't really understand who I was and couldn't 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.480 just be present in a lot of things that happened. 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:22.480 So just all of that crashing down in that moment, 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.920 and then this realization that I don't really know who 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.960 I am and this idea of identity I've got to 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:33.120 figure out what's real about who I am? Before I 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.400 try to work at what to do. Let's not aim 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:37.440 at what to do next. Let's just take a stop 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:40.200 a moment and let's figure out, well, what is generally 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:42.800 believe in? Yeah, regardless of whatddy, But anybody else on 0:16:42.840 --> 0:16:45.480 the planet thinks? What do I believe in? And what 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:48.400 am I willing to get up and move forward based on? 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:50.280 Does that make sense? Yeah? Oh yeah, I think. 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:53.720 I think that's what happens with a lot of guys 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:57.200 in sports. And I only say sports because I play. 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:57.720 I play. 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:02.280 I've played a sport my whole life. Yeah, work, first grade? 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:04.720 Is how old? Like eight years old or six, seven, 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:05.600 eight years old? Whatever? 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:08.600 You grow all guessing here, but you play a sport 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.200 from a very early age. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:13.640 So like for me, for instance. 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:16.840 You start at seven eight years old and you train 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:20.960 basically to I was an older guy too, till twenty three, right, 0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:22.360 twenty three minus eight? 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:23.760 What is that fifteen years? 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:29.480 You train fifteen years to go after one goal or 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:35.199 one dream, right, being an NFL player, And when the 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:37.879 reality sets in that the average career in the NFL 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:41.640 is three years, you train fifteen years of your entire 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:44.600 life for a career that lasts on average three years. 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.360 I've been very fortunate to I'm in my seventh right 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:50.560 now on kind of the quote unquote back end of 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:54.320 my career, not knowing when it all land, and fortunately 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.760 it's always kind of sunk in with me that I 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:01.080 got to find a transition point, because when it's taken 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:05.639 away from you, you do go through this transitional period 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.280 of what in the you know, what do I do next? 0:18:08.440 --> 0:18:11.480 And if you don't pivot yeah and know and are 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:14.520 strong and kind of your identity with something. That's where 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:17.560 guys can slip into, like clinical depression or something that 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:18.879 they don't know, like what am I going to be 0:18:18.920 --> 0:18:21.480 a sales guy? Because we think as athletes we're going 0:18:21.560 --> 0:18:23.639 to either pinnacle or oh what am I going to 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:26.320 be a sales guy? There's nothing that you're You're all 0:18:26.359 --> 0:18:29.720 in on this one goal that you live. Knock on wood, 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:32.000 hopefully we all live to like ninety, right, we haven't 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:35.680 even lived one third of our life, and this goal 0:18:35.720 --> 0:18:37.720 we've trained for for fifteen years is going to be 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:39.560 gone whenever we get out of college. And a lot 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:41.800 of guys struggle when that happens, or in the NFL 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:43.520 when a lot of guys. You see guys that go 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:47.320 bankrupt within five years because they struggle figuring out their identity. 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:50.159 And it's interesting to me that you were in that 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:53.200 period for a year where you didn't make it. 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:54.160 To the league. 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.680 And I'm just assuming, like Jim and I just met 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:01.080 like twenty minutes ago, just assuming that that stuff kind 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:02.600 of played a role into. 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:05.640 Your wife leaving the question question. 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:09.320 And then you're sitting there in your darkest time and 0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:12.320 some damn movie sits and clicks with you at some point. 0:19:13.280 --> 0:19:16.360 I think that's like I always get very interested with guys, man, 0:19:16.400 --> 0:19:20.720 because the mentality is what matters in those periods of time, 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:23.399 because yeah, I'm a football player now, but when that's done, 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:25.720 am I capable? 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:28.760 That's why guys have to dabble in what might. 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:30.520 Interest him, because now they're going to slip into something 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:31.840 that is not good. 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:36.399 If you if at a certain point your athletic career 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:40.520 will end, yeah, at a certain to be certain point, 0:19:40.960 --> 0:19:43.359 and it does for everybody, whether it's fifteen years or 0:19:43.520 --> 0:19:45.600 yeah or two you're going to retire either in high school. 0:19:45.640 --> 0:19:47.479 We know the tire in college, right, we know that 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:50.600 that's happening. This is this is where I never I 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:53.320 never taught Rich Phoning one thing about CrossFit. He was 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:55.960 a he's a multiple games champion. Had that dialed in? 0:19:56.480 --> 0:20:00.240 Where where Rich had any time? Right? Yeah, total between 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:02.399 the individual and team. I mean, when it comes to 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:06.200 that world, that's the guy. What was valuable working through 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:08.879 the Mayhem mindset process what we call the Mayhem mindset 0:20:08.920 --> 0:20:14.120 process now, was well, CrossFit is not his identity, it's 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:17.439 what he does. And so I know that at a 0:20:17.480 --> 0:20:20.399 certain point that's going to end. So what am I 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:23.919 aiming at after that? And I need to start to 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:28.000 create that thought process and plan for that in the future. 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:32.560 And if professional football is all you are, you're in 0:20:32.600 --> 0:20:34.760 trouble because it's going to come to an end at 0:20:34.800 --> 0:20:38.639 certain point. And so that that was the space that 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:41.000 I found myself in. And then what I really realized 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:44.320 was that I had to separate this idea of identity 0:20:44.359 --> 0:20:47.119 from what I do, and in the culture we live in, 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:50.760 that gets really blurred. So I call it, you know 0:20:50.920 --> 0:20:55.560 I want to. I don't. I'm not a traditional mindset 0:20:55.960 --> 0:20:58.320 rah rah, motivational guy as not at all. What I 0:20:58.359 --> 0:21:02.240 do my responsible is to Really, because of what I 0:21:02.280 --> 0:21:06.280 went through, I created a process for somebody to sit 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:08.920 down and really decide who they were and what they 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:09.359 believed in. 0:21:09.600 --> 0:21:11.960 What made you start creating that process? And now I 0:21:12.000 --> 0:21:15.360 know the Gladdy that moment you decided, Okay, I got 0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:18.200 to get my shit together and I'm immediately taking accountability 0:21:18.200 --> 0:21:19.920 for literally everything that's happened in my life. 0:21:20.440 --> 0:21:23.280 How do you start to figure out a process? Right? 0:21:23.280 --> 0:21:25.800 And then from that process that we'll get into how 0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:28.679 you started to put together a formula to help other people. 0:21:28.720 --> 0:21:32.320 Here's what I heard Maximus say. He stated what his 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:37.160 purpose was, so I heard it. He was clear about 0:21:37.160 --> 0:21:39.320 who he was and what his purpose was on the planet. 0:21:39.640 --> 0:21:43.280 Then he talked about what he believed in, which was 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:45.520 values or beliefs or however you want to call it, 0:21:45.920 --> 0:21:48.120 first principles, and then he said, this is what I'm 0:21:48.119 --> 0:21:50.159 going to do. Yeah, so it's who I am, this 0:21:50.240 --> 0:21:52.840 is what I believe in, either in this life or 0:21:52.880 --> 0:21:55.600 the next life. I'm going to have my revenge. You know, 0:21:55.680 --> 0:21:57.560 That's kind of how he phrased it. So I said, okay, 0:21:57.600 --> 0:21:59.920 wait a second, let me figure out what purpose is. 0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:04.320 Let's let's let's create a list of authentic beliefs in 0:22:04.359 --> 0:22:06.400 my life that I really believe in that are mine. 0:22:06.600 --> 0:22:09.240 And then I'm gonna hold myself accountable by writing myself 0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:12.240 a mission statement, now what I call your I Am, 0:22:12.280 --> 0:22:14.320 which is a purpose statement, your I believe, which is 0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:16.760 this idea of whatever it is you believe in, and 0:22:16.800 --> 0:22:19.639 then and then what you're gonna do to hold yourself accountable? 0:22:20.000 --> 0:22:23.560 And so I went through six months worth of just 0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:25.639 beginning to write, all right, well, why in the hell 0:22:25.680 --> 0:22:28.840 am I on this planet? Because it sure isn't play football, 0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:32.560 because that ain't happen. So that's that's something that I 0:22:32.960 --> 0:22:35.400 that I thought I was going to do. But that's 0:22:35.440 --> 0:22:37.240 not the same as really what I believe in. I 0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:39.320 need to separate that out and it's not the same 0:22:39.320 --> 0:22:43.440 as what I feel. Whatever these things are that I'm 0:22:43.480 --> 0:22:45.679 supposed to believe in have to be big rocks. They 0:22:45.720 --> 0:22:48.560 have to be immovable in my life regardless of how 0:22:48.600 --> 0:22:51.960 I feel. There are things I'm supposed to anchor to. So, 0:22:51.960 --> 0:22:54.879 so if I believe in family, well what what is 0:22:54.920 --> 0:22:57.280 the real definition of that? You know? What do I? 0:22:57.720 --> 0:22:59.600 And so? And so I went through a process of 0:22:59.600 --> 0:23:03.760 really reaching out and defining this idea of values that 0:23:03.840 --> 0:23:08.280 represented my strengths, my weaknesses, and then my goals. 0:23:08.840 --> 0:23:12.119 If you don't mind sharing, could you give examples that 0:23:12.200 --> 0:23:15.840 you were writing in this initial period that you were 0:23:15.880 --> 0:23:18.920 going to kind of go after Yeah, I guess until 0:23:18.920 --> 0:23:20.520 you got to the point it's where it's like, hey, 0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:24.280 I found this system that you have an experience label 0:23:24.320 --> 0:23:27.440 with you now to kind of attract people to. 0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:30.439 Want to, you know, follow your stuff. Yeh. When I 0:23:30.440 --> 0:23:33.760 started out what is now kind of eleven challenges in 0:23:33.760 --> 0:23:35.880 a process. I don't tell anybody what to believe. That's 0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:38.000 not my job. You believe whatever it is you want 0:23:38.000 --> 0:23:40.720 to believe. But I but I am asking you to 0:23:40.800 --> 0:23:44.600 be able to defend it to yourself. If it's not 0:23:44.640 --> 0:23:47.840 in language, it's not a tool, right. Think about it. 0:23:47.880 --> 0:23:50.879 On the football field, you could say a bunch right, 0:23:50.880 --> 0:23:54.520 and you could call it coverage. And if you don't 0:23:54.520 --> 0:23:58.280 know what that is that language specifically, you can't do it. 0:23:58.840 --> 0:24:01.240 You can't crossfits the same way you know what an 0:24:01.280 --> 0:24:04.520 am rap is, You're in trouble. So if you don't 0:24:04.560 --> 0:24:08.000 have language for your beliefs and it's not something that 0:24:08.040 --> 0:24:11.200 you can really actively communicate, it's not really real. Man. 0:24:11.760 --> 0:24:14.240 Your choices and decisions are going to be based mostly 0:24:14.280 --> 0:24:17.639 on momentum or emotion. There's nothing wrong with momentum, and 0:24:17.640 --> 0:24:21.399 there's nothing wrong with emotion. That's a fire starter, but 0:24:21.440 --> 0:24:25.600 it's not sustainable fuel. We're gonna find ourselves in places 0:24:25.600 --> 0:24:29.520 where our emotions betray us absolutely, and that happens to everybody. 0:24:29.600 --> 0:24:31.760 So and that's the way we're designed by the way 0:24:32.280 --> 0:24:34.720 we feel first, that's the first part of our brain 0:24:34.720 --> 0:24:38.719 that kicks in, and then we think second. So understanding 0:24:38.760 --> 0:24:41.199 that acknowledging it. So I went through a process of 0:24:41.240 --> 0:24:45.480 separating my emotions from what I believed. And so now 0:24:45.520 --> 0:24:49.440 I call it your B capital b E, Values, Talents 0:24:49.560 --> 0:24:51.800 and Purpose. I want you to be able to have 0:24:51.840 --> 0:24:54.959 some sort of idea about what that means and then 0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:58.480 be able to say it so that it's authentic, don't 0:24:58.480 --> 0:24:59.000 bs me. 0:25:00.119 --> 0:25:03.080 And then I make yourself accountable by making the invisible 0:25:03.160 --> 0:25:04.840 like heard and divisible. 0:25:05.359 --> 0:25:08.920 I wrote a code for my life. Literally. I called 0:25:08.960 --> 0:25:12.240 it the Strengthen Honor Code, after what Maximus said. I 0:25:12.240 --> 0:25:15.960 had a tattoo artist draw me a cress. I tattooed 0:25:16.000 --> 0:25:19.160 it on my arm, and every decision was filtered from 0:25:19.160 --> 0:25:21.960 that point on through the Strengthen Honor Code. It was 0:25:22.040 --> 0:25:24.679 not for anybody, and I could quote it. My name is, 0:25:24.800 --> 0:25:26.520 this is who I am, This is what I believe, 0:25:26.960 --> 0:25:30.720 This is what I believe in fight, work, hope, faith, team, family, excellence, purpose, responsibility, love, 0:25:30.760 --> 0:25:33.840 and freedom, all clearly defined. I said it fast, and 0:25:33.840 --> 0:25:35.719 it doesn't mean anything to you, but it's very profound 0:25:35.760 --> 0:25:38.959 in my life. Yeah. And then an I will statement 0:25:39.040 --> 0:25:41.360 or a mission statement that represented me. And then it 0:25:41.400 --> 0:25:43.560 was boiled down to something on my arm so I 0:25:43.560 --> 0:25:47.240 could look down and say, Jim, is there any strength 0:25:47.280 --> 0:25:50.359 and honor in that? Meaning? What I believe is purpose, 0:25:50.440 --> 0:25:52.040 what I believe in my values, and what I'm said 0:25:52.040 --> 0:25:54.600 I'm going to do. That was very well thought out 0:25:54.640 --> 0:25:57.359 and in language, but it gave me a fighting chance 0:25:57.400 --> 0:26:00.200 now to move my life forward. Instead of momentum and emotion, 0:26:00.520 --> 0:26:02.720 I knew who the hell I was and I could 0:26:02.720 --> 0:26:06.560 apply it if I wanted to. So instead of being 0:26:06.600 --> 0:26:11.520 a guy who who was kind of foggy and wasn't 0:26:11.560 --> 0:26:14.840 real clear about what I believed, I was a dude 0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:18.720 who really knew and was accountable. So my challenge now 0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:21.000 was a little bit different than a lot of people's. 0:26:21.400 --> 0:26:24.080 It was would I and will I live the way 0:26:24.119 --> 0:26:26.879 I said I would believe instead of staying in the 0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:29.560 state of confusion, right, staying in that state of emotions. 0:26:29.640 --> 0:26:30.840 And that's what I realized too. 0:26:31.400 --> 0:26:33.560 I thought before we started working together, I thought I 0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:34.680 was a pretty defined guy. 0:26:35.000 --> 0:26:36.919 You know, I know what I believe in. I know 0:26:37.119 --> 0:26:38.000 what my values are. 0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:40.560 I know, and I thought, which most of us do 0:26:40.960 --> 0:26:43.720 as confident, you know, confident people who I try to 0:26:43.720 --> 0:26:46.360 do the right things. I think I know a lot 0:26:46.400 --> 0:26:48.919 about life than a lot of people do. Until I 0:26:48.960 --> 0:26:52.080 started going into this process and started to realize, just 0:26:52.119 --> 0:26:55.199 like I lift weights and I flex these muscles with 0:26:55.240 --> 0:26:58.760 every single rep, now I'm flexing my mental muscles and 0:26:59.240 --> 0:27:01.880 my identity. You know, because you know when you when 0:27:01.920 --> 0:27:04.160 you guys are talking about okay, ball is over, that's 0:27:04.160 --> 0:27:07.400 your darkest hour. That's when you realize, that's when you realize, okay, 0:27:07.440 --> 0:27:08.600 that's that this is the darkest hour. 0:27:08.640 --> 0:27:10.480 Who am I? Am I enough? 0:27:10.640 --> 0:27:12.320 Because that's what we always talked about the you know, 0:27:12.359 --> 0:27:14.920 the first time we sat down, we pretty much talked 0:27:15.280 --> 0:27:19.679 in essence, this process is your greatest moment of opportunity 0:27:20.000 --> 0:27:20.880 or your darkest hour? 0:27:20.960 --> 0:27:23.680 Am I enough? And for me as an athlete still. 0:27:23.480 --> 0:27:27.600 Continuing to compete, I am just as much focused on 0:27:27.760 --> 0:27:31.040 at my greatest moment of opportunity, because I I haven't 0:27:31.080 --> 0:27:33.919 had a lot of horrible things happen to me. I 0:27:33.960 --> 0:27:36.560 haven't been down. And we're not talking clinical depression in 0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:39.040 my case. We're talking, you know, I want to get better, 0:27:39.040 --> 0:27:41.600 and we're talking about winning multiple world titles. We're talking 0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:43.520 about going down as one of the greatest of all time. 0:27:43.880 --> 0:27:44.280 I want to. 0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:45.879 I want to be able to. I want to be 0:27:45.920 --> 0:27:47.280 able to pull. I want to be able to pull 0:27:47.320 --> 0:27:47.879 that out of me. 0:27:48.320 --> 0:27:52.600 And I realize after going through this process, the hurdles 0:27:52.640 --> 0:27:54.639 I've had to go through, this small mind, the small 0:27:54.680 --> 0:27:56.919 thinking that I've had to go through, the things that 0:27:56.960 --> 0:27:59.479 are that have been holding me back as well as 0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:01.199 the things that are to propel me forward. So at 0:28:01.200 --> 0:28:04.520 the greatest, your greatest moment of opportunity, you can say, yes, 0:28:04.560 --> 0:28:06.520 I am enough, Let's go get that, Let's go take that. 0:28:06.880 --> 0:28:07.280 Yeah. 0:28:07.359 --> 0:28:10.280 Yeah, you guys are talking about like being very clear 0:28:11.040 --> 0:28:14.840 in who you believe and how you're defining these characteristics 0:28:14.840 --> 0:28:17.800 of yourself. Now when you were doing this right, it 0:28:18.000 --> 0:28:21.119 sounds awesome. And I'm talking from a point of people 0:28:21.200 --> 0:28:23.520 listening right now that are like, Okay, it's going to 0:28:23.560 --> 0:28:26.560 be as simple as being very clear and writing shit down. 0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:28.640 Which you should. You should write shit down. 0:28:28.760 --> 0:28:32.920 You're when you make the invisible visible, it's a lot 0:28:33.000 --> 0:28:35.960 more powerful because you're putting it out in the universe. 0:28:36.000 --> 0:28:37.080 Creative power in writing. 0:28:37.400 --> 0:28:40.800 Right now, you're doing this from step one, the beginning. 0:28:40.880 --> 0:28:45.040 Right now, you're fifty one, you're proven, you've got these clients, 0:28:45.160 --> 0:28:47.400 but in the beginning, you're writing this shit out right 0:28:47.760 --> 0:28:51.520 Like me, I've said this before on another podcast, like Okay, 0:28:51.760 --> 0:28:53.920 you want to write I want to be I am 0:28:53.960 --> 0:28:56.240 a Pro Bowl linebacker? Or what does a pro linebacker 0:28:56.240 --> 0:28:58.640 do on a daily basis? And I'm writing pro linebacker? 0:28:58.880 --> 0:29:00.680 Or when I was undrafted it's like be a starter 0:29:00.760 --> 0:29:03.840 on the Washington Redskins. You're getting clear, but you have 0:29:04.000 --> 0:29:05.240 doubt at the same time. 0:29:05.480 --> 0:29:07.440 So here's the key. Here's the key in what we're 0:29:07.440 --> 0:29:09.400 doing here. And this is what happened to me, And 0:29:09.400 --> 0:29:12.160 this is very fundamental to this being something that matters 0:29:12.160 --> 0:29:15.440 and works. Right, I'm not talking about what you're going 0:29:15.520 --> 0:29:19.600 to do, the task or the emotion. I want to 0:29:19.640 --> 0:29:22.880 separate that out. Be a Pro Bowl linebacker is that 0:29:23.000 --> 0:29:26.080 goal that you're aiming at and it's valid. Prior to 0:29:26.120 --> 0:29:29.080 thinking about that, I really want to take you back 0:29:29.120 --> 0:29:35.240 to really understanding identity. What is it inside you that 0:29:35.360 --> 0:29:38.360 gives you the ability and or the right to be 0:29:38.440 --> 0:29:42.000 that pro bowl? Right? Gotcha? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? And I 0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:43.920 want to go all the way back to what's purpose 0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:45.720 in your life? And I want to I want to 0:29:45.760 --> 0:29:48.080 I want to define that in a word, got you? 0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:50.320 And then I want to talk about values. I want 0:29:50.320 --> 0:29:52.720 to I want to create a platform of strength to 0:29:52.880 --> 0:29:55.600 operate from, so that whatever it is you decide to do, 0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:59.560 you're bringing identity to it, right, not just the goal. 0:29:59.560 --> 0:30:02.360 There's nothing wrong with the goal. We got to have them, yes, 0:30:02.560 --> 0:30:04.600 and we got to put that in language that's really important. 0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:09.160 But so many people chase the do in our culture. Right, 0:30:09.240 --> 0:30:10.719 let me try this. All that didn't work? Well, let 0:30:10.720 --> 0:30:12.520 me try this, I didn't work. Let me try this, 0:30:12.560 --> 0:30:14.400 Well that didn't work. Hold on, right. 0:30:14.960 --> 0:30:19.520 I want you to explain the vulnerable, kind of scary 0:30:19.560 --> 0:30:22.160 side when you do write these big ass goals in mind. Right, 0:30:22.360 --> 0:30:25.000 and then it's like, okay, Jim, in the very beginning, 0:30:25.080 --> 0:30:28.920 Now you're writing this huge goal and you're trying to 0:30:28.960 --> 0:30:32.280 carry it out, and you still have some vulnerability thinking 0:30:32.800 --> 0:30:35.480 am I worth telling this to people? 0:30:36.160 --> 0:30:36.400 Did you? 0:30:36.600 --> 0:30:41.200 You presumably had some kind of doubt when you're writing 0:30:41.200 --> 0:30:42.680 this in real like I'm gonna be one of the 0:30:42.720 --> 0:30:45.360 best to do it, right, There's still something in you 0:30:45.520 --> 0:30:48.000 when you are writing the purpose and the characteristics and 0:30:48.280 --> 0:30:50.440 all this stuff that's like, why do you deserve that? 0:30:50.680 --> 0:30:53.800 You're still have a little anxiety to talk about it 0:30:53.840 --> 0:30:56.480 out loud because you know you're doing it because you 0:30:56.640 --> 0:30:59.120 need to, but telling it to other people and talking 0:30:59.160 --> 0:31:00.760 about it front other people do it in a way 0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:01.480 it is where it's like. 0:31:01.560 --> 0:31:03.320 Man, are they doubting me? You know what I mean? 0:31:03.520 --> 0:31:04.960 Sure you have that stuff in the beginning. 0:31:05.040 --> 0:31:08.600 Now now it's like we're proven dudes, right right, and 0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:10.640 you can kind of talk about it easier. But in 0:31:10.680 --> 0:31:15.000 the beginning you're gonna have doubt in thinking what makes 0:31:15.040 --> 0:31:16.640 me deserve this? 0:31:16.880 --> 0:31:19.960 In mind? Right? So what Michael said, this whole the 0:31:20.280 --> 0:31:24.640 whole idea in my heart started from the question what 0:31:24.680 --> 0:31:26.560 I wanted to do is I wanted to strip myself 0:31:26.600 --> 0:31:29.240 all the way of everything. I wanted to put myself 0:31:29.480 --> 0:31:32.800 in Maximus's position. If you if you watch the movie right, 0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:34.640 everything had been taken to him. He was a general, 0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:37.680 had been taken from him, his wife was killed. He's 0:31:37.720 --> 0:31:40.720 in this spot where he's a slave, and the only 0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:43.120 reason why he's fighting is for what he believed in, 0:31:43.240 --> 0:31:46.120 not that it felt good, not that he was respected. 0:31:46.160 --> 0:31:48.000 He wasn't any of those things, right, It was just 0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:51.160 only about who he was as a man. One of 0:31:51.200 --> 0:31:54.040 the goat movies, right for sure. And so I wanted 0:31:54.040 --> 0:31:57.560 to put myself in that spot. And what I realized was, well, 0:31:57.760 --> 0:31:59.960 what was the what was the one question that kept 0:32:00.040 --> 0:32:02.280 coming from my heart? Well, the one question was am 0:32:02.320 --> 0:32:05.360 I enough? Am I just an f and loser? Now? Yeah, 0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:08.080 that happens. It happens for It's important for people to 0:32:08.120 --> 0:32:10.680 know that that happens. It happens to everybody, and and 0:32:10.760 --> 0:32:14.920 it happens all the time. That's to be human emotional. 0:32:14.960 --> 0:32:17.880 And if it hasn't happened, it is the inevitable if. 0:32:17.720 --> 0:32:22.040 You are not clearly defined as as because I was, so, 0:32:22.120 --> 0:32:24.520 we haven't really talked about fighting goals. We haven't talked 0:32:24.520 --> 0:32:26.920 about all big goals. Honestly, I just want to figure 0:32:26.920 --> 0:32:27.479 out who I am. 0:32:27.840 --> 0:32:27.959 Right. 0:32:28.120 --> 0:32:31.960 I'm a kid from high Ridge, Missouri, you know, And 0:32:32.120 --> 0:32:34.880 and now I've gotten this this platform to be able 0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:37.080 to be who I am and i'm but I still 0:32:37.120 --> 0:32:40.680 am trying to figure it out preemptively as a precaution 0:32:40.960 --> 0:32:45.440 because when fighting ends, I want to mitigate the risk 0:32:45.640 --> 0:32:49.120 of that darkestyle. I want to mitigate the risk of 0:32:49.320 --> 0:32:51.120 if I lose my next three fights and I'm done, 0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:53.040 who am I? Where am I going? 0:32:53.040 --> 0:32:53.560 What am I doing? 0:32:54.320 --> 0:32:56.560 You're going to struggle for a minute, man, what you're 0:32:56.560 --> 0:33:00.880 doing should have zero bearing on identity, exactly right. It shouldn't. 0:33:00.920 --> 0:33:04.520 In your greatest moment of opportunity or in the darkest hour, 0:33:04.600 --> 0:33:08.000 You're still the same dude. You still believe the same things. 0:33:08.760 --> 0:33:11.360 Let me take everything away from you that you have. 0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:13.720 You know, and I don't know anything about you personally. 0:33:13.760 --> 0:33:15.640 I'm just saying, let's take your money, let's take your wife, 0:33:15.720 --> 0:33:18.360 let's take your job, Let's put you in that spot. 0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:20.600 And then you then tell me, are the things that 0:33:20.640 --> 0:33:23.520 you believe in? Horseshit at that point? Or is it real? Right? 0:33:23.560 --> 0:33:25.520 Tell me what that is? And so here I am 0:33:25.560 --> 0:33:29.280 face down, depressed, and I'm like, man, if I'm going 0:33:29.320 --> 0:33:31.240 to get up and come forward, it's got to be 0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:35.600 real or what's at worth? And so the point of 0:33:35.640 --> 0:33:38.960 the process is to put you, at least mentally in 0:33:39.040 --> 0:33:42.239 a space where we separate the do. I don't care 0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:44.160 about your job. I don't care about your goals and ishit. 0:33:44.160 --> 0:33:45.960 I don't want to know about any of that. Really, 0:33:46.000 --> 0:33:47.360 what I want you to do is just tell me 0:33:47.400 --> 0:33:48.959 who you are and what you believe, and let's come 0:33:49.040 --> 0:33:52.920 up with that idea first. It's just like the fundament 0:33:53.040 --> 0:33:57.440 what position line linebackers read your keys, man, I need 0:33:57.480 --> 0:34:00.360 you to do is read your keys for your life. Right, 0:34:00.480 --> 0:34:01.880 That's what I want you to be able to do 0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:05.320 before the snap of the ball. How intelligent you are 0:34:05.360 --> 0:34:09.840 before the do Are you intelligent and well versed and 0:34:09.920 --> 0:34:11.480 have language for your life? 0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:14.000 And when you say have language you're talking about you're talking. 0:34:14.080 --> 0:34:17.120 This is where writing stuff down comes into play, because 0:34:17.160 --> 0:34:20.080 I truly like, I love this stuff and I want 0:34:20.320 --> 0:34:23.640 I want people to have takeaways. Right, everybody listening, like 0:34:23.680 --> 0:34:26.880 when he's explaining this stuff, try and think about. 0:34:26.560 --> 0:34:27.880 Some shit in your own life. 0:34:28.239 --> 0:34:30.640 And when he's talking about language and saying all these 0:34:30.719 --> 0:34:33.200 questions like maybe you're sitting in the car right now 0:34:33.280 --> 0:34:35.040 or listening to this pot or watching it at home. 0:34:35.120 --> 0:34:38.239 I don't know, but like, if you want to take 0:34:38.239 --> 0:34:40.760 this stuff away. I'm trying to ask all these questions 0:34:40.760 --> 0:34:42.560 so we can give. 0:34:42.400 --> 0:34:46.000 To you guys think about Let's think about your strongest beliefs. 0:34:46.040 --> 0:34:48.520 Let's just do it right here, right now, Michael Chandler, 0:34:50.160 --> 0:34:51.960 name three core values in your life. 0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:59.720 Core values, strongest beliefs, fight family, authenticity. 0:35:00.640 --> 0:35:03.080 Now, when I go into a classrooms at a university, 0:35:03.800 --> 0:35:05.880 or I'm I talked in front of three hundred doctors 0:35:05.920 --> 0:35:10.680 the other day, and I challenge them, name a core 0:35:10.800 --> 0:35:14.799 value in your life, because we don't have this conversation 0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:17.920 this way in our culture. Mostly we're talking about motivation 0:35:18.560 --> 0:35:20.879 and we're looking at guys to motivate us, which is cool, 0:35:20.920 --> 0:35:23.160 there's nothing wrong with it, but we can you waste 0:35:23.280 --> 0:35:26.480 motivation if you don't know who you are. Motivation is 0:35:26.480 --> 0:35:29.160 a fantastic tool if you can apply it to who 0:35:29.200 --> 0:35:31.200 you are as a human being. But so many people 0:35:31.200 --> 0:35:34.080 are chasing motivation. I want to know who he is. 0:35:36.239 --> 0:35:39.960 Quiet still, outside of all to do, I go into 0:35:40.000 --> 0:35:43.239 a classroom and I'll ask, you know, a somebody name 0:35:43.280 --> 0:35:46.000 a core value, and it gets super quiet. They don't 0:35:46.000 --> 0:35:47.560 really know what I'm talking about. So I gotta try 0:35:47.560 --> 0:35:49.400 to describe it a couple of different ways. 0:35:49.320 --> 0:35:52.239 Because people are probably processing, like shit, what for sure, 0:35:52.280 --> 0:35:54.480 I'm sitting here talking, I'm like, man, sure I got 0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:55.680 to be able to name three If you ask me 0:35:55.719 --> 0:35:57.279 here in a second, you know what I mean. 0:35:57.600 --> 0:35:59.000 And it's that you're trying to I mean. 0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:00.799 And we've we've worked so hard of the last couple 0:36:00.840 --> 0:36:03.480 weeks with these definitions, and I've changed the definitions fifteen 0:36:03.520 --> 0:36:05.640 different times and a lot of times. And that's why 0:36:05.680 --> 0:36:07.840 you talk about he went fight tape tape all of 0:36:07.880 --> 0:36:11.600 his things. His definition is different. My definition of fight 0:36:11.760 --> 0:36:13.840 is probably different than you think it is. My definition 0:36:13.880 --> 0:36:17.279 of authenticity is probably similar to what you think it 0:36:17.360 --> 0:36:20.480 might be. But the reasoning behind the definition all has 0:36:20.520 --> 0:36:24.520 to go back to my shortcomings mentally and emotionally, from 0:36:24.560 --> 0:36:26.680 the scars of my past, from the from the things 0:36:26.719 --> 0:36:29.279 that have held me back. Authenticity isn't just so I 0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:32.120 can put my best foot forward and be my best self. 0:36:32.239 --> 0:36:36.600 My being authentic in my mind is overcoming the mental 0:36:36.680 --> 0:36:39.360 hurdles of the small minded thinking of my past. Therefore, 0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:42.520 when I step into a room, I will have the 0:36:42.600 --> 0:36:47.399 courage and to be authentic, authentic in front of people. 0:36:47.480 --> 0:36:49.759 And it all comes back to the shortcomings that I've had. 0:36:49.840 --> 0:36:52.680 There's what I believe in our design. There's all kinds 0:36:52.680 --> 0:36:54.480 of things talent wise that are under design. And then 0:36:54.520 --> 0:36:57.799 there's nurture in nature, how you were raised, you know, 0:36:57.960 --> 0:37:00.399 and and and what all that means. So we all 0:37:00.520 --> 0:37:04.239 arrive at this space with different kinds of environments being 0:37:04.239 --> 0:37:08.640 put through different things, and so it's important to make 0:37:08.640 --> 0:37:11.080 sure that those words, whatever they are, whatever those belief 0:37:11.120 --> 0:37:13.640 systems are in your life, they're yours and you own them. 0:37:13.760 --> 0:37:15.960 These core values, right, whatever the core values are, okay, 0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:18.719 you know whatever that is you say, and I don't 0:37:18.719 --> 0:37:21.320 care what it is. They need to represent your strengths. 0:37:22.520 --> 0:37:25.279 They need to represent the emotional weaknesses in your life 0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:27.640 because we all got them. And then they need to 0:37:27.680 --> 0:37:31.000 represent goals or ideals in your life. So they're living 0:37:31.280 --> 0:37:34.160 and breathing and you can use them. So many times 0:37:34.200 --> 0:37:36.120 I go into a space where people they've never thought 0:37:36.120 --> 0:37:38.560 about it, so they don't know what they are, so 0:37:38.600 --> 0:37:43.239 it's not really a tool. Or I go into a 0:37:43.280 --> 0:37:45.440 environment where they got these mission statements on the walls 0:37:45.480 --> 0:37:47.120 and they got all these core values, but it's all 0:37:47.160 --> 0:37:52.160 horseshit and nobody really lives them. And especially in a 0:37:52.160 --> 0:37:54.799 lot of corporate environments. You can go into a locker 0:37:54.880 --> 0:37:56.919 room and there'll be some mission statement on the wall 0:37:57.000 --> 0:38:01.720 and nobody knows what it is or cares. It's not actual, 0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:05.000 real philosophy. What we're more concerned about is the process 0:38:05.040 --> 0:38:07.520 with the x's and o's, which is important. We need 0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:09.719 to be excellent at that, but we need to come 0:38:09.800 --> 0:38:12.279 from some sort of philosophical base if we're going to 0:38:12.320 --> 0:38:15.440 be one hundred percent of who we're creater to be want. 0:38:15.520 --> 0:38:17.720 If I want the most out of you as an athlete, 0:38:17.880 --> 0:38:19.400 I need to care about who you are at the 0:38:19.440 --> 0:38:21.840 heart level and as a man, and as your beliefs, 0:38:22.640 --> 0:38:26.040 and then I need that connected to process. And if 0:38:26.040 --> 0:38:28.520 I have that connected to process, then I got eleven 0:38:28.600 --> 0:38:31.200 dudes flying into the ball understanding who they are and 0:38:31.239 --> 0:38:34.680 what they believe. And then there's some sort of if 0:38:34.719 --> 0:38:36.480 you know who you are and he knows who he is, 0:38:36.520 --> 0:38:38.840 and everybody knows who they are, then we can find 0:38:38.880 --> 0:38:42.239 that space where our values overlap and that's where strength is. 0:38:43.440 --> 0:38:46.319 Or if a coach wants to wants to know whether 0:38:46.360 --> 0:38:49.720 he wants you around, that's a nice question to start 0:38:49.760 --> 0:38:51.959 with because there's a lot of x's and o's guys 0:38:52.000 --> 0:38:54.840 who are physically capable, but they don't belong in the culture, 0:38:55.960 --> 0:38:57.600 you know what I mean, They're just not going to fit. 0:38:57.640 --> 0:38:59.799 I don't care how good you are, it doesn't really 0:38:59.800 --> 0:39:03.480 make You're not my guy. So understanding that about your life, 0:39:03.640 --> 0:39:06.080 not just football or what you're doing, is important. How 0:39:06.080 --> 0:39:07.640 you're going to respond to your girlfriend, how you can 0:39:07.680 --> 0:39:08.160 respond to. 0:39:08.120 --> 0:39:10.240 Your wife, that filter. 0:39:10.440 --> 0:39:12.080 Having a filter, you know, I think that's one of 0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:15.360 the biggest things too, Having a filter to live every 0:39:15.400 --> 0:39:19.480 single every single scenario that you come into, every single interaction, 0:39:19.560 --> 0:39:23.280 every single relationship, there's a there is a inherent filter 0:39:23.360 --> 0:39:26.319 that you now have through the practicing of being able 0:39:26.320 --> 0:39:29.200 to filter all of these every single scenario through these 0:39:29.239 --> 0:39:30.879 coret through your core value, your core. 0:39:30.840 --> 0:39:32.960 Values, because when these bad things happen, it's like what 0:39:33.000 --> 0:39:34.160 do they say, like or eving. 0:39:34.040 --> 0:39:36.160 Good things five seconds everything happens. 0:39:36.239 --> 0:39:38.719 Yeah, there's like a there's like a moment your brain 0:39:38.800 --> 0:39:40.879 has that's going to make a decision. Yeah, And you're 0:39:40.920 --> 0:39:43.279 trying to create these things to where that's what you 0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:46.279 default to in these times of either success or I 0:39:46.320 --> 0:39:49.319 guess failure. So you write these core values and then 0:39:49.360 --> 0:39:52.960 what's next. So you you're with me and Mike and 0:39:53.000 --> 0:39:55.040 we're figuring out our core values. The next time we 0:39:55.120 --> 0:39:58.480 meet with you. What comes after these defined core values 0:39:58.480 --> 0:39:59.000 when we talk. 0:39:58.920 --> 0:40:02.200 About So the whole entire process is one most importantly 0:40:02.200 --> 0:40:06.400 to get you to write. Why write? It's not in language, 0:40:06.400 --> 0:40:08.640 it's not a tool. Love it. So I've got to 0:40:08.680 --> 0:40:10.160 get you to put who you are and what you 0:40:10.239 --> 0:40:13.319 believe on paper. If you're not disciplined enough to do 0:40:13.360 --> 0:40:16.120 some writing, it's not right for you. R I g HD. 0:40:16.600 --> 0:40:18.560 The process is not right for you. So we need 0:40:18.560 --> 0:40:21.160 to be able to do that. We want to talk 0:40:21.200 --> 0:40:26.640 about negative emotions, negative themes, negative stories, and so we 0:40:26.680 --> 0:40:30.000 don't start by writing about core values. That comes at 0:40:30.000 --> 0:40:32.080 the very end of the process. Okay, What I want 0:40:32.080 --> 0:40:35.560 to do is put you through challenges one week at 0:40:35.600 --> 0:40:39.319 a time that cause you to gain some new perspective 0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:42.520 about your life. That's the idea of the goal. No 0:40:42.560 --> 0:40:44.520 different than getting in the gym and working the different 0:40:44.560 --> 0:40:47.680 muscles and changing up how you're doing that to strengthen 0:40:47.719 --> 0:40:50.600 your body. So that's an example of something you put 0:40:50.600 --> 0:40:55.640 them through. Each Each one of the challenges requires you 0:40:55.680 --> 0:40:58.000 to be able to go out into your week and 0:40:58.120 --> 0:41:01.480 keep this idea front of mind, all right, So one 0:41:01.520 --> 0:41:05.040 of them I call the matrix, and I teach I 0:41:05.080 --> 0:41:11.279 teach something called the system, feel, filter, think, flow. It's 0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:16.040 pretty simple. It's how our bodies work. Olympic brain fires, filter. 0:41:16.239 --> 0:41:18.200 I don't know if you've got one. That's this idea 0:41:18.200 --> 0:41:20.719 of building the system, core value system, then being able 0:41:20.760 --> 0:41:22.680 to think really clearly. Can I get you to be 0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:25.239 a critical thinker? Or are you just running all over 0:41:25.239 --> 0:41:27.879 the place. We all know that person, right, Every choice 0:41:27.880 --> 0:41:30.680 and decisions made based on emotion. So I want you 0:41:30.760 --> 0:41:37.120 to go out into your week and really recognize if 0:41:37.160 --> 0:41:39.680 you're making some choices and decisions based on values or 0:41:39.680 --> 0:41:42.160 if you're mostly over there in emotion. And each one 0:41:42.200 --> 0:41:44.920 of the challenges has a component like that. And the 0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:48.000 idea is after eleven weeks, and if I can get 0:41:48.000 --> 0:41:49.640 you a little bit off balance, and I can get 0:41:49.640 --> 0:41:51.160 you to write a little bit about who you are 0:41:51.239 --> 0:41:53.799 and what you believe, then we've got this thread that 0:41:53.840 --> 0:41:56.320 goes all the way through the challenges and some writing. 0:41:56.880 --> 0:41:58.400 Or we can go back into it and we can 0:41:58.440 --> 0:42:00.680 begin to discover what it is you really believe based 0:42:00.760 --> 0:42:01.480 on what you've written. 0:42:01.480 --> 0:42:04.160 So you're having Craig me if I'm wrong, You're having 0:42:04.600 --> 0:42:09.120 them write about these experiences that are happening, whether good 0:42:09.160 --> 0:42:09.399 or bad. 0:42:09.400 --> 0:42:11.480 You're there, you're just kind of jotting down your kind 0:42:11.480 --> 0:42:11.880 of journaling. 0:42:12.040 --> 0:42:14.040 Yeah, those and those and those first couple of weeks 0:42:14.080 --> 0:42:16.600 two were very eye opening, Like that was the first 0:42:16.880 --> 0:42:20.160 was the first week, Uh, the power of be the three, 0:42:20.360 --> 0:42:22.160 be in spite of what other people think, be in 0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:25.359 spite of emotion, and be present. That that first week 0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:28.759 for me, the amount of times I wrote down the 0:42:29.520 --> 0:42:32.000 how I was not present or how I knew the 0:42:32.000 --> 0:42:34.040 week before I was not being present compared to the 0:42:34.280 --> 0:42:37.520 next week with my son, with my wife, with conversations, 0:42:37.520 --> 0:42:40.920 being present here in this podcast, or even being being 0:42:41.239 --> 0:42:43.360 in spite of emotions or being in spite of what 0:42:43.400 --> 0:42:48.239 other people think. I caught myself almost taking taking more 0:42:48.320 --> 0:42:52.000 leaps of faith to do things outside of what I 0:42:52.000 --> 0:42:54.920 would have normally did because I wasn't worried about what 0:42:54.960 --> 0:42:58.560 people were thinking as much, or I wasn't worried about, 0:42:58.960 --> 0:43:01.200 you know, what people were thinking, what the negative emotions 0:43:01.280 --> 0:43:03.120 might have been, or how emotion was driving me rather 0:43:03.200 --> 0:43:04.120 than just being me. 0:43:04.520 --> 0:43:07.200 Because you're kind of like writing this accountability and you're like, yeah, shit, 0:43:07.280 --> 0:43:09.960 I'm not. It's like something as simple as like, okay, 0:43:10.040 --> 0:43:13.600 you think you're healthy, will for the next week literally 0:43:13.640 --> 0:43:16.359 write down everything you eat and this something simple and 0:43:16.400 --> 0:43:19.080 you I've done this before, and you realize like, shit, 0:43:19.200 --> 0:43:22.799 I'm not really sticking to the things I've talked about 0:43:22.800 --> 0:43:25.719 doing because you see all these small little slip ups 0:43:25.719 --> 0:43:27.719 along the way because you're journaling, and you're like shit. 0:43:27.680 --> 0:43:30.319 Like yeah, you can mark them up, yeah, and then 0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:31.640 you kind of give them back to them and you're 0:43:31.680 --> 0:43:33.080 kind of like wanting to erase something. 0:43:33.120 --> 0:43:36.120 So you know, if we said doesn't want to see it, 0:43:36.160 --> 0:43:39.720 if we sat down. This process is not for somebody. 0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:41.440 And I don't say this in any sort of way 0:43:41.480 --> 0:43:44.239 to be negative. I'm a I'm not a therapist. I'm 0:43:44.280 --> 0:43:46.480 not a licensed counselor, I'm not any of those kind 0:43:46.480 --> 0:43:50.520 of guys. Yeah, this and the process is not some 0:43:50.840 --> 0:43:53.440 for somebody who needs that. It needs to be somebody 0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:56.359 who has some awareness about who they are and really 0:43:56.520 --> 0:43:59.879 is trying to get next level self awareness to trying 0:43:59.880 --> 0:44:02.240 to stretch yourself a little bit and get detailed about 0:44:02.239 --> 0:44:05.320 your life. That's what's in Sharpen we want to sharpen things, 0:44:06.440 --> 0:44:10.680 and so the three b's, Like Michael just explained, well, 0:44:11.080 --> 0:44:14.240 if we sat down and we could in two hours, 0:44:14.360 --> 0:44:16.960 we could have created a list of really authentic values 0:44:17.200 --> 0:44:19.759 that really meant something to him. But if we don't 0:44:19.800 --> 0:44:22.520 create some tools and we don't look for the spaces 0:44:23.280 --> 0:44:25.279 to how to use them number one, and we don't 0:44:25.280 --> 0:44:28.240 look for the spaces where there are challenges or opportunities, 0:44:28.640 --> 0:44:30.759 then it's not worth anything in the end, and it 0:44:30.880 --> 0:44:32.800 ends up just being something you wrote on a wall. 0:44:33.440 --> 0:44:35.520 We end up in the space where lots of people 0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:37.680 are in the culture where they say this is what 0:44:37.719 --> 0:44:40.440 they believe, but it's not really practical. So we want 0:44:40.480 --> 0:44:44.600 to create mindset tools, actual tools, so that you can 0:44:44.640 --> 0:44:46.920 put who you are and what you believe in motion. 0:44:47.320 --> 0:44:51.000 Your value system should be a force multiplier in your life. 0:44:51.960 --> 0:44:53.759 It shouldn't. It shouldn't be a safety net. 0:44:54.280 --> 0:44:54.640 You should. 0:44:54.760 --> 0:44:57.360 I'm interested in dudes who can play offense. Not that 0:44:57.400 --> 0:44:59.759 there's nothing wrong defense, but you know what I mean 0:45:00.080 --> 0:45:02.520 to you, You know what I mean, And we want to 0:45:02.560 --> 0:45:05.120 be able to carry the weight for the people that 0:45:05.160 --> 0:45:07.600 we love. I want to stand in the gap for 0:45:07.680 --> 0:45:10.360 the people that I'm committed to being there for I 0:45:10.400 --> 0:45:12.880 want to make that sacrifice, but I also want to 0:45:12.920 --> 0:45:16.719 stay on track regarding my emotions and the things that 0:45:16.760 --> 0:45:19.680 I know that will easily distract me. If I don't 0:45:19.680 --> 0:45:24.520 have this, Jim Henzel's I'm gonna screw up. I guarantee you. 0:45:24.600 --> 0:45:26.600 And you said when you say spaces, you mean like 0:45:26.920 --> 0:45:28.839 these hurdles that come along throughout your week. 0:45:29.080 --> 0:45:31.160 Sure, Like, is that what you mean by spaces? 0:45:31.160 --> 0:45:33.719 If we don't find the spaces to implement these core 0:45:33.800 --> 0:45:35.800 values that we're going to defaul to, are those the things. 0:45:35.680 --> 0:45:37.680 You're talking about, We've got to make them working tools, Gotcha. 0:45:37.760 --> 0:45:39.160 It's got to be language, and it's got to be 0:45:39.200 --> 0:45:41.560 something that we know how to put into action. I'm 0:45:41.600 --> 0:45:44.279 just something we write on when those moments are happening. Yeah, 0:45:44.480 --> 0:45:45.719 let me let me give you an example. In the 0:45:45.800 --> 0:45:50.920 very beginning, after I went through all that that that 0:45:51.040 --> 0:45:55.120 emotion and struggle and my wife leaves, I made a commitment. 0:45:55.239 --> 0:45:58.920 Now listen, people, this is not about what you believe, 0:45:58.960 --> 0:46:00.879 or you believe or anybody else leaves. I'm talking about 0:46:00.920 --> 0:46:03.080 what I believe and how I applied it to my life, sure, 0:46:03.360 --> 0:46:05.880 and how I wanted to own it so people can 0:46:05.960 --> 0:46:07.960 judge me, however, and they judge me, and I don't care, 0:46:08.120 --> 0:46:10.840 don't care. I want that for you too. In my 0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:13.120 greatest moment of opportunity, darkest hour, I need to know 0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:15.719 who the hell I am, so in that space back 0:46:15.760 --> 0:46:19.880 in the day, I decided I wasn't gonna have sex 0:46:20.600 --> 0:46:24.240 with single moms based on my code. Whether you believe 0:46:24.239 --> 0:46:26.560 that or not, that's just why I decided I'm gonna 0:46:26.560 --> 0:46:31.000 be I'm single right now, and I'm gonna I'm gonna 0:46:31.000 --> 0:46:32.520 come home and take care of these little girls because 0:46:32.520 --> 0:46:34.319 that's what I'm supposed to do, and I'm gonna have 0:46:34.360 --> 0:46:37.799 to get this right because my mindset is gonna get 0:46:37.800 --> 0:46:40.080 me into space where you know, I'm gonna be paying 0:46:40.120 --> 0:46:43.280 attention to chasing tail instead of coming home and taking 0:46:43.280 --> 0:46:45.160 care of these kids. That was really real for me 0:46:46.120 --> 0:46:47.920 in that space at that point in my life as 0:46:47.920 --> 0:46:51.480 a bachelor, you know, late twenties, early thirties, and so 0:46:51.719 --> 0:46:54.319 I decided, based on my code, that's not what I 0:46:54.360 --> 0:46:56.560 was gonna do. If it's a single mom and I 0:46:56.560 --> 0:46:59.560 could take advantage of that, I'm not gonna That's not 0:46:59.600 --> 0:47:02.440 what I'm going to do. And so that was a 0:47:02.600 --> 0:47:05.480 rule I set for myself based on my code so 0:47:05.920 --> 0:47:09.040 many many times during those years, and I got myself, 0:47:09.040 --> 0:47:10.279 and I won't tell the whole story, but I got 0:47:10.280 --> 0:47:13.279 myself in all kinds of spots where you know, like, man, 0:47:13.320 --> 0:47:16.240 you can't be here, bro, Like that's against the code. 0:47:16.239 --> 0:47:18.239 There is no strength and honor in what you're saying. 0:47:18.239 --> 0:47:21.640 You're not gonna take advantage of that right now. That's 0:47:21.719 --> 0:47:26.120 not somebody according to your code that you believed. I 0:47:26.160 --> 0:47:28.080 don't want that done to me as a single dad 0:47:28.080 --> 0:47:30.440 out there trying to take care of kids, fighting and 0:47:30.480 --> 0:47:32.239 battling for that, and that's not what I'm going to 0:47:32.360 --> 0:47:34.520 do as a man. That's just not a choice. Even 0:47:34.520 --> 0:47:38.640 though my emotions say let's get into this, my values 0:47:38.680 --> 0:47:40.640 say hey, no, no, no, let's not take advantage of 0:47:40.640 --> 0:47:44.720 that right now. And it kept me on a track, 0:47:44.840 --> 0:47:48.440 especially relationship wise, early in those days. That you know, 0:47:48.520 --> 0:47:51.440 allowed me to stay on course and make choices and 0:47:51.480 --> 0:47:54.640 decisions that were based on my values, not just my emotions. 0:47:55.040 --> 0:47:57.680 That's very a simple place that I used at early 0:47:57.760 --> 0:48:01.080 and now twenty years later, it's grown and developed and 0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:03.600 means other things. But that's where I started, and that's 0:48:03.600 --> 0:48:06.279 where I am. Now, that's how practical it was to 0:48:06.320 --> 0:48:08.440 me in that day. Is there any strengthened honor in 0:48:08.440 --> 0:48:12.520 that gym? Well, obviously my value system says no, but 0:48:12.600 --> 0:48:16.480 my emotions say, hell yeah, get into that. Well, what 0:48:16.480 --> 0:48:17.759 are you gonna do? You're gonna be the man who 0:48:17.800 --> 0:48:20.560 said you'd live by what you believed? Or are you're 0:48:20.560 --> 0:48:22.879 going to allow that motion and that momentum to put 0:48:22.880 --> 0:48:25.480 you in a space. At least what I had at 0:48:25.480 --> 0:48:28.719 that moment was a fighting chance because I had some 0:48:28.840 --> 0:48:31.600 language in my life. I wasn't gonna I wasn't going 0:48:31.680 --> 0:48:33.239 to get into it the next day and be like, man, 0:48:33.239 --> 0:48:35.880 I really wish I wouldn't have done that. And I 0:48:35.920 --> 0:48:38.160 found myself in positions where it really could have destroyed 0:48:38.160 --> 0:48:41.520 my life if I would allowed my emotions to run 0:48:41.560 --> 0:48:45.000 away in those moments. So we want to vulnerable like that? Well, 0:48:45.040 --> 0:48:47.960 I mean it's part of the story, right of the story. Strong, 0:48:48.440 --> 0:48:51.279 I'm in a space where I really don't I really 0:48:51.280 --> 0:48:53.719 don't care. I want and I want you to be 0:48:53.760 --> 0:48:56.680 in that space. I want you to care. I want 0:48:56.680 --> 0:48:58.440 it to be important to you, yes, but I also 0:48:58.480 --> 0:49:00.080 want you to be in a space where you know 0:49:00.160 --> 0:49:03.120 who you are regardless confident you are. Your choices and 0:49:03.160 --> 0:49:05.520 decisions are locked in to who you are and what 0:49:05.600 --> 0:49:09.359 you believe, and then the important people around you. Those 0:49:09.440 --> 0:49:12.680 values overlap and you can make choices and decisions together. 0:49:12.760 --> 0:49:15.239 My wife and I can come together and who she 0:49:15.440 --> 0:49:18.080 is and who she be in my game, values, talents, 0:49:18.080 --> 0:49:20.600 and purpose are a little bit different than mine, but 0:49:20.640 --> 0:49:23.080 our values overlap. And in that space, man, we do 0:49:23.120 --> 0:49:24.320 good work dirty, right. 0:49:24.160 --> 0:49:26.759 And those people who you don't necessarily align with, you're 0:49:26.760 --> 0:49:29.160 so confident in who you are. It's like you might 0:49:29.200 --> 0:49:30.680 explain it once, but you don't feel like you have 0:49:30.680 --> 0:49:31.440 to explain yourself. 0:49:31.480 --> 0:49:33.960 Like okay, man, Like no, and I'm not offended, right. 0:49:34.000 --> 0:49:35.759 Everybody gets to kind of believe who they are. That's 0:49:35.800 --> 0:49:37.799 the beautiful thing about who we are and where we're 0:49:37.840 --> 0:49:40.920 at as free individuals. Yeah, everybody gets to do that, 0:49:41.000 --> 0:49:44.359 and I want everybody to to be able to use 0:49:44.440 --> 0:49:45.040 that freedom. 0:49:45.040 --> 0:49:48.279 It's important the But I think the interesting thing to 0:49:48.360 --> 0:49:52.360 note here is that you want to You want everybody 0:49:52.400 --> 0:49:55.480 to express what they who they be and stand up 0:49:55.480 --> 0:49:56.440 for what they believe in. 0:49:56.600 --> 0:50:01.000 But so many people, especially stay and age. 0:50:00.719 --> 0:50:04.680 Are not at all clearly defined in what they truly believe, 0:50:04.760 --> 0:50:07.400 And that's why it is the age old quote of 0:50:08.000 --> 0:50:10.200 believe in something or your fault or anything, right, So 0:50:10.280 --> 0:50:13.480 you know exactly what you believe in, what your strength 0:50:13.480 --> 0:50:16.560 and honor code is, what exactly who you be, so 0:50:16.680 --> 0:50:19.400 that you can filter all of that in everything that 0:50:19.440 --> 0:50:21.960 you do. And I think that's where that's where the 0:50:21.960 --> 0:50:24.279 process has helped me so much. I mean, like I said, 0:50:24.440 --> 0:50:27.360 I felt like I was more defined than most. And 0:50:27.400 --> 0:50:29.040 that's why you said, it's not this is not for 0:50:29.320 --> 0:50:31.399 somebody who's one thousand percent completely lost. 0:50:31.480 --> 0:50:34.200 Necessarily you can be you can have it all together. 0:50:34.280 --> 0:50:37.240 I feel like I have had it all together ish right, 0:50:38.360 --> 0:50:39.759 but I want to take it to the next level. 0:50:39.760 --> 0:50:41.880 I want to go even more on the offense. And 0:50:42.239 --> 0:50:44.080 I don't, by any means have it all together. But 0:50:44.880 --> 0:50:48.080 I was not in a dark, dark space. But I 0:50:48.160 --> 0:50:51.200 also was so far away from what God has designed 0:50:51.239 --> 0:50:55.360 me to be, so far away from from the values, 0:50:55.400 --> 0:50:57.720 the talents and the purpose that God that has designed 0:50:58.040 --> 0:51:00.480 in my heart and all my life. And I feel 0:51:00.480 --> 0:51:02.440 like I'm starting to scratch that service even more and 0:51:02.480 --> 0:51:04.880 now I can see it more than I ever had 0:51:05.120 --> 0:51:05.680 in my entire life. 0:51:05.680 --> 0:51:08.279 Hopefully I didn't say it wrong. I want to be clear. 0:51:08.320 --> 0:51:11.440 There's nothing wrong with counseling. There's nothing wrong with the psychologists. 0:51:11.440 --> 0:51:13.520 There's nothing wrong with any of that, and that's important 0:51:13.560 --> 0:51:16.000 and it's important part of our culture and people people 0:51:16.000 --> 0:51:19.319 should utilize that as they as they need it. This 0:51:19.440 --> 0:51:22.680 doesn't replace that, Okay, you know what I mean? Yes, absolutely, 0:51:22.719 --> 0:51:25.440 I need I need somebody who has some self awareness 0:51:25.480 --> 0:51:27.279 and is actually really to do some hard work because 0:51:27.320 --> 0:51:29.799 it's hard. It's hard work, so you don't want to 0:51:29.800 --> 0:51:30.480 help yourself. 0:51:30.520 --> 0:51:33.080 It's gonna it's just gonna be hard as shit to 0:51:33.880 --> 0:51:35.800 you know, work with somebody like you or have somebody 0:51:35.840 --> 0:51:38.040 there that wants to hold you accountable. But if you 0:51:38.440 --> 0:51:40.920 truly can't figure out how to hold yourself accountable right 0:51:41.120 --> 0:51:43.279 and there, you're not gonna you can't be worked on that. Well. 0:51:43.360 --> 0:51:46.799 Yet, something I really I really admire about Michael is 0:51:46.840 --> 0:51:49.960 that he's a he's a faith guy. That's an important 0:51:50.239 --> 0:51:52.680 it's an important part of his life. It's it's key, 0:51:52.760 --> 0:51:56.879 and it's foundational and who he is and what he believes. Okay, 0:51:56.960 --> 0:52:00.319 all right, So if that is true, then can you 0:52:00.400 --> 0:52:05.319 really clearly define that and connect that to something that's 0:52:05.400 --> 0:52:09.360 very real and it's something that you're actively, actively, practically 0:52:09.440 --> 0:52:15.960 using in your life, or is it oversimplified ideology? Because 0:52:16.000 --> 0:52:17.759 I was a faith guy back in the day who 0:52:17.840 --> 0:52:20.920 was just spouting off words that meant nothing to me, 0:52:21.480 --> 0:52:23.000 and I don't really live it out. I didn't know 0:52:23.040 --> 0:52:25.160 how to live it out. And it was because somebody 0:52:25.200 --> 0:52:26.759 else said it, but I didn't own any of it. 0:52:26.840 --> 0:52:28.800 So it really kind of made me more of a 0:52:28.880 --> 0:52:32.759 hypocrite and it certainly wasn't a force multiplier. 0:52:33.120 --> 0:52:35.680 I've had some verses like memorize again, I recall on 0:52:35.760 --> 0:52:36.759 and talk about right. 0:52:36.880 --> 0:52:39.959 So when we're when we addressed this idea, I didn't 0:52:40.000 --> 0:52:43.080 tell him the faith was important. He just said it was, Okay, 0:52:43.960 --> 0:52:46.480 now define that. What does that really mean in your life? 0:52:46.560 --> 0:52:50.640 And is it something that you're actually using in your life? 0:52:50.760 --> 0:52:54.000 And then past that, what are the other values in 0:52:54.040 --> 0:52:56.600 your life? You know, what are the other things that 0:52:56.760 --> 0:52:59.200 if you're telling me and Mike Michael would say that 0:52:59.280 --> 0:53:02.960 face a foundational strength value in his life. Okay, that's 0:53:03.000 --> 0:53:05.239 the case. Then what are the other things in your 0:53:05.280 --> 0:53:08.480 life that make that meaningful? Right? What are the other 0:53:08.600 --> 0:53:11.920 values and how does that How does this idea of 0:53:11.920 --> 0:53:13.840 faith in your life how do you use it in 0:53:13.880 --> 0:53:16.440 the weaknesses in your life? And then how does it 0:53:16.440 --> 0:53:19.120 affect your future? Or are you just going to quote 0:53:19.120 --> 0:53:22.279 some scripture at me it doesn't really mean a whole lot, right, 0:53:22.400 --> 0:53:23.879 and then you're just going to roll out of here 0:53:23.920 --> 0:53:28.279 and that I'm not down with you know, Yeah, go ahead, Yeah, 0:53:28.320 --> 0:53:29.080 I was gonna say. 0:53:29.800 --> 0:53:32.520 Now you have all of this stuff clearly defined, you 0:53:32.640 --> 0:53:33.600 have it in language. 0:53:34.920 --> 0:53:37.200 People, you start to figure out, you're starting to learn 0:53:37.200 --> 0:53:38.400 a lot more about yourself. 0:53:38.600 --> 0:53:40.960 Right, and now, when you have all these tools and 0:53:41.000 --> 0:53:45.520 you have all this kind of standard created, do you 0:53:47.280 --> 0:53:50.480 repetitively constantly measure it week in and week out? 0:53:50.560 --> 0:53:52.400 Right? Or when you go through a fight. 0:53:52.400 --> 0:53:55.640 Or whoever you're working with like or rich like a workouts, 0:53:55.719 --> 0:53:58.880 or if you're trying to hit these measurables, are you 0:53:58.960 --> 0:54:01.480 looking at that? Are you looking at results a lot 0:54:01.719 --> 0:54:05.120 from this language that you've written down, or no matter 0:54:05.200 --> 0:54:07.319 what the result is, you're still always trying to live 0:54:07.360 --> 0:54:09.400 in those in this code that you've written in the 0:54:09.480 --> 0:54:11.319 language and being clear you know what I mean. So 0:54:11.360 --> 0:54:14.920 an example, say you don't hit something, or say you 0:54:15.000 --> 0:54:19.799 lose a title fight, what's the next mentoring session look like? 0:54:19.920 --> 0:54:23.399 Yeah, that's a great question. The goal in the end 0:54:23.520 --> 0:54:26.120 is to spend all this time going through these mental 0:54:26.200 --> 0:54:28.840 challenges and creating the language, and then arriving at the 0:54:28.920 --> 0:54:33.120 last part of this process where you condense it down 0:54:33.200 --> 0:54:38.279 to single words that mean all of that, that mean 0:54:38.360 --> 0:54:40.879 everything that you've just written your code. Write your own 0:54:40.960 --> 0:54:42.920 code gotch you so that you know what it is, 0:54:42.960 --> 0:54:46.239 the Strength and Honor code meaning my purpose statement. My 0:54:46.400 --> 0:54:49.520 name is James Dean Hensel. I'm a son of God. 0:54:49.560 --> 0:54:53.239 I'm a challenger, exhorder and an encourager. I will run 0:54:53.280 --> 0:54:55.120 to the battle for in the battle I find peace. 0:54:55.640 --> 0:54:58.280 I'm the father of Taylor and Brittany, daughters of Promise. 0:54:59.000 --> 0:55:02.759 That means something. I'm the husband of Christen Hensel. FG. 0:55:03.520 --> 0:55:06.080 That really means something. There's this statement that I can 0:55:06.120 --> 0:55:10.319 say quickly that is extremely impactful in my life. And 0:55:10.320 --> 0:55:12.000 then I can go through the core values. If you 0:55:12.040 --> 0:55:14.239 get me started talking about the core values, we'll be 0:55:14.320 --> 0:55:17.680 here for two days. Those are that's language that I 0:55:17.800 --> 0:55:20.360 know about me and how to use it in my life. 0:55:20.480 --> 0:55:22.000 And then when you bring them to a few words 0:55:22.040 --> 0:55:23.920 and you bring him down, well, bring it down to 0:55:23.960 --> 0:55:27.239 fight fights in my fights in my core values. It's 0:55:27.280 --> 0:55:30.799 in his too. He just defines it different. Okay, he 0:55:30.880 --> 0:55:32.480 just defines it different, and what it means to him 0:55:32.520 --> 0:55:34.040 is a little bit different than what it means to me. 0:55:34.320 --> 0:55:35.680 So we bring it all the way back to a 0:55:35.719 --> 0:55:40.440 core value with authentic language that means something, not the dictionary, 0:55:40.520 --> 0:55:42.400 not what your dad said, or your pastors said, or 0:55:42.440 --> 0:55:45.200 any of those people, but what you believe. And then 0:55:45.640 --> 0:55:49.319 a mission statement I culture, I will I can do 0:55:49.360 --> 0:55:52.759 it in thirty seconds, just like Maximus did in my 0:55:52.800 --> 0:55:55.759 greatest moment of opportunity, darkest hour. I sure tell know 0:55:55.760 --> 0:55:58.239 who I am that no one can ever take away 0:55:58.239 --> 0:56:00.120 from me. So you want to put it into that 0:56:00.200 --> 0:56:03.040 format so that you can quickly. I mean, if I 0:56:03.120 --> 0:56:06.279 literally said to you right now, will define yourself, tell 0:56:06.280 --> 0:56:08.719 me purpose, tell me values, and then tell me how 0:56:08.760 --> 0:56:11.319 you you know, tell me in language what you're gonna 0:56:11.320 --> 0:56:13.000 do with it. Could you do it in thirty seconds 0:56:13.080 --> 0:56:15.560 or less? I know that's not fair because you haven't. 0:56:15.600 --> 0:56:17.200 But these are what your clients, These are what your 0:56:17.200 --> 0:56:19.160 people you work with. This is the this is what 0:56:19.440 --> 0:56:20.400 this is the goal to get to. 0:56:20.600 --> 0:56:21.160 That's the goal. 0:56:21.239 --> 0:56:23.440 Now. Once you have that goal, right now, how do 0:56:23.480 --> 0:56:25.920 you use it, and how do you how do you 0:56:26.080 --> 0:56:28.279 uh act, you know, how do you grow to work? Yeah? 0:56:28.360 --> 0:56:29.279 How do you put it to work? And how do 0:56:29.320 --> 0:56:32.239 you grow it? Values should be breathing and growing at 0:56:32.239 --> 0:56:34.880 all times. What what it meant? Family? My definition of 0:56:34.920 --> 0:56:37.959 family meant one thing prior to being married, it meant 0:56:38.000 --> 0:56:40.879 one thing after being divorced, it meant the next thing 0:56:40.920 --> 0:56:43.239 after being a father, and now I'm looking at grandkids 0:56:43.239 --> 0:56:46.120 here in the future probably, And it's been living, breathing, 0:56:46.160 --> 0:56:48.799 and growing in my life at least once a year. 0:56:48.880 --> 0:56:54.480 I'm coming back to redefining and updating and deciding what's 0:56:54.560 --> 0:56:56.160 valuable about the things I believe in. 0:56:56.440 --> 0:56:58.960 Now when you say you're redefining and updating, all right, 0:56:59.320 --> 0:57:01.719 I know you can talk about your core values and 0:57:01.760 --> 0:57:02.399 stuff like that. 0:57:02.600 --> 0:57:07.280 Are you also alluding to goals and big big stuff 0:57:07.280 --> 0:57:10.040 that's kind of for sure? That makes you uncomfortable, for sure. 0:57:10.120 --> 0:57:12.520 So in the value system, we have what we call 0:57:12.560 --> 0:57:16.320 strength values. These are big rocks, okay, big things that 0:57:16.360 --> 0:57:19.480 I know probably don't change very much other than updating. 0:57:19.920 --> 0:57:22.520 I've got this idea of weakness values. These are values 0:57:22.560 --> 0:57:26.240 that address my limitations, the stories in my life that 0:57:26.280 --> 0:57:29.360 are negative. So that's important for me. I was a 0:57:29.360 --> 0:57:32.600 worrier and the word hope is extremely meaningful to me 0:57:32.680 --> 0:57:34.880 in the way that I've defined it, So that's a 0:57:34.920 --> 0:57:36.919 big deal to me. I worked hard to go from 0:57:36.920 --> 0:57:40.440 being a warrier who was left, who didn't do what 0:57:40.480 --> 0:57:42.000 he thought he would do in life to being a 0:57:42.080 --> 0:57:44.880 very hopeful person. And it took fighting for it. Yes, 0:57:45.120 --> 0:57:47.680 the next kind of an ideal or value I call 0:57:47.760 --> 0:57:50.760 an ideal value, and those are more connected to goals, 0:57:50.760 --> 0:57:52.880 and those change for me every year. Right this year, 0:57:52.880 --> 0:57:54.840 I talked about freedom in a big way. I took 0:57:54.880 --> 0:57:57.760 this whole entire year to define what freedom means to me, 0:57:58.280 --> 0:58:01.400 something I've been reading about, studying about connecting to my life, 0:58:01.680 --> 0:58:03.280 so that when this year ends, I'm going to have 0:58:03.320 --> 0:58:05.640 a really good idea about what freedom means to me. 0:58:05.760 --> 0:58:07.960 Do you are you? It is October? Now? How are 0:58:08.000 --> 0:58:11.440 you feeling about freedom? Right now? It's huge. I mean, 0:58:11.640 --> 0:58:15.000 I've thought about it from what it means as a country, 0:58:16.520 --> 0:58:18.760 what I believe as well. The first thing is I 0:58:18.800 --> 0:58:21.560 think we have a freedom problem and that people don't 0:58:21.560 --> 0:58:24.840 know how to be free, okay, and that freedom destroys us. 0:58:25.320 --> 0:58:27.200 We're just we don't know how to operate and live 0:58:27.240 --> 0:58:29.760 inside of that. I see people who have been given 0:58:29.800 --> 0:58:33.040 this right to make choices and decisions, and a lot 0:58:33.040 --> 0:58:34.280 of people do really well with it, and a lot 0:58:34.280 --> 0:58:36.479 of people don't. So for me, how do I stay 0:58:36.480 --> 0:58:39.280 connected inside of freedom? How do I maximize freedom? I've 0:58:39.320 --> 0:58:40.960 thought about it at a government level and what I 0:58:40.960 --> 0:58:44.160 believe about that, and a lot of people go there immediately. 0:58:44.200 --> 0:58:47.120 I've thought about what it means in my finances so 0:58:47.160 --> 0:58:48.560 I can get ahead and be where I want to 0:58:48.560 --> 0:58:49.800 be and what I want to do. I've thought about 0:58:49.800 --> 0:58:52.400 it as it relates to my relationships, and then I 0:58:52.600 --> 0:58:57.200 walked it all the way down to in the morning 0:58:57.640 --> 0:59:00.920 when I get out of bed. Your process well, actually, 0:59:01.200 --> 0:59:05.280 actually even deeper. Am I being influenced immediately? Or am 0:59:05.280 --> 0:59:08.720 I an influencer if I put my feet on the floor. 0:59:08.720 --> 0:59:10.120 What I realized was as soon as I went to 0:59:10.160 --> 0:59:13.280 social media, soon as I went to email. That's not nefarious, 0:59:13.280 --> 0:59:15.080 it's not bad. But all of a sudden, I am 0:59:15.120 --> 0:59:19.760 now following that influence. Instead of having some space for 0:59:19.840 --> 0:59:22.280 me to be free, for my feet to hit the 0:59:22.320 --> 0:59:24.680 ground and be free, I'm going to go outside and 0:59:24.680 --> 0:59:27.040 I'm going to shoot my bow for thirty minutes and 0:59:27.120 --> 0:59:29.880 just be quiet and be okay in the quiet, so 0:59:29.920 --> 0:59:32.720 that when I connect to my day and the things 0:59:32.720 --> 0:59:35.280 that I think are valuable and purposeful, I'm doing it 0:59:35.320 --> 0:59:38.280 as an influencer. I'm taking it in the way that 0:59:38.400 --> 0:59:40.600 I want to take it. And I think here's a 0:59:40.680 --> 0:59:43.440 huge mistake inside of freedom that most of us, and 0:59:43.520 --> 0:59:46.200 many of us would say, if we're honest, Holy smokes, 0:59:46.840 --> 0:59:50.840 there's no space to really really be influencing and free. 0:59:50.920 --> 0:59:53.520 So that's how deep I've thought about it. I like that, 0:59:53.640 --> 0:59:56.480 what is something that you've written down? What is it 0:59:56.520 --> 1:00:01.880 called idea? Idea goal or idea? Yeah? Ideal values, ideal values? 1:00:02.040 --> 1:00:03.880 What what's like a goal you've written down? 1:00:04.360 --> 1:00:05.880 Wait, an ideal value? 1:00:06.280 --> 1:00:07.200 Yeah? I could go when he. 1:00:07.160 --> 1:00:10.080 Told wanness or I want value? 1:00:10.560 --> 1:00:11.240 I think for me? 1:00:13.120 --> 1:00:15.760 See see what the the beautiful thing about this is 1:00:16.520 --> 1:00:18.200 say a word that I'm about to say right now 1:00:18.840 --> 1:00:22.400 might seem different, but because of the shortcomings of my past, 1:00:22.560 --> 1:00:27.120 like because I want a want value for me, I 1:00:27.160 --> 1:00:30.840 think was because we're at the process right now where 1:00:30.840 --> 1:00:34.160 I think I have right now he's actuel and I'm 1:00:34.200 --> 1:00:36.640 and and yesterday we went through a couple of different definitions. 1:00:36.680 --> 1:00:38.000 I have three different definitions of the. 1:00:38.000 --> 1:00:42.400 Word reliability or stability, you know. For for me, the 1:00:42.440 --> 1:00:46.920 biggest the biggest deterrent in my life has been other 1:00:46.920 --> 1:00:51.560 people's expectations or not believing in myself enough or playing small, 1:00:51.600 --> 1:00:51.800 you know. 1:00:51.920 --> 1:00:52.680 So, so the. 1:00:52.680 --> 1:00:56.920 Ideas of my want value of being author authentic, the 1:00:57.000 --> 1:00:58.920 want value of being free. 1:00:59.320 --> 1:01:02.680 And just for me, just being being free. 1:01:02.440 --> 1:01:04.960 To know that that there was a There was an 1:01:05.000 --> 1:01:08.800 almighty God that created me in his image. And since 1:01:08.840 --> 1:01:12.400 I was born, I have not been living free. I 1:01:12.440 --> 1:01:16.040 have not been there's There has been numerous times in 1:01:16.080 --> 1:01:18.040 my life where I've seen glimpses of it and glimmers 1:01:18.040 --> 1:01:19.680 of it, and those are some of the greatest moments 1:01:19.720 --> 1:01:22.280 of my life. A couple of fights ago against Gothyamuchi, 1:01:22.840 --> 1:01:25.520 which you guys didn't see the fight, but in that 1:01:25.720 --> 1:01:28.320 moment I felt the most free I had ever been 1:01:28.360 --> 1:01:32.280 inside of that cage, within my purpose, within my do 1:01:33.000 --> 1:01:36.280 and being close to one hundred percent of who God 1:01:36.320 --> 1:01:38.760 designed me to be. But it only comes out in glimpses, 1:01:38.880 --> 1:01:43.720 you know, so, being able to be defined and be 1:01:43.880 --> 1:01:46.720 able to give that important trade outs of the world. 1:01:47.000 --> 1:01:48.720 But what is what is a one like what does 1:01:48.760 --> 1:01:51.480 that look like in a in a result form? 1:01:51.560 --> 1:01:53.200 And don't you guys might not even talk about a 1:01:53.200 --> 1:01:53.760 result form. 1:01:53.840 --> 1:01:56.840 No, really, well for sure, but we don't. We don't 1:01:57.040 --> 1:01:58.120 have a lot of goals. 1:01:58.120 --> 1:01:59.680 Hey by the end, you know in twenty twenty, I'm 1:01:59.680 --> 1:02:02.920 gonna do this and no, I honestly, it's all about me. 1:02:03.000 --> 1:02:04.600 Who is Michael Chandler going to be? 1:02:05.080 --> 1:02:09.200 Who is It's all about well, it's I. 1:02:09.920 --> 1:02:10.560 It's identity. 1:02:10.600 --> 1:02:12.560 And one of the greatest things that you said too, 1:02:12.640 --> 1:02:15.680 is is you know, because we talked about because one 1:02:15.680 --> 1:02:17.120 of my biggest fears and one of the things that 1:02:17.160 --> 1:02:19.600 has helped me back is sometimes and not that which 1:02:19.840 --> 1:02:22.200 this is the cool thing about our process. We don't 1:02:22.200 --> 1:02:25.320 do quotes, and we don't do scripture, right, cute. 1:02:24.800 --> 1:02:26.360 Faith guy, Christian. 1:02:27.720 --> 1:02:31.560 But I was not going to do this process based 1:02:31.600 --> 1:02:34.520 upon this scripture or that scripture or this quote loves 1:02:34.560 --> 1:02:35.360 zig Ziglar. 1:02:35.080 --> 1:02:36.040 I love Tony Rabbins love. 1:02:36.440 --> 1:02:39.400 But I'm I'm not going to use these different quotes 1:02:39.480 --> 1:02:41.440 right because I'm that's where I always default to. 1:02:41.560 --> 1:02:42.760 So we had to we had to. 1:02:42.680 --> 1:02:45.200 Put the kabash on that just for this process, just 1:02:46.040 --> 1:02:47.560 for the game. Then when we get done, then we 1:02:47.600 --> 1:02:50.960 can continue to move into that. But for me, playing small, 1:02:51.040 --> 1:02:54.360 you know you, playing small doesn't do anybody a favor. 1:02:54.440 --> 1:02:56.600 There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people don't 1:02:56.600 --> 1:02:59.480 feel insecure around you. And my whole entire life I 1:02:59.560 --> 1:03:03.120 was I have been afraid to be the best at 1:03:03.160 --> 1:03:06.640 something for the fear of how it may affect you negatively, 1:03:06.800 --> 1:03:08.720 or how it may affect you negatively, or how you 1:03:08.800 --> 1:03:11.160 might not feel great about yourself because of how dominant 1:03:11.200 --> 1:03:13.760 I just was. Sounds a little bit crazy because I've 1:03:13.760 --> 1:03:15.720 been in hand hand combat since I was fourteen years old, 1:03:15.760 --> 1:03:18.000 and my goal is to go out there and break 1:03:18.040 --> 1:03:20.400 somebody and hurt somebody now in a cage in front 1:03:20.400 --> 1:03:24.720 of millions of people. So for me, that was always 1:03:25.120 --> 1:03:28.920 that has always been one of my things is not 1:03:29.120 --> 1:03:31.880 coming off to cocky. And one of the most profound 1:03:31.880 --> 1:03:33.320 things that you said to me in this he said, well, 1:03:33.640 --> 1:03:37.520 the antidote to cockiness is being defined. There's nothing wrong 1:03:37.600 --> 1:03:40.160 with being defined. Even though when you sit there and 1:03:40.200 --> 1:03:42.840 you say I am James Dean Hensel, I am this, this, this, 1:03:43.640 --> 1:03:45.320 and if there was one hundred people sitting here, they'll 1:03:45.320 --> 1:03:47.160 be like, man, that's a little bit weird this guy 1:03:47.560 --> 1:03:53.520 because because confidence breeds insecurity, like right, we are sometimes 1:03:53.720 --> 1:03:56.760 afraid to be around somebody who is that confident, you know, And. 1:03:56.720 --> 1:03:59.880 I think that's a problem with society these days. We 1:04:00.000 --> 1:04:01.280 look at these people who are who are. 1:04:01.120 --> 1:04:05.720 So defined and they're so confident in themselves that we shrink. 1:04:05.840 --> 1:04:10.680 And I believe the human spirit was created for so 1:04:10.800 --> 1:04:12.720 much more, that we were all designed to be put 1:04:12.760 --> 1:04:16.600 on this earth to be over overwhelmingly being able to 1:04:16.680 --> 1:04:20.440 achieve abundantly and overwhelmingly. 1:04:19.880 --> 1:04:21.440 More than we ever could have thought or imagine. 1:04:21.480 --> 1:04:23.160 And that's always been kind of one of one of 1:04:23.200 --> 1:04:27.440 my things is being afraid to be too successful around 1:04:27.480 --> 1:04:30.600 people for fear of what it may make them feel 1:04:30.600 --> 1:04:32.160 like because of the way you were raised. 1:04:32.200 --> 1:04:35.560 Because honestly, of some of those things, goals come next. 1:04:35.760 --> 1:04:40.160 Goals are important. What we're working out here is identity, correct. 1:04:40.240 --> 1:04:43.240 Correct, I'm saying we have identity taken care of. When 1:04:43.280 --> 1:04:44.960 do goals come in next? 1:04:45.240 --> 1:04:47.520 So now we want to take whatever it is that 1:04:47.600 --> 1:04:50.520 you say you want to do. Yes, whatever it is 1:04:50.560 --> 1:04:55.760 that you're the task, task, job, emotion, whatever that is 1:04:56.080 --> 1:04:58.160 that you want to make happen in your life. What 1:04:58.200 --> 1:05:00.880 I care about is that you formulate did this platform 1:05:00.880 --> 1:05:03.520 of strength so that we can connect to that in 1:05:03.560 --> 1:05:04.520 an authentic way. 1:05:04.840 --> 1:05:08.360 Right, And now I want I'm asking the question, what 1:05:08.600 --> 1:05:12.200 are these goals that have happened for what are these 1:05:12.240 --> 1:05:15.640 goals in twenty nineteen, like for me, for any example 1:05:15.680 --> 1:05:19.160 from me a goal with busting with the boys, not 1:05:19.200 --> 1:05:21.040 even busting with the boys. But somebody looked at in 1:05:21.120 --> 1:05:23.680 my journal was that I was going to be one 1:05:23.720 --> 1:05:26.280 of the first players slash coaches because at this point 1:05:26.320 --> 1:05:28.800 in time, I knew my transition point was when I'm 1:05:28.840 --> 1:05:31.800 done with football get into coaching. But when I was 1:05:31.840 --> 1:05:34.320 looking back in my journal, it was be one of 1:05:34.360 --> 1:05:37.120 the first player slash coach to have a podcast with 1:05:37.680 --> 1:05:42.040 a million all time downloads. Right, So now I start 1:05:42.080 --> 1:05:44.840 with the end in mind and kind of backtrack on 1:05:44.880 --> 1:05:48.000 what that looks like in a formulated process for who 1:05:48.040 --> 1:05:51.360 I'm surrounding myself with what we believe, like what I believe, 1:05:51.440 --> 1:05:53.840 how we're gonna get there taking those steps, but starting 1:05:53.840 --> 1:05:56.040 with the end in mind, what are some of those 1:05:56.600 --> 1:05:59.640 result ends in mind? Now that you've built a strong foundation, 1:06:00.000 --> 1:06:02.000 because I love I love how you're putting that, because 1:06:02.000 --> 1:06:05.480 you're giving me a whole perspective on being intentional with 1:06:05.520 --> 1:06:09.240 who you're defining yourself as us. Now we've we're learning 1:06:09.280 --> 1:06:11.360 to define ourselves based on this conversation. 1:06:11.840 --> 1:06:13.120 Now, what can people do to. 1:06:13.160 --> 1:06:15.920 Have these goals that you're going to look at be 1:06:16.040 --> 1:06:18.680 kind of scared to go after, but how you stay 1:06:18.720 --> 1:06:20.320 intention on that process to get there? 1:06:20.400 --> 1:06:22.520 Let's talk about two ways. First, let's talk I want 1:06:22.640 --> 1:06:25.120 because I want to speak specifically about you, and I 1:06:25.120 --> 1:06:29.520 want to talk about Michael real quick. All the things 1:06:29.560 --> 1:06:33.680 that he's doing as a fighter, training, eating right people, 1:06:33.720 --> 1:06:37.919 he surrounds himself, all that super important. Let's let's narrow 1:06:37.960 --> 1:06:40.720 it all the way to the moment and we've all 1:06:40.720 --> 1:06:43.520 seen it on pay per view when he's walking from 1:06:43.560 --> 1:06:47.200 the tunnel, the music's playing and he's stepping in the cage, 1:06:47.440 --> 1:06:49.760 and in the culture that we live in, there's no 1:06:49.800 --> 1:06:53.919 bigger moment. Correct one percent, it's man versus man. Heart 1:06:53.920 --> 1:06:57.000 starts beating a little more, somebody's somebody's going down in 1:06:57.040 --> 1:06:59.479 that moment. So those two men or women for that matter, 1:06:59.520 --> 1:07:02.040 have put this in a position where, foreshore in front 1:07:02.080 --> 1:07:05.480 of the world, someone's going to be embarrassed, or someone's 1:07:05.520 --> 1:07:08.640 at least going to be seen as the loser, and 1:07:09.200 --> 1:07:11.120 lots of people in our culture want to avoid that. 1:07:11.440 --> 1:07:16.000 He doesn't want to avoid that. In his design. There's 1:07:16.040 --> 1:07:19.360 this idea of tenacious is the word he used, or 1:07:19.440 --> 1:07:21.400 competitor that kind of pours out of him. And so 1:07:21.480 --> 1:07:24.400 he was really kind of born to be in that space. 1:07:24.520 --> 1:07:28.120 And that's not everybody, man, it's just yea factor. He's 1:07:28.120 --> 1:07:29.840 in a what is it? I don't know what's the 1:07:29.880 --> 1:07:31.920 percentage half a percent of the people on the planet 1:07:31.960 --> 1:07:33.800 that will go into a cage and do that. Probably 1:07:34.120 --> 1:07:36.640 it's not me, not a lot. He has smaller than that. 1:07:36.880 --> 1:07:39.720 It's so we have eleven guys on a team, right, 1:07:39.800 --> 1:07:41.920 and it's like there's a one percent I don't know, 1:07:41.960 --> 1:07:43.560 a weird number, but it's even smaller with. 1:07:43.560 --> 1:07:46.960 The UFC dudes. I sorry not UFC MMA, right, disrespect. 1:07:47.280 --> 1:07:50.840 So so he's he's been He has that innate ability 1:07:50.880 --> 1:07:54.040 insigned him and inside him mentally, and it's actually a 1:07:54.080 --> 1:07:56.400 talent he's been given it. It's it's something that he 1:07:56.440 --> 1:07:59.200 didn't really work. He's worked to cultivate it and craft 1:07:59.240 --> 1:08:02.080 it and get better at it, creating some mindset tools. 1:08:02.080 --> 1:08:04.840 But it's actually in him who want to discover that 1:08:04.880 --> 1:08:06.880 we call that purpose. You know, I want to know 1:08:06.920 --> 1:08:09.640 what that is. Purpose in your life, you've experienced it. 1:08:09.920 --> 1:08:13.000 You're a limited group of people who can be on 1:08:13.400 --> 1:08:16.479 the field in the NFL and make that happen. And 1:08:16.840 --> 1:08:19.519 you don't really have to try. I'm not saying you 1:08:19.560 --> 1:08:20.880 haven't worked hard at the X and Z and o's 1:08:20.880 --> 1:08:22.599 and you haven't worked at mindset skills, but it kind 1:08:22.640 --> 1:08:25.360 of pours out of you. You're either a competitor and 1:08:25.479 --> 1:08:27.559 you can get off the block and you can make 1:08:27.560 --> 1:08:30.120 the tackle, or you can't and they'll find somebody who 1:08:30.120 --> 1:08:34.320 can if you can't. So this is the understanding. What 1:08:34.800 --> 1:08:37.160 I care about is that when he goes to train 1:08:37.240 --> 1:08:40.920 every day, he remembers his identity, whatever his goals is 1:08:40.960 --> 1:08:43.360 for the day, if he's wrestling, if he's doing jiu 1:08:43.400 --> 1:08:45.880 jitsu that day, whatever he's got going on that day, 1:08:46.080 --> 1:08:49.640 that he brings the authentic version of who he is 1:08:49.680 --> 1:08:52.920 and his belief system into that space so that he's 1:08:52.960 --> 1:08:55.479 operating from that position of strength. And what I really 1:08:55.520 --> 1:08:59.599 care about is whatever's going through his mind, Because there's 1:08:59.640 --> 1:09:01.640 something going through his mind when he goes from the 1:09:01.680 --> 1:09:06.280 tunnel to the cage that that's way connected to his 1:09:06.400 --> 1:09:10.280 identity because I don't know whether he's gonna win or lose, right, yeah, 1:09:10.320 --> 1:09:12.840 for sure, that's not written for sure. But what we 1:09:12.920 --> 1:09:15.080 want to be in opportunity and adversity is. 1:09:15.040 --> 1:09:18.360 Authentic, and you make sure you're somebody who makes sure 1:09:18.400 --> 1:09:21.360 he stays that authentic self in those moments from the 1:09:21.400 --> 1:09:24.320 walk from the tunnel to the cage and when he's 1:09:24.360 --> 1:09:25.440 in the cage. 1:09:25.160 --> 1:09:26.840 That's what you are there for. 1:09:27.080 --> 1:09:33.000 Most Now, I'm asking you what are your what's your 1:09:33.120 --> 1:09:36.880 individual goal as a fighter to allow him to say, hey, 1:09:36.960 --> 1:09:39.200 these are things I'm also one thing as we're working 1:09:39.280 --> 1:09:42.679 on being intentional in these moments. Right, He's not there 1:09:42.680 --> 1:09:45.200 to be a raw ray remember three time world, three 1:09:45.240 --> 1:09:48.679 time defending champ, right or all these chasing world titles. 1:09:48.680 --> 1:09:50.720 He's not raw raw And hey, remember these are the goals. 1:09:50.720 --> 1:09:52.680 These are the goals. He's talking about being intentional in 1:09:52.720 --> 1:09:56.280 these moments. But what are some Michael Chandler goals that 1:09:56.320 --> 1:09:58.800 you're laying in bed at night and thinking, this is 1:09:58.800 --> 1:10:00.920 what I want to accomplish either this week, this month 1:10:01.280 --> 1:10:02.360 or in fighting. 1:10:02.960 --> 1:10:08.479 I mean, I actually, I mean, don't don't mistake this process. 1:10:08.560 --> 1:10:12.040 This process is not about the goals, right, no, yes, 1:10:12.080 --> 1:10:15.040 okay for me, for me, okay, yeah for me. 1:10:15.240 --> 1:10:19.880 Honestly, mine has all been I've never lost to a 1:10:19.920 --> 1:10:20.880 man inside of the cage. 1:10:20.880 --> 1:10:25.160 I've only lost to myself. I've never I've never I've 1:10:25.200 --> 1:10:27.960 never lost a world title. That wasn't my doing. 1:10:28.200 --> 1:10:33.000 You know, if you always thought that way though your 1:10:33.080 --> 1:10:36.519 first fights, your first loss, you truly felt, I didn't 1:10:36.560 --> 1:10:38.599 lose this fight like there was back then. 1:10:38.640 --> 1:10:39.920 You're saying there wasn't an eagle party. 1:10:39.960 --> 1:10:44.280 That's no back, no back then, because back then, when 1:10:44.280 --> 1:10:45.840 I when I lost my first fight, I went, I 1:10:45.880 --> 1:10:47.960 went into a bad spot. I went, I lost three 1:10:48.000 --> 1:10:50.000 fights in a row, when six and eighty eight days 1:10:50.040 --> 1:10:52.600 without winning, I lost to Eddie Albarez, remember, you know, 1:10:52.680 --> 1:10:55.800 And then that's when I went from I went from 1:10:55.960 --> 1:10:58.240 the number three guy in the entire world. Michael Chandler 1:10:58.280 --> 1:11:00.240 is unstoppable. He needs to go fight Benson. He orson 1:11:00.240 --> 1:11:00.679 in the UFC. 1:11:00.800 --> 1:11:02.960 We think he's the best lightweight in the entire world. 1:11:03.280 --> 1:11:06.439 To lose an Eddie Alvarez and then buying into all 1:11:06.479 --> 1:11:09.280 the media, buying into we knew he wasn't as good 1:11:09.280 --> 1:11:12.800 as he thought he was, or in my mind, the 1:11:12.840 --> 1:11:15.759 little guy inside me who was kind of been whispering 1:11:15.760 --> 1:11:16.240 the whole time. 1:11:16.280 --> 1:11:17.040 Hey, you're not as. 1:11:16.880 --> 1:11:17.840 Good, You're not this good. 1:11:17.920 --> 1:11:20.600 Yeah, it's only a matter of time. See what these 1:11:20.640 --> 1:11:22.559 people are saying, Like that's truly you. 1:11:22.560 --> 1:11:24.040 You're just a little guy from a little town. 1:11:24.080 --> 1:11:26.160 He should be working at Dobb's Tires right now, Like 1:11:26.200 --> 1:11:27.240 that's where you should be. 1:11:27.640 --> 1:11:30.439 With with with stuff on your shirt. 1:11:30.520 --> 1:11:32.800 Am I? Enough's enough? 1:11:32.960 --> 1:11:34.600 And that's so. 1:11:35.520 --> 1:11:37.280 Back then, it was man, I lost to this guy. 1:11:37.320 --> 1:11:38.760 I need to go get this back. How am I 1:11:38.800 --> 1:11:40.040 going to beat this guy? How am I going to 1:11:40.080 --> 1:11:42.960 gain planning and to be able to cut the cut 1:11:42.960 --> 1:11:44.200 off the cage? How am I going to be able 1:11:44.200 --> 1:11:45.600 to have my hands up more? And I'm gonna be 1:11:45.600 --> 1:11:46.080 able to do this? 1:11:46.080 --> 1:11:46.320 This? 1:11:46.320 --> 1:11:47.880 This this when really. 1:11:47.880 --> 1:11:50.880 The real battle was inside inside my soul, inside my mind, 1:11:50.880 --> 1:11:51.800 inside me. 1:11:51.960 --> 1:11:54.160 It was it was me. It was my shortcomings and 1:11:54.200 --> 1:11:58.799 my self defeating prophecy of eventually you're going to lose because. 1:11:58.640 --> 1:12:00.760 You're not that good, you know, and that Yeah, So 1:12:00.800 --> 1:12:03.120 for me, it's always outperforming my previous self. 1:12:03.920 --> 1:12:05.520 Obviously I have not fought. 1:12:05.280 --> 1:12:09.080 Since Jim and I have worked together, but I would 1:12:09.680 --> 1:12:11.479 the way that I would see it is just for 1:12:11.560 --> 1:12:13.320 me to wake up every single morning. When you talk 1:12:13.320 --> 1:12:15.400 about freedom, when you're talking about having a clear definition, 1:12:15.760 --> 1:12:17.639 when I talk about just being able to walk around 1:12:17.720 --> 1:12:20.320 more confident knowing that I know exactly who I be, 1:12:20.920 --> 1:12:23.800 so in every single interaction, I can do whatever I 1:12:23.840 --> 1:12:25.000 feel at liberty to do. 1:12:25.680 --> 1:12:27.760 We could walk it back to yesterday and we're right 1:12:27.760 --> 1:12:30.720 in this spot in the process for him. And we 1:12:30.760 --> 1:12:33.920 talked about three words yesterday at Starbucks in cook Built, Tennessee. 1:12:34.880 --> 1:12:38.519 And these aren't value words. Another part of the process 1:12:38.640 --> 1:12:42.320 is purpose words. Okay, and and and two things that 1:12:42.400 --> 1:12:45.880 were identifying in Michael's life is and they are the 1:12:46.000 --> 1:12:48.519 opposite sides of this spectrum and who he is. It's 1:12:48.560 --> 1:12:51.280 not just a personality trait. It's it's more of what 1:12:51.400 --> 1:12:53.200 pours out of him no matter where he is or 1:12:53.200 --> 1:12:56.400 what he's doing. One side of it was joy and 1:12:56.479 --> 1:13:00.040 the and the have fun, enjoy, get crazy love. I 1:13:00.240 --> 1:13:03.040 loved that side of life, which if you're not that guy, 1:13:04.200 --> 1:13:07.400 it's robbing authenticity from you. And the other side was 1:13:07.439 --> 1:13:10.960 this tenacious competitive piece of who you are. And what 1:13:11.080 --> 1:13:13.080 was the word in the middle we talked about, which 1:13:13.080 --> 1:13:17.960 is discipline. It's more goal oriented how do you go 1:13:18.040 --> 1:13:22.040 from having a great time and that's your wife loves 1:13:22.040 --> 1:13:24.120 that part about you, your friends love that part about you. 1:13:24.160 --> 1:13:26.160 And if you're not doing that, you're not really authentic. 1:13:26.200 --> 1:13:28.400 And that's and that's what sets me apart from other 1:13:28.520 --> 1:13:30.519 riders as well. And that's and that's what we've you know, 1:13:30.560 --> 1:13:32.439 because I talked about over the last two years, how 1:13:32.560 --> 1:13:34.240 this I've had the last two years have been the 1:13:34.280 --> 1:13:36.200 hardest two years of my life, and it has stolen 1:13:36.280 --> 1:13:40.160 my joy. And I've also been the most undisciplined in 1:13:40.200 --> 1:13:42.680 my entire life because I've had so much to do 1:13:42.720 --> 1:13:45.400 that it was impossible to get it all done. Therefore, 1:13:45.479 --> 1:13:47.160 a I'm a failure every single day because I have 1:13:47.280 --> 1:13:49.040 eighty six things to check off a listen, It's going 1:13:49.080 --> 1:13:52.800 to be impossible. So therefore I stopped being disciplined in 1:13:52.840 --> 1:13:53.839 all the small things. 1:13:54.240 --> 1:13:56.400 I stopped being I was disciplined in the big things. 1:13:56.400 --> 1:13:58.880 I kept my diet good, I kept my training good. 1:13:59.320 --> 1:14:01.280 But it was the small things that continue to add 1:14:01.320 --> 1:14:02.519 up and add up and add up, and it may 1:14:02.560 --> 1:14:06.320 be a less effective human being. And it's the joy aspect. 1:14:07.520 --> 1:14:11.320 I think my ability, my ability to be a leader 1:14:12.240 --> 1:14:15.439 and make a dent in the culture of men lies 1:14:15.680 --> 1:14:19.960 in my ability to mesh joy with my tenacity when 1:14:20.200 --> 1:14:22.519 when I can beat the crap out of somebody inside 1:14:22.560 --> 1:14:24.960 of a cage and then the next day somebody meets 1:14:24.960 --> 1:14:27.799 me and like and they think, Wow, I didn't expect 1:14:27.840 --> 1:14:32.200 you to be this nice, this loving, this humble, this 1:14:32.200 --> 1:14:35.559 this happy because you just got done beating somebody helping 1:14:35.640 --> 1:14:36.120 in a cage. 1:14:36.160 --> 1:14:37.639 And I can't test to that too. 1:14:37.640 --> 1:14:39.559 First time I met Michael Chandler, I'm thinking, like the 1:14:39.600 --> 1:14:42.439 same thing, Like this dude is super nice for being 1:14:42.520 --> 1:14:44.280 like a savage in the after Well. 1:14:44.120 --> 1:14:45.960 He has the same thing too, Yeah, I did, And 1:14:46.000 --> 1:14:49.800 it means everything because if if you're not authentic in 1:14:49.840 --> 1:14:52.519 the cage or at home with your wife and your son, 1:14:53.479 --> 1:14:56.200 son doesn't really care about tenacity. No, that's not the 1:14:56.240 --> 1:14:59.439 peace right now at his age that connects you or 1:14:59.439 --> 1:15:02.640 the authentic piece of you that's really needed there. The 1:15:02.760 --> 1:15:04.439 joy piece is the piece that you've got to make 1:15:04.439 --> 1:15:07.639 sure so that you're operating inside of and that's really 1:15:07.680 --> 1:15:10.719 truly who you are. How we connect it to goals, 1:15:11.040 --> 1:15:13.200 is this idea of discipline in his life? All right? 1:15:13.280 --> 1:15:17.400 So as a fighter, as a businessman, as a husband, 1:15:17.439 --> 1:15:21.440 as a football player, what's the what's the force multiplier 1:15:21.600 --> 1:15:24.360 idea in your life that connects you to goals in 1:15:24.400 --> 1:15:26.800 an authentic way. We're going to bring the joy and 1:15:26.840 --> 1:15:29.240 we're going to bring the tenacity or this he's a 1:15:29.280 --> 1:15:30.000 competitor man. 1:15:30.080 --> 1:15:33.559 Into these areas and goals in each part of your life. 1:15:33.360 --> 1:15:35.639 So that it's authentic and so that it's really connected 1:15:35.640 --> 1:15:36.000 to your. 1:15:35.880 --> 1:15:38.880 Truth and so that the and so that the goals, 1:15:38.920 --> 1:15:40.920 whether they are written down, which they should be written down, 1:15:41.360 --> 1:15:43.720 whether they are written down, or whether they are just 1:15:44.560 --> 1:15:49.200 a byproduct of you knowing exactly who you are, You're 1:15:49.280 --> 1:15:53.479 going to be closer to the idea of that goal, 1:15:53.800 --> 1:15:56.559 that benchmark, that accomplishment. 1:15:57.479 --> 1:16:00.240 Because you know exactly who you are and all this. 1:16:00.400 --> 1:16:03.320 Okay, you get it. Yeah, No, I'm totally goodding, I'm 1:16:03.360 --> 1:16:04.200 I'm I'm truly. 1:16:04.240 --> 1:16:07.000 I'm trying to simplify as much as possible for people listening, 1:16:07.000 --> 1:16:08.000 because I know people are going to be. 1:16:08.000 --> 1:16:10.120 Fired up about this stuff. How much time are we at? 1:16:10.880 --> 1:16:13.760 An hour? Ten? Oh? Fuck, we've been rolling, boys, we've 1:16:13.800 --> 1:16:16.000 been rolling. So Jim, we're working. 1:16:16.160 --> 1:16:20.040 You're we got we are we have defined who we 1:16:20.080 --> 1:16:24.400 are as people in our values, in our authenticity and 1:16:24.560 --> 1:16:26.479 just we're confident in who we are. 1:16:27.000 --> 1:16:28.479 And I have this written down on paper. 1:16:29.120 --> 1:16:33.040 What are the areas that you have written goals? So, 1:16:33.280 --> 1:16:36.679 for example, I I've I work with Ben Newman. He's 1:16:36.680 --> 1:16:38.519 been a performance coach of mind that I've worked on, 1:16:38.560 --> 1:16:40.160 you know Ben, And. 1:16:40.200 --> 1:16:42.760 It's like personal, professional. 1:16:43.800 --> 1:16:46.400 I'm just not thinking right now, like it's there's like 1:16:46.439 --> 1:16:49.080 three different areas, right, and you're writing. 1:16:48.760 --> 1:16:51.599 Goals of what it looks like. So my rookie year 1:16:51.640 --> 1:16:52.439 I always allude to that. 1:16:52.479 --> 1:16:56.479 For instance, it was a professional it was make an 1:16:56.520 --> 1:16:59.360 impact on the on the Redskins roster be a starting 1:16:59.400 --> 1:17:03.000 linebacker for the Washington Redskins as a rookie. Failed at 1:17:03.000 --> 1:17:05.639 that goal, right, and you're gonna fail, You're gonna constantly fail. 1:17:06.040 --> 1:17:08.040 And personal it was reading. 1:17:07.880 --> 1:17:11.679 Reading my one year Bible every day. And I don't 1:17:11.720 --> 1:17:13.760 know if it's it's like service and service. It was 1:17:14.640 --> 1:17:18.559 have five speaking engagements to schools, giving back and I 1:17:18.600 --> 1:17:21.280 truly feared speaking in front of people, but it was 1:17:21.320 --> 1:17:24.000 giving back through having a football camp. We'll come to the 1:17:24.000 --> 1:17:27.799 football camp, shout out to the boys, and having five 1:17:28.080 --> 1:17:30.960 speaking engagements, right, based on these. 1:17:30.880 --> 1:17:32.599 Values that we've defined on who we are. 1:17:32.680 --> 1:17:35.160 Now we take them to these goals are what are 1:17:35.160 --> 1:17:38.439 these areas that you have me and Mike right down 1:17:38.479 --> 1:17:40.439 to where hey, we're gonna have goals in these areas. 1:17:40.479 --> 1:17:42.200 And then when you get to these benchmarks, whether you 1:17:42.680 --> 1:17:45.360 whether you fail or get them, do you go to 1:17:45.479 --> 1:17:47.160 another goal in a benchmark? 1:17:47.280 --> 1:17:47.840 Right sure? 1:17:48.040 --> 1:17:50.960 Or is it constantly living in who you are in 1:17:51.000 --> 1:17:53.639 these moments. And it's more up to him to define 1:17:53.640 --> 1:17:54.760 what goals he wants in his. 1:17:54.680 --> 1:17:56.840 Life or in our life. So that's a great question. 1:17:56.880 --> 1:17:58.960 And what I think is when you authentically know who 1:17:59.000 --> 1:18:03.240 you are the do the task, the goal, the job, 1:18:04.080 --> 1:18:06.839 you do a better job of picking the right one, gotcha? 1:18:07.240 --> 1:18:09.600 And that right one. We want to make sure that 1:18:09.640 --> 1:18:13.559 whatever Michael's doing, whatever that goal is, that job is, 1:18:13.600 --> 1:18:17.559 that task is actually connected to in purpose, which is 1:18:17.640 --> 1:18:20.400 joy and tenacity, and then this list of core values. 1:18:20.840 --> 1:18:23.439 For me, it's whatever I'm going to do, whatever my 1:18:23.560 --> 1:18:25.920 job is, whatever my task is, it's got to be 1:18:25.960 --> 1:18:29.519 connected to challenge, exhort, encourage, because that's what pours out 1:18:29.560 --> 1:18:35.559 of me. It doesn't matter what I do. I'm coaching somebody, fight, work, hope, faith, team, family, excellence, purpose, responsibility, love, 1:18:35.600 --> 1:18:38.599 and freedom. That's my filter. Here's how I feel about it, 1:18:38.880 --> 1:18:40.920 this is what I believe about it. Now, here's what 1:18:40.920 --> 1:18:43.880 I'm going to do, so that every time I aim 1:18:43.920 --> 1:18:47.200 at that nest task or next goal, whether it's at 1:18:47.280 --> 1:18:49.200 fifty to fifty one years old, what I'm trying to 1:18:49.200 --> 1:18:51.760 do physically, and I have those goals, and then what 1:18:51.800 --> 1:18:53.240 am I trying to do in business? And I have 1:18:53.320 --> 1:18:55.840 those goals and the kind of parent that I want 1:18:55.880 --> 1:18:57.400 to be and the husband want to be. I have 1:18:57.479 --> 1:19:00.960 those goals that all of that stays on track. It 1:19:01.040 --> 1:19:04.880 becomes the guard rails that keeps me from either letting 1:19:04.920 --> 1:19:07.920 momentum in life get me in the space that's not 1:19:07.920 --> 1:19:11.800 connected to my purpose or my values or emotion that 1:19:11.880 --> 1:19:15.519 gets me off track. Gotcha, it's a It's an entire filter. 1:19:16.120 --> 1:19:18.479 So that whatever he's doing in jiu jitsu that day, 1:19:18.560 --> 1:19:20.599 whatever he's doing in wrestling that day, or whatever he's 1:19:20.640 --> 1:19:23.439 doing in striking that day, whatever he wants to do 1:19:23.560 --> 1:19:26.679 I don't know contractually moving forward in your career, those 1:19:26.680 --> 1:19:28.760 are all the goals things that he's looking at. We 1:19:28.920 --> 1:19:32.600 just know for sure that's authentic and it's it's just 1:19:32.720 --> 1:19:36.240 like your base right when when you're when you're you're 1:19:36.280 --> 1:19:40.000 lined up before the snap, where's that first foot going. 1:19:40.400 --> 1:19:42.439 It's got to go the right way. It has to happen, 1:19:42.479 --> 1:19:44.880 or you're behind, you're slow getting to where you're supposed 1:19:44.880 --> 1:19:47.760 to be. It's that kind of perspective. I just want 1:19:47.800 --> 1:19:49.479 you to know what identity is so that when you 1:19:49.520 --> 1:19:52.000 make that move, you're headed in the right direction and 1:19:52.000 --> 1:19:54.360 you're headed there. I want you to be one hundred 1:19:54.400 --> 1:19:56.639 percent of the person you were created to be when 1:19:56.640 --> 1:19:58.920 you arrive at the goal or whatever that is inside 1:19:58.960 --> 1:19:59.160 you want. 1:19:59.200 --> 1:20:00.880 And I think that's my only goal right now. 1:20:01.080 --> 1:20:03.679 I have I have not thought about goals or looked 1:20:03.680 --> 1:20:05.920 at goals, or written down goals or written. 1:20:05.640 --> 1:20:08.080 Down anything anything tangible. 1:20:08.160 --> 1:20:10.160 There's there's nothing I've written down that says I want 1:20:10.200 --> 1:20:12.800 to get this, accomplish that have this number, have that 1:20:13.520 --> 1:20:15.040 If I can just be one hundred percent of who 1:20:15.080 --> 1:20:18.599 I was created to be and designed to be, then 1:20:18.680 --> 1:20:20.400 those goals are going to take care of themselves and 1:20:20.680 --> 1:20:22.599 and when we get through this process, which we're. 1:20:22.479 --> 1:20:24.040 Pretty soon we get being done. 1:20:24.400 --> 1:20:27.040 But I would imagine as well, like you said, they're living, 1:20:27.040 --> 1:20:28.479 they're breathing, We're going to continue to tweak. 1:20:28.479 --> 1:20:29.360 We're going to continue to move. 1:20:29.640 --> 1:20:31.920 Next fight I win, they might be different than if 1:20:31.960 --> 1:20:34.800 next fight I lose. Contract is up in a couple 1:20:34.840 --> 1:20:35.520 of fights. 1:20:35.240 --> 1:20:36.840 Where we going what are we doing? And then we 1:20:36.840 --> 1:20:38.120 can figure out what's next after that? 1:20:38.160 --> 1:20:39.000 And are you are you? 1:20:39.200 --> 1:20:42.720 Are you reciting and reviewing and seeing these things on 1:20:42.760 --> 1:20:44.360 a daily basis to keep you. 1:20:44.240 --> 1:20:45.920 Into I'm pretty I'm pretty excited. 1:20:45.960 --> 1:20:47.920 I mean, we have we have a one hundred and 1:20:47.920 --> 1:20:51.200 two hundred page book that we've written and we've looked 1:20:51.240 --> 1:20:54.120 at and and there's an online course that there's there's 1:20:54.120 --> 1:20:55.960 a well, there's a video of you and rich and 1:20:56.320 --> 1:20:57.639 Ellie work. 1:20:57.880 --> 1:20:59.479 Is it out there? Can you find it right now? Yeah? 1:20:59.640 --> 1:21:02.160 Mayh ma ma mindset dot com. 1:21:02.640 --> 1:21:04.800 And then and then there's a listening portion where in 1:21:04.840 --> 1:21:08.040 every single challenge, every single week, there's a video and 1:21:08.040 --> 1:21:10.080 then there's audio, and then there's a lot of writing. 1:21:10.080 --> 1:21:11.879 There's still in the workbook. 1:21:11.920 --> 1:21:15.080 It's it really does which I did not like school, 1:21:15.160 --> 1:21:16.559 not like school. Most of us didn't. 1:21:16.560 --> 1:21:19.400 But it takes you kind of back to Okay, we're 1:21:19.439 --> 1:21:21.280 going to you're going to put yourself on task and 1:21:21.320 --> 1:21:23.840 you're going to learn, and then you're going to look 1:21:23.880 --> 1:21:27.040 in deep. How How is how is this different for you? 1:21:27.200 --> 1:21:28.840 And you and the next thousand people? 1:21:29.120 --> 1:21:32.120 How is this? How is this personal to me? 1:21:32.520 --> 1:21:36.040 And my my goals, my life, my shortcomings, my insecurities 1:21:36.520 --> 1:21:38.120 and really pulling that stuff out. 1:21:38.120 --> 1:21:39.759 And I've learned so much just by writing. 1:21:39.760 --> 1:21:42.040 And you're one of those moments where you're writing something 1:21:42.439 --> 1:21:45.120 and something ends up on paper that you didn't really 1:21:45.160 --> 1:21:48.559 cognitively think about. It just happened, and then you then 1:21:48.600 --> 1:21:51.160 you read it and realize, Wow, that literally poured out 1:21:51.160 --> 1:21:52.639 of the essence of who I am, but it poured 1:21:52.680 --> 1:21:53.840 out of the essence of my heart. 1:21:54.160 --> 1:21:56.479 There it is, there's the key to what we need 1:21:56.520 --> 1:21:58.000 to fix, right, Yeah. 1:21:57.760 --> 1:22:00.640 Vince Lombardie. And I'm not a big quote guy. I 1:22:00.720 --> 1:22:02.959 kind of try to avoid quotes because. 1:22:04.640 --> 1:22:05.880 I kind of like that one quote with the thing 1:22:05.920 --> 1:22:08.320 that's like while sitting there like like I'm like it's 1:22:08.880 --> 1:22:10.760 getting onto like you and you said it too. I 1:22:10.760 --> 1:22:13.080 don't get caught up in the tangible things I'm trying 1:22:13.120 --> 1:22:15.360 to get to and I'm sitting there processing because me, 1:22:15.520 --> 1:22:18.879 I like, I gotta know what I'm going to achieve. 1:22:19.160 --> 1:22:21.040 Maybe I get too caught up. You can get too 1:22:21.080 --> 1:22:24.320 caught up in that fundamentally sometimes because you're you're losing 1:22:24.360 --> 1:22:26.200 sight of who you are at the core, and that's 1:22:26.240 --> 1:22:29.040 where some stuff comes in. It's like reciting and reviewing 1:22:29.280 --> 1:22:32.000 who the definition of you is and making sure that 1:22:32.000 --> 1:22:34.240 that's what's pouring in and getting that thing. 1:22:34.320 --> 1:22:36.280 Yeah, And I think and I think that's the beautiful 1:22:36.320 --> 1:22:38.320 thing too, because we're sitting here talking about writing down 1:22:38.360 --> 1:22:40.439 goals and I'm almost saying, well, don't. 1:22:40.240 --> 1:22:41.840 Worry about the goals, worry about who you are. 1:22:41.880 --> 1:22:44.920 And then but there's that beautiful mixture between both. And 1:22:44.960 --> 1:22:47.600 like you said, when those things line up, you know 1:22:47.680 --> 1:22:50.000 exactly who you be, then you can do. 1:22:50.040 --> 1:22:51.280 Exactly what you want to do. 1:22:51.439 --> 1:22:55.280 And think about how really cool David Goggins or been Yeah, 1:22:55.400 --> 1:23:00.559 what what they offer, How how much easier it is 1:23:00.600 --> 1:23:03.320 for them to coach you when you show up in 1:23:03.400 --> 1:23:05.599 control of your emotions or knowing how to control your 1:23:05.600 --> 1:23:09.000 emotions and knowing who you are in identity now their motivation, 1:23:09.479 --> 1:23:11.720 how to write things down, how to set stuff up, 1:23:12.120 --> 1:23:14.360 you know, how to get done, what you're gonna do 1:23:14.439 --> 1:23:16.800 during the day is really powerful and you're off to 1:23:16.840 --> 1:23:20.719 the races if you show up requiring him to motivate 1:23:20.760 --> 1:23:22.360 you just to get you on your feet, to get 1:23:22.400 --> 1:23:26.400 you moving, dude. That's why I said motivation is so 1:23:26.520 --> 1:23:29.800 wasted in our culture. In many ways, our lives do this. 1:23:29.880 --> 1:23:31.760 They roll a coaster instead of really, I kind of 1:23:31.760 --> 1:23:33.400 show up and I know who I am and I 1:23:33.439 --> 1:23:35.759 can hold myself to to that. And now this motivation 1:23:35.880 --> 1:23:39.960 piece and education piece, proper goal setting, proper time management, 1:23:40.479 --> 1:23:44.160 get nutrition, all those things become force multipliers and we 1:23:44.160 --> 1:23:48.360 move ahead intentionally at a higher speed. I was going 1:23:48.400 --> 1:23:51.200 to say this, Ben Sombardi said, individual commitment to a 1:23:51.240 --> 1:23:55.080 group effort. That's what makes team and society and our 1:23:55.080 --> 1:23:58.519 country move. And we have a crisis of identity in 1:23:58.560 --> 1:24:01.200 our world right now. People don't really know how they fit. 1:24:01.920 --> 1:24:03.840 And I don't mean this. I'm not. I'm not I'm 1:24:03.840 --> 1:24:06.400 not down on anybody. I'm not I'm not trying to 1:24:06.400 --> 1:24:10.160 be bad. Just from from sexuality to people. People are 1:24:10.200 --> 1:24:13.360 super concerned or don't know who they are, and we're 1:24:13.360 --> 1:24:15.760 fighting for that. And I think in order for us 1:24:15.840 --> 1:24:18.040 to be able to take advantage of the freedom that 1:24:18.040 --> 1:24:20.040 we've been given, we got to know. You got to 1:24:20.040 --> 1:24:21.479 know who the hell you are. You've got to be 1:24:21.479 --> 1:24:26.720 able to respond in identity or I'm sorry, inopportunity or adversity, 1:24:26.880 --> 1:24:28.439 and you need to know what that is so that 1:24:28.880 --> 1:24:31.280 you know how you fit to the team. You know 1:24:31.320 --> 1:24:34.599 where you make a difference in your family, what your 1:24:34.640 --> 1:24:37.080 role is there, how, how that is on a team, 1:24:37.160 --> 1:24:39.240 how that is in our culture, so that we're all 1:24:39.280 --> 1:24:42.360 moving together and each one of us as individuals can 1:24:42.400 --> 1:24:44.080 make a contribution that's valuable. 1:24:44.280 --> 1:24:47.160 Yeah, man, And if you're listening like that, those are 1:24:47.160 --> 1:24:47.799 the areas. 1:24:47.840 --> 1:24:49.120 That's the stuff right there. 1:24:49.160 --> 1:24:53.000 Like if you're when when you're feeling moved by this conversations, 1:24:53.040 --> 1:24:55.840 you got to put pen the paper man and take actions, 1:24:56.320 --> 1:24:59.240 because that's how If not again, it's it's if you 1:24:59.280 --> 1:25:01.439 live by your feeling all the time, your feelings are 1:25:01.439 --> 1:25:05.519 gonna fail you. We've talked about standard over feelings, right 1:25:05.600 --> 1:25:07.439 or writing out a standard, like you map out your 1:25:07.560 --> 1:25:10.919 entire standard written in language, and you have to recite 1:25:10.960 --> 1:25:13.320 and see this standard you've written for yourself and being 1:25:13.360 --> 1:25:16.000 intentional whatever all this definition means for yourself. 1:25:16.280 --> 1:25:17.120 If you don't look at it. 1:25:17.080 --> 1:25:20.599 Every day, you know, day fifty Will Compton is gonna 1:25:20.600 --> 1:25:21.680 feel a lot different than day one. 1:25:21.680 --> 1:25:23.280 Will content on one me and you walk away from 1:25:23.280 --> 1:25:23.679 a meeting. 1:25:23.840 --> 1:25:25.760 If I don't carry out what you're teaching me, and 1:25:25.800 --> 1:25:27.880 I don't write down and I'm not intentional with who 1:25:27.880 --> 1:25:30.120 I've defined myself as, and I forget about it, and 1:25:30.120 --> 1:25:32.280 I'm hype on day one. If I just go by 1:25:32.320 --> 1:25:35.240 feelings day fifty like, you're gonna, you're gonna sleep in 1:25:35.360 --> 1:25:39.000 low you you you start to feel bad for yourself, 1:25:39.080 --> 1:25:40.120 right like, oh, I can get away with this and 1:25:40.240 --> 1:25:41.760 get away with that. But if you're looking at your 1:25:41.800 --> 1:25:45.120 ship every day and getting you know, reciting what you've 1:25:45.120 --> 1:25:47.240 written for yourself or whether you have a mentor in 1:25:47.240 --> 1:25:49.639 your life or a coach, or you're doing it alone. 1:25:49.640 --> 1:25:52.000 If you're not reciting to yourself what you wrote on 1:25:52.080 --> 1:25:54.320 day one, you're gonna you're gonna succumb to. 1:25:54.280 --> 1:25:58.479 Your feelings for sure. And I love this man, even me. 1:25:58.439 --> 1:26:01.040 Sitting here, you know, for for people listening right now, 1:26:01.760 --> 1:26:06.120 just just today, tomorrow, next, tomorrow morning, whatever. 1:26:05.920 --> 1:26:07.320 Wake up, wake up a little bit early. 1:26:07.640 --> 1:26:10.920 Write down five of the key you know, we've talked 1:26:10.960 --> 1:26:13.320 about them. We call them your values, you call call 1:26:13.320 --> 1:26:15.760 them whatever you want. Strength words, things I want to 1:26:15.760 --> 1:26:16.240 live by. 1:26:16.560 --> 1:26:19.080 Who am I? And write down five words and just 1:26:19.120 --> 1:26:20.760 write your own definition of them. 1:26:21.080 --> 1:26:23.680 You most of us listening probably right now, say if 1:26:23.680 --> 1:26:25.439 I said, what are the three things you stand for? 1:26:25.840 --> 1:26:27.720 They could say it, They could they could come up 1:26:27.760 --> 1:26:29.679 with something in the next ten seconds, say I stand 1:26:29.720 --> 1:26:32.320 for these three things. But now put a colon and 1:26:32.360 --> 1:26:35.080 now put an actual definition with it, put actual words 1:26:35.080 --> 1:26:37.320 in language with it, because, like I said, my definition 1:26:37.360 --> 1:26:41.519 of faith is different than yours, and yours and yours, 1:26:41.600 --> 1:26:44.160 even though they're very similar, they're going to be they're 1:26:44.160 --> 1:26:47.080 gonna be somewhat similar, they're going to be different. They're 1:26:47.080 --> 1:26:48.519 going to be put in a different language. And if 1:26:48.520 --> 1:26:50.200 it's not a language, just not a tool. And then 1:26:50.520 --> 1:26:53.599 and then even just read those over this next seven days, 1:26:53.640 --> 1:26:56.320 read those three read those definitions of those three things 1:26:56.520 --> 1:26:56.960 once or. 1:26:56.880 --> 1:26:57.880 Twice or three times a day. 1:26:57.880 --> 1:26:59.200 Put it in your wallet, put in your phone, in 1:26:59.200 --> 1:27:02.439 your notes, and just realize how it kind of changes 1:27:02.479 --> 1:27:05.840 your perspective on things, and how those three words are 1:27:05.880 --> 1:27:09.320 five words or those some a mixture of those definitions 1:27:09.360 --> 1:27:11.320 somewhat comes up and comes in the back of your 1:27:11.320 --> 1:27:13.479 mind when you're in your next interaction, when you're in 1:27:13.479 --> 1:27:15.160 your next meeting, when you're in your next quiet time, 1:27:15.160 --> 1:27:17.920 when you're in your because you've now taken these words 1:27:17.960 --> 1:27:20.240 and you've put a definition with them, and now they 1:27:20.280 --> 1:27:22.200 are a language, and now they are a tool, and 1:27:22.240 --> 1:27:25.160 they become in the forefront of your mind. Now you 1:27:25.200 --> 1:27:27.919 move a little somewhat defined. You you have somewhat defined 1:27:28.520 --> 1:27:32.479 because everything else is just subjective and subconscious, and we 1:27:32.520 --> 1:27:36.800 can't unless you're doing a ton of work every single day. 1:27:36.800 --> 1:27:40.080 You can't trust your subconscious because everything we see on 1:27:40.120 --> 1:27:43.640 social media, see on YouTube, listen to on podcasts, all 1:27:43.680 --> 1:27:45.880 that stuff is being downloaded into our minds and our 1:27:45.920 --> 1:27:49.120 brains and it's it all gets jumbled up and it's 1:27:49.160 --> 1:27:50.559 not actually clearly defined. 1:27:50.600 --> 1:27:53.080 Yeah, it makes you move differently. I want to sharpen that, 1:27:53.160 --> 1:27:56.799 just to tad absolutely. Three value to finish. Three values. 1:27:58.160 --> 1:28:00.800 A strength value, big rock you know right now in 1:28:00.840 --> 1:28:04.360 your life, Yeah, something like that, a weakness value. So 1:28:04.400 --> 1:28:06.559 I want you to I want you to take decide 1:28:06.560 --> 1:28:08.880 what is what is the negative emotion that gets the 1:28:08.920 --> 1:28:12.280 best of you. It's a anger, worry, whatever that is. 1:28:12.320 --> 1:28:14.120 And I want you to create a value that's the 1:28:14.160 --> 1:28:17.360 opposite of that. For me, it was worry and I 1:28:17.439 --> 1:28:20.040 and I worked at hope, so hope was the value, 1:28:20.640 --> 1:28:24.040 and then an idea of value that's a value that 1:28:24.040 --> 1:28:25.960 that it's something that you see in the culture that 1:28:26.000 --> 1:28:27.880 you're aiming at that you want to be a part 1:28:27.920 --> 1:28:31.040 of your life. So that the values encompass your strengths, 1:28:31.240 --> 1:28:34.040 your weaknesses, and your desires for the future. Those are 1:28:34.040 --> 1:28:36.840 the three values from the Mayhem Mindset process that I 1:28:36.880 --> 1:28:39.479 want someone to really look at and then move out 1:28:39.520 --> 1:28:42.360 into your day and make sure that that that's something 1:28:42.360 --> 1:28:44.760 that you're thinking about front of mind and you're using it. 1:28:44.840 --> 1:28:47.160 I love that, dude. Where can that? Where can everybody 1:28:47.200 --> 1:28:50.240 find you? Mayhem mindset dot com. There's a there's a 1:28:50.240 --> 1:28:53.040 course there and a bunch of stuff and I'm at 1:28:53.240 --> 1:28:56.320 Jimmy Underscore Hencil on Instagram. I'm gonna follow you, dude, 1:28:56.360 --> 1:28:56.600 right on. 1:28:56.760 --> 1:29:00.160 Follow me Mayhem mindset dot com and people can on 1:29:00.280 --> 1:29:02.120 like a course and just see all about you. 1:29:02.200 --> 1:29:04.720 Yeah, there's an online course there people can get into. 1:29:04.840 --> 1:29:07.320 We send you a workbook. There's audio and video on 1:29:07.360 --> 1:29:09.040 the whole thing that goes that you can work through 1:29:09.040 --> 1:29:10.680 it on your own or if if you want to 1:29:10.680 --> 1:29:13.240 spend some time with me, there's options to get involved 1:29:13.240 --> 1:29:14.960 with me so I can coach you one on one 1:29:15.080 --> 1:29:17.160 that's awesome. And Mike, everybody knows where to find you. 1:29:17.200 --> 1:29:17.960 Go ahead say it again. 1:29:19.160 --> 1:29:20.760 I'll be here on the bus if you guys need it. 1:29:20.960 --> 1:29:23.800 Yeah at Mike Chandler, Ramee on Instagram, Twitter. 1:29:23.560 --> 1:29:26.439 All that stuff. That's how I connect with people. 1:29:26.640 --> 1:29:30.240 Dude. I appreciate it, guys. It's appreciate it for the boys, 1:29:30.439 --> 1:29:33.120 for the boys. Boys. Yeah, all right, fellas