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Speaker 2: Yo, what's your boy?

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Speaker 3: Comp nasty alongside his co host Taylor Lewan. Obviously you're

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Speaker 3: Aulume to California after another big win against the Cincinnati

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Speaker 3: in the black hole, dude, speaking of the black hole,

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Speaker 3: You guys, it's a fuck. It's a fucking blast playing

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Speaker 3: It's always fun when you're winning, obviously, Uh, but it's

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Speaker 3: These boys are rolling, and I had no clue how

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Speaker 3: Man, this is the time that this is the time

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Speaker 3: We're uh, they're leading the charge out here, and you know,

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Speaker 3: People got to meet him in the parking lot after

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Speaker 3: He wanted to take his dad because his dad taught

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Speaker 3: the Regal Realty Group. They're out based out of Nashville.

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Speaker 3: The MVP of the podcast, MVP The Little He's a

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Speaker 3: secret wheelingd dealer out there in Nashville. Man, anything residential

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Speaker 2: Don't give attitude? What I mean by that, don't give attitude?

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Speaker 3: Take pictures with your don't give a mentality, hashtag don't

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Speaker 3: Wear you're Matt Neely for the Boys shirts, show your support.

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Speaker 3: You know, he's looking down and he's for the Boys

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Speaker 3: on this episode. Really good stuff though, similar to that

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Speaker 3: great podcast with Jim Hensel. I think you're really gonna

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Speaker 2: You can find us on YouTube Busting with the Boys.

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Speaker 2: Man, we were, we appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: We're We're not shit without you guys, and uh, you

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Speaker 2: We solid. So you asked me if I was a

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Speaker 3: Are you a bourbon American whiskey Scotch rye?

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Speaker 2: And and he he drinks KG Kentucky gentlemen, just bottom

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Speaker 2: That's those are the two things. So my problem is,

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Speaker 3: What expensive whiskey do you go with? I like I'm learning,

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Speaker 3: I'm a rye guy, right, I like the rye dude.

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Speaker 3: But they have like a plethora, solid word comp pilethora

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Speaker 3: rye dude, it was a right whiskey. I felt like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was solid. So that's how I figured

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Speaker 2: out that like Rye the most. So so let's started

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Speaker 2: talking about wisdom here. Let's whiskey to wisdom. Let's go

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Speaker 2: like that. No, but let's let's let's talk whiskey wisdom.

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Speaker 2: Have you broken the two rules? Oh? God, you know,

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Speaker 2: because I for sure have.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, I mean I like that we all

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Speaker 2: I like the high brow stuff, and I barely woke up.

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Speaker 4: Broke we broke all the sorry sorry Papa day dang it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, sometimes I like, I like to consume a

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Speaker 2: Challenging the next day. Dude, are you hearing this? You

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Speaker 2: create that thought process and plan for that in the future.

436
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Speaker 2: And if professional football is all you are, you're in

437
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,760
Speaker 2: trouble because it's going to come to an end at

438
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Speaker 2: certain point. And so that that was the space that

439
00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 2: I found myself in. And then what I really realized

440
00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:44,320
Speaker 2: was that I had to separate this idea of identity

441
00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:47,119
Speaker 2: from what I do, and in the culture we live in,

442
00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 2: that gets really blurred. So I call it, you know

443
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:55,560
Speaker 2: I want to. I don't. I'm not a traditional mindset

444
00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 2: rah rah, motivational guy as not at all. What I

445
00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 2: do my responsible is to Really, because of what I

446
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 2: went through, I created a process for somebody to sit

447
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,920
Speaker 2: down and really decide who they were and what they

448
00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 2: believed in.

449
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Speaker 3: What made you start creating that process? And now I

450
00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:15,360
Speaker 3: know the Gladdy that moment you decided, Okay, I got

451
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 3: to get my shit together and I'm immediately taking accountability

452
00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 3: for literally everything that's happened in my life.

453
00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 2: How do you start to figure out a process? Right?

454
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Speaker 3: And then from that process that we'll get into how

455
00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,679
Speaker 3: you started to put together a formula to help other people.

456
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Speaker 2: Here's what I heard Maximus say. He stated what his

457
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:37,160
Speaker 2: purpose was, so I heard it. He was clear about

458
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,320
Speaker 2: who he was and what his purpose was on the planet.

459
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 2: Then he talked about what he believed in, which was

460
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Speaker 2: values or beliefs or however you want to call it,

461
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:48,120
Speaker 2: first principles, and then he said, this is what I'm

462
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Speaker 2: going to do. Yeah, so it's who I am, this

463
00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 2: is what I believe in, either in this life or

464
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Speaker 2: the next life. I'm going to have my revenge. You know,

465
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Speaker 2: That's kind of how he phrased it. So I said, okay,

466
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Speaker 2: wait a second, let me figure out what purpose is.

467
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 2: Let's let's let's create a list of authentic beliefs in

468
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:06,400
Speaker 2: my life that I really believe in that are mine.

469
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 2: And then I'm gonna hold myself accountable by writing myself

470
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Speaker 2: a mission statement, now what I call your I Am,

471
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 2: which is a purpose statement, your I believe, which is

472
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,760
Speaker 2: this idea of whatever it is you believe in, and

473
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,639
Speaker 2: then and then what you're gonna do to hold yourself accountable?

474
00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 2: And so I went through six months worth of just

475
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:25,639
Speaker 2: beginning to write, all right, well, why in the hell

476
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 2: am I on this planet? Because it sure isn't play football,

477
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 2: because that ain't happen. So that's that's something that I

478
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:35,400
Speaker 2: that I thought I was going to do. But that's

479
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 2: not the same as really what I believe in. I

480
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,320
Speaker 2: need to separate that out and it's not the same

481
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Speaker 2: as what I feel. Whatever these things are that I'm

482
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,679
Speaker 2: supposed to believe in have to be big rocks. They

483
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 2: have to be immovable in my life regardless of how

484
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 2: I feel. There are things I'm supposed to anchor to. So,

485
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 2: so if I believe in family, well what what is

486
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 2: the real definition of that? You know? What do I?

487
00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 2: And so? And so I went through a process of

488
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 2: really reaching out and defining this idea of values that

489
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 2: represented my strengths, my weaknesses, and then my goals.

490
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Speaker 3: If you don't mind sharing, could you give examples that

491
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Speaker 3: you were writing in this initial period that you were

492
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Speaker 3: going to kind of go after Yeah, I guess until

493
00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 3: you got to the point it's where it's like, hey,

494
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 3: I found this system that you have an experience label

495
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 3: with you now to kind of attract people to.

496
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Speaker 2: Want to, you know, follow your stuff. Yeh. When I

497
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 2: started out what is now kind of eleven challenges in

498
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,880
Speaker 2: a process. I don't tell anybody what to believe. That's

499
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Speaker 2: not my job. You believe whatever it is you want

500
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 2: to believe. But I but I am asking you to

501
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 2: be able to defend it to yourself. If it's not

502
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 2: in language, it's not a tool, right. Think about it.

503
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 2: On the football field, you could say a bunch right,

504
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 2: and you could call it coverage. And if you don't

505
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 2: know what that is that language specifically, you can't do it.

506
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Speaker 2: You can't crossfits the same way you know what an

507
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 2: am rap is, You're in trouble. So if you don't

508
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 2: have language for your beliefs and it's not something that

509
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 2: you can really actively communicate, it's not really real. Man.

510
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: Your choices and decisions are going to be based mostly

511
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,639
Speaker 2: on momentum or emotion. There's nothing wrong with momentum, and

512
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 2: there's nothing wrong with emotion. That's a fire starter, but

513
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 2: it's not sustainable fuel. We're gonna find ourselves in places

514
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 2: where our emotions betray us absolutely, and that happens to everybody.

515
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,760
Speaker 2: So and that's the way we're designed by the way

516
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 2: we feel first, that's the first part of our brain

517
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,719
Speaker 2: that kicks in, and then we think second. So understanding

518
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,199
Speaker 2: that acknowledging it. So I went through a process of

519
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 2: separating my emotions from what I believed. And so now

520
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:49,440
Speaker 2: I call it your B capital b E, Values, Talents

521
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 2: and Purpose. I want you to be able to have

522
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,959
Speaker 2: some sort of idea about what that means and then

523
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 2: be able to say it so that it's authentic, don't

524
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Speaker 2: bs me.

525
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Speaker 3: And then I make yourself accountable by making the invisible

526
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 3: like heard and divisible.

527
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 2: I wrote a code for my life. Literally. I called

528
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: it the Strengthen Honor Code, after what Maximus said. I

529
00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 2: had a tattoo artist draw me a cress. I tattooed

530
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 2: it on my arm, and every decision was filtered from

531
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 2: that point on through the Strengthen Honor Code. It was

532
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,679
Speaker 2: not for anybody, and I could quote it. My name is,

533
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 2: this is who I am, This is what I believe,

534
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 2: This is what I believe in fight, work, hope, faith, team, family, excellence, purpose, responsibility, love,

535
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: and freedom, all clearly defined. I said it fast, and

536
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:35,719
Speaker 2: it doesn't mean anything to you, but it's very profound

537
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,959
Speaker 2: in my life. Yeah. And then an I will statement

538
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,360
Speaker 2: or a mission statement that represented me. And then it

539
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 2: was boiled down to something on my arm so I

540
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 2: could look down and say, Jim, is there any strength

541
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,359
Speaker 2: and honor in that? Meaning? What I believe is purpose,

542
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: what I believe in my values, and what I'm said

543
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 2: I'm going to do. That was very well thought out

544
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 2: and in language, but it gave me a fighting chance

545
00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 2: now to move my life forward. Instead of momentum and emotion,

546
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 2: I knew who the hell I was and I could

547
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 2: apply it if I wanted to. So instead of being

548
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 2: a guy who who was kind of foggy and wasn't

549
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 2: real clear about what I believed, I was a dude

550
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 2: who really knew and was accountable. So my challenge now

551
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 2: was a little bit different than a lot of people's.

552
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 2: It was would I and will I live the way

553
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,879
Speaker 2: I said I would believe instead of staying in the

554
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 2: state of confusion, right, staying in that state of emotions.

555
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: And that's what I realized too.

556
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Speaker 4: I thought before we started working together, I thought I

557
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 4: was a pretty defined guy.

558
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:36,919
Speaker 1: You know, I know what I believe in. I know

559
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: what my values are.

560
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 4: I know, and I thought, which most of us do

561
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Speaker 4: as confident, you know, confident people who I try to

562
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,360
Speaker 4: do the right things. I think I know a lot

563
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,919
Speaker 4: about life than a lot of people do. Until I

564
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 4: started going into this process and started to realize, just

565
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,199
Speaker 4: like I lift weights and I flex these muscles with

566
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 4: every single rep, now I'm flexing my mental muscles and

567
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,880
Speaker 4: my identity. You know, because you know when you when

568
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 4: you guys are talking about okay, ball is over, that's

569
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:07,400
Speaker 4: your darkest hour. That's when you realize, that's when you realize, okay,

570
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 4: that's that this is the darkest hour.

571
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: Who am I? Am I enough?

572
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 4: Because that's what we always talked about the you know,

573
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 4: the first time we sat down, we pretty much talked

574
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 4: in essence, this process is your greatest moment of opportunity

575
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:20,880
Speaker 4: or your darkest hour?

576
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 1: Am I enough? And for me as an athlete still.

577
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 4: Continuing to compete, I am just as much focused on

578
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 4: at my greatest moment of opportunity, because I I haven't

579
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 4: had a lot of horrible things happen to me. I

580
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 4: haven't been down. And we're not talking clinical depression in

581
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 4: my case. We're talking, you know, I want to get better,

582
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 4: and we're talking about winning multiple world titles. We're talking

583
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 4: about going down as one of the greatest of all time.

584
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 2: I want to.

585
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:45,879
Speaker 1: I want to be able to. I want to be

586
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: able to pull. I want to be able to pull

587
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 1: that out of me.

588
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 4: And I realize after going through this process, the hurdles

589
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 4: I've had to go through, this small mind, the small

590
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 4: thinking that I've had to go through, the things that

591
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,479
Speaker 4: are that have been holding me back as well as

592
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,199
Speaker 4: the things that are to propel me forward. So at

593
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 4: the greatest, your greatest moment of opportunity, you can say, yes,

594
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 4: I am enough, Let's go get that, Let's go take that.

595
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

596
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys are talking about like being very clear

597
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: in who you believe and how you're defining these characteristics

598
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 3: of yourself. Now when you were doing this right, it

599
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 3: sounds awesome. And I'm talking from a point of people

600
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 3: listening right now that are like, Okay, it's going to

601
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 3: be as simple as being very clear and writing shit down.

602
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 2: Which you should. You should write shit down.

603
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 3: You're when you make the invisible visible, it's a lot

604
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 3: more powerful because you're putting it out in the universe.

605
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 2: Creative power in writing.

606
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 3: Right now, you're doing this from step one, the beginning.

607
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 3: Right now, you're fifty one, you're proven, you've got these clients,

608
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 3: but in the beginning, you're writing this shit out right

609
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 3: Like me, I've said this before on another podcast, like Okay,

610
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 3: you want to write I want to be I am

611
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 3: a Pro Bowl linebacker? Or what does a pro linebacker

612
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 3: do on a daily basis? And I'm writing pro linebacker?

613
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 3: Or when I was undrafted it's like be a starter

614
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 3: on the Washington Redskins. You're getting clear, but you have

615
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 3: doubt at the same time.

616
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 2: So here's the key. Here's the key in what we're

617
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 2: doing here. And this is what happened to me, And

618
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 2: this is very fundamental to this being something that matters

619
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 2: and works. Right, I'm not talking about what you're going

620
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 2: to do, the task or the emotion. I want to

621
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 2: separate that out. Be a Pro Bowl linebacker is that

622
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 2: goal that you're aiming at and it's valid. Prior to

623
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 2: thinking about that, I really want to take you back

624
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 2: to really understanding identity. What is it inside you that

625
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 2: gives you the ability and or the right to be

626
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 2: that pro bowl? Right? Gotcha? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah? And I

627
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 2: want to go all the way back to what's purpose

628
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 2: in your life? And I want to I want to

629
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 2: I want to define that in a word, got you?

630
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 2: And then I want to talk about values. I want

631
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 2: to I want to create a platform of strength to

632
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 2: operate from, so that whatever it is you decide to do,

633
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 2: you're bringing identity to it, right, not just the goal.

634
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with the goal. We got to have them, yes,

635
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 2: and we got to put that in language that's really important.

636
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 2: But so many people chase the do in our culture. Right,

637
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:10,719
Speaker 2: let me try this. All that didn't work? Well, let

638
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 2: me try this, I didn't work. Let me try this,

639
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 2: Well that didn't work. Hold on, right.

640
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 3: I want you to explain the vulnerable, kind of scary

641
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 3: side when you do write these big ass goals in mind. Right,

642
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 3: and then it's like, okay, Jim, in the very beginning,

643
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: Now you're writing this huge goal and you're trying to

644
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 3: carry it out, and you still have some vulnerability thinking

645
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 3: am I worth telling this to people?

646
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 2: Did you?

647
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 3: You presumably had some kind of doubt when you're writing

648
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 3: this in real like I'm gonna be one of the

649
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 3: best to do it, right, There's still something in you

650
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 3: when you are writing the purpose and the characteristics and

651
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 3: all this stuff that's like, why do you deserve that?

652
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 3: You're still have a little anxiety to talk about it

653
00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 3: out loud because you know you're doing it because you

654
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 3: need to, but telling it to other people and talking

655
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 3: about it front other people do it in a way

656
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:01,480
Speaker 3: it is where it's like.

657
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 2: Man, are they doubting me? You know what I mean?

658
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 2: Sure you have that stuff in the beginning.

659
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 3: Now now it's like we're proven dudes, right right, and

660
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 3: you can kind of talk about it easier. But in

661
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 3: the beginning you're gonna have doubt in thinking what makes

662
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 3: me deserve this?

663
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 2: In mind? Right? So what Michael said, this whole the

664
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 2: whole idea in my heart started from the question what

665
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 2: I wanted to do is I wanted to strip myself

666
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 2: all the way of everything. I wanted to put myself

667
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 2: in Maximus's position. If you if you watch the movie right,

668
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 2: everything had been taken to him. He was a general,

669
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,680
Speaker 2: had been taken from him, his wife was killed. He's

670
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 2: in this spot where he's a slave, and the only

671
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 2: reason why he's fighting is for what he believed in,

672
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 2: not that it felt good, not that he was respected.

673
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 2: He wasn't any of those things, right, It was just

674
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 2: only about who he was as a man. One of

675
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 2: the goat movies, right for sure. And so I wanted

676
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 2: to put myself in that spot. And what I realized was, well,

677
00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 2: what was the what was the one question that kept

678
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 2: coming from my heart? Well, the one question was am

679
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 2: I enough? Am I just an f and loser? Now? Yeah,

680
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 2: that happens. It happens for It's important for people to

681
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 2: know that that happens. It happens to everybody, and and

682
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 2: it happens all the time. That's to be human emotional.

683
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: And if it hasn't happened, it is the inevitable if.

684
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 4: You are not clearly defined as as because I was, so,

685
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 4: we haven't really talked about fighting goals. We haven't talked

686
00:32:24,520 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 4: about all big goals. Honestly, I just want to figure

687
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:27,479
Speaker 4: out who I am.

688
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:27,959
Speaker 3: Right.

689
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 4: I'm a kid from high Ridge, Missouri, you know, And

690
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 4: and now I've gotten this this platform to be able

691
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 4: to be who I am and i'm but I still

692
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 4: am trying to figure it out preemptively as a precaution

693
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 4: because when fighting ends, I want to mitigate the risk

694
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 4: of that darkestyle. I want to mitigate the risk of

695
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 4: if I lose my next three fights and I'm done,

696
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 4: who am I? Where am I going?

697
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 1: What am I doing?

698
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 2: You're going to struggle for a minute, man, what you're

699
00:32:56,560 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 2: doing should have zero bearing on identity, exactly right. It shouldn't.

700
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 2: In your greatest moment of opportunity or in the darkest hour,

701
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 2: You're still the same dude. You still believe the same things.

702
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 2: Let me take everything away from you that you have.

703
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 2: You know, and I don't know anything about you personally.

704
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, let's take your money, let's take your wife,

705
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 2: let's take your job, Let's put you in that spot.

706
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 2: And then you then tell me, are the things that

707
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 2: you believe in? Horseshit at that point? Or is it real? Right?

708
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 2: Tell me what that is? And so here I am

709
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 2: face down, depressed, and I'm like, man, if I'm going

710
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 2: to get up and come forward, it's got to be

711
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 2: real or what's at worth? And so the point of

712
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 2: the process is to put you, at least mentally in

713
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:42,239
Speaker 2: a space where we separate the do. I don't care

714
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 2: about your job. I don't care about your goals and ishit.

715
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:45,960
Speaker 2: I don't want to know about any of that. Really,

716
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 2: what I want you to do is just tell me

717
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:48,959
Speaker 2: who you are and what you believe, and let's come

718
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 2: up with that idea first. It's just like the fundament

719
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 2: what position line linebackers read your keys, man, I need

720
00:33:57,480 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 2: you to do is read your keys for your life. Right,

721
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 2: That's what I want you to be able to do

722
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 2: before the snap of the ball. How intelligent you are

723
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 2: before the do Are you intelligent and well versed and

724
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,480
Speaker 2: have language for your life?

725
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 3: And when you say have language you're talking about you're talking.

726
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: This is where writing stuff down comes into play, because

727
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 3: I truly like, I love this stuff and I want

728
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 3: I want people to have takeaways. Right, everybody listening, like

729
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 3: when he's explaining this stuff, try and think about.

730
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 2: Some shit in your own life.

731
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 3: And when he's talking about language and saying all these

732
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 3: questions like maybe you're sitting in the car right now

733
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 3: or listening to this pot or watching it at home.

734
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 3: I don't know, but like, if you want to take

735
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,760
Speaker 3: this stuff away. I'm trying to ask all these questions

736
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 3: so we can give.

737
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 2: To you guys think about Let's think about your strongest beliefs.

738
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 2: Let's just do it right here, right now, Michael Chandler,

739
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:51,960
Speaker 2: name three core values in your life.

740
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:59,720
Speaker 4: Core values, strongest beliefs, fight family, authenticity.

741
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 2: Now, when I go into a classrooms at a university,

742
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 2: or I'm I talked in front of three hundred doctors

743
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 2: the other day, and I challenge them, name a core

744
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 2: value in your life, because we don't have this conversation

745
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 2: this way in our culture. Mostly we're talking about motivation

746
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:20,879
Speaker 2: and we're looking at guys to motivate us, which is cool,

747
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 2: there's nothing wrong with it, but we can you waste

748
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 2: motivation if you don't know who you are. Motivation is

749
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 2: a fantastic tool if you can apply it to who

750
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,200
Speaker 2: you are as a human being. But so many people

751
00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 2: are chasing motivation. I want to know who he is.

752
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 2: Quiet still, outside of all to do, I go into

753
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 2: a classroom and I'll ask, you know, a somebody name

754
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 2: a core value, and it gets super quiet. They don't

755
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 2: really know what I'm talking about. So I gotta try

756
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 2: to describe it a couple of different ways.

757
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 3: Because people are probably processing, like shit, what for sure,

758
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 3: I'm sitting here talking, I'm like, man, sure I got

759
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 3: to be able to name three If you ask me

760
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 3: here in a second, you know what I mean.

761
00:35:57,600 --> 00:35:59,000
Speaker 1: And it's that you're trying to I mean.

762
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:00,799
Speaker 4: And we've we've worked so hard of the last couple

763
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 4: weeks with these definitions, and I've changed the definitions fifteen

764
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 4: different times and a lot of times. And that's why

765
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 4: you talk about he went fight tape tape all of

766
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 4: his things. His definition is different. My definition of fight

767
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 4: is probably different than you think it is. My definition

768
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 4: of authenticity is probably similar to what you think it

769
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 4: might be. But the reasoning behind the definition all has

770
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 4: to go back to my shortcomings mentally and emotionally, from

771
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 4: the scars of my past, from the from the things

772
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 4: that have held me back. Authenticity isn't just so I

773
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 4: can put my best foot forward and be my best self.

774
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 4: My being authentic in my mind is overcoming the mental

775
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:39,360
Speaker 4: hurdles of the small minded thinking of my past. Therefore,

776
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,520
Speaker 4: when I step into a room, I will have the

777
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 4: courage and to be authentic, authentic in front of people.

778
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 4: And it all comes back to the shortcomings that I've had.

779
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 2: There's what I believe in our design. There's all kinds

780
00:36:52,680 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 2: of things talent wise that are under design. And then

781
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:57,799
Speaker 2: there's nurture in nature, how you were raised, you know,

782
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 2: and and and what all that means. So we all

783
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 2: arrive at this space with different kinds of environments being

784
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 2: put through different things, and so it's important to make

785
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 2: sure that those words, whatever they are, whatever those belief

786
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 2: systems are in your life, they're yours and you own them.

787
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 2: These core values, right, whatever the core values are, okay,

788
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 2: you know whatever that is you say, and I don't

789
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,320
Speaker 2: care what it is. They need to represent your strengths.

790
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:25,279
Speaker 2: They need to represent the emotional weaknesses in your life

791
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 2: because we all got them. And then they need to

792
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 2: represent goals or ideals in your life. So they're living

793
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 2: and breathing and you can use them. So many times

794
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 2: I go into a space where people they've never thought

795
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 2: about it, so they don't know what they are, so

796
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 2: it's not really a tool. Or I go into a

797
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 2: environment where they got these mission statements on the walls

798
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:47,120
Speaker 2: and they got all these core values, but it's all

799
00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 2: horseshit and nobody really lives them. And especially in a

800
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 2: lot of corporate environments. You can go into a locker

801
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:56,919
Speaker 2: room and there'll be some mission statement on the wall

802
00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:01,720
Speaker 2: and nobody knows what it is or cares. It's not actual,

803
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 2: real philosophy. What we're more concerned about is the process

804
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 2: with the x's and o's, which is important. We need

805
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,719
Speaker 2: to be excellent at that, but we need to come

806
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 2: from some sort of philosophical base if we're going to

807
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 2: be one hundred percent of who we're creater to be want.

808
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:17,720
Speaker 2: If I want the most out of you as an athlete,

809
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:19,400
Speaker 2: I need to care about who you are at the

810
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,840
Speaker 2: heart level and as a man, and as your beliefs,

811
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: and then I need that connected to process. And if

812
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 2: I have that connected to process, then I got eleven

813
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 2: dudes flying into the ball understanding who they are and

814
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 2: what they believe. And then there's some sort of if

815
00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 2: you know who you are and he knows who he is,

816
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 2: and everybody knows who they are, then we can find

817
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 2: that space where our values overlap and that's where strength is.

818
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 2: Or if a coach wants to wants to know whether

819
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:49,720
Speaker 2: he wants you around, that's a nice question to start

820
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,959
Speaker 2: with because there's a lot of x's and o's guys

821
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 2: who are physically capable, but they don't belong in the culture,

822
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, They're just not going to fit.

823
00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 2: I don't care how good you are, it doesn't really

824
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 2: make You're not my guy. So understanding that about your life,

825
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 2: not just football or what you're doing, is important. How

826
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 2: you're going to respond to your girlfriend, how you can

827
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 2: respond to.

828
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,240
Speaker 1: Your wife, that filter.

829
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 4: Having a filter, you know, I think that's one of

830
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 4: the biggest things too, Having a filter to live every

831
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 4: single every single scenario that you come into, every single interaction,

832
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:23,280
Speaker 4: every single relationship, there's a there is a inherent filter

833
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 4: that you now have through the practicing of being able

834
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 4: to filter all of these every single scenario through these

835
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:30,879
Speaker 4: coret through your core value, your core.

836
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 3: Values, because when these bad things happen, it's like what

837
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 3: do they say, like or eving.

838
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: Good things five seconds everything happens.

839
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's like a there's like a moment your brain

840
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:40,879
Speaker 3: has that's going to make a decision. Yeah, And you're

841
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 3: trying to create these things to where that's what you

842
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:46,279
Speaker 3: default to in these times of either success or I

843
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 3: guess failure. So you write these core values and then

844
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 3: what's next. So you you're with me and Mike and

845
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 3: we're figuring out our core values. The next time we

846
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 3: meet with you. What comes after these defined core values

847
00:39:58,480 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 3: when we talk.

848
00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 2: About So the whole entire process is one most importantly

849
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:06,400
Speaker 2: to get you to write. Why write? It's not in language,

850
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 2: it's not a tool. Love it. So I've got to

851
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 2: get you to put who you are and what you

852
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 2: believe on paper. If you're not disciplined enough to do

853
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 2: some writing, it's not right for you. R I g HD.

854
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 2: The process is not right for you. So we need

855
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 2: to be able to do that. We want to talk

856
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 2: about negative emotions, negative themes, negative stories, and so we

857
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 2: don't start by writing about core values. That comes at

858
00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 2: the very end of the process. Okay, What I want

859
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 2: to do is put you through challenges one week at

860
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:39,319
Speaker 2: a time that cause you to gain some new perspective

861
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 2: about your life. That's the idea of the goal. No

862
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 2: different than getting in the gym and working the different

863
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 2: muscles and changing up how you're doing that to strengthen

864
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 2: your body. So that's an example of something you put

865
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 2: them through. Each Each one of the challenges requires you

866
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 2: to be able to go out into your week and

867
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 2: keep this idea front of mind, all right, So one

868
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 2: of them I call the matrix, and I teach I

869
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 2: teach something called the system, feel, filter, think, flow. It's

870
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 2: pretty simple. It's how our bodies work. Olympic brain fires, filter.

871
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if you've got one. That's this idea

872
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 2: of building the system, core value system, then being able

873
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 2: to think really clearly. Can I get you to be

874
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 2: a critical thinker? Or are you just running all over

875
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,879
Speaker 2: the place. We all know that person, right, Every choice

876
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 2: and decisions made based on emotion. So I want you

877
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 2: to go out into your week and really recognize if

878
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 2: you're making some choices and decisions based on values or

879
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 2: if you're mostly over there in emotion. And each one

880
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 2: of the challenges has a component like that. And the

881
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 2: idea is after eleven weeks, and if I can get

882
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 2: you a little bit off balance, and I can get

883
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 2: you to write a little bit about who you are

884
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 2: and what you believe, then we've got this thread that

885
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 2: goes all the way through the challenges and some writing.

886
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 2: Or we can go back into it and we can

887
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 2: begin to discover what it is you really believe based

888
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 2: on what you've written.

889
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 3: So you're having Craig me if I'm wrong, You're having

890
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 3: them write about these experiences that are happening, whether good

891
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:09,399
Speaker 3: or bad.

892
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 2: You're there, you're just kind of jotting down your kind

893
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 2: of journaling.

894
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, those and those and those first couple of weeks

895
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 4: two were very eye opening, Like that was the first

896
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 4: was the first week, Uh, the power of be the three,

897
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 4: be in spite of what other people think, be in

898
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 4: spite of emotion, and be present. That that first week

899
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 4: for me, the amount of times I wrote down the

900
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 4: how I was not present or how I knew the

901
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 4: week before I was not being present compared to the

902
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 4: next week with my son, with my wife, with conversations,

903
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:40,920
Speaker 4: being present here in this podcast, or even being being

904
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 4: in spite of emotions or being in spite of what

905
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 4: other people think. I caught myself almost taking taking more

906
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 4: leaps of faith to do things outside of what I

907
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 4: would have normally did because I wasn't worried about what

908
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:58,560
Speaker 4: people were thinking as much, or I wasn't worried about,

909
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 4: you know, what people were thinking, what the negative emotions

910
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 4: might have been, or how emotion was driving me rather

911
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 4: than just being me.

912
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 3: Because you're kind of like writing this accountability and you're like, yeah, shit,

913
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 3: I'm not. It's like something as simple as like, okay,

914
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 3: you think you're healthy, will for the next week literally

915
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 3: write down everything you eat and this something simple and

916
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 3: you I've done this before, and you realize like, shit,

917
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 3: I'm not really sticking to the things I've talked about

918
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 3: doing because you see all these small little slip ups

919
00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 3: along the way because you're journaling, and you're like shit.

920
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 4: Like yeah, you can mark them up, yeah, and then

921
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 4: you kind of give them back to them and you're

922
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 4: kind of like wanting to erase something.

923
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 2: So you know, if we said doesn't want to see it,

924
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,720
Speaker 2: if we sat down. This process is not for somebody.

925
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 2: And I don't say this in any sort of way

926
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 2: to be negative. I'm a I'm not a therapist. I'm

927
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 2: not a licensed counselor, I'm not any of those kind

928
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 2: of guys. Yeah, this and the process is not some

929
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 2: for somebody who needs that. It needs to be somebody

930
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:56,359
Speaker 2: who has some awareness about who they are and really

931
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:59,879
Speaker 2: is trying to get next level self awareness to trying

932
00:43:59,880 --> 00:44:02,240
Speaker 2: to stretch yourself a little bit and get detailed about

933
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 2: your life. That's what's in Sharpen we want to sharpen things,

934
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 2: and so the three b's, Like Michael just explained, well,

935
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:14,240
Speaker 2: if we sat down and we could in two hours,

936
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 2: we could have created a list of really authentic values

937
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 2: that really meant something to him. But if we don't

938
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: create some tools and we don't look for the spaces

939
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 2: to how to use them number one, and we don't

940
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:28,240
Speaker 2: look for the spaces where there are challenges or opportunities,

941
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 2: then it's not worth anything in the end, and it

942
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:32,800
Speaker 2: ends up just being something you wrote on a wall.

943
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 2: We end up in the space where lots of people

944
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 2: are in the culture where they say this is what

945
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 2: they believe, but it's not really practical. So we want

946
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 2: to create mindset tools, actual tools, so that you can

947
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 2: put who you are and what you believe in motion.

948
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 2: Your value system should be a force multiplier in your life.

949
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 2: It shouldn't. It shouldn't be a safety net.

950
00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: You should.

951
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:57,360
Speaker 2: I'm interested in dudes who can play offense. Not that

952
00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 2: there's nothing wrong defense, but you know what I mean

953
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,520
Speaker 2: to you, You know what I mean, And we want to

954
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 2: be able to carry the weight for the people that

955
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 2: we love. I want to stand in the gap for

956
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 2: the people that I'm committed to being there for I

957
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:12,880
Speaker 2: want to make that sacrifice, but I also want to

958
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:16,719
Speaker 2: stay on track regarding my emotions and the things that

959
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 2: I know that will easily distract me. If I don't

960
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 2: have this, Jim Henzel's I'm gonna screw up. I guarantee you.

961
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 3: And you said when you say spaces, you mean like

962
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,839
Speaker 3: these hurdles that come along throughout your week.

963
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 2: Sure, Like, is that what you mean by spaces?

964
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:33,719
Speaker 3: If we don't find the spaces to implement these core

965
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:35,800
Speaker 3: values that we're going to defaul to, are those the things.

966
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 2: You're talking about, We've got to make them working tools, Gotcha.

967
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 2: It's got to be language, and it's got to be

968
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 2: something that we know how to put into action. I'm

969
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 2: just something we write on when those moments are happening. Yeah,

970
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:45,719
Speaker 2: let me let me give you an example. In the

971
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 2: very beginning, after I went through all that that that

972
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 2: emotion and struggle and my wife leaves, I made a commitment.

973
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 2: Now listen, people, this is not about what you believe,

974
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:00,879
Speaker 2: or you believe or anybody else leaves. I'm talking about

975
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 2: what I believe and how I applied it to my life, sure,

976
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 2: and how I wanted to own it so people can

977
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 2: judge me, however, and they judge me, and I don't care,

978
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 2: don't care. I want that for you too. In my

979
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 2: greatest moment of opportunity, darkest hour, I need to know

980
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 2: who the hell I am, so in that space back

981
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 2: in the day, I decided I wasn't gonna have sex

982
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:24,240
Speaker 2: with single moms based on my code. Whether you believe

983
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 2: that or not, that's just why I decided I'm gonna

984
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 2: be I'm single right now, and I'm gonna I'm gonna

985
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 2: come home and take care of these little girls because

986
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:34,319
Speaker 2: that's what I'm supposed to do, and I'm gonna have

987
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:37,799
Speaker 2: to get this right because my mindset is gonna get

988
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: me into space where you know, I'm gonna be paying

989
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,280
Speaker 2: attention to chasing tail instead of coming home and taking

990
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 2: care of these kids. That was really real for me

991
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 2: in that space at that point in my life as

992
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:51,480
Speaker 2: a bachelor, you know, late twenties, early thirties, and so

993
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 2: I decided, based on my code, that's not what I

994
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 2: was gonna do. If it's a single mom and I

995
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 2: could take advantage of that, I'm not gonna That's not

996
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 2: what I'm going to do. And so that was a

997
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 2: rule I set for myself based on my code so

998
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 2: many many times during those years, and I got myself,

999
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:10,279
Speaker 2: and I won't tell the whole story, but I got

1000
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 2: myself in all kinds of spots where you know, like, man,

1001
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,240
Speaker 2: you can't be here, bro, Like that's against the code.

1002
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,239
Speaker 2: There is no strength and honor in what you're saying.

1003
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 2: You're not gonna take advantage of that right now. That's

1004
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 2: not somebody according to your code that you believed. I

1005
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 2: don't want that done to me as a single dad

1006
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 2: out there trying to take care of kids, fighting and

1007
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:32,239
Speaker 2: battling for that, and that's not what I'm going to

1008
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: do as a man. That's just not a choice. Even

1009
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 2: though my emotions say let's get into this, my values

1010
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: say hey, no, no, no, let's not take advantage of

1011
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:44,720
Speaker 2: that right now. And it kept me on a track,

1012
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 2: especially relationship wise, early in those days. That you know,

1013
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 2: allowed me to stay on course and make choices and

1014
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 2: decisions that were based on my values, not just my emotions.

1015
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 2: That's very a simple place that I used at early

1016
00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 2: and now twenty years later, it's grown and developed and

1017
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 2: means other things. But that's where I started, and that's

1018
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 2: where I am. Now, that's how practical it was to

1019
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 2: me in that day. Is there any strengthened honor in

1020
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: that gym? Well, obviously my value system says no, but

1021
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:16,480
Speaker 2: my emotions say, hell yeah, get into that. Well, what

1022
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:17,759
Speaker 2: are you gonna do? You're gonna be the man who

1023
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 2: said you'd live by what you believed? Or are you're

1024
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:22,879
Speaker 2: going to allow that motion and that momentum to put

1025
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 2: you in a space. At least what I had at

1026
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 2: that moment was a fighting chance because I had some

1027
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 2: language in my life. I wasn't gonna I wasn't going

1028
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 2: to get into it the next day and be like, man,

1029
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:35,880
Speaker 2: I really wish I wouldn't have done that. And I

1030
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 2: found myself in positions where it really could have destroyed

1031
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 2: my life if I would allowed my emotions to run

1032
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 2: away in those moments. So we want to vulnerable like that? Well,

1033
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 2: I mean it's part of the story, right of the story. Strong,

1034
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 2: I'm in a space where I really don't I really

1035
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 2: don't care. I want and I want you to be

1036
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 2: in that space. I want you to care. I want

1037
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,440
Speaker 2: it to be important to you, yes, but I also

1038
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 2: want you to be in a space where you know

1039
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 2: who you are regardless confident you are. Your choices and

1040
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 2: decisions are locked in to who you are and what

1041
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:09,359
Speaker 2: you believe, and then the important people around you. Those

1042
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:12,680
Speaker 2: values overlap and you can make choices and decisions together.

1043
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:15,239
Speaker 2: My wife and I can come together and who she

1044
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 2: is and who she be in my game, values, talents,

1045
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 2: and purpose are a little bit different than mine, but

1046
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 2: our values overlap. And in that space, man, we do

1047
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:24,320
Speaker 2: good work dirty, right.

1048
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 3: And those people who you don't necessarily align with, you're

1049
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 3: so confident in who you are. It's like you might

1050
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 3: explain it once, but you don't feel like you have

1051
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 3: to explain yourself.

1052
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:33,960
Speaker 2: Like okay, man, Like no, and I'm not offended, right.

1053
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 2: Everybody gets to kind of believe who they are. That's

1054
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:37,799
Speaker 2: the beautiful thing about who we are and where we're

1055
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 2: at as free individuals. Yeah, everybody gets to do that,

1056
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:44,359
Speaker 2: and I want everybody to to be able to use

1057
00:49:44,440 --> 00:49:45,040
Speaker 2: that freedom.

1058
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 4: It's important the But I think the interesting thing to

1059
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:52,360
Speaker 4: note here is that you want to You want everybody

1060
00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 4: to express what they who they be and stand up

1061
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 4: for what they believe in.

1062
00:49:56,600 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 1: But so many people, especially stay and age.

1063
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 4: Are not at all clearly defined in what they truly believe,

1064
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 4: And that's why it is the age old quote of

1065
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 4: believe in something or your fault or anything, right, So

1066
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 4: you know exactly what you believe in, what your strength

1067
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 4: and honor code is, what exactly who you be, so

1068
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 4: that you can filter all of that in everything that

1069
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 4: you do. And I think that's where that's where the

1070
00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 4: process has helped me so much. I mean, like I said,

1071
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 4: I felt like I was more defined than most. And

1072
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 4: that's why you said, it's not this is not for

1073
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:31,399
Speaker 4: somebody who's one thousand percent completely lost.

1074
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: Necessarily you can be you can have it all together.

1075
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:37,240
Speaker 4: I feel like I have had it all together ish right,

1076
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 4: but I want to take it to the next level.

1077
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:41,880
Speaker 4: I want to go even more on the offense. And

1078
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 4: I don't, by any means have it all together. But

1079
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 4: I was not in a dark, dark space. But I

1080
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 4: also was so far away from what God has designed

1081
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:55,360
Speaker 4: me to be, so far away from from the values,

1082
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:57,720
Speaker 4: the talents and the purpose that God that has designed

1083
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 4: in my heart and all my life. And I feel

1084
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,440
Speaker 4: like I'm starting to scratch that service even more and

1085
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 4: now I can see it more than I ever had

1086
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 4: in my entire life.

1087
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 2: Hopefully I didn't say it wrong. I want to be clear.

1088
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with counseling. There's nothing wrong with the psychologists.

1089
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with any of that, and that's important

1090
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 2: and it's important part of our culture and people people

1091
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 2: should utilize that as they as they need it. This

1092
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 2: doesn't replace that, Okay, you know what I mean? Yes, absolutely,

1093
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 2: I need I need somebody who has some self awareness

1094
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:27,279
Speaker 2: and is actually really to do some hard work because

1095
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:29,799
Speaker 2: it's hard. It's hard work, so you don't want to

1096
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 2: help yourself.

1097
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:33,080
Speaker 3: It's gonna it's just gonna be hard as shit to

1098
00:51:33,880 --> 00:51:35,800
Speaker 3: you know, work with somebody like you or have somebody

1099
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 3: there that wants to hold you accountable. But if you

1100
00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 3: truly can't figure out how to hold yourself accountable right

1101
00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 3: and there, you're not gonna you can't be worked on that. Well.

1102
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:46,799
Speaker 2: Yet, something I really I really admire about Michael is

1103
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:49,960
Speaker 2: that he's a he's a faith guy. That's an important

1104
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 2: it's an important part of his life. It's it's key,

1105
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:56,879
Speaker 2: and it's foundational and who he is and what he believes. Okay,

1106
00:51:56,960 --> 00:52:00,319
Speaker 2: all right, So if that is true, then can you

1107
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:05,319
Speaker 2: really clearly define that and connect that to something that's

1108
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 2: very real and it's something that you're actively, actively, practically

1109
00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 2: using in your life, or is it oversimplified ideology? Because

1110
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 2: I was a faith guy back in the day who

1111
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:20,920
Speaker 2: was just spouting off words that meant nothing to me,

1112
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 2: and I don't really live it out. I didn't know

1113
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 2: how to live it out. And it was because somebody

1114
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:26,759
Speaker 2: else said it, but I didn't own any of it.

1115
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:28,800
Speaker 2: So it really kind of made me more of a

1116
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 2: hypocrite and it certainly wasn't a force multiplier.

1117
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 3: I've had some verses like memorize again, I recall on

1118
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 3: and talk about right.

1119
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:39,959
Speaker 2: So when we're when we addressed this idea, I didn't

1120
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 2: tell him the faith was important. He just said it was, Okay,

1121
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 2: now define that. What does that really mean in your life?

1122
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 2: And is it something that you're actually using in your life?

1123
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 2: And then past that, what are the other values in

1124
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 2: your life? You know, what are the other things that

1125
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 2: if you're telling me and Mike Michael would say that

1126
00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:02,960
Speaker 2: face a foundational strength value in his life. Okay, that's

1127
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,239
Speaker 2: the case. Then what are the other things in your

1128
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 2: life that make that meaningful? Right? What are the other

1129
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 2: values and how does that How does this idea of

1130
00:53:11,920 --> 00:53:13,840
Speaker 2: faith in your life how do you use it in

1131
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 2: the weaknesses in your life? And then how does it

1132
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 2: affect your future? Or are you just going to quote

1133
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:22,279
Speaker 2: some scripture at me it doesn't really mean a whole lot, right,

1134
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:23,879
Speaker 2: and then you're just going to roll out of here

1135
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 2: and that I'm not down with you know, Yeah, go ahead, Yeah,

1136
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 2: I was gonna say.

1137
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 3: Now you have all of this stuff clearly defined, you

1138
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 3: have it in language.

1139
00:53:34,920 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 2: People, you start to figure out, you're starting to learn

1140
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 2: a lot more about yourself.

1141
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 3: Right, and now, when you have all these tools and

1142
00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:45,520
Speaker 3: you have all this kind of standard created, do you

1143
00:53:47,280 --> 00:53:50,480
Speaker 3: repetitively constantly measure it week in and week out?

1144
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:52,400
Speaker 2: Right? Or when you go through a fight.

1145
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 3: Or whoever you're working with like or rich like a workouts,

1146
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:58,880
Speaker 3: or if you're trying to hit these measurables, are you

1147
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:01,480
Speaker 3: looking at that? Are you looking at results a lot

1148
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 3: from this language that you've written down, or no matter

1149
00:54:05,200 --> 00:54:07,319
Speaker 3: what the result is, you're still always trying to live

1150
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 3: in those in this code that you've written in the

1151
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:11,319
Speaker 3: language and being clear you know what I mean. So

1152
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 3: an example, say you don't hit something, or say you

1153
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:19,799
Speaker 3: lose a title fight, what's the next mentoring session look like?

1154
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:23,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a great question. The goal in the end

1155
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:26,120
Speaker 2: is to spend all this time going through these mental

1156
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,840
Speaker 2: challenges and creating the language, and then arriving at the

1157
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 2: last part of this process where you condense it down

1158
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 2: to single words that mean all of that, that mean

1159
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:40,879
Speaker 2: everything that you've just written your code. Write your own

1160
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:42,920
Speaker 2: code gotch you so that you know what it is,

1161
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 2: the Strength and Honor code meaning my purpose statement. My

1162
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 2: name is James Dean Hensel. I'm a son of God.

1163
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 2: I'm a challenger, exhorder and an encourager. I will run

1164
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 2: to the battle for in the battle I find peace.

1165
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:58,280
Speaker 2: I'm the father of Taylor and Brittany, daughters of Promise.

1166
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:02,759
Speaker 2: That means something. I'm the husband of Christen Hensel. FG.

1167
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 2: That really means something. There's this statement that I can

1168
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:10,319
Speaker 2: say quickly that is extremely impactful in my life. And

1169
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 2: then I can go through the core values. If you

1170
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 2: get me started talking about the core values, we'll be

1171
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:17,680
Speaker 2: here for two days. Those are that's language that I

1172
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:20,360
Speaker 2: know about me and how to use it in my life.

1173
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:22,000
Speaker 2: And then when you bring them to a few words

1174
00:55:22,040 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 2: and you bring him down, well, bring it down to

1175
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 2: fight fights in my fights in my core values. It's

1176
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:30,799
Speaker 2: in his too. He just defines it different. Okay, he

1177
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 2: just defines it different, and what it means to him

1178
00:55:32,520 --> 00:55:34,040
Speaker 2: is a little bit different than what it means to me.

1179
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 2: So we bring it all the way back to a

1180
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:40,440
Speaker 2: core value with authentic language that means something, not the dictionary,

1181
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:42,400
Speaker 2: not what your dad said, or your pastors said, or

1182
00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:45,200
Speaker 2: any of those people, but what you believe. And then

1183
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:49,319
Speaker 2: a mission statement I culture, I will I can do

1184
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 2: it in thirty seconds, just like Maximus did in my

1185
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 2: greatest moment of opportunity, darkest hour. I sure tell know

1186
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:58,239
Speaker 2: who I am that no one can ever take away

1187
00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 2: from me. So you want to put it into that

1188
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:03,040
Speaker 2: format so that you can quickly. I mean, if I

1189
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 2: literally said to you right now, will define yourself, tell

1190
00:56:06,280 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 2: me purpose, tell me values, and then tell me how

1191
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 2: you you know, tell me in language what you're gonna

1192
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 2: do with it. Could you do it in thirty seconds

1193
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 2: or less? I know that's not fair because you haven't.

1194
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 3: But these are what your clients, These are what your

1195
00:56:17,200 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 3: people you work with. This is the this is what

1196
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 3: this is the goal to get to.

1197
00:56:20,600 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 2: That's the goal.

1198
00:56:21,239 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 3: Now. Once you have that goal, right now, how do

1199
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 3: you use it, and how do you how do you

1200
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 3: uh act, you know, how do you grow to work? Yeah?

1201
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 2: How do you put it to work? And how do

1202
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:32,239
Speaker 2: you grow it? Values should be breathing and growing at

1203
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:34,880
Speaker 2: all times. What what it meant? Family? My definition of

1204
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,959
Speaker 2: family meant one thing prior to being married, it meant

1205
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:40,879
Speaker 2: one thing after being divorced, it meant the next thing

1206
00:56:40,920 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 2: after being a father, and now I'm looking at grandkids

1207
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 2: here in the future probably, And it's been living, breathing,

1208
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 2: and growing in my life at least once a year.

1209
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:54,480
Speaker 2: I'm coming back to redefining and updating and deciding what's

1210
00:56:54,560 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 2: valuable about the things I believe in.

1211
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 3: Now when you say you're redefining and updating, all right,

1212
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 3: I know you can talk about your core values and

1213
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:02,399
Speaker 3: stuff like that.

1214
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:07,280
Speaker 2: Are you also alluding to goals and big big stuff

1215
00:57:07,280 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 2: that's kind of for sure? That makes you uncomfortable, for sure.

1216
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:12,520
Speaker 2: So in the value system, we have what we call

1217
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:16,320
Speaker 2: strength values. These are big rocks, okay, big things that

1218
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:19,480
Speaker 2: I know probably don't change very much other than updating.

1219
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 2: I've got this idea of weakness values. These are values

1220
00:57:22,560 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 2: that address my limitations, the stories in my life that

1221
00:57:26,280 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 2: are negative. So that's important for me. I was a

1222
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 2: worrier and the word hope is extremely meaningful to me

1223
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:34,880
Speaker 2: in the way that I've defined it, So that's a

1224
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:36,919
Speaker 2: big deal to me. I worked hard to go from

1225
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:40,440
Speaker 2: being a warrier who was left, who didn't do what

1226
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 2: he thought he would do in life to being a

1227
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:44,880
Speaker 2: very hopeful person. And it took fighting for it. Yes,

1228
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 2: the next kind of an ideal or value I call

1229
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 2: an ideal value, and those are more connected to goals,

1230
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:52,880
Speaker 2: and those change for me every year. Right this year,

1231
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 2: I talked about freedom in a big way. I took

1232
00:57:54,880 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 2: this whole entire year to define what freedom means to me,

1233
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 2: something I've been reading about, studying about connecting to my life,

1234
00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 2: so that when this year ends, I'm going to have

1235
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 2: a really good idea about what freedom means to me.

1236
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:07,960
Speaker 2: Do you are you? It is October? Now? How are

1237
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:11,440
Speaker 2: you feeling about freedom? Right now? It's huge. I mean,

1238
00:58:11,640 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 2: I've thought about it from what it means as a country,

1239
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:18,760
Speaker 2: what I believe as well. The first thing is I

1240
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:21,560
Speaker 2: think we have a freedom problem and that people don't

1241
00:58:21,560 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 2: know how to be free, okay, and that freedom destroys us.

1242
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,200
Speaker 2: We're just we don't know how to operate and live

1243
00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 2: inside of that. I see people who have been given

1244
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:33,040
Speaker 2: this right to make choices and decisions, and a lot

1245
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:34,280
Speaker 2: of people do really well with it, and a lot

1246
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:36,479
Speaker 2: of people don't. So for me, how do I stay

1247
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 2: connected inside of freedom? How do I maximize freedom? I've

1248
00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 2: thought about it at a government level and what I

1249
00:58:40,960 --> 00:58:44,160
Speaker 2: believe about that, and a lot of people go there immediately.

1250
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:47,120
Speaker 2: I've thought about what it means in my finances so

1251
00:58:47,160 --> 00:58:48,560
Speaker 2: I can get ahead and be where I want to

1252
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 2: be and what I want to do. I've thought about

1253
00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:52,400
Speaker 2: it as it relates to my relationships, and then I

1254
00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:57,200
Speaker 2: walked it all the way down to in the morning

1255
00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,920
Speaker 2: when I get out of bed. Your process well, actually,

1256
00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 2: actually even deeper. Am I being influenced immediately? Or am

1257
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 2: I an influencer if I put my feet on the floor.

1258
00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:10,120
Speaker 2: What I realized was as soon as I went to

1259
00:59:10,160 --> 00:59:13,280
Speaker 2: social media, soon as I went to email. That's not nefarious,

1260
00:59:13,280 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 2: it's not bad. But all of a sudden, I am

1261
00:59:15,120 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 2: now following that influence. Instead of having some space for

1262
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:22,280
Speaker 2: me to be free, for my feet to hit the

1263
00:59:22,320 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 2: ground and be free, I'm going to go outside and

1264
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:27,040
Speaker 2: I'm going to shoot my bow for thirty minutes and

1265
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 2: just be quiet and be okay in the quiet, so

1266
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 2: that when I connect to my day and the things

1267
00:59:32,720 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 2: that I think are valuable and purposeful, I'm doing it

1268
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 2: as an influencer. I'm taking it in the way that

1269
00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 2: I want to take it. And I think here's a

1270
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:43,440
Speaker 2: huge mistake inside of freedom that most of us, and

1271
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 2: many of us would say, if we're honest, Holy smokes,

1272
00:59:46,840 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 2: there's no space to really really be influencing and free.

1273
00:59:50,920 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 2: So that's how deep I've thought about it. I like that,

1274
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:56,480
Speaker 2: what is something that you've written down? What is it

1275
00:59:56,520 --> 01:00:01,880
Speaker 2: called idea? Idea goal or idea? Yeah? Ideal values, ideal values?

1276
01:00:02,040 --> 01:00:03,880
Speaker 2: What what's like a goal you've written down?

1277
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 1: Wait, an ideal value?

1278
01:00:06,280 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 2: Yeah? I could go when he.

1279
01:00:07,160 --> 01:00:10,080
Speaker 1: Told wanness or I want value?

1280
01:00:10,560 --> 01:00:11,240
Speaker 2: I think for me?

1281
01:00:13,120 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 4: See see what the the beautiful thing about this is

1282
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 4: say a word that I'm about to say right now

1283
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:22,400
Speaker 4: might seem different, but because of the shortcomings of my past,

1284
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:27,120
Speaker 4: like because I want a want value for me, I

1285
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,840
Speaker 4: think was because we're at the process right now where

1286
01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:34,160
Speaker 4: I think I have right now he's actuel and I'm

1287
01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:36,640
Speaker 4: and and yesterday we went through a couple of different definitions.

1288
01:00:36,680 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 1: I have three different definitions of the.

1289
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:42,400
Speaker 4: Word reliability or stability, you know. For for me, the

1290
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Speaker 4: biggest the biggest deterrent in my life has been other

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Speaker 4: people's expectations or not believing in myself enough or playing small,

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Speaker 4: you know.

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Speaker 2: So, so the.

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Speaker 4: Ideas of my want value of being author authentic, the

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Speaker 4: want value of being free.

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Speaker 1: And just for me, just being being free.

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Speaker 4: To know that that there was a There was an

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Speaker 4: almighty God that created me in his image. And since

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Speaker 4: I was born, I have not been living free. I

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01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:16,040
Speaker 4: have not been there's There has been numerous times in

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Speaker 4: my life where I've seen glimpses of it and glimmers

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Speaker 4: of it, and those are some of the greatest moments

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Speaker 4: of my life. A couple of fights ago against Gothyamuchi,

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01:01:22,840 --> 01:01:25,520
Speaker 4: which you guys didn't see the fight, but in that

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01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:28,320
Speaker 4: moment I felt the most free I had ever been

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01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:32,280
Speaker 4: inside of that cage, within my purpose, within my do

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01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 4: and being close to one hundred percent of who God

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01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:38,760
Speaker 4: designed me to be. But it only comes out in glimpses,

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01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:43,720
Speaker 4: you know, so, being able to be defined and be

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Speaker 4: able to give that important trade outs of the world.

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Speaker 3: But what is what is a one like what does

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Speaker 3: that look like in a in a result form?

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Speaker 2: And don't you guys might not even talk about a

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Speaker 2: result form.

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Speaker 1: No, really, well for sure, but we don't. We don't

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Speaker 1: have a lot of goals.

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Speaker 4: Hey by the end, you know in twenty twenty, I'm

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Speaker 4: gonna do this and no, I honestly, it's all about me.

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Speaker 1: Who is Michael Chandler going to be?

1320
01:02:05,080 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 3: Who is It's all about well, it's I.

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Speaker 1: It's identity.

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Speaker 4: And one of the greatest things that you said too,

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01:02:12,640 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 4: is is you know, because we talked about because one

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Speaker 4: of my biggest fears and one of the things that

1325
01:02:17,160 --> 01:02:19,600
Speaker 4: has helped me back is sometimes and not that which

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Speaker 4: this is the cool thing about our process. We don't

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Speaker 4: do quotes, and we don't do scripture, right, cute.

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Speaker 1: Faith guy, Christian.

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Speaker 4: But I was not going to do this process based

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Speaker 4: upon this scripture or that scripture or this quote loves

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01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:35,360
Speaker 4: zig Ziglar.

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Speaker 1: I love Tony Rabbins love.

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Speaker 4: But I'm I'm not going to use these different quotes

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Speaker 4: right because I'm that's where I always default to.

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Speaker 1: So we had to we had to.

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Speaker 4: Put the kabash on that just for this process, just

1337
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Speaker 4: for the game. Then when we get done, then we

1338
01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 4: can continue to move into that. But for me, playing small,

1339
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 4: you know you, playing small doesn't do anybody a favor.

1340
01:02:54,440 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 4: There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people don't

1341
01:02:56,600 --> 01:02:59,480
Speaker 4: feel insecure around you. And my whole entire life I

1342
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:03,120
Speaker 4: was I have been afraid to be the best at

1343
01:03:03,160 --> 01:03:06,640
Speaker 4: something for the fear of how it may affect you negatively,

1344
01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 4: or how it may affect you negatively, or how you

1345
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 4: might not feel great about yourself because of how dominant

1346
01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:13,760
Speaker 4: I just was. Sounds a little bit crazy because I've

1347
01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:15,720
Speaker 4: been in hand hand combat since I was fourteen years old,

1348
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:18,000
Speaker 4: and my goal is to go out there and break

1349
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 4: somebody and hurt somebody now in a cage in front

1350
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:24,720
Speaker 4: of millions of people. So for me, that was always

1351
01:03:25,120 --> 01:03:28,920
Speaker 4: that has always been one of my things is not

1352
01:03:29,120 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 4: coming off to cocky. And one of the most profound

1353
01:03:31,880 --> 01:03:33,320
Speaker 4: things that you said to me in this he said, well,

1354
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:37,520
Speaker 4: the antidote to cockiness is being defined. There's nothing wrong

1355
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 4: with being defined. Even though when you sit there and

1356
01:03:40,200 --> 01:03:42,840
Speaker 4: you say I am James Dean Hensel, I am this, this, this,

1357
01:03:43,640 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 4: and if there was one hundred people sitting here, they'll

1358
01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:47,160
Speaker 4: be like, man, that's a little bit weird this guy

1359
01:03:47,560 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 4: because because confidence breeds insecurity, like right, we are sometimes

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01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:56,760
Speaker 4: afraid to be around somebody who is that confident, you know, And.

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Speaker 1: I think that's a problem with society these days. We

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01:04:00,000 --> 01:04:01,280
Speaker 1: look at these people who are who are.

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Speaker 4: So defined and they're so confident in themselves that we shrink.

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Speaker 4: And I believe the human spirit was created for so

1365
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:12,720
Speaker 4: much more, that we were all designed to be put

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Speaker 4: on this earth to be over overwhelmingly being able to

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Speaker 4: achieve abundantly and overwhelmingly.

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Speaker 1: More than we ever could have thought or imagine.

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Speaker 4: And that's always been kind of one of one of

1370
01:04:23,200 --> 01:04:27,440
Speaker 4: my things is being afraid to be too successful around

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01:04:27,480 --> 01:04:30,600
Speaker 4: people for fear of what it may make them feel

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Speaker 4: like because of the way you were raised.

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Speaker 2: Because honestly, of some of those things, goals come next.

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01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 2: Goals are important. What we're working out here is identity, correct.

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Speaker 3: Correct, I'm saying we have identity taken care of. When

1376
01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 3: do goals come in next?

1377
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Speaker 2: So now we want to take whatever it is that

1378
01:04:47,600 --> 01:04:50,520
Speaker 2: you say you want to do. Yes, whatever it is

1379
01:04:50,560 --> 01:04:55,760
Speaker 2: that you're the task, task, job, emotion, whatever that is

1380
01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:58,160
Speaker 2: that you want to make happen in your life. What

1381
01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 2: I care about is that you formulate did this platform

1382
01:05:00,880 --> 01:05:03,520
Speaker 2: of strength so that we can connect to that in

1383
01:05:03,560 --> 01:05:04,520
Speaker 2: an authentic way.

1384
01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:08,360
Speaker 3: Right, And now I want I'm asking the question, what

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01:05:08,600 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 3: are these goals that have happened for what are these

1386
01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:15,640
Speaker 3: goals in twenty nineteen, like for me, for any example

1387
01:05:15,680 --> 01:05:19,160
Speaker 3: from me a goal with busting with the boys, not

1388
01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 3: even busting with the boys. But somebody looked at in

1389
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:23,680
Speaker 3: my journal was that I was going to be one

1390
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Speaker 3: of the first players slash coaches because at this point

1391
01:05:26,320 --> 01:05:28,800
Speaker 3: in time, I knew my transition point was when I'm

1392
01:05:28,840 --> 01:05:31,800
Speaker 3: done with football get into coaching. But when I was

1393
01:05:31,840 --> 01:05:34,320
Speaker 3: looking back in my journal, it was be one of

1394
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Speaker 3: the first player slash coach to have a podcast with

1395
01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:42,040
Speaker 3: a million all time downloads. Right, So now I start

1396
01:05:42,080 --> 01:05:44,840
Speaker 3: with the end in mind and kind of backtrack on

1397
01:05:44,880 --> 01:05:48,000
Speaker 3: what that looks like in a formulated process for who

1398
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:51,360
Speaker 3: I'm surrounding myself with what we believe, like what I believe,

1399
01:05:51,440 --> 01:05:53,840
Speaker 3: how we're gonna get there taking those steps, but starting

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Speaker 3: with the end in mind, what are some of those

1401
01:05:56,600 --> 01:05:59,640
Speaker 3: result ends in mind? Now that you've built a strong foundation,

1402
01:06:00,000 --> 01:06:02,000
Speaker 3: because I love I love how you're putting that, because

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01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:05,480
Speaker 3: you're giving me a whole perspective on being intentional with

1404
01:06:05,520 --> 01:06:09,240
Speaker 3: who you're defining yourself as us. Now we've we're learning

1405
01:06:09,280 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 3: to define ourselves based on this conversation.

1406
01:06:11,840 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 2: Now, what can people do to.

1407
01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:15,920
Speaker 3: Have these goals that you're going to look at be

1408
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:18,680
Speaker 3: kind of scared to go after, but how you stay

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01:06:18,720 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 3: intention on that process to get there?

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01:06:20,400 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 2: Let's talk about two ways. First, let's talk I want

1411
01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:25,120
Speaker 2: because I want to speak specifically about you, and I

1412
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:29,520
Speaker 2: want to talk about Michael real quick. All the things

1413
01:06:29,560 --> 01:06:33,680
Speaker 2: that he's doing as a fighter, training, eating right people,

1414
01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:37,919
Speaker 2: he surrounds himself, all that super important. Let's let's narrow

1415
01:06:37,960 --> 01:06:40,720
Speaker 2: it all the way to the moment and we've all

1416
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:43,520
Speaker 2: seen it on pay per view when he's walking from

1417
01:06:43,560 --> 01:06:47,200
Speaker 2: the tunnel, the music's playing and he's stepping in the cage,

1418
01:06:47,440 --> 01:06:49,760
Speaker 2: and in the culture that we live in, there's no

1419
01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:53,919
Speaker 2: bigger moment. Correct one percent, it's man versus man. Heart

1420
01:06:53,920 --> 01:06:57,000
Speaker 2: starts beating a little more, somebody's somebody's going down in

1421
01:06:57,040 --> 01:06:59,479
Speaker 2: that moment. So those two men or women for that matter,

1422
01:06:59,520 --> 01:07:02,040
Speaker 2: have put this in a position where, foreshore in front

1423
01:07:02,080 --> 01:07:05,480
Speaker 2: of the world, someone's going to be embarrassed, or someone's

1424
01:07:05,520 --> 01:07:08,640
Speaker 2: at least going to be seen as the loser, and

1425
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:11,120
Speaker 2: lots of people in our culture want to avoid that.

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01:07:11,440 --> 01:07:16,000
Speaker 2: He doesn't want to avoid that. In his design. There's

1427
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 2: this idea of tenacious is the word he used, or

1428
01:07:19,440 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 2: competitor that kind of pours out of him. And so

1429
01:07:21,480 --> 01:07:24,400
Speaker 2: he was really kind of born to be in that space.

1430
01:07:24,520 --> 01:07:28,120
Speaker 2: And that's not everybody, man, it's just yea factor. He's

1431
01:07:28,120 --> 01:07:29,840
Speaker 2: in a what is it? I don't know what's the

1432
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:31,920
Speaker 2: percentage half a percent of the people on the planet

1433
01:07:31,960 --> 01:07:33,800
Speaker 2: that will go into a cage and do that. Probably

1434
01:07:34,120 --> 01:07:36,640
Speaker 2: it's not me, not a lot. He has smaller than that.

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01:07:36,880 --> 01:07:39,720
Speaker 3: It's so we have eleven guys on a team, right,

1436
01:07:39,800 --> 01:07:41,920
Speaker 3: and it's like there's a one percent I don't know,

1437
01:07:41,960 --> 01:07:43,560
Speaker 3: a weird number, but it's even smaller with.

1438
01:07:43,560 --> 01:07:46,960
Speaker 2: The UFC dudes. I sorry not UFC MMA, right, disrespect.

1439
01:07:47,280 --> 01:07:50,840
Speaker 2: So so he's he's been He has that innate ability

1440
01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:54,040
Speaker 2: insigned him and inside him mentally, and it's actually a

1441
01:07:54,080 --> 01:07:56,400
Speaker 2: talent he's been given it. It's it's something that he

1442
01:07:56,440 --> 01:07:59,200
Speaker 2: didn't really work. He's worked to cultivate it and craft

1443
01:07:59,240 --> 01:08:02,080
Speaker 2: it and get better at it, creating some mindset tools.

1444
01:08:02,080 --> 01:08:04,840
Speaker 2: But it's actually in him who want to discover that

1445
01:08:04,880 --> 01:08:06,880
Speaker 2: we call that purpose. You know, I want to know

1446
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:09,640
Speaker 2: what that is. Purpose in your life, you've experienced it.

1447
01:08:09,920 --> 01:08:13,000
Speaker 2: You're a limited group of people who can be on

1448
01:08:13,400 --> 01:08:16,479
Speaker 2: the field in the NFL and make that happen. And

1449
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:19,519
Speaker 2: you don't really have to try. I'm not saying you

1450
01:08:19,560 --> 01:08:20,880
Speaker 2: haven't worked hard at the X and Z and o's

1451
01:08:20,880 --> 01:08:22,599
Speaker 2: and you haven't worked at mindset skills, but it kind

1452
01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:25,360
Speaker 2: of pours out of you. You're either a competitor and

1453
01:08:25,479 --> 01:08:27,559
Speaker 2: you can get off the block and you can make

1454
01:08:27,560 --> 01:08:30,120
Speaker 2: the tackle, or you can't and they'll find somebody who

1455
01:08:30,120 --> 01:08:34,320
Speaker 2: can if you can't. So this is the understanding. What

1456
01:08:34,800 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 2: I care about is that when he goes to train

1457
01:08:37,240 --> 01:08:40,920
Speaker 2: every day, he remembers his identity, whatever his goals is

1458
01:08:40,960 --> 01:08:43,360
Speaker 2: for the day, if he's wrestling, if he's doing jiu

1459
01:08:43,400 --> 01:08:45,880
Speaker 2: jitsu that day, whatever he's got going on that day,

1460
01:08:46,080 --> 01:08:49,640
Speaker 2: that he brings the authentic version of who he is

1461
01:08:49,680 --> 01:08:52,920
Speaker 2: and his belief system into that space so that he's

1462
01:08:52,960 --> 01:08:55,479
Speaker 2: operating from that position of strength. And what I really

1463
01:08:55,520 --> 01:08:59,599
Speaker 2: care about is whatever's going through his mind, Because there's

1464
01:08:59,640 --> 01:09:01,640
Speaker 2: something going through his mind when he goes from the

1465
01:09:01,680 --> 01:09:06,280
Speaker 2: tunnel to the cage that that's way connected to his

1466
01:09:06,400 --> 01:09:10,280
Speaker 2: identity because I don't know whether he's gonna win or lose, right, yeah,

1467
01:09:10,320 --> 01:09:12,840
Speaker 2: for sure, that's not written for sure. But what we

1468
01:09:12,920 --> 01:09:15,080
Speaker 2: want to be in opportunity and adversity is.

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01:09:15,040 --> 01:09:18,360
Speaker 3: Authentic, and you make sure you're somebody who makes sure

1470
01:09:18,400 --> 01:09:21,360
Speaker 3: he stays that authentic self in those moments from the

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01:09:21,400 --> 01:09:24,320
Speaker 3: walk from the tunnel to the cage and when he's

1472
01:09:24,360 --> 01:09:25,440
Speaker 3: in the cage.

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01:09:25,160 --> 01:09:26,840
Speaker 2: That's what you are there for.

1474
01:09:27,080 --> 01:09:33,000
Speaker 3: Most Now, I'm asking you what are your what's your

1475
01:09:33,120 --> 01:09:36,880
Speaker 3: individual goal as a fighter to allow him to say, hey,

1476
01:09:36,960 --> 01:09:39,200
Speaker 3: these are things I'm also one thing as we're working

1477
01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:42,679
Speaker 3: on being intentional in these moments. Right, He's not there

1478
01:09:42,680 --> 01:09:45,200
Speaker 3: to be a raw ray remember three time world, three

1479
01:09:45,240 --> 01:09:48,679
Speaker 3: time defending champ, right or all these chasing world titles.

1480
01:09:48,680 --> 01:09:50,720
Speaker 2: He's not raw raw And hey, remember these are the goals.

1481
01:09:50,720 --> 01:09:52,680
Speaker 3: These are the goals. He's talking about being intentional in

1482
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:56,280
Speaker 3: these moments. But what are some Michael Chandler goals that

1483
01:09:56,320 --> 01:09:58,800
Speaker 3: you're laying in bed at night and thinking, this is

1484
01:09:58,800 --> 01:10:00,920
Speaker 3: what I want to accomplish either this week, this month

1485
01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 3: or in fighting.

1486
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:08,479
Speaker 1: I mean, I actually, I mean, don't don't mistake this process.

1487
01:10:08,560 --> 01:10:12,040
Speaker 1: This process is not about the goals, right, no, yes,

1488
01:10:12,080 --> 01:10:15,040
Speaker 1: okay for me, for me, okay, yeah for me.

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01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:19,880
Speaker 4: Honestly, mine has all been I've never lost to a

1490
01:10:19,920 --> 01:10:20,880
Speaker 4: man inside of the cage.

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01:10:20,880 --> 01:10:25,160
Speaker 1: I've only lost to myself. I've never I've never I've

1492
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:27,960
Speaker 1: never lost a world title. That wasn't my doing.

1493
01:10:28,200 --> 01:10:33,000
Speaker 3: You know, if you always thought that way though your

1494
01:10:33,080 --> 01:10:36,519
Speaker 3: first fights, your first loss, you truly felt, I didn't

1495
01:10:36,560 --> 01:10:38,599
Speaker 3: lose this fight like there was back then.

1496
01:10:38,640 --> 01:10:39,920
Speaker 2: You're saying there wasn't an eagle party.

1497
01:10:39,960 --> 01:10:44,280
Speaker 4: That's no back, no back then, because back then, when

1498
01:10:44,280 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 4: I when I lost my first fight, I went, I

1499
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:47,960
Speaker 4: went into a bad spot. I went, I lost three

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Speaker 4: fights in a row, when six and eighty eight days

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01:10:50,040 --> 01:10:52,600
Speaker 4: without winning, I lost to Eddie Albarez, remember, you know,

1502
01:10:52,680 --> 01:10:55,800
Speaker 4: And then that's when I went from I went from

1503
01:10:55,960 --> 01:10:58,240
Speaker 4: the number three guy in the entire world. Michael Chandler

1504
01:10:58,280 --> 01:11:00,240
Speaker 4: is unstoppable. He needs to go fight Benson. He orson

1505
01:11:00,240 --> 01:11:00,679
Speaker 4: in the UFC.

1506
01:11:00,800 --> 01:11:02,960
Speaker 1: We think he's the best lightweight in the entire world.

1507
01:11:03,280 --> 01:11:06,439
Speaker 4: To lose an Eddie Alvarez and then buying into all

1508
01:11:06,479 --> 01:11:09,280
Speaker 4: the media, buying into we knew he wasn't as good

1509
01:11:09,280 --> 01:11:12,800
Speaker 4: as he thought he was, or in my mind, the

1510
01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:15,759
Speaker 4: little guy inside me who was kind of been whispering

1511
01:11:15,760 --> 01:11:16,240
Speaker 4: the whole time.

1512
01:11:16,280 --> 01:11:17,040
Speaker 2: Hey, you're not as.

1513
01:11:16,880 --> 01:11:17,840
Speaker 1: Good, You're not this good.

1514
01:11:17,920 --> 01:11:20,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's only a matter of time. See what these

1515
01:11:20,640 --> 01:11:22,559
Speaker 2: people are saying, Like that's truly you.

1516
01:11:22,560 --> 01:11:24,040
Speaker 1: You're just a little guy from a little town.

1517
01:11:24,080 --> 01:11:26,160
Speaker 4: He should be working at Dobb's Tires right now, Like

1518
01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:27,240
Speaker 4: that's where you should be.

1519
01:11:27,640 --> 01:11:30,439
Speaker 1: With with with stuff on your shirt.

1520
01:11:30,520 --> 01:11:32,800
Speaker 2: Am I? Enough's enough?

1521
01:11:32,960 --> 01:11:34,600
Speaker 1: And that's so.

1522
01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:37,280
Speaker 4: Back then, it was man, I lost to this guy.

1523
01:11:37,320 --> 01:11:38,760
Speaker 4: I need to go get this back. How am I

1524
01:11:38,800 --> 01:11:40,040
Speaker 4: going to beat this guy? How am I going to

1525
01:11:40,080 --> 01:11:42,960
Speaker 4: gain planning and to be able to cut the cut

1526
01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:44,200
Speaker 4: off the cage? How am I going to be able

1527
01:11:44,200 --> 01:11:45,600
Speaker 4: to have my hands up more? And I'm gonna be

1528
01:11:45,600 --> 01:11:46,080
Speaker 4: able to do this?

1529
01:11:46,080 --> 01:11:46,320
Speaker 2: This?

1530
01:11:46,320 --> 01:11:47,880
Speaker 1: This this when really.

1531
01:11:47,880 --> 01:11:50,880
Speaker 4: The real battle was inside inside my soul, inside my mind,

1532
01:11:50,880 --> 01:11:51,800
Speaker 4: inside me.

1533
01:11:51,960 --> 01:11:54,160
Speaker 1: It was it was me. It was my shortcomings and

1534
01:11:54,200 --> 01:11:58,799
Speaker 1: my self defeating prophecy of eventually you're going to lose because.

1535
01:11:58,640 --> 01:12:00,760
Speaker 4: You're not that good, you know, and that Yeah, So

1536
01:12:00,800 --> 01:12:03,120
Speaker 4: for me, it's always outperforming my previous self.

1537
01:12:03,920 --> 01:12:05,520
Speaker 1: Obviously I have not fought.

1538
01:12:05,280 --> 01:12:09,080
Speaker 4: Since Jim and I have worked together, but I would

1539
01:12:09,680 --> 01:12:11,479
Speaker 4: the way that I would see it is just for

1540
01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:13,320
Speaker 4: me to wake up every single morning. When you talk

1541
01:12:13,320 --> 01:12:15,400
Speaker 4: about freedom, when you're talking about having a clear definition,

1542
01:12:15,760 --> 01:12:17,639
Speaker 4: when I talk about just being able to walk around

1543
01:12:17,720 --> 01:12:20,320
Speaker 4: more confident knowing that I know exactly who I be,

1544
01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:23,800
Speaker 4: so in every single interaction, I can do whatever I

1545
01:12:23,840 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 4: feel at liberty to do.

1546
01:12:25,680 --> 01:12:27,760
Speaker 2: We could walk it back to yesterday and we're right

1547
01:12:27,760 --> 01:12:30,720
Speaker 2: in this spot in the process for him. And we

1548
01:12:30,760 --> 01:12:33,920
Speaker 2: talked about three words yesterday at Starbucks in cook Built, Tennessee.

1549
01:12:34,880 --> 01:12:38,519
Speaker 2: And these aren't value words. Another part of the process

1550
01:12:38,640 --> 01:12:42,320
Speaker 2: is purpose words. Okay, and and and two things that

1551
01:12:42,400 --> 01:12:45,880
Speaker 2: were identifying in Michael's life is and they are the

1552
01:12:46,000 --> 01:12:48,519
Speaker 2: opposite sides of this spectrum and who he is. It's

1553
01:12:48,560 --> 01:12:51,280
Speaker 2: not just a personality trait. It's it's more of what

1554
01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:53,200
Speaker 2: pours out of him no matter where he is or

1555
01:12:53,200 --> 01:12:56,400
Speaker 2: what he's doing. One side of it was joy and

1556
01:12:56,479 --> 01:13:00,040
Speaker 2: the and the have fun, enjoy, get crazy love. I

1557
01:13:00,240 --> 01:13:03,040
Speaker 2: loved that side of life, which if you're not that guy,

1558
01:13:04,200 --> 01:13:07,400
Speaker 2: it's robbing authenticity from you. And the other side was

1559
01:13:07,439 --> 01:13:10,960
Speaker 2: this tenacious competitive piece of who you are. And what

1560
01:13:11,080 --> 01:13:13,080
Speaker 2: was the word in the middle we talked about, which

1561
01:13:13,080 --> 01:13:17,960
Speaker 2: is discipline. It's more goal oriented how do you go

1562
01:13:18,040 --> 01:13:22,040
Speaker 2: from having a great time and that's your wife loves

1563
01:13:22,040 --> 01:13:24,120
Speaker 2: that part about you, your friends love that part about you.

1564
01:13:24,160 --> 01:13:26,160
Speaker 2: And if you're not doing that, you're not really authentic.

1565
01:13:26,200 --> 01:13:28,400
Speaker 2: And that's and that's what sets me apart from other

1566
01:13:28,520 --> 01:13:30,519
Speaker 2: riders as well. And that's and that's what we've you know,

1567
01:13:30,560 --> 01:13:32,439
Speaker 2: because I talked about over the last two years, how

1568
01:13:32,560 --> 01:13:34,240
Speaker 2: this I've had the last two years have been the

1569
01:13:34,280 --> 01:13:36,200
Speaker 2: hardest two years of my life, and it has stolen

1570
01:13:36,280 --> 01:13:40,160
Speaker 2: my joy. And I've also been the most undisciplined in

1571
01:13:40,200 --> 01:13:42,680
Speaker 2: my entire life because I've had so much to do

1572
01:13:42,720 --> 01:13:45,400
Speaker 2: that it was impossible to get it all done. Therefore,

1573
01:13:45,479 --> 01:13:47,160
Speaker 2: a I'm a failure every single day because I have

1574
01:13:47,280 --> 01:13:49,040
Speaker 2: eighty six things to check off a listen, It's going

1575
01:13:49,080 --> 01:13:52,800
Speaker 2: to be impossible. So therefore I stopped being disciplined in

1576
01:13:52,840 --> 01:13:53,839
Speaker 2: all the small things.

1577
01:13:54,240 --> 01:13:56,400
Speaker 1: I stopped being I was disciplined in the big things.

1578
01:13:56,400 --> 01:13:58,880
Speaker 4: I kept my diet good, I kept my training good.

1579
01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:01,280
Speaker 4: But it was the small things that continue to add

1580
01:14:01,320 --> 01:14:02,519
Speaker 4: up and add up and add up, and it may

1581
01:14:02,560 --> 01:14:06,320
Speaker 4: be a less effective human being. And it's the joy aspect.

1582
01:14:07,520 --> 01:14:11,320
Speaker 4: I think my ability, my ability to be a leader

1583
01:14:12,240 --> 01:14:15,439
Speaker 4: and make a dent in the culture of men lies

1584
01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:19,960
Speaker 4: in my ability to mesh joy with my tenacity when

1585
01:14:20,200 --> 01:14:22,519
Speaker 4: when I can beat the crap out of somebody inside

1586
01:14:22,560 --> 01:14:24,960
Speaker 4: of a cage and then the next day somebody meets

1587
01:14:24,960 --> 01:14:27,799
Speaker 4: me and like and they think, Wow, I didn't expect

1588
01:14:27,840 --> 01:14:32,200
Speaker 4: you to be this nice, this loving, this humble, this

1589
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:35,559
Speaker 4: this happy because you just got done beating somebody helping

1590
01:14:35,640 --> 01:14:36,120
Speaker 4: in a cage.

1591
01:14:36,160 --> 01:14:37,639
Speaker 2: And I can't test to that too.

1592
01:14:37,640 --> 01:14:39,559
Speaker 3: First time I met Michael Chandler, I'm thinking, like the

1593
01:14:39,600 --> 01:14:42,439
Speaker 3: same thing, Like this dude is super nice for being

1594
01:14:42,520 --> 01:14:44,280
Speaker 3: like a savage in the after Well.

1595
01:14:44,120 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 2: He has the same thing too, Yeah, I did, And

1596
01:14:46,000 --> 01:14:49,800
Speaker 2: it means everything because if if you're not authentic in

1597
01:14:49,840 --> 01:14:52,519
Speaker 2: the cage or at home with your wife and your son,

1598
01:14:53,479 --> 01:14:56,200
Speaker 2: son doesn't really care about tenacity. No, that's not the

1599
01:14:56,240 --> 01:14:59,439
Speaker 2: peace right now at his age that connects you or

1600
01:14:59,439 --> 01:15:02,640
Speaker 2: the authentic piece of you that's really needed there. The

1601
01:15:02,760 --> 01:15:04,439
Speaker 2: joy piece is the piece that you've got to make

1602
01:15:04,439 --> 01:15:07,639
Speaker 2: sure so that you're operating inside of and that's really

1603
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:10,719
Speaker 2: truly who you are. How we connect it to goals,

1604
01:15:11,040 --> 01:15:13,200
Speaker 2: is this idea of discipline in his life? All right?

1605
01:15:13,280 --> 01:15:17,400
Speaker 2: So as a fighter, as a businessman, as a husband,

1606
01:15:17,439 --> 01:15:21,440
Speaker 2: as a football player, what's the what's the force multiplier

1607
01:15:21,600 --> 01:15:24,360
Speaker 2: idea in your life that connects you to goals in

1608
01:15:24,400 --> 01:15:26,800
Speaker 2: an authentic way. We're going to bring the joy and

1609
01:15:26,840 --> 01:15:29,240
Speaker 2: we're going to bring the tenacity or this he's a

1610
01:15:29,280 --> 01:15:30,000
Speaker 2: competitor man.

1611
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:33,559
Speaker 3: Into these areas and goals in each part of your life.

1612
01:15:33,360 --> 01:15:35,639
Speaker 2: So that it's authentic and so that it's really connected

1613
01:15:35,640 --> 01:15:36,000
Speaker 2: to your.

1614
01:15:35,880 --> 01:15:38,880
Speaker 4: Truth and so that the and so that the goals,

1615
01:15:38,920 --> 01:15:40,920
Speaker 4: whether they are written down, which they should be written down,

1616
01:15:41,360 --> 01:15:43,720
Speaker 4: whether they are written down, or whether they are just

1617
01:15:44,560 --> 01:15:49,200
Speaker 4: a byproduct of you knowing exactly who you are, You're

1618
01:15:49,280 --> 01:15:53,479
Speaker 4: going to be closer to the idea of that goal,

1619
01:15:53,800 --> 01:15:56,559
Speaker 4: that benchmark, that accomplishment.

1620
01:15:57,479 --> 01:16:00,240
Speaker 1: Because you know exactly who you are and all this.

1621
01:16:00,400 --> 01:16:03,320
Speaker 2: Okay, you get it. Yeah, No, I'm totally goodding, I'm

1622
01:16:03,360 --> 01:16:04,200
Speaker 2: I'm I'm truly.

1623
01:16:04,240 --> 01:16:07,000
Speaker 3: I'm trying to simplify as much as possible for people listening,

1624
01:16:07,000 --> 01:16:08,000
Speaker 3: because I know people are going to be.

1625
01:16:08,000 --> 01:16:10,120
Speaker 2: Fired up about this stuff. How much time are we at?

1626
01:16:10,880 --> 01:16:13,760
Speaker 2: An hour? Ten? Oh? Fuck, we've been rolling, boys, we've

1627
01:16:13,800 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 2: been rolling. So Jim, we're working.

1628
01:16:16,160 --> 01:16:20,040
Speaker 3: You're we got we are we have defined who we

1629
01:16:20,080 --> 01:16:24,400
Speaker 3: are as people in our values, in our authenticity and

1630
01:16:24,560 --> 01:16:26,479
Speaker 3: just we're confident in who we are.

1631
01:16:27,000 --> 01:16:28,479
Speaker 2: And I have this written down on paper.

1632
01:16:29,120 --> 01:16:33,040
Speaker 3: What are the areas that you have written goals? So,

1633
01:16:33,280 --> 01:16:36,679
Speaker 3: for example, I I've I work with Ben Newman. He's

1634
01:16:36,680 --> 01:16:38,519
Speaker 3: been a performance coach of mind that I've worked on,

1635
01:16:38,560 --> 01:16:40,160
Speaker 3: you know Ben, And.

1636
01:16:40,200 --> 01:16:42,760
Speaker 2: It's like personal, professional.

1637
01:16:43,800 --> 01:16:46,400
Speaker 3: I'm just not thinking right now, like it's there's like

1638
01:16:46,439 --> 01:16:49,080
Speaker 3: three different areas, right, and you're writing.

1639
01:16:48,760 --> 01:16:51,599
Speaker 2: Goals of what it looks like. So my rookie year

1640
01:16:51,640 --> 01:16:52,439
Speaker 2: I always allude to that.

1641
01:16:52,479 --> 01:16:56,479
Speaker 3: For instance, it was a professional it was make an

1642
01:16:56,520 --> 01:16:59,360
Speaker 3: impact on the on the Redskins roster be a starting

1643
01:16:59,400 --> 01:17:03,000
Speaker 3: linebacker for the Washington Redskins as a rookie. Failed at

1644
01:17:03,000 --> 01:17:05,639
Speaker 3: that goal, right, and you're gonna fail, You're gonna constantly fail.

1645
01:17:06,040 --> 01:17:08,040
Speaker 2: And personal it was reading.

1646
01:17:07,880 --> 01:17:11,679
Speaker 3: Reading my one year Bible every day. And I don't

1647
01:17:11,720 --> 01:17:13,760
Speaker 3: know if it's it's like service and service. It was

1648
01:17:14,640 --> 01:17:18,559
Speaker 3: have five speaking engagements to schools, giving back and I

1649
01:17:18,600 --> 01:17:21,280
Speaker 3: truly feared speaking in front of people, but it was

1650
01:17:21,320 --> 01:17:24,000
Speaker 3: giving back through having a football camp. We'll come to the

1651
01:17:24,000 --> 01:17:27,799
Speaker 3: football camp, shout out to the boys, and having five

1652
01:17:28,080 --> 01:17:30,960
Speaker 3: speaking engagements, right, based on these.

1653
01:17:30,880 --> 01:17:32,599
Speaker 2: Values that we've defined on who we are.

1654
01:17:32,680 --> 01:17:35,160
Speaker 3: Now we take them to these goals are what are

1655
01:17:35,160 --> 01:17:38,439
Speaker 3: these areas that you have me and Mike right down

1656
01:17:38,479 --> 01:17:40,439
Speaker 3: to where hey, we're gonna have goals in these areas.

1657
01:17:40,479 --> 01:17:42,200
Speaker 3: And then when you get to these benchmarks, whether you

1658
01:17:42,680 --> 01:17:45,360
Speaker 3: whether you fail or get them, do you go to

1659
01:17:45,479 --> 01:17:47,160
Speaker 3: another goal in a benchmark?

1660
01:17:47,280 --> 01:17:47,840
Speaker 2: Right sure?

1661
01:17:48,040 --> 01:17:50,960
Speaker 3: Or is it constantly living in who you are in

1662
01:17:51,000 --> 01:17:53,639
Speaker 3: these moments. And it's more up to him to define

1663
01:17:53,640 --> 01:17:54,760
Speaker 3: what goals he wants in his.

1664
01:17:54,680 --> 01:17:56,840
Speaker 2: Life or in our life. So that's a great question.

1665
01:17:56,880 --> 01:17:58,960
Speaker 2: And what I think is when you authentically know who

1666
01:17:59,000 --> 01:18:03,240
Speaker 2: you are the do the task, the goal, the job,

1667
01:18:04,080 --> 01:18:06,839
Speaker 2: you do a better job of picking the right one, gotcha?

1668
01:18:07,240 --> 01:18:09,600
Speaker 2: And that right one. We want to make sure that

1669
01:18:09,640 --> 01:18:13,559
Speaker 2: whatever Michael's doing, whatever that goal is, that job is,

1670
01:18:13,600 --> 01:18:17,559
Speaker 2: that task is actually connected to in purpose, which is

1671
01:18:17,640 --> 01:18:20,400
Speaker 2: joy and tenacity, and then this list of core values.

1672
01:18:20,840 --> 01:18:23,439
Speaker 2: For me, it's whatever I'm going to do, whatever my

1673
01:18:23,560 --> 01:18:25,920
Speaker 2: job is, whatever my task is, it's got to be

1674
01:18:25,960 --> 01:18:29,519
Speaker 2: connected to challenge, exhort, encourage, because that's what pours out

1675
01:18:29,560 --> 01:18:35,559
Speaker 2: of me. It doesn't matter what I do. I'm coaching somebody, fight, work, hope, faith, team, family, excellence, purpose, responsibility, love,

1676
01:18:35,600 --> 01:18:38,599
Speaker 2: and freedom. That's my filter. Here's how I feel about it,

1677
01:18:38,880 --> 01:18:40,920
Speaker 2: this is what I believe about it. Now, here's what

1678
01:18:40,920 --> 01:18:43,880
Speaker 2: I'm going to do, so that every time I aim

1679
01:18:43,920 --> 01:18:47,200
Speaker 2: at that nest task or next goal, whether it's at

1680
01:18:47,280 --> 01:18:49,200
Speaker 2: fifty to fifty one years old, what I'm trying to

1681
01:18:49,200 --> 01:18:51,760
Speaker 2: do physically, and I have those goals, and then what

1682
01:18:51,800 --> 01:18:53,240
Speaker 2: am I trying to do in business? And I have

1683
01:18:53,320 --> 01:18:55,840
Speaker 2: those goals and the kind of parent that I want

1684
01:18:55,880 --> 01:18:57,400
Speaker 2: to be and the husband want to be. I have

1685
01:18:57,479 --> 01:19:00,960
Speaker 2: those goals that all of that stays on track. It

1686
01:19:01,040 --> 01:19:04,880
Speaker 2: becomes the guard rails that keeps me from either letting

1687
01:19:04,920 --> 01:19:07,920
Speaker 2: momentum in life get me in the space that's not

1688
01:19:07,920 --> 01:19:11,800
Speaker 2: connected to my purpose or my values or emotion that

1689
01:19:11,880 --> 01:19:15,519
Speaker 2: gets me off track. Gotcha, it's a It's an entire filter.

1690
01:19:16,120 --> 01:19:18,479
Speaker 2: So that whatever he's doing in jiu jitsu that day,

1691
01:19:18,560 --> 01:19:20,599
Speaker 2: whatever he's doing in wrestling that day, or whatever he's

1692
01:19:20,640 --> 01:19:23,439
Speaker 2: doing in striking that day, whatever he wants to do

1693
01:19:23,560 --> 01:19:26,679
Speaker 2: I don't know contractually moving forward in your career, those

1694
01:19:26,680 --> 01:19:28,760
Speaker 2: are all the goals things that he's looking at. We

1695
01:19:28,920 --> 01:19:32,600
Speaker 2: just know for sure that's authentic and it's it's just

1696
01:19:32,720 --> 01:19:36,240
Speaker 2: like your base right when when you're when you're you're

1697
01:19:36,280 --> 01:19:40,000
Speaker 2: lined up before the snap, where's that first foot going.

1698
01:19:40,400 --> 01:19:42,439
Speaker 2: It's got to go the right way. It has to happen,

1699
01:19:42,479 --> 01:19:44,880
Speaker 2: or you're behind, you're slow getting to where you're supposed

1700
01:19:44,880 --> 01:19:47,760
Speaker 2: to be. It's that kind of perspective. I just want

1701
01:19:47,800 --> 01:19:49,479
Speaker 2: you to know what identity is so that when you

1702
01:19:49,520 --> 01:19:52,000
Speaker 2: make that move, you're headed in the right direction and

1703
01:19:52,000 --> 01:19:54,360
Speaker 2: you're headed there. I want you to be one hundred

1704
01:19:54,400 --> 01:19:56,639
Speaker 2: percent of the person you were created to be when

1705
01:19:56,640 --> 01:19:58,920
Speaker 2: you arrive at the goal or whatever that is inside

1706
01:19:58,960 --> 01:19:59,160
Speaker 2: you want.

1707
01:19:59,200 --> 01:20:00,880
Speaker 1: And I think that's my only goal right now.

1708
01:20:01,080 --> 01:20:03,679
Speaker 4: I have I have not thought about goals or looked

1709
01:20:03,680 --> 01:20:05,920
Speaker 4: at goals, or written down goals or written.

1710
01:20:05,640 --> 01:20:08,080
Speaker 1: Down anything anything tangible.

1711
01:20:08,160 --> 01:20:10,160
Speaker 4: There's there's nothing I've written down that says I want

1712
01:20:10,200 --> 01:20:12,800
Speaker 4: to get this, accomplish that have this number, have that

1713
01:20:13,520 --> 01:20:15,040
Speaker 4: If I can just be one hundred percent of who

1714
01:20:15,080 --> 01:20:18,599
Speaker 4: I was created to be and designed to be, then

1715
01:20:18,680 --> 01:20:20,400
Speaker 4: those goals are going to take care of themselves and

1716
01:20:20,680 --> 01:20:22,599
Speaker 4: and when we get through this process, which we're.

1717
01:20:22,479 --> 01:20:24,040
Speaker 2: Pretty soon we get being done.

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01:20:24,400 --> 01:20:27,040
Speaker 4: But I would imagine as well, like you said, they're living,

1719
01:20:27,040 --> 01:20:28,479
Speaker 4: they're breathing, We're going to continue to tweak.

1720
01:20:28,479 --> 01:20:29,360
Speaker 1: We're going to continue to move.

1721
01:20:29,640 --> 01:20:31,920
Speaker 4: Next fight I win, they might be different than if

1722
01:20:31,960 --> 01:20:34,800
Speaker 4: next fight I lose. Contract is up in a couple

1723
01:20:34,840 --> 01:20:35,520
Speaker 4: of fights.

1724
01:20:35,240 --> 01:20:36,840
Speaker 1: Where we going what are we doing? And then we

1725
01:20:36,840 --> 01:20:38,120
Speaker 1: can figure out what's next after that?

1726
01:20:38,160 --> 01:20:39,000
Speaker 2: And are you are you?

1727
01:20:39,200 --> 01:20:42,720
Speaker 3: Are you reciting and reviewing and seeing these things on

1728
01:20:42,760 --> 01:20:44,360
Speaker 3: a daily basis to keep you.

1729
01:20:44,240 --> 01:20:45,920
Speaker 1: Into I'm pretty I'm pretty excited.

1730
01:20:45,960 --> 01:20:47,920
Speaker 4: I mean, we have we have a one hundred and

1731
01:20:47,920 --> 01:20:51,200
Speaker 4: two hundred page book that we've written and we've looked

1732
01:20:51,240 --> 01:20:54,120
Speaker 4: at and and there's an online course that there's there's

1733
01:20:54,120 --> 01:20:55,960
Speaker 4: a well, there's a video of you and rich and

1734
01:20:56,320 --> 01:20:57,639
Speaker 4: Ellie work.

1735
01:20:57,880 --> 01:20:59,479
Speaker 2: Is it out there? Can you find it right now? Yeah?

1736
01:20:59,640 --> 01:21:02,160
Speaker 2: Mayh ma ma mindset dot com.

1737
01:21:02,640 --> 01:21:04,800
Speaker 4: And then and then there's a listening portion where in

1738
01:21:04,840 --> 01:21:08,040
Speaker 4: every single challenge, every single week, there's a video and

1739
01:21:08,040 --> 01:21:10,080
Speaker 4: then there's audio, and then there's a lot of writing.

1740
01:21:10,080 --> 01:21:11,879
Speaker 2: There's still in the workbook.

1741
01:21:11,920 --> 01:21:15,080
Speaker 1: It's it really does which I did not like school,

1742
01:21:15,160 --> 01:21:16,559
Speaker 1: not like school. Most of us didn't.

1743
01:21:16,560 --> 01:21:19,400
Speaker 4: But it takes you kind of back to Okay, we're

1744
01:21:19,439 --> 01:21:21,280
Speaker 4: going to you're going to put yourself on task and

1745
01:21:21,320 --> 01:21:23,840
Speaker 4: you're going to learn, and then you're going to look

1746
01:21:23,880 --> 01:21:27,040
Speaker 4: in deep. How How is how is this different for you?

1747
01:21:27,200 --> 01:21:28,840
Speaker 4: And you and the next thousand people?

1748
01:21:29,120 --> 01:21:32,120
Speaker 1: How is this? How is this personal to me?

1749
01:21:32,520 --> 01:21:36,040
Speaker 4: And my my goals, my life, my shortcomings, my insecurities

1750
01:21:36,520 --> 01:21:38,120
Speaker 4: and really pulling that stuff out.

1751
01:21:38,120 --> 01:21:39,759
Speaker 1: And I've learned so much just by writing.

1752
01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:42,040
Speaker 4: And you're one of those moments where you're writing something

1753
01:21:42,439 --> 01:21:45,120
Speaker 4: and something ends up on paper that you didn't really

1754
01:21:45,160 --> 01:21:48,559
Speaker 4: cognitively think about. It just happened, and then you then

1755
01:21:48,600 --> 01:21:51,160
Speaker 4: you read it and realize, Wow, that literally poured out

1756
01:21:51,160 --> 01:21:52,639
Speaker 4: of the essence of who I am, but it poured

1757
01:21:52,680 --> 01:21:53,840
Speaker 4: out of the essence of my heart.

1758
01:21:54,160 --> 01:21:56,479
Speaker 1: There it is, there's the key to what we need

1759
01:21:56,520 --> 01:21:58,000
Speaker 1: to fix, right, Yeah.

1760
01:21:57,760 --> 01:22:00,640
Speaker 2: Vince Lombardie. And I'm not a big quote guy. I

1761
01:22:00,720 --> 01:22:02,959
Speaker 2: kind of try to avoid quotes because.

1762
01:22:04,640 --> 01:22:05,880
Speaker 3: I kind of like that one quote with the thing

1763
01:22:05,920 --> 01:22:08,320
Speaker 3: that's like while sitting there like like I'm like it's

1764
01:22:08,880 --> 01:22:10,760
Speaker 3: getting onto like you and you said it too. I

1765
01:22:10,760 --> 01:22:13,080
Speaker 3: don't get caught up in the tangible things I'm trying

1766
01:22:13,120 --> 01:22:15,360
Speaker 3: to get to and I'm sitting there processing because me,

1767
01:22:15,520 --> 01:22:18,879
Speaker 3: I like, I gotta know what I'm going to achieve.

1768
01:22:19,160 --> 01:22:21,040
Speaker 3: Maybe I get too caught up. You can get too

1769
01:22:21,080 --> 01:22:24,320
Speaker 3: caught up in that fundamentally sometimes because you're you're losing

1770
01:22:24,360 --> 01:22:26,200
Speaker 3: sight of who you are at the core, and that's

1771
01:22:26,240 --> 01:22:29,040
Speaker 3: where some stuff comes in. It's like reciting and reviewing

1772
01:22:29,280 --> 01:22:32,000
Speaker 3: who the definition of you is and making sure that

1773
01:22:32,000 --> 01:22:34,240
Speaker 3: that's what's pouring in and getting that thing.

1774
01:22:34,320 --> 01:22:36,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think and I think that's the beautiful

1775
01:22:36,320 --> 01:22:38,320
Speaker 4: thing too, because we're sitting here talking about writing down

1776
01:22:38,360 --> 01:22:40,439
Speaker 4: goals and I'm almost saying, well, don't.

1777
01:22:40,240 --> 01:22:41,840
Speaker 1: Worry about the goals, worry about who you are.

1778
01:22:41,880 --> 01:22:44,920
Speaker 4: And then but there's that beautiful mixture between both. And

1779
01:22:44,960 --> 01:22:47,600
Speaker 4: like you said, when those things line up, you know

1780
01:22:47,680 --> 01:22:50,000
Speaker 4: exactly who you be, then you can do.

1781
01:22:50,040 --> 01:22:51,280
Speaker 1: Exactly what you want to do.

1782
01:22:51,439 --> 01:22:55,280
Speaker 2: And think about how really cool David Goggins or been Yeah,

1783
01:22:55,400 --> 01:23:00,559
Speaker 2: what what they offer, How how much easier it is

1784
01:23:00,600 --> 01:23:03,320
Speaker 2: for them to coach you when you show up in

1785
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:05,599
Speaker 2: control of your emotions or knowing how to control your

1786
01:23:05,600 --> 01:23:09,000
Speaker 2: emotions and knowing who you are in identity now their motivation,

1787
01:23:09,479 --> 01:23:11,720
Speaker 2: how to write things down, how to set stuff up,

1788
01:23:12,120 --> 01:23:14,360
Speaker 2: you know, how to get done, what you're gonna do

1789
01:23:14,439 --> 01:23:16,800
Speaker 2: during the day is really powerful and you're off to

1790
01:23:16,840 --> 01:23:20,719
Speaker 2: the races if you show up requiring him to motivate

1791
01:23:20,760 --> 01:23:22,360
Speaker 2: you just to get you on your feet, to get

1792
01:23:22,400 --> 01:23:26,400
Speaker 2: you moving, dude. That's why I said motivation is so

1793
01:23:26,520 --> 01:23:29,800
Speaker 2: wasted in our culture. In many ways, our lives do this.

1794
01:23:29,880 --> 01:23:31,760
Speaker 2: They roll a coaster instead of really, I kind of

1795
01:23:31,760 --> 01:23:33,400
Speaker 2: show up and I know who I am and I

1796
01:23:33,439 --> 01:23:35,759
Speaker 2: can hold myself to to that. And now this motivation

1797
01:23:35,880 --> 01:23:39,960
Speaker 2: piece and education piece, proper goal setting, proper time management,

1798
01:23:40,479 --> 01:23:44,160
Speaker 2: get nutrition, all those things become force multipliers and we

1799
01:23:44,160 --> 01:23:48,360
Speaker 2: move ahead intentionally at a higher speed. I was going

1800
01:23:48,400 --> 01:23:51,200
Speaker 2: to say this, Ben Sombardi said, individual commitment to a

1801
01:23:51,240 --> 01:23:55,080
Speaker 2: group effort. That's what makes team and society and our

1802
01:23:55,080 --> 01:23:58,519
Speaker 2: country move. And we have a crisis of identity in

1803
01:23:58,560 --> 01:24:01,200
Speaker 2: our world right now. People don't really know how they fit.

1804
01:24:01,920 --> 01:24:03,840
Speaker 2: And I don't mean this. I'm not. I'm not I'm

1805
01:24:03,840 --> 01:24:06,400
Speaker 2: not down on anybody. I'm not I'm not trying to

1806
01:24:06,400 --> 01:24:10,160
Speaker 2: be bad. Just from from sexuality to people. People are

1807
01:24:10,200 --> 01:24:13,360
Speaker 2: super concerned or don't know who they are, and we're

1808
01:24:13,360 --> 01:24:15,760
Speaker 2: fighting for that. And I think in order for us

1809
01:24:15,840 --> 01:24:18,040
Speaker 2: to be able to take advantage of the freedom that

1810
01:24:18,040 --> 01:24:20,040
Speaker 2: we've been given, we got to know. You got to

1811
01:24:20,040 --> 01:24:21,479
Speaker 2: know who the hell you are. You've got to be

1812
01:24:21,479 --> 01:24:26,720
Speaker 2: able to respond in identity or I'm sorry, inopportunity or adversity,

1813
01:24:26,880 --> 01:24:28,439
Speaker 2: and you need to know what that is so that

1814
01:24:28,880 --> 01:24:31,280
Speaker 2: you know how you fit to the team. You know

1815
01:24:31,320 --> 01:24:34,599
Speaker 2: where you make a difference in your family, what your

1816
01:24:34,640 --> 01:24:37,080
Speaker 2: role is there, how, how that is on a team,

1817
01:24:37,160 --> 01:24:39,240
Speaker 2: how that is in our culture, so that we're all

1818
01:24:39,280 --> 01:24:42,360
Speaker 2: moving together and each one of us as individuals can

1819
01:24:42,400 --> 01:24:44,080
Speaker 2: make a contribution that's valuable.

1820
01:24:44,280 --> 01:24:47,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, And if you're listening like that, those are

1821
01:24:47,160 --> 01:24:47,799
Speaker 3: the areas.

1822
01:24:47,840 --> 01:24:49,120
Speaker 2: That's the stuff right there.

1823
01:24:49,160 --> 01:24:53,000
Speaker 3: Like if you're when when you're feeling moved by this conversations,

1824
01:24:53,040 --> 01:24:55,840
Speaker 3: you got to put pen the paper man and take actions,

1825
01:24:56,320 --> 01:24:59,240
Speaker 3: because that's how If not again, it's it's if you

1826
01:24:59,280 --> 01:25:01,439
Speaker 3: live by your feeling all the time, your feelings are

1827
01:25:01,439 --> 01:25:05,519
Speaker 3: gonna fail you. We've talked about standard over feelings, right

1828
01:25:05,600 --> 01:25:07,439
Speaker 3: or writing out a standard, like you map out your

1829
01:25:07,560 --> 01:25:10,919
Speaker 3: entire standard written in language, and you have to recite

1830
01:25:10,960 --> 01:25:13,320
Speaker 3: and see this standard you've written for yourself and being

1831
01:25:13,360 --> 01:25:16,000
Speaker 3: intentional whatever all this definition means for yourself.

1832
01:25:16,280 --> 01:25:17,120
Speaker 2: If you don't look at it.

1833
01:25:17,080 --> 01:25:20,599
Speaker 3: Every day, you know, day fifty Will Compton is gonna

1834
01:25:20,600 --> 01:25:21,680
Speaker 3: feel a lot different than day one.

1835
01:25:21,680 --> 01:25:23,280
Speaker 2: Will content on one me and you walk away from

1836
01:25:23,280 --> 01:25:23,679
Speaker 2: a meeting.

1837
01:25:23,840 --> 01:25:25,760
Speaker 3: If I don't carry out what you're teaching me, and

1838
01:25:25,800 --> 01:25:27,880
Speaker 3: I don't write down and I'm not intentional with who

1839
01:25:27,880 --> 01:25:30,120
Speaker 3: I've defined myself as, and I forget about it, and

1840
01:25:30,120 --> 01:25:32,280
Speaker 3: I'm hype on day one. If I just go by

1841
01:25:32,320 --> 01:25:35,240
Speaker 3: feelings day fifty like, you're gonna, you're gonna sleep in

1842
01:25:35,360 --> 01:25:39,000
Speaker 3: low you you you start to feel bad for yourself,

1843
01:25:39,080 --> 01:25:40,120
Speaker 3: right like, oh, I can get away with this and

1844
01:25:40,240 --> 01:25:41,760
Speaker 3: get away with that. But if you're looking at your

1845
01:25:41,800 --> 01:25:45,120
Speaker 3: ship every day and getting you know, reciting what you've

1846
01:25:45,120 --> 01:25:47,240
Speaker 3: written for yourself or whether you have a mentor in

1847
01:25:47,240 --> 01:25:49,639
Speaker 3: your life or a coach, or you're doing it alone.

1848
01:25:49,640 --> 01:25:52,000
Speaker 3: If you're not reciting to yourself what you wrote on

1849
01:25:52,080 --> 01:25:54,320
Speaker 3: day one, you're gonna you're gonna succumb to.

1850
01:25:54,280 --> 01:25:58,479
Speaker 2: Your feelings for sure. And I love this man, even me.

1851
01:25:58,439 --> 01:26:01,040
Speaker 4: Sitting here, you know, for for people listening right now,

1852
01:26:01,760 --> 01:26:06,120
Speaker 4: just just today, tomorrow, next, tomorrow morning, whatever.

1853
01:26:05,920 --> 01:26:07,320
Speaker 1: Wake up, wake up a little bit early.

1854
01:26:07,640 --> 01:26:10,920
Speaker 4: Write down five of the key you know, we've talked

1855
01:26:10,960 --> 01:26:13,320
Speaker 4: about them. We call them your values, you call call

1856
01:26:13,320 --> 01:26:15,760
Speaker 4: them whatever you want. Strength words, things I want to

1857
01:26:15,760 --> 01:26:16,240
Speaker 4: live by.

1858
01:26:16,560 --> 01:26:19,080
Speaker 1: Who am I? And write down five words and just

1859
01:26:19,120 --> 01:26:20,760
Speaker 1: write your own definition of them.

1860
01:26:21,080 --> 01:26:23,680
Speaker 4: You most of us listening probably right now, say if

1861
01:26:23,680 --> 01:26:25,439
Speaker 4: I said, what are the three things you stand for?

1862
01:26:25,840 --> 01:26:27,720
Speaker 4: They could say it, They could they could come up

1863
01:26:27,760 --> 01:26:29,679
Speaker 4: with something in the next ten seconds, say I stand

1864
01:26:29,720 --> 01:26:32,320
Speaker 4: for these three things. But now put a colon and

1865
01:26:32,360 --> 01:26:35,080
Speaker 4: now put an actual definition with it, put actual words

1866
01:26:35,080 --> 01:26:37,320
Speaker 4: in language with it, because, like I said, my definition

1867
01:26:37,360 --> 01:26:41,519
Speaker 4: of faith is different than yours, and yours and yours,

1868
01:26:41,600 --> 01:26:44,160
Speaker 4: even though they're very similar, they're going to be they're

1869
01:26:44,160 --> 01:26:47,080
Speaker 4: gonna be somewhat similar, they're going to be different. They're

1870
01:26:47,080 --> 01:26:48,519
Speaker 4: going to be put in a different language. And if

1871
01:26:48,520 --> 01:26:50,200
Speaker 4: it's not a language, just not a tool. And then

1872
01:26:50,520 --> 01:26:53,599
Speaker 4: and then even just read those over this next seven days,

1873
01:26:53,640 --> 01:26:56,320
Speaker 4: read those three read those definitions of those three things

1874
01:26:56,520 --> 01:26:56,960
Speaker 4: once or.

1875
01:26:56,880 --> 01:26:57,880
Speaker 1: Twice or three times a day.

1876
01:26:57,880 --> 01:26:59,200
Speaker 4: Put it in your wallet, put in your phone, in

1877
01:26:59,200 --> 01:27:02,439
Speaker 4: your notes, and just realize how it kind of changes

1878
01:27:02,479 --> 01:27:05,840
Speaker 4: your perspective on things, and how those three words are

1879
01:27:05,880 --> 01:27:09,320
Speaker 4: five words or those some a mixture of those definitions

1880
01:27:09,360 --> 01:27:11,320
Speaker 4: somewhat comes up and comes in the back of your

1881
01:27:11,320 --> 01:27:13,479
Speaker 4: mind when you're in your next interaction, when you're in

1882
01:27:13,479 --> 01:27:15,160
Speaker 4: your next meeting, when you're in your next quiet time,

1883
01:27:15,160 --> 01:27:17,920
Speaker 4: when you're in your because you've now taken these words

1884
01:27:17,960 --> 01:27:20,240
Speaker 4: and you've put a definition with them, and now they

1885
01:27:20,280 --> 01:27:22,200
Speaker 4: are a language, and now they are a tool, and

1886
01:27:22,240 --> 01:27:25,160
Speaker 4: they become in the forefront of your mind. Now you

1887
01:27:25,200 --> 01:27:27,919
Speaker 4: move a little somewhat defined. You you have somewhat defined

1888
01:27:28,520 --> 01:27:32,479
Speaker 4: because everything else is just subjective and subconscious, and we

1889
01:27:32,520 --> 01:27:36,800
Speaker 4: can't unless you're doing a ton of work every single day.

1890
01:27:36,800 --> 01:27:40,080
Speaker 4: You can't trust your subconscious because everything we see on

1891
01:27:40,120 --> 01:27:43,640
Speaker 4: social media, see on YouTube, listen to on podcasts, all

1892
01:27:43,680 --> 01:27:45,880
Speaker 4: that stuff is being downloaded into our minds and our

1893
01:27:45,920 --> 01:27:49,120
Speaker 4: brains and it's it all gets jumbled up and it's

1894
01:27:49,160 --> 01:27:50,559
Speaker 4: not actually clearly defined.

1895
01:27:50,600 --> 01:27:53,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it makes you move differently. I want to sharpen that,

1896
01:27:53,160 --> 01:27:56,799
Speaker 2: just to tad absolutely. Three value to finish. Three values.

1897
01:27:58,160 --> 01:28:00,800
Speaker 2: A strength value, big rock you know right now in

1898
01:28:00,840 --> 01:28:04,360
Speaker 2: your life, Yeah, something like that, a weakness value. So

1899
01:28:04,400 --> 01:28:06,559
Speaker 2: I want you to I want you to take decide

1900
01:28:06,560 --> 01:28:08,880
Speaker 2: what is what is the negative emotion that gets the

1901
01:28:08,920 --> 01:28:12,280
Speaker 2: best of you. It's a anger, worry, whatever that is.

1902
01:28:12,320 --> 01:28:14,120
Speaker 2: And I want you to create a value that's the

1903
01:28:14,160 --> 01:28:17,360
Speaker 2: opposite of that. For me, it was worry and I

1904
01:28:17,439 --> 01:28:20,040
Speaker 2: and I worked at hope, so hope was the value,

1905
01:28:20,640 --> 01:28:24,040
Speaker 2: and then an idea of value that's a value that

1906
01:28:24,040 --> 01:28:25,960
Speaker 2: that it's something that you see in the culture that

1907
01:28:26,000 --> 01:28:27,880
Speaker 2: you're aiming at that you want to be a part

1908
01:28:27,920 --> 01:28:31,040
Speaker 2: of your life. So that the values encompass your strengths,

1909
01:28:31,240 --> 01:28:34,040
Speaker 2: your weaknesses, and your desires for the future. Those are

1910
01:28:34,040 --> 01:28:36,840
Speaker 2: the three values from the Mayhem Mindset process that I

1911
01:28:36,880 --> 01:28:39,479
Speaker 2: want someone to really look at and then move out

1912
01:28:39,520 --> 01:28:42,360
Speaker 2: into your day and make sure that that that's something

1913
01:28:42,360 --> 01:28:44,760
Speaker 2: that you're thinking about front of mind and you're using it.

1914
01:28:44,840 --> 01:28:47,160
Speaker 2: I love that, dude. Where can that? Where can everybody

1915
01:28:47,200 --> 01:28:50,240
Speaker 2: find you? Mayhem mindset dot com. There's a there's a

1916
01:28:50,240 --> 01:28:53,040
Speaker 2: course there and a bunch of stuff and I'm at

1917
01:28:53,240 --> 01:28:56,320
Speaker 2: Jimmy Underscore Hencil on Instagram. I'm gonna follow you, dude,

1918
01:28:56,360 --> 01:28:56,600
Speaker 2: right on.

1919
01:28:56,760 --> 01:29:00,160
Speaker 3: Follow me Mayhem mindset dot com and people can on

1920
01:29:00,280 --> 01:29:02,120
Speaker 3: like a course and just see all about you.

1921
01:29:02,200 --> 01:29:04,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's an online course there people can get into.

1922
01:29:04,840 --> 01:29:07,320
Speaker 2: We send you a workbook. There's audio and video on

1923
01:29:07,360 --> 01:29:09,040
Speaker 2: the whole thing that goes that you can work through

1924
01:29:09,040 --> 01:29:10,680
Speaker 2: it on your own or if if you want to

1925
01:29:10,680 --> 01:29:13,240
Speaker 2: spend some time with me, there's options to get involved

1926
01:29:13,240 --> 01:29:14,960
Speaker 2: with me so I can coach you one on one

1927
01:29:15,080 --> 01:29:17,160
Speaker 2: that's awesome. And Mike, everybody knows where to find you.

1928
01:29:17,200 --> 01:29:17,960
Speaker 2: Go ahead say it again.

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Speaker 4: I'll be here on the bus if you guys need it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah at Mike Chandler, Ramee on Instagram, Twitter.

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Speaker 1: All that stuff. That's how I connect with people.

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Speaker 2: Dude. I appreciate it, guys. It's appreciate it for the boys,

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Speaker 2: for the boys. Boys. Yeah, all right, fellas