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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Couples Counseling with Chelsea, And I'm here

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Speaker 1: with three of my friends. They are not a couple.

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Speaker 1: They're a threatle and they're not romantically involved either.

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Speaker 2: There are three.

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Speaker 1: Comedians named Amina Amani, Sydney Washington, and Marie Fouston and

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Speaker 1: they are a friendship threatle and I spent some time

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Speaker 1: with them a whistler and heard a lot about their beef,

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Speaker 1: so I thought I would bring them onto the podcast.

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Speaker 1: What about secret keeping? Do you guys keep secrets from

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Speaker 1: each other? Or do you guys have secrets between like

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Speaker 1: two of you out of the three that you keep

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Speaker 1: from the third person.

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Speaker 2: I mean that must happen. Oh yeah, sure, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think it would be the best interest to keep

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Speaker 3: all secrets from me because I'll either forget that is

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Speaker 3: a secret. Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'm the problem. I'm

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Speaker 3: definitely a problem. And I'll say it and I'll be.

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Speaker 2: Like, oh yeah.

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Speaker 4: Marie is good at keeping secret. From what I know,

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Speaker 4: She's good at keeping secret, but also she forgets. I

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Speaker 4: think she's mainly like she forgets things, so she like

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Speaker 4: you want to tell her, is in a ciper and

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Speaker 4: sometimes I forget on no stuff, or sometimes somebody will

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Speaker 4: tell me something and they'll be like, don't tell nobody,

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Speaker 4: and then I'll go tell somebody else and I'll be like,

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Speaker 4: don't tell nobody, and they'd be like I told you,

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Speaker 4: and I'd be like, yes, I remember I.

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Speaker 2: Did that to I was running back information that she

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Speaker 2: told me.

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Speaker 3: But I will say this if I don't want to,

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Speaker 3: if I don't want one or the other to note,

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Speaker 3: I won't tell both of them.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I think it's the best. I think it's best.

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Speaker 3: Not favor and not even mention it, don't allude to it,

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Speaker 3: don't even think about it in front of them, because

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Speaker 3: then they gonna be like, what you're thinking about it?

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Speaker 3: Then you'll be like, well, it's because if you tell me,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna be like Sydney.

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Speaker 4: And if you tell Sidney, I think somebody was like, oh,

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Speaker 4: I might as well tell Marie because I know you're

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Speaker 4: gonna tell her, and I'm like, hey, I already know,

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Speaker 4: I already.

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Speaker 2: Have you guys ever gotten into a real fight like no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: like like where you.

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Speaker 1: Had to agree, where you had to resolve at, like

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Speaker 1: you if somebody had to apologize or say they're sorry.

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Speaker 1: I don't mean to quit the knit.

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Speaker 4: And that was that was a big one for us,

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Speaker 4: right she went she quit the NIT. I thought she

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Speaker 4: didn't want to deal with us anymore. She just didn't

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Speaker 4: want to deal with the Knit and she I think

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Speaker 4: there was miscommunication and everything, so it was be a text.

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Speaker 4: She was on the group chat messaging us, and it's like,

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Speaker 4: if we would have sat down and talked, I think

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Speaker 4: it would have went over.

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Speaker 3: Because I texted them that I had times to lightis

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Speaker 3: and they was like, you're not coming to work.

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Speaker 1: You didn't have to and you had faced it out

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Speaker 1: in the public streets of New York twice.

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Speaker 2: And I only know it twice because the man said

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Speaker 2: she fainted twice. Get her ambulance.

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Speaker 3: And I and I texted her and I was like,

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Speaker 3: y'all I'm damn bad and they was like, yeah, so

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Speaker 3: about that line up And I was like, oh, I

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Speaker 3: mean we already went over this. You you did not

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Speaker 3: text us that you had time tonight.

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Speaker 2: I did. We were Chelsea when you said this, and

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Speaker 2: Sydney's all the way back.

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Speaker 3: When that story is imprinted in my life, so I

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Speaker 3: can't change it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, whatever delusion I get. The delusion is bring to

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Speaker 2: the table, take it out of the origin story.

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Speaker 1: Baby, that's not Yeah, yeah, you have an interesting recollection

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Speaker 1: of things because you kind of do create your own reality.

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Speaker 2: Oh is that right?

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean, listen, some people have to do

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Speaker 1: that to stay positive and remain upbeat. And so maybe

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Speaker 1: you're using that as a tool for your own happenings.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, it's not even a tool that happened.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I remember I don't even remember her

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Speaker 3: scrolling through, but I feel like I told them I

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Speaker 3: was sick, and that just wasn't the conversation.

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Speaker 1: So and even though they didn't find that text, that's

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Speaker 1: not that's still your story.

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Speaker 3: That we're sticking to a sickness and not tell them.

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Speaker 3: That's weird to me.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So that's I mean, the way you were saying stuff,

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Speaker 4: it was like, obviously something's wrong, there's a problem.

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Speaker 3: I was direct about that. I feel like I was

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Speaker 3: direct about what was going on and what was wrong

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Speaker 3: with me.

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Speaker 2: I just didn't know. I didn't know what's a pinpoint.

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Speaker 4: No, because nobody had a follow up. We had a dinner.

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Speaker 4: It was almost like an intervention, and it's still they in.

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Speaker 3: That was like, you need to start taking medicine. That's

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Speaker 3: what our intervention was. And I was like, I'll do drugs,

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Speaker 3: but I don't do medicine. To be fair, you also

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Speaker 3: made us do the intervention at a vegan place, so

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Speaker 3: everybody was angry coming in, like I'm paying I'm paying

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Speaker 3: all this money for vegan food.

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Speaker 2: I'm still hungry. Yes, this don't take time.

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Speaker 3: I was veganah at the time, I was thinking, yeah, now, yeah,

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Speaker 3: some pepper on the piece of last night it was

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Speaker 3: a girl, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Are you I mean, are you good at taking advice?

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Speaker 1: Or do you solicit advice? Like what's the dynamic between

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Speaker 1: the three of you giving advice or like, how do

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Speaker 1: you know when it's time to actually give advice or

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Speaker 1: when it's time to just be supportive?

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Speaker 3: I think I give advice when I'm asked of it.

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Speaker 3: I think for the most part, a lot of stuff's

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Speaker 3: not gonna make sense to me and my logic and

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Speaker 3: my values.

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Speaker 2: So I have to let everybody rock and do their thing.

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Speaker 3: But then if they come and be like, well what

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Speaker 3: you think, Amena, then I'll go ahead and impart my wisdom.

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Speaker 2: What was she saying? What was said? She said? It

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Speaker 2: never makes sense. That's what she said.

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Speaker 3: No, because even Sidney was talking about borrow money. She

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Speaker 3: let somebody borrow money, they didn't pay her back. And

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Speaker 3: I was sitting there like, so, y'all still gonna be cool,

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Speaker 3: and she was just like it's fine, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: oh yeah, nah. So then I had to hold back

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Speaker 3: and let her navigate their friendship.

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Speaker 2: Sidney, how much money did you lend this person?

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Speaker 1: Well, it was a one hundred and seventy five thousand dollars.

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Speaker 4: No, it was not that, but it was a complicated.

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Speaker 4: It was a complicated situation. It was very complimated, and

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Speaker 4: it all worked out eventually, and I just learned to Okay,

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Speaker 4: this is where me and Amina have the issue. It's

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Speaker 4: like she doesn't know what would actually upset me and

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Speaker 4: trigger me to be like I'm done because I do.

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Speaker 4: Let some big things happen and I'll be like it's fine,

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Speaker 4: it'll work out, and it's something kind of all will have.

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Speaker 3: Sidney would be like, oh they're dad, and I'll be

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Speaker 3: like yeah, I would have never thought that this. All

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Speaker 3: the things were done before this little Oh they didn't

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Speaker 3: write you a text, and now they're not friends no more.

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Speaker 3: I don't know it'd be mad. I mean, that's why

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Speaker 3: you know, the cereal gate situation was so crazy to me.

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Speaker 2: Oh, tell the cereal gate. They don't know. Oh, I

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Speaker 2: mean it those about cereal gate now, but Chelsea doesn't know, Okay,

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Speaker 2: so boom.

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Speaker 3: Sydney had a friend who lived up in the apartment

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Speaker 3: above her.

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Speaker 2: Sidney doesn't cook. Sid sid can't cook, sick don't cook.

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Speaker 2: This person feeds.

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Speaker 3: Her all the time, like she makes dinner and she's like, hey,

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Speaker 3: come eat, and Sidney just.

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Speaker 2: Eats and leaves.

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Speaker 3: And one day this person had cereal on the fridge

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Speaker 3: and Sidney said this is all you have or something

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Speaker 3: like that, and it was like, dad, who ain't all

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Speaker 3: the cereal, Sydney? And no, no, I've never seen her

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Speaker 3: eat cereal, Sydney, so I probably.

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Speaker 2: Was you they're cereal there though that I don't eat

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Speaker 2: the cereal. Sydney complained about the cereal.

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Speaker 3: The friend was upset, and then Sydney was mad that

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Speaker 3: the girl was mad and didn't talk to.

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Speaker 2: Her for four months. So cereal cereal but money. And

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Speaker 2: she had been feeding Sydney for I don't know, maybe

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Speaker 2: a year. I don't know how long.

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Speaker 4: She had been No, no, no, hold on, wait, you're

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Speaker 4: missing you're missing points right when people do stuff for

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Speaker 4: you and you don't ask.

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Speaker 2: That's what you're feeding. Most of the time, I'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I'm good. Oh you're not. You don't want anything? Oh

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Speaker 2: will you in a RECOGNI.

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Speaker 3: You're saying most of the time you didn't eat so

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Speaker 3: in a week, how many meals would you eat?

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Speaker 1: It?

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Speaker 3: There?

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no, no, it's no no, no, hold on,

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Speaker 4: I did not say that. I say a lot of

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Speaker 4: the times it's like it's being put on, Hey, you

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Speaker 4: want her to eat? Oh I made this. This person's

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Speaker 4: making food anyway. A lot of times sometimes I.

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Speaker 2: Don't be hungry at the time or all like oh

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Speaker 2: it's late da. So it's it's not a thing like

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Speaker 2: oh what you cooking, you cook it. It's never an

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Speaker 2: expectation of you cooking for me.

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Speaker 4: It's a your offering and I come fly through because

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Speaker 4: it's gonna be there anyway.

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Speaker 2: And if I say no, what do you you got to.

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Speaker 4: Eat in disorder? So it's like, well, let me just

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Speaker 4: eat this food. So you don't think I'm going through something.

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Speaker 4: And that's straight up what it was. And so when

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Speaker 4: the cereal thing came about. It's like, obviously you must

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Speaker 4: be having some pent up resentment or whatever about X,

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Speaker 4: Y and Z, and so that tipped her off and

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Speaker 4: was like, oh, absolutely not when for me I was like,

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Speaker 4: oh I thought I thought.

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Speaker 1: Everything was cool.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the way you're telling it now is different.

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Speaker 1: How did you resolve this with your neighbor? How did

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Speaker 1: you guys start speaking again?

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Speaker 2: I don't know how did it have Marie?

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Speaker 3: I think she I mean well, because the friend the

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Speaker 3: girl called me and I was like, oh, Sidney's wrong,

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Speaker 3: and Sidney was like, Sidney didn't think she was wrong.

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Speaker 3: And I think she wrote Sidney a letter, She got

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Speaker 3: her a gift basket.

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Speaker 2: Siddy didn't want any.

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Speaker 3: Parts of this girl. Sidney had a birthday dinner. We

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Speaker 3: all got dressed. Sidney walked by her and her birthday outfit.

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Speaker 3: Didn't it I did not.

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Speaker 2: It was crazy. I don't know how they were think.

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Speaker 3: I think COVID happened and that's how they started talking again,

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Speaker 3: brought us together and brought us apart. I do agree

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Speaker 3: with that said, though, if people do stuff for you,

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Speaker 3: you do you do you do? That's on you don't

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Speaker 3: be trying to pull up asking me for favors because

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Speaker 3: you done, did and did and did, like the Italian

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Speaker 3: is crazy, or.

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Speaker 4: If you have a problem, nip it in the bud,

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Speaker 4: don't wait for something big to pop up. And then

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Speaker 4: you you come at me and I'm like, I don't

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Speaker 4: know what where is this coming from? Yeah, I agree

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Speaker 4: with the I'm not asking your offering.

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Speaker 4: There's going to be some issues. I don't like people

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Speaker 1: I get pissed off about little things. I get pissed

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Speaker 3: Well, you know what I will say, on the border

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Speaker 3: And then Sidney is, Yeah, I feel like what I

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Speaker 2: Why are you laughing? All right? That was a great answer.

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Speaker 2: I mean, that was a really nice answer. Wow, I

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Speaker 1: Don't speak again.

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Speaker 3: Now, I would say that from Sydney, I probably learned

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you heard me, I told you to stop talking.

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Speaker 4: No, No, Amina is a human being through she will

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Speaker 4: You should work smarter, not harder. Like everything that you're doing.

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Speaker 1: Nice, nice ladies way. It ends on a high note.

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Speaker 2: Girls. I love it.

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Speaker 1: We did, and we're wrapping it up because Sydney's taping

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Speaker 1: her half hour special tonight in Vegas.

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Speaker 2: Break a Leg.

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Speaker 4: Yeah there, we saw the thirty Okay, we saw something.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And thank you ladies for making this work today.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for having us. This was really good. You

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Speaker 1: Thank you have fun tonight. And that's all for this

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Speaker 2: You can find them on.

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Speaker 1: Instagram at just sid BW. That's Sydney's at Reezi that's

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Speaker 1: as we continue couples counseling with Chelsea