Speaker 1: I know any Allush Moppy, I got hi, I know
Speaker 1: adding Ashpy. Hello, Hi Dare. I don't know what that was.
Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: I'm Erica and this is Nila and it's Wednesday, like
Speaker 2: it's actually Wednesday.
Speaker 1: We're recording on Wednesday and it's not even just Wednesday.
Speaker 1: It's five eleven. Yeah, like we this is gonna be like,
Speaker 1: this is gonna be a late episode. Yeah. I don't
Speaker 1: think anyone tunes and red at six anyway, No, thank god,
Speaker 1: because maybe they do. Maybe they listen to us in
Speaker 1: traffic or something. Oh that's true. Well, don't be that.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be a little, a little bit late.
Speaker 3: How was your weekend?
Speaker 1: It was pretty good. I worked for your week so
Speaker 1: far far everything's pretty good. You know, the usual ship
Speaker 1: that happens, plus some other usual unexpected ship that always happened,
Speaker 1: so I should expect it by now, but it doesn't,
Speaker 1: you know, adult life. How about you? How is your week?
Speaker 1: I had a pretty event full day week in general.
Speaker 1: Day yeah day. Well this week I hung out with
Speaker 1: Ivy have we was I back in town? I was
Speaker 1: out of town. I came back.
Speaker 3: I think you've been here in this whole week.
Speaker 2: That was Friday, back intown Friday, okay, and then Saturday
Speaker 2: all these fires started happening in La. I'm sure you
Speaker 2: guys watched the news. There's been a lot of big fire.
Speaker 2: Fire has been like popping up all over.
Speaker 1: Basically really like San Fernando Valley and like deeper and
Speaker 1: remember and San Francisco and San Francisco actually, and then
Speaker 1: there was a fire and Griffith Park. Oh right, so
Speaker 1: there's just fires everywhere. Oh yeah, really odd. That seemed random.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that was like related, It's not related.
Speaker 1: It was like a well, you know, the conspiracy theorists
Speaker 1: people are saying it's it's hard, but that I can't
Speaker 1: confirm that. I don't know. I don't want to. Why
Speaker 1: would they want fires? Well, at first I wanted the
Speaker 1: same thing, But today I saw an updated controversial I
Speaker 1: mean not a conspiracy uh post that basically said California
Speaker 1: is supposed to install some super high speed like subway
Speaker 1: system from San Francisco to Los Angeles, and that if
Speaker 1: you compare the maps, that the where they're like clearing
Speaker 1: out people is very similar to the maps. But I
Speaker 1: also got this from like not a re lifal source. Interesting. Interesting,
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, you know how I feel. I
Speaker 1: don't put anything past anyone land Grab. Is this the
Speaker 1: same person person? I want to say, just because I
Speaker 1: know for a fact this person doesn't listen. Probably, So
Speaker 1: remember the episode. First of all, she's obviously a little
Speaker 1: crazy and she's a very extreme. But remember the episode
Speaker 1: I told you that, did I say about the time
Speaker 1: I had the threesome with young Bay and we were
Speaker 1: with the girl she took off her full wind? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, who knew she was? I didn't know
Speaker 1: she was a conspiracy theory. She's super pro black, super
Speaker 1: conspiracy theorist, super extreme, like level tens. That's right, that's right,
Speaker 1: that's right. I showed you. Yeah you did. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Anyway, well, you know, I wouldn't put it past it.
Speaker 1: But you know, I think, I don't know. Man. These
Speaker 1: fires were like they started off small.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I heard there's a fire, and
Speaker 2: then suddenly it was like, oh no, Actually everyone in
Speaker 2: my family had to evacuate.
Speaker 1: My mom had to evacuate, my dad had to evacuate.
Speaker 1: Baby daddy had to evacuate. Mandatory evacuations. So the speaking
Speaker 1: was kind of crazy. My dad's what are you watching
Speaker 1: some more of her conspiracy?
Speaker 2: My dad's neighbor's house burnt down, and all around my
Speaker 2: mom's neighborhood got burnt up. It was crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And it just smells like smoke in general, like
Speaker 1: those last over the weekend. It was just smoky and
Speaker 1: I had a bad allergy. The whole valley you can smell.
Speaker 1: It's like someone's of barbecuing, but everywhere. I just feel
Speaker 1: so bad for all those people that lost everything, that
Speaker 1: didn't have time to get anything out. The animals that
Speaker 1: are like I.
Speaker 2: Could just imagine them trying to escape the fire, running
Speaker 2: back and forth, smoking elation, not even having no idea
Speaker 2: what's happening.
Speaker 1: You know, nowhere to run to, not knowing where to run.
Speaker 1: They transported the giraffe from Malibu Line so far, most important,
Speaker 1: most importantly giraffe, the famous draft from Hangover is safe.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah.
Speaker 2: Her Calamigo's ranch, I think up burned down, which is
Speaker 2: like a huge wedding destination area.
Speaker 1: It's also actually it was looking there for my wedding.
Speaker 1: It's a rehab too. Clients and there really like super
Speaker 1: rich rehab clients who insist in getting their lashes done
Speaker 1: while they're still in rehab. Wait, you would go to
Speaker 1: the rehabs to do their lab Yeah, that's amazing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's beautiful and like so much shit. Also, that
Speaker 1: happened last week, like three days later, three days before
Speaker 1: the fire, was that shooting at the bar and Thousand Oaks.
Speaker 1: And there was a couple whose son got killed at
Speaker 1: that bar and their house burned down three days later.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, are you kidding me? Yes? Girl? What?
Speaker 1: Then there was another there was another woman who said
Speaker 1: that her was it her son or her brother had
Speaker 1: had escaped the Vegas shooting. No, and then and that
Speaker 1: one he did. Yeah, there's like freaking accidents. This is
Speaker 1: this is insane. It's so sad.
Speaker 2: And I heard that Tamara Mawori, her niece. Yeah, it's
Speaker 2: just crazy. I mean this this to put it in perspective.
Speaker 2: You guys, this place the shooting is probably like twenty
Speaker 2: five minutes from here on the freeway.
Speaker 1: It was like a twenty eight year old ex military guy. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And then the fire they had the fire, the fire
Speaker 2: started out, it started off and think paradise, it's something
Speaker 2: called like paradise. But then it affected Thousand Oaks two
Speaker 2: and effective just all of the San Fernando Valley.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm still waiting to hear.
Speaker 1: It's just so fun. It's just so funny to me
Speaker 1: how whenever there's a shooting and you know it's a
Speaker 1: white person, it's not like a terrorist, oh for sure,
Speaker 1: if this would have been any ray other race. Like
Speaker 1: I don't want to bring it there, like sorry to
Speaker 1: make it all like crazy, but like the media portrays
Speaker 1: like a troubled a troubled ex vet goes goes on,
Speaker 1: goes on, psychic rampage and cycle, you know, and then
Speaker 1: it it's like, oh, sweet smoking teenager from urban inner city,
Speaker 1: like it's come to completely good case study the Koran,
Speaker 1: right right. You know, it's just like the media, really,
Speaker 1: I just haven't I haven't really been hearing much about it,
Speaker 1: the shooting. Like I feel like they're like just moving on.
Speaker 1: It's weird. We live in a weird time, in a
Speaker 1: weird space and where shit is going on, and I
Speaker 1: feel like they don't want to talk about it because
Speaker 1: it's like, oh my god, Like it's just like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's fucked up, but like you know, I guess I
Speaker 1: just should happen. There's just so much fucked up ship
Speaker 1: going on in general in the world, like there's this's
Speaker 1: just a very weird place ran and I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't know if they're trying to like enrage the
Speaker 1: public for for gun laws or I mean, I'm always
Speaker 1: thinking there's an agenda that needs to be because the
Speaker 1: media only talks about what they want to be relevant period.
Speaker 1: They want what they want to push is definitely like
Speaker 1: there's an a gender, they have the ability and the
Speaker 1: means to do it. And if you think what the
Speaker 1: mainstream media is talking about is by chance, you're to
Speaker 1: your fucking mind, you know, like that this is like no, it's.
Speaker 2: All about like strategic It's fine, we died this, like
Speaker 2: they know we digest that shit and like it seeps
Speaker 2: into our heads and it's all about mind control and.
Speaker 1: What they want you to feel is important. And I mean, obviously,
Speaker 1: like I think all of also like we're intelligent beings
Speaker 1: and we did also have our own minds too and
Speaker 1: decide what's important too. But there's definitely a heavy influence
Speaker 1: in the media. I do. Specifically, I took a like
Speaker 1: an intro to psychology class, and I don't know if
Speaker 1: I remember shit else from this whole semester or any
Speaker 1: other class I Tech. But there was a portion they
Speaker 1: talk about like what advertising and the introduction of television
Speaker 1: and radio, And there's just like a page specifically about
Speaker 1: how at that time, when it first came out, they
Speaker 1: started to study the psyche of the human brain and
Speaker 1: psychological what they can implant subconsciously and consciously and how
Speaker 1: our brain works that psychology. Yeah, more things than we
Speaker 1: probably educate ourselves on knowing. So psychologically, if someone has
Speaker 1: spent fifty seventy five years, one hundred years, whatever, like
Speaker 1: really funny realizing the functioning past our own understanding. Best
Speaker 1: believe there are so many subliminal and subconscious things being
Speaker 1: fed to us NonStop that we're actually taking in and
Speaker 1: acknowledging and not even consciously our children. That's why a
Speaker 1: lot of times in the radio, I automatically turn off advertisements.
Speaker 1: I don't watch commercials, I don't fall asleep to that shit.
Speaker 1: I don't really watch TV. Not that I'm susceptible, because
Speaker 1: I clearly look at Facebook and cry and shit. But
Speaker 1: the point is it's like we can logically from what
Speaker 1: we know we're taking in, so imagine what we don't
Speaker 1: even know we're taking in. No, it's true. It's fucking scary.
Speaker 1: It's true. What people want to be like, you're so
Speaker 1: so conspiracy. I'm like, no, it's real, people, or you're
Speaker 1: in programs. That shit is real. It's not like some
Speaker 1: far out movie sci fi movie. It's happening. I think
Speaker 1: that shit, I honestly, I mean, like I know, I
Speaker 1: think like mk ultra is real. Do you know what
Speaker 1: that is? What's that an mk ultra? Okay, So, like
Speaker 1: have you ever seen those movies? They're always in movies,
Speaker 1: but it's a real thing in the government where they
Speaker 1: like basically can program a soldier and then they can
Speaker 1: reprogram you to completely not have like memory of those
Speaker 1: like the ninja training they've taught you or whatever like,
Speaker 1: and then they can trigger you at any point in
Speaker 1: your life, like say a combination of random word's like
Speaker 1: sugar brown two beta seven two four five two six
Speaker 1: ten one walk away, and then suddenly you've been you've
Speaker 1: been reprogrammed, and then you could do anything they pro
Speaker 1: like they've programmed you to do. So for instance, like
Speaker 1: that guy. People don't think I'm bad shit that guy
Speaker 1: like who did remember the movie shooting a while back
Speaker 1: when they when they yeah, when they put him on trial,
Speaker 1: he's like, he has no recollection of that. He doesn't
Speaker 1: he had no reason, like he did not know what happened,
Speaker 1: and they were trying to say he was just crazy.
Speaker 1: But like, even for instance, this is what I really
Speaker 1: not to say that people don't get killed and they're
Speaker 1: not in harm because I think they have to in
Speaker 1: order to get their point across. But for this one's
Speaker 1: what I knew for sure was an MK ultra. The
Speaker 1: fucking Las Vegas shootings were definitely they have like videos
Speaker 1: and you can hear multiple shooters from different ranges. You
Speaker 1: have the most security in the world. I'm concerned in
Speaker 1: a casino anywhere in Vegas on the strip, in a casino,
Speaker 1: you have the most surveillance. Ever. They never showed a
Speaker 1: surveillance of this old ass man dragging all these guns
Speaker 1: in and all this ammo. Do you know how heavy
Speaker 1: ammo is? Even if the butt like the Bellman, had
Speaker 1: an excessive amount of luggage, you would be alarmed. You
Speaker 1: would see a surveillance someone would have like, there's so
Speaker 1: many things that did not make sense, and then we're
Speaker 1: obvious blatant sloppy lies. It makes me think that. And
Speaker 1: then they like interviewed the girlfriend who worked at a
Speaker 1: casino and she's like, I had no idea. His brother
Speaker 1: was like I had just seen him's always around kids.
Speaker 1: I don't know he even really his girlfriend had moved,
Speaker 1: was in like China or or something she had like
Speaker 1: he had sent her away. No, but she was going
Speaker 1: to visit her family like they had planned on she
Speaker 1: had planned on going, but no one was like, this
Speaker 1: is totally something that No. His brother said he was
Speaker 1: like a recluse and like had started to be like
Speaker 1: more recluse.
Speaker 2: I don't know who knows, Like I I think that
Speaker 2: that that one specifically, I remember there being a lot
Speaker 2: of like conspiracies around it.
Speaker 1: It just didn't make a lot of sense. No, there's
Speaker 1: definitely some parts of it that don't make sense, Like
Speaker 1: how do you get all that animal in there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: well he's like it was like a seventy He wasn't
Speaker 1: like a young like a ninja shit girl. You know,
Speaker 1: it's just odd and it makes me think, like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, maybe I watched too many movies, or maybe
Speaker 1: this ship is real. The government has a nasty, nasty
Speaker 1: system we have here in America, and there's some nasty.
Speaker 2: People in it for sure. Shavy shit happens all the
Speaker 2: time to influence things all the time. I mean, she's
Speaker 2: you know, slavery.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't. I don't put past that.
Speaker 2: I don't put past like, you know, terrorist attacks happening
Speaker 2: in the United States, you know, put on by the
Speaker 2: government to push the NRA's agenda, right, you know, and.
Speaker 1: We need to be protected. Look what happens when you're
Speaker 1: not protected exactly? You know, for sure, give up all
Speaker 1: your rights let us protect you. Yeah. So yeah, I
Speaker 1: think that's shady speaking of shady police. Also for speaking
Speaker 1: a shady government, which you can rely on us to
Speaker 1: talk about every week. There's I don't know if anyone
Speaker 1: saw this, there's this senator Mississippi. No, she's junior senator.
Speaker 1: I guess she's running against a Democrat in the twenty seventh. Anyway,
Speaker 1: she's literally on video saying if there if there was
Speaker 1: a hanging I'd be on the front row, y if
Speaker 1: there was a public hanging out in the front row,
Speaker 1: And then ask her about it the following day and
Speaker 1: she's like, I said what I said. I put a
Speaker 1: statement out and yeah, I put a statement out and
Speaker 1: I staying by my statement. The woman's like, being as
Speaker 1: though Mississippi has the history of lynchings. I put out
Speaker 1: my statement and my statement my sgment, so being as
Speaker 1: though you have a very dense black population. I said, what,
Speaker 1: I'm like, bitch, She gave zero fox. Then, according to CNN,
Speaker 1: she released the statement like maybe a tweet that said
Speaker 1: that she was talking about a local cattle farmer. Yeah, yo,
Speaker 1: it's the bitch you could say, I said. I stand
Speaker 1: by my statement. We're in a very We're not as
Speaker 1: far as we think we are. We've come.
Speaker 2: It's just crazy how it's undeniable yet people really some
Speaker 2: people really think that, like move on, Yeah, race, we're
Speaker 2: all one race, the human race.
Speaker 1: Move on. And it's like, I'm trying, but the senator
Speaker 1: keeps saying lynchy things, you know, like I hate ever
Speaker 1: people saying like maybe you stop focusing maybe a black
Speaker 1: people stop focusing on race so much. I'm like, but
Speaker 1: it keeps focusing on us. I don't know, but keep
Speaker 1: getting killed and flenched and ship. It's a huge problem.
Speaker 1: It was a lynching like two weeks ago. Yeah, a
Speaker 1: woman who's like an activist in the community, her son. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just But then they try to play it off as, oh,
Speaker 1: it was a suicide, a suicide. They were trying to
Speaker 1: say that he was lynched off a tree of someone
Speaker 1: with someone not his shirt, like Sandra Bland, it was
Speaker 1: a suicide, and this was a suicide in jail. Bitch
Speaker 1: decided to kill herself on a routine trophic cuff. That
Speaker 1: bitch was in there like I'm going to sue the
Speaker 1: ship of them is what she was in there thinking.
Speaker 1: And they knew, Oh, bitch is kind of smart. We
Speaker 1: did too much. We did too much, we went too far,
Speaker 1: too far, we can't testify it. Let's just say she
Speaker 1: killed herself and even they got away with that shit. Yo.
Speaker 1: It makes my fucking blood boil. I mean, like hard,
Speaker 1: because I people don't understand. People do not understand, like
Speaker 1: the severity. I would like to like be blaxed about it,
Speaker 1: but I'm in fucking rage relaxed. Oh I like to
Speaker 1: be blaxed about it. I'm like, is that like a
Speaker 1: calm black person, no blas Maybe it can be if
Speaker 1: you're if you're too common as a black person blaxed.
Speaker 1: She's way too blexed. It's a term though, because you
Speaker 1: know black people wo are like, well, I don't really
Speaker 1: see Ray.
Speaker 3: She's really too blaxed.
Speaker 1: So if you're too blacks, which we just made it
Speaker 1: right now, we probably can't be friends if we can't
Speaker 1: get in these arguments about why we're mad and angry
Speaker 1: at the world and what the solution can be, and
Speaker 1: also how are you going to get to change it?
Speaker 1: You're blacks and I can't hang with you, which is
Speaker 1: even worse than wax white and relaxed. I know, it's
Speaker 1: just even more embarrassing. I feel you, girl, I mean
Speaker 1: that's just I can cry. No, I have cried, I
Speaker 1: mean so many times hearing story after story. It's just
Speaker 1: like what it could be, like your father, your sister,
Speaker 1: your son. I can't I do understand that we live
Speaker 1: in this fucked up world where people can't just love
Speaker 1: each other. Like humans are so lovey, Like we're so easy.
Speaker 1: It's so we're so easy to love. People are easy
Speaker 1: to love, and I think so, I think people are
Speaker 1: generally easy to love. I can find something to love
Speaker 1: about most people, you know. And I just don't understand
Speaker 1: how you can't like see someone and see someone close
Speaker 1: to you, like your grandma, your mom, your something, like
Speaker 1: in any situation, like it's somebody. Somebody, Every human is somebody,
Speaker 1: even the racist woman that's coming. I mean, I just
Speaker 1: I think it's funny.
Speaker 3: I think it's sad. I think, but you can find
Speaker 3: something to love in her and in that not in
Speaker 3: that moment, you can't.
Speaker 1: Not not to I think, not.
Speaker 2: Not to not.
Speaker 1: But I feel sorry for her sadness. I feel sorry
Speaker 1: for her ignorance. I feel sorry she lets her whole
Speaker 1: old Why asked life to about eighty five to even
Speaker 1: have accomplishments like being a senator and still be so
Speaker 1: hateful and still be so lonely and sad? And that's
Speaker 1: sad to me, that's sad. You hold that much hate
Speaker 1: in your heart. You said, you said at a rally,
Speaker 1: I would like to be front row watching somebody's death.
Speaker 1: You're a fucking monster. You are a fucking monster. I
Speaker 1: feel bad for you. You know, like you're eighty years
Speaker 1: old and you got this foreign life and you want
Speaker 1: to watch somebody die. You're a sick bitch, you know.
Speaker 1: You tell that Jimmy Lie, You tell Cindy Pale, whatever
Speaker 1: the fuck her name is. Listen here, Cindy Hyde Smith,
Speaker 1: I love you even though you're a silly bitch. Imagine
Speaker 1: the little pollutions of children she's planned in the world. Disguison. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't. I'm not okay, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna bash Cindy's offspring. You don't know her offspring.
Speaker 3: They could be all against this because their mother was
Speaker 3: so hateful growing up.
Speaker 2: I'm going probably why she's so hateful because her daughter
Speaker 2: is married a black guy.
Speaker 1: Yes, she has a little live and worse, her son
Speaker 1: married a black woman. Even worse, Dear, why is that worse?
Speaker 1: Because don't you find that, like white people think it's
Speaker 1: worse if their son married a black woman versus their
Speaker 1: daughter being a black guy. No, I think I think
Speaker 1: white people hate black men more. You that's true.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right you No, No, they hate a sequel.
Speaker 1: No, they hate a sequel. I think it's worse because
Speaker 1: they'll take that black man's last name. You're gotta be Jones,
Speaker 1: he put what you you're gonna be? You gotta be
Speaker 1: Cyril Brown. And then they have a baby, and then
Speaker 1: suddenly they like you a little bit more. Because everyone
Speaker 1: loves children. No, not Cindy little, not Cindy.
Speaker 3: I find that the children are usually the.
Speaker 1: It is.
Speaker 2: It's true, like the turning, it's not necessarily the turning.
Speaker 2: It's becoming a more tolerant like.
Speaker 1: Oh she's half, why she's half?
Speaker 3: Oh but she's so cute, these little mixed Oh my god,
Speaker 3: where was I? Oh my god, where was I? When
Speaker 3: I was listening to a conversation.
Speaker 1: I could not focus, Like I was at dinner with
Speaker 1: someone else, but I was listening to someone else's the
Speaker 1: conversation with this group. Oh it was in Florida, of course.
Speaker 2: Of course I was in Florida, in Saint Petersburg and
Speaker 2: I was out eating, and so she was talking to me,
Speaker 2: and I was like, couldn't barely focus because I was
Speaker 2: listening to this table behind me.
Speaker 3: And they're like, yeah, you know, you know, she's one
Speaker 3: of those mixed babies.
Speaker 1: I couldn't help but think of you.
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, you know, her dad is African American
Speaker 2: and her mom you know, she's light like us. So
Speaker 2: you know when they mix it together these days, like
Speaker 2: they get they're really beautiful.
Speaker 1: How they come out. I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: I mean the intention was like was there, but like
Speaker 1: the breakdown of the whole conversation. I was like, oh no,
Speaker 1: I mean I've literally been been around friends I would
Speaker 1: like acquaintances, and they'll be like, oh, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: like oh she's but she's like light, she's pretty, she's light,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like shut up. Like people are just
Speaker 1: so ignorant and so oblivious to just like even verbiage
Speaker 1: like how you deliver things and what you're saying, like
Speaker 1: you might need you should sink before you talk, Like
Speaker 1: I hate that. Like someone asked me I was doing LA.
Speaker 1: She's like, oh, is your baby mixed? I'm like no,
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, my trainer, like she's so cute, she
Speaker 1: has she I love when they're trying to tell me
Speaker 1: they know a friend who has a mixed baby, you know,
Speaker 1: because like, oh she's black. I'm like she's like she's mixed.
Speaker 1: I'm like, ohh she mixed with like oh black and Korean.
Speaker 1: She's so cute. And then she's like, is your baby mixed?
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, it's not a Gucci you know, it's
Speaker 1: not the special edition, not a thing. Not everyone is.
Speaker 1: Even though I am, she's a Gucci special position. We
Speaker 1: sold out in eighty seven so I get super irritated.
Speaker 1: I know I need to calm the fuck down, though,
Speaker 1: Why do I shoes? Young babe? Oh my got our teeth?
Speaker 1: Oh go get it. It's delicious. But young Bay, you
Speaker 1: know how you can make your emoji on your phone?
Speaker 1: He's gonna kill like good thing. Listen he did the
Speaker 1: emoji and I'm like, yo, why did you make your
Speaker 1: eyes like light? Your eyes? Didn't you show me them?
Speaker 1: Did I show you? Or is it you that showed me?
Speaker 1: I can't remember? And he was all laughing. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I know, you know you picked those light eyes and
Speaker 1: you are asked, does not have these are dark as hell?
Speaker 1: They're a dark brown. I'm like, I can't get the
Speaker 1: fuck out of here with your fake as this is
Speaker 1: how you see yourself? Oh my god.
Speaker 2: No, someone else was showing me. They were making fun
Speaker 2: of someone else's emoji like that. Oh yeah, it was
Speaker 2: Actually I was on the plane. I was on a
Speaker 2: plane flying when I was flying back from New York
Speaker 2: this last week. The person next to me, we I
Speaker 2: became friends with these all these these guys that were
Speaker 2: traveling to LA to like have fun away from their kids.
Speaker 2: And he was like, show show her your emoji.
Speaker 1: Show me.
Speaker 3: The guy is like, where is he from? He was, uh, Guyanese,
Speaker 3: And so he's like, he shows.
Speaker 1: Me his emoji.
Speaker 2: This emoji is like four shades lighter than him and
Speaker 2: she and his friend is Guyanese. He's like, do you
Speaker 2: see how fucking light this motherfucker wade himself? And I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, why did you do that?
Speaker 2: And I tried to make my bit moji first of all.
Speaker 2: Then I didn't feel like I was not satisfied with
Speaker 2: my hair options. No, I mean that, but it's still fun.
Speaker 2: I didn't I didn't even do it. I was like,
Speaker 2: fuck this, I'm not represented here. I like my hair
Speaker 2: so curly hair would look like bubbles on my head
Speaker 2: like there was it was an even and it's linglents
Speaker 2: or something.
Speaker 1: Ship just looked like bubble head. I don't know. How's
Speaker 1: your emoji? Your bit moji? What is it called a
Speaker 1: bit mooji memoji? What does yours look like? I wish?
Speaker 1: My cousin told me mim was too dark? My bitch,
Speaker 1: you can't see? Did you fuck it up? Did you
Speaker 1: have what do you think that's called erica? Like if
Speaker 1: you have, like you see yourself differently than you actually are. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a just sort of morpho morphius, like self morphia.
Speaker 1: I made that up. You think about it, You think
Speaker 1: about that a huh. Yeah, We're gonna pause because Erica
Speaker 1: is making tea and it didn't work out. Give us
Speaker 1: one second. Sorry, we had to make some tea. It
Speaker 1: was crucial talking about my black anger black on that
Speaker 1: how I hate the government whole black humans. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: am oh No, we're talking about self morphia. When you
Speaker 1: see yourself as like self morphia. Body is morphia when
Speaker 1: people see themselves something that they totally don't look like,
Speaker 1: like for shake slider.
Speaker 2: Or ten years younger, right, which I do feel twenty one. Anyway,
Speaker 2: Also to this week, today, I got a colonic.
Speaker 1: Guys. I'm not sure if anyone out there has experienced
Speaker 1: a kolonic, but shit, literally literally, I actually did a
Speaker 1: post about my sugar addiction on our Instagram and I
Speaker 1: got a lot of messages back from some of you
Speaker 1: guys about like different tips or things I should do
Speaker 1: to like get the sugar out of my body and
Speaker 1: like you know, jump start my new life style is
Speaker 1: a non sugar addict. One of them was a colonic.
Speaker 1: Another one was like a parasite detox. Someone said fruit,
Speaker 1: which doesn't work for me. I would goether fruit detal,
Speaker 1: like just eat fruit or just only eat fruit instead
Speaker 1: of sugar. Oh across the sugar.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, well, if it was that easy, I
Speaker 3: would have been done that.
Speaker 1: So I had a mcflurry last night. Guys, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of mad you went without me. Wait how about this?
Speaker 1: This is even worse. It's so fucked up. So I
Speaker 1: ate the mcflur. And you know how like when they
Speaker 1: make the MC flour they never put enough at the bottom.
Speaker 1: You never cut enough for the cookie to reach the
Speaker 1: bottom of You went and got your own oreos and
Speaker 1: put them in. You crunched them up and put them
Speaker 1: inside boh my dear, and it was so bombed. You
Speaker 1: crushed it fresh like the orioles I have in the
Speaker 1: cabinet on our trip, girl girl, but you crushed him
Speaker 1: and then fort him in. I ate, well, I ate it,
Speaker 1: And then I was like I hate this ship.
Speaker 2: How like I get to like, I get to like
Speaker 2: middle Bottom and it's just like this creamy like I
Speaker 2: saw her an ice cream.
Speaker 1: It's like, I don't even know what that shit is.
Speaker 1: It's like super thick. I don't know it is, and
Speaker 1: then so I was like, what this I have oreos?
Speaker 1: So I crunched up like three oreos and like, how
Speaker 1: did you crunch him in a baggy with my fingers
Speaker 1: my bare ants? And then I used the McDonald's spoon.
Speaker 1: It was like crunching them aggressively in the cup.
Speaker 2: Still it was bomb anyway, but all knowing that even
Speaker 2: the next day I was going to get it colonic.
Speaker 2: So me and Jamila went Jamila did my lashes last night,
Speaker 2: and then we went to, uh, where do we go?
Speaker 1: Cheesecake factory? Ordered everything I wanted until I was gonna puke.
Speaker 1: I ate so much, but then decided I'd have one
Speaker 1: last space and room for dessert. So I pulled over.
Speaker 2: As I'm pulling in McDonald's because I don't ever go
Speaker 2: to McDonald's ever.
Speaker 1: I was like, where are we going? What is this?
Speaker 1: She's like, Mommy, what are we getting? What are we getting?
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not doing anything. I get a
Speaker 1: real sugar attic like you get nothing for She was like,
Speaker 1: I want lemonade. I'm like, it's too late for lemonade.
Speaker 1: But not like the perks of being an adult. Yeah.
Speaker 1: She was like I was hoping she wouldn't ask for it,
Speaker 1: because that's how real I am. And then she was
Speaker 1: like is that ice cream? And I was like I
Speaker 1: was gonna lie. I was gonna lie.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, yes, it's ice cream and
Speaker 2: she was like oh. And then she was like can
Speaker 2: I have something? And I was like she had a bite,
Speaker 2: and then she didn't ask for any more. I was like,
Speaker 2: thank god, because she knew she was pushing mine. I
Speaker 2: like literally am in the bed because she was going
Speaker 2: to bed and she slips with me still ending tomorrow
Speaker 2: and you're ending.
Speaker 1: She was like sleep. She was like trying to lay
Speaker 1: on top of me, and.
Speaker 2: I was like you can't lay on top and she's
Speaker 2: like why Mom, Like no, because I want to eat
Speaker 2: my ice cream in peace, in private. I was like
Speaker 2: eating it like this, she wouldn't see me and be
Speaker 2: remembered of it, like reminded that I had ice cream.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's how deep it goes. Guys, that's
Speaker 1: how bad this sugar she made? They the klonic. Yes,
Speaker 1: So I went to this this woman. She was really awesome. Great.
Speaker 2: Should follow a on Instagram. She does have an Instagram
Speaker 2: Colonics by cam Kam and she you know, walked me
Speaker 2: through it. I've had I've had colonics before. It's been
Speaker 2: a really long time. But yeah, she's put that thing.
Speaker 1: She like lubed up that pose, inserted it in very delicately.
Speaker 1: Like it was so delicate.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh if all my anal sex experiences
Speaker 2: have been this ways.
Speaker 1: As gentle as you can. That's why guys are so
Speaker 1: anti because it goes up there butt. Yeah, it's like
Speaker 1: your shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so stupid. And at first it was fine,
Speaker 2: like they filled. What they do is they fill you
Speaker 2: up with water for like sixty seconds or as long
Speaker 2: as you can really do it. They hope you can get.
Speaker 2: The goal is to get to sixty seconds and then
Speaker 2: releasing it. And so they have to do that like
Speaker 2: a bunch of times because it takes a while to
Speaker 2: really break through all your intestines and get all the
Speaker 2: way up there.
Speaker 1: So like the first few flushes were like uncomfortable, but
Speaker 1: like I was doing fine. The lack bitch like the
Speaker 1: last two I was like, I don't think I could
Speaker 1: do this. I was like, I feel nauseous, I'm going
Speaker 1: to throw up. I feel not throw up. I just
Speaker 1: felt ill. I felt like I needed I just felt like,
Speaker 1: you know, when you take a laxi, if you're taking
Speaker 1: a laxive, it feels like someone's like kind of cutting
Speaker 1: you inside and then yeah, the release. But I will
Speaker 1: say I definitely think everybody needs to do it. There's
Speaker 1: no way you can really cleanse yourself naturally.
Speaker 2: That deeply, you know what I mean, and really clear
Speaker 2: out like you know, your colon holds so much it's
Speaker 2: like a breathing ground for just like things.
Speaker 1: I thought I could do it at home with the
Speaker 1: host to your tub or something. Oh and where just
Speaker 1: have the shit come out? Where in your tub? I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just thought I saw like a home
Speaker 1: kit before it's actual shit.
Speaker 3: What do you think is coming out of me?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what else would have.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's bile okay, okay, okay, it's called liquids.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of things. Yeah, anyway, enough I might
Speaker 1: be probably like, Okay, we're gonna listen to next episode.
Speaker 1: We spent six minutes on her klonic details. She was
Speaker 1: going to post a video, but she got too intense
Speaker 1: she stopped recording. I told her she should go ahead
Speaker 1: and record. Just go ahead and show. Well, I have
Speaker 1: another appointment next Tuesday. It's a process. Bring that, Bring
Speaker 1: the tripod you want to have. This is me covering
Speaker 1: one on one. Eric's on their Instagram Live Colonic Edition.
Speaker 1: Tune in Tuesday for the live Kalon. Oh my God,
Speaker 1: Colonic review. We're odd. We're odd people. If you like us,
Speaker 1: you're odd too.
Speaker 2: Anyway, today's episode, I was going to do a transition,
Speaker 2: but there's no transition into what today's episode is.
Speaker 1: We go back to the if we go to the
Speaker 1: other whole, if we ever heard our attention, back to
Speaker 1: the other hole.
Speaker 2: Down there, you have the whole that creates life, a
Speaker 2: much lighter, brighterhood that creates life. Yesterday was Thanks birth
Speaker 2: Control Day. Had no idea, but I saw a few
Speaker 2: posts on it, and I think birth control is the
Speaker 2: day that deserves.
Speaker 1: I think it deserves its own day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, Like there's a lot of bullshit as holidays.
Speaker 2: I think birth control definitely.
Speaker 1: Day. So it was Thanks birth Control Day.
Speaker 2: Yesterday, and it brought was brought to my attention and
Speaker 2: I was I was thinking about birth control and my
Speaker 2: journey with birth control, and like you know, and it
Speaker 2: made me think, like, wow, everyone has a different story,
Speaker 2: everyone has a different experience with birth control.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? And oh god, I also guys,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I say you know what I mean a
Speaker 1: lot and I'm really realizing it now hit me every
Speaker 1: time I say it. But anyway, it just made me
Speaker 1: think about, you know, just how people what people, how.
Speaker 2: People choose what birth control they want to take, and
Speaker 2: their views on it, you know, because I think I
Speaker 2: started for me. For me, I started birth control when
Speaker 2: I was fourteen and I had my first or maybe
Speaker 2: it was was I fourteen or fifteen. I was maybe
Speaker 2: fourteen or fifteen around that age, and my boyfriend at
Speaker 2: the time, my first serious boyfriend, you know, he took
Speaker 2: my well no he didn't take everybody, but we weren't
Speaker 2: going to have sex more often than that, the guy
Speaker 2: that took my virtuity, and I was like, we probably
Speaker 2: should be on birth control.
Speaker 1: He's actually the one that said it to me. Wow, Like,
Speaker 1: this is not a conversation that my mom ever had
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 2: Your boyfriend's yeah, like I'm good for his parents, yeah,
Speaker 2: because his mom was a midwife. Oh wow, yeah, And
Speaker 2: so she was talked about then yeah, I talked about
Speaker 2: it openly with me, and of course I felt so
Speaker 2: uncomfortable because I was like, why are you talking about
Speaker 2: this with me? Like my mom doesn't even talk about
Speaker 2: this with me, And she was like, you she'd get
Speaker 2: birth control or he said that, and then she was
Speaker 2: like and she talked to me about it too.
Speaker 1: He was planning parenthood, so cute. And my mom found
Speaker 1: this out later. I was so pissed.
Speaker 2: And at that mom, yeah, like felt like she overstepped,
Speaker 2: overstepped her would be like, thanks overstepped her boundaries as
Speaker 2: a mom, like, it's not your role.
Speaker 1: Did she call her? I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think they did have a conversation because what the
Speaker 2: deal breaker was, my oh not deal breaker. Well, my
Speaker 2: mom did find out I was on birth control. It
Speaker 2: was because she was like, if you want to.
Speaker 1: He was going on his family owned like a cabin
Speaker 1: in Montana and they wanted to invite me, and like
Speaker 1: she was like, the only way you're going on a
Speaker 1: trip with the boys if you tell me if you're
Speaker 1: having sex. And you told me the truth, Yeah, you
Speaker 1: couldn't go. No, she still let me go. You went
Speaker 1: to Montana. We were supposed to sleep in separate times.
Speaker 1: That didn't happen.
Speaker 2: Oh, it was a camping trip. I thought they owned
Speaker 2: a house. They did, but we were camping along the river.
Speaker 2: Like we started it in one place and we like
Speaker 2: camped and kayak down the river to her house.
Speaker 1: Were they white?
Speaker 3: Yes, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I was like, wait the mom about bird's control.
Speaker 2: You guys camped and he was adopted. He was black
Speaker 2: and he was a white family, Jewish woman and a
Speaker 2: Japanese man.
Speaker 1: That's actually a great family story. Yeah. I always said
Speaker 1: my husband and would like to go camping and go upstream.
Speaker 1: There was no husband. She was a single parent. Well
Speaker 1: they were divorced. Oh okay, but they had adopted him together.
Speaker 1: They adopted h Yeah, they were married when they adopted him.
Speaker 1: Are you still friends with them? Yeah, he's like one
Speaker 1: of my best friends. Really. Yeah.
Speaker 2: It's like a really cool So he lives in New Mexico.
Speaker 2: He's always he grew up in Echo Park, so he
Speaker 2: was already like you know, it was Echo Park.
Speaker 1: Before it was cool, right, But he just was like
Speaker 1: a cool It was on the East side, Like he
Speaker 1: was just a cool kid.
Speaker 3: But naturally, you know, like kind of looked homeless all
Speaker 3: the time.
Speaker 1: But like that's cool. Now it's a well informed kid. Yeah.
Speaker 3: So he's married now lives in New Mexico and is
Speaker 3: a teacher.
Speaker 2: But hey, Miles, So anyway, yeah, so that's how I.
Speaker 2: I went to a planned parenthood by myself. Like I
Speaker 2: think I like took the bus there or something. Yeah,
Speaker 2: or like maybe like did he drop or had a
Speaker 2: friend drop me off or something, because at that point
Speaker 2: I think I had friends that were like sixteen and driving,
Speaker 2: and so they dropped me off.
Speaker 1: I waited there forever and ever.
Speaker 2: And got birth control, was hiding it from my mom
Speaker 2: and yeah, that was my entry into birth control.
Speaker 1: And then I stopped taking birth control, probably in high school.
Speaker 2: Too, like I Toldly, took it while I had sex
Speaker 2: with him, and then or maybe not, maybe I went
Speaker 2: through college and then I started having really weird feelings
Speaker 2: about birth control. I started feeling like, excuse me. I
Speaker 2: started feeling like what am I taking? Then I have
Speaker 2: to take everything every single day, like this can't be
Speaker 2: good for my body. And I stopped taking it, and
Speaker 2: I didn't take it free. I didn't take it birth
Speaker 2: control until after I had Iri. So most of my
Speaker 2: life I haven't taken birth control my birth control method
Speaker 2: was pulled out or condoms, and with baby.
Speaker 1: We didn't we didn't, we did not use the.
Speaker 2: Pullout method for years years, I never got pregnant. So
Speaker 2: I thought, maybe I can't get pregnant because I'm like,
Speaker 2: we are very unsafe.
Speaker 1: Yeah, clearly it's not true. Don't don't be fooled because
Speaker 1: I did the same thing for like over a year,
Speaker 1: fucking not using the pullout method, and I got pregnant.
Speaker 1: Like wait, oh wait, what's happening, dab bitch, you're not pregnant.
Speaker 1: I think I started taking birth control like at fourteen,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I was like my high school boyfriend. I
Speaker 1: think I went by myself, took the bus or some
Speaker 1: shit to planned parenthood hence the freedness of California planned parenthood.
Speaker 1: And I remember like my dad found it on the bed,
Speaker 1: I like left it out, and I was like fuck,
Speaker 1: And they were like want to have a talk with me?
Speaker 1: And I was like I don't want to have to
Speaker 1: fucking talk. Had your parents talked to you about sex priorities?
Speaker 1: They never have, They never did. My mom like uncomfortably,
Speaker 1: is like you're you're that's your diamond, Like she said,
Speaker 1: like weird shit like that, but there was no God.
Speaker 1: I hate when parents do that. I just don't. And
Speaker 1: at this point, yeah, this point, I was like fourteen fifteen,
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm good, I get it, you know,
Speaker 1: like I don't want to talk about it. Like when
Speaker 1: you make shits so unheard of, and then you've decided
Speaker 1: and achieve basically adulthood to have a conversation, it's going
Speaker 1: to be awkward. But at that point you've had sex,
Speaker 1: said you know, yeah the gist, yeah, and your friends
Speaker 1: are fucking or somebody's fucking. But I tried to lie
Speaker 1: and say it was like to light for my skin
Speaker 1: or something, and they're like, not trying to hear it.
Speaker 1: But I was like, why are you mad? I'm doing
Speaker 1: the right thing. You're mad because you're fucking I don't. Yeah,
Speaker 1: as a potein for I don't think that lasted very
Speaker 1: long because I got pregnant when I was like fifteen,
Speaker 1: went back to playing parenthood.
Speaker 3: It was traumatic my parents because you didn't taking birth control.
Speaker 1: I guess I obviously was not taking it was I
Speaker 1: guess I forgot, which I've never been good at taking
Speaker 1: birth control. I forget. And I think after that I
Speaker 1: got the depth of the boy that I was taking
Speaker 1: it that you got pregnant. Did his family know? No,
Speaker 1: he wasn't really looking at this family. Yeah, I hate
Speaker 1: a weird living situation. That's the one I said. I
Speaker 1: ran into almost yeah. Yeah, so this is like my
Speaker 1: first boyfriend. And I ran into him. And I had
Speaker 1: heard that he was like on crystal math, but I
Speaker 1: saw him and I was like, and I shook me
Speaker 1: to the core because we were so close. I had
Speaker 1: my name tattooed on him, and I gave him some money,
Speaker 1: but I just couldn't believe it anyway, that boy I
Speaker 1: got pregnant by later.
Speaker 3: But I'm huh, did your president?
Speaker 1: I think I've always been weird about birth control. I'm
Speaker 1: not going to remember yet. I took depot after that
Speaker 1: Depot made me. The depot made me spot every day,
Speaker 1: which was fucking miserable. But depot depo's a shot. Oh,
Speaker 1: But I am in general, I don't think birth control
Speaker 1: is healthy or natural, and an it's not natural, but
Speaker 1: I don't think it's healthy. And I think, like you said, anything,
Speaker 1: that's like fucking with But I am on birth contilery. No,
Speaker 1: it's amar.
Speaker 2: I mean the reason I got birth control was a
Speaker 2: after I had Iri, I was like, I'm never having
Speaker 2: another kid again. Not that I don't love my child,
Speaker 2: but like, you know, that first shock of having a
Speaker 2: kid is like it's a lot, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: Like when you've been living as a selfish twenty something
Speaker 2: year old your whole life and then you have a kid,
Speaker 2: You're just like, what just.
Speaker 1: Reminded me how much berson feel is so fucking necessary? See, yeah,
Speaker 1: and how the idea is cute, but like when you
Speaker 1: do it, it's not like, oh my god, oh like
Speaker 1: it's catastrophic, especially the first time because you have you
Speaker 1: don't have anything to base it off of, there's nothing
Speaker 1: to compare it to. But anyway, but like huge. So
Speaker 1: then after like that, you know, the first day put
Speaker 1: me on some sort.
Speaker 2: Of low I think it was super low hormone birth
Speaker 2: control because I'm still breastfeeding, or it was like right
Speaker 2: after I was leaving stopping breastfeeding, and uh then my
Speaker 2: skin was breaking out so bad throughout my pregnancy, my
Speaker 2: skin I was really bad, and after I had her,
Speaker 2: it still wasn't clearing up. And I've struggled with acting
Speaker 2: my whole life, like this is the clearest my skin
Speaker 2: has ever been in.
Speaker 1: My life, in my in my late in my thirties.
Speaker 2: Really and so my doctor was like, will you try
Speaker 2: this birth control? And I was like, I'm really like,
Speaker 2: I don't want another kid. I want to be I
Speaker 2: want to feel cute, because a bitch was going through
Speaker 2: postpartum not feeling cute at all. Like the least I
Speaker 2: can do is have nice skin, right, I'm like seventy
Speaker 2: pounds overweigh. So she prescribed me a birth control and
Speaker 2: it's my skin cleared up immediately, Like I didn't believe it.
Speaker 2: Like I didn't believe that because when I was on
Speaker 2: birth control as a teenager, it didn't help my skin.
Speaker 1: So I was like, that's a myth. Yeah, it don't
Speaker 1: fucking actually happen. It just doesn't counteract teenage teenage cheat
Speaker 1: hormones so much, you can do it and so.
Speaker 2: And then, like you know, it just became a habit
Speaker 2: to take it because I A I didn't want to
Speaker 2: I didn't want other kids.
Speaker 1: I wanted to be able to plan my child. My
Speaker 1: want to do family planning, like you know, have a
Speaker 1: better idea when I want to have a child at
Speaker 1: least That's what was my plan was when I was
Speaker 1: still with her father. Obviously, I still want to be
Speaker 1: able to plan that too, which is why I'm still
Speaker 1: on it. And also.
Speaker 3: I just was scared if I stopped taking it, my
Speaker 3: skin would get break out again.
Speaker 2: But then I have stopped taking it, like I've fucked
Speaker 2: up my birth control many times break out, so I'll
Speaker 2: take like a month off and nothing happens.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, maybe a month isn't. My skin
Speaker 1: since I've been taking this birth control has been kind
Speaker 1: of tripping out, Like I think I forgot a couple
Speaker 1: of days and it started chepping out. But now I'm remembering,
Speaker 1: but not build pimple coming. I haven't.
Speaker 2: Just have to be consistent because if you don't, then
Speaker 2: you're you're taking too many hormones at once. So yeah,
Speaker 2: skin is like acting crazy because that's happened to me too,
Speaker 2: like when I've overdone it and I feel actually, do
Speaker 2: you ever to feel nauseous?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Because too many it's tricking your body into thinking
Speaker 1: it's pregnant. Yeah, that's what it does. But I do feel,
Speaker 1: like Erica Bardes, my tension that like my butt is
Speaker 1: getting a little bigger and it's probably because of the
Speaker 1: birth control, and that's alone enough reason to keep taking
Speaker 1: it consistently. It is no one sent me a picture.
Speaker 3: She was like, I was on the phone with her.
Speaker 2: She's like, bitch, my ass it is like looking really good,
Speaker 2: and I'm listen to this photo. And she sent me
Speaker 2: a photo of her on the phone with me, naked,
Speaker 2: taking a picture of herself.
Speaker 1: And I was like, you were you know what, you
Speaker 1: were fucking right? So that birth control? Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 1: I mean I don't know. I don't know if birth
Speaker 1: control has made me gain weight or birth control historically
Speaker 1: has not, which I wasn't fucking with it, like if
Speaker 1: you can't make me gain weight, fuck you. Oh but
Speaker 1: I also took when I when I the six weeks,
Speaker 1: and when I got done with being pregnant, they gave
Speaker 1: me the next a plan, which is an implant birth
Speaker 1: control that goes into your arm. It's like a small
Speaker 1: like plastic rod. I guess, and it just I guess
Speaker 1: daily releases the hormone. And at that point I was
Speaker 1: all so traumatized by having a kid, and I was like,
Speaker 1: whatever is going to be fucking permanent as fuck? Please
Speaker 1: in search anywhere. But I did. I remember not wanting
Speaker 1: to get the vaginal insertion because I had previously fucked
Speaker 1: a girl with my fingers and I felt it and
Speaker 1: I thought that was very strange. And these fingers are
Speaker 1: not that long, and I was like, yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be able to feel. And guys say that
Speaker 1: they could feel it, so the arm seemed safe. But
Speaker 1: like two years into that, I was like, this is weird.
Speaker 1: How much long term research I have they done? This
Speaker 1: is what if it's near my boob? But if I
Speaker 1: get cancer and I'm an alien where they're tracking me.
Speaker 1: So I got it taken out at Plan Parenthood. But
Speaker 1: what they don't tell you is they they surgically put
Speaker 1: it in there. They cut it small incision, put it
Speaker 1: in there, like put a couple of stitches. But taking
Speaker 1: it out they like numb it around with a needle.
Speaker 1: But they're literally pulling it past the scar tissue. So
Speaker 1: I can feel them like I can't feel it, but
Speaker 1: like pulling my arm, I can feel it jerking. I'm like,
Speaker 1: how deep is it in there? And if if I
Speaker 1: left an extra year give a.
Speaker 2: Scar, that's yeah, Oh damn. It was like this said,
Speaker 2: oh wow, so it's like that one. Oh wow, damn,
Speaker 2: that's intense. Actually, I don't think I would have I
Speaker 2: don't think I could do that.
Speaker 1: I mean, it really wasn't that bad, but I didn't
Speaker 1: have to remember. But it's literally implanted in your arm.
Speaker 1: I now that I'm thinking about it, what am I
Speaker 1: talking about?
Speaker 2: I did have for control off and on, like I
Speaker 2: stopped after high school, and then maybe like five years later,
Speaker 2: I got the new Vrain because that was like, I
Speaker 2: was all commercial for it.
Speaker 1: It seemed easy. I could just do it for a
Speaker 1: month and not forget about and forget about it. I
Speaker 1: was dating the sky.
Speaker 2: We were not being safe and not definitely not endorsing
Speaker 2: and not having sense about condoms.
Speaker 1: But we are admitting. But come on, nobody likes condoms,
Speaker 1: like you.
Speaker 2: Know, people listening like, I'm sure there are there are
Speaker 2: people that are very good with condoms, like they don't
Speaker 2: deter from the condom, and you know what, I wish
Speaker 2: I was more like that, But I have been reckless
Speaker 2: in my life.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. And I was dating this guy
Speaker 1: and we were together for like a year, and I
Speaker 1: was like, you know, let me just get the new
Speaker 1: Mering so we can just do this. I'm gonna have
Speaker 1: to worry. And I got the new ring, which first
Speaker 1: of all, was so hard to put in. You to
Speaker 1: put in yourself. Yeah, you're putting yourself at that point.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't even know if it's still
Speaker 1: around or what. That's the other thing they come in
Speaker 1: and out with this ship. It's the FDA even checking it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then we had sex and he could feel it
Speaker 1: and I could feel it. It was uncomfortable. Was it hurt?
Speaker 2: Yeah, he could. He said it kept hitting it like
Speaker 2: the tip of his dick. And then I kept like
Speaker 2: poking me when he was doing it.
Speaker 1: No, I couldn't. I couldn't do it. When I was
Speaker 1: in high school, I went with my baby Saddie, because
Speaker 1: we've been, like, we been dating for four thousand years.
Speaker 1: I went with his family and my uncle picked us
Speaker 1: up from a wedding. He called me, like, y'all want
Speaker 1: to go to a Nelly concert? And that was when
Speaker 1: Nelly was in. I was like, yeah, yeah, my COT's
Speaker 1: leave this. Let's leave this wedding. Let's leave your family's
Speaker 1: wedding and go to the Nelly concert. So we left
Speaker 1: and we got in the car and I went to
Speaker 1: here my uncle looking in the rear room mirror, not
Speaker 1: a rongle, but like, you know, my dad's friend. And
Speaker 1: he's like, that's want to tell y'all something. Whatever you do,
Speaker 1: whatever y'all do, never ever, ever, ever have sex without
Speaker 1: a condom, because once you do it, you can't go back.
Speaker 1: I was mortified. First of all, it had been been
Speaker 1: been been fucking without a condom pull out method sixteen strong,
Speaker 1: and I was like, is he drunk? But oh my god, Like,
Speaker 1: first of all, that's not how you tell your kid
Speaker 1: because then they'll do it without a condom, because it's true.
Speaker 1: But secondly, boy, was he right, because if you fucked
Speaker 1: for all, you don't ever really want to fucking non
Speaker 1: rows like, but again, having a baby is way worse
Speaker 1: than just strapping up, dude, just put strapping up. Guys
Speaker 1: are so dirty, Guys are so like, guys will easily
Speaker 1: put their digging me without a condom. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I know you fucked planning your bages without condoms. I've
Speaker 1: had That's all it took. All I had to say
Speaker 1: was take it off. No, I didn't have to say
Speaker 1: that you were trying or yeah, pussy real quick, and
Speaker 1: it like you weren't even planning on it. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: don't even have one. You didn't try, you didn't even
Speaker 1: say anything. You know what? I also think, do you
Speaker 1: think do you think this is okay? How do you
Speaker 1: feel about this? You know how sometimes for men they
Speaker 1: feel like if the girl has a condom, then she's
Speaker 1: like fast or whatever, Like, you know, do you ever
Speaker 1: provide the condom? Do you have a condom in your purse?
Speaker 1: And is there a stigma behind that? And have you
Speaker 1: ever been with a guy who you haven't fucked yet
Speaker 1: and he like pulls over before you takes them at
Speaker 1: the gas station and you're like, is this never getting
Speaker 1: condoms because he expects pussy? Or is it like good,
Speaker 1: he's getting condoms? Okay? First of all, I have probably
Speaker 1: provided like two condoms in my life.
Speaker 2: Right, I don't know I've provid it like thinking about it, Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's actually there needs to be more push for women
Speaker 2: to We can't always expect the man.
Speaker 1: To come ready. Why do we expect that because we're
Speaker 1: already like giving them the pleasure of entering us. You
Speaker 1: put that responsibility on them, they won't be a condom,
Speaker 1: which is what happens eight times out of ten a
Speaker 1: lot of times. Yeah, that's true, that's true. Uh, it
Speaker 1: actually turns me off if a guy's Willie Nilli just
Speaker 1: wants to put a stick in me too.
Speaker 2: Actually, I'm like, oh, you're dirty. No, if we're not
Speaker 2: having sex with a condom, it's normally sometimes I've initiated it.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm thinking it, but I want to initiate it,
Speaker 2: so I want to seem terrible. But I'm like, but
Speaker 2: we come to like understand, like we've gotten this far,
Speaker 2: We're like, how far much?
Speaker 1: How much more? You're gonna rub that on there? Right?
Speaker 1: Because I think if you got something, I got it
Speaker 1: and you're not knocking it or like, you know, I
Speaker 1: think I think the guy. Usually the guys, they usually
Speaker 1: take the female's cue, like okay, I'm gonna rub it
Speaker 1: on here and see if she says anything, if you
Speaker 1: and then you know, I think, then we say where's
Speaker 1: the condom? Or we're like he swallowed it? Oh No.
Speaker 1: The other part about condoms that I hate. It's not
Speaker 1: someone that doesn't feel as good, well it is, but
Speaker 1: it's also I hate the fucking smell of that spermicide.
Speaker 1: I don't want it on my hands. I don't. I
Speaker 1: just hate it never comes out of here for China,
Speaker 1: I feel definitely like interfere is with like I like,
Speaker 1: I'm the.
Speaker 2: Type of person that, like, you know, we're having sex,
Speaker 2: I might want to like suckuld take in the middle
Speaker 2: of it, and you know, and then I got to
Speaker 2: take a come off and then I got it, which
Speaker 2: if that were for wearing a condom, we're probably not
Speaker 2: doing that anyway.
Speaker 1: We're probably just going to have sex. I havena zero
Speaker 1: dick sucking. But have you ever given that give aad
Speaker 1: with the condom. No, I'm saying I have to take
Speaker 1: it off, do it, and then it tastes disgusting. Well,
Speaker 1: you know you don't do it once on, it's not happening.
Speaker 1: I've taken it off to do that before. I hate
Speaker 1: that tastes. And the only reason why I did it
Speaker 1: was you were hoping and no, I was hoping that
Speaker 1: it was cus Dick wouldn't stay hard, which is a
Speaker 1: whole other episode. I just speaked a little bit of
Speaker 1: my mouth. I hate AMFT dick. IT'SMFT hard soft hard.
Speaker 1: You were coming up with a lot of vocabulary words.
Speaker 2: My English is terrible. Then I also had the IUD.
Speaker 2: I got that when I was living in New York.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I've heard a lot that it's painful and
Speaker 1: it is put in.
Speaker 2: It was uncomfortable. It wasn't really painful, but it was
Speaker 2: definitely uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: And I think my dog just farted. It was uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: And whenever I was supposed to get my period, it
Speaker 2: would do this pinching thing like it would pinch and
Speaker 2: because you don't get a.
Speaker 3: Period, and then and then oh you could feel when
Speaker 3: it was supposed to come.
Speaker 1: And then when when I did have sex, they could
Speaker 1: feel it again.
Speaker 4: What is that good?
Speaker 1: Art? I could feel it again.
Speaker 2: So those all those kinds of birth control, like the
Speaker 2: inserting kind, I haven't had good experiences with. I mean,
Speaker 2: I know some people swear by the AYU do they
Speaker 2: love the ay you do? Maybe it's gotten better, like
Speaker 2: this was obviously not like everybody's service is shaped differently
Speaker 2: and some services are for the I D and some
Speaker 2: service or nothing, yeah mine, I mean, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't mind shaped like. But this was also like
Speaker 2: six years ago, so maybe they've updated Aud's and they're smaller.
Speaker 1: Well that's my other problem with bird's control. I don't
Speaker 1: think a lot of have been around long enough. If
Speaker 1: I know enough about the medical history, the Western medical history,
Speaker 1: that shake gets recalled too often, and if you got
Speaker 1: like twenty years of long term testing, anything can happen.
Speaker 1: Like they don't test things thoroughly.
Speaker 2: I mean when we me and Jamila were researching us
Speaker 2: a little bit and we went on Planned Parents a website.
Speaker 1: There are eighteen forms of birth control, but the only
Speaker 1: one that is one hundred percent bulletproof is an outer course,
Speaker 1: which as we know is dry hunting clothed, or abstaining
Speaker 1: from sex, or abstaining from sex, the Christian method. But
Speaker 1: I was actually shocked to find out that some of
Speaker 1: these birth control methods that I thought were more not
Speaker 1: guarantees because there's no guarante tease, but higher percentage guarantees
Speaker 1: that you would not get pregnant, were actually lower. For example,
Speaker 1: birth control oral contraceptive is ninety one percent. Bitch, that
Speaker 1: makes me got nine percent chance. That's a lot that
Speaker 1: would be me. I've actually, oh my god, maybe it's.
Speaker 3: Gir you arenady started I just told I'm just telling
Speaker 3: my business, okay.
Speaker 1: Anyway, Yeah, nine for regular oral birth control oh also,
Speaker 1: and also the top one is if you're breastfeeding, ninety
Speaker 1: eight percent ninety eight percent chance of not getting pregnant,
Speaker 1: which kind of makes me annoyed that my doctor gave
Speaker 1: me that insert that thing in my arm so soon.
Speaker 1: Because I breast been for fucking two and a half years.
Speaker 1: I could have been fine. Yeah, you would have been
Speaker 1: really fine. So it's like, did you have your period?
Speaker 1: You didn't have your period for two and half years.
Speaker 1: Then I don't remember, not really obviously if I don't remember,
Speaker 1: because I think that's really what it is. You're not
Speaker 1: you're not having your period. Yeah, but I don't think
Speaker 1: I really. I think I eventually started getting it, but
Speaker 1: not initially, but probably because I was all that fucking
Speaker 1: berth Injome. Then there was the flow fraternity or what
Speaker 1: is it ding fraternity, fertility awareness fertility awareness which is
Speaker 1: basically just the lifestyle choice you using the flow apps
Speaker 1: or to the calendar to calendar to determine when you're
Speaker 1: populating and you know not. I think that's going to
Speaker 1: be my next method of birth control, if I would
Speaker 1: just fucking remember to put it in the app when
Speaker 1: I start my period, because between the skin if the
Speaker 1: spot is a plump up and I don't gain a
Speaker 1: couple of pounds.
Speaker 2: So if you did use that form of birth control
Speaker 2: and you were with young Bay and it was a
Speaker 2: week that you were ovulating, would you then use a condom?
Speaker 1: Like what would you do? Yeah? Or the pull up
Speaker 1: method because I think that's ninety nine point nine percent.
Speaker 1: The pull up methods is seventy four percent bitch based
Speaker 1: on mind science of my life, it's ninety nine point
Speaker 1: nine percent bullet proof because I literally had pull out
Speaker 1: method sex a lot and it worked. Okay, okay. And
Speaker 1: then the dental dam for a lesbian listeners, Well, what
Speaker 1: does that have to do with pregnancy. It's not even
Speaker 1: the same. I don't know, but I thought I should
Speaker 1: put it in there for lesbian listeners. This is for
Speaker 1: prevention of STDs. There's dental dam for oral contraceptive. It's
Speaker 1: basically a saran wrap placed over the mouth or vagina
Speaker 1: and you just go in without. I wonder if you
Speaker 1: use lube for that then, because you're not gonna feel
Speaker 1: like this wetness and I guess your pussies already. What
Speaker 1: it just like slides around behind the behind the sheet. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that is so not feeling.
Speaker 2: Then there is the shot, which you have to get
Speaker 2: every three months step and my friend did the shot
Speaker 2: and she gained so much fate.
Speaker 1: I always I think my skin got blotchy and I
Speaker 1: bled a lot, but that was literally like my friend
Speaker 1: literally blew up, got fat. Yes, yes, it didn't work
Speaker 1: for me. This was like probably, yeah, we're like twenty
Speaker 1: twenty one. And then she got off of it. I
Speaker 1: went back skinning. It's crazy. I was like, oh, that's scary. Uh.
Speaker 1: I mean that just goes to show how much it's
Speaker 1: affecting you, which is very scary.
Speaker 3: And it's crazy because it affects people differently.
Speaker 1: Right, because we're not all the same. We can't give
Speaker 1: we can't give everybody the same thing and expected to
Speaker 1: everybody to have the same you know. Response That's why
Speaker 1: I don't really feel like it's for me. My girlfriend,
Speaker 1: who's very hippie, taught me about name, which is I
Speaker 1: heard in like a lot of other countries that don't
Speaker 1: have access to birth control, they use the herb name,
Speaker 1: which you take orally like after a period, after no
Speaker 1: after a misperiod, or like if you've had a protected sex,
Speaker 1: or you take it every day. I think the man
Speaker 1: can take it every day too, and it okay, don't
Speaker 1: call me on this ship. Just look it up. Now
Speaker 1: that's the Piets. Okay, so this is our also our other.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this was like really cool because I was when
Speaker 2: we were talking about this topic, I was like, well,
Speaker 2: what kind of what kind of birth control they use?
Speaker 1: Like way wait wait wait wait wait wait.
Speaker 2: Back in the day, and there's all these different forms
Speaker 2: of birth control that have been happening since like before Christ.
Speaker 1: And some of them are a little crazy, like you know.
Speaker 2: Douching with lemon juice or like or using a weasel,
Speaker 2: tying a weasel balls around your thigh.
Speaker 1: That was in the Europe. That's what they did. And
Speaker 1: then they also who could even flock with weasels. They
Speaker 1: put like flowers and all types of shit in there
Speaker 1: to block block things block the same in which slaves
Speaker 1: enslaved and slavery. They chewed on the cotton root because
Speaker 1: whatever it releases is basically is really it blocks the
Speaker 1: progesterone from like or no, it blocks the I guess
Speaker 1: the sperm and the egg from meating. I don't know it.
Speaker 1: Obviously it didn't work that well, but but I guess
Speaker 1: that was some sort of birth control that they used.
Speaker 1: I'm sure because they were getting raped. Yeah. Also Queen
Speaker 1: Anne's lace seats if you take within eight hours of
Speaker 1: country no, eight hours of intercourse. Yeah, it's like a
Speaker 1: morning after pill.
Speaker 3: What is it called?
Speaker 1: Queen Queen and slace also known as wild carrot.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh, so our discovery was for a guy. If you
Speaker 1: feed your nigga papia seeds every day, bitch, that's sperm
Speaker 1: co We're go to zero zero without affecting his sperm
Speaker 1: cup permanently. So if you if you stop giving him
Speaker 1: to him and it's smoothie, they work again. So if
Speaker 1: you do it, you know what, low key, why do
Speaker 1: we have to Why do we gotta do this? Why
Speaker 1: I gotta do it? And we gotta carry, we gotta
Speaker 1: birth and if we don't want to, we gotta go
Speaker 1: through that too.
Speaker 3: It's all on us. Give a nigga papaia seeds?
Speaker 1: How about this? Eat a papaya a day, eat those
Speaker 1: fucking seeds, dude, low key though, Like why is why?
Speaker 1: Why is this not bigger news like special announcement papa seeds?
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna like, I'm surprised they haven't, like manufactured
Speaker 2: this like put a papaya drink for men.
Speaker 1: Right or yeah, like a thirty pack right, thirty day
Speaker 1: and thirty day papia drinks.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I mean to put then and what
Speaker 4: I don't know you? Yeah, I see the fuck good choices,
Speaker 4: oh right, great choices.
Speaker 1: Then there was what is it the bl.
Speaker 2: Oh the blue khash. It's like another cohash. Yeah, that
Speaker 2: was used by Native Americans and it's still now. It's
Speaker 2: still now used for midwives to tone the uterus in
Speaker 2: preparation for pregnancy. And it's just it's just so interesting.
Speaker 2: Like birth control is something that you know.
Speaker 1: Was like illegal fifty eight years ago. Fifty eight Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's fifty years. Oh yeah of birth control. Birth BECA
Speaker 1: has only been out for fifty eight years. Fuck you're
Speaker 1: going to I mean the.
Speaker 2: Founder of Planned Parenthood went to jail, was like going
Speaker 2: to the UK to practice because she was going to
Speaker 2: she was what she wanted to do here, which was
Speaker 2: help women family plan was illegal.
Speaker 1: Is that what that senator was talking about? The abortion
Speaker 1: of to black babies. I don't know. We were listening
Speaker 1: to some videos. As much as Planned Parents has helped
Speaker 1: Airpani in our teenage free years. I don't know if
Speaker 1: they're on our team. I feel like a planned parent
Speaker 1: is like has been known to like intentionally place clinics
Speaker 1: and inner cities to prevent the spread of Wow, brown
Speaker 1: and black people.
Speaker 2: Do you think that or do you think that black
Speaker 2: and brown people are uneducated in family planning and so
Speaker 2: they end up having more children than I think it's.
Speaker 1: Both and I think that. I don't think it's just
Speaker 1: like there's a lot of like fast food and liquor
Speaker 1: stores and inner cities. I don't think that's churches, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and churches exactly. I think you pray on who you
Speaker 1: think your audience is gonna best suit or which is
Speaker 1: why have you seen scientology in the hood now? I
Speaker 1: oh my god, you're kidding. No, They're everywhere. They're in
Speaker 1: South Central, in Coompton, they have Scientology centers. It's crazy.
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, you're prying on people who need help.
Speaker 1: Your crying, My language skills are low, prying, praying, And
Speaker 1: I think there's like a there's a quote from that
Speaker 1: woman who created Plantinghood saying some pretty racist shit. I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean I'm not surprised. Surprise, Like our history is
Speaker 1: they still was it was. It was nineteen fourteen.
Speaker 2: Yeah yet, I mean, yes, she was trying to help women,
Speaker 2: but not only but also programmed and the ways that
Speaker 2: her parents were programming.
Speaker 3: True much white, Cindy Smith. Yeah, I mean it's it was.
Speaker 2: I think it would be difficult to be a white
Speaker 2: person in that time anyway and and not be racist.
Speaker 2: Not because you're not a good person, but just because
Speaker 2: that's hard into you day and day and day and day.
Speaker 2: You are the majority, and that's why a lot of
Speaker 2: them haven't been hammered out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. They need some hammer. It's not hammer.
Speaker 1: But yeah, what kind of what brand of birth control
Speaker 1: are you one? I don't know why. I actually I
Speaker 1: have no idea of Brandon. I think it's pim I'm
Speaker 1: go get it. Oh, let's talk about some of the
Speaker 1: side effects. Oh yeah, I who to talk about our friend? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Remember Erica asked me while we were doing our Google
Speaker 1: research on this topic, if long term use of birth
Speaker 1: control prevents effects trying to your fertility when you are
Speaker 1: trying to get pregnant, Because that was mine. That's what
Speaker 1: I thought, and that's why I stopped taking it like
Speaker 1: in high school and said I'm not gonna be able to.
Speaker 1: But the pill what doesn't likely cause long term infertility
Speaker 1: after discontinuation, but it can delay fertility by up to
Speaker 1: a year. And the delay is caused by the pill's
Speaker 1: impact on the production of cervical fluids. So I guess
Speaker 1: you're supposed to be dry after that, look translation possible dryness.
Speaker 1: And then there's also the short term effects like loss
Speaker 1: of sex, cravings, nauseafs in waking your home, on are
Speaker 1: being fucking fucked with? You know?
Speaker 2: After I got on birth control after Iri, I thought
Speaker 2: the birth, I actually twitched my birth control because I
Speaker 2: felt like maybe the birth control I was on was affecting.
Speaker 1: My sex drive.
Speaker 2: Because after I when I was pregnant, I was like,
Speaker 2: of course, I'm not fucking horny. I'm building a person,
Speaker 2: growing a person inside of me. I'm just it's just
Speaker 2: not I'm not fucking with you like that.
Speaker 1: But then after I.
Speaker 2: Had her, and I still didn't, I was like, I
Speaker 2: know it is, but I didn't know that because I
Speaker 2: didn't have anyone, you know, educating me on postpartum or
Speaker 2: just the effects of you know, post having a baby.
Speaker 2: But I just assumed that, Okay, what's wrong with me,
Speaker 2: and maybe it's the birth control. And I just started
Speaker 2: to try to like like figure out what it was,
Speaker 2: like it must be the birth control or like, am
Speaker 2: I just not a horny person anymore?
Speaker 1: Like not like it was like I forgot. Like now
Speaker 1: that I'm single, I'm like, oh, no, pitch, you was
Speaker 1: a horning No, you was horning you. You was horning you,
Speaker 1: was ready, you was with.
Speaker 3: But maybe it did.
Speaker 1: Maybe it did have something to do with it too.
Speaker 1: I think when you, especially right right after you have
Speaker 1: a baby, your hormones were so fucked up. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: wer hormones just went up and then down in like
Speaker 1: a second. You said two sides of hormones. Now you
Speaker 1: got just yours back, you know, and even those ain't
Speaker 1: really right? Yeah yeah flash.
Speaker 2: But also like birth control, you know, not everyone has
Speaker 2: the same reaction to it, like I'm saying, and people
Speaker 2: have died taking birth control, Like I like, before we
Speaker 2: started this episode, I wanted to talk to my friend
Speaker 2: Nisha because.
Speaker 1: She did she want you to say it. I don't
Speaker 1: know why I couldn't.
Speaker 2: I can, I'll ask her, I'll bleep it out if necessary.
Speaker 2: Sorry girl, right now, yeah, I'm gonna call her off.
Speaker 2: From don yes, don't have to do that anyway.
Speaker 5: Uh So, she.
Speaker 2: Like to say, at sixteen, she started taking Yeah, and
Speaker 2: she took it for about two years, and and one
Speaker 2: day she was like at the beach and she started
Speaker 2: having heart pains, and the ambulance came and got her.
Speaker 2: They couldn't figure out what.
Speaker 1: Was wrong with her. She went back home. A few
Speaker 1: months later, the same thing happened, but it was like
Speaker 1: even more intense pain, so much so that she couldn't.
Speaker 2: Breathe, And so they came and got her again. And
Speaker 2: what they discovered was that she had blood clots in
Speaker 2: her lungs and could have fucking died. So later, like
Speaker 2: I don't even think then she equated it to birth control.
Speaker 2: Yet it wasn't until like a lot of these lawsuits
Speaker 2: started coming out if you listen even on the commercials
Speaker 2: like yeah, well now because more and more I think
Speaker 2: during that time, because even during that time, I think
Speaker 2: the pill hadn't been around that long, Like think about
Speaker 2: it when we were like sex sixteen seventeen, I think
Speaker 2: the pill had only been around.
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe like ten years, do you think
Speaker 1: so it was because it first came the diophram a
Speaker 1: lot of things came out for the pill.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I need to look it up. I
Speaker 2: could be speaking, but I think what happened was she
Speaker 2: started seeing equating the two things together and it was true.
Speaker 1: That's what you know.
Speaker 2: She she she she has a type of blood that
Speaker 2: can clot easily, and therefore birth control is not good
Speaker 2: for her.
Speaker 1: And if you talk cigarettes, I think high. The rate
Speaker 1: of blood cloths are higher. Even Yaz was a it
Speaker 1: was a spin off. No, no, that's the word of
Speaker 1: Yaz mean mean yeah. And I remember my mom being
Speaker 1: on it for years and I remember seeing the commercial
Speaker 1: then as it's like it's probably preteen teen about like
Speaker 1: like a class action suit, and it was related to depression,
Speaker 1: and I was like maybe she maybe she you mean yeah,
Speaker 1: she mean that's what I'm saying, Like you know they
Speaker 1: had yasmin that she made you depressed? Now, like yeah,
Speaker 1: that she's give me on blood cloths. It's just fucked.
Speaker 1: You don't really know. You don't know how it's gonna
Speaker 1: affect your body. And there's so many things as a
Speaker 1: result that of your hormones and ship and taking birth control,
Speaker 1: like heightened risk of cancer, greatly breast cancer runs on
Speaker 1: like my mom's side and my family, and I'm always like,
Speaker 1: cancer runs deep in my family. It's proven, yeah, specifically
Speaker 1: breast cancer. And then there's but there's another cancer that
Speaker 1: it lowers the rate up. But oh okay, so just
Speaker 1: two of these cancers, I might get so. But yeah,
Speaker 1: yet we're both on it.
Speaker 2: We love birth control, yet we're both off It could die,
Speaker 2: and my birth control is called I be a mom
Speaker 2: of two or die.
Speaker 1: My birth control is mersette. Oh m hm, sid effect
Speaker 1: it speaking of which I haven't taken it today. Do
Speaker 1: not smoke.
Speaker 3: Capital well, it's weed, it's not cigarettes. Is smoking one?
Speaker 1: Do not smoke. Smoking combined with oral contraceptive causes a
Speaker 1: significant increase in the risk of serious heart palpitation problems.
Speaker 1: Some medications may cause hormonal birth control to work less. Well,
Speaker 1: ask your doctor, Oh that's true. Like, if you're doing
Speaker 1: to medicine.
Speaker 2: Do not use this drug if you become pregnant, well, bitch,
Speaker 2: I hope I don't become pregnant, because that means you
Speaker 2: can't fail me.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm taking you.
Speaker 3: Matter of fact, I'm gonna take my birth control right now.
Speaker 1: You didn't take it yet?
Speaker 2: I feel like a slaved like life the pharmaceutical company
Speaker 2: right now now that we're talking about this.
Speaker 1: And I'm like doing this right now, it is That's
Speaker 1: how I feel like that. By the my deep, hippy,
Speaker 1: ancient side of me is like, take note of this ship.
Speaker 1: It's all bad because I do not trust. I don't
Speaker 1: trust the medical system. I think what we need to
Speaker 1: do is just be more careful who we fuck, right, Oh,
Speaker 1: value our bodies for me? Oh like maybe that's why.
Speaker 1: That's that's the whole moral of this whole thing is like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's actually not everybody does. Or is your raw pussy
Speaker 1: so deep? Eric?
Speaker 3: You're so deep?
Speaker 1: I love when you tell me things. They're so mind
Speaker 1: blowingly important. I'm a poet sometimes, you know. That's a scholar,
Speaker 1: young scholar.
Speaker 3: That's actually a wonderful idea. What about the people you
Speaker 3: really like?
Speaker 1: What if you have sex? What if I do really
Speaker 1: value my pussy? I'm getting to I really really like,
Speaker 1: but I still don't want a baby? Then what do
Speaker 1: I do? Then you use your calendar.
Speaker 2: Then you look at your calendar that you haven't been
Speaker 2: paying attention to for three months because you can't keep
Speaker 2: a fucking if you can't take your pills every day,
Speaker 2: you really you're gonna keep a calendar?
Speaker 1: I guess it never changes, right, it just stays the same.
Speaker 1: So the calendar is always the same usually it does
Speaker 1: if you ovulate a certain time, like your ovulation is
Speaker 1: usually on a certain schedule, and if you're not taking
Speaker 1: any hormones and inject like interrupting that, then you're good, Gucci,
Speaker 1: I hope, But yeah, yeah, I guess you use a
Speaker 1: different method that week or key or whatever.
Speaker 2: I'm just so paranoid about who. Who am I gonna
Speaker 2: share my my next child with?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? I am? I have baby
Speaker 1: daddy posts paced. I say that I do, I do,
Speaker 1: I bd PTSD. I suffer from it greatly. The thought
Speaker 1: of it just makes me like almost suffocate because it's
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't feel that strongly. I mean, obviously,
Speaker 1: me and my baby daddy situation didn't work out, and
Speaker 1: he pisses me off daily and he does funck shit sometimes,
Speaker 1: But it's just more so that, like he you just
Speaker 1: know the responsibility it takes, and like I still want that.
Speaker 2: I still crave that version of raising my child that
Speaker 2: I feel like I didn't get and I didn't like
Speaker 2: I felt like I was gonna do the cold reason
Speaker 2: I didn't want to have kids was because I didn't
Speaker 2: want to have be a single parent or just fine out.
Speaker 1: Like my perspective on single parenting is obviously so much
Speaker 1: different now, know what I mean That Like, at the time.
Speaker 2: I wasn't gonna have a kid unless I was gonna
Speaker 2: knew I was gonna have family with this person, then
Speaker 2: he was gonna be present in her in his daughter's
Speaker 2: life because my dad wasn't president blah blah blah, daddy
Speaker 2: issues that now I still feel I'm still holding onto
Speaker 2: that idea.
Speaker 1: So I just like, I know you can't guarantee shit.
Speaker 2: There's no guarantees in life, but I just want to
Speaker 2: make sure that you know if whoever I share that with, But.
Speaker 1: That's the thing you know you've made but you don't know.
Speaker 2: But like if you're just fucking people you really really
Speaker 2: like raw, like that's not that's not giving it a
Speaker 2: fair chance either, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Because do you enough to have a baby with the
Speaker 1: right right, you know what I mean? And don't get
Speaker 1: me wrong, I do that all the time, not all
Speaker 1: the time, but like I'm guilty of this, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. It makes me think, like make you
Speaker 1: think I'm on birth control, I feel safe right, like
Speaker 1: I can make one bad choices.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, I feel safe. If I wasn't on birth control,
Speaker 2: I would think I really have to think about that.
Speaker 1: More because you could really like someone but you don't
Speaker 1: want to have a baby with them. People have different parents.
Speaker 1: It's nice to fantasize sometimes it is what's that?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 1: What would that be?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 3: Yeah, like where we doing like on weekends?
Speaker 2: You know, when you have a flashback of your birth
Speaker 2: and then you have a flashback of like, oh, relationships
Speaker 2: change and you should make sure you're with someone that's
Speaker 2: like really like for the ride. Yeah, going to be
Speaker 2: like sometimes I don't want to be around you even
Speaker 2: before baby from me.
Speaker 1: So yeah, hm, interesting, Maybe I should stop taking it
Speaker 1: just so I can learn better boundaries. Don't do that
Speaker 1: train the boundaries I'm always I mean, I don't like
Speaker 1: birth control, and I'm gonna try and do it for
Speaker 1: like maybe three to six more months to see how
Speaker 1: like how big my bike can get, just for research,
Speaker 1: and then I'm going on the calendar. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Let me downloaded that now, I'm like, in the habit
Speaker 2: of taking it, I'm scared to not take it, which
Speaker 2: is so like, I'm kind of scared to not take it.
Speaker 1: I guess if someone's fought fifty eight years ago for
Speaker 1: our right to use fuck with fuck with our hormones
Speaker 1: and use birth control, we should utilize it.
Speaker 2: In the state of California, especially when you get it
Speaker 2: for free. Yeah, thanks to the Affordable Care Act.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Obama. We miss you, Obama, Like you weren't perfect,
Speaker 1: but shit, the ship's happening nowadays. Yeah, I mean I
Speaker 1: loved Obama too.
Speaker 2: There are definitely things I felt like he could have
Speaker 2: championed for a lot harder, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But like, look how cool he was. Luck But you
Speaker 1: see how politics is and how white it is, that
Speaker 1: you start to understand why he couldn't just be a
Speaker 1: while'n out in there. I knew that he understand scrutiny.
Speaker 1: So it is not he made politics look cool, but
Speaker 1: it is now you like, now that we're out of
Speaker 1: that and we're in real politics, politics are called nasty.
Speaker 1: It's not cool. Devil people. You don't have to be
Speaker 1: a you have to have a little devil on your
Speaker 1: shoulder to really survive in politics, you do, hopefully more
Speaker 1: influenced by the good side, but yeah, it's a slimy.
Speaker 2: Even the good people do ship to get their shit
Speaker 2: done because they're like, you know what this for the
Speaker 2: greater good?
Speaker 1: Right, and I know it, But this needs to happen.
Speaker 1: For it to happen, you know, you still have to
Speaker 1: like it's crazy, it's fine. Did you watch The Get Down? Wait?
Speaker 1: Is that it? Wait? Why do I have that? Is
Speaker 1: that movie for me? It's from Netflix? No? Oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course I've watched that. Oh my god, d had
Speaker 1: a second season. I didn't see it. I watch I
Speaker 1: get Down was so good.
Speaker 3: When they canceled it, I.
Speaker 1: Didn't get it. You didn't. I didn't get where they
Speaker 1: canceled it. Amazing. I thought it was amazing. They spent
Speaker 1: a lot of money on it, but I have so
Speaker 1: much money. I could tell the budget got cut.
Speaker 2: Because that was his name. I think his name is
Speaker 2: Baz Luhrman. He did all like the set design, he
Speaker 2: did like Great.
Speaker 1: Gatsby, like.
Speaker 2: Lavish, Yeah, not not just lavish, like he just knows
Speaker 2: how to bring it to life, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like you felt like you were in we were in
Speaker 2: New York, Brooklyn, but then like the seventies, like yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't know why I brought that up, only because
Speaker 2: like the uncle is supposed to be kind of like
Speaker 2: a good guy, but he has he's like, remember he's
Speaker 2: in politics.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that was random, but I did and he's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: funding her career.
Speaker 3: I just saw a movie that that guy was in.
Speaker 1: He's been in a lot of stuff. He was in Dexter.
Speaker 1: Did you watch the show Dexter? I've seen it like
Speaker 1: a long time. God, he was so good on that show.
Speaker 2: He was like a cop and then he went and
Speaker 2: he like turned bad and like really he wanted to
Speaker 2: kill two.
Speaker 1: I loved him.
Speaker 3: I started stalking Dexter because he wanted to like learn
Speaker 3: his way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I thought he was. I fell in love with
Speaker 1: him on the on the get down, she was so
Speaker 1: good to Dexter. Hasn't even watched Dexter pan, I like
Speaker 1: it must have watched it. It must have been on
Speaker 1: for a million years. It was, it was on. It
Speaker 1: was on too long. Yeah, because I remember my last
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, kind of wrap this up. But
Speaker 1: back at the this is Michael C. Hall.
Speaker 2: He's such an amazing and yeah, anyway, I don't know
Speaker 2: how we strayed this far, but okay, we're gonna bring
Speaker 2: it back in coming. Should we read that one advice
Speaker 2: question we got weet?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we got a DM and it says, hey there, ladies.
Speaker 1: I have over the past week listened to all your
Speaker 1: podcasts at work. Thank you for getting me through my
Speaker 1: boring ass birthday. So I am four months pregnant and
Speaker 1: was previously a heavy marijuana smoker. As a personal decision,
Speaker 1: I have decided to give up smoking marijuana during my pregnancy.
Speaker 1: How do you guys feel about smoking while breastfeeding? There
Speaker 1: isn't a lot of studies out, so I was just
Speaker 1: curious about your opinions. So if you're just tuning in,
Speaker 1: we do we do endorse marijuana momming.
Speaker 2: Yes, we just finished smoking a blunt, but uh, I
Speaker 2: mean for me, I think when I got pregnant, I
Speaker 2: also made the choice to not really smoke. I also
Speaker 2: didn't really want to Suddenly, I just didn't want to
Speaker 2: really was what it was more of. But I also
Speaker 2: was influenced by you know, people's opinions of what that
Speaker 2: looked like. And you know how I would have judged
Speaker 2: maybe in a mom for doing that, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean. And so I definitely got in my head
Speaker 2: and I was like, I just don't even want to smoke.
Speaker 2: A few times I did smoke, I couldn't even smoke itself,
Speaker 2: like I could, yeah, be around, So I just didn't smoke.
Speaker 1: But I'm not. I feel like I think more and
Speaker 1: more we're seeing that, like and because there aren't a
Speaker 1: lot of studies, it kind of tells you like you're okay.
Speaker 1: I don't think that.
Speaker 2: Like for me personally, I'm not going to like be
Speaker 2: a heavy smoker while I'm pregnant. I also, I feel
Speaker 2: like being pregnant, I like, would I like to take
Speaker 2: that time of like just pure health.
Speaker 1: And it's not necessarily weed is in health, but for me,
Speaker 1: like I just wanted to be like pure pure from
Speaker 1: this one moment in my life for this vessel that
Speaker 1: I'm bringing through. But uh yeah, and then breastfeeding, I mean,
Speaker 1: same thing, like not that not same thing, but like
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 2: Smoke while I was breastfeeding, but just not a lot.
Speaker 2: I didn't smoke a lot. I don't really know what
Speaker 2: the effects of it. Have A heavy smoker with breastfeeding
Speaker 2: is no.
Speaker 1: I mean, don't think like there's not a lot of
Speaker 1: studies because you can't smoke a bitch out and test
Speaker 1: the results of it. You know, like there's not going
Speaker 1: to be like even if there's not even a lot
Speaker 1: of testing about smoking and alcoholism, you know, so you
Speaker 1: had to drink a lot of looking for it to
Speaker 1: like affect the womb. But there's not a lot of
Speaker 1: testing because you're not going to like adminish through alcohol
Speaker 1: to a pregnant woman intentionally to see what levels it
Speaker 1: affects the you know, the feet is we I feel
Speaker 1: like it's natural. I smoked here and there during my pregnancy,
Speaker 1: not like every day all day, but I smoked and
Speaker 1: I breastfed for like two plusy two and a half
Speaker 1: years and I smoked and she's fine. I'm fine. Everybody survived.
Speaker 1: Do you think that it could metabolize in different people's
Speaker 1: bodies differently, I'm sure.
Speaker 2: I'm just curious because I'm thinking about birth control now,
Speaker 2: like and how it affect different people.
Speaker 1: I wonder if birth control affects our child or children anyway,
Speaker 1: like long, I don't know, whatever, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: think cannabis has been proven a lot to be medicine,
Speaker 1: more medically enhancing and actually like beneficial than bad. So
Speaker 1: I don't. I feel like it is natural and if
Speaker 1: we have that proof, then the likelihood of it affecting
Speaker 1: the baby or you in a negative way is highly unlikely.
Speaker 1: I think so too. That makes sense. Should I make
Speaker 1: a little more creative, I don't know, a little more relaxed,
Speaker 1: But that's just my experience. Again, we are not doctors.
Speaker 1: We did not do any research. So m hm, that's
Speaker 1: I think it really comes down to just what you feel.
Speaker 1: And I told her too, I said, if you feel
Speaker 1: weird about people knowing, don't tell you already. You know,
Speaker 1: it's nobody's business what you do, because a lot of times,
Speaker 1: a lot of that is people killed, people gonna look
Speaker 1: at you bad. Then you're sitting there high like what
Speaker 1: have I done? My baby's getting off weed milk? You know.
Speaker 1: But that's like, if you want to do some shit
Speaker 1: by yourself, you and your you know, partner decide like
Speaker 1: this is what you're gonna do, that's your lifestyle decision
Speaker 1: and it's not for anybody else's input. Telling my family
Speaker 1: didn't give me, didn't give me the blues though, No,
Speaker 1: they knew you were smoking, and they were like whatever.
Speaker 1: I also, yeah, yeah, your family also knows who you are.
Speaker 2: Right, They're like, we're not gonna trynt even gonna tell us,
Speaker 2: all right, just let it go, do what you're gonna do.
Speaker 1: Right right. My mom would have been all in my body,
Speaker 1: all of my eyes. I'm more like, listen here, this
Speaker 1: is who I am. But yeah, you know, parents always
Speaker 1: have shit to say. I'm sure my mom will talked shit.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have shit to say.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try not to, but it will be slips
Speaker 1: and nips, nips, nips, just slips. Anyway, Well, I think
Speaker 1: if we touch on everything that we wanted to touch.
Speaker 2: On, yes we did, and we're hella late. We're hella late.
Speaker 2: It's probably six six thirty nine, yem. But we hope
Speaker 2: you enjoyed this talk. Let us know what birth control
Speaker 2: you're on. Maybe you have advice for us, Maybe you
Speaker 2: haven't had a different experience with birth control. You'll have
Speaker 2: any birth control horror stories.
Speaker 1: And submit horror guys hories. Again, we need some we
Speaker 1: need some inputs. Yeah, it's been a while. I think
Speaker 1: I don't have any horries either. It's been a while.
Speaker 3: For me too, because we're all Beta up.
Speaker 1: I'm not betap okay, I am not Beta. I am
Speaker 1: a single woman. So if you know anyone book, we
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Speaker 1: I woke up one night hoping to me when I
Speaker 1: lost my fig. I never feel so right been. I
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