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Speaker 1: My girlfriend is sleeping with her ex and I'm uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: with it. Should I stay or should I go? This

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Speaker 1: is Okayopie, home to the Craziest stories on Earth. I'm

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Speaker 1: Sophia and this is John. Should ope stay or should

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Speaker 1: they go?

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Speaker 2: You know, it's I could see how your what your

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Speaker 2: your girlfriend sleeping with her ex is uh kind of

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Speaker 2: not cool? Yeah, like kind of not kind of not great.

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Speaker 2: I am predicting that this is going to be one

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Speaker 2: of those ones where it's like they were literally sleeping

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Speaker 2: next to each other because babe, we were just like

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Speaker 2: on the trip and there was no space in the

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Speaker 2: hotel and it was literally like the floor was covered

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Speaker 2: in fleas, and like they were in Paris, there.

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Speaker 1: Was like literally cuddle together for warmth.

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Speaker 3: No other option. I'm guessing that's what this is going

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Speaker 3: to be.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and still I think they're trying to trick us.

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Speaker 2: I think they're trying to trick us. And even still

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Speaker 2: it's it's not okay.

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Speaker 3: So I'm going to go with you should go? I

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Speaker 3: love that. Yeah, we should. We should do that.

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Speaker 1: We are doing that.

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Speaker 3: That's true, all right.

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Speaker 1: So this comes from apprehensive war to eighteen, who says,

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend and I female have been together for almost

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Speaker 1: one point five years. First relationship for me, not for her.

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Speaker 1: I trust her so much, but this situation with her

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Speaker 1: bestie slash X has always made me insecure, especially because

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Speaker 1: of the way I found out she casually dropped it

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Speaker 1: four months of dating because she thought she had already

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Speaker 1: told me. Ew interesting. Before she dated me, she had

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Speaker 1: a ld RhI. Okay, she had a long distance relationship

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Speaker 1: with this now best friend, with whom she broke up

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Speaker 1: with six months before meeting me. During the breakup period,

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Speaker 1: they took a trip together and one night started making

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Speaker 1: out and then realized they were in the wrong and

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Speaker 1: only wanted to be friends. Also a fact I found

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Speaker 1: out much later during the relationship. No, this is six

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Speaker 1: months before meeting me. But this is kind of like

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Speaker 1: a thing. That's like a thing like in like women,

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Speaker 1: you know, lesbian relationships or like just like women relationships

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Speaker 1: that's like.

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Speaker 3: Hang out, they make out and the like.

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Speaker 1: Wait, actually, sorry, we're just friends best for me? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I'm right now, I'm not okay. Now, they live

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Speaker 1: in separate countries, but we were planning to visit the

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Speaker 1: city where her bestie is living and where I'm from,

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Speaker 1: and she expressed wanting to stay a few days with

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Speaker 1: her bestie. My house and hers aren't very far apart.

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Speaker 1: Mind you, How are you feeling about.

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Speaker 2: This dram You know, it's you know, you know, it's

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Speaker 2: actually something that that stood out to me that maybe

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Speaker 2: didn't to everyone, is that the bestie and op are

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Speaker 2: both in the hometown.

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Speaker 3: And there's only room for one of us in this town.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a snake in my boots and it's yeah,

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Speaker 2: and not this other person.

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Speaker 3: But I think that's you know, they did make out,

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Speaker 3: they said. Oh.

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Speaker 2: P says that her partner said that they were like,

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Speaker 2: we just want to be friends, yes, but do we

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Speaker 2: know for sure that's what actually happened?

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Speaker 1: That's true?

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Speaker 3: That is a question in my mind.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe Opie's girlfriend forgot to tell them again like

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Speaker 1: they said before.

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Speaker 3: Right, yeah, a little Whoopsie.

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Speaker 1: Like, oh sorry, I forgot to tell you are actually in

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Speaker 4: Question the whole like girls that are into girls making

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Speaker 4: out and then being like we should just be friends?

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Speaker 4: Is that happen with guys too? Like I've never heard

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Speaker 4: this before. Usually, like if I make out with someone,

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Speaker 4: I'm like, oh yeah, this is it? Really?

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, it's because you're straight simp and bro,

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Speaker 2: you gotta go from symptom.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I mean I can't speak from the guys perspective.

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Speaker 1: I only know friend. You know, I can't say.

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Speaker 3: I can't tell you that anyways.

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Speaker 1: Tell you that, Riley, that's something that you have to learn.

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Speaker 3: I think. I think I think men are more like.

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Speaker 2: Either a it's it's like kind of generally speaking, a

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Speaker 2: or the guys like, nah, it was nothing. It was

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Speaker 2: like a not a hookup if it's literally making up,

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I just like they made out and now they're friends.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, that's I feel like that happens a lot.

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Speaker 3: I think that happens pretty often.

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Speaker 1: I think that happens pretty often.

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Speaker 4: Like I'm just saying if if I was gay and

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Speaker 4: I made up with John and then I made out

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Speaker 4: I don't know if I could look at it, I

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Speaker 4: wouldn't be able to resist you, that's for sure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, Like I mean I already can't resist you,

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Speaker 4: Okay, there's just honestly, there's one person between us then.

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Speaker 3: That is true?

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Speaker 1: Is it me? Should I leave the room?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Sophia, can you just leave the podcast studio?

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Speaker 3: I think I'm intruding, just kidding. Could you continue this?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Sorry, we got sidetracked because Riley has questions. Riley's questions.

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Speaker 3: Stop?

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Speaker 1: Okay, where were we? I expressed discomfort at her sleeping

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Speaker 1: I'm not, I'm not.

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Speaker 2: It's a little confusing, but it seems at this point

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Speaker 2: we now know this particular bestie, they have.

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Speaker 1: Slept, they have slept together, just as at this point

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Speaker 1: And while she could understand my perspective, she also reasoned

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Speaker 1: She said that her place is small and likely only

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Speaker 1: What do you think, John? Should they break up? Should

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Speaker 2: Don't think we're yet on the grounds of fully shutting

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Speaker 2: you know what, you are so right, I apologize. Let

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Speaker 2: me prove with my actions that I can be trustworthy

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Speaker 2: and that we're all good to go and we're gucci.

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Speaker 3: Could be good.

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Speaker 2: It could be truly a simple misunderstanding of the partner

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Speaker 2: being like, oh, I personally don't see this as a

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Speaker 3: All right, we're good.

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Speaker 2: However, all that said, I just given the context we have,

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that is what's going to happen,

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Speaker 2: up yet. Yeah, And it is it is.

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Speaker 1: Like a little you know, a little a little yeah.

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Speaker 2: Bit of a red flag because it is again, I

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Speaker 3: Everyone watching in Sophia right now.

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Speaker 2: If you go crash at a friend's place, I mean

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Speaker 2: you've you've crashed a friend's place before.

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Speaker 1: I always sleep in my Yeah, you always I think

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Speaker 3: Right to do. That is a great point.

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Speaker 2: That is why we don't need Sam in this podcast

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Speaker 2: and we need Sophia.

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Speaker 3: That's right. I don't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I would never you know, like I don't

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Speaker 2: So this that that bodes a little bit more in

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Speaker 3: The partner.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, where it's like if it was like a

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Speaker 1: Like I totally get Yop's uncomfortable because there is history,

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Speaker 1: and I think that's just a conversation.

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Speaker 3: It's a conversation that needs to happen.

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Speaker 1: I don't think anything's going on. Yeah that I mean

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Speaker 3: Audience has been missing this whole time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is for you guys. Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: Oh, let's just get a.

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Speaker 1: TikTok and name a woman.

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Speaker 3: Go right now.

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Speaker 1: Apparently like ninety percent of men when asked that question

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay, I do have a question about that. Aren't

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Speaker 4: you supposed to, like, because I've seen like a boyfriend

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Speaker 4: mention the girlfriend And a lot of guys mentioned like yeah,

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Speaker 1: The test, yeah, and they get it wrong. Yeah, but

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Speaker 3: But you were You're like you were ready for it.

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Speaker 2: Big Lads.

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Speaker 1: Big next movie then band.

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Speaker 3: We are We are Conquering the World Ladies and Gentlemen.

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Speaker 3: But y'all attention.

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Speaker 2: Op opened the phone and saw that there was a

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Speaker 1: Should just I personally think that you should not get

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Speaker 2: He had gotten photos from others prior to this, and

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Speaker 3: We love you, Korean. I love you from everyone here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah in the studio, absolutely, And I understand wanting to

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Speaker 3: Four children, twelve years. That's don't deserve that. You don't

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: And I feel like I am back to that deep

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Speaker 2: and multiple times before that. Am I the a hole

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Speaker 2: My stepdaughter loves her oh and talks about her all

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Speaker 3: Mind you, they are both closer in age than me

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Speaker 2: Oh so the daughter and the coworker are closer in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's she would have to be twenty. It's still crazy.

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Speaker 1: Be twenty good or twenty two at least something like that.

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Speaker 3: I truly don't know what to do.

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Speaker 2: Please help, advice anything, Please thank you for reading. Am

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Speaker 2: I the a hole x oh OPI. First off, we

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Speaker 2: loves you every single part. Big Protein I love it.

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Speaker 2: Big Protein loves you, and you do not deserve any

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Speaker 2: and the years of the relationship, your life is together.

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Speaker 2: You have been giving your all to the children and

446
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Speaker 2: your job as a mom and staying home for a

447
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Speaker 2: while while he is out at work. So that's the

448
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Speaker 2: complication of like, oh where do I Yeah, there's so

449
00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:03,359
Speaker 2: many things. There's so many things. I'm sure that you

450
00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:09,120
Speaker 2: have to consider. He's done this before, he's doing it now, Sophia, can.

451
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Speaker 3: You kick us off?

452
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Speaker 1: I think he's Yeah, I think he's going to do

453
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Speaker 1: it again. If he's said it before and he's doing

454
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Speaker 1: like he's doing it now.

455
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Speaker 3: I agree high risk.

456
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I understand. I mean, obviously I don't understand

457
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 1: being in that situation totally and being in a relationship

458
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Speaker 1: with like children. Yes, but like you've already said that

459
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Speaker 1: you've been in like it. She's already said that she's

460
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Speaker 1: been a depression yes before and going back into one.

461
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Speaker 1: And if it's not helping your mental health, and it

462
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,920
Speaker 1: doesn't seem like he's really doing much work with like

463
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Speaker 1: helping out with the kids with the trunk of tree

464
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Speaker 1: or like helping out at home, So like, I guess

465
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Speaker 1: weighg you know what the effort that he puts in

466
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Speaker 1: with the kids. Yeah, and you know, maybe considering divorce.

467
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Speaker 2: Yeah, in an ideal world, I think definitely like seeing

468
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Speaker 2: a therapist to counselor someone who can like walk you

469
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Speaker 2: through these options. Is a professional has seen this, you know,

470
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:04,680
Speaker 2: one hundred times over to be like, you know, okay,

471
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Speaker 2: here's you know, here's how this happens, here's how to

472
00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 2: think about it, here's you know, just a unbiased objective,

473
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Speaker 2: you know, licensed person for advice.

474
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Speaker 3: Which is not us, which is not us, So we

475
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Speaker 3: don't know.

476
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Speaker 2: Big protein is big not validated or verified by any licenses,

477
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Speaker 2: and neither are we. But also one of the beautiful

478
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Speaker 2: things about our community sending us stories everyone watching. If

479
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:31,879
Speaker 2: you have been through a similar scenario, if you have

480
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Speaker 2: seen a similar scenario play out and something came good

481
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Speaker 2: of it, please share your advice and stories and everything

482
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Speaker 2: with OKOP. Again, obviously, the three of us are by

483
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Speaker 2: far not the most qualified professionals, which maybe maybe the

484
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Speaker 2: least qualified, which is why speaking with a qualified professional

485
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Speaker 2: is great. But also the personal stories, like one great

486
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Speaker 2: thing about that people get from sharing these stories is

487
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Speaker 2: adviceive people who have been through the same Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: I think it would be super awesome to OPE if

489
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Speaker 2: you would share your story is below. I'm sure PEE

490
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Speaker 2: would appreciate it.

491
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Speaker 3: And you're not alone, op, You're not alone, and hopefully.

492
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Speaker 2: Some some dialogue can happen. Yeah, I'm crushing my fingers.

493
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Speaker 2: That's happened before. I'm hoping for the best for Eop,

494
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 2: that you can get some some more great advice in

495
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Speaker 2: an addition to maybe some good advice and saw us

496
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Speaker 2: that we've given you.

497
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Speaker 3: And I think that that might be a rapid doodle doo,

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Speaker 3: Time for okop relam.

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Speaker 5: My homophobic on knuckle won't let me sleep with my husband,

504
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 5: so my dad got them evicted. I maled twenty seven

505
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:46,920
Speaker 5: and married to a man maleed twenty eight soh yeah.

506
00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 5: I had only ever dated women before him, but when

507
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,879
Speaker 5: I met him, I realized I was by and we

508
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Speaker 5: fell in love.

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Speaker 3: Good for you, OPI hell y low key.

510
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Speaker 5: Opie's husband must be a snack of a man, oh,

511
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Speaker 5: so be the man that makes him realize he's by

512
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 5: his cakes. Cakes must be breaking through those pants. Don't

513
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 5: put that man in tight pants, don't break out. We

514
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 5: got married in the fall of twenty eighteen. So it's

515
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,000
Speaker 5: been almost four years and we now live in Vermont.

516
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 5: My whole family is from a small town in Texas,

517
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Speaker 5: super conservative Catholic area. I was raised there, but my

518
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 5: dad got a job in New York City when I

519
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,959
Speaker 5: was fifteen. The culture shock was difficult. We went from

520
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:31,920
Speaker 5: living in rural Texas to living in an apartment in Manhattan,

521
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,119
Speaker 5: which is like two areas of the US that are

522
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 5: completely separate, opposite. It's like like, well, one moment you're

523
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 5: you're riding a cow into school, the next you're getting mugged.

524
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Speaker 3: You'll give me your Jordans.

525
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Speaker 5: My parents didn't sell our house in Texas. They allowed

526
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Speaker 5: our aunt and uncle, who had just had their third child,

527
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 5: to move in while charging them just a small amount

528
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Speaker 5: of friends. In college, when I came out as by

529
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,879
Speaker 5: my brother and dad were very supportive. My mom needed

530
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,640
Speaker 5: some time to accept. The rest of the family reacted

531
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Speaker 5: poorly at first, but then came around, which I feel

532
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Speaker 5: like is like most conservative families in Texas.

533
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Speaker 3: Rural Texas sounds like it.

534
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Speaker 5: During visits, we stayed with my aunt and uncle at

535
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,399
Speaker 5: my old house, but because we weren't married, we weren't

536
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Speaker 5: allowed to share a bed, which is like, you know,

537
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Speaker 5: classic conservative.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

539
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Speaker 3: Yeah, the question is is that the real reason, that

540
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Speaker 3: the real marriage is the real reason.

541
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Speaker 5: We'll find out. We didn't argue. We both would rather

542
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Speaker 5: make peace visiting. Since instead of staying with my uncle

543
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 5: we usually rent a motel room. During COVID, we did

544
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 5: not visit them. But this summer, my parents and brother

545
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 5: decided to go visit my hometown again for two weeks

546
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Speaker 5: and invited my husband and I. I wanted a motel again,

547
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Speaker 5: but my aunt and uncle insisted my brother, husband, and

548
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Speaker 5: I stay with them.

549
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Speaker 3: Okay, have they turned a corner?

550
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Speaker 5: Wow, let's sue. The first night, the sleeping situation was

551
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Speaker 5: discussed after my cousins went to bed, my aunt and

552
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,160
Speaker 5: uncle wanted my brother and I to take the spare

553
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 5: bedroom and have my husband on the couch. Of course,

554
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 5: of course, all three of us took issue with this.

555
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 5: It all comes out. They okay, there we go. They

556
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 5: snapped that we were not really married because we were gay. Yikes, bro, yikes.

557
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Speaker 5: I mean, like, at this point, it's law. Even it's

558
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 5: literally there's there's no there's no grounds left to to debate. Yeah. Also,

559
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Speaker 5: it's like I feel like I feel like this isn't

560
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,919
Speaker 5: like this is like old news, Like why why are

561
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:48,920
Speaker 5: they why are they still being so big at it?

562
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 5: They said they had children in the house and it

563
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Speaker 5: will be a bad influence on their kids.

564
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Speaker 3: Don't let them catch the gay you can't.

565
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Speaker 5: This is ridiculous, dude, This is ridiculous. This hurt my

566
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 5: husband's feelings, and he started crying and ran out of

567
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:10,360
Speaker 5: the room. When my husband ran out, my uncle had

568
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 5: the audacity to start laughing. That's when I saw red

569
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 5: bro all right, like, why would you invite them over

570
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 5: if you're going to be such dicks? Literally, this is

571
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,639
Speaker 5: so bad. I started cussing them out so loudly that

572
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 5: my young cousins came to investigate. I told them that

573
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Speaker 5: if they didn't go apologize to my husband immediately, that

574
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 5: I was going to tell my dad what just happened,

575
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Speaker 5: and I was going to make sure to have them

576
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 5: kicked out of this home, babe, because it's still in

577
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 5: my parents' name, which is like, damn, he got that

578
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 5: card to play, I got it, my bro, second, did

579
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 5: that's a weird word? Everything that I was saying. They

580
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 5: started backtracking then and saying that we were welcome in

581
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 5: their house, but we just had to follow their rules,

582
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 5: and I responded, well, it's not your house, is it. Though?

583
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 5: I told them they were going to be homeless if

584
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 5: I had it my way. Damn for the throat. The

585
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 5: kids started crying because they heard me say they were

586
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:17,119
Speaker 5: going to be homeless, So he left, Do I have

587
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Speaker 5: to use this asphalt as a pillow?

588
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Speaker 2: Son? You're gonna have to cuddle the oat possums for

589
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 2: warm now, buddy, son.

590
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Speaker 5: You might be homeless, but at least you won't be gay.

591
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,400
Speaker 3: Actually though, that's what they would actually say.

592
00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 5: That's what they're choosing.

593
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 3: That's literally.

594
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Speaker 5: My husband was on the porch crying. I promised him

595
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 5: that I would never subject him to that again. I

596
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 5: told my dad what happened. To say that my dad

597
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 5: was angry would be an understatement. He served them a

598
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 5: notice of eviction for sixty days, so they got two

599
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 5: months to get out of the house. I've been getting

600
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 5: calls and texts and Facebook messages from my family calling

601
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Speaker 5: me in ahole. I want to know the a hole

602
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 5: for along my young cousins to end up a homeless

603
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 5: Is it fair they have to pay for what my

604
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 5: aunt and uncle said to me and my husband.

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Speaker 3: I think the cousins on the street is a bonus.

606
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 5: Just make them all bro.

607
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 2: I mean this it's it's it's a tricky situation obviously

608
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 2: because like like you said, like okay, these kids, these

609
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 2: kids are now. But I mean I'm guessing that the

610
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 2: family doesn't make a lot, yeah, which is why the

611
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 2: dad like rented it out so cheap and they're like

612
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: worried about being homeless or whatever. All they have to

613
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 2: do is let them live their life. Yeah, that's all

614
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 2: they have to do. That's all they have to do. Bro,

615
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 2: that's it.

616
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 5: And they couldn't do that, and they couldn't do when

617
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 5: they were threatened with eviction.

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Speaker 2: And then what's so tragically hilarious is like their response them.

619
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Speaker 3: Thinking they're like smoothing things over.

620
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Speaker 2: It's like, oh no, it's totally okay that you hear,

621
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 2: but you just can't infect us with with your gayness.

622
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Speaker 5: It's like, Bro, the tragic thing is they think they're

623
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 5: protecting their kids. That's the tragic.

624
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's really really fucking sad.

625
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Speaker 5: I feel like the hard thing about like like just

626
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 5: like your mental frameworks are buried this deep because you

627
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 5: don't even realize like how terrible. You're being like they

628
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 5: probably think they're being like, they think they're being reasonable. Yeah, them,

629
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 5: this is probably like a give of like Okay, usually

630
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 5: we wouldn't tolerate this.

631
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Speaker 3: You know, we went on we want you and I'll

632
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 3: let you in the house and will be nice to you.

633
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 5: I will let you in that house.

634
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Speaker 3: Yeah, will let you in the house.

635
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Fuck, dude, I feel like living in a city you

637
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 5: think you've like yeah, there's definitely and stuff, and being

638
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 5: inundated with an ideology for like forty fifty years. That's

639
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 5: not a simple thing to change dismantle. It's hard to

640
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 5: dismand it's very hard. I think that actually that like

641
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 5: you knows as much flak as I a'll give, like

642
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 5: TikTok for corrupting the youth, the Andrew tape memes, like

643
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 5: it also exposes people to so many different ideologies. But actually,

644
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 5: you know, it feels like out with the algorithms, it's

645
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 5: doing the reverse now. It's like like the Internet used

646
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 5: to be, like YouTube used to be a place where

647
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 5: you would get exposed to people from all around the world,

648
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 5: and now the YouTube and TikTok are becoming these places

649
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 5: where you're exposed to continue like the things that you

650
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 5: already believe. Yeah, And I feel like it's like switching,

651
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 5: but at least you have, you know, you have the

652
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 5: potential of like breaking your buttles.

653
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 2: It is all out there, but it's like what will

654
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 2: actually be. Yeah, And at this point, like the argument

655
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 2: could be made of like, oh, well, you know what

656
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 2: exists and people can search and like you can. It's

657
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 2: like almost like people don't even realize.

658
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 5: We have a podcast and we say it every friging episode,

659
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 5: literally full discussion on Spotify.

660
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 3: Guys, every day we tell you.

661
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 5: We have a freaking behind for the last four hundred

662
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 5: days we have God, we could leave it at that.

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Speaker 3: There we go