WEBVTT - Cheaters, Cold Feet and Porn...Jana Kramer and her husband go at it!

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we are back on I Do Part two and

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<v Speaker 1>I've got my amazing husband, Alan Russell with me here,

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<v Speaker 1>so let's dive back into some burning questions. Was there

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<v Speaker 1>any point leading up to the wedding did you have

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<v Speaker 1>cold feet?

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<v Speaker 2>No? Zero, No, even though we had a tough week

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<v Speaker 2>leaning not.

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<v Speaker 1>To the wedding, it was not uneasy start.

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<v Speaker 3>No, there was no part of me knew that. There

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<v Speaker 3>was no part of me doesn't want to get married

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<v Speaker 3>to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Never And for those listening, it was listen. It was

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<v Speaker 1>one of those things where we had all the babies

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<v Speaker 1>were sick days before the wedding. Yeah, no sleep we

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<v Speaker 1>were in scott I mean, but it was no, I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't sleep and insomnia the first time ever experiencing something.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah it was, Yeah, but it was a beautiful day.

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<v Speaker 1>The wedding ended up being beautiful. I was so tired

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<v Speaker 1>to have any cold feet, But no, I had. I

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<v Speaker 1>had zero. I just feet, Its just tired feet. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it was, But I mean, I but I did in

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<v Speaker 1>previous That's the thing, and that's what I'm like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>would want people to know, is I knew I've only

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<v Speaker 1>walked down the you know, of the divorces. I only

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<v Speaker 1>walked down the aisle twice. In each one, I had

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<v Speaker 1>that feeling of, oh god, oh really, I'm making the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong decision. Absolutely, the you know, absolutely the first one,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it was just the only weak marriage was

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I cried about it in the bathroom at

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<v Speaker 1>the wedding, like I made a mistake. And then the

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<v Speaker 1>second one was you know again you know, ended up

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<v Speaker 1>being my longest marriage. But yeah, I walked down going,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't trust this the second one, Mike, because he

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<v Speaker 1>cheated when we were dating, so I already had I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't trust it, and so but I wanted to believe

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<v Speaker 1>in something, and I wanted to believe a version. So

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<v Speaker 1>I walked down to a version that wasn't real. And

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<v Speaker 1>with us, it was like I knew who I was

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<v Speaker 1>walking down to, Like you gave me zero thoughts the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite way, right, Like I knew who you were, what

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<v Speaker 1>you were, what you were about. And so, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>to anyone redoing their part two, it's like, I think

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<v Speaker 1>that comes with wisdom and to listen to your gut knowing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I gotta imagine, I mean, I don't know, if

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you didn't feel that way, you know with your

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<v Speaker 1>previous I don't know if people have that. I have

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<v Speaker 1>no idea, but I knew, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, zero cold feet my own BIB.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks Ben.

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<v Speaker 3>When it comes to how you both approach life, what's

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<v Speaker 3>the biggest difference.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the biggest difference between you and I and

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<v Speaker 1>how we approach life is you approach it with more

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<v Speaker 1>like You're very internal processor and I'm external processor. So

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<v Speaker 1>I want to talk it out. I want to be like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, what do we doing? How are we doing this?

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just plan this and like let's and it's like

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<v Speaker 1>you are you get really serious, really like in your

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<v Speaker 1>head and I can't facilitate or help when it's like

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<v Speaker 1>the internal processing and that's difficult for an external processor

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<v Speaker 1>being like.

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<v Speaker 3>Ah yeah, I think of it like there was something

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<v Speaker 3>that happened this mornment and I'm the calendar stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah. And part of so Alan, this is one

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<v Speaker 1>of my husband's. This is one of my biggest pet

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<v Speaker 1>peeves in one of I think Alan's weakest things is

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<v Speaker 1>like I done it in the weakest get how do

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<v Speaker 1>you say that? Then like it's you're you're not you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not a strength. So like when it comes to

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<v Speaker 1>a calendar. I put everything on the calendar that is

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<v Speaker 1>important that I have to do that day. Alan won't

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<v Speaker 1>put things on the calendar, so I have no clue.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I'm scheduling, because I do all the scheduling,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll schedule the nanny and the it's not that I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't put them on. I'm just not as consistent as

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<v Speaker 2>you are.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't always put them on, so like you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have any stuff on for tomorrow or the next day,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know what's happening. And then I'm scheduling,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, okay, you have to leave, but I have

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<v Speaker 1>the nanny leaving at this time. And if I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know this, so this morning I'm like, hey, this is

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<v Speaker 1>so frustrating. Like I need to know what's happening so

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<v Speaker 1>I can plan my life, baby's life.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I expect you to know what I'm thinking and

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that is that's it's crazy, like and that's why.

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<v Speaker 3>And like I said, since I mate, you have become

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<v Speaker 3>better at using the calendar on the phone, but I

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<v Speaker 3>expect you to know what's going on in my world,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Not I should. I need to be better at that.

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<v Speaker 3>So the biggest difference is you're really structured than externalize

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<v Speaker 3>and vocalize the things you need done. Was I'm a

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<v Speaker 3>bit more less organized when it comes to the structure,

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<v Speaker 3>but also I don't vocalize that enough. So you need

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<v Speaker 3>to talk less. Now talk more. It's basically what I'm saying. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think my fingers busier with the calendar.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, noted? Since getting married, what's been the biggest obstacle

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<v Speaker 1>we faced? Did you get through the obstacle or is

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<v Speaker 1>it still something you deal with?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably the Chicago thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think it was one of them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's been a couple.

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<v Speaker 1>I think when it was so working around job obstacles

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<v Speaker 1>where his coaching job takes them having to move. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't move because I've got kids here in another co

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<v Speaker 1>parenting situation. I think it becomes an obstacle of all right,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll shoot you know what do we do here? This

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<v Speaker 1>is what you love to do. You love to coach,

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<v Speaker 1>This coaching career is ten eleven months away from the family.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't move. It becomes an obstacle, not became an obstacle.

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<v Speaker 3>That was we got through and we're now getting through

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<v Speaker 3>to a point where I've pivoted and found solutions in

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<v Speaker 3>other ways which are good solutions. Or many things been

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<v Speaker 3>with family and still being able to be flexible, not

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<v Speaker 3>being bogged down at club seven days a week. So

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<v Speaker 3>it was an obstacle that we again we go through that.

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<v Speaker 3>There's been other other obstacles and things that have come

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<v Speaker 3>up that we've got through.

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<v Speaker 1>I think communication has been an obstacle, but we have

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<v Speaker 1>we have a couple of therapist that helps. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>to work on the communication now so that it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>become a catastrophe in the end. Right, Like if we

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<v Speaker 1>continuously don't communicate well for years to come, well that's

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<v Speaker 1>why at seven years everyone's like exploding, I'm out. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's where it's work on the communication on

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<v Speaker 1>the front end, where when you see the problems arise,

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<v Speaker 1>so that way you can be on the same page

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<v Speaker 1>to want to keep fighting for it. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>when couples don't work on the communication in the beginning,

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<v Speaker 1>then when they have so many years in, they're like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just I'm over it. And there's so many things

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<v Speaker 1>that probably fights that have happened or things that have

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<v Speaker 1>just added so much turmoil into the relationship. Then it

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<v Speaker 1>makes it harder to walk through and make it better.

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<v Speaker 3>More resentment, right, So we do that. A lot of

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<v Speaker 3>people have their opinion on a couple stuff. We do

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<v Speaker 3>it so that our foundation is stronger.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Now we're not walking in at war, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's the thing where what I love about therapy

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<v Speaker 1>is you can walk in at peace to not have

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<v Speaker 1>a war. But when you walk in with war, you

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<v Speaker 1>have like a mountain of resentment to work through. What

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<v Speaker 1>counts as cheating to you is liking women's men's pictures

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know on social media?

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<v Speaker 3>Cheating it's thats respectful note of all the Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 3>a lack of respect. Is it cheating? I think it's

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<v Speaker 3>a form of cheating. Really, I think it's a gatewight

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<v Speaker 3>is cheating?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, wake time out? Can we.

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<v Speaker 4>No? No?

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<v Speaker 1>No, can we just time out? I need to have

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<v Speaker 1>boundaries on this for one second. Is it people we

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<v Speaker 1>know or don't know?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the questions is okay, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't know, Okay, So yeah, I just want to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure that's very clear because I'm like, shoot, I hearts

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<v Speaker 1>people's that I know that I like, follow or whatever. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So that you don't know on social media cheating. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's a boundary very crossed. Do I think it's cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's cheating. I think it could be

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<v Speaker 1>a boundary if but we've never really talked about that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I think that I find it disrespectful.

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<v Speaker 3>Percent If I'm like in a woman's picture on social

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<v Speaker 3>media that I don't know and you don't know, that's

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<v Speaker 3>crossing the boundary and that's disrespectful.

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<v Speaker 1>On that topic, I do want to talk about this

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<v Speaker 1>because this bothers me, and this is something when I

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<v Speaker 1>was dating guys, one of the very first things that

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<v Speaker 1>I would do is I would go to their follow

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<v Speaker 1>and see the type of women they're following on Instagram. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that showed me a lot. And if it was the

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<v Speaker 1>certain types of women, I'm not trying. I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really not trying to like sound because I'm not like

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<v Speaker 1>they're all they're beautiful, They're stunning, they're you know, like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>the most amazing butts ever, and I think there's a

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<v Speaker 1>certain how do I say this, I don't want it

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<v Speaker 1>to sound like I'm hating on women, because I, in

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<v Speaker 1>no way, shape or form is that at all. But

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<v Speaker 1>if a man is only following these, this is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>sound so bad because I'm like not trying to make

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<v Speaker 1>it out. I don't know if that's the type of

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<v Speaker 1>guy that I would want to be with, because I've

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<v Speaker 1>I've dated face face types of guys that have followed

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not ended. Well, does that make me sound bad?

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<v Speaker 1>But like if that would have been your follow list,

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<v Speaker 1>I would have been so turned off? But like, how

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<v Speaker 1>is that okay for me to say that?

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<v Speaker 3>Though?

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<v Speaker 1>When like, those women are beautiful and it's not it's

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<v Speaker 1>but you're not.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not. Everyone knows what you mean. You don't need

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<v Speaker 2>to say it. Everyone knows what you mean.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's nothing wrong with those type of women at all.

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<v Speaker 3>No, not at all. But you don't want to be

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<v Speaker 3>with a guy that likes that type of women. That's

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<v Speaker 3>fair enough. Yeah, that's your opinion, that's what you'll need us,

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<v Speaker 3>so therefore that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>But I would say, I guess if we're in a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship and you're still following a bunch of women like that,

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<v Speaker 1>I would have a I would have an issue with that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I couldn't believe, Like I sometimes when I look

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<v Speaker 1>at guys that I'm like, okay, I know their relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, how are they still following all these girls

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<v Speaker 1>like that? And that girlfriend's okay? Like I would not

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<v Speaker 1>be okay if I know that that's what your home

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<v Speaker 1>screen looks like when you're on when when we're together

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship and your home scream looks like an

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<v Speaker 1>only fans page, I would have a really I would.

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<v Speaker 1>I would struggle with that, and not because I'm insecure,

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<v Speaker 1>but because I don't want my my man looking at

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<v Speaker 1>one of my man looking at that. It's like absolutely, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it respect on a grid because like right,

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<v Speaker 1>like would you want my page to be like all

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<v Speaker 1>these like musclely dudes with their shirt off, like as

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<v Speaker 1>those are the guys that I follow, And then like

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<v Speaker 1>when I go to my homepage, it's all like like

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<v Speaker 1>my homepage is like narcissist abuse, trauma stuff, quotes, kids

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<v Speaker 1>stuff and like funny relationship things because we always yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>means like.

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<v Speaker 3>I think we're pretty I think we are pretty good

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<v Speaker 3>and aligned on a lot of things like this, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>If I'm out in our little sanctuary area and you

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<v Speaker 1>see me on Instagram scrolling and I'm looking at like

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<v Speaker 1>dudes in the gym, would you be upset?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I would actually want Yeah, I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Same, I wouldn't like it either.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So which leads me then to is watching pornography cheating again?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's cheating. I think it's a boundary

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't really think have we ever talked? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you watch part?

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<v Speaker 2>No? And I don't think it's something that promotes a health.

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<v Speaker 1>You can be honest, it's only just us.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm being honest.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's something that promotes a healthy man

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<v Speaker 3>or a healthy marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, therefore, I know we have discussed that before. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't I wouldn't break up with you over it. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's a triggering thing to my past that I would

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate you not doing. And I think it's something where

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<v Speaker 1>it opens. I think a negative gateway. It could get worse.

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<v Speaker 1>From my personal experience, it gets, it starts there and

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<v Speaker 1>then it grows and it gets worse.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a gateway like a lot of things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Okay, Is flirting with a waitress of bartender cheating again?

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's a boundary of respect. Is going to

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<v Speaker 1>a strip club cheating again?

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<v Speaker 2>It's not cheating, but it's not something you do to

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<v Speaker 2>promote a healthy marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and you go and I'll have your bags packed again.

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<v Speaker 1>Not because I'm not secure, but I just I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want another girl's titties up in your face.

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<v Speaker 2>And you don't need to work it with that, Okay, And.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that that's the thing. Like I I know

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<v Speaker 1>that you are a different type of man, and I

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate that and love that. Thank you for respecting me

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<v Speaker 1>the way that you do, not saying that a guy

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<v Speaker 1>going to a strip club doesn't respect a girl. I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to put that out there too. But if that's

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<v Speaker 1>fine with you, and you don't care like for dudes,

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<v Speaker 1>like letting the dudes go out for a night out.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I know girls that are fine with it.

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<v Speaker 1>I have friends that are like, yeah, it's fine if

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<v Speaker 1>they just go for fun. I just didn't want that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it's been too much of my past trauma.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, listen again, if you flip the situation like we

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<v Speaker 3>do in a manager. If you're going to a club

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<v Speaker 3>but a guy he's robbing, he's a good troll over

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<v Speaker 3>your leg and your face and stuff that am I

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<v Speaker 3>going to be happy with that?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's the rule. We live by flip it. Anything

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<v Speaker 1>in life, flip it. If it's he's doing something, he

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<v Speaker 1>flips it, would like me doing that. If the answer

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<v Speaker 1>is no, don't do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly is having a subscription to only fins.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just not again boundaries.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think it's ever okay to tell little lies

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship?

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<v Speaker 2>It's not unless it's a fun one.

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<v Speaker 3>Because a fun lie like a present you've got them

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<v Speaker 3>and you've told them you've not got them a present.

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<v Speaker 1>I have lied in obviously past relationships to protect the

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<v Speaker 1>how do I say this to me? It's like irrelevant

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<v Speaker 1>or I didn't want to blow up. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be a fight. But in this relationship, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've come to you with hard things when you've asked me,

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<v Speaker 1>or when you've asked me a question and like a

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<v Speaker 1>piece of he's like, oh, just so I no, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's like it doesn't matter. It was back in when

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<v Speaker 1>you were twenty in la and like who cares? And

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<v Speaker 1>what I love about our relationship is that I can

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<v Speaker 1>say like, I've never lied to you, and I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's been something where you asked me and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was tough because you didn't like the answer.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, which one would you have wanted more?

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<v Speaker 1>Because damn did I want to lie to you? Boy?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I not want to tell you the truth? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want this reaction?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not exactly which one your thought about it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but which one at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 3>But actually made me respect you more for the terrific

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<v Speaker 3>out your move.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I mean that. Yeah, that was better than hindsight.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, longer term, that's better.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, It's not easy, but it's better.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>What drives you nuts about the other?

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<v Speaker 2>What drives me nuts about you?

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<v Speaker 3>As you revert to feeling like you have to do

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<v Speaker 3>everything yourself, you go into solo mode. It drives me

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<v Speaker 3>nuts because I'm always here for you, and I'm always

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<v Speaker 3>here to try and help with things. I might not

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<v Speaker 3>always be forthcoming, but I'm always thinking, how can I help?

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<v Speaker 3>But how can I make a day better? How can

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<v Speaker 3>I So when you feel like I'll just do it

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<v Speaker 3>myself because That's where I'm going to be doing, That's

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<v Speaker 3>how I'm going to do it, And that drives me crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. Is there anything we haven't asked each other?

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<v Speaker 2>But relation not that I know of No, I think

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<v Speaker 2>we've been asked that question before.

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<v Speaker 1>At any point in our relationship, have we not prioritized intimacy?

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<v Speaker 1>New we good in that area. I think it's something

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<v Speaker 1>where we know it's important to both of us, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we are always either touching each other. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>not just sex, like we have a very healthy sex life,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's we're constantly touching each other, hand, kiss, We're

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<v Speaker 1>connected even in the passings, which arguments tend to repeat

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<v Speaker 1>in our relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>My quietness, my me internalizing before I externalize things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and sometimes like the words yeah, I think before

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<v Speaker 1>we speak. If you could see into our future together,

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<v Speaker 1>what would you like to know?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Did we make it okay? Did all kids survive? Did

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<v Speaker 1>we make it that we managed to No? I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>if you could look into our future, would I like

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<v Speaker 1>to know that it was gosh, it's such a good

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<v Speaker 1>es And I would that we took it in and

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<v Speaker 1>we enjoyed it all. Would be kind of my thing, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because we're so busy in kids and the whole thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's I'd like to look back and go, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>we we did, you know, went through some tough times

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<v Speaker 1>great times, and we're stronger and.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I would simplify it as what i'd lengthens that

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<v Speaker 3>we never took each other for granted.

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<v Speaker 1>And always respected. Yeah yeah, but I already kind of

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<v Speaker 1>know that's like that we were always going to have

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<v Speaker 1>that respect for each other. Well, thank you Habi for

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<v Speaker 1>coming on the podcast. Those were some questions that were

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<v Speaker 1>that were good we got answered there. Uh, do you

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