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Speaker 1: I proposed to my boyfriend, so is ex send me

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Speaker 1: their sex stape proving that she's better at bet than me.

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Speaker 2: Not the classiest move. Not the classiest move.

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Speaker 1: And this is like also the update from the story

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Speaker 1: we did a few days ago.

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Speaker 3: Oh, that one was crazy. I need to see what happens. Okay,

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Speaker 3: as for the updates.

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Speaker 1: After posting here and reading the advice and reflecting on

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Speaker 1: my actions, I realized what I did was wrong and

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Speaker 1: a violation of my fiance's privacy. So true, dude, she

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Speaker 1: should have snooped through all those texts.

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Speaker 2: I think she should double down and go through all

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Speaker 2: of it. I should break into his computer.

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Speaker 1: Easily, hire a white hat hacker, a black hat hacker,

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Speaker 1: private investigator, priveate investigator, follow him, follow him around everywhere,

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Speaker 1: rough him up a little bit, you know, break his knee, Cass.

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Speaker 1: I allowed my insecurities to dictate my actions. You did,

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Speaker 1: even though my fiance is okay with me using his phone,

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Speaker 1: My intent to snoop made what I did wrong. So

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Speaker 1: I decided just to come clean. I sat down the

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Speaker 1: next day and told him that the X set me

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Speaker 1: the videos as well, and also came clean about the

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Speaker 1: snooping he was pretty upset, but surprisingly he wasn't upset

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Speaker 1: with the snooping. He seemed more upset that his ex

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Speaker 1: had somehow managed to cause drama once again in his life.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he hadn't watched any of the

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Speaker 1: old videos because in a majority of them, he was

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable with recording them and only did it for her

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Speaker 1: and was afraid if watching it made him look bad.

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Speaker 1: And it was afraid if watching it made me look

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Speaker 1: bad in some way. Oh was, and was afraid if

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Speaker 1: watching it made me look at him in a bad way.

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Speaker 1: This made me feel even shittier for what I did.

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Speaker 1: And I apologize again.

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Speaker 3: This guy's like the gold literally like the golden child,

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Speaker 3: and she's like snooping in his messages and my god

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Speaker 3: seeing if the videos, and.

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Speaker 1: I apologize again and reassured him that they did not

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Speaker 1: in any way less than my feelings for him or

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Speaker 1: respect for him.

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Speaker 2: I wanted.

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Speaker 1: I wanted him to have some time to process things

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Speaker 1: and decide what to do about the X.

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Speaker 2: And what I did.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to I wanted him to have some time

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Speaker 1: to process things and decide what to do about the

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Speaker 1: X and what I did. So I gave him some space.

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Speaker 1: That night, I decided to cook his favorite meal as

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Speaker 1: a sort of apology dinner and discuss things. He seemed

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Speaker 1: in a much better mood. He apologized to me for

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Speaker 1: not telling me about the tapes right away, and for

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Speaker 1: being an idiot and not realizing that and not realizing

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Speaker 1: that she would soon come after me when he blocked her.

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Speaker 1: He told me he appreciated me coming clean about the

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Speaker 1: snooping and understood how I got carried away. This guy's

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Speaker 1: the most understated.

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Speaker 3: Guy, literally, like you can shoot him in the leg,

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Speaker 3: and it's like, you know, I understand you're working through

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Speaker 3: some things right now.

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Speaker 2: I need to let your anger out.

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Speaker 1: But he said that I could have just talked to

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Speaker 1: him and he would have given me his phone and

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Speaker 1: reassured me that he hadn't kept any of the old videos.

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Speaker 2: I assured if.

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Speaker 1: I asked if he was going to press charges for

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Speaker 1: guarding revenge board, and he told me that he wanted

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with her and that we should just

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Speaker 1: move on and enjoy our engagement and forget the whole thing,

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Speaker 1: which true, dude, like lawsuit's only going to provide more accou.

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Speaker 2: And she'll probably go even crazier. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I told him it was completely his choice and I

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Speaker 1: support him and would delete the videos and block her

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Speaker 1: right away. Finally, I brought up the text and he

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Speaker 1: apologized to me for the rants. He told me that

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Speaker 1: that was the first time in a long time that

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Speaker 1: he had actually thought about who was better, and that

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Speaker 1: he never actively compared me to his exes before. He

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Speaker 1: told me he should have just answered it with a

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Speaker 1: simple my fiancees better and tried to apologize again. I

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Speaker 1: told him that he didn't have to sugarcoat anything, and

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Speaker 1: that it was his private conversation with a friend and

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Speaker 1: I have no right to be mad when he wasn't

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Speaker 1: disrespectful about me or our sex life.

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Speaker 2: True fair.

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Speaker 1: I also told him that it was okay if she

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Speaker 1: was better, and I didn't have to be the best

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Speaker 1: at everything. He explained to me that after talking to Sarah,

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Speaker 1: he thought one more time and that he hadn't really

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Speaker 1: expressed his thoughts well in text, but he would like

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Speaker 1: to explain it better, and this.

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Speaker 2: Is what he said. Ooh, I'm excited, and this is sweet.

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Speaker 2: She gave that tough.

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Speaker 3: Like no one else.

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Speaker 1: Babe, I'm sorry, No, it's actually really cool. So you

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Speaker 1: are the best I ever had. I'm not lying or

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Speaker 1: sugarcoating anything. Someone asked me who was the most skilled

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Speaker 1: or most adventurous sexual partner that I have had, then yeah,

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Speaker 1: it would probably be her, But that doesn't really matter.

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Speaker 1: Because someone asked me what was the best sex I

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Speaker 1: ever had? My first thought would be the time when

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Speaker 1: we had sex right after you asked me to marry you,

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Speaker 1: And then it would be the night when you first

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Speaker 1: told me you loved me, and third with the night

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Speaker 1: we had sex in the kitchen the day I moved in.

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Speaker 1: For all her skill and experience, she couldn't even make

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Speaker 1: top three, and we had the rest of our lives

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Speaker 1: to make sure she doesn't even come in the top

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Speaker 1: one hundred. So no, I'm not lying when I say

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Speaker 1: you were the best I ever had.

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Speaker 2: What about the sloppy toffee though, Jude, he just poured

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Speaker 2: his heart out. The man is an angel.

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Speaker 1: The man is a fucking angel.

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: Despite what I said about not needing to be the best,

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Speaker 1: just hearing what he said, maybe I butchered the quote.

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Speaker 1: He was just so much more charming and eloquent. It

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Speaker 1: made me really happy. So I kissed him and ask

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Speaker 1: him if he wanted to try and break into the

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Speaker 1: top three again.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I didn't really specifically try to be more aggressive, but

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Speaker 1: I tried to focus more on what he was feeling

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Speaker 1: to reassure myself that he was enjoying it as much

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Speaker 1: as I did. That naturally arowed me, That naturally allowed

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Speaker 1: me to be the one in the lead, and it

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Speaker 1: was great. I could tell he really enjoyed it as well.

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Speaker 1: I know I have to work on my insecurities and

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Speaker 1: potentially see a therapist, but for now, I will try

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Speaker 1: my best to just forget what I saw on those

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Speaker 1: videos and enjoy being and enjoy being engaged to the

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Speaker 1: most amazing man I know.

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Speaker 2: Did we did?

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Speaker 3: We just come to a beautiful, incredible, wholesome ending that

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Speaker 3: was so freaking cute that.

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Speaker 2: That was great?

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Speaker 3: Man is an angel? Man is angel. I wouldn't make

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Speaker 3: this president?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, make him president president of that.

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Speaker 2: Damn. I'm wow. We salute, we salute you, sir, llot

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Speaker 2: it