WEBVTT - Trading Places with Rico Love

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<v Speaker 1>Talk talk to We're just two unapologetically black women with

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<v Speaker 1>an opinion to talks.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up y'all? Thank you for tending that for a

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<v Speaker 2>new episode that we talked back A show dedicated to

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<v Speaker 2>you dreamers and chasers and everybody else in between. This

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<v Speaker 2>is your co hosts a j holiday What's Up Town.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is dedicated to you, hosing you niggas too,

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<v Speaker 1>because we forgot about y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>I love all of y'all, this special group. Hey, ye,

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<v Speaker 2>what's so child? What you got going on?

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<v Speaker 3>Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just so happy that this weekend is over. I

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<v Speaker 1>felt overwhelmed with life, so yeah, celebrating that white Man's holiday,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't celebrate.

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<v Speaker 4>I stayed in the house.

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<v Speaker 2>I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I was on my porch watching all the madness downstairs,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, it was just madness going on. And

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<v Speaker 1>my friend was on the phone, one of my guy friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and he was like, you just look down there like

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<v Speaker 1>an auntie, just staring at them kids down there, like.

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<v Speaker 2>Like Blue Ivy in New Orleans. Remember that that video

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<v Speaker 2>of Blue Ivy looking down at all the peasants, the

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<v Speaker 2>people out there cutting up like ill. I didn't do

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<v Speaker 2>much this weekend either, just hung out, played the house

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit. That's about it. Chilled out. I ain't

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<v Speaker 2>even had like no barbecuing or nothing, which I don't

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<v Speaker 2>really eat. People should have to bring my own salmon

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<v Speaker 2>to people barbecues nowadays.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby, I ordered. I didn't even go to nobody's barbecue.

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<v Speaker 1>I just ordered something from a restaurant. Like, fuck it.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a fucking tweet that said, this generation don't

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<v Speaker 2>even cook out no more. All they do is do

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<v Speaker 2>drugs and torqu.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, that's it, shake the ass and do drugs.

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<v Speaker 2>My family actually did had a bit have a big

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<v Speaker 2>ass cookout back at home, but I missed that. I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't in town at my family's restaurant. Shout out to

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<v Speaker 2>Bertha's Kitchen in Charleston, South Carolina.

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<v Speaker 1>My my mom and my sister was at you know,

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<v Speaker 1>at home, and they lit the grill and then cut

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<v Speaker 1>that motherfucker off and went and bought an indoor grill

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<v Speaker 1>and grill in the house. It's like it's too high.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, Okay, So why An article came out saying that

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<v Speaker 2>fourth of July twenty twenty three was the hottest day

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<v Speaker 2>in history for the planet, just like average heat for

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<v Speaker 2>the whole world yesterday. Well, excuse me, July fourth was

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<v Speaker 2>the hottest day for planet Earth. And I believe it

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<v Speaker 2>because bitch I could see the heat.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even go out in it. I was looking

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<v Speaker 1>for my patio and anytime I felt overwhelmed with the heat,

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<v Speaker 1>I just ran back inside. Baby, I didn't do nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like this type of heat, you gotta wash a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of times. Beink just be smelling like outside all

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<v Speaker 2>day long.

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<v Speaker 1>Just stay down here, big mama, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Today we have a special guest. When we talked back, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>he is uh responsible for a lot of our favorite

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<v Speaker 2>songs like Sweet Dreams, Beyonce, Good Morning with Diddy. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>there goes my thing. Okay, I'm auditioning. Also, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>so I might be whistling and singing a lots okay,

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<v Speaker 2>and twork city girls. I just found that out the hell, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>we have mister Rico love or we talked back, were good, all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, it's too hot, it's getting too high.

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<v Speaker 4>It was good in this in this on this level though.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, how do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel about the setup. It's nice, right, you know, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you can get on after we finished little something for it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that'll be dope.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think we got no sticks.

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna have to hit it with your hands.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that. So okay, Rico, let's get into it.

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<v Speaker 1>So our listener, we want them to get to know

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<v Speaker 1>you a little bit. Tell us how you started Turn

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<v Speaker 1>the Lights On?

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<v Speaker 3>How Turn the Lights On came about? Yeah, Well, a

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<v Speaker 3>friend of mine, Ma'am's Taylor. He was a co owner

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<v Speaker 3>of this club in La called Area. So we stay

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<v Speaker 3>hang out in this spot like every weekend. When I

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<v Speaker 3>say like, it would be like Lindsay Lohan, Kim Kardashian,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, Paris Hill, and this was like a Wednesday

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<v Speaker 3>night was the party, but we would come and go

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<v Speaker 3>frequently because he was one of the owners.

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<v Speaker 4>So there was a DJ and then those type of clubs.

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<v Speaker 3>The DJs played the same kind of set list every night,

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<v Speaker 3>and they played a song by Pink Floyd Caught the Wall, and.

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<v Speaker 4>Then in the song they say, hey, teacher, lead those

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<v Speaker 4>kids alone, and all the lights would go crazy in

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<v Speaker 4>the club.

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<v Speaker 3>So I would say, like, every time that part would

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<v Speaker 3>build up, I would say, turn the lights on, like

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<v Speaker 3>to myself. So one day I was in a studio

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<v Speaker 3>and I always a climactic part of the record, every

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<v Speaker 3>time it builds up and right before the drop, I

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<v Speaker 3>would just say turn the lights on. And my good

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<v Speaker 3>friend Mams Taylor, he was like, you should say that

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<v Speaker 3>in all the songs you write.

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<v Speaker 4>That should be your thing.

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<v Speaker 3>So I started doing it, and at that time, top

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<v Speaker 3>liners and just anybody who's not educated on educator how

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<v Speaker 3>music work. So, a producer is a songwriter, lyric and

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<v Speaker 3>melody person is a songwriter. We're all called songwriters, but

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<v Speaker 3>they are top line, which is lyric and melody. That's

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<v Speaker 3>the guy who writes the lyrics and words and melody.

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<v Speaker 3>And there's a producer, guys who historically has been known

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<v Speaker 3>to produce the music. He's considered the producer, even though

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<v Speaker 3>the top line guy could also be the producer. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>when I was coming up in the business, the top

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<v Speaker 3>liner didn't get the recognition. It was always the guy

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<v Speaker 3>who made the beat.

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<v Speaker 4>I e.

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<v Speaker 3>Timberland, Rodney Jerkins, Pharrell, you know those guys who made

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<v Speaker 3>the tracks. So to give attention to people like myself

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<v Speaker 3>who were writing a lyric and melody, I started doing

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<v Speaker 3>my tags on every song that I wrote and putting

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<v Speaker 3>the turn of lights on records, and that's how it came.

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<v Speaker 4>About and it became a thing or everybody does it now.

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<v Speaker 3>Everybody does it now. Yeah, And a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>credit it to hearing me doing it early on, and

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of people just feel like this is just

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<v Speaker 3>a new wave and either way is great because we

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<v Speaker 3>all that's our calling card. We're only as good as

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<v Speaker 3>the last thing we've done. And to make sure that

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<v Speaker 3>our name makes noise in the marketplace, we have to

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<v Speaker 3>establish and brand ourselves.

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<v Speaker 4>That's super important.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, see how you're I thought the whole time, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>was just like he want to fuck with the light song?

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what I think. That's when people started doing

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<v Speaker 2>I mean that's what I did. I was like, go ahead, nigga,

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<v Speaker 2>turn the lights on.

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<v Speaker 4>You said, do that ship. That's a that's a good

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<v Speaker 4>way to look at it too.

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<v Speaker 2>All.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk about your creative process, because write in these beautiful songs.

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<v Speaker 1>There goes my baby, Like it's so like eloquent and

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<v Speaker 1>thought provoking, Like how what is your creative process to

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<v Speaker 1>make these songs that everybody jams too?

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I just I think, first and foremost I'm

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<v Speaker 3>a fan of really great songwriting. You know from the

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<v Speaker 3>Beatles to Stevie to you know, def Lepper to you

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<v Speaker 3>know Mariah Carey and Janet and all those classic iconic songs.

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<v Speaker 3>So what I think my process is more than anything,

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<v Speaker 3>is understanding of chord progression. I think a piano progression

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<v Speaker 3>or a guitar progression, those four chords. I think there's

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<v Speaker 3>so many different melodies live inside of those chords. So

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<v Speaker 3>my process is usually sitting at a piano singinge at

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<v Speaker 3>the guitar and I don't play instruments, but sitting with

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<v Speaker 3>a piano player, sitting with a guitar player and going

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<v Speaker 3>through a chord progression and the one that sticks, I

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<v Speaker 3>try to make a melody fit inside of that progression.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's usually how I create. It's kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>building it around the actual song. The reason why is

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<v Speaker 3>when the song is stripped and it's just the lyric

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<v Speaker 3>and the guitar lyric and the piano, then you know

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<v Speaker 3>the full essence and you can feel the melody, and

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<v Speaker 3>you can feel the richest and the wholesomeness of the melody.

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<v Speaker 3>And when you have a rich, wholesome melody, you can

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<v Speaker 3>build music around anything. But you can't you can't make

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<v Speaker 3>a shit song sound great. But what you can do

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<v Speaker 3>is you can make a great song sound greater when

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<v Speaker 3>you put incredible production around the song. So I want

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<v Speaker 3>to make sure that if you strip all of my songs,

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<v Speaker 3>it still feels good without music, the lyric and the

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<v Speaker 3>melody stand alone.

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<v Speaker 2>So I listen to Apple. I usually stream my music

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<v Speaker 2>on Apple right, and anytime like I'm listening to a

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<v Speaker 2>new song or maybe like a song I hadn't heard

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<v Speaker 2>in a long time, I always go to the lyrics.

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<v Speaker 2>Who the fuck wrote this is? I feel when I

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<v Speaker 2>hear certain things in the song, like who wrote this?

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<v Speaker 3>Also taking consideration for a sample or interpolation, that person

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<v Speaker 3>is credited. So a lot of times when you see

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<v Speaker 3>like ten fifteen names is because if they sample more money,

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<v Speaker 3>more problems by Diddy and Mache and Biggie right, they

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<v Speaker 3>sampled that that not only did mais Diddy a memo

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<v Speaker 3>or cVj or whoever.

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<v Speaker 4>Made the beat and Biggie.

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<v Speaker 3>Not only are they sample or they credit, but the

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<v Speaker 3>people that they sample from them are credited. And then

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<v Speaker 3>if they sampled somebody where they sample from. So a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of times you see all these names and they'll

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<v Speaker 3>be like, oh, such and such. Got all these people

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<v Speaker 3>writing a song, you know, it's the sample that's everybody this,

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<v Speaker 3>but they deserve the credit because their contribution to the

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<v Speaker 3>original record made the song with it is. So when

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<v Speaker 3>you look at that, a lot of times it's that myself.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm what they call one hundred percenter or a fifty percent,

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<v Speaker 3>So I write majority of every record I've ever written,

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<v Speaker 3>I written.

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<v Speaker 4>By myself as well.

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<v Speaker 3>There are no no disrespect to people who collaborate, But

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<v Speaker 3>my process was always kind of so fast that I

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<v Speaker 3>wrote a lot of my hit records alone, so you

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<v Speaker 3>would only see my name and maybe a Jim Johnson

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<v Speaker 3>or a Danger or and sometimes the artists will get

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<v Speaker 3>publishing on the record. That's the real estate, and they

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<v Speaker 3>own that real estate. So to pay attacks sometimes you

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<v Speaker 3>have to give a piece of the publishing to the artists,

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<v Speaker 3>which is fair business, and so you'll see their name.

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<v Speaker 3>But for the most part, I kind of like try

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<v Speaker 3>to stay away from the heavy samples, you know what

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<v Speaker 3>I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>On some records I had.

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<v Speaker 2>Thrown back was a heavy sample. There a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people original.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, Warwick put me back like yeah, that was

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<v Speaker 3>my first first song I wrote, So that was that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>That was a heavy sample song.

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<v Speaker 3>But uh, and they took fifty percent of that record too, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so which to you know, they deserve it. That that

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<v Speaker 3>production and that riff and that transition and the progression.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just timeless and it just it made for us.

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<v Speaker 3>It made it very easy for me.

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<v Speaker 4>To write the song.

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<v Speaker 1>So, okay, a song like there Goes My Baby was

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<v Speaker 1>like a fat ass walking by your girlfriend, Like at

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<v Speaker 1>the time, walking by.

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<v Speaker 2>With no draws on you was like the head goes

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<v Speaker 2>lines like how does it?

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<v Speaker 1>How does like how do the thoughts come to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it something like that?

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<v Speaker 4>Or oh?

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<v Speaker 3>I was really it was I had just suffered a

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<v Speaker 3>really crazy tragedy in my life, to be totally honest,

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<v Speaker 3>and I went straight to the studio the next day.

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<v Speaker 3>So when I was writing the record, honestly, it was

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<v Speaker 3>an idea about this girl is the most beautiful girl

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<v Speaker 3>in the world, and I didn't realize it until just

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<v Speaker 3>this moment, and she's taking forever to get ready. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>sitting at the edge of the bed and I look

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<v Speaker 3>and I see this girl and I'm like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>there goes my baby. So forgetting you, No, no, really,

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<v Speaker 3>you know you're sitting it funny, but a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>times men will forget what they have or the quality

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<v Speaker 3>of the women.

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<v Speaker 4>That they have.

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<v Speaker 3>So sometimes familiar, yeah, you get really and in all things, right,

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<v Speaker 3>don't we get familiar with? You know, in business we

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<v Speaker 3>get familiar with and friendships and relationships and all these things.

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<v Speaker 3>So the idea of the song is for a guy

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<v Speaker 3>to just kind of sit back and reflect.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, oh shit, my shorty is bad. You know what

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<v Speaker 4>I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Girl, look at you. So I wanted to create a

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<v Speaker 3>moment that it has so many different meanings but just

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<v Speaker 3>felt so good. Like the gold for every song is

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<v Speaker 3>to make sure it just feels good to people and

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<v Speaker 3>they can interpret it anyway they want.

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<v Speaker 4>And even when they listen to it now.

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<v Speaker 3>I bet when people listen to it now, when he says,

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<v Speaker 3>bet you ain't know what, I'll be checking you out.

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<v Speaker 4>When you be putting your heels on.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that song.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so perfect baby, how you work it baby, Like

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<v Speaker 3>he's like, wow, I love the way that you be

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<v Speaker 3>poking it out.

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<v Speaker 4>Give me somebody. It's like he's paying attention to her

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<v Speaker 4>now in this moment, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>And then also a little nugget was that I was

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<v Speaker 3>a huge fan of Usher and Chili dynamic.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody, when you're listening.

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<v Speaker 3>To the second verse, I said, I get the chills

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<v Speaker 3>whenever I see your face and you in the place,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like I'm in a movie.

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<v Speaker 4>Baby. I'm like, ooh wee, baby, like water falls, your

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<v Speaker 4>hair falls down to your waist.

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<v Speaker 3>Can I get a taste? No need to creep, because baby,

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<v Speaker 3>I ain't a shame my coring there. I was naming

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<v Speaker 3>TC songs.

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<v Speaker 4>You was getting him some.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody else.

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<v Speaker 3>I was trying to drop the nuggets in there to like,

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to hint at this idea him and Chili.

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<v Speaker 3>I always thought that that was an incredible pairing. And

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<v Speaker 3>and I love Jen, you know, I was just current

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<v Speaker 3>girlfriend and I think she's amazing. But at that point

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<v Speaker 3>in my life, I was so young and I was

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<v Speaker 3>so enamored.

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<v Speaker 2>With you, and everybody wanted Chili, right yeah, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Chili is just such a you know, and beautiful. So

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<v Speaker 3>I just kind of threw that nugget in there. A

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<v Speaker 3>lot of people may miss that, but when they listen,

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<v Speaker 3>when you listen to that, my baby, listen that second verse.

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<v Speaker 3>I definitely had Chili in my nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I got a question.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's a lot of niggas out here making beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>music for Facebook and SoundCloud and that's it, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>then it never goes nowhere. How did you get into

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<v Speaker 1>a place where everybody is like one, let me get

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<v Speaker 1>Rico love on it. Let me get Rico love on it.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, blessed enough and fortunate enough to have

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<v Speaker 3>existed before social media, so which is an incredible asset

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<v Speaker 3>and a credible tool to so many creatives, but it

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<v Speaker 3>also widens. It doesn't see. The door to go through

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<v Speaker 3>to make it is the same size. It's just the

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<v Speaker 3>access to get to that door. It's easier.

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<v Speaker 4>You get what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>What I mean by that is there are one hundred

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<v Speaker 3>and fifty thousand songs uploaded every day to Spotify. So

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<v Speaker 3>what that means is we're going down one door, one corridor.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's just the directions to get there is a

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<v Speaker 3>lot easier. Whereas back in the day, you had to

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<v Speaker 3>know somebody, you had to perform, you have to be

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<v Speaker 3>super talented. People had to see something special in you.

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<v Speaker 3>They had a team that would cultivate and develop it.

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<v Speaker 3>Now it's like develop it at home. Do it yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>put it out. If it sticks, we want to give

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<v Speaker 3>you money for it. So in that sense, the business

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<v Speaker 3>is a lot more difficult, but in another sense it's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot easier because you can upload something, put it out,

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<v Speaker 3>if it connects, if you build an audience, you can

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<v Speaker 3>gain revenue from it, you can build a following, you

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<v Speaker 3>can potentially get it will make a lot of next thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you outside and stay singing.

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<v Speaker 2>But booty brown whatever you know, girl don't do sexy

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<v Speaker 2>in you know, hold on my boy, excuse me my

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<v Speaker 2>booty whole brown. That's wild.

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<v Speaker 3>It's funny because I don't go out a lot. But

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<v Speaker 3>I went out a few weeks ago and I saw

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<v Speaker 3>gods singing it, and I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like, you saw dove all weekend this past weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>You've all had his? Uh the guys was somebody comment

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<v Speaker 2>and was like, I swore I just heard somebody say

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<v Speaker 2>ski we.

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<v Speaker 4>Man just the way of the world.

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<v Speaker 2>So that was actually one of my questions though, because

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<v Speaker 2>of social media and stuff. So even back then, do

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<v Speaker 2>you think it's in your opinion, is it talent or

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<v Speaker 2>hard work that actually gets people?

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<v Speaker 3>Hard work is gonna always get you, keep you consistent. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>The thing about getting in the business is because it's

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<v Speaker 3>such a crap shoot, you can get in it. It's

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<v Speaker 3>a roll of the dice. You can roll seven and

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<v Speaker 3>on the first row and you can actually make it

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<v Speaker 3>into the business. But there's a technique and the skill

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<v Speaker 3>that comes into consistently hitting your number. And I think

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<v Speaker 3>that it takes hard work to sustain anything, right, but

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<v Speaker 3>to get in the business, it does not necessarily take

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<v Speaker 3>the hard work, and that's the problem. For some it

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<v Speaker 3>takes extreme level of consistency, persistence, and hard work, but

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<v Speaker 3>for others it's just I threw something up. I started

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<v Speaker 3>rapping six months ago. I started rapping a month ago,

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<v Speaker 3>my first song I put out here. So then what

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<v Speaker 3>happens is those who stick around, they are the ones

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<v Speaker 3>that you know are actually talented. So when Glorilla first

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<v Speaker 3>came out, you didn't know what it was going to be.

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<v Speaker 3>But I see the consistent work. I can tell that

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<v Speaker 3>she works extremely hard. So when I watch it, I'm like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>everything that's happening for her she deserves because she didn't

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<v Speaker 3>just take it. Now, Cardi be the same way. Cardi

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<v Speaker 3>B is an artist who I didn't think was super talented.

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<v Speaker 3>But the work that as into it, and the consistency

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<v Speaker 3>and the dedication to the craft. So if you can

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<v Speaker 3>find a way to obsess over the actual art and

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<v Speaker 3>not just over the making the money, then I think

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<v Speaker 3>that And obviously you want to be lucrative, you want

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<v Speaker 3>to make money, you want to be successful, But if

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<v Speaker 3>you could find a way to obsess over the art,

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<v Speaker 3>then I think that's more.

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<v Speaker 4>About character than it is about moods. And I say

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<v Speaker 4>this a lot. Your character should be consistent. Your mood

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<v Speaker 4>can change. Who you are is going to be consistent.

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<v Speaker 4>The way you do anything is the way you do everything.

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<v Speaker 3>So when you when you think about that, you've got

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<v Speaker 3>to understand, like if somebody was in the trap and

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<v Speaker 3>he was dedicated, little baby was in the streets and

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<v Speaker 3>he was known for getting to some money. So his

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<v Speaker 3>dedication to consistently be able to earn in the streets

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<v Speaker 3>transitioned over to his music, and when he started making music,

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<v Speaker 3>he took the same mindset, the same hustle, the same consistency.

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<v Speaker 3>The way you do anything is the way you do everything,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's why he's able to sustain success in a

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<v Speaker 3>music business. And I think that if you ask me

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<v Speaker 3>what's more important. I say, the hard work is more important.

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<v Speaker 3>But we live in an era where the talent is

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<v Speaker 3>not even necessarily more point, it's about how.

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<v Speaker 4>Much motion you have.

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<v Speaker 3>If you got enough movement and traction around you as

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<v Speaker 3>an artist, if people believe you, if people buy into you,

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<v Speaker 3>they'll convince themselves that they like your music. And that's

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<v Speaker 3>the difference. Now, if you have convinced them to love

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<v Speaker 3>you and you make great music, it's an incredible win

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<v Speaker 3>for you.

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<v Speaker 2>So when we talk about business, you know, people say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>business is business, But like you said, how you do

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<v Speaker 2>one thing is how you do everything.

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<v Speaker 3>So do you.

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<v Speaker 2>Go along. Do you think that a person can separate

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<v Speaker 2>their actual personality from the business, you know, because people

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<v Speaker 2>do a lot of shady shit in business, right, And

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<v Speaker 2>though you'll say business is business, right, Yeah, I think,

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<v Speaker 2>but that's you. That's how I feel.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think there's a.

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<v Speaker 3>Whenever there's paperwork, whenever it is a huge conglomerate that

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<v Speaker 3>has to earn, it has to make money off that

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<v Speaker 3>like X's and o's, you have to understand that they

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<v Speaker 3>are going to stick to the rule book. And when

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<v Speaker 3>you go into a contract, you're making relationships with this president.

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<v Speaker 3>You're making relationship with this A and R. And you

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<v Speaker 3>believe that because this A and R told you that

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<v Speaker 3>he believed in you or she believed in you, and

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<v Speaker 3>they brought into your brand and they put their arm

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<v Speaker 3>around you, and they fuck with you for a long time,

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<v Speaker 3>and then things started to change and you weren't as

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<v Speaker 3>productive and you weren't as financially lucrative as you once were.

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<v Speaker 3>Then you believe that the portrayal was between them and you. No,

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<v Speaker 3>what happens is they have a higher ups that they

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<v Speaker 3>have to answer to. Even the CEO has to answer

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<v Speaker 3>to somebody. Right, he's the chief executive operator. Right, he

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<v Speaker 3>runs the machine. But they are boards and they are ownership.

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<v Speaker 3>That says you have to answer to us, and you

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<v Speaker 3>need to make sure that you're turning this around. So

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<v Speaker 3>when you don't do what you need to do, you

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<v Speaker 3>blame the inconsistency of the business. It's no love in

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<v Speaker 3>the business. It's no love in industry. And the problem

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<v Speaker 3>is that people think that the music business is any

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<v Speaker 3>way different than any other business. Whenever you have legal

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<v Speaker 3>and you have paperwork, you have people that have to

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<v Speaker 3>be paid, and you have checks and balances, there will

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<v Speaker 3>be a time where they're gonna ask who was productive

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<v Speaker 3>and who was not, and if you were productive. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't care how long this relationship has lasted. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>care how cool you are. I don't care how much

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<v Speaker 3>I love you, how you know my kids, and how

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<v Speaker 3>we hung out, and how you at one point you

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<v Speaker 3>were the king of this label. If you no longer earn,

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<v Speaker 3>then our time together has to end. And that's with sports,

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<v Speaker 3>that's in McDonald's, that's in anywhere. So I think that

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<v Speaker 3>people have this idea that the music business is more

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<v Speaker 3>shady or more about business, and business is business than

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<v Speaker 3>any of the corporation or conglomerate. They all function in

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<v Speaker 3>a way that says, if you are productive, you have

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<v Speaker 3>a space here at the table.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, We'll keep you.

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<v Speaker 3>Around as long as we can until I have to

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<v Speaker 3>answer to my higher upts to say, what's up, what's

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<v Speaker 3>up with?

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<v Speaker 4>What are we doing with this?

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<v Speaker 3>Because every time they do a project, every time they

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<v Speaker 3>go to the studio, we gotta pay for this. Every

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<v Speaker 3>time they put out a song, we gotta pay them

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<v Speaker 3>this because of the deal that we differ in back

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<v Speaker 3>in the day that earns them certain amounts. It's costing

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<v Speaker 3>us too much. We gotta get rid of it. So

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<v Speaker 3>in a sense, people will say the business is shady,

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<v Speaker 3>But every business that has to do with paperwork is

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<v Speaker 3>going to go by what the paperwork says and they're

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<v Speaker 3>going to honor that paperwork for as long as you

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<v Speaker 3>are beneficial to them.

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<v Speaker 5>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>And on top of that, everything in life is negotiable,

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<v Speaker 2>so get a lawyer, you know, reade check.

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<v Speaker 3>But even with that being said, everything is if you

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<v Speaker 3>are productive, then you can change any contract. That's the

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<v Speaker 3>crazy thing about the business. The lady God got first

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<v Speaker 3>deal is not the same deal she did after album.

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<v Speaker 3>Our first album came out and was extremely successful, she

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<v Speaker 3>was able to say I want to do this, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not doing another record, and at the end of the

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<v Speaker 3>day she's so successful that we have to come to

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<v Speaker 3>the table. And that's how you have to look at it.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you aren't successful, you have to understand it's

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<v Speaker 3>the reverse that they're going to say, yeah, we know

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<v Speaker 3>we did this paperwork, but we really kind of just

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<v Speaker 3>want to seven times. It's costing us too much, So

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<v Speaker 3>we have the right to get rid of the situation

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<v Speaker 3>and walk away from the situation at any moment. Just

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<v Speaker 3>like you should have the right to say, hey, I

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<v Speaker 3>just sold thirty million albums, I would like to redo

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<v Speaker 3>my entire deal in structure it differently, and I would

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<v Speaker 3>like this person not to be involved.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all can pay them. I would like this person not

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<v Speaker 4>to be involved. Y'all pay them off.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to have so ownership and partnership between you,

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<v Speaker 3>me and the label, and we'll and guess what, the

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<v Speaker 3>record company will sit down and go see you. You

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<v Speaker 3>could have discovered that. You could have came and brought

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<v Speaker 3>it to the table or him the table and the

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<v Speaker 3>rec company company and say, hey, here's a check.

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<v Speaker 4>We're sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>Stallion. I think is an example of that right because

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<v Speaker 2>she did not. She wasn't trying to leave. Say he's

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<v Speaker 2>speaking on that ship, I'll talk about it right cause

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<v Speaker 2>she wasn't trying to leave five and one. She just

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to renegotiate her contract. Like I'm pretty sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Say this, she's I'm gonna say this, and I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 3>say this about all things, all things in life. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't care what a person has told you. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>care what you heard and how emotional how they may

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<v Speaker 3>have been when they said it. We only know their

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<v Speaker 3>perspective in that point of view, and it wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 3>fair for us to even give an idea of what

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<v Speaker 3>happened based on one person's take on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I'm talking about her contract, I'm not talking about

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<v Speaker 2>the widow shit. But we don't have her contract either,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean, signing with her Essentially.

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<v Speaker 4>I can't speak on it. But what I can't say

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<v Speaker 4>is I only.

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<v Speaker 2>Know that she got an apology from that nigga.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, sometimes you got to apologize.

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<v Speaker 2>And what's the other rapper from Texas? She just left

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<v Speaker 2>five and one as well, Erica.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what's really unfortunate though, also is that there's

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<v Speaker 3>situations where sometimes I've signed a lot of female artists

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<v Speaker 3>and I haven't been able to break a female artist.

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<v Speaker 3>And the problem is that no matter what I've invested

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<v Speaker 3>into them, Like if you look on my page, anybody

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<v Speaker 3>who followed me to know that I'll post my artists

0:22:36.280 --> 0:22:38.600
<v Speaker 3>five hundred miles an hour, i will always promote and

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<v Speaker 3>talk about my artists. I'll put everything I have into them,

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<v Speaker 3>and when it doesn't work out, people forget all of

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<v Speaker 3>those things that you've done. They only believe, only realize. Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>it didn't work out, it must be Rico's fault, right, right. Meanwhile,

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<v Speaker 3>they never made a dollar for me in no way.

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<v Speaker 3>All I've ever did was put into it and it

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<v Speaker 3>never gave me a return on any of those situations.

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<v Speaker 4>Right. So, regardless of whatever I've read comments from people

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<v Speaker 4>that says Rico did this, and Rico did this, and

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<v Speaker 4>Rico did this.

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<v Speaker 3>So even when I look at a situation like, well, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>didn't another girl quit or leave his label, or didn't

0:23:14.800 --> 0:23:18.639
<v Speaker 3>another girl do this, I still only know that person's perspective,

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<v Speaker 3>because when you are the boss, when you are at

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<v Speaker 3>the top, it does not benefit you to go back

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<v Speaker 3>and forth on social media with somebody, Oh, this is

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<v Speaker 3>what really happened. It's not becoming of a boss. It's

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<v Speaker 3>not becoming of a leader. This doesn't look cool. So

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of times we have to allow, especially in

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<v Speaker 3>this business. Sometimes for rant, sometimes the artists will go

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<v Speaker 3>crazy and lose their mind on you, and sometimes you

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<v Speaker 3>just have to allow it because as a boss, you

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<v Speaker 3>can't be what it is just too much. So that

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<v Speaker 3>person could be wrong, this person could be right, and

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<v Speaker 3>vice versa. But I think that to assume that just

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<v Speaker 3>because this person says something that has to be true,

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<v Speaker 3>then that part of it, or just because this person

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<v Speaker 3>didn't respond to it, that you saw a fit that

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<v Speaker 3>it has to be true is not necessarily the truth.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely. I get that, you know, because I am tired

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<v Speaker 2>of battling people's perspective nowadays.

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<v Speaker 4>And over time, over time, everything, especially especially.

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<v Speaker 2>Is the internet bit at this point, over.

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<v Speaker 3>Time, regardless or whatever, the truth will come out or

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<v Speaker 3>or things will play out, and people will see consistencies

0:24:34.760 --> 0:24:36.879
<v Speaker 3>and the characters and they'll see it. They'll watch and

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<v Speaker 3>notice some things, and I'm saying, oh, all right, this

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<v Speaker 3>is starting to make sense.

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<v Speaker 2>You know that thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I have one question before we go to break.

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<v Speaker 1>Give us your mount rushmore of r and b artists writers,

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<v Speaker 1>But what however you want to throw it? Okay, Michael

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<v Speaker 1>Jackson is number one period off the wall. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have to go with Stevie Wonder. Yes, And then you

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<v Speaker 1>get two people.

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<v Speaker 3>It's four I'm wrong with you, Yes, And then I

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<v Speaker 3>gotta go Usher just because not just because he discovered me,

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<v Speaker 3>but I just listened to his tone. I think this

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<v Speaker 3>is the most incredible distinct tones in the history of music.

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<v Speaker 3>And then you gotta go Beyonce because the only reason

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<v Speaker 3>I can't say Prince is because I can consider Prince

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<v Speaker 3>more rock R and B. So, but if we want

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<v Speaker 3>to go straight R and B, I gotta go with Stevie, Mike, Usher,

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<v Speaker 3>B because there are people from before my era, during

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<v Speaker 3>my era, and you know, the ones that I think

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<v Speaker 3>I patterned my love for music behind.

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<v Speaker 4>I like, but I definitely Prince.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, no, I love Prince, But I'm just saying,

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<v Speaker 3>if I had to choose between Prince, Michael and Stevie,

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<v Speaker 3>I think Prince was a way more well rounded artists

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<v Speaker 3>and all genres. So if you gave me around rushmore

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<v Speaker 3>music in general, then I would have to take out

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<v Speaker 3>Usher and B. I would put Prince in that spot.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you give me R and B, I got

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<v Speaker 3>to go. I prefer these people because of sentimental value

0:26:03.560 --> 0:26:08.000
<v Speaker 3>and reasoning also as well as iconic figures that they

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<v Speaker 3>are and impact and the contributions they made to the

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<v Speaker 3>R and B art form, And it's.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, entirety absolutely, So one more question before we

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<v Speaker 2>go to break, who is on your hit list? Like

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<v Speaker 2>of people you haven't worked with yet and you want

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<v Speaker 2>to work with.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, Rufus Wayne Wright is an incredible artist. I think

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<v Speaker 3>you guys should look him up.

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<v Speaker 4>His Uh.

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<v Speaker 3>He had an album called want One that changed my life.

0:26:31.119 --> 0:26:33.760
<v Speaker 3>I used to be extremely homophobic, as most people in

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<v Speaker 3>our community were, and when I heard this record he

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<v Speaker 3>wrote called Natasha.

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<v Speaker 4>Where he was Rufus Rufus Waynwright.

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<v Speaker 3>He has a song called Natasha and I interpreted him

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<v Speaker 3>telling his girlfriend he was gay, and I just thought

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<v Speaker 3>it was genius. So Rufus Wayne Wright is one of

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<v Speaker 3>the guys I would love to work with. I definitely

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<v Speaker 3>would love to do an entire project with Kanye West,

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<v Speaker 3>like if Me and Ye could do Me Too project.

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<v Speaker 2>Keep telling Yet, did y'all see him yesterday? Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. He has this other page. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm gonna show you right now, speak pages.

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<v Speaker 3>Speaking of other pages and artists, let's always say Kendrick

0:27:12.160 --> 0:27:14.560
<v Speaker 3>Lamar and I love his new account.

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<v Speaker 4>What's they called it? The Burner?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah and so and then finally, Uh, I know that

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<v Speaker 3>this is I would love to do an album with

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<v Speaker 3>Usher and I've done a project for I've done a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of his songs that I've britten up. It's one

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<v Speaker 3>I got even new records getting ready to come out

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<v Speaker 3>of him soon. But I would want to do a

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<v Speaker 3>whole album with me and Usher, like, just let me

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<v Speaker 3>executive produce the project.

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<v Speaker 4>That would be my dream.

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<v Speaker 2>Why you can't make that happen? That should be.

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<v Speaker 4>Easy, right, It's not easy, but I would love for

0:27:44.200 --> 0:27:44.480
<v Speaker 4>it to be.

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<v Speaker 2>I should make that happen, all right, y'all. So it

0:27:51.840 --> 0:27:54.040
<v Speaker 2>wouldn't be right to have somebody on we talk back

0:27:54.240 --> 0:27:56.640
<v Speaker 2>named Recal Love and I talk about love because y'all

0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.520
<v Speaker 2>know we love talking about relationships. I'm actually tired of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, So this past week, I was having a

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<v Speaker 2>conversation with a friend of mine and we started talking

0:28:07.200 --> 0:28:10.760
<v Speaker 2>about unconditional love, right, and so I asked him is

0:28:10.840 --> 0:28:12.800
<v Speaker 2>it possible for him? Does he think it's possible for

0:28:12.880 --> 0:28:16.359
<v Speaker 2>him to love someone unconditionally? And he was like, you know,

0:28:16.560 --> 0:28:19.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't think, like he didn't know he was unsure, right,

0:28:19.680 --> 0:28:22.560
<v Speaker 2>But I'm like, no, you know, the only person that

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<v Speaker 2>I love unconditionally is me, right, because I'm always forgive myself.

0:28:26.440 --> 0:28:29.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm always have empathy for myself. But sometimes people do

0:28:29.880 --> 0:28:33.520
<v Speaker 2>things that are kind of unforgivable. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>You like if I walk away, is that really displaying

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<v Speaker 2>unconditional love? So how do you feel about unconditional love?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, because love is a feeling, because love is a mind,

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<v Speaker 3>a space that you place somebody in your heart, in

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<v Speaker 3>your mind. Then unconditional love it has to exist to me.

0:28:50.640 --> 0:28:54.480
<v Speaker 3>And also because of my belief system, right, so, I

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:57.080
<v Speaker 3>believe in God, and I believe God and God in

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<v Speaker 3>such a strong and reverence. I have such a reverence

0:29:01.400 --> 0:29:04.880
<v Speaker 3>for him, right, and I understand that if love is God,

0:29:05.480 --> 0:29:08.680
<v Speaker 3>then it's never ending, It's always present, it's always an

0:29:08.720 --> 0:29:12.720
<v Speaker 3>existing thing. Now my actions behind how I allow this

0:29:12.880 --> 0:29:15.960
<v Speaker 3>person to fit into my schedule, until my life, until

0:29:15.960 --> 0:29:19.160
<v Speaker 3>my psyche, that's different. But the feeling I have for

0:29:19.280 --> 0:29:23.040
<v Speaker 3>someone is unconditional, So meaning I never in the history

0:29:23.080 --> 0:29:24.200
<v Speaker 3>of my life would go out of my way to

0:29:24.280 --> 0:29:27.840
<v Speaker 3>hurt anyone. I never would try my best to target

0:29:27.920 --> 0:29:29.320
<v Speaker 3>someone and say, let me figure out a way to

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<v Speaker 3>get this person.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think anybody ever consciously thinks that.

0:29:32.720 --> 0:29:36.120
<v Speaker 3>But I can remove myself from anybody who who I

0:29:36.120 --> 0:29:38.320
<v Speaker 3>don't feel like have my best interests in mine or

0:29:38.800 --> 0:29:42.280
<v Speaker 3>if we don't feel like we're any longer compatible. But

0:29:42.400 --> 0:29:44.400
<v Speaker 3>the love that I have for them will make it

0:29:44.520 --> 0:29:48.200
<v Speaker 3>so that in any situation, I genuinely, from the bottom

0:29:48.240 --> 0:29:50.080
<v Speaker 3>of my heart want what's best for them. So I

0:29:50.160 --> 0:29:53.520
<v Speaker 3>don't think that unconditional love is unreasonable. Off it's task

0:29:53.600 --> 0:29:56.200
<v Speaker 3>to ask for or or a thing to ask for.

0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:58.800
<v Speaker 3>But I just think that to ask to somebody is

0:29:58.840 --> 0:30:01.920
<v Speaker 3>always present in your life and always is the go

0:30:02.120 --> 0:30:04.720
<v Speaker 3>to person for you when you need them, that part

0:30:04.800 --> 0:30:06.760
<v Speaker 3>of it isn't reasonable. But when we think about love,

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<v Speaker 3>even though love is an action, we also have to

0:30:09.840 --> 0:30:12.360
<v Speaker 3>remember that love sometimes means that I love you enough

0:30:12.800 --> 0:30:16.480
<v Speaker 3>to give you the space because if I love you right,

0:30:17.040 --> 0:30:20.720
<v Speaker 3>but you are allowing me in my own mind because

0:30:20.720 --> 0:30:22.480
<v Speaker 3>obviously we make our own choices, but you aren't allow

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<v Speaker 3>me to be the best version of myself, then for

0:30:24.840 --> 0:30:28.160
<v Speaker 3>the better of our relationship, I'd rather remove myself because

0:30:28.240 --> 0:30:30.920
<v Speaker 3>sometimes you're removing yourself for a time can mean that

0:30:30.960 --> 0:30:34.080
<v Speaker 3>you'll reconcile later in a time where I was able

0:30:34.120 --> 0:30:34.560
<v Speaker 3>to heal.

0:30:34.480 --> 0:30:36.200
<v Speaker 4>From some things, you was able to heal from some things.

0:30:36.280 --> 0:30:40.000
<v Speaker 3>We can really participate in a relationship, friendship, whatever that

0:30:40.160 --> 0:30:42.959
<v Speaker 3>is in a more mature space, but that love can

0:30:43.040 --> 0:30:45.680
<v Speaker 3>never not exist. So that's why when I tell people

0:30:45.760 --> 0:30:47.480
<v Speaker 3>people disagree with me strongly when I say that you

0:30:47.560 --> 0:30:49.920
<v Speaker 3>can only be in love once. So a lot of

0:30:49.960 --> 0:30:51.680
<v Speaker 3>people get angry when I say that. I don't know

0:30:51.720 --> 0:30:53.600
<v Speaker 3>why they get angry, because that's just my perspective. But

0:30:53.600 --> 0:30:55.520
<v Speaker 3>I always tell people I believe you can only be

0:30:55.600 --> 0:30:57.680
<v Speaker 3>in love once. I believe that we are wrong about

0:30:57.760 --> 0:31:02.840
<v Speaker 3>so many things already, No, but I just think that

0:31:02.960 --> 0:31:05.320
<v Speaker 3>we can. We're in a space where so many things

0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:08.360
<v Speaker 3>can be wrong. We can say we're wrong about so

0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:13.040
<v Speaker 3>many things, but we refuse to acknowledge that maybe we

0:31:13.160 --> 0:31:15.480
<v Speaker 3>were wrong about being in love with somebody, you know

0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:15.840
<v Speaker 3>what I mean?

0:31:15.960 --> 0:31:24.800
<v Speaker 4>And absolutely, and I think that uh good, right.

0:31:24.920 --> 0:31:26.800
<v Speaker 3>A lot of times spent with a person and you'll

0:31:26.800 --> 0:31:29.520
<v Speaker 3>believe that that was my soulmate, And that doesn't mean

0:31:29.560 --> 0:31:32.200
<v Speaker 3>that that's not necessarily the truth. And what it can

0:31:32.320 --> 0:31:34.680
<v Speaker 3>mean is that for that period it didn't work, and

0:31:34.720 --> 0:31:35.520
<v Speaker 3>then it can work later.

0:31:35.560 --> 0:31:36.480
<v Speaker 4>It can be that also.

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<v Speaker 3>But I do believe that if it's only one person

0:31:39.680 --> 0:31:41.920
<v Speaker 3>for me, how can I be in love with others?

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:45.160
<v Speaker 3>The way love works, in my mind is ongoing thing.

0:31:45.480 --> 0:31:47.480
<v Speaker 3>It cannot turn off. You can't turn love off. So

0:31:47.520 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 3>when I think about love, I think about God and

0:31:49.520 --> 0:31:52.600
<v Speaker 3>I know that there are inconsistencies and everything that we do,

0:31:52.880 --> 0:31:55.120
<v Speaker 3>but the one thing that has to be constant is

0:31:55.640 --> 0:31:59.720
<v Speaker 3>our want for somebody to do well and to be

0:31:59.840 --> 0:32:01.720
<v Speaker 3>the best version of themselves. There was an interview with

0:32:01.960 --> 0:32:03.760
<v Speaker 3>Kim Kardashian said the other day, like, I want the

0:32:03.800 --> 0:32:06.480
<v Speaker 3>old Kanye back, right, I want the old I want

0:32:06.520 --> 0:32:08.360
<v Speaker 3>to I want to have that back. So what that

0:32:08.480 --> 0:32:11.280
<v Speaker 3>tells me is that her love for him didn't change.

0:32:11.400 --> 0:32:13.000
<v Speaker 4>She was in a situation.

0:32:13.480 --> 0:32:15.600
<v Speaker 3>From her perspective, and I don't know both sides of

0:32:15.600 --> 0:32:18.200
<v Speaker 3>the story, but from her perspective, what she's saying to me,

0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:22.400
<v Speaker 3>in my opinion was this no longer worked for me

0:32:22.840 --> 0:32:25.440
<v Speaker 3>when he was this way, and it was changed that happened.

0:32:25.680 --> 0:32:29.520
<v Speaker 3>But if he was this way, we could still have

0:32:29.640 --> 0:32:32.440
<v Speaker 3>worked it out. But for this, this was destroying me personally.

0:32:32.760 --> 0:32:34.480
<v Speaker 3>So when I look at that, I realized.

0:32:34.120 --> 0:32:38.080
<v Speaker 4>That their no, No, the condition is where she stayed.

0:32:38.160 --> 0:32:40.400
<v Speaker 2>You're still gonna have boundaries with boundaries.

0:32:40.080 --> 0:32:43.120
<v Speaker 4>And exactly she's her staying was the condition.

0:32:43.680 --> 0:32:47.000
<v Speaker 3>Her love for this person is unconditional, because if I

0:32:47.080 --> 0:32:50.160
<v Speaker 3>couldn't stay because of this, but if it was this way,

0:32:50.240 --> 0:32:50.760
<v Speaker 3>I could stay.

0:32:50.840 --> 0:32:52.520
<v Speaker 4>But the love didn't can't go anywhere.

0:32:52.840 --> 0:32:54.760
<v Speaker 3>And I think that that's fair, and I think that

0:32:54.880 --> 0:32:58.280
<v Speaker 3>sometimes we kind of like refused to really recognize, like when.

0:32:58.160 --> 0:33:00.480
<v Speaker 4>People are like, I've been in love six times, how

0:33:00.680 --> 0:33:03.000
<v Speaker 4>is that love? Don't work like that because you can

0:33:03.120 --> 0:33:04.520
<v Speaker 4>be out of it. It's a covenant.

0:33:04.920 --> 0:33:07.360
<v Speaker 2>So once you, I feel like being in love and

0:33:07.560 --> 0:33:09.800
<v Speaker 2>loving someone is totally two different things, right, because being

0:33:09.920 --> 0:33:11.840
<v Speaker 2>in love is a state of mind. So if you're

0:33:11.840 --> 0:33:14.640
<v Speaker 2>in a relationship and you're not doing things to continuously

0:33:14.760 --> 0:33:18.680
<v Speaker 2>fall in love with your person every single day, you're arguing, fussing, fighting,

0:33:18.720 --> 0:33:20.840
<v Speaker 2>you like your draws on the floor, like you're going

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 2>to be falling out of love, right, So I agree

0:33:23.520 --> 0:33:23.720
<v Speaker 2>with you.

0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:25.560
<v Speaker 4>I don't think you can fall out of love though.

0:33:25.560 --> 0:33:26.920
<v Speaker 4>That's the thing that's only if you.

0:33:27.440 --> 0:33:29.920
<v Speaker 1>I think saying there's a line between love and what

0:33:30.000 --> 0:33:30.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying.

0:33:30.640 --> 0:33:33.080
<v Speaker 6>Is that you can believe that you were in love

0:33:33.240 --> 0:33:35.960
<v Speaker 6>with this person at that time time, Which is why

0:33:36.000 --> 0:33:37.400
<v Speaker 6>I agree with you when you said you only can

0:33:37.440 --> 0:33:38.160
<v Speaker 6>be in loved one and.

0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:41.040
<v Speaker 4>You can realize later that I was not in love

0:33:41.080 --> 0:33:43.400
<v Speaker 4>with this person. So what happens is is.

0:33:43.440 --> 0:33:46.440
<v Speaker 2>Usually when you get the new dig I could not

0:33:46.560 --> 0:33:50.040
<v Speaker 2>have possibly loved that nigga, because I love this man.

0:33:51.840 --> 0:33:54.560
<v Speaker 3>I just think that over time you'll realize, like, oh,

0:33:54.640 --> 0:33:56.520
<v Speaker 3>this has run its course, and I felt like this

0:33:56.720 --> 0:33:58.760
<v Speaker 3>was something, But over time I realized that I'm not

0:33:58.920 --> 0:34:02.440
<v Speaker 3>willing to endure any of this that's going on with

0:34:02.560 --> 0:34:06.480
<v Speaker 3>this person. So now sometimes you're not willing to endure

0:34:06.560 --> 0:34:08.960
<v Speaker 3>those things with a person because they are hooked on

0:34:09.080 --> 0:34:11.400
<v Speaker 3>drugs because they went to jail doesn't mean that that

0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:13.040
<v Speaker 3>might not be the person that you were meant to

0:34:13.120 --> 0:34:15.000
<v Speaker 3>be with. Sometimes you might end up with the person

0:34:15.080 --> 0:34:16.759
<v Speaker 3>you weren't meant to be with and the person you

0:34:16.840 --> 0:34:19.359
<v Speaker 3>were truly supposed to be with. Is the three relationships ago.

0:34:19.880 --> 0:34:22.279
<v Speaker 3>I think that's very much possible. But I also know

0:34:22.560 --> 0:34:24.360
<v Speaker 3>that if I say that I'm in love with someone

0:34:24.440 --> 0:34:26.080
<v Speaker 3>and I really mean it in the true essence of

0:34:26.160 --> 0:34:27.080
<v Speaker 3>what love means to me.

0:34:27.440 --> 0:34:28.760
<v Speaker 4>To me, love is a covenant.

0:34:28.960 --> 0:34:31.479
<v Speaker 3>Love is a covenant that is un You can't break

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:35.400
<v Speaker 3>this covenant because I correlate love with God. So the

0:34:35.520 --> 0:34:39.319
<v Speaker 3>consistencies of who God is. And also I guess it's

0:34:39.440 --> 0:34:41.440
<v Speaker 3>up for debate because some people don't believe in God

0:34:41.480 --> 0:34:43.640
<v Speaker 3>in the way that I do. So that's why when

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:46.080
<v Speaker 3>people get frustrated with my perspective. I'm always kind of

0:34:46.120 --> 0:34:48.680
<v Speaker 3>like puzzled because I'm like, this is my perspective.

0:34:48.680 --> 0:34:50.880
<v Speaker 2>Do you believe in the internal God or the external God?

0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:51.920
<v Speaker 2>Because the mine is internal?

0:34:52.040 --> 0:34:54.640
<v Speaker 3>See, I believe that it doesn't. God is omnipresent, so

0:34:54.800 --> 0:34:58.120
<v Speaker 3>his everything about who God is is internal. But we

0:34:58.440 --> 0:35:01.320
<v Speaker 3>are God's work in the earth. So I am the

0:35:01.400 --> 0:35:04.120
<v Speaker 3>external working of who God is and who God is

0:35:04.160 --> 0:35:09.160
<v Speaker 3>in me. Right, So I do understand that that over time,

0:35:09.560 --> 0:35:12.000
<v Speaker 3>things can reveal themselves to you and you realize I

0:35:12.160 --> 0:35:14.880
<v Speaker 3>thought that this was this, but it wasn't, and that's okay.

0:35:14.960 --> 0:35:17.000
<v Speaker 3>I was wrong about this thing. Doesn't mean I went

0:35:17.120 --> 0:35:19.920
<v Speaker 3>bad for that person. That doesn't mean I regret the experience.

0:35:19.960 --> 0:35:21.759
<v Speaker 3>But what I can realize is that this is what

0:35:22.000 --> 0:35:23.840
<v Speaker 3>not what I thought it would be or what I

0:35:23.880 --> 0:35:25.279
<v Speaker 3>wished it to be and what I tried to force

0:35:25.360 --> 0:35:28.600
<v Speaker 3>it to be right. And I also believe that when

0:35:28.640 --> 0:35:31.960
<v Speaker 3>you do find that thing and everything about you, everything

0:35:32.040 --> 0:35:33.920
<v Speaker 3>you believe, everything you thought that you would never do,

0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:36.360
<v Speaker 3>it'll trigger those things and it'll make you decide to

0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:37.440
<v Speaker 3>do things that you know.

0:35:37.520 --> 0:35:39.200
<v Speaker 2>I've been doing a lot of shit lately. I don't

0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:46.680
<v Speaker 2>never do like, what the fuck is happening? All right?

0:35:46.760 --> 0:35:48.919
<v Speaker 1>So based on your definition, that means that you feel

0:35:48.920 --> 0:35:50.719
<v Speaker 1>like most people have never been in love.

0:35:51.120 --> 0:35:53.320
<v Speaker 4>I can't judge by most people. That's not my business.

0:35:54.200 --> 0:36:00.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm telling business. My perspective is how I believe what

0:36:00.200 --> 0:36:02.879
<v Speaker 3>I believe love to be. I do believe that people

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:06.080
<v Speaker 3>use the word loosely. I believe that people use most

0:36:06.120 --> 0:36:08.719
<v Speaker 3>times loosely. I believe people call something amazing, that it's

0:36:08.800 --> 0:36:10.560
<v Speaker 3>just okay, or they're brilliant.

0:36:10.640 --> 0:36:12.960
<v Speaker 4>I just think that that's so.

0:36:13.080 --> 0:36:15.520
<v Speaker 3>I think that I do believe that when it comes

0:36:15.560 --> 0:36:18.440
<v Speaker 3>to being in love, people can become you know, I

0:36:18.760 --> 0:36:21.719
<v Speaker 3>was in a space maybe a couple of years ago,

0:36:21.760 --> 0:36:24.160
<v Speaker 3>two years ago, where I was like everybody I was

0:36:24.360 --> 0:36:25.120
<v Speaker 3>going out on a date with.

0:36:25.239 --> 0:36:27.440
<v Speaker 4>I was thinking, oh wow, this could be it. Oh

0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:29.960
<v Speaker 4>my god, because I thought that's what I wanted, you

0:36:30.000 --> 0:36:30.400
<v Speaker 4>know what I mean.

0:36:30.560 --> 0:36:34.440
<v Speaker 3>So then, unfairly, given a lot of maybe a few

0:36:34.480 --> 0:36:36.800
<v Speaker 3>people too much time that I feel like, maybe I

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:40.920
<v Speaker 3>realized shortly after that it wasn't warranted.

0:36:41.040 --> 0:36:41.160
<v Speaker 4>Right.

0:36:41.480 --> 0:36:43.440
<v Speaker 3>So I think that we go through these phases in

0:36:43.480 --> 0:36:46.400
<v Speaker 3>our lives where we think certain things. Who I am

0:36:46.520 --> 0:36:48.839
<v Speaker 3>today is not who I was a year ago. Who

0:36:48.880 --> 0:36:50.560
<v Speaker 3>I am today is not who it was five years ago,

0:36:50.760 --> 0:36:52.600
<v Speaker 3>so I had to give myself space to grow and

0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:54.840
<v Speaker 3>understand through those things. But I think love is the

0:36:54.920 --> 0:36:56.680
<v Speaker 3>same way. The love is one of those things that

0:36:56.719 --> 0:36:59.120
<v Speaker 3>you can't outgrow. You can grow to a different space

0:36:59.160 --> 0:37:01.160
<v Speaker 3>than who you are. But it goes back to mood

0:37:01.200 --> 0:37:03.480
<v Speaker 3>and character. Your character is one thing, and your mood

0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:05.359
<v Speaker 3>is a different thing, and how you behave and how

0:37:05.400 --> 0:37:07.759
<v Speaker 3>you respond to things should not be based on your

0:37:07.800 --> 0:37:09.640
<v Speaker 3>mood and only be based on your character.

0:37:09.760 --> 0:37:10.600
<v Speaker 4>And that's how love is.

0:37:10.840 --> 0:37:12.759
<v Speaker 3>I respond to you based on how much I love

0:37:12.840 --> 0:37:15.120
<v Speaker 3>you and how mad you upset you made me. And

0:37:15.200 --> 0:37:17.359
<v Speaker 3>I think that when you realize what something with love

0:37:17.440 --> 0:37:20.640
<v Speaker 3>truly is, then it's defining how to correct.

0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:22.000
<v Speaker 4>Yourself in those senses. You know what I mean.

0:37:22.280 --> 0:37:24.440
<v Speaker 3>And when I respond with love, I think more so

0:37:24.600 --> 0:37:28.560
<v Speaker 3>about what's best for all parties involved, and not just

0:37:28.640 --> 0:37:29.560
<v Speaker 3>how I feel in the moment.

0:37:32.200 --> 0:37:33.759
<v Speaker 2>What I was about to say it was God is

0:37:33.880 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 2>love right, But in the Bible it was a lot

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:39.960
<v Speaker 2>of ship God was doing in people right, a lot

0:37:40.000 --> 0:37:43.319
<v Speaker 2>of wraths. Do you feel the wrath of God? Right?

0:37:43.400 --> 0:37:44.759
<v Speaker 2>So it was always what do.

0:37:44.800 --> 0:37:45.880
<v Speaker 4>You do to people.

0:37:48.320 --> 0:37:52.360
<v Speaker 2>Cause destruction? God did cause destruction in the Bible to people.

0:37:53.160 --> 0:37:55.640
<v Speaker 4>Yes, no, no, let me tell you.

0:37:56.160 --> 0:37:56.759
<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you what.

0:37:57.160 --> 0:37:59.120
<v Speaker 4>So let me tell you. Everybody died.

0:37:59.160 --> 0:38:02.200
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't everybody else.

0:38:03.680 --> 0:38:07.640
<v Speaker 4>But again, it's all about perspective, right. God hates sin, right.

0:38:07.960 --> 0:38:09.560
<v Speaker 2>But what sin sin? It is objective.

0:38:09.920 --> 0:38:12.000
<v Speaker 4>So that's what I'm saying. It's all about perspective. Didn't

0:38:12.040 --> 0:38:15.160
<v Speaker 4>under saying that, Yes, you did, So it's all about perspective.

0:38:15.280 --> 0:38:19.359
<v Speaker 3>God hates sin. So God said to everybody. He said,

0:38:19.400 --> 0:38:23.760
<v Speaker 3>to everybody, this is going to happen to this place.

0:38:24.840 --> 0:38:27.800
<v Speaker 3>If you don't get right in this place, I'm gonna

0:38:27.840 --> 0:38:28.840
<v Speaker 3>flood this place.

0:38:29.239 --> 0:38:33.319
<v Speaker 2>I love the place. Say it to everybody. He told noa,

0:38:33.560 --> 0:38:34.160
<v Speaker 2>no one told that.

0:38:34.280 --> 0:38:36.759
<v Speaker 3>He told everybody. But that's how God speaks, right, But

0:38:37.040 --> 0:38:39.000
<v Speaker 3>that's how he speaks Noah.

0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:39.840
<v Speaker 4>Okay.

0:38:40.000 --> 0:38:42.600
<v Speaker 3>So so what you have to understand is Noah was saying,

0:38:43.360 --> 0:38:45.480
<v Speaker 3>if you behave this way, if you're doing this, and

0:38:45.560 --> 0:38:47.200
<v Speaker 3>a lot of times, and I think that's the reason

0:38:47.239 --> 0:38:50.160
<v Speaker 3>why a lot of people blamed And it's a whole

0:38:50.200 --> 0:38:53.480
<v Speaker 3>nother conversation. People blame Solomon and Moore the destruction of

0:38:53.520 --> 0:38:56.000
<v Speaker 3>it on home seules, and it wasn't the case, they

0:38:56.040 --> 0:39:01.440
<v Speaker 3>were all forms of perversions, bestiality, people having checked with children, animals,

0:39:03.680 --> 0:39:08.200
<v Speaker 3>battylon if they talk about the exactly. But the point

0:39:08.320 --> 0:39:11.280
<v Speaker 3>is he said, I'm going to bring wrath on this land.

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:14.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to destroy this place. This is what's about

0:39:14.600 --> 0:39:19.560
<v Speaker 3>to happen. And Noah for over a hundred years, he said, everybody,

0:39:19.920 --> 0:39:22.880
<v Speaker 3>get right, I'm telling you, he's about to destroy this place.

0:39:23.440 --> 0:39:25.879
<v Speaker 3>He did not say I'm going to burn you, because

0:39:25.880 --> 0:39:26.759
<v Speaker 3>if that was the case, he.

0:39:26.760 --> 0:39:28.239
<v Speaker 4>Wouldn't have to do it. He could have just picked

0:39:28.280 --> 0:39:31.600
<v Speaker 4>off people. That's not what he did.

0:39:31.719 --> 0:39:34.359
<v Speaker 3>What he said was I'm going to destroy this place.

0:39:34.520 --> 0:39:37.600
<v Speaker 3>And it was even a time where he said, don't

0:39:37.640 --> 0:39:39.640
<v Speaker 3>even look back, don't turn back.

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:41.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:39:42.840 --> 0:39:44.520
<v Speaker 4>So what I'm saying is and even and I know

0:39:44.560 --> 0:39:46.560
<v Speaker 4>a lot of people even look listen to that, who

0:39:46.640 --> 0:39:49.120
<v Speaker 4>aren't you know, from where from that space and he

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:50.040
<v Speaker 4>think is ridiculous.

0:39:50.120 --> 0:39:52.759
<v Speaker 3>Even if you don't believe the stories are true, look

0:39:52.800 --> 0:39:55.279
<v Speaker 3>at the examples of the times that we live in now.

0:39:55.400 --> 0:39:57.040
<v Speaker 3>So even if you think that that sounds cool, fory,

0:39:57.120 --> 0:39:59.160
<v Speaker 3>that sounds crazy, you have the right And I'm not

0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:01.279
<v Speaker 3>going to argue that with you. What I will say is,

0:40:01.520 --> 0:40:03.279
<v Speaker 3>if you look at the details of it, and you

0:40:03.360 --> 0:40:06.560
<v Speaker 3>say that God never ever said I'm going to burn

0:40:06.760 --> 0:40:07.520
<v Speaker 3>this one.

0:40:07.760 --> 0:40:08.759
<v Speaker 4>Man, I'm going to do this.

0:40:09.040 --> 0:40:13.200
<v Speaker 3>He said, get right, because I'm going to destroy this place,

0:40:13.920 --> 0:40:16.120
<v Speaker 3>and if you're in it, that's what's going to happen.

0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:21.800
<v Speaker 2>But I feel like I'm one with nature, right, So

0:40:21.920 --> 0:40:24.040
<v Speaker 2>if somebody said I'm about to destroy this place, I

0:40:24.080 --> 0:40:25.839
<v Speaker 2>feel like I'm a part of this place. Especially if

0:40:25.880 --> 0:40:28.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm outside somewhere in a park, like I feel like

0:40:28.120 --> 0:40:30.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm a part of that place. If I'm swimming in ocean,

0:40:30.560 --> 0:40:31.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm a part of that place.

0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:33.920
<v Speaker 3>That's a perspective. But I also realize that wherever I

0:40:33.960 --> 0:40:37.000
<v Speaker 3>am there is a place. So if this place does

0:40:37.080 --> 0:40:40.520
<v Speaker 3>not exist, it's sentimental. If this place may have been

0:40:40.600 --> 0:40:45.400
<v Speaker 3>to me, I will be another space. There will be

0:40:45.480 --> 0:40:47.680
<v Speaker 3>another place if you if you know, if you understand

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:49.760
<v Speaker 3>who you are, and that as long as you exist

0:40:49.920 --> 0:40:53.120
<v Speaker 3>in any place, that that is the place. And sometimes

0:40:53.280 --> 0:40:56.440
<v Speaker 3>places and times in particular, places have to end. So

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:59.840
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't be more attached to the forest or the

0:41:00.120 --> 0:41:01.839
<v Speaker 3>river or the ocean that I am.

0:41:01.840 --> 0:41:03.040
<v Speaker 4>To my own.

0:41:03.120 --> 0:41:04.800
<v Speaker 2>Personally, I'm Pocahontas, though.

0:41:06.480 --> 0:41:07.000
<v Speaker 4>That's fair.

0:41:09.200 --> 0:41:14.880
<v Speaker 2>Low homemade stupid.

0:41:17.000 --> 0:41:18.239
<v Speaker 4>Do you want to get into our game?

0:41:18.320 --> 0:41:20.080
<v Speaker 2>Before we get into the game, let's go to commercial

0:41:20.120 --> 0:41:26.200
<v Speaker 2>right quick? All right, Rico, we want to get into

0:41:26.320 --> 0:41:29.520
<v Speaker 2>a game we call trading places. Right. I know you

0:41:29.640 --> 0:41:33.120
<v Speaker 2>see a thousand podcasts online it's always the man versus

0:41:33.200 --> 0:41:35.640
<v Speaker 2>woman battle. So we want to ask you a series

0:41:35.680 --> 0:41:41.799
<v Speaker 2>of questions. But it's you waking up tomorrow and being

0:41:41.880 --> 0:41:51.800
<v Speaker 2>a woman for a week. Love. So first, are you

0:41:51.960 --> 0:41:54.640
<v Speaker 2>paying for the first date as a woman?

0:41:54.880 --> 0:41:54.920
<v Speaker 5>No?

0:41:56.840 --> 0:42:00.239
<v Speaker 4>Okay, no, not at all, not at all. Okay, it's

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:02.600
<v Speaker 4>a good answer. See, I believe in gender rows.

0:42:03.560 --> 0:42:07.359
<v Speaker 2>Yes, come on, man, what are we doing? Game over?

0:42:11.080 --> 0:42:12.399
<v Speaker 2>Nothing needs else to be said?

0:42:12.440 --> 0:42:12.719
<v Speaker 4>All right?

0:42:12.840 --> 0:42:16.080
<v Speaker 1>Would you go fifty to fifty on rent or mortgage

0:42:16.120 --> 0:42:17.480
<v Speaker 1>with your significant other?

0:42:18.680 --> 0:42:22.160
<v Speaker 3>So I think that it's a man's responsibility and every

0:42:22.520 --> 0:42:24.919
<v Speaker 3>I've only been in one major relationship where I've lived

0:42:24.960 --> 0:42:27.560
<v Speaker 3>with a woman, but I've never ever had a woman

0:42:27.600 --> 0:42:28.680
<v Speaker 3>contributed in any way.

0:42:28.560 --> 0:42:30.200
<v Speaker 4>To any bills in that home.

0:42:31.280 --> 0:42:32.279
<v Speaker 2>We ain't gonna be mad.

0:42:32.600 --> 0:42:36.520
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but I also don't believe that that's necessary. That's

0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:37.520
<v Speaker 4>just my way of doing it.

0:42:37.680 --> 0:42:40.000
<v Speaker 3>So when I look at anybody who does anything different,

0:42:40.080 --> 0:42:41.960
<v Speaker 3>I always give that leave that up to them. And

0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:44.240
<v Speaker 3>the decisions that they make. If the woman is okay,

0:42:44.680 --> 0:42:47.360
<v Speaker 3>we've gone half with her man, then that's not my business,

0:42:47.640 --> 0:42:50.400
<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean? Recently, And I think that

0:42:50.520 --> 0:42:53.040
<v Speaker 3>the fact that people were in such an uproar about it,

0:42:53.400 --> 0:42:55.920
<v Speaker 3>most women who were upset about it were mostly the

0:42:56.000 --> 0:42:59.120
<v Speaker 3>ones who can't afford to go half on any rent anyway, right,

0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:01.680
<v Speaker 3>So I think that to be upset about somebody else's

0:43:01.680 --> 0:43:04.880
<v Speaker 3>situation that they are happy with it is fucking ridiculous.

0:43:05.400 --> 0:43:09.120
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I've never lived that way. But I also

0:43:09.239 --> 0:43:11.560
<v Speaker 3>know that sometimes you might be in a situation in

0:43:11.640 --> 0:43:12.040
<v Speaker 3>the bond.

0:43:12.080 --> 0:43:15.600
<v Speaker 4>I'm in the bond. They think, sometimes you might be in.

0:43:15.680 --> 0:43:19.520
<v Speaker 3>A situation where things are going good and they abruptly

0:43:19.600 --> 0:43:21.920
<v Speaker 3>go bad. It would be amazing to have somebody there

0:43:21.960 --> 0:43:24.279
<v Speaker 3>who can say, don't worry, you've been holding it down

0:43:24.280 --> 0:43:25.759
<v Speaker 3>for all this time until you.

0:43:25.800 --> 0:43:28.000
<v Speaker 4>Get back right at least landscaping.

0:43:28.080 --> 0:43:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Right.

0:43:28.320 --> 0:43:34.600
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's true, I get it.

0:43:35.760 --> 0:43:39.840
<v Speaker 3>But I just think that it's incredible to have somebody

0:43:40.239 --> 0:43:42.719
<v Speaker 3>who could be there to pick up some slack if

0:43:42.840 --> 0:43:45.160
<v Speaker 3>need be. And I think that, I think in my

0:43:45.280 --> 0:43:49.440
<v Speaker 3>heart that a woman who is in love with a

0:43:49.520 --> 0:43:51.719
<v Speaker 3>man and really cares about him, if things go bad.

0:43:51.760 --> 0:43:53.759
<v Speaker 3>I think she can't wait to help, she can't wait

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:56.279
<v Speaker 3>to jump in grateful, you know what I mean. And

0:43:56.360 --> 0:43:58.320
<v Speaker 3>sometimes a woman might not be in a position to

0:43:58.400 --> 0:44:00.120
<v Speaker 3>do so. So that's no shade to women who may

0:44:00.160 --> 0:44:03.319
<v Speaker 3>not be in a position to do that. My mentor

0:44:04.400 --> 0:44:07.640
<v Speaker 3>my mentor my daughter who's eight years old, I want

0:44:07.680 --> 0:44:09.919
<v Speaker 3>a groom and build her up to be a woman

0:44:10.000 --> 0:44:13.680
<v Speaker 3>who's self sufficient and who has everything, can handle herself

0:44:13.719 --> 0:44:15.040
<v Speaker 3>and take care of solf. But I also know that

0:44:15.160 --> 0:44:17.560
<v Speaker 3>she's in a relationship with a man, he's gonna have

0:44:17.719 --> 0:44:19.839
<v Speaker 3>to take care of her because she's used to her

0:44:19.920 --> 0:44:22.000
<v Speaker 3>father taking care of her. So in order for me

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:24.560
<v Speaker 3>to give her away in a sense, then I'm giving

0:44:24.560 --> 0:44:26.239
<v Speaker 3>her away to somebody who's gonna take on the role

0:44:26.840 --> 0:44:29.879
<v Speaker 3>that I have in her life. But I don't feel

0:44:29.920 --> 0:44:33.000
<v Speaker 3>like it'll be a chore for him because his relationshipship.

0:44:33.360 --> 0:44:35.719
<v Speaker 3>When I'm in a relationship, it's not a chore for

0:44:35.840 --> 0:44:37.680
<v Speaker 3>me to do for the woman I'm in a relationship with.

0:44:38.080 --> 0:44:40.920
<v Speaker 4>So even in the job of a man.

0:44:40.840 --> 0:44:43.000
<v Speaker 3>I think my opinion is to make sure he takes

0:44:43.040 --> 0:44:44.960
<v Speaker 3>care of the home in that particular way, and the

0:44:45.040 --> 0:44:46.480
<v Speaker 3>job of a woman is to make sure she takes

0:44:46.520 --> 0:44:47.880
<v Speaker 3>care of home in the way that she takes care

0:44:47.880 --> 0:44:49.799
<v Speaker 3>of so I just think that I.

0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:50.719
<v Speaker 4>Believe in those role.

0:44:51.080 --> 0:44:53.680
<v Speaker 2>I saw a video the other day. It is very quick.

0:44:54.200 --> 0:44:57.080
<v Speaker 2>It was an Asian guy Asian family getting married, and

0:44:57.120 --> 0:44:59.520
<v Speaker 2>the woman was he was handing his daughter off, and

0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:02.440
<v Speaker 2>he told the groom, if at any time you fall

0:45:02.480 --> 0:45:04.400
<v Speaker 2>out of love with my daughter, please just bring her

0:45:04.440 --> 0:45:09.160
<v Speaker 2>back to me. That's some art of warship because basically,

0:45:09.280 --> 0:45:10.960
<v Speaker 2>to me, what he was saying is I'm gonna kill you.

0:45:12.000 --> 0:45:14.200
<v Speaker 4>I think I interpret that differently.

0:45:14.760 --> 0:45:16.560
<v Speaker 3>I would say the same thing, because what it's saying

0:45:16.680 --> 0:45:18.680
<v Speaker 3>is if you don't want to be here, then don't

0:45:18.719 --> 0:45:20.040
<v Speaker 3>make my daughter suffer through you.

0:45:20.160 --> 0:45:21.319
<v Speaker 2>Not bring her back.

0:45:21.360 --> 0:45:23.759
<v Speaker 4>How about you bring her back to me and I'll

0:45:24.080 --> 0:45:25.839
<v Speaker 4>be there for her with that unconditional love.

0:45:26.560 --> 0:45:29.080
<v Speaker 3>I would prefer that you move on with your life

0:45:29.800 --> 0:45:32.920
<v Speaker 3>and let me be the person, be the figure for

0:45:33.040 --> 0:45:35.920
<v Speaker 3>her that I've always been. I've relinquished that duty and

0:45:36.000 --> 0:45:38.000
<v Speaker 3>that title to you to have give it back to me,

0:45:38.000 --> 0:45:39.880
<v Speaker 3>because I always take it back. I don't think it

0:45:40.000 --> 0:45:42.400
<v Speaker 3>was anything malicious about that statement. It was like, we

0:45:42.520 --> 0:45:44.920
<v Speaker 3>go through things and sometimes a man or woman can

0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:46.480
<v Speaker 3>wake up one day and realize I don't want to

0:45:46.520 --> 0:45:47.160
<v Speaker 3>be here anymore.

0:45:47.440 --> 0:45:50.200
<v Speaker 4>So he's saying, don't treat it like shit, don't talk

0:45:50.320 --> 0:45:50.840
<v Speaker 4>down to it.

0:45:52.719 --> 0:45:55.319
<v Speaker 2>So they were never in love by your definition, we're

0:45:55.360 --> 0:45:56.160
<v Speaker 2>never getting married.

0:45:56.719 --> 0:45:57.120
<v Speaker 4>I don't know what.

0:45:57.160 --> 0:45:58.960
<v Speaker 2>I can't speak getting married.

0:46:00.280 --> 0:46:02.640
<v Speaker 4>Are you getting on one knee as a woman and

0:46:02.760 --> 0:46:04.360
<v Speaker 4>asking for a man's hand in marriage?

0:46:04.480 --> 0:46:09.000
<v Speaker 2>No, you're so in love though, you know, and he

0:46:09.120 --> 0:46:15.560
<v Speaker 2>hasn't asked for fifteen years. Middle part or side part

0:46:16.560 --> 0:46:17.040
<v Speaker 2>as a woman?

0:46:17.160 --> 0:46:18.959
<v Speaker 4>All right, it's down the middle.

0:46:19.040 --> 0:46:19.520
<v Speaker 6>That's my thing.

0:46:20.239 --> 0:46:21.400
<v Speaker 2>Bust out after y'all know.

0:46:22.719 --> 0:46:23.400
<v Speaker 4>I like bangs.

0:46:24.840 --> 0:46:27.839
<v Speaker 2>Bangs are back and style. I like bangs. Yeah, I'll

0:46:27.880 --> 0:46:31.520
<v Speaker 2>be missing my forehead though sometimes you miss your when

0:46:31.560 --> 0:46:33.000
<v Speaker 2>I get a bang? Yeah? Yeah?

0:46:35.239 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 1>Are you smashing on the first date?

0:46:38.400 --> 0:46:39.719
<v Speaker 2>You only got a week as a woman now.

0:46:39.800 --> 0:46:40.520
<v Speaker 4>I don't judge.

0:46:41.600 --> 0:46:44.800
<v Speaker 3>I judge everything about the chemistry, right, So if you

0:46:44.880 --> 0:46:47.000
<v Speaker 3>if it's in the moment and it feels good, then

0:46:47.080 --> 0:46:49.279
<v Speaker 3>go for it. I wouldn't judge a person off of

0:46:49.360 --> 0:46:51.800
<v Speaker 3>that because I know guys who hung out with a

0:46:51.840 --> 0:46:53.440
<v Speaker 3>girl and they be like, man, I've been dealing with

0:46:53.520 --> 0:46:55.719
<v Speaker 3>Shorty for months. I never and we haven't been able

0:46:55.760 --> 0:46:58.120
<v Speaker 3>to do nothing then I know guys meet her hang

0:46:58.160 --> 0:47:01.160
<v Speaker 3>out and they do it the first day because the

0:47:01.280 --> 0:47:04.440
<v Speaker 3>connection is different. I don't judge a person by that though, right,

0:47:04.760 --> 0:47:06.879
<v Speaker 3>I judge a person off of even when we're talking

0:47:06.880 --> 0:47:09.239
<v Speaker 3>about bills and all that stuff. I believe in gender roles,

0:47:09.239 --> 0:47:11.879
<v Speaker 3>but also believe in giving it time and having a true,

0:47:11.920 --> 0:47:14.960
<v Speaker 3>genuine connection. I believe that if a person is expecting

0:47:15.040 --> 0:47:16.960
<v Speaker 3>me to do something for them without me knowing them,

0:47:17.040 --> 0:47:19.319
<v Speaker 3>if it's a prerequisite to us going on the date,

0:47:19.440 --> 0:47:21.640
<v Speaker 3>is that I cash out her money for her babysitter.

0:47:21.960 --> 0:47:24.719
<v Speaker 2>That's wild. That's a wild one because you don't have kids, Like,

0:47:24.760 --> 0:47:26.160
<v Speaker 2>why these guys gotta pay for your baby?

0:47:27.960 --> 0:47:34.960
<v Speaker 4>Like it? Yes, but it's certain scenarios I've had. I've

0:47:35.000 --> 0:47:35.560
<v Speaker 4>had a person.

0:47:36.000 --> 0:47:37.640
<v Speaker 3>I invited a person out to hang out with me

0:47:38.000 --> 0:47:40.080
<v Speaker 3>and they asked me to send them money for outfits.

0:47:40.800 --> 0:47:43.720
<v Speaker 3>It's like, I'm responsible for your first impression. Like, imagine

0:47:43.719 --> 0:47:47.160
<v Speaker 3>if you've told somebody you're responsible, that's my first The

0:47:47.200 --> 0:47:49.200
<v Speaker 3>first impression I'm going to have is how you look,

0:47:49.280 --> 0:47:51.680
<v Speaker 3>how you dress, how you whatever, everything is exactly. You're

0:47:51.719 --> 0:47:54.680
<v Speaker 3>telling me that I'm not only responsible for getting you there,

0:47:54.719 --> 0:47:58.080
<v Speaker 3>feeding you, clothing, you want me to clothe you and

0:47:58.200 --> 0:48:01.080
<v Speaker 3>style you for to make the first impression. So I

0:48:01.120 --> 0:48:03.160
<v Speaker 3>think that a lot of times they are requirements that

0:48:03.239 --> 0:48:08.600
<v Speaker 3>were based upon the relationship. If the relationship is to

0:48:08.680 --> 0:48:11.359
<v Speaker 3>the point where a man is all right, if there's

0:48:11.400 --> 0:48:12.440
<v Speaker 3>a level of convenience.

0:48:13.000 --> 0:48:15.000
<v Speaker 4>Money is only for convenience, in my opinion.

0:48:15.400 --> 0:48:17.160
<v Speaker 3>And if I say to a person I want to

0:48:17.200 --> 0:48:18.800
<v Speaker 3>see you and they say, well, I can't see you

0:48:18.880 --> 0:48:21.120
<v Speaker 3>because this is in my way. If a man has

0:48:21.239 --> 0:48:23.440
<v Speaker 3>means and he wants to see her bad enough, then

0:48:23.560 --> 0:48:27.000
<v Speaker 3>he should if he would like to get rid of

0:48:27.080 --> 0:48:31.080
<v Speaker 3>that hurdle, right, and if that means that means a

0:48:31.120 --> 0:48:32.680
<v Speaker 3>monetary thing, I'm gonna get rid of that because I

0:48:32.719 --> 0:48:33.520
<v Speaker 3>want to see you this much.

0:48:33.719 --> 0:48:35.320
<v Speaker 4>Now. If a person says, hey, I really want to

0:48:35.320 --> 0:48:35.600
<v Speaker 4>see you.

0:48:35.680 --> 0:48:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm married, get rid of her husband.

0:48:38.040 --> 0:48:41.919
<v Speaker 2>No Columbia next time.

0:48:43.200 --> 0:48:45.279
<v Speaker 3>If a person is like, hey, let's hang out. Yeah, sure,

0:48:45.320 --> 0:48:48.280
<v Speaker 3>let's hang out. Oh well I would I can't because

0:48:48.320 --> 0:48:50.920
<v Speaker 3>I gotta pay this bill. And it's like, well, we

0:48:50.960 --> 0:48:52.759
<v Speaker 3>don't need to hang out, Like why, you know what

0:48:52.760 --> 0:48:54.640
<v Speaker 3>I mean, it's not that serious. But if it's like

0:48:54.680 --> 0:48:56.360
<v Speaker 3>I really want to see this person, every time I

0:48:56.400 --> 0:48:57.879
<v Speaker 3>try to see a ship. This thing is in a way,

0:48:57.920 --> 0:48:59.400
<v Speaker 3>this thing is away, this thing is away.

0:48:59.680 --> 0:49:02.600
<v Speaker 4>Let me try to get rid of so I can

0:49:03.000 --> 0:49:06.359
<v Speaker 4>get close to her, you know what I mean. Yeah,

0:49:06.520 --> 0:49:06.919
<v Speaker 4>that's fair.

0:49:07.120 --> 0:49:07.799
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's fair.

0:49:07.960 --> 0:49:08.399
<v Speaker 1>That's fair.

0:49:08.920 --> 0:49:13.000
<v Speaker 2>You woke up pregnant this morning, okay from one night standing?

0:49:13.000 --> 0:49:13.480
<v Speaker 2>What you're doing?

0:49:14.560 --> 0:49:21.960
<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, I know. I love the babies. Depends

0:49:22.000 --> 0:49:29.279
<v Speaker 4>on what it depends on my financial situation as a woman.

0:49:29.520 --> 0:49:31.640
<v Speaker 4>I think everything should be based on what you could

0:49:31.760 --> 0:49:33.800
<v Speaker 4>actually do for your child. That's it.

0:49:34.320 --> 0:49:36.960
<v Speaker 3>So if I personally as a woman, would be able

0:49:37.040 --> 0:49:39.560
<v Speaker 3>to take care of my child on my own, then

0:49:39.600 --> 0:49:41.719
<v Speaker 3>I will keep the child. If I if I'm saying

0:49:41.719 --> 0:49:43.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to depend on this person who is a

0:49:43.320 --> 0:49:46.120
<v Speaker 3>stranger to me what I don't know, then that's added

0:49:46.200 --> 0:49:48.800
<v Speaker 3>extra pressure to me into my life, fighting with this

0:49:48.920 --> 0:49:50.680
<v Speaker 3>person to take care of a child that they potentially

0:49:50.800 --> 0:49:52.800
<v Speaker 3>might not want to or might not have the bravery,

0:49:52.880 --> 0:49:54.719
<v Speaker 3>or might be a coward or might you know.

0:49:55.200 --> 0:49:57.320
<v Speaker 4>Everybody doesn't take that responsibility.

0:49:57.600 --> 0:49:59.520
<v Speaker 3>So what I would do is if I had the

0:49:59.600 --> 0:50:01.640
<v Speaker 3>financial means to take care of the baby independent of

0:50:01.719 --> 0:50:03.640
<v Speaker 3>anybody else, then I'm keeping a baby.

0:50:04.120 --> 0:50:06.480
<v Speaker 4>If not, then I probably wouldn't.

0:50:07.960 --> 0:50:10.719
<v Speaker 2>Y'all heard, hum Rica, No hold on, I got one

0:50:10.719 --> 0:50:12.520
<v Speaker 2>more question because this is like, I feel like this

0:50:12.640 --> 0:50:16.200
<v Speaker 2>is a scapegoat type thing men do. So at any

0:50:16.239 --> 0:50:19.200
<v Speaker 2>given moment, you're asked what you want to eat? Do

0:50:19.280 --> 0:50:22.239
<v Speaker 2>you know what you want to eat? What you're eating, y'all?

0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:25.880
<v Speaker 2>Do I want to eat what you're eating right now?

0:50:25.960 --> 0:50:27.040
<v Speaker 2>You're hungry? What you want to eat?

0:50:27.160 --> 0:50:30.720
<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I want to eat some steak and shrimp.

0:50:31.920 --> 0:50:32.719
<v Speaker 2>Where you want to go at?

0:50:33.040 --> 0:50:33.200
<v Speaker 1>You know?

0:50:33.280 --> 0:50:36.160
<v Speaker 2>Because that's the thing men always say, women on them. Yeah,

0:50:36.280 --> 0:50:38.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel like y'all put it off on us because

0:50:38.160 --> 0:50:39.560
<v Speaker 2>y'all don't never know what y'all want to eat.

0:50:39.880 --> 0:50:42.680
<v Speaker 3>What's crazy about men, know, is men think about where

0:50:42.680 --> 0:50:44.560
<v Speaker 3>they're going to eat two days in advance.

0:50:45.239 --> 0:50:46.879
<v Speaker 2>That is not true because they get to the menu

0:50:46.960 --> 0:50:48.440
<v Speaker 2>and be mad because there's nothing they like that.

0:50:48.640 --> 0:50:51.040
<v Speaker 3>Flying back to Miami tonight, I'm not gonna eat this

0:50:51.160 --> 0:50:52.759
<v Speaker 3>late tonight. But let's say I was flying back in

0:50:52.800 --> 0:50:54.480
<v Speaker 3>the afternoon, I already have in my mind what I

0:50:54.520 --> 0:50:55.480
<v Speaker 3>want to eat when I get home.

0:50:55.920 --> 0:50:57.080
<v Speaker 4>I'm already thinking about it.

0:50:57.680 --> 0:50:59.719
<v Speaker 3>Yesterday I was I was thinking about, Yeah, I want

0:50:59.760 --> 0:51:02.040
<v Speaker 3>to go when I'm here, I always go to the watermen.

0:51:02.480 --> 0:51:05.000
<v Speaker 3>So I'm always thinking, when I get to Charlotte, I'm

0:51:05.040 --> 0:51:07.279
<v Speaker 3>going to the watermen, Like that's I'm going to stake

0:51:07.320 --> 0:51:08.959
<v Speaker 3>forty eight. That's just what I know what I'm gonna

0:51:08.960 --> 0:51:11.400
<v Speaker 3>do with my mind. I'm already mentally preparing myself. But

0:51:11.480 --> 0:51:13.279
<v Speaker 3>when I get to Charlotte, I'm going here. When I

0:51:13.360 --> 0:51:15.160
<v Speaker 3>go to Vegas, when I go to La there places

0:51:15.200 --> 0:51:17.399
<v Speaker 3>that I love to go to, And I'm saying, when

0:51:17.400 --> 0:51:19.080
<v Speaker 3>I get there, I can't wait because I'm gonna go there.

0:51:19.200 --> 0:51:21.680
<v Speaker 3>So men already prepare these things in their mind beforehand.

0:51:21.760 --> 0:51:24.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't think. So I'm talking about a cohabitation situation

0:51:24.880 --> 0:51:28.040
<v Speaker 2>or a date, you know what I'm saying, Like you

0:51:28.200 --> 0:51:30.160
<v Speaker 2>hitting me up asking me what I want to eat,

0:51:30.400 --> 0:51:33.040
<v Speaker 2>and you're mad because I don't know right now, But

0:51:33.200 --> 0:51:35.120
<v Speaker 2>what do you want to eat? I don't know. When

0:51:35.120 --> 0:51:36.880
<v Speaker 2>you get there, you see the menu, you don't like it.

0:51:37.000 --> 0:51:39.480
<v Speaker 2>Once I pick a place that's happened to me a

0:51:39.560 --> 0:51:46.320
<v Speaker 2>thousand times, I feel like like this is what I wanted.

0:51:46.440 --> 0:51:48.600
<v Speaker 3>And especially now because I'm eating a certain way, I

0:51:48.760 --> 0:51:51.200
<v Speaker 3>know exactly what I'm going to eat forty which I'm

0:51:51.200 --> 0:51:53.399
<v Speaker 3>gonna eat, so it's easy for me but I can't

0:51:53.440 --> 0:51:54.439
<v Speaker 3>speak for nobody else.

0:51:54.640 --> 0:51:57.120
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I can tell this is.

0:51:59.320 --> 0:51:59.640
<v Speaker 6>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>I like hugs, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, so we're going to get into our final segment.

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to you about it a little bit earlier.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have your story ready for our SIMP series?

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<v Speaker 4>SIMP series? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I have some SIMP stories.

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<v Speaker 4>Real easy way to.

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<v Speaker 2>Say this, and simps are necessary, y'all. Okay, don't get

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<v Speaker 2>us wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>I was in a situation where, uh, a woman asked

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<v Speaker 3>me to help her out of a situation and really

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<v Speaker 3>look out for her.

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<v Speaker 4>And then so I did. I sent I sent her

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<v Speaker 4>some some funds to take care of a situation. And

0:52:46.280 --> 0:52:52.000
<v Speaker 4>she was in a barn and I looked out. And then.

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<v Speaker 3>The following week, I'm like, yo, let's hang out. She's like, yeah,

0:52:55.520 --> 0:52:57.759
<v Speaker 3>I'll be there. And then she told me, yeah, I'm

0:52:57.760 --> 0:53:00.600
<v Speaker 3>coming in. And she called me a little while before

0:53:00.680 --> 0:53:03.680
<v Speaker 3>and said I gotta leave town. I gotta leave town.

0:53:03.760 --> 0:53:06.120
<v Speaker 3>And you know, I'm like, oh, she gonna make it.

0:53:06.200 --> 0:53:08.560
<v Speaker 3>She renigged on it. And then I decided to go

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<v Speaker 3>a different place instead of going to where I said

0:53:11.520 --> 0:53:14.960
<v Speaker 3>I was gonna go. She was there with some with

0:53:15.120 --> 0:53:17.279
<v Speaker 3>some very cool rappers that I actually like.

0:53:18.480 --> 0:53:18.640
<v Speaker 4>Yo.

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<v Speaker 3>And it was awkward because they recognized me and they're

0:53:21.840 --> 0:53:28.000
<v Speaker 3>like yo, and I'm like, hi, guys, I bought her outfit.

0:53:29.760 --> 0:53:37.480
<v Speaker 4>Nice linking can I said with you, guys, I contributed

0:53:37.920 --> 0:53:42.799
<v Speaker 4>in some way to this outing some same ship ship.

0:53:44.480 --> 0:53:45.480
<v Speaker 2>So what does she say for?

0:53:45.880 --> 0:53:48.239
<v Speaker 4>Nothing? Not a word? Act like she didn't see me.

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<v Speaker 2>What how much money was it? Can you share?

0:53:51.239 --> 0:53:52.279
<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna share, man.

0:53:52.320 --> 0:53:53.320
<v Speaker 2>How much money was it?

0:53:53.480 --> 0:53:53.520
<v Speaker 5>Was?

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<v Speaker 2>It like over ten grand?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 4>Fuck?

0:53:55.560 --> 0:53:59.520
<v Speaker 2>No, okay, afford it? I'm bitch, Why you disappear?

0:54:00.920 --> 0:54:01.120
<v Speaker 5>It was?

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<v Speaker 4>It was It was a little bit of b It wasn't.

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't those pennies.

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<v Speaker 1>Though, Yeah, like you never spoke to her ever again

0:54:07.400 --> 0:54:07.959
<v Speaker 1>in my life.

0:54:08.760 --> 0:54:13.840
<v Speaker 2>Damn bird brings no no, no, no, the girl the

0:54:13.920 --> 0:54:14.960
<v Speaker 2>bird you know, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And it was crazy because you know, you think

0:54:17.400 --> 0:54:19.759
<v Speaker 3>about it, and these guys were, you know, on the

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<v Speaker 3>top of the world at the time, and I was,

0:54:25.600 --> 0:54:27.759
<v Speaker 3>you know, I was in a I was in a breakup, right,

0:54:27.880 --> 0:54:31.920
<v Speaker 3>So I wasn't totally I was single at the time,

0:54:32.000 --> 0:54:36.200
<v Speaker 3>but like in a breakup single, Yeah, a few months

0:54:36.320 --> 0:54:38.520
<v Speaker 3>you just kind of like you're single, You're moving around.

0:54:38.719 --> 0:54:40.480
<v Speaker 3>So I'm just like, oh, ship, I'm gonna go hang

0:54:40.520 --> 0:54:43.239
<v Speaker 3>out with Shorty. I'm gonna do this and then and

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of times people get back in relationships because

0:54:45.440 --> 0:54:46.759
<v Speaker 3>of moments like that, Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Should have sent you home, like, ain't nothing out here, man,

0:54:49.440 --> 0:54:50.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna make it my bench.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm gonna tell you it was the Migos.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh hell no, she played.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, but I say this, I'm saying it was the

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<v Speaker 4>beginning of their career, believe it or not.

0:55:05.200 --> 0:55:09.040
<v Speaker 3>When Migos first came out, they was on fire with

0:55:09.520 --> 0:55:11.880
<v Speaker 3>Basachi and then I did a song called they Don't Know,

0:55:12.080 --> 0:55:13.479
<v Speaker 3>and Migos wrapped on them.

0:55:13.600 --> 0:55:14.600
<v Speaker 4>They remixed they Don't Know.

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<v Speaker 3>So they was already like I'm not gonna say fans

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:20.080
<v Speaker 3>of me, but I just think they respected my work

0:55:20.120 --> 0:55:22.200
<v Speaker 3>and like so they had their remix and then they

0:55:22.239 --> 0:55:26.360
<v Speaker 3>started really buzzing. So you know, I was in that

0:55:26.480 --> 0:55:29.160
<v Speaker 3>playboy mode ifew you know, you singing for a little while.

0:55:29.040 --> 0:55:30.640
<v Speaker 4>You're like, I'm about to be outside real quick.

0:55:30.840 --> 0:55:32.759
<v Speaker 3>So I meet the Shorty and she like yeah, and

0:55:32.840 --> 0:55:34.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm like I really need some help with this, and

0:55:34.960 --> 0:55:36.720
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, okay, cool, I send it a little bread

0:55:37.160 --> 0:55:39.399
<v Speaker 3>and then she's like, we're supposed to link up that night,

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<v Speaker 3>and she curved me. So I'm thinking she probably thinking

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<v Speaker 3>he's not gonna come over and he's not going to this,

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<v Speaker 3>because I probably.

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<v Speaker 4>Usually wouldn't have. I was like, let me just pull

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<v Speaker 4>up to this and I see them.

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<v Speaker 1>That was God because she would have still been taking

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<v Speaker 1>money for you right now.

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<v Speaker 4>She wouldn't have still been taking money. I'm not gonna get.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably wasn't she Probably only I'm talking to you because

0:56:00.800 --> 0:56:03.439
<v Speaker 2>you saw her with the finesse. That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 4>She would have still been coming out. I consider it

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<v Speaker 4>to be my decision because I would have never spoke

0:56:07.640 --> 0:56:09.480
<v Speaker 4>to her again. You know what I'm saying.

0:56:09.520 --> 0:56:10.280
<v Speaker 2>Had you not seen.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, then she could have still been to be finessed right, Yes,

0:56:19.400 --> 0:56:22.720
<v Speaker 5>bi weekly like she didn't like she ain't.

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<v Speaker 4>Give a fuck. She didn't send me a text on

0:56:24.320 --> 0:56:27.680
<v Speaker 4>SOT nothing. What's good.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't play with people like that. What happened? What happened?

0:56:32.120 --> 0:56:34.960
<v Speaker 2>That's crazy, that's awful. Maybe she listens to the show.

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<v Speaker 4>If you do, you really reco an apology?

0:56:38.520 --> 0:56:41.200
<v Speaker 2>Oh his money bag? Fun that apology? Pay me right?

0:56:43.400 --> 0:56:44.120
<v Speaker 4>What a sympo?

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<v Speaker 2>No, sim's unnecessary. Dumb bitches are also necessary. Man, they

0:56:49.200 --> 0:56:51.320
<v Speaker 2>are because it's not like it's a bad thing. I

0:56:51.400 --> 0:56:53.839
<v Speaker 2>think men call other men sims. Women really don't use

0:56:53.840 --> 0:56:55.919
<v Speaker 2>the term like that, Like we will call a woman

0:56:55.960 --> 0:56:57.279
<v Speaker 2>a dumb bitch, right, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Think y'all kind of see niggas a simps sometimes, but we.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't see what I'm saying, Like we see a lick.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely some of them have on their forehead.

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<v Speaker 4>I was, Oh my god, got licked next to them

0:57:09.200 --> 0:57:09.800
<v Speaker 4>in your phone.

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<v Speaker 2>I've never.

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<v Speaker 4>I think.

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<v Speaker 3>But we all are corny to somebody, you know what

0:57:16.680 --> 0:57:20.800
<v Speaker 3>I mean? It looks cool somebody somebody that you know.

0:57:21.000 --> 0:57:25.200
<v Speaker 4>Is that that what you something like? I accept that.

0:57:25.320 --> 0:57:27.240
<v Speaker 4>I try to be as cool as I possibly.

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<v Speaker 2>Can, But I know myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's necessary to get played to be well rounded, though, Right,

0:57:32.360 --> 0:57:35.000
<v Speaker 1>you gotta take a l sometimes so you can be humble.

0:57:35.240 --> 0:57:38.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you probably played somebody, So it's coming back around Jesus.

0:57:38.680 --> 0:57:41.360
<v Speaker 2>But I'm Karma. I do the coming around, all right, y'all.

0:57:43.640 --> 0:57:47.280
<v Speaker 2>I do the coming around. Yeah, this is a good episode,

0:57:47.400 --> 0:57:49.000
<v Speaker 2>a great good interview.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah all right, tell everybody was next where they can

0:57:52.440 --> 0:57:52.760
<v Speaker 1>find you?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So I really want to obviously songwriters my passion.

0:57:57.760 --> 0:58:00.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm a passionate father, So I'm in a men's group

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<v Speaker 3>for dads, you know what I mean, So the dads

0:58:03.280 --> 0:58:05.960
<v Speaker 3>can come together. It's like a network where we can

0:58:06.040 --> 0:58:09.880
<v Speaker 3>kind of communicate and we can exchange energy and advice

0:58:10.040 --> 0:58:11.920
<v Speaker 3>and how we can uplift and build each other in

0:58:12.000 --> 0:58:14.120
<v Speaker 3>our communities. And what we're gonna do is in each meeting,

0:58:14.200 --> 0:58:17.960
<v Speaker 3>we raise money for one father who may be in

0:58:18.080 --> 0:58:21.640
<v Speaker 3>need of something specific to help do something great with

0:58:21.720 --> 0:58:23.800
<v Speaker 3>his kids. So we're going to be creating that in

0:58:23.880 --> 0:58:26.560
<v Speaker 3>it's called because I'm a Dad, and that's gonna really soon.

0:58:26.600 --> 0:58:29.080
<v Speaker 3>We're gonna be rolling that out. Also, the reco Love

0:58:29.120 --> 0:58:31.520
<v Speaker 3>webinars that we we Love Music conference that I do

0:58:31.760 --> 0:58:36.600
<v Speaker 3>around the world teaching about songwriting and production. That's something

0:58:36.640 --> 0:58:40.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm super passionate about and building it my multimedia group

0:58:40.920 --> 0:58:43.960
<v Speaker 3>where I'm able to develop not just artists and writers,

0:58:44.000 --> 0:58:49.360
<v Speaker 3>but also actors and poets and you know, creatives in

0:58:49.480 --> 0:58:52.520
<v Speaker 3>all art forms, finding finding spaces for them to exist

0:58:52.840 --> 0:58:57.680
<v Speaker 3>and express themselves without the burden of the financial, uh,

0:58:58.240 --> 0:58:59.960
<v Speaker 3>you know, burdens that people have and they're trying to

0:59:00.040 --> 0:59:01.960
<v Speaker 3>making the business. So that's more My passion is making

0:59:02.000 --> 0:59:04.120
<v Speaker 3>sure that we can pour back into creatives and put

0:59:04.200 --> 0:59:08.360
<v Speaker 3>back into our community of creatives. You had a nonprofit,

0:59:09.120 --> 0:59:13.440
<v Speaker 3>so it's it's essentially a for profit business though, because

0:59:13.440 --> 0:59:16.080
<v Speaker 3>we want to be able to have avenues to where

0:59:16.280 --> 0:59:19.600
<v Speaker 3>after they receive funds and they do well, then there's

0:59:20.000 --> 0:59:21.200
<v Speaker 3>a commission that they paid back.

0:59:21.320 --> 0:59:25.120
<v Speaker 2>I guess I was referencing the thing for or the Dads.

0:59:24.920 --> 0:59:28.680
<v Speaker 3>Will be nonprofit. Yeah, sure, yes, but the multimedia company

0:59:28.720 --> 0:59:30.400
<v Speaker 3>will kind of develop acts. We want to make sure

0:59:30.400 --> 0:59:33.720
<v Speaker 3>that we can help give them resources and then the company.

0:59:33.480 --> 0:59:34.240
<v Speaker 4>Can earn off of.

0:59:35.800 --> 0:59:36.480
<v Speaker 2>That's super cool.

0:59:36.880 --> 0:59:40.160
<v Speaker 3>Doing the music for a new TV show called Black Hamptons.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the season two of the Black Hampton's on BT,

0:59:42.680 --> 0:59:45.920
<v Speaker 3>so I'm the music supervisors for them. We did I

0:59:45.960 --> 0:59:48.280
<v Speaker 3>did the first season and now I'm working on the

0:59:48.320 --> 0:59:51.400
<v Speaker 3>second season. I'm super excited about that. I'm super excited

0:59:51.400 --> 0:59:52.760
<v Speaker 3>about Usher's new album.

0:59:53.560 --> 0:59:54.880
<v Speaker 2>Just really a new album coming.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's nice, excited babies babies coming. I just was

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<v Speaker 4>with him.

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<v Speaker 3>He played me to like every song, because you know,

1:00:02.560 --> 1:00:05.200
<v Speaker 3>I did the songs that I've done, but we took

1:00:05.240 --> 1:00:06.920
<v Speaker 3>a car ride and he just played me everything and

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<v Speaker 3>it was exceptional. It is an exceptional body of work.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't wait for the world to hear that. Obviously,

1:00:11.440 --> 1:00:14.000
<v Speaker 3>I just had a success with Romeo Santos and Justin

1:00:14.040 --> 1:00:17.240
<v Speaker 3>Timberlake with Sin Finn. Anybody who's familiar with Latin but

1:00:17.280 --> 1:00:18.600
<v Speaker 3>shot the music number one.

1:00:18.800 --> 1:00:19.959
<v Speaker 4>But chat the song in the world.

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<v Speaker 3>So excited about that and excited about the work we're

1:00:23.560 --> 1:00:26.520
<v Speaker 3>doing with the BMC, the Black Music Collective. I'm the

1:00:26.600 --> 1:00:31.520
<v Speaker 3>chairman of the BMC, which is a subsidiary of the Grammys.

1:00:31.800 --> 1:00:35.880
<v Speaker 3>We created something dei effort where we kind of like

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<v Speaker 3>making sure that we hold feet to the fire, make

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<v Speaker 3>sure that black people, women and people of color represented

1:00:40.640 --> 1:00:43.720
<v Speaker 3>properly inside the Recording Academy. Last year a Recording Academy

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<v Speaker 3>Honors Award show, we honored Lol Wayne, Sylvia Own, Missy Elliott,

1:00:49.040 --> 1:00:52.080
<v Speaker 3>and doctor Dre. This year, we're cooking up some exceptional

1:00:52.480 --> 1:00:54.400
<v Speaker 3>for the Grammy for Grammy Week, and we're doing some

1:00:54.520 --> 1:00:58.240
<v Speaker 3>amazing events around the country around building awareness to black

1:00:58.280 --> 1:00:59.960
<v Speaker 3>creatives on what was available for them.

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<v Speaker 2>And I missed that in your introduction, y'all. This is

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<v Speaker 2>Grammy nominated recal love also and.

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<v Speaker 3>Also also I'm helping Music Cares with this hip Hop

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<v Speaker 3>initiative we're doing for the next three years, we're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be funding and helping a lot of hip hop artists.

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<v Speaker 4>So if you are hip hop artists and.

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<v Speaker 3>You need help, you need money, and you need a

1:01:19.240 --> 1:01:21.480
<v Speaker 3>roof for your house, you need your teeth fixing, you

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<v Speaker 3>don't have the funds for that, come to music Cares

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<v Speaker 3>you submit and.

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<v Speaker 2>Fix the current the existing ones first or y'all.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah no, but yeah, the teath that you have, now,

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<v Speaker 4>let's make sure we got those more.

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<v Speaker 3>But if it's a lot of things that we're doing,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's a lot of philanthropic work, but also also

1:01:36.360 --> 1:01:39.400
<v Speaker 3>a lot of entrepreneurial work that I'm really focusing dedicating

1:01:39.440 --> 1:01:41.920
<v Speaker 3>myself on. And I created the Love Foundation where I

1:01:42.000 --> 1:01:43.920
<v Speaker 3>were doing these recordings at my house. I created it

1:01:44.000 --> 1:01:46.480
<v Speaker 3>because I keep my kids seven days on and seven

1:01:46.560 --> 1:01:48.880
<v Speaker 3>days off. So when I'm with my kids, I was

1:01:48.960 --> 1:01:50.920
<v Speaker 3>finding that I was spending a lot of time picking

1:01:50.920 --> 1:01:52.880
<v Speaker 3>my daughter up from school, picking myself up from school,

1:01:53.080 --> 1:01:55.480
<v Speaker 3>see them for a hour, go to the studio, come back,

1:01:55.560 --> 1:01:56.480
<v Speaker 3>they sleep, I wake up.

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<v Speaker 4>I take a miver.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you didn't see them.

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<v Speaker 3>So what I started doing was I started recording in

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<v Speaker 3>my home and setting up the cameras and doing these sessions,

1:02:03.280 --> 1:02:05.400
<v Speaker 3>inviting people over, and we've been making great records and

1:02:05.440 --> 1:02:06.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm able to have my kids come in and out.

1:02:07.240 --> 1:02:09.640
<v Speaker 3>So it's called the Love Foundation, and we just make

1:02:09.760 --> 1:02:13.880
<v Speaker 3>really dope records. And we've been documenting, documenting the process,

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<v Speaker 3>and we're going to make it into like this little series.

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<v Speaker 2>Well you're busy. I know, I'm not doing enough out here.

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<v Speaker 6>Apparently you got we like to lay down, got to

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<v Speaker 6>do as much as possible to make sure some stick.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, man, I gotta get better at that. When

1:02:30.720 --> 1:02:32.600
<v Speaker 2>I hear people like that was a nice little rant

1:02:32.600 --> 1:02:35.080
<v Speaker 2>about all the things like am I not doing enough?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, damn. After I leave here, I was going

1:02:37.400 --> 1:02:41.919
<v Speaker 2>to sleep. Just go ahead and plan for tomorrow, matter

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<v Speaker 2>of fact, because that's the way what would rical Love do?

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<v Speaker 2>All Right, y'all listen. This is a fantastic episode, y'all.

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