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Speaker 1: Talk talk to We're just two unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 1: an opinion to talks.

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Speaker 2: What's up y'all? Thank you for tending that for a

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Speaker 2: new episode that we talked back A show dedicated to

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Speaker 2: you dreamers and chasers and everybody else in between. This

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Speaker 2: is your co hosts a j holiday What's Up Town.

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Speaker 1: And this is dedicated to you, hosing you niggas too,

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Speaker 1: because we forgot about y'all.

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Speaker 2: I love all of y'all, this special group. Hey, ye,

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Speaker 2: what's so child? What you got going on?

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Speaker 3: Girl?

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Speaker 1: I'm just so happy that this weekend is over. I

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Speaker 1: felt overwhelmed with life, so yeah, celebrating that white Man's holiday,

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Speaker 1: I didn't celebrate.

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Speaker 4: I stayed in the house.

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Speaker 2: I was.

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Speaker 1: I was on my porch watching all the madness downstairs,

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Speaker 1: because you know, it was just madness going on. And

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Speaker 1: my friend was on the phone, one of my guy friends,

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Speaker 1: and he was like, you just look down there like

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Speaker 1: an auntie, just staring at them kids down there, like.

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Speaker 2: Like Blue Ivy in New Orleans. Remember that that video

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Speaker 2: of Blue Ivy looking down at all the peasants, the

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Speaker 2: people out there cutting up like ill. I didn't do

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Speaker 2: much this weekend either, just hung out, played the house

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Speaker 2: a little bit. That's about it. Chilled out. I ain't

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Speaker 2: even had like no barbecuing or nothing, which I don't

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Speaker 2: really eat. People should have to bring my own salmon

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Speaker 2: to people barbecues nowadays.

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Speaker 1: Baby, I ordered. I didn't even go to nobody's barbecue.

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Speaker 1: I just ordered something from a restaurant. Like, fuck it.

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Speaker 2: I saw a fucking tweet that said, this generation don't

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Speaker 2: even cook out no more. All they do is do

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Speaker 2: drugs and torqu.

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Speaker 1: Right, that's it, shake the ass and do drugs.

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Speaker 2: My family actually did had a bit have a big

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Speaker 2: ass cookout back at home, but I missed that. I

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Speaker 2: wasn't in town at my family's restaurant. Shout out to

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Speaker 2: Bertha's Kitchen in Charleston, South Carolina.

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Speaker 1: My my mom and my sister was at you know,

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Speaker 1: at home, and they lit the grill and then cut

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Speaker 1: that motherfucker off and went and bought an indoor grill

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Speaker 1: and grill in the house. It's like it's too high.

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Speaker 2: Girl, Okay, So why An article came out saying that

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Speaker 2: fourth of July twenty twenty three was the hottest day

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Speaker 2: in history for the planet, just like average heat for

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Speaker 2: the whole world yesterday. Well, excuse me, July fourth was

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Speaker 2: the hottest day for planet Earth. And I believe it

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Speaker 2: because bitch I could see the heat.

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Speaker 4: I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even go out in it. I was looking

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Speaker 1: for my patio and anytime I felt overwhelmed with the heat,

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Speaker 1: I just ran back inside. Baby, I didn't do nothing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like this type of heat, you gotta wash a

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Speaker 2: couple of times. Beink just be smelling like outside all

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Speaker 2: day long.

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Speaker 1: Just stay down here, big mama, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Today we have a special guest. When we talked back, y'all,

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Speaker 2: he is uh responsible for a lot of our favorite

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Speaker 2: songs like Sweet Dreams, Beyonce, Good Morning with Diddy. Uh,

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Speaker 2: there goes my thing. Okay, I'm auditioning. Also, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: so I might be whistling and singing a lots okay,

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Speaker 2: and twork city girls. I just found that out the hell, y'all,

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Speaker 2: we have mister Rico love or we talked back, were good, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, it's too hot, it's getting too high.

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Speaker 4: It was good in this in this on this level though.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how do you.

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Speaker 1: Feel about the setup. It's nice, right, you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: you can get on after we finished little something for it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that'll be dope.

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Speaker 4: I don't think we got no sticks.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna have to hit it with your hands.

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Speaker 1: I don't know that. So okay, Rico, let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: So our listener, we want them to get to know

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Speaker 1: you a little bit. Tell us how you started Turn

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Speaker 1: the Lights On?

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Speaker 3: How Turn the Lights On came about? Yeah, Well, a

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Speaker 3: friend of mine, Ma'am's Taylor. He was a co owner

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Speaker 3: say like, it would be like Lindsay Lohan, Kim Kardashian,

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Speaker 4: So there was a DJ and then those type of clubs.

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Speaker 3: The DJs played the same kind of set list every night,

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Speaker 3: and they played a song by Pink Floyd Caught the Wall, and.

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Speaker 4: Then in the song they say, hey, teacher, lead those

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Speaker 3: So I would say, like, every time that part would

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Speaker 3: to myself. So one day I was in a studio

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Speaker 3: and I always a climactic part of the record, every

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Speaker 3: would just say turn the lights on. And my good

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Speaker 3: friend Mams Taylor, he was like, you should say that

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Speaker 3: in all the songs you write.

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Speaker 4: That should be your thing.

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Speaker 3: So I started doing it, and at that time, top

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Speaker 3: liners and just anybody who's not educated on educator how

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Speaker 3: music work. So, a producer is a songwriter, lyric and

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Speaker 3: melody person is a songwriter. We're all called songwriters, but

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Speaker 3: they are top line, which is lyric and melody. That's

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Speaker 3: the guy who writes the lyrics and words and melody.

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Speaker 3: And there's a producer, guys who historically has been known

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Speaker 3: to produce the music. He's considered the producer, even though

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Speaker 3: the top line guy could also be the producer. Now,

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Speaker 3: when I was coming up in the business, the top

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Speaker 3: Timberland, Rodney Jerkins, Pharrell, you know those guys who made

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Speaker 3: my tags on every song that I wrote and putting

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Speaker 3: the turn of lights on records, and that's how it came.

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Speaker 4: About and it became a thing or everybody does it now.

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Speaker 3: Everybody does it now. Yeah, And a lot of people

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Speaker 3: credit it to hearing me doing it early on, and

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Speaker 3: a lot of people just feel like this is just

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Speaker 3: all that's our calling card. We're only as good as

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Speaker 3: the last thing we've done. And to make sure that

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Speaker 4: That's super important.

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Speaker 1: Wow, see how you're I thought the whole time, y'all

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Speaker 2: And that's what I think. That's when people started doing

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Speaker 2: I mean that's what I did. I was like, go ahead, nigga,

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Speaker 4: You said, do that ship. That's a that's a good

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Speaker 4: way to look at it too.

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Speaker 2: All.

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Speaker 1: Talk about your creative process, because write in these beautiful songs.

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Speaker 1: There goes my baby, Like it's so like eloquent and

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Speaker 1: thought provoking, Like how what is your creative process to

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Speaker 3: You know, I just I think, first and foremost I'm

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Speaker 3: So what I think my process is more than anything,

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Speaker 3: is understanding of chord progression. I think a piano progression

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Speaker 3: my process is usually sitting at a piano singinge at

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Speaker 3: And that's usually how I create. It's kind of like

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Speaker 3: when the song is stripped and it's just the lyric

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Speaker 3: and the guitar lyric and the piano, then you know

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Speaker 3: And when you have a rich, wholesome melody, you can

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Speaker 3: build music around anything. But you can't you can't make

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Speaker 2: So I listen to Apple. I usually stream my music

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Speaker 2: on Apple right, and anytime like I'm listening to a

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Speaker 2: Who the fuck wrote this is? I feel when I

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Speaker 3: Also taking consideration for a sample or interpolation, that person

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Speaker 3: more problems by Diddy and Mache and Biggie right, they

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Speaker 3: Not only are they sample or they credit, but the

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Speaker 3: but they deserve the credit because their contribution to the

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Speaker 3: I'm what they call one hundred percenter or a fifty percent,

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Speaker 3: So I write majority of every record I've ever written,

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Speaker 4: By myself as well.

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Speaker 3: There are no no disrespect to people who collaborate, But

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Speaker 3: my process was always kind of so fast that I

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Speaker 3: have to give a piece of the publishing to the artists,

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Speaker 3: which is fair business, and so you'll see their name.

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Speaker 3: But for the most part, I kind of like try

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Speaker 4: On some records I had.

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Speaker 2: Thrown back was a heavy sample. There a lot of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Warwick put me back like yeah, that was

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Speaker 3: my first first song I wrote, So that was that's amazing.

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Speaker 4: That was a heavy sample song.

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Speaker 3: But uh, and they took fifty percent of that record too, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so which to you know, they deserve it. That that

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Speaker 3: It made it very easy for me.

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Speaker 4: To write the song.

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Speaker 1: So, okay, a song like there Goes My Baby was

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Speaker 3: To the second verse, I said, I get the chills

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Speaker 1: Because it's a lot of niggas out here making beautiful

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Speaker 3: But it's just the directions to get there is a

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Speaker 3: Now it's like develop it at home. Do it yourself,

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Speaker 2: But booty brown whatever you know, girl don't do sexy

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Speaker 3: It's funny because I don't go out a lot. But

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Speaker 2: Was like, you saw dove all weekend this past weekend.

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Speaker 3: Hard work is gonna always get you, keep you consistent. Now,

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Speaker 3: when you don't do what you need to do, you

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Speaker 4: Now, We'll keep you.

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Speaker 3: Around as long as we can until I have to

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Speaker 4: What are we doing with this?

441
00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:51,520
Speaker 3: Because every time they do a project, every time they

442
00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:53,000
Speaker 3: go to the studio, we gotta pay for this. Every

443
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:54,439
Speaker 3: time they put out a song, we gotta pay them

444
00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:56,040
Speaker 3: this because of the deal that we differ in back

445
00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,720
Speaker 3: in the day that earns them certain amounts. It's costing

446
00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:00,280
Speaker 3: us too much. We gotta get rid of it. So

447
00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:02,919
Speaker 3: in a sense, people will say the business is shady,

448
00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,560
Speaker 3: But every business that has to do with paperwork is

449
00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:07,560
Speaker 3: going to go by what the paperwork says and they're

450
00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,639
Speaker 3: going to honor that paperwork for as long as you

451
00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:11,000
Speaker 3: are beneficial to them.

452
00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:11,479
Speaker 5: Right.

453
00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:14,399
Speaker 2: And on top of that, everything in life is negotiable,

454
00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:19,480
Speaker 2: so get a lawyer, you know, reade check.

455
00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:22,200
Speaker 3: But even with that being said, everything is if you

456
00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:26,320
Speaker 3: are productive, then you can change any contract. That's the

457
00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 3: crazy thing about the business. The lady God got first

458
00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 3: deal is not the same deal she did after album.

459
00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:33,879
Speaker 3: Our first album came out and was extremely successful, she

460
00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,280
Speaker 3: was able to say I want to do this, I'm

461
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:37,680
Speaker 3: not doing another record, and at the end of the

462
00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:40,080
Speaker 3: day she's so successful that we have to come to

463
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:41,920
Speaker 3: the table. And that's how you have to look at it.

464
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,520
Speaker 3: So if you aren't successful, you have to understand it's

465
00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 3: the reverse that they're going to say, yeah, we know

466
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:48,399
Speaker 3: we did this paperwork, but we really kind of just

467
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,159
Speaker 3: want to seven times. It's costing us too much, So

468
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 3: we have the right to get rid of the situation

469
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 3: and walk away from the situation at any moment. Just

470
00:20:56,680 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 3: like you should have the right to say, hey, I

471
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:01,240
Speaker 3: just sold thirty million albums, I would like to redo

472
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:03,200
Speaker 3: my entire deal in structure it differently, and I would

473
00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:04,320
Speaker 3: like this person not to be involved.

474
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:05,920
Speaker 4: Y'all can pay them. I would like this person not

475
00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:07,159
Speaker 4: to be involved. Y'all pay them off.

476
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:09,520
Speaker 3: I want to have so ownership and partnership between you,

477
00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 3: me and the label, and we'll and guess what, the

478
00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:13,800
Speaker 3: record company will sit down and go see you. You

479
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:15,760
Speaker 3: could have discovered that. You could have came and brought

480
00:21:15,800 --> 00:21:17,280
Speaker 3: it to the table or him the table and the

481
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 3: rec company company and say, hey, here's a check.

482
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:20,720
Speaker 4: We're sorry.

483
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 2: Stallion. I think is an example of that right because

484
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 2: she did not. She wasn't trying to leave. Say he's

485
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:29,880
Speaker 2: speaking on that ship, I'll talk about it right cause

486
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:31,639
Speaker 2: she wasn't trying to leave five and one. She just

487
00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:34,439
Speaker 2: wanted to renegotiate her contract. Like I'm pretty sure.

488
00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 3: Say this, she's I'm gonna say this, and I'm gonna

489
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:40,680
Speaker 3: say this about all things, all things in life. I

490
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,480
Speaker 3: don't care what a person has told you. I don't

491
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 3: care what you heard and how emotional how they may

492
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,640
Speaker 3: have been when they said it. We only know their

493
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 3: perspective in that point of view, and it wouldn't be

494
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:55,240
Speaker 3: fair for us to even give an idea of what

495
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,200
Speaker 3: happened based on one person's take on it.

496
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,320
Speaker 2: Now I'm talking about her contract, I'm not talking about

497
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 2: the widow shit. But we don't have her contract either,

498
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, signing with her Essentially.

499
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 4: I can't speak on it. But what I can't say

500
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 4: is I only.

501
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,160
Speaker 2: Know that she got an apology from that nigga.

502
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 4: You know, sometimes you got to apologize.

503
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 2: And what's the other rapper from Texas? She just left

504
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,400
Speaker 2: five and one as well, Erica.

505
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 3: You know what's really unfortunate though, also is that there's

506
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 3: situations where sometimes I've signed a lot of female artists

507
00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,720
Speaker 3: and I haven't been able to break a female artist.

508
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,360
Speaker 3: And the problem is that no matter what I've invested

509
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:34,240
Speaker 3: into them, Like if you look on my page, anybody

510
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 3: who followed me to know that I'll post my artists

511
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,600
Speaker 3: five hundred miles an hour, i will always promote and

512
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 3: talk about my artists. I'll put everything I have into them,

513
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 3: and when it doesn't work out, people forget all of

514
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:47,359
Speaker 3: those things that you've done. They only believe, only realize. Oh,

515
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 3: it didn't work out, it must be Rico's fault, right, right. Meanwhile,

516
00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,920
Speaker 3: they never made a dollar for me in no way.

517
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 3: All I've ever did was put into it and it

518
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,359
Speaker 3: never gave me a return on any of those situations.

519
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:05,440
Speaker 4: Right. So, regardless of whatever I've read comments from people

520
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,200
Speaker 4: that says Rico did this, and Rico did this, and

521
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 4: Rico did this.

522
00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:11,919
Speaker 3: So even when I look at a situation like, well, oh,

523
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 3: didn't another girl quit or leave his label, or didn't

524
00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 3: another girl do this, I still only know that person's perspective,

525
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:22,199
Speaker 3: because when you are the boss, when you are at

526
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 3: the top, it does not benefit you to go back

527
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 3: and forth on social media with somebody, Oh, this is

528
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 3: what really happened. It's not becoming of a boss. It's

529
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 3: not becoming of a leader. This doesn't look cool. So

530
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:38,159
Speaker 3: a lot of times we have to allow, especially in

531
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 3: this business. Sometimes for rant, sometimes the artists will go

532
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 3: crazy and lose their mind on you, and sometimes you

533
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 3: just have to allow it because as a boss, you

534
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 3: can't be what it is just too much. So that

535
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 3: person could be wrong, this person could be right, and

536
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 3: vice versa. But I think that to assume that just

537
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 3: because this person says something that has to be true,

538
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 3: then that part of it, or just because this person

539
00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 3: didn't respond to it, that you saw a fit that

540
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 3: it has to be true is not necessarily the truth.

541
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:11,880
Speaker 2: Absolutely. I get that, you know, because I am tired

542
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,360
Speaker 2: of battling people's perspective nowadays.

543
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:21,120
Speaker 4: And over time, over time, everything, especially especially.

544
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 2: Is the internet bit at this point, over.

545
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 3: Time, regardless or whatever, the truth will come out or

546
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 3: or things will play out, and people will see consistencies

547
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:36,879
Speaker 3: and the characters and they'll see it. They'll watch and

548
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 3: notice some things, and I'm saying, oh, all right, this

549
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 3: is starting to make sense.

550
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 2: You know that thing?

551
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 1: Okay, I have one question before we go to break.

552
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 1: Give us your mount rushmore of r and b artists writers,

553
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: But what however you want to throw it? Okay, Michael

554
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 1: Jackson is number one period off the wall. I'm gonna

555
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: have to go with Stevie Wonder. Yes, And then you

556
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 1: get two people.

557
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 3: It's four I'm wrong with you, Yes, And then I

558
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,159
Speaker 3: gotta go Usher just because not just because he discovered me,

559
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 3: but I just listened to his tone. I think this

560
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 3: is the most incredible distinct tones in the history of music.

561
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 3: And then you gotta go Beyonce because the only reason

562
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 3: I can't say Prince is because I can consider Prince

563
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 3: more rock R and B. So, but if we want

564
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:27,439
Speaker 3: to go straight R and B, I gotta go with Stevie, Mike, Usher,

565
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 3: B because there are people from before my era, during

566
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:33,719
Speaker 3: my era, and you know, the ones that I think

567
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 3: I patterned my love for music behind.

568
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 4: I like, but I definitely Prince.

569
00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, I love Prince, But I'm just saying,

570
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 3: if I had to choose between Prince, Michael and Stevie,

571
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:50,119
Speaker 3: I think Prince was a way more well rounded artists

572
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 3: and all genres. So if you gave me around rushmore

573
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 3: music in general, then I would have to take out

574
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 3: Usher and B. I would put Prince in that spot.

575
00:25:58,800 --> 00:25:59,919
Speaker 3: But if you give me R and B, I got

576
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 3: to go. I prefer these people because of sentimental value

577
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 3: and reasoning also as well as iconic figures that they

578
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 3: are and impact and the contributions they made to the

579
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 3: R and B art form, And it's.

580
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 2: You know, entirety absolutely, So one more question before we

581
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 2: go to break, who is on your hit list? Like

582
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 2: of people you haven't worked with yet and you want

583
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 2: to work with.

584
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 3: Wow, Rufus Wayne Wright is an incredible artist. I think

585
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 3: you guys should look him up.

586
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:27,639
Speaker 4: His Uh.

587
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 3: He had an album called want One that changed my life.

588
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 3: I used to be extremely homophobic, as most people in

589
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 3: our community were, and when I heard this record he

590
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 3: wrote called Natasha.

591
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 4: Where he was Rufus Rufus Waynwright.

592
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 3: He has a song called Natasha and I interpreted him

593
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 3: telling his girlfriend he was gay, and I just thought

594
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 3: it was genius. So Rufus Wayne Wright is one of

595
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 3: the guys I would love to work with. I definitely

596
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 3: would love to do an entire project with Kanye West,

597
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 3: like if Me and Ye could do Me Too project.

598
00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 2: Keep telling Yet, did y'all see him yesterday? Well, I

599
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 2: don't know. He has this other page. I don't know

600
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 2: what I'm gonna show you right now, speak pages.

601
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 3: Speaking of other pages and artists, let's always say Kendrick

602
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 3: Lamar and I love his new account.

603
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 4: What's they called it? The Burner?

604
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 3: Yeah and so and then finally, Uh, I know that

605
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 3: this is I would love to do an album with

606
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 3: Usher and I've done a project for I've done a

607
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 3: lot of his songs that I've britten up. It's one

608
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,479
Speaker 3: I got even new records getting ready to come out

609
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 3: of him soon. But I would want to do a

610
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 3: whole album with me and Usher, like, just let me

611
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:38,280
Speaker 3: executive produce the project.

612
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 4: That would be my dream.

613
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:41,919
Speaker 2: Why you can't make that happen? That should be.

614
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,119
Speaker 4: Easy, right, It's not easy, but I would love for

615
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:44,480
Speaker 4: it to be.

616
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 2: I should make that happen, all right, y'all. So it

617
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 2: wouldn't be right to have somebody on we talk back

618
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 2: named Recal Love and I talk about love because y'all

619
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 2: know we love talking about relationships. I'm actually tired of it.

620
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 2: But anyway, So this past week, I was having a

621
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 2: conversation with a friend of mine and we started talking

622
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 2: about unconditional love, right, and so I asked him is

623
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,800
Speaker 2: it possible for him? Does he think it's possible for

624
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,359
Speaker 2: him to love someone unconditionally? And he was like, you know,

625
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 2: I don't think, like he didn't know he was unsure, right,

626
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 2: But I'm like, no, you know, the only person that

627
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 2: I love unconditionally is me, right, because I'm always forgive myself.

628
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 2: I'm always have empathy for myself. But sometimes people do

629
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 2: things that are kind of unforgivable. You know what I'm saying.

630
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 2: You like if I walk away, is that really displaying

631
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 2: unconditional love? So how do you feel about unconditional love?

632
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 3: Yes, because love is a feeling, because love is a mind,

633
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 3: a space that you place somebody in your heart, in

634
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 3: your mind. Then unconditional love it has to exist to me.

635
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 3: And also because of my belief system, right, so, I

636
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 3: believe in God, and I believe God and God in

637
00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 3: such a strong and reverence. I have such a reverence

638
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 3: for him, right, and I understand that if love is God,

639
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 3: then it's never ending, It's always present, it's always an

640
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 3: existing thing. Now my actions behind how I allow this

641
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 3: person to fit into my schedule, until my life, until

642
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 3: my psyche, that's different. But the feeling I have for

643
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 3: someone is unconditional, So meaning I never in the history

644
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 3: of my life would go out of my way to

645
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 3: hurt anyone. I never would try my best to target

646
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 3: someone and say, let me figure out a way to

647
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 3: get this person.

648
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 2: I don't think anybody ever consciously thinks that.

649
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 3: But I can remove myself from anybody who who I

650
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 3: don't feel like have my best interests in mine or

651
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 3: if we don't feel like we're any longer compatible. But

652
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 3: the love that I have for them will make it

653
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 3: so that in any situation, I genuinely, from the bottom

654
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 3: of my heart want what's best for them. So I

655
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 3: don't think that unconditional love is unreasonable. Off it's task

656
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 3: to ask for or or a thing to ask for.

657
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 3: But I just think that to ask to somebody is

658
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 3: always present in your life and always is the go

659
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 3: to person for you when you need them, that part

660
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 3: of it isn't reasonable. But when we think about love,

661
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 3: even though love is an action, we also have to

662
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 3: remember that love sometimes means that I love you enough

663
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 3: to give you the space because if I love you right,

664
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:20,720
Speaker 3: but you are allowing me in my own mind because

665
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 3: obviously we make our own choices, but you aren't allow

666
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 3: me to be the best version of myself, then for

667
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 3: the better of our relationship, I'd rather remove myself because

668
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 3: sometimes you're removing yourself for a time can mean that

669
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 3: you'll reconcile later in a time where I was able

670
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 3: to heal.

671
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 4: From some things, you was able to heal from some things.

672
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 3: We can really participate in a relationship, friendship, whatever that

673
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:42,959
Speaker 3: is in a more mature space, but that love can

674
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 3: never not exist. So that's why when I tell people

675
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 3: people disagree with me strongly when I say that you

676
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 3: can only be in love once. So a lot of

677
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 3: people get angry when I say that. I don't know

678
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 3: why they get angry, because that's just my perspective. But

679
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: I always tell people I believe you can only be

680
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 3: in love once. I believe that we are wrong about

681
00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 3: so many things already, No, but I just think that

682
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 3: we can. We're in a space where so many things

683
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 3: can be wrong. We can say we're wrong about so

684
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 3: many things, but we refuse to acknowledge that maybe we

685
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 3: were wrong about being in love with somebody, you know

686
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 3: what I mean?

687
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:24,800
Speaker 4: And absolutely, and I think that uh good, right.

688
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 3: A lot of times spent with a person and you'll

689
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 3: believe that that was my soulmate, And that doesn't mean

690
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 3: that that's not necessarily the truth. And what it can

691
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 3: mean is that for that period it didn't work, and

692
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 3: then it can work later.

693
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 4: It can be that also.

694
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 3: But I do believe that if it's only one person

695
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 3: for me, how can I be in love with others?

696
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 3: The way love works, in my mind is ongoing thing.

697
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 3: It cannot turn off. You can't turn love off. So

698
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 3: when I think about love, I think about God and

699
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 3: I know that there are inconsistencies and everything that we do,

700
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 3: but the one thing that has to be constant is

701
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 3: our want for somebody to do well and to be

702
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 3: the best version of themselves. There was an interview with

703
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 3: Kim Kardashian said the other day, like, I want the

704
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 3: old Kanye back, right, I want the old I want

705
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 3: to I want to have that back. So what that

706
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 3: tells me is that her love for him didn't change.

707
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 4: She was in a situation.

708
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 3: From her perspective, and I don't know both sides of

709
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 3: the story, but from her perspective, what she's saying to me,

710
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 3: in my opinion was this no longer worked for me

711
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 3: when he was this way, and it was changed that happened.

712
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 3: But if he was this way, we could still have

713
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 3: worked it out. But for this, this was destroying me personally.

714
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 3: So when I look at that, I realized.

715
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 4: That their no, No, the condition is where she stayed.

716
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 2: You're still gonna have boundaries with boundaries.

717
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 4: And exactly she's her staying was the condition.

718
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:47,000
Speaker 3: Her love for this person is unconditional, because if I

719
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:50,160
Speaker 3: couldn't stay because of this, but if it was this way,

720
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 3: I could stay.

721
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 4: But the love didn't can't go anywhere.

722
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 3: And I think that that's fair, and I think that

723
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 3: sometimes we kind of like refused to really recognize, like when.

724
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 4: People are like, I've been in love six times, how

725
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 4: is that love? Don't work like that because you can

726
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 4: be out of it. It's a covenant.

727
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: So once you, I feel like being in love and

728
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 2: loving someone is totally two different things, right, because being

729
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: in love is a state of mind. So if you're

730
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 2: in a relationship and you're not doing things to continuously

731
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 2: fall in love with your person every single day, you're arguing, fussing, fighting,

732
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 2: you like your draws on the floor, like you're going

733
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 2: to be falling out of love, right, So I agree

734
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 2: with you.

735
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 4: I don't think you can fall out of love though.

736
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 4: That's the thing that's only if you.

737
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 1: I think saying there's a line between love and what

738
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 1: I'm saying.

739
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 6: Is that you can believe that you were in love

740
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 6: with this person at that time time, Which is why

741
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 6: I agree with you when you said you only can

742
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 6: be in loved one and.

743
00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 4: You can realize later that I was not in love

744
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 4: with this person. So what happens is is.

745
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 2: Usually when you get the new dig I could not

746
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 2: have possibly loved that nigga, because I love this man.

747
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 3: I just think that over time you'll realize, like, oh,

748
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 3: this has run its course, and I felt like this

749
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 3: was something, But over time I realized that I'm not

750
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 3: willing to endure any of this that's going on with

751
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 3: this person. So now sometimes you're not willing to endure

752
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 3: those things with a person because they are hooked on

753
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 3: drugs because they went to jail doesn't mean that that

754
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 3: might not be the person that you were meant to

755
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 3: be with. Sometimes you might end up with the person

756
00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 3: you weren't meant to be with and the person you

757
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,359
Speaker 3: were truly supposed to be with. Is the three relationships ago.

758
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 3: I think that's very much possible. But I also know

759
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 3: that if I say that I'm in love with someone

760
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 3: and I really mean it in the true essence of

761
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 3: what love means to me.

762
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:28,760
Speaker 4: To me, love is a covenant.

763
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,479
Speaker 3: Love is a covenant that is un You can't break

764
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 3: this covenant because I correlate love with God. So the

765
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 3: consistencies of who God is. And also I guess it's

766
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 3: up for debate because some people don't believe in God

767
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 3: in the way that I do. So that's why when

768
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 3: people get frustrated with my perspective. I'm always kind of

769
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 3: like puzzled because I'm like, this is my perspective.

770
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 2: Do you believe in the internal God or the external God?

771
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 2: Because the mine is internal?

772
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 3: See, I believe that it doesn't. God is omnipresent, so

773
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 3: his everything about who God is is internal. But we

774
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,320
Speaker 3: are God's work in the earth. So I am the

775
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 3: external working of who God is and who God is

776
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 3: in me. Right, So I do understand that that over time,

777
00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 3: things can reveal themselves to you and you realize I

778
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 3: thought that this was this, but it wasn't, and that's okay.

779
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 3: I was wrong about this thing. Doesn't mean I went

780
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 3: bad for that person. That doesn't mean I regret the experience.

781
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 3: But what I can realize is that this is what

782
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:23,840
Speaker 3: not what I thought it would be or what I

783
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 3: wished it to be and what I tried to force

784
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 3: it to be right. And I also believe that when

785
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 3: you do find that thing and everything about you, everything

786
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 3: you believe, everything you thought that you would never do,

787
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 3: it'll trigger those things and it'll make you decide to

788
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 3: do things that you know.

789
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 2: I've been doing a lot of shit lately. I don't

790
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 2: never do like, what the fuck is happening? All right?

791
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,919
Speaker 1: So based on your definition, that means that you feel

792
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: like most people have never been in love.

793
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,320
Speaker 4: I can't judge by most people. That's not my business.

794
00:35:54,200 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 3: I'm telling business. My perspective is how I believe what

795
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,879
Speaker 3: I believe love to be. I do believe that people

796
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,080
Speaker 3: use the word loosely. I believe that people use most

797
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 3: times loosely. I believe people call something amazing, that it's

798
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 3: just okay, or they're brilliant.

799
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 4: I just think that that's so.

800
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 3: I think that I do believe that when it comes

801
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 3: to being in love, people can become you know, I

802
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 3: was in a space maybe a couple of years ago,

803
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 3: two years ago, where I was like everybody I was

804
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 3: going out on a date with.

805
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 4: I was thinking, oh wow, this could be it. Oh

806
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 4: my god, because I thought that's what I wanted, you

807
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 4: know what I mean.

808
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 3: So then, unfairly, given a lot of maybe a few

809
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:36,800
Speaker 3: people too much time that I feel like, maybe I

810
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 3: realized shortly after that it wasn't warranted.

811
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 4: Right.

812
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 3: So I think that we go through these phases in

813
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 3: our lives where we think certain things. Who I am

814
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:48,839
Speaker 3: today is not who I was a year ago. Who

815
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 3: I am today is not who it was five years ago,

816
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 3: so I had to give myself space to grow and

817
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 3: understand through those things. But I think love is the

818
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 3: same way. The love is one of those things that

819
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 3: you can't outgrow. You can grow to a different space

820
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 3: than who you are. But it goes back to mood

821
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 3: and character. Your character is one thing, and your mood

822
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 3: is a different thing, and how you behave and how

823
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 3: you respond to things should not be based on your

824
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 3: mood and only be based on your character.

825
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 4: And that's how love is.

826
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 3: I respond to you based on how much I love

827
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 3: you and how mad you upset you made me. And

828
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:17,359
Speaker 3: I think that when you realize what something with love

829
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 3: truly is, then it's defining how to correct.

830
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 4: Yourself in those senses. You know what I mean.

831
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 3: And when I respond with love, I think more so

832
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 3: about what's best for all parties involved, and not just

833
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 3: how I feel in the moment.

834
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 2: What I was about to say it was God is

835
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 2: love right, But in the Bible it was a lot

836
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 2: of ship God was doing in people right, a lot

837
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,319
Speaker 2: of wraths. Do you feel the wrath of God? Right?

838
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:44,759
Speaker 2: So it was always what do.

839
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 4: You do to people.

840
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:52,360
Speaker 2: Cause destruction? God did cause destruction in the Bible to people.

841
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 4: Yes, no, no, let me tell you.

842
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 2: Let me tell you what.

843
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 4: So let me tell you. Everybody died.

844
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 2: It wasn't everybody else.

845
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 4: But again, it's all about perspective, right. God hates sin, right.

846
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 2: But what sin sin? It is objective.

847
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 4: So that's what I'm saying. It's all about perspective. Didn't

848
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 4: under saying that, Yes, you did, So it's all about perspective.

849
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 3: God hates sin. So God said to everybody. He said,

850
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 3: to everybody, this is going to happen to this place.

851
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 3: If you don't get right in this place, I'm gonna

852
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:28,840
Speaker 3: flood this place.

853
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 2: I love the place. Say it to everybody. He told noa,

854
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 2: no one told that.

855
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 3: He told everybody. But that's how God speaks, right, But

856
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 3: that's how he speaks Noah.

857
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 4: Okay.

858
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 3: So so what you have to understand is Noah was saying,

859
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 3: if you behave this way, if you're doing this, and

860
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 3: a lot of times, and I think that's the reason

861
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 3: why a lot of people blamed And it's a whole

862
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 3: nother conversation. People blame Solomon and Moore the destruction of

863
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 3: it on home seules, and it wasn't the case, they

864
00:38:56,040 --> 00:39:01,440
Speaker 3: were all forms of perversions, bestiality, people having checked with children, animals,

865
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 3: battylon if they talk about the exactly. But the point

866
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,280
Speaker 3: is he said, I'm going to bring wrath on this land.

867
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 3: I'm going to destroy this place. This is what's about

868
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 3: to happen. And Noah for over a hundred years, he said, everybody,

869
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 3: get right, I'm telling you, he's about to destroy this place.

870
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:25,879
Speaker 3: He did not say I'm going to burn you, because

871
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 3: if that was the case, he.

872
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 4: Wouldn't have to do it. He could have just picked

873
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 4: off people. That's not what he did.

874
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:34,359
Speaker 3: What he said was I'm going to destroy this place.

875
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 3: And it was even a time where he said, don't

876
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 3: even look back, don't turn back.

877
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

878
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 4: So what I'm saying is and even and I know

879
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 4: a lot of people even look listen to that, who

880
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 4: aren't you know, from where from that space and he

881
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:50,040
Speaker 4: think is ridiculous.

882
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 3: Even if you don't believe the stories are true, look

883
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:55,279
Speaker 3: at the examples of the times that we live in now.

884
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:57,040
Speaker 3: So even if you think that that sounds cool, fory,

885
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 3: that sounds crazy, you have the right And I'm not

886
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,279
Speaker 3: going to argue that with you. What I will say is,

887
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:03,279
Speaker 3: if you look at the details of it, and you

888
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 3: say that God never ever said I'm going to burn

889
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 3: this one.

890
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 4: Man, I'm going to do this.

891
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 3: He said, get right, because I'm going to destroy this place,

892
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 3: and if you're in it, that's what's going to happen.

893
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:21,800
Speaker 2: But I feel like I'm one with nature, right, So

894
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 2: if somebody said I'm about to destroy this place, I

895
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:25,839
Speaker 2: feel like I'm a part of this place. Especially if

896
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 2: I'm outside somewhere in a park, like I feel like

897
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 2: I'm a part of that place. If I'm swimming in ocean,

898
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 2: I'm a part of that place.

899
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 3: That's a perspective. But I also realize that wherever I

900
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 3: am there is a place. So if this place does

901
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 3: not exist, it's sentimental. If this place may have been

902
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 3: to me, I will be another space. There will be

903
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 3: another place if you if you know, if you understand

904
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,760
Speaker 3: who you are, and that as long as you exist

905
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 3: in any place, that that is the place. And sometimes

906
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 3: places and times in particular, places have to end. So

907
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 3: I wouldn't be more attached to the forest or the

908
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 3: river or the ocean that I am.

909
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 4: To my own.

910
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 2: Personally, I'm Pocahontas, though.

911
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 4: That's fair.

912
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 2: Low homemade stupid.

913
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 4: Do you want to get into our game?

914
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 2: Before we get into the game, let's go to commercial

915
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 2: right quick? All right, Rico, we want to get into

916
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 2: a game we call trading places. Right. I know you

917
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 2: see a thousand podcasts online it's always the man versus

918
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 2: woman battle. So we want to ask you a series

919
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 2: of questions. But it's you waking up tomorrow and being

920
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 2: a woman for a week. Love. So first, are you

921
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 2: paying for the first date as a woman?

922
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 5: No?

923
00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:00,239
Speaker 4: Okay, no, not at all, not at all. Okay, it's

924
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 4: a good answer. See, I believe in gender rows.

925
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 2: Yes, come on, man, what are we doing? Game over?

926
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 2: Nothing needs else to be said?

927
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 4: All right?

928
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: Would you go fifty to fifty on rent or mortgage

929
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 1: with your significant other?

930
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 3: So I think that it's a man's responsibility and every

931
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:24,919
Speaker 3: I've only been in one major relationship where I've lived

932
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 3: with a woman, but I've never ever had a woman

933
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 3: contributed in any way.

934
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 4: To any bills in that home.

935
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:32,279
Speaker 2: We ain't gonna be mad.

936
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I also don't believe that that's necessary. That's

937
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 4: just my way of doing it.

938
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 3: So when I look at anybody who does anything different,

939
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 3: I always give that leave that up to them. And

940
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,240
Speaker 3: the decisions that they make. If the woman is okay,

941
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,360
Speaker 3: we've gone half with her man, then that's not my business,

942
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Recently, And I think that

943
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 3: the fact that people were in such an uproar about it,

944
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 3: most women who were upset about it were mostly the

945
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 3: ones who can't afford to go half on any rent anyway, right,

946
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 3: So I think that to be upset about somebody else's

947
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,880
Speaker 3: situation that they are happy with it is fucking ridiculous.

948
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:09,120
Speaker 3: So yeah, I've never lived that way. But I also

949
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 3: know that sometimes you might be in a situation in

950
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 3: the bond.

951
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 4: I'm in the bond. They think, sometimes you might be in.

952
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 3: A situation where things are going good and they abruptly

953
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 3: go bad. It would be amazing to have somebody there

954
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 3: who can say, don't worry, you've been holding it down

955
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 3: for all this time until you.

956
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 4: Get back right at least landscaping.

957
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 2: Right.

958
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's true, I get it.

959
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 3: But I just think that it's incredible to have somebody

960
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 3: who could be there to pick up some slack if

961
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 3: need be. And I think that, I think in my

962
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 3: heart that a woman who is in love with a

963
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 3: man and really cares about him, if things go bad.

964
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,759
Speaker 3: I think she can't wait to help, she can't wait

965
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 3: to jump in grateful, you know what I mean. And

966
00:43:56,360 --> 00:43:58,320
Speaker 3: sometimes a woman might not be in a position to

967
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 3: do so. So that's no shade to women who may

968
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 3: not be in a position to do that. My mentor

969
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 3: my mentor my daughter who's eight years old, I want

970
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:09,919
Speaker 3: a groom and build her up to be a woman

971
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 3: who's self sufficient and who has everything, can handle herself

972
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 3: and take care of solf. But I also know that

973
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 3: she's in a relationship with a man, he's gonna have

974
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:19,839
Speaker 3: to take care of her because she's used to her

975
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 3: father taking care of her. So in order for me

976
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 3: to give her away in a sense, then I'm giving

977
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:26,239
Speaker 3: her away to somebody who's gonna take on the role

978
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 3: that I have in her life. But I don't feel

979
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:33,000
Speaker 3: like it'll be a chore for him because his relationshipship.

980
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 3: When I'm in a relationship, it's not a chore for

981
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 3: me to do for the woman I'm in a relationship with.

982
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 4: So even in the job of a man.

983
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 3: I think my opinion is to make sure he takes

984
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 3: care of the home in that particular way, and the

985
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 3: job of a woman is to make sure she takes

986
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 3: care of home in the way that she takes care

987
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 3: of so I just think that I.

988
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 4: Believe in those role.

989
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 2: I saw a video the other day. It is very quick.

990
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 2: It was an Asian guy Asian family getting married, and

991
00:44:57,120 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 2: the woman was he was handing his daughter off, and

992
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 2: he told the groom, if at any time you fall

993
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:04,400
Speaker 2: out of love with my daughter, please just bring her

994
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 2: back to me. That's some art of warship because basically,

995
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 2: to me, what he was saying is I'm gonna kill you.

996
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 4: I think I interpret that differently.

997
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 3: I would say the same thing, because what it's saying

998
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 3: is if you don't want to be here, then don't

999
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 3: make my daughter suffer through you.

1000
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 2: Not bring her back.

1001
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 4: How about you bring her back to me and I'll

1002
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:25,839
Speaker 4: be there for her with that unconditional love.

1003
00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 3: I would prefer that you move on with your life

1004
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,920
Speaker 3: and let me be the person, be the figure for

1005
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 3: her that I've always been. I've relinquished that duty and

1006
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 3: that title to you to have give it back to me,

1007
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 3: because I always take it back. I don't think it

1008
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 3: was anything malicious about that statement. It was like, we

1009
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 3: go through things and sometimes a man or woman can

1010
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 3: wake up one day and realize I don't want to

1011
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 3: be here anymore.

1012
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 4: So he's saying, don't treat it like shit, don't talk

1013
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 4: down to it.

1014
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 2: So they were never in love by your definition, we're

1015
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 2: never getting married.

1016
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 4: I don't know what.

1017
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 2: I can't speak getting married.

1018
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 4: Are you getting on one knee as a woman and

1019
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:04,360
Speaker 4: asking for a man's hand in marriage?

1020
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 2: No, you're so in love though, you know, and he

1021
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 2: hasn't asked for fifteen years. Middle part or side part

1022
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 2: as a woman?

1023
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:18,959
Speaker 4: All right, it's down the middle.

1024
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 6: That's my thing.

1025
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:21,400
Speaker 2: Bust out after y'all know.

1026
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 4: I like bangs.

1027
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:27,839
Speaker 2: Bangs are back and style. I like bangs. Yeah, I'll

1028
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 2: be missing my forehead though sometimes you miss your when

1029
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 2: I get a bang? Yeah? Yeah?

1030
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: Are you smashing on the first date?

1031
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 2: You only got a week as a woman now.

1032
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 4: I don't judge.

1033
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:44,800
Speaker 3: I judge everything about the chemistry, right, So if you

1034
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 3: if it's in the moment and it feels good, then

1035
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 3: go for it. I wouldn't judge a person off of

1036
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 3: that because I know guys who hung out with a

1037
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 3: girl and they be like, man, I've been dealing with

1038
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:55,719
Speaker 3: Shorty for months. I never and we haven't been able

1039
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 3: to do nothing then I know guys meet her hang

1040
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 3: out and they do it the first day because the

1041
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 3: connection is different. I don't judge a person by that though, right,

1042
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:06,879
Speaker 3: I judge a person off of even when we're talking

1043
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 3: about bills and all that stuff. I believe in gender roles,

1044
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 3: but also believe in giving it time and having a true,

1045
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 3: genuine connection. I believe that if a person is expecting

1046
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 3: me to do something for them without me knowing them,

1047
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,319
Speaker 3: if it's a prerequisite to us going on the date,

1048
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 3: is that I cash out her money for her babysitter.

1049
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 2: That's wild. That's a wild one because you don't have kids, Like,

1050
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 2: why these guys gotta pay for your baby?

1051
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 4: Like it? Yes, but it's certain scenarios I've had. I've

1052
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 4: had a person.

1053
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 3: I invited a person out to hang out with me

1054
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 3: and they asked me to send them money for outfits.

1055
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,720
Speaker 3: It's like, I'm responsible for your first impression. Like, imagine

1056
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 3: if you've told somebody you're responsible, that's my first The

1057
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 3: first impression I'm going to have is how you look,

1058
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 3: how you dress, how you whatever, everything is exactly. You're

1059
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 3: telling me that I'm not only responsible for getting you there,

1060
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 3: feeding you, clothing, you want me to clothe you and

1061
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 3: style you for to make the first impression. So I

1062
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 3: think that a lot of times they are requirements that

1063
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 3: were based upon the relationship. If the relationship is to

1064
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 3: the point where a man is all right, if there's

1065
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 3: a level of convenience.

1066
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 4: Money is only for convenience, in my opinion.

1067
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:17,160
Speaker 3: And if I say to a person I want to

1068
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:18,800
Speaker 3: see you and they say, well, I can't see you

1069
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:21,120
Speaker 3: because this is in my way. If a man has

1070
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,440
Speaker 3: means and he wants to see her bad enough, then

1071
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 3: he should if he would like to get rid of

1072
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 3: that hurdle, right, and if that means that means a

1073
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 3: monetary thing, I'm gonna get rid of that because I

1074
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 3: want to see you this much.

1075
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:35,320
Speaker 4: Now. If a person says, hey, I really want to

1076
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 4: see you.

1077
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 1: I'm married, get rid of her husband.

1078
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,919
Speaker 2: No Columbia next time.

1079
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 3: If a person is like, hey, let's hang out. Yeah, sure,

1080
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:48,280
Speaker 3: let's hang out. Oh well I would I can't because

1081
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:50,920
Speaker 3: I gotta pay this bill. And it's like, well, we

1082
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 3: don't need to hang out, Like why, you know what

1083
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 3: I mean, it's not that serious. But if it's like

1084
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,360
Speaker 3: I really want to see this person, every time I

1085
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:57,879
Speaker 3: try to see a ship. This thing is in a way,

1086
00:48:57,920 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 3: this thing is away, this thing is away.

1087
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 4: Let me try to get rid of so I can

1088
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:06,359
Speaker 4: get close to her, you know what I mean. Yeah,

1089
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:06,919
Speaker 4: that's fair.

1090
00:49:07,120 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fair.

1091
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 1: That's fair.

1092
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 2: You woke up pregnant this morning, okay from one night standing?

1093
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 2: What you're doing?

1094
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I know. I love the babies. Depends

1095
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 4: on what it depends on my financial situation as a woman.

1096
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 4: I think everything should be based on what you could

1097
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:33,800
Speaker 4: actually do for your child. That's it.

1098
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 3: So if I personally as a woman, would be able

1099
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 3: to take care of my child on my own, then

1100
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 3: I will keep the child. If I if I'm saying

1101
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:43,320
Speaker 3: I'm going to depend on this person who is a

1102
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 3: stranger to me what I don't know, then that's added

1103
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,800
Speaker 3: extra pressure to me into my life, fighting with this

1104
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 3: person to take care of a child that they potentially

1105
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:52,800
Speaker 3: might not want to or might not have the bravery,

1106
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 3: or might be a coward or might you know.

1107
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,320
Speaker 4: Everybody doesn't take that responsibility.

1108
00:49:57,600 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 3: So what I would do is if I had the

1109
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 3: financial means to take care of the baby independent of

1110
00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 3: anybody else, then I'm keeping a baby.

1111
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:06,480
Speaker 4: If not, then I probably wouldn't.

1112
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 2: Y'all heard, hum Rica, No hold on, I got one

1113
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 2: more question because this is like, I feel like this

1114
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 2: is a scapegoat type thing men do. So at any

1115
00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 2: given moment, you're asked what you want to eat? Do

1116
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 2: you know what you want to eat? What you're eating, y'all?

1117
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 2: Do I want to eat what you're eating right now?

1118
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 2: You're hungry? What you want to eat?

1119
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:30,720
Speaker 4: Yeah? I want to eat some steak and shrimp.

1120
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 2: Where you want to go at?

1121
00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 1: You know?

1122
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 2: Because that's the thing men always say, women on them. Yeah,

1123
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 2: I feel like y'all put it off on us because

1124
00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 2: y'all don't never know what y'all want to eat.

1125
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 3: What's crazy about men, know, is men think about where

1126
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 3: they're going to eat two days in advance.

1127
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:46,879
Speaker 2: That is not true because they get to the menu

1128
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 2: and be mad because there's nothing they like that.

1129
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,040
Speaker 3: Flying back to Miami tonight, I'm not gonna eat this

1130
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 3: late tonight. But let's say I was flying back in

1131
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 3: the afternoon, I already have in my mind what I

1132
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 3: want to eat when I get home.

1133
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 4: I'm already thinking about it.

1134
00:50:57,680 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 3: Yesterday I was I was thinking about, Yeah, I want

1135
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 3: to go when I'm here, I always go to the watermen.

1136
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 3: So I'm always thinking, when I get to Charlotte, I'm

1137
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:07,279
Speaker 3: going to the watermen, Like that's I'm going to stake

1138
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:08,959
Speaker 3: forty eight. That's just what I know what I'm gonna

1139
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 3: do with my mind. I'm already mentally preparing myself. But

1140
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:13,279
Speaker 3: when I get to Charlotte, I'm going here. When I

1141
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 3: go to Vegas, when I go to La there places

1142
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:17,399
Speaker 3: that I love to go to, And I'm saying, when

1143
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 3: I get there, I can't wait because I'm gonna go there.

1144
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 3: So men already prepare these things in their mind beforehand.

1145
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 2: I don't think. So I'm talking about a cohabitation situation

1146
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 2: or a date, you know what I'm saying, Like you

1147
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 2: hitting me up asking me what I want to eat,

1148
00:51:30,400 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 2: and you're mad because I don't know right now, But

1149
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 2: what do you want to eat? I don't know. When

1150
00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 2: you get there, you see the menu, you don't like it.

1151
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 2: Once I pick a place that's happened to me a

1152
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:46,320
Speaker 2: thousand times, I feel like like this is what I wanted.

1153
00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 3: And especially now because I'm eating a certain way, I

1154
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 3: know exactly what I'm going to eat forty which I'm

1155
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 3: gonna eat, so it's easy for me but I can't

1156
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:54,439
Speaker 3: speak for nobody else.

1157
00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:57,120
Speaker 4: I don't know. I can tell this is.

1158
00:51:59,320 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 6: Thank you.

1159
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 2: I like hugs, y'all.

1160
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: All right, so we're going to get into our final segment.

1161
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 1: I talked to you about it a little bit earlier.

1162
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:14,320
Speaker 1: Do you have your story ready for our SIMP series?

1163
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,720
Speaker 4: SIMP series? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I have some SIMP stories.

1164
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:21,000
Speaker 4: Real easy way to.

1165
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 2: Say this, and simps are necessary, y'all. Okay, don't get

1166
00:52:30,239 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 2: us wrong.

1167
00:52:31,360 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 3: I was in a situation where, uh, a woman asked

1168
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:38,279
Speaker 3: me to help her out of a situation and really

1169
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:39,400
Speaker 3: look out for her.

1170
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,759
Speaker 4: And then so I did. I sent I sent her

1171
00:52:42,840 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 4: some some funds to take care of a situation. And

1172
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:52,000
Speaker 4: she was in a barn and I looked out. And then.

1173
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:55,319
Speaker 3: The following week, I'm like, yo, let's hang out. She's like, yeah,

1174
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 3: I'll be there. And then she told me, yeah, I'm

1175
00:52:57,760 --> 00:53:00,600
Speaker 3: coming in. And she called me a little while before

1176
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 3: and said I gotta leave town. I gotta leave town.

1177
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 3: And you know, I'm like, oh, she gonna make it.

1178
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:08,560
Speaker 3: She renigged on it. And then I decided to go

1179
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 3: a different place instead of going to where I said

1180
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 3: I was gonna go. She was there with some with

1181
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,279
Speaker 3: some very cool rappers that I actually like.

1182
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 4: Yo.

1183
00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 3: And it was awkward because they recognized me and they're

1184
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:28,000
Speaker 3: like yo, and I'm like, hi, guys, I bought her outfit.

1185
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 4: Nice linking can I said with you, guys, I contributed

1186
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:42,799
Speaker 4: in some way to this outing some same ship ship.

1187
00:53:44,480 --> 00:53:45,480
Speaker 2: So what does she say for?

1188
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 4: Nothing? Not a word? Act like she didn't see me.

1189
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 2: What how much money was it? Can you share?

1190
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna share, man.

1191
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:53,320
Speaker 2: How much money was it?

1192
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 5: Was?

1193
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 2: It like over ten grand?

1194
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 5: No?

1195
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:55,479
Speaker 4: Fuck?

1196
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 2: No, okay, afford it? I'm bitch, Why you disappear?

1197
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 5: It was?

1198
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 4: It was It was a little bit of b It wasn't.

1199
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:04,520
Speaker 4: It wasn't those pennies.

1200
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:07,320
Speaker 1: Though, Yeah, like you never spoke to her ever again

1201
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:07,959
Speaker 1: in my life.

1202
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 2: Damn bird brings no no, no, no, the girl the

1203
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:14,960
Speaker 2: bird you know, you know.

1204
00:54:15,160 --> 00:54:17,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it was crazy because you know, you think

1205
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:19,759
Speaker 3: about it, and these guys were, you know, on the

1206
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 3: top of the world at the time, and I was,

1207
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 3: you know, I was in a I was in a breakup, right,

1208
00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 3: So I wasn't totally I was single at the time,

1209
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 3: but like in a breakup single, Yeah, a few months

1210
00:54:36,320 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 3: you just kind of like you're single, You're moving around.

1211
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 3: So I'm just like, oh, ship, I'm gonna go hang

1212
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 3: out with Shorty. I'm gonna do this and then and

1213
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:45,399
Speaker 3: a lot of times people get back in relationships because

1214
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 3: of moments like that, Yeah, I.

1215
00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:49,440
Speaker 2: Should have sent you home, like, ain't nothing out here, man,

1216
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make it my bench.

1217
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:54,760
Speaker 4: And I'm gonna tell you it was the Migos.

1218
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 2: Oh hell no, she played.

1219
00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 4: Like, but I say this, I'm saying it was the

1220
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 4: beginning of their career, believe it or not.

1221
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:09,040
Speaker 3: When Migos first came out, they was on fire with

1222
00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:11,880
Speaker 3: Basachi and then I did a song called they Don't Know,

1223
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:13,479
Speaker 3: and Migos wrapped on them.

1224
00:55:13,600 --> 00:55:14,600
Speaker 4: They remixed they Don't Know.

1225
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 3: So they was already like I'm not gonna say fans

1226
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 3: of me, but I just think they respected my work

1227
00:55:20,120 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 3: and like so they had their remix and then they

1228
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:26,360
Speaker 3: started really buzzing. So you know, I was in that

1229
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 3: playboy mode ifew you know, you singing for a little while.

1230
00:55:29,040 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 4: You're like, I'm about to be outside real quick.

1231
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:32,759
Speaker 3: So I meet the Shorty and she like yeah, and

1232
00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 3: I'm like I really need some help with this, and

1233
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:36,720
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, cool, I send it a little bread

1234
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:39,399
Speaker 3: and then she's like, we're supposed to link up that night,

1235
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:43,399
Speaker 3: and she curved me. So I'm thinking she probably thinking

1236
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 3: he's not gonna come over and he's not going to this,

1237
00:55:45,520 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 3: because I probably.

1238
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:48,640
Speaker 4: Usually wouldn't have. I was like, let me just pull

1239
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:50,600
Speaker 4: up to this and I see them.

1240
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 1: That was God because she would have still been taking

1241
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:54,560
Speaker 1: money for you right now.

1242
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:57,080
Speaker 4: She wouldn't have still been taking money. I'm not gonna get.

1243
00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:00,799
Speaker 2: Probably wasn't she Probably only I'm talking to you because

1244
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:03,439
Speaker 2: you saw her with the finesse. That's what I'm saying.

1245
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 4: She would have still been coming out. I consider it

1246
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 4: to be my decision because I would have never spoke

1247
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:09,480
Speaker 4: to her again. You know what I'm saying.

1248
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:10,280
Speaker 2: Had you not seen.

1249
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:17,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, then she could have still been to be finessed right, Yes,

1250
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:22,720
Speaker 5: bi weekly like she didn't like she ain't.

1251
00:56:22,560 --> 00:56:24,200
Speaker 4: Give a fuck. She didn't send me a text on

1252
00:56:24,320 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 4: SOT nothing. What's good.

1253
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:32,040
Speaker 2: I don't play with people like that. What happened? What happened?

1254
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 2: That's crazy, that's awful. Maybe she listens to the show.

1255
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 4: If you do, you really reco an apology?

1256
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 2: Oh his money bag? Fun that apology? Pay me right?

1257
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:44,120
Speaker 4: What a sympo?

1258
00:56:45,400 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 2: No, sim's unnecessary. Dumb bitches are also necessary. Man, they

1259
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:51,320
Speaker 2: are because it's not like it's a bad thing. I

1260
00:56:51,400 --> 00:56:53,839
Speaker 2: think men call other men sims. Women really don't use

1261
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:55,919
Speaker 2: the term like that, Like we will call a woman

1262
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 2: a dumb bitch, right, I.

1263
00:56:57,320 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 4: Think y'all kind of see niggas a simps sometimes, but we.

1264
00:56:59,640 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 2: Don't see what I'm saying, Like we see a lick.

1265
00:57:02,360 --> 00:57:04,280
Speaker 2: Absolutely some of them have on their forehead.

1266
00:57:04,360 --> 00:57:08,319
Speaker 4: I was, Oh my god, got licked next to them

1267
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:09,800
Speaker 4: in your phone.

1268
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 2: I've never.

1269
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:14,160
Speaker 4: I think.

1270
00:57:14,200 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 3: But we all are corny to somebody, you know what

1271
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 3: I mean? It looks cool somebody somebody that you know.

1272
00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 4: Is that that what you something like? I accept that.

1273
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:27,240
Speaker 4: I try to be as cool as I possibly.

1274
00:57:26,920 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 2: Can, But I know myself.

1275
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: I think it's necessary to get played to be well rounded, though, Right,

1276
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 1: you gotta take a l sometimes so you can be humble.

1277
00:57:35,240 --> 00:57:38,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, you probably played somebody, So it's coming back around Jesus.

1278
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:41,360
Speaker 2: But I'm Karma. I do the coming around, all right, y'all.

1279
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 2: I do the coming around. Yeah, this is a good episode,

1280
00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 2: a great good interview.

1281
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 1: Yeah all right, tell everybody was next where they can

1282
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 1: find you?

1283
00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 3: Okay, So I really want to obviously songwriters my passion.

1284
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,760
Speaker 3: I'm a passionate father, So I'm in a men's group

1285
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 3: for dads, you know what I mean, So the dads

1286
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 3: can come together. It's like a network where we can

1287
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 3: kind of communicate and we can exchange energy and advice

1288
00:58:10,040 --> 00:58:11,920
Speaker 3: and how we can uplift and build each other in

1289
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:14,120
Speaker 3: our communities. And what we're gonna do is in each meeting,

1290
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:17,960
Speaker 3: we raise money for one father who may be in

1291
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 3: need of something specific to help do something great with

1292
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 3: his kids. So we're going to be creating that in

1293
00:58:23,880 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 3: it's called because I'm a Dad, and that's gonna really soon.

1294
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 3: We're gonna be rolling that out. Also, the reco Love

1295
00:58:29,120 --> 00:58:31,520
Speaker 3: webinars that we we Love Music conference that I do

1296
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 3: around the world teaching about songwriting and production. That's something

1297
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 3: I'm super passionate about and building it my multimedia group

1298
00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:43,960
Speaker 3: where I'm able to develop not just artists and writers,

1299
00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 3: but also actors and poets and you know, creatives in

1300
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:52,520
Speaker 3: all art forms, finding finding spaces for them to exist

1301
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 3: and express themselves without the burden of the financial, uh,

1302
00:58:58,240 --> 00:58:59,960
Speaker 3: you know, burdens that people have and they're trying to

1303
00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 3: making the business. So that's more My passion is making

1304
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 3: sure that we can pour back into creatives and put

1305
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 3: back into our community of creatives. You had a nonprofit,

1306
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:13,440
Speaker 3: so it's it's essentially a for profit business though, because

1307
00:59:13,440 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 3: we want to be able to have avenues to where

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00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:19,600
Speaker 3: after they receive funds and they do well, then there's

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Speaker 3: a commission that they paid back.

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Speaker 2: I guess I was referencing the thing for or the Dads.

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Speaker 3: Will be nonprofit. Yeah, sure, yes, but the multimedia company

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Speaker 3: will kind of develop acts. We want to make sure

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Speaker 3: that we can help give them resources and then the company.

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Speaker 4: Can earn off of.

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Speaker 2: That's super cool.

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Speaker 3: Doing the music for a new TV show called Black Hamptons.

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Speaker 3: This is the season two of the Black Hampton's on BT,

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Speaker 3: so I'm the music supervisors for them. We did I

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Speaker 3: did the first season and now I'm working on the

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Speaker 3: second season. I'm super excited about that. I'm super excited

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Speaker 3: about Usher's new album.

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Speaker 2: Just really a new album coming.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's nice, excited babies babies coming. I just was

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Speaker 4: with him.

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Speaker 3: He played me to like every song, because you know,

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Speaker 3: I did the songs that I've done, but we took

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01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 3: a car ride and he just played me everything and

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Speaker 3: it was exceptional. It is an exceptional body of work.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait for the world to hear that. Obviously,

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Speaker 3: I just had a success with Romeo Santos and Justin

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Speaker 3: Timberlake with Sin Finn. Anybody who's familiar with Latin but

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Speaker 3: shot the music number one.

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Speaker 4: But chat the song in the world.

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Speaker 3: So excited about that and excited about the work we're

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Speaker 3: doing with the BMC, the Black Music Collective. I'm the

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Speaker 3: chairman of the BMC, which is a subsidiary of the Grammys.

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Speaker 3: We created something dei effort where we kind of like

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Speaker 3: making sure that we hold feet to the fire, make

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Speaker 3: sure that black people, women and people of color represented

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Speaker 3: properly inside the Recording Academy. Last year a Recording Academy

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Speaker 3: Honors Award show, we honored Lol Wayne, Sylvia Own, Missy Elliott,

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Speaker 3: and doctor Dre. This year, we're cooking up some exceptional

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Speaker 3: for the Grammy for Grammy Week, and we're doing some

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Speaker 3: amazing events around the country around building awareness to black

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Speaker 3: creatives on what was available for them.

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Speaker 2: And I missed that in your introduction, y'all. This is

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Speaker 2: Grammy nominated recal love also and.

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Speaker 3: Also also I'm helping Music Cares with this hip Hop

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Speaker 3: initiative we're doing for the next three years, we're gonna

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Speaker 3: be funding and helping a lot of hip hop artists.

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Speaker 4: So if you are hip hop artists and.

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Speaker 3: You need help, you need money, and you need a

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Speaker 3: roof for your house, you need your teeth fixing, you

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Speaker 3: don't have the funds for that, come to music Cares

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Speaker 3: you submit and.

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Speaker 2: Fix the current the existing ones first or y'all.

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Speaker 4: Yeah no, but yeah, the teath that you have, now,

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Speaker 4: let's make sure we got those more.

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Speaker 3: But if it's a lot of things that we're doing,

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Speaker 3: and it's a lot of philanthropic work, but also also

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Speaker 3: a lot of entrepreneurial work that I'm really focusing dedicating

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Speaker 3: myself on. And I created the Love Foundation where I

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Speaker 3: were doing these recordings at my house. I created it

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Speaker 3: because I keep my kids seven days on and seven

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Speaker 3: days off. So when I'm with my kids, I was

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01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:50,920
Speaker 3: finding that I was spending a lot of time picking

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Speaker 3: my daughter up from school, picking myself up from school,

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Speaker 3: see them for a hour, go to the studio, come back,

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Speaker 3: they sleep, I wake up.

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Speaker 4: I take a miver.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you didn't see them.

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Speaker 3: So what I started doing was I started recording in

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Speaker 3: my home and setting up the cameras and doing these sessions,

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Speaker 3: inviting people over, and we've been making great records and

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Speaker 3: I'm able to have my kids come in and out.

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Speaker 3: So it's called the Love Foundation, and we just make

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Speaker 3: really dope records. And we've been documenting, documenting the process,

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Speaker 3: and we're going to make it into like this little series.

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Speaker 2: Well you're busy. I know, I'm not doing enough out here.

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Speaker 6: Apparently you got we like to lay down, got to

1381
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 6: do as much as possible to make sure some stick.

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Speaker 2: I know, man, I gotta get better at that. When

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Speaker 2: I hear people like that was a nice little rant

1384
01:02:32,600 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 2: about all the things like am I not doing enough?

1385
01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:37,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, damn. After I leave here, I was going

1386
01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:41,919
Speaker 2: to sleep. Just go ahead and plan for tomorrow, matter

1387
01:02:41,960 --> 01:02:44,280
Speaker 2: of fact, because that's the way what would rical Love do?

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Speaker 2: All Right, y'all listen. This is a fantastic episode, y'all.

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Speaker 2: If you enjoyed it, tune in every Thursday on iHeartRadio

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Speaker 2: Apple Where but the fuck you get your podcast at?

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01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 2: What's up Dan, y'all.

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Speaker 1: It's official tam band. Follow me on Instagram.

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Speaker 4: I love y'all.

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Speaker 1: Thank y'all for tuning in.

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Speaker 2: Remember to speak now and never hold your peace Jesus