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Speaker 3: My parents chose my ex over me, but now they

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Speaker 3: want him gone.

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Speaker 2: Well there it goes. Sucks to suck.

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Speaker 3: You bet on the wrong horse, all right, you should

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Speaker 3: have been on the horse you gave birth to. Several

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Speaker 3: years ago, when I was twenty one, I met this

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Speaker 3: quote unquote fantastic British boy on an online game. He

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Speaker 3: was in the process of finalizing his divorce from his

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Speaker 3: the details of his relationship, even though it was coming

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Speaker 3: to an end. It wasn't until after they were officially

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Speaker 3: divorced and they had moved on that we began talking

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Speaker 3: a bit more seriously about their being and us. And

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay story I'm so bred it so and Sophia.

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Speaker 3: Just to get you up to speed, oh pe wants

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Speaker 3: a little Ish boy and know me all, and.

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Speaker 2: He was fantastic. I'm yeah, we're so, we thought.

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Speaker 3: After several months of video chatting, texting, and emails at work,

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Speaker 3: et cetera, we decided to meet up. I drove to

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Speaker 3: From then on, I honestly believed he was everything to me.

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Speaker 3: We moved in together after we started dating, and after

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Speaker 3: a few months of living together, he expressed wanting to

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Speaker 3: go home, which meant the UK. We worked things out

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Speaker 3: financially and we zipped off to England, where we lived with.

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Speaker 2: His parents for a year. Wow okay dang. During that time,

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Speaker 2: he proposed his parents have got to be cool. To

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Speaker 2: live with them for a year and then there's no

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Speaker 2: frustration you like, it leads to you getting proposed parents

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Speaker 2: gotta be cool. I don't know. Maybe maybe they're not cool.

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Speaker 2: We'll find out.

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Speaker 3: Maybe they're like a hot maybe they're hot. Ooh okay.

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Speaker 3: During that time, he proposed I was over the moon.

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Speaker 3: I said yes, and then we had to have a

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Speaker 3: come to Jesus talk about our situation. In the end,

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Speaker 3: we moved back to the US to complete his permanent residency.

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Speaker 3: While living with my parents since he couldn't work at

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Speaker 3: the time. However, during all of this, I was very

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Speaker 3: blind to what was actually happening. In the beginning, his

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Speaker 3: ex wife had contacted me about how he cheated on her.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, blah blah blah blah blah.

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Speaker 3: Being the typical girl in a new relationship high I

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Speaker 3: that lie with stories about how she was crazy, you know,

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Speaker 3: the usual.

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Speaker 2: You always got to be careful when people tell you

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Speaker 2: you gotta be like, why was she crazy? To give

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Speaker 2: me some examples of her crazy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like the same thing as like someone who's

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Speaker 3: like every job they've ever had they ended up quitting because.

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Speaker 2: Their boss sucked.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like, well every job well, like really,

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Speaker 3: During the course of our relationship, there were a few

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Speaker 3: Oh uh, this girl I'm chatting with.

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Speaker 2: Oh, she's an old friend and I'm just catching up.

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Speaker 2: I'm chatting with Chase. You gotta do the next. This

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Speaker 3: I can't do it.

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Speaker 2: Keep going. Of course, this was.

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Speaker 3: A lie, among many others that I found out about

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Speaker 3: near the end of our relationship. I had a best

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Speaker 3: friend named Cynthia who he had gotten close to just

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Speaker 3: a few days before my birthday. He told me they

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Speaker 3: were heading out to the mall to buy me a gift,

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Speaker 3: you know, just a few hours and then he'd be back.

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Speaker 3: He didn't come home until five AM, when I was

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Speaker 2: And they never text to do any of that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which, as is, we all know jump starting a

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Speaker 2: We all know that obvious lie. That was such an

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Speaker 3: Well, the mall closed at ten pm, and when I

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Speaker 3: She said they both claimed that they had asked me

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Speaker 2: Uh yeah, I'd be like, oh, what were you doing

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Speaker 3: It's I got a it's a new girlfriend for me,

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Speaker 2: I love you so much, Happy birthday. That's like twenty hours.

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Speaker 3: At that point, it was pretty obvious that something had happened,

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Speaker 3: that our relationship was over. Keep in mind, I confided

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Speaker 3: I told my mother that I was contacting his parents

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Speaker 3: move on with our lives. At this time, I was

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Speaker 3: twenty two, nearing twenty three. I was very wrong about this.

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Speaker 3: My mother and my father decided to put their feet

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Speaker 3: also refused to let him move into the guest bedroom.

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Speaker 2: Wait what what?

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Speaker 4: Wait?

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Speaker 2: Wait? Your parents forced you to stay with them? What what? Wait?

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Speaker 3: And they wouldn't even they wouldn't put him in the

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Speaker 2: They were like, you have to live with him?

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Speaker 3: They what made you share a bedroom with the guy

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Speaker 3: I'm going to I'm getting an RII membership, I'm buying

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude returns with ari I or nujob. She's great,

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Speaker 3: Anyways, for the next six months, I lived in hell.

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Speaker 3: He was verbally and emotionally abusive, didn't respect any of

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Speaker 3: The list goes on and on. It was awful, just

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Speaker 3: I was constantly arguing with my parents about it. They

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Speaker 2: I mean, so, I'm wondering right now because we don't

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Speaker 2: She's staying with her parents because they're saving money. Was

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Speaker 3: Just a situation where they're living with their parents in

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Speaker 3: leap if it's like they're twenty two, yeah, twenty three

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Speaker 2: Yeah, starting career. My advice for you, because I don't

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Speaker 3: Then yes, get out, you get out, and like, you know,

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Speaker 3: this is more for anyone who may find themselves in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't. It's just so the parents are being so absurd.

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Speaker 3: I don't understand it, and I think if I was ope,

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Speaker 3: I would immediately be like, oh, so, okay, Mom, who

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Speaker 3: did you cheat on dad with while you were engaged?

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Speaker 2: Oh you didn't.

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Speaker 3: Dad. Who did you cheat on mom with when you

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Speaker 2: Oh you didn't.

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Speaker 3: Oh so neither. So you're both just talking right out

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Speaker 3: of your butts. Cool nice?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So nothing changed until I finally had a nervous

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Speaker 2: You're already paying rent. Oh you're already paying rent. Leave? Yes, yes,

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Speaker 2: just leave. Take take your five hundred dollars elsewhere. Yes. Please.

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Speaker 3: They promptly agreed to let him move into the guest bedroom.

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Speaker 2: Why didn't we do that for the start? Why didn't

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Speaker 3: However, he refused to move into the other bedroom For

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Speaker 3: out on a date with Cynthia. We weren't friends anymore

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Speaker 2: Boy, you know what this is. You guys aren't even

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Speaker 3: Sometimes, through no fault of their own, people are just

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Speaker 3: a sucker for a British accent.

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Speaker 2: They're like, but darling, he's British. They just they just

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Speaker 2: she says here to me, like love, hello, love. They

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Speaker 2: hear him on the phone through the wall with Cynthia saying.

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Speaker 5: Oh Cynthia, do you want to settle point? I can't

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Speaker 5: wait to show off your proper fit body everyone down

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Speaker 5: there at THEUSKI and they just go.

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Speaker 3: Swoon, Oh my goodness, swoon. That's gonna be our son

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Speaker 3: in law. And it's not their fault. It's the British's fault.

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Speaker 3: It's the British for speaking so hot.

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Speaker 2: Speak too hot man.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, Kean is something to say.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well you got something wrong with the British accent.

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Speaker 3: Ke On, you have something wrong with the British, with

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Speaker 3: the Brits. You got a problem with Britz.

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Speaker 2: I love a good Carlsberg. You don't even know what that.

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Speaker 3: Is, Carlsburg. I know what a Carlsberg is. Yeah, what

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Speaker 3: is it? It's carls first of all. So it became

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Speaker 3: clear that my parents were choosing his side over mine.

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Speaker 3: He said a lot of nasty things about me to them,

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Speaker 3: and I got to hear about them through them in

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Speaker 2: Man told me this was true.

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Speaker 3: I reminded her that all of this information she was

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Speaker 2: Ages.

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Speaker 3: My ex fiance still lives within my parents after five years.

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Speaker 2: That's so funny. That's so funny, and they deserve it

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Speaker 2: so much. Oh my goodness. Imagine being like you're telling

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Speaker 2: I had a really terrible experience with my last X.

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Speaker 2: He lives with my parents. And they were like, oh,

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Speaker 2: with my parents still five years later.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he cheated on me on my birthday and then

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Speaker 3: more as what absurd? What that's actually one of the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that they could have done.

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Speaker 3: So my ex fiance still lives with my parents in

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Speaker 3: He didn't have a job and thus didn't pay rent

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Speaker 2: That's insane. Me out here went to school. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: is he doing it? He britished so hard that they

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Speaker 3: What would that accent actually have to sound like?

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Speaker 6: was Jason Staither, He's I'm the transporter and the people

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Speaker 2: A long day at work. With that with.

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Speaker 6: Chelsea, Oh she's gorgeous, cheat on her, cheat with her

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Speaker 2: I'm a sucker for a lady with the name of

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Speaker 2: his name Cynthia. That one didn't sound like just state

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Speaker 2: then that was just I don't know how to do

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Speaker 2: to a British transporter.

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Speaker 6: Transport transport transport on the transport all right, that one

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Speaker 3: Okay, So this jobless, penniless British man is living with

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's providing a service however British.

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Speaker 3: However, he did complete his permanent residency and is now

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Speaker 3: So that was just over three years ago. Yes, he

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Speaker 3: still lives with them. Over time, my relationship with my

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Speaker 3: what happened. That's okay. I don't expect one from her,

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Speaker 3: The other day, I got a random Facebook message from

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Speaker 3: papaison chair. What the heck is a papaison chair?

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Speaker 2: It's I think it's what I have, like a nest,

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Speaker 3: I believe it's But how do you pronounce as.

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Speaker 2: Papasa papasanan papasa sandude?

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Speaker 3: When we were living with my parents, I bought both

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Speaker 3: I refused to make a second trip out of fear

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Speaker 2: I said I didn't care.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, I wasn't going to be getting those things back,

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Speaker 3: and I really did not give two crabs if he

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Speaker 2: That was the extent of our conversation.

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Speaker 3: Girl, If you don't tell this dude, he needs to

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Speaker 3: pay you for taking your belongings.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm mad at you. Now you get that money, man,

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Speaker 2: say yeah, I'll take all your money please. Yeah. Sure

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Speaker 2: you can have it for a price that I will determine. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: otherwise I'm selling it on Facebook market Place. Yeah, what,

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Speaker 2: which is where I'll be finding my next roommate.

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Speaker 3: Yeah and if yeah, and if you want money, you

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Speaker 3: can sell it on Facebook Marketplace and I'll give you

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: For God's sakes, give this man n nothing. He's taking your.

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Speaker 2: Parent He's taking your parents. They couldn't have been that

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Speaker 2: good person. It's again the British accent. It's not their fault,

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Speaker 2: which we're joking.

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Speaker 3: But a few hours later I got an angry phone

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Speaker 3: I said, to be honest, I didn't give a dang.

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Speaker 3: I hadn't seen either of those things in over three years,

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Speaker 2: So what.

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Speaker 3: That's not like I was going to get any use

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Speaker 3: and that he's knocked up Cynthia but left her for

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Speaker 2: Uh, dude, I don't feel bad for these pairs one bit.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry Bisey Chef says, why that would they give

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Speaker 3: It's just all around absurd. I agreed on so many

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Speaker 2: Greed.

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Speaker 3: I just absurd that the mom has to go all

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Speaker 2: Her daughter said, please kick him out. We he has

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Speaker 3: Like yeah, they said, no, you're actually a failure because

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Speaker 2: H yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So so he's not paying rent. He got Cynthia pregnant.

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Speaker 3: His room is an episode of Hoarders gone wrong. Blah

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Speaker 3: that my uncle came home to.

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Speaker 2: Oh I thought I misread that as came to.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, your uncle, my uncle showed up and that really

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Speaker 3: was ooh bad because my uncle goes way too far

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Speaker 3: The list of you know, malfeasans goes on and on.

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Speaker 3: My mother then told me I had to deal with

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Speaker 2: And I'd say, no, my, what are their heads full

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Speaker 2: of rocks? These You don't have to let him stay there.

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Speaker 2: I don't understand why they don't just.

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Speaker 3: Say, Lee, is your mom in the hospital because she

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Speaker 3: did the experimental procedure where they replace her brain with

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Speaker 3: a freaking boulder.

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Speaker 2: What's going on? What's happening? Rock surgery? Yea on, what's happening?

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Speaker 2: Everyone wants to know what's happening, what's gone? Because if

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Speaker 2: and they're not bathing.

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Speaker 4: Themselves, you just say, hey, get out of my house, okay.

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Speaker 4: Apparently she and my father had been trying to get

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Speaker 4: and have him forcibly removed, since it's their house and

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Speaker 4: if they're removing him, they can escort him out and

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Speaker 4: watch as he takes his things. She said, no, that

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Speaker 4: Oh that's it.

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Speaker 2: Uh bye, hang up. There are so many times in

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Speaker 3: This is when I absolutely lost it. I reminded her

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Speaker 3: They paid for everything he needed, such as clothes and

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Speaker 3: little death sticks. Those aren't cheap. Centered to cater to

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Speaker 3: I said, no, I'm not helping. She made her decision

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Speaker 3: if that's what she truly wanted. Now, it sucked getting

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Speaker 2: As easy as that, dang it. Now.

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Speaker 3: My mother is very sick. She is constantly in and

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Speaker 3: A part of me feels responsible for the situation, since

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Speaker 3: I don't want my mother to have to put up

442
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Speaker 3: with him. After my conversation with my mother, I sent

443
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Speaker 3: my ex fiance another message. I told him that after

444
00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:54,480
Speaker 3: speaking to my mother, I wasn't comfortable with him taking anything,

445
00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:57,160
Speaker 3: including the TV or chair. I said those things were

446
00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:58,959
Speaker 3: to remain where they are and he is not allowed

447
00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:01,199
Speaker 3: to take them. I said this was my first and

448
00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:03,840
Speaker 3: last message to him regarding the issue, and to resolve

449
00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,879
Speaker 3: this as peacefully as possible with my parents. They deserve

450
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,480
Speaker 3: that much to be safe. I screenshotted the message and

451
00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:11,439
Speaker 3: sent it to my mother as well, and then blocked

452
00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:12,480
Speaker 3: him on Facebook again.

453
00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:14,480
Speaker 2: So my question is did I handle this the right way?

454
00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:16,359
Speaker 3: I feel incredibly bad that I don't want to do

455
00:20:16,359 --> 00:20:18,360
Speaker 3: anything more for my parents, but at the same time,

456
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:20,480
Speaker 3: I also feel that they made their bed and have

457
00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,440
Speaker 3: to lie in it now. If anyone else has gone

458
00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:24,840
Speaker 3: through something similar, what would you do? Should I call

459
00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:26,600
Speaker 3: the police for them? Should I make a visit?

460
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:29,160
Speaker 2: What are they? Your kids? Your parents? Your mom might

461
00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 2: not be doing well, but your dad seems fine. He

462
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:31,440
Speaker 2: can handle it.

463
00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:34,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, where's dad? Here's the solution right here? Mom goes

464
00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:38,040
Speaker 3: and spends an afternoon with a friend if she has one,

465
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:44,240
Speaker 3: and Dad calls the cops and they forcibly remove your terrible.

466
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 2: Ex from the house. We love it solution. Mom doesn't

467
00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:50,439
Speaker 2: have to deal with any of the stress. Nothing. He's gone.

468
00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:53,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, the day is saved. Yeah, and you don't have

469
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:55,439
Speaker 3: to be involved. So what do I do? Should I

470
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,879
Speaker 3: make a visit? I'm at a loss since I feel

471
00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:01,640
Speaker 3: I've done enough but not enough, if that makes any

472
00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:04,600
Speaker 3: sense whatsoever. Any helper advice is much appreciated. Thank you

473
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,720
Speaker 3: so much. And hey, by the way, we would thank

474
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 3: you so much if you listened to full episodes with

475
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Speaker 3: stories just like this on Spotify or Apple podcasts or

476
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Speaker 3: iHeartRadio or wherever you beautiful people listen to podcasts just

477
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Speaker 3: search Okay, storytime and uh, you've got the whole world

478
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 3: in your hands. You've got oh Mal, I need more.

479
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 3: I've used that one. You've got the kit in Kaboodle

480
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:27,880
Speaker 3: I've used I've used that one too.

481
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,959
Speaker 2: I've got the Keys to the Kingdom. That's a new one.

482
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:32,160
Speaker 2: I haven't used that one yet. Yeah.

483
00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:35,760
Speaker 3: Sure, you've got the touch, You've got the power.

484
00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:42,960
Speaker 2: Got a girl, Come boy, Why didn't they legally evict

485
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,400
Speaker 2: that leach? Because they're silly.

486
00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,160
Speaker 3: They're silly, I mean, and depending on where you are,

487
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:50,560
Speaker 3: like sometimes, you know, I think California has recently changed

488
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:52,120
Speaker 3: like squatter's rights or oh yeah, if he.

489
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,200
Speaker 2: Was there for five years, he might have some kind

490
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 2: of say over.

491
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 3: But if you're not paying rent, you know, yeah, and

492
00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:00,440
Speaker 3: California did recently, I think change a lot of that

493
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,119
Speaker 3: to where it's it's basically a more streamline process. But anyway,

494
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 3: but regardless, Yeah, your parents sort of made their bad dude,

495
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 3: so it's not your fault that they're laying in it now.

496
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 3: It's unfortunate that your mom has health problems. Like of course,

497
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 3: you you know, you're not a demon, like you're not

498
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:16,639
Speaker 3: wishing that upon your mom. But you know what, I've

499
00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 3: said it before, I'll say it again. When we have

500
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:21,600
Speaker 3: health problems. When you have health complications, the responsibility of

501
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 3: dealing with that lives upon you, you know.

502
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:26,120
Speaker 2: And also you know, like if you'll like, this kind

503
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 2: of goes into parents who are old and expect their

504
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 2: kids to take care of them. If you didn't treat

505
00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:35,080
Speaker 2: your kids well when they were children or throughout their life,

506
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 2: you can't really expect them to want to take care

507
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 2: of you when you're old and need taken care of.

508
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 2: So treat your family members well and then you'll get

509
00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 2: someone to take care of you when you're old.

510
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Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am. Yeah, dad should be doing this. Looking at

511
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 3: some comments here, says Amulin says legal eviction would mess

512
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 3: with his immigration status to yes, Yeah, let's finish this story. Yeah,

513
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 3: there's an edit. Thank you everyone who has responded to this.

514
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,719
Speaker 3: I didn't expect this post to absolutely explode. With some

515
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:05,640
Speaker 3: amazing advice and some harsh realizations and great support. I've

516
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 3: tried to respond to everything I could, and I've read

517
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:08,880
Speaker 3: every single comment that's been made so far.

518
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Speaker 2: You guys are amazing.

519
00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 3: I think I've gotten everything I need from this thread,

520
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,159
Speaker 3: but I will continue to read and comment on anything

521
00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 3: new if I can. I can't say that there will

522
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 3: be an update, but should I find out anything of worth,

523
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:20,639
Speaker 3: I'll be sure to post that in the future. And

524
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 3: that is the end against story. Yeah, your dad opied

525
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 3: needs to be. If your mom is like to the

526
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 3: point where stress can give her a stroke, and they

527
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 3: literally exiled you in favor of the man who cheated

528
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,959
Speaker 3: on you on your birthday, they can go ahead and

529
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 3: navigate that themselves.

530
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Speaker 2: They're agreed, all grown adults, man, And.

531
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 3: If you know they can't figure out how to go,

532
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:44,679
Speaker 3: you know, day by day without giving your mom a

533
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,360
Speaker 3: stroke after being told what to do by the doctors

534
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 3: to prevent it.

535
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: In no way on you. Nope, not at all.

536
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:52,960
Speaker 3: So yeah, that's the end of that story. Oh lord,

537
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 3: you got another one, though.

538
00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 2: We have another one. We go, we got another one.

539
00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 2: But let's get to this next story. My parents disapprove

540
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:04,440
Speaker 2: of my boyfriend, especially when he asked for my hand. Well,

541
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 2: he's already got two of them. My s O and

542
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,520
Speaker 2: I have been together for about four years and I've

543
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 2: been living together since May. We have just moved across

544
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 2: the state to finish our degrees so as to be

545
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,360
Speaker 2: more employable. So O and I decided that after our

546
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 2: first semester, if we had pulled grades and proven to

547
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:23,080
Speaker 2: ourselves that we could be responsible, we would talk about

548
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 2: getting engaged. We both love each other very much and

549
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 2: know that we want to be together.

550
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Speaker 3: I just get to really quickly point out that that's

551
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 3: my favorite way getting Like the reasoning forgetting a degree

552
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:38,440
Speaker 3: has been described. Yeah, for the purposes of being more employable, eloyable.

553
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,199
Speaker 2: However they said it. Oh, I didn't say it right,

554
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,199
Speaker 2: but it was. It was funny. By the way, this

555
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 2: comes from don't hate mass Kate and if you want

556
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 2: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash

557
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Speaker 2: Okay storytime severed it.

558
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:48,919
Speaker 3: So I have to be that guy and say do

559
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 3: we all know what that means? Yes to Chew, you

560
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:53,440
Speaker 3: didn't give keyon time to not.

561
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 2: This past semester, we both made the Dean's List and

562
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 2: had our engagement talk. We decided that we do want

563
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 2: to get ma and want to take the next step.

564
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 2: He called his parents and told them he'd be asking

565
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 2: me to marry him, and they were very happy. I

566
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 2: am extremely close with my family. My family has had

567
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 2: reservations about so since we began dating. When s O

568
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:16,640
Speaker 2: and I first met, he worked and lived at a hotel.

569
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 2: I worked and lived in my own apartment. We both

570
00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 2: did not have bachelor degrees to my parents. At twenty seven,

571
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 2: Soo had no prospects as he had no degree and

572
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 2: was not in school, lived in a hotel, and barely

573
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,879
Speaker 2: made any money. After about a year of us dating,

574
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:32,960
Speaker 2: I lost my job and had to move home. I

575
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,119
Speaker 2: decided that I wanted to go back to school to

576
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: finish my degree. So So was someone I could see

577
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 2: myself with for a very long time, and I knew

578
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 2: that in order to be able to do the things

579
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 2: I wanted, get married, have a family, support myself financially.

580
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 2: I needed to have a degree. SOO agreed that he

581
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 2: should also go back to school for the same reasons.

582
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 2: I just want to say, you always go to trade school.

583
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 3: Saw such a people who have plumbing businesses make a

584
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 3: lot of money.

585
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 2: But you had to.

586
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 3: Crawl under how life every one wants to be a plumber.

587
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 3: I couldn't be a plumber because I'm so scared of bugs.

588
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 2: That's true. He decided on and associates in it. He

589
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 2: pulled straight a's and ifter around with these and c's.

590
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 2: My parents were happy that he was going back to

591
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 2: school and understood that it was a lucrative field. They

592
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 2: weren't too ecstatic about the associates, but knew that he

593
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 2: didn't need a full B bachelor's for it. Last year,

594
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 2: so and I had a discussion about our degrees. He

595
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:25,160
Speaker 2: was taking two classes and I could only afford one

596
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,880
Speaker 2: online at a time. We both agree that being full

597
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 2: time students was what we wanted and began working towards that.

598
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 2: In August, we moved across the state to attend university

599
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 2: full time. Now that we're here, we live off of

600
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:40,199
Speaker 2: financial aid, SOO could only take three classes because he

601
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,360
Speaker 2: did not get as much financial aid as I did

602
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 2: and we couldn't afford for him to take another class.

603
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 2: I feel like this is a sacrifice he has made

604
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 2: for us. My parents see it as he's only taking

605
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 2: three classes because of his extra time. They believe he

606
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,400
Speaker 2: should get a job. Our first semester, we both thought

607
00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 2: that we did not need extra money. We did not

608
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 2: budget well, and by dec we were basically broke. We

609
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 2: used holiday money and a two hundred dollars loan for

610
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 2: my parents to get by until our loans came in

611
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 2: For the next semester. I found a job that is

612
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 2: not the greatest fit for me physically, but I'm willing

613
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:13,639
Speaker 2: to do it so we have a cushion for the

614
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: summer when we do not get financial aid.

615
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 3: Their job is being uh the practice partner for like

616
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 3: a WWE wrestler.

617
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like, it's not it's not great. It does hurt.

618
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 2: The word body is taxing, but it pays all right.

619
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 2: I take four classes and VP of my academic club.

620
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 2: I put a lot of time effort into my club

621
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 2: because I truly enjoy it. Just got offered an internship

622
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,360
Speaker 2: and have a weekend job that I have not started yet.

623
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 2: I've also applied to other student jobs. He takes three classes,

624
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,200
Speaker 2: takes care of all of the household duties except cooking,

625
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 2: which I enjoy, and hangs out on the internet. To

626
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 2: my parents, my esso is a lazy, unmotivated f.

627
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 3: Up that doesn't we lost Oh no, oh, yeah, no,

628
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:01,239
Speaker 3: I mean both uh oh uh oh? And also am

629
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 3: I gonna sit like this now?

630
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 2: My back was starting to hurt? Oh boy. To my parents,

631
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:12,400
Speaker 2: myso is a lazy, unmotivated f up. Apparently he has

632
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,880
Speaker 2: no spark when he talks about his education. He does

633
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,120
Speaker 2: not love it, but knows he can make a living,

634
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 2: and they think he just goes with the motions. They

635
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 2: also think his personality is annoying. He's boisterous hipster type

636
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 2: that do those line up? Type? Those?

637
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 3: Those are usually boisterous hipsters.

638
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, what is a boisterous hipster like?

639
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, Steven Tyler, I.

640
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 2: Am a go getter. He is not. They do have

641
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 2: a point about him needing to get a job with

642
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 2: three classes. He does have the time to work, and

643
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 2: we need the money. I should not be the only

644
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 2: one working, especially because I have a lot on my plate.

645
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 2: I s agrees, but has low self esteem via employment,

646
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 2: as he only really delivered pizzas and worked as a telemarketer.

647
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,680
Speaker 2: Wait what, I'm sorry he has low self esteem about employment.

648
00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, well, I just couldn't get a so

649
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 2: I'm not going to even try. Yeah.

650
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:05,920
Speaker 3: I mean that's like, uh, you maybe you miss one

651
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 3: of the shots you don't take. You strike out one

652
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 3: hundred percent of the at bats you don't swing.

653
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 2: I understand why your parents wouldn't be cool with that.

654
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 2: Jobs are also very hard to come by in our

655
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 2: small rural town. I feel he needs to push his

656
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 2: feelings of inadequacy out of the way and just try

657
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 2: for jobs no matter what. Yeah, that's kind of life

658
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 2: advice for anyone.

659
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, you can literally h Have you heard I

660
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 3: literally just talked about Steven Tyler. Have you ever heard

661
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 3: about fake it till you make it? Literally just show

662
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 3: up and be like. I got a job and figured out.

663
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 2: So So called my parents two days ago to ask

664
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: for my dad's blessing on our engagements. My dad said

665
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: yes to so So, but I found out later that

666
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 2: he only agreed because he felt blindsided and thought, how

667
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 2: could I say no, my dad is against us getting

668
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 2: married for the time being until SOO can prove that

669
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 2: he can be a provider. Honestly not fully disagree with

670
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 2: the parents. I get where they're coming from. They're saying

671
00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 2: they want this guy who supposedly got to be marrying

672
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,719
Speaker 2: their daughter to have money.

673
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, perfectly reasonable to be well, we don't want him

674
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 3: to just be doing pizza delivery. Yeah, right, right now.

675
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 2: He doesn't even have a job. That's the thing. He

676
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 2: has zero job and he's taking three classes. That is

677
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 2: the thing. Like, dude, I was taking five to six

678
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 2: classes and I had a job, and I was doing

679
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 2: like shows, you can get a job. My mom wants

680
00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 2: me to meet someone else. I understand where my dad

681
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 2: is coming from. I truly do. But in my mind,

682
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: so SO and I going back to school was proof

683
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 2: that s SO was serious about getting his life on track. Yes,

684
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 2: but good job, good job just needs more time. Just like,

685
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 2: don't just don't rush into this.

686
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 3: He just needs more Yeah, don't get more gathering of information.

687
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 2: After his degree, he would be able to get a

688
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 2: job in his field. You will probably end up making

689
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 2: more money than I will in my field. I know,

690
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 2: we cannot survive on love alone. Love does not pay

691
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 2: the bills. My SO is my best friend. He has

692
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 2: been with me through some very tough times. He takes

693
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 2: care of me. I suffer from anxiety and can feel

694
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 2: panicky at times. He supports all of my endeavors and

695
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,479
Speaker 2: is always happy to lend a hand. He dressed up

696
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: like a Disney character for one of my club events

697
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 2: and took pictures with the kids from the community for

698
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 2: two days. He pushes me to do well as I

699
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 2: can sometimes fall into a procrastination spiral, and he does

700
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 2: everything around the house. Emotionally, he is everything I have

701
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: ever wanted in a partner. We respect each other and

702
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 2: are able to talk out our problems. We have healthy,

703
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 2: spicy sleep life, and find each other both physically and

704
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: spicy relatedly attractive. This is not to say we don't fight,

705
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 2: but we are careful when we do. I am heartbroken

706
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 2: that my parents basically said no. I am offended by

707
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 2: some of the things my mom said. Thinking about our

708
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 2: engagement had filled me with such excitement and love for MYESO,

709
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 2: and now when I think about it, I cry because

710
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: I'm so disappointed that my parents do not support us.

711
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 2: I mean, prove them wrong. You know, you could still

712
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 2: get married even without like, obviously it would be nice

713
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 2: to out their approval, but you could just be like, hey,

714
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 2: you know, bro, we'll be doing fine and then hopefully

715
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 2: they'll come around. Yeah, I mean, I mean it sucks.

716
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 3: There's more to a partnership than financial security or you know.

717
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:11,239
Speaker 3: It sounds like, you know, it sounds like you all

718
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 3: have a pretty solid thing going on. But yeah, with uh,

719
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 3: maybe that just means you aren't just ready to make

720
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 3: that move yet.

721
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 2: There's just no need to. Don't rush. It's like it's

722
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 2: not like rush's.

723
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 3: Over, you know, and you don't need their approval at

724
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 3: the end of the day, it doesn't matter.

725
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 2: That's my point. It's like maybe once you you know,

726
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 2: are successful and stuff, they'll they'll realize.

727
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 3: But also it doesn't really matter what they think anytime.

728
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 3: It's just about money too. It's like it's like, so,

729
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 3: what if I married a doctor and he was just

730
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 3: like the worst, the worst person ever.

731
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, they are only thinking about money. And again, like

732
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: to an extent, I see where they're coming from. But also, again,

733
00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 2: you can get married if you want to. Doesn't they

734
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 2: don't you know, they're not officiating. They don't have to

735
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 2: say yes.

736
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's true, you're you're getting married, not your parents.

737
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 3: But quick pause here for uh remembers. Chiliba is popping off.

738
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 3: They got a phone call that their cousin pass away

739
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 3: and there will be here tomorrow. Heartsit chat. Yeah please,

740
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 3: and I'm so sorry about that.

741
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 2: I'd be good luck. Yeah, thoughts with your thoughts with

742
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 2: you and with your family. But we're going to keep

743
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 2: reading and I hope that you know we'll be here

744
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 2: for when you get back. Yes. So and I had

745
00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 2: a long talk last night. He agrees he needs to

746
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,080
Speaker 2: get a job. He has applied to what he can

747
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 2: in our area and says he'll keep looking until something

748
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 2: sticks good. I feel like even if he does this,

749
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 2: it will not be good enough for my parents, maybe

750
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 2: that it won't be And then you know, you're like,

751
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 2: even like he is applying now and they don't even care.

752
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 2: It's like, Okay, I want to marry this man. How

753
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 2: can I continue with an engagement when no one will

754
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 2: be happy for us? I know that all that matters

755
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 2: is us, but it means a lot to me what

756
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 2: my family thinks. They're not fans of his. I do

757
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 2: not know if this will change. Ours is the healthiest

758
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 2: relationship I've ever been in, but no one seems to

759
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 2: notice that I'm not a loss. And there is an update.

760
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: Hey Sam, we're going to get back to the stories.

761
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes of bads from our sponsors.

762
00:33:57,800 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 3: And the only thing that's not healthy is the uh

763
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 3: the wallet.

764
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, look, and he's he's already said he's gonna

765
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 2: get a job. And that's you know, that was my

766
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 2: only critique. All you can do is enjoy what.

767
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 3: You have, and like you said, it's like it doesn't

768
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 3: matter what other people think. Yeah, of course you're gonna care

769
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:15,880
Speaker 3: what your parents have to say.

770
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 2: But if your parents truly love you, which I hope

771
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 2: that they do, and care about you, then they will

772
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 2: see as this relationship continues that he loves and supports

773
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,839
Speaker 2: you and is trying to better himself for your relationship,

774
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 2: and they'll and they'll come on board. But you know,

775
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 2: right now, they're not really looking at the intricacies of

776
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 2: your relationship.

777
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 3: Only two people on earth who really need to be

778
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 3: excited about you getting engaged are you and your partner

779
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 3: dingis Bot who is OPI Come on, dingus, come on,

780
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 3: come on, dingus.

781
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 2: Failure dingis, but there is an update. The first few

782
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 2: weeks after all this happened, my s O and I

783
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 2: were in a serious depressed bunk. This all hit me

784
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 2: harder than anyone for obvious reasons, and I started my

785
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 2: semester off pretty crappy, which is and good. I spoke

786
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 2: with my parents a lot after the initial sadness or off.

787
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 2: My dad stayed true to what he said that he

788
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:09,799
Speaker 2: had my best interest in mind and was worried about

789
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 2: my financial future. My mom's apologies were half hearted, but

790
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 2: we eventually got to a place of understanding. My s

791
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 2: remained hurt, humiliated, and angry for a while. He is

792
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,319
Speaker 2: still hurt and angry, but he's been able to deal

793
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 2: with his feelings better as time has gone on. We

794
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 2: went back to couples counseling and that was really helpful.

795
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:30,399
Speaker 2: He also started seeing a psychiatrist his idea and has

796
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:33,879
Speaker 2: been taking antidepressants. I am really proud of him, as

797
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 2: he comes from a family that does not believe mental

798
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 2: health is a thing. My s O and I have

799
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 2: both agreed to put off our engagement until we had

800
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 2: some savings in our bank account. That's just like smart thinking. Bizzah.

801
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 2: We got there and things were more stable, both financially

802
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 2: and emotionally between our families. He has been looking for work,

803
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 2: but he has not been able to gain employment just yet. I,

804
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 2: on the other hand, found a job and am working

805
00:35:57,320 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 2: as a social media manager at a consulting firm. Mom

806
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 2: and dad called us a few weeks ago to let

807
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 2: us know that they wanted to start over with MYSOH.

808
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 2: This is all looking good. We're on the right track.

809
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 2: They want to let go of the past and just

810
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:12,880
Speaker 2: move forward. They love me and to have my back,

811
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 2: but also understand that I love myso and that we

812
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:18,360
Speaker 2: have a very solid relationship. They do not want to

813
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 2: be the reason and we break up if that were

814
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:23,200
Speaker 2: to happen. My dad called my SOO and apologized for

815
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 2: the conversation they had when my ESSO asked him to

816
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 2: marry me. My dad felt bad about the situation and

817
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 2: let MYSO know that he is hopeful that we are

818
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 2: on our way to becoming financially secure and happy coming

819
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 2: out of us. I respect my parents a lot. I

820
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 2: am not happy with their feelings towards MYESO, but I

821
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 2: am happy that they love me enough to bring their

822
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 2: concerns to me, but respect my decisions. I'm also happy

823
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:48,160
Speaker 2: that my ESSO took this as a little hitting rock

824
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 2: bottom his words the situation and has now been getting

825
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 2: stuff in order to work love. I think that's pretty

826
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 2: much it for now. Nothing is one hundred percent and

827
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 2: it's not like this is all puppies and rainbows. But

828
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 2: things are better and I've settled down. I really like

829
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:04,879
Speaker 2: my new job and hope that MYSO will be able

830
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 2: to find employment soon. If not now, then definitely over

831
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:10,439
Speaker 2: the summer when a lot of the students go home

832
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,479
Speaker 2: for break again. Thank you so much for all the help.

833
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,360
Speaker 2: Reddit can be a really awesome place. And there is

834
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 2: a second update. We're on the right track. We are

835
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 2: on the right track and we love to see it.

836
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 2: Things are happening, things are balls rolling up. We love it.

837
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 3: Update's going to be we make a million dollars a

838
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 3: year and we have seven children and we are all

839
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 3: doing great.

840
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,919
Speaker 2: Badpool Girl says, yay, sounds like dad straight mom out. Yeah,

841
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 2: it does sound like, you know, they had a really

842
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: good talk and she was like, you know what I was,

843
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 2: I was reacting pretty harshly, And again, it does seem

844
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 2: like it's coming from a place of truth, like caring

845
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 2: about you and wanting you to have a financially stable life.

846
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 2: But it was just misguided and much.

847
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 3: Like we are never cluding fully into any given situation

848
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 3: we read about. Your parents probably aren't fully clued in

849
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 3: to you know, everything, But they just see this guy

850
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 3: who doesn't make any money.

851
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 2: Wants to wait, and now they're gonna get engaged.

852
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I worry for you.

853
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 2: I am worried. But there is a second update, so

854
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 2: this will be the last update to refresh my s oh,

855
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,800
Speaker 2: I'll call him. Brad and I were keen on getting engaged.

856
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 2: He called my dad to get the okay and blah

857
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:21,800
Speaker 2: blah blah, YadA, YadA YadA.

858
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 3: Didn't sound like a Brad. That sounded more like a Flad.

859
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 2: The way you said that. Brad fled. Since my last update,

860
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,560
Speaker 2: I have been employed by the same company since March. Congrats.

861
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 2: I love my job. I am working in my field

862
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 2: and I am very appreciated at work. Brad barely searched

863
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 2: for work.

864
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, no no no no no no no

865
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 3: no no no.

866
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 2: The ball's rolling down the hill. The ball is sissifus.

867
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,720
Speaker 3: No.

868
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 4: No.

869
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 2: He had two interviews in the time between then and

870
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 2: now January to July, he only had two interviews in

871
00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 2: six January to July. Your parents were right.

872
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 3: Maybe he's like, I'm only interviewing for positions. I feel

873
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 3: like I'm really worthy of as as someone with what

874
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 3: pizza delivery experience and telemarketing super rough When your parents

875
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 3: gonna go, I told you so, I'm only applying for

876
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 3: CEO positions and never gained employment.

877
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 2: Throughout these past few months, Brad and I have been

878
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 2: fighting a lot. I try to be supportive of his

879
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 2: search for a job, which he lied to me about

880
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 2: he never truly looked too hard, and of a schoolwork.

881
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:32,799
Speaker 2: He got straight a's again. In late March, my mom

882
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 2: was diagnosed with stage three cancer. Oh. Brad was an

883
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 2: okay support but it was hard for him as he

884
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 2: really dislikes all members of my family. Brad, I was

885
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 2: rooting for you, man, I was rooting for you, and

886
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 2: you're letting me down. By the end of the semester,

887
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 2: I was nagging Brad a lot about finding a job.

888
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 2: By this time, we actually needed the money, as our

889
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 2: student loans would run out and what I make at

890
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,840
Speaker 2: my job isn't enough to support two people, like I said,

891
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 2: and he admits this. He barely looked for work. He

892
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 2: ran out of money, and I began to support us

893
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 2: both on whatever was left of my student loans, my

894
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 2: tax return, and what I made at my job. He

895
00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:09,360
Speaker 2: spent his last cash on Devil's lettuce and T shirts. Wow,

896
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:12,839
Speaker 2: this guy sucks. He began smoking Devil's lettuce all day

897
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,839
Speaker 2: every day. We began to move further away from each other.

898
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 2: Two weeks ago, my dad passed away due to complications

899
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 2: from surgery. I am heartbroken and functioning okay, but very

900
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,919
Speaker 2: overwhelmed that my dad passed away suddenly and my mom

901
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: began chemo last week. My family is just I don't know,

902
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 2: we're pulling together. What a freaking turn. This story was

903
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:35,800
Speaker 2: going so well.

904
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 3: I mean in a way now that now you should

905
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 3: know that this is not someone you want to marry,

906
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 3: or that you're not ready to marry, or he's not

907
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 3: ready to in the moment where he needs to step

908
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:46,280
Speaker 3: up the hardest.

909
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 2: He is now fully gone to sleep. At the time

910
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 2: of my dad's death, Brad was just not emotionally available.

911
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 2: He was of no support to me. At my dad Shiva,

912
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 2: Brad was incredibly rude to my family and myself. I

913
00:40:58,200 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 2: barely spoke to him the rest of the time I

914
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 2: was back home. When we both got back into town,

915
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 2: I broke up with him. Yeah yeah, yeah, yep. We

916
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 2: are currently living in the same house until my apartment

917
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 2: is ready in August. He wants to stay friends.

918
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 3: Why Why would I want to be friends with someone

919
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 3: like you?

920
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 2: Why would I want to be friends with someone who

921
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:19,719
Speaker 2: doesn't support me when my parent passes away? Why would

922
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 2: want that? Oh?

923
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:23,359
Speaker 3: Things are reading hard. I've become emotionally unavailable. Sorry about

924
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 3: that bad friend.

925
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:26,800
Speaker 2: He wants to say, friends, I'm not sure what I want.

926
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 2: I think you are I don't I think you know

927
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 2: what you want. At this moment, he is out buying

928
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 2: Devil's let us with our friend while I wait at

929
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 2: our house for his parents to come as they're visiting

930
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: for the next few days. His priority is are super aft.

931
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 2: I am happy to moving into my new place and

932
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,359
Speaker 2: to start the next chapter of my life. I just

933
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,719
Speaker 2: wish my dad was here to see it. And there

934
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 2: is a nine year update.

935
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:51,400
Speaker 1: Hey it's Sam. We're going to get back to these stories.

936
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:53,720
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes of ads for our sponsors.

937
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 2: There's a nine year update of folks, and I'm really

938
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 2: open that it's. Oh he's super happy and married and

939
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 2: has is rich. Yeah, wow, this guy sucks.

940
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 3: Okay, so they're gonna be like, so remember that guy

941
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 3: who abandoned me. They're like, he came up with an

942
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 3: app and it made seventy eight trillion dollars. Yeah, you're

943
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,759
Speaker 3: something like He'll be like, it's just gonna just be

944
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 3: another switch to root.

945
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 2: But yes, correct move. I don't know.

946
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 3: You break up if you can't swallow your own crap

947
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 3: at someone's funeral.

948
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:30,359
Speaker 2: Ridiculous to everyone there. Be respectful at a funeral, Dude,

949
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 2: it's your partner's dead.

950
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:35,839
Speaker 3: Come on you and you're what, Yeah, I just don't go.

951
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:38,320
Speaker 2: Just don't go. If you're gonna be respectful, I'm.

952
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:42,920
Speaker 3: Gonna be angsty in like a I look, there's just

953
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:43,799
Speaker 3: nothing left to be said.

954
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 2: No, Miss jay Bird says ex's a loser. Parents clocked it.

955
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:50,280
Speaker 2: Sometimes your parents are right? Did you just smell it them?

956
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:53,800
Speaker 2: Nine years later, it's been nine years since I wrote

957
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,760
Speaker 2: those updates. I reread them today and I just cried

958
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 2: at all the comments saying how wonderful my dad was

959
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,479
Speaker 2: and now my parents were looking out for me. They were,

960
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 2: They absolutely were. Soon after my dad passed away, my

961
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:09,760
Speaker 2: mom followed about eighteen months later. Oh so sorry, Opete.

962
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:12,359
Speaker 2: I left my university city and moved home to take

963
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 2: care of her. My family was with her when she passed.

964
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: We were so lucky to have been there together. After

965
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 2: Brad and I broke up, we stayed friends for a

966
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 2: while and he turned out to be a better friend

967
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 2: than boyfriend for a bit. He moved away and I

968
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 2: moved back home to take care of my mom. I

969
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 2: met a guy about a month after I moved home,

970
00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: I'll call Frank. Frank and I dated for a few years,

971
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 2: and during that time Brad moved home. We hung out

972
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,320
Speaker 2: once or twice, but it felt awkward, so I distanced

973
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 2: myself a little. The nail in Brad's coffin was when

974
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 2: his mom had an accident and passed away, and he

975
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 2: said a lot of nasty things to me.

976
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 3: Ah.

977
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 2: I know it was the grief talking, but I just

978
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 2: didn't want to be his friend anymore and deal with

979
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 2: his mood swings. Frank and my relationship blossomed. He was

980
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 2: such a huge support when my mom passed away and

981
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 2: took such great care of me. He's like no one

982
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 2: I had ever been with. We moved in together, and

983
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 2: then we got engaged and married. We'll be married three

984
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 2: years soon. We bought a house. We've been together for

985
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: seven years. Sometimes you know, you have to go through

986
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:08,359
Speaker 2: a couple of frogs to buy in your.

987
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 3: Prints, and sometimes your prince is a frog disguised as

988
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 3: a frog.

989
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:15,839
Speaker 2: And sometimes you can find full episodes of stories just

990
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 2: like this if you go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or

991
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 2: iHeartRadio and search of Pokes story time. There is a

992
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 2: teensy bit left to this story, and I think we've

993
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 2: said all that. We've got to say. The caffeine's making

994
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 2: my eyeballs. I have to be so bad. Yeah, we're

995
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 2: gonna hit this story.

996
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 3: I think we all simultaneously just do the moment of like.

997
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 2: As SI at the beginning of this story, I've been dying,

998
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,680
Speaker 2: so I got to finish the story up. Frank and

999
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 2: my siblings get along so well. We all hang out

1000
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 2: all the time, and it's so nice to have my

1001
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 2: family around all the time. Again, I know my parents

1002
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 2: would have loved Frank. He is so kind and loving

1003
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 2: and funny too. My friends and family adore him. I

1004
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 2: feel lucky to have come through such heartbreak. Things aren't perfect,

1005
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:59,279
Speaker 2: are they ever? And I deal with my grief every day,

1006
00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 2: but I have so many loving people around me that

1007
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 2: show me they care, and I feel happy most days.

1008
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 2: I miss my mom and dad so much. I'm just

1009
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:09,399
Speaker 2: grateful for the love they gave me when they were here.

1010
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story and the

1011
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 2: end of the episode and the end of that episode. Ah,

1012
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 2: that's not quite the stay here, and we have to

1013
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 2: speak your final life thoughts. Findal thoughts to anyone out

1014
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 2: there whose family members are critical of your partner, Just

1015
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,239
Speaker 2: just take a minute, take a minute, listen to what

1016
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,439
Speaker 2: they're saying, and try and see if you can parse out.

1017
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 2: Is there criticism coming from a place of genuine love

1018
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 2: and care for you and like slight worry or is

1019
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 2: it coming from a place of night and I'm critical

1020
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:49,200
Speaker 2: of everything that you ever done and I hate everyone

1021
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 2: you ever bring home from you know, is it coming

1022
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 2: from that or they're just a little bit worried because

1023
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 2: oh maybe we have a little bit more live experience

1024
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 2: for you know, than you, because we're older than you

1025
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 2: and we send that you know, maybe maybe you guys

1026
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:02,839
Speaker 2: are not ready for this.

1027
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:06,320
Speaker 3: Nobody in this life has a crystal ball that tells

1028
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 3: them the future, but sometimes people have gone through things

1029
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:13,839
Speaker 3: that afford them more insight to given the situation, and.

1030
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:16,799
Speaker 2: You can, you know, before you immediately write it all off,

1031
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 2: take a minute, you know, listen to the advice, and

1032
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,839
Speaker 2: then try and decide does this advice supply.

1033
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 3: Or no based on where he ended up going with

1034
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 3: his behavior. I feel like there were probably some pretty.

1035
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 2: Like pretty big.

1036
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,840
Speaker 3: I mean, he could have obvious red flags.

1037
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,719
Speaker 2: He was taking three classes and living off of Ope's

1038
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 2: money and alone, So you know, would this be considered

1039
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 2: a happy ending? I think so he's living. I mean,

1040
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,359
Speaker 2: obviously we've got a lot of hardship in her life,

1041
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 2: but you know, most like very few people live life

1042
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:52,239
Speaker 2: without any hardship. And she got she got, you know,

1043
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 2: she got love from it in the end. So I

1044
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 2: think that's as happy as it could be. But very

1045
00:46:59,239 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 2: very very sorry for your kids. I don't know, I

1046
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:04,280
Speaker 2: don't think so, I don't that I know of. Samantha

1047
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 2: Ali says when parents say things like that, it's usually

1048
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 2: because they have life experience and are sometimes right. But that, folks,

1049
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 2: is the end of that story. And the end of

1050
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 2: this episode, so if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

1051
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