Speaker 1: Amy and TJ presents Aubrey Oday covering the Diddy Trial.
Speaker 2: Hey guys, this is Aubrey from Amy and TJ presents
Speaker 2: Aubrey O Day V covering the trial. I really am
Speaker 2: so happy that you guys have been calling in and
Speaker 2: utilizing that hotline that we gave you. We got tons
Speaker 2: of voice messages text messages into our hotline and I
Speaker 2: definitely want to go through a few of them today
Speaker 2: for you. I'd love to continue to answer any questions
Speaker 2: you have regarding the trial, So why don't we take
Speaker 2: one of the messages.
Speaker 3: Hi, Aubrey, my name is Nicole. I'm from Indiana. We've
Speaker 3: actually met a couple times in Chicago. I do have
Speaker 3: a question. I would just like to know what you
Speaker 3: went through in making the band because I have followed
Speaker 3: Danity Kine for years, and what are your emotional scars
Speaker 3: and trauma from this and how do you heal from this?
Speaker 3: And I just want to thank you for cover this
Speaker 3: because the world needs to hear it.
Speaker 2: Nicole from Indiana, that was such a thoughtful message, and
Speaker 2: thank you so much for having supported me since that
Speaker 2: long ago two decades and some change.
Speaker 4: What did I go through on making the band.
Speaker 2: I mean, I experienced a pattern of emotional manipulation through grooming,
Speaker 2: rituals of control, physical mistreatment that I can't necessarily get
Speaker 2: into the extent of, and I'm still trying to understand
Speaker 2: the extent of to this day.
Speaker 4: So far.
Speaker 2: It was a deeply transformative period in which my sense
Speaker 2: of self as a woman was shaped through the gaze
Speaker 2: and influence of someone whose behavior we now understand was
Speaker 2: deeply rooted in darkness. I'm trying to think, you know,
Speaker 2: I'm forty one now, and I was a child when
Speaker 2: I started, and I was systematic positioned as the scapegoat
Speaker 2: for the disillusion of Danity Kane and the decline of
Speaker 2: making the band and basically the whole franchise, and a
Speaker 2: narrative was crafted, both allegedly internally and definitely absolutely publicly,
Speaker 2: and it painted me as difficult, not group oriented, and
Speaker 2: ultimately that I was a harmful person to business and
Speaker 2: when you're in his position like that and branded like
Speaker 2: that on national TV, especially on MTV, which was kind
Speaker 2: of like the network to go to at the time.
Speaker 2: The humiliation of having me go through all of that
Speaker 2: and then sit through three part finales where Diddy's in
Speaker 2: a robe in Miami, smoking a cigar and I'm on
Speaker 2: stage alone with no support, like trying to be as
Speaker 2: brave as I possibly could. But truly, you know, they
Speaker 2: ensured through runs that the whole world got the picture
Speaker 2: that they intended to give me. And over time, that
Speaker 2: narrative not only distorted how the world saw me, but
Speaker 2: how I saw myself. And if I didn't play into
Speaker 2: that narrative, I was left without work. And over time
Speaker 2: I also felt because of that narrative that the most
Speaker 2: important thing that I had to offer any relationship was
Speaker 2: my sexuality, personal and work. It's kind of it boxed
Speaker 2: me into a place where I almost believed the messaging myself.
Speaker 2: For a very long period of time, I had a
Speaker 2: lot of dark days. I was left without work, and
Speaker 2: over time that narrative was kind of like stripping me
Speaker 2: of the complexity, talent, intellect and the value that I
Speaker 2: truly bring to the table. And it really forced me
Speaker 2: to fight for an identity during my entire career that
Speaker 2: I never consented too. And only now am I finding
Speaker 2: myself being able to set the appropriate boundaries and make
Speaker 2: sure that I'm only doing work that I can sent
Speaker 2: to and that.
Speaker 4: Aligns with the purpose that I feel.
Speaker 2: I wish my life could have started at back when
Speaker 2: I was just a kid.
Speaker 5: Hi, Yes, I'm calling in. My name is CALLI, and
Speaker 5: I just wanted to really comment about, for me, as
Speaker 5: a survivor of domestic abuse, how triggering Cassie's testimony was
Speaker 5: to hear and how discussing I think it is for
Speaker 5: people to comment on how a DV survivor should act,
Speaker 5: or when she should leave, or what she should do
Speaker 5: when you've never been in that situation. I was with
Speaker 5: a man twenty years. He didn't have nearly as much
Speaker 5: money or thatcher or pull as Ditty, and it took
Speaker 5: me twenty years to away from that man.
Speaker 2: Kelly, I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through,
Speaker 2: especially for twenty years. I can't imagine the damage and
Speaker 2: the toll that that took on your soul. And I
Speaker 2: am just sending so much positivity and healing and.
Speaker 4: Self love your way.
Speaker 2: I pray that you're surrounded in a bubble by it
Speaker 2: for the rest of your life on this earth.
Speaker 4: You deserve so much.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 2: To answer your question in regards to DV through my
Speaker 2: own experience, abuse happens in cycles. It doesn't happen all
Speaker 2: at once. I think that's something that people aren't truly getting.
Speaker 2: In my personal experience, I would experience love, this incredible,
Speaker 2: beautiful love that made me feel like especially from somebody
Speaker 2: that had a you know, much more established presence, more money,
Speaker 2: more power, more of a reputation and a fan base
Speaker 2: than me. I remember nights where I would go into
Speaker 2: the bathroom and lift my shirt up and like lay
Speaker 2: on the marble tile just so I could feel something
Speaker 2: real because everything around me was so foreign and didn't
Speaker 2: didn't know me.
Speaker 4: I didn't even know what I was seeing me do
Speaker 4: and be.
Speaker 2: And then that's followed up by an apology of course,
Speaker 2: and sometimes gifts depending on you know, if the guy
Speaker 2: has money or not, and so then you kind of
Speaker 2: lose sight of all the trauma.
Speaker 4: It never goes away.
Speaker 2: I don't think you ever talk it outside of your body,
Speaker 2: even in therapy or any types of alternative healing. I
Speaker 2: think you just learn to create boundaries that you know
Speaker 2: will established that you're never going to be in a
Speaker 2: situation like that again, and that's where your power really
Speaker 2: comes from. But a lot of people don't underst stand
Speaker 2: trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement. It's basically like love followed
Speaker 2: by cruelty. It conditions the brain to crave approval from
Speaker 2: the very person that's harming you, and that is the
Speaker 2: part that keeps us there for like in your case,
Speaker 2: twenty years, it's just this constant cycle of trauma bonding.
Speaker 2: And then also there's shame, there's judgment and coming forward
Speaker 2: and telling people and that this was key for me,
Speaker 2: there's identity erosion. I didn't feel talented, smart, successful, beautiful.
Speaker 2: I mean I was being made fun of constantly. So
Speaker 2: the identity erosion for me was so big, and I
Speaker 2: think it's so big for so many women when I
Speaker 2: hear how long they stay, and when they're very long lengths,
Speaker 2: it usually has to do with a low self worth
Speaker 2: And it doesn't necessarily mean that you went into the
Speaker 2: relationship with that, but the ident the erosion is a
Speaker 2: big part. It just breaks you down, isolates you, and
Speaker 2: it convinces you that what's hurting you is the only
Speaker 2: thing that's holding you together as well. So at the
Speaker 2: end of the day, I really want to make it
Speaker 2: clear victims do not stay because they're weak. They stay
Speaker 2: because abuse rewires their reality.
Speaker 1: Hey, Aubrey, this is Jean Pierre bon Jovi. No one
Speaker 1: has been discussing the alleged remarks of how everyone within
Speaker 1: the you know, the bad boy circle who was really
Speaker 1: close to him, and we will have to tell all
Speaker 1: books mysteriously all I died from these same issues, which
Speaker 1: was demonia at very young, at a very young age,
Speaker 1: with no prior history.
Speaker 2: Okay, Jean Paul, this is a little bit more and
Speaker 2: I'll listen. If we if this was like Aubrey not
Speaker 2: in her professional blazer, I would just serve you the tea.
Speaker 4: But because we are, you know.
Speaker 2: We're taking this very seriously and we're reporting on this
Speaker 2: trial accurately.
Speaker 4: I can just discuss your question.
Speaker 2: By using things that are occurring and that have been
Speaker 2: in the new news and media without giving you my
Speaker 2: personal thoughts on the situation. But you're right, there have
Speaker 2: been several figures who have been a part of Diddy's
Speaker 2: professional and personal circle, artist, producers, bodyguards, assistants that I've
Speaker 2: died young, often with causes listed as pneumonia, cardiac arrest,
Speaker 2: undisclosed causes or accidents with limited follow up in public records,
Speaker 2: and even allegedly murder. You know, KVD came forward in
Speaker 2: the courtroom and shouted out, Puffy offered me this amount
Speaker 2: of money to kill Pok. I mean that's in transcripts,
Speaker 2: on record, on legal record. Now that's allegedly according to him.
Speaker 2: I'm assuming that if at some point the FEDS want
Speaker 2: to look deeper into any of this is more of
Speaker 2: like the rack tearing side of charges, that there could
Speaker 2: these things could be followed up on, and that the
Speaker 2: appropriate amount of time and investigation could be given into
Speaker 2: any of these situations.
Speaker 4: Most recently, the example that I can think of.
Speaker 2: Is I'll be sure he has come forward and been
Speaker 2: very vocal about the suspicion the suspicious deaths, especially in
Speaker 2: regards to the twoenty twenty two coma that he fell into,
Speaker 2: claiming that he was almost murdered and that foul play
Speaker 2: was involved that he believes Ditty was involved with allegedly,
Speaker 2: and he also allegedly pointed to Kim Porter's twenty eighteen death,
Speaker 2: officially from pneumonia as very suspicious and potentially something that
Speaker 2: Ditty was allegedly involved in. I know that he's written
Speaker 2: a book, and he also said that he was subpoena
Speaker 2: for this trial. I don't know that we'll hear from him,
Speaker 2: and I don't know what details the book has it,
Speaker 2: but there are people that are coming forward and making
Speaker 2: very very strong, serious allegations in regards to what you're discussing.
Speaker 2: But I do want to make clear that there's no
Speaker 2: verified evidence yet that Diddy is connected to anyone's death.
Speaker 2: And just because you go down rabbit holes on YouTube
Speaker 2: or see a bunch of TikTokers put something together, take
Speaker 2: all of that with a grain of salt. These are
Speaker 2: very serious charges and they do need to be proved.
Speaker 2: But the volume of allegations emerging, whistleblowers, suspicious timings of
Speaker 2: some of the deaths, I don't think it's unreasonable for people,
Speaker 2: even like I'll be sure to publicly question the official stories.
Speaker 2: It's circumstantial, but it's troubling, very troubling.
Speaker 1: Hi, my name is Ryan, So let me just say
Speaker 1: that this podcast is the only coverage that I have
Speaker 1: been obsessed with, the only one that I have been
Speaker 1: sending people. So my question is, while he's away, do
Speaker 1: you think that he has people keeping their eyes and
Speaker 1: ears to the streets in terms of like what movest
Speaker 1: publication is spreading X Y z about him? Who's saying
Speaker 1: this about him?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 1: What now? So he can have people carry out dirty
Speaker 1: work for him?
Speaker 2: I love these questions because normally I'm covering trial stuff,
Speaker 2: which you know is all the legal technical stuff. But
Speaker 2: this is what the streets really want to know. So
Speaker 2: thank you for your question. Does he have people carrying
Speaker 2: out potential dirty work while he is in jail during
Speaker 2: this trial? In my opinion, yes, it's entirely possible in theory.
Speaker 2: It's also historically not uncommon in cases involving powerful, wealthy
Speaker 2: individuals facing serious federal charges.
Speaker 4: So I do want to.
Speaker 2: Though, break down some things that can be related back
Speaker 2: to trial that could suggest that this is absolutely likely occurring.
Speaker 2: There are multiple lawsuits and testimonies Cassie kid cut Ema
Speaker 2: that have claimed that phones were monitored, associates were being
Speaker 2: stalked or followed, victims feared retaliation, a whole lot of
Speaker 2: that going on, a whole lot of that going on
Speaker 2: that for years prior to anyone even understanding that all
Speaker 2: of this was going to come out.
Speaker 4: That scared a lot of us.
Speaker 2: And then a lot of testimony that people were paid
Speaker 2: or pressured to stay quiet. All of that is alleged
Speaker 2: during testimony, and those would all those would all lean
Speaker 2: toward yes being the answer to your question. Also, I
Speaker 2: do want to say during the bail hearings, federal prosecutors
Speaker 2: presented compelling evidence suggesting that he engaged in witness tampering
Speaker 2: while incarcerated. There were unauthorized communications from jail, There were
Speaker 2: seized handwritten notes, there were social media campaigns. I remember
Speaker 2: at one point hearing a call between him and his
Speaker 2: children somewhere near his birthday or on his birthday, and
Speaker 2: him kind of like yelling at them to make sure
Speaker 2: to get that video out with his baby on the
Speaker 2: table and them all singing Happy birthday, and they were
Speaker 2: Someone was like, hey, Dad, like the lawyers are saying
Speaker 2: we shouldn't do that. That's not a good look. They
Speaker 2: said to like, absolutely not post that. And he was
Speaker 2: basically like, I don't give a fuck. It's my birthday.
Speaker 2: Post it up. I don't care what they say. And
Speaker 2: that kind of showed me. I mean, that's all like,
Speaker 2: you know, paraphrasing the overall idea that I got from it,
Speaker 2: But basically that's saying to me that.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 2: It wasn't even really about the genuine connection that he
Speaker 2: was having with his kids on his birthday. It was
Speaker 2: him wanting to prove to the world that he's still
Speaker 2: on his birthday and maybe show all the support his
Speaker 2: kids are giving him, to show some type of humanity
Speaker 2: in favor of him prior.
Speaker 4: To going into trial.
Speaker 2: But as far as the unauthorized communications from jail, he
Speaker 2: was using other inmates' phone access codes to make calls.
Speaker 2: Allegedly there were three way calls where a party would
Speaker 2: call somebody and he'd be having conversations with them. He
Speaker 2: was using a service called contact Me ASAP to reach
Speaker 2: unauthorized individuals. There was also in his third attempt, I mean,
Speaker 2: the man attempted three times to bail out and did not,
Speaker 2: and the third one was contested a bit, but that's rare.
Speaker 2: Normally you are able to bail out if the judge
Speaker 2: does not see you as a risk or threat. And
Speaker 2: there was one point in which they were able to
Speaker 2: show a potential line of payment to somebody who had
Speaker 2: come forward in the media and made accusations about certain
Speaker 2: people that were involved with the trial being you know,
Speaker 2: wanting the parties, wanting the lifestyle, and being inconsistent to
Speaker 2: you know, what she experienced during her time with him.
Speaker 2: But you know they were able to trace the money
Speaker 2: on that and it didn't end up working. And the
Speaker 2: judicial findings at the end of the day, I can
Speaker 2: read them to you. The US District Judge sub Romanian
Speaker 2: denied bail, stating that there was compelling evidence of Combe's
Speaker 2: propensity for violence and a serious risk of witness tampering.
Speaker 2: The judge expressed doubt that any combination of conditions could
Speaker 2: reasonably assure the safety of the community or prevent further
Speaker 2: obstruction of justice. So with that being said, those are
Speaker 2: the judges words. There's been a concern for it prior
Speaker 2: to this trial, and I don't think that concerns like
Speaker 2: that and behavior like that wrapped themselves up within a
Speaker 2: tight little period of time that it's been since bailing,
Speaker 2: since his bail requests and his trial began. So yes,
Speaker 2: I would suggest it's a real possibility and let's see
Speaker 2: what happens. You know, that's in the jury's hands at
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