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Speaker 1: Fly from the Mercedes Fins interview lounge. I gotta tell you,

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Speaker 1: we have had a long, long conversation about the middle

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Speaker 1: child versus the oldest child versus youngest child, your birthplace

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Speaker 1: in your family. So, Tommy d Dario's here, Hi, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: can you turn his microp? I'm scary? Are you there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I'm here? Can you hear me?

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Speaker 2: Hear me?

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Speaker 1: Scary? Are you having a stroke? Are you okay? Something

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Speaker 1: gonna look right in our computer? Is something in the milk?

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Speaker 1: Ate clean? Is that the concept? All right? So Tommy

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Speaker 1: Nadario's here, let's just start over. Hi Tommy, Hello everybody.

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Speaker 1: So you are the oldest of two basically, then you

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Speaker 1: have some step siblings, and so you're the oldest. Why

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Speaker 1: are you aging me?

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Speaker 2: I'm the youngest of too. My sister's older than me,

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Speaker 2: and then I have two brothers. I'm from my dad's remains.

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Speaker 1: Stop aging me up? What the hell he's already getting beligerate?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. Anyway, we just had to this conversation

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Speaker 1: about oldest versus middle versus youngest child. Just to make

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Speaker 1: it simple, the text messages were by the thousands. This

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Speaker 1: really hit a nerve with all these people talking about

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Speaker 1: where fit in in their family. So Tommy, I asked, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: so in your friend group, are you like the leader

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Speaker 1: without hesitation, said, well, I'm the leader. Yeah. Is that

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Speaker 1: a problem. Of course I am. But I also said,

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Speaker 1: when you move from friend group to friend groups, sometimes

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Speaker 2: Oh god, I'm your punching bag. Here, I'm your punching bag.

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Speaker 2: Here's all right, the total middle child. But I agree

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Speaker 2: with you. Your role does change in every single group,

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Speaker 2: and some groups I'm more of the observer and I

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Speaker 1: You know, their groups. I'm the leader, you know. It's

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Speaker 1: just it is what it is. I know. Okay. So,

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Speaker 1: by the way, I was looking at the numbers, your

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Speaker 1: podcast is doing very well. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 1: I love it. I love it. I've never said this

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Speaker 1: before with Tommy to Dario, but he does this new

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Speaker 1: feature on there now what's officially called it's called Tommy Talks.

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Speaker 1: Tommy Talks. Okay, so you actually you're actually dishing out

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Speaker 1: advice or just hearing giving up perspective.

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Speaker 2: Shocking, I know, very shocking. So yeah, every Tuesday it's

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Speaker 2: still an interview that drops, and every Friday, our boy,

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Speaker 2: Andrew Piglasi, had this idea for me to do these

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Speaker 2: little ten minute, bite size interviews where I give advice

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Speaker 2: based off things that have gone on in my life.

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Speaker 2: So they're very topical, you know, they're very I describe

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Speaker 2: it as if dear Abby and Carrie Bradshaw had a baby.

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Speaker 1: There.

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Speaker 2: I am this Italian American millennial from Jersey who may

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Speaker 2: or may not wear a T shirt that's a little

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Speaker 2: I've lived. I've lived, so yeah, so topics are really

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Speaker 2: interesting and fun. We launched with when is it time

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Speaker 2: to let go of a friendship?

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Speaker 2: And we have had all sorts of topics from you know,

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Speaker 1: It's just the one for us.

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Speaker 2: This one's for you guys. This is okay, okay, this

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Speaker 2: Should you tell your friend that their boyfriend or girlfriend sucks?

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Speaker 1: Truth. Well, yeah, you know you do. You do accidentally, Well,

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Speaker 1: Because I've been in relationship where people did tell me,

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Speaker 1: But A surely, So your advice is kind of weird,

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Speaker 1: Tommy's saying with toxic relationships. My very very best friend

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Speaker 2: I guess well, and I did say marrying this person

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, I'm just a right line twenty is uh?

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Speaker 1: I think Carolyn. Carolyn. Just by the way, Carolyn just

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Speaker 5: listen to an Elvis episode on repeat, and I went, oh, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: But I don't know. All right, Tommy, thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for coming in. Who do you have to thank you?

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Speaker 1: What do you have on? I've never said this before?

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Speaker 2: Joseph Morgan, who paid played Klaus the villain, is on,

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Speaker 2: so he's on with his wife Persia, who's also a

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Speaker 2: And Tommy Talks. Tune into Tommy Talks every Friday.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, I know sometimes you you do

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Speaker 1: It's always an honor to be in here. I do.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for leaving it the way you found it.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Not everybody does that type a Italian. I

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Speaker 1: do what I can, I do what I can. You're lucky.

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Speaker 1: I'm not swifting your table when I leave to else. Yes,

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Speaker 1: watch out for the watch up for the following. Tommy Ddariel,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming in, Toms, I love you. Yes,

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