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Speaker 1: All right time now, guys for today's Strawberry Letter and

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Speaker 1: Subject variety is the spice of life, right, Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I met a guy that I thought would be the

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Speaker 1: man of my dreams when we first met. He's a

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Speaker 1: man of God and he would be a great father

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Speaker 1: and husband to the right woman. But that woman is

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Speaker 1: not me. I have a very high sex drive and

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Speaker 1: this guy can't keep up, so I lost interest in

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Speaker 1: him and we broke up. He still takes me out

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Speaker 1: and very nice dates, and he visits me in my

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Speaker 1: family every week and hopes that we might get back together.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, I'm at another guy and he's willing

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Speaker 1: and able to fulfill my sexual needs, but that is

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Speaker 1: about it. I would not consider him as boyfriend material.

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Speaker 1: He's more of a side piece type of guy. I

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Speaker 1: was honest with my main guy and told him about

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Speaker 1: my side piece. The main guy says he loves me,

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Speaker 1: but for us to continue to date, I have to

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Speaker 1: let the side piece go. So here's my big issue.

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Speaker 1: To be honest, I actually enjoy having two guys, no

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Speaker 1: one one that I can go out on dates with

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Speaker 1: and the other one that I can just have wild

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Speaker 1: sex with whenever I want. Yes, I want my cake

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Speaker 1: and eat it too. I don't want to lose my

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Speaker 1: main guy or the side piece, So I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: figure out how to make it work. Men do it,

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Speaker 1: so why can't I? Until I am really ready to

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Speaker 1: settle down. Variety is the spice of life, right, So

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Speaker 1: what should I do? Hey, you're single? Right, listen? Who

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Speaker 1: am I to judge? Okay? Do you boo? No one

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Speaker 1: has ever said that men are the only ones who

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Speaker 1: can't be players. Men and women, Yes, women do it

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Speaker 1: every single day. The difference here is though, that you

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Speaker 1: told you're you know, you're a so called main guy

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Speaker 1: about your side piece. That usually doesn't happen. Guys usually

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Speaker 1: don't tell, They just lie, you know, and asked about

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Speaker 1: cheating and stuff. So um, you know that's a little different.

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Speaker 1: For you to just be so transparent and open about it.

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Speaker 1: I'm shocked that you're your guy is still hanging in

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Speaker 1: there with you quite frankly, knowing all of this. Um,

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Speaker 1: but he did give you an ultimatum, you know, choose

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Speaker 1: the other guy or him. So I mean, you do

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Speaker 1: what you want. It's your life. Um, you're you're you're single.

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Speaker 1: You know you've heard the saying it's a double standard.

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Speaker 1: Women can't do what men doing all that. Um, it's

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Speaker 1: your life. I'm not judging you on this one. I'm

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Speaker 1: really not Do whatever you want to do and see

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Speaker 1: how it works out for you. If it's going so far,

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Speaker 1: so good, then keep doing it. You're probably young anyway.

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Speaker 1: You didn't get give your age, do you boom? Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm jeligh because you wrote it in here, you must

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Speaker 1: want to be judged. So this is strawberry letter. We judge,

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Speaker 1: We give our opinions on it or whether you like

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Speaker 1: it or not. If you didn't want it, you wouldn't

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Speaker 1: have wrote in Now. If you're gonna just do you

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Speaker 1: do you boot, then what's the damn letter fault? Just

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Speaker 1: gonna do you boo? But that ain't what's going on.

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Speaker 1: You really got a little situation here, let me walk

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Speaker 1: you through it. Later. I thought it be you met

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Speaker 1: this man. You thought he was a guy your dreams

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Speaker 1: man and god be a great father and husband to

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Speaker 1: the right woman. But that woman's not me because see,

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Speaker 1: you got this high sex driver. He just couldn't keep

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Speaker 1: up with you. So you broke up with to do

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Speaker 1: because he can't bring it airy time, you won't. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna break up, you obviously ain't in love.

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Speaker 1: So you know, Mike, we're gonna break up for something. Hell,

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Speaker 1: it's either to add them money. So so you broke

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Speaker 1: up with him, so damn. But here goes your problem.

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Speaker 1: He ain't want to drop it at that, so he

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Speaker 1: kept coming back, taking you out on wonderful dates. He

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Speaker 1: can get back together. Now. He got feelings for you

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Speaker 1: that you ain't got for him. But in the meantime,

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Speaker 1: you didn't met another man willing to fulfill your sexual needs.

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Speaker 1: But that's about it. In other words, you didn't met

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Speaker 1: somebody that's just breaking it. Frying that bacon flipping didn't payancakes,

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Speaker 1: bacon your beans, grilling you can't fish. Come on now

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Speaker 1: cleaning your chiddling. Oh remember you gott a man. It

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Speaker 1: is shocking your coin. Come on now, Yeah, he didn't

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Speaker 1: here doing nothing. He feeling that potent. That's what he's doing.

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Speaker 1: That's what he's doing. You know what he Yeah, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what he's doing. He is a brothel. You just

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Speaker 1: put it in. He just get your juice back. He

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Speaker 1: ain't no man of guy. He ain't no great father,

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Speaker 1: ain't no good hud with Lord, have mercy. Whenever you wanted,

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Speaker 1: he got it for you. But it ain't got nothing

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Speaker 1: else here, barbie que you. But he ain't got money

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Speaker 1: for charcoal and light of flu. Come on now, he'll

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Speaker 1: pillow potato, but you got to buy the sack. Come

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Speaker 1: on now, I'm I'm just telling it like it is now.

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Speaker 1: I'm honest with your main guy. And you told him

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Speaker 1: about your side peace. Your main guys stupid. This is

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Speaker 1: what your main guys said. He loves me, But I

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Speaker 1: for y'all to continue to date, I have to let

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Speaker 1: the side peace go. You said. So here's my big issue.

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Speaker 1: I actually enjoy having two guys, one that I can

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Speaker 1: go out with on dates and other ones that I

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Speaker 1: could just have wild sexually whatever I want. Yes, I

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Speaker 1: want my cake and eat it too. Everybody won't take

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Speaker 1: and don't pay taxes. Amen, I wish they had I

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Speaker 1: water in Helle, and the list goes old and own it.

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Speaker 1: Don't nobody give a damn. But you want to have

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Speaker 1: your cake and eat it too. This life, you don't

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Speaker 1: get to have your cake and eat it too. I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna gonna put the nail in it for you.

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Speaker 1: When we come back, we'll have parton two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three after the hour. Variety

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Speaker 1: is the spice of life. Right right after this, you're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter. Variety is

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Speaker 1: the spice of life. Right simple woman met where she

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Speaker 1: like wild sex all the time. He can't keep up.

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Speaker 1: She got mad, broke up with it, but the man

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Speaker 1: Gone weeks, with her families and everything, but she just

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Speaker 1: is designed like a shock, is designed to hunt in

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Speaker 1: the water. He a killer, but all he can do

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Speaker 1: is have sex. He can't buy no room to have

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Speaker 1: you to make you feel good before you have sex.

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Speaker 1: All he can do is come in there with some sex.

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Speaker 1: So now you have a decision to make you stupid.

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Speaker 1: Aston told your main guy that you got the side piece.

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Speaker 1: He hadn't told you he loved you. Still want to date,

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Speaker 1: but you gotta let the side piece go. Then, to

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Speaker 1: be honest, I actually like having two guys to go

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Speaker 1: out on date with and one that I can just

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Speaker 1: have wild sexual or whenever I want to. Then she said, yes,

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Speaker 1: I want my caking into everybody. Do everybody do? Hell?

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Speaker 1: I want to chilenge without having to clean up. No,

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Speaker 1: I was just fitting into this to this thing. I'm

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Speaker 1: bro I don't really eat chiless no more. But when

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Speaker 1: I did though, Yeah, I'm vegan right now, Let's see

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Speaker 1: how long this is. Now here's a problem. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to lose my main guy or the side piece,

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Speaker 1: so I'm trying to figure out how to make it work.

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Speaker 1: Here's where she wrong. Men do it, So why can't

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Speaker 1: I until I'm ready to settle down? Variety is the

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Speaker 1: spice of life, right, So what should I do? Well,

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Speaker 1: here's a deal. Here's your whole problem. If you think

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Speaker 1: variety is a spice of life, but you said it

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Speaker 1: until you're ready to settle down, Well, you're not ready

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Speaker 1: to settle down. That's why you can't see the good

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Speaker 1: All this is a waste of me in Sherley's time,

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Speaker 1: you're not ready to settle down. You want to have

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Speaker 1: multiple partners. Your only problem is when you get ready

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Speaker 1: to settle down, the best guy gonna be gone because

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Speaker 1: meet him, he gonna be gone, and his loving gonna

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Speaker 1: be just enough, and he gonna get better at his

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Speaker 1: love in any way, he gonna learn how to you know,

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Speaker 1: put it together. Really, yeah, he can be taught in

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Speaker 1: you hold of Let me let me just say that.

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Speaker 1: A lot of times women, you know, when a man

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Speaker 1: ain't as pleasing to your own, Oh, let's just talk

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Speaker 1: about it now. Maybe you ain't Hello, maybe you ain't

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Speaker 1: all you. Thank you with Well, let's just talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Don't be half a man that they's never been like.

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Speaker 1: You know, he ain't nothing. Well maybe you two damn much.

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Speaker 1: But she said that that's the problem, you know. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So now let's just talk about it. You know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. He might not be all that, but you

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Speaker 1: might not either. Hello, maybe you ain't that hot five cracker?

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Speaker 1: You thank you all yeah, thank you Steve for saying that. Man. No,

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Speaker 1: you're welcome, jay Man. Some men have been disappointed. Yes,

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Speaker 1: thank you. Hell, yeah, he wasn't what I thought it

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Speaker 1: was gonna be. What hell when you took your clothes off,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't all that, you know, moved didn't buy this anyway.

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Speaker 1: So now we so we so we both standing that offended.

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Speaker 1: What you're looking at me like I ain't all that,

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Speaker 1: and I'm looking at you like you ain't all that.

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Speaker 1: This is not about you. This has nothing to do

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Speaker 1: with you. No, this has to do with this letter.

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Speaker 1: We could have but we could she could have this

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Speaker 1: problem again. See so a lot of times when you

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Speaker 1: blame it men for not being this this guy, she

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Speaker 1: described in the beginning of the letter was a good man.

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Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden, he don't have wild sex

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Speaker 1: like I want to. Maybe you too, damn wild she is.

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Speaker 1: Everybody don't want to get whipped? Wait what it is

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Speaker 1: in the letter? It says I have a very high

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Speaker 1: sex drive. That's in the top of the letter whipped.

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Speaker 1: Then she says, to be honest, I can actually enjoy

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Speaker 1: having to guys. One I can go out on dates with,

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Speaker 1: could be whipping. Every matter don't like hot wax everybody

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Speaker 1: letter for yourself. I don't want that. Everybody don't like

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Speaker 1: getting bit on the side, And they stumbled, don't you

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Speaker 1: don't nipple the side of my stomach? That ain't fun?

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Speaker 1: Thank you? I said something I don't like clothes finds

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Speaker 1: and they don't go there. Now that's wild. What you got, Steve,

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Speaker 1: You're on the side of their stomach is pretty wild.

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Speaker 1: I don't like none of that. You know. I don't

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Speaker 1: want no feather on my butt. I don't like yourself.

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Speaker 1: I don't feather old my booting. What I don't want

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Speaker 1: a feather on my boot? Try you ain't. On that note,

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