WEBVTT - The SGT. Kendall Cobb Episode 0:00:01.080 --> 0:00:04.800 Gill. You know, boys, it's back and reoaded all in 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:07.480 your mind. Yeah, and that deep throating. This is for 0:00:07.640 --> 0:00:11.119 the streets, the reel, the railroaded, the distant franchise, the 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:14.480 truth escape building, and they ain't knowing we speak the truth, 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:17.000 so they ain't quoted because we wrote it. The North 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:20.239 South East coat is the g b my keeping your 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:23.119 head bobbing. It ain't no stopping and wants to be 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.479 drips head by. And then the system is so corrupt 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:28.360 they throw the rock out of their hands and then 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:32.840 blame it on us. Don't get it twisted on code 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:38.240 and me and danced for no buttament biscuits. It's Willie 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:41.160 d y'all scar faces in the building. Collectively we are 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:44.560 the ghetto boys. Reloaded, Reloaded with another episode of information 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:47.760 and instructions to help you navigate through this wild, crazy, 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:54.480 beautiful world. In the studio, Sergeant Kendall Cop, Farmer, Sergeant 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:59.120 Kendall Cop, how you doing, good man? Do you feel 0:00:59.120 --> 0:01:01.240 the same Do you feel the same way that like 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:05.080 ex ball players feel when you've done something for so 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:09.119 long and you gotta retire. You gotta face that retirement 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:15.240 and now it time question. That's a good question. M No, 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:18.800 I didn't cry. Why So I've always known the day 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:21.160 was coming. When I came on ninety two, I said 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.080 I'm leaving. I'm doing thirty years. This year was thirty years. 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:27.080 So I've always had in my mind and I never 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.280 like grew up on the police. So this is I mean, 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:31.000 I'm glad I did it. Thank God for it. You know. 0:01:31.280 --> 0:01:33.479 HPDs allowed me to feed my family and do my thing. 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:38.000 But I'm ready to turn the page and moving. I don't. 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:41.080 I don't, I don't. My identity wasn't all no, because 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:43.679 my identity wasn't all HPD. My my identity is like 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:46.160 helping people, which I'm still gonna continue to do. It's 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:49.600 just I'm doing a different capacity. Okay, you know it 0:01:49.920 --> 0:01:51.880 served this purpose. I'm cool with it. Was trying to 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:53.760 move on. That's a young man's game. So back back 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:58.200 back in the early nineties, man, um, when when you 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:01.640 just got with the force, did you notice that a 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:06.360 lot of um, a lot of profiling going on, like 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.800 pulling kids out, like you you you witnessed this what 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.600 you mean back in the nineties, I'm talking about it. No, 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.040 I'm talking about Look, so here's the name. So I'm 0:02:15.240 --> 0:02:19.040 I'm in my neighborhood and I'm in a red Ferrari. 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:23.960 Uh five twelve, I'm doing the speed limit. I'm chilling, 0:02:25.800 --> 0:02:29.040 bubble gum, Come on, all right. I got my shotgun 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:31.000 over in my you know how we drove with the 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:34.680 shotgun on the passage side. So he pulled me over. 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:36.840 He made me get out of the car. He uh 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:38.560 he asked me because I searched the car. I tell 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:40.600 him no. He called the dogs. He you know, he 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:43.880 was really really went to the extreme, you know, and 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:47.280 this is my neighborhood. And then some black cops that 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:51.160 I actually know was pulling up, and it was like, man, 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:54.000 he could he ain't. He didn't want to hear that 0:02:55.040 --> 0:02:56.960 I was doing something wrong. I had drugs on me, 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:59.720 and I could, I could. I can honestly say that 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:04.760 I have been a target of profiling back in the 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:08.120 nineties for a long time. But I think that now 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:10.800 that I'm older, excuse me, they don't really pull me 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:17.240 over and target Well that's that's that's because you're older. 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:20.160 They see what you see, they know who you are, 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:22.160 so they're hitting that when they get behind you, they 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:30.240 hit it. Uh. He's seventy five years old. Guy's harmless 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:33.200 along here got along, there's something that the bottom line 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:35.320 is listening. So back what you're saying, I mean the 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:38.120 Delaway State the other days told y'all stuff still get profiled. 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:41.320 And again then then the Delaway State state thing in Georgia, 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:43.000 like they knew who it was and once they got 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:44.760 on so who it was, they were very extra with 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:47.920 how they went about it. But nonetheless, back in the nineties, yeah, 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:50.880 profile was going on. Profile still goes on to a degree. 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:52.960 Um is not so much because we have to put 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:56.360 our we have we have to put racial profiling card 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:59.320 in every traffic stop. That again, you have to put 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:02.839 a racial one filing card. Yes, there's a mind of cards. 0:04:02.880 --> 0:04:06.200 So basically and again I just let the go last month. 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:08.240 So up until the until months ago when I did 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:09.960 my stops, I don't do stop very often. You gotta 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:11.600 be do something crazy for me to stop you, but 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:14.400 I'll still stop you. And even I as a supervisor, 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.480 had to put in a racial profile and car. Basically 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:19.480 it's a demographic cards saying you know who did you stop? 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:23.880 We're you stopping? You know? What's the demograph of the person? Race? Uh? Sex? 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:27.400 And then um, did you know this prior to all 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:31.520 the different aspects, and that helps track people who were 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:35.840 racially profiling people. So so, but let me just again. 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:41.240 I got a thousand stories I've been stopped throughout my career, 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:45.040 and I know it was racially profile. I mean, I couldn't. 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:46.839 I couldn't make this if I wanted to come. So 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:50.920 you want your quick story. The story we'll be hearing six, 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:53.760 So listen. So I just worked you not division, and 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:57.159 we work night shift. So there's a subway like it 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:00.200 Holcom in the medical center. So it was my do 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:02.159 the food run. You know I'm going I'm getting food everybody. 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:05.000 So I go to subway in uniform. Okay, No, I'm 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:06.960 playing close by man a police raid jacket and I'm 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:10.760 in an unmarked car. So so somebody blowing my phone. 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:12.920 So I come out of subway with the food. I'm 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:14.839 about to make a you term on Holking whatever it 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:16.480 was to get back to the station. I'm gonna say, 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:21.840 it's all my cow. Okay. So I'm sitting at I'm 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.000 stopped at a traffic light waiting for the light to turns. 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:27.120 So I made to you, uh, constable is going the 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:29.040 opposite way. So he passed me. I looked at him. 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.799 He looks at me. Precincts seven. I don't know precining 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:33.560 it was. It's right there in the area, so made 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.520 precinct one. I don't know. I can't appreciate time, but 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:38.720 it's a constable. So so he looks at me, and 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.480 he turns around and gets behind me. Now he's going 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:43.400 to ops way. He makes the worlds are the meeting 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:44.960 and gets behind me. I just away from my light 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.040 to term, so my light turns. I make to you. 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.680 He makes you and pops me. As soon as he 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:51.479 possed me, I put and I shouldn't have done this, 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:56.880 but this is like ninety seven night seven. I merely 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:58.960 went to the first driveway and I jumped out of 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:00.359 the car. And I shouldn't have done that, but I 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.280 don't know. I was so incessed because I'm like, dude, 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:08.080 I wasn't even moving. You can't say I did okay, alright, 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:12.640 I wasn't doing ship. Why are you? I mean, he 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.280 got behind me, and I don't think. I'm like, you're 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:15.840 turning on. PopEd me, so I make that you. He 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.680 popped me. I jumped out the car. I made my 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:19.200 rade Jack I like what And I went up told 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:21.120 me me Lee and he's like, oh, no, it was, 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.120 and he went some lie about it was some uh 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:26.520 cars broken into or whatever. He he reached out of 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:28.279 his ass and made that excuse. But the bottom line 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:30.560 is once he saw me jump out in my rage jacket, 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:35.240 and I'm like, hey, motherfucker, if you look at the plate, 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:38.000 you know you're so hell been on who you saw driving. 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.240 If you take the time look at the plate, it's 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:43.840 a Texas exempt plate. That should be a clue Texas 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:48.480 exempt plate, law enforcement or some governmental agency that alone 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:51.640 should that exempt plate should to spark you that hey 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:54.840 this isn't you know, brother USA or whatever. Even if 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:56.480 I am brother, you are saying what did I do? 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.719 I'm stationary at a stoplight, waiting for like the terms, 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:01.680 so he could say I did something. When he got 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:03.760 behind me, I still had moved because the lighthead yet 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:07.080 to turn. So that's that's one quick story. So again 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:09.760 he went to been some breaking man, and I just 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:11.160 I just walked off, man, get out of here. And 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.000 I just wanted I could have checkn it further and 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.720 like no supervisor and stuff. But at that time I 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.560 was an officer so I let it ride. Let's go 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:21.480 back to your humble beginnings. Man, Like I want to know, 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:26.680 like what inspired you to want to be a police officer? 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:29.640 But even before you get there, I want to know 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:34.400 more specifically who who put it into you? That's say 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:36.680 that I want to have a different lifestyle, you know, 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:38.560 And where did you come from? Where? Where were you? 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:43.000 Where were you raised? Okay, so I'm from outside Detroit, Michigan, 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:47.200 met Point Westland, Michigan, outside Insure Westland, just outside Detroit. 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:50.640 So when you fly into Detroit, fly, when you fly 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:53.560 into Detroit Metro at Rhymeless, I'm right next to Rundless. 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.120 You like my three months from the airport. So um, 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:58.560 I grew up outside there, went to Catholic schools, so 0:07:58.600 --> 0:08:02.400 I show in that regard. So what made me want 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:04.560 a police? That's funny again, I didn't grow up one 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.480 of the police. I went to Tuskegee for veterinary medicine, 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:10.920 but I went I went there with the mindset of 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:13.520 chasing skirts instead of chasing my grades. So I get 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.160 Pisspoort grades. So therefore you don't get accepted VET school 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.640 if you had Pittsport grades. So therefore I didn't make 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:22.840 it invest school, so graduate, I got her first RTC 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:26.640 because has Air Force RTC program went through that deal. 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:30.240 UM was in Vanderberg Air Force Base in California. Did 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:33.720 not do well, very academically challenging, so washed out of that, 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:36.000 and then I came here. My brother lived here. He 0:08:36.040 --> 0:08:38.560 still does, but he lived in periand that time, so 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:42.559 I came here and I was doing UM credit card 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:46.559 collections at that time. So at that time and I 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.720 looking for a john. Got this degree, can't really use it, 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:51.160 so teach for America. I don't. If you have from 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:55.040 your Teach for America degree animal science animal husbandry. Yeah, 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:58.200 so UM Chief of America. If y'all heard of it 0:08:58.240 --> 0:09:01.120 before I started nine to check out of Princeton when 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:04.120 they cop Kopp started his program where he got these 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:07.120 corporations and fund all these people who were reaching college 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:09.920 grads who didn't teach but wanted to teach, didn't didn't 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:12.319 have degrees in teaching, but wanted to teach. So it 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.920 took five hundred of us. We went to USC's campus, 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:19.320 trained and went every four different locations around the country 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:25.240 North Carolina, Rural North Carolina, Nowork rural. UM Louisiana and 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.520 then l A and New York, and I chose New York. 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:29.920 So I'm in New York City doing my thing, teaching, 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:31.959 loving what I'm doing. Hated New York, but I love 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:38.240 my kids. Hated New York too fast to route to dirty. 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.360 I was in Brooklyn. I was living in Brooklyn, so 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:42.920 I lived in Park Slope. By taught best I, so 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:44.600 I would take a little my little train and you know, 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:46.480 go to do with our best I And I love 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:49.160 my kids. I love I love teaching by hated New 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:52.760 York is too fast for me and too I didn't 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:56.920 like it no nature anyway. So while teaching right Nick 0:09:57.000 --> 0:10:02.199 King Captain, Yeah, so Rodney King cappen, I said, man, 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.160 you know this is messed up. I watched the tape 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:07.319 like everybody else said, and I was like the enforcer 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:09.400 for my school. In other words, you know, very few 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:12.360 Maale teachers and middle schools. I was at junior high 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.960 school to forty eight, which is you know, right off 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.120 the hard the bed stye. So they come to me 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.040 and hey, Mr cop, you need to you know, talk 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:22.600 to whom ever. I had young men stay afterwards, talk 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:24.800 to them, try and mentor give him some guidance because 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:27.600 you know they've running around foot loose, fantasy free, something like, man, 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:29.120 let me go ahead and try and get us some insight. 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:31.000 So from that kind of put me in that mode 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:32.839 of hey, let me try and help. But when Rodney 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.360 King happened, I said, Man, wait a minute, police department, 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:39.440 black community. I'm black, and I'm black black, So I'm like, 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:42.320 let me get in here and make a difference. So 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:45.199 that's that's that planned to see. So I taught one 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:47.520 is a two year commitment. I taught one year in 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:49.040 New York. Did not supposed to come down here for 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:51.960 the second year. And the lady who down here in Houston, 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:53.760 Oh yeah, I promised me all this stuff. When I 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:55.480 got down here, She's like, I didn't never told you that. 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:57.440 So she sold me out. So I had to find 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.280 a job on my own. And that's why I went 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:01.439 to Fleming. I went and talked to Chester Smith. He 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:06.880 was the presion PRINCIPI Fleming. No I went back, so 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:11.520 I'm talking you know my niece. Okay, So I was there. 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:14.280 This is like ninety one. So I'm teaching Fleming. Mr 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:16.520 Smith gave me an opportunity and at the same time 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:19.040 I apply for Harris County and I apply for HBD, 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:21.640 not knowing the difference. I didn't know. I'm not from here, 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:23.240 so I didn't know. First of all, I know what 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:25.200 the consult was because when I have counselors in Michigan. 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.640 So I'm like, so, whoever called me first is who 0:11:27.679 --> 0:11:29.320 I was going with. An HPD called me first. So 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:31.760 while I was teaching, I started my little background check 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:35.160 and then I didn't even finish that year out. I 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:38.079 talked like three quarters of the year and that class started. 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:39.400 So I told Mrs Smith, I said, thank you for 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:42.240 the opportunity, but department is calling. I got the six 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:44.559 month academy. I gotta go. And he was like, no, 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:46.280 thank you for you know, doing what you did in 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:48.960 the time. Friends, I was again trying to talk to 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:51.480 young men. You know, I talked to young ladies too, 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.320 but I really focus on young man. No, you only 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:56.679 cause no, hey, you know, no, people look at you 0:11:56.720 --> 0:11:58.679 crazy when you talking, so you gotta keep your distance 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.280 in that regard. By death. Only did my thing with 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:04.160 young men, trying to like just direct them and put 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:07.000 them in the right path. And again I'm not the answer. 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:09.560 I tell people, I'm an answer, I'm not. I'm not 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:12.200 the final say. I'm not the word, the black word 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.000 of life for black police. I'm just telling you, I'm 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:17.560 giving you what I learned in fifty five years on 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:19.160 this earth. And I like to think I got a 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:24.480 level even kill approach to it. Who sparked that learning, uh, 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:28.320 hunger in you from the beginning? Your mother, your mom, 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:33.320 thirty year teacher, year teacher, and she talked, and what 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:36.880 are some of the lessons that coming up like that 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:40.040 you learned from your mom that you said, man, that 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.600 you're still taking with you, you carried to this day. 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:46.480 You Accountability is big, Like I'm really big on you know, 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:49.839 only what you do good, bad, happier said you know, 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.280 and and and being in the gift back you know, 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:54.680 you know the class is saying you blessed to be 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.960 a blessing. That's my stuff for real. And that's not 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:58.800 like some little thing to put on a bumper circle. 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:01.280 That's my stuff for real. I'm like, I'm like, whatever 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:03.280 I got, you know, and I came from the classic 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:06.280 two parent house or whatever. I'm like, I got that. 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:10.360 So if I can help recreate that, because I think 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:12.360 it turned out cool for me. So let me, let 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.120 me jump the ship real quick, so don't jumping straight 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:18.480 to my first year of HPD. So I'm in. I 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:23.800 saw a Park fourtune district, so yeah, solo. Everybody was 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:29.960 a rookie in South Park solo so low. No, it 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:34.679 wasn't God babies and foods right, So that's that goes 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:37.120 back that rap story. So anyway, so, um, I'm doing 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:39.960 my thing, and um, of course my number one place, 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:42.480 my number one call for service was leving not left him. Okay, 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:45.280 everybody know that according's departments, so get a lot of 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:48.840 calls there. So what had what made a big impression 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.840 on my mind early on and still affects me now, 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:53.840 you know, in terms of where I want to go 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:56.720 with stuff. So the number one call I would get 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:02.120 is mom being beaten by boyfriend, never husband, no, no, never, 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:09.439 this always boyfriend, followed shortly by my mom's boyfriend touching kids. 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:15.959 But the main thing that really clearly number two that 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:19.720 like actually one and one A. But what's the first thing? 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:24.920 Mom catching catching hands. That's the number one call I 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:29.520 would ever get. And the second call was mom's boyfriend 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:34.120 doing something with kids and something like sexual. Yes, it's 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.560 like like that's the second most call you that I 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:39.600 came across, and I understand this. I'm fortune district and 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:43.000 a night shift, so I I didn't put the my 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:46.120 numbers for like you know, the crime reports for the 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:50.520 for the year per whatever category. Crimes have categories, but 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:54.920 I'm telling you, I'm I'm fourteen district, night shift, and 0:14:55.000 --> 0:15:00.840 that's what's my calls. Assault domestic abuse by birdfornd on mom, 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:04.400 followed by boyfriend doing something sexual to the boys and 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:06.760 the girls. So let's not get it twisted to the boys. 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:13.400 Stop boyfriend, boys, boyfriend not husband, never husband, which never, 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:16.520 that's never husband and to me that anyway, I got 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:18.880 a whole another solicity on that about the whole Marriors 0:15:18.880 --> 0:15:21.720 thing and us in marriage. But nonetheless, so that's that's so, 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.160 this was my thing, and I'll wrap upon this. So 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.160 I'm getting the calls and I will sit there and say, 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:28.280 I say, so I get there three o'clock in the morning, 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:32.120 mom beating up something, you know, getting information, going to 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:38.680 the apartment. Kids are up watching TV three clock in 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:42.440 the morning or not or knocked out. But here's the point, 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:46.760 either up, day up now because all the drama fully clothed, 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:50.760 that's that's will kill me. You fully clothed, Yet in 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:54.360 about three to four hours, that teacher is expecting you, 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:59.400 the kid to show up fed, rested, clean and ready 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:02.440 to learn. But you have none of those things because 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:06.440 mom is trying to get the wood and she forsakes 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:09.480 all her responsibilities for this new dude. And again, and 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.160 the new dude just go on. The the beat goes 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.280 on in terms of the next dude. Who wanted to 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:19.080 be the next sire of the next child. No, nobody 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:22.720 wants to do this, nobody. And that's what again, that's 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:25.000 that was my number one thing. And I'm like, that's 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.240 what That's what really pricked my heart. I'm like, these 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.280 kids don't even have a chance. So so somebody blown 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:33.400 me up. So listen. So when no, no, no, no, 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.720 you could um so check this out. So I was 0:16:35.760 --> 0:16:40.680 in Atlanta one day with um with my wife. This 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:45.280 is about two years ago, and we're in um fish 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:48.680 local I don't know where, some little independent fish story 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:52.040 fish shop, and there's a check there. She was decent 0:16:52.040 --> 0:16:55.040 looking and she had like a maybe five kids, and 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.200 all that look difference. I'm assuming that I don't know 0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.640 the story of All I know is she was pregnant, 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.880 and she had all these kids, and she looked through 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:06.679 to me, she looked like she was off, like she 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:09.520 was mentally off, but she was still looked physically she 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:11.680 was esthetically appealing. Like I mean, I thought, you know, 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:14.920 given normal circumstances, it would be somebody you shot at. 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:17.760 But you know, if you don't see what the whole situation. 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:19.640 But like I said, she pregnant, you got these kids? Again? 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:21.520 I don't. I didn't talk to her and go in detail, 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.520 but I'm just telling you. I told him, I said, wow, 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:27.600 this is crazy. So he got this kid. You see 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.359 she throw and I could tell she throw just by 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:34.320 her interaction with kids. So what do is willing? I 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:36.840 don't care what she looks like. I don't care. Look, look, 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:39.200 we all love it. Yeah, it's it's great. It's awesome. 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:43.399 But there has to be at some point in time 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.680 it can't be just about getting this stuff. It has 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:49.080 to be about responsibility and you get this stuff, Why 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:50.880 are you creating a life you can get the stuff 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:52.440 and get on. Why are you making a life that 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:56.000 you don't even anyway? So I told my wife, what 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:59.119 what person would even take time to impregnant her again? 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:02.560 And you see you throw, you see she throw. Right. 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:05.399 I know I'm going down. But my point is this. 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:09.160 My point is that, y'all, I have a soapbox for this, 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:13.760 a tremendous soapbox for this. What does that mean? This 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:16.679 is the hill I die on. I'm about Black people 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:25.720 in America need to marry. And why not? Okay, okay, y'all, okay, 0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:29.000 because because I think it's very important that we understand 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:30.960 what goes into that. It's not just a piece of paper, 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:35.119 not just a It's a bonding thing. It is it is. 0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:40.280 It is not it's a bonding thing an institutional thing. Well, 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:44.359 it's both. You know you even to be in an institution. Okay, dog, okay, fine, 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:46.120 if you won't go to intri rob But I'm telling 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.879 this is actually bigger than what Man has said about it. 0:18:48.880 --> 0:18:51.480 It's a bonding thing because it creates that unity and 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:55.080 he creates that that that that self sustainable situation that 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:57.320 you can branch home from. And what I mean by 0:18:57.359 --> 0:19:02.680 that is this. I have two sons. My first son 0:19:02.800 --> 0:19:05.040 is by marriage. My wife was marriage before. She's a 0:19:05.560 --> 0:19:07.520 young widow, so you know my biology. But I have 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:10.600 adopted and so he's mine and my the one I sired, 0:19:11.000 --> 0:19:17.159 so it's my pastors name on is very important to me. 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:20.760 And the fact that I tell them, you know you, 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:23.160 there's something to the name that means something to you 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:27.120 that I show you. Hey, I've done this and it's 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:29.720 not me. This was done for me and I'm just passing. 0:19:29.720 --> 0:19:31.639 I'm kicking this can further down the road. This is 0:19:32.119 --> 0:19:33.879 I got this from my parents, who got it from 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:36.600 their parents, and I'm just building on this for future generations. 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:40.200 And I think it's very important. Again, I ain't look everybody, 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:42.800 do you do what you do? I'm saying if you 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:44.960 asked me, I think that is the key to a 0:19:45.040 --> 0:19:49.320 lot of our woes because it will bring in unity, 0:19:49.440 --> 0:19:51.920 it will bring in a sense of structure, it will 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:54.879 it will bring in responsibility, and it will bring in 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:58.640 familiarity so that child in that situation you can come 0:19:58.640 --> 0:20:00.680 home nor Okay, I'm gonna come home on, get on 0:20:00.760 --> 0:20:03.359 my work, on, get on my goal, whatever it is. 0:20:03.440 --> 0:20:05.400 I'm going to further that. And I have that support 0:20:05.440 --> 0:20:08.880 based there to make that happen. I got the environment there. 0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:15.440 We all see weeds growing between uh concrete cracks, right, Okay, 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:20.400 so those weeds are surviving. For all those weeds thriving, 0:20:20.760 --> 0:20:22.720 what is it? What or what is that grass? Let's 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:26.760 let's weeds are bad? Let's say grass. Is that grass thriving? 0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:30.200 The ideal setting for that grass would be good, rich, fertile, 0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:33.159 solt is water intended to the grass can steal, grow 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:36.520 between the cracks and survive. But what is the best 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:40.600 setting for that grass to thrive? I submit to you, 0:20:40.760 --> 0:20:43.760 whoever else, so listen that if we create the setting 0:20:44.119 --> 0:20:48.360 by which we can grow this next generation and grow 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:50.920 these kids up. Not to say everybody gonna come out 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:55.560