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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the og Storytime

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Speaker 1: up like a little house. Oh. I'm dating my late

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Speaker 1: husband's best friend. I don't know how to tell my

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Speaker 1: in laws. That's messy, that's real messy. But my husband,

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Speaker 1: Steve passed away in an accident four years ago. Our

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Speaker 1: daughter Anna was eight months old, and I still have

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Speaker 1: a close relationship with his family. Wow. I love them

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Speaker 1: through them. By the way, this comes from throw Away,

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Speaker 1: to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So I had

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Speaker 1: a difficult time after Steve passed away. Having his family

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Speaker 1: and his best friend Mark in my life were crucial

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Speaker 1: to getting me through the first couple of years after

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Speaker 1: he passed away. Mark and I became very close after

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Speaker 1: Steve passed and eventually started dating. Our relationship grew bit

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Speaker 1: by bit, but it has gotten serious enough that it's

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Speaker 1: no longer practical or comfortable for me to hide it

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Speaker 1: from Steve's family. Yeah, I mean once it gets to

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Speaker 1: that point. Yeah, wo oh man. Mark and my daughter

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Speaker 1: are very close. He's become a father figure to her.

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Speaker 1: Our relationship has reached a point where I would need

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Speaker 1: to enlist and a silence to continue hiding it from

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Speaker 1: Steve's family. Yeah, and you don't want to You don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want You don't want to make your

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it make your kids lie. You don't want to

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Speaker 1: That's not good.

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Speaker 3: Plus, things have gotten pretty serious.

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Speaker 1: Mark has not ever wanted to hide our relationship, but

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Speaker 1: went along at my insistence. He's also fairly close to

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Speaker 1: Steve's family. When I first asked him to keep our

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Speaker 1: relationship hidden from Steve's family, I did it for a

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Speaker 1: number of reasons. I wanted to make sure that my

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Speaker 1: I wanted to continue to present Mark as a friend

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Speaker 1: and the future of our relationship. And also I wanted

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Speaker 1: to avoid the judgment that may come from being in

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Speaker 1: a relationship with Steve's best friend. Those are all super reasonable, yeah,

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Speaker 1: super reasonable things. As time went on, I continue to

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Speaker 2: But I think this is just like a slippery slope.

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Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, they might react badly, but better get

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Speaker 3: You have to live your truths.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's not. Steve's not gonna go away. They're gonna

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Speaker 2: find out eventually. Yeah, and why you know, play all

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Speaker 2: of the mind not the mind games, but play all

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Speaker 2: of the games to keep it all a secret and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know, I feel her on the part

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Speaker 1: of like specifically, I want to make sure that my

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Speaker 1: like at this point we've definitely reached yah.

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Speaker 2: I mean like, and no one wants to be a secret. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, like obviously you guys were doing it for

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Speaker 2: you had your reasons, but yeah, yeah, a relationship is

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you can't. You can't keep it in a box.

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Speaker 1: I expected to grow ladies and gentlemen. But Opie says

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Speaker 1: Steve's mom has made many comments over the years that

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Speaker 1: and uncle. Now, Mark is basically sick of hiding our relationship. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Which the thing is, the longer it's a secret, the

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Speaker 1: Ooh ooh. That's It's like a like an inverse inverse

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't wanna. I don't wanna stay tell anyone

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Speaker 1: Well, now it's gonna make it's gonna be a secret

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Speaker 3: Yeah haha, problem solved.

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Speaker 1: Just kidding. I'm asking for some pointers, scripts, any advice

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Speaker 1: on how to raise the topic with Steve's family scripts, Wow,

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Speaker 2: Please, like, please just tell me exactly what to say.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I really have no idea what they may say

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Speaker 1: of approaching the topic. Thanks. Uh, and we have an

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Speaker 1: whole script. But Sophia, I'm curious, what is what would

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so okay, And I just want to like double

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Speaker 2: she still is contact with obviously Steve's family because you know, Uh,

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Speaker 2: best friend of Steve. Yes, okay. I think you go

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Speaker 2: really know how to tell you, guys. I wanted to

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Speaker 2: and we've kind of, over the course of this time

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Speaker 2: other and found comfort. And while I still, you know,

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Speaker 2: I just wanted to let you know that I'm starting this,

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Speaker 2: I've been in this relationship with Mark and you just

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Speaker 1: There you go, just just I'm I'm a big fan

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Speaker 1: of like like op. It was also saying like I'm

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Speaker 1: you could be open with that too, like, hey, I

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Speaker 3: I feel like might ruffle feathers.

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Speaker 1: You might think I'm you know, I was scared, Like

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Speaker 1: I feel like if you just you want a script,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I mean, said like.

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Speaker 2: You know your feelings more than we do, yes.

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Speaker 1: Yes, or can we write a better script.

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Speaker 3: For your own.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 2: you cannot control how they respond to The only thing

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Speaker 2: that you can control is your your words, and you

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Speaker 2: it cannot it cannot be grounded on secrecy.

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Speaker 3: Totally agreed.

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Speaker 4: Or if you don't, just keep it a secret.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there we go. If you want an unhealthy relationship,

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Speaker 2: keep secret forever, walking away, toss that key in a river.

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Speaker 1: But we haven't edit. We're gonna se what happens at it.

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Speaker 1: I'd appreciate help with wording and exactly what to.

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Speaker 3: Say to Steve's family. Thanks.

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Speaker 1: More on the script and then the updates bad news. First,

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Speaker 1: Mark and I went ahead with the plan that I

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Speaker 1: meet Steve's mom for a late breakfast on Saturday morning.

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Speaker 1: Mark told me that things with Nick did not go well.

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Speaker 3: It, can't control done anything wrong.

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Speaker 2: They're gonna be upset and you know, maybe they'll come

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Speaker 1: Gotta look at truth. I was surprised because I didn't

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Speaker 1: Nick and Steve weren't actually that close the brother Nick

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Speaker 1: It's like, oops, kind of been dating over like a

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Speaker 1: By the time Nick realized that Mark was telling him

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Speaker 3: This could happen.

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Speaker 1: It's like hey, or you know, well, make sure you're

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Speaker 1: Blah blah blah. And then it's like, okay, maybe we

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Speaker 1: need to reassess relationship, our relationship and you know, figure

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Speaker 2: That shows you who they are.

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Speaker 1: Move you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: It's not about Steve about Nick.

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Speaker 1: Why not?

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Speaker 3: I thought we had so much more left?

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Speaker 4: You lie?

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Speaker 2: Have you so much left?

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, do it. That's all you have to do.

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Speaker 3: So Mark disagrees.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend Mark disagrees and thinks that we should leave

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Speaker 1: What do we what do we Let's let's make it,

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Speaker 2: My husband's friend confessed her loved him. Now everyone's mad

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, But but it's we've seen this like archetype, this

442
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:19,080
Speaker 1: avatar of a family metherer of mother in law.

443
00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:21,800
Speaker 3: Before it was like, well, she has cancer.

444
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,280
Speaker 1: Why do you do with this?

445
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 5: Dude?

446
00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 1: To do or like her father's cancer. It's like no,

447
00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,359
Speaker 1: she literally, professor. And also also can we just say

448
00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:31,920
Speaker 1: W husband W.

449
00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:38,400
Speaker 2: Like immediately flawlessly yeah, perfect execution, perfect execution, literally went

450
00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:40,680
Speaker 2: literally went no, that's inappropriate.

451
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:41,080
Speaker 1: Block.

452
00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:42,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell my wife.

453
00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:45,400
Speaker 3: Yes, perfect, yes, absolutely.

454
00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,400
Speaker 2: We've asked for a better, better play.

455
00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:52,720
Speaker 1: Yeah. But my ICU, which is seems already to be true,

456
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,880
Speaker 1: is that the family is going to somehow, through their

457
00:20:56,240 --> 00:21:00,919
Speaker 1: mental olympics olympics, is going to flip this Simone Bile

458
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 1: style back onto ope and ruin her life somehow. I agree.

459
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:09,119
Speaker 3: I don't know how, but it's gonna happen.

460
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:12,560
Speaker 2: Comments here we go, z Candor seventeen says, not the

461
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 2: ale tell your mother in law coveting your neighbor's husband

462
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:20,199
Speaker 2: slash wife is Unchristian rights. Yeah. Also, what were they

463
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 2: expecting your husband to do? Divorce you?

464
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,680
Speaker 4: That's a tin. That's one of the ten commandments too, So.

465
00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 1: Come on, come on, get commanded.

466
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 2: Not d Norezas is not when mother in law sees

467
00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:32,760
Speaker 2: the prospect of a better nodder in law sounds like

468
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 2: she raised a gem of a man anyway, though you'd

469
00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 2: think she'd have the sense to be proud of it.

470
00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:39,520
Speaker 2: Ze Twilight says, not the ale, but I bet your

471
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 2: mother in law has been feeding this woman all kind

472
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,879
Speaker 2: of bs about you and feeding her ego. Realistic Cloud

473
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,560
Speaker 2: thirty thirty three says, I one hundred percent believe that

474
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 2: she is flaming this fire. Ten for boog Boy, your

475
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:55,240
Speaker 2: husband's a solid dude. We must protect them at all costs.

476
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,480
Speaker 2: Opie says one hundred percent agree. Honesty and clear communication

477
00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:00,480
Speaker 2: is a huge thing for us, and you guys are

478
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 2: killing it. But there is an update.

479
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean now hearing that that laid out theory

480
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:10,320
Speaker 1: of like, oh she wants to replace op with the

481
00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:14,640
Speaker 1: good Christian whaff down down home in law.

482
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:16,280
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just like, do you go to

483
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:18,520
Speaker 2: her and you're like, hey, that's not a Christian of you?

484
00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like that's I'm pretty sure those aren't

485
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:24,440
Speaker 1: the rules. Yeah, Like, like I feel like the husband

486
00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:26,439
Speaker 1: because also, what's the thing we always say is like

487
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 1: the whoever's if it's your family member, you deal with them.

488
00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 1: So husband, I think, goes to her, goes to her,

489
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,359
Speaker 1: and he's like, listen, I'm trying to hold up the

490
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,000
Speaker 1: Christian ideals of like honoring you taught me that you

491
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 1: taught me of like honoring my wife, honoring our marriage,

492
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Speaker 1: Like I am not going to entertain even an inch

493
00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,639
Speaker 1: of anything that would you know, make my wife uncomfortable,

494
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:47,919
Speaker 1: and like I don't want that. I want to be

495
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 1: with my wife like I I'm a I'm a committed man.

496
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 3: Like that is like, yeah, what what can she say

497
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:53,960
Speaker 3: to that?

498
00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:56,399
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean she does say something crazy, then you

499
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:58,159
Speaker 2: know she's can't be reasoned with.

500
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Speaker 3: Ooh, very true.

501
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,639
Speaker 2: Updates here we go. I wanted to just post a

502
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 2: quick update on our situation. My husband calls his mother

503
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 2: to try to set clear boundaries. I am pretty sure

504
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 2: she doesn't believe that boundaries apply to her and set

505
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:14,359
Speaker 2: things straight before they escalate more. Well, apparently that crazy

506
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 2: train has already left the station.

507
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:16,919
Speaker 1: Uh oh.

508
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 2: He called her on speakerphone, which he told her while

509
00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 2: I was in the room. She lost her mind and

510
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 2: demand that they have a private conversation.

511
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:27,159
Speaker 3: Let me talk without the speaker.

512
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 2: Because this was a matter between family. He corrected her

513
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 2: and let her know I am family.

514
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 3: Let's go, that is right.

515
00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 1: She then went on a.

516
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:39,360
Speaker 2: Rant about how I was displaying abusive and controlling behavior.

517
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 2: She claimed I was isolating him from his family like

518
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 2: I did before. We went no contact with her once

519
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 2: because of her bad behavior, and she blames me, and

520
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 2: I guess has been holding on to that, like what

521
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 2: the F Also, I wonder, you know, it was probably

522
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 2: a lot of his decision about that too, I'm sure,

523
00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,879
Speaker 2: because he seems like a person who was very care

524
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 2: full about his boundaries and is very good at upholding them.

525
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 2: So I feel like he was probably like, I don't

526
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:05,920
Speaker 2: want to see my mom right now if you just

527
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 2: get act like this.

528
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 1: And mom is very good at destroying the boundaries like

529
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 1: a bulldozer. Yep.

530
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:13,880
Speaker 2: I had to leave the room then because my anxiety

531
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 2: was too much. He is the most calm and level

532
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 2: headed person I know, and he was starting to raise

533
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,639
Speaker 2: his voice. About five minutes later, he came into our

534
00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 2: bedroom where I was trying not to have an anxiety attack.

535
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,239
Speaker 2: He told me he let her know how disgusted he

536
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 2: was with her behavior and how disappointed he is that

537
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 2: she didn't learn a lesson about trying to interfere with

538
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 2: our marriage. He also informed her that for an indefinite

539
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 2: amount of time, he will be taking space from her.

540
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 2: He told her not to try to contact me, I

541
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 2: have her silenced already.

542
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:41,640
Speaker 5: Oh.

543
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 2: One fun little fact that came out is that his

544
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:46,080
Speaker 2: mom and ex have been seeing a lot of each other.

545
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:47,919
Speaker 2: His mom has been helping with the kids while the

546
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 2: ex's friend and her mom are dealing with medical stuff

547
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 2: for her dad. Just to address a couple of things, Yes,

548
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 2: I realize I have an amazing partner. I love this

549
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 2: band so much. I regularly tell him and show him

550
00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 2: how how much I love and appreciate him. So don't worry.

551
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,399
Speaker 2: The reason I thought I might be somewhat in the

552
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,400
Speaker 2: wrong is because I battled cancer in my early twenties.

553
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 2: During that time, I had a boyfriend cheat on me

554
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 2: with a good friend of mine because he was overwhelmed.

555
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 1: You were overwhelmed.

556
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 2: He's like, Oh, it's just too much, you being sick,

557
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 2: you dealing with an illness. I couldn't just break up

558
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 2: with you. I had to cheat on you.

559
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:24,719
Speaker 1: Wow.

560
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 2: And they tried to gaslight me into thinking it was

561
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:31,879
Speaker 2: my fault because of all the stress. So opia as

562
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 2: a history of people in her life just putting all

563
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 2: of the blame on her for things that she's not

564
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 2: even remotely responsible for. Yeah, I felt so abandoned and hurt.

565
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,160
Speaker 2: I just didn't want to feel like I was making

566
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,560
Speaker 2: anyone else feel that bad. I know the situation is

567
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 2: very different. I'm a bit of a people pleaser, working

568
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 2: on that with my therapist.

569
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 1: Nice.

570
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,679
Speaker 2: Cancer is the worst and my heart hurts for anyone

571
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,919
Speaker 2: who was going through it. That includes the family of

572
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 2: the person who is sick. I also want to say

573
00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:59,200
Speaker 2: to the person who called me a self absorbed person,

574
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 2: because this is that about me. I think it says

575
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 2: more about you than me that what you took from

576
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 2: my post was just that I hope you have the

577
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 2: day you deserve.

578
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 3: That's a phrase.

579
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 2: I love that phrase. I've heard a couple of times

580
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 2: that's great. I heard that I hope you have the

581
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:14,439
Speaker 2: day that you deserve.

582
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:15,160
Speaker 1: That's great.

583
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 2: Thanks to everyone else for the sports and advice. I

584
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 2: genuinely appreciate it, and there are some comments, any thoughts.

585
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm curious what our producer, Riley as I say, Riley,

586
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 1: if you were if you were transported into husband's position, bro.

587
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 4: I'd be doing what he did. I love this approach.

588
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 4: I'm glad that even though she may have failed as

589
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 4: a mother, she at least created a young man that

590
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 4: knows what's up.

591
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so funny how like the mom can be

592
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 1: so crazy, but the person she raised is like phenomenal.

593
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: Well, I think that's like, yeah, I think that is

594
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 2: something that happens a lot with parents. On like a

595
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 2: lesser extent. You can have parents who teach you to

596
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 2: love everyone, and especially when you're in really a religious family,

597
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 2: they're like, oh, you have to love everyone, support everyone,

598
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: you know.

599
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 3: Because and then their love is very conditional.

600
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like and then you have the kids

601
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 2: who are like much more loving and accepting, and then

602
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 2: the experiences are like you shouldn't be doing that, and

603
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 2: they're like, you taught me that, So.

604
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: It could be something like that, sorry for following what

605
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 1: you said.

606
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 2: You told me to do that.

607
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,879
Speaker 1: Next time I will disagree with you to agree with you.

608
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's weird.

609
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, And you know she's not there because she's like,

610
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 4: is she married this mother in law?

611
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 3: If she's out.

612
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: There hanging out with her ex and married, I think

613
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: she was hanging out with the husband. Yes, she's she's

614
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,920
Speaker 1: literally recruiting replacement wives.

615
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, that is literally what she's doing right now.

616
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 2: She's got she's got an entourage to make a.

617
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,880
Speaker 4: Three hour compilation of that, because I know we hit

618
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,120
Speaker 4: this subject at least once a week replacement wise. Yeah.

619
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 4: Like the mother in law is like.

620
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 3: You actually need to get back with your X.

621
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:52,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, te exactly.

622
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 2: Getting back with your replacement wives. Ten of the best

623
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 2: replacement wives stories. I'm Major twenty nine to twenty five

624
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 2: says I read your old post to get familiar, and

625
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 2: I'm laughing at your mother in law's reaction. She's upset

626
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 2: you're not the ideal Christian wife, while that friend going

627
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 2: after a married man is totally the Christian thing to do.

628
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 2: Your husband is a good man. I wish I read

629
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 2: more posts where the husband had as much of a

630
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 2: backbone as yours does. You didn't do anything wrong, Opie says,

631
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,399
Speaker 2: she's literally the worst. She's so judgmental and controlling. One

632
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: of her favorite things to do is make comments and

633
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 2: count how many drinks other people are having one day.

634
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 2: I swear I would end up snapping and letting her

635
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 2: know that her coffee cup she always has with her

636
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 2: it does not contain coffee. Oh pink Petsil says, you

637
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 2: mean she hides her booze Ooh sneaky. That's a huge

638
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,719
Speaker 2: red flag for alcoholism. Take it from a recovering heavy drinker,

639
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 2: Opie says, yep, and she's very protective over her cup,

640
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 2: like she won't leave it on the table when she

641
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 2: leaves the room for something. I think her comments on

642
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 2: other people drinking are projecting her issues on them. I

643
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,840
Speaker 2: will judge you, says you say that his mom has

644
00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 2: been taking care of the ex's kids. Did he he

645
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 2: and his friend ever date or do you just refer

646
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 2: to her as an ex as an ex friend? But

647
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 2: good luck to you. I hope things get to calm

648
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 2: down now that both these horrible women are out of

649
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 2: your life, Opie, says ex friend. Oops, Ah, they never

650
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 2: dated or hooked up. He actually had a high school

651
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,040
Speaker 2: sweetheart type deal into college and his mom.

652
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 3: Hated her too, so basically that was the same person.

653
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 2: Yes, they were referring to go gotcha, Scarlet May West says, ah,

654
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 2: So mother in law had her heart set on your

655
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 2: husband marrying family friend and had her hopes dashed. My

656
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 2: late mother in law was upset for eons that she

657
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 2: was not allowed to pick my husband's wife. He was

658
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 2: the youngest of five and her only hope to achieve

659
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 2: her goal. Not sure why she thought it would work

660
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: since we dated for six years before we married. Opie says,

661
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 2: my mother in law definitely had his whole life planned

662
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 2: out for him. She wanted to pick his college. Then

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Speaker 2: she expected him to move home after she wanted to

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Speaker 2: pick his wife. She feels entitled to grandkids. She's also

665
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 2: consistently asked him about moving back to his home state

666
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 2: because they're getting older and she expects him to uproot

667
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 2: his whole life to take care of her. She has

668
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 2: told her that it is absolutely not happening. Multiple times.

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Speaker 2: You have recently started ending their phone calls if she

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Speaker 2: brought it up.

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Speaker 1: Why do the parent These parents constantly think that their

672
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 1: kids are just meat puppets to do whatever. Oh, you're

673
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: gonna marry You're gonna marry Sally, and you're gonna go

674
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Speaker 1: to this school and you're gonna do this. And it's like, well,

675
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: how about how about I control your life?

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00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're gonna marry this guy I found out

677
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 2: the deli yep bomb, Bob, what are you gonna do

678
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 2: about that?

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00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 1: You're gonna do that. Then you're gonna work at the

680
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 1: job I pick for you, pig trench cleaner. You're gonna

681
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 1: clean the trenches of pigs. How about that? Is that exciting?

682
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: Is that fun?

683
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 4: It's actually a Bible story, that one right there? Really

684
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 4: about the prodigal son.

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Speaker 1: Dude, look at me referencing things I didn't know I'm referencing.

686
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 1: Don't control people, it's not the move.

687
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 2: Or you're gonna end up eating with the pigs. Oh yeah,

688
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 2: but then you get welcomed home with open arms. Yeah. Classic.

689
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 2: Patty Marvel says, weird question, Is he an only child?

690
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 2: This pushy behavior of hers would make an iota of

691
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 2: sense if she had no other children to gone on to.

692
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 2: Opie says, yep, only child. She apparently had wanted multiple

693
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:27,959
Speaker 2: kids but couldn't have any more, so he was her

694
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 2: miracle baby. My mother in law did not want to adopt.

695
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 2: She did not want to end up with anyone's problem child,

696
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 2: of course, so finding out we couldn't have Slash, I

697
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 2: couldn't have bio kids, I think was the final nail

698
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 2: in the coffin for her. We are happily child for you, though,

699
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 2: I would have totally been open to adoption if we

700
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 2: had wanted kids. And that's the end of that story.

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00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 2: I guess.

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00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: Wow, it seems like yeah, well, I mean.

703
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 2: I think there isn't really a cliffinger in this one.

704
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 2: It seems like they cut off the mall. Yes, true,

705
00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 2: I feel like they Yeah, the decision was they did

706
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 2: that relationship with the mom because she was crossing boundaries.

707
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 2: And now you have O P and her very cool

708
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 2: husband running off to this into the.

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Speaker 3: What are you what are you giggling about over there? John?

710
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 4: There's so many cliffhangers, Sophia, No, there is a yeah, rights.

711
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 2: Well, there are more cliffhangers in the other stories.

712
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 3: Just I think it felt like a cliff.

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00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 2: I was. I wasn't like, you're wrong. I just think

714
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 2: in this one, if you go back to the end

715
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Speaker 2: of the the second.

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00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 3: Update, it's like a cliff Yeah.

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00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 2: I don't think you were completely wrong. It did feel

718
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 2: very sudden of an.

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Speaker 4: End, just like he didn't even have He just like said, no,

720
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 4: there's no more clippings like the drop out there right See.

721
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 3: I am I am open minded. I am an open.

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00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 2: Minded opinions loosely hills.

723
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: Strong opinions loosely hell as Sam says, there we go.

724
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 2: But that's the story.

725
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 1: Do we have another one in this app? Please? Sure?

726
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 2: Do?

727
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: Hey? John og host we're gonna get back to the stories,

728
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: but a quick free minute break of ads from our sponsors.

729
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 1: My husband dished me at our wedding. I'm now doubting

730
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 1: our marriage.

731
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 2: Did you guys even get married?

732
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 1: Doubt? The wedding was only two weekends ago, but I

733
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: haven't stopped being up slushats confused about the way my

734
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: new husband acted during it. I don't blame you. Yeah,

735
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 1: so background, I guess we've been together for seven years.

736
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: He has a job with a weird schedule, so he

737
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 1: only sees his friends a few times a month, about

738
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 1: once a week or less. I'm friends with most of

739
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 1: his friends and their girlfriends slash wives, so we all

740
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: get together often enough, although he spends time with his

741
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 1: friends alone as well. By the way, this comes from

742
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Speaker 1: Disappointed Bride and if you want to submit your own stories,

743
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: go to the r slash Okay storytime stepredit so our

744
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: whole relationship. Whenever we are with his friends, he pretty

745
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 1: much forgets I exist.

746
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 2: Yikes, that's bad. It's not good.

747
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 3: I forgot.

748
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 2: Uh.

749
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 3: Where's Sophia Gole?

750
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 4: Who?

751
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: John?

752
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:05,240
Speaker 3: Who's got him?

753
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 2: Right here?

754
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 4: I've never heard of this person, Riley, I'm right here, didn't.

755
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: Close the window. There's there's some sounds. Got don't do that.

756
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 1: P s a U.

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00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,280
Speaker 4: I'm back.

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00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 1: He gets really excited to see them and ditches me

759
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 1: pretty much the second we walks through the door. It

760
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 1: doesn't usually matter because we see each other all the

761
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,839
Speaker 1: time anyways, and I just go off to hang out

762
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 1: with the girls. I think it does matter.

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00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 2: It does matter. Your partner should want to like I mean,

764
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:36,720
Speaker 2: you shouldn't always have to hang out with your partner,

765
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 2: but they shouldn't be ditching it.

766
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 4: Or maybe he has so much to catch up with

767
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 4: the other guys with he's gonna go get the tea

768
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:44,759
Speaker 4: and then come back and bring it to you. He

769
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 4: doesn't want to waste time.

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00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 2: I have brought you the tea, Mistress. I have collected

771
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 2: it as you ordered.

772
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 5: Some British button have collected the tea as you've ordered.

773
00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 4: Sophia, I found another skit you could do British tea,

774
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 4: but it's like actual tea and like people, I'll talk

775
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 4: about it.

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00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 2: It's so like uh, down Nabby.

777
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 4: Yes, down Nabbey, but it's like actual, like did you

778
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 4: know that John has a size thirteen.

779
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 2: Foot that's down Nabby? Basically, yeah, exactly yeah, they drink

780
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 2: tea in the gossip I like.

781
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 3: I like the live sketch sketch pitches going on.

782
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:27,320
Speaker 2: Let's go we interrupt this regularly scheduled podcast to pitch

783
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 2: a sketch.

784
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 1: Now, aside from that lull our slash relationships cliche, he

785
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 1: is my best friend. He is always there for me

786
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: throughout all of my moments, family issues, and everything. He

787
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:42,880
Speaker 1: does anything for me and I for him. So our

788
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 1: wedding day, during the ceremony, he kept cracking jokes to

789
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 1: me while our priest was in the middle of talking.

790
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: I asked him to stop multiple times, so instead he

791
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 1: turned to his brother, the best man, and just kept

792
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,760
Speaker 1: whispering slash joking with him throughout half the ceremony.

793
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,359
Speaker 2: Wait, that's crazy. The priest is like, do you take

794
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 2: And he's like, oh my god, do you see the game?

795
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 1: Hey brother? You know you know it's funnier than twenty four?

796
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 2: Do you take this woman to.

797
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:12,359
Speaker 3: Be your twenty five?

798
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 2: Okay?

799
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:16,360
Speaker 1: The priest noticed and glared at us until I finally

800
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 1: poked him a whispered are you marrying your brother? Be quiet?

801
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I can picture this mm hmm.

802
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:24,760
Speaker 1: Now, after the ceremony we went back to the limo

803
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 1: with our bridal party. I thought we were both going

804
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 1: to be so giddy to finally be married, but his

805
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 1: attention almost immediately shifted to his bros.

806
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 4: I think I'm picking up on something here.

807
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 1: Well, what you're picking up on?

808
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 4: I think he may have married the wrong person.

809
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 2: He wanted to marry his bros. Oh, this is you.

810
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 2: This is your your video, Riley, the one I posted.

811
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 1: Someone handed me a drink clear luckily, and I tripped

812
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 1: over my husband's foot and ended up spilling half of

813
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,240
Speaker 1: it on his shoes and the bottom of my wedding dress.

814
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,360
Speaker 1: And he yelled at me in front of every one

815
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: and said that was your fault, so don't try to

816
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:05,760
Speaker 1: blame me. Wow.

817
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 2: Huh.

818
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 3: She tripped and spilled like water, a clear liquid.

819
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 2: It's spilled, probably water, And and then has said nothing

820
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 2: is maybe like I don't know, we don't know if

821
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 2: she's on the floor, but like this probably like gathering,

822
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 2: you know, gathering herself. And he starts yelling at her.

823
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 1: And says, this is your fault. Huh. So Sophia gag

824
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 1: golf cologne. I keep messing on people's names. Anyways, Sophia says, annulment.

825
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, yeah, stay of yeah, priests can probably do that.

826
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 3: Yeah right, just like one signature.

827
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,720
Speaker 2: Priests like you talk too much annulment.

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Speaker 3: Quickest, dude?

829
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Speaker 1: Can we do another compilation series shortest Shortest marriages Shortest marriages,

830
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: going in order from the longest to the shortest.

831
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Speaker 2: Ninety dance. But it's ninety day marriage.

832
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 3: Right, ninety days to one second divorce?

833
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 1: Ooh, that's nice. I hadn't even said anything. I just

834
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 1: tried to move my dress away. My mouth dropped. I

835
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:14,840
Speaker 1: couldn't believe immediately after getting married he was literally yelling

836
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 1: at me in front of our whole bridal party instead

837
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: of being happy. A minute went by and he apologized.

838
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: I told him I couldn't believe he would do that

839
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 1: to me after we had just gotten married, and he

840
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:28,439
Speaker 1: begged me to not let it upset me the whole

841
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 1: rest of the night. After we paid so much money,

842
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:32,839
Speaker 1: so I spent so much time trying to.

843
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,359
Speaker 3: Make the perfect day. I let it go.

844
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:41,839
Speaker 1: Newsflash, husband, you can't control her.

845
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,320
Speaker 2: Yelled at me in front of especially a partner, yelled

846
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: at me not only just in general with anytime, that okay,

847
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 2: but like to also yell at someone in front of

848
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 2: their family on your wedding day. I'd be like, for

849
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 2: stewing water. Yeah, that's that's like a giant red flo

850
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 2: So yeah.

851
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 3: It's a it's a red veil. Yeah, you know, dude,

852
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:05,919
Speaker 3: that kind of cool.

853
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 4: This happened to my grandma's dad the day before he

854
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 4: was getting married, his like knew wife he was with.

855
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 4: She spilt something on the carpet or someone was spilled

856
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 4: and she just went off on him, like went off night,

857
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 4: and he still went through with the wedding, And it

858
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 4: was like that woman was horrible, really bad.

859
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,760
Speaker 2: When people show you who they are, believe him to listen.

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00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 1: See now. Once the reception started, though, I realized that

861
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 1: our wedding would go just like any other friend gathering

862
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 1: him ditching me the entire time during the wedding to

863
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 1: hang out with them. I didn't see him once during

864
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Speaker 1: the cocktail hour which we attended, and throughout the party

865
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 1: after everyone kept stopping me and asking me where he

866
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,920
Speaker 1: was and why we weren't together at our own wedding.

867
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: Every time I found him, he would disappear again. I

868
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 1: started getting kind of upset and felt neglected the one

869
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 1: day that should be about us as a couple, and

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00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: I couldn't get him to spend more than a full

871
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: minute with me. Just just sixty seconds was too much

872
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: for this man. Yeah, okay, why are you even paying

873
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: this much for a wedding? How much did they pay it?

874
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:16,240
Speaker 3: We don't know, but they paid wedding costs.

875
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 2: They pay they paid money.

876
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 3: I mean, let's call it ten thousand dollars.

877
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:21,399
Speaker 2: Let's call it what it is. Ten k.

878
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 4: Okay, bro, you you probably could have lied, went to

879
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 4: Buffalo Wild Wings and put ten k on a bet

880
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:27,759
Speaker 4: and got more money than this.

881
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. If you don't like hanging out with your wife

882
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 2: or your partner, why are you marrying her?

883
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 1: He's just yeah, I just like don't like enjoy spending

884
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: time with you unless they're like, like a have to

885
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 1: because be like live together. It's like, I just want

886
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 1: to make sure I'm not spending any time with you

887
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: like as much as like, Oh my.

888
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 4: Gosh, that's a good point. That's a really good point. Okay,

889
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:46,760
Speaker 4: who's cooking, who's doing the laundry, who's doing the chores?

890
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 5: Oh?

891
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, you're kind of my maid. That's why

892
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 2: I'm marrying you.

893
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 1: Yep.

894
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,840
Speaker 2: And my bros are my wife, my bros. My bros

895
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: are my wife and you're my maid.

896
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,400
Speaker 3: Yes, wow, yikes.

897
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, this husband does not like you and that's

898
00:41:00,719 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 2: not okay.

899
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 4: Don't take that, dude, don't take husband.

900
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:05,120
Speaker 1: F Mary.

901
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 4: Kill now right now.

902
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 1: Kill kill kill. At one point, I was standing in

903
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 1: the middle of the dance floor by myself, looking around,

904
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: and his sister came up to me and asked what

905
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: was wrong. I guess it showed on my face, so

906
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 1: I told her the truth. Your brother is really upsetting me.

907
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:24,400
Speaker 1: I want to spend time with him, and he keeps leaving.

908
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: So she marched over to where he was and told

909
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 1: him to go talk to me. So he came over

910
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 1: to me, and I told him I would really like

911
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: to spend some time with him, and that this day

912
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 1: was for the two of us and I wanted to

913
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 1: have some moments together. He said, all these people came

914
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 1: for us, I have to spend time with them. Wrong move, buddy, dude.

915
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 2: The day is about the both of it's literally married,

916
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 2: for two of you, celebrating your partner.

917
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: The entire thing is about the two of you being together.

918
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 2: No, I feel like it's the whole point to an extent, like, oh,

919
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 2: you're hosting something, so you feel the need to talk

920
00:41:59,040 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 2: to people.

921
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, but people get it.

922
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, to not dance with your wife, I don't know.

923
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 2: I feel like if I were in this situation, and

924
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 2: I'm like a big hoster, like I understand not being

925
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 2: able to talk to other people and feeling you have

926
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,839
Speaker 2: to talk to everyone, you know, move from person to person.

927
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 2: But I feel like if I was marrying someone, I'd

928
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 2: be like, I want to talk to you as much

929
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:21,760
Speaker 2: as possible today.

930
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, and and everyone should understand. If they don't understand, then.

931
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:28,280
Speaker 2: Then why are they at your wedding?

932
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: Then why are they there? That's the thing. But he

933
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: did dance with me for a minute before it disappeared.

934
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:33,879
Speaker 2: How kind of him?

935
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 3: He hit a sixty second Oh yeah.

936
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:39,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, he was like, okay, and time gotta go fifty

937
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 2: eight fifty nine, He's She's like, you're never dancing with me.

938
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 2: He's like, I literally did I timed it?

939
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 3: Look, look it's my stop watch, bro, it's Belcrow.

940
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 1: So the photographer told us at one point after dinner

941
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 1: that he wanted to take photos of the two of

942
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 1: us outside, So my husband and I began to follow

943
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,760
Speaker 1: him and his crew. When the next minute, my husband

944
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,280
Speaker 1: had gone off with a friend. Again.

945
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 2: Why why are you paying all this money to hang

946
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 2: out with your friends, hang with the free right.

947
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 1: Even the photographers were getting frustrated with him at this point,

948
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 1: and they told me so. By the end of the night,

949
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: he was plastered, so there was no point of trying

950
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 1: to communicate with him anymore. We had an after party

951
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 1: during which I just hung out with his brother and

952
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 1: sister because once again he was off somewhere with his friends.

953
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:26,879
Speaker 1: I tried to talk to him about it the next

954
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 1: day after everything settled, and although he apologized for hurting

955
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: my feelings, he maintained that all of his married friends

956
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 1: told him that they barely saw their wives during their

957
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:41,240
Speaker 1: wedding nights. Interesting that the ones he quoted are getting divorced.

958
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:45,000
Speaker 2: Though, It's like, my friends never see their wives in general.

959
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, like they just like they're getting divorced.

960
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's not that doesn't have proved my.

961
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 1: Point, and and like, that's my goal in life is

962
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: to divorce you, So why would I not follow from

963
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: their inspirational examples.

964
00:43:58,000 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 2: At the end of the day, I'm kind of in

965
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:03,359
Speaker 2: but we maids right now, So I thought, you know,

966
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,879
Speaker 2: for the time being, you'd be my maid. Then when

967
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 2: I find another one, I divorce you.

968
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: It's cool, right, it's cool. So he thinks he's justified.

969
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 1: And then I'm just being dramatic. I've dropped it because

970
00:44:14,640 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: f I just married him. I want to actually enjoy

971
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 1: that fact, dang it. But it's still bothering me, and

972
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 1: I don't know if he's right. And I just had

973
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:29,359
Speaker 1: unreasonable expectations. And we have some relevant comments. We have

974
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:34,440
Speaker 1: an update. But Riley, but Sophia, I mean, do we

975
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: do we instant divorce? That's my question.

976
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 2: I think we know it, like I you guys aren't

977
00:44:41,080 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 2: ready to be married.

978
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:43,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

979
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:45,280
Speaker 3: Yes, how did they not see this before?

980
00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:48,320
Speaker 4: They put down like five k for the venue, seven

981
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 4: K for this, seven K for that.

982
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 2: The thing is that op did see this. Yeah, she

983
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 2: said that this has been his behavior the whole time

984
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 2: they've been together.

985
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 1: But she had she had this like uh excuse or

986
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 1: explanation where like, oh, we spend all of our time together,

987
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 1: we're at the house, so when we get together with

988
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 1: his friends, it's okay that he completely abandons me and

989
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:09,920
Speaker 1: ignores me.

990
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's not. It's not okay. This is just

991
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:16,320
Speaker 2: the behavior that he's going to carry into the rest

992
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 2: of the relationship. Regardless of whether or not you are officiated.

993
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 2: You know, your or your relationship is official, it doesn't

994
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 2: change how he's gonna act.

995
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:25,239
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah.

996
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 2: I think the thing is I would say, normally before

997
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:31,720
Speaker 2: you would divorce, you should go get therapy and stuff,

998
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,839
Speaker 2: and maybe that is still true, but it's these aren't

999
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 2: new These aren't new problems. It's not like this was

1000
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,920
Speaker 2: a one time thing where he behaved weirdly because you

1001
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 2: were maybe he was maybe having like wedding stress or something.

1002
00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 2: This is just who he is.

1003
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 1: This is who he is. But to your point, I

1004
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: think I think she could say if she does want

1005
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 1: to do counseling and try to works, it was like, hey,

1006
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 1: we're not ready to be married right now. We need

1007
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: to you know, get the annulment and then work on

1008
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:00,399
Speaker 1: a relationship until we reach the point where we're, yeah,

1009
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 1: where you're ready to not abandon me on our wedding night,

1010
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:04,840
Speaker 1: when you're ready to actually be like a husband.

1011
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,359
Speaker 2: I agree, Yeah, I think that's a I think yeah,

1012
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:09,840
Speaker 2: and maybe he'll take that as like, oh, we're breaking up,

1013
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:12,560
Speaker 2: in which case you know that relationship's over anyway.

1014
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 1: I got your answer. Yeah, I don't want to.

1015
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 3: I've already said how I feel, so what I need

1016
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 3: to talk to some person.

1017
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: About it, some stranger. I'm about to make you a stranger, buddy.

1018
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: But we got some relevant comments comment number one. Wow,

1019
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,359
Speaker 1: that's so sad. I feel so bad on your behalf

1020
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: just reading that. I'd be so pissed off and heartbroken

1021
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: if my future husband did that to me. In retrospect,

1022
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 1: because hindsight is twenty twenty, you should have addressed his

1023
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:40,439
Speaker 1: behavior changes when his friends are around way before getting hitched, yes,

1024
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 1: and made it known that it bothers you a lot.

1025
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 1: And if he had a single brain cell bouncing around

1026
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: in his cranium, he'd have a fair warning long in

1027
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: advance of how he neglected you so much on your

1028
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:54,240
Speaker 1: wedding day. Would not be cool at all, but alas

1029
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 1: the deed's been done. I don't think you're overreacting. I

1030
00:46:57,440 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: think you explained your side of things very well. I

1031
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,919
Speaker 1: wish which I could tell you to just walk away

1032
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,240
Speaker 1: from him, but you did and he only got defensive.

1033
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 1: Maybe try showing him this post. A man who truly

1034
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 1: loves you wouldn't want to hurt you and would be

1035
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 1: very remorseful if they unintentionally did, and would do anything

1036
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 1: to rectify the situation. Yes, OPI response. I'm thinking about

1037
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 1: showing him his post when he gets home tonight, but

1038
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 1: I've been drinking wine and I don't want to upset him,

1039
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 1: especially tonight without giving way too much. We don't live

1040
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 1: in France, but his job had troubles due to those

1041
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:31,760
Speaker 1: events tonight. What events niche events in niche industry, niche

1042
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 1: French events at least niche French events. At least we

1043
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:39,600
Speaker 1: have one descriptor now France. A reply f that I

1044
00:47:39,640 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: don't want to upset him. Crap. Think of how he

1045
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 1: made you feel on your guys' wedding day. I understand

1046
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 1: if he's having a hard time with all the horror

1047
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: that's happened in France. Maybe wait a couple of days,

1048
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 1: but don't just let it go. He had a great

1049
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:54,800
Speaker 1: time with his friends and made you feel like absolute crap.

1050
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 1: Like all the other gatherings between you two and his friends.

1051
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 1: He needs to feel like crap for what he did,

1052
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,719
Speaker 1: because it was a crappy thing to do. You need

1053
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 1: to bring it up to him, and do show him

1054
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 1: this post. If he gets mad at you about it,

1055
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 1: don't say a word, grab a bag, pack some clothes,

1056
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 1: and stay in a hotel for a few days. But

1057
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:18,040
Speaker 1: we have an update. What do we We've We've already

1058
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 1: said like, okay, you know annull and you know, give

1059
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 1: him the option to work on it or end it

1060
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 1: depending on his reaction. Yeah, do we get do we

1061
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:28,719
Speaker 1: get some space? Like, I don't know what what do

1062
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: we I think? So?

1063
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't know.

1064
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 4: I think this is not it not over and done.

1065
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think another reason why getting space could

1066
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:42,360
Speaker 1: be good too is she might be still in the

1067
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 1: vortex the reality distortion field.

1068
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 6: A little bit.

1069
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that this could work out.

1070
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:49,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, and maybe like a few days away talking to

1071
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: her friends who are outside of heck, not even necessarily

1072
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:56,320
Speaker 1: suggesting this, but even husband's brother and sister.

1073
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it seems like his sister was supportive of you.

1074
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, the sister was like, uh, brother, you need

1075
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:04,319
Speaker 1: to go hang with your wife right now.

1076
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 4: Friends, or we think about what the okay stories on

1077
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:10,840
Speaker 4: Jesus gave us one day whenever he came along, and

1078
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 4: we get curious about this, We get curious, maybe he's nervous.

1079
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 4: It's a wedding, it's a big day. He's nervous. He

1080
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 4: wants to be around the bros because that's what makes

1081
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 4: him comfortable. And the only thing he's seen is bros

1082
00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:24,720
Speaker 4: do with his wife. It's destructive and not very healthy.

1083
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:27,200
Speaker 4: So we need to have better role models in his life.

1084
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 1: I mean, it seems doesn't know what to do. It

1085
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 1: seems like he I'm guessing he does not have gay.

1086
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 1: His role models are his bros who are divorcing. Yeah,

1087
00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 1: that's his role models.

1088
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:39,239
Speaker 2: And I kind of know. I don't know if I

1089
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:41,320
Speaker 2: have to be curious, I kind of know the answer.

1090
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 1: There is a point, is a point.

1091
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:47,839
Speaker 2: He's sorry, been curious. She's been like why, why why

1092
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 2: did you do that? And he's because I don't really

1093
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:50,840
Speaker 2: I want to hang out with my bros.

1094
00:49:50,920 --> 00:49:53,560
Speaker 1: Because I like my bross.

1095
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 2: Woman, I can't hang you're just a woman, you have cuties.

1096
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 2: I can't hang out with you. Gotta hang out with

1097
00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:05,720
Speaker 2: my bros. You know the old saying, bros before gardening tools.

1098
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 1: That's right.

1099
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 5: And I don't like gardening, but I likes I don't

1100
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 5: like gardening. I like gardening too much, but I like

1101
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 5: my friends, So I'm gonna leave you on a rack.

1102
00:50:18,120 --> 00:50:22,200
Speaker 3: A real man would have it just flowers so true,

1103
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 3: but we haven't updates.

1104
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: After I posted this, I showed the thread and all

1105
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:31,440
Speaker 1: of its many awesome responses to my husband. You roasted

1106
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 1: oh got him. At first, he was kind of peeved

1107
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 1: that I shared it with so many people. I got

1108
00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 1: hundreds of upboats that I wasn't expecting, and I think

1109
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 1: it made him feel less anonymous. However, I gave him

1110
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 1: time to process it while I played with our cats.

1111
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:49,319
Speaker 1: When I came back, he looked really sad. He ended

1112
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:54,879
Speaker 1: up apologizing whoa, whoa and asked me what he could

1113
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 1: do to show him I meant the world to him.

1114
00:50:57,120 --> 00:51:01,319
Speaker 1: I told him there was nothing. I just wanted him

1115
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:04,960
Speaker 1: to know how much to upset me. Wait what nothing? Oh?

1116
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:08,719
Speaker 2: He's like. You could have been like, hey, I want

1117
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 2: you to be more communicative. I want you to prioritize

1118
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 2: our relationship, just like I don't know nothing and just

1119
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 2: want to you know, say it.

1120
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, tell him, give give him the guidance

1121
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: of like, hey, like when you go yeah, when you

1122
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 1: go with your friend, the clear one, when you get

1123
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:31,319
Speaker 1: with your friends, do not abandon me, include me, hang

1124
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: with me, hang out with me. Yeah, when we get married,

1125
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: don't abandon me. Yeah, dance with me, man, right, come on,

1126
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 1: I want to dance.

1127
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 4: Act like we just got married, man.

1128
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:46,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, just just pretend for one day.

1129
00:51:46,480 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 1: Oh god.

1130
00:51:47,040 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 4: Also, when I get married, I'm gonna milk that so much.

1131
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 4: We just got married for two years straight.

1132
00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:52,319
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1133
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:53,479
Speaker 1: I believe at.

1134
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 2: Every every hangouts gonna be like, I'm.

1135
00:51:56,480 --> 00:51:57,800
Speaker 3: Sorry, I just got sorry.

1136
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 1: Sorry married. That's gonna be a great, a great new

1137
00:52:01,360 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: pod joke once it comes around. I'm excited now. I

1138
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 1: just wanted him to know how much it's upset me.

1139
00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: I told him honestly that while most people think of

1140
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: their wedding day as the best day of their life,

1141
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: I didn't get the opportunity to feel that way about mine,

1142
00:52:15,520 --> 00:52:18,839
Speaker 1: and I still don't. Youch I'm happy I married him,

1143
00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:21,800
Speaker 1: but my wedding was a big cluster f of nerves

1144
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 1: and annoyance. I did have fun at various points during

1145
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 1: the evening, and I don't remember it only resentfully, but

1146
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:31,399
Speaker 1: it wasn't hashtag best day ever.

1147
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 2: Okay, you deserve that.

1148
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true, you do deserve that, But you know what,

1149
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 1: that's okay, no, it's not. It's okay.

1150
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,439
Speaker 3: I left, okay on top of my bed, abandon me again.

1151
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 2: It's cool, dude, Like, oh, my husband's finally getting it.

1152
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 2: It's fine, it's whatever, it's fine, be honest, start fine.

1153
00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: Tell him. We talked about it more in detail, and

1154
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 1: then we went on an amazing honeymoon, and then he

1155
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:04,880
Speaker 1: surprised me with a second honeymoon to a place in

1156
00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 1: our country that I've been dying to go to for ages.

1157
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:10,840
Speaker 1: I know we're still newly weeds, but I feel like

1158
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: we've been in a better place since being married. He's

1159
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:15,239
Speaker 1: been a lot more affectionate than he used to be.

1160
00:53:15,800 --> 00:53:18,080
Speaker 1: He was always nice to me, but he's always the

1161
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 1: doing type of lover. Oh God, he shows love by

1162
00:53:21,760 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 1: doing things for me instead of showing me physical affection

1163
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:25,640
Speaker 1: or telling me things.

1164
00:53:26,040 --> 00:53:26,800
Speaker 3: Acts of service.

1165
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 4: That's his love language.

1166
00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:30,840
Speaker 2: His active service at the wedding was ignoring you and

1167
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 2: ditching you.

1168
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 3: Yes, babe, I gave you the gift of solitude.

1169
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 2: Bro.

1170
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 4: You should have just had like, I don't know, like

1171
00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 4: a couch for him to build. He would have showed

1172
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 4: you love that way. Yeah, right, and then he would

1173
00:53:45,680 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 4: have kicked her off the couch. So his bros can

1174
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 4: all sit on him.

1175
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:49,800
Speaker 2: Remember my bros, you're coming.

1176
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 1: You gotta leave ruin it. But lately he's doing a

1177
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 1: lot to show me that he loves me in other ways.

1178
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:00,920
Speaker 1: We've hung out with friends a lot since then, And

1179
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 1: while I still maintain that I don't want to be

1180
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:05,919
Speaker 1: joined at the hip at social gatherings, I truly don't,

1181
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 1: which is why this issue never really came to a head.

1182
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 3: Before. He's been checking in with me more than he

1183
00:54:11,239 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 3: used to, because yeah, I.

1184
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 1: Was worried that which was nothing before, which was nothing before,

1185
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: anything is better. And I was worried that he does

1186
00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:21,520
Speaker 1: the second honeymoon because she said, oh, it's fine when

1187
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:22,160
Speaker 1: we're hanging out.

1188
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, And she's already said that it's fine when

1189
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 2: they're hanging out.

1190
00:54:24,520 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 3: But then they get together and he devanaged of I guess, I.

1191
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 1: Guess it's a little better.

1192
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 2: Okay, put my eye on you.

1193
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:36,439
Speaker 1: By the way, do you want to improve your life? Sofia, yes,

1194
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:39,799
Speaker 1: do you want to improve your life? Well, you can

1195
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:42,040
Speaker 1: go to Spotify or app or iHeart, and then you

1196
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,439
Speaker 1: can search Okay, story time, and then you can listen

1197
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 1: to two thousand episodes of this show what, Yeah, I

1198
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:50,399
Speaker 1: don't improve your life, Sofia. Oh way, yes it will.

1199
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 1: Don't argue with me. Okay, it's not factually incorrect information, Sofia.

1200
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 2: All right, then you're my boss, that's right.

1201
00:55:00,760 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 3: And I'm your boss to go look it up right now.

1202
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:08,359
Speaker 1: Anyways, in the end, I think we are so used

1203
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 1: to the way we act in normal social situations after

1204
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: eight years that it's hard to change for just one day.

1205
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:17,040
Speaker 1: Typically we both go off to hang out with other people.

1206
00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:19,359
Speaker 1: I said in the old thread that at this point

1207
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 1: most of our friends are mutual, that it was atypical

1208
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 1: for him to spend a lot of time around me,

1209
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: who he sees every day, instead of entertaining the people

1210
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:29,879
Speaker 1: who came out to celebrate him. I've forgiven him.

1211
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 2: Oh is he changed?

1212
00:55:32,400 --> 00:55:35,920
Speaker 1: He's changed? But I told him on our one year anniversary.

1213
00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:39,239
Speaker 1: He owes me a nice dinner at the catering hall,

1214
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: which also has a restaurant we got married at Winky Face.

1215
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:48,439
Speaker 4: Okay, all right, okay, I'll believe it, but I'm gonna

1216
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 4: do a test too, Like, okay, good, we're on the

1217
00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 4: same page here. Let's have the bros come over and

1218
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 4: see how you treat me.

1219
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 2: Then Oh, and what you do is you plant a

1220
00:55:57,280 --> 00:55:59,839
Speaker 2: series of series of traps with us. So the bro

1221
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 2: are like playing cod and you're like, babe, can you

1222
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:05,759
Speaker 2: help me in the kitchen? And then he has to

1223
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 2: choose cod or helping you. And then a little hour

1224
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 2: a couple hours later, Ah, the bros are are out

1225
00:56:13,680 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 2: smoking cigars. Babe, Ah, we need to help cleaning up

1226
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:20,160
Speaker 2: in here. What do you gonna choose?

1227
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:21,959
Speaker 1: You to choose? What was he gonna answer?

1228
00:56:22,160 --> 00:56:24,880
Speaker 2: Oh? The bros are going out for drinks after, babe,

1229
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 2: let's play board games. Want we get to cheat? You

1230
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 2: get to cheat?

1231
00:56:29,440 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 1: What are you gonna do?

1232
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what you gotta do. Yeah, give him, give

1233
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 3: him the labyrinth, the labyrinth of.

1234
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 2: Text a slice of cheese at the end, which is

1235
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:40,240
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship.

1236
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:45,719
Speaker 1: Oh delicious. And we have a comment to close us

1237
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 1: out here. Comment to number one says, you had a

1238
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 1: bad wedding, but it looks like a good marriage. A

1239
00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 1: lot of people have good weddings and bad marriages. I

1240
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 1: wish you the best. That true, last part is true.

1241
00:56:56,280 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 1: Comment to number two says, I am not intending to

1242
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 1: be a Debbie downer, but wanting to play to see

1243
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 1: so you are prepared. If you guys are intending to

1244
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 1: have kids at some point, you may well go through

1245
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 1: something similar where in social situations he goes off and

1246
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:12,120
Speaker 1: just assumes that you're taking responsibility for the kids. Good call.

1247
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 1: When that time comes, you might want to proactively chat

1248
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 1: about who is on duty when, and also to make

1249
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:21,560
Speaker 1: sure that the off duty person checks in periodically to

1250
00:57:21,640 --> 00:57:24,440
Speaker 1: see if anything has changed. Good advice and commed to

1251
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 1: number three. Other than just apologizing, did he even explain

1252
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 1: why he acted the way he did, in particular the

1253
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: wise cracks during the ceremony. We forgot about that, dude,

1254
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 1: good good question and screaming at you in the limo.

1255
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:40,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, and also screaming at her at the wedding.

1256
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, I forgot about those right, same same.

1257
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 2: You're not off the hook.

1258
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 3: Not off the hook, sir.

1259
00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:50,720
Speaker 1: I think it's great that you had a great honeymoon

1260
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 1: and he's being nicer to you, but I still think

1261
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 1: you need to get to the bottom of why he

1262
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 1: treated you the way he did. And then Opie says,

1263
00:57:58,080 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 1: yes he did about the eyes cracks. He was really

1264
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 1: nervous and diffuses nerves through humor. It was poor form.

1265
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:07,000
Speaker 1: And I'm still not happy about it, but he wasn't

1266
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:09,760
Speaker 1: trying to be malicious in any way. The yelling at

1267
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:13,439
Speaker 1: me parts that one was harder to swallow. He thought,

1268
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 1: since it was sort of his fault that the adult

1269
00:58:16,600 --> 00:58:19,120
Speaker 1: soda spilled on my dress, that I was going to

1270
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 1: be really angry at him for it. Expensive dress, high emotions.

1271
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 1: I didn't because nothing was going to ruin my mood.

1272
00:58:27,160 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 1: But he reacted defensively. Yeah, not awesome. Yeah, I.

1273
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 2: Really an excuse for that.

1274
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 1: That doesn't make any sense. I'm sorry, it doesn't make

1275
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:38,840
Speaker 1: any sense. I was only able to let it go

1276
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:41,240
Speaker 1: because I know he never typically acts out like that.

1277
00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:44,000
Speaker 1: This was the one part of the day, more than

1278
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:46,720
Speaker 1: anything else, that I was the most angry about in

1279
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 1: the days and weeks following the wedding. So yeah, not

1280
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 1: great reasons, unfortunately, But I still understand. I wasn't best

1281
00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: at the best at managing my emotions either that day.

1282
00:58:57,680 --> 00:59:00,800
Speaker 2: But when you did that, you didn't do any of that.

1283
00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:01,920
Speaker 2: You didn't do any of that.

1284
00:59:02,320 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 1: Like, it's okay that you didn't manage your emotions. Great,

1285
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 1: It's like I ended up snapping at his cousin inside

1286
00:59:08,320 --> 00:59:10,640
Speaker 1: the church because he accidentally opened the doors in front

1287
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:13,160
Speaker 1: of me, right before my entrance, but before the bridal

1288
00:59:13,240 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: party had a chance to walk. I apologize to him

1289
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 1: a million times for it, though, I.

1290
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:19,800
Speaker 2: Mean such a small mind you probably are like, hey,

1291
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 2: don't don't open the doors.

1292
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then he's like, oh my god, like how

1293
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 3: can I how can I ever do that?

1294
00:59:24,760 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 1: Cousin, I'm so I'm so sorry.

1295
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, like, if it's cool, it's your wedding, Like, hey.

1296
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 2: I'd keep an eye on this so called husband of yours,

1297
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:36,400
Speaker 2: keep an eye on him, but uh, that's the end

1298
00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 2: of that story.

1299
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: So we can't keep an eye on you any longer.

1300
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:41,080
Speaker 2: That's also the end of the episode.

1301
00:59:41,280 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 1: You're gonna escape our grasp in our eyeballs. But it's

1302
00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:48,160
Speaker 1: got to happen, sooner or later. What can you do?

1303
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:50,000
Speaker 1: That's all good things must come to an end. Yep.

1304
00:59:50,280 --> 00:59:52,560
Speaker 3: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe we

1305
00:59:52,720 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 3: love you and see it a