1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: What are the cases I want to hear from you? 8 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's. 13 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 3: My question for you is I am about eight years 14 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 3: into a relationship. I don't have any kids with my boyfriend. 15 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 4: We live very happy. We're finally at the point where 16 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 4: we're accomplishing all our goals. I don't know if I'm 17 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 4: being impatient, or I'm being stubborn, or maybe just toxica. 18 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 4: But it's been eight years and I'm not even a 19 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 4: fiance yet. And maybe things aren't meant to be linear, 20 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 4: or maybe things aren't meant to be at a time frame. 21 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 4: Maybe it's you know, all in God's hands. But kind 22 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 4: of feel like eight years is a little bit too 23 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 4: long to not even be engaged. 24 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:35,759 Speaker 2: So my question for you. 25 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 4: Would be, if you were in your mid twenties and 26 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 4: you were in a long committed relationship like this, what 27 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:46,959 Speaker 4: would you tell yourself anyways? Hope to hear back from you. 28 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: Okay, anonymous listener, here's the thing. You are in your 29 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 1: mid twenties, so you're still fairly young. I personally think again, 30 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: this is my personal opinion that we should get married 31 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,959 Speaker 1: like in our thirties. Fine, if you want to get 32 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: married earlier, there's nothing wrong with that. Other people, like 33 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: a lot of people, a lot of men, a lot 34 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: of women, are very mature and can do that. I 35 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: just feel like we get to know ourselves in a 36 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: different way in our thirties, like we're still discovering ourselves 37 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: in our twenties. The difference here is that you guys 38 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: have been together for eight years, so that. 39 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 2: You guys were in your teens when you met. 40 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: But eight years is a very long time to be 41 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: with someone without having a deeper commitment, like an engagement 42 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: at least, So I get your frustration and I get 43 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 1: you kind of like, Okay, where are we going, what 44 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: is happening? Have you had this conversation with him? Have 45 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: you asked him? Have you told him, hey, I want 46 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: to take our relationship to the next level. If you 47 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,360 Speaker 1: haven't communicated that, then I suggest that you do that. 48 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,679 Speaker 1: If you have and he's just still not nudging, then 49 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:01,799 Speaker 1: maybe that is a sign for you to just make 50 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 1: a decision for yourself. Maybe he's thinking too, hey, maybe 51 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 1: I want to ask her, you know, in our thirties 52 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,399 Speaker 1: or in a few years. It all depends on how 53 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:16,640 Speaker 1: long you're willing to wait and if he's worth the wait. 54 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: Only you can answer that question. But as far as 55 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: you're getting antsy and kind of like wondering what's happening? 56 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: I totally get it. You know, you guys have been 57 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 1: together for a long time and at this age. For me, 58 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: as soon as I hit my thirties, I was like, 59 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I don't want to waste time with 60 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: guys like I want to know within a year do 61 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:33,959 Speaker 1: you want to marry me? But that's different because you 62 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: guys are still very young. You're in your mid twenties, 63 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: so it's just a little tricky. But I would just say, 64 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: have the conversation with him. That's the best advice I 65 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 1: can give you, and just tell him, Hey, if you're 66 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: really ready to take your relationship to the next level, 67 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: then definitely have the conversation and tell him that you 68 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: are ready and then go from there, because if he 69 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: tells you he's not ready, then then you have to. 70 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 2: Make a decision. Are you willing to wait? 71 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: Write down his pros and his cons like, weigh it out, 72 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: and then make your decision. I hope that that made sense, 73 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: and I hope I was able to help you, and 74 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: thank you so much for your question. I hope everything 75 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: works out. Okay, guys, So the next question comes from alexis. 76 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:19,599 Speaker 5: Hi Cheeky's Oh my God, I love you girls. Okay, 77 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 5: my question. So, I've been stuck for a while regarding 78 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 5: my artistry, which is music. And I know you're a 79 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 5: very versatile artist. You know, you've done banda goumbian, you know, reggaeton, 80 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 5: You've done it basically all. But what I'm having difficulty 81 00:04:41,360 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 5: is trying to see what I start with because for 82 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 5: a long time I've been a rapper, you know rapping, 83 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 5: you know, bars, bars, bars, But now I'm really into reggaeton, 84 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 5: like Spanish music is something that I hold I really 85 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 5: close to my heart, and like that's something I've been 86 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 5: doing lately that just flows more natural for me. But 87 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 5: I know I'm mainly known for, you know, rapping, So 88 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:15,239 Speaker 5: I'm just like stuck between what should I do. Should 89 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 5: I just continue this English project or should I you know, 90 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:22,159 Speaker 5: skip that and just do my Spanish music. I don't know, 91 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 5: what do you recommend I do? Because I want to 92 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 5: do it all. 93 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:29,600 Speaker 1: Well, if you want to do it all, Alexis, I 94 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 1: suggest that you do it all. I am the wrong 95 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:34,719 Speaker 1: person to ask when it comes to that, because I 96 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: am definitely a risk taker, especially when it comes to 97 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: my music. I don't want to be put in a 98 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: box and just do what people think I should do. 99 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:46,840 Speaker 1: I want to try it all, and I'd rather say 100 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: I tried it and it didn't work than to live 101 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:51,479 Speaker 1: with the oh, I didn't do it because I was afraid. 102 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 2: So definitely tap into that. 103 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,719 Speaker 1: If your soul is asking for that, the Spanish and 104 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: reaton and the whole thing, do it. There is absolute 105 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: nothing wrong. Especially this is your artistry, Like, this is 106 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: your way of expressing yourself, So don't feel limited completely, 107 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 1: explore it, try it all, and then you'll know I 108 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:13,919 Speaker 1: really like this or I'm going to stick to what 109 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: I know, or try it all. 110 00:06:16,080 --> 00:06:18,039 Speaker 2: Honestly, do it. 111 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:21,040 Speaker 1: You don't want to regret it later on, especially if 112 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 1: your soul is asking for and it sounds like your 113 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: soul is asking for it. So this is your art 114 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: and it doesn't even matter. Like even someone that doesn't 115 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:31,960 Speaker 1: speak Spanish and wants to sing Spanish music, I love it. 116 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, you don't even have to understand the lyrics. 117 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: You feel the music. So if you're feeling it, girl, 118 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 1: express it, do it one hundred. I support you, so 119 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:46,080 Speaker 1: I'm excited for you. Let us know, let us know, 120 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: give us feedback. Okay, I want to know if you 121 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: did it, and I want to hear something, So play 122 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: us a little something next time. 123 00:06:51,960 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 2: Thank you, Alexis. Okay. Last question comes from Jason. 124 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 6: Hey, Cheeky's Girl. Just wanted to say I love you 125 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 6: so much. You're actually on my vision board right now. 126 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 6: Literally just again manifesting being an unstoppable baddie period. But 127 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 6: I need your advice. So I've been dating these two 128 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 6: guys at the same time, and one of the guys 129 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 6: I've been actually really liking and we're about to be exclusive, 130 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 6: but I'm still kind of lingering with the other guy 131 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 6: just talking to him. But I really do want to 132 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 6: end it and just say like, hey, I just want 133 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 6: to be friends, but I don't want to you know, 134 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 6: like ghost him or you know, like be mean about it. 135 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 6: So I just wanted to get advice on like how 136 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 6: would I like approach the other guy to tell him like, hey, 137 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 6: like I don't want anything else, but you know, a friendship. 138 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 6: Please help me. 139 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 2: Love you, Jason, Well, thank you. 140 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: It's it's so nice to know that I'm on your 141 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 1: vision board. That makes me feel very special. So thank 142 00:07:58,960 --> 00:07:59,559 Speaker 1: you so much. 143 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:01,400 Speaker 2: Now let's get into the nitty gritty. 144 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: Okay, boy, you need to just be straight up just 145 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: say hey, I was really feeling you, because talking to 146 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: two people at the same. 147 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 2: Time, that's a lot of work. 148 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 1: I don't know how you could do that, Like, hey, 149 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: I'm not judging you, I'm just saying like, for me, 150 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 1: it's too much where it caused me anxiety then like 151 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: my guilt, like it would drive me nuts. 152 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 2: But now that you know that you're going one way. 153 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: Versus the other, and you're really feeling the other guy, 154 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: Make sure you're faithful, Jason, Okay, make sure you're faithful 155 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:33,599 Speaker 1: and honest, because if you guys are still dating and 156 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:35,079 Speaker 1: then you guys were seeing other people, then okay, I 157 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 1: guess that's fine, but tell the other dude. You got 158 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: to tell them straight up. Hey, I was really feeling you. 159 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: I really like the time that we spent together. But 160 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: I have to be honest if you want to tell 161 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: him you're talking to someone else, or you just say, hey, 162 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 1: I just want it. I just want us to be friends. 163 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: And actually you probably shouldn't even be friends with him though, 164 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: because if you're gonna that's too much temptation. 165 00:08:57,880 --> 00:08:59,079 Speaker 2: You can't keep someone that. 166 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: You were dating and maybe having sex with and you know, sucky, sucky, 167 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: whatever it is that you guys are doing, you can't 168 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:08,439 Speaker 1: keep them around because then it's temptation. You got to 169 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,079 Speaker 1: cut them off all the way you have to. There's 170 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 1: no way that's going to work. I'm fine with my 171 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: man having friends that are girls because they never had sex. 172 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 1: If they would have had sex or anything, I'd be like, hey, 173 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: that's not cool. You know, if you guys are just 174 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: friends and nothing ever happened, then cool. But in this situation. 175 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: You got to cut them off. You just got to 176 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:28,400 Speaker 1: be honest. I mean, just say, hey, I was really 177 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: feeling you, but right now I'm in a different place 178 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: and I think we can you know, I can't even 179 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: really be your friend right now. 180 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:35,200 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. 181 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 1: I hope you don't take this like personally, but it's 182 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: just I'm going a different way right now and you 183 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,720 Speaker 1: have to block them. I'm sorry, but you have to 184 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 1: just cut that off if you want to make things 185 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:48,679 Speaker 1: work with this other person. It's the only way. You 186 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: can't entertain that relationship anymore at all. And I wish 187 00:09:52,160 --> 00:10:00,360 Speaker 1: you the best with this other person. Communication. Okay, be faithful, please, Jason. Okay, 188 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: let us know what's up. I want to hear it. 189 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:07,319 Speaker 2: Okay, guys. So that concludes this episode. 190 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 1: I hope that I was able to give good advice 191 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: even though my back is killing me right now. But 192 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:14,199 Speaker 1: I am here because I love you guys, and you 193 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 1: guys always make me feel better. So thank you for listening, 194 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: Thank you for watching. 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