WEBVTT - #199 There Are Things I Kept From My Wife In This Book... 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:02.360 I brought up stuff that I've never brought up before, 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:05.720 not even to Amber. I wrote stuff in this book 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:08.760 that Amber didn't know, that no one on the planet 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:13.399 in fact knew. And it wasn't until I finished the 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:18.280 manuscript itself that I needed to call Amber and tell her, Hey, 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:32.400 there's some stuff in this book that you don't know about. Okay, 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:35.400 welcome to the podcast. This is a special episode, and 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:40.320 I'm going to read your questions about Like a River tomorrow. 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.640 As this releases every Monday morning, So as this releases 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.839 tomorrow is August first, if you're listening to it in 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:49.320 real time or on the actual day it releases, which 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.640 most people probably won't. But for the people that are, 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:56.520 my book, Like a River comes out tomorrow. So motivated 0:00:56.520 --> 0:01:00.880 by that, so excited, I mean, probably little bit nervous 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:03.360 about it too, because it's just I looked back on 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:10.399 the process of this, and January of twenty twenty one 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:14.319 is when I finished the proposal to start pitching to publishers. 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:18.919 So before that, you know, is when I was putting 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:21.679 my thoughts together. So it's been quite a process. And 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:25.319 I remember putting together that proposal and when we finally 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:28.360 ended up getting the publishing deal, the green light to 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:32.240 write the book. They were talking about fall of twenty 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:36.360 twenty three, and I remember thinking, that's decades away. It 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:39.000 feels so long from now and now here. We are 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:44.679 literally one day tomorrow it releases. And so if you 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.040 haven't gotten like a River yet, first of all, let 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:49.120 me just give you my little pitch. This is my 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:52.760 life story and well at least the last five years, 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:56.200 which have been the most impactful of my entire life, 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:59.240 and we're going to cover in this book with me, 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:03.080 I'm going to cover the the journey through grief and 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:06.640 loss of my little boy, three year old boy River 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:08.399 as we lost him, my wife and I lost him, 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:12.799 And the book is going to open with that. In fact, 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:16.960 I got one right here. I got it right here. 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:21.040 The book opens with that. Chapter one. We're going straight 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:25.959 into it. So let me start reading the very beginning. 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.920 It says, soak in this moment because it won't last forever. 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:34.320 It was the last thought I remember having before everything changed. 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:37.440 So right at the beginning of this book, we're getting 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:40.840 into the meat of what happened, the catalyst that then 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:44.280 turned into many other things that happened in my life 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:49.320 that are worth telling they that's an understatement. It's so 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:53.600 important for me to tell this story that I'm literally 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:59.680 giving up the biggest passion hobby career of my life, 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.520 and that's touring as a musician. I'm giving all of 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:05.600 that up because I believe that this message in this 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:09.639 book and me supporting the book and trying to get 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:12.600 it into as many hands as possible is more important 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:15.520 than all the fame and all the glory, and all 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.239 the stages and all the money and all the festivals 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:22.639 and all the shows forever that I could breathe there 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:28.160 on this earth. I think I'm pretty sure, especially if 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:31.640 you know me, that's a statement. I'm making a statement 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:35.240 for my life about this. Okay, what I want to 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.080 do today because it comes up tomorrow. So if you, 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:41.040 if you haven't gotten one, please help me and get 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:42.520 this book. And the reason I say help me is 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:46.040 because in these next seven days eight days, it's very 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:50.400 important for all those best seller lists. Why is that important? Well, 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.920 that's important because that kicks you up on the algorithm 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:55.680 that gets you onto other lists. And there's certain people, 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:58.160 certain kinds of people that don't know me, that only 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:01.640 buy books on those lists. So why is that important 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.920 because that gets it, that spreads this word, this message 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:08.840 in this book further than my own reach, further than 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.880 people that would listen to this podcast, further than country 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:17.080 music or smiths or fans of me in general. So 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.479 that's why it's important to kick up the sales enough 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:23.880 to get on some kind of bestseller list. So that's 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:30.520 my immediate short term goal right now. I asked Instagram 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:32.640 if you guys had any questions about this book, and 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:35.760 then promise that I would read them on the podcast. 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:39.280 And so typically on this podcast, I answer your questions 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.920 when you email me Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Today, 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.040 I'm going to break the form just a little bit, 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:48.320 just shy of two hundred episodes, and I'm gonna answer 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:54.240 questions specifically about like a river and there's a bunch 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:56.000 and so I'm just gonna kind of scroll through. I'm 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:58.000 gonna scan them a little bit and see if it's 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.840 something that I've already repeated or not, and we'll just 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:05.800 see what happens here. First question says, is the book 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:09.119 too soon to share with a friend who just lost 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:14.400 her twenty year old son last month. No, I would 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:18.120 say no. I would say that it's it would be 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.680 too soon for a lot of things in the grief process, 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:24.640 like telling her it's time to get us, it's time 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:27.000 to go, it's time to go back to work, it's 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:28.960 time to be engaged, it's time to put on your 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:32.280 makeup and pick up your bootstraps and go. It's too 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:37.320 soon for that. But as you bring her lasagna one 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:42.159 night and you're speaking with her, it might not be 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:44.040 something that you say, like, hey, you need to read 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:45.919 this book. But you might just bring a copy of 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:49.760 Like a River and put it on her table and say, 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:54.120 this is a guy that lost his son. He explains 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:59.200 the whole process, his whole entire grieving process, page by page. 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:02.119 If you want to see what happened, what didn't work 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:05.720 for him, and then what eventually did. If you want 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:07.800 to read that, here here, just drop it on the 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:10.719 table right here. I don't think it's too soon for that. 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:18.080 Somebody says, here, I'm seeing you in Albuquerque in a 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:21.960 few weeks. Will the book be available there? I'm so excited. Yes. 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.120 We don't know exactly how the book's going to be available. 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:28.599 We're going to probably work with local vendors, so local 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:33.080 bookstores that carry it will probably invite them to come 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:37.160 to our shows and bring some with them that will 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:41.560 prevent us. Well, first of all, there's all kinds of 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:45.000 reasons why ye Apparel can't physically carry it unless we 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:48.039 buy them and resell them. So the easier process is 0:06:48.920 --> 0:06:51.800 a local bookstore comes in to our shows, which is 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:57.000 very possible, and we'll make sure that it's in Albuquerque. 0:06:58.000 --> 0:06:59.760 Here's what it says, will you be selling a limited 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:03.240 stock of signed copies I'm gonna sign. I'm gonna I'm 0:07:03.240 --> 0:07:07.159 gonna always sign books, so if you need, if you 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:10.400 need a sign book, I'm not hard to find. I 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:13.280 will always sign books. And the next one says, how 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.440 do I get a signed copy? There's gonna be lots 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:19.760 of ways. I'll continue to tell you different ways, but 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:21.640 I'm not gonna slow that down. There's not like a 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:28.000 limited number that I'm gonna sign. This question says, do 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:30.920 you have this book on tape? I'm just a fireman. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:37.040 I'm not very good at reading. You know it's interesting, Yes, 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:41.720 this book is going to be on audible. But and 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:44.239 I know he's joking, and this is actually my friend Jared. 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:48.240 I know Jared, but it is interesting. Let me just 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:50.720 throw this out there that I realize there's a lot 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:53.000 of people that think I don't read books. It's not 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:55.880 my thing. I don't read books, and so the audiobook 0:07:56.040 --> 0:08:00.600 is for you. Great, But I would challenge you to 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.400 give this book a shot because I'm not a really 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:07.240 smart guy, and I think, I hope, I pray, and 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.480 I believe that even the person that says they can't 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:13.000 read very well, or they don't read and they don't 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.960 like reading, or they get too distracted with reading, I 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:18.640 would be willing to bet that this book is still 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:21.520 okay for you because I think I speak in a 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:25.920 language that you could understand. I'm not super intellectual, right, 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:31.720 give it a try, Give a try, please. This person says, 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:34.120 do you have Bible verses in it? Yes? I do. 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:36.520 Every chapter is going to start with a Bible verse. 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:39.120 Plus there is some other things I unpack in there. 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:42.559 Will it be on Amazon? Yes it will. That's an 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:47.720 easy way to get it. Amazon's super easy. This person says, 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:51.280 what's the best part of the book? I could tell you, 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:55.160 but then that would be giving it away, wouldn't it. 0:08:57.400 --> 0:08:59.560 I will say this for those of you that know 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:02.720 me and know my story, I'm not necessarily saying this 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:05.280 is the best part. But for those of you that 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:09.440 know me, know that River, my son, he's the one 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.480 that gets on the title of this book. He's the 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:13.160 one that gets you know, the first chapter and the 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:17.320 catalyst and so much that happens after it. But truly, 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:21.160 the star of the book itself is Maverick. I'll give 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:26.840 you that much. Next person says, I'm a school librarian. 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:30.440 Will you come speak to our FCA club in San Antonio? Certainly, 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.800 certainly you could. You could find me on my website 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:37.080 grangersmith dot com. There is a contact page and there 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:42.280 is a speaking request form. Typically, I do not charge 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:50.000 anything for speaking at something like that or church. Next 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:52.240 question here says what has the Lord taught you while 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:56.040 writing this book? Oh, man, I would say patience because 0:09:56.080 --> 0:10:00.800 it's been a long time. It's been a long slow ride. 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:06.600 Making an album is a lot quicker than this. This 0:10:06.679 --> 0:10:09.040 question says, I'm excited to read it. My question is 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.480 for your wife, what were your thoughts on this book? Well, 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:15.880 Amber's not sitting here with me, but Amber has been 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:19.600 so supportive, so supportive, and it's been very interesting because 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:21.880 as I write some of the stories in the book, 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:25.240 and as you might have noticed, those of you that 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:27.800 are watching this podcast right now maybe on YouTube, you 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:30.640 might notice that I'm actually sitting in the place where 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:33.680 Amber does arise. I wanted to change up this episode 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:39.120 since I'm not answering typical questions. I'm sitting in her spot. 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:41.680 But she's been so encouraging to me, and there was 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:44.080 interesting times when I was writing a part of the 0:10:44.120 --> 0:10:48.360 story and I would say a fact about what was happening. 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:50.120 For instance, there was one time when I was talking 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:53.120 to Amber in the book and I said, we were 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:56.160 sitting on the edge of the bed having this discussion, right, 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:59.760 And later she comes to me and she goes, hey, 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:01.719 you know, we weren't sitting on the edge of the bed. 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.080 We were sitting on the stairs at the bottom of 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:07.600 the stairs. I trust her memory over mine, and I 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:12.599 was like, you're right, You're totally right. The meat of 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.160 the conversation in my mind was so important that it 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:19.600 took over the facts of my surroundings and where I 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:24.000 actually was very interesting that happened in different places of 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:26.000 the book as I had as I sent it to 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:28.640 all the people that were involved, and they came back 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:31.000 with me and were like, yeah, try this try this. 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:38.880 Here's the question says, will the book be about the 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:44.720 timelines of grief that you experienced? Yes, somewhat, somewhat yes. 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.000 What was the most difficult sentence you wrote in the 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.679 book and why? H I don't really know. I can't 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:55.400 really tell you the most difficult sentence, but I tell 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:58.240 you the most difficult chapter was chapter seven. It's called 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:03.760 the Dark Night of the Soul, and it was difficult 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.120 to write, but that's an understatement compared to how difficult 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:10.720 it was to live. And the Dark Night of the 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:15.440 Soul comes six chapters after we lost riv so that 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:17.320 story was at the very beginning. So don't think it's that. 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:21.760 What I've been saying is as people as I've given 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:25.959 this book out and people have read through, and sometimes 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:30.120 they'll text me and there'll be a certain amount of 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:34.440 pages in and they'll say, you, granger, I read I'm 0:12:34.440 --> 0:12:37.640 at I'm trying to find where it is. I'm at 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:42.480 page you know, ninety five or whatever. Yeah, we're in 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:48.199 ninety five, ninety six hundred, and I realized that they're 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.800 in the Dark Night of the Soul chapter and they're like, man, 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:53.120 I just can't believe this. I can't I can't believe 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:57.240 this chapter, et cetera, et cetera. In my usually I 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:02.360 don't reply because what I'm really is read chapter eight. 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.320 You get the chapter seven. You might get stuck, and 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:09.440 you might you might get a really weird feeling, a 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:13.240 really bad feeling. You might understand a little bit of 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:16.600 how it felt to write it and experience it. But 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:19.000 the best thing I could say is get the chapter eight. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.120 Read chapter eight, then we'll talk. Then we could talk. 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:25.680 It almost needs to come with a warning label. I'll 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:27.800 give you this book, or you could buy this book, 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:32.440 but don't message me at chapter seven, message me after 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:39.400 chapter eight. This question says, what is your greatest hope 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:43.600 that comes from this book? My greatest hope is that 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.040 even one person, and that's the reason I want to 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:49.120 get it into so many hands is to help the 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:54.600 odds of this but that even one person could find 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:59.360 the same hope and peace and rest at the source 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:02.600 of the river during their darkest time, during their maybe 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:05.880 their darkest night of the soul, like I did, and 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.679 this book the Lord used as a catalyst for that. 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:16.640 That's that's my greatest hope. Question says is it tough 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:20.000 for you or Amber to read through the book. Well, 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:22.560 I read the audiobook. Obviously, I've read it many times 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:28.240 after I've written it for the editing process, but I 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.480 read the final copy for the first time while I 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:35.280 was reading the audio recording the audiobook, and that was 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:39.120 the really first time, the first time that I heard 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:43.000 all of my changes in my little edits together, flowing together, 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:51.200 not just in clumps and sections. And I cried probably 0:14:51.240 --> 0:15:00.440 every chapter, not always sad tears. Put it that way. 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:03.920 This question says, would you rate how hard it was 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:09.120 to write? Surprisingly, not hard. It was not hard. I 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:12.840 mean we're not talking emotionally, we're talking just physically. Practically. 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:15.080 It was not hard to write because it was all 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:18.360 right there in my head. I was ready to come out. 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:30.720 I'm kind of scanning around here on these questions. When 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:33.320 did you decide you were open, You're going to open 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:47.480 up and write this book? Probably about September twenty twenty one. Yeah, yeah, 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:50.920 twenty twenty two was the proposal. January twenty twenty two 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:58.680 was when we was that right, No, I'm good, my 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:03.400 ears mixed up twenty twenty. September twenty twenty was the 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:05.160 first was like, yeah, I got to write a book, 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:11.160 something like that. I don't know how many of y'all 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:12.800 know that COVID kind of messed up all of our 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:21.280 memories on months and years. There's a lot of questions 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:23.720 like that, what made you want to write this book? 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:26.000 You know what? I just woke up one day. Honestly, 0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:27.360 I had thought about it a lot, and I woke 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:29.000 up one day and just thought, I got to do it. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:31.440 I need to do it. I need to start the process. 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:34.120 So I called my brother Tyler, who's my manager, and 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:39.200 he said, well, I think my advice to you is 0:16:39.240 --> 0:16:42.000 to call two people that you know that have written books. 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.800 And one was Ryan Mickler, who has the Order of 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:48.000 the Order of the Man podcast. Message him because he's 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:51.080 just releasing a book. And then message ed my Latt, 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:54.600 who's written hundreds of books. So I did that. Both 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.400 of those guys were very helpful and sent me in 0:16:57.440 --> 0:17:02.960 the direction of a literary EI who then could say, Okay, well, 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:05.880 here's the process, here's what we need to do. Here's 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.160 what you need to put together before we can propose 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:15.960 this to different publishers. This question says what your was 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.000 your wife a big part of helping you deal with 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:23.840 the loss. You could read the book for that one, 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:28.280 because that's up for that's up for a good conversation. 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:36.119 This question says, I'm a fan of your music. I 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:39.480 share the same faith. Why should I read this book? 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:43.880 Lord knows I do need help in my life? That's interesting. 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:48.439 It's an interesting question. By country Boy Revival, that's his 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:54.399 name on Instagram. I would say this, country Boy Revival, 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:58.760 I would say this, will you if you like my music, 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:00.720 if you've been a fan of my music, and I 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:04.240 would say that it might be right to say that 0:18:04.280 --> 0:18:06.960 as I've put out a music video from a song 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:10.119 that you've liked, you've trusted me with that music video. 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:17.240 I would say, may I extend that trust to this book? 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:21.520 May I ask you to trust me that you should 0:18:21.560 --> 0:18:25.600 read this book. I could go through some generic reasons, 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:29.280 but I would ask, will you trust me and read 0:18:29.280 --> 0:18:32.520 the book and let me know what you think. I'm 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:34.440 gonna take a quick break and we'll be right back 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:42.840 to continue these questions. Okay, this podcast is brought to 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:46.159 you today, as you could probably guess by my book 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.960 Like a River, That's what I want to talk about. 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:51.199 Because as I sit here and record this, it is 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:53.560 still not available to the world, but it will be 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:57.320 on August first by the time you are hearing this. 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:00.880 If you're hearing this right now and do not have 0:19:00.960 --> 0:19:04.000 the book Like a River, I would encourage you to 0:19:04.040 --> 0:19:08.360 go to Amazon dot com, pullet your app, pull out 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:11.520 your Prime app, pull out your Walmart dot Com app 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:13.720 if that's what you use, or Barnes and Noble, wherever 0:19:13.760 --> 0:19:16.280 you like to find books. I would encourage you to 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:19.359 check out my book Like a River. And if you 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:22.800 are a fan of this book, if you already know 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:25.080 a little bit about this book, and you know that 0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:29.360 it could help people, maybe someone that's hurting or lost, 0:19:29.480 --> 0:19:34.760 or broken or heartbroken in any way, then you think, well, 0:19:34.760 --> 0:19:36.480 down the road, I want to get that person a book. 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:39.920 I would encourage you to get it today for them 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:44.240 so that we could make a bigger impact with the 0:19:45.040 --> 0:19:47.680 immediate number we get this week on that book. If 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:49.639 that doesn't make any sense to you, here's what I'm 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:52.760 trying to say. This is our best shot this week, 0:19:53.080 --> 0:19:55.920 because it's brand new and it has pre orders included. 0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:58.440 This is our best shot to get on some kind 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:01.680 of bestseller list. If it does that, it gets into 0:20:01.720 --> 0:20:04.680 the hands of so many others. So that's my goal. 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.560 Is to get this book my story. When I lost 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:11.359 my son Riv, I had no idea the pain that 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:14.240 I would be plunged into, and that it was a 0:20:14.320 --> 0:20:17.800 kind of pain that I could not bring myself out of. 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:22.479 I learned that I didn't have to do that, and 0:20:22.520 --> 0:20:25.120 I want to show other people as many people as 0:20:25.160 --> 0:20:28.560 I can, so they don't go to the extent in 0:20:28.640 --> 0:20:32.880 their brokenness that I did. That's in a nutshell, that's 0:20:32.960 --> 0:20:35.719 why I wrote Like a River. It's it's a story 0:20:35.720 --> 0:20:39.120 of hope. It's a story of purpose on the other 0:20:39.200 --> 0:20:42.720 side of your pain. Please check it out. It comes 0:20:42.720 --> 0:20:46.200 out August first, as we speak. It's called Like a River. 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:52.840 It's my brand new book. All right, we're back here 0:20:52.880 --> 0:20:55.520 answering your questions about the book. Like a River comes 0:20:55.520 --> 0:20:58.639 out tomorrow, August first. If you're listening real time. If 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:01.560 you're not listening real time, then out it is out 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:03.440 and you could find this book anywhere you like to 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:06.720 find books. Amazon is super easy. If you go to 0:21:06.720 --> 0:21:10.080 grangersmith dot com at least right now there is that's 0:21:10.160 --> 0:21:12.360 we're kind of using that as the hub that has 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:14.800 all the links to all the different places that sell 0:21:14.840 --> 0:21:17.840 books like Walmart dot com and Barnes Andnoble dot com 0:21:17.880 --> 0:21:21.199 and Amazon dot com all that kind of stuff, So 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:23.320 you could find the book at any of those places. 0:21:23.680 --> 0:21:27.159 And I would say, and this is not an advertisement, 0:21:27.160 --> 0:21:29.280 but I would say, Amazon, you know, it's super easy, 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:31.240 and it's not going anywhere for a while at least. 0:21:34.280 --> 0:21:36.800 Moving on with your questions, I asked you to Aunt 0:21:36.920 --> 0:21:38.800 to give me some questions on Instagram, and I'm just 0:21:38.880 --> 0:21:41.840 kind of scrolling through here questions specifically about the book. 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:45.640 This question says, was it therapeutic in a way? And yeah, 0:21:45.680 --> 0:21:49.960 that's a pretty common question, and sure, yeah, absolutely. I 0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:53.440 told I've told this story of about losing riv and 0:21:53.720 --> 0:21:55.679 what has happened to me afterward. I've told the story 0:21:55.800 --> 0:21:59.120 many many times, whether it's on the Smiths or I've 0:21:59.119 --> 0:22:01.960 mentioned it many times on this podcast. I've talked about 0:22:02.000 --> 0:22:05.840 it on radio shows and Good Morning Americas and Today's 0:22:05.880 --> 0:22:11.760 shows and you name it. I am second shows. But 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:14.560 writing the book was different than all of them because 0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:17.720 it was much deeper. It was going into a world 0:22:18.160 --> 0:22:25.760 that was much more detailed, and I brought up stuff 0:22:25.760 --> 0:22:28.359 that I've never brought up before, not even to Amber. 0:22:29.080 --> 0:22:32.040 I wrote stuff in this book that Amber didn't know 0:22:32.119 --> 0:22:36.120 that no one on the planet in fact knew. And 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:40.080 it wasn't until I finished the manuscript itself that I 0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:43.600 needed to call Amber and tell her, Hey, there's some 0:22:43.640 --> 0:22:47.639 stuff in this book that you don't know about. So 0:22:48.280 --> 0:22:50.960 that's that. Yeah, so it was therapeutic in that way. Yes, 0:22:54.520 --> 0:22:58.199 The question says, book signings in New York next next week. 0:22:59.000 --> 0:23:02.800 I'm seeing you on August the second. She said, I'm 0:23:02.800 --> 0:23:07.800 reading it right now and it's taking my breath away. Yeah, 0:23:07.840 --> 0:23:10.600 thank you. I'll find you. I'll find you. We will 0:23:10.640 --> 0:23:18.800 be doing signings. Here's the question says, is it appropriate 0:23:19.080 --> 0:23:21.440 for a seventeen year old that loves your music? Yeah, 0:23:21.640 --> 0:23:25.159 I'll say seventeen. Yes. I would say you might have 0:23:25.240 --> 0:23:28.280 caution with your younger kids twelve and under eleven and 0:23:28.359 --> 0:23:32.159 under may caution. You may want to read it first. 0:23:32.480 --> 0:23:36.240 I wouldn't say it's bad for kids, but I would 0:23:36.440 --> 0:23:38.119 as a parent, I would read it first. I have 0:23:38.280 --> 0:23:41.399 not let my kids read it yet. I'll put it 0:23:41.440 --> 0:23:47.679 that way. Seventeen Yep. Great. Here's what it says. No question. 0:23:47.800 --> 0:23:49.359 Just wanted to say, I'm so excited for it to 0:23:49.359 --> 0:23:57.000 be delivered. Thank you. Here's what it says, is your 0:23:57.000 --> 0:24:00.119 book saying, you agree with Calvinism. If so, why I 0:24:00.119 --> 0:24:02.960 know it's the books. No, the book does not say that. 0:24:06.800 --> 0:24:09.159 Here's one that says, does this book tell us the 0:24:09.240 --> 0:24:18.960 secret to why I am depraved? I don't know. I don't. 0:24:19.000 --> 0:24:21.879 I don't think so this is good. You guys are 0:24:21.880 --> 0:24:27.280 getting so deep on these Uh. Here's one that says, 0:24:28.640 --> 0:24:32.040 how did you decide what the chapters of this book 0:24:32.080 --> 0:24:37.119 would be in what order? That was? That was done, thankfully, 0:24:37.200 --> 0:24:42.840 in the in the proposal process. So I did that 0:24:42.960 --> 0:24:45.439 before I even wrote them. I knew the order of 0:24:45.480 --> 0:24:48.280 the chapters before I wrote the actual book, and the 0:24:48.359 --> 0:24:51.400 chapters were just had working titles, so I was able 0:24:51.440 --> 0:24:54.160 to know, I'm going this direction with it, I'm going 0:24:54.280 --> 0:24:56.479 out on chapter two, I'm going this direction. Chapter three, 0:24:56.520 --> 0:24:58.840 I'm gonna talk about this chapter four, I'll go here. 0:24:59.200 --> 0:25:02.320 So that was that made it a lot easier to write. 0:25:02.400 --> 0:25:07.000 So putting that in order before anything else happened was 0:25:07.440 --> 0:25:19.320 critical to the way my brain worked. Here's another question saying, 0:25:19.480 --> 0:25:22.199