WEBVTT - Ep. 3 - We just can't with man buns anymore 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:11.799 Brown Ambition, Episode three. Hey guys, it's Mandy, thank you 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:13.119 so much for coming back. 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:15.080 Hey, hey, hey, it's Tiffany. 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:17.680 Hey hey hey. So that's like your trademark. Is that 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:18.400 from SNL? 0:00:18.640 --> 0:00:21.880 No, it's from fed Albert. I say it like whenever 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:25.440 I speak on stage and stuff, I say, hey, hey, hey, 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:28.760 I'm not sure what or either faed Albert or that 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:32.560 old show like, oh my gosh, somebody's gonna know. It's 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:36.320 like this old show with Shirley and Rod and what's happening? 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:39.600 What's Oh maybe that's my Maybe. I'm like, this is 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:41.200 where the age difference comes into play. 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:44.639 I'm thirty five. Somebody's gonna know what's happening. And if 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:48.760 you do, please tweet us at the BA podcast. Yes, 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.840 at the BA podcast on Twitter. You'll know what's happening. 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:54.400 If you're thirty five or older, you know that show. 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:55.120 Well. 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:58.360 I have to start off by saying congratulations because Tiffany 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:02.960 just gave her first te X talk I guess well 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:04.320 yesterday on Saturday. 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:07.200 So congratt, Yeah, thank you. It was very nerve wracking. 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.920 It was nervous. I've been planning for months and it's 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:11.760 done and I'm proud of my work and so I 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:12.839 can't wait to share it soon. 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:13.720 Excellent. 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:18.080 So we're gonna start off the Buzzworthy segment. It's a 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:22.120 sports themed edition of Buzzworthy, which I don't hope you 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:25.280 guys won't mind starting. Let's start what good or bad? 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:28.280 First? Let's start was Good's? Well, it's actually they're both 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.319 kind of bad. Oh yeah, I just realized, Well, Serena, 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.000 that's not so bad. That's true. 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:36.399 Okay, so everyone probably knows by now that Serena Williams, 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:41.800 the great, amazing, inspirational Serena Williams lost her bid for 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:46.080 the US Open Championship, which also meant that she's not 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:49.000 going to break the record for the most wins in 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:50.559 a calendar year or something like that. 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:53.400 Basically winning every major tournament in a calendar This was 0:01:53.440 --> 0:01:55.000 the last tournament that she had to win. 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:55.800 Did you watch it? 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:56.280 No? 0:01:56.440 --> 0:01:58.440 I can't watch them. It's just too nerve racking. I 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:00.600 grew up playing tennis. I played tennis since I was 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:03.160 like four or five years old, and she was one 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:06.680 of my idols. I was tennis team captain in high school, 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:09.399 and so I just get too nervous to watch her. 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.000 Well, I was watching on Twitter. I was. 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:14.640 I was on Twitter at work on Friday, and I 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.679 all of a sudden, Roxane Gay, this writer I've read 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.480 I talk about sometimes she was tweeting like a second, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.160 like every second she was tweeting like, oh my. 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.960 God, Serena. No, no girl, though, Drake, it's your fault. 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.639 And then so I turned it on and I'm at 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:30.880 my desk and I probably caught the last like five 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:32.720 minutes of the match when it was like not going 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.240 well for Serena. And then I don't really so I 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:37.480 don't watch tennis. I think I played tennis on the 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:40.480 Wii like twice, and so I don't know how how 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:43.360 the points work. Okay, when I was watching Venus versus Serena, 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:45.000 I was, I watched the whole thing, but I was. 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:49.160 Like, yeah, yeah, get her, yeah, like if someone's. 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.000 Winning, right, I just kind of waited for the announcer 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:52.880 to tell me who was up. Okay, So I was 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.880 watching the last five minutes and I could tell things 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:58.360 weren't going well. And then finally when like Roberta Vinci, 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.360 congratulations by the way, I gets yeah, when she hit 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:05.240 that last game winning point point, right, yeah, all of it. 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:07.240 So I was at my desk, and I didn't realize 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.120 that everyone around me was also watching the match, and 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:12.720 so were my editor and I were like oh at 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:13.799 the same time, and I'm. 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:16.440 Like, oh, you're watching it. I was trying to watch 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:18.440 it all the down. Ye, well, everybody's watching. 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.639 And you know what I mean, Serena, I mean, hopefully 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:24.320 she understands like how amazing she is. 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:26.880 And it was just so much pressure, so much hype. 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.840 Yeah, and honestly because honest obviously, I mean no offense 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:31.760 to Aberta, but you know, Serena's number one. I think 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:32.920 Roberta's number. 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.080 Like forty something. She wasn't even ranked, I don't think. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.080 Yeah, so not to you know, take away from her win, 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:40.240 because she she did win, but Serena to me is 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:42.040 the best player in the world in that. 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.320 I don't think anybody would argue with that, you know, as. 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:46.640 Far as Tedus is concerned women's tennis, and so, you know, 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:49.760 it was just, you know, you don't win every time. 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:53.360 I think people will talk about the loss, but you can't. 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.640 You have to really think about all she's accomplished and 0:03:56.680 --> 0:04:00.240 all she's represented for black girls and over the course 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:03.040 of her career exactly and I'm just excited. I'm glad 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:04.360 she got a lot of hype because I feel like, 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:06.200 how often do you see a face like hers on 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:09.320 a magazine New York Times magazine, She was on New 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:11.680 York magazine recently, and so I'm just really glad that 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:14.240 she got the attention she deserved. Exactly, I don't know 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:17.000 if I agree that it was Drake's fault. Everyone was 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.000 pretty much like damn Drake was in the audience. Everyone 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:23.960 just like went for him. Oh, I blame Kim Kardashian personally, 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:25.360 because that's the easiest. 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:25.960 Why was she. 0:04:26.000 --> 0:04:28.920 Drinking tea with Kim k Why the week of a 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:29.520 match like this? 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:32.600 I know, well, you know what, that's the way sarnall 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:34.320 be back. She's still in her prime. So are we 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:36.080 ready to move on to the Yeah? 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:40.520 So second in our bad news buzzworthy for the week, 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.679 So James Blake, another tennis star rights tennis. 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:45.680 He was number four at one point in the number 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.040 four Okay, you's not currently, but he was, and so 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:52.680 he was outside of the Grand Hyatt Hotel in New 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:54.839 York in New York. There's a video of it, so 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.880 you can google James Blake video and just leaning casually 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:02.799 against the hotel waiting for I guess his ride. He's 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:06.120 in the US Open, which is in town, and all 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:08.479 of a sudden, you just see this man run up 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:11.240 to him, tackle him to the ground, and put handcuffs 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:14.479 on him, and it's clear that James is totally confused. 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:18.120 The police officer apparently was confused as well, because they 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:22.240 thought that he was part of a credit card scam 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:24.760 ring and they had the wrong person. 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:27.440 On top of that, the person that they. 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:31.360 Thought that he was was also not guilty of what 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.799 they were accusing him. So it's like one you tackle 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.360 the wrong guy for a crime and the person that 0:05:36.400 --> 0:05:38.839 you think he is also did not do the crime. 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:42.520 You have to watch this video because it's so disturbing 0:05:42.600 --> 0:05:45.600 to see how like how many times have I just 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:47.760 stood outside a building and like on my phone texting 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.839 waiting for someone. He was literally just relaxed and chill 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:52.880 on the side, and then this cop comes out of 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:56.479 nowhere and just flat out tackles him. No Miranda rights, 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:59.400 no high can I see your identification? What are you 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:00.960 doing here, sir? Or He didn't look like he was 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:02.840 even you know, even if he was up to something 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:05.000 like he there was like he probably wasn't gonna run 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.480 for like there's people around, and then to see him 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:10.040 get tackled, and then you see in the video people 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:12.760 watching him and looking at him on the ground getting handcuffed, 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:14.600 And I'm thinking from like if that were me, I 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:15.839 would be so mortified. 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:19.080 Yeah, and scared and terrified. Yeah, he said in an interview, 0:06:19.120 --> 0:06:21.080 like I was really, I was so scared. I didn't 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:23.480 say anything because what did you say? This person just 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:26.279 runs and tackles it. He doesn't even fight back. He's 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:28.760 just you could tell that he's stunned, like what is happening? 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:29.159 Right? 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.960 That cop has like has had five other citations. 0:06:32.400 --> 0:06:35.760 Of this is a disturbing part, yes, of aggressive behavior 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:36.560 towards citizens. 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:38.960 So this is not someone who hasn't done this before. 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:43.279 And of course the the police commission, you know, they're 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:45.039 trying to cover their bases by saying, well, you know, 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:48.080 we're looking into it and we're not really sure what's 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:51.280 really going No, it's clear in the video that he 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:53.960 ran up on someone because he thought he looked like someone. 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:56.480 There was no struggle, there was no we told him 0:06:56.480 --> 0:06:58.080 to stop, but we had to bring him down. R 0:06:58.240 --> 0:07:00.039 you know, there was no can we speak to you, sir. 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:02.680 And the fact that it's happened several and that was 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:04.760 I think five times just in the past couple of years. 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.240 Who knows over the course of this guy's career, how 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:10.000 many brown men, black men he has just you know, 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:13.120 without any cause, has just tackled to the ground like 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.920 that and embarrassed. You know, It's unfortunate that it takes 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:18.920 a celebrity mm hmm, someone who has a public profile, 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:20.920 who can get on the Today Show and talk about 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:22.840 it and put a voice to this. But I'm kind 0:07:22.840 --> 0:07:25.240 of glad it happened because I mean, for you know, 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:28.400 a man just chilling like in Harlem or Brooklyn outside 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.200 of it, you know, on the corner, just minding his 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:32.760 own business, who gets taken like that. Those kind of 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:36.080 people can end up in jail for absolutely no reason. 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:37.840 Oh, we didn't mention with James, but I believe he's 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:38.720 half white, half black. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:42.160 Yeah, he's so, he's lighter skinned and a celebrity. So 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.360 I think that plays into why people are maybe paying 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:47.040 more attention exactly. But this isn't the first time that 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:50.040 a black celebrity has been wrongfully. Remember there was that 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:54.360 like Hollywood producer who was at lunch in Beverly Hills 0:07:54.400 --> 0:07:56.880 or some like really nice place, like he was having 0:07:57.000 --> 0:08:00.720 lunch at a nice place in La somewhere, and out 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:02.120 of nowhere, a cop just comes. 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:02.640 And arrests him. 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:05.240 Apparently he was saying that he was, you know, a 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:08.640 suspect in a robbery or some sort of like shoplifting incident. 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:11.800 That's another example of this is so crazy stupidity. 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.120 Yes, well, so sorry for the downer. 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:15.200 Yeah, but. 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:18.640 Can't ignore these two stories. 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:31.480 I can't do it. Next to our agenda, is it's. 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:32.120 A brown break? 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.000 Yes, oh lord, brown break. If you guys have forgotten, 0:08:35.080 --> 0:08:38.040 let's refresh your memory. Brown break is just something that's 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:42.079 happening that we just can't with. We just can't anymore. 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.480 We need a brown break from x y Z. We've 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:48.080 talked about Tiffany's had a break from Donald Trump. I've 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:51.960 taken a break from internet trolls and white feminism and 0:08:52.000 --> 0:08:55.680 white feminism, and we have some excellent, much needed breaks 0:08:55.679 --> 0:08:56.640 we're going to talk about today. 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:58.680 Yes, so I'm going to take a brown break. 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:01.319 And I think every woman can feel me on this, 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:08.200 from cat calling and unwanted aggressive just attention for men. 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:10.840 So I mean I think every woman at some point 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:13.040 has walked down the street, especially if you live in 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:15.000 a city and you know a man has said something 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:18.480 to you that was inappropriate anywhere from you know, hey 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:20.920 beautiful and you keep walking to being super aggressive. I 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:24.319 can remember, in particular, a man I was I forget 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:25.839 what city I was in. I was just walking down 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:27.920 the street. He approached me, and you know, I was 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.160 nice because I believe in, you know, being nice if 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:32.200 you're nice to me, and I told him no, thank 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:34.000 you when he asked me for my number or whatever 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:34.840 it is that he wanted. 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.040 And as I walked away, he began to follow. 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:39.440 Me and yell at me and cursed at me up 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:41.040 the street for about two blocks. 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:42.400 I was terrified. 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:45.000 I was almost afraid to run because I thought I 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:48.360 felt like he has this animalistic instinct that if I 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:51.400 ran that he was going to physically attack me. So 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:53.600 I like, you know, I walked calmly, but I'm looking 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:55.240 around and people said nothing. 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:57.760 As it's really there's people around mm. 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:59.640 As this man walked up the street, and so sometimes 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:02.160 men think, Like a friend of mine told me, like, oh, 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.240 you know, sound school, she's beautiful. She didn't even say 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:06.240 anything she's so stuck up, and I had to tell 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:10.360 And I told him, I said, you don't understand how 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:13.440 many times that women have been in danger because of 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:15.600 a man who thought she was beautiful and said something. 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:19.520 It's not you, you're taking it personally. She's protecting herself 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:23.360 because me acknowledging you, or me saying okay or thank 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:25.520 you or whatever might put me in danger. So I've 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.480 learned to ignore men when they say things like that. 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:29.680 It's not because I'm trying to be rude or nasty. 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:31.880 It's because I've had men follow me up the street 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:35.079 or cursed me out, or threatened me or get angry 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:37.280 when I've decided I told them I've had a boyfriend. 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:40.080 So yeah, I'm just so over you. 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.600 No, I'm glad that there's been a lot of there's 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.240 been a lot more talking about street harassment lately. There's 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:48.240 actually this group in New York called Holliback, which is 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:51.680 a nonprofit run by I'm pretty sure this young woman 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.680 who started a nonprofit to end street harassment and raise 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:57.280 awareness of street harassment. 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.080 And then there was that BuzzFeed video. 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:02.080 Remember that buzz vie while of that girl who wore 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:05.000 or someone filmed her walking from like the Bronx all 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:07.520 the way down through New York and all like she 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:09.960 had so many men come out and like can't call 0:11:10.040 --> 0:11:10.319 her name. 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:11.880 You see the ones I like the ones where they 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:15.200 have the father or the boyfriend, like sitting with your 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:17.480 daughter or their girlfriend, and they put a video on 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.520 the daughter or the girlfriend and the father sits with 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:22.560 her and watches really and then so because they want 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.640 men to see, this is what your daughter's going through. 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:27.040 Are you putting someone else's daughter through this? Or this 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:29.400 is what your girlfriend is going through? Have you done 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.679 this to someone else's girlfriend? And you could just see 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.120 how upset the men are that the women in their 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.000 lives are going through this. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.960 But if you have, just like you, have you ever 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:40.400 tried to explain I have a hard time trying to explain, 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:43.320 like if so, if something happens. So there's been days 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.880 where I like to work a lot, and there's days 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:49.760 where men will yell at me while I'm biking. One time, actually, 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:52.280 some guy he stepped I was it was dark, I 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:55.040 was going down a hill in Midtown, and he stepped 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:56.600 in front of my bike and just stomped in front 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:58.120 of me, just to scare me and like try and 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:01.079 like freak me out, which he succeeded in. And then 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.839 that earlier in the day, some guy in the street 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:05.680 called me out, and I was just I came home 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.360 in such a terrible mood and feeling like so bad, 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:10.720 and I couldn't even find the words to explain to 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:14.120 my boyfriend what had happened, because I feel like trying 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:16.880 to explain street harassment to a man in their minds, 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:18.240 you're like, oh, it's no big deal. 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:21.120 I'm like, well, you you are cute, you know. You're like, 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:22.239 that's the point. 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:23.480 Where are you trying to make me jealous? I'm like, 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:27.199 it's not about trying to make you jealous. It's emotionally taxing. 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.880 It is emotionally taxing, and honestly too for me, it's 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:33.600 usually it's just a matter of like where I'm afraid, honestly, 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:36.640 not not always. You know, sometimes some guys are like hey, beautiful, 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:39.040 You're like hi, and you keep moving. But sometimes every 0:12:39.040 --> 0:12:41.320 once in a while you get that guy who just 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:44.400 doesn't seem to take no for an answer, and you're like, so, 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:46.760 so you're priming yourself, like do I have to run? 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:49.320 Like you're thinking these things I don't think men realize, 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:51.240 you know, but I bet you if it would have 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:52.839 happened in front of him, you'd be upset and mad. 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:55.080 Though it wouldn't though, because those guys are cowards. 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:57.079 Yep, you're right, And when you're holding the hand of 0:12:57.120 --> 0:12:58.960 a man, you don't get that kind of attention, which 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:01.040 pisses me off because like, I like doing my own 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:05.280 thing and yeah, being independent and free. But the unfortunate 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:07.320 thing about this brown break is that it's hard to 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:09.080 take a break from something that's like out of your 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:12.480 control in that way. But hopefully groups like Hollaback can 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:14.839 raise awareness and make it easier on us. 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:16.079 So what is your brown break? 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:19.319 So I need to take a brown break this week 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:23.440 from something a little more fun but equally annoying, which 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:28.200 is the man bun. I blame several people for the 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:32.720 proliferation of this hairstyle. I know that brown men don't 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:36.240 necessarily rock the man bun, but some men do. I'm 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:42.360 looking at you, Leonardo DiCaprio, Andrew Garfield, Jake Jillenhall, who's 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:45.120 that guy from that movie with Matthew mcconaughe who won 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.280 the Oscar, Jared leto Oh, I love you. 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:48.720 Oh he's so beautiful. 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:52.280 But that is that man bun. And the fact that 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:54.400 it's being written up in the New York Times. When 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.280 something like this kind of trend is written up in 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.080 the Times, that's when I know it's like it's time 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:00.960 you have to stop. I know it's hot out there, guys, 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:04.360 I know that, Like, it must be hard having longer hair, But. 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.680 Why not just cut your hair? Yeah, it's okay? 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:08.640 Or why can't we Why can't men learn how to 0:14:08.720 --> 0:14:09.640 use like bobby pins? 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.160 Just it's just saying to the man. But I mean, 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.559 you see that usually some guys with dreads. If it's 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:16.960 going to be a brown guy with a man bun, 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.200 it'll be a guy with locks who does it. 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:21.160 I like a man with locks who has a hair 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:22.880 tied back though nothing wrong with that. 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:24.680 Yeah, I do like a man with locks. This is 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:26.800 just a totally separate line. All of a sudden, all 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:28.320 everybody's mind went somewhere. 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:32.760 Everyone our security guy here, dreads. 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:34.760 He's kind of always kind of older, but he looks good. 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:35.400 That's a good look. 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:37.480 Yeah. I don't think I've never not looked at the 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:39.320 face of a man with locks, like if I passed 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:40.920 by guy with locks and from the back I have 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:42.640 to at least take a piece of peek at his 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:44.960 face like ooh, he's cute. 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:45.800 Moving on. 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:50.440 So please, men, if you're listening, no more man buns. 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.240 Tell a friend, help a friend, tell your family. A 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:54.400 man Bun's done. 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.080 It's done, Cut it off. 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:10.960 Today's tip this week is preparing financially for marriage. 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:12.120 Dun, dun, dumb. 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:15.920 So first and foremost, So this is where I am. 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:19.000 My boyfriend and I we are talking about marriage. And 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.600 one of the first things I did with him was 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:23.160 we talked about his credit score. 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:25.960 I showed him was this before you moved in together 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:28.680 or after right after we moved in together? 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:28.840 Ok? 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:30.080 I was like, I. 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.120 Think I can't remember why. I think he said he 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:33.840 was looking to buy a car or something like that, 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:35.960 and I said, well, what's your credit score? 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:36.320 Do you know? 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:39.000 Because before we go to get a car, they're going 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:40.920 to ask. So I was kind of casual with it, 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:42.640 but you know, deep down inside, I was like. 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:43.600 What's your credit card? 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:48.720 And so he was like in the load of mid 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:51.960 six hundreds, and which I was like, okay, And I 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:54.280 saw why. It was just because he had this one 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.920 credit card that He had a secured card, which I 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:59.680 call like the baby credit card, and he it was 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:03.000 almost maxed out because he was making small incremental payments. 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:04.760 And I told him, I'm like, oh. 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.280 You know, if you're the closer you are to your limit, 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:09.600 the lower makes your score. It was really the only 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:10.920 thing he had on there. I'm like, once you pay, 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:13.080 your credit score is gonna jump. So he paid it 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:16.479 off within three months. He's up to seven fifty excellent. Yeah, 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:19.000 And so it was that's a great conversation to start with. 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:22.320 Is credit scores definitely creating a budget. So it took 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:24.360 a little longer for us to get to the budget 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:28.440 point because the credit score thing he was interested in 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:30.280 because you know, he wanted to get a car, but 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:31.720 the budgeting thing was difficult. 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:32.960 So I had to figure out kind. 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.040 Of like what his pain points were, like how do 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:37.000 I get up the budget and save a little bit more? 0:16:37.320 --> 0:16:38.720 So he has an eight year old daughter, so I 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:41.200 would use that like, you know, you should think about 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:44.320 are you sitting aside for Alyssa's college fund? You know, 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:46.920 and if not, let's do a budget so we could 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:48.560 see how much you could set aside for a Lista's 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:51.040 college fund. So we worked through it that way. And 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.240 now just the other day I asked him what he 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:54.800 was doing. He' said, oh, doing my budget to see 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:56.600 if I have any money left over for something he 0:16:56.640 --> 0:16:57.160 wanted to do. 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:00.640 I was like, when it took a year, it's a 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:03.680 slow that's you need to Yeah, it's a slow process. 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:08.359 Men are and you know obviously whoever whatever the gender 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:10.040 is of your partner that you're trying to budget with, 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:12.320 but men especially, it just takes longer for things to 0:17:12.359 --> 0:17:13.000 sink in and. 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:15.240 They don't like to be told, yes, how to. 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:18.840 Manage their money. I'm speaking from experience. I've been with 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:21.520