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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition, Episode three. Hey guys, it's Mandy, thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for coming back.

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Speaker 2: Hey, hey, hey, it's Tiffany.

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Speaker 1: Hey hey hey. So that's like your trademark. Is that

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Speaker 1: from SNL?

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Speaker 3: No, it's from fed Albert. I say it like whenever

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Speaker 3: I speak on stage and stuff, I say, hey, hey, hey,

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure what or either faed Albert or that

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Speaker 3: old show like, oh my gosh, somebody's gonna know. It's

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Speaker 3: like this old show with Shirley and Rod and what's happening?

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Speaker 1: What's Oh maybe that's my Maybe. I'm like, this is

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Speaker 1: where the age difference comes into play.

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Speaker 3: I'm thirty five. Somebody's gonna know what's happening. And if

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Speaker 3: you do, please tweet us at the BA podcast. Yes,

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Speaker 3: at the BA podcast on Twitter. You'll know what's happening.

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Speaker 3: If you're thirty five or older, you know that show.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 1: I have to start off by saying congratulations because Tiffany

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Speaker 1: just gave her first te X talk I guess well

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Speaker 1: yesterday on Saturday.

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Speaker 3: So congratt, Yeah, thank you. It was very nerve wracking.

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Speaker 3: It was nervous. I've been planning for months and it's

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Speaker 3: done and I'm proud of my work and so I

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Speaker 3: can't wait to share it soon.

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Speaker 2: Excellent.

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Speaker 1: So we're gonna start off the Buzzworthy segment. It's a

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Speaker 1: sports themed edition of Buzzworthy, which I don't hope you

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Speaker 1: guys won't mind starting. Let's start what good or bad?

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Speaker 2: First? Let's start was Good's? Well, it's actually they're both

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Speaker 2: kind of bad. Oh yeah, I just realized, Well, Serena,

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Speaker 2: that's not so bad. That's true.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so everyone probably knows by now that Serena Williams,

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Speaker 1: the great, amazing, inspirational Serena Williams lost her bid for

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Speaker 1: the US Open Championship, which also meant that she's not

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Speaker 1: going to break the record for the most wins in

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Speaker 3: Basically winning every major tournament in a calendar This was

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Speaker 3: the last tournament that she had to win.

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Speaker 2: Did you watch it?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: I can't watch them. It's just too nerve racking. I

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Speaker 3: and so I just get too nervous to watch her.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was watching on Twitter. I was.

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Speaker 1: I was on Twitter at work on Friday, and I

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Speaker 1: all of a sudden, Roxane Gay, this writer I've read

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Speaker 1: I talk about sometimes she was tweeting like a second,

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Speaker 1: like every second she was tweeting like, oh my.

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Speaker 2: God, Serena. No, no girl, though, Drake, it's your fault.

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Speaker 1: And then so I turned it on and I'm at

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Speaker 1: well for Serena. And then I don't really so I

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Speaker 1: the points work. Okay, when I was watching Venus versus Serena,

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, yeah, get her, yeah, like if someone's.

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Speaker 1: Winning, right, I just kind of waited for the announcer

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Speaker 1: that last game winning point point, right, yeah, all of it.

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Speaker 1: So I was at my desk, and I didn't realize

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Speaker 2: Like, oh, you're watching it. I was trying to watch

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Speaker 3: And you know what I mean, Serena, I mean, hopefully

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Speaker 2: And it was just so much pressure, so much hype.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and honestly because honest obviously, I mean no offense

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Speaker 2: Like forty something. She wasn't even ranked, I don't think.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so not to you know, take away from her win,

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Speaker 3: it was just, you know, you don't win every time.

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Speaker 1: I think people will talk about the loss, but you can't.

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Speaker 1: You have to really think about all she's accomplished and

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Speaker 1: if I agree that it was Drake's fault. Everyone was

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Speaker 1: So second in our bad news buzzworthy for the week,

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Speaker 1: So James Blake, another tennis star rights tennis.

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Speaker 3: He was number four at one point in the number

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and scared and terrified. Yeah, he said in an interview,

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: That cop has like has had five other citations.

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Speaker 1: Of this is a disturbing part, yes, of aggressive behavior

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Speaker 3: So this is not someone who hasn't done this before.

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Speaker 3: There was no struggle, there was no we told him

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Speaker 1: And the fact that it's happened several and that was

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Speaker 1: Who knows over the course of this guy's career, how

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Speaker 1: many brown men, black men he has just you know,

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Speaker 2: Oh, we didn't mention with James, but I believe he's

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Speaker 2: And arrests him.

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Speaker 1: Apparently he was saying that he was, you know, a

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Speaker 1: That's another example of this is so crazy stupidity.

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Speaker 2: Yes, well, so sorry for the downer.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 2: Can't ignore these two stories.

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Speaker 3: I can't do it. Next to our agenda, is it's.

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Speaker 2: A brown break?

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Speaker 1: Yes, oh lord, brown break. If you guys have forgotten,

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Speaker 1: let's refresh your memory. Brown break is just something that's

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Speaker 1: happening that we just can't with. We just can't anymore.

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Speaker 1: We need a brown break from x y Z. We've

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Speaker 1: talked about Tiffany's had a break from Donald Trump. I've

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Speaker 1: white feminism, and we have some excellent, much needed breaks

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Speaker 2: Yes, so I'm going to take a brown break.

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Speaker 3: And I think every woman can feel me on this,

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Speaker 3: from cat calling and unwanted aggressive just attention for men.

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Speaker 3: So I mean I think every woman at some point

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Speaker 3: it is that he wanted.

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Speaker 2: And as I walked away, he began to follow.

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Speaker 1: And he and I wound up attending a couple's in

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Speaker 1: Ups based in Boston, So if you're in Boston, check

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Speaker 1: it out. And there was a financial planner there and

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Speaker 1: she kind of just helped us facilitated conversation and make

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Speaker 1: it less tense for us to talk about our goals

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Speaker 1: and things.

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Speaker 3: Like that, because you don't want money to be the

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Speaker 3: thing that pulls you apart.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, and it can so easily play your part.

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Speaker 3: Really, you know, that's something that you want to talk about,

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Speaker 3: and then so you want to you want to make

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Speaker 3: that whenever you're talking about it, that it's not this

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Speaker 3: to talk about money. So I've learned I never had

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Speaker 3: just like normal talk.

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Speaker 2: So learning to make money normal talk in your house

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Speaker 2: helps as well. What's that like?

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Speaker 1: I was raised by a single mom for most of

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Speaker 1: my life and she had four kids, and I just

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Speaker 1: I always thought of money as this like this like

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Speaker 1: basically a form of anxiety. It was never there where

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Speaker 1: it was it? Could we get it? Like it was

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Speaker 1: like this elusive thing. I had to really work on

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Speaker 1: my relationship with money as I grew up. And you

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Speaker 1: know that kind of stuff turns up in relationship. Oh,

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Speaker 1: for sure, I'm super afraid of not having money and

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Speaker 1: so I'm obsessed with saving and that can and you know,

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Speaker 1: if your partner's not in the same page as you,

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Speaker 1: that can be like a point of contention. And I yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess it's like a final thing. Just expectations are everything.

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Speaker 1: You have to really like figure out what your partner's

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Speaker 1: expectations are for their savings and money goals, and like

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Speaker 1: what your expectations are and then try and find a

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Speaker 1: common ground.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, agreed. Communication is key And if you.

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Speaker 1: Guys have any more questions about money and marriage, money

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Speaker 1: and relationships, please send us an email. Our email address

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Speaker 1: again is Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 3: And we're bac back and it's time for brown brilliance.

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Speaker 3: So we called it Wins earlier.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've had an identity change. No longer Wins. We're

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Speaker 1: calling it Brown Brilliant, play off of black excellence, Brown brilliance.

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Speaker 2: Yes, what's rest time? How do you feel about it?

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Speaker 2: We might still keep it even if you don't agree.

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Speaker 3: But cowen exactly, And so really brilliance is when we

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Speaker 3: just highlight some brown awesomeness that's happening on the interwebs,

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Speaker 3: on the internet. And so if you know of any

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Speaker 3: awesome brown people doing some awesome brown people things, you

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Speaker 3: can tweet us at the BA podcast. You can find

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Speaker 3: us on Facebook at Brown Ambition, and you can email

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Speaker 3: us at Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. So

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Speaker 3: I'm going to kick off because I don't know I'm

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Speaker 3: talking right now.

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Speaker 1: Because you like to hog them, like, just keep it real,

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Speaker 1: so brown yesterday, I'm just going to keep it anywhere.

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Speaker 3: And so yeah, so I did teex yesterday, But the

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Speaker 3: brown and brown brilliance of this week for me is

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Speaker 3: not going to go for me. Instead, it's for Nate Burkhard.

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Speaker 3: He brought the very first Tedex Newark to Newark. Newark

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Speaker 3: has been long troubled with crime and all of these

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Speaker 3: kind of negative, negative news that you've seen about Nework.

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Speaker 3: So this was something positive and amazing and awesome. And

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Speaker 3: ted X is a international brand and for it to

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Speaker 3: come to Newark and for it to be done well,

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Speaker 3: so I'm super excited about it. And I just want

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Speaker 3: to say congratulations, Nate. You are brilliant in all your brownness.

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Speaker 3: I believe Nate is brown, Yes, I think so.

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Speaker 2: Well, you don't have to be brown for brown brilliant. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I mean we can open it up to everybody.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I just want to tell him that congratulations.

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Speaker 3: That was an awesome job.

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Speaker 2: Good job Nate, and good job Tiffany for being on

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Speaker 2: ted X. Excellent.

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Speaker 1: And I have a real quick one to add from

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Speaker 1: one of another one of my favorite authors. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to talk about authors a lot because I'm a reading

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Speaker 1: book nerd, but this author, her name is Jumpa Lahiri.

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Speaker 1: And fun fact about Joompala Heirie. If you watch some

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Speaker 1: Mindy project, Mindy Kaling is a huge Joombalahiri fan, and

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Speaker 1: that is why Mindy Lahiri's last name.

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Speaker 2: Is Lahiri on the show.

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Speaker 1: But miss Lahari Jumpala Hery, the author was just awarded

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Speaker 1: the National Medal of Humanities from the President himself, Barack Obama,

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Speaker 1: at the White House, which is a huge deal. So

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Speaker 1: I just want to say congrats to her, and if

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Speaker 1: you want to read her stuff. The Interpreter of malal

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Speaker 1: the Interpreter of maladies. No wait, it's how you say it, maladies.

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Speaker 1: I'm not the biggest brain fart, obviously I read. I

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Speaker 1: don't really talk out loud a lot. Interpreter of maladies

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Speaker 1: and the namesake. I think her latest book is called

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Speaker 1: The Lowland. Just check her out. Excellent fiction. A lot

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Speaker 1: of it, you know, relates to the Indian immigrant experience.

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Speaker 2: So good for you. Jumpa.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I was gonna call her Jupola, but because you

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Speaker 3: corrected me that her name is actually Jumpa and then Lahiri. Yes,

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Speaker 3: so that's a kind of like a Nigerian way of

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Speaker 3: doing things.

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Speaker 2: A good jobble. They're like, oh, your name is what

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Speaker 2: that's cute. Your name is Veronica. Your name is Vero.

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Speaker 3: I was saying earlier, you guys missed it. That was

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Speaker 3: going to give Mandy a Nigerian esque name. I'm going

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Speaker 3: to think of how to do so I'm gonna that way.

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Speaker 3: When she does good things.

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Speaker 2: I can wear what did you call that? The thing,

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Speaker 2: the the head, head, the head to gallet, that's what

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Speaker 2: they call gallet.

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Speaker 1: I went to the most man Nigerian weddings for another episode.

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Speaker 2: We're talking. We're going to talk about Nigeria wedding. Yes,

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Speaker 2: because they are. Yes, that's a good one epic.

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Speaker 1: But in the meantime, we're letting you guys go Yes.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us for another episode again.

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Speaker 1: Send us your questions, your comments, Brown Ambition Podcast at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com, hit us up on Twitter at the

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Speaker 1: BA Podcast or on Facebook at Brown Ambition, and we're out.

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Speaker 2: Bye bye,