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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 2: to talks.

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Speaker 3: What's up y'all with your girl a j holiday?

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Speaker 2: What's up tam Bam? Y'all is tam Bam. I love

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Speaker 2: y'all so much. Happy August. How you doing aj ah? Dude?

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Speaker 2: I need to do the rundown again?

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Speaker 3: Okay, everybody. I'm struggling today, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting it together hopefully house by by lunchtime, I'll.

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Speaker 2: Be all right. I didn't do much this weekend.

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Speaker 1: You know, it was tax free weekend in South Carolina,

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Speaker 1: so I did take advantage of some a little bit

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Speaker 1: of shopping and shit. And you know you could have

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Speaker 1: shopped online too for tax free. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: y'all know that or not.

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Speaker 2: No, we did. I didn't know that. Yeah, it's time.

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Speaker 2: Like I see, the kids are back in school all ready.

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Speaker 1: I think here in Charleston they don't go back until

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Speaker 1: the thirteenth, so they're not back in school yet. I

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Speaker 1: only had the buses running. I still hear the ass outside.

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Speaker 2: Some people are back, some of these students are back

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Speaker 2: and I was like, God, damn, they must be in

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Speaker 2: the slow classes. They got to go back earlier.

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Speaker 1: It's like we used to go to school damn near

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Speaker 1: September or some shit. I feel like we had more

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Speaker 1: breaks from school too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: In America, I feel like we just be in school

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Speaker 1: too long. Period, Like in other countries, children start their

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Speaker 1: life at sixteen and shit, like they be out of school.

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Speaker 1: Like we already in school too long, and we don't

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Speaker 1: have as much breaks and we're still learning less.

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Speaker 2: And they just not prepare for adulthood. Yeah, like we

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Speaker 2: keep them like children too long. I think one of my.

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Speaker 1: One of my guy friends, he was saying how him

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Speaker 1: and his wife held their son back, like he had

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Speaker 1: the opportuned to go skip two grades and they didn't

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Speaker 1: think he was ready to be around kids of that

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Speaker 1: age group. And I'm like, why would y'all do that?

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Speaker 1: Like he will get acclimated. That's actually going to help him,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I'm never holding my kid back, man,

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Speaker 1: as sooner I can get they ass up out of

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Speaker 1: like having to go to school where I don't have

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Speaker 1: to go to jail about it, because I think I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna do homeschooling though I don't think my kid's going

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Speaker 1: to be going to school anyway, or maybe high school.

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Speaker 1: They'll probably go, but I don't know. I think we

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Speaker 1: are responsible for our kids' education.

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Speaker 2: You don't trust weird as hell? Shout out to homeschool kids,

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Speaker 2: y'all weirdo. I love y'all, but y'all, y'all be weird.

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Speaker 2: I think grown something about the socialization don't happen.

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Speaker 1: That's why I said high school, right, So yeah, maybe

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Speaker 1: they'll get you do miss out on like the social

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Speaker 1: part of Yeah, so you have no social skills like

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Speaker 1: they do, be like socially awkward. First of all, these

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Speaker 1: kids are already socially awkward, you know, whether they go

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Speaker 1: to school or not.

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Speaker 2: So shame.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 2: I want to get this to shout out because y'all

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Speaker 2: remember that candle that I beg AJ four. One of

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Speaker 2: the listeners of the show was like, got tired of

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Speaker 2: hearing me talk about it, so she sit it to me, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Gloria see seventy seven oh seven on Instagram. Y'all, yeam

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Speaker 2: follow her on TikTok. She told me to tell y'all

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Speaker 2: follow her she's Ivy Glow official. Thank you so much,

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Speaker 2: Gloria for sending me to my candle. I haven't lit

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Speaker 2: it yet because I want to wait until I move

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Speaker 2: into a new spot. But I love it so and

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Speaker 2: it ain't that heavy. Aja, I didn't never say it

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Speaker 2: was heavy.

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Speaker 1: What I said was yes, carrying it upstairs along with

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Speaker 1: all the other shit I'd be having from Costco and

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Speaker 1: have it in my car. I didn't want it to melt,

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Speaker 1: so having somebody mail it to you, you know, that's

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Speaker 1: even great. I do want to thank you Gloria for

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Speaker 1: pulling up with the candle because I get to save

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Speaker 1: my forty dollar coins. Okay, appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 2: Shout out to Gloria. I appreciate girl. Thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for sending me my candle. I can't wait to

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Speaker 2: light it. I'm leaving New York. I'm leaving New York.

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Speaker 2: I don't know where I'm going at. Why you of

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Speaker 2: New York?

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Speaker 3: It's just.

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Speaker 2: Expensive and I'm not I'm taking classes virtually, so it's

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Speaker 2: just like if I don't have to physically be there,

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Speaker 2: I don't need to physically be there, you know. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think I might pivot today.

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Speaker 1: Might as well.

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Speaker 2: Girl might as well.

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Speaker 3: Let's get in the sins.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, did you do anything this weekend aside from

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Speaker 1: leaving New York? Okay, we had an uneventful weekend, y'all?

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Speaker 1: All right, so let's get in the sins. I saw

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Speaker 1: this article. I followed some weird assa counts on Instagram like.

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Speaker 3: It's always like giving you low.

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Speaker 1: Were studies that I have to go Google to see

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Speaker 1: if it's true or not. I don't know if it's

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Speaker 1: satire half the time or not, but this one I

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Speaker 1: realized that I might identify as a Koala. So it

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Speaker 1: says new It says when Koala's fail to find the

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Speaker 1: right partner, they give up and.

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Speaker 1: It says Koalas may look adorable, but their love life

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Speaker 1: doesn't always go as planned. When mating season arrives, male

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Speaker 1: Koalas call out to find a partner, but if no

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Speaker 1: one responds, they don't waste energy chasing. Instead, they simply

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Speaker 1: give up and go back to sleep, a surprising, a

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Speaker 1: surprisingly mellow way to handle rejection, given that koala is

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Speaker 1: already snooze for about twenty.

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Speaker 3: Hours a day.

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Speaker 1: Even a heartbreak isn't enough to mess with their nap schedule,

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Speaker 1: Nature's ultimate try again tomorrow energy. I'm not a male

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Speaker 1: in a koala and be like, Okay, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: Right because y'all going to sleep.

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Speaker 1: And I keep saying, make these t shirts that say

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Speaker 1: I love to lay down, like you stay out of trouble,

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Speaker 1: and you don't spend no money, you know, unless you're

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Speaker 1: like responsible, like damnit them with auto draft. Shit, you

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Speaker 1: won't spend no money if you sleep first out. You

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Speaker 1: got to pend no money either way, so you might

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Speaker 1: as well just let them take.

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Speaker 2: It, girl.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but I still want control. I don't want that

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Speaker 1: nobody to have that much control over me.

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Speaker 2: No, listen, just take it, you care, just take it.

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Speaker 2: It's a loosence having them to worry about it when

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Speaker 2: I can just have you just the people who can

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Speaker 2: turn shit off, who can just take their money.

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Speaker 1: Y'all some adults. I don't even have my light though.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, God, that absolutely not, absolutely not. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: I identify as a koala and shit ain't going well.

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Speaker 1: I'm in the house Hiberne in twenty hours today. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: if you can find and mate, go laid my last

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Speaker 1: I'm the opposite I need to be outside.

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Speaker 2: Hours of being inside, I feel like I wasted my life.

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Speaker 2: Let me get up and do something with anxiety, all right.

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Speaker 2: So I saw this over the weekend. There are now

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Speaker 2: ninety five thousand people in Japan who are more than

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Speaker 2: one hundred years old. So as a September twenty twenty four,

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Speaker 2: officials record records showed that ninety five thousand, one hundred

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Speaker 2: and nineteen sanitariums across the country. Women make up the

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Speaker 2: vast majority, account for nearly eighty eight percent of that total.

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Speaker 2: That's it. Reason listened it rising fx Japan's high life

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Speaker 2: expectancy and continue investments in health care and living standards.

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Speaker 2: So I would and did a deeper dive in net

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Speaker 2: to see if I needed to move to Japan. But

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Speaker 2: it's their diet. One. They eat like lots of vegetables,

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Speaker 2: lots of fermented foods, and they have a lot of

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Speaker 2: anti inflammatory. Their diet is like very anti inflammatory. Then

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Speaker 2: they also, uh prioritize rest over work. Yeah, and they

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Speaker 1: Know Americans dying earlier every time then because we take

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Speaker 1: the least amount of Then.

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Speaker 2: They also prioritize community. So they got homeworks, they got

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Speaker 2: friends that they do stuff with all the time, Like

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Speaker 2: it's they go on walks together every morning, they guarding together.

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Speaker 2: Oh and that's another thing. They get up and they

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Speaker 2: do mobility exercises in the morning. And I think that's

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Speaker 2: another thing that we could add to our lifestyle, is

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Speaker 2: you know, you gotta do mobility exercise, not just walking,

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Speaker 3: You know what I started doing.

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Speaker 1: So I got it set up on myself for right now,

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Speaker 1: but I think I'm set it up on my calendar

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Speaker 1: on my damn computer. So every forty five minutes, get

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Speaker 1: up and do ten squads.

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Speaker 2: That's good.

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Speaker 1: They said it's equivalent to the ten thousand steps to day. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen that now because I don't be having

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Speaker 1: my watch running and I don't have an Apple watch.

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Speaker 1: This is just like a fitness watch. You got to

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Speaker 1: actually track. But yeah, and I mean that's going to

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Speaker 1: ten squads every forty five minutes throughout the day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not bad. No, it ain't shit. No. And

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Speaker 2: then and.

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Speaker 1: Then I also I saw another study that did say,

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Speaker 1: like homegirls me saving your life. Like, if you have

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Speaker 1: a steady set of friends that you communicate with, it

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Speaker 1: helps with heart disease. Close friends decrease heart disease by

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Speaker 1: thirty percent. Women, if you have at least three close

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Speaker 1: friends you communicate with.

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Speaker 2: Get you some girlfriends, y'all. Yeah, y'all bitches think y'all.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to get those tepe of.

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Speaker 1: Bitches weird me out.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know no who say that? No more

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Speaker 2: is big girl.

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Speaker 1: I still hear people say that, like why why you

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Speaker 1: don't have no friends and why you only hang out

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Speaker 1: with men? Yeah, that's weird, hope, get you some girlfriends. Man,

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Speaker 1: it's good for the equal system.

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Speaker 2: To live longer, eat better, do your mobility stretches. Do

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Speaker 2: ten squads every forty five minutes. It's hard to keep

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Speaker 2: up with though. For me.

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Speaker 1: That's all you guys set an alarm and when alarm

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Speaker 1: go off, you just hop up and do it right quick.

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Speaker 1: And when you take ten.

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Speaker 2: Seconds, their target busting out ten squads.

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Speaker 1: If your ass and target longer than forty five minutes anyway,

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Speaker 1: and you budgeting, you in trouble anyway, get your ass

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Speaker 1: out of target. I'd be spending one hundred to Target

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Speaker 1: every fucking week. I thought we was Yes, I never

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Speaker 1: left Target. I'm confused why we would boycott Target when

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Speaker 1: the majority of the workers in Target are black people

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Speaker 1: oftentimes like so. And then also they do have a

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Speaker 1: lot of black products in Target. I just never understood that.

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Speaker 2: Boy God, Yeah, anyway, Well do your ten squads have

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Speaker 2: for forty five minutes, you guys, I'm gonna start. I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna do it.

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Speaker 3: Mm hmm, it's good.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: So I I saw doctor Ryan on a podcast. Y'all

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Speaker 1: I heard there's some tricky doctors in the US that'll,

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Speaker 1: That's all that is. Eating all that fermented shit. Girl,

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Speaker 2: Let you hear it. Mute.

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Speaker 2: by October. I hope too. Huh what what I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: Like like some type of alien something like that that

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Speaker 2: Do not need. Like I knew if you tied it

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Speaker 1: But ye ain't nobody want to eat no pork? Pussy

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Speaker 2: And listen who as I gave the devil his busney

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Speaker 1: Ain't eat it hungry. Yeah, I don't know, man, I

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Speaker 1: don't miss that. The only thing I missed is my barbecue.

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Speaker 1: Like you be door dashing doing all the things. I

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Speaker 3: It's not like I can't.

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Speaker 1: Get a good burger or some good wings, some quick shit.

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Speaker 2: Yeah restaurants anyways, true anyway, So if the aliens come,

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Speaker 1: That's so fat ship man with straight foolishness man. All right, y'all,

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Speaker 1: So we got a fun episode lined up for this week.

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Speaker 1: We have Chantel Chivon and we talked back this week

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Speaker 1: and y'all, I found out she's my cousin. Okay, just

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Speaker 1: because she's from Trosting, she's she's a medium. She does

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Speaker 1: all the fun magic shit, right, I call everything magic,

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Speaker 2: We're talking more about spirituality in sex and how they

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Speaker 2: so y'all stay tune.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all know, Okay, we love all things spirituality,

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Speaker 1: right like Taro RICKI yoga magic. I like magic and

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Speaker 1: occasionally we have to have a little taptin baddie when

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Speaker 1: So welcome to we talk back.

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Speaker 3: Shante, that's my cousin, y'all. I didn't know what until

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Speaker 2: They related. Hell, they're the same person. They're not even cousins.

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Speaker 1: They Oh how people be saying, Oh, I don't know

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Speaker 3: Oh chantal so y'all.

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Speaker 2: I asked her what she didn't want to talk about,

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Speaker 2: want to get you slapped, like chantale A, what's that?

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Speaker 2: You'll be the second Chantel getting slapped this week?

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Speaker 1: Her parents? Damn.

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Speaker 3: Look you see how two if I am?

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Speaker 1: The conversation we had as soon as you got up

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Speaker 1: and here y'all about the period. Yeah, we love y'all.

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Speaker 2: So I want to get into it. I want to

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Speaker 2: talk all right. First of all, let's talk about you

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Speaker 2: Cheers to Magic, Yes, cheers Black Girl. Magic.

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Speaker 2: So because that's where the conversation is heading, right, I

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Speaker 3: a lot of spiritual occurrences. And then as I got older,

438
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 3: I randomly ran into some mediums and some of them

439
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 3: became my mentors. Different cities that I moved to. It

440
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 3: was just very serendipitous how I would meet them, and

441
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:17,959
Speaker 3: they taught me how to tap into my gifts. And

442
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 3: so I started my business in twenty seventeen and I've

443
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 3: been doing readings ever since. Then. I opened up my

444
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,679
Speaker 3: studio two years ago and so now I help people

445
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,120
Speaker 3: connect with loved ones that have passed. I helped them

446
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 3: with their in her childhood trauma, things that have happened

447
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 3: in their childhood to adolescents, and I used that with

448
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,479
Speaker 3: my gifts and then just spiritual coaching.

449
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 2: So have you ever ran into somebody grandma that was

450
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 2: like real nasty and.

451
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 3: Yes, I well, you know, I wouldn't say nasty, but

452
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,679
Speaker 3: because when you cross over, you go back to your

453
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 3: true form, but they show up in the way that

454
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 3: you remember them.

455
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 2: So if.

456
00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 3: If you're a bit hard headed and you haven't been listening,

457
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 3: because you know, our guides, our ancestors, sent us signs

458
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 3: all the time. So when you come in for a session,

459
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 3: I've had some grandmothers and even grandfathers.

460
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:12,920
Speaker 2: Come in talking shit Yeah heavy, Yes, didn't I tell

461
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 2: you to stop spending your rent money?

462
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 1: Nigga?

463
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's.

464
00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:24,720
Speaker 3: What I've saw some shit the other day and.

465
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:27,399
Speaker 1: Somebody was saying it, I had forty eight leases, how

466
00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 1: the folks you don't live forty eight different places in

467
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 1: life and life crazy?

468
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:33,440
Speaker 2: It was on eighty five.

469
00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: So I don't know, but that Nigga is an unstable creature.

470
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 2: Right, it's crazy? So all right, I want to talk

471
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 2: about the intersection between spirituality and sex, okay, whatever.

472
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: So we had an episode recently called uh Discipline, and

473
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:59,400
Speaker 1: we didn't really get into like the the the bond, right,

474
00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:03,119
Speaker 1: the old ties that you might create with the people

475
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: you engage with sexually. We talk about sexually transmitted demons

476
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: on this show also, like just's th real?

477
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, So to talk to us about what that

478
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 2: intersection looks like when you're the spirituality aspect of sex, I.

479
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 3: Hate to say this, but I would say most of

480
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 3: us are walking red flags. So we think we can

481
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 3: compartmentalize sex where oh it's just something I do. But

482
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 3: a lot of trauma bonding, you are completely unaware of

483
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 3: why you do the things you do, why you choose

484
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 3: sexual partners, and it's really really hard to disconnect from that,

485
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 3: and the only way you can figure that out is

486
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 3: through grief. And through healings. So when you're somebody may

487
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 3: be a karmic lesson and they're only here to teach

488
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 3: you this lesson, and then the relationship ends when that

489
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,479
Speaker 3: lesson is learned. But then you keep getting into other

490
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 3: karmic patterns because you learn the lesson from that person,

491
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 3: but you didn't realize you're the common denominator and so

492
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 3: this is why you're tracting that. And then karmic lessons

493
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 3: can turn into soul ties, they can turn into trauma bonding.

494
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 2: So Harry, so explain what a karmic lesson is, because

495
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:11,200
Speaker 2: I don't know what that means.

496
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 3: So a karmic lover is someone that you've encountered that

497
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 3: there's a lesson you need to learn from a previous

498
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 3: life or sometimes earlier in this life. And it can

499
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 3: feel really invigorating. It could feel really good in the beginning,

500
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,199
Speaker 3: but then it quickly goes left. But then what do

501
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 3: we do? We try to justify and explain their actions,

502
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 3: and so you get in this tumultuous relationship because the

503
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,280
Speaker 3: person it is going to be toxic because they are

504
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,639
Speaker 3: trying to teach you this lesson. But then that's so

505
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 3: that's a karmic lover. It turns into a soul tie

506
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 3: when you develop emotional intimacy or physical intimacy.

507
00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 2: That's why I say.

508
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:55,159
Speaker 3: Being really cautious of who you choose to take to

509
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 3: bed with because you're a physical intimacy. Then it turns

510
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 3: into why can't I let this person go? There's an

511
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 3: energetic tie there and even and a soul tie doesn't

512
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,199
Speaker 3: have to be someone that you're intimate with. It can

513
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 3: be a friend, it could be an enemy, but you've

514
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 3: developed that bond based off of your emotional connection and

515
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 3: your physical connection, So it could be years after you've

516
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 3: been with that person that you still think about them.

517
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 3: It doesn't mean you can't move on, but there's going

518
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,880
Speaker 3: to be that lingering thought and then your trauma bond

519
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 3: that's purely psychological. So this is your inner child. Your

520
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 3: inner child is picking partners trying to heal what happened

521
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:31,679
Speaker 3: to you. And it can be small. When people use

522
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 3: the word trauma like it's it has to be something catastrophic,

523
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 3: it really has to be.

524
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 2: But so yeah, Yank, I'm just thinking about my past

525
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 2: situations that she's explaining it. I was like trauma, bon

526
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 2: traumavon trauma.

527
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I recently got out of a relationship, right, and

528
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: I know that the relationship with this person transcends this lifetime.

529
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: Like I know, I feel like he might have been

530
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:57,920
Speaker 1: my son in another life.

531
00:27:58,000 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 3: Yeah.

532
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: Like that's like because I feel like when you meet people, sorry,

533
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot. It's my opinion. When you

534
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: meet people, it's the same people over and over about

535
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 1: different lives. Like different lives. Right, So me and Tammy

536
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: probably knew each other in another life, a different We

537
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 1: fought in that one, We could fight in this one.

538
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 1: There's that part sometimes I want.

539
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:25,560
Speaker 2: That might be some.

540
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,120
Speaker 1: You know, hold on side note, sidebar, I don't want

541
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: to do uh.

542
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:33,120
Speaker 3: When I left to say Louis, we.

543
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 1: Used they used to have this spot that did mud fighting.

544
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 2: I ain't getting it, no motherfucker mud not my hair, girl.

545
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 2: I you know they got those new those new black

546
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 2: swim caps. That's big for big hair. The mud is

547
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: good for your skin.

548
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: Like we could use like red clay.

549
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: So you want to roll around in mundy with me,

550
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 2: We get it back, Let's do it ship.

551
00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: I mean it could be like a weekly thing, like

552
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: have weekly Yeah, come mud fight man.

553
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: These niggas was making money a mud.

554
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: Fighting in Saint Louis like the girls was coming to

555
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 1: fight and it was really rest Yes, I want to

556
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 1: do it, Yes, as long as.

557
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 2: I can keep putting something on my hair because this

558
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: is this ship was expensive. I can't get no mod

559
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 2: in that. But outside of that, I'm wrestle your hands,

560
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 2: put you in a mud, chocold bitch, All right, We're

561
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 2: I'm talking.

562
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. So anyway, I feel like, you know, he

563
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: might have been I definitely you know you when you

564
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 1: be with somebody for boy else I was looking to

565
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: like all types of shit, like I had to dump

566
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: him in this lifetime m hm, right, because I never

567
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 1: did before.

568
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 3: You see what I'm saying.

569
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: So I feel like some type of relief because any like,

570
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 1: we've never actually broken up, even though we've had I've

571
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: had different relationships. He was in prison right for a lot,

572
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: so the judge, so the courts was breaking us out

573
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 1: like the fans had broken ourself for a very long time.

574
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:03,239
Speaker 1: So I never actually broke up with him, so like

575
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: I felt like I've severed, Like because when you date somebody,

576
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 1: they are aspect of who you are.

577
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 3: He said this in another episode, like when you're trying.

578
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: To get rid of that part of you, you gotta

579
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 1: cut those people off. And then I think it's also

580
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: like a next level you're going to get to.

581
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 3: It is enough level, But then when you get rid

582
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 3: of them, they're also a mirror to you as well,

583
00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 3: so they're revealing to you something about yourself that you

584
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 3: feel is inadequate or something that brings out the best

585
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 3: in you. So that's how when people repeat those cycles,

586
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 3: they mean, oh, I ended this, but then they kind

587
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 3: of disassociate. They put the blame solely on the other person.

588
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 3: But it really, I mean, it takes to the tangle,

589
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 3: especially if you keep running into these same scenarios. You're

590
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 3: the common denominator in your situation. And it's not to

591
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 3: say that to make you feel shameful or place blame,

592
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 3: but to realize how much power you actually do have,

593
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 3: and that every person that you attract in your life,

594
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 3: it's not a coincidence.

595
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 2: Hmm. You didn't hone with that.

596
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: I don't ever run into the same type of person.

597
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: It's always different bullshit, you know.

598
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 2: I think I run into a very, very loving, giving,

599
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 2: unavailable people every time.

600
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 3: Saying you, what about you is emotionally unavailable?

601
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 2: But here's the thing. I mean for the fucking dating myself.

602
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: But why am I? I'm available but unavailable at the

603
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 2: same time, and I just don't know. I can't put

604
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 2: my finger on why.

605
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 3: Well, that's your trauma bond. I have the same issue too,

606
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 3: where if you well, I think a lot of people do.

607
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 3: You're not listening to yourself when how do you feel

608
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 3: when you're engaging someone or just even your collecting data,

609
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 3: like how do you want to be experienced? And how

610
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 3: do you want a man to experience you? And oftentimes

611
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 3: we'll chalk up, well, he's a good guy, so this

612
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 3: is why I should keep talking to him. But something

613
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 3: intrinsic or you have that feeling like something is off,

614
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 3: and we're always looking for evidence to support our intuition

615
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 3: rather than trusting our intuition. Ie thinking, m that's what

616
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 3: I was talking about.

617
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 2: I'm just thinking about all these past situations and it's

618
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 2: very similar. Like I've been feeling like a hamster on

619
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 2: a wheel running.

620
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 3: So it's maybe you can sit with your feelings of

621
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 3: if you can think about a memory from childhood and

622
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 3: you may think it's insignificant, but I promise you it's not,

623
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 3: especially when you're from like kindergarten to fifth grade. You

624
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 3: don't have a ton of memories, but the ones you do,

625
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: that's consciously playing or subconsciously playing, because it's trying to

626
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 3: heal that wound that you're completely unaware of. So on

627
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 3: the surface level, you know you're emotionally unavailable. So like, okay,

628
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 3: I attract emostally unavailable men, But that's a very surface level.

629
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 3: When you get when you really sit with your feelings,

630
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 3: it's going to bring you back to certain memories that

631
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 3: you've had in your childhood, and then it's going to

632
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 3: unlock other things like oh this is this is where

633
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 3: the birthplace of where this started from. I felt like

634
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 3: I had to protect myself. So while I'm not going

635
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 3: to be emotionally available, I can look at sex as

636
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 3: a transaction and I think that I'm associated, but I'm

637
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 3: not because now I'm attached to this person because i

638
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 3: can't vocalize how I'm really feeling. But I'm using my

639
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 3: body to do that. And your issues are and your tissues,

640
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 3: especially your womb, that is a very sacred part of

641
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 3: your body. And so you neglected that when you're neglecting yourself,

642
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 3: even if you use a condo. Yes, I think I'm

643
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:22,000
Speaker 3: got sex as a ritual.

644
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 2: It's not really sex with a condo.

645
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 3: It's not like they say, wow, coming don't count. And

646
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 3: you know, even that is a generational womb though. If

647
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 3: you think about your your mother, your grandmother's, how many

648
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 3: seventy five percent of women. I've never had a vaginal orgasma.

649
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 2: So I talked.

650
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 1: I talked about this before because I had an old

651
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 1: lady living with me. She was eighty three years old

652
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 1: when I met her, right, and we would have conversations

653
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,480
Speaker 1: about all types of shit and just we would have

654
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: we had conversations about sex before and the way she

655
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: would talk about like moments in her life when she

656
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: was intimate. It just never sounded pleasure a woman.

657
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Speaker 2: Like you just get on top of me and do

658
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Speaker 2: his big you.

659
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 1: Know, orgasm is like a new age thing. It's like

660
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 1: men didn't give a shit if we were coming in

661
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 1: not at some point.

662
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,919
Speaker 3: And that is well, it's both. I mean, it's mis

663
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 3: education and especially growing up in the South and purity

664
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 3: culture where they're teaching girls to save their virginity for marriage,

665
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 3: but then they're telling boys we'll wrap it up. But

666
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 3: they're not teaching them to value their bodies. But they're

667
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:22,720
Speaker 3: telling women your body is sacred for your husband.

668
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 2: So all of that.

669
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Speaker 3: If you think about epigenetic epigenetics, where you were formed

670
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 3: in your grandmother's womb, so all of that, you carry

671
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 3: their baggage. You carry their trauma and the only way

672
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 3: you heal through that is through grief. And that's why

673
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,520
Speaker 3: a lot of us don't know. You can't even tell

674
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,719
Speaker 3: your partner, Okay, I'm not having a vaginal orgasm, but

675
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 3: you don't know how to fix that. You know, it's

676
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:47,880
Speaker 3: easy to have a clatoral orgasm because it's outside of you,

677
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:48,760
Speaker 3: it's not internal.

678
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 2: So and their roles will do it every dash get

679
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Speaker 2: a job done.

680
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Speaker 1: I had to text your eggs and I was like, Yo,

681
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Speaker 1: did you did you?

682
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 3: Did you put my vibrators in water? Oh? Imagine this.

683
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 3: Imagine you got one.

684
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 1: Vibrator that's plugged up like it's rechargeable, and then the

685
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:11,720
Speaker 1: other is operated by batteries. How does both of these

686
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 1: I'm in the middle of nothing. I'm in the middle

687
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: of right in the first one, like, oh my god,

688
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 1: I'm just frambling, like I got like a little little

689
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 1: little hidden spot on the side of the magic and

690
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 1: I didn't realize he knew where it was and right,

691
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 1: So then I grabbed the other one, and this one

692
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: does the same thing. He wants me to believe. He

693
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: ain't do nothing to my vibrators. It's no way like

694
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 1: these things operate.

695
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:38,800
Speaker 3: Different and neither one.

696
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 2: Neither one on the work.

697
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 1: I was fast when this happened. I was doing it

698
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: was way over seventy to our fast. I'm like, METI God, like, girl,

699
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: you be doing this too much.

700
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 2: Stop I haven't. They hate to see you coming. What

701
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 2: is like, I can't do no more?

702
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 1: But I haven't went and bought another one because I

703
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 1: just feel like I'm gonna get to the next level

704
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:02,320
Speaker 1: if I stop masturbing.

705
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 3: It's in my mind like regular DJing. It doesn't do

706
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:10,280
Speaker 3: you ever. Just sometimes go to the old fashioned route.

707
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 2: That ship man, who got time for that? We gotta

708
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: work in the morning.

709
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 3: See that's that's the problem. I see that talk about

710
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 3: being disconducted. It's a quick fix. You're not You're not

711
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 3: enjoying yourself. It's like this be dating herself.

712
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 2: She should like Dennis like, right by the bite your life.

713
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 3: Why not you want a man to do that?

714
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 2: Why can't you do it for yourself. Thirty two seconds

715
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Speaker 2: of sleep with the road.

716
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Speaker 3: I mean that, of course. I mean who is satisfied

717
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Speaker 3: pro too? That's I think it's actually better than the rose.

718
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 2: But you know satisfied pro too, ill look that up

719
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Speaker 2: those roses.

720
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Speaker 1: It is too much, y'all. Don't know what type of

721
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,279
Speaker 1: clits y'all because my chi can not say.

722
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 3: You get desensitized if you do it too much.

723
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 2: I know I'll be vibrating all night.

724
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 1: The guys in your head, we got with it in

725
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 1: your head?

726
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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right?

727
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 2: I had another question. All right, I'm sorry. How do

728
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 2: you recognize when a lover is draining your energy or

729
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: blocking your blessing? I always do.

730
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Speaker 4: Well. If the loraining you thinking about me training your energy,

731
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,359
Speaker 4: it's probably because you're draining your own energy, but it's

732
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 4: just being manifested through this person.

733
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 3: I had a client once that came to me. She

734
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:36,919
Speaker 3: was in her early thirties and she was crying over

735
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 3: this relationship. But he was twenty years older than her.

736
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 3: When she first met the man, she's been with him

737
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 3: for ten years. When she first met him, she had

738
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Speaker 3: her own business. She's very successful, and when she met him,

739
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 3: he had his own business as well, but then she

740
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 3: quickly realized his business wasn't doing great, so she put

741
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 3: her business on hold to run his business. But she

742
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 3: was in way over her head. They were in the

743
00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 3: process of having their car repossessed, like so much. Many

744
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 3: things were happening, and she couldn't see that it was

745
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:08,560
Speaker 3: because she was with this man. She gained like thirty pounds.

746
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 3: She was like, she just looked tired.

747
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 2: Let make it what.

748
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 3: At But no, I mean, and it didn't matter what

749
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 3: I told, like literally telling me I look younger than you.

750
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 1: He was literally draining my life source. He was older

751
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: than me, not that much older, but he was looking younger.

752
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: I wasn't doing my hair, I wasn't doing shit, just

753
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 1: looking crazy.

754
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 3: We're life givers. Literally, when men have energy after they

755
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 3: have sex with us, that's literally that's fine.

756
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:41,319
Speaker 2: Our body be.

757
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 3: Tired, a lot of energy they'll get now they it's

758
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 3: they're taken because we feel like it's our job to

759
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 3: just give and not really receive. I'm not saying all women,

760
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 3: but most women. That's that's how they treat sex. So

761
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 3: if you're depleted, if you if he's draining your energy, like,

762
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 3: how do you feel when you're with this person is ore?

763
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 3: Is your judgment clouded? If you feel like you can't

764
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 3: even tap into your own intuition or think logically about something,

765
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 3: that that relationship is distorted. So I think so many

766
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,799
Speaker 3: of us we look outside of ourselves and we have

767
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 3: completely lost the connection with our own intuition. So that's

768
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 3: why we get confused when really are our intuition is

769
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 3: probably our greatest power. Like, so you can prevent that

770
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 3: in the beginning when you first meet someone, you don't

771
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,799
Speaker 3: need a reason to see like is this guy a

772
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 3: bad person? Or if your body is telling you something

773
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 3: is off, why do you need to question it?

774
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: If you got b the he's as if you feel

775
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: like you don't have no intuition, but how do you

776
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 1: just don't know? Like you're not tapping gonna tell you.

777
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Speaker 3: That in bred.

778
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Speaker 2: Hawaii bitch getaway right there?

779
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Speaker 3: Bright?

780
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Speaker 2: So are you said like you're not connected to your intuition.

781
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 2: How would you advise someone to reconnect to their intellition?

782
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:17,359
Speaker 3: For one, I think they need a social media detox

783
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 3: because you're social media especially and I love TikTok, like

784
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 3: I that's like my TV. But it becomes an echo chamber.

785
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 3: So you had to be mindful of what you're feeding

786
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 3: your psyche, because then you see dialogues and people are

787
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 3: arguing and they're like especially with men and women, but

788
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,879
Speaker 3: they're in the same frequency, so like no one's trying

789
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 3: to hear each other. It's an ever chamber. So you

790
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 3: really need a detox and just kind of rest. I

791
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 3: think that's the main thing, especially with Black women, Like

792
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 3: you know, we're successful, we have the highest in degrees,

793
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 3: but a lot of that is because it's a distraction.

794
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 3: You know, we if we're focusing on something else, we

795
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 3: don't have designed to sit there and deal with our

796
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 3: own things. So it doesn't have to be hard, but

797
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 3: we don't know how to rest. How many of are

798
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 3: mothers like or grandmothers. They're always out and about. Even

799
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:01,800
Speaker 3: when my mom retired and then two weeks later I

800
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:04,319
Speaker 3: got another job, I just.

801
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,280
Speaker 1: Felt like the problems with my mom came out because

802
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 1: I would rest. You know what I'm saying.

803
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 2: She didn't like to see me, just because culturally that's

804
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 2: not our thing. You know, our thing isn't.

805
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 3: Being productive as being busy.

806
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 2: And we even got I deep like all the songs

807
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Speaker 2: everything strong Black women, all of it is like and

808
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:24,879
Speaker 2: I don't rest down.

809
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love to lay down, like I don't like

810
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:31,319
Speaker 1: I don't like hustling. I don't like feeling like I

811
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: got all these things to do, even though I'll do them,

812
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: I really got to push myself to do all the things, like.

813
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 3: I just don't want to though.

814
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: Same, I feel like Black women are supposed to just

815
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: lay down like great, we're supposed to be resting, okay,

816
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: and then and then we can think right and then

817
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,719
Speaker 1: just create money out of thin air because we can

818
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 1: think and actually making money off of things we can create.

819
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 3: You're a woman is having to go to work here

820
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 3: and you're in masculine energy. When you're working right, working

821
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,320
Speaker 3: is it's a masculin energy, and of course you need both,

822
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 3: but then you've gotten so disconnected from our femininity, our creativity,

823
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 3: our womb that houses your creativity, it houses your feminine power.

824
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 3: And when that's out of balance, you don't you get

825
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 3: into here. You think, you overthink, and then you get emotional,

826
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 3: and then you don't react from like you don't know

827
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 3: how to respond from your emotions. You're just reacting. So

828
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:29,359
Speaker 3: you are completely disconnected.

829
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:32,880
Speaker 2: So rest that's the biggest tool.

830
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Speaker 3: And not and I don't mean rest, like, yeah, that's

831
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Speaker 3: that's it has to be like productive rests something and

832
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Speaker 3: where you're getting adequate sleep, but then doing something that

833
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 3: calms your nervous system, and that's where you create something

834
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Speaker 3: you circle you know you actually can use that to manifest.

835
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Speaker 3: No I do.

836
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Speaker 1: I definitely be saying all type of shit when I'm

837
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Speaker 1: about to come. Okay, I definitely use my sexual energy and.

838
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 2: So listen, that's that's what I've been doing already. I

839
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,160
Speaker 2: used to think about past experiences. I'm not like a

840
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 2: laptop girl porn. I don't like that. I need to

841
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 2: I use my imagination. But now I don't even think

842
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 2: about them no more. I just think about what I

843
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:12,759
Speaker 2: want from our futures.

844
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 1: And that's really what the sexual energy is for. So

845
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,320
Speaker 1: that's what a lot of men be tapping into the strippers.

846
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Speaker 1: You fu with the stripper, you're gonna start getting money. Really,

847
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Speaker 1: that's the that's the energy strippers come with getting money.

848
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 2: I guess that's very true.

849
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Speaker 1: I feel like so the days that I want to

850
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Speaker 1: really like work out because I started doing hot yoga, right,

851
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Speaker 1: I don't be mess well. I can't mastery now because

852
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Speaker 1: I don't have a toy.

853
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Speaker 2: But I think.

854
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 1: It takes energy from you. You know what I'm saying,

855
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Speaker 1: Like the next day, Yes, I'm so sluggish.

856
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,759
Speaker 2: That's because you're using two toys one night, they all

857
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Speaker 2: tied like this is an opportunity.

858
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Speaker 3: The DJ and getting think like, just use your hand.

859
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Speaker 3: I think you need to get read acquainted with yourself

860
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Speaker 3: is too much. It's too much.

861
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 2: Because to make sure I drink a lot of water.

862
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 3: We are in the age of social media where everything

863
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Speaker 3: is fast.

864
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 1: No, no, not nasty sea, so it is not nasty, right.

865
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:25,240
Speaker 1: Self love is the best love, I agree.

866
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 3: Otherwise you're just treating yourself like a transaction.

867
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Speaker 2: Oops, I did it again.

868
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Speaker 3: Nothing. But if you do that all the time to

869
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 3: where then you feel like you just connecting with your

870
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 3: body is too much work. It's too much work because

871
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 3: you don't know how to rest. It's too much work

872
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:44,880
Speaker 3: because you're always on the gohot, so you're looking for

873
00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 3: a quick fix. So that is being disconnected from yourself. Nothing.

874
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:51,799
Speaker 3: Don't know. I love a good rose and I love

875
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 3: the satisfying pro too, But satisfied that is really good.

876
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 2: I'm ordering it. But now you're telling me just go

877
00:44:59,200 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 2: ahead and DJ.

878
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 3: I think you should create a mood an ambiance in

879
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 3: your home that makes you feel feminine, that makes you

880
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 3: feel like a woman. Gets some aphrodisiacs, some oysters, oysters,

881
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 3: some chocolate covered strawberries, play some music, get a satin

882
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:18,400
Speaker 3: road in. They're by myself in there by yourself. That

883
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 3: is manifesting because it's the act of that, like how

884
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 3: you're taking care of your body, how you're pleasing yourself,

885
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:25,720
Speaker 3: You're inviting that energy into your space.

886
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 2: Imokin, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna give me some

887
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 2: strawberries tonight. All right, go ahead, go ahead. I was

888
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:33,839
Speaker 2: about to say red flags. Your body and spirit will

889
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 2: pick up before your mind does.

890
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 3: Does your body tense up when you're on a date.

891
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 3: Do you feel yourself trying to accommodate to his needs

892
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:45,760
Speaker 3: where you're compromising parts of yourself. Do you find yourself

893
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 3: making excuses for someone like oh, he's a nice person,

894
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,799
Speaker 3: or like justifying something that no one really asked you,

895
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 3: but like you're again that doesn't serve you, but.

896
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 2: You justify it. Yeah.

897
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 1: I wanted to get into uh uh, you know, because

898
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: social media you have like the hood healer and what's

899
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,879
Speaker 1: the some of the other girlies, that something.

900
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 2: Mega dreams.

901
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, all these different people on social media, sorry, larger

902
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 1: than life, you know what I'm saying, they be doing anything.

903
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 1: I don't doubt doubt that some of these people are

904
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 1: indeed tapped in. But is it healing or is it hustling?

905
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:26,399
Speaker 3: Dude?

906
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:32,359
Speaker 2: Are so many people like Yeah, yeah, I'm sure they are.

907
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 1: You know, Cleo was on something, man, she was getting

908
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 1: her back.

909
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,799
Speaker 3: She was so she was serious. I think it's a

910
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 3: combination of both. I do think there is a balance.

911
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 3: You should be compensated, You should be compensated, but also

912
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 3: I think part of the work is teaching people to

913
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 3: empower themselves so that they don't feel dependent on you.

914
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,400
Speaker 3: And if you feel like like where people are constantly

915
00:46:57,400 --> 00:47:00,919
Speaker 3: coming to you for things and it's the same thing,

916
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 3: then you're just you're depleting their energies. So I think

917
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 3: there there is a bounce because money isn't you know,

918
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 3: it's energy. So you want to be compensated fairly for

919
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 3: the work that you're providing. But what are you leaving

920
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 3: with them that they can take and posit it to

921
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 3: someone else?

922
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, So when you see like people come to you

923
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 1: for everything, So I guess people start whenever somebody like

924
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 1: has like a spiritual awakening, and then some people they

925
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: start like leaving the church. But then you end up

926
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:31,320
Speaker 1: trying to find something else to believe in, right, instead

927
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 1: of believing in yourself and looking within. So they end

928
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 1: up in the hands of a false program fortune teller.

929
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:42,800
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. And listen, there'd be a

930
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 2: lot of them, and they got the same script that

931
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 2: they First of all.

932
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 3: They should if someone is reaching out to you for like,

933
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:51,480
Speaker 3: oh I got a message for you, that is a scam.

934
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 1: Yeah shit, that is a scam from Africa every time.

935
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 2: No, for real.

936
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: And I'm like one day this person was saying so

937
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:02,399
Speaker 1: much wow shit to me. I'm like, yo, what this

938
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:05,360
Speaker 1: is a demon in my inbox? Because the things that

939
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:06,800
Speaker 1: he was like, why are you putting this stuff on

940
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 1: my life?

941
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:09,640
Speaker 3: None of this is happening to me, So why are you?

942
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 2: Why are you engageing.

943
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 3: It's I wasn't.

944
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: I just read it. I just read it, and like

945
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 1: why would I didn't say anything back to them, But

946
00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:20,839
Speaker 1: what kind of thing is that? Though?

947
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 3: Because they want you to be afraid, they want you

948
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 3: to depend. I have a so I had a lady

949
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,439
Speaker 3: when I used to live in Texas. There was this

950
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 3: psychic store down the street from my apartment, and I

951
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 3: by this time, I was already a meetium. I have

952
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 3: my mentors. But something kept telling me to go to

953
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:39,319
Speaker 3: get a reading from her, and I was like, why

954
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 3: don't need to get a reading from her? But I

955
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:45,640
Speaker 3: finally went and she was telling me like I had

956
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,280
Speaker 3: I was cursed when I was in my mother's womb

957
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 3: and all of these crazy things. And then she had

958
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 3: me write my name on a paper and she was like,

959
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:55,439
Speaker 3: for an additional one hundred and fifty dollars, I can

960
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:58,320
Speaker 3: do this energy cleanse for you. And I was like, no,

961
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 3: I'm good, and she was like you're calling this. She

962
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 3: takes my name and she rips it up, and so

963
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:03,920
Speaker 3: when I left, I was like I was I was

964
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:05,240
Speaker 3: so mad on my god. I was like, why isoud'all

965
00:49:05,239 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 3: having to do that? And they're like, cause you need

966
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 3: to see what the other side. It's like how there's

967
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 3: a lot of people like that that create fear to

968
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:14,879
Speaker 3: make you reliant on that person. So it's one thing

969
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 3: to tap into something that like if you're doing a

970
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 3: reading for a person, you can pick up on what

971
00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:21,799
Speaker 3: they're going through. But then your guides are giving your

972
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:24,120
Speaker 3: ancestors are giving you something to help pull you through

973
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 3: that so that you're not coming to them for the

974
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 3: same you're not coming back for the same issue. So yeah,

975
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 3: it's it's a mess.

976
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 2: Well what do you say to people that say, like

977
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:36,720
Speaker 2: what you do is evil?

978
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:40,840
Speaker 3: You know, growing up in Charleston, I grew up Southern Baptist,

979
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 3: So I even my closest friends when I first it

980
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,800
Speaker 3: was like I was spiritually closeted and they were not.

981
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:50,799
Speaker 3: It was it was very fear based. But I had

982
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,520
Speaker 3: to kind of get over that because I'm like they're

983
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:57,880
Speaker 3: looking through their own perception, and especially black people, and

984
00:49:58,040 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 3: especially if you grew up in the Low Country, like

985
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 3: they've been doing your your grandmother's great grandmothers everything, and

986
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 3: they've hid that in Christianity to as a form of

987
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 3: protection and they think that's religion. It's not religion, it's

988
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 3: just protection work. Like you could be a Buddhist and

989
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 3: a Christian, you could be a root worker and a Christian.

990
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 3: But and then with what I do, if I were

991
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 3: to tell people I was a prophet, if I was

992
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:21,880
Speaker 3: in the church and told people I was a prophet,

993
00:50:22,680 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 3: they would they wouldn't bad enough, and then why But

994
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 3: what's the difference between a prophet and a psychic or

995
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 3: a prophet and the media and nothing. It's all churgantics.

996
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:33,920
Speaker 3: So it used to bother me, but then I realized,

997
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:35,879
Speaker 3: you know, when you're honest and you're living in your truth,

998
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 3: the right people will attract you.

999
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 2: So have you ever been walking down the street and

1000
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 2: like somebody Grandma was like tell them something real quick. No,

1001
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 2: it's not Molly, you and danger girl, you know from ghosts.

1002
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 3: No, I've met a stranger where I'm like in conversation

1003
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 3: and I might hear. It doesn't happen often, but like

1004
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 3: if I'm talking to them and I'll say something like

1005
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 3: I don't know, I'll just get like a download and

1006
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,800
Speaker 3: say something to them and they're like, how did you

1007
00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 3: know that? Like this one lady I met she I

1008
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 3: saw this young man and I was like, do you

1009
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,800
Speaker 3: have a son that passed? And she looked at me

1010
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 3: like yeah, And I was like, he's showing like a

1011
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 3: silver ball, like it's a necklace, and then she literally

1012
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 3: pulled out the necklace. It was well, she kept his

1013
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 3: ashes like part of his ashes, and and it was

1014
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 3: just a message of like, you know, he's still with

1015
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 3: you or whatever. But so I try to so like

1016
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 3: sometimes things like that will happen, but I try to

1017
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 3: get messages where it's very specific to them and it's

1018
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:40,919
Speaker 3: not just like, oh, you're going through a hard time.

1019
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:45,600
Speaker 2: Oh your grandma yell list yeah righty grandma yell.

1020
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 1: Like yeah.

1021
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 3: Yeah hmmm.

1022
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: So I uh, like I said I was going through

1023
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:56,320
Speaker 1: a breakup, right, And this day I was on shrooms.

1024
00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:58,840
Speaker 1: And I just saw his Instagram post the other day saying,

1025
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 1: how did you I ain't this ain't spirituality?

1026
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 3: You're on drugs. I started thinking about that because I

1027
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 3: do like.

1028
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 1: To do shrooms occasionally, right, yeah, I'll like herodose, like,

1029
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:12,239
Speaker 1: but I'm not leaving the house though, Oh of course

1030
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 1: not like it's now That's what I'll make a date

1031
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 1: for it. I make a date to do shrooms, right,

1032
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 1: I make a whole little bath, all the things. Right,

1033
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 1: So this, I actually did this shrooms earlier that day,

1034
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 1: and then by the evening time, I'm good, right, but

1035
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:28,240
Speaker 1: I'm outside, I'm riding home. It's probably like twelve o'clock

1036
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:33,399
Speaker 1: and I see like the psychic thing open twelve nights.

1037
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, let me go in there. So I go,

1038
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:38,479
Speaker 3: and I'm contemplating all types of things in my mind.

1039
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: Right I'm in this relationship. I'm like, this shit is

1040
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:44,839
Speaker 1: eating me, you know what I'm saying. So I need

1041
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: somebody to talk to. So I call the number that's

1042
00:52:47,040 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 1: on the building because it said well, I pulled up

1043
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 1: because it said open. Right when I got there, it

1044
00:52:51,680 --> 00:52:54,320
Speaker 1: wasn't really open. Then I called the number and the

1045
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:57,879
Speaker 1: person answered the phone, a little old lady, little old

1046
00:52:57,880 --> 00:52:59,600
Speaker 1: white lady voice over the phone.

1047
00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 3: Was like hey, honey. I'm like hey. She was like

1048
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 3: you okay.

1049
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:06,719
Speaker 1: This is how she was talking to me.

1050
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, like no, I'm not okay.

1051
00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 1: She was like, is it about a relationship, Like she's

1052
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:13,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh shit.

1053
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:15,760
Speaker 3: So she was like, well, come see me tomorrow.

1054
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:18,320
Speaker 1: You can come to my house, come at eleven o'clock.

1055
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 3: So that I'm making plans the next one. I'm like, oh,

1056
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 3: I'm about to go see this lady.

1057
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:24,279
Speaker 1: She wanted to go tell me all She's gonna tell

1058
00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 1: me all the things and all the shit already, fucking

1059
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: know you know what I'm saying, Like, I don't know

1060
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,839
Speaker 1: why we'd be looking for confirmation outside of ourselves will

1061
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 1: be you need some botious you know what I'm saying.

1062
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:38,680
Speaker 1: So long story short, this bitch was on some bocious

1063
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: like get there, you gotta be putting my hand on

1064
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:40,840
Speaker 1: the Bible.

1065
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 3: I'm like, what is happening?

1066
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:45,240
Speaker 1: Two hundred dollars later.

1067
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:48,400
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, you need to lead that nigga. No,

1068
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 2: I didn't say that you need to leave that. Man. Baby,

1069
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:53,759
Speaker 2: Now you.

1070
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 1: Trying to add on some extra shit like this is

1071
00:53:57,040 --> 00:53:59,799
Speaker 1: gonna call it the same shit you was saying. I'm like, man,

1072
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:02,799
Speaker 1: those time, I want to I want. I really wanted

1073
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 1: to fight her because why are you finishing people like this?

1074
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 1: I really was about to start reading her, but I

1075
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: just got up out of her, out of her house

1076
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: because I.

1077
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,359
Speaker 3: Just because you're playing with people. I mean, you don't

1078
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 3: know the mental state that someone is in, and now

1079
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 3: you want to add to their fear, their anxiety and

1080
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 3: not make them feel empowered or give them any type

1081
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:22,719
Speaker 3: of comfort because it's all a money grap but that's

1082
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:24,760
Speaker 3: why they're they're in that energy.

1083
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:28,239
Speaker 5: Like so she literally a little a little a little

1084
00:54:28,320 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 5: witch low ass Soka like all right, so I know,

1085
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 5: like I believe that you know the spirit world and

1086
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:37,880
Speaker 5: our world intermingled.

1087
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:40,800
Speaker 2: Do my grandma see me having sex?

1088
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:43,640
Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I mean they know you having sex, but they're

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00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 3: not like I don't want my grandma, you know, they're

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00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 3: not like.

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00:54:49,760 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 2: They're too discust. So you're is that nigga pushing you up?

1094
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 2: Back down? You growdmap? They laugh at that. Shiit See

1095
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:09,360
Speaker 2: that made me not want to do it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't think you're any bose the thrower.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I don't want try to protect your in it,

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00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 3: especially if you would a low vibrational man.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever had like some type of spiritual download

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00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:22,840
Speaker 2: or something that you some type of intuition in the

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00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:23,560
Speaker 2: act of sex.

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Speaker 3: Not in the act, but it's I've had a download

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00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 3: that's caught. Had me catch a guy doing something he

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00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:36,000
Speaker 3: was supposed to be doing. M h. I was this guy.

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00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 3: We used to live in the sandbuilding, and I remember

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00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 3: I came home from work. As soon as I put

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00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 3: my keys down, I heard go check your mail. I

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00:55:43,840 --> 00:55:45,680
Speaker 3: was like, well, I'm need to check my mail and

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00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:47,279
Speaker 3: I knew I didn't have anything. They're like, go check

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00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:48,680
Speaker 3: your mail. So I went to go check my mail.

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00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:50,560
Speaker 3: Sure enough, nothing was in there. As soon as I

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00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:52,400
Speaker 3: turned around the corner, he came out the elevator with

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00:55:52,440 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 3: another woman was dealing with each other and I he

1114
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:58,320
Speaker 3: did a double take. And normally when he would see me,

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00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 3: it's like oh hey, you know. He was like hey,

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00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 3: and then like like scurried out the and I was like,

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Speaker 3: did I just So then I was talking to my friend.

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Speaker 3: She's like, oh no, maybe it was you know someone, No,

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00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 3: maybe it was just a friend or a relative. So

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00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 3: then I was meditating and I was like, if I'm

1121
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 3: supposed to see something, like like, really see who he is,

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00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 3: show me in a gentle way. And two days later,

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00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 3: another friend sent me a screenshot of him where he

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00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 3: someone posted him on are we dating the same guy?

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00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:35,719
Speaker 3: Every day? Women like came through the woodworks and that's

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00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 3: all I needed to see. Yeah, so he had like

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00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:41,280
Speaker 3: a revolving off that elevator.

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00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:43,840
Speaker 6: We're going down the stairs this time, baby, it's up

1129
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:47,920
Speaker 6: wrong with the elevator business talk with somebody in your building,

1130
00:56:48,160 --> 00:56:51,400
Speaker 6: Like like that's just too close, it's too close, all

1131
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:52,520
Speaker 6: lived together, that's the case.

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Speaker 1: You won't see something like that, especially if you just

1133
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:56,879
Speaker 1: dating in this casual Yeah.

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00:56:57,160 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lesson learned never did.

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00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:01,799
Speaker 3: Are you in a relationship now, No, ma'am?

1136
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:07,360
Speaker 2: Why the fuck is that funny? What advice do you

1137
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:10,280
Speaker 2: have for our listeners when it comes to their spirituality

1138
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:10,760
Speaker 2: and sex?

1139
00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:18,440
Speaker 3: Well, I would suggest the sooner you can deal with

1140
00:57:18,640 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 3: your trauma you're in her childhood trauma, the quicker you

1141
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:26,040
Speaker 3: can stop aligning with men that are in that same frequency,

1142
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:29,120
Speaker 3: because as long as you're putting the onus and the

1143
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 3: blame solely on them, you're never going to get out

1144
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 3: of that cycle. And then for karmic lessons, it doesn't

1145
00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:39,360
Speaker 3: have to develop into anything further if you just take

1146
00:57:39,400 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 3: the lesson for what it is and see what is

1147
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 3: the role that I played. It's not saying that you're

1148
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 3: the sole person that's responsible, but what did I contribute

1149
00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 3: to this? And the second you can do that you

1150
00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 3: get out of that loop as well. And then lastly,

1151
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:56,640
Speaker 3: making sure you rest so you can connect with yourself

1152
00:57:56,680 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 3: and tap into your intuition.

1153
00:57:58,200 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 2: And what's the name of that machine you said you.

1154
00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 3: The satisfire pro Too. They had that was the newer model, the.

1155
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 2: Satisfied Pro Too. Amazon. You tonight, all right? Do you

1156
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:16,880
Speaker 2: want to do like a mini reading with one of us?

1157
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:18,360
Speaker 3: Oh? Like online.

1158
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, can you if you don't want to do that,

1159
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 2: you don't have to a girl, I don't make me.

1160
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 3: I mean like, well, what time is it? How much time? Oh?

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00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 2: We got like fifteen good minutes.

1162
00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:30,960
Speaker 3: Oh, you don't have to.

1163
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 2: You don't have to.

1164
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 3: Quite nervous, because I don't like to mix my spirits.

1165
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:36,800
Speaker 2: Okay.

1166
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: So and that's why we in his sweating okay, because

1167
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 1: we just like in all the spirits.

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00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:45,720
Speaker 3: If you're still here when I'm when I'm not great,

1169
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:49,320
Speaker 3: I don't mind, Okay, okay, No, no, that's fair, that's fair.

1170
00:58:49,560 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 3: I don't you know.

1171
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 2: All right, Well, tell everybody where they can find Oh no,

1172
00:58:52,840 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 2: she got to have a dumbit store. We got to

1173
00:58:54,880 --> 00:58:55,720
Speaker 2: get the dumbis story.

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00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, she didn't kind of tell did you keep sucking

1175
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 1: to do it on that it?

1176
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 3: No?

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00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 2: No, she w are you reculated?

1178
00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 1: Baby?

1179
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:08,680
Speaker 2: Come back upstairs.

1180
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:11,280
Speaker 3: I ain't say anything. There was nothing to be said.

1181
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 2: Was y'all didn't have no conversation about that? Did you

1182
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:14,760
Speaker 2: to talk about?

1183
00:59:15,080 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 3: Ye?

1184
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 2: Well that's a good way to hang.

1185
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 3: Know. Closure comes from when you realize why you why

1186
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 3: you move the way you do. That's the closure you get, like,

1187
00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 3: oh my goodness, it really wasn't him. He's got his

1188
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:28,520
Speaker 3: own stuff. I'm not even mad at the perp. Like,

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00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 3: I'm not even mad at him because I can clearly

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00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:33,640
Speaker 3: see when I was healing my trauma, like the trauma

1191
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:36,280
Speaker 3: that he had, and how we trauma ponded. So that

1192
00:59:36,320 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 3: didn't it didn't have anything to do with me. It

1193
00:59:38,160 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 3: was just.

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00:59:40,440 --> 00:59:44,320
Speaker 2: It was what it was. Mm hm. All right, Well,

1195
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Speaker 2: now tell everybody where they can find you to plug

1196
00:59:47,880 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 2: all your things.

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Speaker 3: You can find me on Instagram at Underscore, a Secret

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00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 3: Garden Underscore, and my website a Secretgarden dot org. And

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00:59:57,880 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 3: you got an event coming up right? Oh I do?

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01:00:01,440 --> 01:00:05,600
Speaker 3: Oh my god, keep for remarking me. Wait, so I

1201
01:00:05,680 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 3: have a couple events, but I do have We're doing

1202
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 3: a retreat next month in like Wiley, South Carolina. It's

1203
01:00:12,440 --> 01:00:15,680
Speaker 3: gonna I'm gonna have a sex She's like a sex therapist.

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01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:19,760
Speaker 3: She's a nurse practitioner, and she is really passionate about

1205
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:23,320
Speaker 3: women's orgasms. So the whole retreat is really centered around

1206
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 3: emotional release, physical intimacy, things you can do to increase

1207
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:32,120
Speaker 3: your sex drive for those that are struggling. And then

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01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:37,320
Speaker 3: we're gonna have an intuitive workshop next month, just playing

1209
01:00:37,360 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 3: some fun games to teach you, like what type of

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Speaker 3: Claire are you? Are you clairvoyant, Clare audience, Claire sentient?

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Speaker 2: So yeah, this sounds like fun. Yeah, is that on

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01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:49,080
Speaker 2: your page? All of those links?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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01:00:49,680 --> 01:00:53,520
Speaker 2: Okay, y'all, y'all check that out, y'all, go Tapan the

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01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:56,080
Speaker 2: sex therapists. They gonna have the pussy stimulated to the

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Speaker 2: what's it golf?

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01:00:57,440 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 3: Oh and we give a lady.

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Speaker 2: Give away.

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01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 3: We do give away toys, but it's the satisfier pro

1220
01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:07,480
Speaker 3: to get the original one, get the.

1221
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 2: Get the two. The two is better. All right, this

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Speaker 2: was fun.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna put out the link for that, so we yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: mark uhh when people click on the link.

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Speaker 3: What is it called? I know what you're talking about,

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01:01:20,240 --> 01:01:22,400
Speaker 3: but I'm talking about.

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Speaker 2: Huh affiliate code? Yeah, all right, a figure out.

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Speaker 3: This is good.

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Speaker 2: This is a lot of fun, a lot of good

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Speaker 2: information for me, especially seriously, So thank you, y'all.

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