WEBVTT - The terrible things I've seen 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:14.560 I'm trying to find my faith. How do I find 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:18.439 my way? I am ex Canadian military and how do 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:21.799 I find God after what I've seen and what I've 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:28.880 done in the line of duty? This is podcast episode seventy. 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:34.240 Awesome question. And I have a lot of awesome questions 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:38.040 today that I'm going to dive into and this kind 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:42.519 of stuff. And as I'm going to say with this question, man, 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:46.440 I don't know. I don't know what you've been through, 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:50.599 and I can't pretend to know how I could possibly 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:55.960 understand what you've seen. But I do have my own 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:01.160 life experiences and I have my own story like we 0:01:01.240 --> 0:01:04.399 all do. And I want to try to take a 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:06.680 question like this and all the other questions I have 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:11.840 today on episode seventy and treat them like we were 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:16.280 in the cab in my truck winds down, rolling down 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:21.520 a back road together and we're just talking. Or maybe 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:24.959 a better analogy is we're sitting around a campfire, you know, 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:30.959 late night, nothing but the stars staring at our boots, 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:34.160 sitting up there on the rock, you know, burning campfire, 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:39.560 and hey, man, can I ask you a question? How 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:42.920 do I find my faith? I'm ex Canadian military? How 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:45.039 do I find God after what I've seen. You know, 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:47.600 those are the kind of questions that you would ask 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:51.040 in a late night campfire with your buddy. And that's 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:53.440 how I want to answer it. Not that I would 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:56.000 have the answer to this the right answer, but I'm 0:01:56.000 --> 0:02:00.440 going to have my way of helping navigate do that. 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:03.600 That's what we're gonna do today. And if you have 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:07.200 a question or on any topic, or a shout out 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:12.480 or anything at all, email Granger Smith Podcast at gmail 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.560 dot com. I would love to hear from you. I 0:02:15.560 --> 0:02:18.720 would love to dive into it. We do this every 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:22.520 single Monday, wherever you are, whatever you're doing right now, 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:25.520 whether you're community work or you're over the road trucker, 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.799 or you get your headphones in and you're in the 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:30.480 middle of a workout or a walk, or maybe you're 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:32.359 just driving and you got it cranked up in your 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:35.359 car or your truck. Thank you for letting me come 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:39.120 through your speakers. Thank you for letting us have this 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:43.640 conversation every single Monday. Whatever platform you're listening on, I 0:02:43.639 --> 0:03:13.680 appreciate you. Welcome to the podcast. This is episode seventy 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:27.600 did Can't in Decent Times and long line of my 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:39.240 fool of husping down on Back's rangy cool evage. Yeah 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:48.320 you're that gation. First of all, can we talk about 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:52.960 how this is episode seventy already? This is crazy to me. 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.720 It seems like yesterday I was like, I wonder if 0:03:55.720 --> 0:04:00.120 I should start a podcast, and I believe it's it's 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.160 been for those of you that have followed this journey. 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:05.640 I think it's what two and a half years or 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:07.800 so since episode one. I guess I could look, but 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:11.040 I don't know. I'm gonna read some questions from you guys, 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:14.920 and it's just me today, which is fun. We can 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:17.480 get into the nitty gritty. If you have a question 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:21.680 for me, email Granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:24.600 It could be about anything in life, anything at all. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:30.599 Could be about music or life or marriage or kids 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:37.320 or problems, or could could just be a shout out hey. 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:39.520 It could be like what kind of mud tiers do 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:42.760 you use? It could be anything. This first question is 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:46.200 from Peyton and it's a music question. It says, Hey, Grangeer, 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:48.039 I I just wondering how could I get some advice 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:51.880 to improve my voice in songwriting so I could make 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:54.360 it when I get out of the army. By the way. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:56.600 I saw you at Billy Bob's this year and instantly, 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.040 you instantly became my favorite artist, tend role model in 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:01.560 my life. So I figured i'd ask. I know it's 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:03.880 a long shot, and you took the hardest route as 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.000 an independent artist, which is the route I want to take. 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.960 PS as it is in Texas is the best song 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.159 in my opinion, and I was wondering if you could 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:13.600 give First Calve a shout out on your channel. I 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.400 got like thirty people hooked on it over here in 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:19.320 Fort Hood. Shout out the First Calve, Peyton, thank you 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.880 for writing buddy, Thank you for your service the First Calve. 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.040 I have a good relationship with First Calf because my 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:30.640 first entertainment toward Iraq in two thousand and seven, First 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:34.360 Calve was the majority that we saw over there deployed 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.760 in Iraq. I believe we went to The first fob 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:42.200 we went to was Warhorse and it was just full 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:45.600 of First Calf. So I met so many really good 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:47.560 men and women from First Calf over there, and at 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.040 the time they were coming from Fort Hood as well, 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.280 which is why it was such a cool tie for me. 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:56.400 So yeah, shout out to First Calve in my relationship 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:59.040 with them. Peyton, thank you for your service. Yeah, I 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:03.600 can give you a few a few little tricks. You said, 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:09.040 first of all, how to improve my voice and the 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:13.720 voice your Your vocal cords are a muscle. So if 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:17.160 you want to improve that muscle, you really look at 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:19.200 it like you would any other muscle on your body. 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:23.640 So if you want to have big biceps, you do 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.880 curls right, And if you want to fine tune those biceps, 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:30.320 you're gonna go lower on reps and higher and wait, 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:33.880 if you want to super tone, then you're gonna want 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:39.360 to go lower weight in a lot of reps. That's 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:41.200 how you need to look at your voice. What do 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:44.360 you want out of your voice? And work that like 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:50.600 a muscle. I remember early in my songwriting days, I 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:54.800 would go sit in my pickup truck outside of my 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:59.080 neighborhood and I would do this every night after dinner, 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:02.080 be about eight, I'd give my truck, I would drive 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:06.080 a few blocks till there were no more houses, and 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:10.480 I would crank up the radio whatever I was listening 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:13.520 to at the time, and I would sing for about 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:16.400 an hour and a half and time it for ninety minutes, 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:19.440 because that's about the amount of set I wanted to 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:23.440 sing ninety minutes. And I would do this and I 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.280 would just sing at the top of my lungs for 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:28.240 ninety minutes every single night to try to build something, 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:32.560 some kind of stamina in my vocal cords. And I 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:36.600 remember one night a police officer came and pulled up 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:39.360 right behind me and turned on his lights, and I 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:41.760 was thinking, oh, this is awkward. I knew I wasn't 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:44.640 doing anything wrong, but I just thought this is weird. 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:49.120 So the officer walks up. Go down your window, you know, 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:53.760 So I was like, yeah, hello, sir, and you know, 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.280 it's like the typical what seems to be the problem 0:07:56.400 --> 0:08:02.360 officer And he said what are you doing? And I 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:06.600 had nothing besides the truth to tell him. I said, Man, 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:10.640 I know it sounds weird, sir. I'm sitting here in 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:14.400 my truck. I do this every night because I'm practicing 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:17.320 singing and trying to build up the strength of my 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:22.720 vocal cords. And he said, you're doing what I said, Yeah, yeah, 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.800 I know it sounds crazy, but I cheer. I crank 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:26.880 up the radio and then I sing along. I'm a 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.800 singer and I sing along or I'm a wannabe singer, 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:32.800 and I'm trying to get stamina in my voice by 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:35.640 singing a lot of songs for ninety minutes. And he 0:08:35.800 --> 0:08:39.760 was like, did you know that in this spot where 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:42.800 you're sitting, we've been we've had a lot of calls 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:46.320 about lumber theft because of the new houses that are 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:50.000 being built around here. And you look like a pickup 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.760 truck that fits a description of somebody that was out 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:58.559 here stealing lumber. And I was like, no, I didn't 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:02.400 know that, and I'm just sitting here singing. He said 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:05.640 where do you live? And I said just just a 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:09.240 couple of streets over and he said, let's go show 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:13.120 me your house. So obviously he didn't believe me. So 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:17.240 I was like okay, so fired up. My truck drove down, 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:20.480 you know it. It was like a thirty second drive, 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:24.360 and I hit the buzz the garage door, and as 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.280 soon as my garage door started going up, he rolled 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:29.920 down his window and goes, okay, cool, be safe out there. 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.480 It's like that's all that's the proof he needed to 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:35.680 show that I actually did live there and I wasn't lying. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:39.120 So long story short, I did that for a long 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:43.880 time until I started getting gigs too. That whether the 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:49.200 gigs took over that exercise, and then over a decade 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:54.280 of singing in gigs, then from there I would go, Okay, 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:57.640 why am I so sore today? The next morning I 0:09:57.640 --> 0:09:59.760 would get really sore, and so then I would that 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:04.400 I would try to alter my singing and try to 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:06.720 put the voice in a different part of my throat. 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:09.439 I've told you, I think I've said on this podcast before. 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:13.240 The lower I put my chin and the deeper I 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:15.640 breathe in my adnomum instead of the top of my 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:20.559 lungs and raising my throat up, the more depth I 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:23.559 can get out of it, and the more strength I 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:25.880 can get out of it, and more importantly, the more 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:28.599 protection I have. It's like when you're running and you 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.680 want to use the proper form when you're running, otherwise 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:34.719 you're going to pull a hamstring or something. Everything that 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:37.360 applies in the body is the same with your vocal cords. 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:41.200 So it takes practice, it takes endurance, it takes literally 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:46.480 strength training, and it takes a knowledge of feeling the 0:10:46.640 --> 0:10:50.240 way that it's supposed to go. And unfortunately for me, 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:54.360 that took years and years and years. For you, you know, 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.599 I feel like some people are just natural singers and 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:59.800 they just come out of the womb singing beautiful music. 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:02.160 I'm not that way. It took a lot of years 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.319 to kind of find where to put my voice on 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:08.040 a song. As far as writing, I get this question 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:12.599 a lot, how do you write songs? The brain is 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.360 a muscle to me. It might technically not be a 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:19.160 muscle for all you, for the cerebral surgeons out there, 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:25.839 but it takes practice, and it takes discipline, and it 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:30.240 takes a thousand bad songs to find maybe one half 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:35.040 good song. And I always in the songwriting discussion, I 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:38.559 always say start with an instrument. Start playing some kind 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:44.559 of instrument, because that instrument will then create a spark 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:49.599 that starts the fire of songwriting. And I love to 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:53.640 start with guitar. That's me. I also like piano, but 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:57.720 technically you could start anything with anything. I probably not violin. 0:11:57.880 --> 0:12:00.719 You probably can't write very many good songs to just 0:12:00.840 --> 0:12:04.079 a violin. Great instrument to play, but you need to 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:07.160 start with some kind of the instrument that makes chords 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.920 and let that inspire you. And after that, after you're 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:15.959 playing chords, it's just poetry. You're just writing poets. Everyone 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:18.880 could write a poem. It doesn't even have to rhyme technically, 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:26.640 just words to chords, and there's no bad way to start, 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:30.440 or you could start that way, but it takes discipline, 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:32.880 and you're in the army, you're in first calf. Discipline 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:35.120 is the name of the game. So thanks for writing, anybody, 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.720 and we could elaborate on another question later at some point. 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:50.080 Maybe next question comes from Justin. He says, Hey, Grangeer, 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:53.480 this is Justin from Overton, Texas. I enjoy all of 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:55.360 your content and I've been a fan of yours for 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.040 many years. My question is a bit more broad and 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:01.000 not so direct. Everyone seems to think that your job 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:04.240 is all glitz and glam. I would be curious to 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.679 know how you pay state taxes in the states that 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.480 require it and all the states that you perform it. 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:12.240 How does that work and how does it affect your 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:18.959 overall income? Yeah, good question, Justin. And so basically, it 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:25.800 happens a gig by gig basis, we will play something 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:32.319 in Minnesota, and when we settle up, when Chris, my 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:36.800 tour manager, gets the money and the contracts signed, there's 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.240 a tax form signed with that as well. At the 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:45.240 end of the year, we'll get forty seven tax forms 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:49.920 from forty seven different states or whatever we played that year, 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:55.600 and it says the state, the city, and how much 0:13:55.760 --> 0:14:00.600 income my touring company made in that state. Sometimes it's 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:04.000 very little if it's just one gig, and sometimes it's 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:06.959 a lot if it's a state that we've returned to 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:09.280 three or four or five times outside of our home 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:12.559 state of Texas. So it's that simple, it really is. 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.839 Typically we get paid by a check and you know, 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:22.080 there's a couple of signatures involved, and tax forms come 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:26.480 at the end of the touring season. We make allowances, 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:31.720 you know, for what we need to withhold for each state, 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:39.680 knowing that every state is different. Here's a question that 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:47.440 says job denial advice, and that makes me curious. Say, hey, Granger, 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:50.320 my name is Dylan. I'm from Laramie, Wyoming, and I 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:53.640 was just recently denied a job in my dream career, 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:56.640 law enforcement. I was wondering if you have any tips 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.480 or advice on how to keep my head up. I've 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.640 been trying to get in this field for three years 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.560 and I've been faced with constant denial and this one, 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.920 this most recent one, was the hardest because I don't 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:12.360 know the exact reason why I was denied. Any advice 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:15.160 would be greatly appreciated. I love listening to your music, 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:18.560 watching all your videos, especially the Earl truck restoration, as 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:22.160 I've been recently working on nineteen eighty eight Chevy truck. 0:15:22.280 --> 0:15:24.840 Being from Wyoming, That's why I love dirt Roads holds 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:27.400 a whold special place in my heart. Keep up the 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:31.920 good work eee. I appreciate it. Dylan, thanks for writing in. 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:36.880 I'm sorry that you feel discouraged in your job. Hunt. 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:41.480 I admire your willingness to get into law enforcement and 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:46.760 during this crazy time. Hats off for that. A couple things, 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:51.160 and for everybody listening all of these I don't have 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:52.960 all the right answers. I'm not going to give you 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:55.440 all the right answers. I don't study these questions and 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.360 I don't take notes, So everything I say needs to 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:00.680 be taken with a grain of salt. And just remember 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.840 this is like me and a buddy sitting in the 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:07.600 living room having a conversation. You take what you like 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:11.640 and you reject what you don't. There's some things that 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:13.840 I'm going to be very absolute in my opinion on 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:17.920 there's others. I'm not going to know the right answer 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:21.200 all of it combined, you take it or leave it. 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:24.440 So me and you sitting in a room. My first 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:29.160 thing for you, Dylan, is dialing in on when you 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:31.000 said this most recent one was the hardest because I 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:34.040 don't know the exact reason why I was denied. Find out. 0:16:35.120 --> 0:16:40.480 Find out tomorrow. Whenever they open up at seven am, 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:43.320 or whenever they open up, I would either have them 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:45.640 on the phone, I would get them to reply to 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:48.320 an email, or I would be waiting in the office 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:52.160 and say, hey, sorry to bother you guys. I'm Dylan. 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:56.040 I recently applied for a job. I got denied. For 0:16:56.360 --> 0:17:01.400 my career sake and for my future, I could really 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:06.879 benefit with knowing why I got denied. I'm assuming this 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:11.240 isn't some kind of you know, secret information that they 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:16.240 can't give you. I'm assuming that any decent person would say, yeah, 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:19.200 let's see it says right here X here this is why. 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:24.159 So find out find out why. That is going to 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:27.920 be the key for you moving forward in your what 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:32.960 you call a dream career. After that, after you find 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:37.000 out what it is, man would uh, I would keep 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:39.640 knocking down doors till you find define the one that's 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:43.479 easy to open. And if that means you need more training, 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:47.440 if that means you need more schooling, I don't know. 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:51.600 I don't know the application for law enforcement. If you 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:54.639 need a little extra padding for your resume, like you 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:58.080 need to be a mall cop for six months, or 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:03.080 if you need to work for Brinks security trucks for 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:09.160 six months. These are all things. Everything I'm saying requires 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:12.280 a sacrifice, and everything in life that you really want 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:17.000 requires a sacrifice for every every every time you come 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:20.320 to a crossroads in life, you have two ways to go. 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:24.120 I'm not saying you only have two ways. I'm saying, 0:18:24.200 --> 0:18:29.560 when you have two ways, the harder path, the harder direction, 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:35.359 usually leads to the greater yield, the greater reward. And 0:18:35.480 --> 0:18:37.959 right now you're at this crossroads. You could quit your 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:41.040 dream as law enforcement. That'd be the easy way. Or 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:44.119 you could grind it out and keep going even though 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:47.680 you've been denied. Hey being denied. Let's see, did you 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:53.119 say how many times just deny it? You said you've 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:57.400 been trying for three years, So dude, three years. If 0:18:57.440 --> 0:18:59.520 you look at it this way. In the music business, 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:02.000 if you had been denied for three years in a row, 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:05.200 you'd be like, that'd be like nothing. In the music business, 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:08.560 it takes fifteen years to finally make some tractions. So 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:11.480 you and me are not on different paths here. Three 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.439 years is nothing. Look call me in ten years when 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:18.760 you're still getting denied. And if you're getting denied every time, 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:23.320 you're finding out the reason and then you correct that reason, 0:19:23.600 --> 0:19:25.920 Like find out why you got denied this last time, 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:30.600 and work to correct that and then hey, go back 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:35.440 to the same department. Say hey, I'm Dylan. Eight months ago, 0:19:35.480 --> 0:19:38.000 I came through here, I applied for this position, and 0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:39.879 I was denied because of this. And I want to 0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:43.760 show you now how I have corrected that problem and 0:19:43.800 --> 0:19:46.760 I've made myself better for you. Look them in the eye, 0:19:47.359 --> 0:19:51.560 and I dare someone to deny you that at that point, right, 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:56.960 be diligent. Look them in the eye, speak clearly to them. 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:01.840 Dress appropriately. It's appropriately you probably do if you're going 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:04.520 to law enforcement, but dress dress sharp. Come in there, 0:20:04.600 --> 0:20:08.320 you mean business. This is my dream. Tell them that, Hey, 0:20:08.440 --> 0:20:11.560 mister so and so, I'm Dylan. I played eight months ago. 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:15.000 I've been trying for three years. This is my dream job. 0:20:15.240 --> 0:20:17.720 Last time I was denied. I was told this. I 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:20.240 have since corrected that over the last eight months. I 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:22.359 want you to re look at my resume and here 0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:26.919 we go again. Let there be silence, let him look 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:28.680 at you back in the eye, and let him tell 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:30.680 you that it's not going to work at that point. 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:37.200 If it doesn't keep going, that's my advice, or don't. 0:20:37.880 --> 0:20:40.360 If you don't care, then don't. But if you really 0:20:40.440 --> 0:20:44.159 do it's your dream, go get it. Man. Take the 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:47.920 path of most resistance, not the one of least resistance. 0:20:48.600 --> 0:20:54.239 Thanks for typing in, buddy. Let me, let me, let 0:20:54.280 --> 0:20:56.840 me get around here, Here we go. I got time. 0:20:56.880 --> 0:21:05.960 We got time for another question. This question from Scott 0:21:06.640 --> 0:21:09.760 says girl dad advice in the subject line, Hey grandeer, 0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:13.080 my name is Scott. I'm from North Carolina. My wife 0:21:13.160 --> 0:21:16.400 is pregnant. We just found out today it's a girl. 0:21:17.200 --> 0:21:19.520 You're actually the first person I'm telling through this email 0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:24.120 this is our first baby. I'm so excited and so terrified. 0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:27.200 What advice do you have for first time dads, or 0:21:27.280 --> 0:21:30.520 specifically first time girl dads. I'm a longtime fan and 0:21:30.560 --> 0:21:32.200 I appreciate all you do. Can't wait to see you 0:21:32.240 --> 0:21:36.000 in North Carolina. Thank you, Scott. Shout out to North Carolina, 0:21:36.600 --> 0:21:39.440 shout out to girl dads and this message. By the way, 0:21:39.560 --> 0:21:45.520 this email came in October sixth, so you might have 0:21:45.520 --> 0:21:47.760 already had her, but we're a few months late reading this. 0:21:48.760 --> 0:21:55.600 And ironically, October sixth is my daughter's birthday, London's birthday, 0:21:55.800 --> 0:21:59.000 so it's ironic you wrote about girl dad's advice on 0:21:59.160 --> 0:22:03.960 London's birthday. I'm gonna I'm gonna recommend a book that 0:22:04.000 --> 0:22:10.639 I've said several times on here called Captivating, and the 0:22:10.760 --> 0:22:14.840 author is Eldridge. I've said this. There's a book for 0:22:15.359 --> 0:22:19.960 boys called Wild at Heart and a book for girls 0:22:20.040 --> 0:22:25.080 called Captivating. I would highly recommend Wild at Heart for boys. 0:22:26.200 --> 0:22:28.520 If you are a boy, or if you're having a boy, 0:22:29.280 --> 0:22:33.160 I would highly recommend Captivating if you're a dad raising 0:22:33.200 --> 0:22:36.760 a girl, if you're a woman raising a girl as well, 0:22:36.920 --> 0:22:39.320 or if you are a girl. I just really like 0:22:39.400 --> 0:22:47.840 those books and they're written by Eldridge, and Captivating talks 0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:55.920 about how little girls are built differently, they have different 0:22:56.040 --> 0:23:02.200 needs and sometimes a man doesn't quite understand that. What 0:23:02.320 --> 0:23:06.159 I mean is boys need boys need to be they 0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:09.560 need to have an adventure. They need to have a mission. 0:23:10.640 --> 0:23:12.920 They are. They a lot of times naturally want to 0:23:14.000 --> 0:23:15.919 have you know, they want to be a superhero. They 0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:21.560 want to be a protector and they need that. Wild 0:23:22.080 --> 0:23:26.800 adventure girls a lot of times. I'm not speaking for everybody. 0:23:26.800 --> 0:23:29.560 I'm just speaking what this book says, and good general 0:23:29.640 --> 0:23:35.440 advice here. Girls want to feel captivating. They want to 0:23:35.520 --> 0:23:38.640 feel like they're the only one in the room. When 0:23:38.680 --> 0:23:41.359 they talk, they want you to listen. They want to 0:23:41.840 --> 0:23:43.960 when they put on clothes, they want you to go, 0:23:44.720 --> 0:23:48.080 oh my god, you are so beautiful. They want you 0:23:48.160 --> 0:23:52.960 to be captivated by them, not distracted. I had to 0:23:53.040 --> 0:23:55.040 learn that, and I read the book and then I 0:23:55.080 --> 0:23:57.920 started raising London and then I saw this is so 0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:01.560 true as I watched her and there's moments in that 0:24:01.600 --> 0:24:03.400 book and I tried to emulate when she was little. 0:24:03.440 --> 0:24:06.359 And I remember her being three years old and putting 0:24:06.359 --> 0:24:09.040 on her little Cinderella dress and twirling and watching it. 0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:11.000 You know, she's looking down and she's seeing it twirl 0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:14.159 and she say, look, daddy, and it's like that's the 0:24:14.240 --> 0:24:17.320 moment when she's when she's twirling her dress and she says, look, daddy, 0:24:17.880 --> 0:24:20.440 you better not be looking at your phone. You better 0:24:20.520 --> 0:24:25.960 not be looking, you know, at the TV. It's important 0:24:26.000 --> 0:24:30.240 to stop right then and look at her and affirm 0:24:31.000 --> 0:24:34.919 to her she's captivating. It's important for her right then, 0:24:35.000 --> 0:24:38.240 at three years old, so young, to start developing that 0:24:38.359 --> 0:24:43.200 where you go, baby girl, you are something that is 0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:46.680 so neat, that is so pretty, or you're so beautiful 0:24:46.800 --> 0:24:50.600 or wow, that's amazing, any of those adjectives that makes 0:24:50.640 --> 0:24:55.879 her feel wanted and special and needed and important and 0:24:56.119 --> 0:25:00.680 strong and beautiful and courageous and smart, all of those 0:25:00.720 --> 0:25:05.760 things where she feels that from her father figure. Because 0:25:05.760 --> 0:25:07.920 if you don't give it to her at a young age. 0:25:08.960 --> 0:25:11.080 You all know that the way that this history ends, 0:25:11.600 --> 0:25:13.800 if the dads don't give it to him at a 0:25:13.840 --> 0:25:19.240 young age, they will find it from another man. Don't 0:25:19.280 --> 0:25:22.520 you want it to be you first? Don't you want 0:25:22.560 --> 0:25:25.439 to be the first person that tells her she's captivating 0:25:26.560 --> 0:25:32.159 instead of someone you don't get to choose. That is 0:25:32.280 --> 0:25:37.399 my advice. I grew up with two brothers. I didn't 0:25:37.640 --> 0:25:41.000 know the dynamic of girls, and I still don't totally. 0:25:41.040 --> 0:25:43.760 I mean a lot of times I refer back to 0:25:43.840 --> 0:25:46.359 Amber and I just go, hey, this is a girl thing. 0:25:46.520 --> 0:25:48.159 I don't really know how to deal with this, can 0:25:48.240 --> 0:25:51.640 you please? She's so emotional, like London could just start 0:25:51.760 --> 0:25:54.840 crying because the wind's blowing a certain direction, and I 0:25:54.920 --> 0:25:58.639 don't know why she's crying, and then that crying turns 0:25:58.680 --> 0:26:02.080 into more crying, and I'm just like, maybe I don't 0:26:02.119 --> 0:26:06.359 know why you're crying, and but that's that she doesn't 0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:10.119