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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Gorgeous. It's La La Kent. Welcome to Untraditionally, La La. Hello, Gorgeous,

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Untraditionally, La La. I am back not so

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<v Speaker 1>better than ever. Hi Amber, Hi Loala. This is so

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<v Speaker 1>exciting because we finally get to talk about the project

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<v Speaker 1>we've been working on.

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<v Speaker 2>Finally.

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<v Speaker 1>Yay. You guys know that I had Amber on the

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<v Speaker 1>first episode of Untraditionally Lala, and we had been going

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<v Speaker 1>back and forth about doing something in some capacity together

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<v Speaker 1>for I want to say, like four years. Yeah, probably right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's been a minute, and finally it was the right

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<v Speaker 1>time and our new podcast, An Unlikely Affair, is officially happening.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited about this.

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<v Speaker 2>I know so might.

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<v Speaker 1>What made you feel like it was like the right

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<v Speaker 1>time for us to do something like this?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I think what we said on the previous

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<v Speaker 2>podcast is that we were both like it's kind of

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<v Speaker 2>like a marriage, like one wants to leave and one

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<v Speaker 2>wants it to stay, and one the other one wants

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<v Speaker 2>to leave it. So and I think you and I

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<v Speaker 2>were just in different parts and healing parts of our life.

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<v Speaker 2>And for me, I mean, I'll just speak on for myself.

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<v Speaker 2>Is like now I could finally talk from a place

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<v Speaker 2>of healing not hurt, because you know, obviously, everything that

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<v Speaker 2>I've been through in my life with you, with my family,

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<v Speaker 2>it's sometimes it can really stir up a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>emotions and that those emotions are shame, anger. And it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean that like I don't get there, because there

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<v Speaker 2>are definitely days and you know this because I call

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<v Speaker 2>you hright, but I just I feel like it's like, Okay, finally,

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<v Speaker 2>now is the time that like we could go out

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<v Speaker 2>and help other women who've experienced or are going through

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<v Speaker 2>something very similar like you and I have.

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<v Speaker 1>I fully agree with that. And there are so many

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<v Speaker 1>moments where I feel like I'm over something, whether it

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<v Speaker 1>has to do with friendships, certain relationships that I've been

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<v Speaker 1>in my past, where you do come from a place

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<v Speaker 1>of anger and shame and if you start looping. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so proud of the progress that I've made in

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<v Speaker 1>so many of those moments where it's like, wow, I

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<v Speaker 1>can sit here and I can think about every detail

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<v Speaker 1>of my past and not feel any of those things.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm excited for us to talk about the light

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the tunnel, because when you're in

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<v Speaker 1>it I know so many people who are like, this

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<v Speaker 1>is my life forever and how am I ever going

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<v Speaker 1>to recover from this sort of anger and shame? Especially

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<v Speaker 1>with the holidays coming up, it's like a very isolating time.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have to co parent, that is a fucking nightmare.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, are you in it or are what's

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<v Speaker 1>the deal with that? I'm figuring it out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm figuring it out. I'm like a big mush

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<v Speaker 2>fall during the holidays And what do you mean? The

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<v Speaker 2>holidays are just really special for.

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<v Speaker 1>Me, Like I get depressed. I do.

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<v Speaker 2>I do get depressed, and I think I get more depressed,

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<v Speaker 2>like the day after Christmas. And I've always been this week,

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<v Speaker 2>especially as a kid, because it was like my family

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<v Speaker 2>went went all out for Christmas. It was like we

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<v Speaker 2>would have a halftime and so I gave my kids

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<v Speaker 2>that with you know who, and it was beautiful. But

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<v Speaker 2>now it's like now when you have to split that

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<v Speaker 2>the holidays just never feel the same after you get divorced.

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<v Speaker 1>Ever ever, you know, I with the person we have

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<v Speaker 1>in common, I just remember every single moment, whether it

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<v Speaker 1>was a dinner on a Tuesday or Christmas Day being

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<v Speaker 1>rushed like there was no magic to anything with him, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, get through the Christmas present as fast as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I've never experienced a holiday in a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with a child, you know, Ocean's always been split for everything, which.

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<v Speaker 2>Is good because she'll know the difference. Yeah, she'll or

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<v Speaker 2>she won't know the difference. She won't know the different difference.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know the difference, yeah, because I have nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I was around your kids on you know, Christmas,

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<v Speaker 1>even Christmas Day when you guys would have to do

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<v Speaker 1>the exchange. But it's it's so different when it's your

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<v Speaker 1>own child, obviously, and so I don't know, like this

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<v Speaker 1>is just my norm. Yeah, and it's hard to because

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<v Speaker 1>now So says getting to a really fun age and

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<v Speaker 1>Ocean is looking at her like, oh my gosh, this

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<v Speaker 1>is my friend. And now when I say like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to your dad's house this weekend, she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>but my sister, I don't want to leave, and that

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<v Speaker 1>that's kind of like. I love that she wants to

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<v Speaker 1>go over to his house, because if she didn't, that

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<v Speaker 1>would be got wrenching for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a whole nother yeah, ball game, but he

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<v Speaker 2>makes it very fun he does make it very fine,

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<v Speaker 2>very fun over there.

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<v Speaker 1>But I love that, Like, oh, Ocean is now looking

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<v Speaker 1>at so says like her little her little friend. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm starting to get a little bit nervous about the

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<v Speaker 1>holiday approaching because I know Ocean's gonna want to he

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<v Speaker 1>with her sister.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but you know what you just have to

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<v Speaker 2>I think the most important thing that you should do

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<v Speaker 2>is just acknowledge Ocean's feelings right totally. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>this is the age where I wish I would have

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<v Speaker 2>had all the all of the resources and books that

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<v Speaker 2>I have now that I've read or you know, friends

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<v Speaker 2>that have helped me along the way. Just acknowledge your feelings, like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I understand how that could be really hard, Like you

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<v Speaker 2>have to identify the name of the feeling because she

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't know these yet. So don't dismiss it, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you'll be fine. You know, we'll see you whenever you

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<v Speaker 2>come back, and we'll have our Christmas. It's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>tell me how, like that must feel really hard or

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<v Speaker 2>that must make you sad? Does that make you sad?

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<v Speaker 1>Totally? You know, Ocean's really good at pinpointing her emotions and.

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<v Speaker 2>If she's anything like London.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes she is. Do you think that like when

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<v Speaker 1>you see Ocean? I know she's only four and a half.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you see similarities in our kids? Oh yeah, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I see a huge similarity between London and Ocean.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and what are those similarities?

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<v Speaker 2>Super talkative, like very verbal, like just says it how

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<v Speaker 2>it is. I call it diary of the mouth. You're

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<v Speaker 2>just like, oh my god, I cannot point. My fucking

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<v Speaker 2>child just said that. But it's cute, like she's you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I see the biggest now with Riley and Ocean, I haven't.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I haven't been around them enough together,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I see Riley's taking on such a mommy roll

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<v Speaker 2>when it comes to Ocean. But I think London and

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<v Speaker 2>Ocean are like even there. I mean, I've shown you

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<v Speaker 2>pictures side by side. It's freaking scary. It's like, oh

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<v Speaker 2>my god, it's so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think Ocean looks like you really, Yeah, I've

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<v Speaker 1>told you this before. It's so cute AND's sosa oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like they both maybe they maybe they are, maybe they

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<v Speaker 1>both resemble you maybe in a previous life.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you know it's funny you posted something on I

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<v Speaker 2>think it was a a story and I actually saw

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<v Speaker 2>Ocean and Sosa for the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, okay, can I tell you you are not the

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<v Speaker 1>first person to say that to me?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Really No, It's something that I posted recently, yere I

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<v Speaker 1>had people I.

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<v Speaker 2>Had to like stop it and go, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>she looks like Ocean a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. I could be making this up in my head,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do feel like Ocean is starting to look

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<v Speaker 1>more like me. She obviously looks like him. I know

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<v Speaker 1>that he's participated in the making of Ocean, but I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, okay, you like some of my DNA is. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>not just in the personality of her being a back.

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<v Speaker 2>I think her personality is more like you.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, okay, I'm going toes with I lied to you.

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<v Speaker 1>She's very much like me. However, she's a lot like him,

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<v Speaker 1>where she will verbally waterboard you until you're like, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't give a fuck, leave me the fuck alone,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like the fly that's oh.

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<v Speaker 2>My god, relentless, relentless.

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<v Speaker 1>It's exhausting. I will look at her. We were in

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<v Speaker 1>Hawaii and I was like, I don't want to go

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<v Speaker 1>toes with you today. Make mommy's life easy today. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>mommy's life is gonna be easy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Are we gonna have a good day or bad day? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, I know, mom, but I just wanted to know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, I've said it five fucking times no,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you want to know what happens. I give

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<v Speaker 1>her what she wants because I'm like, I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>a battle. I just the beach. I know, I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you have fun in Hawaii at the best time? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm exhausted.

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<v Speaker 2>Your ass looked a really good in some of those photos.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, I was like, damn, okay, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of you do nothing popping it the right way? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you joking what? Everyone's like, Oh my god, you're bounce back.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, yes, but at the same time, angles, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>angles and lighting, lighting, editing, you know, yeah, but you

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<v Speaker 1>don't need a lot of editing. I've seen your your

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<v Speaker 1>you've seen my naked body before. Yeah, I'm a naked lady.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen your.

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<v Speaker 2>Naked body a lot, front, back, inside, all of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But we don't need to go there. That was like

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<v Speaker 2>six seven years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Amber, why would you do that?

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<v Speaker 2>I just I couldn't you open the door.

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<v Speaker 1>You opened the door literally, Yeah on the phone? What

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<v Speaker 1>are you talking? Oh my god, I want to throw up.

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<v Speaker 1>No one knows this story.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh really, well, then let's save it for later. Then,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, I feel like this is a good

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<v Speaker 2>New Year's story.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like this is a good first episode of

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<v Speaker 1>an unlikely affair story. Yeah, how do you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>the person that we the reason for why you and

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<v Speaker 1>I know each other, is going to react.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, I'm not doing this for anyone but us and

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<v Speaker 2>women out in the world and mothers out in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I like it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's this is this is our thing. I agree with that,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't need permission anymore in my life. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>arrived at a very different phase, and you know, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot has to do with just time and healing and

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<v Speaker 2>forgiveness and sobriety and removing and you know what, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>fucking I don't give a fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care. I love that you just said that,

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<v Speaker 1>because there were many moments that you and I would

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<v Speaker 1>talk and I feel like you would come from a

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<v Speaker 1>place of fear. Yeah, because I was.

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<v Speaker 2>I was, I had the hands around my you, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>in a big way, and I just I can't. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not living my life anymore. Like you know, I'm I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a grown woman, you know, right, And I'm I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just at a different phase of my life. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I said before, It's like I'm talking from a place

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<v Speaker 2>of healing and compassion and experience and what you and

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<v Speaker 2>I went through. And still I'm still in the shit.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I have an almost sixteen year old and

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<v Speaker 2>a twelve year old. I'm in a really tough spot

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<v Speaker 2>when it comes to co parenting teenage daughters.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, It's hard. Yeah, No, I can't. I can't imagine.

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<v Speaker 1>We spoke about this the last time I had you

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<v Speaker 1>on untraditionally La La. But I come to you because

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<v Speaker 1>you know your girls and the co parenting of it

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<v Speaker 1>all that is a window into my future, in Ocean's future,

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<v Speaker 1>and just being a mom going into teenage years, which

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna blink and that's going to happen. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>just a different world than when I grew up. And

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<v Speaker 1>there's city kids living in LA with phones and iPads

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<v Speaker 1>and Instagram and it freaks me out. And then you

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<v Speaker 1>take two households and in our situation, it being impossible

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<v Speaker 1>to co parent there's it's only parallel parenting because you

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<v Speaker 1>have no fucking idea what's going on over there. No

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<v Speaker 1>one is honest, no one is truthful.

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<v Speaker 2>And there are more Well, that's because everybody that has

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<v Speaker 2>worked over there lives in.

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<v Speaker 1>Complete fear in hands around the neck. Yeah, I, for

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<v Speaker 1>the most part don't even know where the fuck my

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<v Speaker 1>child is.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I want our podcast. I want an Unlikely

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<v Speaker 1>Affair to be about you and me and our experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>That person is one just some the reason for why

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<v Speaker 1>you and I know each other.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, listen, this is gonna be such a

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<v Speaker 2>fun podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>So much fun. And this person is a silhouette, like

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<v Speaker 1>he's nameless in all of it. This is this is

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<v Speaker 1>a way for women or even men to come and

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<v Speaker 1>talk about the challenges of co parenting, the upsides, what

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<v Speaker 1>it's like to go out and venture into sex. I mean, you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I hit up a twenty six year olds on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>I went in for a twenty three year old and

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<v Speaker 1>my mom was like, that is so fucking foul la

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<v Speaker 1>la oh my gosh. Yeah wow. Yeah. She was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I won't allow it.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you do a kissy face emoji?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I didn't even send it because I was I

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<v Speaker 1>got shamed.

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<v Speaker 2>Good, you know what, Thank you. I'm gonna call Lisa

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<v Speaker 2>today and be like, you know what, Lisa, good for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, twenty three is a little young. It is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>You go young and I go like, you go too

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<v Speaker 1>fucking old amber. They're like ready to be buried.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, can I say something to you?

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<v Speaker 1>I do hot to let saggy old man balls slap

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<v Speaker 1>against your ak. Okay, I will not allow it any longer.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. I took your advice, and I would like to

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<v Speaker 2>declare something to declare it 'tis the season okay for

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<v Speaker 2>masturbation Monday?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh so fun. It's so what is this about?

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<v Speaker 2>Remember last time you told me? Yeah, you shared your

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<v Speaker 2>like mid day find a day of the week, midday

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<v Speaker 2>and do your thing. And I started in Montana. I

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<v Speaker 2>started doing it. It's amazing. So I said, Okay, my

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<v Speaker 2>schedules a little nuts. So we're going to declare Monday

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<v Speaker 2>for masturbation Monday. And I want all the women in

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<v Speaker 2>the world between from like twelve and like pickup time

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<v Speaker 2>right like twelve and three, twelve and two depends on

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<v Speaker 2>how old your kids are, take care of yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to twist my arm. It was beautiful Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Stursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, where's laala? I no wonder when you're not replying

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<v Speaker 2>to any messages, I'm like, this chick is masturbating. Geez.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this idea. Yeah, And can I tell you

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<v Speaker 1>ocean sleepy in the bed is a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>a buzzkill.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I can't get Riley out of my room.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why you have to have that window. And

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<v Speaker 1>just like a little toy, you women need it. Why

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<v Speaker 1>do you think Sony Morgan is so happy all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>She is freshly fucked at all times.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what it's like making love to myself for

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<v Speaker 2>the first time.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. That's the way.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I put on music and I light a candle

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like a whole It's like a whole beautiful thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think about my own self.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm like, I love you, Amber, I love you too.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think about anybody else. I think about myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yeah, that's the spot. And does it like

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<v Speaker 1>my little drawer full of toys?

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know, I just have one.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, we gotta step it up. Yeah, yeah, do you

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<v Speaker 1>know how many? How many companies send me vibrators? And

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<v Speaker 1>my mom's like another one came and I'm looking at it.

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<v Speaker 2>Even went to your mom.

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<v Speaker 1>I've given them, I've given them to her, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a fucking you hear Lisa, like Uki, if

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<v Speaker 1>I heard that, I would die. I would die.

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<v Speaker 2>No, Amber, I know, I get it, I know, but

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<v Speaker 2>your mom is a she. She's got to do her

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<v Speaker 2>thing too great, lovely. I don't want to hear she's

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<v Speaker 2>probably at your house doing it right now.

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<v Speaker 1>She should. I'm gone, Easton's gone, kids are gone. These

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<v Speaker 1>are the types of conversations we will be having on

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<v Speaker 1>an unlikely affair at all times. I want to mention

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<v Speaker 1>all of it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wait to dive in. I want to know

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<v Speaker 2>who you're sleeping with, but I want to know, like

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<v Speaker 2>what's going on because I feel like you just you,

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<v Speaker 2>You're I feel like I could learn a.

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<v Speaker 1>Lot from you. Yeah you do, I do. I do.

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<v Speaker 1>Like in terms of what I love talking about sex,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that's my same topic that I'm the

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<v Speaker 1>most excited about. But on top of that, feeling like

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<v Speaker 1>so says what fifteen months, and I still feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm coming out of like this postpartum journey. And I

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<v Speaker 1>know that I put on my Instagram that it takes

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<v Speaker 1>seven years from what I've read for a woman to

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<v Speaker 1>like fully heal and remember who she is in her

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<v Speaker 1>own identity. I'm still working on trying to figure out,

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<v Speaker 1>like who am I? Because I have out of body

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<v Speaker 1>experiences a lot, and I know that I'm not the

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<v Speaker 1>only one. Anytime I'm not with my kids, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm removed watching myself be a normal thirty five

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<v Speaker 1>year old woman, going, God, you're so fucking stupid. Shut up,

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<v Speaker 1>go home to like your babies and like lay in bed.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I my purpose is one thing and

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<v Speaker 1>one thing only right now, which is being at home

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<v Speaker 1>with my kids. And anytime I'm not doing that, I

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<v Speaker 1>have an out of body experience.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah there's a lot of guilt and shame. Yeah that

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<v Speaker 2>comes with being a mom, but you have to just

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<v Speaker 2>it's it's balance. And like people were like, oh, there's

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<v Speaker 2>no such thing as balance.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>If I fully believe that that is true, Like, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you're you're doing such a great job. You handle so

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<v Speaker 2>much like people don't realize behind the scenes of everything

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<v Speaker 2>else that they do, and they see you, like in

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<v Speaker 2>front of the TV screen what you handle well, thank

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<v Speaker 2>you and you're doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and that's all you can do.

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<v Speaker 2>You just show up every day and listen. We like

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<v Speaker 2>we're in a program where it's a twenty four hour

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<v Speaker 2>day at a time. Like that's all you have in

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<v Speaker 2>front of you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I love that, and I love you and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so excited to do this with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it too, sex and rock and roll.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, guys. Thank you for listening to another

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<v Speaker 1>episode of Untraditionally La La. I will catch you guys

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<v Speaker 1>next week, and remember an unlikely affair with Lalakhent and

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<v Speaker 1>Amber Childers is coming your way. Love y'all. Bye,