WEBVTT - I Choose... Feminine Strength with Brooke Burke

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garle.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone, welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all

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<v Speaker 1>about the choices we make. So today I'm joined by

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<v Speaker 1>the incredible Brooke Berk, a woman who's worn a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of hats and somehow keeps finding new ones that fit.

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<v Speaker 1>From reality TV, both as a competitor and a host

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<v Speaker 1>to parenting and partnerships, Brooke has made some really big

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<v Speaker 1>choices on an off screen and in her heart. We're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about resilience, reinvention, and how to move forward when

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<v Speaker 1>things don't go as planned. There are going to be

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<v Speaker 1>laughs and surprises, a few wellness hacks that you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to want to google immediately, and a really beautiful reminder

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<v Speaker 1>that choosing yourself doesn't have to be loud to be powerful.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, Okay, this is so exciting. Hi. Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't seen you since Soho House Christmas party or

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<v Speaker 1>something like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I heard, Yeah, good memory. You're absolutely right that was

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<v Speaker 2>the last time we saw each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, okay, you just got back from one of

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<v Speaker 1>your retreats, right, yes, tell me everything I need to

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<v Speaker 1>know about this, because I love a good retreat.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my, gosh, I would be so honored and would

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<v Speaker 2>love to have you ever join us, because yes, it's same,

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<v Speaker 2>and we need it and it's not a rite of

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<v Speaker 2>passage and we deserve it. And for any female that's listening,

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<v Speaker 2>men too, we won't. It's mostly women that do this work.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called the Pause, and we really are in such

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<v Speaker 2>desperate need of a moment to just slow the hell

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<v Speaker 2>down again, listen to that inner voice. Take some time out,

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<v Speaker 2>check out, check in. You know what I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 2>when mind around. A new sort of capsule on the

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<v Speaker 2>brook Brook Body app called the feminine strength theory. But

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<v Speaker 2>it's not strength and like what we're building and what

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<v Speaker 2>we're lifting. It's the things that we're building in our

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<v Speaker 2>life strength and how we show up strength in our surrender, strengthen,

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<v Speaker 2>what we're holding on to strength and what we need

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<v Speaker 2>to let go of. Like all yeah, is that we're

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<v Speaker 2>not necessarily relating to the concept of strength, and I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like that's a This is a new phase for

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<v Speaker 2>us as women, introducing the feminine Strength theory. It's called

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<v Speaker 2>the Pause because it's going to be a really amazing

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<v Speaker 2>week to just slow the heck down. We need it.

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<v Speaker 1>I need it and I need it.

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<v Speaker 2>I love guiding this work.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I can imagine how fulfilling this must be. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>curious when did you start focusing. When did you feel

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<v Speaker 1>that the choice was clear for you to start focusing

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<v Speaker 1>on this sort of offshoot of what you've always done. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>as an actress, as you know all the things that

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<v Speaker 1>you've done, this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is you find yourself in a similar space as well,

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<v Speaker 2>because entertainment, like is the world that we come from,

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<v Speaker 2>which I love. It has allowed me to do so

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<v Speaker 2>many other things. And about seven years ago I launched

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<v Speaker 2>my app, which started out as a fitness app, and

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<v Speaker 2>now brook Body is about wellness and mindfulness and meditation

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<v Speaker 2>and it's education. So it's become a much bigger picture.

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<v Speaker 2>So there's a re educating right to our audience. I

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<v Speaker 2>say hour because I know you're in that same.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, reinventing yourself is it's an undertaking. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not even a reinvention, it's just like a realignment of

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<v Speaker 1>what you want to focus on and what. For me,

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<v Speaker 1>it was like finding that purpose and doing something that

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<v Speaker 1>was meaningful to me that at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I feel good about what I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 2>I totally get that. I mean, doing what we're passionate

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<v Speaker 2>about and living with purpose is such a huge conversation,

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<v Speaker 2>especially from a world of entertainment where I pitched a

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<v Speaker 2>hundred shows and nobody really cared about the owners. So

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<v Speaker 2>upon myself and built the app and then accidentally actually

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<v Speaker 2>got into the retreat space when I was redesigning my

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<v Speaker 2>own life, when I was going through my second divorce,

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<v Speaker 2>and I had no idea how much I was going

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<v Speaker 2>to get out of it. So I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>receive more in every retreat experience than I give. Like

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<v Speaker 2>minded women, we connect, we journal, we share meals, we

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<v Speaker 2>develop lifelong friendships. It's meaningful beyond I feel like everyone

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<v Speaker 2>deserves to do this kind of work. And the days

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<v Speaker 2>are full journaling, having sisterhood circles, asking provoking questions, really

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<v Speaker 2>kind of taking a journey back to self. And the

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<v Speaker 2>last retreat that I did at Savannah, I have a

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<v Speaker 2>new partnership there. It was called the Body Blueprint.

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<v Speaker 1>That's in Arizona, right, that's.

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<v Speaker 2>An Arizona and it's top ten wellness destinations in our country.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like a playground of just self care, self love,

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<v Speaker 2>from fitness to mindfulness and everything in between. They even

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<v Speaker 2>have like a ropes course and team building opportunities.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, I don't want to do that. Do we

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<v Speaker 1>have to do the team building like the ropes?

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<v Speaker 2>I can't raise out yours? Yes, But interesting enough, I

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<v Speaker 2>was doing a little deep dive on your Instagram and

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<v Speaker 2>some of the great things that you're doing lately and

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<v Speaker 2>title of the show, Oh right. I just recorded, unrelated

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<v Speaker 2>to this, a new meditation called I Choose Menaha, my

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<v Speaker 2>daughter because it's her first year at school and she's

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<v Speaker 2>been far away, well not that far away, but it

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<v Speaker 2>feels far away, you know. And I haven't really even

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<v Speaker 2>dealt with that publicly yet because it's so difficult for

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<v Speaker 2>me finding herself really in a new space and really

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<v Speaker 2>struggling and struggling sort of navigating this next phase of

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<v Speaker 2>life and the party scene and all of those that

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<v Speaker 2>are not in alignment with who she is. And so

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<v Speaker 2>I wrote a meditation for her that just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>like came through me, and it's called I Choose Me,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's about those choices that we make that are

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<v Speaker 2>for us, that support our own path. So I had

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<v Speaker 2>to share that. I'm actually going to send it to

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<v Speaker 2>you if you want, you can share it with.

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<v Speaker 1>Your I want it right now. I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>send it to me. I'm going to do it tonight

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<v Speaker 1>when I go to sleep.

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<v Speaker 2>I would love that, but I'll send it to you

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<v Speaker 2>and share it with your audience because it's such an

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<v Speaker 2>amazing moment when you can, I guess, find the no

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<v Speaker 2>with every yes, the yes with every no, and find

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<v Speaker 2>yourself in a space of confident and so when you're

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<v Speaker 2>making choices that might not be aligned with the people

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<v Speaker 2>around you, and especially as a young woman navigating that

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<v Speaker 2>new stage that Rain is in. I know how to

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<v Speaker 2>do that really well. But I didn't in my thirties,

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<v Speaker 2>and I didn't know. It took me into my fifties

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<v Speaker 2>to really understand that when I show up differently, I

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<v Speaker 2>show up in a stronger way. That's what the whole

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<v Speaker 2>femine strength theory is about. I'm stronger because of the choices.

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<v Speaker 2>Daughter calling me right now, which I knew she would.

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<v Speaker 2>You say, this is my life and I have five

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<v Speaker 2>children at home right now.

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<v Speaker 1>You wait, you have five children at home right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Right now on a podcast. I love you. Please don't

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<v Speaker 2>call back unless it's an emergency.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, five kids.

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<v Speaker 2>At home at home, it's crazy. So Mariah's touring, she's

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<v Speaker 2>my oldest singer songwriter. Sierra's back from school, which I

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<v Speaker 2>love having her home. And actually I lied, I still

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I have five reigns in college. Was actually

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<v Speaker 2>for at home right now.

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<v Speaker 1>It feels like you it was hard for you to

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<v Speaker 1>send her to it was she is your baby.

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<v Speaker 2>She's my baby daughter, but he's daughter. It's just such

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<v Speaker 2>a it's a just disruption of the foundation. And although

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<v Speaker 2>it's amazing and it's her time, like the energetically, the

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<v Speaker 2>whole dynamic of the family shifted as it should. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so happy that.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's supposed to shift, but it's hard for

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<v Speaker 1>the people that have been in it for so long.

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<v Speaker 2>When I work with so many women that go through this,

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<v Speaker 2>and my oldest daughters, they stayed local and there was

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<v Speaker 2>still a moment of change. But I feel like I guide,

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<v Speaker 2>I guide so much and I need so much work

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<v Speaker 2>that when I found myself in this one, I was

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<v Speaker 2>just like, oh my god. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it's harder to practice what you teach or preach.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they always say that practice what you preach,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes that's real, real hard. I agree, especially you know,

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<v Speaker 1>when the kids fly the nest and like dealing with

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<v Speaker 1>all that, it's hard. It's hard to it's hard for

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<v Speaker 1>me sometimes to take my own advice. To know, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I am talking about something, yet I'm not incorporating into

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<v Speaker 1>my life. Yesterday I was I failed miserably at it

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. You know, do you ever find yourself in

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<v Speaker 1>those positions, like when you're leading a retreat or a

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<v Speaker 1>group of women, you know, that kind of vulnerability. And

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<v Speaker 1>because I be honest, I adore you. I am a

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<v Speaker 1>fan of yours. I look at your Instagram. I get

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<v Speaker 1>like inspiration, I get your hacks, your tips. I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>The lemon and the blender. It's all good. But you, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the whole women. But I ei, there is an element

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<v Speaker 1>of me that's like, oh my god, she's perfect, her

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<v Speaker 1>life is perfect. I want to be like her. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to look like her. I want to live where

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<v Speaker 1>she lives, like all the things that can kind of

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<v Speaker 1>put women like remove themselves from the potential of them

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<v Speaker 1>having the most for themselves because you get really, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sort of drawn in to see seeing how glamorous or

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful or free or whatever your life is do you

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<v Speaker 1>find that like breaking that down and showing your vulnerability

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<v Speaker 1>just the same as the women are with that. You're

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<v Speaker 1>talking to.

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<v Speaker 2>A loaded question. You know, I feel like we live

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<v Speaker 2>in this very strange and powerful and productive world of

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<v Speaker 2>social media and this facade and filter, right that we're

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<v Speaker 2>all living behind. And I'm glad you asked that because

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<v Speaker 2>one of the commitments that I've really made to my

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<v Speaker 2>audience and in the work that I do is to

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<v Speaker 2>be vulnerable enough to share the good, the bad, and

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<v Speaker 2>the ugly. And it's not and it's not always easy.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's sort of like, if I'm teaching a workshop

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<v Speaker 2>on how to show up, well, what about the days

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<v Speaker 2>when I don't feel like showing up? I want to

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<v Speaker 2>share that side of me as well, right, And I

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<v Speaker 2>want to be able to laugh and cry and be

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<v Speaker 2>honest and succeed and surrender and all of the different

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<v Speaker 2>elements that make me a strong woman. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we're doing a bit segment on that right now at

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<v Speaker 2>book work, Body and the Strength and the Surrender, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and really understanding strength and weakness and where that lies.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think so many of us are striving like

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<v Speaker 2>to do it perfectly and to do it right, And

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even know what that means. It's like, my

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<v Speaker 2>life is messy and chaotic, and you know, marriage, divorce, marriage,

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<v Speaker 2>divorce again. I mean, one would say I'm not a

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<v Speaker 2>great picker, but yet I have these amazing children, like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm okay, look at it and go, gosh, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>what have I learned from that? From that? And how

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<v Speaker 2>do I evolve from that? And how do I even

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<v Speaker 2>sit in that space of not so great and really

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<v Speaker 2>allow myself freedom to be in that space? How do

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<v Speaker 2>I carve out that space.

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<v Speaker 1>And also to forgive yourself for those moments yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>weren't great.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And then this whole concept of like choosing you.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been using that narrative a little bit. Also, even

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<v Speaker 2>I love to be a yoga teacher. I love to

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<v Speaker 2>be a student in yoga, but yoga for me is

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<v Speaker 2>like medicine. It's not even to work. But one of

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<v Speaker 2>the things I've been saying lately is I'm your Matt,

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<v Speaker 2>like literally your Matt, steel space, like create space for yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>steel space that just belongs to you for one fricking hour, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>make an hour. And you know, women like us, we

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<v Speaker 2>know how chaotic life is in somebody always needs something

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<v Speaker 2>like that's our I think that's our bittersweet challenge in

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<v Speaker 2>life is that we given the give, and we give

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<v Speaker 2>so we're really good at it because we don't meet

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<v Speaker 2>ourselves with that you know, that same attention. And I

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<v Speaker 2>guess that's what I try to teach you to my

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<v Speaker 2>own children. So now that Rain is gone, Rain's my

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<v Speaker 2>youngest daughter. I have one more daughter, Scott's daughter at home.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm like, now I need to be Now, I

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<v Speaker 2>need to be a mother to myself because exactly, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I've been everybody, so now WHOA what does this look

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<v Speaker 2>like for me?

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<v Speaker 1>It's so true you have to like sit down with

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and say, I'm going to start parenting myself, taking

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<v Speaker 1>care of myself with just as much care and love

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<v Speaker 1>as I would my own children. Yeah, that's it, because

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<v Speaker 1>there's the thing compared to that, and.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you're talking about. It's like we are we

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<v Speaker 2>walking the talk. Yeah, you how to do that? I

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<v Speaker 2>can tell my friend how to do that. Am I

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<v Speaker 2>really meeting myself with that same love and respect? And

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<v Speaker 2>for me, that equates to integrity? Like am I living

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<v Speaker 2>a life of integrity. I'm really being honest with myself.

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<v Speaker 2>Am I'm really being vulnerable and my really being truthful?

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<v Speaker 2>Am I really showing up for myself? And it's not easy,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, especially I don't know how old you are.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we're about the same age.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah fifty three here, yeah, same.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's like whoa, there's just like all these things

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<v Speaker 2>coming at us and all these changes. So how to

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<v Speaker 2>meet ourselves out of minimum ladies with love?

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<v Speaker 1>Like just with love right with yeah, tenderness, grace, care

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself. For me, it was like just stopping and

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<v Speaker 1>looking back and seeing all that I've done, all the

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<v Speaker 1>good things that I've done, all the bad things that

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<v Speaker 1>I've done, and like just really getting super quiet and

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<v Speaker 1>like letting those just sit with me and appreciating them,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, well the good in the bad. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, wow, you're pretty rad like that, look what

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<v Speaker 1>you have survived.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, that's amazing. We see if women could change

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<v Speaker 2>their perception just what you said, the good and the bad,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you have the willingness to sit in that

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<v Speaker 2>and go God, Like I was actually just about to

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<v Speaker 2>post something on social media and sometimes are like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>my kid's gonna give a shit about this. Is this

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<v Speaker 2>like to your self like Dadley, But anyway, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>post it. I'm really going to post it a good

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<v Speaker 2>WAT rack because I've never really lifted heavyweights before, so

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing squats and yeah, it's kind of sexy whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>But the caption is like, you're you're somebody's mother, you

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<v Speaker 2>might as well be a badass, So just show up

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<v Speaker 2>in it and be a climate and own it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>all of it, the big, the ugly, the messy, the complicated,

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<v Speaker 2>it just all of it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>When I look at you, I see you definitely owning it,

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<v Speaker 1>definitely like you're in your space, and it just resonates.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. I appreciate you seeing that. You never know

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<v Speaker 2>really what that portrayal is in perception. You know, that's

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<v Speaker 2>the other loaded side of the world that we come from, right,

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<v Speaker 2>which is really why I started for Body. It was

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<v Speaker 2>like nobody wanted to know about and how I raised

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<v Speaker 2>my kids or my flak. They just wanted to know

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<v Speaker 2>how I got into sight shape in the summer and

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<v Speaker 2>how I got red carpet ready. And I'm like, huh,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe I can started face out and show people exactly

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm doing so in a silly way. That's sort

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<v Speaker 2>of what started it. And then being able to connect

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<v Speaker 2>with women all over the globe and being able to

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<v Speaker 2>really show them how to get it done and how

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<v Speaker 2>to be a time and how to create energy forget

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<v Speaker 2>about the workout, how do we create energy and body

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<v Speaker 2>confidence and more clarity and all of the things that

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<v Speaker 2>I do in the mindful space, even meditation, which I

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<v Speaker 2>know is so hard for most people. I'm more productive,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure when I'm met a t.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I know, and then I'm the worst. Like when

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<v Speaker 1>you don't do it, You're like, ah, I suck at meditating.

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<v Speaker 1>I like, there's the worst part when you don't like

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<v Speaker 1>live up to what you hope you or think you

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<v Speaker 1>can do the changes that you want, But you just

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<v Speaker 1>have to get back on the horse every.

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<v Speaker 2>Day, even if you have to manipulate yourself into doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll give you a little funny like reality story, so

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<v Speaker 2>pure vanity here. But you know those red light therapy

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<v Speaker 2>mass Yeah, seeing me, I'm like, so go dorky on

0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:28.840
<v Speaker 2>social media posting them, but they really I really like them.

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<v Speaker 2>I have one that does like red light and blue

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<v Speaker 2>light and stimulation. It's really right. But anyway, it's a

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<v Speaker 2>ten minute mass and you know you're never going to

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<v Speaker 2>use it. You have so much stuff sent to you, right,

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<v Speaker 2>you're never gonna get So I keep it at my

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<v Speaker 2>event on my bedside table. Oh my god, good morning,

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<v Speaker 2>and I put it on every one day. I wake

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<v Speaker 2>up ten minutes earlier and then I do my ten

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<v Speaker 2>minute meditation or my prayer. So I'm getting this done.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting this done, getting but otherwise, no, you're not

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<v Speaker 2>going to che So that's my double whammy. I get

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<v Speaker 2>my vanity and my genius.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you're not going to believe this, but I have

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<v Speaker 1>ask beside my bed on the table, plugged in, fully charged,

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<v Speaker 1>ready to go. Never use it.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to use it. It's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>This is me, This is this is why I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>to you today. I'm gonna put my mask on to

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<v Speaker 1>God to use it.

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<v Speaker 2>That your face is gonna love it. Stimulation, it's great

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<v Speaker 2>for collagen production, it's great for inflammation. Using it and

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<v Speaker 2>take those ten minutes, yes, do something like productive.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just yeah, Okay, I'm in. I'm in. I've got

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<v Speaker 1>my first hack, my first tip of the day. I

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<v Speaker 1>love it. Your social and your content is so packed

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<v Speaker 1>full of things we can do, little changes we can

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<v Speaker 1>make in our lives, things that we can do to

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just further our health or our connection with ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>all the things. So if you don't follow Brook, please

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<v Speaker 1>do because you're gonna love it as much as I do.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know you said that, you know there's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot going on. There's all these kids in your house

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. And you also have had, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like me, failed marriages, divorce. But you're in a great

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<v Speaker 1>relationship now that's been going for a while, right and

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<v Speaker 1>you're engaged.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that engagements?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, that's a long engagement. Do you are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you feel about getting married again? Is that?

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<v Speaker 1>Was there reason why it's been such a long engagement

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<v Speaker 1>or is it just because everybody's busy all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's in the lamest truth, it's because we're busy. Malabu tragedies.

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<v Speaker 2>We built a home in Arizona that took up two

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<v Speaker 2>years of our time. It's kind of like, and this

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<v Speaker 2>is no excuse, but it's kind of like, when is

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<v Speaker 2>our turn coming up? And then there's always a monumental

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<v Speaker 2>thing happening. And then we finally had agreed on a

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<v Speaker 2>destination like Karen Malibu and then the fires up. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just one thing after another. And also it's beautiful and

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<v Speaker 2>fabulous just the way that it is. So there's that.

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<v Speaker 2>Then there's that, right and having it not being my

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<v Speaker 2>first rodeo, you know. So yeah, it's definitely in the

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<v Speaker 2>future and I should be what people say, put yourself first,

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<v Speaker 2>and I preach this and I know this. We're going

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<v Speaker 2>back to walk the talk Brook.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I am. Oh my goodness, it's hard. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a big undertaking. And you're busy. I see you. You

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<v Speaker 1>are in the Pent and Teller Show. They look so sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, they just got picked up. You are

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<v Speaker 1>the host. Now you just got picked up for a

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<v Speaker 1>twelfth season.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they're They're amazing. I have had so much fun

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<v Speaker 2>working with them. So we finished two seasons in Vegas

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<v Speaker 2>Live show amazing. I mean, they've been together for fifty years.

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<v Speaker 2>They're incredible, and I'm hoping that we're going to go

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<v Speaker 2>another season. And there's so many changes happening and type

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<v Speaker 2>so it's possible that we might not. But those guys,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean magic. We all need a little bit of that, right,

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<v Speaker 2>We all need a fantasy and a little feel good

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<v Speaker 2>and great family like co viewing show. And I learned

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<v Speaker 2>so much from those guys, and I love being in

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<v Speaker 2>front of a live audience. I mean, there just aren't

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of shows like that anymore. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's got talent, like what, there's just not TV's change.

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<v Speaker 2>If it exchanged in our world.

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<v Speaker 1>It is you were on Dancing with the Stars. I

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<v Speaker 1>was on Dancing with the Stars season three or five.

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<v Speaker 1>I can never remember Derek, right, Yes, I was Derek's

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<v Speaker 1>first dance partner and then and then you were his

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<v Speaker 1>dance partner. And the difference is that you won the ball,

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<v Speaker 1>the mirrored ball. You got it? Where is it? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't see it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's in my bathroom actually. And it's funny because people

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<v Speaker 2>want to take a picture with the mirror ball more

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<v Speaker 2>than they want to take a picture with anything. It's

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<v Speaker 2>freaking mirror ball triphy. But you know, you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>that was one of the hardest things I've ever done

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<v Speaker 2>in my entire life. Do you agree? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, something I don't want to do again.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean terrifying, right, Do you ever wish back though

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<v Speaker 2>and do it again? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>And the maturity and knowing what you know now because

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know about you. But I was so terrified

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<v Speaker 2>and he was a phenomenal teacher. I remember being I

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't even hear the music. I don't know the steps.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>It was before social media, was it? I mean I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know oh right.

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<v Speaker 1>There was no going on and saying vote for me,

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<v Speaker 1>vote for me all the time. Oh my gosh. I

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<v Speaker 1>do think that the going back and doing it again

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<v Speaker 1>would be amazing, because yeah, but I don't. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>move like that anymore, Brooke. I don't think I can

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<v Speaker 1>do it. I've gotten a couple of operations since then,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think on my dance in years on television,

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<v Speaker 1>Body Hard, Body Hard, I cannot Winning must have been exhilarating.

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<v Speaker 2>It winning was you know, it's a silly reality competition, right,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was so much more than for me because yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you face your fingers, you can get in

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<v Speaker 2>your comfort zone. I like to do scary things, not

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<v Speaker 2>in real time, because I was like, why do I

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<v Speaker 2>do such scary things? When am I just go get

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<v Speaker 2>a normal job. But training like an athlete, learning how

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<v Speaker 2>to think like an athlete. I don't think I've ever

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<v Speaker 2>spent seven days a week doing anything. It really was

0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:15.040
<v Speaker 2>a testament. You realize that you could do anything, anything,

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<v Speaker 2>anything in the world you want to do. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>can't sing, and I probably could never sing even if

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<v Speaker 2>I trained, But you could rebably go to stand up

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<v Speaker 2>comedy if you had to, or the thing if you

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<v Speaker 2>trained seven days a week for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, if you face that for your head on, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there it's once you complete. I felt the same exact way.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing I cannot do now.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, you push yoursel and got over.

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<v Speaker 1>But then you went on to be a host, which

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<v Speaker 1>was amazing. You're such a good host.

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<v Speaker 2>It seems so long ago. Oh gosh, eight seasons and

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<v Speaker 2>there were two shows a year then. But the show

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<v Speaker 2>allowed me to bring a different level of compassion and

0:21:54.359 --> 0:21:57.280
<v Speaker 2>connection to that skill set because I knew what it

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<v Speaker 2>was like when nobody wanted to talk to me, or

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<v Speaker 2>they couldn't hear me, or they were so upset, or

0:22:00.800 --> 0:22:03.760
<v Speaker 2>they are adrenaline was so high. I knew how difficult

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<v Speaker 2>it was after you've showcased your talent, whether it went

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<v Speaker 2>really well or it was horrible. That I know what

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<v Speaker 2>it's like to want to crawl under the rug or

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<v Speaker 2>it just allowed me to be a much more colorful

0:22:16.400 --> 0:22:21.000
<v Speaker 2>and competent host because I knew both sides of it

0:22:20.359 --> 0:22:23.720
<v Speaker 2>and just so much fun. Yeah. So, such a great

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<v Speaker 2>show to work on. What a blessing that show was.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you do it again? Would you go back? Would

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<v Speaker 1>you be a host again on the show?

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<v Speaker 2>I I mean I never say no, just never closed

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<v Speaker 2>doors professionally, but I know I was eight seasons and

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<v Speaker 2>I did everything I needed to do in the ballroom,

0:22:43.440 --> 0:22:47.040
<v Speaker 2>amazing relationships. I mean, at the time it was one

0:22:47.080 --> 0:22:50.040
<v Speaker 2>of the most watched shows on television. It would be

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<v Speaker 2>hard to go back there with the same level of

0:22:52.880 --> 0:22:57.560
<v Speaker 2>excitement and appreciation. And I don't know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think they're getting ready to do their big anniversary,

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<v Speaker 2>aren't they. Are you going back? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I got an email about that. I didn't I purposely

0:23:03.320 --> 0:23:08.920
<v Speaker 1>did not read it. That's terrible they're doing in an anniversary. Okay,

0:23:08.920 --> 0:23:09.880
<v Speaker 1>that's what the email said.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going either, but no, I mean, a redo

0:23:14.040 --> 0:23:15.719
<v Speaker 2>is hard for me. You know. I guess there's some

0:23:15.800 --> 0:23:18.000
<v Speaker 2>things that aren't worth a repeat in your life. But

0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:19.640
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I wrung it out and I did

0:23:19.720 --> 0:23:21.480
<v Speaker 2>everything I needed to do on that show.

0:23:22.560 --> 0:23:27.000
<v Speaker 1>It's kind of like love marriage, you know, like you're

0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:29.119
<v Speaker 1>in it and it's great and then it's not, and

0:23:29.160 --> 0:23:31.399
<v Speaker 1>then you ask yourself, do I want to do that again?

0:23:31.800 --> 0:23:34.760
<v Speaker 1>And then you get in it again? Because love is

0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:40.000
<v Speaker 1>love and we're all sucker for love. But I think

0:23:40.119 --> 0:23:44.040
<v Speaker 1>going back and doing something that you already know how

0:23:44.040 --> 0:23:45.760
<v Speaker 1>it is, how it's going to end up, what's the end?

0:23:46.040 --> 0:23:49.119
<v Speaker 1>You know, there's something not as challenging about it. So

0:23:49.200 --> 0:23:51.400
<v Speaker 1>that's maybe what you're not excited about.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, right, welcome back.

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<v Speaker 1>But you talked about it before. It's such a difficult

0:24:03.440 --> 0:24:06.679
<v Speaker 1>time in our industry and in every industry these days.

0:24:07.400 --> 0:24:11.199
<v Speaker 1>Talk to me, tell us, how do you choose to

0:24:11.240 --> 0:24:15.600
<v Speaker 1>get back up after a loss, like even if you

0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:20.040
<v Speaker 1>can relate it to losing the hosting job or any

0:24:20.040 --> 0:24:22.520
<v Speaker 1>other like a marriage, or how do you get back

0:24:22.600 --> 0:24:25.600
<v Speaker 1>up from these big life moments that knock us down.

0:24:26.080 --> 0:24:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I mean that was a big life moment, you know,

0:24:27.960 --> 0:24:30.840
<v Speaker 2>leaving that show, being fired from that show, being let

0:24:30.920 --> 0:24:33.399
<v Speaker 2>go from that show, my contract not being renewed. However

0:24:33.440 --> 0:24:37.359
<v Speaker 2>you want to feel better about it. I'm a realist.

0:24:37.440 --> 0:24:40.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, it is what it is. You don't divorce

0:24:40.760 --> 0:24:42.520
<v Speaker 2>somebody that you're madly in love with. You don't let

0:24:42.560 --> 0:24:44.480
<v Speaker 2>a host go that you're like madly in love like.

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:47.080
<v Speaker 2>So whenever it was, it ended right, yes, And so

0:24:47.160 --> 0:24:50.240
<v Speaker 2>it was sort of like going from that high from

0:24:50.320 --> 0:24:53.160
<v Speaker 2>hosting the number one show on television at the time,

0:24:53.640 --> 0:24:57.359
<v Speaker 2>you know, hand to hand with Idle. It was sort

0:24:57.359 --> 0:25:00.000
<v Speaker 2>of like WHOA. But I will say this to you

0:25:00.160 --> 0:25:04.760
<v Speaker 2>and maybe somebody listening will understand this because I'm a

0:25:04.760 --> 0:25:06.480
<v Speaker 2>big believer in this and I've had to come full

0:25:06.560 --> 0:25:09.480
<v Speaker 2>circle and spend some time in this space. But you

0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:12.919
<v Speaker 2>have to choose your words so carefully in life, and

0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:15.600
<v Speaker 2>I really believe that, like choose your words before you

0:25:15.600 --> 0:25:18.160
<v Speaker 2>spit them out. We manifest so many things, We put energy,

0:25:18.200 --> 0:25:21.120
<v Speaker 2>we put some conscious energy into so many things. There

0:25:21.200 --> 0:25:23.479
<v Speaker 2>was a time on that show, after like seven seasons

0:25:23.520 --> 0:25:25.840
<v Speaker 2>where I was like, question, this is a live show,

0:25:25.840 --> 0:25:29.320
<v Speaker 2>and I really don't have much freedom and just reason

0:25:29.400 --> 0:25:32.879
<v Speaker 2>after season and I mean, by the way, amazing gig

0:25:32.920 --> 0:25:35.600
<v Speaker 2>live television. It's better than being in a studio like

0:25:35.760 --> 0:25:37.760
<v Speaker 2>the world that you come from. For fifteen hours a.

0:25:37.800 --> 0:25:40.200
<v Speaker 1>Day, we're done, and it's much more exciting.

0:25:40.680 --> 0:25:44.080
<v Speaker 2>It's one of the greatest shows to host. In television,

0:25:44.640 --> 0:25:47.720
<v Speaker 2>and I know that I said to myself inside myself,

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:50.720
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, what else I'm gonna do? And you know,

0:25:50.760 --> 0:25:55.200
<v Speaker 2>I wasn't like I've always been grateful, but I don't

0:25:55.240 --> 0:25:59.960
<v Speaker 2>think I was showing up in complete gratitude that final season.

0:26:00.280 --> 0:26:02.960
<v Speaker 2>And part of me believes that maybe I was meant

0:26:03.000 --> 0:26:06.320
<v Speaker 2>to move on and do something else, and when it happened,

0:26:06.960 --> 0:26:11.359
<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to exit that stage literally with grace

0:26:12.680 --> 0:26:16.800
<v Speaker 2>and appreciation, with great relationships which I had, And it

0:26:16.880 --> 0:26:21.080
<v Speaker 2>forced me to really look at what now, which I

0:26:21.080 --> 0:26:23.600
<v Speaker 2>think so many of us explore at different stages in

0:26:23.600 --> 0:26:26.760
<v Speaker 2>our life, even when there isn't a pivotabal moment. And

0:26:26.800 --> 0:26:29.200
<v Speaker 2>I do a lot of that work during my retreats

0:26:29.200 --> 0:26:32.080
<v Speaker 2>with women, and the common denominator is what now? What

0:26:32.240 --> 0:26:35.639
<v Speaker 2>nexte for women that are empty nesters, for women that

0:26:35.720 --> 0:26:38.879
<v Speaker 2>have retired, for women that are redesigning their life, for

0:26:39.000 --> 0:26:40.919
<v Speaker 2>women that are going through a career change. They're like

0:26:40.960 --> 0:26:44.200
<v Speaker 2>with the f what now is like is this it?

0:26:44.520 --> 0:26:46.680
<v Speaker 1>That's a big void for yeah.

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:49.800
<v Speaker 2>Question a big boy. And I just decided, instead of

0:26:49.840 --> 0:26:52.119
<v Speaker 2>like looking for that what next, to just kind of

0:26:52.160 --> 0:26:55.359
<v Speaker 2>look at everything and to really sit in that space

0:26:55.400 --> 0:26:59.040
<v Speaker 2>of I have so many opportunities and possibilities, and I

0:26:59.080 --> 0:27:00.760
<v Speaker 2>didn't know what was going to happen next. I didn't

0:27:00.760 --> 0:27:02.240
<v Speaker 2>know if it was going to do daytime talk. Was

0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:04.240
<v Speaker 2>I going to New York? What about the kids? Can

0:27:04.280 --> 0:27:06.240
<v Speaker 2>I stay here? What's the next move? And then our

0:27:06.240 --> 0:27:09.600
<v Speaker 2>whole industry changed, right, and people like us didn't get

0:27:09.600 --> 0:27:12.200
<v Speaker 2>to go to a daytime time show. But I mean

0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:16.240
<v Speaker 2>for a million reasons, right right, So I just had

0:27:16.240 --> 0:27:18.480
<v Speaker 2>to take all the good with me, all the skills,

0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:21.760
<v Speaker 2>all the bittersweet curses that came along with it, because

0:27:21.760 --> 0:27:23.399
<v Speaker 2>there was a lot of people that didn't even think

0:27:23.400 --> 0:27:25.760
<v Speaker 2>about reaching out because I just hosted the number one

0:27:25.760 --> 0:27:28.280
<v Speaker 2>show on television. I wouldn't possibly go do X, Y

0:27:28.359 --> 0:27:33.120
<v Speaker 2>and Z, which I might have after I gig like that.

0:27:34.320 --> 0:27:36.080
<v Speaker 2>So for me, it's just a matter of just looking

0:27:36.080 --> 0:27:38.720
<v Speaker 2>at Okay, I need to explore the space that I'm

0:27:38.720 --> 0:27:41.560
<v Speaker 2>sitting in right now and be really open. And I

0:27:41.600 --> 0:27:46.000
<v Speaker 2>think that pause and then even later the COVID pause

0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:49.320
<v Speaker 2>really allowed me to build my wellness app and that

0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:51.600
<v Speaker 2>has been the love of my life right now, as

0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:55.320
<v Speaker 2>far as work goes, a passion project, an opportunity to

0:27:55.320 --> 0:27:58.800
<v Speaker 2>do something that really matters with other women to choreograph

0:27:58.960 --> 0:28:01.520
<v Speaker 2>and to work with other team trainers, and to do

0:28:01.600 --> 0:28:03.960
<v Speaker 2>things that are really that I really love and I

0:28:04.080 --> 0:28:08.080
<v Speaker 2>never would have had time to do that. There's no way,

0:28:08.200 --> 0:28:11.120
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know. I mean, a change is necessary.

0:28:11.240 --> 0:28:15.200
<v Speaker 2>So I relate that to love as well, raising a family, divorce.

0:28:15.840 --> 0:28:19.640
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes change is just necessary, right, and it doesn't look

0:28:19.680 --> 0:28:24.040
<v Speaker 2>like it even when it really hurts, even when it sucks, right,

0:28:24.080 --> 0:28:26.600
<v Speaker 2>even when it's really freaking hard and you're like, you

0:28:26.640 --> 0:28:29.080
<v Speaker 2>want to just curl up in a ball. Yeah, their

0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:31.120
<v Speaker 2>covers like, but we don't get to do that.

0:28:31.960 --> 0:28:36.840
<v Speaker 1>Well maybe for just like a little while while a week,

0:28:37.040 --> 0:28:37.639
<v Speaker 1>maybe longer.

0:28:37.920 --> 0:28:42.520
<v Speaker 2>Get joking, But I think that that's what is really

0:28:42.560 --> 0:28:47.000
<v Speaker 2>defining sometimes more than a thing that tried to shape

0:28:47.040 --> 0:28:51.360
<v Speaker 2>you break you, it's the strength that you really have

0:28:51.440 --> 0:28:55.080
<v Speaker 2>to get through it and get to the other side

0:28:55.120 --> 0:28:57.440
<v Speaker 2>of it, because the other side of it honestly could

0:28:57.480 --> 0:28:58.160
<v Speaker 2>be amazing.

0:28:58.440 --> 0:29:00.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah right, I mean they do say it doesn't break you,

0:29:00.680 --> 0:29:04.240
<v Speaker 1>makes you stronger, So that's a better way to kind

0:29:04.240 --> 0:29:04.880
<v Speaker 1>of look at things.

0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:09.600
<v Speaker 2>I think this whole theory, this new concept that we're introducing,

0:29:09.640 --> 0:29:12.360
<v Speaker 2>the feminine strength theory. You know, so many people are

0:29:12.360 --> 0:29:15.320
<v Speaker 2>talking about menopause, right, menopause is having is big, yeah,

0:29:15.880 --> 0:29:17.120
<v Speaker 2>and I'm on the other side of it. I don't

0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:21.080
<v Speaker 2>know where you are. But so complicated, so subjective, so individual,

0:29:21.280 --> 0:29:23.240
<v Speaker 2>so many things that we can actually do about it.

0:29:23.480 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm almost like, I'm tired of hearing about menopause perception

0:29:28.440 --> 0:29:32.360
<v Speaker 2>a little bit and step into this period of strength

0:29:32.360 --> 0:29:36.120
<v Speaker 2>as women, especially women our age, especially women a decade

0:29:36.200 --> 0:29:39.480
<v Speaker 2>younger than us, if they can kind of better equipped

0:29:39.480 --> 0:29:44.240
<v Speaker 2>and prepare themselves and forty fifty sixty plus can be

0:29:44.280 --> 0:29:50.560
<v Speaker 2>an amazing sensual, provocative, strong, insightful connect like a beautiful

0:29:50.600 --> 0:29:53.479
<v Speaker 2>time in our life. And the strength theory is just

0:29:53.560 --> 0:29:57.000
<v Speaker 2>it's about that. It's what are we building in our

0:29:57.040 --> 0:30:00.000
<v Speaker 2>life that supports us? Right? And how are we leaving ourselves?

0:30:00.120 --> 0:30:04.200
<v Speaker 2>Are we speaking to ourselves carrying that's too heavy that

0:30:04.200 --> 0:30:06.160
<v Speaker 2>we need to let go of. Do we have the

0:30:06.200 --> 0:30:09.440
<v Speaker 2>strength to pivot, to change, to pause, to rent to you?

0:30:09.680 --> 0:30:12.080
<v Speaker 1>We're in charge, Yeah, We're in charge of There's so

0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:14.880
<v Speaker 1>like you said, there's so many possibilities when even when

0:30:14.920 --> 0:30:16.880
<v Speaker 1>you just look at your life like that, like all

0:30:16.960 --> 0:30:21.320
<v Speaker 1>the things that you want to do in your life personally,

0:30:21.760 --> 0:30:23.920
<v Speaker 1>like all the things you just listed. I could be like,

0:30:23.920 --> 0:30:26.080
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, that sounds overwhelming. I can't handle all

0:30:26.120 --> 0:30:28.720
<v Speaker 1>those things, and I would just regress back into that cave,

0:30:29.200 --> 0:30:32.640
<v Speaker 1>that ball that I've been rolled up into. But it's

0:30:32.760 --> 0:30:36.240
<v Speaker 1>the it's taking that first step. It's that choice to

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>say I am going to make a concerted effort to

0:30:39.720 --> 0:30:42.120
<v Speaker 1>take care of myself in any way.

0:30:42.440 --> 0:30:44.400
<v Speaker 2>The women too that are in it, that are kind

0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:47.560
<v Speaker 2>of drowning in it. Yeah, there's something very real and

0:30:47.800 --> 0:30:50.800
<v Speaker 2>important about sitting in even that pain. It's like a

0:30:50.920 --> 0:30:56.080
<v Speaker 2>morning I'm sure you get a lot of enquiries about

0:30:56.120 --> 0:30:58.480
<v Speaker 2>divorce and how do we do what we do and

0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:00.920
<v Speaker 2>we happen to be on television. All looks great, But

0:31:01.040 --> 0:31:04.160
<v Speaker 2>I can promise everybody that's listening there have been peaks

0:31:04.200 --> 0:31:08.520
<v Speaker 2>and valleys and really hard days and challenges in life.

0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:11.360
<v Speaker 2>And there's nothing that anybody could tell me that would

0:31:11.400 --> 0:31:13.360
<v Speaker 2>surprise me, because I've done so much of this work

0:31:13.400 --> 0:31:16.560
<v Speaker 2>on my own and with other women. But there's value

0:31:16.960 --> 0:31:22.040
<v Speaker 2>in allowing yourself to sit in those really hard, painful

0:31:22.080 --> 0:31:25.720
<v Speaker 2>moments and not feel like you're just supposed to move

0:31:25.720 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 2>on to the other side of it, like being It's

0:31:27.800 --> 0:31:30.520
<v Speaker 2>like it's like a morning it's like a Desicately, there

0:31:30.520 --> 0:31:33.600
<v Speaker 2>are parts of us, even as women, that need to die,

0:31:33.960 --> 0:31:36.959
<v Speaker 2>I think, in my opinion, so that there can be

0:31:37.000 --> 0:31:37.640
<v Speaker 2>a rebirth.

0:31:37.800 --> 0:31:40.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, it's like a pruning like you know, you

0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:43.160
<v Speaker 1>got to cut the roses back in order for them

0:31:43.200 --> 0:31:43.840
<v Speaker 1>to bloom again.

0:31:44.120 --> 0:31:48.320
<v Speaker 2>It's an essence, right, Like, that's exactly what it is.

0:31:48.440 --> 0:31:51.040
<v Speaker 2>On a much more scientific way. I'll give you an example.

0:31:51.280 --> 0:31:54.600
<v Speaker 2>Chavas not in yoga. It's the end of a yoga class, right,

0:31:54.680 --> 0:31:57.120
<v Speaker 2>So we if yoga is in your practice, you spend

0:31:57.120 --> 0:31:59.200
<v Speaker 2>a whole class for two minutes. I like to make

0:31:59.240 --> 0:32:01.360
<v Speaker 2>it a lot more than that. But if there's another company,

0:32:01.560 --> 0:32:04.880
<v Speaker 2>you get two lousy minutes, right, illness, and it's corpse pose.

0:32:04.920 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 2>You're lying down in your bat and they call its

0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:08.680
<v Speaker 2>corpse does And I was always like, why is this

0:32:08.720 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 2>corpse pose? What is this death pose about? At the

0:32:11.080 --> 0:32:12.840
<v Speaker 2>end of the class, so I did a deep dive.

0:32:12.960 --> 0:32:16.600
<v Speaker 2>As I'm studying sanscripts, I'm doing a lot of work

0:32:16.600 --> 0:32:19.040
<v Speaker 2>in my yoga practice. But it's the death of a

0:32:19.080 --> 0:32:21.920
<v Speaker 2>class and it's the birth of the next moment. And

0:32:21.920 --> 0:32:24.800
<v Speaker 2>that's really think about that. In life, it's so beautiful,

0:32:24.840 --> 0:32:27.560
<v Speaker 2>it's Schilasina. It's two minutes, you lie, there's still a

0:32:27.600 --> 0:32:29.840
<v Speaker 2>corpse post. But it's not about death. It's about the

0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:34.640
<v Speaker 2>beginning and the awakening of the next moment, the next day, tonight,

0:32:34.760 --> 0:32:37.479
<v Speaker 2>like all of these things. And I have tried to

0:32:37.520 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 2>apply many of those philosophies, those sanscript principles to life,

0:32:42.200 --> 0:32:46.120
<v Speaker 2>and it's I learned so much in that practice and

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.680
<v Speaker 2>those moments of stillness and the things that come up

0:32:49.160 --> 0:32:51.840
<v Speaker 2>going to end that really the man as a woman.

0:32:52.440 --> 0:32:55.200
<v Speaker 1>Yep, it's about facing them. Oh, there's so much I

0:32:55.240 --> 0:32:57.320
<v Speaker 1>want to talked about. Okay, you're a co parent with

0:32:57.560 --> 0:33:01.480
<v Speaker 1>two men. I can barely handle it.

0:33:00.920 --> 0:33:04.800
<v Speaker 2>With one because Scott's Levi and Lilah. No, no, I'm like in,

0:33:05.200 --> 0:33:07.720
<v Speaker 2>but now I'm ask me, go ahead, ask me.

0:33:08.360 --> 0:33:12.520
<v Speaker 1>How do you do it? How do you are you

0:33:12.520 --> 0:33:14.720
<v Speaker 1>a co parent with more than one guy?

0:33:14.880 --> 0:33:16.960
<v Speaker 2>Like, yeah, yeah.

0:33:16.800 --> 0:33:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Each of them is different. Oh, it's just I know

0:33:20.760 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 1>you married to an actor. I know we have some

0:33:23.560 --> 0:33:28.240
<v Speaker 1>similar things, but it's just it's co parentings.

0:33:28.280 --> 0:33:30.640
<v Speaker 2>It's a whole episode. If you invite me back, we

0:33:30.720 --> 0:33:33.360
<v Speaker 2>can totally unpack this. Let me come from a space

0:33:33.400 --> 0:33:36.440
<v Speaker 2>of not being an expert and for a long time

0:33:36.520 --> 0:33:39.400
<v Speaker 2>after my divorce. There was a lot of inquiry for

0:33:39.480 --> 0:33:41.120
<v Speaker 2>me to really speak about that, and I'm like, how

0:33:41.120 --> 0:33:43.240
<v Speaker 2>could I possibly speak about that when I'm still in

0:33:43.280 --> 0:33:45.720
<v Speaker 2>it and I certainly haven't figured it out yet. So

0:33:45.720 --> 0:33:48.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to pause on that. For everybody that thinks

0:33:48.360 --> 0:33:50.720
<v Speaker 2>I've got it all figured out, I do not. One

0:33:50.840 --> 0:33:53.200
<v Speaker 2>thing that I made a commitment to in my second

0:33:53.240 --> 0:33:59.840
<v Speaker 2>divorce was to be an incredible ex wife and to

0:34:01.720 --> 0:34:04.960
<v Speaker 2>create a space for David to be an incredible ex

0:34:05.040 --> 0:34:08.200
<v Speaker 2>husband and for us to be great excess because we

0:34:08.320 --> 0:34:12.279
<v Speaker 2>were really shitty has been in lives and I was like,

0:34:12.360 --> 0:34:16.520
<v Speaker 2>if we can have a working divorce for our children

0:34:16.760 --> 0:34:19.120
<v Speaker 2>now first time around? Not so even if I wanted that,

0:34:19.160 --> 0:34:21.080
<v Speaker 2>it would not matter what I did to try to

0:34:21.120 --> 0:34:24.120
<v Speaker 2>make that one happen. And it's still toxic to the stick.

0:34:24.520 --> 0:34:27.799
<v Speaker 2>So I'm not coming from like Confucius over here, think

0:34:30.400 --> 0:34:34.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm coming from a few decades of experience. One failed,

0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:38.640
<v Speaker 2>not so much surrender acceptance there. The second one or

0:34:38.920 --> 0:34:41.920
<v Speaker 2>deep commitment to have a working divorce that is built

0:34:41.960 --> 0:34:45.200
<v Speaker 2>on integrity, and that is for our children and because

0:34:45.239 --> 0:34:48.160
<v Speaker 2>of that, they're better for it. And Scott, so we

0:34:48.200 --> 0:34:52.200
<v Speaker 2>have six children between us, which is crazy, crazy, four

0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:55.440
<v Speaker 2>of them in the house right now, and believe it

0:34:55.520 --> 0:34:59.280
<v Speaker 2>or not, and I'll knock out Wood because I didn't

0:35:00.400 --> 0:35:06.719
<v Speaker 2>experience that the second time around. There's harmony. And I

0:35:06.760 --> 0:35:10.920
<v Speaker 2>have learned that what I want and what my expectations

0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:14.439
<v Speaker 2>are and my vision of what family looks like has

0:35:14.560 --> 0:35:18.600
<v Speaker 2>nothing to do with their vision. And the moment that

0:35:18.680 --> 0:35:21.399
<v Speaker 2>I was able to accept that, there was a lot

0:35:21.440 --> 0:35:26.399
<v Speaker 2>less disappointment, a lot less friction. And as a younger mom,

0:35:26.440 --> 0:35:28.680
<v Speaker 2>I always thought, Oh, this is how it's supposed to be,

0:35:28.760 --> 0:35:30.799
<v Speaker 2>and everybody's going to come home and dinner's going to

0:35:30.840 --> 0:35:32.520
<v Speaker 2>be ready, and we're all going to sit down. And

0:35:32.560 --> 0:35:35.399
<v Speaker 2>it was a continuous disappointment. Somebody was upset, somebody was late,

0:35:35.440 --> 0:35:39.600
<v Speaker 2>somebody didn't care, somebody to buy their boyfriend my stage

0:35:39.640 --> 0:35:42.840
<v Speaker 2>the movie and play that I just wrote for the evening.

0:35:43.400 --> 0:35:46.800
<v Speaker 2>Nobody even got a freaking script. Okay, nobody even knew

0:35:46.920 --> 0:35:49.640
<v Speaker 2>what was happening in act three but me. And so

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<v Speaker 2>if that makes sense, No.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes things you have this thing in your head, but

0:35:54.600 --> 0:35:57.120
<v Speaker 1>you don't communicate it to someone else in order for

0:35:57.160 --> 0:35:58.880
<v Speaker 1>it to be a shared idea.

0:35:58.960 --> 0:36:01.040
<v Speaker 2>And these are all real people. That are there.

0:36:01.239 --> 0:36:03.000
<v Speaker 1>They have their own perspectives, their.

0:36:02.800 --> 0:36:07.520
<v Speaker 2>Own problems and perspectives and wishes and desires and challenges.

0:36:07.680 --> 0:36:10.160
<v Speaker 2>And I think it's the same way I'm not in marriage,

0:36:10.200 --> 0:36:14.560
<v Speaker 2>Like we have to communicate to I have to give

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of grace to the people in my family

0:36:16.280 --> 0:36:19.080
<v Speaker 2>because there's a lot of us. And I'm really lucky

0:36:19.200 --> 0:36:23.000
<v Speaker 2>right now in this current situation and this rude that

0:36:23.080 --> 0:36:27.120
<v Speaker 2>we're raising. That there's harmony, but at a minimum, we

0:36:27.239 --> 0:36:30.759
<v Speaker 2>need each other with space and respect. And I don't

0:36:30.760 --> 0:36:34.040
<v Speaker 2>think the younger me was able to do that. I

0:36:34.160 --> 0:36:36.600
<v Speaker 2>also don't think the younger me was able to carve

0:36:36.640 --> 0:36:38.400
<v Speaker 2>out time to be able to be like, whoa, I

0:36:38.400 --> 0:36:41.200
<v Speaker 2>think I'm gonna go out to dinner with my girlfriends tonight.

0:36:41.440 --> 0:36:44.640
<v Speaker 2>You guys, yeah, I'll see you later and I'll see

0:36:44.640 --> 0:36:46.439
<v Speaker 2>you in the morning. Like I didn't know as a woman,

0:36:47.000 --> 0:36:49.440
<v Speaker 2>as a younger woman, how to step back, not bail,

0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:51.200
<v Speaker 2>but to be able to go. I'm going to go

0:36:51.239 --> 0:36:55.480
<v Speaker 2>find joy simultaneously over here. I'm not leaving here, but

0:36:55.640 --> 0:36:57.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do things that are joyful so I

0:36:57.400 --> 0:37:00.879
<v Speaker 2>can fill my cup. Right, I know how to do

0:37:00.960 --> 0:37:01.760
<v Speaker 2>that now, as.

0:37:01.760 --> 0:37:05.840
<v Speaker 1>You do right, my joy Oh, that's such a good feeling.

0:37:05.880 --> 0:37:08.560
<v Speaker 2>And it's like, you know, just scratching the surface. But

0:37:08.719 --> 0:37:12.600
<v Speaker 2>co parenting really really hard. I think there has to

0:37:12.600 --> 0:37:15.000
<v Speaker 2>be boundaries, there has to be a lot of communication,

0:37:15.120 --> 0:37:18.000
<v Speaker 2>and everybody has to know their role. And I believe

0:37:18.040 --> 0:37:23.160
<v Speaker 2>that also masculine feminine partnerships marriage. You know, I'm a

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:29.280
<v Speaker 2>really strong, independent woman can be misinterpreted sometimes. Yeah, work

0:37:29.320 --> 0:37:31.160
<v Speaker 2>on that. I have to work to bring my feminine

0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:34.279
<v Speaker 2>energy to most situations because I can be very I

0:37:34.280 --> 0:37:37.200
<v Speaker 2>can drop into my masculine energy super fast. But I

0:37:37.320 --> 0:37:39.959
<v Speaker 2>have to be roles that are played, and those roles,

0:37:40.160 --> 0:37:43.200
<v Speaker 2>roles are changeable. That would be who we need to

0:37:43.239 --> 0:37:46.080
<v Speaker 2>be and show up in that space and get what

0:37:46.120 --> 0:37:49.120
<v Speaker 2>we need. It's we should do another episode about this.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so much to unpack about those roles and about

0:37:52.640 --> 0:37:56.359
<v Speaker 1>like the freedom to choose what you want your role

0:37:56.400 --> 0:38:00.440
<v Speaker 1>to be. And yeah, there's a lot. Oh my gosh, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do another episode with you in a

0:38:02.640 --> 0:38:04.080
<v Speaker 1>couple of days and we're going to get into some

0:38:04.080 --> 0:38:06.120
<v Speaker 1>of your amazing life hacks and all the things that

0:38:06.160 --> 0:38:10.080
<v Speaker 1>you know and I cannot wait. But before we leave today,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to ask you the question I always ask

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<v Speaker 1>everyone before we go Brooke broke, what was your last

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:17.600
<v Speaker 1>I choose me moment?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, honestly, it was this morning. Because I've made myself

0:38:23.200 --> 0:38:26.239
<v Speaker 2>a priority at the stage in my life, so I

0:38:27.719 --> 0:38:29.640
<v Speaker 2>try not to let a day go by where I

0:38:29.680 --> 0:38:32.400
<v Speaker 2>don't have a moment that's for me. But this morning,

0:38:32.400 --> 0:38:34.560
<v Speaker 2>and I woke up ten minutes earlier. We giggled about

0:38:34.560 --> 0:38:37.479
<v Speaker 2>it earlier. I forget about the mask, but I spent

0:38:37.560 --> 0:38:40.640
<v Speaker 2>those ten minutes to just visualize my day and to

0:38:40.719 --> 0:38:43.000
<v Speaker 2>really walk through my day. And I ask myself a

0:38:43.040 --> 0:38:45.680
<v Speaker 2>couple of questions every day, what could make today great?

0:38:46.080 --> 0:38:48.319
<v Speaker 2>What are my goals today? And do I promise to

0:38:48.320 --> 0:38:50.480
<v Speaker 2>myself that I'm going to achieve those goals so that

0:38:50.520 --> 0:38:54.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm already sort of set up in yeah, in my

0:38:54.520 --> 0:38:56.839
<v Speaker 2>vision for the day. And if I didn't wake up

0:38:56.840 --> 0:38:59.520
<v Speaker 2>and steal those ten moments and choose me, because there's

0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.000
<v Speaker 2>a lot of things I could have done. I could

0:39:01.040 --> 0:39:03.120
<v Speaker 2>have went got up and helped try to get breakfast right,

0:39:03.160 --> 0:39:05.160
<v Speaker 2>I could have started the coffee a little bit, and

0:39:05.160 --> 0:39:06.719
<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of things I could have done. I

0:39:06.840 --> 0:39:09.160
<v Speaker 2>made myself either for ten minutes to choose me, just

0:39:09.239 --> 0:39:12.399
<v Speaker 2>ten minutes the day, in the day, just ten minutes

0:39:12.440 --> 0:39:16.080
<v Speaker 2>in the day that like I'm worthy of so and

0:39:16.120 --> 0:39:17.680
<v Speaker 2>then I went for a walk this morning too, which

0:39:17.719 --> 0:39:20.520
<v Speaker 2>was really nice. I don't always I don't always get

0:39:20.520 --> 0:39:20.800
<v Speaker 2>to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>No, these are very easy things that I think a

0:39:25.040 --> 0:39:27.839
<v Speaker 1>lot of people can say, Hey, I can do that too.

0:39:28.520 --> 0:39:30.839
<v Speaker 2>We can take ten minutes and it doesn't have to

0:39:30.840 --> 0:39:33.360
<v Speaker 2>be a big thing. It's ten minutes that I know

0:39:33.400 --> 0:39:36.320
<v Speaker 2>are just for me, for me to do whatever I need,

0:39:37.440 --> 0:39:39.319
<v Speaker 2>and it's the tone for my day. So I do

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<v Speaker 2>that in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Good advice. Thank you so much, Brooke, and we will

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<v Speaker 1>be back with some bonus material, so keep an eye

0:39:48.320 --> 0:39:48.799
<v Speaker 1>out for it.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. Jim