1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garle. 2 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 2: Hi. 3 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 1: Everyone, welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all 4 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: about the choices we make. So today I'm joined by 5 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: the incredible Brooke Berk, a woman who's worn a lot 6 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 1: of hats and somehow keeps finding new ones that fit. 7 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 1: From reality TV, both as a competitor and a host 8 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: to parenting and partnerships, Brooke has made some really big 9 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: choices on an off screen and in her heart. We're 10 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,479 Speaker 1: talking about resilience, reinvention, and how to move forward when 11 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: things don't go as planned. There are going to be 12 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: laughs and surprises, a few wellness hacks that you're going 13 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: to want to google immediately, and a really beautiful reminder 14 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,240 Speaker 1: that choosing yourself doesn't have to be loud to be powerful. 15 00:00:52,479 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Okay, this is so exciting. Hi. Hi, 16 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: I haven't seen you since Soho House Christmas party or 17 00:00:59,320 --> 00:00:59,959 Speaker 1: something like that. 18 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: I heard, Yeah, good memory. You're absolutely right that was 19 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 2: the last time we saw each other. 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay, you just got back from one of 21 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: your retreats, right, yes, tell me everything I need to 22 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: know about this, because I love a good retreat. 23 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 2: Oh my, gosh, I would be so honored and would 24 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 2: love to have you ever join us, because yes, it's same, 25 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 2: and we need it and it's not a rite of 26 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 2: passage and we deserve it. And for any female that's listening, 27 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 2: men too, we won't. It's mostly women that do this work. 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 2: It's called the Pause, and we really are in such 29 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 2: desperate need of a moment to just slow the hell 30 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 2: down again, listen to that inner voice. Take some time out, 31 00:01:44,080 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 2: check out, check in. You know what I'm talking about 32 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 2: when mind around. A new sort of capsule on the 33 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 2: brook Brook Body app called the feminine strength theory. But 34 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 2: it's not strength and like what we're building and what 35 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 2: we're lifting. It's the things that we're building in our 36 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 2: life strength and how we show up strength in our surrender, strengthen, 37 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 2: what we're holding on to strength and what we need 38 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 2: to let go of. Like all yeah, is that we're 39 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,640 Speaker 2: not necessarily relating to the concept of strength, and I 40 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 2: feel like that's a This is a new phase for 41 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 2: us as women, introducing the feminine Strength theory. It's called 42 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 2: the Pause because it's going to be a really amazing 43 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 2: week to just slow the heck down. We need it. 44 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: I need it and I need it. 45 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: I love guiding this work. 46 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,119 Speaker 1: Yes, I can imagine how fulfilling this must be. I'm 47 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 1: curious when did you start focusing. When did you feel 48 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: that the choice was clear for you to start focusing 49 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:43,399 Speaker 1: on this sort of offshoot of what you've always done. Yeah, 50 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: as an actress, as you know all the things that 51 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: you've done, this. 52 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 2: Is you find yourself in a similar space as well, 53 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 2: because entertainment, like is the world that we come from, 54 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 2: which I love. It has allowed me to do so 55 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 2: many other things. And about seven years ago I launched 56 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 2: my app, which started out as a fitness app, and 57 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 2: now brook Body is about wellness and mindfulness and meditation 58 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:06,360 Speaker 2: and it's education. So it's become a much bigger picture. 59 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 2: So there's a re educating right to our audience. I 60 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:11,519 Speaker 2: say hour because I know you're in that same. 61 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, reinventing yourself is it's an undertaking. It's 62 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: not even a reinvention, it's just like a realignment of 63 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: what you want to focus on and what. For me, 64 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: it was like finding that purpose and doing something that 65 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: was meaningful to me that at the end of the day, 66 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: I was like, I feel good about what I'm doing. 67 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 2: I totally get that. I mean, doing what we're passionate 68 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 2: about and living with purpose is such a huge conversation, 69 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 2: especially from a world of entertainment where I pitched a 70 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 2: hundred shows and nobody really cared about the owners. So 71 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 2: upon myself and built the app and then accidentally actually 72 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 2: got into the retreat space when I was redesigning my 73 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:52,600 Speaker 2: own life, when I was going through my second divorce, 74 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 2: and I had no idea how much I was going 75 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 2: to get out of it. So I feel like I 76 00:03:56,280 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 2: receive more in every retreat experience than I give. Like 77 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 2: minded women, we connect, we journal, we share meals, we 78 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 2: develop lifelong friendships. It's meaningful beyond I feel like everyone 79 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 2: deserves to do this kind of work. And the days 80 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 2: are full journaling, having sisterhood circles, asking provoking questions, really 81 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 2: kind of taking a journey back to self. And the 82 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 2: last retreat that I did at Savannah, I have a 83 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 2: new partnership there. It was called the Body Blueprint. 84 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 1: That's in Arizona, right, that's. 85 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 2: An Arizona and it's top ten wellness destinations in our country. 86 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 2: And it's like a playground of just self care, self love, 87 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 2: from fitness to mindfulness and everything in between. They even 88 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 2: have like a ropes course and team building opportunities. 89 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: Oh god, I don't want to do that. Do we 90 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: have to do the team building like the ropes? 91 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 2: I can't raise out yours? Yes, But interesting enough, I 92 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 2: was doing a little deep dive on your Instagram and 93 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 2: some of the great things that you're doing lately and 94 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 2: title of the show, Oh right. I just recorded, unrelated 95 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 2: to this, a new meditation called I Choose Menaha, my 96 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:13,239 Speaker 2: daughter because it's her first year at school and she's 97 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:16,280 Speaker 2: been far away, well not that far away, but it 98 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 2: feels far away, you know. And I haven't really even 99 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 2: dealt with that publicly yet because it's so difficult for 100 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 2: me finding herself really in a new space and really 101 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 2: struggling and struggling sort of navigating this next phase of 102 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 2: life and the party scene and all of those that 103 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 2: are not in alignment with who she is. And so 104 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:35,359 Speaker 2: I wrote a meditation for her that just kind of 105 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 2: like came through me, and it's called I Choose Me, 106 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 2: and it's about those choices that we make that are 107 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 2: for us, that support our own path. So I had 108 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:43,480 Speaker 2: to share that. I'm actually going to send it to 109 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:44,479 Speaker 2: you if you want, you can share it with. 110 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: Your I want it right now. I want you to 111 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 1: send it to me. I'm going to do it tonight 112 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: when I go to sleep. 113 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:49,599 Speaker 2: I would love that, but I'll send it to you 114 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 2: and share it with your audience because it's such an 115 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:55,840 Speaker 2: amazing moment when you can, I guess, find the no 116 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 2: with every yes, the yes with every no, and find 117 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 2: yourself in a space of confident and so when you're 118 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:03,039 Speaker 2: making choices that might not be aligned with the people 119 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:06,040 Speaker 2: around you, and especially as a young woman navigating that 120 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 2: new stage that Rain is in. I know how to 121 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 2: do that really well. But I didn't in my thirties, 122 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 2: and I didn't know. It took me into my fifties 123 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 2: to really understand that when I show up differently, I 124 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 2: show up in a stronger way. That's what the whole 125 00:06:21,080 --> 00:06:26,840 Speaker 2: femine strength theory is about. I'm stronger because of the choices. 126 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 2: Daughter calling me right now, which I knew she would. 127 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 2: You say, this is my life and I have five 128 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 2: children at home right now. 129 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: You wait, you have five children at home right now. 130 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 2: Right now on a podcast. I love you. Please don't 131 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 2: call back unless it's an emergency. 132 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, five kids. 133 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 2: At home at home, it's crazy. So Mariah's touring, she's 134 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:53,800 Speaker 2: my oldest singer songwriter. Sierra's back from school, which I 135 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 2: love having her home. And actually I lied, I still 136 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,520 Speaker 2: feel like I have five reigns in college. Was actually 137 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 2: for at home right now. 138 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: It feels like you it was hard for you to 139 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:08,040 Speaker 1: send her to it was she is your baby. 140 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,640 Speaker 2: She's my baby daughter, but he's daughter. It's just such 141 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 2: a it's a just disruption of the foundation. And although 142 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 2: it's amazing and it's her time, like the energetically, the 143 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 2: whole dynamic of the family shifted as it should. I'm 144 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 2: so happy that. 145 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 1: I know it's supposed to shift, but it's hard for 146 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: the people that have been in it for so long. 147 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 2: When I work with so many women that go through this, 148 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 2: and my oldest daughters, they stayed local and there was 149 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,920 Speaker 2: still a moment of change. But I feel like I guide, 150 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 2: I guide so much and I need so much work 151 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 2: that when I found myself in this one, I was 152 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 2: just like, oh my god. I know. 153 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's harder to practice what you teach or preach. 154 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 1: You know, they always say that practice what you preach, 155 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: and sometimes that's real, real hard. I agree, especially you know, 156 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 1: when the kids fly the nest and like dealing with 157 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: all that, it's hard. It's hard to it's hard for 158 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: me sometimes to take my own advice. To know, you know, 159 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: I am talking about something, yet I'm not incorporating into 160 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,280 Speaker 1: my life. Yesterday I was I failed miserably at it 161 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 1: or whatever. You know, do you ever find yourself in 162 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: those positions, like when you're leading a retreat or a 163 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 1: group of women, you know, that kind of vulnerability. And 164 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: because I be honest, I adore you. I am a 165 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: fan of yours. I look at your Instagram. I get 166 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 1: like inspiration, I get your hacks, your tips. I love it. 167 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: The lemon and the blender. It's all good. But you, yeah, 168 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 1: the whole women. But I ei, there is an element 169 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 1: of me that's like, oh my god, she's perfect, her 170 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: life is perfect. I want to be like her. I 171 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: want to look like her. I want to live where 172 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: she lives, like all the things that can kind of 173 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: put women like remove themselves from the potential of them 174 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: having the most for themselves because you get really, you know, 175 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:02,719 Speaker 1: sort of drawn in to see seeing how glamorous or 176 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: beautiful or free or whatever your life is do you 177 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 1: find that like breaking that down and showing your vulnerability 178 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: just the same as the women are with that. You're 179 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:15,360 Speaker 1: talking to. 180 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 2: A loaded question. You know, I feel like we live 181 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 2: in this very strange and powerful and productive world of 182 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:26,440 Speaker 2: social media and this facade and filter, right that we're 183 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 2: all living behind. And I'm glad you asked that because 184 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 2: one of the commitments that I've really made to my 185 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:34,959 Speaker 2: audience and in the work that I do is to 186 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:37,400 Speaker 2: be vulnerable enough to share the good, the bad, and 187 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:41,040 Speaker 2: the ugly. And it's not and it's not always easy. 188 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 2: And it's sort of like, if I'm teaching a workshop 189 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 2: on how to show up, well, what about the days 190 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 2: when I don't feel like showing up? I want to 191 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:50,960 Speaker 2: share that side of me as well, right, And I 192 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 2: want to be able to laugh and cry and be 193 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 2: honest and succeed and surrender and all of the different 194 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 2: elements that make me a strong woman. And you know, 195 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 2: we're doing a bit segment on that right now at 196 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 2: book work, Body and the Strength and the Surrender, right, 197 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:07,120 Speaker 2: and really understanding strength and weakness and where that lies. 198 00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 2: And I think so many of us are striving like 199 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 2: to do it perfectly and to do it right, And 200 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:13,640 Speaker 2: I don't even know what that means. It's like, my 201 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 2: life is messy and chaotic, and you know, marriage, divorce, marriage, 202 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:20,640 Speaker 2: divorce again. I mean, one would say I'm not a 203 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 2: great picker, but yet I have these amazing children, like 204 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 2: I'm I'm okay, look at it and go, gosh, you know, 205 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 2: what have I learned from that? From that? And how 206 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 2: do I evolve from that? And how do I even 207 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:36,319 Speaker 2: sit in that space of not so great and really 208 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 2: allow myself freedom to be in that space? How do 209 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 2: I carve out that space. 210 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: And also to forgive yourself for those moments yeah, yeah, 211 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 1: weren't great. 212 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, And then this whole concept of like choosing you. 213 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 2: I've been using that narrative a little bit. Also, even 214 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 2: I love to be a yoga teacher. I love to 215 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 2: be a student in yoga, but yoga for me is 216 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 2: like medicine. It's not even to work. But one of 217 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 2: the things I've been saying lately is I'm your Matt, 218 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:06,080 Speaker 2: like literally your Matt, steel space, like create space for yourself, 219 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 2: steel space that just belongs to you for one fricking hour, yep, 220 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:15,120 Speaker 2: make an hour. And you know, women like us, we 221 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 2: know how chaotic life is in somebody always needs something 222 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:21,319 Speaker 2: like that's our I think that's our bittersweet challenge in 223 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 2: life is that we given the give, and we give 224 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 2: so we're really good at it because we don't meet 225 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 2: ourselves with that you know, that same attention. And I 226 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 2: guess that's what I try to teach you to my 227 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 2: own children. So now that Rain is gone, Rain's my 228 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 2: youngest daughter. I have one more daughter, Scott's daughter at home. 229 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 2: But I'm like, now I need to be Now, I 230 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 2: need to be a mother to myself because exactly, I mean, 231 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 2: I've been everybody, so now WHOA what does this look 232 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 2: like for me? 233 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: It's so true you have to like sit down with 234 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:53,319 Speaker 1: yourself and say, I'm going to start parenting myself, taking 235 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 1: care of myself with just as much care and love 236 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: as I would my own children. Yeah, that's it, because 237 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 1: there's the thing compared to that, and. 238 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 2: That's what you're talking about. It's like we are we 239 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:06,559 Speaker 2: walking the talk. Yeah, you how to do that? I 240 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 2: can tell my friend how to do that. Am I 241 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:10,839 Speaker 2: really meeting myself with that same love and respect? And 242 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 2: for me, that equates to integrity? Like am I living 243 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,439 Speaker 2: a life of integrity. I'm really being honest with myself. 244 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 2: Am I'm really being vulnerable and my really being truthful? 245 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:22,720 Speaker 2: Am I really showing up for myself? And it's not easy, 246 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 2: you know, especially I don't know how old you are. 247 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:26,560 Speaker 2: I think we're about the same age. 248 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:29,079 Speaker 1: Yeah fifty three here, yeah, same. 249 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 2: So it's like whoa, there's just like all these things 250 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 2: coming at us and all these changes. So how to 251 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 2: meet ourselves out of minimum ladies with love? 252 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 1: Like just with love right with yeah, tenderness, grace, care 253 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:45,440 Speaker 1: for yourself. For me, it was like just stopping and 254 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 1: looking back and seeing all that I've done, all the 255 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: good things that I've done, all the bad things that 256 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:55,839 Speaker 1: I've done, and like just really getting super quiet and 257 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: like letting those just sit with me and appreciating them, 258 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: you know, well the good in the bad. And then 259 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, you're pretty rad like that, look what 260 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:07,120 Speaker 1: you have survived. 261 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 2: You know, that's amazing. We see if women could change 262 00:13:10,679 --> 00:13:13,719 Speaker 2: their perception just what you said, the good and the bad, 263 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 2: and then you have the willingness to sit in that 264 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 2: and go God, Like I was actually just about to 265 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 2: post something on social media and sometimes are like, oh, 266 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 2: my kid's gonna give a shit about this. Is this 267 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 2: like to your self like Dadley, But anyway, I'm gonna 268 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 2: post it. I'm really going to post it a good 269 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 2: WAT rack because I've never really lifted heavyweights before, so 270 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:34,600 Speaker 2: I'm doing squats and yeah, it's kind of sexy whatever, 271 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 2: But the caption is like, you're you're somebody's mother, you 272 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 2: might as well be a badass, So just show up 273 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 2: in it and be a climate and own it. Yeah, 274 00:13:49,120 --> 00:13:52,439 Speaker 2: all of it, the big, the ugly, the messy, the complicated, 275 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 2: it just all of it. Yeah. 276 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,080 Speaker 1: When I look at you, I see you definitely owning it, 277 00:13:56,080 --> 00:14:01,839 Speaker 1: definitely like you're in your space, and it just resonates. 278 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 2: Thank you. I appreciate you seeing that. You never know 279 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:08,400 Speaker 2: really what that portrayal is in perception. You know, that's 280 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 2: the other loaded side of the world that we come from, right, 281 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 2: which is really why I started for Body. It was 282 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:18,440 Speaker 2: like nobody wanted to know about and how I raised 283 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 2: my kids or my flak. They just wanted to know 284 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 2: how I got into sight shape in the summer and 285 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:24,479 Speaker 2: how I got red carpet ready. And I'm like, huh, 286 00:14:24,800 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 2: maybe I can started face out and show people exactly 287 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 2: what I'm doing so in a silly way. That's sort 288 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 2: of what started it. And then being able to connect 289 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 2: with women all over the globe and being able to 290 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,040 Speaker 2: really show them how to get it done and how 291 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 2: to be a time and how to create energy forget 292 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 2: about the workout, how do we create energy and body 293 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:49,000 Speaker 2: confidence and more clarity and all of the things that 294 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 2: I do in the mindful space, even meditation, which I 295 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 2: know is so hard for most people. I'm more productive, 296 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 2: I'm sure when I'm met a t. 297 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 1: Yes, I know, and then I'm the worst. Like when 298 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:05,119 Speaker 1: you don't do it, You're like, ah, I suck at meditating. 299 00:15:05,280 --> 00:15:08,240 Speaker 1: I like, there's the worst part when you don't like 300 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: live up to what you hope you or think you 301 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,960 Speaker 1: can do the changes that you want, But you just 302 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: have to get back on the horse every. 303 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 2: Day, even if you have to manipulate yourself into doing it. 304 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 2: I'll give you a little funny like reality story, so 305 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 2: pure vanity here. But you know those red light therapy 306 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 2: mass Yeah, seeing me, I'm like, so go dorky on 307 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:28,840 Speaker 2: social media posting them, but they really I really like them. 308 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 2: I have one that does like red light and blue 309 00:15:30,520 --> 00:15:33,200 Speaker 2: light and stimulation. It's really right. But anyway, it's a 310 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 2: ten minute mass and you know you're never going to 311 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 2: use it. You have so much stuff sent to you, right, 312 00:15:37,200 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 2: you're never gonna get So I keep it at my 313 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:41,560 Speaker 2: event on my bedside table. Oh my god, good morning, 314 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 2: and I put it on every one day. I wake 315 00:15:43,360 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: up ten minutes earlier and then I do my ten 316 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:48,520 Speaker 2: minute meditation or my prayer. So I'm getting this done. 317 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 2: I'm getting this done, getting but otherwise, no, you're not 318 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 2: going to che So that's my double whammy. I get 319 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:56,600 Speaker 2: my vanity and my genius. 320 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,200 Speaker 1: Okay, you're not going to believe this, but I have 321 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 1: ask beside my bed on the table, plugged in, fully charged, 322 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: ready to go. Never use it. 323 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 2: You have to use it. It's amazing. 324 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 1: This is me, This is this is why I'm talking 325 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:12,400 Speaker 1: to you today. I'm gonna put my mask on to 326 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 1: God to use it. 327 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 2: That your face is gonna love it. Stimulation, it's great 328 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:22,000 Speaker 2: for collagen production, it's great for inflammation. Using it and 329 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 2: take those ten minutes, yes, do something like productive. 330 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, just yeah, Okay, I'm in. I'm in. I've got 331 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: my first hack, my first tip of the day. I 332 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 1: love it. Your social and your content is so packed 333 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 1: full of things we can do, little changes we can 334 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:46,040 Speaker 1: make in our lives, things that we can do to 335 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 1: you know, just further our health or our connection with ourselves, 336 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 1: all the things. So if you don't follow Brook, please 337 00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: do because you're gonna love it as much as I do. 338 00:16:57,960 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 1: And you know you said that, you know there's a 339 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 1: lot going on. There's all these kids in your house 340 00:17:03,640 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 1: all the time. And you also have had, you know, 341 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:11,920 Speaker 1: like me, failed marriages, divorce. But you're in a great 342 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:15,439 Speaker 1: relationship now that's been going for a while, right and 343 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 1: you're engaged. 344 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:19,159 Speaker 2: Is that engagements? 345 00:17:19,200 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 1: Wow, that's a long engagement. Do you are you? 346 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 2: Do you? 347 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 1: How do you feel about getting married again? Is that? 348 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 1: Was there reason why it's been such a long engagement 349 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: or is it just because everybody's busy all the time. 350 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 2: It's in the lamest truth, it's because we're busy. Malabu tragedies. 351 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 2: We built a home in Arizona that took up two 352 00:17:43,240 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 2: years of our time. It's kind of like, and this 353 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 2: is no excuse, but it's kind of like, when is 354 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:51,160 Speaker 2: our turn coming up? And then there's always a monumental 355 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 2: thing happening. And then we finally had agreed on a 356 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:57,440 Speaker 2: destination like Karen Malibu and then the fires up. It's 357 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:01,359 Speaker 2: just one thing after another. And also it's beautiful and 358 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 2: fabulous just the way that it is. So there's that. 359 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 2: Then there's that, right and having it not being my 360 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 2: first rodeo, you know. So yeah, it's definitely in the 361 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:17,680 Speaker 2: future and I should be what people say, put yourself first, 362 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 2: and I preach this and I know this. We're going 363 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 2: back to walk the talk Brook. 364 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I am. Oh my goodness, it's hard. It's 365 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 1: a big undertaking. And you're busy. I see you. You 366 00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 1: are in the Pent and Teller Show. They look so sweet. 367 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,880 Speaker 1: By the way, they just got picked up. You are 368 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: the host. Now you just got picked up for a 369 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:38,440 Speaker 1: twelfth season. 370 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:42,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, they're They're amazing. I have had so much fun 371 00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 2: working with them. So we finished two seasons in Vegas 372 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:48,119 Speaker 2: Live show amazing. I mean, they've been together for fifty years. 373 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 2: They're incredible, and I'm hoping that we're going to go 374 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:54,040 Speaker 2: another season. And there's so many changes happening and type 375 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:56,919 Speaker 2: so it's possible that we might not. But those guys, 376 00:18:56,960 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 2: I mean magic. We all need a little bit of that, right, 377 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 2: We all need a fantasy and a little feel good 378 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:05,760 Speaker 2: and great family like co viewing show. And I learned 379 00:19:05,760 --> 00:19:07,600 Speaker 2: so much from those guys, and I love being in 380 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 2: front of a live audience. I mean, there just aren't 381 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 2: a lot of shows like that anymore. I don't know, 382 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 2: it's got talent, like what, there's just not TV's change. 383 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 2: If it exchanged in our world. 384 00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:19,439 Speaker 1: It is you were on Dancing with the Stars. I 385 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 1: was on Dancing with the Stars season three or five. 386 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 1: I can never remember Derek, right, Yes, I was Derek's 387 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:28,600 Speaker 1: first dance partner and then and then you were his 388 00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 1: dance partner. And the difference is that you won the ball, 389 00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:35,200 Speaker 1: the mirrored ball. You got it? Where is it? I 390 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: don't see it. 391 00:19:36,000 --> 00:19:38,359 Speaker 2: It's in my bathroom actually. And it's funny because people 392 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 2: want to take a picture with the mirror ball more 393 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 2: than they want to take a picture with anything. It's 394 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 2: freaking mirror ball triphy. But you know, you know, like 395 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,520 Speaker 2: that was one of the hardest things I've ever done 396 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:50,879 Speaker 2: in my entire life. Do you agree? Oh? 397 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,200 Speaker 1: Yes, something I don't want to do again. 398 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 2: I mean terrifying, right, Do you ever wish back though 399 00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:57,439 Speaker 2: and do it again? Like? 400 00:19:57,480 --> 00:19:57,920 Speaker 1: Oh yeah? 401 00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:00,400 Speaker 2: And the maturity and knowing what you know now because 402 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,520 Speaker 2: I don't know about you. But I was so terrified 403 00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:06,919 Speaker 2: and he was a phenomenal teacher. I remember being I 404 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 2: couldn't even hear the music. I don't know the steps. 405 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 1: Right. 406 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:14,320 Speaker 2: It was before social media, was it? I mean I 407 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 2: didn't know oh right. 408 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 1: There was no going on and saying vote for me, 409 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 1: vote for me all the time. Oh my gosh. I 410 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 1: do think that the going back and doing it again 411 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:27,840 Speaker 1: would be amazing, because yeah, but I don't. I can't 412 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:29,880 Speaker 1: move like that anymore, Brooke. I don't think I can 413 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: do it. I've gotten a couple of operations since then, 414 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: and I think on my dance in years on television, 415 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:42,680 Speaker 1: Body Hard, Body Hard, I cannot Winning must have been exhilarating. 416 00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 2: It winning was you know, it's a silly reality competition, right, 417 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,959 Speaker 2: but it was so much more than for me because yeah, 418 00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 2: you know, you face your fingers, you can get in 419 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 2: your comfort zone. I like to do scary things, not 420 00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 2: in real time, because I was like, why do I 421 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:02,360 Speaker 2: do such scary things? When am I just go get 422 00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:05,919 Speaker 2: a normal job. But training like an athlete, learning how 423 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:08,640 Speaker 2: to think like an athlete. I don't think I've ever 424 00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:12,480 Speaker 2: spent seven days a week doing anything. It really was 425 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,040 Speaker 2: a testament. You realize that you could do anything, anything, 426 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 2: anything in the world you want to do. Like I 427 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,760 Speaker 2: can't sing, and I probably could never sing even if 428 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 2: I trained, But you could rebably go to stand up 429 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,600 Speaker 2: comedy if you had to, or the thing if you 430 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 2: trained seven days a week for it. 431 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:30,560 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, if you face that for your head on, yeah, 432 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,560 Speaker 1: there it's once you complete. I felt the same exact way. 433 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:35,720 Speaker 1: There's nothing I cannot do now. 434 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:38,440 Speaker 2: I agree, you push yoursel and got over. 435 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 1: But then you went on to be a host, which 436 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 1: was amazing. You're such a good host. 437 00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:47,119 Speaker 2: It seems so long ago. Oh gosh, eight seasons and 438 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 2: there were two shows a year then. But the show 439 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 2: allowed me to bring a different level of compassion and 440 00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 2: connection to that skill set because I knew what it 441 00:21:57,320 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 2: was like when nobody wanted to talk to me, or 442 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 2: they couldn't hear me, or they were so upset, or 443 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 2: they are adrenaline was so high. I knew how difficult 444 00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 2: it was after you've showcased your talent, whether it went 445 00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:10,000 Speaker 2: really well or it was horrible. That I know what 446 00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 2: it's like to want to crawl under the rug or 447 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:16,359 Speaker 2: it just allowed me to be a much more colorful 448 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 2: and competent host because I knew both sides of it 449 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 2: and just so much fun. Yeah. So, such a great 450 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 2: show to work on. What a blessing that show was. 451 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:27,880 Speaker 1: Would you do it again? Would you go back? Would 452 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:29,160 Speaker 1: you be a host again on the show? 453 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 2: I I mean I never say no, just never closed 454 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 2: doors professionally, but I know I was eight seasons and 455 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:42,639 Speaker 2: I did everything I needed to do in the ballroom, 456 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 2: amazing relationships. I mean, at the time it was one 457 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:50,040 Speaker 2: of the most watched shows on television. It would be 458 00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:52,840 Speaker 2: hard to go back there with the same level of 459 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:57,560 Speaker 2: excitement and appreciation. And I don't know, I don't know. 460 00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 2: I think they're getting ready to do their big anniversary, 461 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:01,200 Speaker 2: aren't they. Are you going back? Oh? 462 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 1: I got an email about that. I didn't I purposely 463 00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 1: did not read it. That's terrible they're doing in an anniversary. Okay, 464 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:09,880 Speaker 1: that's what the email said. 465 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,919 Speaker 2: I'm not going either, but no, I mean, a redo 466 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:15,719 Speaker 2: is hard for me. You know. I guess there's some 467 00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 2: things that aren't worth a repeat in your life. But 468 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:19,640 Speaker 2: I feel like I wrung it out and I did 469 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 2: everything I needed to do on that show. 470 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:27,000 Speaker 1: It's kind of like love marriage, you know, like you're 471 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: in it and it's great and then it's not, and 472 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: then you ask yourself, do I want to do that again? 473 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:34,760 Speaker 1: And then you get in it again? Because love is 474 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:40,000 Speaker 1: love and we're all sucker for love. But I think 475 00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:44,040 Speaker 1: going back and doing something that you already know how 476 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,760 Speaker 1: it is, how it's going to end up, what's the end? 477 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 1: You know, there's something not as challenging about it. So 478 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:51,400 Speaker 1: that's maybe what you're not excited about. 479 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, right, welcome back. 480 00:23:54,680 --> 00:24:03,439 Speaker 1: But you talked about it before. It's such a difficult 481 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,679 Speaker 1: time in our industry and in every industry these days. 482 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,199 Speaker 1: Talk to me, tell us, how do you choose to 483 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:15,600 Speaker 1: get back up after a loss, like even if you 484 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:20,040 Speaker 1: can relate it to losing the hosting job or any 485 00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 1: other like a marriage, or how do you get back 486 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 1: up from these big life moments that knock us down. 487 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:27,840 Speaker 2: I mean that was a big life moment, you know, 488 00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 2: leaving that show, being fired from that show, being let 489 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,399 Speaker 2: go from that show, my contract not being renewed. However 490 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:37,359 Speaker 2: you want to feel better about it. I'm a realist. 491 00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:40,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, it is what it is. You don't divorce 492 00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 2: somebody that you're madly in love with. You don't let 493 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 2: a host go that you're like madly in love like. 494 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,080 Speaker 2: So whenever it was, it ended right, yes, And so 495 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 2: it was sort of like going from that high from 496 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,160 Speaker 2: hosting the number one show on television at the time, 497 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 2: you know, hand to hand with Idle. It was sort 498 00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 2: of like WHOA. But I will say this to you 499 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:04,760 Speaker 2: and maybe somebody listening will understand this because I'm a 500 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,480 Speaker 2: big believer in this and I've had to come full 501 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,480 Speaker 2: circle and spend some time in this space. But you 502 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,919 Speaker 2: have to choose your words so carefully in life, and 503 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 2: I really believe that, like choose your words before you 504 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:18,160 Speaker 2: spit them out. We manifest so many things, We put energy, 505 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,120 Speaker 2: we put some conscious energy into so many things. There 506 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,479 Speaker 2: was a time on that show, after like seven seasons 507 00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:25,840 Speaker 2: where I was like, question, this is a live show, 508 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:29,320 Speaker 2: and I really don't have much freedom and just reason 509 00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,879 Speaker 2: after season and I mean, by the way, amazing gig 510 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,600 Speaker 2: live television. It's better than being in a studio like 511 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 2: the world that you come from. For fifteen hours a. 512 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,200 Speaker 1: Day, we're done, and it's much more exciting. 513 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 2: It's one of the greatest shows to host. In television, 514 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 2: and I know that I said to myself inside myself, 515 00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 2: Oh no, what else I'm gonna do? And you know, 516 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:55,200 Speaker 2: I wasn't like I've always been grateful, but I don't 517 00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 2: think I was showing up in complete gratitude that final season. 518 00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 2: And part of me believes that maybe I was meant 519 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 2: to move on and do something else, and when it happened, 520 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 2: I really wanted to exit that stage literally with grace 521 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 2: and appreciation, with great relationships which I had, And it 522 00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:21,080 Speaker 2: forced me to really look at what now, which I 523 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 2: think so many of us explore at different stages in 524 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 2: our life, even when there isn't a pivotabal moment. And 525 00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,200 Speaker 2: I do a lot of that work during my retreats 526 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,080 Speaker 2: with women, and the common denominator is what now? What 527 00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 2: nexte for women that are empty nesters, for women that 528 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 2: have retired, for women that are redesigning their life, for 529 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:40,919 Speaker 2: women that are going through a career change. They're like 530 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:44,200 Speaker 2: with the f what now is like is this it? 531 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,680 Speaker 1: That's a big void for yeah. 532 00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,800 Speaker 2: Question a big boy. And I just decided, instead of 533 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 2: like looking for that what next, to just kind of 534 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:55,359 Speaker 2: look at everything and to really sit in that space 535 00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 2: of I have so many opportunities and possibilities, and I 536 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 2: didn't know what was going to happen next. I didn't 537 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:02,240 Speaker 2: know if it was going to do daytime talk. Was 538 00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 2: I going to New York? What about the kids? Can 539 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,240 Speaker 2: I stay here? What's the next move? And then our 540 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 2: whole industry changed, right, and people like us didn't get 541 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,200 Speaker 2: to go to a daytime time show. But I mean 542 00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,240 Speaker 2: for a million reasons, right right, So I just had 543 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,480 Speaker 2: to take all the good with me, all the skills, 544 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 2: all the bittersweet curses that came along with it, because 545 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,399 Speaker 2: there was a lot of people that didn't even think 546 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,760 Speaker 2: about reaching out because I just hosted the number one 547 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 2: show on television. I wouldn't possibly go do X, Y 548 00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:33,120 Speaker 2: and Z, which I might have after I gig like that. 549 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 2: So for me, it's just a matter of just looking 550 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,720 Speaker 2: at Okay, I need to explore the space that I'm 551 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,560 Speaker 2: sitting in right now and be really open. And I 552 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:46,000 Speaker 2: think that pause and then even later the COVID pause 553 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 2: really allowed me to build my wellness app and that 554 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 2: has been the love of my life right now, as 555 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 2: far as work goes, a passion project, an opportunity to 556 00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 2: do something that really matters with other women to choreograph 557 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 2: and to work with other team trainers, and to do 558 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,960 Speaker 2: things that are really that I really love and I 559 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:08,080 Speaker 2: never would have had time to do that. There's no way, 560 00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:11,120 Speaker 2: So I don't know. I mean, a change is necessary. 561 00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:15,200 Speaker 2: So I relate that to love as well, raising a family, divorce. 562 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:19,640 Speaker 2: Sometimes change is just necessary, right, and it doesn't look 563 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:24,040 Speaker 2: like it even when it really hurts, even when it sucks, right, 564 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,600 Speaker 2: even when it's really freaking hard and you're like, you 565 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 2: want to just curl up in a ball. Yeah, their 566 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,120 Speaker 2: covers like, but we don't get to do that. 567 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:36,840 Speaker 1: Well maybe for just like a little while while a week, 568 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:37,639 Speaker 1: maybe longer. 569 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:42,520 Speaker 2: Get joking, But I think that that's what is really 570 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:47,000 Speaker 2: defining sometimes more than a thing that tried to shape 571 00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:51,360 Speaker 2: you break you, it's the strength that you really have 572 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:55,080 Speaker 2: to get through it and get to the other side 573 00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,440 Speaker 2: of it, because the other side of it honestly could 574 00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:58,160 Speaker 2: be amazing. 575 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 1: Yeah right, I mean they do say it doesn't break you, 576 00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 1: makes you stronger, So that's a better way to kind 577 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:04,880 Speaker 1: of look at things. 578 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:09,600 Speaker 2: I think this whole theory, this new concept that we're introducing, 579 00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 2: the feminine strength theory. You know, so many people are 580 00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 2: talking about menopause, right, menopause is having is big, yeah, 581 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,120 Speaker 2: and I'm on the other side of it. I don't 582 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 2: know where you are. But so complicated, so subjective, so individual, 583 00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 2: so many things that we can actually do about it. 584 00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:28,280 Speaker 2: I'm almost like, I'm tired of hearing about menopause perception 585 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 2: a little bit and step into this period of strength 586 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:36,120 Speaker 2: as women, especially women our age, especially women a decade 587 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,480 Speaker 2: younger than us, if they can kind of better equipped 588 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:44,240 Speaker 2: and prepare themselves and forty fifty sixty plus can be 589 00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:50,560 Speaker 2: an amazing sensual, provocative, strong, insightful connect like a beautiful 590 00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,479 Speaker 2: time in our life. And the strength theory is just 591 00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 2: it's about that. It's what are we building in our 592 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 2: life that supports us? Right? And how are we leaving ourselves? 593 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 2: Are we speaking to ourselves carrying that's too heavy that 594 00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 2: we need to let go of. Do we have the 595 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 2: strength to pivot, to change, to pause, to rent to you? 596 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 1: We're in charge, Yeah, We're in charge of There's so 597 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: like you said, there's so many possibilities when even when 598 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:16,880 Speaker 1: you just look at your life like that, like all 599 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:21,320 Speaker 1: the things that you want to do in your life personally, 600 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 1: like all the things you just listed. I could be like, 601 00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,080 Speaker 1: oh my god, that sounds overwhelming. I can't handle all 602 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:28,720 Speaker 1: those things, and I would just regress back into that cave, 603 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,640 Speaker 1: that ball that I've been rolled up into. But it's 604 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:36,240 Speaker 1: the it's taking that first step. It's that choice to 605 00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:39,680 Speaker 1: say I am going to make a concerted effort to 606 00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:42,120 Speaker 1: take care of myself in any way. 607 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,400 Speaker 2: The women too that are in it, that are kind 608 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 2: of drowning in it. Yeah, there's something very real and 609 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 2: important about sitting in even that pain. It's like a 610 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:56,080 Speaker 2: morning I'm sure you get a lot of enquiries about 611 00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:58,480 Speaker 2: divorce and how do we do what we do and 612 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,920 Speaker 2: we happen to be on television. All looks great, But 613 00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,160 Speaker 2: I can promise everybody that's listening there have been peaks 614 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 2: and valleys and really hard days and challenges in life. 615 00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 2: And there's nothing that anybody could tell me that would 616 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 2: surprise me, because I've done so much of this work 617 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,560 Speaker 2: on my own and with other women. But there's value 618 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:22,040 Speaker 2: in allowing yourself to sit in those really hard, painful 619 00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 2: moments and not feel like you're just supposed to move 620 00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,760 Speaker 2: on to the other side of it, like being It's 621 00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,520 Speaker 2: like it's like a morning it's like a Desicately, there 622 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 2: are parts of us, even as women, that need to die, 623 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,959 Speaker 2: I think, in my opinion, so that there can be 624 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 2: a rebirth. 625 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,840 Speaker 1: You know, it's like a pruning like you know, you 626 00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,160 Speaker 1: got to cut the roses back in order for them 627 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:43,840 Speaker 1: to bloom again. 628 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 2: It's an essence, right, Like, that's exactly what it is. 629 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:51,040 Speaker 2: On a much more scientific way. I'll give you an example. 630 00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 2: Chavas not in yoga. It's the end of a yoga class, right, 631 00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:57,120 Speaker 2: So we if yoga is in your practice, you spend 632 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,200 Speaker 2: a whole class for two minutes. I like to make 633 00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:01,360 Speaker 2: it a lot more than that. But if there's another company, 634 00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,880 Speaker 2: you get two lousy minutes, right, illness, and it's corpse pose. 635 00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:06,320 Speaker 2: You're lying down in your bat and they call its 636 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 2: corpse does And I was always like, why is this 637 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 2: corpse pose? What is this death pose about? At the 638 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 2: end of the class, so I did a deep dive. 639 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,600 Speaker 2: As I'm studying sanscripts, I'm doing a lot of work 640 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 2: in my yoga practice. But it's the death of a 641 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,920 Speaker 2: class and it's the birth of the next moment. And 642 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,800 Speaker 2: that's really think about that. In life, it's so beautiful, 643 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,560 Speaker 2: it's Schilasina. It's two minutes, you lie, there's still a 644 00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,840 Speaker 2: corpse post. But it's not about death. It's about the 645 00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:34,640 Speaker 2: beginning and the awakening of the next moment, the next day, tonight, 646 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:37,479 Speaker 2: like all of these things. And I have tried to 647 00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:41,400 Speaker 2: apply many of those philosophies, those sanscript principles to life, 648 00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:46,120 Speaker 2: and it's I learned so much in that practice and 649 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,680 Speaker 2: those moments of stillness and the things that come up 650 00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 2: going to end that really the man as a woman. 651 00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,200 Speaker 1: Yep, it's about facing them. Oh, there's so much I 652 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,320 Speaker 1: want to talked about. Okay, you're a co parent with 653 00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:01,480 Speaker 1: two men. I can barely handle it. 654 00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 2: With one because Scott's Levi and Lilah. No, no, I'm like in, 655 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:07,720 Speaker 2: but now I'm ask me, go ahead, ask me. 656 00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:12,520 Speaker 1: How do you do it? How do you are you 657 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:14,720 Speaker 1: a co parent with more than one guy? 658 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,960 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, yeah. 659 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 1: Each of them is different. Oh, it's just I know 660 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,520 Speaker 1: you married to an actor. I know we have some 661 00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:28,240 Speaker 1: similar things, but it's just it's co parentings. 662 00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,640 Speaker 2: It's a whole episode. If you invite me back, we 663 00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:33,360 Speaker 2: can totally unpack this. Let me come from a space 664 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:36,440 Speaker 2: of not being an expert and for a long time 665 00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:39,400 Speaker 2: after my divorce. There was a lot of inquiry for 666 00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:41,120 Speaker 2: me to really speak about that, and I'm like, how 667 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,240 Speaker 2: could I possibly speak about that when I'm still in 668 00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,720 Speaker 2: it and I certainly haven't figured it out yet. So 669 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:48,360 Speaker 2: I'm going to pause on that. For everybody that thinks 670 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:50,720 Speaker 2: I've got it all figured out, I do not. One 671 00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,200 Speaker 2: thing that I made a commitment to in my second 672 00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:59,840 Speaker 2: divorce was to be an incredible ex wife and to 673 00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,960 Speaker 2: create a space for David to be an incredible ex 674 00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:08,200 Speaker 2: husband and for us to be great excess because we 675 00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:12,279 Speaker 2: were really shitty has been in lives and I was like, 676 00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:16,520 Speaker 2: if we can have a working divorce for our children 677 00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 2: now first time around? Not so even if I wanted that, 678 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 2: it would not matter what I did to try to 679 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 2: make that one happen. And it's still toxic to the stick. 680 00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:27,799 Speaker 2: So I'm not coming from like Confucius over here, think 681 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 2: I'm coming from a few decades of experience. One failed, 682 00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:38,640 Speaker 2: not so much surrender acceptance there. The second one or 683 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 2: deep commitment to have a working divorce that is built 684 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:45,200 Speaker 2: on integrity, and that is for our children and because 685 00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:48,160 Speaker 2: of that, they're better for it. And Scott, so we 686 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 2: have six children between us, which is crazy, crazy, four 687 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,440 Speaker 2: of them in the house right now, and believe it 688 00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:59,280 Speaker 2: or not, and I'll knock out Wood because I didn't 689 00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:06,719 Speaker 2: experience that the second time around. There's harmony. And I 690 00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:10,920 Speaker 2: have learned that what I want and what my expectations 691 00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:14,439 Speaker 2: are and my vision of what family looks like has 692 00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:18,600 Speaker 2: nothing to do with their vision. And the moment that 693 00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:21,399 Speaker 2: I was able to accept that, there was a lot 694 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:26,399 Speaker 2: less disappointment, a lot less friction. And as a younger mom, 695 00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:28,680 Speaker 2: I always thought, Oh, this is how it's supposed to be, 696 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,799 Speaker 2: and everybody's going to come home and dinner's going to 697 00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:32,520 Speaker 2: be ready, and we're all going to sit down. And 698 00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:35,399 Speaker 2: it was a continuous disappointment. Somebody was upset, somebody was late, 699 00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:39,600 Speaker 2: somebody didn't care, somebody to buy their boyfriend my stage 700 00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,840 Speaker 2: the movie and play that I just wrote for the evening. 701 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,800 Speaker 2: Nobody even got a freaking script. Okay, nobody even knew 702 00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,640 Speaker 2: what was happening in act three but me. And so 703 00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:51,160 Speaker 2: if that makes sense, No. 704 00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,560 Speaker 1: Sometimes things you have this thing in your head, but 705 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,120 Speaker 1: you don't communicate it to someone else in order for 706 00:35:57,160 --> 00:35:58,880 Speaker 1: it to be a shared idea. 707 00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,040 Speaker 2: And these are all real people. That are there. 708 00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:03,000 Speaker 1: They have their own perspectives, their. 709 00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:07,520 Speaker 2: Own problems and perspectives and wishes and desires and challenges. 710 00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:10,160 Speaker 2: And I think it's the same way I'm not in marriage, 711 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:14,560 Speaker 2: Like we have to communicate to I have to give 712 00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:16,280 Speaker 2: a lot of grace to the people in my family 713 00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,080 Speaker 2: because there's a lot of us. And I'm really lucky 714 00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:23,000 Speaker 2: right now in this current situation and this rude that 715 00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 2: we're raising. That there's harmony, but at a minimum, we 716 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,759 Speaker 2: need each other with space and respect. And I don't 717 00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:34,040 Speaker 2: think the younger me was able to do that. I 718 00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 2: also don't think the younger me was able to carve 719 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:38,400 Speaker 2: out time to be able to be like, whoa, I 720 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:41,200 Speaker 2: think I'm gonna go out to dinner with my girlfriends tonight. 721 00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:44,640 Speaker 2: You guys, yeah, I'll see you later and I'll see 722 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,439 Speaker 2: you in the morning. Like I didn't know as a woman, 723 00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,440 Speaker 2: as a younger woman, how to step back, not bail, 724 00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:51,200 Speaker 2: but to be able to go. I'm going to go 725 00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:55,480 Speaker 2: find joy simultaneously over here. I'm not leaving here, but 726 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,360 Speaker 2: I'm going to do things that are joyful so I 727 00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,879 Speaker 2: can fill my cup. Right, I know how to do 728 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:01,760 Speaker 2: that now, as. 729 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:05,840 Speaker 1: You do right, my joy Oh, that's such a good feeling. 730 00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:08,560 Speaker 2: And it's like, you know, just scratching the surface. But 731 00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:12,600 Speaker 2: co parenting really really hard. I think there has to 732 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:15,000 Speaker 2: be boundaries, there has to be a lot of communication, 733 00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:18,000 Speaker 2: and everybody has to know their role. And I believe 734 00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:23,160 Speaker 2: that also masculine feminine partnerships marriage. You know, I'm a 735 00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:29,280 Speaker 2: really strong, independent woman can be misinterpreted sometimes. Yeah, work 736 00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 2: on that. I have to work to bring my feminine 737 00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:34,279 Speaker 2: energy to most situations because I can be very I 738 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,200 Speaker 2: can drop into my masculine energy super fast. But I 739 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,959 Speaker 2: have to be roles that are played, and those roles, 740 00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:43,200 Speaker 2: roles are changeable. That would be who we need to 741 00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 2: be and show up in that space and get what 742 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:49,120 Speaker 2: we need. It's we should do another episode about this. 743 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:52,640 Speaker 1: There's so much to unpack about those roles and about 744 00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:56,359 Speaker 1: like the freedom to choose what you want your role 745 00:37:56,400 --> 00:38:00,440 Speaker 1: to be. And yeah, there's a lot. Oh my gosh, Okay, 746 00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,640 Speaker 1: I'm going to do another episode with you in a 747 00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,080 Speaker 1: couple of days and we're going to get into some 748 00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:06,120 Speaker 1: of your amazing life hacks and all the things that 749 00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 1: you know and I cannot wait. But before we leave today, 750 00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:12,200 Speaker 1: I want to ask you the question I always ask 751 00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:16,280 Speaker 1: everyone before we go Brooke broke, what was your last 752 00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:17,600 Speaker 1: I choose me moment? 753 00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:23,160 Speaker 2: Well, honestly, it was this morning. Because I've made myself 754 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,239 Speaker 2: a priority at the stage in my life, so I 755 00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,640 Speaker 2: try not to let a day go by where I 756 00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:32,400 Speaker 2: don't have a moment that's for me. But this morning, 757 00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,560 Speaker 2: and I woke up ten minutes earlier. We giggled about 758 00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:37,479 Speaker 2: it earlier. I forget about the mask, but I spent 759 00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,640 Speaker 2: those ten minutes to just visualize my day and to 760 00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:43,000 Speaker 2: really walk through my day. And I ask myself a 761 00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,680 Speaker 2: couple of questions every day, what could make today great? 762 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,319 Speaker 2: What are my goals today? And do I promise to 763 00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,480 Speaker 2: myself that I'm going to achieve those goals so that 764 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:54,360 Speaker 2: I'm already sort of set up in yeah, in my 765 00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:56,839 Speaker 2: vision for the day. And if I didn't wake up 766 00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:59,520 Speaker 2: and steal those ten moments and choose me, because there's 767 00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:01,000 Speaker 2: a lot of things I could have done. I could 768 00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,120 Speaker 2: have went got up and helped try to get breakfast right, 769 00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,160 Speaker 2: I could have started the coffee a little bit, and 770 00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:06,719 Speaker 2: there's a lot of things I could have done. I 771 00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,160 Speaker 2: made myself either for ten minutes to choose me, just 772 00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:12,399 Speaker 2: ten minutes the day, in the day, just ten minutes 773 00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:16,080 Speaker 2: in the day that like I'm worthy of so and 774 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:17,680 Speaker 2: then I went for a walk this morning too, which 775 00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,520 Speaker 2: was really nice. I don't always I don't always get 776 00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:20,800 Speaker 2: to do that. 777 00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:25,000 Speaker 1: No, these are very easy things that I think a 778 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,839 Speaker 1: lot of people can say, Hey, I can do that too. 779 00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:30,839 Speaker 2: We can take ten minutes and it doesn't have to 780 00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,360 Speaker 2: be a big thing. It's ten minutes that I know 781 00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,320 Speaker 2: are just for me, for me to do whatever I need, 782 00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,319 Speaker 2: and it's the tone for my day. So I do 783 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:40,120 Speaker 2: that in the morning. 784 00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:45,319 Speaker 1: Good advice. Thank you so much, Brooke, and we will 785 00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:48,279 Speaker 1: be back with some bonus material, so keep an eye 786 00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:48,799 Speaker 1: out for it. 787 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:49,560 Speaker 2: Thank you. Jim