Speaker 1: Second date up date.
Speaker 2: Normally, our goal during this second date segment needs to
Speaker 2: get two people back together for a second try, second
Speaker 2: chance for a romantic connection because up with the name, Yeah,
Speaker 2: we know, we put a lot of work into this,
Speaker 2: but maybe there was like a misunderstanding. Maybe someone's fly
Speaker 2: was down on accident or on purpose, doesn't.
Speaker 1: Matter, it's usually.
Speaker 3: It happens.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well, today, before we can even get to any of that,
Speaker 2: we might need to solve a mystery because there's been
Speaker 2: some strange text messages exchanged and I don't know what
Speaker 2: they are, but apparently it wasn't enough for our listener
Speaker 2: Kiki to reach out for help about it.
Speaker 1: So let's talk to our Kiki. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, you must get that we're getting distracted already, Sorry,
Speaker 5: tangents all over the place, Skiaky, how are you doing?
Speaker 4: I'm doing okay, just a little confused.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of picked that up from your email.
Speaker 2: What's going on with you and this guy that you met?
Speaker 2: What's his name?
Speaker 4: Okay? His name is Chase.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm guessing you guys met online or on an app?
Speaker 4: Yes, okay, an app? And he checked all my boxes okay,
Speaker 4: one of it sounds like who.
Speaker 3: It's felt like a red flag when she said anybody
Speaker 3: else you.
Speaker 1: Did have a sensual tone.
Speaker 4: I mean, I know I get that a lot. But
Speaker 4: we moved pretty quick. He asked me if I wanted
Speaker 4: to go out that Friday, which was two days after
Speaker 4: we went on the app.
Speaker 3: Is that too fast? I don't know.
Speaker 6: I mean I kind of get just getting to the
Speaker 6: screening instead of texting, and we see your time.
Speaker 2: I guess I would take it as a positive, like
Speaker 2: he's really excited to see you as quickly as possible.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I said, yeah, I was really looking forward to it.
Speaker 1: So how did it go?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 4: The day of, three hours before the date, I get
Speaker 4: a message from him saying he's really sorry, but he
Speaker 4: has to postpone because he had to take care of
Speaker 4: M period E period period.
Speaker 3: White periods, take care of my elephant.
Speaker 1: Oh god, okay, maybe he has an elephant?
Speaker 3: Did you ask him? Like, well, who's who's that? What
Speaker 3: does that mean?
Speaker 4: He googled M E. I was like, either he's working
Speaker 4: on his master's of education or he has something called
Speaker 4: my algic anthemous.
Speaker 3: It's either a positive or negative.
Speaker 6: We're not sure you know what that means, Well, it
Speaker 6: means extreme fatigue.
Speaker 7: Oh and that actually makes sense, super exhausted.
Speaker 1: He's like, I literally have to take care I got.
Speaker 3: I mean if he was super fatigued.
Speaker 5: He didn't seem very fatigued when he was on the app,
Speaker 5: you know, just said so.
Speaker 4: I wasn't here what it was. I wanted to send
Speaker 4: him a message back, with a generic message back to
Speaker 4: figure out.
Speaker 5: What it was. Yeah, like, you don't know if you
Speaker 5: want to say, oh my god, I'm so sorry or congratulations.
Speaker 3: So what did you say?
Speaker 1: Would you write?
Speaker 4: I said, sounds tough.
Speaker 3: Sounds tough.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's true, that's nice middle ground.
Speaker 5: Let's pre schedule, let's reschedule, okay, and did you.
Speaker 4: Well, sure enough the next day he did for schedule
Speaker 4: for later in the week.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, we're back on track now.
Speaker 4: The day rolls around and he says, no, you're gonna
Speaker 4: hate me, but I'm totally floating right now.
Speaker 1: Floading floating. Oh is it like.
Speaker 8: Floating like when those pods?
Speaker 5: Or is emmy some sort of drug We don't know
Speaker 5: about a special case.
Speaker 1: It's really weird. Did you know what that means?
Speaker 8: Well?
Speaker 3: I google that.
Speaker 4: I google that.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't think that's going to come up with
Speaker 3: the answers that you want.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're gonna get like all sorts of things hot
Speaker 2: air balloon buoyancy lessons.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Well, apparently it's when you have to pretend to be
Speaker 4: really busy at work for your boss when you're really
Speaker 4: doing nothing.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's floating floating, like floating by at work.
Speaker 4: I don't know if he meant that, but that's what
Speaker 4: I found. So I guess he had a problem around.
Speaker 1: His master's program.
Speaker 5: You're still interested in this guy. He's like talking in
Speaker 5: like weird speak.
Speaker 3: He's like, you're not following through any day?
Speaker 4: Yeah, he didn't cancel twice, he postponed twice.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Sure, Okay, it's not very nice to say about someone
Speaker 2: with my algic emphasis.
Speaker 1: And yet I mean.
Speaker 6: We're scheduled to go out it is Saturday. Well no,
Speaker 6: because he's just saying I might have to push it
Speaker 6: back one more day.
Speaker 1: Can I say something?
Speaker 8: Though?
Speaker 1: At least these aren't last second. He's giving her a
Speaker 1: date notice, he even gave her three.
Speaker 2: I don't think he did the other day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, before the date, not for a woman, I think.
Speaker 5: Do you think he's catfishing. You do you think he's
Speaker 5: real Like maybe, like here's the thing, Like he's coming
Speaker 5: real close to the date and then suddenly canceling and
Speaker 5: coming up with a different excuse every time.
Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on. I don't know if
Speaker 4: he has a girlfriend or something.
Speaker 2: Oh oh, okay, we didn't think of that. That Maybe
Speaker 2: he's just like trying to push you off until he
Speaker 2: can get rid of his current girlfriend or something exactly, and.
Speaker 5: The girlfriend keeps being home. I mean, we haven't come
Speaker 5: up with a positive theory yet, is it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I don't want to keep waiting. I just want to
Speaker 4: know what's really happening.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, that's something we can do, because honestly, I'm
Speaker 2: tired of guessing of what's really got.
Speaker 1: Let's just give him a call.
Speaker 2: We'll come back and we'll solve this mystery once and
Speaker 2: for all. What's really going on with Chase and his
Speaker 2: M period, E period, floating period, weirdness period.
Speaker 3: If it was just a period, we could figure it out.
Speaker 1: All right. We'll come back and get to the bottom
Speaker 1: of it right after this.
Speaker 2: Second date update Three scheduled dates two have already been postponed,
Speaker 2: and one is on the verge. Yeah, which is where
Speaker 2: we come in to save the day.
Speaker 3: We're always living on the verge, aren't we, Jeffrey.
Speaker 1: I'm a virgin.
Speaker 2: That means we're going to try to get to the
Speaker 2: bottom of this once and for all. Because there's been
Speaker 2: some confusing texts being exchanged between our listener Kiki and
Speaker 2: the guy that she's trying to meet.
Speaker 1: Up with named Chase.
Speaker 2: She is tired of waiting and postponing and postponing. She
Speaker 2: just wants an answer.
Speaker 3: I think this was good. I think it's good she
Speaker 3: came to us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what you said, Broke. Should we just call
Speaker 1: Chase and figure this out?
Speaker 5: I think that he owes you some explanation, Kiki. Oh,
Speaker 5: he definitely does all of us I feel, I mean,
Speaker 5: we don't need to come out him hard or anything, but.
Speaker 1: You just speak for yourself. Wait a minute, don't do this.
Speaker 2: Has been waiting like it sounds like a month to
Speaker 2: get this date locked down, So it's time to finally
Speaker 2: get to it.
Speaker 1: Here we go. I'm gonna dial his number right now.
Speaker 8: Hello.
Speaker 1: Hey, we're gonna speak with Chase.
Speaker 8: Uh speaking Okay, Hey, Chase.
Speaker 1: We're a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 8: Okay, or radio show's.
Speaker 3: Ray it still exists.
Speaker 2: We're doing something called a second Date Update, which is
Speaker 2: a segment where we're trying to help out one of
Speaker 2: our listeners, you know, smooth out the bumps in their
Speaker 2: dating life, not that they have any bumps, and just
Speaker 2: that's weird.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, bumps. That was a terrible thing. She said
Speaker 1: he was going to come out of hard. Now this
Speaker 1: it's a bump free lady. And her name, her name
Speaker 1: is some curves. Well, I don't know, bendy wady lady.
Speaker 2: I don't know anything about what she looks like or
Speaker 2: anything about her body.
Speaker 1: I know she seems really sweet when we talked to her.
Speaker 1: Name's Kiki.
Speaker 8: What is going on with Seky?
Speaker 3: Yeah we heard you guys have plans this weekend.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well tentative plans. Here's the deal.
Speaker 2: You've already postponed on her twice, at least that's what
Speaker 2: she told us.
Speaker 9: Yeah, I guess that's technically true.
Speaker 1: Okay, if the dates didn't happen, then yeah, that would
Speaker 1: be true.
Speaker 3: And you're the one that said let's do it another.
Speaker 2: Time, and you've already sent her that you might have
Speaker 2: to postpone again for your date on Saturday. It's just
Speaker 2: leaving her with a lot of questions because your texts
Speaker 2: have been a little bit mysterious.
Speaker 1: For why happening?
Speaker 5: He told you my text Well, I mean not all
Speaker 5: of it, not the personal ones, just the ones that
Speaker 5: she didn't get.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, for example, she told us about one message
Speaker 2: where you said you're totally floating right now.
Speaker 1: And you can't make it.
Speaker 8: Oh, yeah, we.
Speaker 3: Just assumed you're on drugs.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, no, we all thought I'm joking. I'm joking. What
Speaker 3: does that mean?
Speaker 1: We don't understand.
Speaker 8: I meant like I had had a long day at
Speaker 8: work and I was in the bath when I texted that,
Speaker 8: So I meant like, I'm just kind of floating in
Speaker 8: the water.
Speaker 1: Right now, that literal literally floating in the water.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I didn't want to get out.
Speaker 5: You canceled a date because you wanted to take a
Speaker 5: longer bath.
Speaker 8: Well, it's not an excuse. I really needed it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I'm still not one hundred percent clear on
Speaker 2: what you mean.
Speaker 3: There was he's a man that needs baths, Jeff.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, hygiene is a good thing.
Speaker 2: Can we go to your other text that you sent
Speaker 2: where you said that you were taking care of M
Speaker 2: period e period?
Speaker 3: What does emmy mean?
Speaker 8: What it means like me.
Speaker 1: As in yourself? Why do you put periods in it?
Speaker 1: But got another bath?
Speaker 9: Were I just thought it was like a fun way
Speaker 9: to say me, like, what were you doing.
Speaker 3: To take care of you? What kind of self care
Speaker 3: are we talking about here?
Speaker 8: So I went home and I laid in my massage chair,
Speaker 8: had some Ben and Jerry's, and I just exfoliated for
Speaker 8: the entire night and it was awesome.
Speaker 1: Just put off her for that.
Speaker 9: If I can't take care of myself, who can I
Speaker 9: take care of?
Speaker 2: But it sounds like I mean the saying is if
Speaker 2: somebody is really important to you, you'll make time for them.
Speaker 9: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I postponed it, didn't cancel.
Speaker 1: It is important to me, not as important as you are.
Speaker 5: I mean, I will say I feel like men don't
Speaker 5: take enough time with their personal care, like they usually
Speaker 5: just consider toilet time that.
Speaker 1: So, so you're.
Speaker 3: Saying this is an okay, excuse me.
Speaker 2: Maybe a whole pint of Ben and Jerry's is more
Speaker 2: important than going on the.
Speaker 5: First or he could have invited her over to share
Speaker 5: the Ben and Jerry's like, that would have been.
Speaker 8: Why did you do that on the first day? That
Speaker 8: would have been a bit creepy.
Speaker 5: Okay, you're already all right, so I'm not anti any
Speaker 5: of what he's said.
Speaker 2: Well, I guess Brook's not. But that's not the person
Speaker 2: whose opinion really matters. The one we need to ask
Speaker 2: is Kiki, who I need to tell you has been
Speaker 2: on the other line listening this entire time.
Speaker 1: Probably need to do some self care of her own
Speaker 1: after this.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm here.
Speaker 1: That's how this works. We have them on the other phone.
Speaker 4: I'm just confused.
Speaker 8: I didn't know I was going to be on there.
Speaker 6: You Well, it's just funny because what you're saying it
Speaker 6: sounds like something a woman would do.
Speaker 3: I mean, it does sound lovely, It sounds amazing.
Speaker 9: I believe everyone should self care all the time.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, can you go back to your like messages Chase, Like,
Speaker 2: is there a reason why you had to cancel or
Speaker 2: sorry postponed the dates on her? Or is this just
Speaker 2: something that you do at random?
Speaker 9: I remember one of the time I had forgotten my
Speaker 9: lunch at home.
Speaker 8: That just there, your whole day off.
Speaker 1: I you didn't need anything, No.
Speaker 9: I had a bagel while I was there and bought something.
Speaker 5: It was yours.
Speaker 1: You were a little stressed by that, you know.
Speaker 9: I knew I had to go home and just have
Speaker 9: a night to myself on the couch.
Speaker 3: Because you were so upset about the lunch.
Speaker 1: Well, what do you like just by yourself? What do
Speaker 1: you do?
Speaker 9: So I just went home that day and I got
Speaker 9: some box wine retail therapy on Amazon, got myself like
Speaker 9: four new pairs of shoes.
Speaker 1: Four pairs?
Speaker 3: How much?
Speaker 5: Why do you have to drink to talk yourself into
Speaker 5: four pairs or one?
Speaker 1: He's taking full care of himself. Are cool?
Speaker 8: All right?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: And that means you couldn't go out with her?
Speaker 1: Yeah? How do you feel hearing all that?
Speaker 8: I mean.
Speaker 4: He comes very high maintenance.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like he's so low maintenance.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because he's maintaining himself. Yeah, he requires zero.
Speaker 5: But it's like, where's the room to help her, you know,
Speaker 5: to like take on anybody else's it's there.
Speaker 8: I just got to get through my stuff.
Speaker 3: I don't think always going to have a bad day
Speaker 3: if affect you that much. Yeah, forgetting your luge and stuff,
Speaker 3: it's shut.
Speaker 8: Down the whole day. I'm not gonna go anywhere, did
Speaker 8: you guys not hear me?
Speaker 9: I had to buy a bagel.
Speaker 2: We're sorry for your plight, okay, and I don't want
Speaker 2: to add any more onto your plate.
Speaker 5: Here, My god, can you imagine the self care you're
Speaker 5: going to have to do after this phone call?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I mean I can tell this is already really winding
Speaker 2: you up. Hopefully to put you at ease. We're going
Speaker 2: to take a lot off your plate and pay for
Speaker 2: your next date with Kiki.
Speaker 1: If you're willing to go out with her. Yeah, no pressure,
Speaker 1: no stress.
Speaker 8: Man, Yeah no, I still want to go out with her,
Speaker 8: just not on the self care days.
Speaker 5: Well, is there any day of any day of the
Speaker 5: week that is not a self care day?
Speaker 8: It just it depends on what happens on that day.
Speaker 1: Okay, so every day morning?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I could do a breakfast date.
Speaker 5: Okay, what if he gets a bad night's sleep though, Hey,
Speaker 5: you got to roll the dice sometimes in.
Speaker 2: Just don't order a bagel at breakfast or are you
Speaker 2: cool with that breakfast date?
Speaker 8: We can put it on callundar and see what happened.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, sous closes, we're gonna get Kiki. So congratulations,
Speaker 2: you've got scheduled.
Speaker 4: Your day, Chase. I'm looking forward to seeing you.
Speaker 3: That may be the most understanding woman.
Speaker 1: We're all gonna need to take a mental health day
Speaker 1: after this. Rooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: I think it's funny like if the gender roles were
Speaker 2: reversed here, and I'm not even saying like you Brook
Speaker 2: or Alexis, I feel like our audience as a whole
Speaker 2: would be sending in totally different text messages than the
Speaker 2: ones that we're getting right now saying you know what,
Speaker 2: totally girl, you deserve a break, self care for the wind,
Speaker 2: put yourself first, men's seconds.
Speaker 5: I'll tell you the reason why it sits wrong with me.
Speaker 5: It's not because I think self care is great for
Speaker 5: men or women. But this is the type of guy
Speaker 5: that's going to tell you that the pregnancy and the
Speaker 5: labor and everything was harder on him the actual woman.
Speaker 3: And that's my issue.
Speaker 2: Well, I do think it would be pretty hard on you.
Speaker 2: That's a lot of suffering when he has to go through,
Speaker 2: like the screaming that goes into.
Speaker 1: His ear drums, and that's hard for him.
Speaker 2: But I do think it is good that guys are
Speaker 2: starting to do this and put themselves first.
Speaker 1: We should, you.
Speaker 3: Know what, men have never been first in this society.
Speaker 2: It's true, right, I think what everybody, man or woman
Speaker 2: should be putting themselves first. If we all put ourselves first,
Speaker 2: the world would be a much better place.
Speaker 3: There'd be no seconds.
Speaker 7: That's yeah, alright, So here's and here's for fighting for men, right,
Speaker 7: that's right, yeah, right, everybody wins with today's second Day
Speaker 7: and update.
Speaker 2: You know what, go find more winners and more of
Speaker 2: our second Day calls. We have them up in our
Speaker 2: podcast wherever you gets yours at Brook and Jeffrey