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Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Table Show,

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Speaker 1: Kim is on the phone today for to Catch a Cheater.

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Speaker 1: She's been with her husband Rob for four years, but

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Speaker 1: now she thinks something might be going on. So in

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Speaker 1: a few minutes, we're going to call and see if

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Speaker 1: we can catch him if he is cheating, but hopefully

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Speaker 1: he's not. Kim, what's going on? Why do you think

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Speaker 1: Bob might be cheating on you?

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Speaker 2: Basically when we met, we met at a time when

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Speaker 2: Bob had actually been married before before we met. They

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Speaker 2: separated amicably. They all still keep in touch. You know.

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Speaker 2: They had met at Berkeley and they both were kind

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Speaker 2: of like weird hippie type, so they clicked. Rob, in

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Speaker 2: his own words, is kind of like grown up since then,

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Speaker 2: and he's happy where he's at. We don't really fight

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Speaker 2: much at all, and he's never really been the laundering

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Speaker 2: eye type of guy. He still is very loving and doting,

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Speaker 2: and after forty years, like he still treats me to

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Speaker 2: romantic nights out and gives me gifts and buys me flowers.

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Speaker 3: That kind of.

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Speaker 2: Feels a little silly that I'm even calling.

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Speaker 3: But basically.

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Speaker 2: Rob's ex wife, Emily, like I said, they still talk

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Speaker 2: a little bit. We've met a few times. She's been

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Speaker 2: our wedding. She's wonderful. They have a son, but he's

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Speaker 2: grown and older, and nothing like trying them really together much,

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Speaker 2: you know. And also with having a son, I understand

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Speaker 2: there's going to be co parenting, there's going to be

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Speaker 4: So that's not a.

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Speaker 3: Problem with me.

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Speaker 2: They are on good terms and I appreciate that. I've

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Speaker 2: So basically the last three weeks, it seems like they've

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Speaker 2: been talking a lot more than usual. Again, not like

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Speaker 2: when she calls, he kind of leaves the room or

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Speaker 2: text he'll like get up and walk away. I've tried

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Speaker 2: really hard not to pry. He's a drama free kind

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Speaker 2: if there was anything I could do to help him,

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Speaker 2: you know, because he seemed a little closed off and

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Speaker 2: he just basically responded like, don't worry, I'm handling things

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Speaker 3: So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I just want to know if there's something I need

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Speaker 2: to worry about, if he's rekindling something with his ex,

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Speaker 2: or maybe there's something more.

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Speaker 4: I just don't know. That's something that's super vague.

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Speaker 5: He says, I'm handling it, and it makes it sound

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It's not like it was an emergency situation.

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Speaker 2: It just seems like I don't know. They're having a conversation.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't want me to see it or hear it,

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Speaker 2: And that's.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, strange. It's been four years and everything's been cool,

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Speaker 1: and now you're having concerns. That means something's changed.

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Speaker 4: You'd be surprising you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like your birthday son.

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Speaker 2: The other thing is, like you know, I said, she

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Speaker 3: We're not close by any means we.

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Speaker 2: But it would be weird that he.

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Speaker 1: That'd be a strange person to plan your birthday. Would

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Speaker 1: all right, well, well, yeah, plays song come back. You

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Speaker 1: the grocery store and say that every single month, we

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Speaker 1: choose one random Rewards card member who gets free flowers

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Speaker 1: delivered from our Floria department, and we'll see if he

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Speaker 1: sends them to you or to somebody else. Okay, sounds good,

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Speaker 1: Thank you, I appreciate it. Plaus On, come back and

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Speaker 1: get you to catch a cheeter next, if you're just

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Speaker 1: joining us for today's to Catch a Cheater. Kim is

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Speaker 1: on the phone and she's been married to her husband,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my husband husband Bob, and I have been married

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Speaker 2: for four years. He was previously married to his ex

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Speaker 2: lately he's been sneaking off to speak with her and

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Speaker 2: it's making me question thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you ready? First to Colin? Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: here we go.

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Corbyn calling from So I was looking

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Speaker 1: for our Rewards card member named Bob.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's me, Bob.

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Speaker 1: Please don't hang up. This is not a market phone call.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually calling to say congrats. Here this month's big winner.

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Speaker 3: Oho. What surpris or is there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Every single month we choose one Rewards Card member to

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Speaker 1: say thank you very much for shopping with us and

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Speaker 1: being a loyal customer. You've just won thirty six long

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Speaker 1: stem red roses, a box of chocolates, and a card

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Speaker 1: to be delivered to anybody that you want within the

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Speaker 3: Oh cool, awesome.

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Speaker 1: I can take the information down over the phone.

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Speaker 3: I know go one going to send it, so I

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Speaker 1: So first I'll need the first last name of the

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Speaker 3: Kim. Okay, same as mine. We're married.

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Speaker 1: Oh, your this is your wife.

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Speaker 3: In my life. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Anything you want to put on a card?

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Speaker 3: Uh sure, I'll say I love you and we should talk.

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Speaker 1: Sim Well, I guess you can talk to her right now,

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Speaker 1: because Bob, this is actually the Jewbill Show. It's a

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Speaker 1: radio show. My name is jeubel Hi, I'm Nina Hi,

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Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria and we do a segment on the

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Speaker 1: show called to Catch a Cheater where if you think

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Speaker 1: Kim is actually on the phone, Taba.

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Speaker 3: See what's up. Why I'm a little bit college guard.

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Speaker 3: Why did you set this up?

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Speaker 2: Well, I am. I wasn't really sure what else to do.

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Speaker 2: I kind of feel like there's something going on with

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Speaker 3: You're right, yeah, are you?

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Speaker 3: I mean there's yeah. So I don't really want to

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Speaker 3: the fact that I love my wife, you Kim. Last

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Speaker 4: Great, she's just going to be working over there and

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Speaker 3: It is really intense. I mean the nature of her

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Speaker 4: So there is a So of course.

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Speaker 5: You say that you love somebody if you think that

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Speaker 3: But she expressed feelings for me and we did have sex.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I am really ashamed of it, and it was

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I've been planning to tell you today or

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Speaker 5: lives to this extreme? I thought sometimes or is this

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Speaker 2: I I kind of don't know what to say right now.

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Speaker 2: Obviously we need to talk in person. Yeah, I just

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm going to probably come home right now

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Speaker 2: and we'll talk about this.

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Speaker 4: You're apologizing to him.

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Speaker 5: I told you that he slept with his exy mostly.

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Speaker 2: To you guys in the listener right now that Oh.

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Speaker 1: Don't apologize us, go handle your business. I mean, it's totally, totally, totally.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you found out, even though it sounds like

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Speaker 1: Bob was going to tell you anyway, but you never know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sorry for a lot of reasons and a

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Speaker 3: lot of things, but I'm also sorry for you finding

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Speaker 2: I'll be it.

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Speaker 3: I'll be at home, okay, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, Well, kim uh let us know if we can

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you guys, thanks for having me on the show.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry for all of the things. Good luck, Thank you.

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