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Speaker 2: Bailey is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Sean.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see
Speaker 2: if hotels why he's ghosting her and maybe get her
Speaker 2: another date. But first, Bailey, how long has it been
Speaker 2: since you heard from Sean?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's been two weeks.
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, a long time.
Speaker 6: Have you tried to talk to him?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 4: I mean he's only at the end of the day
Speaker 4: when he kissed my cheek he said, I'll call you,
Speaker 4: and you know, I really like menu follow up and
Speaker 4: keep your word. So I was really trying to give
Speaker 4: him that chance. In the first week, I wasn't worried
Speaker 4: because people get busy with work. But now it's been
Speaker 4: two weeks, so I do feel like he's forgotten about
Speaker 4: me or something.
Speaker 5: I get that.
Speaker 6: How is the date? Why don't you tell us about
Speaker 6: that and how you met him?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Okay, Well I matched with him on Hinge and
Speaker 4: he actually reached out because he saw that I went
Speaker 4: to was one of his college buddies. So I thought
Speaker 4: that that was kind of like a quirky little connection.
Speaker 4: And and and he's not like my usual type because
Speaker 4: he's not like a ten out of ten or anything.
Speaker 4: But he has a really sweet face and he was
Speaker 4: funny and the messages, you know, so if I gave
Speaker 4: him a chance, I was like, you know, obviously not
Speaker 4: working what I'm doing, so I'm gonna I'm gonna try this.
Speaker 4: But the date was it was actually really lovely. It
Speaker 4: was it was three hours long on a on a Thursday,
Speaker 4: So I thought that everything was like really good signs.
Speaker 4: But he he asked me out to you know, Stay restaurant.
Speaker 4: I was so good.
Speaker 7: It was so good.
Speaker 4: It was like fancy, so we like the dressed up
Speaker 4: and we made it real cute and he was a
Speaker 4: total gentleman, Like as soon as I got out of
Speaker 4: my car, he was like there, he opened doors for me.
Speaker 4: It was, it was, it was, It was perfect. And
Speaker 4: I'm actually surprised by how much I liked him because
Speaker 4: because yeah, like I said, he's not in my normal type,
Speaker 4: Like I haven't felt this kind of potential in such
Speaker 4: a long time. Because he's paid in these kind I
Speaker 4: guess I'm just I'm just like scared that maybe he
Speaker 4: thinks I'm high maintenance or something.
Speaker 5: Is there a reason that he would think that?
Speaker 4: Well, liked when the steak came out, like I ordered
Speaker 4: rare because I know how to order steak obviously, and
Speaker 4: it came back it came back mediumware, and normally, like
Speaker 4: I wouldn't have made such a big deal about it,
Speaker 4: but like it's it's a fancy stake like restaurant.
Speaker 7: They should like know the.
Speaker 4: Difference between those things. So so I apologize, and you know,
Speaker 4: I explained how you know, stake is supposed to be rare,
Speaker 4: and I told I told youm that too, and he
Speaker 4: just he was again a gentleman, so he waited until
Speaker 4: my new steak came out, so I'm sure his must
Speaker 4: have been kind of cold by the time we ate,
Speaker 4: And I tried to tell him to you know, eat his,
Speaker 4: but he, you know insisted, But like, I don't know,
Speaker 4: I probably should have just eaten it. I kind of
Speaker 4: kind of feel dumb. I should have eaten it.
Speaker 7: Maybemrale.
Speaker 4: It's like it's not the end of the world. It's
Speaker 4: not like they some other didn't catch up or something,
Speaker 4: but like it's a good steak. It's it's how it
Speaker 4: should be eaten. And yeah, I don't know. I mean
Speaker 4: because he ordered his medium, but I wasn't judging, you know,
Speaker 4: like I really hope he wasn't. He didn't think I
Speaker 4: was judging, even though he did it wrong. But it's fine. Okay,
Speaker 4: how did you ask Bailey?
Speaker 1: I think maybe it's not high maintenance, like to you know,
Speaker 1: get your meal right. Everybody wants that, especially if you're
Speaker 1: spending a lot of money at a restaurant. But if
Speaker 1: you're just like, excuse me, Gasson, can you fix my stake?
Speaker 1: I could see that that was a problem. Or were
Speaker 1: you nice about it?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 4: No, no, I I think I'm always nice. Yeah, I
Speaker 4: just politely said this wasn't you know what I ordered?
Speaker 4: And I asked for a new one with a smile,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 5: Okay, So you weren't rude to the weight staff or anything.
Speaker 4: Oh no, absolutely not.
Speaker 6: Didn't tell the medium is just not the way to
Speaker 6: order it.
Speaker 4: Oh no, that was to Sean. That was to Sean.
Speaker 5: Any other things that you can think of that might
Speaker 5: be a reason he might not call.
Speaker 4: You back, honestly, No, I mean like the conversation stalled
Speaker 4: a few times, but I, you know, I just I
Speaker 4: can talk.
Speaker 3: So that was fine, Okay, pretty normal, especially on a
Speaker 3: first eight. Yeah, we'll see if we can figure it
Speaker 3: out for you. Play a song, come back, and then
Speaker 3: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's
Speaker 3: ghosting you and maybe get to another date.
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Yep, play song, come back, and get your first day
Speaker 2: follow up next. Right in the middle of your first
Speaker 2: day follow up if you're just joining us, Bailey is
Speaker 2: on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy
Speaker 2: named Sean. So we're about to call him and see
Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date. But before we do that, Bailey, why
Speaker 2: don't you catch us up on your situation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I met Sean on Hinge. We had a
Speaker 4: lovely three hour date. He told me he'd call me
Speaker 4: at the end, and I have not heard from him since.
Speaker 5: And you think it might be because of your steak.
Speaker 4: Yes, I think it might be because I ordered my
Speaker 4: steak prayer and I got back a medium riner and
Speaker 4: I just wanted a new one.
Speaker 5: But did you didn't freak about it?
Speaker 7: Though I did not.
Speaker 4: I did not freak out I was perfectly calm and collected.
Speaker 6: But you did mention that Sean ordered his medium and
Speaker 6: that wasn't right.
Speaker 7: That was true?
Speaker 5: All right? Man? Were you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 4: Please?
Speaker 5: Okay, here we go. Well him, I aspeaking to Sean.
Speaker 7: Please yeah, Sean?
Speaker 5: Hey man, how are you? My name is Jebel. I'm
Speaker 5: calling from a radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 6: Hi, Sean, I'm Nina.
Speaker 5: Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7: Hey. Yeah, what's up?
Speaker 5: Not much? Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 7: Yeah, a little bit. Actually, what what is it about? Though?
Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the
Speaker 2: First Aid follow Up where if you go out on
Speaker 2: a date with somebody and they end up ghosting them,
Speaker 2: that person can email us to get you on the
Speaker 2: phone and ask.
Speaker 5: Why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, so somebody emailed us about you.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I have a feeling. I know where this
Speaker 7: is going.
Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, who do you think it is?
Speaker 7: Is it Bailey?
Speaker 2: Yes, it is Bailey. You want to tell us why
Speaker 2: you're ghost and Bailey?
Speaker 7: Yeah, you know. Yeah, I'm gonna get I'll get into it.
Speaker 7: I'm a little disappointed. I had to ghost. See, like,
Speaker 7: in my mind, I thought that she was gonna be great.
Speaker 7: I thought the date was gonna be great. You know,
Speaker 7: we have like some mutual friends in common.
Speaker 8: But when we got there, she.
Speaker 7: She started nippicking and everything, and I thought it was
Speaker 7: a little cute at first, and then it got to
Speaker 7: be a little too much.
Speaker 6: You know, like, what was she what was she nitpicking
Speaker 6: a man like everything?
Speaker 7: But okay, so we sit down and the first thing
Speaker 7: she did was like refold the baskins, and you know,
Speaker 7: that's one of the things that I was like, oh,
Speaker 7: that's kind of cute. That's the skill and maybe like
Speaker 7: a little neuroto napkins ud just refolded the napkins.
Speaker 5: That is a skill.
Speaker 6: Though if they do him fancy.
Speaker 7: It's a skill. I get it. But it's also like,
Speaker 7: you're about to use that napkin. I was like, you're
Speaker 7: a little quirky. That's cool. I like quirkiness. And then
Speaker 7: it started to get a little weird because she kept
Speaker 7: asking the server to turn the piano off like down. First,
Speaker 7: it was like, hey, excuse me, the music's a little loud,
Speaker 7: can you turn down? And the server was like, it
Speaker 7: was a piano, it's a piano. It's not possible. Honestly,
Speaker 7: in my mind, it wasn't even that loud. But I
Speaker 7: was like whatever. And ten minutes later she asked the
Speaker 7: same question, like can you turn the piano down a little?
Speaker 7: And the same server and he looks at me like
Speaker 7: what's going on here? It was a joke and alter,
Speaker 7: it's the same thing. It's a piano. We can't turn
Speaker 7: it down. Sorry for your inconvenience. And then she told
Speaker 7: him about how she had when growing up and there
Speaker 7: was a way that they had to tune it so
Speaker 7: it wasn't loud, or maybe they should throw a blanket
Speaker 7: over it so noise won't come off.
Speaker 6: Oh like what, okay, so this is just really loud
Speaker 6: for her.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's also like, who done?
Speaker 1: I have never really had anybody ask the piano to
Speaker 1: be turned out before, but you know, I haven't heard
Speaker 1: that either. No, okay, so what are you doing while
Speaker 1: she's asking the server to throw a blanket over a piano.
Speaker 7: I'm really embarrassed at this point because, uh, and because
Speaker 7: it's a little weird, because I've never been in a
Speaker 7: situation like that. You know, we're in their establishment anyway,
Speaker 7: So I stepped in and like change the subject a
Speaker 7: little bit. And then I realized, maybe she doesn't like
Speaker 7: loud music. Like loud music, but this wasn't an ADM concert.
Speaker 7: It was a restaurant with a piano and it's on
Speaker 7: the other side of the building too, so it wasn't
Speaker 7: even close to us.
Speaker 6: Did she did she tell you that she was sensitive
Speaker 6: to noises?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 7: No, And she didn't seem bothered by it until just
Speaker 7: like a server came around and then she like flits
Speaker 7: the and it was a little weird. It's weird to me,
Speaker 7: but two nights, two nice girl, But you know that
Speaker 7: kind of intensity and nippicking this it's a little bit
Speaker 7: too much for me.
Speaker 2: So basically doughtyas high main that's your words. Now mind,
Speaker 2: all right, well, thank you for telling us, Sean. Now
Speaker 2: I'll let you know that Bailey is on the phone
Speaker 2: listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 7: Oh okay, I knew it was a really big red
Speaker 7: flag actually that he ordered his state medium, Like, no
Speaker 7: real men would do that.
Speaker 4: You think I'm too intense?
Speaker 7: Really?
Speaker 4: Is that what you're going with?
Speaker 7: Hey, you're you're particular, which is fine, you know, Like, yeah, well,
Speaker 7: I actually like men who like women who know what
Speaker 7: they want.
Speaker 4: So if you want some wishy washy chick, maybe you
Speaker 4: should date someone young twenties instead of someone who's established
Speaker 4: in thirty Wait what, well, is it clear I doesn't
Speaker 4: like a girl who knows what she wants? So you
Speaker 4: know you're not even really a tense like I gave
Speaker 4: you a chance. Dude, have you seen me.
Speaker 7: Ouch one coming after me like totally not cool in
Speaker 7: front of like a live live audience.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you just said that I was intense and
Speaker 4: nitpicky and high maintenance.
Speaker 7: You agreed, So you're getting so you're coming at me
Speaker 7: at my look because.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're also a rier because you said you'd call, Like,
Speaker 4: why don't you just say, hey, you know what, just
Speaker 4: like you said, I know what I want, I'm going
Speaker 4: to tell you what I want? Why do you lie
Speaker 4: to me? Like that's such a sad moves like it
Speaker 4: makes sense that you have a purse.
Speaker 7: Puppy instead of a real dog. Hey, you can talk
Speaker 7: whatever you want about me, but you can please don't
Speaker 7: go after midget my dog. That's totally not cool at
Speaker 7: that point.
Speaker 4: She's not a dog, she's a cat.
Speaker 7: No, she's literally a p dog is your weird particularity
Speaker 7: and preferences clearly don't match with me. I don't need
Speaker 7: to really defend myself if you're like making yourself look bad,
Speaker 7: And like, what kind of.
Speaker 8: Person a restaurant to turn down the piano we have
Speaker 8: a blanket? Really, what kind of people have blankets? Bring
Speaker 8: blankets to restaurants or have restaurants that have blankets, They're
Speaker 8: going to put it over their own piano?
Speaker 7: Like that doesn't make any kind of.
Speaker 4: Person thinks that other people's hearing sensitivity is their problem,
Speaker 4: Like that didn't affect you at all.
Speaker 7: Look like you can go to red my.
Speaker 4: Ears hurt makes you embarrassed? Like that's pathetic, dude.
Speaker 7: You can wear headphones and go eat at Chili's. Don't
Speaker 7: have to go to a Chili's.
Speaker 4: Is actually louder so No, thank you?
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, hey Sean, would you like another day with Bailey?
Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 7: Sure, Bailly, you want to go on again? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Sounds great.
Speaker 7: He's in.
Speaker 5: I feel like neither of you are serious.
Speaker 7: That's sarcastic, right, definitely sarcastic.
Speaker 5: Jubile's first day follow up