1 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Steph. 2 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: I never told you production of I Heart Radio. Hey Annie, Yes, 3 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: Happy Pride Month. Thank you to you as well. Samantha. 4 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: I've seen you so many times this month and I 5 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: don't think or talk to you so many times with month, 6 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: and I can't believe I haven't said that to you already. 7 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:36,560 Speaker 1: I could sense it, Okay, I can just always tell 8 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 1: I haven't said it either, So we're making amends right now. Um. Yeah, Yeah, 9 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: it is Pride Month as we record this and as 10 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 1: it comes out. But again we can't control when you're 11 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: listening to it. True, So if it is Pride month 12 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: when you listen, happy Pride month, and you know what, 13 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: Happy Pride month anyway, hugs, Happy Pride months everyone. Yes, Yes, 14 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 1: And because of that, I thought i'd do a brief 15 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: check in and update all my a sexuality with with 16 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:10,639 Speaker 1: some other news the items thrown in because yes, Also, 17 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:13,400 Speaker 1: as we record this, there are a lot of protests 18 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: in the United States and around the world around black 19 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 1: Lives Matter and police brutality, and as a part of that, 20 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: we have seen a lot of conversations around not leaving 21 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: the black l g B t Q plus community out 22 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: of that conversation, and specifically Black chance Lives Matter, um, 23 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 1: also Black Women's Lives Matter, which isn't necessarily l g 24 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: b t Q plus, but a part of this conversation. 25 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:45,759 Speaker 1: And we've seen the Stonewall riots come up a lot, 26 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: which was sort of the impetus for what is now 27 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 1: Pride Month um in association with or in in the 28 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: kind of similarities that the stone All riots had with 29 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: what is going on right now right and the Supreme 30 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,200 Speaker 1: Court just ruled that civil rights extends to the lgbt 31 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: Q plus community e a surprisingly by an overwhelming amount 32 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: of votes from the justices. I honestly, I was surprised 33 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: that it was six to three. And by the way, 34 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: Q Kavanaugh just to put that out there, because he 35 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 1: did exactly what we thought he would do, even though 36 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 1: he wouldn't admit it during his confirmation hearing. Um. And 37 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: there has also and we're not gonna get too much 38 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: into it, but then there's a big conversation about the 39 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: fact that the way that the opinion was read in 40 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: our argument for the civil rights extension actually left out 41 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 1: the bisexual community in its language, and there a lot 42 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 1: of the bisexual community were really upset even though this 43 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: was a victory, because there was a type of rature 44 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: that they've had to deal with, as we've talked about 45 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: previously for many, many years, and within the LGBTQ community 46 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: in itself. So it was really interesting to see what 47 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: that take and that probably something that we should revisit, 48 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: even though yes, it is still overall victory because we 49 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 1: know many states did not have any of these rulings 50 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: and were allowed to discriminate against that community and being 51 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: able to fire. But there's also that conversation of the 52 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: will state. When we heard this news, my entire body 53 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: and brain was like good news. Wait what Yeah? I 54 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: think the day before the decision, because there are several 55 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: decisions that were supposed to happen that day. Um, everybody 56 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: was just in a ball of anxiety and just assumed 57 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: and I think this is the one actually tweeted one 58 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: of the people that we follow, Oh, well, tomorrow is 59 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: gonna be a bad day. It's going to be the 60 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: worst thing. Might as well go to bed. Yeah yeah, No, 61 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: I I struggled to process it, to be honest. Uh 62 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 1: so yeah, there is that. Um. On a personal level, 63 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: I've been navigating what being a sexual and by romantic 64 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: means for me and what it means for my future, 65 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: because as I've discussed before, I have a lot of 66 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: trust issues, So it would take so so, so, so 67 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: so much for me to believe that I could be 68 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: in a relationship and a healthy relationship with someone who 69 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: was okay with not having sex and not like feeling 70 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: guilty about it myself. So there is that. And I 71 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 1: have been looking back on my life and all this 72 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: pressure that I felt to date and to be as 73 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:26,880 Speaker 1: into sex and having sex as my friends were and 74 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: just absolutely not feeling it and thinking something was wrong 75 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: with me or just needed more time or or whatever 76 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:35,159 Speaker 1: the reason, and how many things I've done that I 77 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:38,040 Speaker 1: didn't want to do because of it. And of course 78 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: all my history of sexual trauma and lack of trust 79 00:04:40,600 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: myself has complicated all of that too. And I still 80 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 1: feel a little uncomfortable saying I'm part of the community 81 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: since I can pass that straight. Um. I'm so so 82 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:53,839 Speaker 1: confident that I'm queer like above all else, but I 83 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 1: am hesitant to claim it, um, just because I haven't 84 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: faced any public discrimination. Um. And that's kind of that 85 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 1: conversation about Racher anyway, that even though you can identify 86 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:12,080 Speaker 1: as that that people do easily a race, that community 87 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 1: in general, and I actually I told you an acquaintance 88 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: of mine came out as a son. The first thing 89 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:18,039 Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, let me tell you about my 90 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 1: you knows like we did a podcast because my We 91 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: did an episode because my co host is as and 92 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: here's something to know. And it was really nice to 93 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: be able to like, hey, you're not alone, and I 94 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: love that you're coming out now, and here are some 95 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 1: more people within our community who can relate to you 96 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:35,719 Speaker 1: and you can relate to Yeah. That's probably been the 97 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: most rewarding thing about going through this on a podcast 98 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: is going through figuring out what I identify as um is. 99 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 1: People have reached out and said thank you so much. 100 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: You've encouraged me to talk to people about how I 101 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: identify or you've helped me figure out how I identify, 102 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 1: and that is so rewarding. So I'm glad to be 103 00:05:57,360 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 1: a part of that. It's really funny because I generally 104 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 1: don't get upset when people and I'm thinking in one 105 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: instance in particular, but when we could still hang out 106 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,440 Speaker 1: with people where I was hanging out with kind of 107 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: an older couple and they were discussing like past relationships 108 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: and how they had broken up with people who didn't 109 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 1: want to have sex because something was clearly wrong with 110 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: them and it was hurtful. But I'm able to navigate 111 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:30,159 Speaker 1: those situations kind of get away from them or or 112 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: have that conversation. It's fine. But because social media has 113 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:35,720 Speaker 1: become such a mind field, a couple of days ago, 114 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:38,279 Speaker 1: a sexual was turning on Twitter and I was like, nope, 115 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 1: getting off Twitter for all day. And I think it 116 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: was because SpongeBob so Nickelodeon announced he was like Happy 117 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:52,279 Speaker 1: Pride and he was part of the Pride LGBTQ plus community. 118 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,720 Speaker 1: Everyone was like, SpongeBob is guy or he's bisexual, and 119 00:06:55,760 --> 00:07:00,040 Speaker 1: then they found an old comment from the creator it 120 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 1: was now dead, but he said I always thought of 121 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: him as a sexual. I think that's why it was 122 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: uh yeah, I think like inviting him to the community, 123 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: as well as the fact that the cartoon character was 124 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: representing an l g b t Q I plus, you know, 125 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: there was the big point of that. But probably I 126 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: didn't make too much in that either other than oh yeah, 127 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: of course, of course, um yeah, And it's been funny 128 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 1: because I suppose that's a it's a really good distraction 129 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:34,080 Speaker 1: right now. But I've been writing my fan fiction and 130 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: thinking a lot about my past fictional crushes, and people 131 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 1: are like, but you have so many crushes. Yeah, I 132 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 1: can crush man crush. That's completely different. Yes, it is, 133 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 1: it is, um, And I did want to put in 134 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: here because I thought it was hilarious. I recently have 135 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: gotten not one, not too that's three, but four because 136 00:07:56,360 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: I just got another one from dudes saying I've been 137 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: avoiding them, and I thought that was very, very funny 138 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: because it's a pandemic. You're like, I don't know what 139 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: that means, but yes, I'm staying in the house and 140 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: avoiding most people but everyone. Actually it's not just to you, 141 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 1: but yes, yes, uh yeah, that was just a very 142 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: funny thing that happened. UM. And something else I wanted 143 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 1: to touch on because I thought it was really funny. Um. 144 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 1: That doesn't necessarily have to do with pride, but just 145 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: hilarious is the New York City Health Department sex guidelines 146 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,199 Speaker 1: have been updated. Now, we talked about these already, UM, 147 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: but they've expanded on it, and I just I've got 148 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: to share some of their tips. Okay, so number one, 149 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 1: this is a quote. These are quotes. You are your 150 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:56,600 Speaker 1: safest sex partner. Number two, and I think this is 151 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:00,439 Speaker 1: my favorite. Be creative with sexual positions and physical barriers 152 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: like walls. Oh lord, that just makes me think of 153 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: all the cleanup you're going to have to do. Yeah, 154 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: I mean we're cleaning up more in general. So you 155 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: just add that to the pile um masturbate together. Um. 156 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: Large gatherings are not advised. Limit the size of your 157 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 1: guest list. Keep it intimate, so keep your orgies small. 158 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: Is no longer orgies? Is it umber? So I love 159 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: that large gatherings are not advised avoid kissing. And they 160 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: do advise that you wear a mask during sex, so 161 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 1: you know you can get creative with that, I suppose. 162 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:45,319 Speaker 1: And they are offering free home delivery of condoms and lup. 163 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:49,199 Speaker 1: Well that's super nice. I'm still trying to figure out 164 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: the wear a mask thing. I guess that could be 165 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: a new form of you know, some people like in 166 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,680 Speaker 1: the b DSM community like a new form of kink 167 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 1: or is an insult to say that. I'm trying to 168 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: think of it, but I don't. I think it's you know, 169 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:07,000 Speaker 1: people some people like wear a mask, right right? Some 170 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:12,439 Speaker 1: people Yeah, Okay, I mean I guess there's so many 171 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: days going through my head right now that I'm like, huh, 172 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: what does that look like? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, anyway, so 173 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 1: yeah that I just wanted to touch on that again. Um, 174 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:31,440 Speaker 1: And we would love to hear from you listeners. How 175 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 1: has pride been for you? If you've been doing anything 176 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: special or not, We're just like hearing from you. You 177 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:39,440 Speaker 1: can email us at Stuff Media, Mom Stuff at i 178 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 1: heeart media dot com. 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