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Speaker 1: I'm just forcing my wife to miss a funeral because

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Speaker 1: I want a day off. I don't think it's too

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Speaker 1: much to ask. Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: You know? Sam? I think OP wants us to look

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Speaker 2: at the facts, right, OP can only have so many

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Speaker 2: days off when you're dead, you have unlimited days off.

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Speaker 1: Unlimited days off.

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Speaker 2: I mean, come on, like I'm talking PTO like.

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Speaker 1: Also, you know, the dead person isn't gonna miss anyone.

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Speaker 2: Hello, not going to miss any meetings, not going to

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Speaker 2: miss any fun outings.

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Speaker 1: Just reschedule the funeral.

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Speaker 2: It's so simplar, right, Just move, Just turn the funeral

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Speaker 2: and move.

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Speaker 1: It's so old, Just do that, Just do that, Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right. The edit at the beginning is a beautiful

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Speaker 1: start to the story. If you're going to comment saying

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Speaker 1: she's sleeping with her boss, move on out of context.

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Speaker 1: We don't know what that means. What we're about to

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Speaker 1: find out. We love so. My wife and I have

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Speaker 1: two children, a four year old and a six year old.

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Speaker 1: Our six year old is on the autism spectrum. Goes

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Speaker 1: without saying that this is a very stressful pass and

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Speaker 1: neither of us get very much a break from this.

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Speaker 1: My wife is a stay at home mom and I

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Speaker 1: have a full time job. Okay, got to lay the land.

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Speaker 1: It's set as happy as our children make us. I

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Speaker 1: don't think it's selfish for us to both desire breaks.

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Speaker 1: We get them every here or there. But we made

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Speaker 1: our birthdays and Mother's slash Father's Day. Of course we

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Speaker 1: get other breaks. I'm not locking my wife in the

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Speaker 1: house aside from those two days a year. I cannot believe.

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Speaker 1: I have to clarify this. These holidays and birthdays are

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Speaker 1: supposed to be guaranteed off. Other random weekends that one

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Speaker 1: just happen randomly, Okay, kicked out on those days. The

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Speaker 1: failed to give my wife the day off she deserves.

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Speaker 1: I'll schedule her a spa day or something she really

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Speaker 2: That's nice. I like that good setup.

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Speaker 1: Then when she gets back. Our kids give her cards

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Speaker 1: do for her. The last year, she really hasn't done anything.

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Speaker 2: Ooh, shots have been fired over here day wife feet dang, mama,

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Speaker 1: Oh. I typically try not to hold it against her,

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Speaker 1: as it is undoubtedly hard, but it does feel kind

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Speaker 1: of unfair. This Father's Day, I planned something for myself

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Speaker 1: I warned her a week in advance, and she said

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Speaker 2: Dad passed away. Wife's old boss's dad.

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Speaker 1: So not even her current boss or old boss. I

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Speaker 1: guess she's a stay at home mom, but yeah, her

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Speaker 2: Hey.

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Speaker 1: She was invited to the funeral by the boss and

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Speaker 1: she chose to attend the funeral, which was two hours

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Speaker 1: away your old boss's dad's funeral. I now understand the

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's uh, you'd have to be really close, dude, like.

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Speaker 1: Really really close. Yeah, okay. So as a result, I

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Speaker 1: The kids were already asleep, and my wife neglected to

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Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like she was hooking up with

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, there's so many things. I have so many questions.

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Speaker 2: I have so many questions. How close there isn't edit?

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, curiosity speaked. I want to hear what's going on.

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Speaker 1: My wife is not sleepy with her boss. Ah. Her

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Speaker 1: boss is a married gay man. We attended his wedding

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Speaker 1: The people jumping to the conclusion that my wife is

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Speaker 1: I'm asking for judgment. You don't know the inner workings

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Speaker 1: Fucking clap back. But what the fuck she's going to

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Speaker 1: a think that she doesn't even know she doesn't even

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Speaker 2: Is that the end of the story?

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Speaker 1: There, that's the end.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, I mean this low key yes, little. The

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Speaker 2: first thought is like, oh, is she like hooking up

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Speaker 1: I mean it's also it's also his special day like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and plus like I mean it sounds like he's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, It's like, bro, work, work is not a break.

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Speaker 1: Now, I will say we're a tea.

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Speaker 2: I will say, uh, our job versus you know, her

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Speaker 2: this is an you know, but not everyone's a podcaster

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Speaker 1: What do you mean? What do you mean?

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Speaker 2: I think like this guy deserves a break, That's what

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Speaker 2: I mean. Like work is your break. I'm like, work is.

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Speaker 1: Literally work, Like yeah, yeah, it's not as fun. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: all right, I want a day where I don't have

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Speaker 2: My boy, my boy deserves one day.

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Speaker 1: I agree. I think I think this this boss's dad's

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Speaker 1: I still think I still think they're hooking up.

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Speaker 2: Oh saucy conspiracy over here.

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Speaker 1: I still think it, Auntie, Well, what do you guys think?

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Speaker 1: I mean, put your answers to the comments we love

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It seems like a weird invite to even it's like

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Speaker 2: That's a very different situation. But I'm like, I have

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Speaker 1: Do you think he would invite you to his dad's funeral?

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Speaker 2: He probably wouldn't. And also also like his dad doesn't

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Speaker 2: I'm saying? Yah? Yeah, like not a boss, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Ever where she actually knew the yeah. If she was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: going to the funeral? Yeah, yeah, yeah, don't know the person.

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Speaker 1: You shouldn't be at the funeral.

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Speaker 2: No, why did he invite her?

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Speaker 1: That's fucking weird. That's so weird. Why did he invite her?

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Speaker 2: Like, you're literally going through all the people you know

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Speaker 2: and you're not You're like, you know what, like Claire

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Speaker 1: And then other people in the comments who are like

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Speaker 1: And then his editor he said, the funeral was real.

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Speaker 1: I dropped her off with some of her old coworkers

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Speaker 1: so they could carpool to the funeral. The funeral was real.

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Speaker 1: I saw multiple pictures of the service for mutual Facebook

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Speaker 2: She staged it. She literally hired stage everyone she has,

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Speaker 2: all of her coworker friends, and.

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Speaker 1: All the coworkers in the car was just the orgy crew.

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Speaker 2: It was a massive conspiracy. She's actually having an orgy

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like everyone all all the photos are staged from

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Speaker 1: the funeral, are all They're hired at Cadaver.

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Speaker 2: They're all.

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Speaker 1: They're all all hired poor an actors so they can

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Speaker 1: portray like they can play you know, sad funeral attendee

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Speaker 1: and play you know bone band number three amazing. Hey,

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Speaker 2: Rained talk about it? Right? Wow?

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Speaker 1: Just because you have a biological connection with this dad.

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Speaker 2: There you go, that's what it is. After revealing she

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Speaker 2: Not only do you find your your your wife was

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Speaker 1: Over here, that guy I know his ex wife did it.

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Speaker 2: Hey goo. I tried numerous times to connect with him

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Speaker 2: He also changes major from econ to computer science and

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Speaker 2: You can pray that's and I've got I that's that

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Speaker 2: I told him numerous times, and he never changed. He

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Speaker 2: No, I agree, I agree. He hung up on me,

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Speaker 1: Please tell me there's an update.

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Speaker 2: There's Yes, there's there's some edits, there's some additional info

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Speaker 1: But oh my god, I think this kid is just

440
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Speaker 1: going through like he's just he's just figuring himself out. Yeah,

441
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:32,479
Speaker 1: he's very confused, so is ope.

442
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

443
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, like you raise this kid, he's always

444
00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:38,639
Speaker 1: going to be your kid. I agree, he's always, you know,

445
00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:42,400
Speaker 1: irregardless of the biology, he's always going to be your kid.

446
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:45,199
Speaker 1: I think you can say, hey, that really hurts, you know,

447
00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 1: but I'm still going to be your dad.

448
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

449
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Speaker 1: I think that's like all you can say. You can

450
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Speaker 1: say like how you feel about it, but you know,

451
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:54,760
Speaker 1: regardless of what you do, I'm still going to be

452
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Speaker 1: your dad. And you know I I raised you, and

453
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Speaker 1: if you feel you have I want to talk, I'm here.

454
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I could, and I could see his frustration because

455
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 2: it sounds like he's done that repeatedly. But it's kind

456
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,320
Speaker 2: of like all you can sell, you can do, and

457
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Speaker 2: you just you kind of like.

458
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Speaker 1: The kid's you know, twenty two, he's young, he's yeah,

459
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Speaker 1: he's figuring himself out. He just had huge news that

460
00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 1: he's you know, it takes it takes a long time too.

461
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Speaker 2: That's such a huge life adjustment and like just kind

462
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Speaker 2: of wrapping your head around it. I feel like it

463
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Speaker 2: would take a lot of time, at least for me personally,

464
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Speaker 2: more than two years. A year definitely.

465
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Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's hear what this update is.

466
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Speaker 2: Let's get into it. Something to add. After I found

467
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Speaker 2: out about Chris, I took a couple of days and

468
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 2: didn't speak to my ex wife or Adam. They didn't

469
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Speaker 2: contact me. I didn't contact them. I just needed a break.

470
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Speaker 2: Edit too. A lot of you have been asking for

471
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Speaker 2: the deeper meaning behind this, and I think I finally

472
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Speaker 2: figured out why he's being so cold. A few months

473
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Speaker 2: before my wife told us the truth, we were in

474
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Speaker 2: a very long argument. His Grandma. My mother left a

475
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Speaker 2: big inheritance for him that I am fully in charge of,

476
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Speaker 2: enough to pay for college and have enough wiggle room

477
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Speaker 2: to not stress all the time about it. After a

478
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Speaker 2: semester of university, he started dating this girl and he

479
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 2: was head over heels in love with her. I never

480
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,199
Speaker 2: met the girl, so I have zero clue how she

481
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Speaker 2: felt about the relationship. Suddenly, after a few months of dating,

482
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Speaker 2: Adam asked me for about three grand to be deposited

483
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Speaker 2: into his account from the inheritance. I already paid for

484
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Speaker 2: the semester, so this was odd to me. I asked

485
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Speaker 2: Adam why he needed the money. He said his girlfriend

486
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Speaker 2: was having trouble paying for her tuition and had asked

487
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Speaker 2: my son to help.

488
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Speaker 1: Huh ooh, yeah, that is very sticky, that icy territory kid.

489
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Speaker 2: Yes, I told him no because it seemed to me

490
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Speaker 2: that she was treating him like a piggy bank. He

491
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Speaker 2: spent over one thousand on her in just under a

492
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Speaker 2: few months. He would constantly talk about how he loved

493
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 2: going shopping with her so he could buy her things.

494
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Speaker 2: To me, she was just after my son's inheritance, and

495
00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 2: I was right. What I said to him was basically this, Adam,

496
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Speaker 2: you haven't been dating this girl for very long at all,

497
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Speaker 2: and for me to give you that much money just

498
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Speaker 2: to spend on her after a few months doesn't sit

499
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Speaker 2: well with me. That's the money your grandma. They're left

500
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Speaker 2: for you for your college career, not hers. If you

501
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,199
Speaker 2: two were more serious, then I would think about it.

502
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Speaker 2: But I'm not giving you that much money just to

503
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Speaker 2: give your girlfriend, which is a completely reasonable thing to say. Yeah,

504
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Speaker 2: I think I think it's like, you know, if it's

505
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 2: a big inheritance, three K isn't a lot, but it's

506
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Speaker 2: more about the principle.

507
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Speaker 1: Yeah, well even I mean it sounds like you said,

508
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Speaker 1: it's only it's like it could pay for college and

509
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:25,919
Speaker 1: some wiggle rooms and some wiggle room, which is like

510
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 1: what maybe one hundred to two hundred.

511
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Speaker 2: Thousand, Yeah, probably in that right.

512
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Speaker 1: If you're doing USC which is like one of the

513
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Speaker 1: most expensive schools, maybe it's four hundred thousand, could be.

514
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Speaker 1: So I mean like three K is still like, you know, and.

515
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,919
Speaker 2: It's not nothing nothing, you know, and to give to

516
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,680
Speaker 2: a stranger. Yeah, because yeah, it sounds and it wasn't.

517
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:48,960
Speaker 2: It wasn't like I feel like if it was like Hey,

518
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Speaker 2: I'm getting my check for five hundred next month. Could

519
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: I borrow five hundred from you? That's a different scenario

520
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 2: than he's like, Hey, she needs three K for her tuition.

521
00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:58,520
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. Turns

522
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 2: out my guess was right, and she was after for

523
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 2: his money. They broke up shortly after and have had

524
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 2: an on again, off again relationship ever since. He was

525
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 2: upset with me, but he eventually got over it after

526
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,479
Speaker 2: a few months. Then we found out about my ex's affair.

527
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,639
Speaker 2: I don't know if that's the reason he's so cold.

528
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 2: That was a huge argument that went on for weeks

529
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 2: until she left him. Okay, So now I feel like

530
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,400
Speaker 2: we have as much of the story probably as we could.

531
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Speaker 1: Again, I guess, So what should the father do? What

532
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:26,639
Speaker 1: would father do?

533
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 2: That is the question?

534
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: I mean, I think we kind of don't. I don't

535
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:33,199
Speaker 1: think the new information has changed anything for me. I

536
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 1: think the opie was right not to give the kid

537
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:39,119
Speaker 1: three K just randomly. I think the kid changing his

538
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:42,400
Speaker 1: last name is like an active rebellion or an act

539
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,400
Speaker 1: of like trying to get close to his biological father. Yeah,

540
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 1: and I don't think ope, he should you know, stop

541
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 1: that either, because again that's only going to create more resentment.

542
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,479
Speaker 1: The best way to go forward again is like what

543
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,120
Speaker 1: we said, just like say, you're going to be there.

544
00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:58,159
Speaker 1: You're his dad, even though they're not biologically related, he

545
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,959
Speaker 1: raised them and you know, just be there for your

546
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 1: kid when he needs it.

547
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, So it sounds like this kid is trying to

548
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:09,160
Speaker 2: maybe impress the you know, the new dad. Yeah, and yeah,

549
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 2: I think I think both of them honestly need probably

550
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 2: a lot of time to wrap their heads around it,

551
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 2: I would say, and hopefully hopefully the sun comes back eventually.

552
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 1: Yeah. But you know what, we always come back to

553
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 1: what the commons.

554
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, we do.

555
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,879
Speaker 1: And speaking of paternity, we got Lotus Black five saying

556
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: I had something similar happy regarding maraternity about ten years ago.

557
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 1: I am Australian and my then boyfriend is German. We

558
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 1: met in Australia during university and asked me to move

559
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:37,159
Speaker 1: back to Germany with him. About a year later. He

560
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: lived with his family as their house was divided into

561
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 1: three self contained levels and we occupied one level, his

562
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 1: parents another, and his sister and her family the remaining level.

563
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 1: It was a bit of a tricky situation because the

564
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Speaker 1: first time we was meeting them, I was also moving

565
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 1: in with them, which is kind of crazy. A few

566
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: nights after we arrived in Germany, we're all sitting down

567
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:56,920
Speaker 1: to dinner, my boyfriend, his father, his mother, and his sister.

568
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 1: The two oldest siblings lived in other countries. My boyfriend

569
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 1: was the youngest of the four. Anyways, I can't remember

570
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: exactly how the conversation went, but my boyfriend had returned

571
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,400
Speaker 1: to her rooms after dinner, and I was in his parents' level,

572
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 1: still chatting with the family, and I noticed his sister

573
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 1: sometimes called their dad by his first name. I also

574
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: noticed that she had brown eyes, but the rest of

575
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,479
Speaker 1: the family had blue eyes, and it somehow came up

576
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: that she was not the biological daughter of my boyfriend's dad,

577
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 1: and I'd looked a little ignorant for not having known,

578
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: but having just put my foot in my mouth by

579
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 1: stating the color of her eyes. It turns out that

580
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 1: the oldest two were my boyfriend's father's children from a

581
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 1: previous marriage where he was widowed when the kids were

582
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:36,159
Speaker 1: extremely young, and the daughter came from the mother's side,

583
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:38,680
Speaker 1: and the father had little to know contact with her

584
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: from a very young age. There was a bit of

585
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 1: an age gap between the parents, but they'd met and

586
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:45,160
Speaker 1: gotten together when the three kids were still quite young,

587
00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:48,160
Speaker 1: and then had my boyfriend together quite a few years later.

588
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: I went down to my boyfriend's and my rooms and

589
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,400
Speaker 1: got upset with him for letting me walk blindly into

590
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: an awkward situation regarding his family dynamics, and I would

591
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 1: have been a bit more aware and sensitive to the

592
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: whole thing had I known that the the oldest three

593
00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 1: children were not his mother and fathers together. He looked

594
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,399
Speaker 1: at me blankly for a bit, and confusion turned a shock,

595
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: which morphed into disbelief. I just put my foot in

596
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,959
Speaker 1: my mouth twice in one night, hurt upstairs with the

597
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: family and then downstairs with the boyfriend. Although he was

598
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: a scientist, he wasn't in the field of biology, and

599
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,439
Speaker 1: he had never thought about his sister looking different. He

600
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: had no idea that his dad was widowed and his

601
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 1: oldest brother and sister were from that relationship, or that

602
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: the youngest of the sisters was only from his mother's side.

603
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 1: He was the only child his parents shared. Although my

604
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: boyfriend I broke up sometime after that due to completely

605
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,919
Speaker 1: unrelated issues, I still sometimes think about that moment.

606
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 2: Wow, my Goodness'd.

607
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 1: Imagine being a dinner realizing the whole family is from

608
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: like different marriages, and then your boyfriend not even realizing.

609
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 2: That too much. Too much.

610
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 1: Oh man, Well, we love your stories. If you have

611
00:27:56,000 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: any illegitimate children stories, please put them in the commons.

612
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 1: We love to hear it and we'll see it soon.

613
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: Thank you. Was the whole story in itself, right there.