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Speaker 1: Hey, we're back. Thanks for joining us on Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: Hey Kathy, how are you? I can't believe we're in

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Speaker 1: person again. We get to stare at each other and.

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Speaker 2: Really talk like I knowed just like real people, real

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Speaker 2: people are having a conversation. We just we need empty

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Speaker 2: coffee cups.

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Speaker 1: Oh gosh, that was so funny. Hey, you guys out

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Speaker 1: there listening to us like, we wanted to get that

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Speaker 1: in and we were afraid in the morning because we

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Speaker 1: were going out the night before that it would be bag.

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Speaker 2: So we did a video and yes, Bachelor Nation, you

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Speaker 2: are all so smart, very coffee cups. But to be fair,

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Speaker 2: the coffee was brewing and it was and it was

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Speaker 2: that's right. So we were doing our thing and Susan, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't know about you. But now that it's over

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Speaker 2: and show is engaged to chalk.

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Speaker 1: But do you know what I saw that the whole

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Speaker 1: entire cod I know people. Did you ensure you had

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Speaker 1: people come up to you all the time? Who is it?

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Speaker 2: Who? I said?

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Speaker 1: Did you watch the show? Figure it out?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I just I'm just thrilled. I'm thrilled

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Speaker 2: for her. It's it's you know, christ believe it's December.

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Speaker 2: What do you think they're doing for Christmas? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but I know I'm a little behind.

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Speaker 1: I'm a little behind Christmas shopping. It's overrated, totally overrated.

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Speaker 2: All right, what are we doing today?

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Speaker 1: Cat?

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Speaker 2: I know we're going to do a question of today,

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Speaker 2: some questions and you know the drill, right, But before Susan,

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Speaker 2: we're gonna do the question of the day, which I

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Speaker 2: don't even understand. So I'm going to read it and

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Speaker 2: maybe you can explain it all right for you? All right,

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Speaker 2: here we go. When you were younger, which in your

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Speaker 2: case was yesterday, what was the time that you were

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Speaker 2: faced with a really big uphill battle that you were

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Speaker 2: wary about overcoming and ultimately persevered. What vice do you

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Speaker 2: have for anyone stuck in a difficult time in their

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Speaker 2: lives an uphill battle?

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Speaker 1: I mean I thought one like I was fearful of

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Speaker 1: not making the cheerleading squad like.

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Speaker 2: That, did you persevere and say raw, raw team?

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Speaker 1: I used to compete in gymnastics, And did you really? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I say damn a lot?

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Speaker 2: You still? I know, guys, I feel like Susan and

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Speaker 2: I are really close friends. And then she pops out

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Speaker 2: with something. I'm like, Damn, I did not know that. Okay,

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Speaker 2: the only thing I can think of is, as many

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Speaker 2: people know, I used to weigh two hundred pounds.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe this is straight. Can I just say something?

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Speaker 2: Please?

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Speaker 1: Don't get mad?

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Speaker 2: Oh here it comes.

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Speaker 1: I mean seriously, she constantly says, I'm fat. Have you

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Speaker 1: seen Kathy? I think you have body dysmorphia? Moving right along.

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Speaker 2: With the question of the day.

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Speaker 1: So that an uphill battle. Well, I'll tell you why

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Speaker 2: Yes, I couldn't. Yeah, I just kept eating, gaining weight.

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Speaker 1: And what did you do?

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Speaker 2: Well, here's what happened. I went to this at my sister,

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Speaker 2: thank you. So I went to visit my sister, who

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Speaker 2: And there we went to this party and this guy

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Speaker 2: My sister said, what do you think of my sister?

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Speaker 2: What do you think of Kathy? And he said, she's

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Speaker 2: I went home. That's what did it. I went home

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Speaker 1: She walks ten miles a day still to this day.

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Speaker 2: It's all your fault, Jim, it's all if that was

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Speaker 2: his name, Jim, it's all your fault anyway. That's I mean,

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Speaker 2: And that's why I overcame that I put my mind

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Speaker 1: So my advice to stay eating because you don't have

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Speaker 2: I like food. I just don't like a lot of

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Speaker 2: food you don't like. I don't listen.

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Speaker 1: I don't eat to survive, right, That's why some people

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Speaker 2: Or live to live to eat, and some people eat

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Speaker 2: to live. Yes, I eat to live, that's right. Susan

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Speaker 2: Wait a minute, I want to just say advice that

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Speaker 2: because I remember when I was losing weight back in

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Speaker 1: Week, and you were depressed.

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Speaker 2: I was, but you goay no, once a week, I

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Speaker 2: got weighed and but here's the thing. I remember the

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Speaker 1: Did you go someplace like a weight watch? I didn't.

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Speaker 2: I did. I went again. I know people still I did.

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Speaker 2: my life. So people, one step. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So it is scary no matter what the situation is.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. I think you just have

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Speaker 2: to persevere, try your best. You're not going to succeeded everything.

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Speaker 1: I was at Jim Croche's barn. Okay, that's for those

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Speaker 1: of you you don't know. Jim Crochey was a fabulous singer,

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Speaker 1: And I kid you not, it was haunted. And Sharon

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Speaker 2: I swear to God. Another thing I don't know about you,

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Speaker 1: She was scared and she desision. Did you just see

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Speaker 1: I said, Sharon, we know it's haunted. They're nice. I

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Speaker 1: was never afraid. Isn't that crazy?

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Speaker 2: So you didn't have to. What the hell does that

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Speaker 1: Okay, so this slipped and was so humiliated. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm at States and you have a second to think

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you, if I could jump right back

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Speaker 1: on anybody that's going through this, just take a breath

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's you know, the only thing to fear is

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Speaker 2: fear itself. All those adages are true for a reason.

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Speaker 1: But I tell you it is scary sometimes I get it.

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Speaker 2: It is, And you know what, we're not always going

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Speaker 2: to succeed. We're not, So don't don't get that in

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Speaker 2: best you can do is try persevere. Sometimes you win,

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Speaker 1: See what after you read this, then you understood what

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Speaker 2: Had to read it three times, Thank you, Susan.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, we have some good questions today, Kathy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you go for it. Give me the first one.

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Speaker 2: The first one.

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Speaker 1: Then Michael asks, Hi, Kathy and Susan, I'm a big

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Speaker 1: fan of your podcast, and I really could use your advice.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting so sick of being in the middle of

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Speaker 1: really starting to get exhausting. How do you think I

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Speaker 1: part of this bigger friend group. I don't want to

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Speaker 1: Please help. So I wonder if he's saying that they

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing that each one comes to them and says,

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Speaker 1: He does this. I can't believe he did this.

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Speaker 2: Can I tell you? Like many of these questions, you

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Speaker 2: and I've lived long enough that I've been in this situation,

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Speaker 2: and you know what I did, Michael. I went to

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Speaker 2: you know, let's call it John and Susan. John, I

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Speaker 2: love you. We're friends. I've known you a long time,

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Speaker 2: I really don't want to hear. You have to communicate

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Speaker 1: For me, I would be in trouble because I don't

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Speaker 1: guess what I just said. He has the same problem

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Speaker 1: you're griping about right now. So you guys need to

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Speaker 1: go settle this on your own. I'm out of it.

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Speaker 2: going to give you a little tidbit about Susan. This

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Speaker 2: someone can tell Susan do not on your light.

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Speaker 1: Wait. Wait, Kathy, just last night she was about to

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Speaker 1: I'm sixty seven now, Okay, if you think it's going

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Speaker 2: good luck. Seriously, let us know how it goes. But

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Speaker 1: Real Michael, or even get them together and do it.

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Speaker 1: Say I love the both of you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I really do.

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Speaker 1: And I don't want to be the one that gives

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, you don't. That's that's that's where you

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Speaker 2: get into trouble. Set the boundary, Michael, Set the healthy boundary,

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Speaker 2: and you'll be amazed.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for asking our advice.

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Speaker 2: Okay, the next song, next song, I'm going to start singing.

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Speaker 2: heart in San Francisco. Okay, Sarah writes, Hi County and Susan,

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Speaker 2: I could really use your help right now. My best

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Speaker 2: friend Carly has been dating her boyfriend Jack for a

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Speaker 2: little over six months. I really really don't like him.

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Speaker 2: Carly has a history of dating men that are really

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Speaker 2: always end up getting back together the next day. What

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Speaker 2: It's uncomfortable. You have to communicate your thoughts. You have

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Speaker 1: But you know, the only times I think in my

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Speaker 2: But yeah, but Susan Waite, I know you really well

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Speaker 1: When it's always yeah, because you are very well entitled

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Speaker 2: Here we go with the love.

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Speaker 1: There's that thing that goes inside or you know what.

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Speaker 1: You can get your own room when it's time to

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Speaker 2: You know what I used to do, well, I used

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Speaker 2: No one's listening, Susan, just I would pretend I was

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think, I don't think you're going to

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Speaker 2: I should bring this up to him? Hey, Joe, I've

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Speaker 1: You don't even want to know what I do?

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Speaker 2: I have you would bring a dog home, ruppy, gorgeous

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Speaker 2: You know what he's going to say. He's going to

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Speaker 2: Listen, if you want to get one, my advice that

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Speaker 2: Of those little cocka poodle, doodle dandy whatever they're calling.

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Speaker 2: They're big though, but no, they make many golden beautiful.

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Speaker 2: You know what a golden doodle Gary from Oh Yes,

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Speaker 1: Oh goodness, good luck.

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Speaker 2: All right, Susan, We're gonna play a game.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, at please tell me it's not what I.

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Speaker 2: Think it is. An okay, ladies, and Susan threatens people

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, I'll start have dinner with your favorite

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Speaker 2: I just I can guess the linted dinner that meant food.

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Speaker 2: That's what I mean that that was a no brainer

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Speaker 2: What do you think I would rather? Do?

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Speaker 1: You like music? You would go with your musician too?

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Speaker 2: Or she is going to play a little private you know,

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Speaker 1: the you're going to have to if we go to Sicily,

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Speaker 1: because that's you're doing the food.

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Speaker 2: That's right, No, because if you listen, my whole thing

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Speaker 1: I remember at my house and you said teach me.

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Speaker 2: And I did, right, Yes, It's just it's just the

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Speaker 2: know you would, Okay, own a private art gallery or

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Speaker 1: Who wants a movie?

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Speaker 2: I'd rather go hike six miles.

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Speaker 1: I don't like either. Well, an art gallery is cool,

437
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Speaker 1: but then you're stressed because if it's not good and

438
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Speaker 1: you don't have great things.

439
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,680
Speaker 2: That if you're not selling the art work.

440
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Speaker 1: That's what I mean.

441
00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:31,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it could be tough. But on the other hand,

442
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Speaker 2: if you had to pick one, I would do the

443
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 2: art gallery me too. Yeah, and just think about all

444
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Speaker 2: those cool artists that would be showing. We get off

445
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 2: our house and dream who's an artist. He's not at

446
00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 2: the starving artists. And I was waiting for you to

447
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 2: say that, Yeah, let's forget the starving artist. Remember being in.

448
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,560
Speaker 1: Right by not tre Dom and that's where all the

449
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,679
Speaker 1: starving artists are out and they sketch you and stuff.

450
00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,920
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I'm like Ron.

451
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 2: Susan thought that she was going to me, you know,

452
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 2: some guy wearing a brat and a paint pers and

453
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Speaker 2: his teeth. All right, have a this is so easy.

454
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 2: I don't know. Okay, have a garden filled with every

455
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Speaker 2: flower you love, or a greenhouse with every plant you adore.

456
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Speaker 1: Here I go again.

457
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Speaker 2: I want both. I was waiting for it. So here

458
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Speaker 2: I'm going to give you a very logical answer. Yes,

459
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 2: every anyone who knows me, I love flowers. My husband

460
00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 2: used to bring me flowers every week. Now I buy

461
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Speaker 2: them for myself.

462
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Speaker 1: Often they're saying that, but here's flowers in the ground.

463
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Speaker 2: I know. But here's the thing, this is a practical answer.

464
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Speaker 2: I love flowers, but where I live they don't blow

465
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Speaker 2: me around, and I'm always so sad.

466
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Speaker 1: Well, there's certain kinds that will.

467
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Speaker 2: Not in Texas.

468
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 1: Only cactus.

469
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Speaker 2: Cactus, I know.

470
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Speaker 1: But Christmas cactus. I haven't you know what it used to.

471
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 1: I used to think it was every year around Christmas.

472
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:04,320
Speaker 2: And it does?

473
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: It does it twice a year?

474
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:06,360
Speaker 2: Mine does?

475
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 1: Mine does freak me out.

476
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:09,640
Speaker 2: That's because it's not sure.

477
00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 1: If you're it just goes to all the love I

478
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:17,080
Speaker 1: give it all right, moving right along. Have a wardrobe

479
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: filled with vintage designer pieces or brand new styles.

480
00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:30,920
Speaker 2: Cannon, yes, brand news styles and every season, all right.

481
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 2: Date someone who is always on time but a little boring,

482
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Speaker 2: or someone who's late but full of surprises. Oh oh,

483
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Speaker 2: I actually, what do you? I'm what do you not?

484
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 2: Marl Quandary, I don't know. I'm thinking what you would do?

485
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 2: What I think you would want the guy who's late

486
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Speaker 2: and full of surprise?

487
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:51,639
Speaker 1: Absolutely? Yeah, Like nobody's ever surprised me.

488
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 2: All right, how can we surprise?

489
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Speaker 1: You can't do it? Yes, I'm challenging, you know, I'm

490
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: my seventieth you're still going to be around. It's only

491
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: three years away.

492
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

493
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Speaker 1: I want something big and I want to be surprised. Okay,

494
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 1: I do that.

495
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:08,640
Speaker 2: I can give you a big balloon.

496
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:14,120
Speaker 1: God, she sucks takes a lot, go all right.

497
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 2: I would also like the guy who's late but full surprises.

498
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:20,880
Speaker 2: I mean, all of Jones guys. That we are now.

499
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Speaker 1: Boring is not in our vocabulary. I'm sorry. Even when

500
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Speaker 1: I'm sad, I'm not boring. That's too boring. I'm a torture.

501
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 2: Him, all right? Be an extra in a famous movie,

502
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 2: or be the best friend of a famous celebrity. Well,

503
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 2: i'm your friend, so famous famous celebrity. No, I would

504
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 2: much rather be the best friend of anyone, just if

505
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,360
Speaker 2: your best friends? How good is that? Right?

506
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Speaker 1: I agree? Rather learn to fly a plane or sail

507
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Speaker 1: a yacht. I know what I want?

508
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Speaker 2: What do you want?

509
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,160
Speaker 1: I want a fly plane?

510
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:03,439
Speaker 2: I want both?

511
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, there, you be a Susan being a Susan. I

512
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: would like to be on the yacht, but I don't

513
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 1: need to drive it. I would like to get the

514
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Speaker 1: captain to do that.

515
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 2: And can I tell you a fun little story? I

516
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 2: should probably stick to find the plane because when I

517
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 2: was in high school. I went to camp on Martha's

518
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 2: vineyard and I learned to sail. I was in ninth grade.

519
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 2: And if you know New England weather, it can change

520
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,360
Speaker 2: on a dime. And these were all sails. They were

521
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 2: called Menemshahs, which is an area I believe of Martha's juniard. Anyway,

522
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,679
Speaker 2: these were old boats and I took the director of

523
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 2: the camp out. I don't know why they did did

524
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:46,680
Speaker 2: that with me. And there's coming about and driving well,

525
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: I jibed when I should have come about, and I sunk,

526
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:54,119
Speaker 2: I saw and the coast guard had to come and

527
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,639
Speaker 2: rescue us with the director of the camp. So I

528
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 2: think maybe I should stick to fly the plane airplanes.

529
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Speaker 1: Okay, have your dream beach.

530
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 2: One I did.

531
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 1: This is a good one, all right, go ahead.

532
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 2: Be able to speak every language fluently or play every

533
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 2: instrument beautifully?

534
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Speaker 1: I think god, I would like both, but if I

535
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Speaker 1: had to pick one, I would wish I could play instruments.

536
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 2: That's so funny because I would love to do both.

537
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 2: But I think i'd want to speak every language fluently

538
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 2: so that when I traveled I could really understand people.

539
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,639
Speaker 1: In their cultures. Like, Okay, have your dream beach house

540
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 1: or a fabulous penhouse.

541
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 2: Should we answer this together? Both? Yeah, but if you

542
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Speaker 2: had to pick.

543
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Speaker 1: One, we want to be exactly we had the nice

544
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Speaker 1: place in the city.

545
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 2: All of you out there who need house sitters for

546
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 2: your beachilds, Susan and I are available and we are neatness.

547
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 2: I promise, and Susan will leave you Chicken Picotta. The

548
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 2: refrigerator is our thank you gift? All right? Be with

549
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 2: someone who writes you I'm gonna cry, why are your tortures?

550
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 2: Be with someone who writes you heart felt letters or

551
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 2: surprises you with spontaneous adventures.

552
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 1: Both again, I.

553
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 2: Know if you have to pick one, I'm going on

554
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 2: the adventure. Yeah. I like that too, But I wait

555
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,880
Speaker 2: a minute, Susan, we both like spontane Here's the deal.

556
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 2: We're gonna go. We're gonna have the guys. We're gonna

557
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 2: go on a spontaneous adventure and one of the activities

558
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:33,439
Speaker 2: is going to be They're gonna write.

559
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 1: His heart to letters. Love.

560
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 2: We got it off.

561
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: Okay, let's hate someone who's great at fixing things around

562
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: the house, or someone who loves to take you out

563
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 1: and about. Again, why are they making me choose I.

564
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 2: Mean one is practical. I mean you want a guy

565
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 2: who can fix things, but with enough money, one, please

566
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 2: come fix my.

567
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: In here, because not all men after you're married or

568
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: in a relationship for a while, a lot of men

569
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,360
Speaker 1: don't like to go out a lot, with all due respect,

570
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: but I need somebody to fix things around the house.

571
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 2: So you're going with that?

572
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 1: Now, I like to go out to Now. Yeah, dad

573
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,199
Speaker 1: was a fixer, I know, but you didn't date your

574
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: dad and you can call and get something fix, Yes

575
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: you can, you can.

576
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 2: I'm going out and take me out and about. Okay,

577
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 2: that's what I'm doing. And you know what why we're

578
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 2: out and about. I'm gonna have a handyman at my

579
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 2: house fix and everything. I want a.

580
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 1: Lot of things in life, but I think, you know,

581
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: I could settle for some you know what I like,

582
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: so that I can go without. I don't know what

583
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 1: that is, though. What could I go without?

584
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 2: You?

585
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: What could you go with that.

586
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 2: I can go with? Honestly, I can go without just

587
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 2: about anything as long as I have my children, my

588
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 2: grandmother and my friends. Oh I'm talking relationships. What could

589
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 2: I do without an interlations?

590
00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: What could you not have to have something? That you want.

591
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 2: I'm turning around to a positive. If that guy loves

592
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 2: me and I love him, the rest wouldn't matter.

593
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: Really, it didn't matter if he takes you out and about.

594
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:13,720
Speaker 2: No, if I'm really happily in that relationship. I mean, yes,

595
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 2: what I like to go out, But can you put

596
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 2: go the other way? You got a guy who's cheating

597
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 2: on you or who doesn't love you. Anybody's taking out

598
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 2: a lot arm candy, arm care. Wouldn't you like to

599
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 2: be arm candy? That's fulling today?

600
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Speaker 1: You know what, though I am behind on Christmas shopping,

601
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: I'm just saying I'm usually the girl that's done by thanksgivings.

602
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,200
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, well you've missed, you miss it. You know

603
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 2: what I do at Christmas? I'd be interested with what

604
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 2: other people do? You ought to write and let us

605
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 2: know we both have children and grandchildren. I always put

606
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 2: some money in my grandchildren's college accounts, and then I

607
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 2: get them each a gift something. I ask my kids

608
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 2: what they want for the job, and then for my

609
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 2: children who are married, I ask them something that they

610
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: would like and I give them money for that. Like

611
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: like my daughter said, you wanted gutters for their house?

612
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 2: Was it my son? Yeah, doing that for my son,

613
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 2: for Kyle, for Kyle and his wife, I'm doing They

614
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 2: want a deck on the back of.

615
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 1: The ends would be like a vacation mom.

616
00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 2: Well, they want that too, But I just, you know what,

617
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 2: it makes it easier for me because we all have

618
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 2: way too much stuff.

619
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Speaker 1: That I like, I kill the gift. Do you so

620
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: many for the little one?

621
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 2: Do you start giving? This is true. I like, I

622
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: just gave my daughter because my son did Thanksgiving and

623
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Speaker 2: so they alternated on the holidays. I gave my daughter

624
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 2: my Christmas china because that they've sort of taken over

625
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 2: those things. Don't you find as you get older.

626
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: You don't want to use this because I have Nana's china. Okay,

627
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: every holiday's the only time I use it. My sisters

628
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: are boycotting because I get like twenty five people we're

629
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 1: bringing paper plates. I go, that is so impersonal. No,

630
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: I don't want one year I gave in It is easier,

631
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: it is, but I like using that today. Use china.

632
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 2: I use. I have crystal that my husband and I

633
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: collected over the years, which I've also given to my kids, and.

634
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 1: We only use it once or twe what I mean Thanksgiving, Christmas.

635
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 2: It's like traditions, all right. Well, anyway, we've you know,

636
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 2: it's December, it's crazy busy. I hope that you've enjoyed

637
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:27,640
Speaker 2: this time away.

638
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 1: You have and you're behind.

639
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 2: Come tell us how sympathize, tell us how you get

640
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 2: organized for the holidays. That's what we want to know.

641
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 1: Hey, Wen, do you decorate? Do you like your tree

642
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: up by Thanksgiving week? Or are you one of these?

643
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 2: When was Halloween? I remember me on my Golden Bachelo.

644
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with Christmas. I love I already have my light.

645
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 2: I had my lights on after Halloween. My Christmas light's

646
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 2: outside my neighbors.

647
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: Loved mail is a good time because the weather's so

648
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: warm too. And you know what, make sure to keep

649
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 1: sending us your questions because look at us, we're going

650
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 1: to talk about every single one of them. And if

651
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 1: you forget where to do it, you go to Bachelor

652
00:32:02,680 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: nation dot com slash Golden Hour because we love connecting

653
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 1: with you guys and listening to what's on your mind.

654
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 1: And you could take her leaveyards by Boce, but it's

655
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Speaker 1: just somebody else.

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Speaker 1: We'll see soon.