Speaker 1: The Nikki Glazer Podcast. Nikki here, I am hello everyone.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Nicki Glazer Podcast. How are you today?
Speaker 1: Oh it's Thursday. Man, this has felt like a long
Speaker 1: week of shows. I liked it, but I will say
Speaker 1: that it feels never ending. I don't know if anyone
Speaker 1: else feels that way after the holiday break. Oh, it's
Speaker 1: probably you know, you know, whenever you feel like a
Speaker 1: day is a different day, Like, doesn't this Tuesday feel
Speaker 1: like Friday? It's one of those things where everyone agrees
Speaker 1: with you. Do you ever notice that, Noah, Like whenever,
Speaker 1: whenever you feel like a day is a different day
Speaker 1: and you say it out loud, people agree. It's like
Speaker 1: we all have a common um circadian rhythms. Just I
Speaker 1: don't science words. Um, how are you this morning? Noah?
Speaker 1: This afternoon? Good? How are you this morning? You know
Speaker 1: it's definitely the afternoon and um, and we're starting late
Speaker 1: because I cannot stop sleeping. I can't stop sleeping. I'm
Speaker 1: kind of like weaning myself off of um uh, an antidepressant,
Speaker 1: because I just want to come again. I'm just like Nikki,
Speaker 1: so I'm we I'm responsibly weaning through a plan that
Speaker 1: my doctor has not approved, but that I googled. And
Speaker 1: I've done this before with like, literally I've been on
Speaker 1: every single antidepressant you could list since I was eighteen,
Speaker 1: And um, I always do this where I now I'm
Speaker 1: just skipping days, but I think maybe that's a trip
Speaker 1: and I think my pi rod is about to come,
Speaker 1: and um, I think that always sends me into this,
Speaker 1: like I just am filled with sand. My body just
Speaker 1: cannot get up, and I just want to keep going
Speaker 1: back to sleep. And you know that, I've been listening
Speaker 1: to that sleep podcast by Sam Harris and that other
Speaker 1: guy that studies sleep who talks like this and is
Speaker 1: a very hypnotizing sounding man, and he talks about sleep
Speaker 1: and he says, if you wake up in the morning
Speaker 1: and your alarm goes off and you still could go
Speaker 1: back to sleep, that means you're not getting enough sleep.
Speaker 1: And I was like, damn when he said that. I
Speaker 1: don't know why that bob. I keep sharing that factoid
Speaker 1: with literally anyone that will hear it, and um, like,
Speaker 1: and it's because I just think that obviously it seems like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's so obvious, but it's just so And then you
Speaker 1: overuse the word I gotta come up with a new word.
Speaker 1: It's ubiquitous for Americans to not to hit the alarm
Speaker 1: and go oh, you know, like that's that's the start
Speaker 1: of every rom com. It's like a sloppy hand on
Speaker 1: a alarm clock one right right. It like it's a
Speaker 1: beautiful morning and then a girl gets up and she's
Speaker 1: like single and sad until a man comes into her
Speaker 1: life and then everything works. Um so, but it I
Speaker 1: have no fear. A few people that just like wake
Speaker 1: up and they're like, m it's time. And if you do,
Speaker 1: you have good sleep hygiene. Do you feel that way
Speaker 1: about the alarm clock? Noah, I sleep. I feel like
Speaker 1: like I'm filled with sand two as you put it.
Speaker 1: I've been trying to go to bed at a decent
Speaker 1: time and I just keep I keep waking up after
Speaker 1: five hours and then I'm up and then I'm so
Speaker 1: tempted to go on my phone. Yes, and I'm not.
Speaker 1: So you know, it's supposed it's like the phone mimics daylight,
Speaker 1: so it's a bad idea to do it. But it
Speaker 1: also helps me, Like all the scrolling helps my eyes
Speaker 1: roll back, like roll to the back of my head. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and all the times that all the things you see
Speaker 1: that make your eyes roll right exactly, so it does help. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's true, but man, it's Um. I to get one
Speaker 1: of the sleep trackers, and I can't get to the
Speaker 1: end of this fucking podcast. It's like three and a
Speaker 1: half hours long, and so at the end of I
Speaker 1: just they are so smart that if I'm not paying
Speaker 1: attention fully focused, like meditating on my breath. It's almost
Speaker 1: like meditating. You know, if you are someone who meditates
Speaker 1: or has, you have to focus on your breath and
Speaker 1: only that and then when your mind wanders, you come
Speaker 1: back to the breath. Well, this is like the breath,
Speaker 1: but if you lose focus, you miss a chunk of information,
Speaker 1: so then you got to go back. So I just
Speaker 1: I've listened to the same thing over and over because
Speaker 1: I just have this obsession with getting all the information
Speaker 1: and they're too smart, so I can't get to the end.
Speaker 1: But they do talk about sleep treckers and which ones
Speaker 1: are the best one, and I'm going to get one
Speaker 1: because I want to start like knowing what's going on. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't have a Luigi on my lap today. Um
Speaker 1: he is at my parents house because I'm going to
Speaker 1: San Francisco and Portland's this weekend to shas in Portland
Speaker 1: one in San Francisco. Um, but I do have another
Speaker 1: pet that I just want to get really quickly to
Speaker 1: see because I couldn't find it this morning. I couldn't
Speaker 1: find him this morning, and then I saw him when
Speaker 1: I started podcasting. Hold on it once again? Okay, oh
Speaker 1: does my good boy? There's my room. He got tangled
Speaker 1: in some cords. It's so dumb, this room ba and
Speaker 1: it's like I'm hugging a vacuum. What is this joke?
Speaker 1: Does not pay off? And it really just got me
Speaker 1: so dirty. Goddamnit. Roomba fucking hate you. I'm gonna beat
Speaker 1: my roomba. Could you get in trouble for that? Um?
Speaker 1: Not yet. Yeah, someday the robots will be sentient and
Speaker 1: will remember which one which one of you? Why do
Speaker 1: you robots always talking like this when they become sentient
Speaker 1: and they decided to kill you? I don't know those
Speaker 1: same guys that sleep guy? Um, I yeah, I've been
Speaker 1: having terrible nightmares and just wanting to go back in
Speaker 1: to them. I'm just I'm a little bit of a
Speaker 1: slug and I was supposed to go do a raky
Speaker 1: session later on with my um friend slash voice coach,
Speaker 1: who does raiky, which is all you just lay on
Speaker 1: a fucking bed and she makes sounds around you and
Speaker 1: doesn't touch you. It's fucking great when she just hits
Speaker 1: gongs and like does all these swirling pots and like
Speaker 1: these little crystal like you know, uh one of the
Speaker 1: wind chimes and ship It's so good. But um, I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to go to and I just canceled it because
Speaker 1: I I wanted to wake up early this morning and
Speaker 1: get so much done before the podcast, but I was.
Speaker 1: I couldn't even finished breakfast because I'm just so slow. Um,
Speaker 1: but I'm feeling good as I'm talking, and um, I
Speaker 1: watched I went to my parents house last night to
Speaker 1: watch the Beatles documentary. Have you seen it yet? No?
Speaker 1: Are you a Beatles fan? Um? I think they're okay.
Speaker 1: They're my dad's favorite band, so I like them for
Speaker 1: that reason. Same um, but not they're my dad's favorite band.
Speaker 1: But I do love um and they they send the
Speaker 1: same kind of chills through my body when I see
Speaker 1: them perform or see something new or hear something new
Speaker 1: that I get from like Taylor Swift Um, they're probably
Speaker 1: my first, first, first, first obsession, and I think it
Speaker 1: was a way to like connect with my dad. But
Speaker 1: I was also like really had a crush on them,
Speaker 1: and um, yeah, I just I love them a lot
Speaker 1: and I was excited about this documentary. Boy is it
Speaker 1: a lot of nothing if you ask me, And as
Speaker 1: a Beatles fan, I know that's probably sacrilege, sacrilege with
Speaker 1: to say, but it's so it's tedious. Is anyone with
Speaker 1: me on this? Like I've only watched the first episode
Speaker 1: and we didn't even get through that because it's two
Speaker 1: hours and something long. But it's one of those things
Speaker 1: you can put on and talk through the whole thing
Speaker 1: because there's no plot, there's no um story you need
Speaker 1: to follow. It's just watching it's bird on the it's
Speaker 1: fly on the wall, watch band members talk. And it
Speaker 1: bugs me because I am very fine tuned to reality
Speaker 1: shows where they pipe in audio where there's not actually
Speaker 1: that being said in that scene, and that's what happened
Speaker 1: here because they had to and they tell you what happens,
Speaker 1: you know. They said they have a hundred and fifty
Speaker 1: hours of audio and like ninety hours of video, so
Speaker 1: they're using audio and putting it into video that where
Speaker 1: did you know this audio occurred somewhere on these premises
Speaker 1: in the same condition. So it's not like so insincere
Speaker 1: to do this because these we know that this happened.
Speaker 1: But it bugs me when someone is supposed like it's
Speaker 1: George talking and they show the back of his head
Speaker 1: and his head's not moving at all. When you talk,
Speaker 1: your head bobbles a little bit. And these I'll just
Speaker 1: I can sniff out when audio isn't matching the video immediately.
Speaker 1: I'm very like I can do it in movies and TV.
Speaker 1: I can do it in reality TV. It happens constantly.
Speaker 1: I'm just a uh cynical uh viewer of stuff, and
Speaker 1: so I just know when things are being faked. And
Speaker 1: there's so much of that in this documentary because they
Speaker 1: have to, and they tell you beforehand that is what
Speaker 1: they do. They try to recreate it as as like
Speaker 1: honestly as possible, but they are telling you like, there
Speaker 1: will be some places where audio and they say that
Speaker 1: they only use they only use still images over the
Speaker 1: audio that has no video. I called bus um, but
Speaker 1: it's just a bunch of guys. And Andrew was like,
Speaker 1: pay attention. You're gonna love how they just talk in shorthand,
Speaker 1: like they just have a secret language. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: it's sixties British. It's just it's sixties British. It's a
Speaker 1: different language because they use different words like grotty instead
Speaker 1: of like to mean something. I don't know they used there,
Speaker 1: because Andrew today was like, did you hear the secret language?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, Andrew, it's British. It's just some people
Speaker 1: with a British accent in the sixties. You know, if
Speaker 1: you're people talk in the sixth season, you know, with
Speaker 1: an American accent, you'd be like, oh, this is kind
Speaker 1: of weird because those different words. And you know, if
Speaker 1: someone hears someone say that's lit forty years from now,
Speaker 1: it's fifty years from now. Um, you'd go, oh, wow,
Speaker 1: they have a secret language. No, that's just what people said.
Speaker 1: So I I think that was what was going on.
Speaker 1: But boy was it a snooze fest. And my dad
Speaker 1: and mom were they had already seen that episode, so
Speaker 1: it was nice that I could just talk over and
Speaker 1: we can just hang out. But um, at one point,
Speaker 1: I was like, can we shut this pitch down and
Speaker 1: pull up Taylor sort on sn L because you guys
Speaker 1: haven't seen her yet on that, and so I made
Speaker 1: them watch ten minutes of Taylor Swift on sn L
Speaker 1: and I tried to film it on my Instagram because
Speaker 1: I thought my mom was going to say something funny
Speaker 1: or you get, or just to be like she's so great,
Speaker 1: Like I just thought she'd get some commentary, but they
Speaker 1: just sat in silence the whole time. I don't know
Speaker 1: what that meant. And um, my mom just wanted to
Speaker 1: know what she wore for it when I was talking
Speaker 1: about it yesterday. But then also last night, I got
Speaker 1: home from watching um Get Back at my parents house,
Speaker 1: and Andrew had rented that Anthony Bourdaine movie and it's
Speaker 1: so good and heartbreaking and he's kind of an asshole
Speaker 1: and such a dark soul, like not a dark soul,
Speaker 1: but like so negative. Definitely was a heroin addict. He
Speaker 1: you know, he was a junkie. He recovered, he became
Speaker 1: a huge celebrity that became a chef, poured his addiction
Speaker 1: into that because he quit, he quit being a junkie.
Speaker 1: Cold Turkey didn't you know, find a program. He didn't
Speaker 1: go to rehab, he didn't have like a you can't
Speaker 1: just quit. There's a David Um, not David Show. David
Speaker 1: Cho's brother who's an artist in the movie, is also
Speaker 1: a junkie. And he says, you know, I always talked
Speaker 1: to Anthony and I said, how did you quit heroin
Speaker 1: Cold Turkey? No one I know has ever quit heroin
Speaker 1: Cold Turkey? And he had the soul story about I
Speaker 1: looked at myself in the mirror and I just didn't
Speaker 1: want to be that anymore. And I just saw a
Speaker 1: future for this man that's all well and good, but
Speaker 1: like you will put somewhere else unless you develop up
Speaker 1: like if, unless you have work around it and have
Speaker 1: like a support system, which he did not have. He
Speaker 1: was always the theme of his life was alone Um
Speaker 1: and this guy, this artist was like I remember believing
Speaker 1: him at the time, but now I realized he just
Speaker 1: put it into other things. And you could see all
Speaker 1: these chapters of his life where he got obsessed with
Speaker 1: certain women, He got obsessed with being a father, He
Speaker 1: got obsessed with jiu jitsu, like obsessed with jiu jitsu.
Speaker 1: His camera ops were like, I don't even know jiu jitsu,
Speaker 1: and I would I'd go Anthony, I don't want to
Speaker 1: hear about fucking jiu jitsu anymore. I've been I've never
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about jiu jitsu, and you've talked
Speaker 1: to me about jiu jitsu for a hundred and fifty hours.
Speaker 1: And his wife, his second wife, got him into it,
Speaker 1: and she goes, I I love ju jitsu, and she goes,
Speaker 1: And as as everyone knows, anyone who does jiu jitsu
Speaker 1: becomes at one point unbearable to be around. Unbearable. And
Speaker 1: it's why I don't get it. No, h Why is
Speaker 1: jiu jitsu this thing that everyone just gets addicted to it? Right? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really hard to explain unless you get into it.
Speaker 1: But you just become like punishing Lee obsessed, and all
Speaker 1: you want to do is talk about it, figure out
Speaker 1: your game, figure out the little technique that you can
Speaker 1: adjust to get better. It's just it sounds like it's
Speaker 1: very people with like addictive personalities. Are there a lot
Speaker 1: of heroin addicts or like you know, X cons type
Speaker 1: people in jiu jitsu? A lot of um you know,
Speaker 1: there's some sports that attract or things that attract um junkies,
Speaker 1: like being chefs. There are a lot of chefs that
Speaker 1: are junkies because it's just such a high pressure, fly
Speaker 1: by to the seat of your pants, make quick decisions
Speaker 1: kind of thing. He was trying to explain it, and
Speaker 1: like with how jiu jitsu or his wife was like,
Speaker 1: it just moves so fast and you have to make
Speaker 1: you have to win a lot of situations very quickly, um,
Speaker 1: and make decisions on the flow. Like it's almost like
Speaker 1: it was kind of like what he wasn't because he
Speaker 1: stopped being a chef once he became famous, gladly because
Speaker 1: he was like that world was you know, abusive and um,
Speaker 1: you know, backbreaking and soul crushing. But I think he
Speaker 1: missed that kind of running around. I really related to
Speaker 1: a lot of it, to be honest. They said he
Speaker 1: was always rushing everywhere there was. He was rushing into
Speaker 1: a situation, he was rushing out of it. Although there
Speaker 1: was one quote he had where he was like, um,
Speaker 1: there's you know, there's nothing worse than mediocrity, like mediocrity
Speaker 1: is the most disgusting thing you can be or something
Speaker 1: like that, and I was like, oh my god, that
Speaker 1: is That's my biggest fear is that because I know
Speaker 1: that there are times where I just don't have the
Speaker 1: energy to be as good as I can be. That's
Speaker 1: my thing is, like I have the potential to be
Speaker 1: as good as this person that I think is the best.
Speaker 1: You Like, I know that I could be. This is cocky.
Speaker 1: I if I applied myself and only worked at it,
Speaker 1: I could be as good as the best comedians out there,
Speaker 1: like or whatever I really could or the But you
Speaker 1: know I because I do believe it's all about practice
Speaker 1: and about like discipline, That's what talent is, and and
Speaker 1: there is something to having a kind of brain that
Speaker 1: is good for these things that I've chosen to do,
Speaker 1: But I just don't have the energy to do it.
Speaker 1: And so I feel like if you don't get to
Speaker 1: the top potential of what you're you're like, um, the
Speaker 1: highest level of how you could perform. Then your mediocre
Speaker 1: then you're like taking less. But the truth is that
Speaker 1: I don't want to get to the top. Sometimes when
Speaker 1: you reach that level, you sacrifice everything else. And I
Speaker 1: have to remember these people that I look at that
Speaker 1: I'm jealous of their lie or like their success or
Speaker 1: their um skill or their talent at there are actually
Speaker 1: in the end, maybe they are operating at a ten
Speaker 1: in terms of joke structure and joke formation for the
Speaker 1: jokes that they're doing. But because they're not living a
Speaker 1: life outside of that so that they can reach that ten,
Speaker 1: their material always stays on the surface level of never.
Speaker 1: They don't reach a different depth of materials. So, you know,
Speaker 1: Bob or you know something I'm I might only reach
Speaker 1: a level of seven for you know, accuracy and meticulousness
Speaker 1: and like having this joke carved out perfectly, where you
Speaker 1: know a joke smith or or someone like like I
Speaker 1: could look at it and go that joke is airtight,
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with it. They've squeezed every little piece
Speaker 1: of juice out of that topic. Those are the comedians
Speaker 1: I admire. But when I failed to do that, it's
Speaker 1: because I want to go take a nap, or because
Speaker 1: I want to go watch a show or hang out
Speaker 1: with a friend or fucking do nothing. And I think
Speaker 1: those moments, although my jokes maybe never will get past
Speaker 1: a seven, in terms of the ten that I could achieve,
Speaker 1: I will the subject matter and the things I talked about.
Speaker 1: I would rather have someone talk about stuff that matters
Speaker 1: to me and that connects with me on a soulful
Speaker 1: level and reach a seven, then things that don't and
Speaker 1: reach a ten. So that's what I have to remember.
Speaker 1: And that's just for me today to get through Uh
Speaker 1: any self doubt I have, but I did cancel my
Speaker 1: reiki session and I did. Um my my voice teacher
Speaker 1: is trans and um it was trans woman and uh
Speaker 1: I she recently asked me if I would teach her
Speaker 1: how to do her makeup. She's my age and transition
Speaker 1: like five years ago. And it's so like you would
Speaker 1: never know that she had transitioned. She just presents as, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, a woman to me. Um, and she asked
Speaker 1: me to teach her to do your makeup. We did
Speaker 1: it um one time. I'm and like it was so
Speaker 1: different than what she's used to that she was just
Speaker 1: like like kind of shocked because when you first put
Speaker 1: on like a lot of makeup, you're like what the fuck.
Speaker 1: But she did love it and she looked beautiful. So
Speaker 1: I went and got her all this. I was like,
Speaker 1: I need to get you like a kid of just
Speaker 1: the simple thing. So I have all this makeup I
Speaker 1: want to give her that I bought her and so
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna just have her come get that and
Speaker 1: I'll do another tutorial. But I gotta figure out my
Speaker 1: fucking day. Oh god, I got San Francisco tomorrow, early flight,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to see a movie and I'm going
Speaker 1: to see Ghostbusters. Let's get Andrew in here. What up?
Speaker 1: Happy Brenna's birthday? My baby Brenna's birthday? Is Brenda's birthday? Baby?
Speaker 1: I miss you. She's literally ten ft away. Um, how's
Speaker 1: it going? It's good. We just filed out the application.
Speaker 1: We're gonna be neighbors. Check. Yeah. Oh, I gotta send
Speaker 1: my lease for normal. I forgot to do that. You
Speaker 1: get kicked out of the building. That would be hilarious
Speaker 1: if I have to leave and you're still here and
Speaker 1: you take the apartment we really wanted. I wouldn't take
Speaker 1: that fucking small shiittle. That's our dream house, that's our dream. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how so I watched I finished the Bourdain. I don't
Speaker 1: know if why did you not watch it all? It
Speaker 1: is the one, it's really I think that's like an
Speaker 1: old document. I don't think that's the one that's not.
Speaker 1: They have it all up to his death in two thousand.
Speaker 1: Are you sure? I watched it last night and he
Speaker 1: dies in it, and he wasn't dead in two thousand thirteen,
Speaker 1: so that would have been very prophetic. It's the one
Speaker 1: where you want. You watched the beginning of it Andrew
Speaker 1: and they're talking about him. Community. Yes, I put it
Speaker 1: on to day and I could have sword said two.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, we've been watching an
Speaker 1: old documentary. Why did you guaits stop it right away?
Speaker 1: You just got bored? Yeah, okay, little birthday love making
Speaker 1: not on the cop um. I finished it. It was
Speaker 1: I mean, I was sobbing at them. It was so good.
Speaker 1: I can't wait for you to finish it. Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 1: I mean, I hope he doesn't die. Uh yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean's he's gone? Oh yeah, yeah, I'm sorry. I thought
Speaker 1: you knew. It was like speaking of things I haven't seen.
Speaker 1: I've never I'm going to see Ghostbusters to night. I
Speaker 1: didn't even know there was a new Ghostbusters. Who's in
Speaker 1: this wait like with all the women. No, there's a
Speaker 1: new Ghostbusters? Is that right? Or are they just bringing
Speaker 1: the old Ghostbusters back? No? I think I think there's
Speaker 1: a new one. I'm I'm looking it up right now.
Speaker 1: Why don't I know anything about movies? I don't know
Speaker 1: there's a new Spider Man coming out. I didn't know
Speaker 1: about that. I don't know that any of this ship.
Speaker 1: There's been eight thousands, but I always know when those
Speaker 1: things at least I don't see them, but I at
Speaker 1: least know they're coming out. Know it's like in the ether. Yes,
Speaker 1: I mean I don't think he was in this Ghostbusters? Okay,
Speaker 1: in that case, who else? And then old school Bill
Speaker 1: Murray Dan Ackroyd? What Okay? Yeah, because they're in the original, right,
Speaker 1: can I see Okay, Ernie Hudson's in the original? Can
Speaker 1: I see this Ghostbusters without having seen the original? I'll
Speaker 1: probably be the only one in the theater who hasn't
Speaker 1: seen the original. And I know that's a bad part
Speaker 1: of my personality, but I was just scared. As a kid.
Speaker 1: I didn't like ghosts. I did that slimer thing. Scared
Speaker 1: the funk out of meat. Yes, I knew enough that
Speaker 1: I like your dad a little bit. Okay, very blond
Speaker 1: hair and he doesn't have blond hair. Get back. I
Speaker 1: love about the get back thing. One thing I noticed,
Speaker 1: so John Lennon is late to one of their practices. Okay,
Speaker 1: he's they're like ring goes, like I'm always on time,
Speaker 1: and Paul was like Rango, a good old ringo, always
Speaker 1: on time, and John is at the time snorting Heroine
Speaker 1: at night. My dad said, my dad knows a lot
Speaker 1: of extra details the old man in the painting. No,
Speaker 1: he was because my dad also said last night he's
Speaker 1: like Julian Lennon said he watched this documentary and said,
Speaker 1: I did have a whole new appreciation for my dad.
Speaker 1: I go, you just said that he's he's snorting heroin, Dad,
Speaker 1: And he goes, well, he's only doing that night, And
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, he's I wouldn't want to watch my
Speaker 1: dad as an addict and feel closer to him. But
Speaker 1: maybe I don't know. So it's which way is it?
Speaker 1: Is Julian Lennon seeing a new side of his dad
Speaker 1: that he loves, or is John Lennon the heroin at it?
Speaker 1: Because you can't have it both ways. Well, maybe he
Speaker 1: saw Daddy at home and not Daddy at work, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I mean he saw Daddy at
Speaker 1: work kind of thinking about my life, Like you see
Speaker 1: Daddy at home. They're fighting at home, They're they're angry
Speaker 1: at home. You never you didn't see the process I
Speaker 1: didn't see daddy's saving cancer lives. To be honest, your
Speaker 1: dad was maybe kind of sucking at work. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: he was only only one he would do heroin, which
Speaker 1: is Tuesday Thursday. Great. My grandpa wasn't uh I surgeon
Speaker 1: my dad's dad, and he did some meth back in
Speaker 1: the day to get through surgeries. And also, um when
Speaker 1: these guys when it says in the beginning to get
Speaker 1: back that the Beatles would play in um the court
Speaker 1: when they were the Quarrymen, and they would play eight
Speaker 1: hours a night, did you see that. I haven't seen
Speaker 1: that part. Yes you have, because it's the very first
Speaker 1: open scene when you say you watch something, you don't
Speaker 1: watch it because you're on your phone. I just don't
Speaker 1: believe it anymore. There's no way you watch a surgeon
Speaker 1: on meth. It's pretty scary. You know. They all were
Speaker 1: back then. Em feta means they meth is pretty much
Speaker 1: like you know, a very extreme form of a d
Speaker 1: D meds. So they were just it would make them
Speaker 1: focused to be able to work do surgeries for hours
Speaker 1: and hours and hours. I mean they gave it to
Speaker 1: the Nazis, like the people get fucking worked on on
Speaker 1: meth before it starts to rob their face and their teeth.
Speaker 1: I got into a whole side right last night's window,
Speaker 1: like very like you could probably you could. Yeah. There's
Speaker 1: a subredit like where people talk are all math users
Speaker 1: and they talk about meth like it's like you know,
Speaker 1: we'd culture. They're just like, got a fucking new meth
Speaker 1: pipe today and they're all like smoking meth and talking
Speaker 1: about it, like what's the best way to smoke with beth?
Speaker 1: How what should you? I haven't slept for eight days?
Speaker 1: Is that too long? They're like keep going, man like.
Speaker 1: It's the supportive community of like Lucid Mathews and I
Speaker 1: use Lucid and quotes. But they they're writing like interesting things.
Speaker 1: They're all like they all they all go like, oh,
Speaker 1: I had a shift at my job. People are just
Speaker 1: doing meth. Don't do math, by the way, don't have
Speaker 1: he do math. No, we're not promoting, but people. Some
Speaker 1: girl was on there and was like, Hey, I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about doing meth for the first time, and they're all like,
Speaker 1: so start like this, and it's like what, she's nineteen
Speaker 1: and you're telling her to start. You start with this adder,
Speaker 1: you work your way up. Yeah, I mean, that's how
Speaker 1: but it's anyway, my my, my grandpa was a nice
Speaker 1: surgeon who was definitely on meth when he was working
Speaker 1: and um, and the Beatles used to do um. They
Speaker 1: were doing meth too when they were um or like
Speaker 1: a form of it. You know. It wasn't like the
Speaker 1: meth we know now, like hillbilly heroin, but they were
Speaker 1: doing meth when they Because it says the Quarrymen played eight.
Speaker 1: The Beatles were so good when they debuted and became,
Speaker 1: you know, in nineteen sixty three, and they became the
Speaker 1: biggest band in Britain and then they came over to
Speaker 1: the US. They were so good because they put in
Speaker 1: their ten thousand hours. They had been playing as a
Speaker 1: band since they were four, for like three years. They
Speaker 1: played eight hours a night for three like three or
Speaker 1: four five years. Eight hours a night, yes, and that
Speaker 1: little um, I forget the name of it. People are
Speaker 1: very drunk and loud, and so because the hours they
Speaker 1: put in. If you don't put in the hours, you're
Speaker 1: not good. And it's like that's what no one ever sees,
Speaker 1: is all the work that goes into being that good.
Speaker 1: We just go these young boys in Liverpool how did
Speaker 1: they get so good. It's like they sacrificed, not sacrificed.
Speaker 1: They loved playing and they did a lot of math
Speaker 1: to get it done. I just feel like when watching
Speaker 1: that doc, I didn't feel like they were like they
Speaker 1: were like good friends, but they were like Paul was
Speaker 1: constantly like saying, I'll just go off on my own.
Speaker 1: Then I'll go off like he said it like George,
Speaker 1: but Paul said it to more. I empathize with Paul
Speaker 1: because everyone else is just like, we can do it
Speaker 1: this all, we could do it this way. Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do It's like Paul's like, we got to make
Speaker 1: a decision and you guys need to stop playing for
Speaker 1: so we can realize what we're doing. For that scene
Speaker 1: was pretty like intense, wasn't it. Yes, I feel like
Speaker 1: a Paul a lot of times in which you get
Speaker 1: to you're the enemy because you're the one going, guys,
Speaker 1: we need to do this, and everyone goes, oh, taskmaster
Speaker 1: and he's like but at this time, Brian Epstein had
Speaker 1: died their manager, so that is a manager. They always
Speaker 1: had someone steering them and telling them collectively as a group, guys,
Speaker 1: you all have to do this and if don't do this,
Speaker 1: you're like, you know pretty much there their boss and
Speaker 1: this was a rudderless ship. I like it. I like
Speaker 1: when they talk about him, like he helped us so much.
Speaker 1: He told us to wear suits and we wore suits. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and that was like the whole example. But it worked.
Speaker 1: Like the blacks and white suits with the haircut, everyone
Speaker 1: the same. It worked. I mean that those Paul McCartney
Speaker 1: you could tell and John but like whatever, they're all
Speaker 1: brilliant in their own right. But Paul McCartney really stood
Speaker 1: out to me in like, granted it showed like he
Speaker 1: came up with those singles, but like he's on another
Speaker 1: level of just like of creativity and and I love
Speaker 1: how they were like we're going to simplify everything and
Speaker 1: then we then make it, yeah, which is interesting, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I supposed the other way. Well obviously with music,
Speaker 1: I guess you can't. Yeah, you have to. It's the
Speaker 1: same as like a joke, like okay, the bones of
Speaker 1: the joke are I you know, I start with like
Speaker 1: a one liner and then from there you can build
Speaker 1: to like a bigger concept, but like, okay, this thing's funny.
Speaker 1: Instead of instead of tackling when when comedians go, oh,
Speaker 1: I gotta write a bit, they see something that like
Speaker 1: me or you are doing and we've been doing this
Speaker 1: for fucking forever, and young comics are like, I gotta
Speaker 1: write a bit, like a four minute bit about shoelaces,
Speaker 1: and it's like, no, right, one joke about shoelaces and
Speaker 1: then go to the next topic, like don't don't make
Speaker 1: yourself crazy. Even like when I'm trying to write a song,
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm just like, it's too daunting to write a
Speaker 1: whole song. But it's like, write a bad song. Just
Speaker 1: write a bad, fucking simple song like Alligator Boy, and
Speaker 1: then Alligator Boy could become this like which blows up.
Speaker 1: Sometimes simple batter island boy. Sometimes simple is better. I
Speaker 1: saved a Reddit post of island boys guys getting fucking
Speaker 1: bo Yeah. I know you probably saw that in Miami. Yeah.
Speaker 1: By the way, everyone that goes to live in Miami's
Speaker 1: a fucking cheese dick. So I'm actually on the island
Speaker 1: boy side. I was totally on their side. Those poor
Speaker 1: guys bombing their faces off, which their face look they've
Speaker 1: already been bombed off because they're covered in tattoos. It
Speaker 1: looks like ash. Yeah. Um, I will say though, that
Speaker 1: the coolest part about the documentary that I've seen so far,
Speaker 1: and I've only watched I didn't even finish the first
Speaker 1: episode before I was like, let's turn this off and
Speaker 1: watch Taylor Swift. Um, oh god, last night was so
Speaker 1: funny at my parents but I um so, John Lennon's
Speaker 1: late to rehearsal and it's Ringo, George and Paul and
Speaker 1: they're all waiting and Paul is just playing a bass
Speaker 1: which obviously only has four strings, and he's playing it
Speaker 1: like a guitar and he's like fucking ground on it
Speaker 1: and there look, you know, at this point, there twelve
Speaker 1: days out for performing this like concert that's like the
Speaker 1: Beatles are back kind of thing. They have to they're
Speaker 1: doing this. The whole documentary is them writing within They
Speaker 1: have like twenty days to write songs and learned those
Speaker 1: songs then perform them live, which ends up being the
Speaker 1: Rooftop concert that was their last concert before they broke up. Um.
Speaker 1: John's running late this morning because he's probably like fucking
Speaker 1: hungover and he's always late, and they're all just kind
Speaker 1: of waiting around, and Paul picks up the base and
Speaker 1: just starts like like like just like fucking around, and
Speaker 1: they're all kind of like talking and schmoozing, drinking coffee,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, he starts like doing
Speaker 1: this riff, and out of that riff comes the number
Speaker 1: one single from that album, get Back. And if John
Speaker 1: would not have been late, we might not have get Back,
Speaker 1: which is so cool to think that, like if John
Speaker 1: would have been there, or they would have been thinking, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's get back to let's let's not get back, let's
Speaker 1: let's move forward with this song we were working on
Speaker 1: yesterday to move forward, Move forward. That the song was
Speaker 1: a man who thought it was a woman who thought
Speaker 1: he was So did he come up with the lyrics?
Speaker 1: Because I saw that clip it was like just amazing
Speaker 1: to see them creative like that and just like like
Speaker 1: free form. Do you think he came up with the
Speaker 1: lyrics also at the same time he came up with
Speaker 1: the riff. I have to watch it again. The lyrics
Speaker 1: are always so interesting because I don't know what songs
Speaker 1: ended up on this album versus songs they had already done.
Speaker 1: And sometimes during these rehearsals they will just play they
Speaker 1: will start singing their other songs that we know and love,
Speaker 1: and sometimes they're working out the rudiment. They'll they'll kind
Speaker 1: of transform songs that they we already know and like
Speaker 1: kind of like funk around with them and they make
Speaker 1: them sound different, just noodling around and you go, oh, wait,
Speaker 1: is that the beginning stages of that song? You know yesterday?
Speaker 1: You know? No, no, no, they're just playing yesterday to
Speaker 1: warm up. And then sometimes it's a song that ends
Speaker 1: up on this album that isn't created yet, so you
Speaker 1: don't know where I need to know, like which songs
Speaker 1: are being tracked out at that moment um. The lyrical
Speaker 1: process is insane because they're writing it all on paper.
Speaker 1: There's no phones. The number one thing you noticed about
Speaker 1: this No phones, no water bottles, fucking insane. When Yoga
Speaker 1: is looking down, she's reading a book, or she's writing
Speaker 1: on a notepad, or she just has to stare and
Speaker 1: watch them like. That's the wild thing about this is
Speaker 1: no phones and no water bottles. The water bottles thing
Speaker 1: you once you open your eyes to it and see
Speaker 1: no water bottles, you'll be like, whoa a water bottle?
Speaker 1: This world? I didn't even realize it. And their their
Speaker 1: color scheme in the background for a lot of this
Speaker 1: is the same as our background of this is the
Speaker 1: same two colors. It's so cool. I wonder was I
Speaker 1: gonna say ship? Sorry I forgot, but I think there's
Speaker 1: probably some joke about yesterday was written also because John
Speaker 1: was late that day too. You know it started as
Speaker 1: scrambled eggs. Do you know that those were the filler words?
Speaker 1: Because sometimes when are people are writing songs, they just
Speaker 1: put in, you know, like, yeah, scrambled eggs was the
Speaker 1: first thing. And also let it be was oh no,
Speaker 1: that was from Sesame Street. They did a cover of
Speaker 1: it like letter be letter be let it be let
Speaker 1: her be um um, yeah, I I I appreciate it, Doc,
Speaker 1: But you just love thinking of if John Lennon would
Speaker 1: have been on time, we wouldn't have getting But also
Speaker 1: if he would have been on time, what song could
Speaker 1: have happened that didn't happen? You know, it's vice versa.
Speaker 1: What about this would have do you think as a
Speaker 1: band because they put in so many hours up Tom
Speaker 1: made him great, but it also you get sick of
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a lot of time together. So with
Speaker 1: did the Beatles have lasted another few years? Because they
Speaker 1: wouldn't have been they wouldn't have been as good as
Speaker 1: they didn't get that time, and and they were young.
Speaker 1: And when you put in that kind of the thing
Speaker 1: is they got sick of each other because they all
Speaker 1: got egos, because they got famous, and they all got
Speaker 1: resentful of each other because you know, you saw it
Speaker 1: and kind of almost famous the front man they debut
Speaker 1: the T shirt and the guy in the front and
Speaker 1: all the guys are blurrying in the background. It's so funny.
Speaker 1: Um and yeah, I mean you could see George had
Speaker 1: a huge chip on her shoulder. At one point apparently
Speaker 1: during this apparently during this um daring this um documentary,
Speaker 1: George quits the band and just walks out. And you
Speaker 1: don't even know it. It's so subtle because George is like,
Speaker 1: so George has just monks sitting around, just taking up space.
Speaker 1: And John Lynn's like, who's that old man of that?
Speaker 1: It's like a twenty year old guy. That's just a monk.
Speaker 1: He's like, who's that old man over there? All right? Guys,
Speaker 1: Ring doesn't do ra love his eyebrow, by the way,
Speaker 1: very cool eyebrow. You know. There's something that we said
Speaker 1: about guys who don't get involved when two people are
Speaker 1: fighting and just like kind of stay back and say nothing.
Speaker 1: But it's also like pick a fucking side, and have
Speaker 1: I wanted so many times Ringo say something? It was
Speaker 1: incredible and Ringo's mouth is always open when he's drumming.
Speaker 1: I love Ringo, but do I I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: I did stock. I think it's impressive that he didn't
Speaker 1: say a word, you know what I mean. It's also
Speaker 1: funny that if someone leaves the band and because no
Speaker 1: one really talks to him or thinks of them, no
Speaker 1: one really reckon he like, I'm mad here, and it's
Speaker 1: like when you just sitting there, yog the balls on
Speaker 1: Yogo to just sit there like she's a Beatle. What
Speaker 1: about when he was screaming and someone told his sad story.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I haven't seen that clip. Yeah, we got
Speaker 1: to look that up, but I didn't see the part
Speaker 1: where let me just tell you. I recommend yeah, the
Speaker 1: Beatles documentary. If you're not a fan, i'd skip it.
Speaker 1: But if you are, if you're you're not a fan
Speaker 1: of Anthony Bourdain, still see Roadrunner. It is really great
Speaker 1: and very interesting about addiction and just um, a guy
Speaker 1: that was always going to die at some point. He
Speaker 1: just couldn't. And when you when they asked, like what
Speaker 1: did he die of pain? He just died. He couldn't
Speaker 1: take the word and he someone said in the documentary
Speaker 1: if he would have been in that hotel room where
Speaker 1: he killed himself, if someone else would have been in there,
Speaker 1: he would have murdered them. Someone was going to die.
Speaker 1: He just was alone, and so he killed himself because
Speaker 1: he was homicidal as well. I think it's probably that
Speaker 1: cobra heart ate, you know what I mean? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: couldn't even watch that scene, right, a cobra heart murder
Speaker 1: in everyone in this room. Cobra Heart sounds like a
Speaker 1: eighties single from a band Hear Me and My Cobra Heart.
Speaker 1: It actually first was written as Cobra Fark. Not many
Speaker 1: people know that. It's pretty crazy. Yeah, so what else
Speaker 1: is going on? It's Thursday, folks, You know what that
Speaker 1: means out there? It is Thursday. I hope you're having
Speaker 1: all the swells. Hope you have a great weekend. We're
Speaker 1: gonna be in San Francisco and Portland's two different cities
Speaker 1: over there, all right, Yeah, two shows in Portland. Did
Speaker 1: you know that. Yes, we have to have a tight schedule.
Speaker 1: I know, I heard it. I heard it already. I
Speaker 1: know the drill. I've been scolded already through text form.
Speaker 1: But we love him, yeah very much. Alright, cares about
Speaker 1: the show. And thank god someone does. Yeah, thank god
Speaker 1: we have one person. You're coming to the early show
Speaker 1: in Portland. It will be a tight show. You will
Speaker 1: get a full hour of my stand up, but the
Speaker 1: rest of the show will be and yeah, and there
Speaker 1: will be a hook just in case, the best sex position. Okay,
Speaker 1: listening for each zodiac sign, I'm out, I'm out. I
Speaker 1: was listening about I'm so sick of zodiac signs. I'm
Speaker 1: sorry everyone, I'm out on zodiac signs. But you know
Speaker 1: more about yourself. Just know that zodiac sign is just
Speaker 1: telling you things you already know about yourself. And you go, whoa,
Speaker 1: that is me. It's like what you already know you?
Speaker 1: So why is this impressive? Well, here's the thing. If
Speaker 1: you're reading your zodiac sign, you're saying that's me. Go down,
Speaker 1: read all of them, and they're they're all you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we should do a blind zodiac thing with someone who
Speaker 1: we should call someone who cares about the stuff so much.
Speaker 1: Read all of the charts and say which what is you?
Speaker 1: Which one with you? And you're gonna go umally, I
Speaker 1: know I resonate with Gemini, but I'm my my moon
Speaker 1: is Gemini rising in Jupiter. So that actually is actually
Speaker 1: because I would point out eleven forty six on a
Speaker 1: Tuesday and there was three clouds in the sky and
Speaker 1: my mom had on sandals. And I'm not that intelligent,
Speaker 1: but sometimes I let up people. There's so many intelligent
Speaker 1: people that believe in the stuff. No I was, I
Speaker 1: honestly do. I used to think people that I believed
Speaker 1: in the stuff weren't intelligent until so many of my
Speaker 1: intelligent friends believe in it, and so I just go, okay, alright,
Speaker 1: so Gemini me, you're a Gemini. Correct, Okay. You get
Speaker 1: bored quickly. So to keep things spicy in the love department,
Speaker 1: you use positions that involve some acrobatics and don't confine
Speaker 1: them to one space. Take the standing spoon for instance.
Speaker 1: If if anything, I do not get bored. I love
Speaker 1: exactly what I like and I want to just do
Speaker 1: that every time. So it's eating o. Man will get
Speaker 1: in your asking. Yeah, eating oat mal is so euphemism
Speaker 1: for getting my ass eaten, because that's the only thing
Speaker 1: that's coming out old meal, all back hamdrip. It's something. Okay,
Speaker 1: start out making love up against the wall, then moved
Speaker 1: to a table, the floor, a chair. Okay, Look, they
Speaker 1: didn't get my backbone because I'm always on my back
Speaker 1: and my spine will get hurt on tables. Whenever I
Speaker 1: fun on a floor, my spine always gets rugburn because
Speaker 1: it juts out like a stegasaurus. And I don't want that.
Speaker 1: I want to be on a bed. I want to
Speaker 1: be laying on my back. I want my legs around
Speaker 1: my head like I'm a baby getting changed. I want
Speaker 1: to be blindfolded, and I want things put in my holes.
Speaker 1: Oh that's in that. Oh I'm a sad you're a vegetaus.
Speaker 1: Okay wait wait, no, so my mom aries. Okay, so
Speaker 1: it's legs being on top. No, I like bottom. I
Speaker 1: like my legs around my head, a baby bottle in
Speaker 1: my mouth, and a blindfold on the back of my head.
Speaker 1: I just want to look like Rambow. No, no, I
Speaker 1: you know me. I I like bottom and I like
Speaker 1: the reverse cow girl where my legs are around the woman,
Speaker 1: so then she could get down very deep and not
Speaker 1: get too far up to get off her legs. Again,
Speaker 1: she's inside, she's sitting, yes, sitting facing that way. So
Speaker 1: do you help her, like bounce up and down with
Speaker 1: your hands? What is propelling her? What's propelling her? Just
Speaker 1: you you're lifting her. But I don't know what her
Speaker 1: feet are. I don't see. I'd have to ask her.
Speaker 1: Maybe she's just levitating. No, you can see if she's
Speaker 1: squatting or not, because she needs to propel herself in
Speaker 1: some way. If she's just laying like this, like with
Speaker 1: her legs straight out and bouncing, you can't get any
Speaker 1: leverage to bounce. It's a good question. Bretta went to
Speaker 1: get a pedicure. Wait, what month is? What? What? What?
Speaker 1: What is today's month? It's a December sex second Okay,
Speaker 1: so what would that be? Does anyone know? I don't know.
Speaker 1: But she's not even here to corroborate if she likes
Speaker 1: that position. She likes when someone other than Andrew has
Speaker 1: sex with her. She's she's actually a sadge. Oh she is?
Speaker 1: What is a sadge? Noah? Do we know? Okay? Um,
Speaker 1: they have an affinity for flexibility and adventure. Putting a
Speaker 1: twist on a common sex position is a way to go.
Speaker 1: Case in point, the corkscrew. In this position, the receiving
Speaker 1: partner lies on their side with legs bent, facing away
Speaker 1: from their partner, who stands at the edge of the
Speaker 1: bed and enters from behind. Actually, cork screw, that's that's
Speaker 1: pretty on. Maybe they are who doesn't like a corkscrew?
Speaker 1: Just lay there and being a ball like you're on
Speaker 1: a diver. It took me forty years to know I
Speaker 1: could stand up when I fuck. Wow, maybe I was
Speaker 1: on a bed, but you know what it was, I
Speaker 1: realized what it is. I never had a bed out
Speaker 1: on the floor, so I couldn't stand up. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's so insane. Whoa, whoa dude, and your bed is
Speaker 1: really low anyway, this one's high. You'll check it out
Speaker 1: of time. I'll believe because I had to put stuff
Speaker 1: under there for my studios. Dude, I've been just giving.
Speaker 1: The best thing ever is just to give. Like I
Speaker 1: recommend this to women so much. Let your guys just
Speaker 1: lay back and fucking relax and just give him my
Speaker 1: hand job with a bunch of oil and just talk,
Speaker 1: just talk. Like a slow hand job with like no
Speaker 1: no goal and just talk about life and just like
Speaker 1: talk to them and like get just do whatever you
Speaker 1: want while you're giving the massage. Maybe act like you're
Speaker 1: a masseuse and be like can I just like kiss it?
Speaker 1: And they go like want to like just do like
Speaker 1: a like I literally did that last night. That's great.
Speaker 1: It was funny. I like went in the bat, I
Speaker 1: knocked on, I go, you ready, like I went through
Speaker 1: the whole thing, and then I go and said, okay,
Speaker 1: if I touch you here And then she doesn't lou
Speaker 1: of buying her a massage for her birthday? What are
Speaker 1: you doing, ma'am? That I do? And then I kissed
Speaker 1: her vagina. I was like that, I think I went
Speaker 1: over the line. She's like yes, she did. Stain so good.
Speaker 1: But honestly, like it's just a great way to connect
Speaker 1: and like you don't have to do any like it's
Speaker 1: such and just use a ton of lube, like use
Speaker 1: massage oil and lube and it's like it just does
Speaker 1: it makes your life so easy. You don't want to
Speaker 1: like sucking spit all over it and like if you
Speaker 1: don't want to and if you just have dry mouth, like,
Speaker 1: you gotta use lube. I always used to roll my
Speaker 1: eye when these ladies, these sex positive women, like sex
Speaker 1: with Emily, would be like, lib is your best friend.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, shut up about lube. But it truly
Speaker 1: if I am so mad in my twenties that I
Speaker 1: didn't use lube, it's like, it is just the best
Speaker 1: thing you can add to sex. It doesn't mean you're
Speaker 1: an old menopausal woman. Just please get yourself some lube. Girls,
Speaker 1: I swear to God, it will change your life and
Speaker 1: guys will not judge you for it. They don't care. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's changed my sex life. It's way easier to fuck.
Speaker 1: Y um okay. A Florida woman who dialed the wrong
Speaker 1: number inadvertently spawned a friendship with a Rhode Island man
Speaker 1: has lasted more than twenty years. My god, So this
Speaker 1: woman glad Is, who's now eighty. God, we gotta bring
Speaker 1: back that name Glass. Yeah, it's a nice one. Kept
Speaker 1: dialing the wrong number. At first, it was just her saying, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, and she's really southern, very hospitable, polite. I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry child, and then she hangs up real quick,
Speaker 1: said Mike, who was on the other end one day,
Speaker 1: he sparked a conversation. I guess she kept calling the
Speaker 1: wrong number and learned that Gladys went through divorce and
Speaker 1: also lost her son during that time. I was roundhearted,
Speaker 1: and he felt my sympathy and everything and lifted me up. Cuty,
Speaker 1: he's a communicating very phone via the phone. The friends
Speaker 1: finally met the first time over Thanksgiving, just like this,
Speaker 1: Like that's adorable, you know it's like that one um
Speaker 1: that text, that text exchange from that guy and that woman.
Speaker 1: Do you ever see that? And they spend everythingsgiving together.
Speaker 1: It was just a yeah, they've been doing it forever
Speaker 1: and it was just a random number. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: like a random text mistake and it was like, oh,
Speaker 1: what are you going to bring to things? It was
Speaker 1: some kind of I don't know, it was a wrong
Speaker 1: number situation, but with text. And then now they always
Speaker 1: spend Thanksgiving together. Have you ever done a wrong number
Speaker 1: thing and gotten to know anyone or had some fun
Speaker 1: with a wrong number text? Or I had a guy
Speaker 1: calling me for a little while, and I just would
Speaker 1: never pick up a wrong number because it could have
Speaker 1: been a beautiful story. I know. Yeah, now, who picks
Speaker 1: up a wrong number. I mean the fact that this
Speaker 1: this happened twenty years ago, that makes sense. This would
Speaker 1: never happen because you see a wrong number and you go,
Speaker 1: what the fuck is this? Oh? Yes, yes, So I
Speaker 1: mean why she keep messing up? I don't understand. Would
Speaker 1: be like she had an older number and her like
Speaker 1: she mind, she was trying to reach her sister, whose
Speaker 1: area code was four zero one, but she dialed air
Speaker 1: code for one zero constantly, and she kept reaching that
Speaker 1: guy that's so cute. So it's a whole different you know.
Speaker 1: There's actually a story, a sports story that just came
Speaker 1: out yesterday. These kids started a basketball chat like with
Speaker 1: their group of friends, high school kids, and they got
Speaker 1: one number wrong and ended up being a football player
Speaker 1: who plays on the Bucks Bucks And so then they
Speaker 1: FaceTime that he would ended up in the FaceTime and
Speaker 1: they're like holy shit, and then Tom Brady ended up
Speaker 1: on their groc ended up on it all on this
Speaker 1: like that's hilarious. Yeah, it's um. I sometimes get people
Speaker 1: faking like there messaging me like they get my number,
Speaker 1: and then they pretend like they they have a they
Speaker 1: have a fake text that's like hey, I'll be at
Speaker 1: rehearsal later. I'm sorry, I'm running late. Um, it was
Speaker 1: just really I was writing a lot last night and
Speaker 1: I had to save a kid and on my way,
Speaker 1: they'll make them sounds sound like a huge hero, so
Speaker 1: that I go, it's a wrong number, but that sounds
Speaker 1: so cool and we should be friends, and they fucking no,
Speaker 1: it's me and they do this. This one guy used
Speaker 1: to do it all the time, and he kept kept
Speaker 1: writing and he would be like, wow, it's a wrong number.
Speaker 1: And I knew what he was doing, so I was
Speaker 1: trying to give him the idea that he was thinking
Speaker 1: it was working because I was like, wow, you sound
Speaker 1: like a really cool glor Like I said something like no,
Speaker 1: I just get in going a little bit. And he
Speaker 1: kept on saying these fucking lines about his life and
Speaker 1: how interesting he was, and he's like yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: like this is such a random thing, like we should
Speaker 1: keep in touch. What do you do? And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: it was such a These guys are such sociopath. It
Speaker 1: reminded me that Reddit girl that just like created a
Speaker 1: or the TikTok girl talking about all the lengths she
Speaker 1: went to to reach a guy speaking idea that it
Speaker 1: was just like the nicest guy ever, like this a
Speaker 1: li like you're like, fuck you, this guy was should
Speaker 1: have found him because I would have just liked to
Speaker 1: just you know, oh man, I'm I wanted to match
Speaker 1: with this guy on one of these dating apps when
Speaker 1: I was on those and was swiped right on him
Speaker 1: just because he was like, you know, Trump is number one,
Speaker 1: got over everything, and I swept right just so I could.
Speaker 1: I was gonna remember. I was going to write him
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, I present as a liberal, but
Speaker 1: like truly Trump is my god, and like let's meet
Speaker 1: up and just like watch him meet up with me
Speaker 1: and then fucking just watch him. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just want to see these people in real life, even
Speaker 1: though they walk amongst us. Yeah, it would be great,
Speaker 1: as if he's like so hot, like where your best
Speaker 1: Trump shirt? And I'll know it's you, kind of like
Speaker 1: you've got mail, which I made you watch the other
Speaker 1: night so fast forward, which was perfect. Yeah, I would
Speaker 1: make so great of the Trump guy was like like
Speaker 1: the handsome yeah, and you were just like you know what, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm in Taylor Swift. People don't understand that. Yeah, Oh
Speaker 1: my god, I don't know it's uh, yeah, you've got
Speaker 1: me on the other night. Yeah. I like the fast
Speaker 1: forward version. I think that, you know, hey, let's just
Speaker 1: here's the thing. Scenes you need to know, and I
Speaker 1: would go to the best scenes. I'm like, okay, so
Speaker 1: before this he knows, he knows it's her. She doesn't
Speaker 1: know it's him yet. Boom. What I really realized that
Speaker 1: which a lot of people bringing to my attention about
Speaker 1: my favorite movie, You've Got Mail, is that he's lying
Speaker 1: to her throughout the whole thing because he knows it's her.
Speaker 1: You know what, This lady looks a lot like Kathleen Kelly.
Speaker 1: What yeah, Kevin Kelly. She's a beautiful woman. Why are
Speaker 1: we talking about Kathleen Kelly. Well, if you don't like
Speaker 1: Kathleen Kelly, you're not gonna like this girl. Why? Because
Speaker 1: it is Kathleen Kelly? Was dashall. My favorite scene is
Speaker 1: him seeing that it's Kathleen Kelly before Tom Hanks does.
Speaker 1: And the thing is, once Tom Hanks realizes that the
Speaker 1: woman he's been talking to online is Kathleen and Kelly,
Speaker 1: he doesn't tell her that he's the guy and then
Speaker 1: goes on to befriend her, and then they become great friends.
Speaker 1: She kind of falls in love with him, but is
Speaker 1: still holding out a place in her heart for this
Speaker 1: guy she's talking to online, which he's still talking to her.
Speaker 1: He's a fucking liar the whole time. Yeah, he's the
Speaker 1: guy that's talking to you on your It's wild that
Speaker 1: he like we never get his reasoning for why he
Speaker 1: does that. It just doesn't come clean right away. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wonder why. Well, maybe you skipped the scene where
Speaker 1: around a little bit. I have some more scenes of
Speaker 1: that movie to show you. It's it is my favorite movie. Um,
Speaker 1: let's take a quick break and come back. And why
Speaker 1: do I care? Oh? Sports moment, Sports moment, Let's do it.
Speaker 1: Here's Andrew's weekly supports moment. Tiger Tigger Tiger would y'all
Speaker 1: says he will never play golf again full time, but
Speaker 1: the fifteen time major champ revealed Tuesday that he nearly
Speaker 1: lost a leg after the crash earlier this year. I'm
Speaker 1: lucky to be alive, but also to still have a
Speaker 1: limb to see some of my shots fall short of
Speaker 1: the sky a lodge shorter than they used to. It
Speaker 1: as a little eye opening. Yeah, but at least I'm
Speaker 1: able to play golf at all again. Dude, David Spade
Speaker 1: was the last person to golf with him. We talked
Speaker 1: to about it, yeah, because they were shooting some like
Speaker 1: um segment for some show. Well he was saying how
Speaker 1: tigers back it was like so fucked up like before
Speaker 1: the accident, and then we were kind of joking like, oh,
Speaker 1: the leg took away from the back pain Like, sorry
Speaker 1: to I'm sure that kind of mate, do something I
Speaker 1: don't know. That's why I would put a vibrator on
Speaker 1: my head when I would have a migraine, because it
Speaker 1: would create a new kind of pain. That was. It
Speaker 1: was just a it's a you know, you can take
Speaker 1: doll pains versus like there's like different kinds of pain.
Speaker 1: I love a doll pain, but a sharp pain I
Speaker 1: will I hate a sharp pain like a doll pain,
Speaker 1: So I'll make a dull pain over like supersede the
Speaker 1: sharp one. God pain sucks. I feel sad for him
Speaker 1: because I know he's in chronic pain. It's just crazy,
Speaker 1: like golf can make a body that injured and this
Speaker 1: is pretty accident. Let's talk about it. He also worked
Speaker 1: out like I mean, he was a Shane. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: was an animal because he wanted his dad was like
Speaker 1: a Green Beret, so he wanted to impress his father's
Speaker 1: old so he like went into green Beret training. He
Speaker 1: lifted like he was gonna, what's going on with your
Speaker 1: golf game? Are you playing yesterday? Damn wait, you went
Speaker 1: and played yesterday. I figured I figured out something I had.
Speaker 1: I had a lesson, And there's a lot of ego
Speaker 1: in golf. Ego will kill you in golf. It's a
Speaker 1: fucking great sport man, but ego will kill you be
Speaker 1: And the thing is with your driver to drivers swing
Speaker 1: is different than the iron swing, but you can if
Speaker 1: you choke down, you can swing almost like an iron
Speaker 1: with your driver, which you'll lose like fifteen yards. So
Speaker 1: there's your ego, but you'll gain consistency. But it's a
Speaker 1: because everyone guy wants to do. It's like what we're
Speaker 1: talking about yesterday, drop three hundred yards, work out the hardest,
Speaker 1: be the But you could be the best by just
Speaker 1: talking about at the top of the show, like sometimes
Speaker 1: I want to work. I could make a joke of
Speaker 1: mine if I wanted to work as hard as some
Speaker 1: of these comedians, if I wanted to reach my potential
Speaker 1: as a comedian and do like a ten for every
Speaker 1: joke and like dissect a joke and attend The amount
Speaker 1: of energy that would take me to do would make
Speaker 1: it so I didn't live a life that would fulfill
Speaker 1: me enough to write about things other than those things.
Speaker 1: So I might only reach a seven in terms of
Speaker 1: how good my jokes are, but the depth of which
Speaker 1: the things those jokes are about are going to be
Speaker 1: far more interesting and like consistent with what I want
Speaker 1: to do as an median. You gotta You can't have
Speaker 1: it all. Relationships. You can't have it all. The person
Speaker 1: cannot be like everything you want them to be. Your talent,
Speaker 1: you can't have it all. You have to make You
Speaker 1: have to choose what's important to you, and it's not
Speaker 1: always what's gonna be what's important to someone else. And
Speaker 1: I met a new friend. If you're like a guy
Speaker 1: out there and you're listening to the show and you
Speaker 1: play golf and you don't like, oh, I can't play alone,
Speaker 1: go play alone and team match up with someone. Look,
Speaker 1: it's a you can end up getting someone terrible, but
Speaker 1: most likely you're gonna get another. This kid was walking
Speaker 1: is in law school. I watch you, he's just and
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, just ride in the cart. Well,
Speaker 1: just you don't have to walk. We just rode in
Speaker 1: the car. We became like I got his number. At
Speaker 1: the end, we're gonna play again, Like he shot a forty,
Speaker 1: Like it showed competitiveness. And I don't know, It's just
Speaker 1: it's a beautiful thing that's like quick little friendships that
Speaker 1: you can get through, like a common hobby if you
Speaker 1: get outside. Your obsession with golf wavered slightly, though, because
Speaker 1: I feel like I don't see you on TikTok constantly.
Speaker 1: I don't you talking about it constantly as much? And
Speaker 1: is that a good thing? Or do you feel like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not as obsessed. I'm gonna That's an interesting question
Speaker 1: because I do feel like I was overdoing it, yes,
Speaker 1: to the point where I wasn't understanding uh, things I
Speaker 1: was learning because I was just doing instead of stopping
Speaker 1: and processing so much of sleep. In the sleep thing
Speaker 1: that I'm listening to is like if you if you'd
Speaker 1: like to sacrifice an hour of sleep so you can
Speaker 1: study more or practice your swing more. You're sleep is
Speaker 1: essential for taking the things that you learned during the
Speaker 1: day and downloading them. So it's almost like you know,
Speaker 1: when you upload a file, but then it doesn't transfer
Speaker 1: to like where you needed to go. So it's on
Speaker 1: your computer, but it hasn't transferred like that takes seven hours,
Speaker 1: where as opposed to like you know, when we ever
Speaker 1: we transfer the video files, it's like you get them
Speaker 1: on the computer, that's seven minutes, and then to transfer
Speaker 1: them to the thing, it's like a seven hours. And
Speaker 1: it's that's the difference between like going, oh, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm sacrificing sleep and rest and like just not doing
Speaker 1: something so it can download. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: us cognitively are like, but if I'm not doing I'm
Speaker 1: not learning. You need rest to actually have it and
Speaker 1: and more and that more isn't always And I know
Speaker 1: we're using golf in an example, and I know guitar whatever,
Speaker 1: I'm practicing a guitar thing, I will get it in
Speaker 1: my head so much and then I just stop and
Speaker 1: I'm like, now, just go meditate for twenty minutes because
Speaker 1: that's going to serve you better than just doing this
Speaker 1: again for twenty minutes and practicing with intention. So more
Speaker 1: isn't always more, if that makes sense, Like like less
Speaker 1: can be more if if you if you have intention,
Speaker 1: if you're hitting a ball and you're going, why am
Speaker 1: I hitting a ball like this? What am I learning
Speaker 1: from each individual shot? As opposed to allow they call
Speaker 1: him like, uh um, I forget like Mattress Warriors or
Speaker 1: matt Warriors where you just go and you just hit
Speaker 1: four balls and you get in a rhythm and it's meditative,
Speaker 1: but you don't download anything. Yeah, I don't know. It's
Speaker 1: sending guitar talks all about that of like just be
Speaker 1: mindful about what you're doing. It's very interesting, but it
Speaker 1: makes you feel lazy as someone who sees, you know,
Speaker 1: with success equals constantly working and never resting, and rest
Speaker 1: is such an essential element and and and you know
Speaker 1: meditation and slowing down as such as essential element to
Speaker 1: being the best that you can be. And it just seems, um,
Speaker 1: it seems counterintuitive a lot of times. And it's it's
Speaker 1: it's it's feel lazy. Yeah, there's definitely a threshold of
Speaker 1: like you're gonna if you want to learn that scale,
Speaker 1: you have to be obsessed. But then you get to
Speaker 1: a point where you start sucking and like that's but
Speaker 1: I did watch a video of myself from a year
Speaker 1: ago playing guitar, playing the same song that I can
Speaker 1: play obviously now, and it's insane how much better I am.
Speaker 1: And to me, this year was just a fucking wash.
Speaker 1: I've played a lot, but I haven't actually like practiced.
Speaker 1: I've just been like playing for fun. But it's just
Speaker 1: so nice to see how much progress there's been and
Speaker 1: how like it sounded like I thought I sounded good
Speaker 1: last year and it was such ship and this year
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, it sounds so much better.
Speaker 1: And now I'm like, oh my god, next year if
Speaker 1: I just do the same thing, which is just I
Speaker 1: had an enjoyable stress for a year playing guitar. It
Speaker 1: was only just something I love to do. Never made
Speaker 1: me feel bad. Um, I'm going to be that much
Speaker 1: better next year. And then like, do you want to
Speaker 1: learn how to pick and stuff or no? Lead, I
Speaker 1: just like I want to be able to just sing
Speaker 1: and I mean the rhythm wise, you're I mean it's
Speaker 1: on point, you know, yeah, but it's like now it's
Speaker 1: just making it sound good and being able to do
Speaker 1: little effects like hammering on and like just doing like
Speaker 1: you don't like a little bit of that would be fun,
Speaker 1: but I'm not into like pay doesn't your rhythm. Same
Speaker 1: with the golf swing, like if you're not, you can't
Speaker 1: fucking break it down in the forty five things you
Speaker 1: need like three simplify it, like like how you strum.
Speaker 1: You don't even want to really think about how you
Speaker 1: want to just think about maybe one thing, two things.
Speaker 1: So nice when it becomes but if you're like I
Speaker 1: gotta press hard with this finger, No, it starts that way,
Speaker 1: and then when you practice it enough, it becomes second
Speaker 1: nature because your body downloads it as like this is
Speaker 1: just what we do. It's like driving. When you first
Speaker 1: start driving, it's like, I mean you still drive like that,
Speaker 1: but like the left lane, and then it just becomes like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's just what I do Now, I don't have to
Speaker 1: think about it. It's just natural. You still remember that. Yes,
Speaker 1: you d like a person I you drive like humming.
Speaker 1: My mom doesn't. Oh yeah, TEXTI not at all, And
Speaker 1: there's a buzz on my side. Oh wake up San Francisco,
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ. All right, No, no, no, I like it. No,
Speaker 1: it just I felt it this morning. It hit me,
Speaker 1: It hit me in the amigdala Alright what's what we
Speaker 1: got for fantis. Our first letter came as a response
Speaker 1: to Love on the Spectrum from anonymous. Okay, one of
Speaker 1: the topics that has been brought up on the podcast
Speaker 1: is the Netflix show Love on the Spectrum. Throughout most
Speaker 1: of my childhood, pretty much until I got out of college,
Speaker 1: I was raised under the assumption I had severe Asperger syndrome.
Speaker 1: I'm not an expert or even really an active advocate
Speaker 1: in these fields, but I have a near lifetime of
Speaker 1: firsthand experience, and I think when it comes to things
Speaker 1: like neurotypicality, people should have should get as many different
Speaker 1: perspectives and viewpoints as possible. Hopefully you can take this
Speaker 1: email as not some be all and end all authority,
Speaker 1: but one voice, one chapter of a very complicated book,
Speaker 1: and none of it comes from a place of anger
Speaker 1: or negativity. Okay. Despite having lived nearly twenty four years
Speaker 1: under the blanket of having Asperger's, I haven't used that
Speaker 1: label or any autistic language to actively identify myself. Frankly,
Speaker 1: it's because of shows like The Good Doctor, Atypical, or
Speaker 1: even Love on the Spectrum, which perpetuate a stare of
Speaker 1: a type of my condition that makes me not want
Speaker 1: to identify with a label. Oh it's hard to describe
Speaker 1: without being a bummer. How damaging these tropes are. There's
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with positivity, but the way mainstream media exemplifies
Speaker 1: autism whitewashes so much of the uncomfortable trauma that comes
Speaker 1: with the experience. Time and time again, autistic behavior gets
Speaker 1: viewed as this childlike or special thing when it is
Speaker 1: a much messier and painful experience in reality. Okay, And
Speaker 1: I want to say that, like I had to condense
Speaker 1: this down and I went back and forth with the
Speaker 1: person who emailed this to us just because it's it's
Speaker 1: very thoughtful and and really important, and I'm sorry that
Speaker 1: it's right. Okay. Um, what the media is afraid to
Speaker 1: show is the hard truth. Being autistic means of the
Speaker 1: time you are difficult because you don't communicate or coordinate
Speaker 1: in an optimal way for most situations. And the messed
Speaker 1: up part is the main people who you relate to
Speaker 1: are also autistic, and they can be a big, big,
Speaker 1: paid in the ass. You could deal with people with
Speaker 1: toxic anger issues, people who have severe hygiene issues, who
Speaker 1: are super uncooperative or hurt your feelings. Every other sentence.
Speaker 1: People that can be your best friends because they really
Speaker 1: understand you. The experience of being diagnosed as a kid
Speaker 1: is very different from being diagnosed as an adult. I
Speaker 1: also want to clarify. I love my traits and quirks.
Speaker 1: I love my offbeat sensibilities, openness and bluntness. But I
Speaker 1: hate this label of autism, this label that says I
Speaker 1: can be adorable but I can't be challenging. I can
Speaker 1: be precious, but I can't be powerful. This isn't me
Speaker 1: saying love on the spectrum is bad. I hope you
Speaker 1: continue to watch and talk about it. I still haven't
Speaker 1: seen it. I don't want to see it. This is
Speaker 1: how deep the stigma has sunk in our community. However,
Speaker 1: I have seen some clips of Michael on YouTube. He
Speaker 1: seems like a genuinely cool guy. It's a very uncomfortable
Speaker 1: subject to unpack. Hopefully we can all understand why. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: that makes sense of um feeling like I think that
Speaker 1: what I gleaned from that is that the person feels
Speaker 1: that love on the spectrum paints it in this like
Speaker 1: fun light, like they're so adorable and they make everything
Speaker 1: great and we get to all kind of watch from
Speaker 1: the outside and be like they're just cute and quirky
Speaker 1: and all and all that kind of Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: also like Love on the Spectrum from from what I
Speaker 1: gleaned from it, because I read the whole thing is thus,
Speaker 1: the spectrum is very wide, and Love on the Spectrum
Speaker 1: shows you one small piece of the spectrum. And I
Speaker 1: think what this person is trying to, you know, get
Speaker 1: out there, is that the spectrum is very, very wide.
Speaker 1: I do recall, though, from the first season, I want
Speaker 1: to say that there was a guy that had much
Speaker 1: more severe a case of it than anyone else on
Speaker 1: the show. Do you remember him. It was an Asian boy. Okay,
Speaker 1: he was an Asian man with the father who was
Speaker 1: raised by a single father, and he was you know,
Speaker 1: very very different than the other people in the show
Speaker 1: that are more highly functioning. And it really did show
Speaker 1: the side from the like it showed. It showed more
Speaker 1: of like a case that of And then I think
Speaker 1: people you meet within Michael's world or like just watching
Speaker 1: them go out and interact with other people with autism,
Speaker 1: you see a further you see different sides of the
Speaker 1: spectrum that can be obviously really trying to families and
Speaker 1: um not just yeah, whitewashed in the sense of, oh,
Speaker 1: it's all fun and cute and there. Yeah, I guess
Speaker 1: it's I want to know more. Honestly, I want to
Speaker 1: know what this person which is we're different about them,
Speaker 1: Like if they love their quirks, what are some quirks
Speaker 1: that they have that they really struggle with and just
Speaker 1: wish we're not that way and that are like the
Speaker 1: parts that you wish that would be more represented in
Speaker 1: on these shows like good Good Doctor in any typical
Speaker 1: and love on the spect um, Yeah, because maybe because
Speaker 1: it just feels to them like it's too surface level.
Speaker 1: So like it's like I'm Jewish, right, So if the
Speaker 1: show was like, here's some Jews, and then it's like
Speaker 1: these are the Jews and this is what Jews do
Speaker 1: you know? Like and yeah I was thinking curb but no, no, no,
Speaker 1: but you know what I mean like, and then it's like, okay,
Speaker 1: well this is like, uh, the feeds into a stereotype
Speaker 1: and this is everything we need to really know and
Speaker 1: this is and it's fun to point out and whatever.
Speaker 1: And then you see a show like, um, I forget
Speaker 1: what the name of it was, but about the Hasidic
Speaker 1: girl that like was unbelievable. First of all, you have
Speaker 1: to see like it is one of those shows that
Speaker 1: I can't believe. I haven't convinced you see. But but
Speaker 1: then you see like a whole like dark side of
Speaker 1: Judaism and like this like and so maybe this person
Speaker 1: wants to see like something like more specific and more
Speaker 1: like and not just a doc You're I can figure
Speaker 1: out things because he's you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 1: so yeah, you just need we're seeing the like comforting
Speaker 1: side that makes us all feel like, oh everything's okay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: M like it. Thank you so much for writing into
Speaker 1: us and sharing that I love. I love notes that
Speaker 1: um and you know fan Trex that shares people's experience
Speaker 1: that we don't know, Like we all just want to
Speaker 1: empathize more with other experiences because we think we know,
Speaker 1: but you have no idea the real world, San Diego
Speaker 1: okayap okay, So let me play Becca from here, Becca, Hi, Andrew,
Speaker 1: Nikki and Noah. Um. First off, I love the pod
Speaker 1: um on days when my DJ is pretty s S.
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. And um uh yeah, I was
Speaker 1: just calling because when Nikki was talking about um pain
Speaker 1: and the fear of pain never ending. It really blew
Speaker 1: my mind. And Um, I have chronic pain. And when
Speaker 1: it was really really bad and I was undiagnosed for
Speaker 1: about a year, UM, and doctors kept telling me that
Speaker 1: I was fine and they couldn't find anything wrong with me. Um.
Speaker 1: I really think it was the fear of dying is
Speaker 1: what made it so unbearable. Whereas now that I know
Speaker 1: what it is and I know that it's um, you
Speaker 1: know there's things that I can do to feel better
Speaker 1: if it gets bad, and I know the cause and
Speaker 1: I know it's not going to kill me. Um, it's
Speaker 1: like I'm fine now. So that was just really interesting
Speaker 1: and I really like, yeah, that's it. Keep up the
Speaker 1: great work. Yeah, thank you Becca that I'm so sorry
Speaker 1: you go through chronic pain. My god, I just said it.
Speaker 1: I was like, I feel so I mean, my heart
Speaker 1: goes out to so many people in the world, but
Speaker 1: those that suffer with chronic pain. Is idea, You're so
Speaker 1: strong because whenever I have any kind of pain, I
Speaker 1: just I always think about you guys. Um. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: think the thing I shared in case people want to
Speaker 1: know what she's talking about, was that I was listening
Speaker 1: to a meditation the Waking Up app says working with Pain.
Speaker 1: There's there's a se meditation called working with Pain, and
Speaker 1: you can get the Waking Up app for free if
Speaker 1: you write in and tell them you can't afford it,
Speaker 1: or you can buy it yourself. But there's a meditation
Speaker 1: that I listened to and I have migraines, and it
Speaker 1: says that a lot of the anxiety around pain is
Speaker 1: that it's you've if you think about pain in the
Speaker 1: sense that you've already borne the pain of this moment,
Speaker 1: like you're already when you go I can't this is unbearable,
Speaker 1: you're actually bearing it. You just did it, like you're
Speaker 1: in the moment, it's happening now and you're getting through it.
Speaker 1: Um that so much of pain is anxiety about it
Speaker 1: not going away, and you're thinking about the future, which
Speaker 1: you cannot predict. You don't know. A lot of times,
Speaker 1: I guess you can if you have a diagnosis, but
Speaker 1: a lot of times you don't know if it's going
Speaker 1: to go away or not. And that's the fear of
Speaker 1: Oh my god, is why am I getting so many migrants?
Speaker 1: Am I going to have a fucking to have a tumor?
Speaker 1: In my head, all of that is really what the
Speaker 1: pain is. And if you can think about that, you've
Speaker 1: already the moment you have right now is all that
Speaker 1: you have, and that you've actually your experience, you've gotten
Speaker 1: through the pain already that you can get through. You
Speaker 1: could just stay in the moment. I don't know. It
Speaker 1: was something like that. I don't know, but yeah, I
Speaker 1: get that, and I think relating it to like death,
Speaker 1: like once you can figure out this isn't like I
Speaker 1: would have like horror, but we all die. That's where
Speaker 1: I get trapped up on like I'm gonna die. It's like,
Speaker 1: but you are, but you feel like you're it's expedited
Speaker 1: that you're gonna maybe die in two months. And you're
Speaker 1: also maybe thinking, if you're a hypochondract that this pain
Speaker 1: now is bad. But the closer I get to death
Speaker 1: two months in forty years. In terms of like you
Speaker 1: just want to get more stuff done, it's the it's
Speaker 1: the anxiety of like I didn't I didn't get enough.
Speaker 1: You want to see your nephews grow, your kids grow,
Speaker 1: or or you don't want to die. But I'm not devil.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be like I'm dub I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm just when I think of death, I'm like, if
Speaker 1: I go tomorrow versus when I'm ninety, it doesn't matter
Speaker 1: to me because I'm dead, but it manages to everyone
Speaker 1: around you. Yeah, but they'll be dead some day two
Speaker 1: and then that pain will be gone with me losing.
Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying, I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: minimize it. Doesn't want everyone to live as long as
Speaker 1: they can, and I want to live as long as
Speaker 1: I can. But when I don't fear death like I
Speaker 1: feel like most people do, and I wish some people
Speaker 1: could just get I wish I could like transfer the
Speaker 1: way I think of it to other people, because it's
Speaker 1: not because I'm like I figured it out. I just
Speaker 1: don't know why I don't fear death the way other
Speaker 1: people do. I get what you're saying to what she
Speaker 1: said though about she was afraid of death, So that
Speaker 1: has you know whatever, I think that you can change
Speaker 1: the way you look at it. And but my point
Speaker 1: though is that she has his pain right. She decided
Speaker 1: to go to the doctor. They finally figured it out,
Speaker 1: and then she could she learned that it's not death related,
Speaker 1: that it's not a death sentence, right, and because of that,
Speaker 1: so much of it was the anxiety of potentially being death,
Speaker 1: which yes, what you're saying, yes is true. But a
Speaker 1: lot of people are in her boat where it's like
Speaker 1: they still fear death like it's a whole another thing.
Speaker 1: But but then some people won't go to the doctor
Speaker 1: when there they got a pain in their neck and
Speaker 1: they think it could be a tumor, but instead they're like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to find out the truth. But the
Speaker 1: truth really is you just have you know, maybe like
Speaker 1: a pinched nerve, but it's not that bad, but you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. They think about brain aneurisms where
Speaker 1: like your brain just explodes and no one can see
Speaker 1: it coming and it just as a healthy person and
Speaker 1: you just fucking die. Yeah, And sometimes I'll go like
Speaker 1: or I'll be flying in a plane and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, we could hit another plane and it
Speaker 1: could be a second of peace, boom, and then everything's
Speaker 1: done like it happened in a second getting hit by
Speaker 1: a bus, And I get a little overwhelmed by that
Speaker 1: of like, oh my god, my life could be over
Speaker 1: right now if this building collapses, Like it wouldn't be
Speaker 1: a slow, like you've been diagnosed. Um, And I get
Speaker 1: a little anxiety over that. Like I used to get
Speaker 1: in planes and be like right now, right now, like
Speaker 1: what's your anxiety when you drive in a single car road? Um?
Speaker 1: That to control it and this person I know, But
Speaker 1: let's say they come in and they kill you. I'm
Speaker 1: afraid of dying there. No, I'm scared. I have anxiety
Speaker 1: over the fact that I'm not doing all I can
Speaker 1: right now to prevent it. When I'm in a plane,
Speaker 1: I let go of that anxiety because I don't have control.
Speaker 1: There's literally nothing I can do to get in the
Speaker 1: cockpit and go, hey, can you guys watch up for planes? No?
Speaker 1: I get that, but I'm saying no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: what I'm driving, I don't have anxiety, But what are
Speaker 1: you so only if you're riding, because I am aware
Speaker 1: that they could come in my lane and I'm ready
Speaker 1: to turn, and I have a plan. But when you're driving,
Speaker 1: I know you don't have a plan because you're not
Speaker 1: obsessed with it like I am. And I can't tell
Speaker 1: you you think you are more on point with driving
Speaker 1: than me. No, when on a two lane highway, because
Speaker 1: that's my number one fear like you would have a
Speaker 1: better plan to escape lizards than I would. But why
Speaker 1: is what is the I would what I'm saying, like,
Speaker 1: what is? But what is the You're saying you're not
Speaker 1: afraid of death? I'm I'm no, I'm I'm I wanna
Speaker 1: obviously obviously mitigate against dying in a really gruesome way
Speaker 1: where my body is crushed and I hear all the
Speaker 1: people around me screaming and I have to watch people
Speaker 1: around me die. That is, I'm really scared of big
Speaker 1: crashes and big sounds and just very quick like that,
Speaker 1: Like I would much rather die a slow, agonizing death
Speaker 1: than car crash. If I die in a car crash,
Speaker 1: just know that it was not the way I wanted
Speaker 1: to go, and I was very very sad about it,
Speaker 1: and it was I would probably die from this being
Speaker 1: scared of the sound I get really scared of. So
Speaker 1: I don't like air shows. That's why I don't like fireworks.
Speaker 1: I don't like I don't like balloons popping. I don't
Speaker 1: like guns. I don't like loud abrupt sounds. Um. So
Speaker 1: this so that same fear this person is the fear
Speaker 1: of dying in three months from now, Yes, I get that,
Speaker 1: but I'm just but I know that there's probably some
Speaker 1: out there that could help me get over my fear
Speaker 1: of this. And that's what I'm saying is maybe I
Speaker 1: could transfer however I look at it too, I could
Speaker 1: say some way that might because sometimes you say something
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden cracks open a part of
Speaker 1: your brain where you're like, oh, I'm free of that
Speaker 1: fear now. Um for turbulence. When I heard that pilots
Speaker 1: say that turbulence is like driving over a styrofoam cup
Speaker 1: on the highway. That's how much it gets in the
Speaker 1: that's how detrimental it would be to a flight, I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm no longer scared of turbulence. That just
Speaker 1: cracked it open. When Louis c Kay said that when
Speaker 1: you complain about the WiFi and your airplane and you
Speaker 1: go like, oh this bullshit, Well you're in a fucking airplane.
Speaker 1: This used to take months and a half of you
Speaker 1: would die by the time you got to the other side.
Speaker 1: Now you just take a ship and watch a movie.
Speaker 1: That cracked open something in my brain, so that now
Speaker 1: when the WiFi is down, I don't care. And I
Speaker 1: used to go would do WiFi. I don't care now.
Speaker 1: All it took was one sentence, and you could crack
Speaker 1: the code before you even worry about having to go
Speaker 1: to the doctor or the like. You could get there
Speaker 1: before crack the code for I'm not saying I could,
Speaker 1: but I would like to whatever is in my brain
Speaker 1: that doesn't make me worry about the thing that that
Speaker 1: girl and you worry about in terms of a sudden
Speaker 1: death through Uh, this cough I have or this tingling
Speaker 1: my throat is going to mean I'm dying. However, the
Speaker 1: way I look at it, it is not. It's not
Speaker 1: in my mind. I could somehow bestow that to you
Speaker 1: if I was able to figure out how I think
Speaker 1: of it in my head. That doesn't give I don't
Speaker 1: know how it is because it doesn't bother me. And
Speaker 1: if you can figure out how to process to lane
Speaker 1: highways the way you do and give that to me,
Speaker 1: I could crack that open. But we just don't know
Speaker 1: how yet. And that's why I think comedy is important,
Speaker 1: and like just for podcasts and stuff like this and
Speaker 1: books and actually just information. And I just feel like
Speaker 1: if you are that, if you are similar to me
Speaker 1: and like this girl, like and you have a pain,
Speaker 1: a random pain, a random cough, just don't avoid it, like,
Speaker 1: don't avoid the doctor, because that's when I have to
Speaker 1: pay my chest. You don't go to heart attack, No,
Speaker 1: I just go to heartburn. I go. Oh, it's one
Speaker 1: of those random like kind of oh. Or if I
Speaker 1: have like a sizzle in my brain or like a
Speaker 1: for me, I don't I don't go. I don't have
Speaker 1: those wondering why I don't go there because I am
Speaker 1: an anxious person. But there's something about like when I
Speaker 1: have not I had numbness all in my arm the
Speaker 1: other night at the hockey game out of nowhere. I
Speaker 1: wasn't sitting in it weird, I didn't have a tight
Speaker 1: shirt on. It just was numb. And I just was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: my arm is numb. That's probably just like a freak
Speaker 1: thing because I, you know, don't have enough potassium today
Speaker 1: or something like I wasn't. But I know that that's capable.
Speaker 1: It could. That's probably dumb of me to assume that
Speaker 1: my arm going numb randomly is a healthy thirty seven
Speaker 1: year old woman isn't an alarm going off. But at
Speaker 1: the same time, you haven't gone to and a lot
Speaker 1: of times anxiety. No I didn't have, but a lot
Speaker 1: of times anxiety about my arm numbing will turn into
Speaker 1: more arm numbing crack. So that's where we get caught up.
Speaker 1: Let's get one more left arm or the right arm,
Speaker 1: because the left like, then you go the left armed
Speaker 1: heart attack, the left arm and it heart attack. Final thought. Okay,
Speaker 1: so this very quick one. Ah, it's from Hannah, Hey, Andrew,
Speaker 1: Nikki and Noah. I just wanted to hop on here
Speaker 1: and tell you something that's been really funny. Um. I'm
Speaker 1: an elementary music teacher and right now I am teaching
Speaker 1: my fourth and fifth graders how to play you Are
Speaker 1: My Sunshine on the xylophone. So we have to, like,
Speaker 1: you know, sing it a lot just to make sure
Speaker 1: they know it and know the notes. So whenever we
Speaker 1: sing it, you know it goes you are my Sunshine,
Speaker 1: my only sunshine. But in my head all I can
Speaker 1: hear is Andrew saying only so I come so close
Speaker 1: to saying you are my sunshine, my only son shine.
Speaker 1: Oh my God gives me the gigs real good. It
Speaker 1: just gives me the gig. I hit the spot for
Speaker 1: you as well. Oh, your voice is so good. I
Speaker 1: feel like I love you all. Her talking voice is
Speaker 1: awesome and then her singing voice. Man to show off
Speaker 1: her voice, No, you think sometimes people do that, but
Speaker 1: it's like she just said, a naturally great voice. Yeah
Speaker 1: goos my only son shine, Oh my god. iMedia named Perez.
Speaker 1: Did you ever know him? I did know. He's from Florida. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like him a lot. He was so sweet. Used
Speaker 1: to work at us. That's right. Um, well you guys
Speaker 1: that I hope we all we have that song called
Speaker 1: in our heads all day today. You are my son, shine,
Speaker 1: my only son, Shine. You make me happy, daring clouds
Speaker 1: of gray. You'll never know tear what her the other
Speaker 1: words you do? How much I love you? Please don't
Speaker 1: take turbot and so with happy birthday, brand I love
Speaker 1: you baby, and don't be Cat and Jack. I think
Speaker 1: we'd be nimble. We haven't done, Ripper. I feel like
Speaker 1: you're googling tonight. I'm not