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Speaker 1: First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Abbie is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Mark.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him see

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Speaker 2: ifield tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Abby, how long has the

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Speaker 2: vinces you heard from Mark?

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Speaker 3: It's then about a week?

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Speaker 1: About a week? Okay? Have you tried to reach out

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Speaker 1: to him multiple times?

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Speaker 3: I did a few times, but you know, I if

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Speaker 3: someone doesn't respond, like continuing to message them doesn't normally. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I did, like one, and then I did one more, and.

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Speaker 2: Then I saw, well, let's hear about your date and

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Speaker 2: how you met him, and see if we can't figure

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Speaker 2: out why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we met. We actually got sat up through

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Speaker 3: Mark's coworker and I his Mark's coworker's wife yoga class.

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Speaker 1: I attend that class.

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Speaker 3: So me and a Serena, which is mark coworker's wife,

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Speaker 3: we grab coffee and it was kind of like Serena

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Speaker 3: recruited me to go out on a date with Mark.

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Speaker 3: But she and her husband Josh, are always on the

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Speaker 3: hunt for a wife for Mark, and Serena thought I

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Speaker 3: would be perfect. So Mark and I met up at

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Speaker 3: a si restaurant that has amazing tropical.

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Speaker 1: Drinks, and we shared food.

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Speaker 3: And chatted about our favorite thing and we had so

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Speaker 3: much in common and tonight was so good. We ended

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Speaker 3: up going back to Mark's house for like a little.

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Speaker 1: Nightcap a sip. We're like, a, wow, what what is that?

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Speaker 3: I was looking for a nicer way to say I'm

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Speaker 3: really sorry.

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Speaker 1: Is it just a drink or or.

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Speaker 4: Both?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I mean yeah, I was super like attracted to him,

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Speaker 3: and like I could tell that there were like instance

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Speaker 3: sparks between both of us, and it was just like

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Speaker 3: easy and effortless. So yeah, we ended up hooking up.

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Speaker 3: And then afterwards Mark kept talking about his job and

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Speaker 3: how close he was to a promotion, but I was

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Speaker 3: kind of bored by it, so I pretended obviously.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So.

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking, like maybe he knew I was pretending about No,

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Speaker 3: I mean, he he did like mention that I breathed.

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Speaker 3: I breathed like differently when I'm in like different sleeping.

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Speaker 5: Phases, So I feel like, maybe, huh.

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Speaker 1: A little buss.

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Speaker 3: And I mean, I'm really excited and I want to

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Speaker 3: support like this promotion journey and all of that, but

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Speaker 3: the time was just like wanting to enjoy my posts

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Speaker 3: playtime piece.

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Speaker 5: And that was the nicest way to.

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Speaker 3: Get him to shut up by pretending I was asleep.

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Speaker 1: So what do you want to say to him?

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Speaker 3: Well, I want to explain myself in that, Like it

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Speaker 3: might have seemed rude, but that wasn't like I had

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Speaker 3: good intentions.

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Speaker 1: It's like it wasn't my it wasn't my plans.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 2: out for you. Then we'll play a song, come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call him, see if it's us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you, and see if you still want another date

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Speaker 2: after we find out the reason.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, sounds good.

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Speaker 2: Plus I'll come back and get your first day follow

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Speaker 2: up next, I'm a little of your first date follow

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Speaker 2: up and if you're just joining us. Abby is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Mark,

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Speaker 2: and it might be because she was bored by him.

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Speaker 2: We're about to call and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another day.

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Speaker 2: But before we do that, Abby, whant to you refresh everybody's

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Speaker 2: memory on your situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we were set up by Mark coworkers and we

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Speaker 3: went out to dinner and had drinks and had like

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Speaker 3: a great night. We went back to Mark's place for

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Speaker 3: a nightcap and we ended up cooking up and after

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Speaker 3: that I wanted to go to sleep, but Mark kept

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Speaker 3: So I just pretended to be asleep, and I think

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Speaker 3: he might have noticed, and that's why he's not talking

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Speaker 3: to me.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, man, let's see if we can figure

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Speaker 1: it out.

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Speaker 5: Right.

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Speaker 1: Are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here go? Hell, Hi, man, I speak to Mark please.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: This is Mark.

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Speaker 1: Hey Mark, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Man?

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Speaker 1: How are you? My name is Jewbell and I host

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Speaker 1: a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show. Hi, Mark,

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Speaker 1: the show's here. My name is Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 1: Ahi are calling me because you're cool?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Did you ever listen to the show at all?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Wow? Yeah? Sometimes?

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Speaker 1: Okay cool.

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Speaker 6: Wait Wait a minute, I think I know where you're going.

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Speaker 6: What is this where you guys like call someone after

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Speaker 6: they went they met.

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Speaker 1: Someone, Yes it is.

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Speaker 2: It's called the first day follow up, where you go

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Speaker 2: out on a date with somebody and you ghost them.

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Speaker 2: They can ask us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and find out what happened. So we got an email

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Speaker 2: all about you, Mark, Oh boy, it's from Abby. Do

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Speaker 2: you mind telling us about your day with Abby and

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Speaker 2: why you're not why you're ghosting?

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm sure she told you by the day right,

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Speaker 6: it was pretty fun, But I guess I'll just say that, yes,

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Speaker 6: I'm ghosting her. For the reason is because she used

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Speaker 6: my razor. Like did she tell you we went back

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Speaker 6: to my place after a date?

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Speaker 4: All right? She says she wanted to go like freshen up.

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Speaker 4: But I never crossed my mind as she would use

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Speaker 4: my razor.

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Speaker 6: And I don't like sharing any personal items, like I

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Speaker 6: don't share my razors, not even my tooth brush, like

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Speaker 6: not even with like the love of my life. I

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Speaker 6: feel it's so gross, and I thought it was so

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Speaker 6: entitled of her just march into my bathroom and just

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Speaker 6: use my razor. And I know she used it because

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Speaker 6: there's light, little brown hair. This is so gross to me,

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Speaker 6: So yeah, I ghosted her.

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Speaker 4: That's the reason.

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Speaker 1: When when was this that she used your razor?

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Speaker 6: I'd say, like, I guess she used it before we

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Speaker 6: I don't know what she told you.

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Speaker 1: But she said, you guys had fun at your place.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we got like cozy with each other.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she must have used that before that, because then

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Speaker 6: I didn't notice it until I.

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Speaker 4: Use the restroom in the middle of the night and

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Speaker 4: I noticed it. And also it wasn't like she put

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Speaker 6: It was like fully out, like I don't even leave

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Speaker 6: my razor out, it's like in a drawer, and like

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Speaker 6: she had it out on this thank to say, the

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Speaker 6: hairs with it was gross, and she was just making

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Speaker 6: herself at home. Like both of those were just to

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Speaker 6: turn off to me.

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Speaker 2: Well, thanks for telling us. I mean, yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I mean I probably wouldn't care if somebody use my razor.

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Speaker 2: But also I mean I probably think it was funny,

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Speaker 2: but it might be a little bit interesting.

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Speaker 1: Mark. Abby is on the phone and has been listening

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Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you. I forgot I love

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Speaker 1: this part.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean, I'm sorry. I had no idea

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Speaker 3: about like the razor. I didn't think it was up

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Speaker 3: to say, like, I'm sorry, I pretended to like be asleep.

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Speaker 3: I kind of thought that's why you were not talking

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Speaker 4: You were pretending to be asleep.

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Speaker 3: What just well, what like afterwards when you were talking

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Speaker 3: about your promotion and stuff, I was just kind of

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Speaker 5: Do after right after that time, and I just wow, wow,

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Speaker 5: And I thought maybe you knew that I did that,

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Speaker 5: and that's why you were mad at me.

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Speaker 1: But like I'm I.

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Speaker 5: Need anyways, And no.

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Speaker 6: I actually thought I put you to sleep, and I

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Speaker 6: was actually like proud of that.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean you did it was amazing and you

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Speaker 3: did a very good job.

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Speaker 1: So I have no complaints.

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Speaker 3: And I didn't think like the razor would be that

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Speaker 3: big of a deal because you know, I was doing

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Speaker 3: it for you. I was trying to, you know, look

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Speaker 3: as fast as I could. I wasn't trying to just

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Speaker 3: use your razor for no reason.

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Speaker 4: Well that's not the only thing you did for me.

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Speaker 7: We're saying the radio, Well, Mark, would you like another

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Speaker 7: date with Abby?

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Speaker 1: Will pay for it? I mean, can you get past

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Speaker 1: the razor using? I mean she was thinking about you, and.

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Speaker 6: I'll buy I'll buy a razor of that oh by yes,

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Speaker 6: yes I would yes, wow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean i'd love to, and I can promise

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Speaker 3: you this time like I won't. I won't use a razor.

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Speaker 3: I will stay far away from it.

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Speaker 4: I'll get you a new one. I mean you don't

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Speaker 4: need him now.

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Speaker 1: Well he does grow back. Well when are we having

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Speaker 1: this date?

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Speaker 4: How far in the future were having this date?

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Speaker 1: Well, i'll shave before the date. Okay, night. Jule's First

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