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Speaker 1: My sister's friend forced my son not to eat in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, starving your child. You know, starving your child is

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Speaker 2: a good move. Come on, that is not a whole behavior.

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Speaker 3: It teaches them, uh you know, willpower? It does? It

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Speaker 3: teaches them delayed gratification. You know who also starved themselves?

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Speaker 3: Talk to me, Gandhi, whoa Buddha? Whoa Jesus? Oh my goodness. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So if you want to be closer to any of

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Speaker 2: those guys, call one eight hundred. I'm a terrible mom

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Speaker 2: and I'll take your oh it away from your.

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Speaker 1: New parenting book. Starve your child? Ah yeah, path to success.

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Speaker 1: There's only one way, that's right. So my sister, cousin

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Speaker 1: and a couple of friends came over last night after work.

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Speaker 1: My sister brought a friend of hers I'd only met

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Speaker 1: a few times that I'd never had an issue with.

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Speaker 1: At one point, I went to the bathroom and the

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Speaker 1: And when I came out, my sister's friend was in

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Speaker 3: Wait, the sister is random sister's friend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like he barely knows his check and he's like,

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Speaker 1: are you like, what's what's going on?

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Speaker 3: Son?

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Speaker 4: Now?

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Speaker 1: She said, my son went into the kitchen to get

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Speaker 3: No, it's his house. Oh the audacity.

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Speaker 2: You come into some random person's house and think you're

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Speaker 1: I like, I'm too embarrassed to go grab like a

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean, the young version of a Karen. Literally.

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Speaker 3: I stared at her for a second and then said,

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Speaker 3: Who are you to tell him me he can't go

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Speaker 3: into his own kitchen? Yeah? Big?

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Speaker 2: Oh, I love that. Opie is like standing up for

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Speaker 3: It's great. She looked surprised and said she was trying

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Speaker 1: I repeated my question of why she thought it was

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Speaker 1: okay to tell someone they can't use their own kitchen

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Speaker 1: the question and brought up that she's a teacher, which

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Speaker 1: isn't relevant. Well, maybe someone should teach you some manner

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Speaker 1: we need some cotillion up in this beach. Daddy's about

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Speaker 3: To get around the rules. Oh oh, dare you inventing

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Speaker 3: in someone else's home. Hey, it's still a rule. It's

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Speaker 3: a rule. I made it. I have universal dominion over

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Speaker 3: all rules. Yes, all the power, the power of the

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Speaker 3: sun in the hall of my hands, spider Man. Oh

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Speaker 4: Two?

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Speaker 3: Uh, doctor Octopus, never seen it, Doc coc just kidding.

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Speaker 3: I guess it's not doctor Octopus. It's doctor Octavius. Octavius

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Speaker 3: but you know, but we know it means octopus. You're

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Speaker 3: hearing phantom but dumbs.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this haunts my nightmares. I asked her what that

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Speaker 3: She said, she followed my son in.

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Speaker 1: I said, so you think my son needs permission to

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Speaker 3: Oh really, I love we're.

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Speaker 2: Getting There's some lawyering going on here, serious serious lay

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Speaker 3: That's right. I wish.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it'll be funny. Is if we had

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Speaker 1: She said that she didn't feel welcome anymore and was leaving.

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Speaker 1: She went back into the living room, wrap her bag

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Speaker 3: My cousin and some of the other ladies said they thought.

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Speaker 1: It was strange that she followed him into the kitchen

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Speaker 1: My cousin said, but why would you confront a child

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Speaker 3: That's so weird.

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Speaker 1: I agree, agree everyone, but my sister acknowledged that that

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Speaker 1: I can be a little extra when it comes to

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Speaker 1: and gentlemen, What do you think about our big daddy here?

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Speaker 3: What Sam?

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Speaker 1: We need to know everyone? What is what is the

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Speaker 2: I think like he definitely did go you know, hella far. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think it could have been say, hey, don't tell

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Speaker 2: audassy on that lady, bro, that's pretty fat. Yeah, she's

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Speaker 2: definitely the ahole. Oh he minorly the a hole maybe

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he was even acting out. He's just going

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Speaker 1: to be to get food. Actually, you know what, you know,

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Speaker 1: who's the real a hole? Here the sun? How dare

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Speaker 3: Oh, dar.

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Speaker 2: Ridiculous? All right, we'll let us know what you think.

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Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for getting a twenty six

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Speaker 4: old and under woman's support group?

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Speaker 5: Interesting?

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Speaker 2: Oh, I mean that's a it is She is twenty

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Speaker 3: So yeah, got a point.

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Speaker 5: I'm spiritually twenty four. I get carted all the time.

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Speaker 3: I identify as twenty four.

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Speaker 4: I'm young for my age. People say it all the time.

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Speaker 4: My college has these support groups where students can get

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my gosh, please, she's so much older a

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Speaker 4: But she's like a graduate student.

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Speaker 3: I just don't get your references. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: If most of them are freshman, that is an eight

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Speaker 3: No, yes, no, they're all twenty five.

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Speaker 5: almost a decade. Yeah, she's pretty much bones in a

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Speaker 4: different issue with addressing than we do. I honestly don't

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Speaker 3: And none of us water here. We all hate her.

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Speaker 3: Hasn't she gotten the heads? We've thrown things at her,

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Speaker 5: I couldn't imagine like opening up and like going out

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Speaker 5: being like, here's all my issues, and they're just like, get.

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Speaker 3: Out of here, old bag, you're disgusting. God, we don't

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Speaker 5: You're talking about season two of SpongeBob.

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Speaker 4: I honestly don't know why she bothers coming here, since

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Speaker 4: it must be clear that none of us can relate

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Speaker 4: Fair enough, fair Anyways, I discovered that her birthday was

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Speaker 4: I already went to the counselor and told her about this,

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Speaker 3: Smoking gun, like literally like here's your birthday present. Here

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Speaker 4: This is the problem. They had an eleven year old here,

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Speaker 4: they had they had a little paddle tail.

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Speaker 1: They did, they'd have no age minimum.

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Speaker 4: It's just under.

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Speaker 3: It's just under.

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Speaker 4: My counselor said that she was aware of it and

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Speaker 4: I wasn't entirely happy with this, since they are breaking

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Speaker 4: of the support groups know about this as well.

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Speaker 2: Wow, the biggest tattletale and also just goody two shoes,

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Speaker 2: but batty two shoes.

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Speaker 3: She's like, you know what she reminded me of.

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Speaker 2: She reminds you know in Harry Potter five, Professor Umbridge, who.

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Speaker 3: Is like, these are all the rules you're like enough

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Speaker 3: to follow. Yes, that's what she reminds me of. I

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Speaker 3: will not join groups under twenty five.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just writing it over and over and the blood

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Speaker 4: The administration emailed her and she doesn't come anymore.

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Speaker 3: Oh No.

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Speaker 4: The counselor must also have gotten reprimanded for this or something,

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Speaker 4: because the last session, she made a statement regarding how

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Speaker 4: she was sorry for allowing someone to violate our safe space.

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Speaker 3: What like turning an age?

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Speaker 1: No, no, hey, that's like on her birthday.

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Speaker 4: Oh she had a birthday. She had been born on

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Speaker 4: a leap year. It's your in fault. She didn't say

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Speaker 5: At the same time, she was start listening all the

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Speaker 5: She did have imposter syndrome.

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Speaker 4: A couple of other students have mentioned how they miss her,

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Speaker 3: They started her own support group and then excluded OPI good.

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Speaker 5: Whatever age you are, your age isn't invited.

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Speaker 6: That hurts my feelings?

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Speaker 3: So old?

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Speaker 4: She does hang out with people are her own age,

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Speaker 5: Yes, surely they could grandmother her in right, like like

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Speaker 3: End of the summer.

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Speaker 6: That was reasonable. And I can't believe that OPI is saying, like, oh,

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Speaker 3: Multiple times twice. Yeah, good god.

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Speaker 6: You should feel bad.

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Speaker 3: You suck? Yeah you do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh definitely sucks.

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Speaker 4: What rules are rules?

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Speaker 5: Why have why have an upper age limit to begin with?

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Speaker 5: Not if you get real annoying when you're asking if

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna try that.

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Speaker 5: You can eat the macaroni and cheese.

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Speaker 2: You just have to have been eating that macaroni cheese

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, yeah, insane.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's so pedantic, like like three months. How much

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Speaker 4: So you're like, you can't be in this anymore.

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Speaker 5: Well, it is a Pokemon It is a second stage

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Speaker 3: When you hit twenty six.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're right, you're going straight from toted owl to krocanale.

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Speaker 4: Your brain's fully developed.

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Speaker 2: Well I heard you don't need support after twenty five.

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Speaker 2: I think that's the role.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, your brain developed that frontal cortex. Dog, you got

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Speaker 3: It just kicks in. Get out, it's over. Its yours

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for turning the shoes I

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Speaker 2: got for my husband after he accused me of stealing

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Speaker 1: Come on, man's that's that's egregious. That's egregious gregious.

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Speaker 2: My twenty nine husband thirty six, is the breadwinner of

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Speaker 1: Makes sense, I guess I didn't have. Yeah, it's a

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Speaker 1: I didn't have an issue with that, because this way

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Speaker 1: what if I want a donut, sir, No, no donuts?

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Speaker 3: This guy is like, only I can tell you what

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a little, yeah, a little little spooky eight there.

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Speaker 2: On Friday, I was doing some grocery shopping as usual,

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Speaker 2: She's taking care of.

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Speaker 3: The kids way over the line.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I honestly, I was talking to Ariana about this.

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Speaker 2: There's still more story. I was talking to Ariana about this,

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Speaker 2: Because like there's this mister money mindset like podcast guy

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Speaker 2: because it's like, all right, you're someone has to maybe

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, one person's not yeah yeah, earning as much?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It almost seems like you'd have to like chant, like

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Speaker 1: Like I don't know's there's a lot of variables there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, because essentially they are like giving up the income.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, or even or even just like, hey, well we'll

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, I have no idea how Like

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Speaker 1: So it's like whether it could be the whole thing,

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Speaker 3: Or you do like joint parenting where you both have

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Speaker 3: That seems like the most fair.

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Speaker 3: But we'll see. Yeah, it's an idea I have.

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Speaker 2: I feel like something that's good about what we're doing

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Speaker 1: And this too is I'm also imagining I'm like thirty

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like ideally, I guess you know this is not

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, dude, I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's something I was thinking about it. I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like as long as I've known it. Now she

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Speaker 2: We'll figure it out. We'll figure it out for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: The next day, I went and returned the sneakers and

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Speaker 2: He said he couldn't believe how petty and childish I

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Speaker 2: I had a lot of nerve, calling what I did

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Speaker 2: a nice gesture while using his money to do it.

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00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:36,720
Speaker 2: I told him he had no right to yell at me.

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00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 2: After I corrected my mistake and gave back the money,

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Speaker 2: he accused me of stealing. He threw a fit, that

447
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,800
Speaker 2: went out with his friends and came home late at night,

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00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,320
Speaker 2: still not talking to me. Did I mess up? Maybe

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Speaker 2: I shouldn't have purchased them, knowing they weren't on the list,

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Speaker 2: but I just wanted him to have those sneakers and

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Speaker 2: thought I was doing a nice gesture.

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Speaker 3: Bro, if this is how your significant other reacts to

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Speaker 3: you buying sneakers, leave, Yeah that is that's a heck,

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Speaker 3: that's a fucking mess of a life right there.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And this he seems so over like he seems so controlling,

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Speaker 3: so like just over the top about everything.

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like, you know, if I do something

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Speaker 1: else in a different area that's like slightly wrong if

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Speaker 1: he has the same reaction, Like, think about all the

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Speaker 1: things that could like trigger him to go crazy.

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Speaker 3: Nope.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah you should nope out of there. Nope, the

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Speaker 2: heck out hell.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Also, I like to like read one of the the

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Speaker 2: the comments yes, because I think it like summarizes some

468
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Speaker 2: of the things that we don't like about this. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: let's see it. So not the asshole. With that said,

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Speaker 2: something else to add, get the hell out of there.

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Speaker 2: I lost count of how many red flags are running

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Speaker 2: this short story, But just to recap, you have zero

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Speaker 2: knowledge of and input into your family's financial situation. By design,

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Speaker 2: you have to get pre approval for an action as

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Speaker 2: mundane as grocery shopping. Acting even slightly independently was met

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Speaker 2: with extreme anger and accusations. When you try to defend

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Speaker 2: yourself you were darvoed and berated again. Acting independently, even

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Speaker 2: to correct a mistake was met with an equal amount

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Speaker 2: of anger the entire ordeal. You were kept emotionally unstable

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Speaker 2: and purposely left with no resolution possible. My god, it's

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Speaker 2: like Lebron and Serena hooked up and had a super

482
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Speaker 2: baby and the sport they played.

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Speaker 3: Was abuse ball.

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Speaker 2: Oh and also darvo is deny attack, reverse victim and

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Speaker 2: offender short version technique abusers use to make others, includingly

486
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Speaker 2: think they are the wrong party effectively creates a shield

487
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Speaker 2: for the abuser that is hard to articulate for the abused.

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Speaker 1: Interesting, I'll learn something new every day. That's the list.

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Speaker 1: They summed it up perfectly. It's like this guy's insane.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is really bad. Also a lot so this

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Speaker 2: common is saying. Also a lot of people emphasize that

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Speaker 2: it's his money. That thing, right, it's not his money.

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Speaker 2: If both of you are working, you just happen to

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Speaker 2: work at a state as a stay at home mom,

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Speaker 2: And I think I agree with that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that you had, Like if one person's not working,

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Speaker 1: what are they going to do? Go go on the

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Speaker 1: streets and beg like they need money to do it,

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Speaker 1: and like she's doing one of the tasks, you're doing

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Speaker 1: one of the tasks.

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Speaker 3: Like, and it's a team.

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Speaker 1: It's not like, oh my gosh, like how did like

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Speaker 1: you decided to get to join with this person to

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Speaker 1: go through life together.

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Speaker 2: So it's like, you know, I wonder what his spending

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Speaker 2: habits are because like this this guy sounds like a hypocrite.

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Speaker 1: This guy is buying like blow up dolls and doritos.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love how that's like the first thing, blow

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Speaker 2: up dolls and doritos. Anyway, uh out, So you