WEBVTT - Amy Hosting Event with Ex-Husband & Morgan’s A Wreck Right Now 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:03.920 The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one. 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:06.640 Behind a scene with a member of the show. 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:11.879 What's Up, everybody? Welcome to the weekend. Amy is joining me. 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.640 What's up? Aby? Hi Morgan, Thanks for coming on. We 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:18.040 got some life to update everybody on. Things are crazy 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:20.200 in my world. Amy, what's going on with you right now? 0:00:20.760 --> 0:00:24.840 Well, nothing's too crazy like yours? Which are you going 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:25.560 to get into it? I? 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:27.880 Yeah, we sure, Okay, I want to hear about your 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:30.200 life first. It'll help me calm down. 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:32.400 Yeah, forget about yours for a second. 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:37.199 Well, before we started recording, we were talking about clothes 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:41.879 and getting ready, and I just feel like sometimes I 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:43.680 spend way too much time just standing in my closet 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:45.080 thinking what am I going to wear? And there are 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:46.919 certain outfits that I really love, and I'm like, I'm 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:50.280 just going to start rewaring these outfits as much as possible. 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:54.639 I put on exactly what I wore last week, and 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:57.040 I'm wearing it again this week. And not that that's 0:00:57.040 --> 0:00:58.680 a big deal. Who cares. You can wear it the 0:00:58.680 --> 0:00:59.880 next day if you want to. 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:02.360 But I'm like, what if. 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:06.600 I had my Monday outfit my Tuesday outfit? Am? I 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:08.720 went like Monday through Friday. I just had my outfits 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:11.319 and like, that's my like for a month. 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:12.360 I do that and then. 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:15.959 Switch it up because I I'm someone that likes to 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:19.880 sometimes how i'm feeling, pick an outfit or be a 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:23.600 little more creative. I'm not super into fashion, but I 0:01:23.720 --> 0:01:27.720 like to try new things, and so I'm not like 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:29.960 going Steve jobs here where it's a black turtleneck and 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:33.480 jeans every day. But I as I get older, I 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:37.200 think I'm gravitating more towards like why am I complicating 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:43.080 things and continuing to buy more things? When if I've 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.560 got something cute like and I like it, can I 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:46.920 make that my Wednesday outfit. 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:49.840 It's find of funny when you think about kids going 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:52.720 to school and they sometimes they have uniforms, Like why 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:54.240 can't adults have uniforms? 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:54.840 Yeah? 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.559 What if we had uniforms at iHeart or the Bobby 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:00.320 Bone Show and we had to show up. I mean, 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.240 Bobby would probably be like, all right, everybody's wearing a 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:03.040 card again. 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:06.280 Whatever it vibe it is for that few months and 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.280 then we shift it. Those would be our uniform changes. 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.320 Yeah, I'm down for that. My kids have done both 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:17.520 types of school's uniform and then not. And I think 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:19.760 when they have the uniform they did not like it, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:24.519 and then when they switched, they're kind of like a 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:26.320 little I missed the uniform a little bit because they 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.440 don't have to think it, just put it on. 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:31.959 Yeah, And so much of I feel like your daily 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:34.840 morning routine is what am I gonna wear? What's gonna 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:37.760 make me feel good today? I'm such a feel good dresser. 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:39.760 How am I feeling in that moment? And how am 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:42.239 I gonna be either the most comfortable or do I 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.760 need to feel confident that morning? Or am I doing 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.240 like need more comfy and I need more cozy because 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:50.239 I'm going through it, Or am I like, oh, yeah, 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:52.320 today's the day I'm going to pull off that new outfit. 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:57.040 Mine's all about my feelings. My clothes very much reflect 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:57.639 how I'm feeling. 0:02:57.840 --> 0:02:59.840 Yeah, I think I can do the same. 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:03.440 Dopamine dressing is a thing where if you need that 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:06.640 hit of dopamine, you can put on something that you 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:09.040 know feels good and you look good and gives you 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:09.960 that umph. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.720 Yeah, So that i'd be a thing, and I can. 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:13.240 I think I can. 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:16.040 Also if I don't know that depressed dressing is a thing, 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:19.160 but not that I'm totally depressed if I wear it. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.520 But sometimes yeah, it's reflective of your mood and you're like, 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:24.720 I don't care about feeling good. I just want to 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:27.680 be comfy and cozy. But sometimes when I do that, 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:31.160 I will get to work and I do not feel 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:32.639 it's confident. 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:34.880 Yeah, it is that side of that. 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:36.240 Have you ever gotten to work and you look in 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:37.560 the mirror and you're like, what was it? What was 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:39.480 I thinking with that huge mirror in the bathroom? And 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:40.720 I'll go to the bathroom and I'll walk out and 0:03:40.760 --> 0:03:41.080 I'll be. 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:45.640 Like, what what, What in the world. 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:48.840 Is this outfit? And I don't know what I was thinking, 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.720 Like it's something I'd never put together. It doesn't even work. 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:54.840 And then I see myself in full length and I'm like, Okay, cool, 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:56.440 I guess I should have checked this album before I 0:03:56.520 --> 0:03:57.080 left the house. 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:58.480 But who Also. 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:01.800 Because are we used to what are we look like 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:03.560 in our mirrors at home? 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:05.720 And then you go to a new mirror. I wonder 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:06.600 if there's something to that. 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:08.000 I'm not sure. 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:10.680 I just think sometimes I don't look in the mirror 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:12.320 before I leave my house. 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.480 So that's that's uh. 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:17.800 Top of mind at the moment is my am I 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.000 I know it's people are listening to this on the weekend, 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:21.000 but we're recording it. 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:21.520 Yeah. 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:23.159 No, it's like the top of mine. 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:25.600 So don't be surprised if next Wednesday you see me 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:29.039 in these white pants, the white top and my tan sandals. 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:31.040 Although we are getting into fall, and maybe I could 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:33.760 wear this exact outfit, but I just throw on boots. 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:37.039 Oh you definitely, could you just swap the footwear. I'm 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:39.599 I wear so much fall in winter clothing in the 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:42.560 studio because I get so cold all the time, Like, 0:04:42.640 --> 0:04:44.400 and that's where more of my comfort comes in. Because 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:47.200 we're talking about this the other day, you've been wearing 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.760 tank tops lightly and I every time I see you 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:51.240 coming with the tank I'm like, how is she doing that? 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:52.840 I want to be wrapped in a blanket right now, 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.160 and I have to be wearing like a full turtleneck 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:57.440 sweater to be comfortable in that room. 0:04:57.760 --> 0:05:00.839 Yeah, it's freezing cold in there. Although maybe I'm appreciate 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:02.960 it lately because my air is broken at my house. 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:04.279 Oh that's not fun. 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:07.599 So I think I got to look at my count 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:10.680 I think they're coming today to figure it out. 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:12.640 Is it the acs on my head? 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.599 It's just not pumping like it should. 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:21.200 So I keep it at seventy seventy one, and so 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:23.440 that's what it's set at. But inside my house, you know, 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:30.480 the the box where its are hard, you know, the 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:33.920 little un Yeah what you don't have the word either anywhere, 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.440 neither one of us have it, but it says, you know, 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:39.800 I have it set to seventy seventy one, and it 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:41.320 says seventy five inside. 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:44.520 So and it's you're not really lucky that's having right 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:46.080 now instead of when we had our heat wave or 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:47.640 have you been dealing with this since the heat wave? 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:47.920 Now? 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:50.160 It just kicked in about a week ago. So yeah, 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:51.720 I guess to your point, it came at a good time. 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:52.880 And also it's a thermostat. 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:55.000 I don't know, we just came up with it. 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:56.520 I don't know why that took me a minute. 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:00.520 I apologized early or getting into our groop this moment 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:03.320 in time, you're hearing us like do our You know 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:04.840 when people do the warm up before. 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.640 They sing, How now? How now? 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:10.000 Brown Cow, Unique, New York. Yeah, we're recording this before 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:10.960 the Bobby Bone show. 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.320 So and the kids say, go back to school. 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.200 They're already back. Yeah, we are in a groove. We are. Yeah, 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:17.800 it's crazy. I can't believe it. 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:20.719 And the uh, it feels like summer just came and went. 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:22.440 I don't know, I feel like summer existed. 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.800 I know we're about to just really be all in 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:30.240 because cross country season is starting. Stevenson's already started his practice. 0:06:30.320 --> 0:06:33.000 That means we're going to have cross country races coming 0:06:33.080 --> 0:06:35.960 up Friday night football games. Then my kids are like, 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:39.800 Sisure is not a Friday night sport girl. Like she's 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:43.160 not the cheerleader or at one point she helped out 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:47.760 with the football team with the the water girl athletic trainer. 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.080 She was just an assistant to that, whatever you need help, Yeah, sure, 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:52.760 if you need to go get water, if you go 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:55.200 grab this a spandage, she would help with that. 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:55.920 Uh. 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:58.880 And Stevenson doesn't play football, but they like to go 0:06:58.920 --> 0:06:59.440 to the games. 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:02.360 So Friday night lights and will you have a bunch 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:04.880 of games too for your boyfriend's kids. 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:08.400 This is the first year they're not playing football, so 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:10.920 apparently this is the first fall where it's a little 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.440 bit more chill for them. And I'm thinking, thank you, 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:16.560 because it is already very busy. Between they do have 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.680 some club basketball and then they have soccer, so I 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.320 don't know exactly when soccer season really picks up, but 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:26.080 they have lots of practices right now. But again I 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:29.600 don't know sometimes if they're practicing for school or club 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:33.600 stuff because I never played club things when I was 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:37.520 a kid, but they're very active so well. 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:40.360 When I played club when I was a kid, I 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:43.480 felt like club existed year round, depending on if it 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:46.720 was an inside support or outside. But club definitely you 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:50.280 have longer timeframes then and more travel. 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:53.240 Yes, I know they do enjoy going to games as well, 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:56.320 so probably a lot of Friday night lights. There was 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:58.679 a Friday coming up though, and I was like, shoot, 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:00.160 why did we put this on a Friday night? 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:01.800 People might be going to football games. 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:06.840 But Ben and I, speaking of the kids, were working 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:08.640 on something together because we thought it would be a 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:12.520 good example for the kids of us coming together for 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:15.920 others and showing that mom and dad can still work 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:17.600 together and as a family, we're still going to give 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:20.200 back and serve and something we're involved in at our 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:22.720 church's Isaiah one to seventeen House, which is a foster 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:26.200 house for kids that like an interim house, so if 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:30.520 they are looking for placement. Sometimes kids have literally spent 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:34.840 the night on the office floor of the caseworker at 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:40.680 the CPS office, and that's not a place for a kid, 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:46.280 especially in such a unstable time in their life. So 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:49.319 there's a house that was built out in East Nashville 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:52.680 in Isaiah one seventeen. House is a national organization, but 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:54.920 this is the Nashville branch, and so it's a house 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:57.600 where they can go and have have a home that 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.319 with a room and they get a bag, get to 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.760 fill up and there's a room full of items they 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:04.480 can go around and collect and put in their bag 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:06.959 so that when they show up at their foster house, 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:09.520 you know Eddie'll show you too with the work he's 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:12.120 done or share with people too. Sometimes they show up 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.280 with just a plastic bag or nothing, and so this 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:17.320 gives them a legit bag with some of their own 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:20.400 things to start out with, and a good bed to 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:24.280 sleep in at night, and you know caregivers that are 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:27.600 there that can nurture them and anyway, there's funding that 0:09:27.640 --> 0:09:30.280 needs to go into that. So Ben and I are 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:34.160 hosting a tee it Up for the Kids event at 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:37.920 Top golf on Friday, September twenty sixth, so I'm sure 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:41.079 there's gonna be a football game that night, but just inviting. 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:41.520 People in Nashville. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:44.720 If you happen to live here, that could be something 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:46.920 where you could give back. And well, I'll put the 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:49.560 link in the show notes. Kat and I are going 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:53.640 to be there at a bay with some Feeling Things 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:56.240 podcast winners. We're bringing some teams because we got a 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.840 sponsor for the event, Taylor Farm, so they're underwriting it. 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:02.520 So everything from top Golf, they've covered that fee, so 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:06.679 whatever people pay to play, and you know, you can 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:08.720 either buy a whole bay. And I was thinking like 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:10.480 it would be just be a cool thing for families 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:13.520 or companies where you can do a company outing. It 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:17.120 can be team bonding and you're giving back at the 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:17.640 same time. 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:19.400 Okay, have you pitches for us to do as a 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:24.800 show yet or no? Because no, have we given up 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:25.079 on that. 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:28.480 I would know if everybody, I mean, I don't know, 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:33.960 maybe it'll come up organically. It started, as you know, 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:35.520 Ben and I wanted to do it, and then Cat 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:37.680 and I thought, oh, because Taylor Farms got involved and 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:38.240 I work with them. 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:40.480 Taylor Farms is the underwriter the Salad company. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:44.600 And then Cat and I were thinking, because Taylor Farms 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:47.520 with their sponsorship, you get three bays and they're bringing 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:50.080 some employees that want to come participate, which I thought 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.240 was cool because sometimes you can just give that they 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:54.160 want to give and be involved, and so that was 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.440 really special. They were like, well, we have extra space. 0:10:57.480 --> 0:10:58.840 So then Kat and I are like, oh, we'll fill that. 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.199 We'll give away some spots on our Feeling Things podcast 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:06.000 Instagram and they can bring a guest and yeah. 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:08.160 I don't know. I thought about Eddie. He may want 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:09.120 to come because Foster Care. 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.040 But I'll pitch it. Thank you, Morgan. I will pitch 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:13.200 it and we'll see if maybe we do a shoe outing. 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:14.800 I think you should pitch it because even if not, 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:16.440 maybe there's a few of us that would want to go, 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:18.360 because I'd go, okay, if I'm in town, I'll go, 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:19.240 all right, I'll pitch it. 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:23.080 So there's you can get either just a single pay 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:25.840 to play slot and it includes a fat a buffet 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.560 dinner and you know, if you do well, there's door 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.320 prizes and different things. So it should be a fun 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:36.440 night of fun and philanthropy. But I was thinking businesses 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:38.520 are looking for team building at least I think they are, 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.640 because you know, I want it for us, and that 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:44.559 they could like bring the whole bring employees, and then 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:47.480 as a company buying a bay that also is a 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:49.920 write off, and you know one hundred percent of your 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:53.560 money is going to help Isaiah in seventeen house, then 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:56.280 it's like, oh bam, this is a no brainer way 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:58.000 to do some team building and give back at the 0:11:58.000 --> 0:11:58.440 same time. 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:00.240 And you do know with your ex husband, which is 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:02.360 really good for your family, and that's really cool. 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:06.800 Yeah, it's been very good for us because a year 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.120 ago Ben and I were not in this place, like 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.319 we weren't bad and we were coparenting well, but we 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.600 were not like we are now. 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:14.720 So that's good. 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:16.960 Oh, that is good. We'll go check that out. 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:18.800 Yeah, we'll put it in the show notes in here, 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:20.280 so you guys can click on it and we're going 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:21.520 to take a quick break. 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:26.040 We'll be back with some more. Okay. 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:27.880 So also the kids, we were talking about them a 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.040 little bit in there, and they're back at school. 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:31.760 This stashiras last year. 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:35.000 Yeah, she's a senior, which is really really hard to 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:37.080 process and also exciting. 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:41.200 Yeah, and she starting to apply to things. 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:43.400 Are we we're trying to figure out what she's gonna do? 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.240 I mean, she she is, and we're coming alongside whatever 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:49.480 that looks like for her. She's done some college visits, 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:54.800 she's thought about taking a year to try to figure 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:59.320 it out, she's thought about Esthetician school, all. 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.839 The things, all the things all floating right now, we 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:02.640 are floating. 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:06.400 But she has started the process of figuring out where 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:07.480 to apply and how to apply. 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:11.640 She's already applied for some scholarships. Okay, so we'll see. 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:13.760 Are you part of that process or is she kind 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:16.440 of taking that over? No, we're part of it, but 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:18.520 we I put a lot of it. I want her 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:21.600 to be involved. I know that there's some parents that 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:26.760 do absolutely nothing, which was mine, and I'm so confused, 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:28.720 Like I didn't really know how to figure stuff out, 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:30.080 but I don't know why. 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.800 I mean, I don't know. 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:34.679 Looking back, I wish my parents were alive, because I 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.880 really want to ask them. I'm like, what what was 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:42.520 the process here? Because I remember feeling so lost and 0:13:42.559 --> 0:13:44.400 I finally figured it out. But I mean I just 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:46.200 sort of applied. I only applied to one college and 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:48.720 I didn't get in and so I was like, thanks 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:51.560 for this, mom, Dad, you should have told me applied 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:55.400 to multiple see what happens. I applied to one. Now 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:59.160 my dad was there financially. I think that was sort 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:02.160 of his thing. He was like, oh, I'm showing up financially, 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.040 so I don't need to do anything else. 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:05.400 And I think I. 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:08.360 Would have much rather him been there in other ways 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.520 than financial, but that's neither here nor there. 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:14.840 Works through that in therapy. And then my mom. 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.360 She my dad went to college, my mom didn't, and 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.640 she was working full time, and I don't think she 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:25.120 had the bandwidth. She was also very involved in like 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:29.160 you know, she was in her HOA and you know, 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:33.000 an elder at church, and she had other things going, yes, yes, 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:34.800 and she worked full time. Sometimes when she would add 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:38.000 president of this and treasurer of that on like. 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:40.680 Mom, hello, you're like I exist. 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:44.920 Well, I don't think I didn't feel it wasn't a 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:47.440 terrible neglect by any means, but that's something I've also 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:49.240 worked there. It is just there were certain forms of 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:51.200 like I just don't I think she just stayed busy 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:53.720 to avoid certain things. 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.160 And then some. 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.560 Of that was like the little things or I could 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:01.680 have used some of her She had skills being People 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:03.200 would ask her, can you chair this? 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:04.800 Can you be the president of this? Can you be 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:05.520 the treasurer? You know? 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:07.840 She she was very organized, and I'm like, I got 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:11.320 to use some of that. So I didn't get into college. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.360 And I was explaining this sister share too, is that 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:17.080 junior college is a great thing. If you want, you 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.440 can use that all the way through. You can use 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:23.000 it as a stepping stone and then get into a university. 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:24.280 So that's what I did. 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:27.480 I mean, I went to Blynn in Brian College Station 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:30.880 my first year, and then then I reapplied to A 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:32.520 and M because that's the only school I applied to. 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:35.360 And then I got in no problem because I knew 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:38.800 being there close by. I met with advisors and people 0:15:38.800 --> 0:15:41.080 at Blynn were used to kids coming there and wanting 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:43.320 to get into A and M. So my advisor told 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:45.560 me exactly what I needed to do. And then I 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.280 was motivated because of like now I was. 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:48.520 Like, what I didn't get in? 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:51.480 Like this is no, and I was there was some 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:54.680 there shouldn't have been, but naturally I was embarrassed because 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:56.600 the one place I applied to I didn't get into 0:15:57.160 --> 0:16:00.920 and so I had that motivation and I did everything 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:02.920 and then Boom got in right away. 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:06.400 Well, and there's probably embarrassing because you didn't apply to 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:08.040 other one, so you just thought like you just would 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:10.040 get rejected by all of them instead of thinking, no, 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:11.280 I could have got into one of them. 0:16:11.320 --> 0:16:12.480 I just only applied to one of. 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:15.040 Them, exactly like I would have got in somewhere. 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:21.240 I did apply to Texas University for some Texas State 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:24.360 or University of Texas, University of Texas, Okay, because for 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:26.760 some reason, I was obsessed with the Longhorns. 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.080 Don't ask me why. Nobody in my family was a 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:31.440 Longhorn fan. I think there's a part of me that 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:35.400 just wanted to move away and not be in Kansas. 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.840 And I had also applied to k State. It's so 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:42.280 funny because I think, if I remember correctly, I do 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:46.720 think I got accepted to Texas or it was either 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:50.720 that I didn't fully apply. I can't remember what the 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:53.560 process was because my memory is so shot, but I 0:16:53.600 --> 0:16:55.960 remember looking at the out of state tuition I was like, never. 0:16:55.800 --> 0:16:58.560 Mind, oh yeah, I can't go a lot. 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:01.040 It was so much money because I'm fair to me 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:03.080 just going into k state, which was still a lot 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:06.080 of money. But when I looked at the comparison, I 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:08.080 was like, there's why am I doing this? What is 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:09.960 my actual reason for wanting to go to the Longhorns? 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.000 Besides wanting to be a Longhorn? 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:14.680 That was it. I had no real anything. 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:17.439 For one, Yeah, it's probably not worth the out of 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:20.280 state tuition if the driving factor is bevo. 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.680 Oh yeah, it was so crazy. So I yeah, and 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.080 I don't know that. I think my parents guided me 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:27.840 a little bit, but I think most of it was 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:31.040 just like, hey, apply to college, Yeah, make sure you 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:33.840 get it done, do some scholarships, and you just kind 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.320 of do it and hope for the best. 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:37.160 Yeah. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:40.440 So I'm having a hand in it. I'm also letting 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:43.440 her figure some stuff out, but I'm not like, oh, 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:45.560 too busy over here. I'm just not even going to 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:47.080