WEBVTT - Remember, you are loved

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Insider's Guide to the Other Side, a production

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<v Speaker 1>of iHeartRadio. Hi, y'all, I'm Julie.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi there, I'm Brenda. Welcome to Insider's Guide to the

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<v Speaker 2>Other Side.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, y'all need to know that we are obsessed with

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<v Speaker 1>everything on the other side.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we are, because once you learn to navigate the energetic,

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<v Speaker 2>or to some the invisible world, life is going to

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<v Speaker 2>be more fun and much more serene.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh heck, yes it can. Because, let's be honest, br in,

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<v Speaker 1>earth school is hard. In fact, you taught me.

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<v Speaker 2>That let's crush Earth school together.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, hello, my witchy pooh, apparently I cannot count. How

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<v Speaker 1>are you?

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<v Speaker 2>I want everyone just to take a seat, because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>telling you my off is rubbed up. Today's a rare form.

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<v Speaker 1>Account for shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you doing? What's happening?

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<v Speaker 2>I am? I am in it. I am in it

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<v Speaker 2>my ouf like everybody else. This is what I'm noticing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want to bounce it off you.

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<v Speaker 1>I bounce they're doing.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's gonna say my birthday, Elf, I know

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<v Speaker 2>how you're doing it. I've had a great I have

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<v Speaker 2>had a fabulous week coming off your birthday celebrating you ya.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I had. I said, I had crab. It

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<v Speaker 1>was fantastic, and I was like, baby, what do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do for your birthday? And I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I bought us both a present because her birthday's five

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<v Speaker 1>days before mine, and I bought us front row tickets

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<v Speaker 1>to see Melissa Ethridge here in Santa Fe because that's

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<v Speaker 1>what old lesbian should do. And so I'm falling quiet

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<v Speaker 1>it is so I'm following the handbook and so I

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<v Speaker 1>got to see that and she said, well what do

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<v Speaker 1>I do? I said, I want to go to the

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<v Speaker 1>crack and crab and I want to get like I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be knee deep and elbow deep and butter

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<v Speaker 1>and uh and and the end. So that's what we did.

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<v Speaker 2>It was fabulous, well played, nicely done. I have a

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<v Speaker 2>lot to learn from you, for sure. Okay, that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>So I, on the other hand, am in a different place.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've had the privilege of doing a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>readings now that I'm off the road, and it's been great.

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<v Speaker 2>And what I'm noticing. The trend I'm seeing is the

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<v Speaker 2>stress level of incredibly high vibe, aware, accountable, energetically attuned

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<v Speaker 2>people are under, are putting themselves under such a great

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<v Speaker 2>deal of stress and tuning into the discourse and judging

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<v Speaker 2>themselves harshly and setting really high expectations and making stressful

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<v Speaker 2>situations worse by kind of their what they're focusing on,

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<v Speaker 2>and the self talk and the self critical voice, and

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, I'm assuming if I see this in

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<v Speaker 2>a trend, I'm assuming that it's representative of you know,

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<v Speaker 2>more than just the people that are coming to me. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just happening in the world. So are you experiencing

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<v Speaker 2>that completely?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm I think that's coming from so many places, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's coming from I think there's global stress.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like global touch, yeah, right, but it's like it's

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<v Speaker 1>there's earth stress on the earth. There's humans stressing each other,

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<v Speaker 1>there's wars, right, So that's the global kind of stress.

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<v Speaker 1>There's stress in our country. We have an election coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>There's always stress during that time and a lot of chaos.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's happening. You know, through that, there's there's

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<v Speaker 1>local community stress, and you know, economic and economic.

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<v Speaker 2>And into relationships and speaking harshly and reacting quickly and

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<v Speaker 2>or not engaging at all. Which creates space for people

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<v Speaker 2>to spin out. And again, when people don't have information

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<v Speaker 2>or communication that's clear, they make up their own information

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<v Speaker 2>and it's never helpful, right, It's always negative, it's always critical.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sorry, I got to ask a question. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>when we were talking about just months ago, nobody, no

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<v Speaker 1>precise states exist in my in my orbits don't work.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't worry, don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>But you were talking about how we are moving into

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<v Speaker 1>Capricorn soon, and.

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<v Speaker 2>We were talking about Pluto moving into Aquarius.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, what are we in now?

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<v Speaker 2>We're still we are in Aquarius. That moved in in February,

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<v Speaker 2>I believe, and it works out in September. It goes

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<v Speaker 2>retrograde in September.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So is it awesome that being in the runway

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<v Speaker 1>of that? Does that cause anything? I'm only I'm asking

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<v Speaker 1>for a friend in that friend nic so, but does

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<v Speaker 1>that can that create I mean, I know there's events

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<v Speaker 1>and whatever, but they can that create part of any

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<v Speaker 1>of this? I'm just seriously asking.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I don't I don't think that's going

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<v Speaker 2>to be affecting us right now. Because we are part

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<v Speaker 2>of part of the community awareness that you know, these

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<v Speaker 2>specific clients came forward with or the collective that is

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<v Speaker 2>Pluto and Aquarius for sure. Oh okay, and that you

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<v Speaker 2>know that we're sensitive to the collective like I want

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<v Speaker 2>to be able to do more. I should be able

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<v Speaker 2>to do more. I'm less than because I'm not, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not doing more, you know, sort of that kind of

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of mantra can can kick up during this time,

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<v Speaker 2>for sure. But what was interesting to me, and it

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<v Speaker 2>could be, you know, just the stress and the exhaustion

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<v Speaker 2>because these people are kind of burning it at both ends,

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<v Speaker 2>both you know, for personal as well as professional or

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<v Speaker 2>public or community oriented, is that they're judging themselves harshly

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<v Speaker 2>and this is a kind of a new level of

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<v Speaker 2>self induced stress. And when I talk about being kind

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<v Speaker 2>to themselves, it's a yeah, but yeah, but it's still

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<v Speaker 2>not getting done. Yeah, but it should be this. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I should be, I could be. I'm capable of I

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I need to do more sort of mantra.

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<v Speaker 2>And what comes through in each of these these consultations

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<v Speaker 2>in different ways. But the thread is what I want

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about today, which is where the title comes from.

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<v Speaker 2>Right remembers you are loved the divine doesn't judge you

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<v Speaker 2>as less than right. The divine is like you are

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<v Speaker 2>perfection in every moment, and that's feels so far away

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<v Speaker 2>from where we live. We wake up in the morning

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<v Speaker 2>and we feel behind. We wake up in the morning,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it's like, oh God, what did I miss

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<v Speaker 2>from yesterday?

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<v Speaker 1>Or well, I think there's fight or flight to that

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<v Speaker 1>is actually happening. And I tell you what's interesting, So

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<v Speaker 1>you can imagine I run with a lot of like liberals, Democrats.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I have other people obviously that have different

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<v Speaker 1>points of view in my life as well, but there's

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<v Speaker 1>a large consortium of them, especially living in Santa Fe,

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<v Speaker 1>and there's a lot of talk about, or has been

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of talk leading up to now is people

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<v Speaker 1>are like, well, what European country should I move to

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<v Speaker 1>if Trump is reelected, which, by the way, the same

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<v Speaker 1>conversation is happening on the other side of the political spectrum.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, if you know Kambala wins, what country am

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<v Speaker 1>I going to move to? And I've been asked this

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<v Speaker 1>brand no less than four times lately, literally four times,

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<v Speaker 1>and he let me tell you my response. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>really interesting. I didn't think about this until now. In fact,

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<v Speaker 1>this was no pre talk. There's no preparation. My response

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<v Speaker 1>is the same, and it is brief and it is

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<v Speaker 1>to the point. And my response is I am not

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<v Speaker 1>running away from this country because everybody I love is

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<v Speaker 1>here m And that is my response. Yeah, and they

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<v Speaker 1>all stop, draw, roll, rethink because I'm like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're going to get. I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>much richer you think your life is going to be

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<v Speaker 1>without a single soul that you love around you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I'm not saying people shouldn't move if they want

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<v Speaker 1>to move whatever. I'm just saying that my point of

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<v Speaker 1>view is so it comes up to that you are

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<v Speaker 1>loved and so it's weird, of course, because this is

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<v Speaker 1>what I love about us, is you come up with

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<v Speaker 1>a topic, we start talking like, oh shit, of course

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<v Speaker 1>this is what we should be talking about, like these

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<v Speaker 1>are the things that are happening in the world. Forgive

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<v Speaker 1>me for interrupting you on that, but it is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's it's up for you, right, And how many

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<v Speaker 2>ways can we look at our life and say this

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<v Speaker 2>is perfect, this is perfect. It's not at all what

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<v Speaker 2>I expected, it's not at all what I planned for.

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<v Speaker 2>I am ill prepared for this situation, and it's perfect

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm going to be perfect in it. Somehow it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to work and it's there will be something that's

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<v Speaker 2>meaningful or purposeful in it, and I may be aware

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<v Speaker 2>of it and I may never be aware of it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I can still be okay with it. Like this

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<v Speaker 2>is and it literally is a blind faith and what

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<v Speaker 2>is possible if we live as though it were true?

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<v Speaker 2>Because this is what's coming through in all these sessions.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, wait a minute, didn't this turn out? Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't this turn out better than you planned? Yes? Didn't

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<v Speaker 2>you get a blessing or an opening or that looked

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<v Speaker 2>like this? Yes? Okay, So again, what was the problem?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it all turns out okay and better than okay,

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<v Speaker 2>And holding the possibility like sometimes it's not about overefforting.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes it's about allowing. It literally is going with the

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<v Speaker 2>flow and creating space for the grace. And it sounds boring,

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<v Speaker 2>it sounds like you're acquiescing, but it's really the opposite.

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<v Speaker 2>It's how can you hold a bigger space well?

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<v Speaker 1>And I think also for our literal people out in

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<v Speaker 1>the world. So I'm going to tap into that side

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<v Speaker 1>of me. Is I think sometimes when's i' let me

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<v Speaker 1>put it a better way, I think it's contrast. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think the contrast is on one side, things feel

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<v Speaker 1>so heavy to people even when something good happens, that

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<v Speaker 1>heaviness tends to outweigh for them when they don't stop

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<v Speaker 1>and say, oh my god, this is great, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think contra I think I contrast is like

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<v Speaker 1>always my word, because I think contrast is it's all

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<v Speaker 1>about our perspective, our framing, whatever whatever we want to

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<v Speaker 1>call it, our picture, our frame. And I think for

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<v Speaker 1>people who things are working well for, there's these other things,

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<v Speaker 1>is that they're letting way really heavy. So when I

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<v Speaker 1>think about elections and wars, I'm gonna be really honest

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<v Speaker 1>with you, Bran. I got no power. I got one

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<v Speaker 1>vote and one person on one vote. I can be

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<v Speaker 1>really nice talking to people about it if they want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about it. That's all the power I have.

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<v Speaker 1>I have no control over wars, none whatsoever, right, I

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<v Speaker 1>just I don't nobody, not one person here, not a

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<v Speaker 1>single maybe a collective, but not one single does and

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<v Speaker 1>so I can only participate to the level that I

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<v Speaker 1>can and whatever it may be, and I can't carry

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<v Speaker 1>it any heavy year.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm going to take some control and call a break.

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<v Speaker 1>Fine, all right, okay, since you cut me off, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't come on and we're back, So hit it.

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<v Speaker 2>Which So I read for one of women that I've

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<v Speaker 2>read from many times, a very successful professional, and she

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<v Speaker 2>comes in. She has a huge job, you know, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of responsibility, lots of stress, lots of rewards, but

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<v Speaker 2>lots of stress. And she comes in stressed about her

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<v Speaker 2>her tween daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>That's reasonable.

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<v Speaker 2>It happens all the time, right. So I've got this

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<v Speaker 2>organization of you know, multi hundred you know, blah blah

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<v Speaker 2>blah people and around the globe, and this is what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm stressed about. And I can't control and I can't fix,

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<v Speaker 2>and I can't control her experiences in the world. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't control how she behaves in the world. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>you know, obviously it is an error in my parenting.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, all the things that are easy to

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<v Speaker 2>spin out about. But when you when you like, okay, well,

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<v Speaker 2>let's let's take a look at that, you know, and

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<v Speaker 2>how are you energetically supporting her? And it's with all

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<v Speaker 2>this doubt and all this stress that she has in

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<v Speaker 2>her This the mom has in her head spinning out

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<v Speaker 2>comes out. Now it's not direct, but it comes out sideways, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So it's in a way that she's not like you

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<v Speaker 2>wore that to school today, is not like that, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's kind of like that right where she's yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>close enough where it it comes out sideways. And she

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<v Speaker 2>started laughing so hard when I just like, all I

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<v Speaker 2>did was repeat back to her what she said to me,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like, oh my god, but there's not that space.

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<v Speaker 2>There's not that taking a beat before she says it

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<v Speaker 2>because her world's so busy like we all are, and

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<v Speaker 2>just holding that sacred space to give her chance so

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<v Speaker 2>she can see it without judgment and say, so you're

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<v Speaker 2>telling me you said this to her, And she just

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<v Speaker 2>stopped in her tracks and said, oh my god, I

0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.360
<v Speaker 2>did say that to her, And no wonder if she

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<v Speaker 2>flipped her ledge. You know, she just came on glue

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<v Speaker 2>and she was able to laugh about it, and she

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<v Speaker 2>was able to have compassion for herself and understanding completely

0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:22.200
<v Speaker 2>why she intended it and said it, and also at

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<v Speaker 2>the same moment understanding how unacceptable that was. And now

0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:28.600
<v Speaker 2>her daughter should have rolled her eyes at her and

0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:34.760
<v Speaker 2>dismissed her. And the the lightness that was somehow available

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<v Speaker 2>to her in our conversation that wasn't available to her

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<v Speaker 2>in her kitchen, you know, that previous morning or whenever

0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:45.960
<v Speaker 2>that happened. But it was just this spaciousness.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we foretell when we want to foretell bad things happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what happens.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Right. And then especially when your kid is either getting

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<v Speaker 1>it from language or energy. That's the other thing parents, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm not one. I'm one of those child

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<v Speaker 1>as cat ladies that JD Vance doesn't like. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just going to say it loud. Is that like kids,

0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:15.320
<v Speaker 1>it's all energy. They know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like pets, it's all energy they know. Yeah, yeah,

0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:24.600
<v Speaker 2>and so, but she could see it and she could

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<v Speaker 2>feel it, but she did it with lightness. And what

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<v Speaker 2>was interesting to me is in the next session, So

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<v Speaker 2>the next reading I got to do, it was someone

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<v Speaker 2>came in for strong focus on mediumship and the person

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<v Speaker 2>that she was concerned about, who the spirit who passed over.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like, Wow, she had kind of a traumatic

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<v Speaker 2>this and that, and I'm worried that she land in

0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:56.080
<v Speaker 2>a good place, and the spirit came through with, oh,

0:15:56.200 --> 0:16:00.560
<v Speaker 2>those are all such earthly things, and yeah, they would

0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:04.280
<v Speaker 2>be so important if I were embodied on earth. But

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<v Speaker 2>when you watch your life review, you're watching it and

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<v Speaker 2>it's all passed. It's not up for you energetically. It

0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:23.000
<v Speaker 2>doesn't trigger you, it doesn't overwhelm you. It's just information

0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:27.040
<v Speaker 2>that happened. It's not something that you have to be

0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:29.880
<v Speaker 2>ashamed of. It's not something you have to judge. It's

0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:32.920
<v Speaker 2>just like check, check check. I understand how that's going

0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:35.880
<v Speaker 2>to fill my algorithm for my next life. This makes

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<v Speaker 2>perfect sense. Thank you so much for this opportunity, and

0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:42.960
<v Speaker 2>I'll be incorporating these lessons in this wisdom and preparing

0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:46.480
<v Speaker 2>for the next time. Like it's just it's so easy.

0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:49.400
<v Speaker 2>And she just kept saying it's so easy, and I

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<v Speaker 2>never heard it talk about with such It's not detachment

0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:58.000
<v Speaker 2>because it did happen, but it's so much awareness and

0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:01.440
<v Speaker 2>compassion and grace. And it was such a comfort to

0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:04.520
<v Speaker 2>this client who is so concerned about her you know,

0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:10.119
<v Speaker 2>beloved friend. And so I share that that for people

0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:13.040
<v Speaker 2>that also hold themselves to high standards, like what's going

0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:14.680
<v Speaker 2>to happen during my life review, like I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>get screwed, you know, because I'm such a bad person

0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:20.919
<v Speaker 2>because I missed all these A plus goals. It's not

0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:24.080
<v Speaker 2>about that. It's really more about how you do what

0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:29.119
<v Speaker 2>you actually do than what you do. So I just

0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.800
<v Speaker 2>just knowing the grace that's going to hold you from

0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.159
<v Speaker 2>the other side that is actually available now.

0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:38.119
<v Speaker 1>It's available now, Like right, I think what's happening is

0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:42.520
<v Speaker 1>that they're coming to you, and there's a divine reason

0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:44.879
<v Speaker 1>why they are. It is for you to actually be

0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:49.119
<v Speaker 1>that openness for them to see this and to understand this.

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<v Speaker 1>Because again, I do believe that people are carrying around

0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:57.120
<v Speaker 1>heavier weights right than we have before, Like on our shoulders.

0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:03.600
<v Speaker 1>Our backpacks are full. Yeah, right, And so you're like saying, yeah,

0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:06.440
<v Speaker 1>that backpack, actually you can make it a little more empty.

0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:08.800
<v Speaker 2>It can be a little more spacious, yes, give it.

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<v Speaker 1>You right, It's like we'll make some more room minutes

0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.480
<v Speaker 1>so it's not so heavy. And you know, I had

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<v Speaker 1>it's really interesting. In the last I'm going to say

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<v Speaker 1>a week, I've had more people come to me with

0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:34.000
<v Speaker 1>these interesting stories of openness. So I've had people call

0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:38.520
<v Speaker 1>that have said to me, did you call me? Because

0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:40.320
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm calling you back, and I'm like, no,

0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I didn't call you. Yes, actually I think wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to me.

0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:46.880
<v Speaker 2>You need to talk to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And actually the conversations are usually yeah, they needed

0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:52.720
<v Speaker 1>to talk to me. I'm just gonna say it. It

0:18:52.800 --> 0:18:57.240
<v Speaker 1>is what it is. I had a friend of mine

0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:03.200
<v Speaker 1>who texted me about thirty minutes before we started recording.

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<v Speaker 1>I love when this happens. This is my favorite like

0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:12.639
<v Speaker 1>moments that happened. And she asked me. She goes, so

0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:16.040
<v Speaker 1>is it possible for two people to be on the

0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:19.879
<v Speaker 1>same astroplane at once? Because I just talked to my

0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:24.439
<v Speaker 1>best friend and we shared the same story and they

0:19:24.480 --> 0:19:27.879
<v Speaker 1>called it a dream fan about this, you know dream

0:19:27.920 --> 0:19:31.360
<v Speaker 1>we both had last night down like to detail dialogue

0:19:31.600 --> 0:19:36.200
<v Speaker 1>the whole thing. I said, oh, darling, it is absolutely possible.

0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:41.000
<v Speaker 1>And did you forget pop Tart's chapter of my book

0:19:41.680 --> 0:19:45.359
<v Speaker 1>It is all about the astro plane. And so she

0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:48.040
<v Speaker 1>texts back, she you know, it's been you know, five

0:19:48.119 --> 0:19:50.040
<v Speaker 1>years or six years since you read it. She goes,

0:19:50.200 --> 0:19:52.640
<v Speaker 1>I need to go back and I need to be reminded.

0:19:55.040 --> 0:19:56.920
<v Speaker 1>And she said, I need to be reminded of the magic.

0:19:56.960 --> 0:19:59.680
<v Speaker 1>She goes, that's why I'm checking with you. I'm checking

0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:03.199
<v Speaker 1>with you. You just like is this possible? Is this true?

0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:06.360
<v Speaker 1>And it's like, yes, it is. And of course every

0:20:06.400 --> 0:20:09.880
<v Speaker 1>time I get that type of message, it's like congratulations, Yeah,

0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:13.800
<v Speaker 1>like that's amazing that you had that, and you had

0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:19.639
<v Speaker 1>it today, like you had you you felt so compelled

0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:22.560
<v Speaker 1>by your experience to share with your friend who also

0:20:22.640 --> 0:20:25.119
<v Speaker 1>had the same one. So of course you met in

0:20:25.160 --> 0:20:30.120
<v Speaker 1>the astral flame and so again another opening, right, that's

0:20:30.160 --> 0:20:36.119
<v Speaker 1>another opening that this wonderful young woman was given to

0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:38.960
<v Speaker 1>kind of shift right.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, to stay connected to the other side. Just know

0:20:42.000 --> 0:20:44.639
<v Speaker 2>that this life is bigger and more expansive than we

0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:48.960
<v Speaker 2>could ever imagine. And there's so much support there, right,

0:20:49.040 --> 0:20:52.919
<v Speaker 2>there's so much unconditional guidance and wisdom and healing and

0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:56.680
<v Speaker 2>insight and yeah, so help us navigate.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I had it last night. I got a

0:20:59.080 --> 0:21:03.200
<v Speaker 1>call and it was all yeah, so I'm on the phone.

0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:09.800
<v Speaker 1>It's you know, early mid evening, I guess, and I

0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:12.000
<v Speaker 1>mean we like we went for like it was real work.

0:21:12.080 --> 0:21:15.040
<v Speaker 1>He's like, Okay, I need to talk about the woo

0:21:15.040 --> 0:21:19.400
<v Speaker 1>woo stuff. I'm like Okay, I wasn't expecting that, but okay,

0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:23.359
<v Speaker 1>and he's like, you know, I have not meditated for

0:21:23.400 --> 0:21:26.240
<v Speaker 1>about four years. He goes, I used to do it

0:21:26.280 --> 0:21:29.119
<v Speaker 1>all the time. It was regular, and he used to

0:21:29.119 --> 0:21:32.959
<v Speaker 1>actually meditate with his cousin who has since jumped, and

0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:35.440
<v Speaker 1>so that could be part of the that that for him.

0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:38.320
<v Speaker 1>But he said, you know, he goes, I meditated today.

0:21:39.400 --> 0:21:41.639
<v Speaker 1>And he goes, and it was or last night, it

0:21:41.680 --> 0:21:43.720
<v Speaker 1>had been the night before, and he goes, I had

0:21:43.720 --> 0:21:46.840
<v Speaker 1>been looking out at the stars. He goes. Then I

0:21:46.880 --> 0:21:50.199
<v Speaker 1>get into this meditation, and he goes, I see like

0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:53.600
<v Speaker 1>I see a black hole. He goes, Then I see

0:21:53.640 --> 0:21:55.960
<v Speaker 1>this little looks like a piece of paper has a

0:21:56.000 --> 0:22:01.360
<v Speaker 1>star on it, and I can could move it around, left, right, backwards,

0:22:01.440 --> 0:22:03.879
<v Speaker 1>all the stretch it whatever. It goes in all of

0:22:03.920 --> 0:22:07.880
<v Speaker 1>a sudden, it like burst into I was surrounded by

0:22:07.960 --> 0:22:11.879
<v Speaker 1>all stars. He goes, I've never experienced that in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the best, right.

0:22:14.520 --> 0:22:19.560
<v Speaker 1>So it's like an opening, Yeah, another another opening opening

0:22:19.880 --> 0:22:25.680
<v Speaker 1>to feel that that the world is so much bigger

0:22:25.680 --> 0:22:31.479
<v Speaker 1>than buildings and cars and the cracking crab, even though

0:22:31.520 --> 0:22:33.400
<v Speaker 1>that was a little religious for.

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<v Speaker 3>Me, but but it's bigger it's beautiful.

0:22:38.280 --> 0:22:39.040
<v Speaker 2>It's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Should we take another quickie?

0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:41.880
<v Speaker 2>We should all.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, quickie, y'all.

0:22:42.920 --> 0:22:51.480
<v Speaker 3>I'll be back, and we're back everybody. It was quick

0:22:51.520 --> 0:22:53.560
<v Speaker 3>for you, because it was for us.

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<v Speaker 2>So one reason I wanted to bring this up my

0:22:57.320 --> 0:23:00.119
<v Speaker 2>office because I would I saw that that paw and

0:23:00.320 --> 0:23:03.640
<v Speaker 2>in my work schedule this week. But I also had

0:23:03.640 --> 0:23:09.360
<v Speaker 2>a personal experience where I was running around taking care

0:23:09.440 --> 0:23:12.120
<v Speaker 2>of things, you know, and it's whatever, It's not even

0:23:12.160 --> 0:23:14.639
<v Speaker 2>eight o'clock in the morning. I'm like, oh my god,

0:23:14.760 --> 0:23:19.000
<v Speaker 2>you have got to speak nicer to yourself. I think

0:23:19.000 --> 0:23:21.639
<v Speaker 2>it was just this moment and I don't usually do this,

0:23:21.800 --> 0:23:26.520
<v Speaker 2>but I had a number of things. Again, possibly other

0:23:26.960 --> 0:23:30.960
<v Speaker 2>listeners have had this experience where you're not in control

0:23:31.040 --> 0:23:33.359
<v Speaker 2>of things that are actually happening in your own house,

0:23:33.840 --> 0:23:35.920
<v Speaker 2>where people are coming in to do different things and

0:23:36.000 --> 0:23:38.840
<v Speaker 2>different schedules and not communicating, and you know, things are

0:23:38.880 --> 0:23:40.679
<v Speaker 2>getting a little jacked and and I was like, oh

0:23:40.720 --> 0:23:41.760
<v Speaker 2>my god, how am I going to get this done?

0:23:41.760 --> 0:23:44.280
<v Speaker 2>And oh my god, you know, and spinning out. I

0:23:44.280 --> 0:23:46.480
<v Speaker 2>was like, whoa, you have got to come down. You've

0:23:46.760 --> 0:23:49.240
<v Speaker 2>just got to take it down a notch. And I'm

0:23:49.359 --> 0:23:52.919
<v Speaker 2>laughing at myself while I'm noticing my ears by my shoulders,

0:23:53.560 --> 0:23:56.480
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, oh my god, I'm embodying what

0:23:57.040 --> 0:23:58.760
<v Speaker 2>I did all week long in these readings.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's like it's a disease and you caught

0:24:01.520 --> 0:24:02.359
<v Speaker 1>it exactly.

0:24:04.359 --> 0:24:07.640
<v Speaker 2>It's an energetic pattern disease. Yeah, and which they all are,

0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:11.760
<v Speaker 2>but so so. And the reason I bring this up

0:24:12.280 --> 0:24:16.760
<v Speaker 2>is because it is something that we can monitor, that

0:24:16.800 --> 0:24:19.480
<v Speaker 2>we notice that we set up signals to ourselves that says,

0:24:19.520 --> 0:24:21.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, for some people it's grinding their teeth, for

0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:24.040
<v Speaker 2>other people, it's how fast you speak or how fast

0:24:24.040 --> 0:24:26.480
<v Speaker 2>you're moving, or for other people is if you snap

0:24:26.520 --> 0:24:29.720
<v Speaker 2>at other people. Whatever it is to notice like, oh

0:24:29.760 --> 0:24:33.240
<v Speaker 2>I'm repped, I'm caught in this wave and I need

0:24:33.280 --> 0:24:36.520
<v Speaker 2>to set my own vibration. I need to set my

0:24:36.640 --> 0:24:40.600
<v Speaker 2>own pace that I'm comfortable with faster, if I need to, slower,

0:24:40.640 --> 0:24:42.760
<v Speaker 2>if I need to, And on any given day it

0:24:42.800 --> 0:24:48.480
<v Speaker 2>can change. So finding that spaciousness within yourself and being

0:24:48.480 --> 0:24:50.639
<v Speaker 2>able to match it and honor it and then pause

0:24:50.720 --> 0:24:53.280
<v Speaker 2>when you can't drop a new grounding court, set a

0:24:53.320 --> 0:24:56.639
<v Speaker 2>fresh rose up, whatever you need to do to align

0:24:56.840 --> 0:25:01.480
<v Speaker 2>and reconnect with your highest that brings your best to

0:25:01.520 --> 0:25:04.400
<v Speaker 2>the world. You can't rely on other people because they

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:07.640
<v Speaker 2>don't know you know, and you have to manage it.

0:25:07.920 --> 0:25:10.440
<v Speaker 1>And if you're a snappy ass turtle and you actually

0:25:10.440 --> 0:25:14.480
<v Speaker 1>do something, apologize because I actually did that last weekend.

0:25:14.720 --> 0:25:17.800
<v Speaker 1>I like snapptist Suzanne and it was it was and

0:25:18.480 --> 0:25:20.040
<v Speaker 1>I apologized to her and she goes, you know, it

0:25:20.119 --> 0:25:22.359
<v Speaker 1>just caught me off guard because you normally she's like,

0:25:22.359 --> 0:25:25.479
<v Speaker 1>you don't talk like that, you don't respond ever like that.

0:25:25.600 --> 0:25:29.679
<v Speaker 1>I said, I'm just sorry, like I am sorry, Like

0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:34.800
<v Speaker 1>it was just a few events had happened that kind

0:25:34.800 --> 0:25:38.920
<v Speaker 1>of whatever threw me off and so so I mean,

0:25:38.920 --> 0:25:41.840
<v Speaker 1>I was going to add to your self awareness is

0:25:41.960 --> 0:25:46.280
<v Speaker 1>also it's worth an apology everybody.

0:25:45.200 --> 0:25:47.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, to yourself or someone else.

0:25:47.800 --> 0:25:50.639
<v Speaker 1>Right, exactly like you were apologizing to yourself. I apologize

0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:51.639
<v Speaker 1>to Suzanne exactly.

0:25:51.880 --> 0:25:57.120
<v Speaker 2>I was mostly calling myself out like hey, hey, hey, yeah.

0:25:57.160 --> 0:26:03.960
<v Speaker 1>So I had a very interesting variance, of course, and

0:26:04.840 --> 0:26:10.040
<v Speaker 1>it's the expansiveness and it really to me embodies what

0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:16.360
<v Speaker 1>we titled this episode. We have some gay boyfriends here

0:26:16.359 --> 0:26:21.400
<v Speaker 1>in town that we absolutely adore. They do not take

0:26:21.440 --> 0:26:23.200
<v Speaker 1>the place of Reuben and Jimmy, and they know that,

0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:31.119
<v Speaker 1>and they were having a party for some friends of

0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:34.920
<v Speaker 1>theirs from San Francisco, because our guys moved here from

0:26:34.960 --> 0:26:37.240
<v Speaker 1>San Francisco about a year or so ago, year and

0:26:37.240 --> 0:26:41.320
<v Speaker 1>a half maybe, And so they had us little get

0:26:41.359 --> 0:26:45.480
<v Speaker 1>together and I was running in tad late to get there.

0:26:45.920 --> 0:26:49.320
<v Speaker 1>We were having a thunderstorm. Susanna actually stayed home because

0:26:49.359 --> 0:26:54.520
<v Speaker 1>Rebel was all shaky. Yeah, it's real, especially when they

0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:56.200
<v Speaker 1>get older, like you just want to be with them,

0:26:56.240 --> 0:27:00.359
<v Speaker 1>you know. And she's not good with thunder And so

0:27:00.400 --> 0:27:04.000
<v Speaker 1>I went by myself there. I walked in, said hello

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<v Speaker 1>to a few people that I didn't know, and here

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<v Speaker 1>walks this man and his name is a Neil and Anil.

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<v Speaker 1>His family moved to the Bay Area when he was

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<v Speaker 1>eight from India. His father had a really cool job.

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<v Speaker 1>He talked about how much he loved his mother. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he's like a dream. But when he come when he

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<v Speaker 1>came up to me, he kind of went out to

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<v Speaker 1>shake my hand as like you know, you're a stranger,

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<v Speaker 1>and he pulled it back and he reached out and

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<v Speaker 1>hugged me and pulled me in. Now, let me tell

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<v Speaker 1>you something. Those who know me know that hugging is

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<v Speaker 1>my love language.

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<v Speaker 2>That's real.

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<v Speaker 1>It is very real. I've been upped this man. When

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<v Speaker 1>he hugged me, I felt like the chills go through

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<v Speaker 1>my body, and that really like when you get a massage,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and it's like ah and you're just like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of melt. I melted in this man's arm. I did.

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<v Speaker 1>I melted in his arms and like I full ondon

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<v Speaker 1>onet let go, and neither did he. It was like this.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if other people were watching, they may or

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<v Speaker 1>may not have been. I didn't take it. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>actually have a questionnaire, didn't just survey, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>probably a nobody's been go card. But we stood and

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<v Speaker 1>hug for quite a while. I have no idea how

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<v Speaker 1>long it was, but it was a while. But it

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<v Speaker 1>felt angelic. It felt like it felt like unconditional love.

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<v Speaker 1>It felt like something that you would see in a

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<v Speaker 1>movie but not feel yourself, but you know the other

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<v Speaker 1>person was feeling it. Yep, And I was like whoa

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<v Speaker 1>And I looked at him. I said, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to ask who are you? What are you? And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it was so genuine and he looked at me,

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<v Speaker 1>he goes, what do you mean? I said, I don't like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to respond to your presence. It's

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<v Speaker 1>so heavenly. And so we sat down. He throws pottery.

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<v Speaker 1>I've thrown a few myselfs. We had this really great conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about crystals, you know, I gave all right

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<v Speaker 1>and well. And also because of he's of Indian descent,

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<v Speaker 1>we talked about the Himalayas. We talked about the Mayroom Mountains,

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<v Speaker 1>which are also called the Shark fin which he obviously

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<v Speaker 1>knew about. I gave him my may Room. Oh no,

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<v Speaker 1>like magic. And we've been texting all day, like I

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<v Speaker 1>think I have a very healthy, angelic crush on this man.

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<v Speaker 1>And I couldn't stop talking about him. To Susanne. I'm like, honey,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to meet him. I'm like, he's exquisite. And

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<v Speaker 1>but what he has done for me in this time

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<v Speaker 1>of great earthly discord, dismay, frustration, fires, floods, wars, is

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<v Speaker 1>that he reminded me of what spiritual love feels like.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, and it's always available.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's always available. And plus I ask if I

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<v Speaker 1>could steal him, and he said maybe his husband would

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<v Speaker 1>let me bar him. I said, I'll take it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, i'd clone you whatever, But even when I see

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<v Speaker 4>his name come up on my phone, I feel that

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<v Speaker 4>I'd like, it's right, it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just think it's it's so magical when you

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<v Speaker 1>have these things you want to talk about when I

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<v Speaker 1>literally experienced something and I don't think I ever would

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<v Speaker 1>have known to frame it the way that you did

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<v Speaker 1>and to bring it in the way that you did.

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<v Speaker 1>So thank you because I I mean, I'm a girl

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<v Speaker 1>that thinks we should all hug more anyway, I really do,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I love the woman who had the gay kid

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<v Speaker 1>and she started free mom hugs. I'm like, why did

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<v Speaker 1>I do that? Damn it? I could have been hugging

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<v Speaker 1>every day all day smart anyway, It's just a really

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful reminder and a really chaotic time for people that

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the other sides available to you, your guides,

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<v Speaker 1>other humans, your own self talk, and there's just.

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<v Speaker 2>More, more, more love. It is so much kinder. There's

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<v Speaker 2>so much kindness in the world, and you can contribute,

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<v Speaker 2>like like the saying said, start in your own backyard.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you hunt down this guy named Anil too if

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<v Speaker 1>you really want to, or just say, what would a

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<v Speaker 1>Neil do?

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<v Speaker 2>How can they and kneel myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh nice, how can I and kneel heal myself?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I like it because he was because I know, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm obviously obsessed with this man. I know that like

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<v Speaker 1>he felt it because I texted him. I'm like, sweetheart,

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<v Speaker 1>I have no idea what you are, but I can

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<v Speaker 1>only tell you that your magical. And he goes, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel the exact same about you. So it was like this,

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<v Speaker 1>I love it, lovely clash of like heavenly experiences.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, we got it, and I just really challenge

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<v Speaker 2>people to become it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, becoming you know, be.

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<v Speaker 2>The conduit, vibe it out to your the people you

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<v Speaker 2>cohabitate with, to the world, to the people you work with,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody like just but you can't fake it. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>give it away if you can't claim it for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Correct.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's the beautiful thing about it. It's not a catch, like,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not trying to catch you to trick you. It's

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<v Speaker 2>literally an invitation for self care.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, when you do you prior you might have felt

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<v Speaker 1>that your guest tank was empty, and all of a sudden,

0:33:17.240 --> 0:33:20.440
<v Speaker 1>one thing, that tank is full, exactly, whether it is

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<v Speaker 1>realizing out loud what I said to my kid, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>or realizing the self talk like you talked about, or

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<v Speaker 1>finding this magical Indian man name and Neil.

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<v Speaker 2>I like your's the best way.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I could very well just go fly to

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<v Speaker 1>San Francisco monthly now for Joseph and Neil. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to figure it out somehow.

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<v Speaker 2>But I have no doubt you will find this.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, I will.

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