Speaker 1: Welcome to Insider's Guide to the Other Side, a production
Speaker 1: of iHeartRadio. Hi, y'all, I'm Julie.
Speaker 2: Hi there, I'm Brenda. Welcome to Insider's Guide to the
Speaker 2: Other Side.
Speaker 1: Now, y'all need to know that we are obsessed with
Speaker 1: everything on the other side.
Speaker 2: Yes, we are, because once you learn to navigate the energetic,
Speaker 2: or to some the invisible world, life is going to
Speaker 2: be more fun and much more serene.
Speaker 1: Uh heck, yes it can. Because, let's be honest, br in,
Speaker 1: earth school is hard. In fact, you taught me.
Speaker 2: That let's crush Earth school together.
Speaker 1: Well, hello, my witchy pooh, apparently I cannot count. How
Speaker 1: are you?
Speaker 2: I want everyone just to take a seat, because I'm
Speaker 2: telling you my off is rubbed up. Today's a rare form.
Speaker 1: Account for shit.
Speaker 2: Here we go.
Speaker 1: How are you doing? What's happening?
Speaker 2: I am? I am in it. I am in it
Speaker 2: my ouf like everybody else. This is what I'm noticing,
Speaker 2: and I want to bounce it off you.
Speaker 1: I bounce they're doing.
Speaker 2: I know it's gonna say my birthday, Elf, I know
Speaker 2: how you're doing it. I've had a great I have
Speaker 2: had a fabulous week coming off your birthday celebrating you ya.
Speaker 1: I know I had. I said, I had crab. It
Speaker 1: was fantastic, and I was like, baby, what do you
Speaker 1: want to do for your birthday? And I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: I bought us both a present because her birthday's five
Speaker 1: days before mine, and I bought us front row tickets
Speaker 1: to see Melissa Ethridge here in Santa Fe because that's
Speaker 1: what old lesbian should do. And so I'm falling quiet
Speaker 1: it is so I'm following the handbook and so I
Speaker 1: got to see that and she said, well what do
Speaker 1: I do? I said, I want to go to the
Speaker 1: crack and crab and I want to get like I
Speaker 1: want to be knee deep and elbow deep and butter
Speaker 1: and uh and and the end. So that's what we did.
Speaker 2: It was fabulous, well played, nicely done. I have a
Speaker 2: lot to learn from you, for sure. Okay, that's great.
Speaker 2: So I, on the other hand, am in a different place.
Speaker 2: So I've had the privilege of doing a couple of
Speaker 2: readings now that I'm off the road, and it's been great.
Speaker 2: And what I'm noticing. The trend I'm seeing is the
Speaker 2: stress level of incredibly high vibe, aware, accountable, energetically attuned
Speaker 2: people are under, are putting themselves under such a great
Speaker 2: deal of stress and tuning into the discourse and judging
Speaker 2: themselves harshly and setting really high expectations and making stressful
Speaker 2: situations worse by kind of their what they're focusing on,
Speaker 2: and the self talk and the self critical voice, and
Speaker 2: and you know, I'm assuming if I see this in
Speaker 2: a trend, I'm assuming that it's representative of you know,
Speaker 2: more than just the people that are coming to me. Like,
Speaker 2: it's just happening in the world. So are you experiencing
Speaker 2: that completely?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm I think that's coming from so many places, right,
Speaker 1: I think it's coming from I think there's global stress.
Speaker 1: They're like global touch, yeah, right, but it's like it's
Speaker 1: there's earth stress on the earth. There's humans stressing each other,
Speaker 1: there's wars, right, So that's the global kind of stress.
Speaker 1: There's stress in our country. We have an election coming up.
Speaker 1: There's always stress during that time and a lot of chaos.
Speaker 1: I think that's happening. You know, through that, there's there's
Speaker 1: local community stress, and you know, economic and economic.
Speaker 2: And into relationships and speaking harshly and reacting quickly and
Speaker 2: or not engaging at all. Which creates space for people
Speaker 2: to spin out. And again, when people don't have information
Speaker 2: or communication that's clear, they make up their own information
Speaker 2: and it's never helpful, right, It's always negative, it's always critical.
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry, I got to ask a question. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when we were talking about just months ago, nobody, no
Speaker 1: precise states exist in my in my orbits don't work.
Speaker 2: Don't worry, don't worry.
Speaker 1: But you were talking about how we are moving into
Speaker 1: Capricorn soon, and.
Speaker 2: We were talking about Pluto moving into Aquarius.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, what are we in now?
Speaker 2: We're still we are in Aquarius. That moved in in February,
Speaker 2: I believe, and it works out in September. It goes
Speaker 2: retrograde in September.
Speaker 1: Okay, So is it awesome that being in the runway
Speaker 1: of that? Does that cause anything? I'm only I'm asking
Speaker 1: for a friend in that friend nic so, but does
Speaker 1: that can that create I mean, I know there's events
Speaker 1: and whatever, but they can that create part of any
Speaker 1: of this? I'm just seriously asking.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't I don't think that's going
Speaker 2: to be affecting us right now. Because we are part
Speaker 2: of part of the community awareness that you know, these
Speaker 2: specific clients came forward with or the collective that is
Speaker 2: Pluto and Aquarius for sure. Oh okay, and that you
Speaker 2: know that we're sensitive to the collective like I want
Speaker 2: to be able to do more. I should be able
Speaker 2: to do more. I'm less than because I'm not, I'm
Speaker 2: not doing more, you know, sort of that kind of
Speaker 2: that kind of mantra can can kick up during this time,
Speaker 2: for sure. But what was interesting to me, and it
Speaker 2: could be, you know, just the stress and the exhaustion
Speaker 2: because these people are kind of burning it at both ends,
Speaker 2: both you know, for personal as well as professional or
Speaker 2: public or community oriented, is that they're judging themselves harshly
Speaker 2: and this is a kind of a new level of
Speaker 2: self induced stress. And when I talk about being kind
Speaker 2: to themselves, it's a yeah, but yeah, but it's still
Speaker 2: not getting done. Yeah, but it should be this. You know,
Speaker 2: I should be, I could be. I'm capable of I
Speaker 2: you know, I need to do more sort of mantra.
Speaker 2: And what comes through in each of these these consultations
Speaker 2: in different ways. But the thread is what I want
Speaker 2: to talk about today, which is where the title comes from.
Speaker 2: Right remembers you are loved the divine doesn't judge you
Speaker 2: as less than right. The divine is like you are
Speaker 2: perfection in every moment, and that's feels so far away
Speaker 2: from where we live. We wake up in the morning
Speaker 2: and we feel behind. We wake up in the morning,
Speaker 2: you know, it's like, oh God, what did I miss
Speaker 2: from yesterday?
Speaker 1: Or well, I think there's fight or flight to that
Speaker 1: is actually happening. And I tell you what's interesting, So
Speaker 1: you can imagine I run with a lot of like liberals, Democrats.
Speaker 1: You know, I have other people obviously that have different
Speaker 1: points of view in my life as well, but there's
Speaker 1: a large consortium of them, especially living in Santa Fe,
Speaker 1: and there's a lot of talk about, or has been
Speaker 1: a lot of talk leading up to now is people
Speaker 1: are like, well, what European country should I move to
Speaker 1: if Trump is reelected, which, by the way, the same
Speaker 1: conversation is happening on the other side of the political spectrum.
Speaker 1: It's like, if you know Kambala wins, what country am
Speaker 1: I going to move to? And I've been asked this
Speaker 1: brand no less than four times lately, literally four times,
Speaker 1: and he let me tell you my response. So it's
Speaker 1: really interesting. I didn't think about this until now. In fact,
Speaker 1: this was no pre talk. There's no preparation. My response
Speaker 1: is the same, and it is brief and it is
Speaker 1: to the point. And my response is I am not
Speaker 1: running away from this country because everybody I love is
Speaker 1: here m And that is my response. Yeah, and they
Speaker 1: all stop, draw, roll, rethink because I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: know what you're going to get. I don't know how
Speaker 1: much richer you think your life is going to be
Speaker 1: without a single soul that you love around you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now, I'm not saying people shouldn't move if they want
Speaker 1: to move whatever. I'm just saying that my point of
Speaker 1: view is so it comes up to that you are
Speaker 1: loved and so it's weird, of course, because this is
Speaker 1: what I love about us, is you come up with
Speaker 1: a topic, we start talking like, oh shit, of course
Speaker 1: this is what we should be talking about, like these
Speaker 1: are the things that are happening in the world. Forgive
Speaker 1: me for interrupting you on that, but it is.
Speaker 2: It's it's it's up for you, right, And how many
Speaker 2: ways can we look at our life and say this
Speaker 2: is perfect, this is perfect. It's not at all what
Speaker 2: I expected, it's not at all what I planned for.
Speaker 2: I am ill prepared for this situation, and it's perfect
Speaker 2: and I'm going to be perfect in it. Somehow it's
Speaker 2: going to work and it's there will be something that's
Speaker 2: meaningful or purposeful in it, and I may be aware
Speaker 2: of it and I may never be aware of it,
Speaker 2: and I can still be okay with it. Like this
Speaker 2: is and it literally is a blind faith and what
Speaker 2: is possible if we live as though it were true?
Speaker 2: Because this is what's coming through in all these sessions.
Speaker 2: It's like, wait a minute, didn't this turn out? Yes?
Speaker 2: Didn't this turn out better than you planned? Yes? Didn't
Speaker 2: you get a blessing or an opening or that looked
Speaker 2: like this? Yes? Okay, So again, what was the problem?
Speaker 2: You know, it all turns out okay and better than okay,
Speaker 2: And holding the possibility like sometimes it's not about overefforting.
Speaker 2: Sometimes it's about allowing. It literally is going with the
Speaker 2: flow and creating space for the grace. And it sounds boring,
Speaker 2: it sounds like you're acquiescing, but it's really the opposite.
Speaker 2: It's how can you hold a bigger space well?
Speaker 1: And I think also for our literal people out in
Speaker 1: the world. So I'm going to tap into that side
Speaker 1: of me. Is I think sometimes when's i' let me
Speaker 1: put it a better way, I think it's contrast. And
Speaker 1: I think the contrast is on one side, things feel
Speaker 1: so heavy to people even when something good happens, that
Speaker 1: heaviness tends to outweigh for them when they don't stop
Speaker 1: and say, oh my god, this is great, you know,
Speaker 1: because I think contra I think I contrast is like
Speaker 1: always my word, because I think contrast is it's all
Speaker 1: about our perspective, our framing, whatever whatever we want to
Speaker 1: call it, our picture, our frame. And I think for
Speaker 1: people who things are working well for, there's these other things,
Speaker 1: is that they're letting way really heavy. So when I
Speaker 1: think about elections and wars, I'm gonna be really honest
Speaker 1: with you, Bran. I got no power. I got one
Speaker 1: vote and one person on one vote. I can be
Speaker 1: really nice talking to people about it if they want
Speaker 1: to talk about it. That's all the power I have.
Speaker 1: I have no control over wars, none whatsoever, right, I
Speaker 1: just I don't nobody, not one person here, not a
Speaker 1: single maybe a collective, but not one single does and
Speaker 1: so I can only participate to the level that I
Speaker 1: can and whatever it may be, and I can't carry
Speaker 1: it any heavy year.
Speaker 2: And I'm going to take some control and call a break.
Speaker 1: Fine, all right, okay, since you cut me off, I
Speaker 1: didn't come on and we're back, So hit it.
Speaker 2: Which So I read for one of women that I've
Speaker 2: read from many times, a very successful professional, and she
Speaker 2: comes in. She has a huge job, you know, a
Speaker 2: lot of responsibility, lots of stress, lots of rewards, but
Speaker 2: lots of stress. And she comes in stressed about her
Speaker 2: her tween daughter.
Speaker 1: That's reasonable.
Speaker 2: It happens all the time, right. So I've got this
Speaker 2: organization of you know, multi hundred you know, blah blah
Speaker 2: blah people and around the globe, and this is what
Speaker 2: I'm stressed about. And I can't control and I can't fix,
Speaker 2: and I can't control her experiences in the world. I
Speaker 2: can't control how she behaves in the world. And I'm
Speaker 2: you know, obviously it is an error in my parenting.
Speaker 2: And you know, all the things that are easy to
Speaker 2: spin out about. But when you when you like, okay, well,
Speaker 2: let's let's take a look at that, you know, and
Speaker 2: how are you energetically supporting her? And it's with all
Speaker 2: this doubt and all this stress that she has in
Speaker 2: her This the mom has in her head spinning out
Speaker 2: comes out. Now it's not direct, but it comes out sideways, right,
Speaker 2: So it's in a way that she's not like you
Speaker 2: wore that to school today, is not like that, but
Speaker 2: it's kind of like that right where she's yeah, it's
Speaker 2: close enough where it it comes out sideways. And she
Speaker 2: started laughing so hard when I just like, all I
Speaker 2: did was repeat back to her what she said to me,
Speaker 2: and she's like, oh my god, but there's not that space.
Speaker 2: There's not that taking a beat before she says it
Speaker 2: because her world's so busy like we all are, and
Speaker 2: just holding that sacred space to give her chance so
Speaker 2: she can see it without judgment and say, so you're
Speaker 2: telling me you said this to her, And she just
Speaker 2: stopped in her tracks and said, oh my god, I
Speaker 2: did say that to her, And no wonder if she
Speaker 2: flipped her ledge. You know, she just came on glue
Speaker 2: and she was able to laugh about it, and she
Speaker 2: was able to have compassion for herself and understanding completely
Speaker 2: why she intended it and said it, and also at
Speaker 2: the same moment understanding how unacceptable that was. And now
Speaker 2: her daughter should have rolled her eyes at her and
Speaker 2: dismissed her. And the the lightness that was somehow available
Speaker 2: to her in our conversation that wasn't available to her
Speaker 2: in her kitchen, you know, that previous morning or whenever
Speaker 2: that happened. But it was just this spaciousness.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we foretell when we want to foretell bad things happening.
Speaker 1: Guess what happens.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what happens.
Speaker 1: Right. And then especially when your kid is either getting
Speaker 1: it from language or energy. That's the other thing parents, y'all.
Speaker 1: I know I'm not one. I'm one of those child
Speaker 1: as cat ladies that JD Vance doesn't like. But I'm
Speaker 1: just going to say it loud. Is that like kids,
Speaker 1: it's all energy. They know.
Speaker 2: It's like pets, it's all energy they know. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: and so, but she could see it and she could
Speaker 2: feel it, but she did it with lightness. And what
Speaker 2: was interesting to me is in the next session, So
Speaker 2: the next reading I got to do, it was someone
Speaker 2: came in for strong focus on mediumship and the person
Speaker 2: that she was concerned about, who the spirit who passed over.
Speaker 2: She was like, Wow, she had kind of a traumatic
Speaker 2: this and that, and I'm worried that she land in
Speaker 2: a good place, and the spirit came through with, oh,
Speaker 2: those are all such earthly things, and yeah, they would
Speaker 2: be so important if I were embodied on earth. But
Speaker 2: when you watch your life review, you're watching it and
Speaker 2: it's all passed. It's not up for you energetically. It
Speaker 2: doesn't trigger you, it doesn't overwhelm you. It's just information
Speaker 2: that happened. It's not something that you have to be
Speaker 2: ashamed of. It's not something you have to judge. It's
Speaker 2: just like check, check check. I understand how that's going
Speaker 2: to fill my algorithm for my next life. This makes
Speaker 2: perfect sense. Thank you so much for this opportunity, and
Speaker 2: I'll be incorporating these lessons in this wisdom and preparing
Speaker 2: for the next time. Like it's just it's so easy.
Speaker 2: And she just kept saying it's so easy, and I
Speaker 2: never heard it talk about with such It's not detachment
Speaker 2: because it did happen, but it's so much awareness and
Speaker 2: compassion and grace. And it was such a comfort to
Speaker 2: this client who is so concerned about her you know,
Speaker 2: beloved friend. And so I share that that for people
Speaker 2: that also hold themselves to high standards, like what's going
Speaker 2: to happen during my life review, like I'm going to
Speaker 2: get screwed, you know, because I'm such a bad person
Speaker 2: because I missed all these A plus goals. It's not
Speaker 2: about that. It's really more about how you do what
Speaker 2: you actually do than what you do. So I just
Speaker 2: just knowing the grace that's going to hold you from
Speaker 2: the other side that is actually available now.
Speaker 1: It's available now, Like right, I think what's happening is
Speaker 1: that they're coming to you, and there's a divine reason
Speaker 1: why they are. It is for you to actually be
Speaker 1: that openness for them to see this and to understand this.
Speaker 1: Because again, I do believe that people are carrying around
Speaker 1: heavier weights right than we have before, Like on our shoulders.
Speaker 1: Our backpacks are full. Yeah, right, And so you're like saying, yeah,
Speaker 1: that backpack, actually you can make it a little more empty.
Speaker 2: It can be a little more spacious, yes, give it.
Speaker 1: You right, It's like we'll make some more room minutes
Speaker 1: so it's not so heavy. And you know, I had
Speaker 1: it's really interesting. In the last I'm going to say
Speaker 1: a week, I've had more people come to me with
Speaker 1: these interesting stories of openness. So I've had people call
Speaker 1: that have said to me, did you call me? Because
Speaker 1: I think I'm calling you back, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I didn't call you. Yes, actually I think wanted to
Speaker 1: talk to me.
Speaker 2: You need to talk to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And actually the conversations are usually yeah, they needed
Speaker 1: to talk to me. I'm just gonna say it. It
Speaker 1: is what it is. I had a friend of mine
Speaker 1: who texted me about thirty minutes before we started recording.
Speaker 1: I love when this happens. This is my favorite like
Speaker 1: moments that happened. And she asked me. She goes, so
Speaker 1: is it possible for two people to be on the
Speaker 1: same astroplane at once? Because I just talked to my
Speaker 1: best friend and we shared the same story and they
Speaker 1: called it a dream fan about this, you know dream
Speaker 1: we both had last night down like to detail dialogue
Speaker 1: the whole thing. I said, oh, darling, it is absolutely possible.
Speaker 1: And did you forget pop Tart's chapter of my book
Speaker 1: It is all about the astro plane. And so she
Speaker 1: texts back, she you know, it's been you know, five
Speaker 1: years or six years since you read it. She goes,
Speaker 1: I need to go back and I need to be reminded.
Speaker 1: And she said, I need to be reminded of the magic.
Speaker 1: She goes, that's why I'm checking with you. I'm checking
Speaker 1: with you. You just like is this possible? Is this true?
Speaker 1: And it's like, yes, it is. And of course every
Speaker 1: time I get that type of message, it's like congratulations, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like that's amazing that you had that, and you had
Speaker 1: it today, like you had you you felt so compelled
Speaker 1: by your experience to share with your friend who also
Speaker 1: had the same one. So of course you met in
Speaker 1: the astral flame and so again another opening, right, that's
Speaker 1: another opening that this wonderful young woman was given to
Speaker 1: kind of shift right.
Speaker 2: Right, to stay connected to the other side. Just know
Speaker 2: that this life is bigger and more expansive than we
Speaker 2: could ever imagine. And there's so much support there, right,
Speaker 2: there's so much unconditional guidance and wisdom and healing and
Speaker 2: insight and yeah, so help us navigate.
Speaker 1: I mean, I had it last night. I got a
Speaker 1: call and it was all yeah, so I'm on the phone.
Speaker 1: It's you know, early mid evening, I guess, and I
Speaker 1: mean we like we went for like it was real work.
Speaker 1: He's like, Okay, I need to talk about the woo
Speaker 1: woo stuff. I'm like Okay, I wasn't expecting that, but okay,
Speaker 1: and he's like, you know, I have not meditated for
Speaker 1: about four years. He goes, I used to do it
Speaker 1: all the time. It was regular, and he used to
Speaker 1: actually meditate with his cousin who has since jumped, and
Speaker 1: so that could be part of the that that for him.
Speaker 1: But he said, you know, he goes, I meditated today.
Speaker 1: And he goes, and it was or last night, it
Speaker 1: had been the night before, and he goes, I had
Speaker 1: been looking out at the stars. He goes. Then I
Speaker 1: get into this meditation, and he goes, I see like
Speaker 1: I see a black hole. He goes, Then I see
Speaker 1: this little looks like a piece of paper has a
Speaker 1: star on it, and I can could move it around, left, right, backwards,
Speaker 1: all the stretch it whatever. It goes in all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, it like burst into I was surrounded by
Speaker 1: all stars. He goes, I've never experienced that in my life.
Speaker 2: That's the best, right.
Speaker 1: So it's like an opening, Yeah, another another opening opening
Speaker 1: to feel that that the world is so much bigger
Speaker 1: than buildings and cars and the cracking crab, even though
Speaker 1: that was a little religious for.
Speaker 3: Me, but but it's bigger it's beautiful.
Speaker 2: It's beautiful.
Speaker 1: Should we take another quickie?
Speaker 2: We should all.
Speaker 1: Right, quickie, y'all.
Speaker 3: I'll be back, and we're back everybody. It was quick
Speaker 3: for you, because it was for us.
Speaker 2: So one reason I wanted to bring this up my
Speaker 2: office because I would I saw that that paw and
Speaker 2: in my work schedule this week. But I also had
Speaker 2: a personal experience where I was running around taking care
Speaker 2: of things, you know, and it's whatever, It's not even
Speaker 2: eight o'clock in the morning. I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: you have got to speak nicer to yourself. I think
Speaker 2: it was just this moment and I don't usually do this,
Speaker 2: but I had a number of things. Again, possibly other
Speaker 2: listeners have had this experience where you're not in control
Speaker 2: of things that are actually happening in your own house,
Speaker 2: where people are coming in to do different things and
Speaker 2: different schedules and not communicating, and you know, things are
Speaker 2: getting a little jacked and and I was like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, how am I going to get this done?
Speaker 2: And oh my god, you know, and spinning out. I
Speaker 2: was like, whoa, you have got to come down. You've
Speaker 2: just got to take it down a notch. And I'm
Speaker 2: laughing at myself while I'm noticing my ears by my shoulders,
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh my god, I'm embodying what
Speaker 2: I did all week long in these readings.
Speaker 1: You know, it's like it's a disease and you caught
Speaker 1: it exactly.
Speaker 2: It's an energetic pattern disease. Yeah, and which they all are,
Speaker 2: but so so. And the reason I bring this up
Speaker 2: is because it is something that we can monitor, that
Speaker 2: we notice that we set up signals to ourselves that says,
Speaker 2: you know, for some people it's grinding their teeth, for
Speaker 2: other people, it's how fast you speak or how fast
Speaker 2: you're moving, or for other people is if you snap
Speaker 2: at other people. Whatever it is to notice like, oh
Speaker 2: I'm repped, I'm caught in this wave and I need
Speaker 2: to set my own vibration. I need to set my
Speaker 2: own pace that I'm comfortable with faster, if I need to, slower,
Speaker 2: if I need to, And on any given day it
Speaker 2: can change. So finding that spaciousness within yourself and being
Speaker 2: able to match it and honor it and then pause
Speaker 2: when you can't drop a new grounding court, set a
Speaker 2: fresh rose up, whatever you need to do to align
Speaker 2: and reconnect with your highest that brings your best to
Speaker 2: the world. You can't rely on other people because they
Speaker 2: don't know you know, and you have to manage it.
Speaker 1: And if you're a snappy ass turtle and you actually
Speaker 1: do something, apologize because I actually did that last weekend.
Speaker 1: I like snapptist Suzanne and it was it was and
Speaker 1: I apologized to her and she goes, you know, it
Speaker 1: just caught me off guard because you normally she's like,
Speaker 1: you don't talk like that, you don't respond ever like that.
Speaker 1: I said, I'm just sorry, like I am sorry, Like
Speaker 1: it was just a few events had happened that kind
Speaker 1: of whatever threw me off and so so I mean,
Speaker 1: I was going to add to your self awareness is
Speaker 1: also it's worth an apology everybody.
Speaker 2: Yeah, to yourself or someone else.
Speaker 1: Right, exactly like you were apologizing to yourself. I apologize
Speaker 1: to Suzanne exactly.
Speaker 2: I was mostly calling myself out like hey, hey, hey, yeah.
Speaker 1: So I had a very interesting variance, of course, and
Speaker 1: it's the expansiveness and it really to me embodies what
Speaker 1: we titled this episode. We have some gay boyfriends here
Speaker 1: in town that we absolutely adore. They do not take
Speaker 1: the place of Reuben and Jimmy, and they know that,
Speaker 1: and they were having a party for some friends of
Speaker 1: theirs from San Francisco, because our guys moved here from
Speaker 1: San Francisco about a year or so ago, year and
Speaker 1: a half maybe, And so they had us little get
Speaker 1: together and I was running in tad late to get there.
Speaker 1: We were having a thunderstorm. Susanna actually stayed home because
Speaker 1: Rebel was all shaky. Yeah, it's real, especially when they
Speaker 1: get older, like you just want to be with them,
Speaker 1: you know. And she's not good with thunder And so
Speaker 1: I went by myself there. I walked in, said hello
Speaker 1: to a few people that I didn't know, and here
Speaker 1: walks this man and his name is a Neil and Anil.
Speaker 1: His family moved to the Bay Area when he was
Speaker 1: eight from India. His father had a really cool job.
Speaker 1: He talked about how much he loved his mother. I mean,
Speaker 1: he's like a dream. But when he come when he
Speaker 1: came up to me, he kind of went out to
Speaker 1: shake my hand as like you know, you're a stranger,
Speaker 1: and he pulled it back and he reached out and
Speaker 1: hugged me and pulled me in. Now, let me tell
Speaker 1: you something. Those who know me know that hugging is
Speaker 1: my love language.
Speaker 2: That's real.
Speaker 1: It is very real. I've been upped this man. When
Speaker 1: he hugged me, I felt like the chills go through
Speaker 1: my body, and that really like when you get a massage,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like ah and you're just like
Speaker 1: kind of melt. I melted in this man's arm. I did.
Speaker 1: I melted in his arms and like I full ondon
Speaker 1: onet let go, and neither did he. It was like this.
Speaker 1: I mean, if other people were watching, they may or
Speaker 1: may not have been. I didn't take it. I didn't
Speaker 1: actually have a questionnaire, didn't just survey, but it was
Speaker 1: probably a nobody's been go card. But we stood and
Speaker 1: hug for quite a while. I have no idea how
Speaker 1: long it was, but it was a while. But it
Speaker 1: felt angelic. It felt like it felt like unconditional love.
Speaker 1: It felt like something that you would see in a
Speaker 1: movie but not feel yourself, but you know the other
Speaker 1: person was feeling it. Yep, And I was like whoa
Speaker 1: And I looked at him. I said, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to ask who are you? What are you? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know, it was so genuine and he looked at me,
Speaker 1: he goes, what do you mean? I said, I don't like,
Speaker 1: I don't know how to respond to your presence. It's
Speaker 1: so heavenly. And so we sat down. He throws pottery.
Speaker 1: I've thrown a few myselfs. We had this really great conversation.
Speaker 1: We talked about crystals, you know, I gave all right
Speaker 1: and well. And also because of he's of Indian descent,
Speaker 1: we talked about the Himalayas. We talked about the Mayroom Mountains,
Speaker 1: which are also called the Shark fin which he obviously
Speaker 1: knew about. I gave him my may Room. Oh no,
Speaker 1: like magic. And we've been texting all day, like I
Speaker 1: think I have a very healthy, angelic crush on this man.
Speaker 1: And I couldn't stop talking about him. To Susanne. I'm like, honey,
Speaker 1: you have to meet him. I'm like, he's exquisite. And
Speaker 1: but what he has done for me in this time
Speaker 1: of great earthly discord, dismay, frustration, fires, floods, wars, is
Speaker 1: that he reminded me of what spiritual love feels like.
Speaker 2: And yeah, and it's always available.
Speaker 1: And it's always available. And plus I ask if I
Speaker 1: could steal him, and he said maybe his husband would
Speaker 1: let me bar him. I said, I'll take it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, i'd clone you whatever, But even when I see
Speaker 4: his name come up on my phone, I feel that
Speaker 4: I'd like, it's right, it's amazing.
Speaker 1: So I just think it's it's so magical when you
Speaker 1: have these things you want to talk about when I
Speaker 1: literally experienced something and I don't think I ever would
Speaker 1: have known to frame it the way that you did
Speaker 1: and to bring it in the way that you did.
Speaker 1: So thank you because I I mean, I'm a girl
Speaker 1: that thinks we should all hug more anyway, I really do,
Speaker 1: Like I love the woman who had the gay kid
Speaker 1: and she started free mom hugs. I'm like, why did
Speaker 1: I do that? Damn it? I could have been hugging
Speaker 1: every day all day smart anyway, It's just a really
Speaker 1: beautiful reminder and a really chaotic time for people that
Speaker 1: you know, the other sides available to you, your guides,
Speaker 1: other humans, your own self talk, and there's just.
Speaker 2: More, more, more love. It is so much kinder. There's
Speaker 2: so much kindness in the world, and you can contribute,
Speaker 2: like like the saying said, start in your own backyard.
Speaker 1: Can you hunt down this guy named Anil too if
Speaker 1: you really want to, or just say, what would a
Speaker 1: Neil do?
Speaker 2: How can they and kneel myself.
Speaker 1: Oh nice, how can I and kneel heal myself?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I like it because he was because I know, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm obviously obsessed with this man. I know that like
Speaker 1: he felt it because I texted him. I'm like, sweetheart,
Speaker 1: I have no idea what you are, but I can
Speaker 1: only tell you that your magical. And he goes, I
Speaker 1: feel the exact same about you. So it was like this,
Speaker 1: I love it, lovely clash of like heavenly experiences.
Speaker 2: So anyway, we got it, and I just really challenge
Speaker 2: people to become it.
Speaker 1: Yes, becoming you know, be.
Speaker 2: The conduit, vibe it out to your the people you
Speaker 2: cohabitate with, to the world, to the people you work with,
Speaker 2: everybody like just but you can't fake it. You can't
Speaker 2: give it away if you can't claim it for yourself.
Speaker 1: Correct.
Speaker 2: And that's the beautiful thing about it. It's not a catch, like,
Speaker 2: it's not trying to catch you to trick you. It's
Speaker 2: literally an invitation for self care.
Speaker 1: Yeah, when you do you prior you might have felt
Speaker 1: that your guest tank was empty, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: one thing, that tank is full, exactly, whether it is
Speaker 1: realizing out loud what I said to my kid, you know,
Speaker 1: or realizing the self talk like you talked about, or
Speaker 1: finding this magical Indian man name and Neil.
Speaker 2: I like your's the best way.
Speaker 1: I mean, I could very well just go fly to
Speaker 1: San Francisco monthly now for Joseph and Neil. I think
Speaker 1: I'm going to figure it out somehow.
Speaker 2: But I have no doubt you will find this.
Speaker 1: No, no, I will.
Speaker 2: So thanks for listening to everybody, and remember her school
Speaker 2: is hard.
Speaker 1: And we really really mean this, y'all without the other Side,
Speaker 1: so keep it in your life.
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