1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. The Breakfast Club. 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 2: Morning, everybody, It's d j en Vy, Jess, Hilarry, Charlamagne, 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 2: the guy. 4 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 1: We are the Breakfast Club. 5 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:13,240 Speaker 2: We have lon La Rosa filling in for Jess, and 6 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 2: we have our sister in the building. 7 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: Hold on, I just got to do it because it 8 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:16,760 Speaker 1: is coming season. 9 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 2: I just gotta make her feel comfortable. 10 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, we have doctor House. 11 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 3: Good morning, good morning. 12 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 4: I'm gonna say good morning, even though you pull the 13 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 4: helmet out, It's all good. 14 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 1: This is a Handton University helmet. 15 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you, Charlamagne. 16 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 5: Thanks because they be having the Oh. 17 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 6: You don't know. 18 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,040 Speaker 1: I just want to know about the ribery. But I 19 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: don't understand what I gotta do. 20 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 4: I just want to know what it is, just because 21 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:39,520 Speaker 4: their name changed a couple of times. 22 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 3: So I'm just you know, now a hu like eighty eight, 23 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 3: there was hi U and. 24 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: It was sorry, it was h. This is messing up 25 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: my mental right now. How you feeling. 26 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 3: I'm great, I'm great, I'm great. 27 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 7: It's all love. 28 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 3: HBCUs that's right. H. 29 00:00:56,640 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 7: We fresh off the fourth annual Mental Wealth Expo couldn't 30 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 7: do it without doctor Alfre Breeland Noble, doctor Alfrey Breeland 31 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 7: Noble was absolutely positivity, the brains behind the whole operation. 32 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 7: She puts everything together. Okay, all I do is answer 33 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 7: a couple of text messages. 34 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:14,919 Speaker 2: Here and there, tell people about the event. It seemed 35 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 2: online it was amazing, the conversations with great people left 36 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 2: with a lot of great wisdom. So tell people how 37 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 2: it got together and how that she came. 38 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:25,479 Speaker 4: So first, I'm just gonna say, Tyrees, That's what I'm 39 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,399 Speaker 4: gona say. Tyrese like turned it out. But I think 40 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:34,839 Speaker 4: overall it's Charles's vision born out of Charlottmagne I heeart 41 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 4: the Mental Wealth Alliance. I just helped put things together, facilitate. Yeah, 42 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 4: I just helped facilitate. And really, you know, it's our 43 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,199 Speaker 4: fourth annual event. It's a day of people coming together. 44 00:01:44,319 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 4: They get to see celebs and influencers and people with 45 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:50,280 Speaker 4: lived experience talking about black folks mental health and all 46 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:53,279 Speaker 4: of our mental health. And I think, really it takes 47 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 4: a while to pull it together because you got to 48 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 4: coordinate schedules, you got to figure out what are the 49 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 4: topic areas. You know, this year we had some being 50 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 4: a little different and intergenerational mental health panels. We had 51 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 4: people from Gen X and millennials and Gen Z talking 52 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 4: about it, and then we had the men's panel, the 53 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 4: women's mental health panel, you know, healing in the public eye, 54 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 4: and then we ended it all together with mister Jason 55 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 4: Wilson and Tyrese and so it was just it was phenomenal. 56 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 4: You had vendors, booze. There was just so many opportunities 57 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:25,960 Speaker 4: for people to find different ways to tap into their 58 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:26,919 Speaker 4: mental health and healing. 59 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 7: It was interesting to see even when you talk about 60 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 7: intergenerational panel like Khaleve Foster point guard to Duke University, 61 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:33,920 Speaker 7: he was on that panel. 62 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: Who else was on that panel. 63 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 4: With Morgan Noble who has used to be my daughter 64 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 4: going on a student at Howard University, Mahmoud Kether, He 65 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 4: was just all of them were so powerful and it 66 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 4: was moderated by your buddy Elli Ellia Conney. 67 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 7: Yeah, that was an interesting conversation because another thing I 68 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,960 Speaker 7: noticed this year it was a lot more young people there. 69 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it was, and I think, you know, young 70 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 4: people are the ones driving the conversation. You know, we 71 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 4: old heads, I feel like we're kind of following in 72 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 4: their footsteps, but they're the ones who are really pushing us. 73 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 3: To talk about these things. 74 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 4: And so with that panel, I also want to shout 75 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 4: out doctor Jude Joseph who was on that panel. It 76 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 4: was wonderful to get the young people's perspective right because 77 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 4: I feel like a lot of times young people feel 78 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 4: like we talk at them, yes, we don't talk with them, 79 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 4: and we don't listen. And so we had an opportunity 80 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 4: yesterday do all of that to really listen, particularly that 81 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 4: intergenerational panel where was a lot of young people on there. 82 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 5: That's crazy. 83 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 6: I had a conversation with my grandmother yesterday and I 84 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,360 Speaker 6: was like, Mama, why do you always talk at me? 85 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 6: And like why are you always coming from me? Like 86 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 6: why can't we just like talk? And then we started 87 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 6: talking and I realized, like that's her way of showing up. 88 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 5: She doesn't mean it to be harmful. 89 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 6: And then I started thinking like, well, maybe this is 90 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 6: why I'm always so defensive because I'm used to that. 91 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 6: I was like, man, it's some, but you know older 92 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 6: people too, It's like you always feel like you don't 93 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 6: want to be disrespectful right when you say certain things. 94 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 3: So I think is your background Caribbean at all? 95 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 5: No, not that I know, but I get that all 96 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 5: the time. 97 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I think it's like some of it is, 98 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 4: you know, like my dad's a baby boom where my 99 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 4: dad's eighty two shouts out to my dad, and there 100 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 4: is something about that generation. I always tell people they 101 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 4: were like surviving. Yeah, they couldn't thrive, and so to 102 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 4: get to their the big ages they are now and 103 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 4: to be asked to kind of take a step back 104 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 4: and listen. You know, they grew up children are seen 105 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 4: and not heard. Yes, you know what I mean, Like 106 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:21,359 Speaker 4: you don't talk them as you're spoken to, and so 107 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 4: I think it's hard for them to make that transition. 108 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:25,920 Speaker 3: It's not impossible. My dad has really. 109 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 4: Made a transition, but you got to have a will 110 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 4: for that, and a lot of times people just don't. 111 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 3: I don't think they know how to do it. 112 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 2: And not only that, I also feel like they came 113 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 2: from my dad is eighty two yeah as well, and 114 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 2: they came from an age where they didn't have help. 115 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: They just had to get through it. 116 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 2: You know, they had kids, they had families to take 117 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 2: care and you got to think that. 118 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 3: Was heavy into the racism or exactly. 119 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 2: So you know, my dad still feels a certain way 120 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 2: about certain groups of people, because he's just like, they 121 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:51,600 Speaker 2: didn't pretty much beat me up my whole life, So 122 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 2: how do I turn and say, hey, I like this 123 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 2: person now. But they still had to make sure that 124 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 2: there was food on the table and that things were 125 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 2: taken care of, so it was a lot harder. 126 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 7: But nobody on the panel was talking about that this week, 127 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 7: and I cannot remember who it was right now, but 128 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:06,239 Speaker 7: they were talking about how oppression leads to deepress. 129 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 3: Oh that was my food, my move, yes, ok, okay, 130 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:09,640 Speaker 3: he was coming for it. 131 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 4: The brother's Egyptian and he was like, really, I think 132 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 4: people really resonated with that because you heard the whole 133 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 4: audience be. 134 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 3: Like, oh, you know what I mean. 135 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 4: Because we don't talk about that, And just like you said, 136 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 4: it's like all of that stuff is coming at you constantly. 137 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 4: And I always think about something I heard doctor Julianne 138 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:28,040 Speaker 4: Malveo say years ago that black people are always in 139 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 4: this state of doing mental calculus. 140 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,359 Speaker 3: Is this the battle i'mon fight? Is this the battle 141 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 3: of I'm on fight? Was that racist? Was that not racist? 142 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:37,159 Speaker 4: And so imagine, just like you said, you're dealing with 143 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 4: all of that, but you still got to go to work. 144 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 1: You still got to. 145 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:42,039 Speaker 4: Pay these put food on the table, put food in, 146 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 4: you know, close on your kids back. 147 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 3: You still have to try to make progress in your career, 148 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 3: but you. 149 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,720 Speaker 4: Are constantly being weighed down with all this stuff, and 150 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:53,479 Speaker 4: you don't have any help. For that generation, nobody was 151 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 4: telling them to go get therapy, and we Gen X 152 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 4: and our generation early, nobody was telling us. But then 153 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 4: people like you got out there and started talking about 154 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 4: it and created this expo so people can know it's okay. 155 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 4: Like Carson always says, it's okay to not be okay, 156 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:06,480 Speaker 4: that's right. 157 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 7: And you know, Elliot Connie said something this weekend too. 158 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 7: You know, we're only as sick as our secrets. My 159 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 7: dad is seventy something years old. When I started talking 160 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 7: about my experiences with anxiety and depression and being on 161 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 7: my healing journey, that's when he told me that he 162 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 7: was going to therapy two and three times a week, 163 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 7: that he had been on ten to twelve different medications 164 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 7: throughout his life, that he tried to kill himself thirty 165 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 7: plus years ago. So some of us, some people in 166 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,279 Speaker 7: our lives, were doing the work. They didn't want to tell. 167 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:33,279 Speaker 1: Nobody that's true. 168 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 4: I didn't even think about that, But you know, I 169 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 4: think about what tools did they have and how much 170 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 4: better are the tools that we have now, you know 171 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 4: what I mean? Like I think about the number of 172 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 4: times I talked with patients, older patients when I ACTRA 173 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 4: treat patients, and they would come in and say that 174 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 4: they had to kind of hop between therapist because they 175 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 4: would get in and start talking about the racism and 176 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:53,039 Speaker 4: discrimination that they experienced, and people just didn't really. 177 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 3: Know what to do with it. 178 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 4: It was hard for them to have the conversation with 179 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 4: him because that wasn't their experience. And so, you know, 180 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,040 Speaker 4: your dad was fortunate that he had places he could go, 181 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 4: but so many people, even if they wanted to do 182 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 4: the work, they couldn't find anybody. They didn't even know 183 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:08,159 Speaker 4: where to look. And I think people even now still 184 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 4: have a hard time. That's why the expo is so important, 185 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 4: because it gets you on your journey. 186 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 2: Now, would you you know one thing I was thinking 187 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 2: about the expo and I'm online. I see a lot 188 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 2: of people having mental breakdowns online right, And some people 189 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 2: say sometimes it's good because they're able to express their feelings. 190 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:24,239 Speaker 1: But I always have a problem with that because I always 191 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: feel like. 192 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 2: Sometimes that will be used against them when they try 193 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 2: to do something else, you know. So how do you 194 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 2: feel about people using that their social media because some 195 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 2: people just feel like they just need to be free, 196 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 2: they just need to let things go. So what's your 197 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 2: thoughts on that. 198 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 4: I think we have to be careful. I think you know, 199 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 4: it's not always about intention, it's about impact, right, So 200 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 4: you may get on put all that stuff out there, 201 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 4: it's out there forever. And that's what I try to 202 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 4: remind people. You know, ten years from now, do you 203 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 4: want somebody looking at that twenty years from now? And 204 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 4: so I don't want to get in the space where 205 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 4: I say you shouldn't express your feelings publicly because that 206 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:01,239 Speaker 4: sort of pushes people into the closet, like around stigma. 207 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 4: But at the same time, I think we have to 208 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 4: be mindful of how we share our stories. I think 209 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 4: a little twist on what you said, so let me 210 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 4: answer the question directly. I think it has to be 211 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 4: put in context. If you're comfortable with your story, right 212 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 4: then I and you know the consequences, potential consequences, then 213 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 4: maybe you should share it. But the little twist I 214 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 4: put on it is. We also have to be careful 215 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 4: about the people we love and sharing stuff about them 216 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 4: without their permission. 217 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 218 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 4: Because I'm not talking about if somebody has beat you 219 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 4: down and traumatized you. That's a different story. But I'm 220 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 4: talking about if somebody wasn't the kindest to you, or 221 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 4: wasn't the best to you, or didn't treat you as 222 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 4: well as you thought you should be treated, or maybe 223 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 4: they had their own experiences. And what I see a 224 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 4: lot of people do is talk about this is my experience, 225 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 4: but then this is my loved ones experience. I'm like, 226 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 4: did you check with them if it was okay? If 227 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 4: you'd be putting their business, you know, on front street 228 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 4: like that? And so I really think it's I would 229 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 4: like to see. I don't think I've ever said this publicly. 230 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 4: I would like to see people who are going to 231 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 4: be mental health advocates have a little bit of training 232 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 4: on how do you share your story right in a 233 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 4: way that it doesn't become trauma porn. I think a 234 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 4: lot of times with us, as black people and people 235 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 4: of color, people like to hear us tell those stories 236 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 4: because it sort of feeds the narrative, and so I 237 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 4: think we have to be careful to not allow ourselves 238 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 4: to fall into the trap of feeding the narrative by 239 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 4: controlling our stories in a way that allows us to 240 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 4: be comfortable with it being out there over time. 241 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 1: We had a panel about that this weekend. 242 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 7: It was a technology panel, and one thing Razma said 243 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 7: on the panel was that he wants to see people. 244 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: He wants to see social. 245 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 7: Media get back to being used as a tool to 246 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 7: connect humans. Yes, he was like, you know, it's not 247 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 7: connecting people anymore, it's actually dividing us. Like he wants 248 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 7: it to be something that can actually connect us again. 249 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he. 250 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 4: Makes a good point, And I think I don't know, 251 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 4: you know, I don't get too much into the algorithm 252 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 4: algorithms and that type of thing, but I will say 253 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 4: that what I see is the algorithms seem to uplift 254 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,680 Speaker 4: the stuff that's more right. 255 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 3: So if it's like. 256 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:05,559 Speaker 4: If somebody's calm and cool and like really on their 257 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 4: healing journey and that's all they talk about, that's not 258 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 4: the stuff that pops up in my feed as much. 259 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:12,960 Speaker 4: It's the stuff where people like I saw this video 260 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 4: yesterday and it was literally just a sister walking out 261 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 4: of her house with this with these nice clothes on. 262 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 4: And they had two different captions. The caption where she 263 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 4: said I got dressed today hardly had any views. Then 264 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 4: there was another captain to say, yeah, they becoming for 265 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 4: me when I look like this when I step out 266 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,439 Speaker 4: the house, and it had thousands of views, And I 267 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 4: kind of feel like that's what somewhat what social media does. 268 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 4: So I teach young people you have to learn how 269 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 4: to curate what's in your feed, right, If the stuff 270 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 4: don't make you feel good when you're scrolling, you have 271 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 4: to mute or start unfollowing some of those accounts because 272 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 4: if you follow that stuff, that's all you're gonna get, 273 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 4: and it does tear it the thread of connection, right, 274 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 4: It makes it harder to be connected to people because 275 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 4: you're always doing comparisons. 276 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 1: But what about right now? 277 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 7: Because you know, like, do you feel mental health has 278 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:58,000 Speaker 7: been addressed enough during the election cycle? Because people have 279 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:00,120 Speaker 7: to be tuned in, right, Yeah, you gotta be too, 280 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 7: because you want to know what's going on. 281 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: But then a lot of this stuff can stress you 282 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 1: out too. All of this stanses me. 283 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, So I don't think we talk enough about the 284 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 4: importance of caring for your mental health in these like 285 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 4: difficult news cycles. So you know, we got multiple wars 286 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 4: going on, conflicts all over the world that we're constantly 287 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:23,319 Speaker 4: bombarded with. We have this contentious election cycle, and it's 288 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 4: not I won't get into the politics, but I don't 289 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 4: feel like it's contentious all the way around. I feel 290 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 4: like it's coming from one direction. And like you said, 291 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 4: people want to be informed. You need to be informed 292 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 4: so you can vote right. You need to know how 293 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 4: to vote. So it's hard to find that balance between 294 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:40,520 Speaker 4: I need to consume this so I'm an informed voter, 295 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:44,840 Speaker 4: but I also can't get overwhelmed by all the horrible vitriol. 296 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 3: And negative stuff that I see. 297 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 4: Like I'm just thinking about the Haitian community and just 298 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:50,320 Speaker 4: all that they've been through, so I think about us, 299 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:54,200 Speaker 4: you know, it's other black folks. So again, it's one 300 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:55,719 Speaker 4: of those things where I feel like, if we can 301 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:59,560 Speaker 4: teach people how to go into the news in ways 302 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:01,679 Speaker 4: that don't I don't negatively impact them. So one of 303 00:12:01,720 --> 00:12:03,679 Speaker 4: the things I say to people is, don't allow the 304 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 4: news to just be fed to you. You have to 305 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 4: choose how you interact with the news, right, So maybe 306 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:10,200 Speaker 4: you need to read something instead of watching the twenty 307 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,840 Speaker 4: four hour news cycle, or you need to pick things 308 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 4: like stay tuned or some of these other social media 309 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 4: agencies where they give you the news all the headlines 310 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:22,199 Speaker 4: in three minutes. That could be enough, right, Or you 311 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 4: get on a website to learn about the candidate's platform. 312 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 4: So you're right, we don't talk enough about how to 313 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 4: help people take care of their mental health and an 314 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 4: election cycle, but it's really important that we do. 315 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I wanted to ask you about love, right, do 316 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 2: you think that love is a lost form in relationships 317 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 2: that's really affecting people's mental health? And what made me 318 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:45,679 Speaker 2: think about that is a young lady I can't remember 319 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 2: her name. She was doing an interview and they asked 320 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 2: about the relationship and she was like, do I look 321 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 2: like the type of girl that will pay fifty to fifty? 322 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:55,720 Speaker 2: Like look at my looks? Right, lnicle And everything was 323 00:12:55,760 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 2: based on looks. And I feel that hurts people, especially 324 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 2: young people's mental because when they hear things like that. 325 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 2: I think a lot of times I think a woman 326 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 2: might say, well, how come my relationship is not like that? 327 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,559 Speaker 2: I'm fishing for that relationship could be a reason that 328 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 2: women or men as well are single because they're looking 329 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:16,839 Speaker 2: for something that is not there or doesn't exist. It's 330 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 2: almost like they're looking for the wrong thing, and I 331 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:21,440 Speaker 2: think that can cause a deeply depression. 332 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 1: Do you see that a lot? 333 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 3: We're talking to the younger generation at all. 334 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 4: I see so my daughter's here, Morgan's here, she knew 335 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 4: I was gonna do it. She started grinning. And Morgan 336 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 4: is twenty. And I see some of this through the 337 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 4: conversations that I had with her and like her peer group. Also, 338 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 4: because I running a coma project, I talked with young 339 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:41,160 Speaker 4: people a lot my nonprofit, and I think I don't 340 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 4: think the concept is new. I think what's new is 341 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:47,080 Speaker 4: that we get we're feded constantly so you can see 342 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 4: it much more readily. 343 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 3: I think that's always been there, right. 344 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 6: I grew up with people My grandmother literally be like 345 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:54,079 Speaker 6: he got to bring that check home, or you shouldn't 346 00:13:54,080 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 6: be dating him. 347 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:57,079 Speaker 5: Like yeah, and that comes from my grandma, Like yeah. 348 00:13:56,960 --> 00:14:01,720 Speaker 1: So's your grandma young Miami. Your grandma did not say you. 349 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 6: My grandmother from as long as I can remember, would 350 00:14:05,280 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 6: always be like a man should be bringing your da 351 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 6: tech and my mom used to be like, if you're 352 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 6: dating someone he doesn't have a job, you don't date him, 353 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 6: and he's not allowed in his house. 354 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 7: By the way, I agree with that because I feel like, 355 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 7: you know, with dog, because men's you know, men be like, 356 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 7: what does the woman bringing to the table. Women are 357 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 7: harder table, Like everything you're doing, you're doing to impress 358 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 7: this woman. You're wearing these nice clothes, youre getting this 359 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:29,480 Speaker 7: jew We had this conversation, you're getting this jewy. You 360 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 7: want to drive a nice car because you want to impress. 361 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 3: But not to a woman, not to the point where 362 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 3: woman is saying that's the only way you can get 363 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 3: with me. 364 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 1: Correct. 365 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:39,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, So I think it's I think it depends on 366 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 4: how you look at gender roles. I'm not even gonna 367 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 4: get into all that, but I do think there's something 368 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 4: to be said for the concept of who qualifies for love, 369 00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 4: like who deserves love and what love looks like. 370 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 3: Love is not the stuff. 371 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,440 Speaker 4: One of the things I love about Jason Wilson is 372 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 4: he talks about you know, we talked about it this weekend, 373 00:14:57,080 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 4: is like the constraints that we put ourselves under that 374 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 4: we I don't have to like he calls it with 375 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 4: it like emotional incarceration, I think, he says, and I think, 376 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:07,240 Speaker 4: to your point, and be what some of it is? 377 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 4: This is me, This is not talking about that person. 378 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:13,600 Speaker 4: My perspective is if you are comfortable with who you are, 379 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:18,440 Speaker 4: somebody bringing you stuff is not the thing that's going 380 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 4: to sway you in a relationship. Right. And my mom, 381 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 4: she's deceased, but she used to say, two halves don't 382 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 4: make a hole in a relationship. You want two whole 383 00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 4: people to come together to form a whole relationship. And 384 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:32,720 Speaker 4: so I think it's really about do I love myself 385 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 4: enough to know? And I always tell people I'm worthy 386 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 4: exactly as I am, And I don't want to get 387 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 4: like all metaphysical and hokey, but it's true, I'm worthy 388 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 4: as I am. And so I want a partner who 389 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:46,240 Speaker 4: also feels that he, she, or they are worthy as 390 00:15:46,360 --> 00:15:48,720 Speaker 4: they are. And if both of us are coming to 391 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 4: the relationship with just a little bit of that, I 392 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 4: think it helps us get around some of that. 393 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:56,280 Speaker 3: You got to buy me this. I ain't paying on. 394 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 4: Fifty because what's wrong with paying fifty to fifty? Like 395 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 4: you're getting to know each other and. 396 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 7: I'm not saying they gotta be money or superficial. I'm 397 00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:04,120 Speaker 7: just saying that a woman is going to be giving 398 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 7: herself because that's what she's given right physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, 399 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 7: she's given you her like you and her body. All 400 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 7: of that type of stuff cuts some grass or something 401 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 7: he takes, you know what I'm saying. 402 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:18,680 Speaker 3: But is it he giving up himself too? Yes, just 403 00:16:18,680 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 3: by showing up. Yeah, so you know it's he can 404 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 3: so that if they can both show up. 405 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 4: I'm not saying it's easy, but remember if in order 406 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 4: for both of them to show up, they both got 407 00:16:30,600 --> 00:16:32,600 Speaker 4: to know a little bit about themselves. How many of 408 00:16:32,680 --> 00:16:35,840 Speaker 4: us go through life with these blinders on, like blind 409 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 4: to ourselves, like we don't know who we. 410 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: Are who self love comes into play perfect that you 411 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 2: said that, So I got a friend right now? 412 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:44,920 Speaker 5: That on your face it's from his head. 413 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:47,600 Speaker 2: Oh, I got a friend right now. That's dealing with 414 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:51,840 Speaker 2: every time this person talks to somebody, everybody says you 415 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 2: need to work on yourself. And it's not the first time. 416 00:16:56,400 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 2: It's not that there because she's living it out. Okay, 417 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 2: So now as this, so every time she talks to 418 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:05,199 Speaker 2: a gentleman. The gentleman says you need to work on 419 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 2: yourself before you. 420 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:06,680 Speaker 1: Could come back here. 421 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:09,400 Speaker 5: Not every single time the guys are saying this. 422 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:14,120 Speaker 6: I had two guys said faith, But let me tell 423 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 6: you something. One of the guys, his situation is so 424 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 6: messed up. He uses that to not have a real 425 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 6: conversation about where. 426 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:23,000 Speaker 3: He is for rest deflection. 427 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 5: So it's like, I hear you, but like we need 428 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:26,399 Speaker 5: to work together. 429 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:31,879 Speaker 6: I was gonna when you mentioned when you asked, Charla Magne, 430 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:35,200 Speaker 6: isn't the guy showing up to That struck me because 431 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 6: I feel like a lot of my friends and what 432 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 6: I'm realizing about myself is that I wasn't raised as 433 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:43,240 Speaker 6: a woman to really see a man as a person 434 00:17:43,240 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 6: that has to show up. I was raised as a 435 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 6: like a woman that just a man is there and 436 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 6: he's like this like structure, but like he's not a person, 437 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 6: not even a check, but just like he has to 438 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 6: fight off the bad people, you know what I mean. 439 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 6: But now that my little brother is getting older, it 440 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:01,679 Speaker 6: made me realize, like, and how many times they like 441 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 6: there are some self accountability moments, but how many times 442 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,880 Speaker 6: am I not seeing this man as a person yes. 443 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:09,600 Speaker 6: So I wanted to ask you because I see that 444 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:12,840 Speaker 6: you're married, yes, prior to your marriage, and like where 445 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:15,040 Speaker 6: you are now your marriage, where did your mental health 446 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:16,879 Speaker 6: stuff come into play? Where like you went and actually 447 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 6: did the work and you saw the difference. 448 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 3: Girl, to ask the hard question more than good night. 449 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:24,919 Speaker 5: Learning. 450 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:28,119 Speaker 4: Okay, So I've been married twenty two years. We've been together, 451 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you. I take that in we've been together. 452 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna do the math since ninety five? Long 453 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:38,920 Speaker 4: time should doctor Richard? 454 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:40,639 Speaker 1: One years together? 455 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,879 Speaker 3: Thirty one? Thank you? Beautiful? 456 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:49,399 Speaker 4: So okay, in a nutshell before, I'm just gonna be 457 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 4: very transparent. I was very unsure of myself and made 458 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 4: some mistakes, kissed quite a few frogs, and we put 459 00:18:58,320 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 4: it like that. And I think my journey changed when 460 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:05,119 Speaker 4: I just got to I kind of got like Fantaylo Hamer. 461 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:06,560 Speaker 4: I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. 462 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 4: So I was like, I gotta do something different, and 463 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 4: this is my feel. So some of it started when 464 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,919 Speaker 4: I was in grad school. I started seeing stuff, you know, 465 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 4: and just learning things and applying them to myself. And 466 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:16,239 Speaker 4: then I think I got to a point where I 467 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 4: was like I can do better than this, Do you 468 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:21,360 Speaker 4: know what I mean? I don't have to put up 469 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 4: with foolishness. And I would always think ahead and think 470 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 4: I have to be with somebody that when we have children, 471 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:30,920 Speaker 4: I want the children to see a healthy relationship because 472 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:32,400 Speaker 4: that's what I grew up with. I saw a very 473 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 4: healthy relationship between my parents up until the point my 474 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:39,040 Speaker 4: mom died. And so I think it is I had 475 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:40,919 Speaker 4: to make a decision that I wanted it to be different, 476 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 4: and then I started to do the work. So I'm 477 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:45,840 Speaker 4: gonna shout out my psychologist, doctor Maya McNeely. She was 478 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 4: the person who really started to help me. It was 479 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:50,720 Speaker 4: like right after I got married, but even after marriage. 480 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:52,119 Speaker 4: One of the things I wanted to talk about at 481 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 4: the expo yesterday that we didn't get to was this 482 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 4: concept of do we know as people black people how 483 00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:59,879 Speaker 4: to receive love? 484 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:01,960 Speaker 3: That was my struggle. 485 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:05,240 Speaker 1: It came up during your panel, but to get it. 486 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 4: Off, Yeah, and so I'm gonna put Jason on blast. Jason, 487 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 4: I want to have that conversation one day publicly. But 488 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 4: so in a nutshell, what I had to do was 489 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,679 Speaker 4: recognize that I knew how to be present. 490 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,639 Speaker 3: I knew how to give to people. I didn't know 491 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:18,800 Speaker 3: how to let people give to me. 492 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,600 Speaker 4: Like my daughter will tell you, I still have a 493 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,199 Speaker 4: hard time accepting help. So I think it's once I 494 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:27,000 Speaker 4: decided I wanted things to be different for me, then 495 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:29,359 Speaker 4: I had to decide, like, sort of what's the destination. 496 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:31,360 Speaker 4: I wanted to be a help. It sounds really kind 497 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:33,240 Speaker 4: of corny, but I wanted to be a healthier version 498 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,120 Speaker 4: of myself because my mom was always drilling into me. 499 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,320 Speaker 3: Two holes make a whole relationship. 500 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:41,400 Speaker 4: Don't come into a relationship as half a person, right, 501 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 4: So that's what it was for me. I had to 502 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:44,240 Speaker 4: figure out how to be a whole person. And the 503 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:48,880 Speaker 4: things that helped me were doctor McNeely, mindfulness, meditation, exercise, 504 00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:52,520 Speaker 4: and I'm not big into journaling, but at the time 505 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 4: I would do. I have like multiple journals. So I 506 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:56,959 Speaker 4: hope I'm answering your question, but that's what I did. 507 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 4: I had to work on me. 508 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:02,200 Speaker 7: I think we should have a round table discussion about, 509 00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 7: you know, do we really know how to receive love? 510 00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 1: Because I think you know, I always say. 511 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 7: Your first, last, and best love is self love, right, 512 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 7: A lot of people don't have that the way they 513 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 7: need to. That's where the impost syndrome and stuff comes 514 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 7: into play. And that's why, like people can give you 515 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,800 Speaker 7: a compliment and you feel uncomfortable, like yes, because. 516 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 1: You don't even see yourself in that way. 517 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 7: So I think that is worthy of a discussion because 518 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 7: I think a lot of people deal with that more 519 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 7: than more than they may. 520 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: They may hold you to it. 521 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 4: We gonna do that because it's just important and it 522 00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 4: was for me it was revelatory. I recognized at some 523 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,639 Speaker 4: point in the last three or four years, do you know, Alfa, 524 00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 4: do you know how to be still and let things 525 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:43,880 Speaker 4: come to you and just receive them. So when you said, 526 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 4: like how long we have been together, when you put 527 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,439 Speaker 4: the number out there and you say congratulations, I had 528 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 4: to stop myself because oh yeah, whatever, okay, but that had. 529 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,199 Speaker 3: To take it in. And I think it can be 530 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:54,000 Speaker 3: hard to take in. 531 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,880 Speaker 4: I know for me sometimes that stuff can be hard 532 00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:58,880 Speaker 4: to take in because it's like I'm afraid it's gonna 533 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:01,359 Speaker 4: go away. So when I take in the good stuff, 534 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,359 Speaker 4: how long is that good stuff going to last? But 535 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:05,720 Speaker 4: that's because I'm anxious. So that's the anxious mind. 536 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:07,399 Speaker 2: Not only that, because I have a hard time with 537 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:09,840 Speaker 2: that as well, like a hard time like when my 538 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 2: wife she has to stop me and tell me something, 539 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 2: and it's almost like I'm like, Okay, that's good, now 540 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:16,280 Speaker 2: let's keep it moving exactly. But I think that's also 541 00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 2: because we've been conditioned to provide and protect. 542 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:22,080 Speaker 1: For so long. 543 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,159 Speaker 2: It almost, I don't want to say it feels like 544 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:26,920 Speaker 2: a sign, a feeling of weakness, but it's almost like, 545 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:28,760 Speaker 2: all right, thank you, But I want to give my 546 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:31,120 Speaker 2: family to love. Now y'all don't love me. I want 547 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,520 Speaker 2: to love y'all. And when they love me back, it's 548 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:36,200 Speaker 2: almost like a right. But now how your dad? 549 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. 550 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:38,840 Speaker 2: But it's difficult. But I don't know why it's difficult. 551 00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 2: I really don't know why. 552 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 4: It's also vulnerability. How if you're the provider, if you're 553 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,399 Speaker 4: the person doing everything, if you're Jason talks about this, 554 00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:49,959 Speaker 4: If you're worth, part of your worth comes from providing, 555 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,720 Speaker 4: if you're taught, and it's not just men, right you 556 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 4: think about being. 557 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:54,639 Speaker 3: Are you the oldest child? 558 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,760 Speaker 5: I'm sitting here like the oldest child. Yes, that's how 559 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 5: I feel like me. 560 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,199 Speaker 6: You have to accomplish all the time because it you 561 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 6: just programmed that way, Like if you're not solving a problem, 562 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:04,040 Speaker 6: you think, there's what are you told? 563 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 4: You told look out for the younger ones, right, So 564 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 4: you can't look out for the youngest if you have 565 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 4: your stuff together, right, And like the other thing you 566 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 4: were saying about, like you don't want to disappoint your elders, 567 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:14,720 Speaker 4: that's the other thing. You're the oldest child, you have 568 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:18,440 Speaker 4: to perform. So I think when you're always in that mode, 569 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 4: it's hard to be vulnerable because you can't be vulnerable 570 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,879 Speaker 4: and get your stuff done. At least that's how we feel. 571 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 4: And so we have to. 572 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,120 Speaker 3: Find that balance. Again. 573 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:27,959 Speaker 4: I'm gonna go back to Jason. You gotta find that 574 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:32,520 Speaker 4: balance between recognizing that your worth is in your presence. 575 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:33,239 Speaker 1: Right. 576 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 3: I didn't make that up, right, I've heard that. I 577 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 3: think you. 578 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:37,720 Speaker 4: Ona Bezant was the first person I heard say that. 579 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:39,760 Speaker 4: But that's where your worth is. So if you can 580 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:43,479 Speaker 4: start from my worth is I'm here, We're all everybody 581 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,399 Speaker 4: in this room. Our worth is the fact that we 582 00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 4: got up and we got here today. That's our worst. 583 00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 3: You don't have to do anything for it. 584 00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:53,080 Speaker 4: I think for me, once I understood that, it made 585 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,919 Speaker 4: it a little bit easier to be vulnerable because in 586 00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 4: my vulnerability, I'm not losing my power. 587 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's your TDJ said. 588 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 7: Even if you don't think you're worthy, rest in the 589 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 7: fact that God knows your. 590 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,119 Speaker 1: Work, you know. I think that's that's what you know. 591 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 7: We talk, we have these conversations about mental health. That's 592 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 7: part of it too, right, Like you have to be 593 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,000 Speaker 7: spiritually healthy as well. I think that God is a 594 00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:16,600 Speaker 7: is a missing factor and a lot of people's lives. 595 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,040 Speaker 3: Yes, they have no faith. You gotta have faith in something. 596 00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 4: I believe you have to have faith in something bigger 597 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,639 Speaker 4: than yourself, because otherwise, how do you make sense of 598 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 4: so much of the stuff that happens in the world. 599 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:26,760 Speaker 3: You I feel like you can't. 600 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 7: I just feel to have a daughter that's also following 601 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 7: in your footsteps in a lot of ways. But just 602 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 7: I mean, just turned out to be a phenomenal person. 603 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:36,520 Speaker 3: You know, she's awesome. 604 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 1: She is that's all we want, right, I got four daughters, 605 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:40,080 Speaker 1: that's all I wanted. 606 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,920 Speaker 4: And I met the oldest. She's she's the bomb. She's 607 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,680 Speaker 4: she's on her way. But she got a wonderful mama. 608 00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,879 Speaker 4: You have an incredible wife. I you're welcome. She's just 609 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 4: a lovely human being. It feels like that I can 610 00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,919 Speaker 4: receive easily. It feels like I got because it's performed performance. 611 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 4: I help do, help create, right, But she had to 612 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 4: take it and run with it. And so so one 613 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 4: of the things I respect about Morgan so much is 614 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,960 Speaker 4: Morgan teaches me stuff all the time. She's like, mamma, 615 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:08,680 Speaker 4: did you eat, Like when we were in the green rooms, like, mamma, 616 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 4: did you drink the water? Drink some water, mommy. So 617 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 4: she's like a caretaker, but she also takes care of herself. 618 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:17,040 Speaker 4: I was so proud of her on that stage yesterday, 619 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 4: went on the intergenerational panel when she talked about, you know, 620 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,400 Speaker 4: like you don't have to always be struggling as black people, 621 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,639 Speaker 4: we get this narrative that is struggle, struggle, struggle, and 622 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,320 Speaker 4: you all all did things so your little brother and 623 00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 4: your kids they don't have to struggle, and so why 624 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:37,159 Speaker 4: would you gravitate toward that? But her mentor one of 625 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,320 Speaker 4: my friends, mister James Sample, he's awesome. He went to 626 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:44,159 Speaker 4: Howard as well. He taught her, you know, your parents struggled, 627 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 4: so you don't have to. So I don't want you 628 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 4: to struggle. 629 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 3: And she talked, she relayed that to the group. 630 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 4: That made me so proud. So it is incredible to 631 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 4: have two kids, my son Myles turn eighteen yesday, have 632 00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:58,359 Speaker 4: birthday mouths. To have two kids about to be both 633 00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:03,440 Speaker 4: Howard Bison at you, you know, and having them be good, productive, healthy, 634 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,440 Speaker 4: emotionally well young people. That's a gift, right And that's 635 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:09,280 Speaker 4: not all me, like you said, that's that's from up. 636 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 1: There, Morgan. Did you have a choice. Did you have 637 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:12,520 Speaker 1: to go to Howard? Did y'all have to do in mouth, 638 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: have to go to out or you had a choice? 639 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,920 Speaker 3: Okay, I did you apply to tell you? 640 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:21,320 Speaker 4: Okay, See she had a choice, was going to Howard, 641 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,480 Speaker 4: But she had a choice. 642 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,880 Speaker 7: Now what's next for the mental wealth ext boat, Cause 643 00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:29,879 Speaker 7: I feel like we do this every year. Yeah, I 644 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 7: feel like there's other things we should be doing throughout 645 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 7: the year. 646 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. 647 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:35,919 Speaker 4: So one thing we hope we're gonna be able to 648 00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:38,679 Speaker 4: do is I don't I'm just praying on it. I'm 649 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 4: hoping it's gonna happen. Do more than one. 650 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 3: That's my hope. 651 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,240 Speaker 4: And my hope is that we get to honor somebody's 652 00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 4: hometown with one of them. 653 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 3: I'm hoping we'd be able to do that. 654 00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,159 Speaker 7: Yeah, we've been talking. I mean, you know, the baby 655 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:52,320 Speaker 7: was there at the Mental Wealth tex Bowl this year. 656 00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:53,760 Speaker 7: He wanted to be a part of it. He launched 657 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,879 Speaker 7: a baby care and this, yes, and so yeah, we've 658 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:57,800 Speaker 7: been talking about doing something in the Carolinas. Yeah. 659 00:26:57,920 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 4: So yeah, that's right because he's North Carolina. Yeah, we 660 00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 4: used to live in North Carolina. So that's one thing. 661 00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:03,680 Speaker 3: I think. The other thing is we're going to continue 662 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 3: to get bigger. 663 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 4: We have some ideas already about what kind of panels 664 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:09,000 Speaker 4: we want to have, and so we're going to be 665 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:10,800 Speaker 4: reached out. We're gonna start reaching out to people soon 666 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,439 Speaker 4: to try to get on people's calendars early. Our talent 667 00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:16,399 Speaker 4: to bring it. We're going to be reaching out to 668 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,800 Speaker 4: more vendors. I think we could have, hopefully fingers crossed 669 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:22,719 Speaker 4: a few more vendors at the at the venue and 670 00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:26,199 Speaker 4: have more opportunities for things like breathwork and yoga and 671 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,239 Speaker 4: meditation in some of the breakout rooms and shar are 672 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,040 Speaker 4: we just going to continue to follow your vision for 673 00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:31,920 Speaker 4: the for the expo. 674 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 7: Absolutely, And you know one thing that we don't do, 675 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,639 Speaker 7: we don't you know, we are a nonprofit organization, you know, 676 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 7: mentalwealth Alianes dot org. We don't we don't, we don't 677 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 7: do enough. We don't tell people that they can donate. 678 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 4: Yes, and we we really want people to do. It's 679 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 4: so easy. You can follow the link in bio on 680 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,840 Speaker 4: the Instagram page for the Mental Wealth Alliance. You can 681 00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,359 Speaker 4: go to the website. Uh, there are QR codes on it. 682 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,119 Speaker 4: It is so easy, and you know, it sounds like begging, 683 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,000 Speaker 4: it kind of is. But you have to understand that 684 00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,679 Speaker 4: money that you donate goes to helping put things together 685 00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,359 Speaker 4: like the expert where you're given to thousands of people, 686 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,960 Speaker 4: and just trying to support everybody's investing in their mental wealth. 687 00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:09,920 Speaker 1: So everybody in free, you know, like like we don't 688 00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:11,120 Speaker 1: charge for the mental health. 689 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 4: That's it and that costs money. So if they invest 690 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 4: in the Mental Wealth Alliance, the Mental Wealth Alliance can 691 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,080 Speaker 4: help invest in their mental wealth. 692 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:18,720 Speaker 5: That's right, and they can't. 693 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,239 Speaker 6: There's the content from the events online and you can 694 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:22,240 Speaker 6: watch the conversations. 695 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,480 Speaker 4: It will be there's a lot on the Instagram page 696 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:28,160 Speaker 4: Mental Wealth Alliance, shar Tyrese, myself, some of the talent. 697 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,639 Speaker 4: We've all been posting stuff and eventually it's going to 698 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:32,120 Speaker 4: be on the YouTube page. 699 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:33,960 Speaker 5: You said, Tyree said it off. What what was the 700 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,280 Speaker 5: conversation he was just Well. 701 00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,919 Speaker 4: The one thing he did that kind of had me 702 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:40,760 Speaker 4: cackling was he ripped the counter, the timer, he ripped 703 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:42,840 Speaker 4: it out the not he didn't destroy. Yeah, he took 704 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,480 Speaker 4: the clock off the floors, like I ain't paying attention 705 00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:45,000 Speaker 4: to that clock. 706 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:46,760 Speaker 3: And he was just very transmit. 707 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: Like literally unplugged. 708 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,719 Speaker 4: Yes, he kept looking at him like that clock ain't right. 709 00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:52,880 Speaker 4: We need you more time. He was hilarious. But I 710 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 4: think one thing that he did that really moved the 711 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,959 Speaker 4: crowd at the end, it was a great way to end, 712 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,320 Speaker 4: was he kind of encouraged people by saying, like, if 713 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 4: you have something that you want to do right that 714 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 4: maybe is gonna help the world, you need to go 715 00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 4: do it. And he talked about what his thing was 716 00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 4: that he does, but he was really kind of pushing 717 00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:15,680 Speaker 4: people to go out and contribute. And I'm not gonna 718 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:17,760 Speaker 4: say it like he said it, because you know, family friendly, 719 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 4: but if you're not going to do it, then step 720 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:22,760 Speaker 4: to the side and let somebody else come do it. 721 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:23,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. 722 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:24,600 Speaker 7: Well, whether it was a phrase he had, it was 723 00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,959 Speaker 7: a I'm the problem, or if you the problem, if 724 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,160 Speaker 7: you have a problem, if you have a problem, do 725 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:32,400 Speaker 7: something about it, because he was like, so many people nowadays. 726 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:33,400 Speaker 1: Don't really be having a problem. 727 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 7: They just either want to be a part of the conversation, 728 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,160 Speaker 7: right or they just want to jump in on the 729 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:38,400 Speaker 7: jokes on social media. 730 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,800 Speaker 1: But if you actually have a problem, do something about it. 731 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:44,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, So that was it. It was a good way to end. 732 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,160 Speaker 2: Well, thank you for joining us this morning. 733 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,080 Speaker 1: That's right. How do they follow you, doctor Affe? 734 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:50,480 Speaker 3: How they follow me? 735 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 4: Okay, you can follow me a couple of places. The 736 00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 4: main one is Instagram, d R A L F I 737 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 4: E E. Doctor Alfie, I'm everywhere, I'm on LinkedIn, I'm 738 00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:03,600 Speaker 4: on on Facebook, uh and my website doctor alfree dot com. 739 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 7: And follow the work she's doing with the a Coma 740 00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 7: Project as well, like you know, like tell them a 741 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:08,720 Speaker 7: little bit about the COMA. 742 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:10,360 Speaker 3: Okay, so thank you for that quickly. 743 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,480 Speaker 4: The Coma Project is a mental health five on one 744 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 4: C three nonprofit and we are about three things, raising consciousness, 745 00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:21,040 Speaker 4: empowering people, and changing the system of mental health for 746 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:24,440 Speaker 4: young people of color. Where we center and amplify young 747 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 4: people of color, and we also talk about the intersections 748 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,400 Speaker 4: queer young people of color, young people of. 749 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 3: Color with disabilities. 750 00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,640 Speaker 4: We want all of our young people of color to 751 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:36,320 Speaker 4: do better in life. We do research, programming, outreach, We 752 00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:38,840 Speaker 4: support the Mental Wealth Alliance with the Expo every year. 753 00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:41,040 Speaker 4: We just do all kinds of cool stuff. 754 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:44,720 Speaker 2: We appreciate you for joining us again. Absolutely, I'm sure 755 00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,600 Speaker 2: you could see Ada Hampton home coming because I'm sure. 756 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 3: Oh God, I love my HBCUs. 757 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 4: I'm just gonna say that, shout out, shout out all 758 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 4: of them, miss all love Hu and Hu all day. 759 00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:54,720 Speaker 1: There you go. 760 00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 2: It's Doctor Alfree Breeling Noblest, the Breakfast Club, come morning, 761 00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 2: Wake that ass up in the morning. 762 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 1: First Club.