WEBVTT - Connect when it counts 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to connect when it counts. Everyone loves

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<v Speaker 1>to congratulate people on success, but reaching out when someone

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<v Speaker 1>is going through something really challenging we'll do far more

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<v Speaker 1>for your relationship long term. Like many listeners, I get

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<v Speaker 1>those LinkedIn notices about my connections new jobs. The idea

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<v Speaker 1>is that this provides a nudge to reach out and

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<v Speaker 1>congratulate people. I subscribe to Publishers Lunch, which tells me

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<v Speaker 1>when people get book deals, and so I find myself

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<v Speaker 1>reaching out to congratulate people on those. Most weeks, we

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<v Speaker 1>reach out when people post birthday or wedding or anniversary

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<v Speaker 1>announcements on social media. All of these are great ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>but if you or a friend or a family member

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<v Speaker 1>has ever gone through a personal or professional setback, you

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<v Speaker 1>know that the crowds become a bit more thin. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you were publicly in the running for something and lost.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe someone you love is in legal trouble, maybe some

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<v Speaker 1>embarrassing past incident came up, or you or a loved

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<v Speaker 1>one has been fired or laid off, or seen a

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<v Speaker 1>business go bankrupt, or you made a mistake. Good people

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<v Speaker 1>can have momentary lapses and judgment that have profound ramifications.

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<v Speaker 1>None of us is immune to this happening. You probably

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<v Speaker 1>remember anyone who was there for you in these tough times,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can resolve to be that person for anyone

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<v Speaker 1>else in such circumstances. When you find out ab out

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<v Speaker 1>the situation, reach out, Check in to see how the

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<v Speaker 1>person is doing, and offer to be a sounding board.

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<v Speaker 1>Then reach out again in a few days to remind

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<v Speaker 1>your friend that you are thinking about him or her.

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<v Speaker 1>Communicate through multiple methods calls, emails, stay mail, and when

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<v Speaker 1>the pandemic is over, visiting in person. When the other

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<v Speaker 1>person is ready, be there with assistance. You can brainstorm

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<v Speaker 1>about new career moves together, or you can offer to

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<v Speaker 1>make introductions. Now. The primary reason to do this is

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<v Speaker 1>that you are a good person. You can lift someone's

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<v Speaker 1>mood when it most needs lifting. But I will say this,

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<v Speaker 1>it is not all altruistic. Careers are long. Life is long.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone unceremoniously fired from one job is going to be

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<v Speaker 1>hired elsewhere. Someone who sees one business go belly up

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<v Speaker 1>is quite likely to start another that runs brilliantly for decades.

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<v Speaker 1>These people are going to be great professional connections in

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<v Speaker 1>the future, and they are going to remember your loyalty.

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<v Speaker 1>A generous and thoughtful friend who made a mistake most

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<v Speaker 1>likely deserves forgiveness and the opportunity to rebuild a reputation.

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<v Speaker 1>You have the opportunity to experience many wonderful years together

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<v Speaker 1>in the future if you are there for the relationship now,

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<v Speaker 1>so connect when it counts. Doing so will be remembered

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<v Speaker 1>far more than yet. In other congratulations when all is

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<v Speaker 1>rosy in the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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