1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: Today's tip is to connect when it counts. Everyone loves 4 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:24,960 Speaker 1: to congratulate people on success, but reaching out when someone 5 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:28,639 Speaker 1: is going through something really challenging we'll do far more 6 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:33,880 Speaker 1: for your relationship long term. Like many listeners, I get 7 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:38,479 Speaker 1: those LinkedIn notices about my connections new jobs. The idea 8 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: is that this provides a nudge to reach out and 9 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: congratulate people. I subscribe to Publishers Lunch, which tells me 10 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: when people get book deals, and so I find myself 11 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: reaching out to congratulate people on those. Most weeks, we 12 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 1: reach out when people post birthday or wedding or anniversary 13 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:01,639 Speaker 1: announcements on social media. All of these are great ideas, 14 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,959 Speaker 1: but if you or a friend or a family member 15 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: has ever gone through a personal or professional setback, you 16 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: know that the crowds become a bit more thin. Maybe 17 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: you were publicly in the running for something and lost. 18 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: Maybe someone you love is in legal trouble, maybe some 19 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 1: embarrassing past incident came up, or you or a loved 20 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: one has been fired or laid off, or seen a 21 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:35,199 Speaker 1: business go bankrupt, or you made a mistake. Good people 22 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 1: can have momentary lapses and judgment that have profound ramifications. 23 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 1: None of us is immune to this happening. You probably 24 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: remember anyone who was there for you in these tough times, 25 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: so you can resolve to be that person for anyone 26 00:01:55,880 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: else in such circumstances. When you find out ab out 27 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 1: the situation, reach out, Check in to see how the 28 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: person is doing, and offer to be a sounding board. 29 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: Then reach out again in a few days to remind 30 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:11,880 Speaker 1: your friend that you are thinking about him or her. 31 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: Communicate through multiple methods calls, emails, stay mail, and when 32 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: the pandemic is over, visiting in person. When the other 33 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: person is ready, be there with assistance. You can brainstorm 34 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: about new career moves together, or you can offer to 35 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: make introductions. Now. The primary reason to do this is 36 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: that you are a good person. You can lift someone's 37 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: mood when it most needs lifting. But I will say this, 38 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:52,919 Speaker 1: it is not all altruistic. Careers are long. Life is long. 39 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: Someone unceremoniously fired from one job is going to be 40 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: hired elsewhere. Someone who sees one business go belly up 41 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: is quite likely to start another that runs brilliantly for decades. 42 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: These people are going to be great professional connections in 43 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: the future, and they are going to remember your loyalty. 44 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: A generous and thoughtful friend who made a mistake most 45 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:25,080 Speaker 1: likely deserves forgiveness and the opportunity to rebuild a reputation. 46 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: You have the opportunity to experience many wonderful years together 47 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: in the future if you are there for the relationship now, 48 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: so connect when it counts. Doing so will be remembered 49 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: far more than yet. In other congratulations when all is 50 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: rosy in the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks for listening, 51 00:03:51,400 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, 52 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 53 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with 54 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 1: me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at Before Breakfast pod. 55 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: That's b the number four, then Breakfast p o D. 56 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 1: You can also shoot me an email at Before Breakfast 57 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 1: podcast at i heeart media dot com that Before Breakfast 58 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: is spelled out with all the letters. 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