WEBVTT - Parents Just Don’t Understand

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<v Speaker 1>So we talk Back podcast the production of iHeartRadio and

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<v Speaker 1>the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 2>who talks. What's up y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for tuning in for a new episode and

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<v Speaker 1>we talk back the show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.

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<v Speaker 1>This is your co host, A J.

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<v Speaker 3>Holiday.

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<v Speaker 4>What's up?

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<v Speaker 2>Tam Bam Like hi, everyone, Like this is Tamala, Like

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<v Speaker 2>he oh no, And I'm like in l a and.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I just had a kale salad.

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<v Speaker 4>So yeah, that's about right.

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<v Speaker 1>All of them like to get on my goddamn nerve,

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<v Speaker 1>like don't don't automatically start sounding like kim A, Like

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, like this is so it's so bizarre,

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<v Speaker 1>like spit it out already.

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<v Speaker 3>The fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>That's one thing I can't get with the lingo. Like

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<v Speaker 1>there's a couple of different lingos, and that's one of

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<v Speaker 1>them that gets on my damn nerve.

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<v Speaker 3>Because hurry up and spit it out, bitch.

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<v Speaker 5>Speak.

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<v Speaker 3>How was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>So how was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 3>Me?

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<v Speaker 1>First, me, First, I ain't do shit that y'all left

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<v Speaker 1>the house. Okay, I've been inside fuck around with our

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<v Speaker 1>videos and stuff. So I've been working.

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<v Speaker 4>How was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>My weekend was cool. I just I actually didn't get

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<v Speaker 2>here till yesterday. So I was still in Charlotte over

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<v Speaker 2>the weekend and I was staying with my best friend,

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<v Speaker 2>but then she got COVID. So then I went to

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<v Speaker 2>a hotel and that was just the best thing. It

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<v Speaker 2>was free breakfast every morning. I didn't have to eat

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<v Speaker 2>cheerios and shit, I ain't have to hear no crying babies,

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<v Speaker 2>even though I love my guy kids, don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was nice to and I wasn't on no

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<v Speaker 2>air mattress no more. So I just enjoyed those couple

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<v Speaker 2>of days in the hotel. And then I flew in

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<v Speaker 2>yesterday to La You guys, I just got here, and

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<v Speaker 2>I really was tired because I was up drinking Saturday

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<v Speaker 2>night and then I flew out Sunday morning, shame. So

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<v Speaker 2>when I got here, I was just exhausted. So I

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<v Speaker 2>pretty much checked in and and relaxed the rest of

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<v Speaker 2>the day.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't do anything. So my my accent is like

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<v Speaker 3>so fake, like for our and then here we are ship.

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<v Speaker 1>It's supposed to another tropical storm is supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>on the way, So I mean I'm in, I'm in

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<v Speaker 1>the house. I might go to Costco. That's your face,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's right down the street. That's why.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, y'all, I think I'm about to go. Like, there's

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<v Speaker 2>a Saphora down the street from me. I might go

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<v Speaker 2>get me a little part time job there, just so

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<v Speaker 2>I can make some money until Yeah, back to the

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<v Speaker 2>back to the old trenches, y'all know that's my family.

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<v Speaker 2>I used to work there a long time ago. Let

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<v Speaker 2>me get some gratis. Shout out to all my Sphori

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<v Speaker 2>girlies and guys and days. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a it's a matt counter here in them all.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't nobody even work there, like you. It's there, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's never anybody there.

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<v Speaker 2>Like. Actually, remember how important MAC was in the early

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<v Speaker 2>two thousands. If you didn't have some lip glass, what

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<v Speaker 2>was you doing with your lips, bitch? Because old baby,

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<v Speaker 2>old baby, that ship was so thick thick.

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<v Speaker 3>You put that ship off and after about two hour.

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<v Speaker 1>Mosquitoes sticking to that little white line, right, you got

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<v Speaker 1>wipe that ship off. What is it, old baby? I

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<v Speaker 1>still got a tube of old baby. That's your probably

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<v Speaker 1>really yeah, yeah, if I put it on in my

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<v Speaker 1>lip might breakout because I definitely still have like some

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<v Speaker 1>makeup from Tea I Shadow Palace.

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<v Speaker 3>I do not throw them away. I do not throw

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<v Speaker 3>them out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so the weekend was uneventful. It's uh, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>great day to day though, And let's get it get

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<v Speaker 1>into the sin stupid Internet. I'm gonna change it from internet.

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<v Speaker 1>So stupid internet.

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<v Speaker 3>All right.

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<v Speaker 2>Carisha Police came out with season two and we definitely

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<v Speaker 2>were like Carrisha pleased with this episode because girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I season one only had five episodes. Okay, really she

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<v Speaker 1>really finessing the podcast. Yes, so many episodes did you

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<v Speaker 1>see in season one?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, but they did numbers. They did numbers.

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<v Speaker 2>All her episodes did really big words and she started

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<v Speaker 2>her season two with her story is who better to

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<v Speaker 2>interview her than Saucy C and ten and her bestie?

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<v Speaker 2>But I just did not I you know, I ran

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<v Speaker 2>to watch it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I didn't get nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you feel like it was like, ooh, she shared

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<v Speaker 2>some you know something that we didn't realize already. We

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<v Speaker 2>know you and JT ain't like that no more. We

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<v Speaker 2>know y'all probably still love each other, but it just

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<v Speaker 2>ain't what it used to be. We know you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>stick beside Diddy because you ain't saying shit all this time.

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<v Speaker 1>And out she says she not with him, so I

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<v Speaker 1>mean she probably at gonna just discard him. But as

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<v Speaker 1>far as the relationship, she at this point is self perseverance,

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<v Speaker 1>So I wouldn't want to attach myself to that shit either. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>she's a smart girl for that. And like she said,

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<v Speaker 1>they both used each other, so I agree.

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<v Speaker 3>With But that's something we all knew, right, didn't we

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<v Speaker 3>all know that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Yeah, I wish you would. I wish they wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>even have talked about JC, y'all. I love jt Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to pick sides, but it's I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I like jt Okay and I feel like they had

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<v Speaker 1>already smashed whatever they had going on, let it go.

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<v Speaker 1>So they got into it. Yeah, they got into it online,

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<v Speaker 1>and I thought they had gotten past it, So for

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<v Speaker 1>her to then still mention, you know there, we know, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>We know, y'all, not like that. We could see it.

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<v Speaker 1>We could tell. I especially knew when they both was

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<v Speaker 1>on the Breakfast Club and I heard how they travel

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<v Speaker 1>and from Entourage's makeup artists. They just got there separately,

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<v Speaker 1>and she confirmed like they they didn't really see each

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<v Speaker 1>other until they got on stage most of the times,

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<v Speaker 1>like they just you can tell she lives in Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she's in Miami. JT's in La. So they just weren't

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<v Speaker 1>on the same page with a lot of things. So

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<v Speaker 1>I can kind of it's nothing new, Okay. I do

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<v Speaker 1>like that she was vulnerable a little bit. I definitely

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<v Speaker 1>understand how she says she she was she lost her person.

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<v Speaker 2>I imagine, all right, so when we say shit on

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<v Speaker 2>this podcast, people be attacking us for our views, imagine

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<v Speaker 2>the magnitude that she gets attacked in this next level.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you gotta have really you gotta have really thick skin,

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<v Speaker 1>and you just got to be on some some fuck

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<v Speaker 1>you type shit. You know, I had to tell one person,

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<v Speaker 1>there's nobody in this world that can say or do

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<v Speaker 1>anything that will appease every time. You can't, right, So

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<v Speaker 1>some people whatever I say might resonate with them, and

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<v Speaker 1>some people are and that's okay. You're not one of

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<v Speaker 1>my people, and that's okay, But I'm not about to

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<v Speaker 1>go back and forth with somebody who really, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like you mad her but not to my immediate real life.

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<v Speaker 3>You just don't, and they crucified Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>Jesus, So.

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<v Speaker 3>Do this, okay, then celebrate her afterwards, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't humans girl bye, Okay. I was sure

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<v Speaker 1>the best of luck on all the things she has

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<v Speaker 1>going on. I think we know JT was always the rapper.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Karesha hell.

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<v Speaker 3>Locked up. She did hold him down.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope they can reconcile just enough to be sisters again,

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<v Speaker 2>to get back to who they were before the money

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<v Speaker 2>and the fame.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think once when certain things happen in relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>is no really getting back. I have friends who I

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<v Speaker 1>consider family members, right and I don't talk to them anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>I still love them, but once certain things happen, is

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<v Speaker 1>like it's hard to get back. Like I can never

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<v Speaker 1>get on the phone with these bitches and tell them

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<v Speaker 1>about my life never again. I don't trust them anymore

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<v Speaker 1>in that way. So yeah, I just, you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>just deal with them from a distance kind of. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that they'll probably never get back to

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<v Speaker 1>what they were, but they still consider themselves family. That's

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<v Speaker 1>most important, right, So you ain't just you know, undercutting

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<v Speaker 1>each other all crazy in the public. Just keep it cordial.

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<v Speaker 1>At this point, y'all moving in two different directions, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. I think a lot of it is social media, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you allow these outside entities to disrupt the relationship you

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<v Speaker 1>have with this person that you've known way before the money,

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<v Speaker 1>way before the fame, way before anybody really knew y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So sometimes you just got

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<v Speaker 1>to get back to the basis basics, and they probably

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<v Speaker 1>will never get back.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, it was funny when she was like who

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<v Speaker 3>got left off? Bat and bougie me?

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<v Speaker 1>That was funny in hell, that was funny as how

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<v Speaker 1>she was. I didn't even know nothing about it. Like now, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, y'all don't have to do everything together, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like, even when we talk back,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a platform that both of us should be

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<v Speaker 1>able to make next steps off of. Right, Everything does

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<v Speaker 1>not have to be a group effort. Okay, this is

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<v Speaker 1>a stepping stone for the both of us. So I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just how they have to look at us so

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<v Speaker 1>they can move on and be okay with each other,

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<v Speaker 1>or I mean, at this point, be okay with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm going to order Kresha. Uh what is it called?

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<v Speaker 2>Richa Roulet?

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<v Speaker 3>Part two?

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<v Speaker 4>The first one.

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<v Speaker 1>Questions.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, these young millennials is off the motherfucking

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<v Speaker 2>Chaine because a lot of this stuff do not align

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<v Speaker 2>with my spirit and I I've never gon like it

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<v Speaker 2>was one question like fucking your mama boyfriend or something

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<v Speaker 2>like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>That Priscilla has that game and we played it and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a lot of the cars are the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like very repetitious. It's the same content on each card.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like it's just it's easy. Like I wonder what

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<v Speaker 1>the second one is gonna be, Like, I hope she

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<v Speaker 1>adds like, you know a little bit more substance.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, but she balling, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to come up with a uh.

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<v Speaker 3>We talked back the card game. Yes, yeah, that sound fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's make it up or shut the fuck up. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we shut the fuck up.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that'll create that soon, all right. So I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if y'all saw this, but I thought this was interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>This black male waiter from a restaurant followed a Patriot

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<v Speaker 2>and that he had just served outside because she did

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<v Speaker 2>not provide a tip for him, and he basically confronted

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<v Speaker 2>her at her car about not leaving.

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<v Speaker 3>Him a tip. And I was looking at that, like,

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<v Speaker 3>what in the entire fuck is happening in the United

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<v Speaker 3>States right now? Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>I could not imagine. That wasn't even the scary part

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<v Speaker 1>for me, right, It's the comments in the post that

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<v Speaker 1>are that's more scary to me, because a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people thought he was okay and justified in following a

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<v Speaker 1>woman from his job to her car and confronting her

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<v Speaker 1>for not tipping him, like, sir, take it up with

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<v Speaker 1>your manager if you're not making.

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<v Speaker 3>Enough, right, or go get a different job.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people, yeah, a lot of people will saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't eat out if you can't tip, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, man. On top of a regular eighteen to

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five percent tip, a lot of these restaurants have

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<v Speaker 1>added extra service fees and shit like that onto your

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<v Speaker 1>bill automatically since COVID, nobody has rolled anything back that

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<v Speaker 1>they implemented after COVID. Okay, COVID is essentially over now,

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<v Speaker 1>but we are stuck with a lot of, uh, just

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<v Speaker 1>different things. People are a price sclengon on every goddamn thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So you mean to tell me, if I want to

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<v Speaker 1>eat out and I can only afford my meal, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't afford the extra to tip. You're saying stay home.

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<v Speaker 3>That's how people are didn't say it. I think I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I assume maybe they're in the service industry.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never actually been in the service industry outside of

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<v Speaker 1>working in my family's restaurant, which wouldn't require tip because

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<v Speaker 1>it's like get your food and gold type shit. But

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, maybe his service wasn't that great. Her

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<v Speaker 1>thing to him was, you know, I didn't have any cash.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, oh, I got cash.

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<v Speaker 3>App excuse me, I got pepper spring. Get away from

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<v Speaker 3>my car, because why are you out here with me?

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<v Speaker 2>You are neglecting to see you He probably had bad

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<v Speaker 2>service because I'm sure you got some tables right now

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<v Speaker 2>that you neglected to be outside with me asking for money.

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<v Speaker 3>No, that's now.

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<v Speaker 1>If that weren't my employee, find yeah, because how dare you?

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<v Speaker 3>Here's the thing I understand.

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<v Speaker 2>Tipping is proper etiquette in the United States, right it is,

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<v Speaker 2>But in the event that there is no tip, you

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<v Speaker 2>are not entitled to that. The only thing that you

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<v Speaker 2>are entitled to is your minimum wage salary that the

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<v Speaker 2>restaurant pays. That is the only thing you're entitled to. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>is it sucky if someone doesn't leave you a tip tip? Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>but they don't owe you that. You can't follow nobody

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<v Speaker 2>out to their car to requesting free money. You're essentially begging.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you're outside begging.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was really weird, and you're a grown ass

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<v Speaker 1>man rolling up on a woman at night time, like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, sir, I probably like would have put my

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<v Speaker 1>pistol on my lap or something in his face, like

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<v Speaker 1>GIFN buy my car because.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you got a panhandling you are you outside begging?

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<v Speaker 2>Go back to work?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you can't do that. Yeah, I understand where he

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<v Speaker 3>would want that tip.

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<v Speaker 1>That's never okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I understand where you want your tips. I get it

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<v Speaker 2>because you don't make nothing an hour, and I get it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you don't get to do that. You should never

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<v Speaker 2>do that follow anybody about a tip.

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<v Speaker 3>It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's just like people like doing door dash and uber

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<v Speaker 1>eads and Instacart stuff like that. Like there there's been

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<v Speaker 1>drivers that would go back to the customer's house, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>confronting them for not giving them a tip. So now

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening is these big companies, corporations, small business owners,

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<v Speaker 1>they're now pitting the employees against the consumer because they're

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<v Speaker 1>not paying them enough. Essentially, that's what it is, because

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<v Speaker 1>maybe minimum wage for service should be a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more to fill in the gap absolutely, you know, with

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<v Speaker 1>the tips. I feel like that if you don't make

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<v Speaker 1>enough in tips for that day, there should be some

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<v Speaker 1>system in place to where they kind of offset your pay,

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<v Speaker 1>right so you can at least get this a good

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<v Speaker 1>minimum wage for the evening. Like that should not The

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<v Speaker 1>owners should not be on the customer that is.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the little bit that they do pay.

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<v Speaker 2>People in the services industry they texting the fuck out

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<v Speaker 2>of that too, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, again that's still not just not.

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<v Speaker 3>Should not it should not be fair.

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<v Speaker 2>To her for saying it, Like I would have felt

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<v Speaker 2>compelled to send him some money too, Like are you

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<v Speaker 2>going to attack me because you came to my car

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<v Speaker 2>he robbed?

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<v Speaker 1>Much like, yeah, he's strong on her for real, for real,

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<v Speaker 1>Like and you know it, almost people may not this

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<v Speaker 1>might sound kind of weird, but it's almost like getting

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<v Speaker 1>your kuchie taken, you know what, I'm saying, we talked

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<v Speaker 1>a lot about how.

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<v Speaker 5>We talked a lot of we've talked.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen, We've talked about like things can be a little

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<v Speaker 1>things could be a little, ari a little. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, you know what I'm saying, Like you might

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<v Speaker 1>do some shit in a moment so you can get

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<v Speaker 1>out of this situation. That's what I felt, Like, what's

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<v Speaker 1>happening with her?

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<v Speaker 3>Like she she.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably couldn't believe that that was.

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<v Speaker 2>She just sent a cash out, because what's next? If

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<v Speaker 2>I say no right here?

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<v Speaker 3>This man might hit me? What you know exactly?

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<v Speaker 1>So to me, she got robbed.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I didn't leave. If I wanted to leave a tip,

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<v Speaker 2>I would have done it in the restaurant.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like, what are you doing? What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Why did you think that was okay? That guy has

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<v Speaker 1>mental health issues and she probably shouldn't have played with him.

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<v Speaker 1>She did, right, she didn't? She Well, if it was me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I gotta learn how to de escalate, because

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<v Speaker 1>I swear to God.

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<v Speaker 3>I would have something that I would have did. I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, hold.

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<v Speaker 2>On on that, nigga, I'm already in the garbage.

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<v Speaker 3>What you gonna do?

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<v Speaker 2>He would have been holding on to what I had

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<v Speaker 2>would have held on tight because I would have hit

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<v Speaker 2>that gas.

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<v Speaker 1>So hard that ship is Oh yeah, okay, but listen.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to everybody in the service industry because that

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<v Speaker 2>is hard work and the tips do help out a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I get it, But don't do that. Don't

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<v Speaker 3>none of y'all do that no more? Period. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>That that's like kind of ridiculous. Okay, So now the

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<v Speaker 1>internet is in a frenzy. Just a little tad bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Tracy Ellis Ross, she posted a picture with some slacks

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<v Speaker 1>on and no top hole in her titties. Right. The

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<v Speaker 1>first comment I saw about it, it was a guy saying, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you down bad at this big age if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have a husband, and it's how you present

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<v Speaker 1>on the internet. It was something like that along those lines, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think either it was today or yes, yesterday

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<v Speaker 1>I saw that, But now today another another blog actually

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<v Speaker 1>posted it. Says Tracy Ellis Ross sparks online debate about

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<v Speaker 1>thirst strapping in your fifties with resurface topless photo. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so she maybe maybe she didn't just post us people.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's all it's just researching.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this pick on Tracy Ellis Ross week. But you

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<v Speaker 1>know it's attack on women. You know, we can't do

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<v Speaker 1>nothing right and nothing wrong, because if you're young and

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<v Speaker 1>posting some shit like that, it's a problem, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. If you do it older, it's a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know, what do you think.

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<v Speaker 2>I think her tits look so good. First of all,

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<v Speaker 2>she looks amazing first and foremost, and second like it's

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<v Speaker 2>her body to do with what with it, what she desires.

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<v Speaker 2>She wasn't showing nipples, It wasn't like nasty and who cares.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't see nothing wrong with it. She looks great.

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<v Speaker 2>Shout out to Tracy. And I think she looked great

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<v Speaker 2>because she ain't married and ain't had no kids, and

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<v Speaker 2>it just that energy just preserves you for some reason.

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<v Speaker 1>That part, that part, you know, because I mean, let's

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<v Speaker 1>let's let's just not act like like relate getting married.

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<v Speaker 1>It just it doesn't just complete you. Okay, that is

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<v Speaker 1>one part of your life if you happen to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>But like we talk all the time, I think that

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<v Speaker 1>women do look better single Like I'm sorry, I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not in a relationship with the right person.

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<v Speaker 1>You'd be looking dragged. I feel like my last relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>I looked so old and he would make jokes about

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<v Speaker 1>how young he looked. Right, this nigga was literally sucking

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<v Speaker 1>my life and it's a real thing. So shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to Tracy Ellis Ross. So some of these comments, and

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like a lot of them were for women. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>the first one I mentioned was a guy. Here goes

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<v Speaker 1>one comment. Someone says she's too old to be thirst trapping.

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<v Speaker 1>I realize I don't find shit as deep as y'all do, ever,

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<v Speaker 1>because who gives a fuck? That's how I feel. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's just a guy. Let me see, he looks like

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<v Speaker 1>a guy, big king, big big bic. Okay, he said,

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<v Speaker 1>ain't she like fifty? Why she got her to out?

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<v Speaker 3>What's wrong with some fifty year old titties being out? Like?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm confused. I'm confused.

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<v Speaker 2>Her titties look great, she looks excellent, and she feels

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<v Speaker 2>confident in her body. And what is she supposed to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Not get older and not love herself anymore? Not just

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<v Speaker 2>be yourself? Whatever?

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<v Speaker 3>That looks like that's annoying because let me trust.

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<v Speaker 2>And believe if these titties stay sitting up at fifty

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<v Speaker 2>y'all might see you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not putting my titty. That's not my brand, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not on brand for me. Like I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be naked on the internet ever, right, But if there's

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<v Speaker 1>two things with that, right, because I have made comments

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<v Speaker 1>about people just blanket statements like if you got to

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<v Speaker 1>wake up and put your ass on the internet and

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<v Speaker 1>then go work and a call, go sit on there

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<v Speaker 1>all day long on the call center, like that's something shit.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like every day. Nobody want to see your

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<v Speaker 1>ass every foll Maybe do, maybe some people do want

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<v Speaker 1>to see your ass every day, but me in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm really going to unfollow you if I see

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<v Speaker 1>your ass.

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<v Speaker 2>To my very first earthquake on my very first day here,

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<v Speaker 2>that's scary.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw it screen shaking too. I started screenshaking, Yo.

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<v Speaker 3>That's scared the ship out of me. I want to go.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a theory that California and New York will one

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<v Speaker 1>day be detached from the rest of America because of

0:21:33.440 --> 0:21:38.480
<v Speaker 1>things like that earthquakes and being below sea level and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all motherfuckers might float away. Yo.

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<v Speaker 2>My mouth is I want to go hanging open. I've

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<v Speaker 2>never felt anything like that before.

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<v Speaker 1>You never felt like a little quake before in South Carolina,

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<v Speaker 1>I have not like that, not like what that just was.

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<v Speaker 1>I heard an alarm going off. Yeah yeah girl, m

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<v Speaker 1>m mm hmm. Girls up, So I could go back

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<v Speaker 1>to the airport. Look, but back to back to the episode.

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<v Speaker 1>So another comment says she she's suddenly too old to

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<v Speaker 1>be posting thirst traps. But when women in their twenties

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<v Speaker 1>post them, they are called attention seeking whores. Just say

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<v Speaker 1>you believe you have the rights of police women. Just

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<v Speaker 1>say you are narcissist. You are narcissistic enough to believe

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<v Speaker 1>this woman was performing for the male gaze. That could

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<v Speaker 1>be a thing. And another guy says this internet had

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<v Speaker 1>The Internet has destroyed everything elegant about women. Nobody ever

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<v Speaker 1>criticizes men. I mean only thing men really get criticized

0:22:51.720 --> 0:22:55.240
<v Speaker 1>by being broke. That's about it. They could do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>else they right, Yeah, because depending on how much money

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<v Speaker 1>you have, like you can get away with whatever. But

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<v Speaker 1>for women it don't matter. Like you got too much money,

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<v Speaker 1>oh bitch, don't nobody give a fuck about your degree

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<v Speaker 1>or your money.

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<v Speaker 4>Fuck you bitch, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't have no money.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you project ho, get off the project.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what y'all want. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>y'all want, but get off of us. And Kirk Franklin

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<v Speaker 1>okay said get the.

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<v Speaker 3>Fuck up off of it. Yeah, Kirk.

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<v Speaker 1>Kirk Franklin was just on Cam Newton's podcast this week,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, he was talking about how marriage has

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<v Speaker 1>been weaponized in Western civilization because here Tracy Ellis Ross

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<v Speaker 1>is an example. She's a fifty year old woman with

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<v Speaker 1>no children, has never been wed. She's attached to a

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<v Speaker 1>couple men, you know, throughout years for fifty like a

0:23:52.520 --> 0:23:57.640
<v Speaker 1>couple guys maybe, and you know she's being shamed for

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<v Speaker 1>having never been married and having never had children. Kirk

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<v Speaker 1>Franklin was talking to Cam Newton about this and he

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<v Speaker 1>did say marriage is a necessary distraction. I remember t

0:24:07.320 --> 0:24:11.040
<v Speaker 1>I was saying how his marriage was a distraction. TI.

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<v Speaker 1>You are where you are because of the energy of

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<v Speaker 1>time in Let's be very fucking clear. So when y'all men,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you're trying to figure out, okay, what what

0:24:20.320 --> 0:24:24.000
<v Speaker 1>what is? What do men get out of marriage? Everything?

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<v Speaker 1>You get everything out of marriage? Everything? Okay, So when

0:24:29.280 --> 0:24:31.080
<v Speaker 1>you're trying to take your life to the next level.

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<v Speaker 1>Consider getting a wife. How about that? So it is

0:24:34.320 --> 0:24:39.000
<v Speaker 1>a necessary distraction, is what he's saying. A lot of jobs,

0:24:39.280 --> 0:24:42.840
<v Speaker 1>a lot of positions. People don't even want to see

0:24:42.880 --> 0:24:45.280
<v Speaker 1>y'all ass single as a man, Like where's your wife?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>You could be the preacher of a church.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, now they got their husbands up.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what he That's what he said.

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, you can't be in ministry without a partner,

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<v Speaker 2>like they'd be wanting you to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Well they up there what they partner? It's for real now,

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<v Speaker 1>So I mean that's also different. You know, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think nobody wants to see a single CEO of a company,

0:25:09.240 --> 0:25:14.320
<v Speaker 1>a single president president, like like, where's your wife?

0:25:14.640 --> 0:25:15.080
<v Speaker 5>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Because with good women comes wisdom, right, So it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a bad thing. Ever, I don't know. It just seems

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<v Speaker 1>like in the black community, like we don't grasp that

0:25:27.520 --> 0:25:29.680
<v Speaker 1>the men don't grass It's not that women don't women

0:25:29.760 --> 0:25:31.359
<v Speaker 1>want to be single. Is that men don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be married?

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<v Speaker 4>For real?

0:25:32.200 --> 0:25:33.040
<v Speaker 1>A lot of them don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Baby, I just pissed my pants a little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>I just don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't even folks. I got to change my draws

0:25:41.520 --> 0:25:42.360
<v Speaker 3>when we get deal with.

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<v Speaker 1>This and one other thing. Kirk Franklin also said he

0:25:47.400 --> 0:25:51.760
<v Speaker 1>said being married is not a prerequisite for God's hand men, Like,

0:25:51.920 --> 0:25:53.960
<v Speaker 1>just because you don't get married, that doesn't mean you're

0:25:53.960 --> 0:25:56.280
<v Speaker 1>not going to be successful. This is I'm talking about

0:25:56.320 --> 0:25:59.160
<v Speaker 1>for women because they act like we can't do nothing

0:25:59.280 --> 0:26:03.000
<v Speaker 1>great without a man next to us, and actually, to me,

0:26:03.680 --> 0:26:07.800
<v Speaker 1>women do pretty well without without a husband. I can't

0:26:07.840 --> 0:26:11.320
<v Speaker 1>say the same for men and not having a wife. Yeah,

0:26:11.840 --> 0:26:13.879
<v Speaker 1>like y'all don't even know how to wash your clothes

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<v Speaker 1>half the time or even wash your.

0:26:17.160 --> 0:26:19.840
<v Speaker 2>Draw They haveing a thousand dollars suit and they had

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<v Speaker 2>like a little joy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yo.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that your No? That was Priscilla also telling me

0:26:30.440 --> 0:26:32.199
<v Speaker 1>how nigga she was at a dude's house and he

0:26:32.240 --> 0:26:35.119
<v Speaker 1>got up off the couch and had ship on the

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<v Speaker 1>back of his uh his tink top like the tink

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<v Speaker 1>top mussel crack his ask or had like a little skinny.

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<v Speaker 3>I know y'all feel that. I know y'all feel that

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<v Speaker 3>in y'all ass Hey, y'att to be she and she

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<v Speaker 3>asked it in a thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>Suit period, So if anything, get a wife so you

0:26:57.160 --> 0:26:58.399
<v Speaker 1>can get your hygiene up.

0:26:58.440 --> 0:26:58.879
<v Speaker 3>How about that?

0:26:59.200 --> 0:27:01.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but some of these women be nasty

0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:04.800
<v Speaker 1>as hell. Okay, I've seen and they go together.

0:27:06.880 --> 0:27:08.040
<v Speaker 3>Everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Just look anyway, listen, Mike. While I was setting up

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<v Speaker 1>well a couple of hours before, right after we got

0:27:16.600 --> 0:27:20.600
<v Speaker 1>off our meeting earlier, I'm like, why the fuck am

0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:23.239
<v Speaker 1>I in here? Sweat and somebody air conditioning like froze up.

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:25.040
<v Speaker 1>So I had to call a maintenance And when a

0:27:25.080 --> 0:27:27.479
<v Speaker 1>guy came, he was like, your place is so nice, man.

0:27:27.520 --> 0:27:29.600
<v Speaker 1>We go on some people's apartments, you can't even move

0:27:29.640 --> 0:27:32.680
<v Speaker 1>around in there, like how do you how does your

0:27:32.720 --> 0:27:34.680
<v Speaker 1>brain work? And clutter, like.

0:27:34.640 --> 0:27:37.680
<v Speaker 3>When people just be hoarders and stacks it up big

0:27:37.680 --> 0:27:38.280
<v Speaker 3>as they are.

0:27:38.240 --> 0:27:42.840
<v Speaker 1>Tall hoarding too. I hoard mail and I I hoard

0:27:43.440 --> 0:27:46.240
<v Speaker 1>uh like hair products and ship like that. So there

0:27:46.280 --> 0:27:48.320
<v Speaker 1>are some things that I have a problem letting go.

0:27:48.440 --> 0:27:50.600
<v Speaker 1>But like just having clutter all stamped.

0:27:50.320 --> 0:27:52.560
<v Speaker 2>Up on the side of the wall because you are tall,

0:27:53.240 --> 0:27:55.800
<v Speaker 2>that's the next level where you can't there's only all

0:27:55.960 --> 0:27:57.720
<v Speaker 2>like a room to walk through.

0:27:59.080 --> 0:27:59.960
<v Speaker 3>That's next level.

0:28:00.320 --> 0:28:02.760
<v Speaker 1>My second bedroom is full of bullshit, and I keep

0:28:02.760 --> 0:28:05.200
<v Speaker 1>the door closed because if I open it, my brain

0:28:05.280 --> 0:28:06.879
<v Speaker 1>is going to automatically.

0:28:06.320 --> 0:28:07.360
<v Speaker 3>Get too.

0:28:10.160 --> 0:28:14.119
<v Speaker 1>Get y'all life together, and get y'all shit in order. Anyway, y'all.

0:28:14.520 --> 0:28:17.119
<v Speaker 1>So this week we have some beautiful young women on

0:28:17.280 --> 0:28:20.879
<v Speaker 1>We talked back this week, and we just want to

0:28:20.920 --> 0:28:23.800
<v Speaker 1>We want to get their opinion on life and living

0:28:23.920 --> 0:28:26.720
<v Speaker 1>and politics and all all the things like nobody ever

0:28:27.400 --> 0:28:30.120
<v Speaker 1>thinks about young people and what they.

0:28:29.240 --> 0:28:30.399
<v Speaker 3>What they care about.

0:28:30.480 --> 0:28:33.760
<v Speaker 1>You know, I remember feeling not having Yeah, I remember

0:28:33.880 --> 0:28:36.600
<v Speaker 1>feeling like I don't have a voice. Even little little

0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:40.680
<v Speaker 1>kids have something to say, you know what I'm saying.

0:28:40.720 --> 0:28:43.800
<v Speaker 1>So we want to get their opinion on a state

0:28:43.840 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 1>of the world and just see how they live and

0:28:45.320 --> 0:28:46.720
<v Speaker 1>what they got going, and we getting up in their

0:28:46.720 --> 0:28:49.720
<v Speaker 1>business today, y'all. So stay tuned and we'll be right back.

0:28:49.880 --> 0:28:51.640
<v Speaker 2>And I got to go clean my drawers. I'll be

0:28:51.640 --> 0:28:58.840
<v Speaker 2>back in a second, all right, y'all. So I came

0:28:58.920 --> 0:29:02.520
<v Speaker 2>up with this idea because me and Aja we sit

0:29:02.600 --> 0:29:05.040
<v Speaker 2>and talk with y'all. We've been talking with y'all for years,

0:29:05.360 --> 0:29:09.360
<v Speaker 2>and it's always from a perspective of a thirty something

0:29:09.480 --> 0:29:10.320
<v Speaker 2>and a forty something.

0:29:10.400 --> 0:29:14.440
<v Speaker 1>Bitch. Don't play on me very clear. I'm forty and

0:29:14.480 --> 0:29:16.640
<v Speaker 1>Tammy's older than means okay, so.

0:29:16.560 --> 0:29:18.479
<v Speaker 3>They say, I don't know how true that is.

0:29:20.360 --> 0:29:25.320
<v Speaker 2>So I wanted to bring on some younger women so

0:29:25.360 --> 0:29:29.160
<v Speaker 2>we can have a conversation with them about love and

0:29:29.280 --> 0:29:32.840
<v Speaker 2>life and their thoughts on things like politics and all

0:29:32.880 --> 0:29:35.760
<v Speaker 2>the things that they may have a different perspective than

0:29:35.760 --> 0:29:41.120
<v Speaker 2>we have right now as older women. So thank you

0:29:41.200 --> 0:29:44.640
<v Speaker 2>Mahogany and Naira for joining us on we time back.

0:29:45.160 --> 0:29:46.840
<v Speaker 3>I appreciate you, all right.

0:29:46.880 --> 0:29:49.200
<v Speaker 2>So these are my girls, These are my babies. This

0:29:49.280 --> 0:29:51.400
<v Speaker 2>is my best friend's niece, and this is one of

0:29:51.400 --> 0:29:54.680
<v Speaker 2>my clients and friends, Octavia's young daughter Mahogany. So I

0:29:55.280 --> 0:29:57.000
<v Speaker 2>reached out to them and I was like, would y'all

0:29:57.000 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 2>be willing to join us and talk about y'all life?

0:30:00.240 --> 0:30:02.440
<v Speaker 2>And I thought they were gonna be nervous, but both

0:30:02.480 --> 0:30:03.440
<v Speaker 2>of them was like, okay.

0:30:03.320 --> 0:30:05.240
<v Speaker 1>Let's sprint on the mic. Though I don't know about

0:30:05.240 --> 0:30:11.280
<v Speaker 1>that project.

0:30:10.760 --> 0:30:13.840
<v Speaker 2>All right, so let's get into it now. We're gonna

0:30:13.880 --> 0:30:16.560
<v Speaker 2>start with you tell everybody who you are.

0:30:17.800 --> 0:30:19.600
<v Speaker 3>You know what you can do? Tell lets your name

0:30:19.840 --> 0:30:21.479
<v Speaker 3>and describe yourself in three words.

0:30:21.600 --> 0:30:23.560
<v Speaker 1>Girl, this is a whole job. And if you go ahead,

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:26.400
<v Speaker 1>all right.

0:30:27.560 --> 0:30:31.520
<v Speaker 4>My name is Jenirah. I'm from Youngstown, Ohio, and three

0:30:31.520 --> 0:30:38.960
<v Speaker 4>words to describe me would be laid back, go get

0:30:38.960 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 4>her period? And why am I? Why do I have

0:30:45.480 --> 0:30:49.000
<v Speaker 4>no words to give you a third word? I got

0:30:49.000 --> 0:30:51.280
<v Speaker 4>a third word. I got a third word, dependable.

0:30:51.760 --> 0:30:54.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's a good one.

0:30:55.640 --> 0:30:56.720
<v Speaker 3>What about you, Mahogany.

0:30:57.000 --> 0:31:01.480
<v Speaker 6>My name is Mahogany Ribbons. I'm Charlie and I'm eighteen,

0:31:02.160 --> 0:31:06.440
<v Speaker 6>and three words to describe me will probably be charismatic, intriguing,

0:31:06.640 --> 0:31:07.640
<v Speaker 6>and optimistic.

0:31:07.960 --> 0:31:09.320
<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's riz right.

0:31:10.680 --> 0:31:19.200
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So we're starting with we're starting with starting with dating?

0:31:19.400 --> 0:31:20.720
<v Speaker 1>Or are we starting with politics?

0:31:20.680 --> 0:31:21.160
<v Speaker 3>We're talking.

0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:24.040
<v Speaker 2>I want to start with y'all goals, like I want

0:31:24.040 --> 0:31:26.080
<v Speaker 2>to know a little bit about before we get into

0:31:26.160 --> 0:31:29.200
<v Speaker 2>like the men and the conversations about love, which I

0:31:29.240 --> 0:31:31.520
<v Speaker 2>really want to talk about. I just want to know, like,

0:31:32.040 --> 0:31:35.560
<v Speaker 2>what are some of your goals as young women? Well,

0:31:35.640 --> 0:31:38.480
<v Speaker 2>right now, I want to work on getting a car.

0:31:38.560 --> 0:31:42.240
<v Speaker 2>I want to get my own car. And I'm in

0:31:42.280 --> 0:31:44.720
<v Speaker 2>school right now, so basically that's just my main goal

0:31:44.800 --> 0:31:45.520
<v Speaker 2>for right now.

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:47.640
<v Speaker 3>But so are you still in high school? Are you

0:31:47.680 --> 0:31:48.440
<v Speaker 3>starting college?

0:31:48.520 --> 0:31:52.240
<v Speaker 6>I'm starting college now. I just graduated actually at June tenth.

0:31:52.520 --> 0:31:54.120
<v Speaker 3>Okay, congratulations, thank you.

0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:59.240
<v Speaker 6>Yay, y'all graduated from Maley Creek High School and I'll

0:31:59.280 --> 0:32:01.640
<v Speaker 6>go to Central pet and I'm taking a few classes there.

0:32:01.840 --> 0:32:05.040
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So what's your what you major in finance?

0:32:05.440 --> 0:32:08.080
<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's a good and they needs money, so that's

0:32:08.080 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 2>a good.

0:32:12.000 --> 0:32:12.760
<v Speaker 3>And what about you?

0:32:13.600 --> 0:32:19.560
<v Speaker 4>I'm twenty and I just graduated from cosmetology school last October. Congratulations,

0:32:19.800 --> 0:32:20.239
<v Speaker 4>thank you.

0:32:20.280 --> 0:32:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Where did you go to school?

0:32:21.320 --> 0:32:34.800
<v Speaker 4>I went to school at Charlotte. That's okay, girl. So

0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:37.640
<v Speaker 4>a few of my goals is to just have a

0:32:37.680 --> 0:32:43.560
<v Speaker 4>steady clientel, be booked out for months, and once I

0:32:43.600 --> 0:32:47.280
<v Speaker 4>get that clientele, I want to eventually like move from

0:32:47.280 --> 0:32:49.120
<v Speaker 4>behind the chair. And I want to get more into

0:32:49.280 --> 0:32:51.959
<v Speaker 4>like retail. I want to get more into like the

0:32:52.000 --> 0:32:54.000
<v Speaker 4>real estate part. I want to open soon suites.

0:32:54.560 --> 0:32:58.640
<v Speaker 1>Yes there, that's that's lovely, ladies.

0:32:59.080 --> 0:33:01.120
<v Speaker 2>Okay, now that we know, I was just making sure

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 2>y'all had some because it was import that y'all have goals.

0:33:04.560 --> 0:33:07.120
<v Speaker 1>Because I feel like I didn't have any graduating from

0:33:07.200 --> 0:33:09.640
<v Speaker 1>high school. I have no major goals. I know I

0:33:09.760 --> 0:33:12.920
<v Speaker 1>wanted to go to college, I did not finish my degree,

0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:17.240
<v Speaker 1>and I didn't have like I'm impressed because I didn't

0:33:17.240 --> 0:33:18.760
<v Speaker 1>know what the hell I wanted to do come out

0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:19.400
<v Speaker 1>of high school.

0:33:19.680 --> 0:33:22.800
<v Speaker 2>I think we live in a time now where entrepreneurship

0:33:23.840 --> 0:33:27.200
<v Speaker 2>been more pushed, and like, get into your bag has

0:33:27.240 --> 0:33:29.520
<v Speaker 2>been more push than when we was eighteen years old.

0:33:30.280 --> 0:33:31.920
<v Speaker 2>When I came out of school, I was.

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:35.600
<v Speaker 3>Like, I wanted some new lip blows and I want

0:33:35.600 --> 0:33:42.800
<v Speaker 3>my hair. So I'm very proud of y'all.

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:46.800
<v Speaker 2>I definitely want us because we talk about a lot

0:33:46.840 --> 0:33:49.640
<v Speaker 2>about relationships on this show, so I definitely wanted to

0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:54.400
<v Speaker 2>get into your relationships as young women, you know, because I.

0:33:54.320 --> 0:33:57.280
<v Speaker 3>Know y'all got little things going on, and.

0:33:58.160 --> 0:34:02.920
<v Speaker 2>So hand on, I wrote down some questions. Do y'all

0:34:02.960 --> 0:34:03.800
<v Speaker 2>have boyfriends?

0:34:04.480 --> 0:34:04.920
<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

0:34:05.120 --> 0:34:06.080
<v Speaker 5>I don't have a boyfriend.

0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:08.160
<v Speaker 3>You don't have a boyfriend. What about you?

0:34:08.280 --> 0:34:10.240
<v Speaker 4>I had a boyfriend, You had a boyfriend?

0:34:10.560 --> 0:34:12.040
<v Speaker 3>How long you been with your boyfriend?

0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:14.440
<v Speaker 4>It's gonna be a year in October?

0:34:15.000 --> 0:34:16.759
<v Speaker 3>You would love he love?

0:34:19.480 --> 0:34:19.640
<v Speaker 5>Right?

0:34:19.640 --> 0:34:21.560
<v Speaker 1>You bet? It's it's some wax now, you bet it

0:34:21.640 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 1>say it right?

0:34:25.520 --> 0:34:28.240
<v Speaker 3>So why are you single?

0:34:28.719 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 5>Why am I single? I don't know.

0:34:31.239 --> 0:34:34.480
<v Speaker 7>It's like I don't think that the boys who be

0:34:34.520 --> 0:34:36.719
<v Speaker 7>coming for me and I don't really chase, so I

0:34:36.800 --> 0:34:37.600
<v Speaker 7>usually just wait.

0:34:38.120 --> 0:34:40.879
<v Speaker 6>And the people who be coming for me, they don't

0:34:40.920 --> 0:34:43.319
<v Speaker 6>really live up to the standard that I won't like

0:34:43.600 --> 0:34:45.080
<v Speaker 6>a lot of them. They don't even have a car,

0:34:45.160 --> 0:34:47.160
<v Speaker 6>and I don't have a car either, So if we

0:34:47.239 --> 0:34:50.160
<v Speaker 6>both don't have cars, I don't think that's gonna work out.

0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:53.439
<v Speaker 5>Somebody gotta meet somebody in the middle, like I can.

0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:56.800
<v Speaker 3>So basically, you just want someone who's focused.

0:34:56.840 --> 0:34:58.799
<v Speaker 2>You're focused on your goals, and you want someone who

0:34:58.880 --> 0:35:00.040
<v Speaker 2>has their own goals before you.

0:35:00.360 --> 0:35:02.960
<v Speaker 6>Or at least a car, at least a car, or

0:35:03.000 --> 0:35:07.239
<v Speaker 6>at least the money to give me an uber around like.

0:35:07.880 --> 0:35:07.920
<v Speaker 7>That.

0:35:08.000 --> 0:35:10.560
<v Speaker 6>I could do that, but a lot of times that's

0:35:10.600 --> 0:35:13.040
<v Speaker 6>just not what be going on, Like their heads just

0:35:13.040 --> 0:35:13.839
<v Speaker 6>be everywhere else.

0:35:13.920 --> 0:35:16.520
<v Speaker 1>So I think the young girls usually always have a

0:35:16.560 --> 0:35:19.160
<v Speaker 1>car before the young young guys, So it's always somebody

0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:21.680
<v Speaker 1>driving somebody's daughter car somewhere.

0:35:21.840 --> 0:35:24.759
<v Speaker 2>But don't do you feel like that's a hard expectation

0:35:24.880 --> 0:35:26.160
<v Speaker 2>for an eighteen year old boy.

0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:30.000
<v Speaker 6>He's just a I do, But I mean, I just

0:35:30.000 --> 0:35:31.640
<v Speaker 6>want to get myself to get the first, Like, I

0:35:31.640 --> 0:35:33.640
<v Speaker 6>don't think that I can deal with somebody else not

0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:38.960
<v Speaker 6>having no car. I mean, I feel like, because if

0:35:39.000 --> 0:35:41.880
<v Speaker 6>you're eighteen, Like honestly, like you guys just have to

0:35:41.880 --> 0:35:43.000
<v Speaker 6>start getting your life together.

0:35:43.080 --> 0:35:45.480
<v Speaker 7>Like at this point you have to start doing something.

0:35:45.520 --> 0:35:48.359
<v Speaker 6>I mean, I could see if you offering me like

0:35:48.920 --> 0:35:50.360
<v Speaker 6>uber money or something, but you're not.

0:35:50.680 --> 0:35:52.040
<v Speaker 5>Like a lot of just don't say you're.

0:35:51.960 --> 0:35:52.360
<v Speaker 3>Not doing it.

0:35:52.440 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 1>So do you have a driver's license? Because I realize

0:35:54.960 --> 0:35:56.720
<v Speaker 1>a lot of the young boys don't even have a license.

0:35:56.760 --> 0:35:58.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm not even interested in getting one.

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<v Speaker 7>Y'all can't be doing that. Y'all have to step up, like,

0:36:02.800 --> 0:36:04.680
<v Speaker 7>oh my gosh, I can't.

0:36:05.480 --> 0:36:08.120
<v Speaker 1>Never been issued a license. And half of them wonna

0:36:08.160 --> 0:36:09.760
<v Speaker 1>be thirty when no drive is licensed.

0:36:09.800 --> 0:36:13.759
<v Speaker 3>Yes, the same they're gonna have licenses. So let me

0:36:13.800 --> 0:36:15.640
<v Speaker 3>ask you this. You say you're in love, Well, what

0:36:15.680 --> 0:36:17.640
<v Speaker 3>does it mean to be in love? In your opinion?

0:36:18.719 --> 0:36:23.000
<v Speaker 4>So to me, it's like I don't want to stay home,

0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:25.160
<v Speaker 4>but like you know, it's like a safe space for you.

0:36:25.239 --> 0:36:29.040
<v Speaker 4>It's like that's who you run to when like you're

0:36:29.320 --> 0:36:31.480
<v Speaker 4>you just going through anything. You know, it's like a

0:36:31.520 --> 0:36:36.680
<v Speaker 4>comfort for you, Like it's I don't know, like it's

0:36:36.760 --> 0:36:40.279
<v Speaker 4>just like it's a feeling you have, like you just

0:36:40.280 --> 0:36:44.319
<v Speaker 4>feel so secure, you feel wanted, you feel loved, all

0:36:44.360 --> 0:36:48.800
<v Speaker 4>of the things that like make you feel cozy inside.

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:53.160
<v Speaker 2>So when you think of love is it's more about

0:36:53.200 --> 0:36:56.319
<v Speaker 2>how it makes you feel or how you want to

0:36:56.360 --> 0:36:57.160
<v Speaker 2>give love too.

0:36:57.600 --> 0:36:59.520
<v Speaker 3>Because I know you didn't mention.

0:37:00.480 --> 0:37:01.799
<v Speaker 4>You asked me what is it like to be?

0:37:03.000 --> 0:37:05.080
<v Speaker 3>What has loved me to you? But you didn't say

0:37:05.120 --> 0:37:07.319
<v Speaker 3>anything about No?

0:37:08.880 --> 0:37:10.319
<v Speaker 1>Are you love right?

0:37:10.440 --> 0:37:12.440
<v Speaker 3>Are you? Are you giving love to this person?

0:37:12.520 --> 0:37:12.680
<v Speaker 1>Man?

0:37:12.920 --> 0:37:13.400
<v Speaker 3>Yes?

0:37:13.920 --> 0:37:15.160
<v Speaker 4>Yes I am. Man.

0:37:16.880 --> 0:37:20.040
<v Speaker 3>In what ways? Did you say it's hot?

0:37:20.800 --> 0:37:23.320
<v Speaker 6>It's a little toasted, just a little bit, just a

0:37:23.360 --> 0:37:26.840
<v Speaker 6>little bit, just a little toasty, you know, go ahead,

0:37:27.080 --> 0:37:27.479
<v Speaker 6>But yes.

0:37:27.760 --> 0:37:32.359
<v Speaker 4>I feel like I feel like in this generation and

0:37:32.400 --> 0:37:35.400
<v Speaker 4>like not even in generation, but like this on social media,

0:37:35.440 --> 0:37:38.000
<v Speaker 4>Like I feel like we put out that like men

0:37:38.120 --> 0:37:40.799
<v Speaker 4>are like supposed to do all of this and like

0:37:40.840 --> 0:37:43.960
<v Speaker 4>girls are supposed to do nothing in return, and I

0:37:43.960 --> 0:37:46.560
<v Speaker 4>feel like that's not true. Like I feel like everything

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:48.640
<v Speaker 4>that my boyfriend does for me, and like everything that

0:37:48.680 --> 0:37:50.160
<v Speaker 4>I want him to do for me, I should be

0:37:50.200 --> 0:37:52.640
<v Speaker 4>able to reciprocate, and like also I do do that

0:37:52.680 --> 0:37:56.800
<v Speaker 4>for him. So I feel like, because like fifty.

0:37:56.360 --> 0:37:57.879
<v Speaker 3>That's good. I'm glad to hear that.

0:37:57.960 --> 0:38:00.279
<v Speaker 1>I think some of the conversations we see online are

0:38:00.320 --> 0:38:02.879
<v Speaker 1>also from older people. Sometimes it's not from the younger

0:38:02.920 --> 0:38:05.680
<v Speaker 1>person perspective, because you guys are building. So when you

0:38:05.680 --> 0:38:08.719
<v Speaker 1>see older women online talking about relationships and what you

0:38:08.760 --> 0:38:13.960
<v Speaker 1>know they require and and they're hard stops, it's because

0:38:14.280 --> 0:38:16.280
<v Speaker 1>you expect this man to be in a certain position.

0:38:16.360 --> 0:38:19.840
<v Speaker 1>At this point, y'all are together. You're building two young people.

0:38:19.960 --> 0:38:23.280
<v Speaker 1>Like it's given that he might not have a car. Okay,

0:38:23.360 --> 0:38:25.480
<v Speaker 1>it's given that y'all gonna have to do fifty to fifty.

0:38:25.840 --> 0:38:28.680
<v Speaker 1>But these conversations between adult women is just a little

0:38:28.719 --> 0:38:32.600
<v Speaker 1>bit different because we have higher expectations. I think I

0:38:32.640 --> 0:38:33.879
<v Speaker 1>always wanted to live a new set.

0:38:35.280 --> 0:38:38.839
<v Speaker 2>I think you see adult conversations because that's your algorithm, right.

0:38:38.960 --> 0:38:41.480
<v Speaker 2>We ain't got no young like the young conversations. I'm

0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:42.279
<v Speaker 2>sure they haven't them.

0:38:42.280 --> 0:38:46.880
<v Speaker 3>We're just not seeing it because they're not directly.

0:38:46.640 --> 0:38:49.279
<v Speaker 1>And y'all don't be talking like, no, we just don't see.

0:38:49.480 --> 0:38:55.960
<v Speaker 1>My niece don't talk, she whispers.

0:38:56.080 --> 0:38:59.040
<v Speaker 3>So I have another question. What are your thoughts on marriage?

0:38:59.680 --> 0:39:00.880
<v Speaker 3>How do you feel about marriage?

0:39:00.880 --> 0:39:03.359
<v Speaker 2>Do you feel like that's something that you would want

0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:05.359
<v Speaker 2>in the future or you feel like marriage is an

0:39:05.360 --> 0:39:08.840
<v Speaker 2>idea of the past, Like is it something that.

0:39:08.840 --> 0:39:12.160
<v Speaker 3>You require or you could just be with someone like

0:39:12.440 --> 0:39:14.600
<v Speaker 3>is your boyfriend forever? What do you think.

0:39:16.000 --> 0:39:17.560
<v Speaker 4>I'm not gonna say that I would be with someone

0:39:17.560 --> 0:39:20.120
<v Speaker 4>from my boyfriend forever. But like right now, in this

0:39:20.920 --> 0:39:23.759
<v Speaker 4>day and age, as a twenty year old, I'm not

0:39:23.840 --> 0:39:26.880
<v Speaker 4>dating to marry. Maybe like a little later in my

0:39:26.960 --> 0:39:29.960
<v Speaker 4>life I would be dating to marry, but right now, no,

0:39:30.560 --> 0:39:32.359
<v Speaker 4>But I do want to get married at some point

0:39:32.400 --> 0:39:34.440
<v Speaker 4>in my later days. I just feel like right now,

0:39:34.480 --> 0:39:37.560
<v Speaker 4>like I'm young, like I don't want to be like

0:39:37.600 --> 0:39:39.759
<v Speaker 4>I'm in a committed relationship, like it's definitely committed, but

0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:43.319
<v Speaker 4>like marriage is like full on commitment. You know, I'll

0:39:43.320 --> 0:39:48.560
<v Speaker 4>start everything that everything comes together as one, and you know,

0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:51.520
<v Speaker 4>it's just like I'm not against it. I can see

0:39:51.520 --> 0:39:53.680
<v Speaker 4>any young people getting married on TikTok at like twenty

0:39:53.920 --> 0:39:57.160
<v Speaker 4>like I been thinking it's cute, but it's not for me.

0:39:58.200 --> 0:39:59.399
<v Speaker 4>At twenty it's not for me.

0:40:00.440 --> 0:40:02.240
<v Speaker 3>But alright, so but you would get married.

0:40:02.400 --> 0:40:04.319
<v Speaker 4>I do wanna get married in the future, And what's

0:40:04.320 --> 0:40:07.680
<v Speaker 4>a good age. I feel like t like twenty seven,

0:40:08.440 --> 0:40:12.560
<v Speaker 4>like my later twenties, early thirties, but I wouldn't want

0:40:12.560 --> 0:40:13.719
<v Speaker 4>to get married no younger than that.

0:40:13.880 --> 0:40:15.680
<v Speaker 1>And you think the person you went right now, y'all

0:40:15.719 --> 0:40:19.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna make it to early late twenties, early thirties.

0:40:20.680 --> 0:40:22.440
<v Speaker 4>My aumby asking me this all the time, and I

0:40:22.440 --> 0:40:24.880
<v Speaker 4>don't feel like okay, So I'm not oblivious to the

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:28.840
<v Speaker 4>fact that, like we're young, so like you know, like

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:32.160
<v Speaker 4>when you young, like relationships is like temporary, like you know,

0:40:32.280 --> 0:40:34.360
<v Speaker 4>you don't even know everything that you like right now,

0:40:34.520 --> 0:40:38.440
<v Speaker 4>like you you're growing and you outgrow stuff. So I'm

0:40:38.480 --> 0:40:41.560
<v Speaker 4>not oblivious to the fact that, like, probably not, but

0:40:42.320 --> 0:40:44.120
<v Speaker 4>I do, like I would love that, like you know,

0:40:44.120 --> 0:40:46.239
<v Speaker 4>I'm not against it, like I I love my boyfriend again,

0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:48.319
<v Speaker 4>like I would like to be able to grow with

0:40:48.400 --> 0:40:53.000
<v Speaker 4>each other versus outgrowing each other. But I'm not like

0:40:53.120 --> 0:40:53.680
<v Speaker 4>settling that.

0:40:53.840 --> 0:40:56.160
<v Speaker 3>Like and what about you in Mahogany, how do you

0:40:56.160 --> 0:40:57.160
<v Speaker 3>feel about marriage?

0:40:59.200 --> 0:41:02.439
<v Speaker 6>I mean, I mean, just like women in my life

0:41:02.480 --> 0:41:04.799
<v Speaker 6>are really married, so I don't even really have a

0:41:04.800 --> 0:41:05.839
<v Speaker 6>good example about it.

0:41:06.200 --> 0:41:09.920
<v Speaker 7>But marriage for me, like I don't, I don't really know.

0:41:10.040 --> 0:41:12.600
<v Speaker 6>I mean my angle, like I want to get married

0:41:12.600 --> 0:41:14.640
<v Speaker 6>at one point in my life, but I don't see

0:41:14.680 --> 0:41:17.080
<v Speaker 6>that as like a real big goal for me because

0:41:17.680 --> 0:41:21.400
<v Speaker 6>I feel like I'm my own person again. That's like unity.

0:41:21.480 --> 0:41:24.799
<v Speaker 6>Like once you marry somebody, you just come as one.

0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:26.960
<v Speaker 6>And I don't know, I just want to be my

0:41:27.040 --> 0:41:27.919
<v Speaker 6>hogany right now.

0:41:28.440 --> 0:41:32.840
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, but maybe like when I'm twenty eight, twenty eight.

0:41:32.760 --> 0:41:37.759
<v Speaker 1>Yes, that when your birthday it just passed, Yeah, twenty

0:41:37.840 --> 0:41:42.120
<v Speaker 1>ninth of July, Leo, that's Leo, right.

0:41:43.480 --> 0:41:45.960
<v Speaker 6>I don't know, though, I feel like marriage ties people down,

0:41:46.000 --> 0:41:51.120
<v Speaker 6>and you gotta accept a lot with marriage, like especially

0:41:51.160 --> 0:41:53.319
<v Speaker 6>from what I've seen, like people put up with a

0:41:53.360 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 6>lot just in the name of marriage, and I don't know,

0:41:55.680 --> 0:41:57.000
<v Speaker 6>I couldn't deal with it.

0:41:57.120 --> 0:41:58.560
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, that's fair.

0:41:58.760 --> 0:42:02.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's why we gonna say.

0:42:04.160 --> 0:42:07.239
<v Speaker 3>But I desire that though, you know, that's something you don't.

0:42:07.360 --> 0:42:10.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't desire to grow old alone, you know.

0:42:11.480 --> 0:42:13.839
<v Speaker 2>I mean some people are okay with that and there's

0:42:13.880 --> 0:42:16.040
<v Speaker 2>nothing wrong with it, But me, what about you is?

0:42:16.520 --> 0:42:18.800
<v Speaker 1>I think the people who are okay with growing alone

0:42:18.840 --> 0:42:21.640
<v Speaker 1>are the ones who have already had families, like, they

0:42:21.719 --> 0:42:24.319
<v Speaker 1>already had kids, they have probably already been married. Because

0:42:24.320 --> 0:42:27.640
<v Speaker 1>if you speak to a divorcee like a woman I

0:42:27.640 --> 0:42:30.560
<v Speaker 1>don't know, forty to fifty, they do not desire to

0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:33.840
<v Speaker 1>be married ever again. Nor they're not looking forward anyway,

0:42:34.360 --> 0:42:38.920
<v Speaker 1>and I think because we haven't actually done things, you know,

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:43.279
<v Speaker 1>it might look lit, but even just cohabitating, as I

0:42:43.320 --> 0:42:46.880
<v Speaker 1>spoke about last week, Okay, on last week's episode, it

0:42:47.000 --> 0:42:51.080
<v Speaker 1>is fucking hard. So I went mahogany. When like having

0:42:51.120 --> 0:42:53.520
<v Speaker 1>to split yourself in half? You know you want to.

0:42:53.920 --> 0:42:55.640
<v Speaker 1>I like to say I like to be single in

0:42:55.640 --> 0:42:59.920
<v Speaker 1>a relationship, which could be very problematic, problematic for most people,

0:43:00.440 --> 0:43:02.560
<v Speaker 1>but that's really how I feel, and not because I

0:43:02.600 --> 0:43:03.960
<v Speaker 1>want to be able to do what I want to

0:43:04.000 --> 0:43:06.400
<v Speaker 1>do outside of this relationship. I just want to make

0:43:06.400 --> 0:43:10.120
<v Speaker 1>sure I can maintain my own independence within a union.

0:43:10.480 --> 0:43:14.600
<v Speaker 1>And when you marry, I feel like you sometimes lose

0:43:14.920 --> 0:43:20.040
<v Speaker 1>yourself women oftentimes I don't think men consider that, and

0:43:20.400 --> 0:43:23.719
<v Speaker 1>that's that could be our perception, but we do end

0:43:23.800 --> 0:43:28.760
<v Speaker 1>up giving up a lot to maintain relationships, that's true.

0:43:29.600 --> 0:43:32.120
<v Speaker 2>What are your what are your thoughts on motherhood? Like,

0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:34.759
<v Speaker 2>how do you feel about motherhood?

0:43:35.280 --> 0:43:39.000
<v Speaker 6>I think motherhood is very significant a persius life. I

0:43:39.000 --> 0:43:43.360
<v Speaker 6>think that everybody needs parenthood actually, like I think everybody

0:43:43.400 --> 0:43:46.279
<v Speaker 6>needs both parents. But I feel like you could raise

0:43:46.320 --> 0:43:49.760
<v Speaker 6>a daughter without her father, so motherhood is definitely important.

0:43:49.840 --> 0:43:53.279
<v Speaker 6>Like what about a son though, no, you a son

0:43:53.360 --> 0:43:57.960
<v Speaker 6>need his daddy, like to show to display what a

0:43:58.000 --> 0:44:00.800
<v Speaker 6>man's supposed to be like because because a lot of people,

0:44:00.880 --> 0:44:03.920
<v Speaker 6>a lot of my friends personally, they're like really misguided

0:44:04.200 --> 0:44:06.320
<v Speaker 6>because they don't have a father figure in their life,

0:44:06.680 --> 0:44:08.880
<v Speaker 6>but they have their mother. They see their mom struggling

0:44:08.920 --> 0:44:11.359
<v Speaker 6>and stuff, so they think it's okay for a woman

0:44:11.400 --> 0:44:13.080
<v Speaker 6>to be out here struggling. Like they think that's what

0:44:13.160 --> 0:44:15.160
<v Speaker 6>y'are supposed to do. But it's not like people need

0:44:15.160 --> 0:44:15.840
<v Speaker 6>they das.

0:44:15.920 --> 0:44:19.399
<v Speaker 2>But motherhood is very important, Like you don't do you think?

0:44:19.560 --> 0:44:23.040
<v Speaker 2>So you said, like girl, like you can raise a

0:44:23.080 --> 0:44:25.440
<v Speaker 2>girl without a father. Why do you feel like a

0:44:25.480 --> 0:44:26.520
<v Speaker 2>girl doesn't need a father?

0:44:26.719 --> 0:44:31.480
<v Speaker 6>Because I mean even though even though she do, but

0:44:31.800 --> 0:44:34.880
<v Speaker 6>it's like nine times I tend she's gonna learn how

0:44:34.920 --> 0:44:37.120
<v Speaker 6>to do most of the stuff for her by herself

0:44:37.320 --> 0:44:40.439
<v Speaker 6>because like I don't know, it's just a woman thing,

0:44:40.600 --> 0:44:44.239
<v Speaker 6>Like you're gonna learn how to take care of we're smarter, yeah, yeah, like.

0:44:46.080 --> 0:44:46.360
<v Speaker 1>Prone.

0:44:46.360 --> 0:44:48.239
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know, Yeah, I don't know if that's it.

0:44:48.320 --> 0:44:50.359
<v Speaker 2>I think it's just that that's what we've seen. We've

0:44:50.400 --> 0:44:53.239
<v Speaker 2>seen women do it on their own. We've seen women

0:44:53.360 --> 0:44:56.600
<v Speaker 2>raise women to be independent, which is a word I

0:44:57.080 --> 0:44:57.920
<v Speaker 2>personally hate.

0:44:58.200 --> 0:44:59.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't I don't subscribe to.

0:45:00.560 --> 0:45:06.280
<v Speaker 2>No other race of women is like strong, strong Asian

0:45:06.320 --> 0:45:08.840
<v Speaker 2>women or strong White women.

0:45:08.960 --> 0:45:10.560
<v Speaker 3>It's just strong Black women.

0:45:11.000 --> 0:45:14.400
<v Speaker 2>We've adopted this idea that we are supposed to be

0:45:14.440 --> 0:45:17.160
<v Speaker 2>strong and independent when we really are supposed to be

0:45:17.200 --> 0:45:21.880
<v Speaker 2>a unit and rely on our male counterpart. So so

0:45:21.960 --> 0:45:24.560
<v Speaker 2>I understand why you would feel that way, Like where

0:45:24.600 --> 0:45:26.880
<v Speaker 2>you see women doing it by theirselves, so you feel

0:45:26.880 --> 0:45:28.720
<v Speaker 2>like a woman can raise a girl to be fine

0:45:28.760 --> 0:45:29.399
<v Speaker 2>without a father.

0:45:29.480 --> 0:45:31.120
<v Speaker 3>But we need fathers.

0:45:31.040 --> 0:45:34.920
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, especially as young women. When you start dating, you

0:45:35.120 --> 0:45:39.799
<v Speaker 1>need to know what as a woman, you need to

0:45:39.880 --> 0:45:42.120
<v Speaker 1>know what a good man looks like. You know what

0:45:42.160 --> 0:45:43.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, And this is why I always talk to

0:45:43.719 --> 0:45:45.480
<v Speaker 1>men if they have a daughter. You're talking all this

0:45:45.480 --> 0:45:48.040
<v Speaker 1>shit about women. Your daughter's gonna break your heart one

0:45:48.120 --> 0:45:49.799
<v Speaker 1>day because you're gonna run into a nigga like you,

0:45:49.880 --> 0:45:53.840
<v Speaker 1>So you better be being the best dad possible to

0:45:53.920 --> 0:45:57.880
<v Speaker 1>your daughter. So girls need dads too, you know what

0:45:57.960 --> 0:45:59.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I probably wouldn't have went through half the shit.

0:46:00.640 --> 0:46:04.200
<v Speaker 1>My dad wasn't absent, but he just doesn't talk much.

0:46:04.680 --> 0:46:06.480
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying like they my parents weren't.

0:46:06.560 --> 0:46:09.279
<v Speaker 1>They got divorced, but he didn't talk much, so it's

0:46:09.320 --> 0:46:11.240
<v Speaker 1>not like I could go to him for advice anyway,

0:46:12.680 --> 0:46:15.360
<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. And when I did ask for advice,

0:46:15.400 --> 0:46:19.600
<v Speaker 1>it was to be by yourself, was the advice from

0:46:19.640 --> 0:46:20.080
<v Speaker 1>my daddy.

0:46:21.280 --> 0:46:23.799
<v Speaker 6>Although he's not present with me, he tells me all

0:46:23.840 --> 0:46:25.400
<v Speaker 6>the time. He's like, he just shows me how to

0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:27.879
<v Speaker 6>love myself. But I feel like my mom, she shows

0:46:27.880 --> 0:46:28.760
<v Speaker 6>me how to love the world.

0:46:28.880 --> 0:46:31.160
<v Speaker 5>So, yeah, I hear what you're saying.

0:46:31.560 --> 0:46:32.440
<v Speaker 3>That's a good balance.

0:46:32.480 --> 0:46:34.799
<v Speaker 2>But I do think it's important for our days to

0:46:34.880 --> 0:46:36.240
<v Speaker 2>help us understand.

0:46:35.800 --> 0:46:39.200
<v Speaker 3>How to love men, you know, and not just them

0:46:39.280 --> 0:46:42.160
<v Speaker 3>you know. Like I guess that's the first.

0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:44.960
<v Speaker 2>Example of how to love a man is with your father.

0:46:45.360 --> 0:46:46.959
<v Speaker 2>But if he ain't around, then what.

0:46:46.840 --> 0:46:47.239
<v Speaker 3>Do you do?

0:46:49.120 --> 0:46:52.719
<v Speaker 1>You be looking for daddy and niggas And that's a problem,

0:46:55.480 --> 0:46:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Like you you could pick your daddy, but you can't

0:46:59.280 --> 0:47:06.920
<v Speaker 1>choose your father, right right, that's crazy.

0:47:08.200 --> 0:47:11.680
<v Speaker 2>What do you feel about our generation, me and AJ

0:47:11.960 --> 0:47:15.160
<v Speaker 2>and your moms and aunties, Like what do y'all feel

0:47:15.200 --> 0:47:19.400
<v Speaker 2>like we just don't understand, Like we just don't fucking get.

0:47:20.760 --> 0:47:21.680
<v Speaker 3>This is I don't know.

0:47:21.719 --> 0:47:26.120
<v Speaker 6>This is a really complicated topic actually, but it's mostly

0:47:26.160 --> 0:47:28.840
<v Speaker 6>just social media, like the exposure of social media that

0:47:29.040 --> 0:47:31.879
<v Speaker 6>the younger generation has caught on to, Like I don't

0:47:31.920 --> 0:47:35.280
<v Speaker 6>think the older generation will ever understand that because y'all

0:47:35.320 --> 0:47:39.440
<v Speaker 6>wasn't really there, like how much we are here at presently,

0:47:39.920 --> 0:47:42.080
<v Speaker 6>and it's like we see so much and it's like we.

0:47:42.080 --> 0:47:46.560
<v Speaker 5>Affected by so much. So I don't know.

0:47:46.600 --> 0:47:49.080
<v Speaker 6>I think it's it morphed our minds differently than how

0:47:49.120 --> 0:47:52.000
<v Speaker 6>it was for y'all growing up, especially while we developing,

0:47:52.120 --> 0:47:54.080
<v Speaker 6>Like seeing stuff like that, I don't know. I don't

0:47:54.080 --> 0:47:57.080
<v Speaker 6>think it's normal, but it's happening, Like in the world,

0:47:57.120 --> 0:47:57.920
<v Speaker 6>it's very common.

0:47:58.160 --> 0:47:59.000
<v Speaker 5>So so you.

0:47:58.960 --> 0:48:01.439
<v Speaker 2>Just feel like the access to information that y'all got

0:48:01.760 --> 0:48:05.279
<v Speaker 2>in your formative years was just more so y'all think

0:48:05.360 --> 0:48:06.279
<v Speaker 2>y'all know more than us.

0:48:06.400 --> 0:48:07.400
<v Speaker 5>No, it's not even that.

0:48:07.840 --> 0:48:11.080
<v Speaker 6>It's not even that I feel like kids have been

0:48:11.280 --> 0:48:14.760
<v Speaker 6>it's supposed to more explicit things like you're not supposed

0:48:14.760 --> 0:48:16.560
<v Speaker 6>to be watching it as a kid, Like.

0:48:18.560 --> 0:48:19.440
<v Speaker 5>It's just some things that.

0:48:19.400 --> 0:48:21.440
<v Speaker 6>You was not supposed to see right now, but you

0:48:21.520 --> 0:48:25.080
<v Speaker 6>got to see it and you can't unsee it, Yes,

0:48:25.160 --> 0:48:28.080
<v Speaker 6>And it's like it traumatizes you and it affects you,

0:48:28.200 --> 0:48:34.799
<v Speaker 6>like and controlling their emotions, like, this generation do not

0:48:34.840 --> 0:48:38.279
<v Speaker 6>know how to control their emotions. Nobody do nobody know

0:48:38.280 --> 0:48:39.280
<v Speaker 6>how to control their emotions.

0:48:39.280 --> 0:48:44.200
<v Speaker 1>Adults don't either. Okay, there teaching us and we don't,

0:48:44.320 --> 0:48:47.640
<v Speaker 1>and we just go about everything the wrong way because

0:48:47.680 --> 0:48:51.920
<v Speaker 1>we're seeing the older generation doing well. Our generation, I

0:48:51.920 --> 0:48:55.440
<v Speaker 1>feel like we had a we saw everything eighties babies,

0:48:55.480 --> 0:48:58.480
<v Speaker 1>like from the change in music or how music is

0:48:58.520 --> 0:49:05.280
<v Speaker 1>even played TV. Internet, like, we experienced all the things.

0:49:05.520 --> 0:49:09.399
<v Speaker 2>And we also grew up during an epidemic. So during

0:49:09.480 --> 0:49:12.400
<v Speaker 2>the eighties, a lot of our parents, a lot of

0:49:12.400 --> 0:49:15.680
<v Speaker 2>our uncles aunties were addicted to drugs. So we were

0:49:16.200 --> 0:49:18.040
<v Speaker 2>latch key kids a lot of us. We were home

0:49:18.080 --> 0:49:20.680
<v Speaker 2>by ourselves oftentimes, and we got to expose to a

0:49:20.680 --> 0:49:23.160
<v Speaker 2>lot of different things too. And I think the parents

0:49:23.239 --> 0:49:28.839
<v Speaker 2>now are just have sheltered our thought. They sheltered you

0:49:29.520 --> 0:49:32.160
<v Speaker 2>because of their experiences. They wanted to just keep you

0:49:32.239 --> 0:49:34.800
<v Speaker 2>safe and keep you away from all of these things

0:49:34.800 --> 0:49:37.319
<v Speaker 2>that we got to see. And in the midst of that,

0:49:37.520 --> 0:49:39.759
<v Speaker 2>you were exposed to so much by looking at your

0:49:39.800 --> 0:49:40.880
<v Speaker 2>tablet all the time.

0:49:41.400 --> 0:49:45.800
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, because parents weren't parenting, like the internet was

0:49:46.000 --> 0:49:47.719
<v Speaker 1>get where my phone at, give them the iPhone or

0:49:47.719 --> 0:49:49.680
<v Speaker 1>given them tablet. They can't even go any place without

0:49:49.680 --> 0:49:50.560
<v Speaker 1>the tablet.

0:49:51.280 --> 0:49:56.160
<v Speaker 2>Because we were outside running the street until the street

0:49:56.200 --> 0:49:58.640
<v Speaker 2>light came on. We were outside running around, and we

0:49:58.719 --> 0:50:01.279
<v Speaker 2>might've been exposed to think exact way, but you were

0:50:01.320 --> 0:50:03.600
<v Speaker 2>in the house being exposed to things all.

0:50:03.400 --> 0:50:08.520
<v Speaker 3>Over the earth. So it's just a different experience. What

0:50:08.600 --> 0:50:09.160
<v Speaker 3>about you?

0:50:11.480 --> 0:50:14.360
<v Speaker 4>Going off of what you said, Like parents like seeing

0:50:14.360 --> 0:50:16.160
<v Speaker 4>a lot, so they were like trying to shelter their

0:50:16.239 --> 0:50:19.440
<v Speaker 4>kids from stuff. I feel like parents just don't understand that,

0:50:19.640 --> 0:50:23.040
<v Speaker 4>Like it's certain stuff your kids have to learn on

0:50:23.160 --> 0:50:25.120
<v Speaker 4>the like on their own. It's certain stuff they have

0:50:25.160 --> 0:50:27.640
<v Speaker 4>to go through to get through. Like you can't preach

0:50:27.840 --> 0:50:30.400
<v Speaker 4>to the choir to death and like expect them to

0:50:30.480 --> 0:50:33.080
<v Speaker 4>just listen. Like, no, your kid's gonna want to see

0:50:33.200 --> 0:50:36.279
<v Speaker 4>firsthand how stuff is gonna play out, how the result is,

0:50:36.360 --> 0:50:39.160
<v Speaker 4>and like I feel like they don't understand that. We

0:50:39.280 --> 0:50:42.560
<v Speaker 4>understand like what could happen, and we just want to

0:50:42.560 --> 0:50:46.600
<v Speaker 4>see for ourselves. Like it's like I don't know, I

0:50:46.640 --> 0:50:50.200
<v Speaker 4>get like that. Yeah, y'all have been around and like

0:50:50.440 --> 0:51:03.239
<v Speaker 4>y'all see stuff around you've been around, You've seen it,

0:51:03.440 --> 0:51:06.640
<v Speaker 4>you went through it. Like I get that, we get that,

0:51:06.760 --> 0:51:10.120
<v Speaker 4>but it's like you can't shelter us, and like expect

0:51:10.680 --> 0:51:14.600
<v Speaker 4>you vocally telling us something is like enough versus us

0:51:14.960 --> 0:51:17.359
<v Speaker 4>physically seeing it firsthand on our own.

0:51:18.280 --> 0:51:18.680
<v Speaker 2>M M.

0:51:18.680 --> 0:51:22.319
<v Speaker 1>I agree. And what Mahogany said, I do expect our

0:51:22.800 --> 0:51:25.120
<v Speaker 1>the younger generation to be smarter than the last one.

0:51:26.640 --> 0:51:29.120
<v Speaker 1>Our parents probably can't accept that we might be smarter

0:51:29.200 --> 0:51:31.480
<v Speaker 1>than them, but we're supposed to be so. I expect

0:51:31.560 --> 0:51:34.440
<v Speaker 1>y'all because y'all have more access to more information at

0:51:34.440 --> 0:51:37.560
<v Speaker 1>a younger age, you should be accelerated at this point

0:51:37.840 --> 0:51:43.560
<v Speaker 1>with life. Sometimes. But what you just said about not

0:51:43.640 --> 0:51:47.239
<v Speaker 1>letting them do the things, Yeah, and see, this is

0:51:47.239 --> 0:51:49.000
<v Speaker 1>why some of my friends get mad at me. I'll

0:51:49.000 --> 0:51:51.480
<v Speaker 1>be like, fuck black moments, just fucking with them, right

0:51:51.960 --> 0:51:55.480
<v Speaker 1>because we were just y'all age doing all the dumb shit,

0:51:55.640 --> 0:51:58.920
<v Speaker 1>experiencing the dumb shit. Like your parents can tell you whatever,

0:51:59.239 --> 0:52:00.880
<v Speaker 1>but you still want to do what you want to

0:52:00.920 --> 0:52:03.080
<v Speaker 1>do because you've got to experience it for yourself. Some

0:52:03.120 --> 0:52:06.480
<v Speaker 1>people can learn from other people's mistakes, some things, certain

0:52:06.520 --> 0:52:08.200
<v Speaker 1>things I'll look at other people say, I ain't never

0:52:08.239 --> 0:52:09.759
<v Speaker 1>doing that shit. You ain't got to worry about it.

0:52:09.800 --> 0:52:12.279
<v Speaker 1>I can learn certain things from other people, but I

0:52:12.360 --> 0:52:15.279
<v Speaker 1>always did my dirt by myself, and my mama just

0:52:15.280 --> 0:52:17.319
<v Speaker 1>thought all these people had this influence over me. And

0:52:17.320 --> 0:52:23.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm the influence, I'm the problem. I'm the villain.

0:52:25.239 --> 0:52:29.279
<v Speaker 1>But parents forget that they were young sometimes, so you

0:52:29.280 --> 0:52:31.680
<v Speaker 1>put your child on a pedestal and you expect them

0:52:31.960 --> 0:52:35.160
<v Speaker 1>to be better than you, hopefully right. You want them

0:52:35.160 --> 0:52:37.400
<v Speaker 1>to be better than you, but they are also human,

0:52:37.520 --> 0:52:40.759
<v Speaker 1>just human. They're gonna make mistakes, and you made all

0:52:40.840 --> 0:52:46.759
<v Speaker 1>these mistakes. You forgot he was just doing this shit. Yes,

0:52:46.880 --> 0:52:50.400
<v Speaker 1>you can't expect somebody what have the life experience to

0:52:50.560 --> 0:52:53.800
<v Speaker 1>be able, you know, to make all the right decisions

0:52:53.840 --> 0:52:56.440
<v Speaker 1>all the time. You will have to repeat yourself a lot.

0:52:56.680 --> 0:52:59.439
<v Speaker 2>And then what you said, half the life experience even

0:52:59.480 --> 0:53:02.680
<v Speaker 2>less than that, because I feel like the parents now

0:53:02.920 --> 0:53:06.520
<v Speaker 2>are like very very sheltered of these kids, so they

0:53:06.520 --> 0:53:09.000
<v Speaker 2>don't even get to experience nothing. I remember one time

0:53:09.000 --> 0:53:13.560
<v Speaker 2>when my friends was like mad at her baby for

0:53:13.640 --> 0:53:15.839
<v Speaker 2>not washing the clothes right, but never really gave her

0:53:15.880 --> 0:53:17.600
<v Speaker 2>the instructions on how to do it.

0:53:18.880 --> 0:53:23.680
<v Speaker 1>See, and I think I think being alive long enough

0:53:23.719 --> 0:53:26.840
<v Speaker 1>when no children, we get to see like how things

0:53:26.840 --> 0:53:28.640
<v Speaker 1>that you know from our childhood, what we would do

0:53:28.680 --> 0:53:30.359
<v Speaker 1>with our kids, and then we also get to see

0:53:30.400 --> 0:53:33.040
<v Speaker 1>other people parents, so that type of shit like clean

0:53:33.120 --> 0:53:33.440
<v Speaker 1>your room.

0:53:33.520 --> 0:53:35.319
<v Speaker 3>You never showed her how to do it, You just

0:53:35.320 --> 0:53:37.880
<v Speaker 3>did it for her forever and then one day do it.

0:53:39.200 --> 0:53:42.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's not how. It's not supposed to be like that.

0:53:42.840 --> 0:53:45.240
<v Speaker 3>So that makes perfect sense what you're just saying.

0:53:46.239 --> 0:53:47.360
<v Speaker 1>All right, she they's smart.

0:53:47.440 --> 0:53:50.960
<v Speaker 3>I told you, where do you see yourself in ten years?

0:53:53.080 --> 0:53:57.880
<v Speaker 6>Ten years, I'll be getting married and I'll be finishing

0:53:57.920 --> 0:53:59.760
<v Speaker 6>up my degree and I have my own house.

0:54:01.200 --> 0:54:03.880
<v Speaker 7>I'm probably not gonna have no baby, but in me

0:54:03.920 --> 0:54:05.120
<v Speaker 7>and my husband, we're gonna.

0:54:04.880 --> 0:54:05.640
<v Speaker 5>Go all vacation.

0:54:08.000 --> 0:54:08.839
<v Speaker 1>That's all.

0:54:11.840 --> 0:54:12.600
<v Speaker 5>Whatever I do.

0:54:14.200 --> 0:54:15.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, what about you?

0:54:16.239 --> 0:54:16.879
<v Speaker 1>That sounds good?

0:54:17.320 --> 0:54:17.919
<v Speaker 3>Sound good?

0:54:19.080 --> 0:54:22.520
<v Speaker 1>Life? Don't be like that though, Yeah they can.

0:54:22.840 --> 0:54:25.120
<v Speaker 6>Oh no, I'm gonna make sure I get that. I

0:54:25.200 --> 0:54:26.800
<v Speaker 6>deserve that, so I'm getting that cool.

0:54:30.600 --> 0:54:31.399
<v Speaker 3>What about you now?

0:54:32.320 --> 0:54:35.600
<v Speaker 4>Ten years from now, I see myself like move slowly

0:54:35.640 --> 0:54:37.800
<v Speaker 4>moving from behind the chair like I probably wouldn't be

0:54:37.840 --> 0:54:41.480
<v Speaker 4>fully but just about just like a toe left behind

0:54:41.480 --> 0:54:45.799
<v Speaker 4>a chair, and I feel like I would be more

0:54:45.840 --> 0:54:49.560
<v Speaker 4>stable than I am in my twenties. Definitely, I'm not

0:54:49.560 --> 0:54:52.000
<v Speaker 4>gonna say that I'm gonna have everything put together because

0:54:52.040 --> 0:54:54.279
<v Speaker 4>I feel like we look at thirty and we light dang,

0:54:54.360 --> 0:54:54.840
<v Speaker 4>that's old to.

0:54:54.840 --> 0:54:58.239
<v Speaker 6>Hell, but like you're gonna be thirty and that ten

0:54:58.320 --> 0:55:03.360
<v Speaker 6>years y'all disrespectful.

0:55:03.400 --> 0:55:08.320
<v Speaker 3>Actually, no, man, I don't ring no belt.

0:55:13.000 --> 0:55:14.880
<v Speaker 6>I feel like we look at thirty everbody like you

0:55:14.920 --> 0:55:16.640
<v Speaker 6>feel met supposed to be put together.

0:55:19.600 --> 0:55:21.120
<v Speaker 1>On damn auntie, I ain't your auntie.

0:55:21.160 --> 0:55:23.000
<v Speaker 3>I feel just.

0:55:22.840 --> 0:55:25.440
<v Speaker 4>Starting to figure that's what about to say. Like, I

0:55:25.440 --> 0:55:28.799
<v Speaker 4>feel like I'm gonna be like slowly like figuring out

0:55:28.920 --> 0:55:32.160
<v Speaker 4>what is right, like what it's gonna work for me

0:55:32.239 --> 0:55:35.360
<v Speaker 4>and what's not working for me. And I feel like

0:55:35.400 --> 0:55:40.640
<v Speaker 4>I'm in my mature era where I'm grown sexy. I'm thriving.

0:55:41.280 --> 0:55:47.160
<v Speaker 1>Girl. You don't even get sexy til thirty. Okay, okay, okay,

0:55:47.200 --> 0:55:48.480
<v Speaker 1>I thought you meant like right now.

0:55:49.040 --> 0:55:51.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I just see myself like, you know, stable home,

0:55:52.320 --> 0:55:57.360
<v Speaker 4>stable income, visiting countries, you know, just thriving.

0:55:57.880 --> 0:56:02.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, how do y'all think the music now

0:56:02.239 --> 0:56:07.640
<v Speaker 1>plays on relationships? Like what do y'all think about relationships?

0:56:08.560 --> 0:56:10.880
<v Speaker 4>Like like literal like intimate really.

0:56:10.960 --> 0:56:14.520
<v Speaker 1>Like yes, yes, or even just meeting people, you meeting guys,

0:56:15.200 --> 0:56:16.920
<v Speaker 1>getting to know people, Like what do you How do

0:56:17.000 --> 0:56:20.640
<v Speaker 1>y'all think the music plays a role in y'all dating life?

0:56:22.200 --> 0:56:22.600
<v Speaker 1>Or does it?

0:56:24.400 --> 0:56:24.560
<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

0:56:24.560 --> 0:56:26.120
<v Speaker 4>I don't feel like it does. But what I will

0:56:26.120 --> 0:56:27.880
<v Speaker 4>say is like we do not have that music that

0:56:27.960 --> 0:56:29.200
<v Speaker 4>y'all have back and the day. We do not have

0:56:29.239 --> 0:56:31.279
<v Speaker 4>that R and B y'all don't. We don't have that.

0:56:32.000 --> 0:56:34.600
<v Speaker 4>We don't have that money you want. We don't have

0:56:34.800 --> 0:56:39.480
<v Speaker 4>that jacked edge. We don't have that. So like we

0:56:39.719 --> 0:56:42.719
<v Speaker 4>hear in songs all day about like niggas and like

0:56:43.160 --> 0:56:47.479
<v Speaker 4>having a bunch of females and like living like quote

0:56:47.560 --> 0:56:51.240
<v Speaker 4>unquote rock star lifestyle, and like no one's like really

0:56:51.239 --> 0:56:55.880
<v Speaker 4>committing to relationships. No one's like putting themselves to that standard.

0:56:55.960 --> 0:56:58.520
<v Speaker 4>So I guess like men are taking that and like

0:56:58.680 --> 0:57:00.840
<v Speaker 4>running with it because I've like the females they be

0:57:00.920 --> 0:57:03.480
<v Speaker 4>wanting a relationship like it be the man who don't.

0:57:03.719 --> 0:57:07.120
<v Speaker 4>And that's the problem right there.

0:57:07.640 --> 0:57:09.240
<v Speaker 3>Do you feel like the music is too violent?

0:57:10.320 --> 0:57:10.560
<v Speaker 1>Oh?

0:57:11.080 --> 0:57:14.600
<v Speaker 3>I see, I see you girl.

0:57:14.680 --> 0:57:18.040
<v Speaker 6>I gets down with I gets down with that type

0:57:18.040 --> 0:57:18.520
<v Speaker 6>of music.

0:57:20.760 --> 0:57:23.120
<v Speaker 4>Sunday on the way here. Maybe I'm listening to it,

0:57:23.160 --> 0:57:25.160
<v Speaker 4>but listen, it's not affecting me.

0:57:26.760 --> 0:57:28.120
<v Speaker 3>So I feel like the men.

0:57:28.360 --> 0:57:32.320
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I separate as a girl, I separated, Okay, Okay,

0:57:32.360 --> 0:57:34.400
<v Speaker 4>I'm just gonna say me. I feel like I don't

0:57:34.440 --> 0:57:38.240
<v Speaker 4>allow music or like social media like really have that

0:57:38.400 --> 0:57:41.400
<v Speaker 4>influence on me. But I know that there are people

0:57:41.440 --> 0:57:45.560
<v Speaker 4>out here, younger adults, like my peers, that will like, girl,

0:57:45.600 --> 0:57:48.280
<v Speaker 4>is this girl on Instagram right now posting with her

0:57:48.320 --> 0:57:50.200
<v Speaker 4>gun every day? And it is just like, why are

0:57:50.280 --> 0:57:54.560
<v Speaker 4>you doing that? Be a lady. But I definitely feel

0:57:54.560 --> 0:57:57.400
<v Speaker 4>like the music has like molded that in them, like

0:57:58.560 --> 0:57:59.880
<v Speaker 4>shooting my bang bang or something.

0:57:59.880 --> 0:58:02.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. Do you agree just a little bit.

0:58:02.600 --> 0:58:05.880
<v Speaker 6>I mean, I do think that the music don't got

0:58:05.920 --> 0:58:08.840
<v Speaker 6>a little more violent over the years, especially with this

0:58:09.040 --> 0:58:11.720
<v Speaker 6>gang culture y'all, Oh my god, and the people they

0:58:11.800 --> 0:58:14.960
<v Speaker 6>so hard drugs, they think that they could kill anybody,

0:58:15.080 --> 0:58:18.040
<v Speaker 6>do anything that anybody just be so mean. It's really

0:58:18.040 --> 0:58:20.560
<v Speaker 6>a lot of anger in this music and they're putting

0:58:20.600 --> 0:58:23.080
<v Speaker 6>out and I believe that it'd be like spirits in it,

0:58:23.200 --> 0:58:24.040
<v Speaker 6>Like I believe in that.

0:58:24.520 --> 0:58:26.520
<v Speaker 5>So I think what you're listening to.

0:58:26.600 --> 0:58:29.240
<v Speaker 6>Is definitely like you need to be mindful of that

0:58:29.520 --> 0:58:32.320
<v Speaker 6>because it's definitely a lot of chance going on in

0:58:32.360 --> 0:58:33.520
<v Speaker 6>the background that you don't even know.

0:58:33.560 --> 0:58:37.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, come on, mahogumy see, it's the subliminals.

0:58:37.720 --> 0:58:41.080
<v Speaker 6>Like nobody's really talking about that, and we just feeding

0:58:41.080 --> 0:58:45.480
<v Speaker 6>into these young children. Like it's getting really scary nowadays.

0:58:45.520 --> 0:58:49.080
<v Speaker 3>Like I agree, I agree, y'all hear that you.

0:58:51.320 --> 0:58:53.480
<v Speaker 5>Do not play that soon. She heard curseword in the song.

0:58:53.560 --> 0:58:56.880
<v Speaker 6>Turn it off, turn it off, turn it off, like

0:58:57.520 --> 0:59:00.880
<v Speaker 6>because the growing up now they don't even be caring,

0:59:01.240 --> 0:59:04.400
<v Speaker 6>because that's why you could control yourself now, like but

0:59:04.400 --> 0:59:11.400
<v Speaker 6>back then, it's like they begin mom worked, brainwashed, whatever

0:59:11.440 --> 0:59:12.200
<v Speaker 6>you want to call it.

0:59:12.280 --> 0:59:14.760
<v Speaker 5>Like you gotta check on these kids, y'all.

0:59:17.320 --> 0:59:18.880
<v Speaker 3>So let me ask you this. Do you feel like

0:59:18.880 --> 0:59:20.160
<v Speaker 3>the music is too sexual?

0:59:23.280 --> 0:59:27.400
<v Speaker 4>Okay, I feel like y'all generation be trying to make

0:59:27.440 --> 0:59:36.160
<v Speaker 4>it seem like y'all didn't have Trina, which she was

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<v Speaker 4>popping it. So I don't feel like it's any different.

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<v Speaker 4>I just feel like right now, it's more it's a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of Yeah, it's more.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a couple. We had a couple. Y'all have

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of them right now.

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<v Speaker 4>It's very very y'all had a lot of.

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<v Speaker 3>Everything. It has just the same type of.

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<v Speaker 6>Basically extremely sexual because sex sells, that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 5>Sees a lot of.

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<v Speaker 3>It.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, everybody ain't buying that shit either. Everybody ain't making

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<v Speaker 1>money off sex either. They just doing the thing.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, sometimes it be like, you know, like cringe, like

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<v Speaker 4>were clutching our pearls a little bit. But some of it,

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<v Speaker 4>like y'all can't lie.

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<v Speaker 6>Sexy Red is very catchy, like she she's.

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<v Speaker 4>Doing her thing right now. But I do feel like

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<v Speaker 4>it's definitely a little too much right now. It's it's

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<v Speaker 4>it's a young girls.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's like okay, like if you're twenty and above

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<v Speaker 2>and you're listening to Sexy Red and you can, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>distinguish art from reality, you know, but if you in

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<v Speaker 2>the car with your four year old and she is

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<v Speaker 2>like this is her you know where she's absorbing the

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<v Speaker 2>most information and she's listening to Sexy Read, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>this is what this is what she's learning how the

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<v Speaker 2>world is.

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<v Speaker 3>And so that's how it starts. And then like by

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<v Speaker 3>the time she's twenty, what will the music be? You know,

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<v Speaker 3>what will the music be? What will society be?

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<v Speaker 1>If you know it's gonna be. It ain't even gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be fuck my baby, Dad, It's gonna be fuck my baby.

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<v Speaker 1>People already be rapping about playing bees and abortion like

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<v Speaker 1>that shit is like cool.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So it's very scary. So I wanna do you

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<v Speaker 2>have any more relationship questions?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I shift, go ahead and shift it.

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<v Speaker 5>So let's talk a.

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<v Speaker 2>Little bit about politics because this is both of your

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<v Speaker 2>first time voting.

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<v Speaker 3>This next election. Correct, Yeah, so that's exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>Are y'all registered?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you registered? You're registered? How do y'all feel about

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<v Speaker 3>this next election? Do y'all care? Do y'all feel like

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<v Speaker 3>you're affected by it?

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<v Speaker 6>Like I do care, and I feel like we affect it,

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<v Speaker 6>especially as black women.

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<v Speaker 7>And I'm going to be voting for Kamala this year,

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<v Speaker 7>but it's only just.

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<v Speaker 6>To avoid going into Agenda forty seven and Project twenty five.

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<v Speaker 6>But I mean, I think that they both puppets and

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<v Speaker 6>the government. I think that we need to be voting

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<v Speaker 6>like year round. So like y'all need to be focusing

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<v Speaker 6>on them mayors, them governors, them centers for y'all states,

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<v Speaker 6>cause that's what we be making the laws, Like that's who

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<v Speaker 6>passing on bills and stuff.

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<v Speaker 5>So that's what we need to be focusing on.

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<v Speaker 3>So your low collection. Okay, yeah, okay, I'm gonna hung me.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think it's smart?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I definitely. I'm definitely gonna vote this year.

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<v Speaker 3>Is it important to you though?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, it is important. I feel like I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>our generation kind of like I feel like that's where

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<v Speaker 4>the disconnect is with the generations. Like I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>y'all are more aware. I mean, of course, but y'all

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<v Speaker 4>are more like aware, y'all know more about politics. I

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<v Speaker 4>feel like the younger generation they don't really like feel

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<v Speaker 4>like they get it. I feel like we understand voting,

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<v Speaker 4>and like I feel like our generation isn't making it

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<v Speaker 4>a priority. Like they don't feel like if they don't vote,

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<v Speaker 4>then like what would that do? Just like one person

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<v Speaker 4>I vote in but like.

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<v Speaker 1>You know a lot of people in our generation feel

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<v Speaker 1>the same way.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Like it's like many people that have the same

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<v Speaker 4>thought process, so like it's not one person I vote

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<v Speaker 4>and it's all of all that's not voting, so like yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>and then when the person that they wanted to get

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<v Speaker 4>an office that they didn't vote for doesn't get an office,

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<v Speaker 4>they like on Instagram or on social media looking at

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<v Speaker 4>the world crazy and it's like you didn't like you

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<v Speaker 4>have a choice, Like you have the right to vote,

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<v Speaker 4>and if you didn't vote, then like you can't be

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<v Speaker 4>mad that the outcome wasn't what you wanted.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I ain't gonna hold y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>When I was eighteen, I wasn't very politically inclined. I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't really care as much about politics. And I remember, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>I swear to god, I was it was election day

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<v Speaker 2>and I was in the bed.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I was home.

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<v Speaker 2>I was home, and I was in the bed and

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<v Speaker 2>I got hit in the back with a cane by

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<v Speaker 2>my grandma.

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<v Speaker 3>Get your ass up and go to the pole.

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<v Speaker 5>She made me go to the pole and vote.

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<v Speaker 2>And she really hit me like that, and that is

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<v Speaker 2>what started my Like, damn, she carried as much. Let

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<v Speaker 2>me get up and go participate in this process. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's how I got. I got beat to the pole.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>To go to the poe, but get up and go vote.

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<v Speaker 1>Did she have a conversation with you about the people

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<v Speaker 1>who are running and that's who you're voting for? Did

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<v Speaker 1>you know at eighteen.

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<v Speaker 2>As I walked to the cause, it was the elementary

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<v Speaker 2>school right up the street. I didn't even have to

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<v Speaker 2>go that far to vote. She rode behind me with

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<v Speaker 2>her fuck hover around, talking to me about why it

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<v Speaker 2>was important for me to vote and who the candidates were,

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<v Speaker 2>and I need to get my lazy black asses to

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<v Speaker 2>do something with myself. So that was the conversation that

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<v Speaker 2>happened with my grandmother, who's right here on my neck.

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<v Speaker 3>I've missed her so.

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<v Speaker 2>Much because she cared that much, and I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>important for us to, you know, instill that in the

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<v Speaker 2>younger people now. And I think like when Kamala had

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<v Speaker 2>what was a Kamala I always say Kamala, Kamala Harris

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<v Speaker 2>had Meg thee Stallion come on stage. Everybody said it

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<v Speaker 2>was cringe, but that was in an effort to pull

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<v Speaker 2>in the younger voters so they could start listening to

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<v Speaker 2>the politics and not just be concerned just with Meg

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<v Speaker 2>thee Stallion and sexy Red. Did y'all feel like that

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<v Speaker 2>was a cringe moment for her to have a sexy Red?

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<v Speaker 6>I think it was obvious. I think it was an

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<v Speaker 6>obvious move. I think that anybody could see that from

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<v Speaker 6>like a mile that you were trying to pull in

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<v Speaker 6>a younger generation. Ain't nobody, No, ain't nobody over fifty

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<v Speaker 6>listening to No Sex Red.

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<v Speaker 2>But they already voting, you know, so the over fifty,

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<v Speaker 2>they don't have to pull them in because they're already Yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so yeah, because Trump Trump people gonna vote like like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, but do you feel like Trump's younger

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<v Speaker 2>can't like the younger people who know?

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, them too.

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<v Speaker 6>It's like a whole family like like no, like the sister,

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<v Speaker 6>the brothers, daddy's and mamas, y'all gotta get out there,

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<v Speaker 6>like m hm, Trump is coming.

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<v Speaker 7>Like.

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<v Speaker 3>Trump is coming.

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<v Speaker 5>In the Washington in the in Washington, d C.

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<v Speaker 3>They went very January six.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, yes, that is bad. You've never seen nobody Biden

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<v Speaker 5>doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>No, nobody has scaled the wall for Obama.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, I'm getting my thoughts to myself. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>just do you make sure you know about everybody exactly

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<v Speaker 1>before you make a decision or anything. Because we talk

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<v Speaker 1>back does not endorse any political parties, okay, in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>any people in particular. Okay, fyi, because everybody has different perception,

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<v Speaker 1>which we talk about a lot. Okay, people perceive things differently.

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<v Speaker 1>We can I could see one thing, you could see

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<v Speaker 1>something else, and we can both interpret it two different ways.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's really what we're dealing with a lot of things,

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<v Speaker 1>which you know, religion and politics. It starts arguments a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, just be informed when you go do that vote,

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<v Speaker 1>because I can remember the very first time I voted

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<v Speaker 1>eighteen in college, Benedictte College. They told us to go

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<v Speaker 1>vote Democrat. They told us who to vote for, right

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<v Speaker 1>when nobody was informed for real, this is our first

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<v Speaker 1>time voting. I remember one student and she might have

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<v Speaker 1>been a senior at the time, and she was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like a like a little chunky girl, pretty girl,

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<v Speaker 1>stuck up though, like she acts like a white girl,

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<v Speaker 1>people would say. But I remember her standing up and

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<v Speaker 1>this is the age, okay, standing up in the gym,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was like, y'all don't have to vote for

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<v Speaker 1>this person. Y'all can vote for that person, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>telling the students you don't have to vote straight Democrat,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to vote for this one particular person,

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<v Speaker 1>just because the majority of the people at the school

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<v Speaker 1>are telling you to do that same thing. I'm telling y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>so be informed about everybody, So to go to the

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<v Speaker 1>polls and vote straight Democratic never made sense to me, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because these other there's gonna be other things on the

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<v Speaker 1>ballot to also vote for, So you needn't know who's

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<v Speaker 1>running for each of those things and what matters to you.

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<v Speaker 1>So you vote based on policies, right, based on what

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<v Speaker 1>you want for your future and who's the best person

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<v Speaker 1>to give it to you. What do y'all think about

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<v Speaker 1>the current state of America? Because y'all are young, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, we grew up and we saw everything. We

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<v Speaker 1>saw the world change, and to me, it's progressively gotten

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<v Speaker 1>worse in the last couple of years in our lifetime.

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<v Speaker 1>What do y'all think.

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<v Speaker 4>The economy is in a downward spiral? Yeah, a fast

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<v Speaker 4>time in real pace, in reural life.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like.

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<v Speaker 4>It's going to ship.

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<v Speaker 3>Because why a pack of cheese six dollars?

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<v Speaker 4>Girl, I went to the story yesterday and I got

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<v Speaker 4>a juice and a chip. It was six dollars, Like

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<v Speaker 4>that should have been three dollars back in the day.

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<v Speaker 4>That's one fifty and fifty back.

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<v Speaker 1>In your day. Y'all already got it back in the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine that seating up so fast, y'all got it back

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<v Speaker 1>in the day when we were.

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<v Speaker 3>When I was your age, bag of you could get

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<v Speaker 3>a bag of.

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<v Speaker 4>Chips, I know. And when I was running up there

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<v Speaker 4>was fifty y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all they had a dollar twenty five.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, let me ask you this, speaking of your

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<v Speaker 2>back in the day, if if you could have given

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<v Speaker 2>your ten year old self advice about life right now,

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<v Speaker 2>what would you say to her? What would you say

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<v Speaker 2>to your ten year old self?

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<v Speaker 4>Listen to yallama, Please.

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<v Speaker 5>Listen to your mama.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, my mama don't got me out of

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<v Speaker 6>so much stuff, like I should.

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<v Speaker 5>Just listen to her like I should.

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<v Speaker 1>So she does understand, So parents do understand. But she

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<v Speaker 1>don't know everything because y'all don't tell everything.

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<v Speaker 3>Because y'all don't share enough.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>We were trying to help y'all through the dumb bitch

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<v Speaker 1>stages of life. This is gonna take us back to relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>so you can bypass that stage, so you can make

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<v Speaker 1>the best choices. Because what I want to tell you

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<v Speaker 1>is make sure you keep all your grets to minimum.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the best device. And maybe try to get a

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<v Speaker 1>business loan instead of a student loan or some ship

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<v Speaker 1>like that. So yeah, keep your regrets to a minimum,

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<v Speaker 1>and mamas are going to help you because we already

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<v Speaker 1>did the thing. Okay, it's nothing that I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 1>not to do that I haven't done and already.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's the biggest thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Your mama always say everything you're thinking about doing, I

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<v Speaker 2>already done that.

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<v Speaker 1>Ain't nothing new under the sun.

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<v Speaker 3>But there are new things there are. There are new

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<v Speaker 3>things that mama.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all gay the kids already.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm very yay o God.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all, I want you to plug yourselves, plug your social media,

1:11:35.280 --> 1:11:35.960
<v Speaker 2>plug anything.

1:11:36.240 --> 1:11:39.640
<v Speaker 1>No, we need dumb bitch stories. They're old enough, they

1:11:39.800 --> 1:11:43.400
<v Speaker 1>got one. Listen. I stopped telling my niece giving her

1:11:43.439 --> 1:11:45.439
<v Speaker 1>advice at a certain age because at that point I

1:11:45.520 --> 1:11:48.240
<v Speaker 1>realized she had her own dumb bitch stories. So I

1:11:48.240 --> 1:11:49.840
<v Speaker 1>don't need to tell you about my shit no more,

1:11:49.880 --> 1:11:52.480
<v Speaker 1>because you already made some mistakes to learn from.

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<v Speaker 2>So give me one, all right, So let me tell

1:11:54.400 --> 1:11:56.479
<v Speaker 2>them what the dumbit story is so they can't understand

1:11:56.479 --> 1:11:58.880
<v Speaker 2>they've never I don't think y'all listen to the show

1:11:59.280 --> 1:12:03.599
<v Speaker 2>like that. So can you share a time where one

1:12:03.600 --> 1:12:07.120
<v Speaker 2>of your boyfriends might have played you or done something

1:12:07.160 --> 1:12:10.440
<v Speaker 2>that made you feel unhappy or just feel stupid.

1:12:12.520 --> 1:12:13.759
<v Speaker 3>You got a story, everybody.

1:12:13.760 --> 1:12:15.439
<v Speaker 4>I'm so scared to sell this story, y'all.

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<v Speaker 6>It's not my worst story.

1:12:22.880 --> 1:12:23.880
<v Speaker 5>But I don't know.

1:12:23.960 --> 1:12:27.120
<v Speaker 7>I was talking to this dude and I got his

1:12:27.280 --> 1:12:29.639
<v Speaker 7>initial on my nail.

1:12:30.640 --> 1:12:32.800
<v Speaker 6>That was really a big step for me, okay, because

1:12:32.800 --> 1:12:34.640
<v Speaker 6>I don't I don't do stuff like that ever in

1:12:34.680 --> 1:12:37.160
<v Speaker 6>my life. So I did that, and he wouldn't even

1:12:37.240 --> 1:12:40.760
<v Speaker 6>believe me, like he was not believing me, Like he

1:12:40.840 --> 1:12:42.280
<v Speaker 6>barely was texting me back.

1:12:42.600 --> 1:12:45.960
<v Speaker 5>Like y'all, it was just I mean, and you.

1:12:45.920 --> 1:12:48.760
<v Speaker 3>Had to wait to get the nails done again. Yeah,

1:12:49.000 --> 1:12:50.160
<v Speaker 3>like it was.

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<v Speaker 5>It was really bad.

1:12:51.439 --> 1:12:54.360
<v Speaker 6>Like I didn't even show like when I was taking

1:12:54.400 --> 1:12:56.200
<v Speaker 6>pictures and stuff, I wouldn't show that nail.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, I don't even know why he got it.

1:12:58.760 --> 1:13:03.400
<v Speaker 1>I was so was it somebody were dating? No, So

1:13:03.479 --> 1:13:05.360
<v Speaker 1>you think once you got the nail and then he

1:13:05.520 --> 1:13:08.880
<v Speaker 1>kind of got kind offy, like maybe that you realize

1:13:08.920 --> 1:13:09.800
<v Speaker 1>he ain't like you for real?

1:13:10.160 --> 1:13:10.360
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

1:13:10.800 --> 1:13:13.519
<v Speaker 6>Most Oh, yeah, I knew he didn't like me because

1:13:13.520 --> 1:13:14.759
<v Speaker 6>while you're not texting me back.

1:13:15.120 --> 1:13:18.879
<v Speaker 3>Right after I got on my like you should be excited.

1:13:19.080 --> 1:13:21.000
<v Speaker 5>He's telling me that you don't believe me.

1:13:21.040 --> 1:13:30.280
<v Speaker 6>I'm one, Like, okay, yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>This, don't tattoo nigga face on your face. What's that

1:13:31.760 --> 1:13:37.960
<v Speaker 1>with that generation tattooing a dude's face on your face.

1:13:38.880 --> 1:13:39.920
<v Speaker 3>Tattoo on your faces?

1:13:41.080 --> 1:13:45.040
<v Speaker 4>It is keep your face normal right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, don't do that. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm glad we're all in alignment that we're not taking

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<v Speaker 2>any tattoos on our face.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, thank you. I'm so embarrassed because Hoggies was nothing.

1:14:02.000 --> 1:14:06.240
<v Speaker 4>I don't even want to tell, y'alla, but it's the

1:14:06.280 --> 1:14:09.240
<v Speaker 4>same space I'm gonna tell y'all. Okay. So I was

1:14:09.240 --> 1:14:13.080
<v Speaker 4>talking to this boy, y'all. And okay, so he had

1:14:13.080 --> 1:14:16.400
<v Speaker 4>an ex girlfriend and she had a kid, m and

1:14:16.479 --> 1:14:20.080
<v Speaker 4>he would like lay faw the road to the key, y'all.

1:14:20.400 --> 1:14:24.360
<v Speaker 4>But it wasn't his kid. Yeah, it was weird, but

1:14:24.520 --> 1:14:26.880
<v Speaker 4>like I wouldn't like I didn't, I wasn't against Like,

1:14:26.880 --> 1:14:28.479
<v Speaker 4>I can't tell you nothing because like you were already

1:14:28.479 --> 1:14:30.040
<v Speaker 4>trying to be this kid father. Like what I'm gonna

1:14:30.040 --> 1:14:32.040
<v Speaker 4>tell you, that's not your kid, nigga. Now you gotta

1:14:32.040 --> 1:14:35.120
<v Speaker 4>stop seeing this kid. Like I just left along. So

1:14:35.200 --> 1:14:37.760
<v Speaker 4>I pulled up. It was my graduation day, y'all, I

1:14:37.760 --> 1:14:42.960
<v Speaker 4>would ever forget it. I just graduated, literally, I just graduated,

1:14:43.240 --> 1:14:45.320
<v Speaker 4>and I went over there and I had my little

1:14:45.320 --> 1:14:48.680
<v Speaker 4>brother in the car, and I had my friend, my

1:14:48.760 --> 1:14:52.040
<v Speaker 4>homeboy in the car, y'all. And as soon as we

1:14:52.080 --> 1:14:54.439
<v Speaker 4>put up, girl, some girl comes to the choir and

1:14:54.520 --> 1:14:56.960
<v Speaker 4>she was like, you here to pick up such and such?

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<v Speaker 1>What's y'all think? Happy? Y'all?

1:15:06.640 --> 1:15:09.799
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you said no.

1:15:10.840 --> 1:15:13.240
<v Speaker 4>I said yes, because like, yes, that's.

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<v Speaker 3>What I am.

1:15:14.040 --> 1:15:16.120
<v Speaker 4>I am girl.

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<v Speaker 1>She put your hand through the window.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh girl, that girl fought mell.

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<v Speaker 3>Just one question.

1:15:31.600 --> 1:15:34.479
<v Speaker 1>She didn't want no clarity or nothing. That bitch is

1:15:34.600 --> 1:15:37.160
<v Speaker 1>like on site, who you com here for? Girl?

1:15:37.200 --> 1:15:42.880
<v Speaker 6>It was crazy because like I don't even know you. Yeah,

1:15:42.960 --> 1:15:45.599
<v Speaker 6>so let me paint the picture because I was probably like,

1:15:46.479 --> 1:15:52.960
<v Speaker 6>so you ain't know that was the ex girlfriend, no idea.

1:15:55.800 --> 1:15:58.040
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's funny, y'all. It's not. It's really funny. It

1:15:58.080 --> 1:16:03.439
<v Speaker 4>wasn't funny at the time, but it was. It's funny now, y'all. Yes,

1:16:03.520 --> 1:16:06.120
<v Speaker 4>that's the fake baby mama, y'all, So mind you it's

1:16:06.160 --> 1:16:08.200
<v Speaker 4>no females in the car not then. So my little brother,

1:16:08.240 --> 1:16:10.400
<v Speaker 4>he's in a passenger seat at the time, I'm eighteen.

1:16:10.439 --> 1:16:13.040
<v Speaker 4>So my little brother he's sixteen. And when I was

1:16:13.040 --> 1:16:14.880
<v Speaker 4>seventeen because my birthday didn't come out, I was seventeen,

1:16:14.920 --> 1:16:17.439
<v Speaker 4>my brother fifteen. So then my friend is in the backseat, y'all,

1:16:17.680 --> 1:16:21.000
<v Speaker 4>literally head out the window, seat belt on, car still on.

1:16:21.120 --> 1:16:23.120
<v Speaker 4>My brother is on the phone. My mom like some

1:16:23.240 --> 1:16:25.280
<v Speaker 4>girl trying to fight, no right, And in my head,

1:16:25.280 --> 1:16:27.120
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, is she trying to fight not right? Or

1:16:27.200 --> 1:16:27.920
<v Speaker 4>is she fighting not?

1:16:28.320 --> 1:16:28.400
<v Speaker 2>Like?

1:16:29.080 --> 1:16:29.519
<v Speaker 6>Just stress?

1:16:29.640 --> 1:16:30.719
<v Speaker 5>Somebody come quick?

1:16:32.920 --> 1:16:37.719
<v Speaker 3>So lied in the car now stressed.

1:16:38.240 --> 1:16:40.719
<v Speaker 4>I was stressed, very stressed.

1:16:41.040 --> 1:16:43.840
<v Speaker 3>Seatbelt yes, no seatbelt off?

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<v Speaker 6>Like this was supposed to be a pick up like

1:16:46.760 --> 1:16:52.479
<v Speaker 6>like this was so I was so bum rushed, y'all, y'all,

1:16:52.520 --> 1:16:54.439
<v Speaker 6>she could have told the world anything. I whooped that

1:16:54.560 --> 1:16:59.480
<v Speaker 6>whole girl, Yes she did. I was not ready.

1:16:59.760 --> 1:17:02.680
<v Speaker 1>But listen, you ain't a dumb bitch yet, no I was.

1:17:02.800 --> 1:17:04.200
<v Speaker 1>Did you keep talking to the guy?

1:17:04.479 --> 1:17:08.120
<v Speaker 4>I was the dummy, y'all? I kept talking to.

1:17:08.080 --> 1:17:10.719
<v Speaker 1>Her later when she was gone.

1:17:16.680 --> 1:17:22.439
<v Speaker 5>Why do you mess with her? That's what he gonna do.

1:17:22.680 --> 1:17:25.559
<v Speaker 5>Non mess with the winner and the loser girl.

1:17:26.760 --> 1:17:29.719
<v Speaker 4>He messed with the winner and the loser. Boom, because y'all,

1:17:29.800 --> 1:17:33.200
<v Speaker 4>So what did he say, so okay. So at this

1:17:33.240 --> 1:17:36.080
<v Speaker 4>point my mom then pulled up my homegirls and pulled

1:17:36.120 --> 1:17:38.160
<v Speaker 4>up we like we have to whoop her, like we

1:17:38.320 --> 1:17:38.760
<v Speaker 4>have to.

1:17:39.560 --> 1:17:40.680
<v Speaker 3>So she was.

1:17:40.680 --> 1:17:42.799
<v Speaker 4>Acting so scaredy she wouldn't come off the course anyways.

1:17:43.000 --> 1:17:46.120
<v Speaker 4>So he was like blowing up my phone, like blowing

1:17:46.160 --> 1:17:48.280
<v Speaker 4>me up, because she ended up saying like, well we

1:17:48.320 --> 1:17:49.840
<v Speaker 4>can go here and we can fight, because I don't

1:17:49.840 --> 1:17:52.160
<v Speaker 4>want to fight you at his house. So I had left,

1:17:52.600 --> 1:17:56.040
<v Speaker 4>she had left, everybody left, and he was blowing me up,

1:17:56.080 --> 1:17:56.800
<v Speaker 4>blowing me up like.

1:17:56.920 --> 1:17:58.879
<v Speaker 7>She was here to talk to my mom.

1:17:59.160 --> 1:18:01.479
<v Speaker 4>I was about to was like blowing me up, child,

1:18:01.520 --> 1:18:03.360
<v Speaker 4>and I was so mad, Like I was so mad.

1:18:03.360 --> 1:18:09.519
<v Speaker 4>I was not yees. So he has no kids, no no,

1:18:09.600 --> 1:18:13.920
<v Speaker 4>that's what she said, no kids biologically, And I was

1:18:14.000 --> 1:18:18.600
<v Speaker 4>just like give me her address. I don't want to

1:18:18.640 --> 1:18:22.120
<v Speaker 4>hear anything else. Give me her address. And I remember

1:18:22.160 --> 1:18:23.680
<v Speaker 4>like I wouldn't. I didn't talk to him for a

1:18:23.680 --> 1:18:25.519
<v Speaker 4>few days, and my mom was like, girl, you so sad,

1:18:25.640 --> 1:18:27.599
<v Speaker 4>Like just go talk to him, like go go hear

1:18:27.680 --> 1:18:30.559
<v Speaker 4>him out, like go go see and like hear the

1:18:30.560 --> 1:18:32.679
<v Speaker 4>full story and then like make a decision or whatever.

1:18:33.240 --> 1:18:34.960
<v Speaker 4>And girl, I had went up, girl, And I didn't

1:18:34.960 --> 1:18:37.880
<v Speaker 4>even go over there, but I had called him. We talked,

1:18:38.240 --> 1:18:41.040
<v Speaker 4>and I don't know.

1:18:41.000 --> 1:18:43.440
<v Speaker 5>Why I really believed she was there to see his mom.

1:18:44.080 --> 1:18:45.519
<v Speaker 3>Like, I don't know why I believe that, y'all.

1:18:45.520 --> 1:18:51.160
<v Speaker 1>I can so convincing, like like I went to the therapist.

1:18:53.520 --> 1:18:54.120
<v Speaker 1>It was bad.

1:18:54.240 --> 1:18:57.160
<v Speaker 4>And then a couple of weeks, like a couple of

1:18:57.160 --> 1:18:59.559
<v Speaker 4>weeks later, like fast forward to my birthday, Like he

1:18:59.640 --> 1:19:01.000
<v Speaker 4>was weird me on my birthday, y'all.

1:19:01.320 --> 1:19:04.400
<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's a rap. You're playing with any woman's birthday,

1:19:04.439 --> 1:19:05.599
<v Speaker 1>young or old. It's a rap.

1:19:05.800 --> 1:19:07.679
<v Speaker 4>Are you crazy? Like what are you trying to do?

1:19:08.000 --> 1:19:12.639
<v Speaker 4>Like ruin my life right now? And grew up eventually. Okay, wait,

1:19:12.680 --> 1:19:15.200
<v Speaker 4>so let's let's start with that had all started. She

1:19:15.200 --> 1:19:18.439
<v Speaker 4>had knew about me and everything because he posted me.

1:19:19.280 --> 1:19:22.479
<v Speaker 4>I didn't post this man nothing, y'all. It was not me.

1:19:23.160 --> 1:19:25.800
<v Speaker 4>You mad at me, and he posted me. So fast

1:19:25.840 --> 1:19:31.720
<v Speaker 4>forward this man exactly. So fast forward to like a

1:19:31.760 --> 1:19:34.000
<v Speaker 4>couple of weeks after this man had told me, like, girl,

1:19:34.040 --> 1:19:40.080
<v Speaker 4>you're tripping. This is not a relationship, y'all. It could

1:19:40.120 --> 1:19:45.760
<v Speaker 4>have been first work, it could have been Yes, that's

1:19:45.800 --> 1:19:47.200
<v Speaker 4>my dumb, that's my dumb. History.

1:19:47.320 --> 1:19:48.200
<v Speaker 3>That was a good one.

1:19:53.840 --> 1:19:56.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm glad we can all laugh about it now because.

1:20:00.160 --> 1:20:02.800
<v Speaker 4>Literally my mom just said, my mom is so messy.

1:20:02.840 --> 1:20:03.920
<v Speaker 4>I love my mom, y'all.

1:20:04.720 --> 1:20:07.280
<v Speaker 6>When I was younger, you know, hellod on, mom, she

1:20:07.360 --> 1:20:09.000
<v Speaker 6>just sent me some messy stuff about them, And I

1:20:09.080 --> 1:20:10.519
<v Speaker 6>was like, girl, I cannot wait to me and my

1:20:10.560 --> 1:20:12.920
<v Speaker 6>friends jump her. I will never be over it. You

1:20:13.040 --> 1:20:15.599
<v Speaker 6>still here, I will never be over it, yeah, Cause

1:20:15.720 --> 1:20:18.559
<v Speaker 6>like so you never fought her again, no.

1:20:18.560 --> 1:20:21.200
<v Speaker 4>Like I. And that was like like I literally did

1:20:21.200 --> 1:20:23.160
<v Speaker 4>not know the girl. Like when I tell the story,

1:20:23.160 --> 1:20:24.639
<v Speaker 4>it's like, dang, you ain't know what I was a girl.

1:20:24.760 --> 1:20:26.880
<v Speaker 4>Hell no, Like I don't know her, Like she's older

1:20:26.960 --> 1:20:28.639
<v Speaker 4>than me. She's like twenty one. I was seventeen.

1:20:28.960 --> 1:20:30.880
<v Speaker 6>So it's like she a different, Like she's a different

1:20:30.920 --> 1:20:33.600
<v Speaker 6>type of girl, like that we were not piers, Like

1:20:33.640 --> 1:20:34.720
<v Speaker 6>we would never be in the same place.

1:20:34.760 --> 1:20:36.080
<v Speaker 4>I never seen you before in my life, Like I

1:20:36.080 --> 1:20:39.280
<v Speaker 4>don't know you. So yeah, like I didn't know her.

1:20:39.320 --> 1:20:45.280
<v Speaker 4>And it's just like, girl, you like unprovoked, like you

1:20:45.320 --> 1:20:47.040
<v Speaker 4>were very like I did nothing to you. I did

1:20:47.040 --> 1:20:48.800
<v Speaker 4>not know who you were. I said nothing to you,

1:20:48.840 --> 1:20:52.000
<v Speaker 4>said nothing about you, like you unprovokedly like snuck me

1:20:52.200 --> 1:20:53.960
<v Speaker 4>in my car. Girl, Yes, me and my friends have

1:20:54.040 --> 1:20:54.519
<v Speaker 4>to jump in.

1:20:54.840 --> 1:20:58.360
<v Speaker 3>Well, don't fight her, move on.

1:21:00.800 --> 1:21:02.840
<v Speaker 1>Because how your current man supposed to feel about you

1:21:02.880 --> 1:21:05.960
<v Speaker 1>fighting over old nigga? I know it's the principle at

1:21:05.960 --> 1:21:10.240
<v Speaker 1>this point, but girl, men don't see things that way.

1:21:10.360 --> 1:21:12.400
<v Speaker 4>They don't already know. They don't.

1:21:12.520 --> 1:21:15.040
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna walk around and get beat up again?

1:21:16.000 --> 1:21:24.559
<v Speaker 2>Whoa, whoa, So don't go Yeah, she's twenty four years old.

1:21:25.280 --> 1:21:26.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I wouldn't even give that.

1:21:26.479 --> 1:21:28.880
<v Speaker 1>No, I had another baby, hurt and the guy so

1:21:28.920 --> 1:21:30.960
<v Speaker 1>together they together.

1:21:31.479 --> 1:21:35.160
<v Speaker 7>Oh, let them have that, Let them have that.

1:21:35.640 --> 1:21:37.880
<v Speaker 2>You got your man, you love him? You were in Charlotte,

1:21:37.880 --> 1:21:40.240
<v Speaker 2>because that's in Ohio. I'm assuming right they did. Yeah,

1:21:40.280 --> 1:21:43.400
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't be going out there with that. Stay bossing

1:21:43.479 --> 1:21:44.799
<v Speaker 2>up and that's the best reviews.

1:21:44.840 --> 1:21:46.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, girl, make sure you should follow her so

1:21:46.960 --> 1:21:48.519
<v Speaker 1>you can follow you back, so you can see.

1:21:49.200 --> 1:21:52.600
<v Speaker 4>Right she's looking.

1:21:54.960 --> 1:21:55.920
<v Speaker 3>She's all right.

1:21:56.000 --> 1:21:58.360
<v Speaker 2>I have one more question before we get out of here,

1:21:58.800 --> 1:22:02.360
<v Speaker 2>and I need a really creius answer from y'all, because

1:22:02.400 --> 1:22:04.519
<v Speaker 2>all right, y'all, we in here sweating, it's hot as

1:22:04.520 --> 1:22:07.880
<v Speaker 2>fucking here. I ain't gonna hold you why, y'all wear

1:22:08.000 --> 1:22:12.880
<v Speaker 2>hoodies and a hundred I need a serious answer for

1:22:12.920 --> 1:22:15.120
<v Speaker 2>that question. Why the fun do y'all have that ship on?

1:22:15.200 --> 1:22:17.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't understand it any degrees?

1:22:17.080 --> 1:22:18.080
<v Speaker 3>And y'all got on a hoodie.

1:22:20.800 --> 1:22:22.840
<v Speaker 5>I don't do that. My little brothers do that.

1:22:23.200 --> 1:22:28.200
<v Speaker 6>But I could tell you they stinking lazy.

1:22:28.240 --> 1:22:29.400
<v Speaker 5>They don't want to do nothing else.

1:22:29.439 --> 1:22:34.439
<v Speaker 6>They don't want to change their clothes, sofia to or.

1:22:34.479 --> 1:22:37.439
<v Speaker 3>Bright ysphoria morphia, morphia.

1:22:37.560 --> 1:22:39.400
<v Speaker 6>Yes, they be ascared about their body, so they be

1:22:39.400 --> 1:22:41.320
<v Speaker 6>trying to pide it with on fat hoodies.

1:22:42.000 --> 1:22:45.400
<v Speaker 3>Look at that damn that. I never thought about it.

1:22:45.560 --> 1:22:47.960
<v Speaker 3>It might be like a comfort.

1:22:48.400 --> 1:22:53.400
<v Speaker 4>Like a hug, right when you think of it that way?

1:22:54.280 --> 1:22:55.120
<v Speaker 3>Is that what it is?

1:22:55.800 --> 1:22:57.400
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I don't wear that either, but I

1:22:57.400 --> 1:22:59.360
<v Speaker 4>do be putting on a little hoodie with some shorts

1:23:00.040 --> 1:23:04.280
<v Speaker 4>in the summertime sometimes, but not one hundred degrees, whether

1:23:04.439 --> 1:23:12.720
<v Speaker 4>you know, just a little eighty.

1:23:13.080 --> 1:23:15.599
<v Speaker 2>All right, y'all, plug your Instagram, plug your social media,

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<v Speaker 2>all the things that you have now.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, plug your hair business. Please do all the.

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<v Speaker 4>Things, okay me First it's j Dot Jana j H

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<v Speaker 4>E N E. And then my hair page is Jane

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<v Speaker 4>on the sleigh.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey, all right, Well, my Instagram is just mahogany m

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<v Speaker 6>A h A g O n E.

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<v Speaker 5>Y y'all can go follow me over hair.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but if you grown me, do not follow neither

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<v Speaker 2>one of these ladies. I slap the shit out.

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<v Speaker 3>Of you, period.

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<v Speaker 3>Tam Bank can get this official tam Bam on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all follow me there. I love y'all. Remember speak now and.

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