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Speaker 3: Holiday.
Speaker 4: What's up?
Speaker 2: Tam Bam Like hi, everyone, Like this is Tamala, Like
Speaker 2: he oh no, And I'm like in l a and.
Speaker 3: Like I just had a kale salad.
Speaker 4: So yeah, that's about right.
Speaker 1: All of them like to get on my goddamn nerve,
Speaker 1: like don't don't automatically start sounding like kim A, Like
Speaker 1: oh my god, like this is so it's so bizarre,
Speaker 1: like spit it out already.
Speaker 3: The fuck.
Speaker 1: That's one thing I can't get with the lingo. Like
Speaker 1: there's a couple of different lingos, and that's one of
Speaker 1: them that gets on my damn nerve.
Speaker 3: Because hurry up and spit it out, bitch.
Speaker 5: Speak.
Speaker 3: How was your weekend?
Speaker 1: So how was your weekend?
Speaker 3: Me?
Speaker 1: First, me, First, I ain't do shit that y'all left
Speaker 1: the house. Okay, I've been inside fuck around with our
Speaker 1: videos and stuff. So I've been working.
Speaker 4: How was your weekend?
Speaker 2: My weekend was cool. I just I actually didn't get
Speaker 2: here till yesterday. So I was still in Charlotte over
Speaker 2: the weekend and I was staying with my best friend,
Speaker 2: but then she got COVID. So then I went to
Speaker 2: a hotel and that was just the best thing. It
Speaker 2: was free breakfast every morning. I didn't have to eat
Speaker 2: cheerios and shit, I ain't have to hear no crying babies,
Speaker 2: even though I love my guy kids, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 2: but it was nice to and I wasn't on no
Speaker 2: air mattress no more. So I just enjoyed those couple
Speaker 2: of days in the hotel. And then I flew in
Speaker 2: yesterday to La You guys, I just got here, and
Speaker 2: I really was tired because I was up drinking Saturday
Speaker 2: night and then I flew out Sunday morning, shame. So
Speaker 2: when I got here, I was just exhausted. So I
Speaker 2: pretty much checked in and and relaxed the rest of
Speaker 2: the day.
Speaker 3: I didn't do anything. So my my accent is like
Speaker 3: so fake, like for our and then here we are ship.
Speaker 1: It's supposed to another tropical storm is supposed to be
Speaker 1: on the way, So I mean I'm in, I'm in
Speaker 1: the house. I might go to Costco. That's your face,
Speaker 1: because it's right down the street. That's why.
Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all, I think I'm about to go. Like, there's
Speaker 2: a Saphora down the street from me. I might go
Speaker 2: get me a little part time job there, just so
Speaker 2: I can make some money until Yeah, back to the
Speaker 2: back to the old trenches, y'all know that's my family.
Speaker 2: I used to work there a long time ago. Let
Speaker 2: me get some gratis. Shout out to all my Sphori
Speaker 2: girlies and guys and days. Girl.
Speaker 1: It's a it's a matt counter here in them all.
Speaker 1: Don't nobody even work there, like you. It's there, but
Speaker 1: it's never anybody there.
Speaker 2: Like. Actually, remember how important MAC was in the early
Speaker 2: two thousands. If you didn't have some lip glass, what
Speaker 2: was you doing with your lips, bitch? Because old baby,
Speaker 2: old baby, that ship was so thick thick.
Speaker 3: You put that ship off and after about two hour.
Speaker 1: Mosquitoes sticking to that little white line, right, you got
Speaker 1: wipe that ship off. What is it, old baby? I
Speaker 1: still got a tube of old baby. That's your probably
Speaker 1: really yeah, yeah, if I put it on in my
Speaker 1: lip might breakout because I definitely still have like some
Speaker 1: makeup from Tea I Shadow Palace.
Speaker 3: I do not throw them away. I do not throw
Speaker 3: them out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so the weekend was uneventful. It's uh, it's a
Speaker 1: great day to day though, And let's get it get
Speaker 1: into the sin stupid Internet. I'm gonna change it from internet.
Speaker 1: So stupid internet.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 2: Carisha Police came out with season two and we definitely
Speaker 2: were like Carrisha pleased with this episode because girl.
Speaker 1: I season one only had five episodes. Okay, really she
Speaker 1: really finessing the podcast. Yes, so many episodes did you
Speaker 1: see in season one?
Speaker 3: I don't know, but they did numbers. They did numbers.
Speaker 2: All her episodes did really big words and she started
Speaker 2: her season two with her story is who better to
Speaker 2: interview her than Saucy C and ten and her bestie?
Speaker 2: But I just did not I you know, I ran
Speaker 2: to watch it.
Speaker 3: But I didn't get nothing.
Speaker 2: Did you feel like it was like, ooh, she shared
Speaker 2: some you know something that we didn't realize already. We
Speaker 2: know you and JT ain't like that no more. We
Speaker 2: know y'all probably still love each other, but it just
Speaker 2: ain't what it used to be. We know you're gonna
Speaker 2: stick beside Diddy because you ain't saying shit all this time.
Speaker 1: And out she says she not with him, so I
Speaker 1: mean she probably at gonna just discard him. But as
Speaker 1: far as the relationship, she at this point is self perseverance,
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't want to attach myself to that shit either. Okay,
Speaker 1: she's a smart girl for that. And like she said,
Speaker 1: they both used each other, so I agree.
Speaker 3: With But that's something we all knew, right, didn't we
Speaker 3: all know that?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, I wish you would. I wish they wouldn't
Speaker 1: even have talked about JC, y'all. I love jt Okay.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to pick sides, but it's I don't know.
Speaker 1: I like jt Okay and I feel like they had
Speaker 1: already smashed whatever they had going on, let it go.
Speaker 1: So they got into it. Yeah, they got into it online,
Speaker 1: and I thought they had gotten past it, So for
Speaker 1: her to then still mention, you know there, we know, y'all.
Speaker 1: We know, y'all, not like that. We could see it.
Speaker 1: We could tell. I especially knew when they both was
Speaker 1: on the Breakfast Club and I heard how they travel
Speaker 1: and from Entourage's makeup artists. They just got there separately,
Speaker 1: and she confirmed like they they didn't really see each
Speaker 1: other until they got on stage most of the times,
Speaker 1: like they just you can tell she lives in Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's in Miami. JT's in La. So they just weren't
Speaker 1: on the same page with a lot of things. So
Speaker 1: I can kind of it's nothing new, Okay. I do
Speaker 1: like that she was vulnerable a little bit. I definitely
Speaker 1: understand how she says she she was she lost her person.
Speaker 2: I imagine, all right, so when we say shit on
Speaker 2: this podcast, people be attacking us for our views, imagine
Speaker 2: the magnitude that she gets attacked in this next level.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta have really you gotta have really thick skin,
Speaker 1: and you just got to be on some some fuck
Speaker 1: you type shit. You know, I had to tell one person,
Speaker 1: there's nobody in this world that can say or do
Speaker 1: anything that will appease every time. You can't, right, So
Speaker 1: some people whatever I say might resonate with them, and
Speaker 1: some people are and that's okay. You're not one of
Speaker 1: my people, and that's okay, But I'm not about to
Speaker 1: go back and forth with somebody who really, you know,
Speaker 1: like you mad her but not to my immediate real life.
Speaker 3: You just don't, and they crucified Jesus.
Speaker 1: Jesus, So.
Speaker 3: Do this, okay, then celebrate her afterwards, you know.
Speaker 1: So I don't humans girl bye, Okay. I was sure
Speaker 1: the best of luck on all the things she has
Speaker 1: going on. I think we know JT was always the rapper.
Speaker 1: You know, Karesha hell.
Speaker 3: Locked up. She did hold him down.
Speaker 2: I hope they can reconcile just enough to be sisters again,
Speaker 2: to get back to who they were before the money
Speaker 2: and the fame.
Speaker 1: I don't think once when certain things happen in relationships,
Speaker 1: is no really getting back. I have friends who I
Speaker 1: consider family members, right and I don't talk to them anymore.
Speaker 1: I still love them, but once certain things happen, is
Speaker 1: like it's hard to get back. Like I can never
Speaker 1: get on the phone with these bitches and tell them
Speaker 1: about my life never again. I don't trust them anymore
Speaker 1: in that way. So yeah, I just, you know, you
Speaker 1: just deal with them from a distance kind of. So
Speaker 1: I don't think that they'll probably never get back to
Speaker 1: what they were, but they still consider themselves family. That's
Speaker 1: most important, right, So you ain't just you know, undercutting
Speaker 1: each other all crazy in the public. Just keep it cordial.
Speaker 1: At this point, y'all moving in two different directions, and
Speaker 1: it's okay. I think a lot of it is social media, right,
Speaker 1: you allow these outside entities to disrupt the relationship you
Speaker 1: have with this person that you've known way before the money,
Speaker 1: way before the fame, way before anybody really knew y'all,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So sometimes you just got
Speaker 1: to get back to the basis basics, and they probably
Speaker 1: will never get back.
Speaker 3: I know, it was funny when she was like who
Speaker 3: got left off? Bat and bougie me?
Speaker 1: That was funny in hell, that was funny as how
Speaker 1: she was. I didn't even know nothing about it. Like now, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, y'all don't have to do everything together, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, even when we talk back,
Speaker 1: this is a platform that both of us should be
Speaker 1: able to make next steps off of. Right, Everything does
Speaker 1: not have to be a group effort. Okay, this is
Speaker 1: a stepping stone for the both of us. So I mean,
Speaker 1: that's just how they have to look at us so
Speaker 1: they can move on and be okay with each other,
Speaker 1: or I mean, at this point, be okay with you.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm going to order Kresha. Uh what is it called?
Speaker 2: Richa Roulet?
Speaker 3: Part two?
Speaker 4: The first one.
Speaker 1: Questions.
Speaker 2: I was like, these young millennials is off the motherfucking
Speaker 2: Chaine because a lot of this stuff do not align
Speaker 2: with my spirit and I I've never gon like it
Speaker 2: was one question like fucking your mama boyfriend or something
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: That Priscilla has that game and we played it and
Speaker 1: it's like a lot of the cars are the same thing.
Speaker 1: It's like very repetitious. It's the same content on each card.
Speaker 1: It's like it's just it's easy. Like I wonder what
Speaker 1: the second one is gonna be, Like, I hope she
Speaker 1: adds like, you know a little bit more substance.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, but she balling, bitch.
Speaker 1: We need to come up with a uh.
Speaker 3: We talked back the card game. Yes, yeah, that sound fun.
Speaker 3: Let's make it up or shut the fuck up. Oh yeah,
Speaker 3: we shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1: We talked.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that'll create that soon, all right. So I don't
Speaker 2: know if y'all saw this, but I thought this was interesting.
Speaker 2: This black male waiter from a restaurant followed a Patriot
Speaker 2: and that he had just served outside because she did
Speaker 2: not provide a tip for him, and he basically confronted
Speaker 2: her at her car about not leaving.
Speaker 3: Him a tip. And I was looking at that, like,
Speaker 3: what in the entire fuck is happening in the United
Speaker 3: States right now? Girl?
Speaker 1: I could not imagine. That wasn't even the scary part
Speaker 1: for me, right, It's the comments in the post that
Speaker 1: are that's more scary to me, because a lot of
Speaker 1: people thought he was okay and justified in following a
Speaker 1: woman from his job to her car and confronting her
Speaker 1: for not tipping him, like, sir, take it up with
Speaker 1: your manager if you're not making.
Speaker 3: Enough, right, or go get a different job.
Speaker 1: A lot of people, yeah, a lot of people will saying, oh,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't eat out if you can't tip, you know,
Speaker 1: come on, man. On top of a regular eighteen to
Speaker 1: twenty five percent tip, a lot of these restaurants have
Speaker 1: added extra service fees and shit like that onto your
Speaker 1: bill automatically since COVID, nobody has rolled anything back that
Speaker 1: they implemented after COVID. Okay, COVID is essentially over now,
Speaker 1: but we are stuck with a lot of, uh, just
Speaker 1: different things. People are a price sclengon on every goddamn thing.
Speaker 1: So you mean to tell me, if I want to
Speaker 1: eat out and I can only afford my meal, I
Speaker 1: can't afford the extra to tip. You're saying stay home.
Speaker 3: That's how people are didn't say it. I think I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I assume maybe they're in the service industry.
Speaker 1: I've never actually been in the service industry outside of
Speaker 1: working in my family's restaurant, which wouldn't require tip because
Speaker 1: it's like get your food and gold type shit. But
Speaker 1: first of all, maybe his service wasn't that great. Her
Speaker 1: thing to him was, you know, I didn't have any cash.
Speaker 1: He was like, oh, I got cash.
Speaker 3: App excuse me, I got pepper spring. Get away from
Speaker 3: my car, because why are you out here with me?
Speaker 2: You are neglecting to see you He probably had bad
Speaker 2: service because I'm sure you got some tables right now
Speaker 2: that you neglected to be outside with me asking for money.
Speaker 3: No, that's now.
Speaker 1: If that weren't my employee, find yeah, because how dare you?
Speaker 3: Here's the thing I understand.
Speaker 2: Tipping is proper etiquette in the United States, right it is,
Speaker 2: But in the event that there is no tip, you
Speaker 2: are not entitled to that. The only thing that you
Speaker 2: are entitled to is your minimum wage salary that the
Speaker 2: restaurant pays. That is the only thing you're entitled to. Now,
Speaker 2: is it sucky if someone doesn't leave you a tip tip? Yes,
Speaker 2: but they don't owe you that. You can't follow nobody
Speaker 2: out to their car to requesting free money. You're essentially begging.
Speaker 2: Now you're outside begging.
Speaker 1: And it was really weird, and you're a grown ass
Speaker 1: man rolling up on a woman at night time, like
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, sir, I probably like would have put my
Speaker 1: pistol on my lap or something in his face, like
Speaker 1: GIFN buy my car because.
Speaker 2: Now you got a panhandling you are you outside begging?
Speaker 2: Go back to work?
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't do that. Yeah, I understand where he
Speaker 3: would want that tip.
Speaker 1: That's never okay.
Speaker 2: I understand where you want your tips. I get it
Speaker 2: because you don't make nothing an hour, and I get it.
Speaker 2: But you don't get to do that. You should never
Speaker 2: do that follow anybody about a tip.
Speaker 3: It's crazy.
Speaker 1: That's just like people like doing door dash and uber
Speaker 1: eads and Instacart stuff like that. Like there there's been
Speaker 1: drivers that would go back to the customer's house, you know,
Speaker 1: confronting them for not giving them a tip. So now
Speaker 1: what's happening is these big companies, corporations, small business owners,
Speaker 1: they're now pitting the employees against the consumer because they're
Speaker 1: not paying them enough. Essentially, that's what it is, because
Speaker 1: maybe minimum wage for service should be a little bit
Speaker 1: more to fill in the gap absolutely, you know, with
Speaker 1: the tips. I feel like that if you don't make
Speaker 1: enough in tips for that day, there should be some
Speaker 1: system in place to where they kind of offset your pay,
Speaker 1: right so you can at least get this a good
Speaker 1: minimum wage for the evening. Like that should not The
Speaker 1: owners should not be on the customer that is.
Speaker 3: And then the little bit that they do pay.
Speaker 2: People in the services industry they texting the fuck out
Speaker 2: of that too, you know.
Speaker 1: So yeah, again that's still not just not.
Speaker 3: Should not it should not be fair.
Speaker 2: To her for saying it, Like I would have felt
Speaker 2: compelled to send him some money too, Like are you
Speaker 2: going to attack me because you came to my car
Speaker 2: he robbed?
Speaker 1: Much like, yeah, he's strong on her for real, for real,
Speaker 1: Like and you know it, almost people may not this
Speaker 1: might sound kind of weird, but it's almost like getting
Speaker 1: your kuchie taken, you know what, I'm saying, we talked
Speaker 1: a lot about how.
Speaker 5: We talked a lot of we've talked.
Speaker 1: Listen, We've talked about like things can be a little
Speaker 1: things could be a little, ari a little. It's a
Speaker 1: little bit, you know what I'm saying, Like you might
Speaker 1: do some shit in a moment so you can get
Speaker 1: out of this situation. That's what I felt, Like, what's
Speaker 1: happening with her?
Speaker 3: Like she she.
Speaker 1: Probably couldn't believe that that was.
Speaker 2: She just sent a cash out, because what's next? If
Speaker 2: I say no right here?
Speaker 3: This man might hit me? What you know exactly?
Speaker 1: So to me, she got robbed.
Speaker 2: Because I didn't leave. If I wanted to leave a tip,
Speaker 2: I would have done it in the restaurant.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, what are you doing? What are you doing?
Speaker 1: Why did you think that was okay? That guy has
Speaker 1: mental health issues and she probably shouldn't have played with him.
Speaker 1: She did, right, she didn't? She Well, if it was me,
Speaker 1: you know, I gotta learn how to de escalate, because
Speaker 1: I swear to God.
Speaker 3: I would have something that I would have did. I
Speaker 3: was like, hold.
Speaker 2: On on that, nigga, I'm already in the garbage.
Speaker 3: What you gonna do?
Speaker 2: He would have been holding on to what I had
Speaker 2: would have held on tight because I would have hit
Speaker 2: that gas.
Speaker 1: So hard that ship is Oh yeah, okay, but listen.
Speaker 2: Shout out to everybody in the service industry because that
Speaker 2: is hard work and the tips do help out a lot.
Speaker 3: You know, I get it, But don't do that. Don't
Speaker 3: none of y'all do that no more? Period. Yeah.
Speaker 1: That that's like kind of ridiculous. Okay, So now the
Speaker 1: internet is in a frenzy. Just a little tad bit.
Speaker 1: Tracy Ellis Ross, she posted a picture with some slacks
Speaker 1: on and no top hole in her titties. Right. The
Speaker 1: first comment I saw about it, it was a guy saying, like,
Speaker 1: you know, you down bad at this big age if
Speaker 1: you don't have a husband, and it's how you present
Speaker 1: on the internet. It was something like that along those lines, right,
Speaker 1: And I think either it was today or yes, yesterday
Speaker 1: I saw that, But now today another another blog actually
Speaker 1: posted it. Says Tracy Ellis Ross sparks online debate about
Speaker 1: thirst strapping in your fifties with resurface topless photo. Okay,
Speaker 1: so she maybe maybe she didn't just post us people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's all it's just researching.
Speaker 1: Is this pick on Tracy Ellis Ross week. But you
Speaker 1: know it's attack on women. You know, we can't do
Speaker 1: nothing right and nothing wrong, because if you're young and
Speaker 1: posting some shit like that, it's a problem, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. If you do it older, it's a problem.
Speaker 1: So I don't know, what do you think.
Speaker 2: I think her tits look so good. First of all,
Speaker 2: she looks amazing first and foremost, and second like it's
Speaker 2: her body to do with what with it, what she desires.
Speaker 2: She wasn't showing nipples, It wasn't like nasty and who cares.
Speaker 2: I just don't see nothing wrong with it. She looks great.
Speaker 2: Shout out to Tracy. And I think she looked great
Speaker 2: because she ain't married and ain't had no kids, and
Speaker 2: it just that energy just preserves you for some reason.
Speaker 1: That part, that part, you know, because I mean, let's
Speaker 1: let's let's just not act like like relate getting married.
Speaker 1: It just it doesn't just complete you. Okay, that is
Speaker 1: one part of your life if you happen to do it.
Speaker 1: But like we talk all the time, I think that
Speaker 1: women do look better single Like I'm sorry, I'm sorry
Speaker 1: if you're not in a relationship with the right person.
Speaker 1: You'd be looking dragged. I feel like my last relationship,
Speaker 1: I looked so old and he would make jokes about
Speaker 1: how young he looked. Right, this nigga was literally sucking
Speaker 1: my life and it's a real thing. So shout out
Speaker 1: to Tracy Ellis Ross. So some of these comments, and
Speaker 1: it looks like a lot of them were for women. Okay,
Speaker 1: the first one I mentioned was a guy. Here goes
Speaker 1: one comment. Someone says she's too old to be thirst trapping.
Speaker 1: I realize I don't find shit as deep as y'all do, ever,
Speaker 1: because who gives a fuck? That's how I feel. And
Speaker 1: it's just a guy. Let me see, he looks like
Speaker 1: a guy, big king, big big bic. Okay, he said,
Speaker 1: ain't she like fifty? Why she got her to out?
Speaker 3: What's wrong with some fifty year old titties being out? Like?
Speaker 3: I'm confused. I'm confused.
Speaker 2: Her titties look great, she looks excellent, and she feels
Speaker 2: confident in her body. And what is she supposed to do?
Speaker 2: Not get older and not love herself anymore? Not just
Speaker 2: be yourself? Whatever?
Speaker 3: That looks like that's annoying because let me trust.
Speaker 2: And believe if these titties stay sitting up at fifty
Speaker 2: y'all might see you.
Speaker 1: I'm not putting my titty. That's not my brand, Like,
Speaker 1: that's not on brand for me. Like I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: be naked on the internet ever, right, But if there's
Speaker 1: two things with that, right, because I have made comments
Speaker 1: about people just blanket statements like if you got to
Speaker 1: wake up and put your ass on the internet and
Speaker 1: then go work and a call, go sit on there
Speaker 1: all day long on the call center, like that's something shit.
Speaker 1: It's just like every day. Nobody want to see your
Speaker 1: ass every foll Maybe do, maybe some people do want
Speaker 1: to see your ass every day, but me in particular,
Speaker 1: Like I'm really going to unfollow you if I see
Speaker 1: your ass.
Speaker 2: To my very first earthquake on my very first day here,
Speaker 2: that's scary.
Speaker 1: I saw it screen shaking too. I started screenshaking, Yo.
Speaker 3: That's scared the ship out of me. I want to go.
Speaker 1: There's a theory that California and New York will one
Speaker 1: day be detached from the rest of America because of
Speaker 1: things like that earthquakes and being below sea level and yeah,
Speaker 1: y'all motherfuckers might float away. Yo.
Speaker 2: My mouth is I want to go hanging open. I've
Speaker 2: never felt anything like that before.
Speaker 1: You never felt like a little quake before in South Carolina,
Speaker 1: I have not like that, not like what that just was.
Speaker 1: I heard an alarm going off. Yeah yeah girl, m
Speaker 1: m mm hmm. Girls up, So I could go back
Speaker 1: to the airport. Look, but back to back to the episode.
Speaker 1: So another comment says she she's suddenly too old to
Speaker 1: be posting thirst traps. But when women in their twenties
Speaker 1: post them, they are called attention seeking whores. Just say
Speaker 1: you believe you have the rights of police women. Just
Speaker 1: say you are narcissist. You are narcissistic enough to believe
Speaker 1: this woman was performing for the male gaze. That could
Speaker 1: be a thing. And another guy says this internet had
Speaker 1: The Internet has destroyed everything elegant about women. Nobody ever
Speaker 1: criticizes men. I mean only thing men really get criticized
Speaker 1: by being broke. That's about it. They could do whatever
Speaker 1: else they right, Yeah, because depending on how much money
Speaker 1: you have, like you can get away with whatever. But
Speaker 1: for women it don't matter. Like you got too much money,
Speaker 1: oh bitch, don't nobody give a fuck about your degree
Speaker 1: or your money.
Speaker 4: Fuck you bitch, you.
Speaker 1: Don't have no money.
Speaker 3: Oh you project ho, get off the project.
Speaker 1: I don't know what y'all want. I don't know what
Speaker 1: y'all want, but get off of us. And Kirk Franklin
Speaker 1: okay said get the.
Speaker 3: Fuck up off of it. Yeah, Kirk.
Speaker 1: Kirk Franklin was just on Cam Newton's podcast this week,
Speaker 1: and you know, he was talking about how marriage has
Speaker 1: been weaponized in Western civilization because here Tracy Ellis Ross
Speaker 1: is an example. She's a fifty year old woman with
Speaker 1: no children, has never been wed. She's attached to a
Speaker 1: couple men, you know, throughout years for fifty like a
Speaker 1: couple guys maybe, and you know she's being shamed for
Speaker 1: having never been married and having never had children. Kirk
Speaker 1: Franklin was talking to Cam Newton about this and he
Speaker 1: did say marriage is a necessary distraction. I remember t
Speaker 1: I was saying how his marriage was a distraction. TI.
Speaker 1: You are where you are because of the energy of
Speaker 1: time in Let's be very fucking clear. So when y'all men,
Speaker 1: you know, you're trying to figure out, okay, what what
Speaker 1: what is? What do men get out of marriage? Everything?
Speaker 1: You get everything out of marriage? Everything? Okay, So when
Speaker 1: you're trying to take your life to the next level.
Speaker 1: Consider getting a wife. How about that? So it is
Speaker 1: a necessary distraction, is what he's saying. A lot of jobs,
Speaker 1: a lot of positions. People don't even want to see
Speaker 1: y'all ass single as a man, Like where's your wife?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: You could be the preacher of a church.
Speaker 1: Well, now they got their husbands up.
Speaker 3: That's what he That's what he said.
Speaker 2: He was like, you can't be in ministry without a partner,
Speaker 2: like they'd be wanting you to be.
Speaker 1: Well they up there what they partner? It's for real now,
Speaker 1: So I mean that's also different. You know, I don't
Speaker 1: think nobody wants to see a single CEO of a company,
Speaker 1: a single president president, like like, where's your wife?
Speaker 5: Okay?
Speaker 1: Because with good women comes wisdom, right, So it's not
Speaker 1: a bad thing. Ever, I don't know. It just seems
Speaker 1: like in the black community, like we don't grasp that
Speaker 1: the men don't grass It's not that women don't women
Speaker 1: want to be single. Is that men don't want to
Speaker 1: be married?
Speaker 4: For real?
Speaker 1: A lot of them don't.
Speaker 3: Baby, I just pissed my pants a little bit.
Speaker 5: I just don't.
Speaker 3: I can't even folks. I got to change my draws
Speaker 3: when we get deal with.
Speaker 1: This and one other thing. Kirk Franklin also said he
Speaker 1: said being married is not a prerequisite for God's hand men, Like,
Speaker 1: just because you don't get married, that doesn't mean you're
Speaker 1: not going to be successful. This is I'm talking about
Speaker 1: for women because they act like we can't do nothing
Speaker 1: great without a man next to us, and actually, to me,
Speaker 1: women do pretty well without without a husband. I can't
Speaker 1: say the same for men and not having a wife. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like y'all don't even know how to wash your clothes
Speaker 1: half the time or even wash your.
Speaker 2: Draw They haveing a thousand dollars suit and they had
Speaker 2: like a little joy.
Speaker 5: Yo.
Speaker 1: Was that your No? That was Priscilla also telling me
Speaker 1: how nigga she was at a dude's house and he
Speaker 1: got up off the couch and had ship on the
Speaker 1: back of his uh his tink top like the tink
Speaker 1: top mussel crack his ask or had like a little skinny.
Speaker 3: I know y'all feel that. I know y'all feel that
Speaker 3: in y'all ass Hey, y'att to be she and she
Speaker 3: asked it in a thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: Suit period, So if anything, get a wife so you
Speaker 1: can get your hygiene up.
Speaker 3: How about that?
Speaker 1: I don't know, but some of these women be nasty
Speaker 1: as hell. Okay, I've seen and they go together.
Speaker 3: Everything.
Speaker 1: Just look anyway, listen, Mike. While I was setting up
Speaker 1: well a couple of hours before, right after we got
Speaker 1: off our meeting earlier, I'm like, why the fuck am
Speaker 1: I in here? Sweat and somebody air conditioning like froze up.
Speaker 1: So I had to call a maintenance And when a
Speaker 1: guy came, he was like, your place is so nice, man.
Speaker 1: We go on some people's apartments, you can't even move
Speaker 1: around in there, like how do you how does your
Speaker 1: brain work? And clutter, like.
Speaker 3: When people just be hoarders and stacks it up big
Speaker 3: as they are.
Speaker 1: Tall hoarding too. I hoard mail and I I hoard
Speaker 1: uh like hair products and ship like that. So there
Speaker 1: are some things that I have a problem letting go.
Speaker 1: But like just having clutter all stamped.
Speaker 2: Up on the side of the wall because you are tall,
Speaker 2: that's the next level where you can't there's only all
Speaker 2: like a room to walk through.
Speaker 3: That's next level.
Speaker 1: My second bedroom is full of bullshit, and I keep
Speaker 1: the door closed because if I open it, my brain
Speaker 1: is going to automatically.
Speaker 3: Get too.
Speaker 1: Get y'all life together, and get y'all shit in order. Anyway, y'all.
Speaker 1: So this week we have some beautiful young women on
Speaker 1: We talked back this week, and we just want to
Speaker 1: We want to get their opinion on life and living
Speaker 1: and politics and all all the things like nobody ever
Speaker 1: thinks about young people and what they.
Speaker 3: What they care about.
Speaker 1: You know, I remember feeling not having Yeah, I remember
Speaker 1: feeling like I don't have a voice. Even little little
Speaker 1: kids have something to say, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So we want to get their opinion on a state
Speaker 1: of the world and just see how they live and
Speaker 1: what they got going, and we getting up in their
Speaker 1: business today, y'all. So stay tuned and we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: And I got to go clean my drawers. I'll be
Speaker 2: back in a second, all right, y'all. So I came
Speaker 2: up with this idea because me and Aja we sit
Speaker 2: and talk with y'all. We've been talking with y'all for years,
Speaker 2: and it's always from a perspective of a thirty something
Speaker 2: and a forty something.
Speaker 1: Bitch. Don't play on me very clear. I'm forty and
Speaker 1: Tammy's older than means okay, so.
Speaker 3: They say, I don't know how true that is.
Speaker 2: So I wanted to bring on some younger women so
Speaker 2: we can have a conversation with them about love and
Speaker 2: life and their thoughts on things like politics and all
Speaker 2: the things that they may have a different perspective than
Speaker 2: we have right now as older women. So thank you
Speaker 2: Mahogany and Naira for joining us on we time back.
Speaker 3: I appreciate you, all right.
Speaker 2: So these are my girls, These are my babies. This
Speaker 2: is my best friend's niece, and this is one of
Speaker 2: my clients and friends, Octavia's young daughter Mahogany. So I
Speaker 2: reached out to them and I was like, would y'all
Speaker 2: be willing to join us and talk about y'all life?
Speaker 2: And I thought they were gonna be nervous, but both
Speaker 2: of them was like, okay.
Speaker 1: Let's sprint on the mic. Though I don't know about
Speaker 1: that project.
Speaker 2: All right, so let's get into it now. We're gonna
Speaker 2: start with you tell everybody who you are.
Speaker 3: You know what you can do? Tell lets your name
Speaker 3: and describe yourself in three words.
Speaker 1: Girl, this is a whole job. And if you go ahead,
Speaker 1: all right.
Speaker 4: My name is Jenirah. I'm from Youngstown, Ohio, and three
Speaker 4: words to describe me would be laid back, go get
Speaker 4: her period? And why am I? Why do I have
Speaker 4: no words to give you a third word? I got
Speaker 4: a third word. I got a third word, dependable.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a good one.
Speaker 3: What about you, Mahogany.
Speaker 6: My name is Mahogany Ribbons. I'm Charlie and I'm eighteen,
Speaker 6: and three words to describe me will probably be charismatic, intriguing,
Speaker 6: and optimistic.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's riz right.
Speaker 1: Okay, So we're starting with we're starting with starting with dating?
Speaker 1: Or are we starting with politics?
Speaker 3: We're talking.
Speaker 2: I want to start with y'all goals, like I want
Speaker 2: to know a little bit about before we get into
Speaker 2: like the men and the conversations about love, which I
Speaker 2: really want to talk about. I just want to know, like,
Speaker 2: what are some of your goals as young women? Well,
Speaker 2: right now, I want to work on getting a car.
Speaker 2: I want to get my own car. And I'm in
Speaker 2: school right now, so basically that's just my main goal
Speaker 2: for right now.
Speaker 3: But so are you still in high school? Are you
Speaker 3: starting college?
Speaker 6: I'm starting college now. I just graduated actually at June tenth.
Speaker 3: Okay, congratulations, thank you.
Speaker 6: Yay, y'all graduated from Maley Creek High School and I'll
Speaker 6: go to Central pet and I'm taking a few classes there.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what's your what you major in finance?
Speaker 2: Okay, that's a good and they needs money, so that's
Speaker 2: a good.
Speaker 3: And what about you?
Speaker 4: I'm twenty and I just graduated from cosmetology school last October. Congratulations,
Speaker 4: thank you.
Speaker 3: Where did you go to school?
Speaker 4: I went to school at Charlotte. That's okay, girl. So
Speaker 4: a few of my goals is to just have a
Speaker 4: steady clientel, be booked out for months, and once I
Speaker 4: get that clientele, I want to eventually like move from
Speaker 4: behind the chair. And I want to get more into
Speaker 4: like retail. I want to get more into like the
Speaker 4: real estate part. I want to open soon suites.
Speaker 1: Yes there, that's that's lovely, ladies.
Speaker 2: Okay, now that we know, I was just making sure
Speaker 2: y'all had some because it was import that y'all have goals.
Speaker 1: Because I feel like I didn't have any graduating from
Speaker 1: high school. I have no major goals. I know I
Speaker 1: wanted to go to college, I did not finish my degree,
Speaker 1: and I didn't have like I'm impressed because I didn't
Speaker 1: know what the hell I wanted to do come out
Speaker 1: of high school.
Speaker 2: I think we live in a time now where entrepreneurship
Speaker 2: been more pushed, and like, get into your bag has
Speaker 2: been more push than when we was eighteen years old.
Speaker 2: When I came out of school, I was.
Speaker 3: Like, I wanted some new lip blows and I want
Speaker 3: my hair. So I'm very proud of y'all.
Speaker 2: I definitely want us because we talk about a lot
Speaker 2: about relationships on this show, so I definitely wanted to
Speaker 2: get into your relationships as young women, you know, because I.
Speaker 3: Know y'all got little things going on, and.
Speaker 2: So hand on, I wrote down some questions. Do y'all
Speaker 2: have boyfriends?
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I don't have a boyfriend.
Speaker 3: You don't have a boyfriend. What about you?
Speaker 4: I had a boyfriend, You had a boyfriend?
Speaker 3: How long you been with your boyfriend?
Speaker 4: It's gonna be a year in October?
Speaker 3: You would love he love?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 1: You bet? It's it's some wax now, you bet it
Speaker 1: say it right?
Speaker 3: So why are you single?
Speaker 5: Why am I single? I don't know.
Speaker 7: It's like I don't think that the boys who be
Speaker 7: coming for me and I don't really chase, so I
Speaker 7: usually just wait.
Speaker 6: And the people who be coming for me, they don't
Speaker 6: really live up to the standard that I won't like
Speaker 6: a lot of them. They don't even have a car,
Speaker 6: and I don't have a car either, So if we
Speaker 6: both don't have cars, I don't think that's gonna work out.
Speaker 5: Somebody gotta meet somebody in the middle, like I can.
Speaker 3: So basically, you just want someone who's focused.
Speaker 2: You're focused on your goals, and you want someone who
Speaker 2: has their own goals before you.
Speaker 6: Or at least a car, at least a car, or
Speaker 6: at least the money to give me an uber around like.
Speaker 7: That.
Speaker 6: I could do that, but a lot of times that's
Speaker 6: just not what be going on, Like their heads just
Speaker 6: be everywhere else.
Speaker 1: So I think the young girls usually always have a
Speaker 1: car before the young young guys, So it's always somebody
Speaker 1: driving somebody's daughter car somewhere.
Speaker 2: But don't do you feel like that's a hard expectation
Speaker 2: for an eighteen year old boy.
Speaker 6: He's just a I do, But I mean, I just
Speaker 6: want to get myself to get the first, Like, I
Speaker 6: don't think that I can deal with somebody else not
Speaker 6: having no car. I mean, I feel like, because if
Speaker 6: you're eighteen, Like honestly, like you guys just have to
Speaker 6: start getting your life together.
Speaker 7: Like at this point you have to start doing something.
Speaker 6: I mean, I could see if you offering me like
Speaker 6: uber money or something, but you're not.
Speaker 5: Like a lot of just don't say you're.
Speaker 3: Not doing it.
Speaker 1: So do you have a driver's license? Because I realize
Speaker 1: a lot of the young boys don't even have a license.
Speaker 1: I'm not even interested in getting one.
Speaker 7: Y'all can't be doing that. Y'all have to step up, like,
Speaker 7: oh my gosh, I can't.
Speaker 1: Never been issued a license. And half of them wonna
Speaker 1: be thirty when no drive is licensed.
Speaker 3: Yes, the same they're gonna have licenses. So let me
Speaker 3: ask you this. You say you're in love, Well, what
Speaker 3: does it mean to be in love? In your opinion?
Speaker 4: So to me, it's like I don't want to stay home,
Speaker 4: but like you know, it's like a safe space for you.
Speaker 4: It's like that's who you run to when like you're
Speaker 4: you just going through anything. You know, it's like a
Speaker 4: comfort for you, Like it's I don't know, like it's
Speaker 4: just like it's a feeling you have, like you just
Speaker 4: feel so secure, you feel wanted, you feel loved, all
Speaker 4: of the things that like make you feel cozy inside.
Speaker 2: So when you think of love is it's more about
Speaker 2: how it makes you feel or how you want to
Speaker 2: give love too.
Speaker 3: Because I know you didn't mention.
Speaker 4: You asked me what is it like to be?
Speaker 3: What has loved me to you? But you didn't say
Speaker 3: anything about No?
Speaker 1: Are you love right?
Speaker 3: Are you? Are you giving love to this person?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 4: Yes I am. Man.
Speaker 3: In what ways? Did you say it's hot?
Speaker 6: It's a little toasted, just a little bit, just a
Speaker 6: little bit, just a little toasty, you know, go ahead,
Speaker 6: But yes.
Speaker 4: I feel like I feel like in this generation and
Speaker 4: like not even in generation, but like this on social media,
Speaker 4: Like I feel like we put out that like men
Speaker 4: are like supposed to do all of this and like
Speaker 4: girls are supposed to do nothing in return, and I
Speaker 4: feel like that's not true. Like I feel like everything
Speaker 4: that my boyfriend does for me, and like everything that
Speaker 4: I want him to do for me, I should be
Speaker 4: able to reciprocate, and like also I do do that
Speaker 4: for him. So I feel like, because like fifty.
Speaker 3: That's good. I'm glad to hear that.
Speaker 1: I think some of the conversations we see online are
Speaker 1: also from older people. Sometimes it's not from the younger
Speaker 1: person perspective, because you guys are building. So when you
Speaker 1: see older women online talking about relationships and what you
Speaker 1: know they require and and they're hard stops, it's because
Speaker 1: you expect this man to be in a certain position.
Speaker 1: At this point, y'all are together. You're building two young people.
Speaker 1: Like it's given that he might not have a car. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's given that y'all gonna have to do fifty to fifty.
Speaker 1: But these conversations between adult women is just a little
Speaker 1: bit different because we have higher expectations. I think I
Speaker 1: always wanted to live a new set.
Speaker 2: I think you see adult conversations because that's your algorithm, right.
Speaker 2: We ain't got no young like the young conversations. I'm
Speaker 2: sure they haven't them.
Speaker 3: We're just not seeing it because they're not directly.
Speaker 1: And y'all don't be talking like, no, we just don't see.
Speaker 1: My niece don't talk, she whispers.
Speaker 3: So I have another question. What are your thoughts on marriage?
Speaker 3: How do you feel about marriage?
Speaker 2: Do you feel like that's something that you would want
Speaker 2: in the future or you feel like marriage is an
Speaker 2: idea of the past, Like is it something that.
Speaker 3: You require or you could just be with someone like
Speaker 3: is your boyfriend forever? What do you think.
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna say that I would be with someone
Speaker 4: from my boyfriend forever. But like right now, in this
Speaker 4: day and age, as a twenty year old, I'm not
Speaker 4: dating to marry. Maybe like a little later in my
Speaker 4: life I would be dating to marry, but right now, no,
Speaker 4: But I do want to get married at some point
Speaker 4: in my later days. I just feel like right now,
Speaker 4: like I'm young, like I don't want to be like
Speaker 4: I'm in a committed relationship, like it's definitely committed, but
Speaker 4: like marriage is like full on commitment. You know, I'll
Speaker 4: start everything that everything comes together as one, and you know,
Speaker 4: it's just like I'm not against it. I can see
Speaker 4: any young people getting married on TikTok at like twenty
Speaker 4: like I been thinking it's cute, but it's not for me.
Speaker 4: At twenty it's not for me.
Speaker 3: But alright, so but you would get married.
Speaker 4: I do wanna get married in the future, And what's
Speaker 4: a good age. I feel like t like twenty seven,
Speaker 4: like my later twenties, early thirties, but I wouldn't want
Speaker 4: to get married no younger than that.
Speaker 1: And you think the person you went right now, y'all
Speaker 1: gonna make it to early late twenties, early thirties.
Speaker 4: My aumby asking me this all the time, and I
Speaker 4: don't feel like okay, So I'm not oblivious to the
Speaker 4: fact that, like we're young, so like you know, like
Speaker 4: when you young, like relationships is like temporary, like you know,
Speaker 4: you don't even know everything that you like right now,
Speaker 4: like you you're growing and you outgrow stuff. So I'm
Speaker 4: not oblivious to the fact that, like, probably not, but
Speaker 4: I do, like I would love that, like you know,
Speaker 4: I'm not against it, like I I love my boyfriend again,
Speaker 4: like I would like to be able to grow with
Speaker 4: each other versus outgrowing each other. But I'm not like
Speaker 4: settling that.
Speaker 3: Like and what about you in Mahogany, how do you
Speaker 3: feel about marriage?
Speaker 6: I mean, I mean, just like women in my life
Speaker 6: are really married, so I don't even really have a
Speaker 6: good example about it.
Speaker 7: But marriage for me, like I don't, I don't really know.
Speaker 6: I mean my angle, like I want to get married
Speaker 6: at one point in my life, but I don't see
Speaker 6: that as like a real big goal for me because
Speaker 6: I feel like I'm my own person again. That's like unity.
Speaker 6: Like once you marry somebody, you just come as one.
Speaker 6: And I don't know, I just want to be my
Speaker 6: hogany right now.
Speaker 7: Yeah, but maybe like when I'm twenty eight, twenty eight.
Speaker 1: Yes, that when your birthday it just passed, Yeah, twenty
Speaker 1: ninth of July, Leo, that's Leo, right.
Speaker 6: I don't know, though, I feel like marriage ties people down,
Speaker 6: and you gotta accept a lot with marriage, like especially
Speaker 6: from what I've seen, like people put up with a
Speaker 6: lot just in the name of marriage, and I don't know,
Speaker 6: I couldn't deal with it.
Speaker 3: So yeah, that's fair.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why we gonna say.
Speaker 3: But I desire that though, you know, that's something you don't.
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't desire to grow old alone, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean some people are okay with that and there's
Speaker 2: nothing wrong with it, But me, what about you is?
Speaker 1: I think the people who are okay with growing alone
Speaker 1: are the ones who have already had families, like, they
Speaker 1: already had kids, they have probably already been married. Because
Speaker 1: if you speak to a divorcee like a woman I
Speaker 1: don't know, forty to fifty, they do not desire to
Speaker 1: be married ever again. Nor they're not looking forward anyway,
Speaker 1: and I think because we haven't actually done things, you know,
Speaker 1: it might look lit, but even just cohabitating, as I
Speaker 1: spoke about last week, Okay, on last week's episode, it
Speaker 1: is fucking hard. So I went mahogany. When like having
Speaker 1: to split yourself in half? You know you want to.
Speaker 1: I like to say I like to be single in
Speaker 1: a relationship, which could be very problematic, problematic for most people,
Speaker 1: but that's really how I feel, and not because I
Speaker 1: want to be able to do what I want to
Speaker 1: do outside of this relationship. I just want to make
Speaker 1: sure I can maintain my own independence within a union.
Speaker 1: And when you marry, I feel like you sometimes lose
Speaker 1: yourself women oftentimes I don't think men consider that, and
Speaker 1: that's that could be our perception, but we do end
Speaker 1: up giving up a lot to maintain relationships, that's true.
Speaker 2: What are your what are your thoughts on motherhood? Like,
Speaker 2: how do you feel about motherhood?
Speaker 6: I think motherhood is very significant a persius life. I
Speaker 6: think that everybody needs parenthood actually, like I think everybody
Speaker 6: needs both parents. But I feel like you could raise
Speaker 6: a daughter without her father, so motherhood is definitely important.
Speaker 6: Like what about a son though, no, you a son
Speaker 6: need his daddy, like to show to display what a
Speaker 6: man's supposed to be like because because a lot of people,
Speaker 6: a lot of my friends personally, they're like really misguided
Speaker 6: because they don't have a father figure in their life,
Speaker 6: but they have their mother. They see their mom struggling
Speaker 6: and stuff, so they think it's okay for a woman
Speaker 6: to be out here struggling. Like they think that's what
Speaker 6: y'are supposed to do. But it's not like people need
Speaker 6: they das.
Speaker 2: But motherhood is very important, Like you don't do you think?
Speaker 2: So you said, like girl, like you can raise a
Speaker 2: girl without a father. Why do you feel like a
Speaker 2: girl doesn't need a father?
Speaker 6: Because I mean even though even though she do, but
Speaker 6: it's like nine times I tend she's gonna learn how
Speaker 6: to do most of the stuff for her by herself
Speaker 6: because like I don't know, it's just a woman thing,
Speaker 6: Like you're gonna learn how to take care of we're smarter, yeah, yeah, like.
Speaker 1: Prone.
Speaker 2: So I don't know, Yeah, I don't know if that's it.
Speaker 2: I think it's just that that's what we've seen. We've
Speaker 2: seen women do it on their own. We've seen women
Speaker 2: raise women to be independent, which is a word I
Speaker 2: personally hate.
Speaker 3: I don't I don't subscribe to.
Speaker 2: No other race of women is like strong, strong Asian
Speaker 2: women or strong White women.
Speaker 3: It's just strong Black women.
Speaker 2: We've adopted this idea that we are supposed to be
Speaker 2: strong and independent when we really are supposed to be
Speaker 2: a unit and rely on our male counterpart. So so
Speaker 2: I understand why you would feel that way, Like where
Speaker 2: you see women doing it by theirselves, so you feel
Speaker 2: like a woman can raise a girl to be fine
Speaker 2: without a father.
Speaker 3: But we need fathers.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, especially as young women. When you start dating, you
Speaker 1: need to know what as a woman, you need to
Speaker 1: know what a good man looks like. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, And this is why I always talk to
Speaker 1: men if they have a daughter. You're talking all this
Speaker 1: shit about women. Your daughter's gonna break your heart one
Speaker 1: day because you're gonna run into a nigga like you,
Speaker 1: So you better be being the best dad possible to
Speaker 1: your daughter. So girls need dads too, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I probably wouldn't have went through half the shit.
Speaker 1: My dad wasn't absent, but he just doesn't talk much.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying like they my parents weren't.
Speaker 1: They got divorced, but he didn't talk much, so it's
Speaker 1: not like I could go to him for advice anyway,
Speaker 1: So I don't know. And when I did ask for advice,
Speaker 1: it was to be by yourself, was the advice from
Speaker 1: my daddy.
Speaker 6: Although he's not present with me, he tells me all
Speaker 6: the time. He's like, he just shows me how to
Speaker 6: love myself. But I feel like my mom, she shows
Speaker 6: me how to love the world.
Speaker 5: So, yeah, I hear what you're saying.
Speaker 3: That's a good balance.
Speaker 2: But I do think it's important for our days to
Speaker 2: help us understand.
Speaker 3: How to love men, you know, and not just them
Speaker 3: you know. Like I guess that's the first.
Speaker 2: Example of how to love a man is with your father.
Speaker 2: But if he ain't around, then what.
Speaker 3: Do you do?
Speaker 1: You be looking for daddy and niggas And that's a problem,
Speaker 1: Like you you could pick your daddy, but you can't
Speaker 1: choose your father, right right, that's crazy.
Speaker 2: What do you feel about our generation, me and AJ
Speaker 2: and your moms and aunties, Like what do y'all feel
Speaker 2: like we just don't understand, Like we just don't fucking get.
Speaker 3: This is I don't know.
Speaker 6: This is a really complicated topic actually, but it's mostly
Speaker 6: just social media, like the exposure of social media that
Speaker 6: the younger generation has caught on to, Like I don't
Speaker 6: think the older generation will ever understand that because y'all
Speaker 6: wasn't really there, like how much we are here at presently,
Speaker 6: and it's like we see so much and it's like we.
Speaker 5: Affected by so much. So I don't know.
Speaker 6: I think it's it morphed our minds differently than how
Speaker 6: it was for y'all growing up, especially while we developing,
Speaker 6: Like seeing stuff like that, I don't know. I don't
Speaker 6: think it's normal, but it's happening, Like in the world,
Speaker 6: it's very common.
Speaker 5: So so you.
Speaker 2: Just feel like the access to information that y'all got
Speaker 2: in your formative years was just more so y'all think
Speaker 2: y'all know more than us.
Speaker 5: No, it's not even that.
Speaker 6: It's not even that I feel like kids have been
Speaker 6: it's supposed to more explicit things like you're not supposed
Speaker 6: to be watching it as a kid, Like.
Speaker 5: It's just some things that.
Speaker 6: You was not supposed to see right now, but you
Speaker 6: got to see it and you can't unsee it, Yes,
Speaker 6: And it's like it traumatizes you and it affects you,
Speaker 6: like and controlling their emotions, like, this generation do not
Speaker 6: know how to control their emotions. Nobody do nobody know
Speaker 6: how to control their emotions.
Speaker 1: Adults don't either. Okay, there teaching us and we don't,
Speaker 1: and we just go about everything the wrong way because
Speaker 1: we're seeing the older generation doing well. Our generation, I
Speaker 1: feel like we had a we saw everything eighties babies,
Speaker 1: like from the change in music or how music is
Speaker 1: even played TV. Internet, like, we experienced all the things.
Speaker 2: And we also grew up during an epidemic. So during
Speaker 2: the eighties, a lot of our parents, a lot of
Speaker 2: our uncles aunties were addicted to drugs. So we were
Speaker 2: latch key kids a lot of us. We were home
Speaker 2: by ourselves oftentimes, and we got to expose to a
Speaker 2: lot of different things too. And I think the parents
Speaker 2: now are just have sheltered our thought. They sheltered you
Speaker 2: because of their experiences. They wanted to just keep you
Speaker 2: safe and keep you away from all of these things
Speaker 2: that we got to see. And in the midst of that,
Speaker 2: you were exposed to so much by looking at your
Speaker 2: tablet all the time.
Speaker 1: So yeah, because parents weren't parenting, like the internet was
Speaker 1: get where my phone at, give them the iPhone or
Speaker 1: given them tablet. They can't even go any place without
Speaker 1: the tablet.
Speaker 2: Because we were outside running the street until the street
Speaker 2: light came on. We were outside running around, and we
Speaker 2: might've been exposed to think exact way, but you were
Speaker 2: in the house being exposed to things all.
Speaker 3: Over the earth. So it's just a different experience. What
Speaker 3: about you?
Speaker 4: Going off of what you said, Like parents like seeing
Speaker 4: a lot, so they were like trying to shelter their
Speaker 4: kids from stuff. I feel like parents just don't understand that,
Speaker 4: Like it's certain stuff your kids have to learn on
Speaker 4: the like on their own. It's certain stuff they have
Speaker 4: to go through to get through. Like you can't preach
Speaker 4: to the choir to death and like expect them to
Speaker 4: just listen. Like, no, your kid's gonna want to see
Speaker 4: firsthand how stuff is gonna play out, how the result is,
Speaker 4: and like I feel like they don't understand that. We
Speaker 4: understand like what could happen, and we just want to
Speaker 4: see for ourselves. Like it's like I don't know, I
Speaker 4: get like that. Yeah, y'all have been around and like
Speaker 4: y'all see stuff around you've been around, You've seen it,
Speaker 4: you went through it. Like I get that, we get that,
Speaker 4: but it's like you can't shelter us, and like expect
Speaker 4: you vocally telling us something is like enough versus us
Speaker 4: physically seeing it firsthand on our own.
Speaker 2: M M.
Speaker 1: I agree. And what Mahogany said, I do expect our
Speaker 1: the younger generation to be smarter than the last one.
Speaker 1: Our parents probably can't accept that we might be smarter
Speaker 1: than them, but we're supposed to be so. I expect
Speaker 1: y'all because y'all have more access to more information at
Speaker 1: a younger age, you should be accelerated at this point
Speaker 1: with life. Sometimes. But what you just said about not
Speaker 1: letting them do the things, Yeah, and see, this is
Speaker 1: why some of my friends get mad at me. I'll
Speaker 1: be like, fuck black moments, just fucking with them, right
Speaker 1: because we were just y'all age doing all the dumb shit,
Speaker 1: experiencing the dumb shit. Like your parents can tell you whatever,
Speaker 1: but you still want to do what you want to
Speaker 1: do because you've got to experience it for yourself. Some
Speaker 1: people can learn from other people's mistakes, some things, certain
Speaker 1: things I'll look at other people say, I ain't never
Speaker 1: doing that shit. You ain't got to worry about it.
Speaker 1: I can learn certain things from other people, but I
Speaker 1: always did my dirt by myself, and my mama just
Speaker 1: thought all these people had this influence over me. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm the influence, I'm the problem. I'm the villain.
Speaker 1: But parents forget that they were young sometimes, so you
Speaker 1: put your child on a pedestal and you expect them
Speaker 1: to be better than you, hopefully right. You want them
Speaker 1: to be better than you, but they are also human,
Speaker 1: just human. They're gonna make mistakes, and you made all
Speaker 1: these mistakes. You forgot he was just doing this shit. Yes,
Speaker 1: you can't expect somebody what have the life experience to
Speaker 1: be able, you know, to make all the right decisions
Speaker 1: all the time. You will have to repeat yourself a lot.
Speaker 2: And then what you said, half the life experience even
Speaker 2: less than that, because I feel like the parents now
Speaker 2: are like very very sheltered of these kids, so they
Speaker 2: don't even get to experience nothing. I remember one time
Speaker 2: when my friends was like mad at her baby for
Speaker 2: not washing the clothes right, but never really gave her
Speaker 2: the instructions on how to do it.
Speaker 1: See, and I think I think being alive long enough
Speaker 1: when no children, we get to see like how things
Speaker 1: that you know from our childhood, what we would do
Speaker 1: with our kids, and then we also get to see
Speaker 1: other people parents, so that type of shit like clean
Speaker 1: your room.
Speaker 3: You never showed her how to do it, You just
Speaker 3: did it for her forever and then one day do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not how. It's not supposed to be like that.
Speaker 3: So that makes perfect sense what you're just saying.
Speaker 1: All right, she they's smart.
Speaker 3: I told you, where do you see yourself in ten years?
Speaker 6: Ten years, I'll be getting married and I'll be finishing
Speaker 6: up my degree and I have my own house.
Speaker 7: I'm probably not gonna have no baby, but in me
Speaker 7: and my husband, we're gonna.
Speaker 5: Go all vacation.
Speaker 1: That's all.
Speaker 5: Whatever I do.
Speaker 3: Yeah, what about you?
Speaker 1: That sounds good?
Speaker 3: Sound good?
Speaker 1: Life? Don't be like that though, Yeah they can.
Speaker 6: Oh no, I'm gonna make sure I get that. I
Speaker 6: deserve that, so I'm getting that cool.
Speaker 3: What about you now?
Speaker 4: Ten years from now, I see myself like move slowly
Speaker 4: moving from behind the chair like I probably wouldn't be
Speaker 4: fully but just about just like a toe left behind
Speaker 4: a chair, and I feel like I would be more
Speaker 4: stable than I am in my twenties. Definitely, I'm not
Speaker 4: gonna say that I'm gonna have everything put together because
Speaker 4: I feel like we look at thirty and we light dang,
Speaker 4: that's old to.
Speaker 6: Hell, but like you're gonna be thirty and that ten
Speaker 6: years y'all disrespectful.
Speaker 3: Actually, no, man, I don't ring no belt.
Speaker 6: I feel like we look at thirty everbody like you
Speaker 6: feel met supposed to be put together.
Speaker 1: On damn auntie, I ain't your auntie.
Speaker 3: I feel just.
Speaker 4: Starting to figure that's what about to say. Like, I
Speaker 4: feel like I'm gonna be like slowly like figuring out
Speaker 4: what is right, like what it's gonna work for me
Speaker 4: and what's not working for me. And I feel like
Speaker 4: I'm in my mature era where I'm grown sexy. I'm thriving.
Speaker 1: Girl. You don't even get sexy til thirty. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I thought you meant like right now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just see myself like, you know, stable home,
Speaker 4: stable income, visiting countries, you know, just thriving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, how do y'all think the music now
Speaker 1: plays on relationships? Like what do y'all think about relationships?
Speaker 4: Like like literal like intimate really.
Speaker 1: Like yes, yes, or even just meeting people, you meeting guys,
Speaker 1: getting to know people, Like what do you How do
Speaker 1: y'all think the music plays a role in y'all dating life?
Speaker 1: Or does it?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I don't feel like it does. But what I will
Speaker 4: say is like we do not have that music that
Speaker 4: y'all have back and the day. We do not have
Speaker 4: that R and B y'all don't. We don't have that.
Speaker 4: We don't have that money you want. We don't have
Speaker 4: that jacked edge. We don't have that. So like we
Speaker 4: hear in songs all day about like niggas and like
Speaker 4: having a bunch of females and like living like quote
Speaker 4: unquote rock star lifestyle, and like no one's like really
Speaker 4: committing to relationships. No one's like putting themselves to that standard.
Speaker 4: So I guess like men are taking that and like
Speaker 4: running with it because I've like the females they be
Speaker 4: wanting a relationship like it be the man who don't.
Speaker 4: And that's the problem right there.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like the music is too violent?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: I see, I see you girl.
Speaker 6: I gets down with I gets down with that type
Speaker 6: of music.
Speaker 4: Sunday on the way here. Maybe I'm listening to it,
Speaker 4: but listen, it's not affecting me.
Speaker 3: So I feel like the men.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I separate as a girl, I separated, Okay, Okay,
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna say me. I feel like I don't
Speaker 4: allow music or like social media like really have that
Speaker 4: influence on me. But I know that there are people
Speaker 4: out here, younger adults, like my peers, that will like, girl,
Speaker 4: is this girl on Instagram right now posting with her
Speaker 4: gun every day? And it is just like, why are
Speaker 4: you doing that? Be a lady. But I definitely feel
Speaker 4: like the music has like molded that in them, like
Speaker 4: shooting my bang bang or something.
Speaker 3: I don't know. Do you agree just a little bit.
Speaker 6: I mean, I do think that the music don't got
Speaker 6: a little more violent over the years, especially with this
Speaker 6: gang culture y'all, Oh my god, and the people they
Speaker 6: so hard drugs, they think that they could kill anybody,
Speaker 6: do anything that anybody just be so mean. It's really
Speaker 6: a lot of anger in this music and they're putting
Speaker 6: out and I believe that it'd be like spirits in it,
Speaker 6: Like I believe in that.
Speaker 5: So I think what you're listening to.
Speaker 6: Is definitely like you need to be mindful of that
Speaker 6: because it's definitely a lot of chance going on in
Speaker 6: the background that you don't even know.
Speaker 1: Okay, come on, mahogumy see, it's the subliminals.
Speaker 6: Like nobody's really talking about that, and we just feeding
Speaker 6: into these young children. Like it's getting really scary nowadays.
Speaker 3: Like I agree, I agree, y'all hear that you.
Speaker 5: Do not play that soon. She heard curseword in the song.
Speaker 6: Turn it off, turn it off, turn it off, like
Speaker 6: because the growing up now they don't even be caring,
Speaker 6: because that's why you could control yourself now, like but
Speaker 6: back then, it's like they begin mom worked, brainwashed, whatever
Speaker 6: you want to call it.
Speaker 5: Like you gotta check on these kids, y'all.
Speaker 3: So let me ask you this. Do you feel like
Speaker 3: the music is too sexual?
Speaker 4: Okay, I feel like y'all generation be trying to make
Speaker 4: it seem like y'all didn't have Trina, which she was
Speaker 4: popping it. So I don't feel like it's any different.
Speaker 4: I just feel like right now, it's more it's a
Speaker 4: lot of Yeah, it's more.
Speaker 1: We had a couple. We had a couple. Y'all have
Speaker 1: a lot of them right now.
Speaker 4: It's very very y'all had a lot of.
Speaker 3: Everything. It has just the same type of.
Speaker 6: Basically extremely sexual because sex sells, that's what it is.
Speaker 5: Sees a lot of.
Speaker 3: It.
Speaker 1: Okay, everybody ain't buying that shit either. Everybody ain't making
Speaker 1: money off sex either. They just doing the thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, sometimes it be like, you know, like cringe, like
Speaker 4: were clutching our pearls a little bit. But some of it,
Speaker 4: like y'all can't lie.
Speaker 6: Sexy Red is very catchy, like she she's.
Speaker 4: Doing her thing right now. But I do feel like
Speaker 4: it's definitely a little too much right now. It's it's
Speaker 4: it's a young girls.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like okay, like if you're twenty and above
Speaker 2: and you're listening to Sexy Red and you can, you know,
Speaker 2: distinguish art from reality, you know, but if you in
Speaker 2: the car with your four year old and she is
Speaker 2: like this is her you know where she's absorbing the
Speaker 2: most information and she's listening to Sexy Read, you know,
Speaker 2: this is what this is what she's learning how the
Speaker 2: world is.
Speaker 3: And so that's how it starts. And then like by
Speaker 3: the time she's twenty, what will the music be? You know,
Speaker 3: what will the music be? What will society be?
Speaker 1: If you know it's gonna be. It ain't even gonna
Speaker 1: be fuck my baby, Dad, It's gonna be fuck my baby.
Speaker 1: People already be rapping about playing bees and abortion like
Speaker 1: that shit is like cool.
Speaker 2: Right, So it's very scary. So I wanna do you
Speaker 2: have any more relationship questions?
Speaker 1: Because I shift, go ahead and shift it.
Speaker 5: So let's talk a.
Speaker 2: Little bit about politics because this is both of your
Speaker 2: first time voting.
Speaker 3: This next election. Correct, Yeah, so that's exciting.
Speaker 1: Are y'all registered?
Speaker 3: Are you registered? You're registered? How do y'all feel about
Speaker 3: this next election? Do y'all care? Do y'all feel like
Speaker 3: you're affected by it?
Speaker 6: Like I do care, and I feel like we affect it,
Speaker 6: especially as black women.
Speaker 7: And I'm going to be voting for Kamala this year,
Speaker 7: but it's only just.
Speaker 6: To avoid going into Agenda forty seven and Project twenty five.
Speaker 6: But I mean, I think that they both puppets and
Speaker 6: the government. I think that we need to be voting
Speaker 6: like year round. So like y'all need to be focusing
Speaker 6: on them mayors, them governors, them centers for y'all states,
Speaker 6: cause that's what we be making the laws, Like that's who
Speaker 6: passing on bills and stuff.
Speaker 5: So that's what we need to be focusing on.
Speaker 3: So your low collection. Okay, yeah, okay, I'm gonna hung me.
Speaker 1: What do you think it's smart?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I definitely. I'm definitely gonna vote this year.
Speaker 3: Is it important to you though?
Speaker 4: Yes, it is important. I feel like I feel like
Speaker 4: our generation kind of like I feel like that's where
Speaker 4: the disconnect is with the generations. Like I feel like
Speaker 4: y'all are more aware. I mean, of course, but y'all
Speaker 4: are more like aware, y'all know more about politics. I
Speaker 4: feel like the younger generation they don't really like feel
Speaker 4: like they get it. I feel like we understand voting,
Speaker 4: and like I feel like our generation isn't making it
Speaker 4: a priority. Like they don't feel like if they don't vote,
Speaker 4: then like what would that do? Just like one person
Speaker 4: I vote in but like.
Speaker 1: You know a lot of people in our generation feel
Speaker 1: the same way.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like it's like many people that have the same
Speaker 4: thought process, so like it's not one person I vote
Speaker 4: and it's all of all that's not voting, so like yeah,
Speaker 4: and then when the person that they wanted to get
Speaker 4: an office that they didn't vote for doesn't get an office,
Speaker 4: they like on Instagram or on social media looking at
Speaker 4: the world crazy and it's like you didn't like you
Speaker 4: have a choice, Like you have the right to vote,
Speaker 4: and if you didn't vote, then like you can't be
Speaker 4: mad that the outcome wasn't what you wanted.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I ain't gonna hold y'all.
Speaker 2: When I was eighteen, I wasn't very politically inclined. I
Speaker 2: didn't really care as much about politics. And I remember, y'all,
Speaker 2: I swear to god, I was it was election day
Speaker 2: and I was in the bed.
Speaker 3: Now I was home.
Speaker 2: I was home, and I was in the bed and
Speaker 2: I got hit in the back with a cane by
Speaker 2: my grandma.
Speaker 3: Get your ass up and go to the pole.
Speaker 5: She made me go to the pole and vote.
Speaker 2: And she really hit me like that, and that is
Speaker 2: what started my Like, damn, she carried as much. Let
Speaker 2: me get up and go participate in this process. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and that's how I got. I got beat to the pole.
Speaker 3: So I'm.
Speaker 1: To go to the poe, but get up and go vote.
Speaker 1: Did she have a conversation with you about the people
Speaker 1: who are running and that's who you're voting for? Did
Speaker 1: you know at eighteen.
Speaker 2: As I walked to the cause, it was the elementary
Speaker 2: school right up the street. I didn't even have to
Speaker 2: go that far to vote. She rode behind me with
Speaker 2: her fuck hover around, talking to me about why it
Speaker 2: was important for me to vote and who the candidates were,
Speaker 2: and I need to get my lazy black asses to
Speaker 2: do something with myself. So that was the conversation that
Speaker 2: happened with my grandmother, who's right here on my neck.
Speaker 3: I've missed her so.
Speaker 2: Much because she cared that much, and I think it's
Speaker 2: important for us to, you know, instill that in the
Speaker 2: younger people now. And I think like when Kamala had
Speaker 2: what was a Kamala I always say Kamala, Kamala Harris
Speaker 2: had Meg thee Stallion come on stage. Everybody said it
Speaker 2: was cringe, but that was in an effort to pull
Speaker 2: in the younger voters so they could start listening to
Speaker 2: the politics and not just be concerned just with Meg
Speaker 2: thee Stallion and sexy Red. Did y'all feel like that
Speaker 2: was a cringe moment for her to have a sexy Red?
Speaker 6: I think it was obvious. I think it was an
Speaker 6: obvious move. I think that anybody could see that from
Speaker 6: like a mile that you were trying to pull in
Speaker 6: a younger generation. Ain't nobody, No, ain't nobody over fifty
Speaker 6: listening to No Sex Red.
Speaker 2: But they already voting, you know, so the over fifty,
Speaker 2: they don't have to pull them in because they're already Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so yeah, because Trump Trump people gonna vote like like,
Speaker 2: I don't know, but do you feel like Trump's younger
Speaker 2: can't like the younger people who know?
Speaker 5: Yes, them too.
Speaker 6: It's like a whole family like like no, like the sister,
Speaker 6: the brothers, daddy's and mamas, y'all gotta get out there,
Speaker 6: like m hm, Trump is coming.
Speaker 7: Like.
Speaker 3: Trump is coming.
Speaker 5: In the Washington in the in Washington, d C.
Speaker 3: They went very January six.
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, that is bad. You've never seen nobody Biden
Speaker 5: doing that.
Speaker 2: No, nobody has scaled the wall for Obama.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I'm getting my thoughts to myself. But yeah,
Speaker 1: just do you make sure you know about everybody exactly
Speaker 1: before you make a decision or anything. Because we talk
Speaker 1: back does not endorse any political parties, okay, in particular,
Speaker 1: any people in particular. Okay, fyi, because everybody has different perception,
Speaker 1: which we talk about a lot. Okay, people perceive things differently.
Speaker 1: We can I could see one thing, you could see
Speaker 1: something else, and we can both interpret it two different ways.
Speaker 1: And that's really what we're dealing with a lot of things,
Speaker 1: which you know, religion and politics. It starts arguments a lot.
Speaker 1: So yeah, just be informed when you go do that vote,
Speaker 1: because I can remember the very first time I voted
Speaker 1: eighteen in college, Benedictte College. They told us to go
Speaker 1: vote Democrat. They told us who to vote for, right
Speaker 1: when nobody was informed for real, this is our first
Speaker 1: time voting. I remember one student and she might have
Speaker 1: been a senior at the time, and she was kind
Speaker 1: of like a like a little chunky girl, pretty girl,
Speaker 1: stuck up though, like she acts like a white girl,
Speaker 1: people would say. But I remember her standing up and
Speaker 1: this is the age, okay, standing up in the gym,
Speaker 1: and she was like, y'all don't have to vote for
Speaker 1: this person. Y'all can vote for that person, you know,
Speaker 1: telling the students you don't have to vote straight Democrat,
Speaker 1: you don't have to vote for this one particular person,
Speaker 1: just because the majority of the people at the school
Speaker 1: are telling you to do that same thing. I'm telling y'all,
Speaker 1: so be informed about everybody, So to go to the
Speaker 1: polls and vote straight Democratic never made sense to me, right,
Speaker 1: because these other there's gonna be other things on the
Speaker 1: ballot to also vote for, So you needn't know who's
Speaker 1: running for each of those things and what matters to you.
Speaker 1: So you vote based on policies, right, based on what
Speaker 1: you want for your future and who's the best person
Speaker 1: to give it to you. What do y'all think about
Speaker 1: the current state of America? Because y'all are young, Like
Speaker 1: I said, we grew up and we saw everything. We
Speaker 1: saw the world change, and to me, it's progressively gotten
Speaker 1: worse in the last couple of years in our lifetime.
Speaker 1: What do y'all think.
Speaker 4: The economy is in a downward spiral? Yeah, a fast
Speaker 4: time in real pace, in reural life.
Speaker 1: It's like.
Speaker 4: It's going to ship.
Speaker 3: Because why a pack of cheese six dollars?
Speaker 4: Girl, I went to the story yesterday and I got
Speaker 4: a juice and a chip. It was six dollars, Like
Speaker 4: that should have been three dollars back in the day.
Speaker 4: That's one fifty and fifty back.
Speaker 1: In your day. Y'all already got it back in the day.
Speaker 1: Imagine that seating up so fast, y'all got it back
Speaker 1: in the day when we were.
Speaker 3: When I was your age, bag of you could get
Speaker 3: a bag of.
Speaker 4: Chips, I know. And when I was running up there
Speaker 4: was fifty y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'all they had a dollar twenty five.
Speaker 2: All right, let me ask you this, speaking of your
Speaker 2: back in the day, if if you could have given
Speaker 2: your ten year old self advice about life right now,
Speaker 2: what would you say to her? What would you say
Speaker 2: to your ten year old self?
Speaker 4: Listen to yallama, Please.
Speaker 5: Listen to your mama.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, my mama don't got me out of
Speaker 6: so much stuff, like I should.
Speaker 5: Just listen to her like I should.
Speaker 1: So she does understand, So parents do understand. But she
Speaker 1: don't know everything because y'all don't tell everything.
Speaker 3: Because y'all don't share enough.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 1: We were trying to help y'all through the dumb bitch
Speaker 1: stages of life. This is gonna take us back to relationships,
Speaker 1: so you can bypass that stage, so you can make
Speaker 1: the best choices. Because what I want to tell you
Speaker 1: is make sure you keep all your grets to minimum.
Speaker 1: That's the best device. And maybe try to get a
Speaker 1: business loan instead of a student loan or some ship
Speaker 1: like that. So yeah, keep your regrets to a minimum,
Speaker 1: and mamas are going to help you because we already
Speaker 1: did the thing. Okay, it's nothing that I'm telling you
Speaker 1: not to do that I haven't done and already.
Speaker 3: And that's the biggest thing.
Speaker 2: Your mama always say everything you're thinking about doing, I
Speaker 2: already done that.
Speaker 1: Ain't nothing new under the sun.
Speaker 3: But there are new things there are. There are new
Speaker 3: things that mama.
Speaker 1: Y'all gay the kids already.
Speaker 6: I'm very yay o God.
Speaker 2: Y'all, I want you to plug yourselves, plug your social media,
Speaker 2: plug anything.
Speaker 1: No, we need dumb bitch stories. They're old enough, they
Speaker 1: got one. Listen. I stopped telling my niece giving her
Speaker 1: advice at a certain age because at that point I
Speaker 1: realized she had her own dumb bitch stories. So I
Speaker 1: don't need to tell you about my shit no more,
Speaker 1: because you already made some mistakes to learn from.
Speaker 2: So give me one, all right, So let me tell
Speaker 2: them what the dumbit story is so they can't understand
Speaker 2: they've never I don't think y'all listen to the show
Speaker 2: like that. So can you share a time where one
Speaker 2: of your boyfriends might have played you or done something
Speaker 2: that made you feel unhappy or just feel stupid.
Speaker 3: You got a story, everybody.
Speaker 4: I'm so scared to sell this story, y'all.
Speaker 6: It's not my worst story.
Speaker 5: But I don't know.
Speaker 7: I was talking to this dude and I got his
Speaker 7: initial on my nail.
Speaker 6: That was really a big step for me, okay, because
Speaker 6: I don't I don't do stuff like that ever in
Speaker 6: my life. So I did that, and he wouldn't even
Speaker 6: believe me, like he was not believing me, Like he
Speaker 6: barely was texting me back.
Speaker 5: Like y'all, it was just I mean, and you.
Speaker 3: Had to wait to get the nails done again. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like it was.
Speaker 5: It was really bad.
Speaker 6: Like I didn't even show like when I was taking
Speaker 6: pictures and stuff, I wouldn't show that nail.
Speaker 5: Like, I don't even know why he got it.
Speaker 1: I was so was it somebody were dating? No, So
Speaker 1: you think once you got the nail and then he
Speaker 1: kind of got kind offy, like maybe that you realize
Speaker 1: he ain't like you for real?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Most Oh, yeah, I knew he didn't like me because
Speaker 6: while you're not texting me back.
Speaker 3: Right after I got on my like you should be excited.
Speaker 5: He's telling me that you don't believe me.
Speaker 6: I'm one, Like, okay, yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: This, don't tattoo nigga face on your face. What's that
Speaker 1: with that generation tattooing a dude's face on your face.
Speaker 3: Tattoo on your faces?
Speaker 4: It is keep your face normal right now?
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't do that. Okay.
Speaker 2: I'm glad we're all in alignment that we're not taking
Speaker 2: any tattoos on our face.
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you. I'm so embarrassed because Hoggies was nothing.
Speaker 4: I don't even want to tell, y'alla, but it's the
Speaker 4: same space I'm gonna tell y'all. Okay. So I was
Speaker 4: talking to this boy, y'all. And okay, so he had
Speaker 4: an ex girlfriend and she had a kid, m and
Speaker 4: he would like lay faw the road to the key, y'all.
Speaker 4: But it wasn't his kid. Yeah, it was weird, but
Speaker 4: like I wouldn't like I didn't, I wasn't against Like,
Speaker 4: I can't tell you nothing because like you were already
Speaker 4: trying to be this kid father. Like what I'm gonna
Speaker 4: tell you, that's not your kid, nigga. Now you gotta
Speaker 4: stop seeing this kid. Like I just left along. So
Speaker 4: I pulled up. It was my graduation day, y'all, I
Speaker 4: would ever forget it. I just graduated, literally, I just graduated,
Speaker 4: and I went over there and I had my little
Speaker 4: brother in the car, and I had my friend, my
Speaker 4: homeboy in the car, y'all. And as soon as we
Speaker 4: put up, girl, some girl comes to the choir and
Speaker 4: she was like, you here to pick up such and such?
Speaker 1: What's y'all think? Happy? Y'all?
Speaker 3: Yeah, you said no.
Speaker 4: I said yes, because like, yes, that's.
Speaker 3: What I am.
Speaker 4: I am girl.
Speaker 1: She put your hand through the window.
Speaker 6: Oh girl, that girl fought mell.
Speaker 3: Just one question.
Speaker 1: She didn't want no clarity or nothing. That bitch is
Speaker 1: like on site, who you com here for? Girl?
Speaker 6: It was crazy because like I don't even know you. Yeah,
Speaker 6: so let me paint the picture because I was probably like,
Speaker 6: so you ain't know that was the ex girlfriend, no idea.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's funny, y'all. It's not. It's really funny. It
Speaker 4: wasn't funny at the time, but it was. It's funny now, y'all. Yes,
Speaker 4: that's the fake baby mama, y'all, So mind you it's
Speaker 4: no females in the car not then. So my little brother,
Speaker 4: he's in a passenger seat at the time, I'm eighteen.
Speaker 4: So my little brother he's sixteen. And when I was
Speaker 4: seventeen because my birthday didn't come out, I was seventeen,
Speaker 4: my brother fifteen. So then my friend is in the backseat, y'all,
Speaker 4: literally head out the window, seat belt on, car still on.
Speaker 4: My brother is on the phone. My mom like some
Speaker 4: girl trying to fight, no right, And in my head,
Speaker 4: I'm like, is she trying to fight not right? Or
Speaker 4: is she fighting not?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 6: Just stress?
Speaker 5: Somebody come quick?
Speaker 3: So lied in the car now stressed.
Speaker 4: I was stressed, very stressed.
Speaker 3: Seatbelt yes, no seatbelt off?
Speaker 6: Like this was supposed to be a pick up like
Speaker 6: like this was so I was so bum rushed, y'all, y'all,
Speaker 6: she could have told the world anything. I whooped that
Speaker 6: whole girl, Yes she did. I was not ready.
Speaker 1: But listen, you ain't a dumb bitch yet, no I was.
Speaker 1: Did you keep talking to the guy?
Speaker 4: I was the dummy, y'all? I kept talking to.
Speaker 1: Her later when she was gone.
Speaker 5: Why do you mess with her? That's what he gonna do.
Speaker 5: Non mess with the winner and the loser girl.
Speaker 4: He messed with the winner and the loser. Boom, because y'all,
Speaker 4: So what did he say, so okay. So at this
Speaker 4: point my mom then pulled up my homegirls and pulled
Speaker 4: up we like we have to whoop her, like we
Speaker 4: have to.
Speaker 3: So she was.
Speaker 4: Acting so scaredy she wouldn't come off the course anyways.
Speaker 4: So he was like blowing up my phone, like blowing
Speaker 4: me up, because she ended up saying like, well we
Speaker 4: can go here and we can fight, because I don't
Speaker 4: want to fight you at his house. So I had left,
Speaker 4: she had left, everybody left, and he was blowing me up,
Speaker 4: blowing me up like.
Speaker 7: She was here to talk to my mom.
Speaker 4: I was about to was like blowing me up, child,
Speaker 4: and I was so mad, Like I was so mad.
Speaker 4: I was not yees. So he has no kids, no no,
Speaker 4: that's what she said, no kids biologically, And I was
Speaker 4: just like give me her address. I don't want to
Speaker 4: hear anything else. Give me her address. And I remember
Speaker 4: like I wouldn't. I didn't talk to him for a
Speaker 4: few days, and my mom was like, girl, you so sad,
Speaker 4: Like just go talk to him, like go go hear
Speaker 4: him out, like go go see and like hear the
Speaker 4: full story and then like make a decision or whatever.
Speaker 4: And girl, I had went up, girl, And I didn't
Speaker 4: even go over there, but I had called him. We talked,
Speaker 4: and I don't know.
Speaker 5: Why I really believed she was there to see his mom.
Speaker 3: Like, I don't know why I believe that, y'all.
Speaker 1: I can so convincing, like like I went to the therapist.
Speaker 1: It was bad.
Speaker 4: And then a couple of weeks, like a couple of
Speaker 4: weeks later, like fast forward to my birthday, Like he
Speaker 4: was weird me on my birthday, y'all.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's a rap. You're playing with any woman's birthday,
Speaker 1: young or old. It's a rap.
Speaker 4: Are you crazy? Like what are you trying to do?
Speaker 4: Like ruin my life right now? And grew up eventually. Okay, wait,
Speaker 4: so let's let's start with that had all started. She
Speaker 4: had knew about me and everything because he posted me.
Speaker 4: I didn't post this man nothing, y'all. It was not me.
Speaker 4: You mad at me, and he posted me. So fast
Speaker 4: forward this man exactly. So fast forward to like a
Speaker 4: couple of weeks after this man had told me, like, girl,
Speaker 4: you're tripping. This is not a relationship, y'all. It could
Speaker 4: have been first work, it could have been Yes, that's
Speaker 4: my dumb, that's my dumb. History.
Speaker 3: That was a good one.
Speaker 1: I'm glad we can all laugh about it now because.
Speaker 4: Literally my mom just said, my mom is so messy.
Speaker 4: I love my mom, y'all.
Speaker 6: When I was younger, you know, hellod on, mom, she
Speaker 6: just sent me some messy stuff about them, And I
Speaker 6: was like, girl, I cannot wait to me and my
Speaker 6: friends jump her. I will never be over it. You
Speaker 6: still here, I will never be over it, yeah, Cause
Speaker 6: like so you never fought her again, no.
Speaker 4: Like I. And that was like like I literally did
Speaker 4: not know the girl. Like when I tell the story,
Speaker 4: it's like, dang, you ain't know what I was a girl.
Speaker 4: Hell no, Like I don't know her, Like she's older
Speaker 4: than me. She's like twenty one. I was seventeen.
Speaker 6: So it's like she a different, Like she's a different
Speaker 6: type of girl, like that we were not piers, Like
Speaker 6: we would never be in the same place.
Speaker 4: I never seen you before in my life, Like I
Speaker 4: don't know you. So yeah, like I didn't know her.
Speaker 4: And it's just like, girl, you like unprovoked, like you
Speaker 4: were very like I did nothing to you. I did
Speaker 4: not know who you were. I said nothing to you,
Speaker 4: said nothing about you, like you unprovokedly like snuck me
Speaker 4: in my car. Girl, Yes, me and my friends have
Speaker 4: to jump in.
Speaker 3: Well, don't fight her, move on.
Speaker 1: Because how your current man supposed to feel about you
Speaker 1: fighting over old nigga? I know it's the principle at
Speaker 1: this point, but girl, men don't see things that way.
Speaker 4: They don't already know. They don't.
Speaker 1: You're gonna walk around and get beat up again?
Speaker 2: Whoa, whoa, So don't go Yeah, she's twenty four years old.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't even give that.
Speaker 1: No, I had another baby, hurt and the guy so
Speaker 1: together they together.
Speaker 7: Oh, let them have that, Let them have that.
Speaker 2: You got your man, you love him? You were in Charlotte,
Speaker 2: because that's in Ohio. I'm assuming right they did. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be going out there with that. Stay bossing
Speaker 2: up and that's the best reviews.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, girl, make sure you should follow her so
Speaker 1: you can follow you back, so you can see.
Speaker 4: Right she's looking.
Speaker 3: She's all right.
Speaker 2: I have one more question before we get out of here,
Speaker 2: and I need a really creius answer from y'all, because
Speaker 2: all right, y'all, we in here sweating, it's hot as
Speaker 2: fucking here. I ain't gonna hold you why, y'all wear
Speaker 2: hoodies and a hundred I need a serious answer for
Speaker 2: that question. Why the fun do y'all have that ship on?
Speaker 2: I don't understand it any degrees?
Speaker 3: And y'all got on a hoodie.
Speaker 5: I don't do that. My little brothers do that.
Speaker 6: But I could tell you they stinking lazy.
Speaker 5: They don't want to do nothing else.
Speaker 6: They don't want to change their clothes, sofia to or.
Speaker 3: Bright ysphoria morphia, morphia.
Speaker 6: Yes, they be ascared about their body, so they be
Speaker 6: trying to pide it with on fat hoodies.
Speaker 3: Look at that damn that. I never thought about it.
Speaker 3: It might be like a comfort.
Speaker 4: Like a hug, right when you think of it that way?
Speaker 3: Is that what it is?
Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't wear that either, but I
Speaker 4: do be putting on a little hoodie with some shorts
Speaker 4: in the summertime sometimes, but not one hundred degrees, whether
Speaker 4: you know, just a little eighty.
Speaker 2: All right, y'all, plug your Instagram, plug your social media,
Speaker 2: all the things that you have now.
Speaker 3: Well, plug your hair business. Please do all the.
Speaker 4: Things, okay me First it's j Dot Jana j H
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Speaker 4: on the sleigh.
Speaker 6: Hey, all right, Well, my Instagram is just mahogany m
Speaker 6: A h A g O n E.
Speaker 5: Y y'all can go follow me over hair.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you grown me, do not follow neither
Speaker 2: one of these ladies. I slap the shit out.
Speaker 3: Of you, period.
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