WEBVTT - THE POWERFUL CUP MANEUVER 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:01.320 Hello, Hello, how are you? 0:00:02.000 --> 0:00:02.400 How are you? 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:04.440 What's your life like? 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:07.360 Uh? Right now, it's pretty good. 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:10.200 Yeah. What's what's good about? 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:11.120 It's real life. 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:12.840 Uh. 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:15.120 I have a new job that I really like. 0:00:20.160 --> 0:00:23.560 It says here, did you want to talk about shipping 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:24.080 in a cup? 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:37.320 Yes? So I was working for a company. I won't 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:39.040 say their name, but their very big company. 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:41.400 Says here, you worked at Ama, and I was. 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:50.040 All right, Yeah, that was the company. I was a 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:56.160 delivery driver there in Brooklyn, New York, and I had 0:00:56.360 --> 0:01:02.200 just finished eating McDonald's. I was about maybe three or 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:08.280 four minutes into my drive out of McDonald's when the 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:16.160 bubbly shit sensation came on. And I was in an 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:18.720 area where there was nowhere to go. I was too 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:22.480 far from the McDonald's. I was in an apartment complex, 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:28.000 and I had no other option but to take the 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:35.320 McDonald's cup and fill it to the brim with hot diarrhea. 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:40.320 Why didn't you park and go inside the McDonald's. 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.320 I was too far from the McDonald's I had left. 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:49.720 I was maybe four or five minutes away. I attempted 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:53.400 to make a delivery, and then as I was walking 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:56.040 to the apartment building, I felt it and I panicked. 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:59.360 I ran back to the truck, and it was either 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.480 shit in the coup or shit in my pants. 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:04.640 Let me ask you a question, and I want you 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:08.400 to answer this honestly to your feelings. Sure, you know, 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:10.720 there's the whole thing with Amazon about like people are 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:13.000 working in the warehouses and like like they have to 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:17.320 pee in bottles so bad. And I want to know, 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:19.880 is you sitting in a McDonald's cup in your truck? 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:25.280 Is that a statement on capitalism? Or is that is 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:28.840 that just you shitting in McDonald's cup in your truck. 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:36.320 Well, all right, so I don't blame McDonald I would say, 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:39.280 I wouldn't blame McDonald's more than I blame Amazon. I mean, like, 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:43.239 what what option could they give me as a driver? 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:45.239 Now I'm not I never worked in the warehouse, so 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:49.520 I can't vouch for the warehouse people. But in a truck, 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:54.320 there's no clear cut option. Like I could go to 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.960 I could try to be preemptive and poop before I 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:03.200 get in the truck, you know, or but sometimes it's 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:04.480 just do or die, you know. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:07.760 So it's a statement on capitalism, but not on behalf 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:10.799 of Amazon. It's on behalf of McDonald's there to blame 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:12.480 for giving you the diarrhea in the. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:18.000 Now, well, I don't want to blame McDonald's either, because 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.000 I knew what I was getting into you. I mean, 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:22.560 I didn't know it was going to come on that quick. 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:25.000 But the diarrhea is you know, you don't make it. 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:26.720 You don't make responsibility. 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.760 Yes, you don't make the decision to go to McDonald's 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:32.880 and be like, this is a healthy life choice. You know. 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:34.920 It was just I was hungry. I knew I was 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:36.240 going to pay for it at some point. I just 0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:37.680 didn't know it was going to be that quick. 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:43.680 Okay, final question, how much of the diary? This is 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:45.200 another thing I need to be honest with you about it. 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:51.600 How much of the diarrhea? What percentage got into the cup? 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:57.000 All of it? I I it was. It was cup 0:03:57.080 --> 0:04:00.280 to asshole like I didn't. It was no room for 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:02.640 error there. My whole worry was that I was going 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:05.840 to overfill the cup, and luckily I didn't. But there 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:10.160 was no cleanup. You know, I'm very I'm very good 0:04:10.880 --> 0:04:13.760 you know with physics. I think you took. 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:21.320 A clean one hundred percent diary is sure liquid? Yeah, 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:26.400 into a ye like however many inch. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:28.960 It was like a large It was like a large size. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:31.800 It was a large McDonald's cup. It was I had 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:32.880 a big doctor pepper. 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:38.640 Yeah, and you put that whole thing in your asshole. 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:43.120 No, no, it wasn't in my asshole. I didn't like 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.279 put it in my asshole. I put the cup around 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.839 my asshole, like my asshole was like at the center 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:52.279 of the cup, and it was like I would say, 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:57.120 air tight to my budgets. It was not really any 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:00.680 area for splashage except onto my e But your. 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:04.520 Cheeks had to open up for the diarrhea. 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:06.640 Yeah, I have I have a I don't have a 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:09.919 media ass. I have a very flat ass. 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:12.760 Okay, yeah, that's cool. 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:16.920 Like Hank Hill. Almost it hurts my back. 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:22.080 How did uh? How did you wipe afterwards? 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.279 I have, like I have tissues in my bag for 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:27.720 like my nose and stuff, and I used plenty of 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:29.680 those for my bud Did. 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:31.880 You put those in the cup when you were done 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:32.160 with them? 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:36.600 Yeah, all all poop stuff went into the cup and 0:05:36.640 --> 0:05:39.400 then it went into the garbage. I had to drive 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:40.320 down to the block with it. 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.400 What percentage of the question, What percentage of the cup 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:46.200 was filled with diarrhea. 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.680 I would say, like ninety percent of the cup was full. 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:53.239 I was like, I was very scared of the cup. 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:55.440 It was a lot of shit. 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:58.719 You had a ten percent margin of error. 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:01.000 Yeah, I was sweling. 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:05.599 That's damn you really? This is like you pulled this off? 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:12.360 Yeah I did. I'm it's gross, but like, I'm very 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:14.080 proud of my execution. 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:16.520 Did you take a picture of the cup afterwards? 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:20.200 I did? Did I wait, did I send you a 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:24.600 picture of the cup I'm talking about? I don't think so. 0:06:25.440 --> 0:06:28.039 I don't think. I don't think I took a picture. 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:28.680 I know. 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:30.080 I called my wife immediately. 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:35.120 It's my background, your wife you called? What did you 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:36.560 call your wife. 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:40.359 For to tell her that I I took the dirhea 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:44.560 and a cup successfully? 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:47.280 Can I talk to your wife? Like real quick? 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:50.320 Yeah? Sure, okay? 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:54.560 Hello, Hey, what's your name? 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:56.760 Uh? 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:58.640 My name's Lisa, Lisa. 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:02.960 What was your reaction when your husband called you to 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:05.680 brag about diarrhea and a McDonald's cup? 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:10.160 Can I can I just preface this with something. I 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:13.880 just want you to know that we were actually just 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:16.440 at your show in Denver, and my husband was too 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:18.680 afraid to get on the stage and talk to you, 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:20.840 So I made him call you and. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:23.040 Tell you, see, this would have this would have been 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.880 great on the stage. No, because here's the thing. If 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:27.920 he had actually, if he had gone on the stage 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:30.920 for this, I would have we would have paused the show. 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:33.200 I would have gotten a cup, and I would have 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:35.280 made him prove that he can do this on stage. 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:37.200 So it's good that he didn't because he would have 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:38.040 had to back that up. 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:42.840 He probably he probably could have shipped on command. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.160 Also, so all right, he's got to come back next year. 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.560 How did you respond when he called you to brag 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:49.960 about this? 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:56.680 I'm not sure if I'm not sure it was a brag. 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:58.840 If I'm being honest, I. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:00.440 Think he was. I think he was pretty him back. 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:05.280 But was I surprised that what he said to me 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:06.920 that wasn't what he said to me. He didn't say 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:08.720 he called you because he was embarrassed. He said he 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:11.480 was proud. Do you hear him say that? 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:12.560 All right? 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:15.440 Maybe did you say you were proud? 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:20.600 He's probably now it took him. That was probably like 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:24.040 a year ago. He said, Uh, he wasn't. 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:26.720 Proud in the moment, but he's definitely proud now. 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:29.160 I think when he called me it was. 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:32.600 Just like, it's definitely an accomplishment. 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:38.240 I would say, ah, but I think he. 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:43.120 I think he was not proud. I don't even remember 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:43.760 the phone call. 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.640 But you're you're a good wife. 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:49.679 I am a good wife. 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:51.560 Thank you, you're a good get Go. 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:54.560 Let me talk to your husband again real quick before we. 0:08:54.559 --> 0:09:02.439 Before we go, okay, tata yah. 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:04.640 Billy, is there anything you want to say to other 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:05.800 people of the computer before we go? 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:17.120 Uh? Uh yeah, just you know, keep the cup tight, 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:19.199 don't leave room for ayer. 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.880 You have a good life, Billy. I appreciate it. 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:29.600 Thank you, Kay, I appreciate you very much. 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:37.520 Have a good time. Man be too, dude, there's no 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:40.040 way he didn't get at least a little bit of 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:45.280 diarrhea on the truck one hundred. He'd better come back 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:47.040 to Denver next year because I'm pulling him up on 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:49.560 stage to prove it. What's up. How's it going? 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:54.840 Oh it's uh, it's going pretty well. I can't complain. 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:57.840 Just uh, putting one foot in front of the other. 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:02.480 That's uh, that's great. What's what's going on with you? 0:10:05.480 --> 0:10:09.040 Oh? You know, I'm just hanging out after I just 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.480 had a union meeting. Not too long ago. So I, uh, 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:15.680 I'm just chilling sitting at home, you know, waiting to 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:16.760 do this again tomorrow. 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:23.400 So, Reese, what is it that you called in to 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:24.599 talk about? 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:30.120 So I called Uh, I was talking about I told 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:32.600 the call screamers that I wanted to talk about being 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:37.480 a caregiver. And I work. I work pretty extensively with 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:41.520 my union too, so I uh, yeah, I just kind 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:44.440 of wanted to talk about that a little bit, you know, 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:46.000 kind of It's given me a. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:47.000 Different perspective on a. 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.679 Kind of just on the aging process as a whole. 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.439 I guess you know who, Yeah, tell me, who are 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.040 you giving care to? Exactly? 0:10:57.040 --> 0:10:59.960 I'm giving care to like folks who like elderly folk 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:05.520 who have like like dementia, Parkinson's, you know, like kind 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:08.600 of like you know that that those like later stages 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:09.680 of life, you know. 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:20.760 M hmmm. So it says here and this was the 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:24.200 part of this that caught my eye, that you deal 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:25.600 with a lot of people who are dying. 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:32.440 Yeah, I mean it's just kind of it kind of. 0:11:32.679 --> 0:11:35.560 I mean, I personally haven't had anyone pass away, but 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:40.320 a lot of my coworkers have clients who unfortunately do 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:41.040 pass away. 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:46.760 Okay, And So what kind of perspective has it given 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:51.520 you on aging? As you said, Well, you know, I. 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:55.600 You know, I'm only twenty five, so I'm I'm still 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.520 just a wee lad in the grander scheme of things, 0:11:58.559 --> 0:11:59.920 you know. But I know that I'm not going to 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:02.480 I'm only as young as I am, you know right 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:06.800 now as we're talking, you know, so and and some 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:08.560 of the folks that have you know that I had 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:12.280 his clients, they're you know, they're anywhere between like sixty 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:15.240 and like eighties, you know. So it's like by the 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:18.640 time like they get to by the time I give 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:21.520 them care, uh, they're already kind of in their like 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:24.640 and they're kind of on their last legs, so to speaking. 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:27.920 Like by one client that I have, he's he's a 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:31.839 he's a very sweet guy, but he's got he's got 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:37.440 all he's got a lot going on, and he like 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:41.559 he like I have to like physically like take him 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:45.080 to the restroom sometimes and like pull his his pants 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:48.320 on and his pull ups down so he can use 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:51.120 the bathroom properly. And it's like, you know, like there's 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:55.160 this I never like in my short time on this 0:12:55.320 --> 0:12:58.720 and on this planet, I had never thought that there's 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:01.400 going to be a time where someone is going to 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:04.640 be in the bathroom with me, probably helping me do 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:08.280 like what once was essential. I mean, it's still essential, 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:11.080 but it's no longer as easy as it used to be. 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.240 And it's going to happen to all of us regardless too, 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:17.200 I mean, like not the specific. 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:22.520 Like, well, you know, you have an interesting experience where 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:30.280 the idea of yourself as an old person who is 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:35.280 limited in mobility and needs help taking a shit is 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:40.280 so so far, it's so far away from you as 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:43.360 a twenty five year old, and yet as for what 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:47.320 you do, you have the unique experience of it's like 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:50.000 not far away from you, it's right in front of you. 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:54.800 You're seeing it. You're reminded that that's your fucking fate. 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:58.920 Yeah, And like you know, and I look at my 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.920 clients all the time. I can't help but see myself 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.520 in their position one day, you know, because it's like 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:07.520 right now, I'm still healthy and able, you know, like 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.960 you know, certain asterisks aside, you know, but like there's 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.520 it's just it's just kind of like right now, you know, 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:16.240 Like when I was younger, you know, like I kind 0:14:16.240 --> 0:14:18.040 of felt like I was more made of rubber, and 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:21.280 like I can do more things. And you know, like 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:24.000 if I like hurt myself for example, that like I 0:14:24.040 --> 0:14:26.560 can just get up and go right away. But like 0:14:26.600 --> 0:14:29.320 as you like as your body like ages, and you know, 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:34.080 it's just it's a very it's a very hard thing. 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.840 Like I don't I don't want to get too graphic 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:40.280 or nothing. But I had a I had a client 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:43.120 who had a catheter put in like a fully cafeter 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:48.480 and and that's the one that like goes that goes 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:52.280 up your gary thrun and uh, he like he like 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:56.000 he he doesn't understand what he doesn't even he barely 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:58.840 even remembers when he had for breakfast that day, let alone. 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:01.800 But a fully ca after is going to do so 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:03.720 like we and he's hard of hearing too, so we 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.680 have to like explain a couple. It's it's kind of 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.800 like talking to like a kind of like a ten 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:11.760 year old, you know, like you don't have to talk 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.120 to them like their children. You don't have to condescend 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:15.720 to them, but like you kind of have to like 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:21.520 more or less get on their level, you know. And 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:25.320 and I and he didn't understand what was going on, 0:15:25.480 --> 0:15:28.120 so like as as the nurses they're doing her thing. 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.440 I'm I'm holding his hand and and he's like, you know, 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:34.280 when he winces, I'm squeezing his hand. And you know, 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:37.040 it's a very like a very intimate thing for us to. 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:40.280 Be doing, right right, I mean, this guy is getting 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.960 a tube stuck in his penis and he doesn't even 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:45.400 really know. 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:51.000 No, no, he he he he thinks. Yeah, he thinks 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:55.000 that there's a problem with the plumbing. But and the 0:15:56.320 --> 0:15:59.480 worst part of it, it really is, is he he 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:02.120 doesn't know that it's not supposed to come out, so 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.200 he he wants to keep tugging on it and it's 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.800 not and yeah, and it's not. Yeah, it's not the best. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:10.880 I mean, I don't know, I haven't had a cafeter 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:14.960 put in lately, but I don't imagine it like being 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:17.080 too Like in today too, he was just he was 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:20.640 very like he kind of was just uncomfortable and he 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:23.800 was hurting something in fierce today. And you know, and 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:27.600 the agent experience isn't like that for everybody, but it's truly, 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:32.080 like like truly it's it's truly something. It's like it's like. 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:35.600 Mind opening to you know, see, like you know, kind 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:38.040 of because the reason why I became a caregiver to 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.280 begin with is because I wanted to become the mortician, 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:45.160 and I wanted to kind of work with folks on 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.960 this side of it before I go on the other 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:50.200 side of it, and. 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.960 So I wanted to kind of see kind of wanted 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:54.800 to see what they were going through, and I can. 0:16:55.400 --> 0:17:02.160 It's like, historically speaking, the job that I work, it's 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:06.359 been kind of seen as like, you know, babysitting, and 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:08.520 it doesn't have really a whole lot of the respects 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:10.560 that it deserves. You know, a lot of folks think 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:14.879 we're just babysitters, and that's far far not the case. 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:21.399 Like I I just my union sent me down to 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:25.639 Georgia not too long ago, and the minimum wage for 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.600 a healthcare worker like me was only five fifteen an hour. 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:37.520 Five dollars and fifteen cents. Correct, there's a five dollars 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:39.720 minimum wage in Atlanta, I mean in Georgia. 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.200 Yeah, because they're one of the few states in the 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:47.320 country right now. I think there's a couple of others 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:49.959 who escaped me right now, but Georgia is definitely one 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:53.080 of the states that pay below the federal minimum wage. 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.960 So I was hearing stories. I was hearing stories of 0:17:57.000 --> 0:18:00.000 folks who were working like two or three or four jobs. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.800 Sometimes it's still not being able to pay their bills 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:07.200 and like being financially unable to provide care for their 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:10.479 loved ones, you know, and it's it's crazy. It's really 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:14.239 like soul crushing, which is why, like I'm really like 0:18:14.840 --> 0:18:18.080 this is why, like I like, joining the union was 0:18:18.119 --> 0:18:19.560 the best decision that I've ever made. 0:18:21.080 --> 0:18:25.320 So tell me, when you're in the room with the 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:29.159 guy get in the tube of his penis, uh, and 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:31.840 he doesn't even know what's going on, what are you 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:34.119 feeling in that moment? 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:35.480 Or like. 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:41.360 Do you feel removed from the situation because you're there 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:47.840 very much doing a professional job and so you're almost 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:52.200 emotionally taken out of it maybe in that sense, or 0:18:53.200 --> 0:18:55.640 or are you fully there? Like tell me how you're 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:56.479 experiencing it? 0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:02.239 Well, I mean I do got to say that, like 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:03.919 I had, I had to make a phone call to 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:05.959 my folks after the day was over and tell them 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.840 that I'm thankful for certain decisions they made when I 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:14.960 was a child. Because, uh, the catheter my client wasn't circumcised, 0:19:15.040 --> 0:19:21.080 So like we had trouble finding his urethra, and what 0:19:20.520 --> 0:19:23.480 I what I was feeling was I'm trying to I 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:26.639 don't want to, like I have an emotional stake in this, 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:28.560 because you know, I want it. You know, if I'm 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:30.640 ever in a position where someone has to take care 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:33.680 of me, and I want someone who's gonna want who's present, 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:36.520 you know, who's like, who cares about what's happening to me. 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:40.919 You know. So I wanted to, like I wanted to 0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:42.600 put a brave face on to him, But at the 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:44.000 end of the day, it's just, you know, I have 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:47.159 to like avoid staring at the old man wiener mm. 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:51.120 But you know, I feel like. 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:54.080 That's not a difficult thing to avoid staring at. 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:58.879 No. I mean, like it's it's kind of it's not 0:19:59.200 --> 0:20:02.360 that hard. It's like you kind of look off into 0:20:02.400 --> 0:20:05.080 the middle distance and you think about your life for 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:06.840 a little while, and you think you're gonna be doing 0:20:06.840 --> 0:20:10.480 this for forty years, and and by the time that's 0:20:10.520 --> 0:20:12.800 all over west, you kind of like have to like, okay, 0:20:12.960 --> 0:20:16.000 back to you know. There's a lot of times where 0:20:16.040 --> 0:20:18.119 like like it's just there's a lot I have to 0:20:18.160 --> 0:20:19.520 have a lot of like I don't want to say 0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:24.439 necessarily say cognitive dissidence. But there are times where like 0:20:24.480 --> 0:20:29.000 I kind of have to like like I like because 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:31.720 I also do like kind of like light housework too, 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:34.639 so like sometimes I'm just sweeping or moping or something, 0:20:35.200 --> 0:20:36.960 I kind of just like I kind of zone out, 0:20:37.000 --> 0:20:37.280 you know. 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:40.280 But Okay, yes, I would that that that that that's 0:20:40.320 --> 0:20:42.879 kind of what I was referring to, is like you're 0:20:42.920 --> 0:20:46.600 doing your best to be present because it's important to you. 0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:48.080 I mean, I don't think you would be doing this 0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:50.080 shit if it wasn't something you really cared about. It 0:20:50.080 --> 0:20:52.639 doesn't seem like something I just got into to make 0:20:52.680 --> 0:20:55.119 a check. So yes, you want to be present, but 0:20:55.400 --> 0:21:00.600 I think that obviously with something like that, if you were, 0:21:00.760 --> 0:21:04.720 you know, it wouldn't be atrocious to me for you 0:21:04.800 --> 0:21:07.480 to have to employ some dissonance every once in a 0:21:07.480 --> 0:21:11.159 while just to keep yourself sane, you know what I'm saying, just, 0:21:11.160 --> 0:21:15.760 oh God, just to keep yourself from burning out. So 0:21:16.359 --> 0:21:20.120 tell me this, how much longer do you yourself doing 0:21:20.160 --> 0:21:23.199 this for? Are you hoping to have a you know, 0:21:23.680 --> 0:21:27.439 lifelong career as a as a caregiver? Like what do 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:31.439 you see in your horizons? 0:21:31.960 --> 0:21:35.719 Well, I'm still I see myself doing this for at 0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:38.880 least the next like a couple of years, like two 0:21:38.920 --> 0:21:44.520 three years. My ultimate goal is I want, like I 0:21:44.560 --> 0:21:46.480 was I was saying earlier, i worked pretty regular with 0:21:46.520 --> 0:21:50.919 my union, So I'm hoping to transitions from the field 0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:53.720 as they call it, to more of like a staff 0:21:53.800 --> 0:21:55.760 position with my union, because right now it's kind I'm 0:21:55.800 --> 0:21:58.200 kind of working like that. I do kind of both, 0:21:58.320 --> 0:22:00.159 you know, Like right now, I do the caregiving and 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:03.399 then on certain days I do like training orientations for 0:22:03.520 --> 0:22:05.960 other caregivers who are first kind of you know, the 0:22:06.000 --> 0:22:10.600 orientation training for them, and I'm hoping to do like 0:22:10.720 --> 0:22:13.080 actually I have an internship up coming up with them 0:22:13.440 --> 0:22:16.159 at the start of next year, and they'll I'll have 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:21.240 to take like a leave of absence and and like 0:22:21.320 --> 0:22:24.119 hopefully like that kind of takes me a little further. 0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:31.040 But because it's like it is, my clients vary like 0:22:31.080 --> 0:22:34.240 the hours area between them, so I only think if 0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:36.400 I only have one client and a week, they only 0:22:36.440 --> 0:22:38.720 have so many hours, and I only work those so 0:22:38.760 --> 0:22:41.360 many hours. So with with if I have a staff position, 0:22:41.400 --> 0:22:44.480 I'll have a forty hour basically a guaranteed forty hour 0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:47.360 work week plus, and like I get to complain about 0:22:47.400 --> 0:22:49.320 capitalism and get paid for it, so I can't rich 0:22:49.440 --> 0:22:55.040 me that. Do you. 0:22:56.480 --> 0:23:02.560