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Speaker 4: much for tuning in, and thank you again for coming

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Speaker 4: out today. I like to start with something funny, and

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Speaker 4: I heard about this young lady. She took her fiance

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Speaker 4: home to meet her parents. The dad said, son, tell

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Speaker 4: me about yourself. What do you do? He said, I'm

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Speaker 4: a Bible scholar. Dad said, that's great, But how are

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Speaker 4: you going to provide a living for my daughter? He said,

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Speaker 4: I'm going to study the Bible and I know God

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Speaker 4: will provide. He said, yeah, but how are you going

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Speaker 4: to afford an engagement ring for her? He said, I'm

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Speaker 4: going to focus on my studies and I know God

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Speaker 4: will provide. He said, what a few years you all

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Speaker 4: may have children. How are you going to provide for

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Speaker 4: Later that night, the man's wife asked him how to

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Speaker 4: talk with their future son in law. Went He said,

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Speaker 4: not good. He has no plans, no job, and he

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Speaker 4: thinks that I'm God. Hold up your bibles. Say it

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Speaker 4: like you mean it. This is my Bible. I am

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Speaker 4: Today I will be taught the word of God. I

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Speaker 4: I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, God

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Speaker 4: bless you. I want to talk to you today about

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Speaker 4: accepting people for who they are. When we get into

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Speaker 4: our children, the people that are close to us. But

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Speaker 4: one of the best things I've learned is God didn't

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Speaker 4: bring people into my life to make them just like me.

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Speaker 4: God made us different on purpose, different personalities, different strengths,

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Speaker 4: When someone doesn't have our same strengths and we're working

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Speaker 4: my brother Paul. God likes variety. I'm not looking at him.

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Speaker 4: You may be trying to change someone that doesn't have

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Speaker 4: We're not supposed to go around looking down on people

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Speaker 4: scripture talks about we have to make allowances for people's weaknesses.

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Speaker 4: we wouldn't live frustrated trying to make them into something

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Speaker 4: that they're not. We have this plant at home. It's

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Speaker 4: Day after day. I pampered this plant. I prayed over it,

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Speaker 4: Our job is to love people, to accept people, to

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Speaker 4: let them be who God created them to be. Spend

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Speaker 4: she's just like me, as perfect as can be. Our son, Jonathan,

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Speaker 4: perfect in a different way. Alexandra picks out her clothes

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Speaker 4: But God is the one that's directing their steps. God

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Speaker 4: you change the way I want you to change. Now,

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Speaker 4: God's plan for their life may not be the same

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