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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: joining us. We are so excited to be back. Coming

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Speaker 1: doing today, Susan.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing wonderful, Still wishing I was in Saint Martin

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Speaker 1: Let me just saying to everyone out there, you're going

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Speaker 1: to be hearing Susan saying this, oh probably until we

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Speaker 1: So let me say one thing. When you and I

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Speaker 1: Happy Hour. Send away your questions. We love answering them

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Speaker 1: today though, we have a really exciting conversation. We're going

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Speaker 1: to talk about all things dating apps. Oh, good people,

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Speaker 1: Oh dating apps. Where do we even begin, Susan, I

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Speaker 1: don't even know generally, what's your thought on dating apps?

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Speaker 2: Okay, first of all, I'd like to open my own

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Speaker 2: business to help people, especially men, tak theirself.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get to them. We're going to get

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Speaker 1: to that. But in general, what do you think of

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Speaker 1: dating apps? Do you think they're good? Do you think

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Speaker 1: they're what?

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Speaker 2: Are you there?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 2: I've had some luck and then not so much. I

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Speaker 2: think it's the way of the world in this error

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Speaker 2: that we're in twenty twenty five. That's what everybody does.

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Speaker 2: It's more difficult to meet people organically. I think it

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Speaker 2: was a good thing for a lot of people. I

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Speaker 2: do weddings, as you know, and I've married, so nine

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Speaker 2: out of ten of them met on a dating app.

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Speaker 2: So yes, I think they work.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I think they can work. But I also think

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Speaker 1: that people are trying to get back to organic meetings.

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Speaker 1: So you know, you're not just looking at a picture.

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Speaker 1: But let's start with our question of the day, because

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Speaker 1: that's going to really get us into really what we

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Speaker 1: want to talk about here. Well, wait first, before we

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Speaker 1: get into that, I have one more question for you.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever seriously dated a guy you met on

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Speaker 2: Definitely?

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Speaker 1: For how long?

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Speaker 2: The longest one was three and a half years?

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Speaker 1: Oh, dear heavens, that's a marriage. Three and a half.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not a marriage.

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Speaker 1: Well, three and a half years, you know, it's a

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Speaker 2: Real, it's a long time. Somebody else I met on

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Speaker 1: Really Okay, So the question of the day is actually

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Speaker 1: my question, which is what do you think are the

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Speaker 1: biggest problems with dating apps right now? And I want

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Speaker 1: to start it off by saying, I think there's so

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Speaker 1: much more to dating than a swipe or a click,

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Speaker 1: And yet we have been bludgeoned to death about looks.

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Speaker 1: So we see a picture, no not him? Well, I

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Speaker 1: just think that's the problem with dating apps. There's so

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Speaker 2: It's about a picture, right, and if you didn't take

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Speaker 2: a good picture, they're going to get swiped by. I

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Speaker 2: was talking about this earlier with someone, and it's so

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Speaker 2: nice to meet somebody organically through a friend or whatever,

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Speaker 2: to know somebody. They might not be as handsome as

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Speaker 2: When you're on a dating app, it's about eye candy.

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Speaker 2: I mean, if somebody you pause on then you go

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Speaker 1: That's susan dating. But here's the thing. You're only if

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Speaker 1: you're going to be with someone for a lifetime, they're

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Speaker 1: going to change, right. Their looks are going to change,

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Speaker 2: And that's the struggle at my age when you're going

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Speaker 1: And so but to your point, there's so much more

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Speaker 1: I'm but I'm going to say it straight up. For me,

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Speaker 1: even at my age of twenty nine, I still have

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Speaker 1: I would would have said, Oh I want a date

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Speaker 1: a guy who's six', two you, Know NOW i did

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Speaker 1: a guy who's five to. TEN i Mean i'm five, eight,

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Speaker 1: Right but it's about a, look and If i'm not

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Speaker 2: STRUGGLE i would have to want to kiss. Somebody but

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Speaker 2: WHO i find attractive the next person might, not you

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Speaker 2: know WHAT i, mean that's just in the eye of the.

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Speaker 2: Behold but What i'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Is if you the biggest problem with the dating apps

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Speaker 1: for me is there's so many of. Them ALTHOUGH i

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Speaker 1: did my research on this whole. THING i, mean we'll

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Speaker 1: get into. It but according to some people THAT i

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Speaker 1: interviewed who were in their, thirties they, said you, know

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Speaker 1: everybody's on every dating, app so you know you don't

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Speaker 1: have to go on three or four of. Them and in,

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Speaker 1: fact you, know if you're on, one you're looking at

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Speaker 1: pretty much everything that's out. There but, again you're not getting.

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Speaker 1: Down you're not scrolling down to find out who they're really.

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Speaker 1: About is they even say what they're really. About you're

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Speaker 1: just looking at a. Picture, WELL i.

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Speaker 2: Have two problems with the dating. Apps, one there's so

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Speaker 2: many fake, profiles oh for, sure AND i could tell

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Speaker 2: you who they are just. Boom there's a lot of

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Speaker 2: Foreign they'll use the WORD m instead OF i. Am

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Speaker 2: they'll SAY m going OR M i can't call. Them,

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Speaker 2: yeah it's.

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Speaker 1: Crazy well the. Grammar the grammar is a big. Kickoff

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Speaker 1: the other one is the. Pictures you can tell they're

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Speaker 1: like gluten paste it or. Whatever but that's but fake

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Speaker 1: people were, everywhere, Right so what's your other?

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Speaker 2: Problem but that's a problem though a lot of women

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Speaker 2: fall for that attention and they want to get to

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Speaker 2: know you right. AWAY i MEAN i could pretty much

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Speaker 2: read through, it. Okay and the other problem is they

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Speaker 2: might be really nice guys and they don't have anybody

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Speaker 2: to take their picture and they're doing a selfie in the,

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Speaker 2: Bathroom like that is the worst picture. Ever.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well LIKE i, said we're going to get into

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Speaker 1: how to help people on dating. Ups but, again how

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Speaker 1: sad is that that a guy who might be a

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Speaker 1: fabulous guy made a stupid decision to take a picture

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Speaker 1: of himself shirtless with a baseball cap on, backwards holding

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Speaker 1: a beer in one hand a dead fish and the

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Speaker 1: other in the. Bathroom like how many That i'm? SAYING

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Speaker 1: i was grouping all the wrong things together in one,

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Speaker 1: Sentence BUT i think that it's Just and then you've

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Speaker 1: got the distance, thing like do you just want to date?

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Speaker 1: Someone how far you can put.

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Speaker 2: Your mileage in you but you know, what do you

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Speaker 2: want to?

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Speaker 1: Drive, well in your, case do you want to drive

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Speaker 1: fifty miles for a? Date you, KNOW i don't really.

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Speaker 2: WANT i, MEAN i, mean they're not all in your. Hometown,

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Speaker 2: baby you got got to give a.

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Speaker 1: Little i'm willing to give a. Little But i'm saying

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Speaker 1: dating apps don't make it easy because there's you know

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Speaker 1: WHAT i wish they would. DO i just had a brilliant.

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Speaker 1: IDEA i just had a brilliant. Idea what if you

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Speaker 1: recorded a live you know they? Have they, do, Absolutely

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Speaker 1: i've never seen. It, yes they do choose not. To

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Speaker 1: i've Never i've never in all the dead and Apps

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Speaker 2: And you can view them and hear them talk and

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Speaker 2: some of them are, funny some of them are more.

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Speaker 2: Serious all, Right, well everybody, tries you. Know but it

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Speaker 2: is a good thing, too BECAUSE i don't know what

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Speaker 2: the percentage would. Be but LIKE i, said so many

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Speaker 2: people fall in. Love my daughter got married from a

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Speaker 2: dating app and the PEOPLE i married them interviewing for

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Speaker 2: a wedding that they were here last. Night they met On.

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Speaker 2: Tinder it's like amazing. MATCH i, mean so many of,

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Speaker 2: them and then others can't find. Anybody my worst thing

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Speaker 2: was going back on after a three year a break from,

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Speaker 2: them and the same people are in. THERE i, know.

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Speaker 1: But you know what they're send out about?

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Speaker 2: Us yeah, Right i'm, back all.

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Speaker 1: Right before we get into dissecting the dad and, apps

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Speaker 1: which we are going to, DO i had to answer

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Speaker 1: some fan. Questions we're going to be giving our advice

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Speaker 1: as always, so but first we want to read a

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Speaker 1: dating app horror story that was written into. Us oh,

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Speaker 1: boy that's going to get us. Started, Okay kathy, Writes

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Speaker 1: just to be, clear it is not This. Kathy it

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Speaker 1: is A kathy that wrote. In it was my first

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Speaker 1: time putting myself back out there and agreeing to an

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Speaker 1: in person. Date we had been chatting through a dating

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Speaker 1: app for a couple of, weeks AND i agreed to

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Speaker 1: meet for. DINNER i made arrangements for my, son then

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Speaker 1: headed back into town for. Dinner WHEN i, arrived he

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Speaker 1: was drunk and was not the person in the photos he.

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Speaker 1: Used he used his quote better looking friends. PHOTOS i

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Speaker 1: was so. UPSET i sat down and told him not

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Speaker 1: to speak to. ME i told him this for inconveniencing.

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Speaker 1: Me i'd be ordering the most expensive meal and maybe eat.

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Speaker 1: ordered dessert but only have one. Bite THEN i would.

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Speaker 1: laugh about. It WHAT i THINK i think THAT i

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Speaker 1: think HER i give her great. Kudos what do you

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Speaker 1: THINK i sent to? Humor, yeah, man to screw. YOU

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Speaker 1: i don't think she. Said, REMEMBER i think she was

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Speaker 1: furious she'd had it to say That i'm going to do.

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Speaker 1: This i'm going to do.

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Speaker 2: This the guy was not going to stand for. That

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Speaker 2: he's a drunk ass, loser get up and.

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Speaker 1: Leave, well that's funny you say, that that's exactly WHAT

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Speaker 1: i would have. DONE i wouldn't have said what she.

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Speaker 1: SAID i Probably i'd probably counsel.

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Speaker 2: Him, really, dude really really brought me all the way out.

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Speaker 2: Here and this is how.

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Speaker 1: You show, trumps not even. Drunk, yeah you can't talk

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Speaker 1: which by the, WAY i Normally i'm very, polite AND

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Speaker 1: dada but a DRUNK i. Wouldn't i'm not. Staying i'm

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Speaker 1: out of. HERE i wouldn't have sat, down ordered, dinner, wine.

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Speaker 1: DESSERT i wouldn't have done, it would.

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Speaker 2: NO i MEAN i like, her she. DID i like your, style,

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Speaker 2: HONEY i like your. Style BUT i don't know why

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Speaker 2: it took you fifteen years to laugh about. It you

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Speaker 1: HOME i was laughing reading. That but you, KNOW i.

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Speaker 1: WONDER i wonder if she's. Married. NOW i, Wonder, kathy

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Speaker 1: are you? Married are you in a? RELATIONSHIP i, mean

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Speaker 1: what's the Day i'll tell? Us we want to know

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Speaker 1: what app was?

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Speaker 2: Right this one's FROM cc and she's thirty. Eight, Hi

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Speaker 2: kathy And. SUSAN i WISH i didn't have to be writing,

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Speaker 2: this but here we, are AND i need your. Advice

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Speaker 2: my parents have been married for thirty, years and my

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Speaker 2: visiting for work sent me a very upsetting. Screenshot oh,

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Speaker 2: god his profile on a dating. App i'm certain it

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Speaker 2: he would, have they aren't elsewhere. Online and he did

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Speaker 2: the voice memos See kathy the voice memos prompt and

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Speaker 2: it's his. Voice my question, is what THE f DO i?

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Speaker 2: Do DO i confront my? Dad DO i tell my?

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Speaker 2: Mom advices both needed and appreciate. It thank, you, ladies

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Speaker 1: I think you AND i are becoming each, other BECAUSE

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Speaker 1: i honestly thought you were gonna, say tell her, mother

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Speaker 1: AND i was gonna have to, Say, susan, no, No,

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Speaker 1: SUSAN i don't know my father and let him. KNOW i,

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Speaker 1: Know i'd let him know so quickly. Caught but REALLY

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Speaker 1: i would say the same. THING i would do the same.

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Speaker 1: Thing and you know what my advice would, Be tell your,

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Speaker 1: if he wants to get out of the, marriage get

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Speaker 1: out of the, marriage but don't do what he's. Doing

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Speaker 1: and THEN i would shut the f up and say.

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Speaker 1: NOTHING i would never tell my. Mother every YEARS i

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Speaker 1: don't know then WOULD i, THOUGH i, mean it's the same.

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Speaker 1: Thing would you tell your daughter's.

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Speaker 2: Other stories your? Mother so wait a, Minute so the

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Speaker 2: that's where he saw it and took a screenshot of.

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Speaker 2: It why does that man think that screen that his

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Speaker 2: profile is not going to show up everywhere in his

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Speaker 2: hometown even you, know why does he think it was

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Speaker 2: safe to be there and do? It that's?

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Speaker 1: Crazy aren't there some apps that you can just do

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Speaker 1: in a PARTICULAR i think you. Can you can set

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Speaker 1: the parameters just for.

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Speaker 2: There so his, Wife, oh but the likelihood of it

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Speaker 1: Notes where you? AT i honestly, thinks, WELL i think

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Speaker 1: there are apps that you can just set a, location

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Speaker 1: BECAUSE i, DO i really. Do and you know, what

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Speaker 1: that is absolutely. Superfluous say that three times quickly to the.

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Speaker 1: Conversation the guy's a, cheater and he's cheating and he.

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Speaker 2: Does trying to cheat. Anyhow, Oh i'm so, sorry.

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Speaker 1: Sweetie i'm talk to your.

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Speaker 2: Dad let him. Know give that a disgrace and you're

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Speaker 2: not proud of. Him, Boy either get it down or tell.

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Speaker 2: Mom let him Tell. Mom he's not going to tell.

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Speaker 1: Mom he's not telling.

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Speaker 2: Mom obviously he wants to cheat and he needs to.

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Speaker 1: Go you think. What i'm. Sorry we're going to back

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Speaker 1: up for a minute just to help me here while

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Speaker 1: just stay with. Me WHY i talk To. Susan, susan

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Speaker 1: he is not going to fess up to his. Wife

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Speaker 1: he's secretly on a dating.

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Speaker 2: App, okay but he wants to, cheat, Right he wants

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Speaker 2: to get a test to cheat, Somebody so then make

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Speaker 2: your end your. Marriage you don't get to do that

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Speaker 2: and stay.

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Speaker 1: Married guess why cheating sometimes is an exit. Strategy not

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Speaker 1: THAT i. Approve, OKAY, cec talk to your, dad give him,

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Speaker 1: hell tell him to grow up and either you, know

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Speaker 1: get off the dating apps or if he's that, unhappy

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Speaker 1: they need to get into counseling or they need to you,

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Speaker 1: know do the BIG. D but don't let him do.

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Speaker 1: That that's embarrassing to.

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Speaker 2: Him and don't tell, mom.

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Speaker 1: And don't tell. Mom we wish you. Luck let US

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Speaker 1: knowe see what. Happens, Okay, anonymous, Rights hi, LADIES i

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Speaker 1: have a bit of a crazy. Question first of, All,

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Speaker 1: anonymous there are no crazy, questions, Okay And i'm wondering

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Speaker 1: what you'd. THINK i met this guy On hinge and

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Speaker 1: he seems really. Great he's been super nice and we've

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Speaker 1: been talking every day for the past two. Weeks this

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Speaker 1: week has all been via, text so we finally got

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Speaker 1: off the app over FaceTime this. Week he said he

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Speaker 1: wanted to fly me out To hawaii next, week all expenses.

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Speaker 1: PAID i was so excited UNTIL i told my friends

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Speaker 1: and they freaked. Out they're worried that he's creepy and

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Speaker 1: THAT i shouldn't fly across the country to see him

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Speaker 1: after only talking to him. ONLINE i think he seems,

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Speaker 1: fun But i've only known him for two. Weeks what

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Speaker 1: do you THINK i should? Do is there any WAY

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Speaker 1: i can, go like IF i ask him some. QUESTIONS

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Speaker 1: i really want a free, trip. Honestly. Lol thanks. Ladies,

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Speaker 1: okay this is so, easy Because, Susan i've been in this,

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Speaker 1: situation HAVEN'T. I.

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Speaker 2: Yes first of, all you got a FaceTime and make

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Speaker 2: sure that the person is who you think you exactly

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Speaker 2: well she said over FaceTime this.

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Speaker 1: Week, okay but were you facetiming or was it just FaceTime.

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Speaker 1: Chat there's a, Difference so you be a, person. Right

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Speaker 1: have you seen HIM i. WOULD i would IF i

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Speaker 1: were you, anonymous get his cell, number pay For verify

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Speaker 1: whatever it is been verified, verifying do a background check on.

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Speaker 1: Him it's worth the whatever you, pay especially if you're

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Speaker 1: getting a free trip To. Hawaii don't just hop on

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Speaker 1: a plane and go To hawaii for a guy you

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Speaker 1: don't know who he.

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Speaker 2: IS i would also want to know the arrangements as

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Speaker 2: to would she have her own hotel? Rooms, OH i

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Speaker 2: just assume that her to go to his. HOME i,

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Speaker 2: mean what what accommodations are going to be for?

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Speaker 1: Me, well that is a no. BRAINER i would assume. That,

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Speaker 1: hell you can't. Assume, yeah there is an ass in

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Speaker 1: the word.

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Speaker 2: Assume, Okay, okay all, like if you're both feeling something

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Speaker 2: and you want to, go, go let people know where

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Speaker 2: you're going to, be phone numbers and so.

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Speaker 1: On. Okay but on the other, hand you, know if

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Speaker 1: something happens like that long, ago remember that girl that

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Speaker 1: disappeared In, ARUBA i, THINK i, mean what good does

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Speaker 1: it do if somebody knows where you are if they

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Speaker 1: can't get to.

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Speaker 2: You it's a chance to.

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Speaker 1: Take but do you take that chance after knowing someone two?

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Speaker 1: Weeks would?

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Speaker 2: You it depends on who it WAS i guess or

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Speaker 2: HOW i. Felt, mmm, Well i'll tell you, this and

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Speaker 2: is it first? CLASS i, mean.

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Speaker 1: You, know you know WHAT i? Do you? Know here's

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Speaker 1: WHAT i didn't hear in. This she said he's super.

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Speaker 1: Nice she, GOES i really want a free? Trip is

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Speaker 1: that really why you? Want i'm not hearing that you're

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Speaker 1: into the free.

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Speaker 2: Trip you're not going to be able to do your

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Speaker 2: own thing, Anyhow you're going.

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Speaker 1: To be with this.

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Speaker 2: Person you're going to be with, him you know that's

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Speaker 2: the Silly but If i'm not interested in?

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Speaker 1: Him but are you hearing? That i'm not seeing that

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Speaker 1: in this, Question she's.

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Speaker 2: Worried about her friends freaking.

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Speaker 1: Out, well can she should be.

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Speaker 2: All expenses? Paid he wanted to fly me. OUT i

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Speaker 2: was so. Excited here's WHAT i told my. Friend they

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Speaker 2: freak that they worry that he's creepy AND i shouldn't

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Speaker 2: fly across the cure's do you want to get? To

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Speaker 2: what questions is she going to ask him that's going

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Speaker 2: to make her feel?

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Speaker 1: BETTER i don't know what does he do for a

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Speaker 1: living or does he have? Siblings about his? Parents why

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Speaker 1: is he living In? Hawaii where's he? From get a

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Speaker 1: lot more, conversation going chit chat for a, month and

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Speaker 1: then see after a, month see if he's still, There

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Speaker 1: see if he still wants to chat with.

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Speaker 2: Him, yeah he might wait a little. LONGER i would.

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Speaker 1: Wait, Longer. ANONYMOUS i, REALLY i wouldn't do anything with

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Speaker 1: a guy after two, weeks even if you said to,

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Speaker 1: Me i'm in. LOVE i think he's. GREAT i didn't

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Speaker 1: expect this. HAPPENED i would, say if you haven't met,

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Speaker 1: him you don't. Know you just know what he's like on.

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Speaker 2: Text you, REALLY i, mean in today's, world it is

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Speaker 2: kind of, scary but it's exciting at the same. Time

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Speaker 2: and just keep talking to. Him so, YEAH i might

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Speaker 2: let you do.

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Speaker 1: That let's give it a little bit and Keep, yeah

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Speaker 1: let's give it some more. Time and you know, What,

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Speaker 1: anonymous if he pressures you to, go he's not a good, guy,

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Speaker 1: right that's a red. Flag you agree or?

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Speaker 2: Not, Yes, absolutely he shouldn't pressure. Her you should give

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Speaker 2: her as much time as she, needs all, Right so

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Speaker 2: fass still be, there that's. Right let him know if

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Speaker 2: you went anous Plan, anonymous do not.

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Speaker 1: Go. Now listen To, Kathy i'm beating your. Mother so

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Speaker 1: she decides to do. IT i want to, Know, well

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Speaker 1: we want to know if you do it a couple

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Speaker 1: of months from. Now we want to hear.

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Speaker 2: That now it's a couple of months before it was a.

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Speaker 2: Month she's changing her to. People i'm paying attention.

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Speaker 1: Here you know. What safety has no, Limits. Susan safety

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Speaker 1: has no.

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Speaker 2: Letue but a similar situation happened with you and you

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Speaker 2: were thinking ABOUT.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking about.

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Speaker 2: It what? Appened you weren't wanting.

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Speaker 1: Like the.

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Speaker 2: CONNECTION i don't think you felt too much of a,

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Speaker 2: connection and you were.

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Speaker 1: Scared you were. Scared so you know WHAT i. Listened

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Speaker 1: that's Something. Anonymous listen to your. Intuition if you don't have,

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Speaker 1: any listen to your friend's. Intuition, okay wist she. Loved be.

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Speaker 2: Careful let us know a.

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Speaker 1: Right so, Today, susan guess WHAT i have great news for.

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Speaker 1: You we're not doing a. Game we're not doing a.

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Speaker 1: Game how do you know we're? Not but we're doing

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Speaker 1: something that you AND i have discussed so. Much we're

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Speaker 1: going to do a dating app. Workshop if we.

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Speaker 2: Should into, Business i'm dead.

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Speaker 1: Serious you AND i know With Bachelor, nation we have

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Speaker 1: talked so much about what is? Wrong how we would

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Speaker 1: change dating. Apps what's wrong with?

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Speaker 2: Them we have, tips we have, tricks we have. Stories

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Speaker 2: we're going to share all of this so you can

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Speaker 2: find that special someone, else although we didn't find them

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Speaker 2: for us.

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Speaker 1: Yet, well but you know, what that's the. Point if

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Speaker 1: you're doing it the right, way then you're looking for

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Speaker 1: the right, one not. Someone we're not looking for what is.

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Speaker 1: It we're not looking for today's. Man we're looking for you,

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00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:35,200
Speaker 1: know our final whatever it.

434
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,280
Speaker 2: IS i never heard that one.

435
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 1: Looking for a. Guy we're not looking for a. Guy

436
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 1: we're looking for the. Guy, okay that.

437
00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:49,399
Speaker 2: One works a little. BETTER i just want to find my,

438
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 2: person damn, it the person that's.

439
00:22:53,920 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 1: Waif for two. Weeks that's my best advice for. You All,

440
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,560
Speaker 1: right here we, go let's. Go we're gonna, say step by,

441
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:13,440
Speaker 1: STEP i just want to be in same. Movie, okay

442
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 1: we're gonna go step by. Step we are seriously going

443
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 1: to break down our do's and. Don'ts, okay making your

444
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 1: profile and using the. Apps, okay let's start with step,

445
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 1: one which is choosing an. App, okay so the big

446
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 1: three are for younger. PEOPLE i would Add match for,

447
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 1: us but younger people don't typically Use match but the

448
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:41,439
Speaker 1: big three Are, Hinge, bumble and. Tender now for, me

449
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 1: And i'm, SERIOUS i talked to some people about, This

450
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 1: tinder used to be a. Hookup it was like you

451
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 1: want steps to get. On i'm saying it used to.

452
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 1: Be that's past. Tense DO i just say In? French

453
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 1: that is past. Tense bumble is the one where the women,

454
00:23:56,720 --> 00:24:01,159
Speaker 1: swipe And hinge is the red so they, say the

455
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:04,440
Speaker 1: one where they try to build. Connection where they try

456
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 1: to build, connection which is just some great marketing. Ploy

457
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:13,960
Speaker 1: BUT i think that theoretically this is just my. Opinion

458
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 1: i'm curious what you, Think. Bumble you, know women have to, initiate,

459
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 1: right so they. Swipe, okay so the woman, swipes but

460
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: the guy has to swipe. Back and some of the

461
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 1: thirty year OLDS i talked, TO i JUST i have

462
00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 1: to read it BECAUSE i was just blown away by

463
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:36,639
Speaker 1: what they were saying to.

464
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 2: Me.

465
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 1: Women this is not. Me this is what these girls

466
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,640
Speaker 1: THAT i chatted with were telling. Me, women and they're

467
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 1: in their, thirties women have to make them first move On,

468
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: Bumble and she said they said it was like a

469
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: group of. Girls guys, think oh she's really into, me

470
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 1: and men love the. Chase they, said so it becomes

471
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 1: less desire rable On bumble because there's no chase because

472
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:06,199
Speaker 1: the woman already, Swiped, Hey i'm interested in. You and

473
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,439
Speaker 1: SO i, said so what do you do and some

474
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 1: of them, said, well you, know you have twenty four

475
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,439
Speaker 1: hours to reach. Out i'm strictly talking About bumble right.

476
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: Now and so they said they, wait they wait for

477
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 1: the last, hour, like don't get your you, know don't

478
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,959
Speaker 1: get so excited, here like as a last minute, think oh,

479
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 1: Yeah i'll reach out to, you WHICH i thought was

480
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:27,560
Speaker 1: really interesting that men's in.

481
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,400
Speaker 2: Their, opinion this is a woman's. Opinion you talk to, women.

482
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:33,639
Speaker 1: Well a group of, women, yeah and then all, women

483
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: all women because women swipe On, bumble. Okay and Then

484
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 1: tinder they were, saying you, know that was a low stakes,

485
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,719
Speaker 1: app it was a hook, up so you, know the general,

486
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 1: psychology this is a, quote the general psychology of. Men

487
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:56,399
Speaker 1: they like the, chase and men are attracted to women

488
00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: they can't. Have and my mouth was dropping when they

489
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:01,400
Speaker 1: were saying.

490
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 2: That that's been said for one hundred.

491
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,959
Speaker 1: YEARS i, know but we're talking about apps and how

492
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 1: it works on the, apps. Right so On tinder they

493
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 1: were saying men had to work harder to get their

494
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:17,959
Speaker 1: attention where, bumble you, know they, swiped but then they

495
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,199
Speaker 1: had to wait for the. Men and of course you,

496
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,680
Speaker 1: know younger people are not on. Match and then they

497
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: talked a little bit about some of the invitation only

498
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: like the league In rayah and they were, saying you,

499
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: know those men they don't like because that's by invitation

500
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,120
Speaker 1: only those websites and they were, saying, yeah those guys

501
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: think their step above so but we're not going to be.

502
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 2: Harmony there's so, many there's so many. Blah but so

503
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 2: first of, ALL i think you need to decide if

504
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 2: you want to pay or get a free. One now

505
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 2: there's even On tinder and all of these to get

506
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,919
Speaker 2: to see who liked, you you have to, pay.

507
00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: Well you don't you so remember it's a it's a, business.

508
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, Absolutely i'd like to have one really to get.

509
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:08,640
Speaker 1: The high end stuff you have to. Pay But i've

510
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: been on the apps that where you don't have to,

511
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 1: pay Like tinder and some of, them and, yeah AND

512
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 1: i get enough people reaching, out BUT i do find

513
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: the same guys on. There what are your favorite, Apps.

514
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 2: SUSAN i don't have a favorite BUT i hate them,

515
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 2: all but they do come in, handy they come in.

516
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 2: HERE i just hate choosing by a, PICTURE i really.

517
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 2: DO i feel LIKE i don't give somebody the benefit

518
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,440
Speaker 2: of the doubt that he might not take a great

519
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 2: picture and he might be a great.

520
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 1: Guy all, Right well let's, Okay so let's start at

521
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:48,879
Speaker 1: the beginning. Here when you when you first go on

522
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,120
Speaker 1: a dating, app you've got to build a, profile, Right

523
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: so first you got to choose your. APP i would

524
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: say to you choose.

525
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 2: No matter what app you, choose it's about the. PROFILE i.

526
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 1: Know but But i'm, saying DO i think people should

527
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 1: go on three or four? Apps? NO i think pick

528
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 1: one or two and and and work with that because

529
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,679
Speaker 1: it does become like a full time. Job. Scroll so you,

530
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: know pick pick one or two. Apps that's my first.

531
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 1: Advice all, Right then you got to build a. Profile

532
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:21,199
Speaker 1: and here's where we get into. It oh, boy, okay

533
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 1: pictures tell me the, pictures not the, pictures but the

534
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 1: kinds of pictures you should.

535
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 2: Choose you would definitely do a couple, headshots maybe doing an,

536
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 2: activity and definitely most definitely a full body. Shot maybe

537
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 2: that is playing golf or whatever activity you chose or

538
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 2: walk in you're playing with your dog or, whatever but

539
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 2: they want to see who you.

540
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: Are, YEAH i THINK i think a good start to

541
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: building a profile is five or six. Pictures one is

542
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: a close up. Headshot it goes without, saying But i'm

543
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: going to say. It, Please Dear, god do not use old.

544
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 1: Pictures you the pictures you should be no more than

545
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 1: a year. Old no more than a year. Old put

546
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 1: up pictures of you if you like to, wait, lift

547
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: you like to, kayak you like.

548
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 2: To, ski doing, something put up pictures of.

549
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: Things you like to, do because, that's you, know that's

550
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 1: what's going to attract. Someone, oh this guy is not

551
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 1: a couch. Potato don't put.

552
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 2: A picture of you in a group even three. People

553
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 2: you don't know which one you, are that's. Exactly And

554
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 2: i've run into that a, lot like who is it?

555
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 2: WHAT i don't even know who you are exactly and

556
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 2: that's the only. Picture, Yeah so pictures are, important and

557
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: you want to picture you feel is your best.

558
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:36,480
Speaker 1: Shot.

559
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 2: Ye do not take selfies in a bathroom.

560
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 1: Wait can you? Wait Stop? Susan how do you repeat?

561
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 2: That? Please do, NOT i, repeat take a selfie in

562
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 2: the bathroom room.

563
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: Tacky, ever and For god's, sakes, men keep your, shirt

564
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 1: your clothes, on put your keep your clothes. On do

565
00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 1: not hold up. BEERS i live in tech WHERE i don't.

566
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 1: Know tell me guys think it's really cool to take

567
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 1: off their, shirts pull up a can of beer or

568
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: a dead fish or.

569
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 2: Both how about the big? Fish but what that tells

570
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,479
Speaker 2: me is that's what they like to. Do they're proud

571
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 2: of that because they caught this big. Fish to, me

572
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 2: it's not SOMETHING i don't like. Fishing so, yeah WHATEVER i,

573
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 2: MEAN i will pass that.

574
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 1: One.

575
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 2: Yeah but so you, know want to entice, Somebody you

576
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 2: want somebody to take a closer look and look at

577
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 2: all your, Pictures so do something sweet and LIKE i,

578
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 2: said show all of you and try to incorporate in

579
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 2: your pictures your personality.

580
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 1: Right which you know can be. DIFFICULT i think sometimes

581
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 1: it's good to have a black and white photo show

582
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 1: that you know you're a little. Creative don't have all the.

583
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: Pictures maybe angle some of the, photos you, know put

584
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: a caption off of, you do some. Highlighting if you

585
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: don't want to do, it ask one of your kids

586
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: or a friend and to help you make the picture look.

587
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: Interesting because they're too.

588
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 2: Sexy because they'll get the wrong. Impression SO i can't

589
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 2: believe you just said. THAT i want to tell you

590
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 2: about a friend of mine who is. Single she is

591
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 2: fifty two years. Old she is a BODY i would kill.

592
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 2: Four she's very pretty and exactly. That she said to, Me,

593
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 2: kathy would you.

594
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: Look at my? PROFILE i, said, sure she, goes Because

595
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 1: i'm attracting the wrong kinds of, GUYS i, said. SURE

596
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: i looked at her. Profile, SUSAN i almost. Died this

597
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: woman is a school. Teacher she's, lovely she's lots of.

598
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: Fun BUT i mean her pictures made her look like

599
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: she was looking for a. Hookup And i'm going to

600
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: change her. Name i'm going to call Her. Sally sally,

601
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: SAID i, Said, sally what are you? Doing look at this?

602
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 1: Picture she, goes WHAT i, said what you look like

603
00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 1: you're inviting the wrong kind of, Guy and she, GOES

604
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 1: i never thought about it that. WAY i, said we'll

605
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: start thinking about it that. Way and so she took

606
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 1: down all her pictures and we redid. Them because, guys

607
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 1: when you're creating a, profile you know who you. Are

608
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: susan knows WHO i. AM i know Who susan, is

609
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 1: but people looking at us on the internet, don't and

610
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: all they have to go by initially are those. Photos

611
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 1: so you want to make yourself look as.

612
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 2: Attractive SOMETIMES i think women need that, Attention they want that,

613
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,239
Speaker 2: attention so they do put these sexy pictures. Up, well

614
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 2: then don't get me. Surprised if you're looking for, that then.

615
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 2: Fine but if you're serious and you want to find

616
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 2: a good, guy.

617
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: Yeah you, know if you're showing with a making it.

618
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 1: Up but if you're putting yourself out there as a

619
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: woman in a wet t, shirt you, Know And i'm just,

620
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 1: saying that's what you're going to. Attract, guys if you

621
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 1: put yourself out there looking like you're a, bumpkin you're

622
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 1: going to tracked female. Bumpkinetts. Whatever you attract what you

623
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: put out. There AM i?

624
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 2: Wrong, no, no, no, no not at. All and that's

625
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 2: just the picture.

626
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: Part that's just the, pictures, Folks so spend the time

627
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: cultivating a good five or six.

628
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 2: Pictures, also, yes good, Point, kathy don't put just one

629
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 2: picture oh never people need to see Because i've seen

630
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 2: so many that oh, oh and Then i'm going through

631
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 2: and by the time you get to the fourth, picture

632
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 2: he's forty years. Older why are you putting yourself up

633
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 2: there at twenty when you're, Forty.

634
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 1: Well you could see what it's. Always let me just

635
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: also say it's a dead. Giveaway when they've taken a

636
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: photo of a photo of them when they were, twenty

637
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: the pictures sort of frayed and, crinkled like you're not pooling.

638
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 1: Anybody get take those pictures. Down this is WHAT i

639
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: used to look like. Now but you know WHAT i

640
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 1: want to. Say, yeah AND i used to be at

641
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: five to ten in a. Model i'm not.

642
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 2: Anymore, Well, KATHY i think we spent all our. TIME

643
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 2: i think this is going to have to have a part.

644
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 2: Two what do you?

645
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,760
Speaker 1: THINK i think we have lots more to, say.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely so stay. Tuned we will have a part two.

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Speaker 2: Coming smoo