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Speaker 1: Good morning everyone. I've been married to my husband for

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Speaker 1: eight years, have three kids. Last year to deer Ramdan

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Speaker 1: to the side of my car and total it out,

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Speaker 1: so I've had to use his car for work. If

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Speaker 1: I have to go anywhere else, I have to fight

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Speaker 1: with him just to get the car, and I'm tired

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Speaker 1: of fussing with him. He doesn't go anywhere. All he

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Speaker 1: does is play his game PlayStation three or be on

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Speaker 1: the computer. If anything happens to his game or computer,

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Speaker 1: he will do anything it takes to get it fixed,

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Speaker 1: even if it means taking from the kids. I cook,

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Speaker 1: clean and whatever else to make him happy, and it's

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Speaker 1: never good enough for him. He still complains lately I

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Speaker 1: haven't had any energy to argue because I'm tired of arguing,

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Speaker 1: and I've been tired after I got off my second

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Speaker 1: After I get off my second job, I'm only twenty seven,

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Speaker 1: and I have lost six children, in which three have

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Speaker 1: passed away in my arms, and I have yet to

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Speaker 1: mourn their death. I don't have time to worry about myself,

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Speaker 1: and I have to make sure my kids have what

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Speaker 1: they need. Help. Please tired? Wow? Uh you know what

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Speaker 1: if you don't, You've gotta take care of yourself. You've

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Speaker 1: got to worry about yourself. Uh, you gotta take care

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Speaker 1: of yourself because you can't take care of anyone else

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Speaker 1: if you don't. If if you're unhealthy. You know, you're

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Speaker 1: twenty seven, you work two jobs. You have a man

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Speaker 1: who won't let you use the car. Excuse me? Did

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Speaker 1: I say man? I mean whatever you want to call

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Speaker 1: this species. Uh, this is a little child here, you know,

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Speaker 1: because real man you know, wouldn't let his wife go

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Speaker 1: through all this while he sits at home and plays

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Speaker 1: PlayStation three. You know you're not his maid. You are

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Speaker 1: his wife, and you're dealing with some issues like the

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Speaker 1: loss of your children. You should be tired. You say

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Speaker 1: you're tired. You should be, but you've got to be

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Speaker 1: tired enough to do something about this, you know, I

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Speaker 1: mean this is crazy. Go ahead, Steve. You simply, lady,

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Speaker 1: have to be sick and tired, or being sick and tired.

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Speaker 1: That's all this is. And obviously you should be at

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Speaker 1: that point right now. Thus writing the letter, I'm assuming

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Speaker 1: that you are sick and tired or being sick and time.

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Speaker 1: You could do bad all by yourself. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I've been married to your husband for eight years and

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Speaker 1: you have three kids, so that means you got married

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Speaker 1: at nineteen. If you're twenty, yeah, you got married at nineteen.

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Speaker 1: Your man don't do nothing nothing, that's what you said,

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Speaker 1: and you got two jobs. Let me hip you the song.

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Speaker 1: This ain't your husband or your maid or a man.

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Speaker 1: Let me let me tell you the role of a husband.

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Speaker 1: A husband is to lead and provide. That's what a

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Speaker 1: husband does. That's his job, lead and provide. Now, the

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Speaker 1: way you're supposed to lead is in a positive way.

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Speaker 1: That's through love, guidance, direction, spirituality. Now a providing part.

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Speaker 1: You got to go out there and get it. I

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Speaker 1: don't care what did happened to you. You're gonna have

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Speaker 1: to do it now. If you don't last your job

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Speaker 1: and been laying off, I got that, and you you get

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Speaker 1: an unemployment, you gotta get back on your feet. I

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Speaker 1: got that. Every man go through the challenges having to

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Speaker 1: get back on your feet. But as long as your

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Speaker 1: man got the desire to get back on his feet,

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Speaker 1: the desire to lead, and and and it's constantly pressing

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Speaker 1: to make it happen for his family, that's a man.

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Speaker 1: And that's what the US do, not saying a man

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Speaker 1: can't get down, because every man gonna get down. It's

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Speaker 1: economy out there. It's happening everywhere. But this man you

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Speaker 1: got at the house, that ain't doing nothing. See, if

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Speaker 1: you're man out there trying to make it happen, then

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Speaker 1: please start clapping. But the other part, you've lost six children,

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Speaker 1: that's sad. It's really your man really should be having

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Speaker 1: a parade for you every day you come home and

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Speaker 1: he won't even let her use the car. I mean,

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Speaker 1: come on, well, I'm sorry, sister. What are you hanging

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Speaker 1: on to? And not you get accomplished what you've accomplished

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Speaker 1: by yourself. See you, that's where you have to look

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Speaker 1: at your life. Sometimes. If I can do what I've

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Speaker 1: done by myself without your help, then what promise of

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Speaker 1: help does he show? For the fear I don't see it?

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve with part two of your response to

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letter. Let's have it. Okay, I'm so heck

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Speaker 1: that's what we want to hear. Uh the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: I give my opinion. You may have a different opinion.

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Speaker 1: Go to Steve Harvey dot com, click on the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter button and type your opinion. Because the people that

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Speaker 1: write the letters always read the people's response. Don't just

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Speaker 1: listen to me and sugar and my response ain't always

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Speaker 1: on point. It may may be another way what I

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Speaker 1: would do and what I think is all that they

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Speaker 1: type in with me for now what they should really do?

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Speaker 1: And really, maybe you have some really really serious suggestion.

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Speaker 1: I just think we have a woman here who is

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Speaker 1: sick and tired of being sick in time, and I

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Speaker 1: think there's a lot more pain than this woman, which

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine anymore. Though six children, that's about as

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Speaker 1: painful as you can get. And uh, your man is

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Speaker 1: doing nothing to make you feel better about yourself or

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Speaker 1: the situation. That's ridiculous. Who is he a man too?

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Speaker 1: And who is he a man for? And in a marriage,

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Speaker 1: I mean, in this situation he should share. He should

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Speaker 1: let her use the car, she should just get the

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Speaker 1: one working. Yeah, he let her take the car to

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Speaker 1: go to work. But then after that he got a

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Speaker 1: problem with and then the deer that ran into the

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Speaker 1: car and total her car. And about the love. You know,

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Speaker 1: what can I tell you? Sometimes you just gotta go

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Speaker 1: posit or something. Yeah, he's crazy. Really. Uh, that's that's

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Speaker 1: it for the Strawberry Net open. All right, Steve, we

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Speaker 1: have to go. You know that, email us or Instagram.

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Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at My Girl Shirley,

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