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Speaker 1: y'all to these questions are a little out there, but

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Speaker 1: But let's start off in the beginning. Um. So, one

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Speaker 1: partner to do something, just like straight up and ask

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00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 1: them how I need you to do this for me? Um.

424
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: But it doesn't have to be like dangling a carrot

425
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: for them to do it. Um, like, hey, can you

426
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: do this for me? And if they say no, then

427
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 1: like maybe there needs to be a discussion about what's

428
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: going on. So yeah, but to your original question, it's

429
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 1: perfectly okay to not want to have sex every time

430
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 1: your partner wants to have sex. Where do you go, ladies? Um,

431
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 1: do you think people should share how many sex partners

432
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: they have upfront, not necessarily um for while now I'm

433
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: so like my thing is what I'm not. I'm the

434
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 1: reason why that is because what is the information that

435
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 1: you're really trying to get from asking for how many

436
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 1: people they have? Right? They've been intimate with a lot

437
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 1: of times. What people are looking for is um, some

438
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 1: sort of validation, um, some sort of like And and

439
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 1: then that goes back to what we were talking about two,

440
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: Like people feel a certain way if you've had a

441
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: certain number of sexual partners. Um. I just think that

442
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:36,719
Speaker 1: it's not the best practice to ask for a particular

443
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 1: number because oftentimes, no matter what the number is, it's

444
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 1: not gonna be satisfactory. Mm hmmm um. And just really

445
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: drilling down to what is it that you're asking for?

446
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: Are you describing uh, someone's value and worth as a

447
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: person or as a potential partner based on how many

448
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:05,479
Speaker 1: sexual experiences they've had because they had sex twenty times

449
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: with one person versus uh ten times with two people?

450
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: I mean, like, what's the difference? Right? Um? And so,

451
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 1: like I said, that's why some important to really drill

452
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:21,720
Speaker 1: down to like what what information are you trying to gather.

453
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 1: What are you trying to figure out by asking somebody

454
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 1: how many sex partners they've had? Um? So, yeah, I

455
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: don't think that it's necessarily the best the best question,

456
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: because you're really asking for something else. What you're asking

457
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 1: for is, um am I the best that you had.

458
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 1: What you're asking is is somebody else do this better

459
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:48,879
Speaker 1: than me? What you're asking is um am I going

460
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:52,880
Speaker 1: to measure up to your past partners? Like like this?

461
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,280
Speaker 1: These are really think really the things that you're asking,

462
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,880
Speaker 1: But oftentimes we're not feeling safe enough to be the

463
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: vulnerable to ask those questions. And then and then is

464
00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 1: it appropriate to ask those questions? Does it matter if

465
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: somebody else? Uh, that's what I said. What I'm saying like,

466
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,760
Speaker 1: you're gonna still want to hit, So what's the difference,

467
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, right, Um, if you are in

468
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:24,839
Speaker 1: a relationship, isn't wrong to not tell your partner when

469
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 1: you are masturbating? So I got questions about that, right, Um.

470
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of times people believe that

471
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 1: if you're in a committed relationship with someone, then you

472
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: shouldn't masturbate. They think that, oh, you should go to

473
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: your partner to get all of your needs met. I

474
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 1: don't agree with that. I think that solo sex should

475
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: remain a healthy part of your sexual experiences, even if

476
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: you are in a committed relationship. UM. I think that

477
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 1: UM people may like if it's obsessive or like uh,

478
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 1: you know, going into your um or infiltrating your partnered

479
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 1: sex experiences like that could be something like, for example, UM,

480
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: there are certain masturbatory practices that you may do, and

481
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: it trains your brain to uh orgasm only that specific Like,

482
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: it's not that your clearterists is desensitized by a vibrator,

483
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 1: it's just that your body is used to having an

484
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: orgasm that way. So when your partner is using a

485
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: finger or a tongue, it may be a lot harder

486
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:51,439
Speaker 1: to to come right UM. Or the same thing with

487
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:55,800
Speaker 1: people with penises, they're used to a very tight grip

488
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 1: from their right hand, from their dominant hand, and so

489
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 1: right you know what I'm saying, when their partner is

490
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 1: giving oral sex or their hand grid may not be

491
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: as tight. They may not be able to um orgasm.

492
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: It's not that they've become desensitized, it's just they've kind

493
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 1: of trained themselves to to orgasm from a certain set

494
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: of stimuli. So, um, the original question, do you have

495
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 1: to tell your partner every time you're masturbating? I don't

496
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: think so. I think that that, you know, I think

497
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: it's appropriate to talk with your partner about your masturbation practices,

498
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:44,879
Speaker 1: you know. Um, but it doesn't have to be detailed,

499
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: just that, Yeah, you know, I do what I knock

500
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 1: going out. Sometimes you just want to knock going out

501
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 1: and go to sleep, you know. But then other times

502
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: you want to have that shared experience. But if it

503
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 1: becomes a thing where you're preferring a little sex to

504
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,839
Speaker 1: partner sex, then I'm wondering, like, you know, what's what's

505
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: happening here? Right, That's when I'm asking the questions. Um.

506
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't think it's it's necessary to tell

507
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: your partner every time you know, you masturbate. I don't

508
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,880
Speaker 1: think that it should be something that you're hiding. I

509
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: think it should be that you feel comfortable talking about.

510
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 1: Because if you're sharing other parts of your life, other

511
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 1: parts of your sex life with your partner, then you

512
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,240
Speaker 1: should be able to share this with them as well.

513
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 1: But it's not weird for me to think that. I

514
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 1: think if you, like I don't want to masturbate with

515
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 1: my partner, like might as we just have sex. How

516
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 1: it just depends, Like sometimes you mutual masturbation could be

517
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 1: that it can be lit you know, um, like you know,

518
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 1: whether you're putting on a show for your partner, um,

519
00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 1: whether it's uh, you know there you're you're manually stimulating

520
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: them and then manually stimulating you or or whatever. Like

521
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: they are different, you know, different scenarios where it can

522
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:15,880
Speaker 1: be a really hot situation and then other times it

523
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: might just be like I said, you just want to

524
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: knock one out and go to sleep. Mhmm. Now, I

525
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 1: feel like we answered this question last time, but I

526
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:27,680
Speaker 1: feel like everybody just kept a lot of um ladies

527
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,399
Speaker 1: and like some men was asking me this question, how

528
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: can couples make intimacy a priority? That that's it? Like, yeah,

529
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 1: you answered the question and your question making it a

530
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: prior already a lot of times UM. And I'm thinking

531
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 1: about specifically when UM folks when their roles changed in

532
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:58,919
Speaker 1: some way. So for example, UM, a couple that does

533
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:03,600
Speaker 1: not live to weather, they have to purposefully make time

534
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 1: to see each other, right, but when you do live together,

535
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: you kind of take it for granted that I'm gonna

536
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 1: see you, so you don't necessarily make time to be

537
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 1: a couple. Same thing for folks who end up being parents. Uh,

538
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 1: there role as parents ends up taking precedent over their

539
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: role as a couple, and you just get lost in

540
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:33,720
Speaker 1: the shuffle. So you have to make a priority of

541
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: that time with your partner, you know, whether it's actually

542
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 1: scheduling time. Um, you know, from this time to this time,

543
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: it's gonna be me and you. We're gonna do something

544
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: that doesn't involve a screen because a lot of people

545
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,799
Speaker 1: sit up and watch TV together, but that's not necessarily

546
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: you know, really deepening your intimacy. But um, but really

547
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: just like scared telling that time being very purposeful with

548
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 1: time to connect with your partner and doing a specific

549
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: activity that doesn't involve a screen. It could be cooking

550
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: a meal together, taking a walk, um, working on project,

551
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 1: not watching the movie because that's a screen. That's a screen.

552
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, true, Damn I like watching movies. I mean,

553
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,800
Speaker 1: but that's that's good. I think that that's good time,

554
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: you know, but interactive exactly exactly. Yeah, like single but

555
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 1: now like like I think that it's cool because like

556
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:49,360
Speaker 1: I watch a lot of TV, like a lot of

557
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 1: specific shows and movies with my boy But you know,

558
00:41:55,560 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 1: we have to be intentional about making time out side

559
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: of that. That is just us just hanging, whether it's talking,

560
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 1: making a meal together, you know, whatever that is. I'm

561
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 1: just curious, do your boyfriend ever feel like you're talking

562
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 1: to him as a client. No, I am really work

563
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: hard to differentiate my hat where. Um. You know, being

564
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 1: a therapist is hard work and I don't like doing

565
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: it for free. So right right, I say, I take

566
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 1: that therapist had off. I'm very mindful of not um

567
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 1: like trying to analyze folks or anything like that in

568
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:49,520
Speaker 1: social settings. Like people find out I'm a sex therapist,

569
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 1: They're gonna ask some questions like that's gonna happen. Um, however,

570
00:42:55,239 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: uh like I have a well, I joke to say

571
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 1: that I have an invisible tattoo across my worre He

572
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 1: had that says therapist and social worker. So a lot

573
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 1: of people just tell me all this stuff. But um,

574
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:15,880
Speaker 1: even in those moments, I'm not a therapist. I'm just

575
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: like a calming, non judgmental presence. So yeah, I like

576
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 1: certain parts of who I am transfer well into my

577
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:33,399
Speaker 1: work as a therapist. But that's my I'm not at work.

578
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 1: Seven I turned it. No, I feel you. Um So

579
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 1: this is from one of my male listeners. What does

580
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: some advice you would gift to men that struggle with

581
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: performance anxiety. Oh, that's a good one. So there are

582
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 1: a few things that I would suggest. One, uh, is

583
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 1: really taking orgasm off the table for you and for

584
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 1: your partner. Um. I think because we have this idea

585
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: that our partners are responsible for our our orgasms. But

586
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:16,440
Speaker 1: I tell everybody you are responsible for your own. I

587
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 1: mean straight up because a lot of times, you know,

588
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:23,280
Speaker 1: people say, oh, he couldn't make me come. No, baby,

589
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:27,239
Speaker 1: you couldn't make you come like that, ain't got nothing

590
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 1: to do with him. And then like a lot of times,

591
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 1: like people are looking to um, you know, experience orgasm

592
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 1: through intercourse civilly people with evolvers, and it's like na,

593
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:42,799
Speaker 1: but that that that may not happen because a lot

594
00:44:42,800 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: of people need direct stimulation of the glance as a

595
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: clitterer is to have an orgasm. In most times that's

596
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 1: not gonna happen through to straight up penis and vagina intercourse.

597
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 1: So um So, anyway back to the whole performance anxiety thing.

598
00:44:57,920 --> 00:45:00,360
Speaker 1: Take an orgasm off the table. A lot of times,

599
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 1: like when you're focusing on the end or the perceived

600
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 1: and you don't even get an opportunity to enjoy like

601
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 1: the pleasurable bits in the middle. You just focus on

602
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: I gotta get this nut. But like, what about noticing

603
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 1: how your body feels in the meantime? Um, you know,

604
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 1: and and so I really work with folks to focus

605
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 1: on the pleasure that they're experiencing, not chasing the orgasm.

606
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: Like orgasms are great, you know, I think they're wonderful.

607
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 1: I enjoy them personally. However, I think it's important to

608
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: focus on the pleasure. So some different ways in doing

609
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 1: that can involve mindfulness. Mindfulness is something that UM has

610
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 1: like reached a lot of popularity. But it's really about

611
00:45:56,920 --> 00:46:01,840
Speaker 1: focusing on the right now. When you're focused on orgasm,

612
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,800
Speaker 1: you're in the future, you're in the what would happen

613
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: you're not in the right now right now? Is there

614
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:14,720
Speaker 1: maybe um, you know, stimulation of this body part and

615
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 1: you know, really noticing like does that feel good? Do

616
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 1: I like that? UM? Or I really enjoy doing this

617
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 1: specific sexual act, Like really just focusing on the right

618
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 1: now and not so much on and just enjoying it. Yes, exactly,

619
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: that's it. That's so yeah, that that's definitely one thing

620
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 1: to help with performance anxiety, taking the idea of performance

621
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: off the table and really um, taking orgasm off the

622
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: table and really focusing on pleasure and not even worrying

623
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 1: about um, not even really focusing on direction. Just like,

624
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: let's let's enjoy what is right now and how can

625
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: we exchange pleasure in this moment? Well, do you recommend

626
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: anything for men to help them maintain their directionally because

627
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 1: you know a lot of niggas I hear be having

628
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: whiskey dicks, no shade, no tea. I'm just saying, so

629
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 1: there are there are a few different things like there

630
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: are that are available. Um. Conquerings are good because they

631
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:35,880
Speaker 1: help with maintaining the blood flow in an erect penis.

632
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 1: They can be used, um if you're having problems with direction. Now,

633
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 1: first of all, I go back and check what's your

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Speaker 1: So if you're cleared for you know from your doctors

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Speaker 1: Um it could be used with the penis pump. If

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Speaker 1: help you get in an erection. And then um, you

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Speaker 1: Well there, y'all go, I don't know no good cock rings,

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Speaker 1: so do your research. Yeah. Last, but not least so,

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Speaker 1: emotional abandonment would have you searching for parents and you're partners.

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Speaker 1: How can one try to avoid this therapy? I mean

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Speaker 1: So if someone knows that they have abandonment challenges, or

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Speaker 1: they see within themselves that you know what, I'm having

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Speaker 1: some patterns of behavior that are not healthy relationships. Like,

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Speaker 1: help you work through those because they're very real issues. Um.

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Speaker 1: But they're very real issues that need to be addressed

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Speaker 1: that's it. That's all. Well, I was the last question

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Speaker 1: is it important to pee after sex? I was like, girl,

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Speaker 1: what are you talking about? Yeah? So p and after

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Speaker 1: What you're doing is you're reducing the likelihood of getting

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Speaker 1: that's good to pee after sex. You're yeah, yeah, yeah,

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