1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:03,160 Speaker 1: I just was already thinking how am I getting out 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: of this? And one of them I left in the 3 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 1: middle of it. What I said, I had to go 4 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: home and get something, and I never showed back up. Aaron, No, 5 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: you did not Calm down with Aaron and Carissa is 6 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: a production of iHeartRadio. 7 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 2: I'm Fama. Welcome everybody to the pre game. For those 8 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 2: of you that are new to. 9 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 3: The podcast, this is where we answer viewer and listener questions. 10 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 3: It's one of my favorite things and I just become 11 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 3: a radio host when doing it. 12 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,319 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. Delilah, I love it. 13 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 3: I love that sweatshirt without the hood. I have the 14 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 3: hooded version. I don't know where it is, and that 15 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 3: is show Merlow. That's our Cabernet a shirt. I was 16 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:52,960 Speaker 3: going to say, whenever we wear this, we can spill 17 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 3: wine all over it. Yeah, let's shout out to legends. 18 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 3: This is their old stuff. I want them to bring 19 00:00:57,840 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 3: that back. I love them, love it. 20 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 2: Solo. Where's Ryan? 21 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 3: All? Right? First up, we've got Mama yelling what's new? 22 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 3: Mary f I'm so, how would you pronounce that? 23 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: I think that would be how I would do it. 24 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 3: Man Or Maria f we're not sure, but Maria, I 25 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 3: don't know, Maria F. Underscore twenty six ask chemical PILs 26 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 3: yay or nay for dark spot. You know what, Maria F. 27 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 3: I am going to get a chemical peal actually, uh 28 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 3: pretty soon here, so. 29 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 2: I will let you know. Is there a chemical peal 30 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 2: or laser? Because I'm going to do a CEO two 31 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:34,959 Speaker 2: and I thought that was a laser. 32 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 3: Then, you know what, Maria F. I don't know anything. 33 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 3: I just say yes to whatever the dermatology says it is. Yeah, 34 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:43,559 Speaker 3: I'm doing the CO two, so I'm not sure. I've 35 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 3: never had a chemical peal. But I was laughing the 36 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 3: other day because a girlfriend of mine was having or 37 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 3: she's going to have a party thing and it's going 38 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 3: to be it's going to intercept when I have the 39 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 3: the old peels the situation or whatever CO two, and 40 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, I can't go because I'll look crazy. 41 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 3: And I was like, or I could just be like 42 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 3: Samantha from Sex and the City, the beekeeper like veil 43 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,399 Speaker 3: things she wore, and then I started going her down 44 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 3: a rabbit hole of her like memes for that. 45 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 2: It's very funny. So Maria, I'm sorry, we are no 46 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:18,040 Speaker 2: help to you. 47 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 3: I don't know about a chemical peel, but I'll let 48 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 3: you know how the CO two laser goes. 49 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 2: Anonymous. 50 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, anonymous, this is interesting. I recently debuted my new 51 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: relationship on social media, which which seems to have come 52 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 1: as a shock to people. I wonder why suddenly I 53 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: was losing followers. 54 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 2: How are we supposed to behave when we really just 55 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 2: want to call people out? 56 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 1: Well, I don't know about the new, about the like 57 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: why your relationship has made people stop following you? That's interesting. 58 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: More details would be fun. But how are we supposed 59 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 1: to behave when we really want to call people out? 60 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 1: I mean sometimes I like, here's one. 61 00:02:57,919 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 3: I love when she gets fired up for those of 62 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 3: the so you can't see air and her hair looks fantastic. 63 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 3: Shout out, Nikki, what up? I'm on a new journey. 64 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 3: You were nice enough to uh to bring me into 65 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 3: your hair salon. 66 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 2: Nice hero one with Nikki Lee and we are. 67 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:15,680 Speaker 3: My goal is the Carissa goal. Like your hair, we 68 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 3: talked about it today. It has gone from not that 69 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 3: it was bad before. It looks like you have so 70 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 3: much extensions and you don't. 71 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 2: It's gracious. 72 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 3: It's finally all my own real hair and it's very healthy. 73 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:32,960 Speaker 3: So yeah, shout it out to Niki Rihanna over at 74 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 3: nine oh one Salon because also I haven't washed it today, 75 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 3: which is part of the journey because I used to 76 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 3: be a girl that washed my hair every single day. 77 00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 3: But my hair is very healthy now, Thank you gals. 78 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 3: But yeah, you literally first, so you don't need to 79 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 3: say share. 80 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 2: You go there and whenever you want. 81 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 3: But I do like it a healthy hair thing, and 82 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 3: yours looks great. Okay, I can't go ahead, You're okay. 83 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 3: So when you want to call people out, I don't 84 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 3: know how to. I think you have to just use discretion, 85 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 3: Like is this something you want to be hot and 86 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 3: bothered about? 87 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 2: Is it not? 88 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: So here's one Listen, there's always people on Instagram or Twitter. 89 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 1: That's what this was on, where people are like they 90 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: give a shout out to an up and coming sideline 91 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: reporter or broadcaster. And I love it when they do 92 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: that because it's really cool and I get to see 93 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: who they are. But they always seem to tag me 94 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: and be like, hey, check out so and so she 95 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 1: just crushed it at the combine. Look out Aaron Andrews. 96 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: I think that part is just always like what am 97 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 1: I looking at? 98 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 2: You want to come from my job? That's all I 99 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 2: think about. I was in a mood. 100 00:04:36,680 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 1: I was in a freaking mood that day and I 101 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: read that and I was excited. 102 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 2: I looked at at the girl and she looked like 103 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 2: she was doing a great job. Way to crush it 104 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 2: at the Combine amazing. 105 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: That's also an incredible place to, like, you know, work 106 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: and get some interviews and meet the guys and all 107 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 1: that stuff. But I just kind of thought the look 108 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: out Aaron Andrews was a little caddy. 109 00:04:57,080 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 3: And I just wrote the guy back, don't know who 110 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 3: he is, And I go, why do you tag. 111 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 2: Me on this? Like I just you know what I mean? 112 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 2: And was it worth it? Was it not? But sometimes 113 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 2: I'm like, what am I looking? Look at it? Like, 114 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 2: I don't know. 115 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:17,479 Speaker 3: I'm always in two minds about this because man, the 116 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 3: things that I want to go back and say people however, however, 117 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,799 Speaker 3: it's always the people that are like follower of Christ, 118 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 3: father of four daughters, and he's just ripping me a 119 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:34,160 Speaker 3: new one, and I'm like, oh, really have to say 120 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 3: about this? Or what would your daughters have to say 121 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 3: about this? If they knew that your father. So then 122 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 3: I'm just like whatever, and it's like it's an avatar 123 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 3: photo half the time or whatever. 124 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 2: I don't know, it's just not worth it for me. 125 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 3: I do though, there's a few that get me like 126 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 3: rowled up, but then I'm like whatever. 127 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 2: So I just always say. 128 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:57,280 Speaker 1: Some mornings after a couple of cocktails, they wake up 129 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 1: and I was like, god, I hope I didn't say anything. 130 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:03,119 Speaker 2: And then you look and you and you're like thank god. Wait, 131 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:05,480 Speaker 2: what was I going to say about that before? Oh? 132 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 3: Oh, about the part about the question of posting. I 133 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:12,119 Speaker 3: understand this. So when I was married the first time, 134 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 3: I never told anyone that I got married like I was. 135 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 3: I was married at twenty six. I randomly got married 136 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 3: on a Saturday, and my parents didn't even know for like, 137 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 3: I don't know a couple of weeks later because I 138 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 3: felt guilty and I was like, mom, I need to 139 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 3: tell you something like. It was just something where I 140 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,279 Speaker 3: made the decision. Clearly it wasn't the right person. Stop 141 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:37,160 Speaker 3: me if you've heard that before, but it was that 142 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 3: thing where I just I kind of wanted to keep 143 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:40,039 Speaker 3: it to myself. 144 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 2: And I'll be honest, with you. I was starting out 145 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 2: in the business. 146 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 3: I was twenty six years old, and I was like, 147 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 3: I don't want to put my personal life out there. 148 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 2: I just wanted it to be my own thing. 149 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 3: Then I had a change of heart because I was like, 150 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 3: I was sick of people saying that I got into 151 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 3: the job because I wanted to date athletes and I 152 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:57,280 Speaker 3: wanted to write. 153 00:06:57,279 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 2: And meanwhile, I'm like, are so married? 154 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 3: I'm exact for the last year and a half and 155 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 3: no one even knew about it. So then I was like, oh, 156 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:06,599 Speaker 3: I am going to put it out there and be like, no, 157 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 3: I'm not in this job because I want a dat 158 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 3: an athlete. 159 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 2: I'm already married. But I was trying to keep it personal. 160 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 3: So the other side of that too is the anonymous 161 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 3: here that there's more of a we have more of 162 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 3: a male following because we work in sport. So then 163 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 3: if it's like, oh, but guys like oh you're married 164 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 3: or you're taken, then maybe somebody doesn't think that there 165 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 3: is appealing. That's more of what my mindset, like a 166 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 3: twenty was now, I mean, please, no one's coming after me, 167 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 3: but like you know what, bones okay, sat right here, 168 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 3: So it depends on what it is. So if you're 169 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,200 Speaker 3: losing followers because you're in a relationship, then those were 170 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 3: not followers that you wanted anyways, So don't worry about that. 171 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 3: And as for calling people out, I would say a 172 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 3: good rule of thumb is would your father or your 173 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 3: mother or anybody that you respect be proud of what 174 00:07:57,160 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 3: you said back. If you think it's good to stand 175 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 3: up for yourself and say it in a nice way, 176 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 3: that's one thing. But don't stoop to their level because 177 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 3: half the time the person just wants you to respond, 178 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 3: and then once you respond, they're like, oh, I'm a 179 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 3: huge fan. 180 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 2: I'm like, you're a dick, so whatever. That is always 181 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 2: a follow up. Oh my god, I'm so great you 182 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 2: have fuck off. 183 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 3: Sarah Ray Thirteen biggest pieces of advice for the single 184 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 3: girl in her early thirties. 185 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 2: Sarah Ray, you enjoy that, sister. Yep, same advice right there. 186 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 2: Enjoy it. 187 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 3: I say this all the time because I still have 188 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 3: girlfriends who who are single and they're like, yeah, but 189 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 3: I'm getting older. I'm gonna tell you this, as I 190 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 3: just laid out, I have been married and divorced twice, 191 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 3: and it's not something that I look back on and like, obviously, 192 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 3: if I could do it over, I wouldn't have chose 193 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 3: those people. Find no problem that said, who cares if 194 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 3: you're still single in your thirties. 195 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:50,839 Speaker 2: I've been. 196 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 3: I was married and divorced twice by the time I 197 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 3: was in my thirties. It's like, it doesn't matter which 198 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 3: path you take. What matters is that you make the 199 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 3: decision that ends up being the best for you, with 200 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 3: the best partner, with you know, making sure that when 201 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:07,680 Speaker 3: you do, you know, meet that person, that you're also ready, 202 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 3: because you can meet a great guy and be like, oh, 203 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:12,440 Speaker 3: I didn't date enough, and so I still feel like 204 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 3: I haven't got out of my system. 205 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:15,559 Speaker 2: Like I'm glad that I dated. 206 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 3: I'm glad that I've been married, because now once I 207 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 3: met Steve, I'm like, I know a good thing when 208 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 3: I see it now, and I'm so glad that I 209 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 3: had those experiences early of being you know this or that, 210 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 3: because I'm like, oh, great, I'm ready to settle down 211 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:30,600 Speaker 3: because I don't wonder what it would be like to 212 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,640 Speaker 3: be single anymore. So I think enjoy it. Don't put 213 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 3: pressure on yourself and look, thirty girl, you're young as hell. 214 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 2: That is fun. 215 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:43,199 Speaker 1: Go live your life like love story, right, Just go 216 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: get your pencils, cigarette pants on and hit the out. 217 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, come on, don't let us down. Tell us all 218 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 2: about it too. Yeah. I was going to say, we 219 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 2: want to live vicariously through you world, man. Don't be 220 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 2: in a rush for anything. Nope, but go freeze your eggs. 221 00:09:57,640 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 3: Go for you. 222 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 2: Go freeze your eggs right now. Okay. 223 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,319 Speaker 1: Lisa Myers K eight favorite candy on a plane chocolate 224 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: or gummy candy. 225 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 2: I don't really eat candy. 226 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 3: I'm not a big candy person. But it depends what 227 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 3: mood I'm in. I like a hot to Mollie. I 228 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 3: like a Swedish fish. But if I'm on a plane, 229 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,720 Speaker 3: I would say that I definitely would reach more for 230 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 3: a chocolate because I'm probably having a glass of wine, 231 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 3: and then the chocolate is better with the red wine. 232 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 3: So it depends the pairing. Sometimes if you want a 233 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 3: little jolt of energy, that candy is nice. 234 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: I think more of like after you come home from 235 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: having a couple of sodas, when you're on the road 236 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 1: and you see the old treat beside the bed and 237 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'll have the dark and the milk. 238 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 2: How about men to the thing? You know, this is 239 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 2: me at the what if we call it? 240 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 3: They don't even have any metal hotels mini bars anymore. 241 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 3: Sometimes some hotels get real disappointed because they're nice, Like 242 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:05,959 Speaker 3: where the hell's the mini bar ransacked? The Eminem's, the Cashews, 243 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 3: the Eminem's. And then sometimes you know they have those chips, 244 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 3: the old kettle chips in there. When I'm into the animals, 245 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 3: crams are good. Sometimes they got the beef jerky, you know, 246 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 3: the natural one. I know it's a bit of rough 247 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 3: night when I wake up in the morning and the 248 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 3: like ten packages are open, and I'm like, well, that's 249 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 3: gonna be a hefty bill. 250 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:25,439 Speaker 1: Do you know they put the M and ms in 251 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:28,599 Speaker 1: the glass jar? I feel like they're just not as fresh. 252 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:32,679 Speaker 2: Oh really, I like the jar? Okay, okay. 253 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 3: How about those mini bars though that you just pick 254 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 3: them up and then they charge you not. I was like, 255 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:38,000 Speaker 3: I'm down at the front desk. I'm like, I swear 256 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 3: I put it down. 257 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 2: I didn't. Sorry, Brad, he sees that Bill. 258 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 3: Jessica, Oh no, no, sorry, We've got gse linguardy And 259 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 3: again I apologize for however you pronounce that have you 260 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 3: ever decided not to ask planned questions because you sense 261 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 3: the interview e wouldn't take it? 262 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 2: Well, Absolutely all the time. 263 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 3: I would say, I think Aarin is one of the 264 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 3: best interviewers that I know. I think she's very good 265 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:14,680 Speaker 3: at sit down interviews, and I love watching her do 266 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:17,280 Speaker 3: them because she has such great relationships with the guys 267 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 3: that she sits down with, large part because she's not 268 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,000 Speaker 3: going to put them in a compromising position and interrogate 269 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 3: them with ridiculous questions that we know sometimes people will do. 270 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 2: Me. 271 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 3: I would say the best thing to do in an 272 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 3: interview is listen. You might think the interview is going 273 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 3: to go one way and you have all these pre 274 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 3: planned questions and the interviewee is going to say something 275 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 3: completely different. 276 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 2: Now you need to follow their lead. 277 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,560 Speaker 3: And if they've opened up that door, I sure hope 278 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 3: you're listening because if they've invited you in to take 279 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,959 Speaker 3: that next step or to have that smart follow up, 280 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 3: you better do it because if you're so focused on 281 00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 3: the next agenda question, you might miss an opportunity to 282 00:12:55,520 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 3: get something from somebody that is paramount or but said 283 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 3: or mixed the interviews. So yeah, definitely be able to pivot. 284 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 3: But listen. Number one in interviews is listening. 285 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 1: I just had an opportunity to do a like a 286 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 1: an event. 287 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:19,319 Speaker 3: It's going to be released soon with Marshaun Lynch. Oh yeah, 288 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 3: and I'm so mad I couldn't see you guys on FaceTime. 289 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 3: We called driving there and I called, you want to 290 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 3: do it after? He's fascinating and I then told you 291 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:31,680 Speaker 3: I never did it. Got to do a sit down 292 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:32,440 Speaker 3: interview with him. 293 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 1: I never did postgame with him, and he and I 294 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 1: sat there when we should have been doing our lines 295 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: and shooting and all this stuff, basically talking it out. 296 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: Why for so many years he didn't do one with me? 297 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:49,559 Speaker 1: And he and he said, what fantastic with his reasoning. 298 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:52,320 Speaker 1: He just said, like, I don't want to talk about 299 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: all the same stuff that everybody would ask me. I 300 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,079 Speaker 1: don't want to tell you why I was running well 301 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 1: or what the defense was showing me. And I said, yeah, 302 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:02,120 Speaker 1: but Marshawn, like if you run for two hundred and 303 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 1: fifty yards in a game, or you have over like 304 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 1: one hundred and fifty yards. 305 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 3: In the first half, like I have to ask you 306 00:14:08,360 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 3: what went right? And he goes, no, you don't. I said, 307 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:12,439 Speaker 3: but I do, And he said, but I don't want 308 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 3: to talk about that, And I go, what do you 309 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 3: want to talk about? 310 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 1: He goes, ask me what I'm listening to? He told 311 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: me about a Seattle reporter that covered him. We then 312 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: called the Seattle pr with his days, and I was like, Hey, 313 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: who was that? How did he get the interview? Why 314 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:29,040 Speaker 1: didn't I get it? And it was so fascinating to 315 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: hear the things he wanted to talk about and what 316 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: he wanted to be asked, I love it. He wants 317 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 1: to come on the podcast, he said, God damn right, 318 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: get over here. You know how I feel about Marshawan. 319 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 3: And I'm so glad that you guys got like real 320 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 3: time together because I always said, Marshawan, of course, has. 321 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:48,920 Speaker 2: You know this? 322 00:14:48,920 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 3: This thing from what we remember from the Super Bowl 323 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: back in two thousand whatever, it was a ten he 324 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 3: you know, at for anyone that doesn't know, my man 325 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 3: was like he was he was it. He was Saquon 326 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 3: before Saquon in that regard, like he was like Marshaan 327 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 3: got shit done. But he wasn't a fan of media, 328 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 3: as Arn just illustrated. He wanted to play the game 329 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 3: of football, and he didn't want to deal with all 330 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:15,840 Speaker 3: the other bs. Well, he had to go to media 331 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 3: day because it was part of his obligation, and so 332 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 3: he has the whole famous line of I'm just here 333 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,880 Speaker 3: so I don't get fined, and that was his answer 334 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:25,040 Speaker 3: to every single question. And so sometimes people are like, oh, 335 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 3: what a dick, He's not even answering the questions. But 336 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 3: as you just laid out, he didn't want to answer 337 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 3: the same old generic questions over my oregan. But now 338 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:36,400 Speaker 3: post playing career, anyone that can't see Marshawn Lynch for 339 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 3: what he is, I always like compare him to like Snoop, 340 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:41,600 Speaker 3: Like everyone loves Snoop and everyone loves Marshan, And if 341 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 3: you don't love those guys, then that's a you problem 342 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 3: because they are so charismatic, they're so entertaining. And as 343 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 3: you learned from Marshan, because this is now a podcast 344 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 3: about Marshan and rightfully. 345 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 1: So, is that he's a renaissance man. This guy has 346 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: so many different facets of his life that you don't 347 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: know about if you don't ask, and so I just 348 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 1: adore him and I think he's great. But going back 349 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 1: to that question to bring it full circle is yeah, 350 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 1: be willing to pivot and. 351 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:07,960 Speaker 2: Be willing to they don't want to go there. 352 00:16:08,520 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 3: If they don't want to go there, don't And I 353 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 3: understand too. This was really hard for me in entertainment 354 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:15,800 Speaker 3: I and I can say it now because she's a 355 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 3: second mother to me. Lisa g was like, if you 356 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:22,120 Speaker 3: don't ask these questions, you're in trouble because they were 357 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 3: look Extra was a gossipy you know, kind of not 358 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 3: not salacious, but it was an entertainment show and they 359 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 3: This was a lot more before social media too, where 360 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 3: it was like, we want to know who so, who's 361 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:34,880 Speaker 3: so and so is dating? 362 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:35,840 Speaker 2: We want to know those things. 363 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 3: So if you're on a red carpet, you better ask 364 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 3: Brad Pitt about that, or you better ask Jennifer Garner 365 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 3: about her divorce with Ben Affleck. I was so uncomfortable 366 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 3: asking those questions, which is why I stop doing it 367 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:49,760 Speaker 3: because I don't like doing that. And those people that can, 368 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 3: the Kevin Frasiers of the world who have a lot 369 00:16:51,840 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 3: of respect for or Mario, like I just couldn't do it. 370 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:58,360 Speaker 3: So I think that again, there's a lot of subtexts 371 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:00,840 Speaker 3: to this question. Make sure you're in a job that 372 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:03,640 Speaker 3: you're comfortable in because you don't want to also have 373 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:05,840 Speaker 3: to be put in a position to like ask questions. 374 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:09,480 Speaker 2: You don't want to do either. Yeah. A quick note 375 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 2: about Marshawn from Ryan. 376 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,359 Speaker 1: He led the league in rushing touchdowns and back to 377 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 1: back seasons when they played in back to back Super Bowls. 378 00:17:16,359 --> 00:17:19,159 Speaker 2: A ging go there, you go. Should have had won 379 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:21,919 Speaker 2: both both those back to back Super Bowls. Give marsha 380 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 2: On the ball. In the words of Jimmy Johnson, oh wait, 381 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:26,480 Speaker 2: the best is when Marshaw goes coach, would you have 382 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:30,440 Speaker 2: given me the ball? Jimmy Johnson goes, hell, Yeah, would 383 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:33,120 Speaker 2: have given you the ball. It was so funny. 384 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, we don't have to take that out. 385 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 3: Jimmy's been very vocal about it's the best. 386 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:41,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. How about you? Oh, you weren't on the text 387 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:44,840 Speaker 2: chain the other day? What's sane? Coach? 388 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:48,160 Speaker 3: Jimmy had sent a picture of the NFC Championship game 389 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:50,520 Speaker 3: two years ago to like five of us on the 390 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:52,840 Speaker 3: text chain and he's like, I just miss you guys, 391 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:55,440 Speaker 3: just saying hi. He goes, I don't have everybody's number 392 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:58,439 Speaker 3: on this text chain or in the picture, but it 393 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:01,639 Speaker 3: was so cute, actually was it. It was from the 394 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 3: NFC Championship game in Philly. We were at that bar 395 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,479 Speaker 3: afterwards and we were all just hanging out that I know. 396 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:10,479 Speaker 3: It was really special. We love you out of their 397 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 3: memories of that bar as well. Oh yeah, me too, 398 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 3: jess Okay, Jessica. We're going back to my husband's hometown 399 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:22,000 Speaker 3: for his fiftieth birthday, which happens to be Vegas. We 400 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 3: currently live in the Midwest and some friends have decided 401 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:26,400 Speaker 3: they want to come as well and make a trip 402 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 3: of it. Cute. 403 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:30,160 Speaker 1: One couple keeps talking about all the plans we should 404 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 1: make together and all this time are going to be together. 405 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 1: We have to see my husband's entire family, plus all 406 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 1: the friends we have from our twenty years of living 407 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: in Vegas. How do we set expectations with these friends 408 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:43,879 Speaker 1: from the Midwest. We won't be seeing them much on 409 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:45,879 Speaker 1: this trip they decided to go on. 410 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 2: I'll be honest. I feel like my husband is that friend. 411 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 1: He you tell him a bunch of people are going 412 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: on a trip, and he makes fifty reservations, and sometimes 413 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,159 Speaker 1: you just have to be honest. Hey, jar Bear, we 414 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 1: don't feel like going tonight. Or these people aren't attending 415 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:03,560 Speaker 1: because there he's fine with that. 416 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:04,439 Speaker 2: Just let him know. 417 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 1: He wants to provide. He's the office Carly sweet, wants 418 00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:10,639 Speaker 1: to provide everyone a great time. But you have to 419 00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: be honest, like, hey, babe, we're not going to do 420 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:14,879 Speaker 1: that today. We don't want to do this. We're going 421 00:19:14,960 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 1: to stay in. 422 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:17,720 Speaker 2: That's fine, and he's great about that if you're like, 423 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 2: we're just paying options. 424 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:21,639 Speaker 3: But it's really sweet though, even when we were like 425 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:25,040 Speaker 3: for tickets for that barbecue for example, which by the way, okay, 426 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:27,360 Speaker 3: where he's like he doesn't want anyone to miss out, 427 00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 3: like if we don't, if he doesn't buy the tickets, 428 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:31,119 Speaker 3: and then maybe they're sold out and then maybe we 429 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:34,800 Speaker 3: all can't go. I think it's so sweets. But you 430 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:36,639 Speaker 3: know what I would rather have. I'd rather have him 431 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 3: make plans, Because'm gon to tell you who's not making plans. 432 00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:40,960 Speaker 3: This girl over here in the wine sweatshirt. You know, 433 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:44,639 Speaker 3: I'm not a person. So yeah, I think that's great advice, 434 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:46,959 Speaker 3: like just say, hey, we're maybe not do all of 435 00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 3: those things. 436 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, and just be honest with your friends. Hey, 437 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 1: we have other people we need to see too. Family, obligations. 438 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 1: Maybe we'll meet up with you when we're done, maybe, 439 00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:57,600 Speaker 1: you know. 440 00:19:57,760 --> 00:19:59,679 Speaker 3: And if they're and if they're your I mean the 441 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 3: friend or the family that you're going with, they'll understand that. 442 00:20:02,600 --> 00:20:05,320 Speaker 3: And if they don't, then that's tough too, because sometimes 443 00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:07,080 Speaker 3: we don't need to take a vacation from the vacation. 444 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:10,160 Speaker 3: Blake Johnson twenty eight ninety eight. Did you guys collect 445 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 3: anything when you were younger? I love that question, Blake Johnson. 446 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:14,320 Speaker 2: I did. 447 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:18,479 Speaker 3: My grandpa had a coin and a stamp collection, and 448 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 3: so I would collect stamps and coins with him, and 449 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 3: it was something that we do together, and. 450 00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:25,479 Speaker 2: We'd go to the stamp store. 451 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 3: We'd go to the coin store and I got to 452 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,719 Speaker 3: pick out different things and then he would you know, 453 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 3: pay for them and give me the backstory on it. 454 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 3: So I have really fond memories of when I was 455 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 3: younger for doing that. And then my brother collected baseball 456 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:41,120 Speaker 3: cards like every Boy and football cards, and so sometimes 457 00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:43,200 Speaker 3: I would save my babysitting money and my allowance and 458 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 3: I would buy him like a pack of cards as 459 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:47,840 Speaker 3: like a surprise, and I thought that, like, you know, 460 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:48,679 Speaker 3: he'd be so excited. 461 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,080 Speaker 2: Well he was. He was very appreciative. 462 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:52,879 Speaker 3: But I thought, I think card collecting him was cute 463 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:54,959 Speaker 3: when you were when you were younger. I don't know, 464 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:56,880 Speaker 3: not just when you were younger, but yeah, that's something 465 00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:57,960 Speaker 3: I remember that stands out. 466 00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 2: What about you? Yeah, I don't think so. I'm sitting 467 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:02,320 Speaker 2: here trying to think of it. Not really. 468 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 3: Wow, I got aat, I got some nasal drip. 469 00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 1: I am trying to do a better job with collecting 470 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 1: my press passes. 471 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 2: I don't know, but yeah, I don't know. 472 00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:20,919 Speaker 3: I wish that I would have saved because along the 473 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 3: way I was like, oh god, this seems like so 474 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 3: like a boistero. It like like I'm bragging that I 475 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:29,000 Speaker 3: went to all these places, and now in retrospect, I'm like, wait, 476 00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 3: I wish I would have saved the first one I 477 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:32,640 Speaker 3: had from blah blah. 478 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 2: Blah my dad. How cute is my dad? 479 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 3: By the way, today he sent me a text my 480 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:41,359 Speaker 3: first ever business quote. Business trip I went on was 481 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,919 Speaker 3: for spring training for the Rockies, and it was my 482 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:46,840 Speaker 3: first ever you know, my company, Fox Sports. It was 483 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,639 Speaker 3: the regional Fox Sports for my on air job with 484 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 3: the Colorado Rockies, and they sent me to spring training 485 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 3: and I got an email and it was dated January nineteenth, 486 00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:58,679 Speaker 3: two thousand and six, for to go to Tucson for 487 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:00,919 Speaker 3: spring training in February, and I sent it to my 488 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 3: dad unbeknownst to me. 489 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:03,960 Speaker 2: My dad sends me. 490 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 3: A text today, dogs are barking, sends me a text today. 491 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:13,240 Speaker 3: My dad saved that email from twenty years ago, and 492 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:15,960 Speaker 3: that sends it to me today and he goes, You've 493 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:18,159 Speaker 3: come a long way kid. Twenty years ago you sent 494 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 3: me this. It was your first business trip, and I 495 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:21,119 Speaker 3: just want you to know I'm proud of you. 496 00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:22,879 Speaker 2: But I was like, how sweet is that? He saved 497 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:24,359 Speaker 2: that so really cute? 498 00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:26,120 Speaker 3: Along those lines, I wish I would have saved more 499 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:27,520 Speaker 3: memorabilia along the way. 500 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 2: By now me too. 501 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:46,480 Speaker 3: It goes by fast stilsta we have got Courtney. Oh sorry, Beg, 502 00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 3: you read this lie about the last tie? 503 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, Courtney. Help me ask better questions? What 504 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:54,000 Speaker 1: pro tips do you have for sparking great conversations and 505 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 1: asking better questions? You're the queens of keeping the convo 506 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 1: alive and knowing when to move it along. 507 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 2: Oh well that's where's when? 508 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:01,720 Speaker 3: Why? 509 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:02,120 Speaker 2: How? 510 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 1: One of the easiest questions to ask after somebody says 511 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:12,840 Speaker 1: something why why? Yeah, that's my biggest thing. And how 512 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,040 Speaker 1: to keep the convo alive Just ask the person more 513 00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 1: about themselves. 514 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,720 Speaker 3: People, you know what I mean of talking about there 515 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 3: is a great psychology lesson in that. So in job interviews, 516 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 3: here's a tip for you for anyone that's looking for 517 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:31,240 Speaker 3: a new gig. When you are being interviewed, ask the 518 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:35,200 Speaker 3: person that's interviewing you about themselves, like, well, how did 519 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 3: you get in this job? Or what is it that 520 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 3: you like most about the company? Right, because psychologically you're 521 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,399 Speaker 3: going to walk out of there and that person's going 522 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:42,920 Speaker 3: to be like, wow, so and so was so. 523 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:45,439 Speaker 2: Nice because the whole time they really talk about themselves. 524 00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 3: And people like talking about themselves and not always in 525 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,679 Speaker 3: an arrogant way. But I think showing interest and it 526 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:55,640 Speaker 3: can be genuine too, Like the question to them will 527 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 3: be like, well, how did you get started? Can be genuine, 528 00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 3: not just you know, motivated by your own selfishness of 529 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 3: wanting them to like you. But I think that asking 530 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:07,000 Speaker 3: questions about other people is that's why on first dates. 531 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 3: I was so good on first dates because I would 532 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,359 Speaker 3: just ask questions about like the other person and they'd 533 00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:13,439 Speaker 3: be like, wow, you're so lovely and then I'm like 534 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,880 Speaker 3: thank you, But like that thing where you're just actually 535 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,919 Speaker 3: engaged in other people and wondering about them. As for 536 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 3: sit down interviews, and we talked about it earlier with 537 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,320 Speaker 3: one of the questions, I think just listening is really 538 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,639 Speaker 3: helpful in sit down interviews with athletes, and also having 539 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,439 Speaker 3: them take you where they want to go, if they 540 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 3: want to go somewhere other than your original direction. 541 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 1: So I wasn't good on first dates because I am 542 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: not an actress and I cannot hide my. 543 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:48,440 Speaker 2: Foredom, so I'd wait time out. 544 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 3: I wish I was a fly on the wall or 545 00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 3: like one of your dates where you were not interested 546 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,640 Speaker 3: and like what would you do? Like, no, we're good here, 547 00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 3: No we don't need another drink. 548 00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 2: Can we get to check? Like what would you do? 549 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 1: I am in my head going through two dates that 550 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 1: I went on. Go one of them, and there is 551 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:16,359 Speaker 1: nothing there. I am not judging anyone that doesn't drink, 552 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 1: but because I wasn't getting ripped by any means, but 553 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:24,960 Speaker 1: it was like, yeah, I just was already thinking how 554 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,240 Speaker 1: am I getting out of this? And one of them 555 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,520 Speaker 1: I left in the middle of it. Well, I said 556 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,359 Speaker 1: I had to go home. I was living in New York, 557 00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:34,560 Speaker 1: and I said I had to go home and get something. 558 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:35,720 Speaker 1: And I never showed. 559 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,879 Speaker 2: Back in that No you did not. You said you 560 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,920 Speaker 2: had to go home and get something. First of all, 561 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:42,920 Speaker 2: what did you what did you think she was going to? 562 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:43,919 Speaker 2: I had to go home and get what? 563 00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,320 Speaker 1: Well, then he had it all set up. It was 564 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,159 Speaker 1: like after we left the restaurant, I was going to 565 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:49,760 Speaker 1: meet him here. I was like, great, I need just 566 00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:52,320 Speaker 1: need to go home real quick. And I forgot what 567 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 1: my excuse was. 568 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,399 Speaker 2: What let my dog out? I mean, what do you 569 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,359 Speaker 2: mean I didn't have one? I know, I know. 570 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,160 Speaker 3: Oh oh. And then I don't know if I texted 571 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:05,440 Speaker 3: back because I ended up going out with a bunch 572 00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,480 Speaker 3: of girlfriends after it was so stupid. 573 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,199 Speaker 2: That was ridiculous. Oh my god. Then there's me that 574 00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 2: I feel so guilty. 575 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:12,879 Speaker 3: I end up going on a weekend trip with the 576 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,920 Speaker 3: person and then being like, oh my god, like, how 577 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 3: did I end up at san you see Joe Ranch 578 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,440 Speaker 3: And now you're crying about your momentuments. 579 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:24,160 Speaker 2: I didn't even have to go on a second date. 580 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,560 Speaker 3: I just felt bad, and now I'm on a weekend 581 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,560 Speaker 3: get away because I love saying. 582 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:30,240 Speaker 2: There right now. 583 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,160 Speaker 3: This guy's fine, I mean never thought twice about it. 584 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:37,800 Speaker 3: Shorter than me too, which was also kind I dated 585 00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 3: a guy that didn't drink at all, and I was like, oh, 586 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 3: I can do that. I was in a real subservient 587 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:45,440 Speaker 3: era and you know the one, and I was like, Okay, 588 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:47,760 Speaker 3: I'm going to try something different and I'm going to 589 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 3: try and again. This is, by the way, my dad 590 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,359 Speaker 3: doesn't drink, my brother doesn't drink. This is not any 591 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 3: sort of indictment on people that don't drink, by the way, 592 00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:58,639 Speaker 3: do you. It's just difficult, like for me because and 593 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,760 Speaker 3: I now have experience on both sides of this, where 594 00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:06,240 Speaker 3: obviously I married somebody who drank way too much, so 595 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 3: we're out on that, but like then dating somebody that 596 00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 3: didn't drink, he was so judging Mcjudgerson, and then I 597 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 3: would have to lie about the fact that I didn't 598 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,120 Speaker 3: have a drink, like if i'd come from girlfriend with girlfriends, 599 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:18,880 Speaker 3: He's like, oh, did you drink, And I was like, no, 600 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:21,919 Speaker 3: like having the hiccups, No, I didn't drink, because then 601 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,440 Speaker 3: he would judge me, and I'm like, I am having 602 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,119 Speaker 3: to lie because of your judgment. Like I can't do 603 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,679 Speaker 3: this in addition to all the other one date exactly 604 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:30,200 Speaker 3: and then he. 605 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:31,199 Speaker 2: Wouldn't come out and meet you. 606 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 3: I'm like, this is my best friend, I've been with 607 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,239 Speaker 3: you for a year, and you won't go say hi 608 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:34,520 Speaker 3: to work. 609 00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:35,760 Speaker 2: That would lose so easy. 610 00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 3: Razy God, my wow, my date, my land terrible Anonymous. 611 00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,000 Speaker 2: Anonymous, Yeah, go. 612 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,560 Speaker 3: Going through my first real breakup at forty two years old. 613 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:50,960 Speaker 3: I fell in love over two years ago and thought 614 00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,159 Speaker 3: he was my forever guy. He broke up with me 615 00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 3: because he quote couldn't be the man I deserve. I'm 616 00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 3: a very successful person, but this has left me in 617 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,119 Speaker 3: a tough place and losing all motivation. What should I 618 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 3: do with myself? Well, first of all, Anonymous, I'm sorry 619 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:08,919 Speaker 3: to hear that you are in a bad place because 620 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 3: I know I don't know you, but I don't want 621 00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:12,159 Speaker 3: you to feel like that. 622 00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 2: Also, he did you a favor. 623 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,720 Speaker 3: I'm going to say this again as it's well documented 624 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,640 Speaker 3: on me having bad relationships, bad marriages, things like that. 625 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,840 Speaker 3: If at forty two years old, you were in a 626 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:31,199 Speaker 3: relationship with him for two years and he broke up 627 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,679 Speaker 3: with you because he quote couldn't be the man you deserve, 628 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 3: that is an excuse if I've ever heard one, because 629 00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 3: if he reciprocated the feelings that you had for him, 630 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 3: he would never say that. And I'm not saying that 631 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,720 Speaker 3: as an indictment on you. I'm saying that as an 632 00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 3: indictment on him that I think that there's something more. 633 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,520 Speaker 3: Either he was intimidated by your success. Either he felt 634 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 3: he couldn't live up to the bar that you set 635 00:28:56,440 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 3: because you are successful. I will speak only from experience 636 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 3: on this that a lot of times you're a successful 637 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,720 Speaker 3: person that somebody can't handle that, and that's not someone 638 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 3: that you want to be with. So I'm sorry that 639 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 3: your heart broken about it, But in the end, I'm 640 00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 3: so glad that he did not waste any more of 641 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 3: your time because what you're going to go four years 642 00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:19,000 Speaker 3: into the relationship and then he say that, and then 643 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 3: you're thinking, why did you waste time? So although you 644 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,680 Speaker 3: might not feel great right now, I have been Aaron 645 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 3: has picked me up off the floor many times when 646 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 3: I thought my life is over. The best thing that's 647 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:38,120 Speaker 3: ever happened to me is either getting divorces or being 648 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 3: broken up with Because those people, and sometimes it was 649 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 3: me breaking up with them set me free and set 650 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,360 Speaker 3: me on a path to the place that I always 651 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 3: ended up wanting to be, which is in a healthy relationship. 652 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:53,200 Speaker 3: So if you are successful in your life, you have 653 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 3: the tools to be successful in a relationship. It's just 654 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:59,120 Speaker 3: about finding the right partner that will meet you halfway 655 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:03,680 Speaker 3: on that feel like he's not enough, because the right man. 656 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,400 Speaker 2: Is enough for you and for himself. 657 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,760 Speaker 1: And this just ripped the band aid off, unfortunately, and 658 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,680 Speaker 1: you are one step closer to finding that person that 659 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:13,160 Speaker 1: you need. 660 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 2: To quote Olivia Dean. 661 00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:19,680 Speaker 1: Come be the man I need, you need, You'll find him. 662 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,160 Speaker 2: But you couldn't find him when you were under this person. 663 00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,280 Speaker 2: I mean you couldn't. Nope. 664 00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:26,760 Speaker 3: And also too, I always think about this. My old 665 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,040 Speaker 3: pastor used to say this that if you look at 666 00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 3: your life as a pie chart, and what percentage are 667 00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,120 Speaker 3: you are you allocating to each thing? So if it's 668 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 3: you know, fifty percent is to work, and twenty percent 669 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 3: is to your friends, and ten percents to working out, 670 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:42,120 Speaker 3: and ten percents to your dog or whatever. 671 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:43,520 Speaker 2: Those the pie chart. 672 00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 3: If you want to look at it like a proverbial 673 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:49,000 Speaker 3: piece of pizza, a big pizza. Which piece of those 674 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:51,840 Speaker 3: pieces do you need to remove to make room for 675 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,560 Speaker 3: the better thing, so that like, now that that those 676 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,760 Speaker 3: pieces have been removed from your pie, then you now 677 00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 3: have room to welcome in something better. So it might 678 00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:05,880 Speaker 3: feel like your life is over. I hate to say it, 679 00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 3: it's just beginning. I met Steve at the age of 680 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 3: forty and so you might feel like, oh, I'm forty 681 00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 3: two and time is no. 682 00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:13,240 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. 683 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,160 Speaker 3: Thirty way, if you've ever read the book Love in 684 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 3: the Time of Cholera, you can wait till you're naber. 685 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:22,640 Speaker 2: Loving the Time of Cholera. 686 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 3: Is about Formina Daza and Fernando whatever his last name was, 687 00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 3: and they met as kids and they married other people 688 00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,360 Speaker 3: and they had this whole life, and they met up again, 689 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,440 Speaker 3: like when they were ninety years old, and they finally 690 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,800 Speaker 3: like got together again, and then they died, but they 691 00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 3: died together and they were so happy because they finally 692 00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:40,840 Speaker 3: got to like live the life they wanted, even if 693 00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:42,440 Speaker 3: it was only for a short amount of time. So 694 00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 3: my point in saying that is you're only forty two, 695 00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:48,600 Speaker 3: like girl, your life is just about to begin, and 696 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 3: I need you to keep me posted on what's happening, okay, 697 00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:53,280 Speaker 3: because I'm invested. 698 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 2: Now let's good, okay. 699 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 1: Michelle Ward six' five four, three what's been your favorite 700 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:00,960 Speaker 1: moment since starting your? 701 00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:06,000 Speaker 2: Podcast hugs From. Scotland that's So. SCOTLAND i love that 702 00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:06,400 Speaker 2: year In. 703 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,680 Speaker 1: SCOTLAND i would have to say when we Did Netflix 704 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 1: live and we are going to do it. 705 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 2: Again, yes Excited. 706 00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:15,560 Speaker 3: Matt that was so cool to get out of kind 707 00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 3: of this closet and go see people out in the, 708 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 3: wild you, know in the. 709 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:21,760 Speaker 2: STREETS i thought that was so. 710 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 3: GREAT i love that you, again so go to can 711 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:30,360 Speaker 3: last year and meet people. THERE i think my favorite 712 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:34,240 Speaker 3: thing about the podcast is, yes of course meeting that you, 713 00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:37,479 Speaker 3: know there are real, listeners there's are real. People but 714 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:42,840 Speaker 3: ALSO i really value the designated hour to two hours 715 00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:45,800 Speaker 3: THAT i get to spend talking to you every week 716 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:49,719 Speaker 3: because even like during football, season obviously we talk, constantly 717 00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:52,000 Speaker 3: and even when it's not football, season but it's still 718 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,120 Speaker 3: just like in, Snippets so like having this it's like 719 00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,840 Speaker 3: a date with your girlfriend once a. Week AND i 720 00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,120 Speaker 3: don't take that for granted BECAUSE i understand that people 721 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,880 Speaker 3: don't get that opportunity with their friends and busy. Lives 722 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,560 Speaker 3: last but not, least we got anous anonymous follow. Up all, 723 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,160 Speaker 3: right SO i will read the first. Part we'll go 724 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 3: back and. Forth, yeah, okay. Okay original question from Late. 725 00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:15,320 Speaker 3: JULY i planned a trip for my best Friend, alex 726 00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:19,360 Speaker 3: who AND i WHO i don't see. Often alex has 727 00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:21,840 Speaker 3: a friend Named, brie who invited herself on the Traw. 728 00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:24,480 Speaker 3: YEAH i have no problem With, brie BUT i was 729 00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,920 Speaker 3: hoping to get someone on one time With. Alex AS 730 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,200 Speaker 3: i just mentioned how important that, is SHOULD i say 731 00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:35,440 Speaker 3: something that was the original. Question our advice to her was, this, well. 732 00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 1: Speak, up Tell alex you Like, brie but you plan 733 00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:40,800 Speaker 1: this trip so you guys could bond one on. One 734 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:44,000 Speaker 1: you have to be honest with your best. Friends follow. 735 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:48,160 Speaker 3: UP i did tell her HOW i felt and HOW 736 00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,840 Speaker 3: i can get how it can get frustrating That bree 737 00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 3: just invites herself to anything we, do and How i'd 738 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,240 Speaker 3: appreciate the vacation with us, too SINCE i did not 739 00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 3: see her. Often she understood HOW i, felt but and 740 00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:03,240 Speaker 3: agreed that we don't really get to do just do 741 00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:05,760 Speaker 3: things just. Us moral of the story saying how you 742 00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:08,560 Speaker 3: feel and being open isn't as scary as it. 743 00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:11,760 Speaker 2: Seems, Good so how the vacan? 744 00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,160 Speaker 3: Go? Yeah, okay so now we need to know how 745 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 3: the vacation. Went, also what's the situation With, Free, like 746 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 3: is she being sassy to you because you made it 747 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:23,000 Speaker 3: clear that you just wanted one on one time with 748 00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:23,640 Speaker 3: your best Friend. 749 00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,320 Speaker 2: Alex BUT i will. 750 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:26,799 Speaker 3: Say THAT i think That aaron AND i speak to 751 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 3: this a, lot and it come it is for, Me 752 00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:32,200 Speaker 3: i'll speak on my own behalf. Here it has come 753 00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:37,000 Speaker 3: with age that being honest in friendships or in relationships 754 00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:39,719 Speaker 3: is hard to do because you don't want to disappoint 755 00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:41,960 Speaker 3: someone or you don't want to like start a fight 756 00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 3: or deal with the. 757 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,560 Speaker 2: Drama but, ultimately, like. 758 00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,839 Speaker 3: If you set that, precedence it's it like you are 759 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 3: going to be. HONEST i also think it makes your 760 00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:52,720 Speaker 3: friendship stronger because then you're, like, HEY i am able 761 00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,960 Speaker 3: to speak my, mind my friend is willing to, listen 762 00:34:55,120 --> 00:35:01,920 Speaker 3: and it's, okay. 763 00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,560 Speaker 2: Calm down with. 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