Speaker 1: No matter what your newest resolution is, it's not the
Speaker 1: resolution which creates the likelihood or the probability of whether
Speaker 1: you will get there or not. It's actually your approach.
Speaker 1: Happy New Year on Purpose listeners. I am so excited,
Speaker 1: so grateful, so passionate, so ready to be back in
Speaker 1: the new year. This is our first solo episode of
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, and you've made it. Ready to transform
Speaker 1: your life, ready to build your life, Ready to go
Speaker 1: after your ambitions, your goals, whatever you've been pursuing, whatever
Speaker 1: you've been dreaming of. This is a time that we
Speaker 1: all use to reset. And I am so excited to
Speaker 1: be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My
Speaker 1: new book, Eight Rules of Love is out and I
Speaker 1: cannot wait to share it with you. I am so
Speaker 1: so excited for you to read this book, for you
Speaker 1: to listen to this book. I read the audiobook. If
Speaker 1: you haven't got it already, make sure you go to
Speaker 1: eight Rules of Love dot com. It's dedicated to anyone
Speaker 1: who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love.
Speaker 1: So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up,
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Speaker 1: experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. Now,
Speaker 1: I get it. This can be tough, this can be tiresome,
Speaker 1: this can seem hopeless. How many of you get to
Speaker 1: this time of year and think to yourself, Oh, not again.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna set a resolution. I'm going to set a transformation.
Speaker 1: I'm going to set a goal and then I'm going
Speaker 1: to fail and I'm going to feel overwhelmed, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to feel like a failure. And there's if I
Speaker 1: didn't make it, and as if everyone else is achieving
Speaker 1: their goals but I'm not achieving mine. And it can
Speaker 1: put a lot of pressure on us. It can put
Speaker 1: a lot of stress. It can put a lot of
Speaker 1: weight and burden on our shoulders. Feeling not this time
Speaker 1: of year again. Or you're at the other end of
Speaker 1: the spectrum where you love setting new goals, you love
Speaker 1: starting over, you love that new diary, that new journal,
Speaker 1: you love turning over to January first and seeing that
Speaker 1: blank slate. But deep inside, there's a little voice of doubt,
Speaker 1: of dilemma, confusion, knowing that you still don't know what
Speaker 1: you're working on. Well, what I want to share with
Speaker 1: you in this podcast is not how to set your goals.
Speaker 1: I think we all know that setting your goals it
Speaker 1: doesn't mean you get there. I also think we know
Speaker 1: that just writing down what you manifest doesn't just work
Speaker 1: that way. Today, I want to talk to you about
Speaker 1: the real manifestation. Today. I want to talk to you
Speaker 1: about how manifestation actually works. Today, I want to talk
Speaker 1: to you about how results are actually created because I
Speaker 1: remember what it felt like being in that position, setting
Speaker 1: goals year after year after year, setting targets, and feeling
Speaker 1: like I wasn't even close. I know what that feels
Speaker 1: like because I've been there, and five years ago I
Speaker 1: started doing something very different and I saw very different
Speaker 1: results in my life. I started creating content five years ago.
Speaker 1: That's how you probably discovered me did through my videos,
Speaker 1: my podcast or my book. And as things have grown,
Speaker 1: and as I've grown and learned, I want to pass
Speaker 1: on all the lessons, all the learnings, all the practical
Speaker 1: tips that I've learned along the way to you as
Speaker 1: we start. So I want to first dive into some
Speaker 1: statistics and data for us to understand. And I was
Speaker 1: looking at a survey on you gov, and it's said
Speaker 1: that around sixteen percent of people say they will make
Speaker 1: a New AS resolution, compared to eleven percent who said
Speaker 1: they made a resolution this time last year. It's a
Speaker 1: fairly low amount. Now, young people were by far the
Speaker 1: most likely to be setting themselves a New Year's resolution,
Speaker 1: with nearly a third thirty two percent of those aged
Speaker 1: between eighteen and twenty four, compared to ten percent of
Speaker 1: those aged fifty five and over. Now, let's talk about
Speaker 1: what kind of New AS resolutions people are making for
Speaker 1: the third year in a row. Help them. Fitness come
Speaker 1: top of the list of people's resolutions they plan on making,
Speaker 1: with the most popular among those making resolutions being to
Speaker 1: do more exercise or improve their fitness. Now, I'm sure
Speaker 1: many of you have those things on your list. And
Speaker 1: another forty one percent say they want to commit to
Speaker 1: improving their diet, forty percent want to lose weight, and
Speaker 1: the list goes on and on all the way through
Speaker 1: to pursuing a career ambition, spending less time on social media,
Speaker 1: taking up a new hobby, cutting down on drinking or smoking,
Speaker 1: and even raising money for a charity. So we can
Speaker 1: see that there are lots of different types of news resolutions.
Speaker 1: But here's what I find fascinating. No matter what your
Speaker 1: newers resolution is, it's not the resolution which creates the
Speaker 1: likelihood or the probability of whether you will get there
Speaker 1: or not. It's actually your approach. It's your methodology of
Speaker 1: manifestation to get those results. And as we've seen in
Speaker 1: the past, we don't tend to be as good at
Speaker 1: those because every year we feel quite far away, right,
Speaker 1: we feel quite distant from our resolutions, and I'm sure
Speaker 1: you've experienced that too. So today I'm going to give
Speaker 1: you a series of steps to help you learn and
Speaker 1: understand how manifesting and getting your results really truly happens. Now,
Speaker 1: the first thing I want to start off with is
Speaker 1: Step one. We live in a culture and a society
Speaker 1: that is goal based. It all starts with what's your goal?
Speaker 1: Where do you want to get to? What do you
Speaker 1: want to happen at the end. What is the result
Speaker 1: that you desire? Do you desire a new house, a
Speaker 1: new car, a new job, a new vacation, a new body.
Speaker 1: It's all about what is that new thing that you want?
Speaker 1: It has got nothing to develop the mindset to get there.
Speaker 1: Western society operates on a results mindset, a results lad approach.
Speaker 1: Spiritual traditions or Eastern society is based on an intention
Speaker 1: led approach. Are you being led by your results or
Speaker 1: are you being led by your intention? Your intention is
Speaker 1: so much more powerful than any result, because when you
Speaker 1: don't get the result you wanted, that doesn't help you.
Speaker 1: But when you know what your intention is, that intention
Speaker 1: keeps fueling you even when you don't get the result
Speaker 1: you want. I'll give an example. Let's say you've been
Speaker 1: trying to go to the gym three times a week
Speaker 1: and you end up making it once a week. Now,
Speaker 1: from a results point of view, you have missed your
Speaker 1: target and missed your goal. But if your intention is
Speaker 1: I really want to do this to be healthy and
Speaker 1: fit for my family, I really want to do this
Speaker 1: for my own health and well being, that intention is
Speaker 1: going to fuel you to get to that three times
Speaker 1: a week. But when your result focused, when your result lad,
Speaker 1: as soon as you don't reach that result, you put
Speaker 1: pressure on yourself. You start talking down to yourself. So
Speaker 1: I want you to focus more on the intention then
Speaker 1: you do on the result. Stop looking at your calendar
Speaker 1: going well, why haven't I made it five times this week?
Speaker 1: Why haven't I been able to lose this much weight
Speaker 1: this week? Because that leads to critical conversations with yourself.
Speaker 1: It leads to a lot of self judgment and a
Speaker 1: lot of self sabotage. But the idea that I'm doing
Speaker 1: this because why are we doing it? What is your intention?
Speaker 1: What is your input? The Western world makes us focused
Speaker 1: on output. My question to you is what is your input?
Speaker 1: What is it that you are bringing in to this process?
Speaker 1: So I want you to sit down and for whatever
Speaker 1: your goal or resolution is, I want you to deeply
Speaker 1: connect with your intention for why it's so important. Why
Speaker 1: is it important for you to lose weight? Why is
Speaker 1: important for you to improve your diet. Why is it
Speaker 1: important for you to exercise more? Why is it important
Speaker 1: for you to spend time on social media less? Why
Speaker 1: is it important to cut down on drinking or smoking?
Speaker 1: I know that the people who've made their biggest changes
Speaker 1: in their life, their reason was deep. When we say
Speaker 1: dig deep, you will dig so much deeper when your
Speaker 1: reason is deep. But if you haven't really thought about
Speaker 1: really articulated, really written down, really communicated your reason. You
Speaker 1: can't go further, You can't go deeper than your reasoning
Speaker 1: and your intention. You can't dig deeper than that. You
Speaker 1: can't dig deeper than your intention or your reasoning. So
Speaker 1: make your intention really deep, make your intention really profound
Speaker 1: and powerful. Now, the second step I want to share
Speaker 1: with you is why we need to monitor obsessively. Now,
Speaker 1: what I mean by this is as you start the
Speaker 1: week and as weeks go by, months go by, what
Speaker 1: we often do is we go, oh, well, last week
Speaker 1: I didn't make it. That was a failure. All right,
Speaker 1: Well this week I made it, so I guess things
Speaker 1: are great again. Okay, well next week I didn't make it.
Speaker 1: That was a failure, and the week after that was
Speaker 1: a failure. And then I'm just a failure and this
Speaker 1: is not going right. So what we do is we
Speaker 1: only measure results, but we don't monitor results. This is
Speaker 1: a really fascinating switch from measuring to monitoring. So we
Speaker 1: measure how much weight we lost, and we say, oh, wow,
Speaker 1: this week I lost you know, four pounds. This week
Speaker 1: I lost nothing. This week I put on this much. Right,
Speaker 1: So we measured the result but we don't monitor it.
Speaker 1: And I'll explain to you the difference. Measuring is taking
Speaker 1: a measuring tape or a scale and writing down a number.
Speaker 1: That's literally what it is. Right, it's measuring. You are
Speaker 1: just data collecting. You just data recording. What is my
Speaker 1: height today, what is my height tomorrow? What's my weight today?
Speaker 1: What's my weight tomorrow? What's my follow account today? What's
Speaker 1: my follow account tomorrow? How much money did I save
Speaker 1: this week? How much money did I save next week?
Speaker 1: It's just a number, and you learn very little from
Speaker 1: that number. I'll give an example. If I create a
Speaker 1: podcast and it gets a number of downloads versus another podcast,
Speaker 1: I can be upset when the next podcast is higher
Speaker 1: or lower, or I can be curious. I can monitor
Speaker 1: it can be observant. So whether your day or week
Speaker 1: goes well or whether it is difficult and challenging, I
Speaker 1: want you to make time to say why, why did
Speaker 1: it go well? Why did it go wrong? What happened?
Speaker 1: What did I do differently this week? When I think
Speaker 1: about weeks where things are going well, and if you
Speaker 1: just take them at face value and think, yeah, I've
Speaker 1: got this now things are going well, you get complacent.
Speaker 1: And I know the phrase goes, curiosity killed the cat.
Speaker 1: I've always thought complacency killed the cat, right, it's complacency. Well,
Speaker 1: hopefully no one killed any cat, but whether your dog
Speaker 1: or a cat, person, we want animals to be safe.
Speaker 1: It's complacency. And complacency sets in when we measure. Actually,
Speaker 1: a lot of self sabotage checks in when we just measure,
Speaker 1: because when we have a good week, we don't know why,
Speaker 1: and when we have a bad week, we don't know why,
Speaker 1: and we just beat ourselves up about it. So I
Speaker 1: want you to really think about that, why did it
Speaker 1: go well? Monitor don't measure why did it go well?
Speaker 1: Why did it go badly? What specifically change this week?
Speaker 1: And actually that might even make you have some compassion
Speaker 1: for yourself. You may think, oh, yeah, you know that
Speaker 1: week my family came over and I took it easy
Speaker 1: a little bit, Or you know that week I launched
Speaker 1: a new product on social media, so I spent a
Speaker 1: bit more time on it. You start actually not drawing
Speaker 1: yourself excuses. You might start to judge yourself less and
Speaker 1: that lets you go, Okay, well, next week I can shift.
Speaker 1: Next week I can make a change like I know,
Speaker 1: for example, on Christmas and New Year's Week, I ate
Speaker 1: more sugar in a week than I ate or year,
Speaker 1: and I know it, and I don't judge myself for it.
Speaker 1: I'm glad that I allowed myself to enjoy and really
Speaker 1: let go. And then this week I knew I wanted
Speaker 1: to be playing tennis. So I've been playing tennis every
Speaker 1: day for two hours, working really really hard to get
Speaker 1: fit and healthy again, cutting out sugars out of my
Speaker 1: life again, getting back to my healthy diet. And I'm
Speaker 1: not judging myself for that week. I know why I
Speaker 1: wasn't focused on what I wanted to focus on, and
Speaker 1: now I know why I am, And so I want
Speaker 1: you to monitor over measure. Measuring is what our apps do,
Speaker 1: Measuring is what our fitbits do, Measuring is what our
Speaker 1: order rings do. And measurement is important, but only if
Speaker 1: you wanted to the reason behind the men as uman.
Speaker 1: It's not just good enough to measure the data. You
Speaker 1: have to monitor the data. Now. The third step, this
Speaker 1: is something that really blows my mind when I think
Speaker 1: about it and talk about it, and this will be
Speaker 1: a game changer for you. There are four steps to
Speaker 1: making a change in your life, and I find that
Speaker 1: most of us are just about on step one. Most
Speaker 1: of the time, we're on step one and we're trying
Speaker 1: to have the result of step four. So there are
Speaker 1: four steps to change. The first is theoretical, theoretically understanding
Speaker 1: that this change is important, it's needed, and it is necessary.
Speaker 1: But your understanding, in your knowledge level is theoretical. For example,
Speaker 1: the theoretical idea that we all believe that we should
Speaker 1: take care of the environment, the theore radical idea that
Speaker 1: we all have that we should take care of our health.
Speaker 1: We all know we should. That's a theoretical understanding. We
Speaker 1: all know that it's better if we eat healthier, it's
Speaker 1: better if we exercise. These are theories. We understand it theoretically.
Speaker 1: Most of us are at this stage when you try
Speaker 1: and use your will power to achieve a result, but
Speaker 1: your level of change is only theoretical. It is so
Speaker 1: unlikely that you're going to get the result because theory
Speaker 1: does not change to transformation. Theoretical understanding does not lead
Speaker 1: to transformation. So ask yourself, are you add a theoretical
Speaker 1: level in the area you want to change? For example,
Speaker 1: if I say, oh, yeah, theoretically, I've heard that meditation
Speaker 1: is good idea. I know it's good for me. That's theory.
Speaker 1: So the next step is meaningful. We have to make
Speaker 1: it meaningful. That's where that intention comes in. Going back
Speaker 1: to step one, How meaningful is this to me? I
Speaker 1: remember when my health really took a bad hit. I
Speaker 1: polyped my throat. They had to be lasered out. I
Speaker 1: was having really bad gut issues. I was having chronic fatigue.
Speaker 1: I was in bed for fourteen hours if not more
Speaker 1: a day, And that was when it became really meaningful
Speaker 1: to me. It's almost like everything switched from theory to meaningful.
Speaker 1: And it's frustrating that we often have to go through
Speaker 1: pain or real challenges or real stress and pressure to
Speaker 1: make that shift from theoretical to meaningful. But I also
Speaker 1: know that it's possible to do it without the pain.
Speaker 1: But the pain is often the trigger. So when we
Speaker 1: go through problems or pain, chances are it's so that
Speaker 1: we can switch from theoretical to meaningful. That's actually what
Speaker 1: your body's doing. It's so your body is giving you
Speaker 1: pain saying I don't want to live like this anymore,
Speaker 1: so that it becomes meaningful for you to apply that
Speaker 1: theory because before it was meaningful to you, you assumed
Speaker 1: it would be okay, right if you never had a
Speaker 1: health challenge, you would just theoretically know it's good to
Speaker 1: take care of your health, but you may not focus
Speaker 1: on it because it's not meaningful yet. So theoretical to
Speaker 1: meaningful Now meaning isn't enough either. I'll give an example.
Speaker 1: Maybe someone's lost a family member to cancer like I have,
Speaker 1: and someone may theoretically understand the health reasons and implications.
Speaker 1: They may meaningfully. Obviously and meaningfully pains you so much
Speaker 1: when you've lost someone, but you haven't made it practical
Speaker 1: for you. You haven't understood it practically. How does it
Speaker 1: practically work in your life? How does it practically flow
Speaker 1: in your day to day? We have to turn our
Speaker 1: meaningful feeling emotion based understanding. Now we had an intellectual
Speaker 1: knowledge based understanding, we have now an emotional feeling understanding.
Speaker 1: We now have to turn it into something practical for
Speaker 1: us and then finally applicable. We adgievet it apply it
Speaker 1: once we know what's practical, and we have to see
Speaker 1: where that goes to keep actioning it. So the four
Speaker 1: stages of change are theoretical meaningful, practical, and applicable. Now,
Speaker 1: I guarantee that what you're trying to change this year
Speaker 1: is in the theoretical and meaningful areas. You haven't yet
Speaker 1: figured out the practical and the applicable areas of what
Speaker 1: you want to do, and that is where you want
Speaker 1: to put the energy. How do I practically apply this
Speaker 1: in my life? For example, going to the gym for
Speaker 1: me now my plan and when I'm back in LA
Speaker 1: I'm in London at the moment with my family, but
Speaker 1: when I'm back in LA my goal is to be
Speaker 1: doing probably three days at tennis and two days at
Speaker 1: the gym, two to three days at the gym, And
Speaker 1: so that's how I'm practically committing. And then I'll apply it,
Speaker 1: and then I'll observe it and monitor it. But the
Speaker 1: key thing here is it can't. When it was just
Speaker 1: theoretical for me that I needed to take care of
Speaker 1: my health, I didn't do it. Then it became meaningful
Speaker 1: because of the pain. But then it needed to become practical.
Speaker 1: I had to find what I enjoyed, what I got
Speaker 1: a passion for, what I flourished. And this applies to
Speaker 1: all areas of your business and work. Too. This doesn't
Speaker 1: just apply to your body and your mind. This applies
Speaker 1: to anything you want to do. This I hope you
Speaker 1: will apply this to all areas of your life. Now.
Speaker 1: The fourth step is actually this is game changer. Have
Speaker 1: you ever thought about what's the difference between efficiency and effectiveness?
Speaker 1: What is the difference? Is there a difference between efficiency
Speaker 1: and effectiveness? So efficiency, in the way I see it,
Speaker 1: is the ability to do a lot of things, and
Speaker 1: effectiveness is doing important things. Think about that, right? It
Speaker 1: sounds like efficiency. It's like, Oh, I'm really really efficient.
Speaker 1: I get a lot done, I achieve a lot of stuff,
Speaker 1: I take a lot of boxes. Or I've been highly
Speaker 1: effective this week. What would you like to say at
Speaker 1: the end of this week? Would you prefer you were
Speaker 1: saying I've had an efficient week or I've had an
Speaker 1: effective week. I'm sure each and every one of us
Speaker 1: are drawn towards that word effective. I've had an efficient
Speaker 1: week sounds like I checked off stuff on my to
Speaker 1: do list, I did my laundry, I got a lot done.
Speaker 1: I was efficient, but I was effective. Says oh, I
Speaker 1: made a dent this week, I made an impact this week.
Speaker 1: I moved the needle this week, the differences between doing
Speaker 1: a lot of things and doing important things. I want
Speaker 1: you to focus on the latter. In twenty twenty two.
Speaker 1: We all have to do a lot of things, but
Speaker 1: are we making time to do the important things? Because
Speaker 1: often we make ourselves so busy with being efficient, because
Speaker 1: we don't want to put the brain energy and brain
Speaker 1: power to be effective. So we'd rather clutter our day
Speaker 1: with lots of insignificant activities than clear our day for
Speaker 1: one significant activity because we're scared of doing that. But
Speaker 1: when you realize that, no longer do you want to
Speaker 1: clutter for something insignificant, You want to clear for something significant.
Speaker 1: We want to shift from being efficient to being effective.
Speaker 1: And this is a mindset shift. This is the mindset
Speaker 1: shift that I'm taking into twenty twenty two. I've been
Speaker 1: saying to my team, I want to have an effective year,
Speaker 1: not an efficient year. I think there have been a
Speaker 1: couple of years in my life where I've been highly efficient,
Speaker 1: but I don't think I've been as effective and as
Speaker 1: impactful because I've just been busy. My schedule has been full.
Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot of stuff, but i haven't
Speaker 1: been doing the stuff that makes the impact that moves
Speaker 1: the needle. Look around you and think about who the
Speaker 1: people that you've noticed that you think have made big lead.
Speaker 1: Do you think have just pivoted their career and shifted
Speaker 1: and made huge strides. Who are those people? Maybe maybe
Speaker 1: there's some things that I've done that you're looking at
Speaker 1: and going, wow, Jay, I never saw how you did
Speaker 1: a book and then you did. You have the podcast,
Speaker 1: and you did the tea company, and I'm sure you've
Speaker 1: got something else coming which I can't wait to share
Speaker 1: with you. It's like that all came from an effectiveness mindset,
Speaker 1: not an efficiency mindset. Sometimes I'm highly inefficient. Sometimes they
Speaker 1: don't complete a lot of stuff. Sometimes there's stuff that's
Speaker 1: just left for days. But those are not the things
Speaker 1: that matter. They're not the important things. So do you
Speaker 1: want to do a lot of things or do you
Speaker 1: want to do important things? You want to look at
Speaker 1: each week and each month in that way, ask yourself,
Speaker 1: is this an efficiency week or is this an effectiveness week?
Speaker 1: And if you recognize the difference for yourself, right, if
Speaker 1: you recognize the awareness for yourself, that's going to make
Speaker 1: all the difference. Now, the next step that I want
Speaker 1: to share with you is this balance between thinking and acting,
Speaker 1: like thinking and doing. And it's been debated for a
Speaker 1: long time whether we should think or do. And I
Speaker 1: think we've realized that action is an important part. We
Speaker 1: have to act and then reflect. But here's what I've realized.
Speaker 1: Thinking is important, but do it less than you think.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of us struggle with procrastination
Speaker 1: and overthinking because we think, rethink and think again. We think,
Speaker 1: we rethink and think again. And if I had to
Speaker 1: divide the way I like to work, I probably do
Speaker 1: about seventy percent action, thirty percent thinking. Now there are
Speaker 1: times when I think by thinking went down to ten
Speaker 1: percent and dad didn't work either, or went down to
Speaker 1: five percent and I was just doing doing doing, and
Speaker 1: that wasn't great either. And there have been times when
Speaker 1: I've thought seventy percent and acted thirty percent, and that's
Speaker 1: not healthy. So I want you to think about your ratio.
Speaker 1: What is your ratio of thinking to do? Is it
Speaker 1: fifty fifty, is it seventy thirty either way? Is it
Speaker 1: eighty twenty, is it ninety ten, is it sixty forty?
Speaker 1: Where are you on that ratio? And I want you
Speaker 1: to start shifting into doing more than thinking more to
Speaker 1: get to doing seventy percent and thinking thirty percent. And
Speaker 1: when you'll start shifting that, you might start to feel uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: you might start to feel scared, you might start to
Speaker 1: feel some anxiety of like, oh my gosh, I'm just
Speaker 1: doing so much stuff. I don't even know what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: And all I want you to do is try and
Speaker 1: get to that seventy percent of doing and thirty percent
Speaker 1: of thinking, and that thirty percent of thinking. Going back
Speaker 1: to the monitoring point is the reflecting is the observing
Speaker 1: Why did that work? Did it work? What could I
Speaker 1: have done better? You're focused on that, You're not focused on, Oh,
Speaker 1: well that didn't get me anywhere. And that's again that
Speaker 1: results mindset is just so deep. That didn't get me anywhere? Well,
Speaker 1: what was the point anyway? We didn't get there? Well,
Speaker 1: I didn't achieve anything anyway? Right, Like that language, that
Speaker 1: rhetoric is actually stopping us as opposed to okay, well
Speaker 1: what worked? What did and what could I shift this time?
Speaker 1: So get that ratio between thinking and acting, thinking and
Speaker 1: doing right for you, and you will see huge shifts
Speaker 1: and huge changes in your life. Now, the next step
Speaker 1: is something that I recently spoke about on the Today's Show,
Speaker 1: and it's growth versus goals. You can set goals all
Speaker 1: you want, but it's the growth that gets you to
Speaker 1: those goals, right, growth versus goals every single time. What
Speaker 1: I mean by that is when you set a goal
Speaker 1: I want to do this, you have to ask yourself
Speaker 1: what growth, what skill, what aptitude, what mindset do I
Speaker 1: need in order to get there? What is it going
Speaker 1: to take me to learn? So, for example, if I
Speaker 1: say this year I want to share meditation with you,
Speaker 1: all I want to help you will learn how to meditate? Okay,
Speaker 1: what do I need to know? I need to know
Speaker 1: how to meditate. I need to know how much time
Speaker 1: everyone kind of has in their day. I think people
Speaker 1: have like five to ten minutes a day maximum, so
Speaker 1: like seven minutes. Okay, if they have seven minutes, how
Speaker 1: do I help the meditate seven minutes? Right? So I
Speaker 1: need to think about that. I don't just have to
Speaker 1: think about okay, well everyone needs to meditate, so okay,
Speaker 1: I just need to make sure people meditate, and then
Speaker 1: we just have this goal and we don't do anything
Speaker 1: to it. We have to build the growth path to
Speaker 1: the goals. Potential. So if you're setting a goal, I
Speaker 1: want you to set the growth that you need to
Speaker 1: take in order to get there. I want to end,
Speaker 1: finally with one last point, which is how I define
Speaker 1: every year. And I spoke about this last year as well,
Speaker 1: but I think it's important to re share it because
Speaker 1: it is how I set up my year. Every year.
Speaker 1: I sit down and I call this the three Elves
Speaker 1: of a Phenomenal Year, and I ask myself, what do
Speaker 1: I want to learn this year? What do I want
Speaker 1: to launch this year? And what do I want to
Speaker 1: love this year? These are three necessities for feeling like
Speaker 1: you're thriving as a human, for feeling like you're absolutely
Speaker 1: winning as a human. When you do the thing you love,
Speaker 1: it brings you joy, It brings you happiness. When you
Speaker 1: launch something, it brings you nerves, It brings you excitement.
Speaker 1: When you learn something, it gives you the feeling of
Speaker 1: growth and improvement, and the feeling like you're going somewhere.
Speaker 1: These are the experiences we need in life. We think
Speaker 1: that it's just about winning. Notice how winning isn't one
Speaker 1: of them, because winning doesn't give you an essential feeling
Speaker 1: that we need as a human. These are the feelings.
Speaker 1: We need to experience love. We need to experience joy
Speaker 1: and happiness. We need to experience excitement and enthusiasm, we
Speaker 1: need to experience nerves and that kind of like butterflies
Speaker 1: feeling again. So I literally want you to write down, learn, launch, love.
Speaker 1: What are you learning this year? What is it that
Speaker 1: you're committing to learning. What is it that you're getting
Speaker 1: coaching classes, mentorship? You have to be learning something every year.
Speaker 1: It's crazy that we stop learning after graduating. If we're lucky, right,
Speaker 1: it really really is insane that we stop learning after
Speaker 1: that time. What are you committing to learning this year?
Speaker 1: It could be an instrument, It could be a language.
Speaker 1: It could be learning to work out. It could be
Speaker 1: learning a new mindset. It could be joining our genius
Speaker 1: community and learning about health and well being. It could
Speaker 1: be joining my certification school and learning to become a
Speaker 1: life coach. If that's what been a goal of yours
Speaker 1: for a while, what is it that you're committing to
Speaker 1: learning this year? Second, what are you launching? What are
Speaker 1: you starting that's new? Are you launching a podcast? Are
Speaker 1: you launching a book? Are you launching a new community,
Speaker 1: a new book club in your area? Are you launching
Speaker 1: a company, Are you launching a business, are you launching
Speaker 1: a YouTube channel? What are you launching this year? I
Speaker 1: want you to launch something this year to get the
Speaker 1: excitement enthusiasm of pushing forward. And finally, what are you
Speaker 1: doing that you love? What are you doing that you deeply,
Speaker 1: deeply love? Thank you so much for listening, Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for being here in twenty twenty two, It's
Speaker 1: going to be your year. Thank you.