WEBVTT - 7 Steps to Manifesting Results in 2022 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.320 No matter what your newest resolution is, it's not the 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:07.920 resolution which creates the likelihood or the probability of whether 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:10.639 you will get there or not. It's actually your approach. 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:22.079 Happy New Year on Purpose listeners. I am so excited, 0:00:22.200 --> 0:00:26.080 so grateful, so passionate, so ready to be back in 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:29.480 the new year. This is our first solo episode of 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:33.960 twenty twenty two, and you've made it. Ready to transform 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:37.599 your life, ready to build your life, Ready to go 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:42.000 after your ambitions, your goals, whatever you've been pursuing, whatever 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:45.120 you've been dreaming of. This is a time that we 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:49.360 all use to reset. 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Go to Ja 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:30.240 shettytour dot com to learn more information about tickets, VIP 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:34.320 experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. Now, 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:39.400 I get it. This can be tough, this can be tiresome, 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:43.880 this can seem hopeless. How many of you get to 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:47.960 this time of year and think to yourself, Oh, not again. 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:52.160 I'm gonna set a resolution. I'm going to set a transformation. 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:56.240 I'm going to set a goal and then I'm going 0:01:56.280 --> 0:02:00.280 to fail and I'm going to feel overwhelmed, and I'm 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:02.880 going to feel like a failure. And there's if I 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:05.760 didn't make it, and as if everyone else is achieving 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:09.280 their goals but I'm not achieving mine. And it can 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:11.919 put a lot of pressure on us. It can put 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.919 a lot of stress. It can put a lot of 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:20.320 weight and burden on our shoulders. Feeling not this time 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:23.200 of year again. Or you're at the other end of 0:02:23.200 --> 0:02:26.000 the spectrum where you love setting new goals, you love 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:29.720 starting over, you love that new diary, that new journal, 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:33.480 you love turning over to January first and seeing that 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:40.040 blank slate. But deep inside, there's a little voice of doubt, 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:44.519 of dilemma, confusion, knowing that you still don't know what 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:47.120 you're working on. Well, what I want to share with 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:50.959 you in this podcast is not how to set your goals. 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:54.320 I think we all know that setting your goals it 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:57.960 doesn't mean you get there. I also think we know 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:02.400 that just writing down what you manifest doesn't just work 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:05.040 that way. Today, I want to talk to you about 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:08.359 the real manifestation. Today. I want to talk to you 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:12.080 about how manifestation actually works. Today, I want to talk 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:16.400 to you about how results are actually created because I 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:20.480 remember what it felt like being in that position, setting 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:26.280 goals year after year after year, setting targets, and feeling 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:29.720 like I wasn't even close. I know what that feels 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:32.520 like because I've been there, and five years ago I 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:36.320 started doing something very different and I saw very different 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:40.960 results in my life. I started creating content five years ago. 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:43.920 That's how you probably discovered me did through my videos, 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:47.800 my podcast or my book. And as things have grown, 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:51.640 and as I've grown and learned, I want to pass 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:56.040 on all the lessons, all the learnings, all the practical 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:59.520 tips that I've learned along the way to you as 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.480 we start. So I want to first dive into some 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:05.040 statistics and data for us to understand. And I was 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:08.280 looking at a survey on you gov, and it's said 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:10.680 that around sixteen percent of people say they will make 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:14.600 a New AS resolution, compared to eleven percent who said 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:17.320 they made a resolution this time last year. It's a 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:20.839 fairly low amount. Now, young people were by far the 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:23.479 most likely to be setting themselves a New Year's resolution, 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.440 with nearly a third thirty two percent of those aged 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:30.800 between eighteen and twenty four, compared to ten percent of 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:34.240 those aged fifty five and over. Now, let's talk about 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:37.440 what kind of New AS resolutions people are making for 0:04:37.480 --> 0:04:40.159 the third year in a row. Help them. Fitness come 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:44.359 top of the list of people's resolutions they plan on making, 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:48.200 with the most popular among those making resolutions being to 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:52.280 do more exercise or improve their fitness. Now, I'm sure 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.680 many of you have those things on your list. And 0:04:54.880 --> 0:04:57.359 another forty one percent say they want to commit to 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:01.080 improving their diet, forty percent want to lose weight, and 0:05:01.279 --> 0:05:03.120 the list goes on and on all the way through 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:07.080 to pursuing a career ambition, spending less time on social media, 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:10.880 taking up a new hobby, cutting down on drinking or smoking, 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:14.240 and even raising money for a charity. So we can 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:17.680 see that there are lots of different types of news resolutions. 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:21.280 But here's what I find fascinating. No matter what your 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:27.400 newers resolution is, it's not the resolution which creates the 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:30.040 likelihood or the probability of whether you will get there 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:35.000 or not. It's actually your approach. It's your methodology of 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:39.960 manifestation to get those results. And as we've seen in 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:42.640 the past, we don't tend to be as good at 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:47.280 those because every year we feel quite far away, right, 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:51.360 we feel quite distant from our resolutions, and I'm sure 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.760 you've experienced that too. So today I'm going to give 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:58.719 you a series of steps to help you learn and 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:06.680 understand how manifesting and getting your results really truly happens. Now, 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:08.560 the first thing I want to start off with is 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:13.400 Step one. We live in a culture and a society 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:18.560 that is goal based. It all starts with what's your goal? 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:22.480 Where do you want to get to? What do you 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:26.080 want to happen at the end. What is the result 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.240 that you desire? Do you desire a new house, a 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:32.880 new car, a new job, a new vacation, a new body. 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:36.360 It's all about what is that new thing that you want? 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:39.840 It has got nothing to develop the mindset to get there. 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:48.560 Western society operates on a results mindset, a results lad approach. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:54.080 Spiritual traditions or Eastern society is based on an intention 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:58.960 led approach. Are you being led by your results or 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:04.000 are you being led by your intention? Your intention is 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:08.720 so much more powerful than any result, because when you 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:12.720 don't get the result you wanted, that doesn't help you. 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:16.920 But when you know what your intention is, that intention 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:20.160 keeps fueling you even when you don't get the result 0:07:20.240 --> 0:07:22.640 you want. I'll give an example. Let's say you've been 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.400 trying to go to the gym three times a week 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:28.040 and you end up making it once a week. Now, 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:31.280 from a results point of view, you have missed your 0:07:31.280 --> 0:07:35.640 target and missed your goal. But if your intention is 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:37.440 I really want to do this to be healthy and 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:39.160 fit for my family, I really want to do this 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:42.720 for my own health and well being, that intention is 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.400 going to fuel you to get to that three times 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:49.559 a week. But when your result focused, when your result lad, 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:54.000 as soon as you don't reach that result, you put 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.720 pressure on yourself. You start talking down to yourself. So 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:00.800 I want you to focus more on the intention then 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:04.160 you do on the result. Stop looking at your calendar 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:06.320 going well, why haven't I made it five times this week? 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.680 Why haven't I been able to lose this much weight 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:15.560 this week? Because that leads to critical conversations with yourself. 0:08:15.920 --> 0:08:18.600 It leads to a lot of self judgment and a 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:23.600 lot of self sabotage. But the idea that I'm doing 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:29.040 this because why are we doing it? What is your intention? 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:32.360 What is your input? The Western world makes us focused 0:08:32.360 --> 0:08:35.640 on output. My question to you is what is your input? 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:39.840 What is it that you are bringing in to this process? 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:43.760 So I want you to sit down and for whatever 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:47.079 your goal or resolution is, I want you to deeply 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:53.040 connect with your intention for why it's so important. Why 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:54.920 is it important for you to lose weight? Why is 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:57.760 important for you to improve your diet. Why is it 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:01.000 important for you to exercise more? Why is it important 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:03.840 for you to spend time on social media less? Why 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:07.360 is it important to cut down on drinking or smoking? 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:10.160 I know that the people who've made their biggest changes 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:13.960 in their life, their reason was deep. When we say 0:09:14.080 --> 0:09:18.240 dig deep, you will dig so much deeper when your 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:22.079 reason is deep. But if you haven't really thought about 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:27.320 really articulated, really written down, really communicated your reason. You 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:33.040 can't go further, You can't go deeper than your reasoning 0:09:33.320 --> 0:09:36.920 and your intention. You can't dig deeper than that. You 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:40.560 can't dig deeper than your intention or your reasoning. So 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:45.000 make your intention really deep, make your intention really profound 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:49.040 and powerful. Now, the second step I want to share 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:56.880 with you is why we need to monitor obsessively. Now, 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.640 what I mean by this is as you start the 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:04.040 week and as weeks go by, months go by, what 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.200 we often do is we go, oh, well, last week 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:08.880 I didn't make it. That was a failure. All right, 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:10.640 Well this week I made it, so I guess things 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.480 are great again. Okay, well next week I didn't make it. 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:15.360 That was a failure, and the week after that was 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:18.000 a failure. And then I'm just a failure and this 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:21.480 is not going right. So what we do is we 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:27.439 only measure results, but we don't monitor results. This is 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:32.640 a really fascinating switch from measuring to monitoring. So we 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:35.360 measure how much weight we lost, and we say, oh, wow, 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:38.760 this week I lost you know, four pounds. This week 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.000 I lost nothing. This week I put on this much. Right, 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:45.160 So we measured the result but we don't monitor it. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:49.320 And I'll explain to you the difference. Measuring is taking 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:53.920 a measuring tape or a scale and writing down a number. 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:57.559 That's literally what it is. Right, it's measuring. You are 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:03.280 just data collecting. You just data recording. What is my 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:05.760 height today, what is my height tomorrow? What's my weight today? 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:08.480 What's my weight tomorrow? What's my follow account today? What's 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:11.040 my follow account tomorrow? How much money did I save 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:13.320 this week? How much money did I save next week? 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:17.600 It's just a number, and you learn very little from 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:21.280 that number. I'll give an example. If I create a 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:25.160 podcast and it gets a number of downloads versus another podcast, 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:29.840 I can be upset when the next podcast is higher 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:34.320 or lower, or I can be curious. I can monitor 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:38.240 it can be observant. So whether your day or week 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:44.200 goes well or whether it is difficult and challenging, I 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.439 want you to make time to say why, why did 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:51.040 it go well? Why did it go wrong? What happened? 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:55.199 What did I do differently this week? When I think 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:58.200 about weeks where things are going well, and if you 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.360 just take them at face value and think, yeah, I've 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.400 got this now things are going well, you get complacent. 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.480 And I know the phrase goes, curiosity killed the cat. 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:09.920 I've always thought complacency killed the cat, right, it's complacency. Well, 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:12.280 hopefully no one killed any cat, but whether your dog 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.200 or a cat, person, we want animals to be safe. 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:19.960 It's complacency. And complacency sets in when we measure. Actually, 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:24.120 a lot of self sabotage checks in when we just measure, 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:27.120 because when we have a good week, we don't know why, 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:28.760 and when we have a bad week, we don't know why, 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.240 and we just beat ourselves up about it. So I 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:34.200 want you to really think about that, why did it 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:38.160 go well? Monitor don't measure why did it go well? 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:42.400 Why did it go badly? What specifically change this week? 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.959 And actually that might even make you have some compassion 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:47.320 for yourself. You may think, oh, yeah, you know that 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:50.920 week my family came over and I took it easy 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:53.560 a little bit, Or you know that week I launched 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:55.520 a new product on social media, so I spent a 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.679 bit more time on it. You start actually not drawing 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:03.720 yourself excuses. You might start to judge yourself less and 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:05.800 that lets you go, Okay, well, next week I can shift. 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.200 Next week I can make a change like I know, 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:12.560 for example, on Christmas and New Year's Week, I ate 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.079 more sugar in a week than I ate or year, 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:18.679 and I know it, and I don't judge myself for it. 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:23.760 I'm glad that I allowed myself to enjoy and really 0:13:23.880 --> 0:13:26.640 let go. And then this week I knew I wanted 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:28.640 to be playing tennis. So I've been playing tennis every 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:32.480 day for two hours, working really really hard to get 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:34.880 fit and healthy again, cutting out sugars out of my 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:39.280 life again, getting back to my healthy diet. And I'm 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:43.840 not judging myself for that week. I know why I 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:46.560 wasn't focused on what I wanted to focus on, and 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:48.800 now I know why I am, And so I want 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.840 you to monitor over measure. Measuring is what our apps do, 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:54.600 Measuring is what our fitbits do, Measuring is what our 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.040 order rings do. And measurement is important, but only if 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.400 you wanted to the reason behind the men as uman. 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:05.360 It's not just good enough to measure the data. You 0:14:05.440 --> 0:14:10.040 have to monitor the data. Now. The third step, this 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:13.240 is something that really blows my mind when I think 0:14:13.280 --> 0:14:14.840 about it and talk about it, and this will be 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:19.640 a game changer for you. There are four steps to 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:23.280 making a change in your life, and I find that 0:14:23.360 --> 0:14:29.800 most of us are just about on step one. Most 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.920 of the time, we're on step one and we're trying 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:37.120 to have the result of step four. So there are 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:43.720 four steps to change. The first is theoretical, theoretically understanding 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:49.800 that this change is important, it's needed, and it is necessary. 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:54.480 But your understanding, in your knowledge level is theoretical. For example, 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:57.800 the theoretical idea that we all believe that we should 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:00.800 take care of the environment, the theore radical idea that 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:02.880 we all have that we should take care of our health. 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:08.200 We all know we should. That's a theoretical understanding. We 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:10.760 all know that it's better if we eat healthier, it's 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:15.760 better if we exercise. These are theories. We understand it theoretically. 0:15:16.680 --> 0:15:19.440 Most of us are at this stage when you try 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:24.120 and use your will power to achieve a result, but 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:28.440 your level of change is only theoretical. It is so 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:31.320 unlikely that you're going to get the result because theory 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:36.560 does not change to transformation. Theoretical understanding does not lead 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:40.880 to transformation. So ask yourself, are you add a theoretical 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:42.960 level in the area you want to change? For example, 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:45.720 if I say, oh, yeah, theoretically, I've heard that meditation 0:15:45.800 --> 0:15:50.880 is good idea. I know it's good for me. That's theory. 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:55.960 So the next step is meaningful. We have to make 0:15:56.000 --> 0:16:00.480 it meaningful. That's where that intention comes in. Going back 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:06.720 to step one, How meaningful is this to me? I 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:10.240 remember when my health really took a bad hit. I 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:13.360 polyped my throat. They had to be lasered out. I 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:18.520 was having really bad gut issues. I was having chronic fatigue. 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:20.840 I was in bed for fourteen hours if not more 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:24.640 a day, And that was when it became really meaningful 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:27.800 to me. It's almost like everything switched from theory to meaningful. 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:31.400 And it's frustrating that we often have to go through 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:37.040 pain or real challenges or real stress and pressure to 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.320 make that shift from theoretical to meaningful. But I also 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.400 know that it's possible to do it without the pain. 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:44.560 But the pain is often the trigger. So when we 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:48.400 go through problems or pain, chances are it's so that 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.600 we can switch from theoretical to meaningful. That's actually what 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:54.480 your body's doing. It's so your body is giving you 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:56.480 pain saying I don't want to live like this anymore, 0:16:56.680 --> 0:16:59.240 so that it becomes meaningful for you to apply that 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.520 theory because before it was meaningful to you, you assumed 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.280 it would be okay, right if you never had a 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:08.280 health challenge, you would just theoretically know it's good to 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:09.960 take care of your health, but you may not focus 0:17:10.000 --> 0:17:14.399 on it because it's not meaningful yet. So theoretical to 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:20.200 meaningful Now meaning isn't enough either. I'll give an example. 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:24.920 Maybe someone's lost a family member to cancer like I have, 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:31.360 and someone may theoretically understand the health reasons and implications. 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:34.800 They may meaningfully. Obviously and meaningfully pains you so much 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:38.240 when you've lost someone, but you haven't made it practical 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:41.399 for you. You haven't understood it practically. How does it 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:47.600 practically work in your life? How does it practically flow 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:50.760 in your day to day? We have to turn our 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:57.360 meaningful feeling emotion based understanding. Now we had an intellectual 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:02.440 knowledge based understanding, we have now an emotional feeling understanding. 0:18:02.680 --> 0:18:05.119 We now have to turn it into something practical for 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:08.960 us and then finally applicable. We adgievet it apply it 0:18:09.000 --> 0:18:11.360 once we know what's practical, and we have to see 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:14.840 where that goes to keep actioning it. So the four 0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:21.320 stages of change are theoretical meaningful, practical, and applicable. Now, 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:23.640 I guarantee that what you're trying to change this year 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:27.720 is in the theoretical and meaningful areas. You haven't yet 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:31.159 figured out the practical and the applicable areas of what 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:33.119 you want to do, and that is where you want 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:35.520 to put the energy. How do I practically apply this 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.679 in my life? For example, going to the gym for 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:41.760 me now my plan and when I'm back in LA 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:43.760 I'm in London at the moment with my family, but 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:46.760 when I'm back in LA my goal is to be 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:49.479 doing probably three days at tennis and two days at 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:51.760 the gym, two to three days at the gym, And 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:56.840 so that's how I'm practically committing. And then I'll apply it, 0:18:57.240 --> 0:19:00.439 and then I'll observe it and monitor it. But the 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:03.560 key thing here is it can't. When it was just 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:05.520 theoretical for me that I needed to take care of 0:19:05.520 --> 0:19:08.480 my health, I didn't do it. Then it became meaningful 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:11.960 because of the pain. But then it needed to become practical. 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:14.000 I had to find what I enjoyed, what I got 0:19:14.040 --> 0:19:17.199 a passion for, what I flourished. And this applies to 0:19:17.240 --> 0:19:19.560 all areas of your business and work. Too. This doesn't 0:19:19.560 --> 0:19:22.959 just apply to your body and your mind. This applies 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:25.320 to anything you want to do. This I hope you 0:19:25.320 --> 0:19:29.400 will apply this to all areas of your life. Now. 0:19:29.400 --> 0:19:34.960 The fourth step is actually this is game changer. Have 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:40.600 you ever thought about what's the difference between efficiency and effectiveness? 0:19:41.119 --> 0:19:43.960 What is the difference? Is there a difference between efficiency 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:48.919 and effectiveness? So efficiency, in the way I see it, 0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:52.560 is the ability to do a lot of things, and 0:19:52.680 --> 0:19:58.280 effectiveness is doing important things. Think about that, right? It 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:03.480 sounds like efficiency. It's like, Oh, I'm really really efficient. 0:20:03.800 --> 0:20:06.480 I get a lot done, I achieve a lot of stuff, 0:20:06.520 --> 0:20:09.639 I take a lot of boxes. Or I've been highly 0:20:09.640 --> 0:20:12.119 effective this week. What would you like to say at 0:20:12.119 --> 0:20:13.560 the end of this week? Would you prefer you were 0:20:13.600 --> 0:20:17.160 saying I've had an efficient week or I've had an 0:20:17.160 --> 0:20:21.120 effective week. I'm sure each and every one of us 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:25.080 are drawn towards that word effective. I've had an efficient 0:20:25.119 --> 0:20:27.320 week sounds like I checked off stuff on my to 0:20:27.359 --> 0:20:30.160 do list, I did my laundry, I got a lot done. 0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:34.520 I was efficient, but I was effective. Says oh, I 0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:37.879 made a dent this week, I made an impact this week. 0:20:38.880 --> 0:20:43.040 I moved the needle this week, the differences between doing 0:20:43.080 --> 0:20:47.560 a lot of things and doing important things. I want 0:20:47.600 --> 0:20:50.000 you to focus on the latter. In twenty twenty two. 0:20:50.600 --> 0:20:52.960 We all have to do a lot of things, but 0:20:53.040 --> 0:20:55.480 are we making time to do the important things? Because 0:20:55.480 --> 0:20:59.920 often we make ourselves so busy with being efficient, because 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:01.960 we don't want to put the brain energy and brain 0:21:02.040 --> 0:21:05.920 power to be effective. So we'd rather clutter our day 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:11.080 with lots of insignificant activities than clear our day for 0:21:11.280 --> 0:21:15.560 one significant activity because we're scared of doing that. But 0:21:15.640 --> 0:21:17.879 when you realize that, no longer do you want to 0:21:18.000 --> 0:21:23.320 clutter for something insignificant, You want to clear for something significant. 0:21:23.520 --> 0:21:27.280 We want to shift from being efficient to being effective. 0:21:27.320 --> 0:21:30.160 And this is a mindset shift. This is the mindset 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:32.239 shift that I'm taking into twenty twenty two. I've been 0:21:32.240 --> 0:21:34.680 saying to my team, I want to have an effective year, 0:21:34.760 --> 0:21:37.119 not an efficient year. I think there have been a 0:21:37.200 --> 0:21:39.800 couple of years in my life where I've been highly efficient, 0:21:40.320 --> 0:21:42.720 but I don't think I've been as effective and as 0:21:42.840 --> 0:21:47.080 impactful because I've just been busy. My schedule has been full. 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:49.399 I've been doing a lot of stuff, but i haven't 0:21:49.440 --> 0:21:53.560 been doing the stuff that makes the impact that moves 0:21:53.600 --> 0:21:56.919 the needle. Look around you and think about who the 0:21:56.960 --> 0:21:59.920 people that you've noticed that you think have made big lead. 0:22:00.920 --> 0:22:04.000 Do you think have just pivoted their career and shifted 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:07.480 and made huge strides. Who are those people? Maybe maybe 0:22:07.520 --> 0:22:09.280 there's some things that I've done that you're looking at 0:22:09.280 --> 0:22:10.919 and going, wow, Jay, I never saw how you did 0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:13.080 a book and then you did. You have the podcast, 0:22:13.080 --> 0:22:14.640 and you did the tea company, and I'm sure you've 0:22:14.640 --> 0:22:16.359 got something else coming which I can't wait to share 0:22:16.400 --> 0:22:20.840 with you. It's like that all came from an effectiveness mindset, 0:22:20.960 --> 0:22:26.000 not an efficiency mindset. Sometimes I'm highly inefficient. Sometimes they 0:22:26.080 --> 0:22:28.720 don't complete a lot of stuff. Sometimes there's stuff that's 0:22:28.760 --> 0:22:31.640 just left for days. But those are not the things 0:22:31.720 --> 0:22:34.000 that matter. They're not the important things. So do you 0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:35.720 want to do a lot of things or do you 0:22:35.720 --> 0:22:38.120 want to do important things? You want to look at 0:22:38.160 --> 0:22:41.080 each week and each month in that way, ask yourself, 0:22:41.200 --> 0:22:44.639 is this an efficiency week or is this an effectiveness week? 0:22:44.840 --> 0:22:48.600 And if you recognize the difference for yourself, right, if 0:22:48.600 --> 0:22:54.080 you recognize the awareness for yourself, that's going to make 0:22:54.119 --> 0:22:56.920 all the difference. Now, the next step that I want 0:22:56.960 --> 0:23:04.400 to share with you is this balance between thinking and acting, 0:23:04.480 --> 0:23:07.879 like thinking and doing. And it's been debated for a 0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:10.679 long time whether we should think or do. And I 0:23:10.720 --> 0:23:14.520 think we've realized that action is an important part. We 0:23:14.560 --> 0:23:17.920 have to act and then reflect. But here's what I've realized. 0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:22.520 Thinking is important, but do it less than you think. 0:23:23.359 --> 0:23:27.359 I feel like a lot of us struggle with procrastination 0:23:27.400 --> 0:23:33.320 and overthinking because we think, rethink and think again. We think, 0:23:33.359 --> 0:23:36.480 we rethink and think again. And if I had to 0:23:36.520 --> 0:23:38.520 divide the way I like to work, I probably do 0:23:38.560 --> 0:23:43.120 about seventy percent action, thirty percent thinking. Now there are 0:23:43.119 --> 0:23:45.240 times when I think by thinking went down to ten 0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:47.639 percent and dad didn't work either, or went down to 0:23:47.720 --> 0:23:50.000 five percent and I was just doing doing doing, and 0:23:50.080 --> 0:23:52.120 that wasn't great either. And there have been times when 0:23:52.119 --> 0:23:55.360 I've thought seventy percent and acted thirty percent, and that's 0:23:55.400 --> 0:23:57.320 not healthy. So I want you to think about your ratio. 0:23:58.040 --> 0:24:00.840 What is your ratio of thinking to do? Is it 0:24:00.880 --> 0:24:03.600 fifty fifty, is it seventy thirty either way? Is it 0:24:03.640 --> 0:24:06.720 eighty twenty, is it ninety ten, is it sixty forty? 0:24:06.800 --> 0:24:09.679