1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: No matter what your newest resolution is, it's not the 2 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,920 Speaker 1: resolution which creates the likelihood or the probability of whether 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 1: you will get there or not. It's actually your approach. 4 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: Happy New Year on Purpose listeners. I am so excited, 5 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:26,080 Speaker 1: so grateful, so passionate, so ready to be back in 6 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 1: the new year. This is our first solo episode of 7 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, and you've made it. Ready to transform 8 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,599 Speaker 1: your life, ready to build your life, Ready to go 9 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: after your ambitions, your goals, whatever you've been pursuing, whatever 10 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: you've been dreaming of. This is a time that we 11 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: all use to reset. And I am so excited to 12 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My 13 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: new book, Eight Rules of Love is out and I 14 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: cannot wait to share it with you. I am so 15 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: so excited for you to read this book, for you 16 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: to listen to this book. I read the audiobook. If 17 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 1: you haven't got it already, make sure you go to 18 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 1: eight Rules of Love dot com. It's dedicated to anyone 19 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love. 20 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:16,720 Speaker 1: So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up, 21 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book. 22 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: And I'd love to invite you to come and see 23 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: me for my global tour Love Rules. Go to Ja 24 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:30,240 Speaker 1: shettytour dot com to learn more information about tickets, VIP 25 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:34,320 Speaker 1: experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. Now, 26 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:39,400 Speaker 1: I get it. This can be tough, this can be tiresome, 27 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: this can seem hopeless. How many of you get to 28 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: this time of year and think to yourself, Oh, not again. 29 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna set a resolution. I'm going to set a transformation. 30 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: I'm going to set a goal and then I'm going 31 00:01:56,280 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: to fail and I'm going to feel overwhelmed, and I'm 32 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: going to feel like a failure. And there's if I 33 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: didn't make it, and as if everyone else is achieving 34 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: their goals but I'm not achieving mine. And it can 35 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,919 Speaker 1: put a lot of pressure on us. It can put 36 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 1: a lot of stress. It can put a lot of 37 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 1: weight and burden on our shoulders. Feeling not this time 38 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 1: of year again. Or you're at the other end of 39 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: the spectrum where you love setting new goals, you love 40 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: starting over, you love that new diary, that new journal, 41 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: you love turning over to January first and seeing that 42 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: blank slate. But deep inside, there's a little voice of doubt, 43 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 1: of dilemma, confusion, knowing that you still don't know what 44 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: you're working on. Well, what I want to share with 45 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:50,959 Speaker 1: you in this podcast is not how to set your goals. 46 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: I think we all know that setting your goals it 47 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 1: doesn't mean you get there. I also think we know 48 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: that just writing down what you manifest doesn't just work 49 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: that way. Today, I want to talk to you about 50 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 1: the real manifestation. Today. I want to talk to you 51 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:12,080 Speaker 1: about how manifestation actually works. Today, I want to talk 52 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: to you about how results are actually created because I 53 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 1: remember what it felt like being in that position, setting 54 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: goals year after year after year, setting targets, and feeling 55 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: like I wasn't even close. I know what that feels 56 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 1: like because I've been there, and five years ago I 57 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: started doing something very different and I saw very different 58 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: results in my life. I started creating content five years ago. 59 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: That's how you probably discovered me did through my videos, 60 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: my podcast or my book. And as things have grown, 61 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: and as I've grown and learned, I want to pass 62 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: on all the lessons, all the learnings, all the practical 63 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: tips that I've learned along the way to you as 64 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: we start. So I want to first dive into some 65 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: statistics and data for us to understand. And I was 66 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: looking at a survey on you gov, and it's said 67 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: that around sixteen percent of people say they will make 68 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: a New AS resolution, compared to eleven percent who said 69 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 1: they made a resolution this time last year. It's a 70 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: fairly low amount. Now, young people were by far the 71 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,479 Speaker 1: most likely to be setting themselves a New Year's resolution, 72 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: with nearly a third thirty two percent of those aged 73 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 1: between eighteen and twenty four, compared to ten percent of 74 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: those aged fifty five and over. Now, let's talk about 75 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: what kind of New AS resolutions people are making for 76 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:40,159 Speaker 1: the third year in a row. Help them. Fitness come 77 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:44,359 Speaker 1: top of the list of people's resolutions they plan on making, 78 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: with the most popular among those making resolutions being to 79 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:52,280 Speaker 1: do more exercise or improve their fitness. Now, I'm sure 80 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: many of you have those things on your list. And 81 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 1: another forty one percent say they want to commit to 82 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: improving their diet, forty percent want to lose weight, and 83 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,120 Speaker 1: the list goes on and on all the way through 84 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: to pursuing a career ambition, spending less time on social media, 85 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 1: taking up a new hobby, cutting down on drinking or smoking, 86 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: and even raising money for a charity. So we can 87 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 1: see that there are lots of different types of news resolutions. 88 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: But here's what I find fascinating. No matter what your 89 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: newers resolution is, it's not the resolution which creates the 90 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: likelihood or the probability of whether you will get there 91 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: or not. It's actually your approach. It's your methodology of 92 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: manifestation to get those results. And as we've seen in 93 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: the past, we don't tend to be as good at 94 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:47,280 Speaker 1: those because every year we feel quite far away, right, 95 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: we feel quite distant from our resolutions, and I'm sure 96 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: you've experienced that too. So today I'm going to give 97 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 1: you a series of steps to help you learn and 98 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: understand how manifesting and getting your results really truly happens. Now, 99 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 1: the first thing I want to start off with is 100 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: Step one. We live in a culture and a society 101 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: that is goal based. It all starts with what's your goal? 102 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 1: Where do you want to get to? What do you 103 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: want to happen at the end. What is the result 104 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: that you desire? Do you desire a new house, a 105 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 1: new car, a new job, a new vacation, a new body. 106 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:36,360 Speaker 1: It's all about what is that new thing that you want? 107 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 1: It has got nothing to develop the mindset to get there. 108 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: Western society operates on a results mindset, a results lad approach. 109 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 1: Spiritual traditions or Eastern society is based on an intention 110 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: led approach. Are you being led by your results or 111 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: are you being led by your intention? Your intention is 112 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 1: so much more powerful than any result, because when you 113 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: don't get the result you wanted, that doesn't help you. 114 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: But when you know what your intention is, that intention 115 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: keeps fueling you even when you don't get the result 116 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: you want. I'll give an example. Let's say you've been 117 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: trying to go to the gym three times a week 118 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: and you end up making it once a week. Now, 119 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: from a results point of view, you have missed your 120 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: target and missed your goal. But if your intention is 121 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: I really want to do this to be healthy and 122 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: fit for my family, I really want to do this 123 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: for my own health and well being, that intention is 124 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: going to fuel you to get to that three times 125 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:49,559 Speaker 1: a week. But when your result focused, when your result lad, 126 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: as soon as you don't reach that result, you put 127 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: pressure on yourself. You start talking down to yourself. So 128 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:00,800 Speaker 1: I want you to focus more on the intention then 129 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:04,160 Speaker 1: you do on the result. Stop looking at your calendar 130 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: going well, why haven't I made it five times this week? 131 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 1: Why haven't I been able to lose this much weight 132 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: this week? Because that leads to critical conversations with yourself. 133 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: It leads to a lot of self judgment and a 134 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 1: lot of self sabotage. But the idea that I'm doing 135 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: this because why are we doing it? What is your intention? 136 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: What is your input? The Western world makes us focused 137 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: on output. My question to you is what is your input? 138 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 1: What is it that you are bringing in to this process? 139 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 1: So I want you to sit down and for whatever 140 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:47,079 Speaker 1: your goal or resolution is, I want you to deeply 141 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: connect with your intention for why it's so important. Why 142 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: is it important for you to lose weight? Why is 143 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,760 Speaker 1: important for you to improve your diet. Why is it 144 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: important for you to exercise more? Why is it important 145 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: for you to spend time on social media less? Why 146 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 1: is it important to cut down on drinking or smoking? 147 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: I know that the people who've made their biggest changes 148 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: in their life, their reason was deep. When we say 149 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 1: dig deep, you will dig so much deeper when your 150 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:22,079 Speaker 1: reason is deep. But if you haven't really thought about 151 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:27,320 Speaker 1: really articulated, really written down, really communicated your reason. You 152 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: can't go further, You can't go deeper than your reasoning 153 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: and your intention. You can't dig deeper than that. You 154 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:40,560 Speaker 1: can't dig deeper than your intention or your reasoning. So 155 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 1: make your intention really deep, make your intention really profound 156 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 1: and powerful. Now, the second step I want to share 157 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: with you is why we need to monitor obsessively. Now, 158 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: what I mean by this is as you start the 159 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: week and as weeks go by, months go by, what 160 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:06,200 Speaker 1: we often do is we go, oh, well, last week 161 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: I didn't make it. That was a failure. All right, 162 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 1: Well this week I made it, so I guess things 163 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: are great again. Okay, well next week I didn't make it. 164 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: That was a failure, and the week after that was 165 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: a failure. And then I'm just a failure and this 166 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: is not going right. So what we do is we 167 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:27,439 Speaker 1: only measure results, but we don't monitor results. This is 168 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 1: a really fascinating switch from measuring to monitoring. So we 169 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: measure how much weight we lost, and we say, oh, wow, 170 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: this week I lost you know, four pounds. This week 171 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: I lost nothing. This week I put on this much. Right, 172 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: So we measured the result but we don't monitor it. 173 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 1: And I'll explain to you the difference. Measuring is taking 174 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: a measuring tape or a scale and writing down a number. 175 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,559 Speaker 1: That's literally what it is. Right, it's measuring. You are 176 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: just data collecting. You just data recording. What is my 177 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: height today, what is my height tomorrow? What's my weight today? 178 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,480 Speaker 1: What's my weight tomorrow? What's my follow account today? What's 179 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: my follow account tomorrow? How much money did I save 180 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 1: this week? How much money did I save next week? 181 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 1: It's just a number, and you learn very little from 182 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 1: that number. I'll give an example. If I create a 183 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 1: podcast and it gets a number of downloads versus another podcast, 184 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:29,840 Speaker 1: I can be upset when the next podcast is higher 185 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 1: or lower, or I can be curious. I can monitor 186 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: it can be observant. So whether your day or week 187 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:44,200 Speaker 1: goes well or whether it is difficult and challenging, I 188 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:47,439 Speaker 1: want you to make time to say why, why did 189 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: it go well? Why did it go wrong? What happened? 190 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:55,199 Speaker 1: What did I do differently this week? When I think 191 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:58,200 Speaker 1: about weeks where things are going well, and if you 192 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: just take them at face value and think, yeah, I've 193 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: got this now things are going well, you get complacent. 194 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 1: And I know the phrase goes, curiosity killed the cat. 195 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: I've always thought complacency killed the cat, right, it's complacency. Well, 196 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: hopefully no one killed any cat, but whether your dog 197 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,200 Speaker 1: or a cat, person, we want animals to be safe. 198 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:19,960 Speaker 1: It's complacency. And complacency sets in when we measure. Actually, 199 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: a lot of self sabotage checks in when we just measure, 200 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: because when we have a good week, we don't know why, 201 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 1: and when we have a bad week, we don't know why, 202 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: and we just beat ourselves up about it. So I 203 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:34,200 Speaker 1: want you to really think about that, why did it 204 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: go well? Monitor don't measure why did it go well? 205 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:42,400 Speaker 1: Why did it go badly? What specifically change this week? 206 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:44,959 Speaker 1: And actually that might even make you have some compassion 207 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 1: for yourself. You may think, oh, yeah, you know that 208 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: week my family came over and I took it easy 209 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 1: a little bit, Or you know that week I launched 210 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 1: a new product on social media, so I spent a 211 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: bit more time on it. You start actually not drawing 212 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 1: yourself excuses. You might start to judge yourself less and 213 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 1: that lets you go, Okay, well, next week I can shift. 214 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: Next week I can make a change like I know, 215 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 1: for example, on Christmas and New Year's Week, I ate 216 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,079 Speaker 1: more sugar in a week than I ate or year, 217 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:18,679 Speaker 1: and I know it, and I don't judge myself for it. 218 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: I'm glad that I allowed myself to enjoy and really 219 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:26,640 Speaker 1: let go. And then this week I knew I wanted 220 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: to be playing tennis. So I've been playing tennis every 221 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: day for two hours, working really really hard to get 222 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 1: fit and healthy again, cutting out sugars out of my 223 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: life again, getting back to my healthy diet. And I'm 224 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:43,840 Speaker 1: not judging myself for that week. I know why I 225 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 1: wasn't focused on what I wanted to focus on, and 226 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 1: now I know why I am, And so I want 227 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 1: you to monitor over measure. Measuring is what our apps do, 228 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 1: Measuring is what our fitbits do, Measuring is what our 229 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 1: order rings do. And measurement is important, but only if 230 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:00,400 Speaker 1: you wanted to the reason behind the men as uman. 231 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:05,360 Speaker 1: It's not just good enough to measure the data. You 232 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: have to monitor the data. Now. The third step, this 233 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 1: is something that really blows my mind when I think 234 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: about it and talk about it, and this will be 235 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:19,640 Speaker 1: a game changer for you. There are four steps to 236 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: making a change in your life, and I find that 237 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:29,800 Speaker 1: most of us are just about on step one. Most 238 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: of the time, we're on step one and we're trying 239 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: to have the result of step four. So there are 240 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 1: four steps to change. The first is theoretical, theoretically understanding 241 00:14:44,320 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: that this change is important, it's needed, and it is necessary. 242 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: But your understanding, in your knowledge level is theoretical. For example, 243 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,800 Speaker 1: the theoretical idea that we all believe that we should 244 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: take care of the environment, the theore radical idea that 245 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 1: we all have that we should take care of our health. 246 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 1: We all know we should. That's a theoretical understanding. We 247 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:10,760 Speaker 1: all know that it's better if we eat healthier, it's 248 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 1: better if we exercise. These are theories. We understand it theoretically. 249 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: Most of us are at this stage when you try 250 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 1: and use your will power to achieve a result, but 251 00:15:24,280 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: your level of change is only theoretical. It is so 252 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 1: unlikely that you're going to get the result because theory 253 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:36,560 Speaker 1: does not change to transformation. Theoretical understanding does not lead 254 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 1: to transformation. So ask yourself, are you add a theoretical 255 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: level in the area you want to change? For example, 256 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 1: if I say, oh, yeah, theoretically, I've heard that meditation 257 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:50,880 Speaker 1: is good idea. I know it's good for me. That's theory. 258 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 1: So the next step is meaningful. We have to make 259 00:15:56,000 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 1: it meaningful. That's where that intention comes in. Going back 260 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: to step one, How meaningful is this to me? I 261 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:10,240 Speaker 1: remember when my health really took a bad hit. I 262 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: polyped my throat. They had to be lasered out. I 263 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:18,520 Speaker 1: was having really bad gut issues. I was having chronic fatigue. 264 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 1: I was in bed for fourteen hours if not more 265 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: a day, And that was when it became really meaningful 266 00:16:24,680 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 1: to me. It's almost like everything switched from theory to meaningful. 267 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: And it's frustrating that we often have to go through 268 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 1: pain or real challenges or real stress and pressure to 269 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 1: make that shift from theoretical to meaningful. But I also 270 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,400 Speaker 1: know that it's possible to do it without the pain. 271 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:44,560 Speaker 1: But the pain is often the trigger. So when we 272 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 1: go through problems or pain, chances are it's so that 273 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 1: we can switch from theoretical to meaningful. That's actually what 274 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:54,480 Speaker 1: your body's doing. It's so your body is giving you 275 00:16:54,520 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 1: pain saying I don't want to live like this anymore, 276 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 1: so that it becomes meaningful for you to apply that 277 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 1: theory because before it was meaningful to you, you assumed 278 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 1: it would be okay, right if you never had a 279 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:08,280 Speaker 1: health challenge, you would just theoretically know it's good to 280 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 1: take care of your health, but you may not focus 281 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:14,399 Speaker 1: on it because it's not meaningful yet. So theoretical to 282 00:17:14,560 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 1: meaningful Now meaning isn't enough either. I'll give an example. 283 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:24,920 Speaker 1: Maybe someone's lost a family member to cancer like I have, 284 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:31,360 Speaker 1: and someone may theoretically understand the health reasons and implications. 285 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 1: They may meaningfully. Obviously and meaningfully pains you so much 286 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:38,240 Speaker 1: when you've lost someone, but you haven't made it practical 287 00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:41,399 Speaker 1: for you. You haven't understood it practically. How does it 288 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 1: practically work in your life? How does it practically flow 289 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: in your day to day? We have to turn our 290 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 1: meaningful feeling emotion based understanding. Now we had an intellectual 291 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:02,440 Speaker 1: knowledge based understanding, we have now an emotional feeling understanding. 292 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,119 Speaker 1: We now have to turn it into something practical for 293 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: us and then finally applicable. We adgievet it apply it 294 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,360 Speaker 1: once we know what's practical, and we have to see 295 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 1: where that goes to keep actioning it. So the four 296 00:18:14,960 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: stages of change are theoretical meaningful, practical, and applicable. Now, 297 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:23,640 Speaker 1: I guarantee that what you're trying to change this year 298 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 1: is in the theoretical and meaningful areas. You haven't yet 299 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 1: figured out the practical and the applicable areas of what 300 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:33,119 Speaker 1: you want to do, and that is where you want 301 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 1: to put the energy. How do I practically apply this 302 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,679 Speaker 1: in my life? For example, going to the gym for 303 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 1: me now my plan and when I'm back in LA 304 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: I'm in London at the moment with my family, but 305 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:46,760 Speaker 1: when I'm back in LA my goal is to be 306 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:49,479 Speaker 1: doing probably three days at tennis and two days at 307 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:51,760 Speaker 1: the gym, two to three days at the gym, And 308 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: so that's how I'm practically committing. And then I'll apply it, 309 00:18:57,240 --> 00:19:00,439 Speaker 1: and then I'll observe it and monitor it. But the 310 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:03,560 Speaker 1: key thing here is it can't. When it was just 311 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 1: theoretical for me that I needed to take care of 312 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,480 Speaker 1: my health, I didn't do it. Then it became meaningful 313 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 1: because of the pain. But then it needed to become practical. 314 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 1: I had to find what I enjoyed, what I got 315 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:17,199 Speaker 1: a passion for, what I flourished. And this applies to 316 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 1: all areas of your business and work. Too. This doesn't 317 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:22,959 Speaker 1: just apply to your body and your mind. This applies 318 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 1: to anything you want to do. This I hope you 319 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:29,400 Speaker 1: will apply this to all areas of your life. Now. 320 00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:34,960 Speaker 1: The fourth step is actually this is game changer. Have 321 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 1: you ever thought about what's the difference between efficiency and effectiveness? 322 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,960 Speaker 1: What is the difference? Is there a difference between efficiency 323 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:48,919 Speaker 1: and effectiveness? So efficiency, in the way I see it, 324 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: is the ability to do a lot of things, and 325 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 1: effectiveness is doing important things. Think about that, right? It 326 00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:03,480 Speaker 1: sounds like efficiency. It's like, Oh, I'm really really efficient. 327 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,480 Speaker 1: I get a lot done, I achieve a lot of stuff, 328 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:09,639 Speaker 1: I take a lot of boxes. Or I've been highly 329 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:12,119 Speaker 1: effective this week. What would you like to say at 330 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: the end of this week? Would you prefer you were 331 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:17,160 Speaker 1: saying I've had an efficient week or I've had an 332 00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:21,120 Speaker 1: effective week. I'm sure each and every one of us 333 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: are drawn towards that word effective. I've had an efficient 334 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,320 Speaker 1: week sounds like I checked off stuff on my to 335 00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:30,160 Speaker 1: do list, I did my laundry, I got a lot done. 336 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:34,520 Speaker 1: I was efficient, but I was effective. Says oh, I 337 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 1: made a dent this week, I made an impact this week. 338 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: I moved the needle this week, the differences between doing 339 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 1: a lot of things and doing important things. I want 340 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: you to focus on the latter. In twenty twenty two. 341 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:52,960 Speaker 1: We all have to do a lot of things, but 342 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:55,480 Speaker 1: are we making time to do the important things? Because 343 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 1: often we make ourselves so busy with being efficient, because 344 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 1: we don't want to put the brain energy and brain 345 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:05,920 Speaker 1: power to be effective. So we'd rather clutter our day 346 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: with lots of insignificant activities than clear our day for 347 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: one significant activity because we're scared of doing that. But 348 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,879 Speaker 1: when you realize that, no longer do you want to 349 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 1: clutter for something insignificant, You want to clear for something significant. 350 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: We want to shift from being efficient to being effective. 351 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:30,160 Speaker 1: And this is a mindset shift. This is the mindset 352 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,239 Speaker 1: shift that I'm taking into twenty twenty two. I've been 353 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,680 Speaker 1: saying to my team, I want to have an effective year, 354 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,119 Speaker 1: not an efficient year. I think there have been a 355 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:39,800 Speaker 1: couple of years in my life where I've been highly efficient, 356 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,720 Speaker 1: but I don't think I've been as effective and as 357 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:47,080 Speaker 1: impactful because I've just been busy. My schedule has been full. 358 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot of stuff, but i haven't 359 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 1: been doing the stuff that makes the impact that moves 360 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:56,919 Speaker 1: the needle. Look around you and think about who the 361 00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:59,920 Speaker 1: people that you've noticed that you think have made big lead. 362 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 1: Do you think have just pivoted their career and shifted 363 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 1: and made huge strides. Who are those people? Maybe maybe 364 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: there's some things that I've done that you're looking at 365 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:10,919 Speaker 1: and going, wow, Jay, I never saw how you did 366 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,080 Speaker 1: a book and then you did. You have the podcast, 367 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,640 Speaker 1: and you did the tea company, and I'm sure you've 368 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,359 Speaker 1: got something else coming which I can't wait to share 369 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:20,840 Speaker 1: with you. It's like that all came from an effectiveness mindset, 370 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 1: not an efficiency mindset. Sometimes I'm highly inefficient. Sometimes they 371 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,720 Speaker 1: don't complete a lot of stuff. Sometimes there's stuff that's 372 00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:31,640 Speaker 1: just left for days. But those are not the things 373 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:34,000 Speaker 1: that matter. They're not the important things. So do you 374 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 1: want to do a lot of things or do you 375 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,120 Speaker 1: want to do important things? You want to look at 376 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: each week and each month in that way, ask yourself, 377 00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:44,639 Speaker 1: is this an efficiency week or is this an effectiveness week? 378 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 1: And if you recognize the difference for yourself, right, if 379 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: you recognize the awareness for yourself, that's going to make 380 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:56,920 Speaker 1: all the difference. Now, the next step that I want 381 00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:04,400 Speaker 1: to share with you is this balance between thinking and acting, 382 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 1: like thinking and doing. And it's been debated for a 383 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,679 Speaker 1: long time whether we should think or do. And I 384 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: think we've realized that action is an important part. We 385 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,920 Speaker 1: have to act and then reflect. But here's what I've realized. 386 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 1: Thinking is important, but do it less than you think. 387 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of us struggle with procrastination 388 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 1: and overthinking because we think, rethink and think again. We think, 389 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 1: we rethink and think again. And if I had to 390 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:38,520 Speaker 1: divide the way I like to work, I probably do 391 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:43,120 Speaker 1: about seventy percent action, thirty percent thinking. Now there are 392 00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 1: times when I think by thinking went down to ten 393 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 1: percent and dad didn't work either, or went down to 394 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 1: five percent and I was just doing doing doing, and 395 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,120 Speaker 1: that wasn't great either. And there have been times when 396 00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:55,360 Speaker 1: I've thought seventy percent and acted thirty percent, and that's 397 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 1: not healthy. So I want you to think about your ratio. 398 00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 1: What is your ratio of thinking to do? Is it 399 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 1: fifty fifty, is it seventy thirty either way? Is it 400 00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: eighty twenty, is it ninety ten, is it sixty forty? 401 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,679 Speaker 1: Where are you on that ratio? And I want you 402 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:13,240 Speaker 1: to start shifting into doing more than thinking more to 403 00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:18,360 Speaker 1: get to doing seventy percent and thinking thirty percent. And 404 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:22,600 Speaker 1: when you'll start shifting that, you might start to feel uncomfortable, 405 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:26,520 Speaker 1: you might start to feel scared, you might start to 406 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,359 Speaker 1: feel some anxiety of like, oh my gosh, I'm just 407 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,160 Speaker 1: doing so much stuff. I don't even know what I'm doing. 408 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: And all I want you to do is try and 409 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:37,399 Speaker 1: get to that seventy percent of doing and thirty percent 410 00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:39,920 Speaker 1: of thinking, and that thirty percent of thinking. Going back 411 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: to the monitoring point is the reflecting is the observing 412 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,720 Speaker 1: Why did that work? Did it work? What could I 413 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,800 Speaker 1: have done better? You're focused on that, You're not focused on, Oh, 414 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 1: well that didn't get me anywhere. And that's again that 415 00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 1: results mindset is just so deep. That didn't get me anywhere? Well, 416 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: what was the point anyway? We didn't get there? Well, 417 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,639 Speaker 1: I didn't achieve anything anyway? Right, Like that language, that 418 00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:03,400 Speaker 1: rhetoric is actually stopping us as opposed to okay, well 419 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:05,400 Speaker 1: what worked? What did and what could I shift this time? 420 00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 1: So get that ratio between thinking and acting, thinking and 421 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 1: doing right for you, and you will see huge shifts 422 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:18,280 Speaker 1: and huge changes in your life. Now, the next step 423 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,200 Speaker 1: is something that I recently spoke about on the Today's Show, 424 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,800 Speaker 1: and it's growth versus goals. You can set goals all 425 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: you want, but it's the growth that gets you to 426 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:35,400 Speaker 1: those goals, right, growth versus goals every single time. What 427 00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,439 Speaker 1: I mean by that is when you set a goal 428 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: I want to do this, you have to ask yourself 429 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 1: what growth, what skill, what aptitude, what mindset do I 430 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 1: need in order to get there? What is it going 431 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,119 Speaker 1: to take me to learn? So, for example, if I 432 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:55,399 Speaker 1: say this year I want to share meditation with you, 433 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:59,120 Speaker 1: all I want to help you will learn how to meditate? Okay, 434 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 1: what do I need to know? I need to know 435 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,160 Speaker 1: how to meditate. I need to know how much time 436 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 1: everyone kind of has in their day. I think people 437 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,040 Speaker 1: have like five to ten minutes a day maximum, so 438 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:09,199 Speaker 1: like seven minutes. Okay, if they have seven minutes, how 439 00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: do I help the meditate seven minutes? Right? So I 440 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:12,920 Speaker 1: need to think about that. I don't just have to 441 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: think about okay, well everyone needs to meditate, so okay, 442 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 1: I just need to make sure people meditate, and then 443 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 1: we just have this goal and we don't do anything 444 00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 1: to it. We have to build the growth path to 445 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,960 Speaker 1: the goals. Potential. So if you're setting a goal, I 446 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 1: want you to set the growth that you need to 447 00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:30,879 Speaker 1: take in order to get there. I want to end, 448 00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,919 Speaker 1: finally with one last point, which is how I define 449 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: every year. And I spoke about this last year as well, 450 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 1: but I think it's important to re share it because 451 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,959 Speaker 1: it is how I set up my year. Every year. 452 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:45,360 Speaker 1: I sit down and I call this the three Elves 453 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:50,719 Speaker 1: of a Phenomenal Year, and I ask myself, what do 454 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:54,000 Speaker 1: I want to learn this year? What do I want 455 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,280 Speaker 1: to launch this year? And what do I want to 456 00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:03,080 Speaker 1: love this year? These are three necessities for feeling like 457 00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,720 Speaker 1: you're thriving as a human, for feeling like you're absolutely 458 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,800 Speaker 1: winning as a human. When you do the thing you love, 459 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,159 Speaker 1: it brings you joy, It brings you happiness. When you 460 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:16,639 Speaker 1: launch something, it brings you nerves, It brings you excitement. 461 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,239 Speaker 1: When you learn something, it gives you the feeling of 462 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 1: growth and improvement, and the feeling like you're going somewhere. 463 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 1: These are the experiences we need in life. We think 464 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,000 Speaker 1: that it's just about winning. Notice how winning isn't one 465 00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 1: of them, because winning doesn't give you an essential feeling 466 00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: that we need as a human. These are the feelings. 467 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 1: We need to experience love. We need to experience joy 468 00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: and happiness. We need to experience excitement and enthusiasm, we 469 00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: need to experience nerves and that kind of like butterflies 470 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:51,560 Speaker 1: feeling again. So I literally want you to write down, learn, launch, love. 471 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,840 Speaker 1: What are you learning this year? What is it that 472 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,359 Speaker 1: you're committing to learning. What is it that you're getting 473 00:27:56,400 --> 00:28:01,880 Speaker 1: coaching classes, mentorship? You have to be learning something every year. 474 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:06,440 Speaker 1: It's crazy that we stop learning after graduating. If we're lucky, right, 475 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 1: it really really is insane that we stop learning after 476 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,800 Speaker 1: that time. What are you committing to learning this year? 477 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,200 Speaker 1: It could be an instrument, It could be a language. 478 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:18,920 Speaker 1: It could be learning to work out. It could be 479 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,280 Speaker 1: learning a new mindset. It could be joining our genius 480 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,920 Speaker 1: community and learning about health and well being. It could 481 00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,520 Speaker 1: be joining my certification school and learning to become a 482 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,440 Speaker 1: life coach. If that's what been a goal of yours 483 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 1: for a while, what is it that you're committing to 484 00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,520 Speaker 1: learning this year? Second, what are you launching? What are 485 00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:36,400 Speaker 1: you starting that's new? Are you launching a podcast? Are 486 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: you launching a book? Are you launching a new community, 487 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:43,040 Speaker 1: a new book club in your area? Are you launching 488 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: a company, Are you launching a business, are you launching 489 00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:49,960 Speaker 1: a YouTube channel? What are you launching this year? I 490 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,560 Speaker 1: want you to launch something this year to get the 491 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:56,280 Speaker 1: excitement enthusiasm of pushing forward. And finally, what are you 492 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:59,880 Speaker 1: doing that you love? What are you doing that you deeply, 493 00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:04,720 Speaker 1: deeply love? Thank you so much for listening, Thank you 494 00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:08,640 Speaker 1: so much for being here in twenty twenty two, It's 495 00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:10,880 Speaker 1: going to be your year. Thank you.