1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Time now for my Strawberry Letter for today and listen. 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:06,640 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading 5 00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:16,239 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now today. All right, 7 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry Letter with 8 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: my good friend Shirley Strawberry Thankee care subject. My man 9 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: told me to listen to Steve. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I 10 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 1: have an issue with my man and he told me 11 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: to listen to Steve, so I'm writing for advice. The 12 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:40,159 Speaker 1: issue with my guy is that he's very self centered 13 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: and loves himself to death. He is looking at his 14 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: phone literally all day and keeps it with him at 15 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: all times, in the bathroom, while he's cooking, and by 16 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: his pillow every night. I've asked him several times to 17 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: let me see his phone, and he told me that 18 00:00:56,760 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: I need to listen to Steve Harvey, who said that 19 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: a woman should never touch her man's phone. What if 20 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: the man seems ever say yeah, Tommy, but he never 21 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: Steve Yet, if a man doesn't have anything to hide, 22 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: then why not. He goes back and forth on his phone, 23 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:21,040 Speaker 1: sending messages to women and some guys day and night. 24 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 1: He laughs out loud when he's really engaged with someone, 25 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 1: and I'm sick of it. I think he needs the 26 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: constant feedback from women on social media, and I see 27 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: the types of comments they put on his page. He 28 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: doesn't give me compliments unless I ask him if he 29 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 1: likes what I'm wearing. So it's getting to the point 30 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 1: where I want to see what's going on on his phone. 31 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 1: I have nagged him about it occasionally, and I've asked 32 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: him to delete both his Facebook and Instagram accounts for 33 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: a month so he could focus on me and our relationship. 34 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: He told me that would never happen. I have to 35 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: admit that I go through his phone whenever I get 36 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: my whenever I can at my hands on it, and 37 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: he loves to compliment women and ask them how their 38 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 1: day was. I'm like, WTF now, The jealousy is eating 39 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: at me. I know snooping is wrong, but surely what 40 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 1: should I do? Is this just an innocent way for 41 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: him to entertain himself, or should I be worried. Please help, Okay, 42 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: please don't fall into the the typical category of ignoring 43 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: the red flags. The red flags are all in this letter. 44 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: They're all, They're everywhere in this letter. You know you 45 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:37,519 Speaker 1: asked him to delete his Facebook and his Instagram accounts 46 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:39,679 Speaker 1: for a month so he can focus on you and 47 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: your relationship. He told you that that would never happen. 48 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:46,359 Speaker 1: He told you that would never happen, focusing on you 49 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: and your relationship. What else do you need? He doesn't 50 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 1: give you any attention. He has his phone everywhere. He's 51 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: talking to other women. You see it. He doesn't give 52 00:02:56,440 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: you compliments, but he loves complimenting other women. This man 53 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: is not for you, Okay, He's not for you. This 54 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: is not just an innocent way for him to entertain himself. 55 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 1: And should you be worried? Well, yeah, if you stay 56 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: in this relationship, yeah, because it's only probably gonna get worse. 57 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 1: I think it's only gonna get worse. You don't have 58 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: to worry if you're not in this relationship and allowing 59 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 1: this man to do this to you. Okay. You say 60 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: he's self centered and loves himself to death, Well, why 61 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:31,920 Speaker 1: don't you start loving yourself and not allow him to 62 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 1: treat you like this. Okay, this is crazy. I mean, 63 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: if he's not, the least he could do is give 64 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: you a compliment without you having to ask for it. 65 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: But he already told you, like I said, that this 66 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: is never going to happen, him focusing on you and 67 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 1: not the relationship. So the best thing you could do 68 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: is listen to what he's saying. He said it, and 69 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 1: and move on with your life. Okay, this guy, he's 70 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 1: not the one. You know, he's not the one. And 71 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: Steve never said that Tommy did back in the day. Steve, Yeah, 72 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 1: that's a true statement. Steve ain't told Steve Harvey Morning 73 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: Show said that a woman should not Steve didn't say that. 74 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: Of course, my wife has my phone all the time. 75 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: Now let's let's really get to what's wrong him. I 76 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,159 Speaker 1: have an issue with my man, and he told me 77 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:26,839 Speaker 1: listen to Steve. So here's you come now here. The 78 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: letter starts with something that I don't understand. The issue 79 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: with my guy is that he is very self centered 80 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: and loves himself to death. And you say, right after that, 81 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 1: because he's looking at his phone literally all day and 82 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:45,719 Speaker 1: he keeps it with him in all times. Wait a minute, 83 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 1: what what does that have to do with self center 84 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: and loves himself to death? That's what you just described 85 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: is it's a conceited person. Now, if he's self centered 86 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:02,799 Speaker 1: and he loves himself to death, does that leave room 87 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: for you? And Shirley's absolutely right, he told you it don't. 88 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:11,719 Speaker 1: Now he's looking at his phone literally all day, and 89 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: he keeps you with him at all times. In the bathroom, 90 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:19,320 Speaker 1: why he's cooking, and by his pillow every night, by 91 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 1: the pillar that's in the bed. Your pillar ain't on 92 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: the nights there by his pillow at night. I've asked 93 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: him several times to let me see his phone, and 94 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:32,280 Speaker 1: he told me I need to listen to Steve Harvey 95 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: who said that a woman should never touch a man's phone. 96 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: If the man don't have anything to hide, then why not. Now, lady, 97 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 1: you just this, then this is what you're telling me. 98 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: And Shirley, he stay on his phone, says message to 99 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:53,119 Speaker 1: women and some guys day and night, lasts out loud. 100 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: He's really engaged when he's engaged with someone, and I'm 101 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 1: sick of it. So you need to see his phone 102 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 1: for what you know, what's on the phone. What do 103 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: you need you need proof to validate what you feel? 104 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 1: You already know what's going on. So what do you 105 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:18,599 Speaker 1: need to see the phone for so you can validate 106 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:22,360 Speaker 1: it or or or or so you can go, Oh, 107 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: I was wrong about that, because you're probably not. I 108 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: got more for you later if you want it. What 109 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: you wow? All right, Steve, hang on to those thoughts. 110 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,039 Speaker 1: We know you have more coming up. Part two of 111 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: of Steve's response at twenty three minutes after the hour, 112 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,719 Speaker 1: the subject of today's Strawberry letter, my man told me 113 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 1: to listen to Steve. We'll get back into it right 114 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:55,479 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to all right, Steve. Come on, 115 00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject my man told me 116 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:02,840 Speaker 1: to listen to Steve. First of all, your man, I 117 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: didn't tell nobody this. Tommy said this on the Step Show. 118 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: I ain't said I said, I know. Here we go, Lady. 119 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 1: You got this man who's you say, self center, loves 120 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: himself to death. He's conceited, it's what you describe. But 121 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: he has his phone with him all the time, in 122 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 1: the bathroom, when he's cooking, he's doing yard, when he's driving, 123 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 1: when he's laying down at night, this by his pillow. 124 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:38,200 Speaker 1: And then, uh, you said that he's told you that. 125 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: I said, you shouldn't touch your phone. Then you said, 126 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 1: if you ain't got nothing to hide, dear, why Now? Now, 127 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: here's what he does on his phone. He goes back 128 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: and forth in the messages to women guys day and night. Laugh. 129 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: I lie when he get engaged with somebody, and I'm 130 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 1: sick of you know what's on the phone. So what 131 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: do you need to see it for? I think he 132 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: needs you say it. I think he needs the constant 133 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 1: feedback from women on social media. And I see the 134 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: types of comments that they put on his page. What 135 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: you see the stuff that's on his ig and you 136 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: see the stuff that's on his Facebook. Now, that's where 137 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: you're getting depart from that. He's self centered and he 138 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: loves himself to death. The fact that he won't let 139 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 1: you see the phone is because he has something to 140 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: hide from you. On the phone. You let me tell 141 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:36,960 Speaker 1: you what. Let me tell you something, maybe, just so 142 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:39,959 Speaker 1: you can be clear about this. What you're seeing the 143 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: comments on social media, on his Facebook page and his 144 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 1: ig page, that's what you see publicly. The rest of 145 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: the stuff is on the phone. I'm just telling you 146 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: the truth. That's why you want the phone because you 147 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: think you see the comments on social media. You want 148 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: to see the comments on that damn phone. That's why 149 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:07,560 Speaker 1: he can't give you that phone. He doesn't give me 150 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: compliments unless I ask him if he likes what I'm wearing. 151 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: So it's getting to the point where I want to 152 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 1: see what's going on on his phone. You already know 153 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:18,960 Speaker 1: now this lady said, I didn't got to the point 154 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 1: she nagging him about it. Now, here's what she did 155 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: to see where she really still. She told this man 156 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 1: to delete his Facebook and his I G accounts for 157 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,839 Speaker 1: a month so he could focus on me in our relationship. 158 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:39,560 Speaker 1: This is where Shirley nailed it. He told you that 159 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 1: would never happen. Not fitting the focus on this damn relationship. 160 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 1: What but I'm not fitting the focus on you on 161 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 1: this damn relationship. I got all this action going on 162 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 1: on IG and faithbook. We're laughing and talking in front 163 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 1: of your laughing out love girls. Who girl, Scott, I'm 164 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 1: not fine, girl, you gonna tell me I'm fine, not 165 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:27,839 Speaker 1: that fine though, I can't believe you think I'm pretty. 166 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: So now he told you would never happen. Then you said, 167 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:39,679 Speaker 1: I admit that I go through his phone whenever I 168 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:42,320 Speaker 1: can get my hands on it. And he loves to 169 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: compliment women and ask him how that day was. I'm like, WTL, 170 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 1: Now the jealousy is eating at me. I know snooping 171 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: is wrong, but surely what should I do? Is this 172 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:58,439 Speaker 1: an innocent way for him to entertain himself or should 173 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: I be worried? Where do you think this entertainment is 174 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 1: gonna lead to? Let me tell you something about men. 175 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 1: We don't do anything for nothing, nothing nothing. If you 176 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: play with five, you're gonna get burned. You can't fight 177 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: temptation off if you keep inviting temptation in and the 178 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: Lard's prayer says, and lead us not into temptation. Well, 179 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:28,080 Speaker 1: he goes into the temptetation. He o ign facebook, He 180 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 1: trying to stay clear, he walking it. You cannot be 181 00:11:32,600 --> 00:11:39,319 Speaker 1: temptation all the time. Everybody succumbs to some form of temptation. 182 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:43,000 Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be cheating any relationship. It could 183 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:46,839 Speaker 1: be going off to diet. It could be it could 184 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: be saying something, could be spending money, It could be gossiping. 185 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: It could be just setting your dreams down for a 186 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 1: while to do other things. It's a lot of ways 187 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 1: that you can yield to temptation, but this guy's form 188 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: of temptation is all women. You can't keep getting in 189 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 1: women's faces and end up not doing nothing. It does 190 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:18,680 Speaker 1: not work that way. I'm sorry. It doesn't work that way. 191 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: No man can beat that type of temptation. If you're 192 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 1: playing in that circle, you have got to take your 193 00:12:25,880 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: ass home. If you keep going to the strip club, 194 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: you're gonna end up with one of them strippers. Period. 195 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: How the kids? What okay? All right? Lady? Why don't 196 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,199 Speaker 1: you get in the relationship with somebody to care about you? Yeah, 197 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: and this is not your husband, y'all ain't got no kids, lady. 198 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: Get out of that, all right. Poster comments on today's 199 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,600 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. 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